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When I first saw your videos, I had already been through all the stages you talk about and emotions and everything, I just want sure if I was confident enough to be real with people about it and tell them how it is without much anyone else who I found FULLY understood it. Then I found your videos on I think sunday, due to being so stressed and broken down at home due to not knowing if id ever be ready to express what I believed was true for everyone, thinking I'd be shut down due to peer pressure by some people who deep down know its true but listen to the voices out of fear and habit, and some who forgot its true due to being in the competetive anger stage like I think you said most people are in. But thanks to you being REAL, it caused and is causing TREMENDOUS change in the world as your probably know. Just wanted to say this to give you more encouragement, evidence, and stability, to keep doing what your doing. Its the secret societal code, running most of us who have the same intellectual build, just with different strengths and purposes. It seems yours is to BREAK THE FAKE. Keep moving forward bro, keep moving forward.
I also like how you dont edit your videos because if you do, to me at least, its saying: "That part is shameful and noone should show this part of them". And as we know, its only shameful if you shame yourself for it!
Yeah. This is it.. such huge conflict.. bad day on purpose- confusion on purpose, changing career - having you in a week and inspiring to accumulate something to make it there, not straightaway, when it is lighter and expansive, I’ll be there.. some things to be done till then.. onto them ❤
As soon as she started speaking into that camera during the live recording, it was like another person has stepped in, thats her shadow her true potential being actualized, it was so impressive and so hard to believe. She is that person, shes that potential, but shes holding back, a lot of us are holding ourselves back, great moment, a wake up call, amazing content, have a great day julian, have a great day everybody, and be your true selves
@@JulienHimself bro you just made my day replying to this. There is so much good content in this video, it might be my favorite that you have made. It's just good vibes and positive people. It really makes me happy...like it shines a light. I've been struggling with really bad depression lately and you are like a beacon of hope. ty again
I am literally crying... I am kind of her.... I have no words... But what you are doing is just amazing... I get anxiety and panic attacks... I am kind of people pleaser girl.. I have social anxiety... But today TH-cam recommended me your video and until now I have watched alot of your videos... I was trying so much but I was unable to overcome of it.. today I took a big decision of my life.. that I am going to come out of my comfort zone... And do what is holding me back from not doing it... Thanks Julien...
It's crazy. I'm binge watching your videos and somehow it feels like I've been on the stage too. From the tension at the start up to the moment of relief in the final stages. Your seminars evoke the whole range of emotions start to finish. There's so much to learn here it's incredible. And it's not just dropping bombs of knowledge. It's an experience for the participants (and viewers even)
As a fellow musician who also excels at fixing others, even though I kinda lost myself along the way and now I'm the one who needs fixing, I find you really inspiring, Julien.
This is interesting. I to have been a musician with some degree of "success". The other day I was talking with a friend about what I love about being on stage. I love that I can steal people's pain, sadness and loneliness for the duration of the show. If you do it right it's like we life the weight of the world off peoples shoulders. I too love helping people and thanks to Julian and Owen who I was blessed to have stumbled into on line many years ago, the self work and letting go of destructive coping and poor self beliefs has changed my world considerably. Still a daily practice but worth every second. If you have a band. Share the name so I can check it out.
I’m in human services twenty years now and driving home between appointments I just lost it. I’m burnt out and have to find better. The go go go is too much. I’ve given to others as part of the healing journey. Found your videos yesterday and ready to figure it all out step by step. Thanks for the amazing journey we are about to go on.
People need folks like Julian who make our basic needs and basic behaviors feel normal and understood in a society where it's so hard to be yourself and feel okay with the endless list of insecurities the world tells you to have.
This woman is so relatable. She seems like she’s on the cusp of reaching such a powerful place and is BURSTING with unrealized excitement!! Go, lady, go!!!!
Thank you Julien ❤️ - You continue to normalize things and feelings. You’re one of the reasons why I decided to work on myself and become a coach. These live demonstrations are so valuable and helpful and I cannot thank you enough for the impact you’re making on the world and the comfort I get when I watch your videos specially because you’re authentic and REAL. “It’s okay” has become one of my daily mantras that I tell myself after you mentioned it in one of your videos I think. I know it sounds weird but this simple sentence changed the way I talk to myself and how I treat myself. You’re amazing, much love 🙏🏻
That's exactly how I felt when I first started my channel talking about my struggles with anxiety. It took me maybe 10 videos to stop squirming, but I pushed through. Julien your shadow questions have meant the World to me. I even made a video just answering them then and there, tough as nails but I did it. Thank you!!!
I really don’t understand shadow questions like i know that a part of me believe I’m not good enough i know where did that believe come from but what do i next what do i do with these answers please can you help me
@@ghala4845 what helped for me was answering these questions, with follow up questions and then seeing that those beliefs are MY projections and not based in reality at all
@@ghala4845i am a little late but shadow question highligh what you despise or admire in Someone else. Usually it is a repressed part of yourself that you amire in other.
He is soo amazing. First few mintues of the video i am like oh the slogan 'just do it". by nike make sense now. When he talks about action, trigger, release, repeat. We all need a friend or family member like Julien. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She definitely helped me with my struggles of getting back out there to date & not having the finesse, rizz . It's not authentic if it's not me. Thank you both!
I found your channel at the right time, I still got a long way to go but everyday I'm learning so much from you. You encourage me so much to embrace the real me, accepting and getting to know parts of me I need to heal. Thank you so much.
Awe.. everyone wants a friend, being alone is scary I know but self value and the rest will follow.. stay strong, head up, and your energy will show.. keep it up everyone!!!
Great video. I notice that I end up trying to please everyone and in doing so, sacrifice my own wellbeing. I also end up being liked by almost everyone but not really loved. I’ve been afraid to put my heart on my sleeve and be authentic for all my life it seems. This really helped. I love the lessons in this video and thanks Julien for inspiring so many!
I really love how she found herself through step-by-step realization. I like how we keep learning through experience since new experience always cover new experiences to come to a definitive answer. Juline really depicted what it means to a human in this world of trial and error. Amazing work as always Juline!
I believe I'm "not good enough" because of my inadequacies and failures to live up to my own expectations and the expectations our society deems as worthy of "being good enough". I'm 5'8". I'm not model hot. I'm not a jacked alpha male. I'm not ugly or wimpy but I'm not anywhere near the top of the food chain. And I fear I am judged for being simply who I am. I've been rejected a ton. I've been treated like I'm not good enough. I try to connect with others but many times they don't want to connect with me, because they probably feel I'm not good enough to connect with... I could go on, bit as I'm writing.. I'm thinking "how egotistical is it of me to reject *myself* ?" I mean I was made as another being in this world just like everyone else and I have a place to fit into this world just as everyone else does so why on earth should I not accept me and the role I have to play in humanity? I think it's because I put too much pressure on myself to fit into the mold and be something everyone else wants. But then what do I want? I want love. I want beauty. I want to make love. I want adventure. I want good feelings and pure awesome thoughts and connections. I want nature. I think I want the simple things. Anyway thanks for coming to my TED talk
The moment she done the recording and everyone clap... I felt that joy too... Really love your work. I feel the same... wanting to help ppl with these topic but i am also working on myself, like only half way through. Need more action, Create a youtube channel already, but still delaying on my first outdoor vlogging >.
I just discovered ur channel 2 days ago...and I couldn't help it but watch your videos...they are extremely helpful and u shatter a lot of doubtful thoughts in my mind... The quote u said "it may hurt to be rejected for being yourself but it may suck a lot more to be someone else"..❤
There are people for whom "I don't know" is where they stop? What makes a person so uncurious? I LOVE hitting an "I don't know," it guides what I need to learn next and going down rabbitholes is fun. I don't think it's a good rule to never say I don't know. Own it, and then use it to guide you. It encourages conversation and exploration, bonding, it's fun to learn shit people don't think about (ever wonder why drink cans are that shape? I did, that's why I know now, and in a weird engineering way it's super cool!) I think the rule is to own it if you don't know something but don't let that be the end of the trail. Let curiosity lead you to the good shit :3
I am the same with fun things especially. Some curiosity comes up? "I dont know about wombats, BUT I'LL GOOGLE IT". Then spend a lot of time learning about wombats and its very fun for me. That Is my usual move. But I know people who stop at "I dont know" and then its like I have kept running and they have stopped "playing" with me on the topic. And it makes me sad. Its worse with emotional deep things "I dont know!" I might say when someone asks me "what do you want" or something like that, and I guess I am waiting for them to say "well lets 'google it'"(or the self help equivalent) instead of "okay well its fine if you dont know, lets move on". I die inside when that happens. I didnt ask to have the query stopped. I just said the part I had, and expected them to play the game but then to me when they dont play, it signals that they did not really want to know what I wanted, they were only asking out of formality. Because when I really want to know something, I do not stop seeking answers. But I know not everyone is this way...anyway, I can play on my own 😑 tho its slightly more depresso.
I’m going to a show this month where I’m going to meet some of my longtime heroes. People who I’ve been a fan of and inspired by for over a decade and I’m incredibly nervous to actually meet them. These videos are really helping me to build a tool set to keep myself genuine and to help myself through this anxiety I’m having leading up to it. I want them to meet me, not some polite “good good good” front I put on. Thank you Julien. You’re helping me break a lot of internal self harm habits I have.
New to your channel and your content has already made me understand so much about how to let go of “negative emotion” and the “cool front” vs authenticity which has been life changing. You are the best self help channel BY FAR. Thank you for doing what you are doing! I have a lot of work to do
She's freaking adorable, I love her willingness to show her vulnerability and freedom to express her emotions in front of people. People laugh with her because they can see and feel exactly how they would feel in her shoes because she presents it openly, which makes others connect with her. I just realised I find this attractive
I just saw your videos yesterday and it feels like I have found what I have been lookong for my whole life. I already love everything your doing and I hope to be on that stage in the near future. Much love
I just discovered this channel and oh wow, another person who really gets it. I feel like once you've been through enough pain you really can't stay in that depressed mindset, you will eventually realize, on some deep level, that the prison you're in is something you can just let go of. So many depressed/anxious people don't want to hear this, but it's true. Glad to see my people, very inspirational and insightful. Edit after searching up that scandal thing: oh, ok. still valid tho lol
I love how she killed that story and the way you’re 100% honest with giving direction. Do you think it would be best to actually write down my options jobwise if I struggle with finding my way and being myself in jobs? I’m only 21 but I also have no idea how I’m going to make a living which is frightening for me. I just want to be independent and free
I would love to start a group with her. I can totally see where she’s going. And I think that sharing her experience going to be very helpful for other people we can all help each other.
Julian has a great ‘Heroes Journey’ story. He's a modern manifestation of mythology. We all are in our heads too much and rarely as the Hero. What does life look like if you are an authentic and genuine hero to yourself?
Julian, I experience you as a wise soul who models what he speaks.... your excellent, cheeky challenges are so powerful to watch. A truly unique person, you are.. I love your video's..🎉
Thanks for this man, though I've already made peace with myself, and a lot of what you say I stand for, but watching your videos gives me some amazing relief. I have become addicted to you're live demonstrations, now I'm learning from you how to bring this change to others..Thanks a lot ❤
New subscriber. I love all the advice you give. Coming from someone who never felt was enough but has grown and still continues to grow these videos are very helpful and I will share this channel with anyone who seems like they need help. Thanks for making people feel alive!
Would be interesting to hear Julians thoughts on how the different countries he visists differ in what people have issues with. We are all humans of course, but I think maybe different cultures have some different things.
I rushed to like this video when you said some people will choose to leave you bc even if you had one follower that would be me not from pity just bc your authenticity excitese and makes me laugh and believe in me. The work id is hard and it takes baby steps to make a progress but it is the best and l can not thank you for that🙏🏻🔥
I'm sorry, I did your natal chart lol you are super cool and have similarities to me and resonates. Your energy is me that I only show around friends but not always to the world. Hahaha Your videos are amazing thank you for this gift. ❤❤❤ I wish you love and abundance.
I sometimes do the "immidiate action" thing and after this video, I wanna do it more and I wanna take bolder steps. Thanks for the videos Julien. Btw, if you have it I really want to see her instagram story and find out did she really do the live talking
My job is ok. It allows me to be able to have a roof, eat and most importantly to create art and play music. I once quit a soul crushing job to finish a painting.
Can relate to the music part, hence why my channel is called like that. I've been making music for 8 years, I wasn't doing music to be popular, I'm still bad at it, don't even know the basics, but yet I still continued to make it, to express myself. If it's bad - I don't care, If it's good - I don't care, I make music for m-y-s-e-l-f, to express myself and more importantly, I put it out, so even if someone would listen to it, tell me that it's bad, I wouldn't care, because, as I said, it's TO EXPRESS MYSELF, not to give an enjoyment to someone, I mean, if they like - cool ! It means, that me being my true self and putting my real self was liked by someone. After 8 years, I actually felt a lot better, I don't have these negatives emotions anymore to express, I have nothing to say anymore about it. (not all of them disappeared of course, but im doing better and keep working on it). Most of my tracks are barely making any listening (views), and my most popular is over 100k views, and I was never destroyed by that I can't anything popular anymore, because from the beginning my goal was - express myself.
as someone wanting to be a psychologist and really beliving I can, or a youtuber xP having fun doing what I like and also helping people with their stuff
It literally will feel like you just got freed from a 10 year prison sentence when you learn to let go of the need for approval. Because you were imprisoning yourself
Thank you so much. Since I started watching your videos, something slowly is changing in me. It's been only a few days, it's already slowly created a process of finding myself. ❤❤❤❤
Hey Julien, thank you for this content. It warmed my heart in so many different ways. I truly hope that you come to Austria someday. We have good beer here.
I need a job that won't fire me for being weird and dark, because that's kinda who I am on the inside. I'm no champion for a "polite society" that condemns the language of grown adults. It's abusive and controlling.
@@adityagarg3931 I want to work at a job that accepts me for who I am and won't fire me for my strange personality. I also don't like people who try to control the things other people say.
@@adityagarg3931In the second sentence he's basically saying "I don't like our society that doesn't let you use adult language (swears). It's hurtful and controlling."
if your chasing approval your asking for permission to have a future. i dont need anyones permission to have a future. i need ambition and relentlessness
I had so many criticisms of this guy What education does he have? This seems kinda Dangerous advice. But he got this woman out of her own way. It is freeing. I like his action trigger resistance fear release do it again. Sometimes we need a little push, a positive response, we have positive influence, anything is better than nothing isn’t always true. I always thought get it right the first time that’s the main thing. Practice practice practice instead of avoid. But then do it.
Anyone up for an interesting experiment: Next time your mind randomly starts singing the lyrics of a song go to a quiet place and play that song. Then look inside which sensations come up (what there is to "let go of" if you will)....
Can You Please make a video on the topic -"I don't like and love the way I look ,The way my face is ,which quite asymmetrical as well .Too insecurity about the way my face is , sensitive of people's opinions about me .This makes me fearful and anxious in life thinking others may take advantage of me or manipulate me or even laugh and mean to me because of this........ Inferiority Complex and feeling of Not being Good enough and feeling Lacking Behind Than others No marriage No True Love I am 29 . 😢 Please Help 🙏 How can I do the shadow work ?? Self Care does not seem to make any difference.. Help Help Help 😢 I am aware that my most of my habits and behaviour stem from the low self image and self concept of I don't look good. I hate the way I look and how my face is. Do not take photos of myself and make videos of the event in my own mobile phone. I really believe that My Future husband will leave me for a beautiful woman in future. Please address this issue 😭🙏 And one thing more surgery is not the option for me ...
Well, I'm stuck with almost whatever I'm trying to do right now, I have a good job that pays good but in the end I don't really care about money, I don't even use it, it just gets invested or sits on my account ... I have many things I want (I guess?) to do, but they feel like arbitrary objectives and I'm not sure if they're real goals I like or just something I invented thinking I would like it ... every time I start moving towards it, I just stop and barely continue ... Don't even know how to advance my career either lol, cause I'm just gliding each day one after the other. Also have so many self doubt about myself even though I out perform everything I start lol, got praised so much at work but still feel like a fraud Life is complicated man
I'm fitting to be a whole menace if i'm not careful lol. But I am putting it in my mind that no one really cares about you, and are more likely to laugh and shame you than uplift you no matter what you do. So free yourself because you can't please everyone, please yourself.
First thing about confidence I hear is crying? Crying is a sign if weakness. If u cry outside ur not gona have an applaus. | btw unrelated: Men shud not cry. Men shud be stronger than their surrounding, or at least think they are.
Hm awesome all of you! I love how I have proof for myself too that even tho i get critized by my family, I react raw (tho i try not to offend them) .. they love it. They hate it when im not around at bday partys. I still feel like i am not good enough, but compared to 5 years ago i am indeed doing pretty crappy. But its nice to know there is alot to improve
I've been slowly starting to incorporate that being my authentic self in public, and I get a mixture of reactions to it, good and bad. I just need to get rid of that thought that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because in the moment that's exactly what I'm thinking about! I'm looking for that feedback of what does this person think of me for being my authentic self? Did I even become my authentic self? Those sorts of negative thoughts. I think, for me, a lot of the work comes from introspection and time passed that I come to the conclusion that I'm glad I did it, even if it ended in disaster by being judged etc. At least I was my authentic self ❤️
Wow 12:59 this is scary 17:25 this , “I would have never done this in ten years”. Real shit! Wow 23:40 “be willing to lose the wrong people” celebrate if you lose 500 followers because they not resonate with you
i started doing letting go process following the letting go steps in a video.. what I notice is when I watch the mind when triggered(or catch it when it talks non stop), i suddenly don't feel a thing.. but your video suggest allow the feeling or sensation in body.. it feels as though my mind forgot what it was chatting about when I observe my mind. But you say pay attention to emotions and sensation. when I pay attention to body, feels nothing. Is this common?
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When I first saw your videos, I had already been through all the stages you talk about and emotions and everything, I just want sure if I was confident enough to be real with people about it and tell them how it is without much anyone else who I found FULLY understood it. Then I found your videos on I think sunday, due to being so stressed and broken down at home due to not knowing if id ever be ready to express what I believed was true for everyone, thinking I'd be shut down due to peer pressure by some people who deep down know its true but listen to the voices out of fear and habit, and some who forgot its true due to being in the competetive anger stage like I think you said most people are in. But thanks to you being REAL, it caused and is causing TREMENDOUS change in the world as your probably know. Just wanted to say this to give you more encouragement, evidence, and stability, to keep doing what your doing. Its the secret societal code, running most of us who have the same intellectual build, just with different strengths and purposes. It seems yours is to BREAK THE FAKE. Keep moving forward bro, keep moving forward.
I also like how you dont edit your videos because if you do, to me at least, its saying: "That part is shameful and noone should show this part of them". And as we know, its only shameful if you shame yourself for it!
Yeah. This is it.. such huge conflict.. bad day on purpose- confusion on purpose, changing career - having you in a week and inspiring to accumulate something to make it there, not straightaway, when it is lighter and expansive, I’ll be there.. some things to be done till then.. onto them ❤
Top reminder takeaway in this moment: "Be willing to lose the wrong people."
Same here ❤
I get how she feels. I love what you do as well, I think out of all the advice I've seen online yours is the one that resonates the most with me.
Thank you so much! I'm glad it resonates with you so deeply! 🙏
Same
Right. That resonates different and I do personal development since April 2018 and it changed and saved my life ❤
As soon as she started speaking into that camera during the live recording, it was like another person has stepped in, thats her shadow her true potential being actualized, it was so impressive and so hard to believe.
She is that person, shes that potential, but shes holding back, a lot of us are holding ourselves back, great moment, a wake up call, amazing content, have a great day julian, have a great day everybody, and be your true selves
she's so sweet I feel the EXACT same way, i literally want to cry and do cry many of your videos thank you so much
You're so welcome! Glad my content is helpful and impactful for you! 🙏
@@JulienHimself bro you just made my day replying to this. There is so much good content in this video, it might be my favorite that you have made. It's just good vibes and positive people. It really makes me happy...like it shines a light. I've been struggling with really bad depression lately and you are like a beacon of hope. ty again
I hope she knows her moments have also brought tears to others eyes, including mine. She did great ❤ Thank you both
Yes, she crushed it! Glad this resonated with you!
Same here tysm
can't stop watching Julien's videos
🙌
Same here bro
I am literally crying... I am kind of her.... I have no words... But what you are doing is just amazing... I get anxiety and panic attacks... I am kind of people pleaser girl.. I have social anxiety... But today TH-cam recommended me your video and until now I have watched alot of your videos... I was trying so much but I was unable to overcome of it.. today I took a big decision of my life.. that I am going to come out of my comfort zone... And do what is holding me back from not doing it... Thanks Julien...
AWESOME !!!!!
It's crazy. I'm binge watching your videos and somehow it feels like I've been on the stage too. From the tension at the start up to the moment of relief in the final stages. Your seminars evoke the whole range of emotions start to finish.
There's so much to learn here it's incredible. And it's not just dropping bombs of knowledge. It's an experience for the participants (and viewers even)
She is so beautiful in her real skin 😊
As a fellow musician who also excels at fixing others, even though I kinda lost myself along the way and now I'm the one who needs fixing, I find you really inspiring, Julien.
Glad my content resonates so deeply with you! 🙏
This is interesting. I to have been a musician with some degree of "success". The other day I was talking with a friend about what I love about being on stage. I love that I can steal people's pain, sadness and loneliness for the duration of the show. If you do it right it's like we life the weight of the world off peoples shoulders. I too love helping people and thanks to Julian and Owen who I was blessed to have stumbled into on line many years ago, the self work and letting go of destructive coping and poor self beliefs has changed my world considerably. Still a daily practice but worth every second. If you have a band. Share the name so I can check it out.
The amount of times I get tears in my eyes watching people here step over boundaries.... I need more water. It's beautiful man 😀
Thank you! Glad this resonates with you!
I’m in human services twenty years now and driving home between appointments I just lost it. I’m burnt out and have to find better. The go go go is too much. I’ve given to others as part of the healing journey. Found your videos yesterday and ready to figure it all out step by step. Thanks for the amazing journey we are about to go on.
You already know you can do it brother
People need folks like Julian who make our basic needs and basic behaviors feel normal and understood in a society where it's so hard to be yourself and feel okay with the endless list of insecurities the world tells you to have.
This woman is so relatable. She seems like she’s on the cusp of reaching such a powerful place and is BURSTING with unrealized excitement!! Go, lady, go!!!!
Thank you Julien ❤️ - You continue to normalize things and feelings. You’re one of the reasons why I decided to work on myself and become a coach. These live demonstrations are so valuable and helpful and I cannot thank you enough for the impact you’re making on the world and the comfort I get when I watch your videos specially because you’re authentic and REAL. “It’s okay” has become one of my daily mantras that I tell myself after you mentioned it in one of your videos I think. I know it sounds weird but this simple sentence changed the way I talk to myself and how I treat myself. You’re amazing, much love 🙏🏻
That's amazing to hear! You're so welcome! 🙏
That's exactly how I felt when I first started my channel talking about my struggles with anxiety. It took me maybe 10 videos to stop squirming, but I pushed through. Julien your shadow questions have meant the World to me. I even made a video just answering them then and there, tough as nails but I did it. Thank you!!!
I really don’t understand shadow questions like i know that a part of me believe I’m not good enough i know where did that believe come from but what do i next what do i do with these answers please can you help me
@@ghala4845 what helped for me was answering these questions, with follow up questions and then seeing that those beliefs are MY projections and not based in reality at all
@@ghala4845i am a little late but shadow question highligh what you despise or admire in Someone else. Usually it is a repressed part of yourself that you amire in other.
He is soo amazing. First few mintues of the video i am like oh the slogan 'just do it". by nike make sense now. When he talks about action, trigger, release, repeat. We all need a friend or family member like Julien. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She definitely helped me with my struggles of getting back out there to date & not having the finesse, rizz . It's not authentic if it's not me. Thank you both!
"It's not authentic if it's not me" is a good sentence, kinda needed to hear that today
I found your channel at the right time, I still got a long way to go but everyday I'm learning so much from you. You encourage me so much to embrace the real me, accepting and getting to know parts of me I need to heal. Thank you so much.
She is so authentic
Yes, MASSIVE respect to her! 🙌
Awe.. everyone wants a friend, being alone is scary I know but self value and the rest will follow.. stay strong, head up, and your energy will show.. keep it up everyone!!!
I have NO social media, I love my solitude, no desire to gain that attention from so many, my happiness and success are NOT determined by others
Great video. I notice that I end up trying to please everyone and in doing so, sacrifice my own wellbeing. I also end up being liked by almost everyone but not really loved. I’ve been afraid to put my heart on my sleeve and be authentic for all my life it seems. This really helped. I love the lessons in this video and thanks Julien for inspiring so many!
Now I can't unsee his hair! 😂 Great moment, that woman was shining after doing that story!❤
😂 - Yes, she crushed it! Massive respect to her!
I really love how she found herself through step-by-step realization. I like how we keep learning through experience since new experience always cover new experiences to come to a definitive answer. Juline really depicted what it means to a human in this world of trial and error. Amazing work as always Juline!
I believe I'm "not good enough" because of my inadequacies and failures to live up to my own expectations and the expectations our society deems as worthy of "being good enough". I'm 5'8". I'm not model hot. I'm not a jacked alpha male. I'm not ugly or wimpy but I'm not anywhere near the top of the food chain. And I fear I am judged for being simply who I am. I've been rejected a ton. I've been treated like I'm not good enough. I try to connect with others but many times they don't want to connect with me, because they probably feel I'm not good enough to connect with... I could go on, bit as I'm writing.. I'm thinking "how egotistical is it of me to reject *myself* ?"
I mean I was made as another being in this world just like everyone else and I have a place to fit into this world just as everyone else does so why on earth should I not accept me and the role I have to play in humanity? I think it's because I put too much pressure on myself to fit into the mold and be something everyone else wants. But then what do I want? I want love. I want beauty. I want to make love. I want adventure. I want good feelings and pure awesome thoughts and connections. I want nature. I think I want the simple things.
Anyway thanks for coming to my TED talk
I must be honest this was inspiring, and it's really inspiring to see that the girl finally found the courage to take action.
This resonated so much I cried at her happiness at making that post. I am in a similar place. Subscribed!
Wow, this was mind opening. The lesson after the breakthrough was a speech the whole world needs to hear. Thank you Julien❤
It makes me feel so good that I understood everything she said when she was recording her story. 😁
The moment she done the recording and everyone clap... I felt that joy too...
Really love your work. I feel the same... wanting to help ppl with these topic but i am also working on myself, like only half way through.
Need more action,
Create a youtube channel already, but still delaying on my first outdoor vlogging >.
You’re welcome! You got this! 💪
Another banger dude. The ending message also really hit the nail man, drawing from your own past cravings. G-G-G- G-UNIT!
I just discovered ur channel 2 days ago...and I couldn't help it but watch your videos...they are extremely helpful and u shatter a lot of doubtful thoughts in my mind... The quote u said "it may hurt to be rejected for being yourself but it may suck a lot more to be someone else"..❤
There are people for whom "I don't know" is where they stop? What makes a person so uncurious? I LOVE hitting an "I don't know," it guides what I need to learn next and going down rabbitholes is fun. I don't think it's a good rule to never say I don't know. Own it, and then use it to guide you. It encourages conversation and exploration, bonding, it's fun to learn shit people don't think about (ever wonder why drink cans are that shape? I did, that's why I know now, and in a weird engineering way it's super cool!) I think the rule is to own it if you don't know something but don't let that be the end of the trail. Let curiosity lead you to the good shit :3
I am the same with fun things especially. Some curiosity comes up? "I dont know about wombats, BUT I'LL GOOGLE IT". Then spend a lot of time learning about wombats and its very fun for me. That Is my usual move.
But I know people who stop at "I dont know" and then its like I have kept running and they have stopped "playing" with me on the topic. And it makes me sad.
Its worse with emotional deep things "I dont know!" I might say when someone asks me "what do you want" or something like that, and I guess I am waiting for them to say "well lets 'google it'"(or the self help equivalent) instead of "okay well its fine if you dont know, lets move on". I die inside when that happens. I didnt ask to have the query stopped. I just said the part I had, and expected them to play the game but then to me when they dont play, it signals that they did not really want to know what I wanted, they were only asking out of formality.
Because when I really want to know something, I do not stop seeking answers. But I know not everyone is this way...anyway, I can play on my own 😑 tho its slightly more depresso.
I’m going to a show this month where I’m going to meet some of my longtime heroes. People who I’ve been a fan of and inspired by for over a decade and I’m incredibly nervous to actually meet them.
These videos are really helping me to build a tool set to keep myself genuine and to help myself through this anxiety I’m having leading up to it. I want them to meet me, not some polite “good good good” front I put on.
Thank you Julien. You’re helping me break a lot of internal self harm habits I have.
New to your channel and your content has already made me understand so much about how to let go of “negative emotion” and the “cool front” vs authenticity which has been life changing. You are the best self help channel BY FAR. Thank you for doing what you are doing! I have a lot of work to do
Thank you so much! And welcome to the channel! 🙌
She's freaking adorable, I love her willingness to show her vulnerability and freedom to express her emotions in front of people. People laugh with her because they can see and feel exactly how they would feel in her shoes because she presents it openly, which makes others connect with her. I just realised I find this attractive
The moment the reel started, it felt so so authentic, i found myself smiling and feeling her energy. I will be authentic i will own myself, my energy
It s so weird like i am cheering her to do the video but deep down i know i would freeze doing that. Kudos to her and Julien 🔥🙏
Thanks! 🔥👊
I just saw your videos yesterday and it feels like I have found what I have been lookong for my whole life. I already love everything your doing and I hope to be on that stage in the near future. Much love
She’s a total natural!!
I just discovered this channel and oh wow, another person who really gets it. I feel like once you've been through enough pain you really can't stay in that depressed mindset, you will eventually realize, on some deep level, that the prison you're in is something you can just let go of. So many depressed/anxious people don't want to hear this, but it's true.
Glad to see my people, very inspirational and insightful.
Edit after searching up that scandal thing: oh, ok. still valid tho lol
what scandal thing
I love how she killed that story and the way you’re 100% honest with giving direction. Do you think it would be best to actually write down my options jobwise if I struggle with finding my way and being myself in jobs? I’m only 21 but I also have no idea how I’m going to make a living which is frightening for me. I just want to be independent and free
I dont know what she said on her story, but she sounded confident! 🥰
Yea that video she mentioned I watched it today it cracked me open but got sad.
I love so much that you do this with her and help her do this concretely. So. Dang. Good.
She literally hid behind the easel right before you helped her do this. I love this.
I would love to start a group with her. I can totally see where she’s going. And I think that sharing her experience going to be very helpful for other people we can all help each other.
Julian has a great ‘Heroes Journey’ story. He's a modern manifestation of mythology. We all are in our heads too much and rarely as the Hero. What does life look like if you are an authentic and genuine hero to yourself?
I’ve been binge watching your channel. Ready to change my life and shine as my true self
Thank You for existing
"Although it might hurt to be rejected for who you really are, which sucks a lot more when you're only accepted when you're someone you're not." 23:46
Julian, I experience you as a wise soul who models what he speaks.... your excellent, cheeky challenges are so powerful to watch. A truly unique person, you are.. I love your video's..🎉
Thanks for this man, though I've already made peace with myself, and a lot of what you say I stand for, but watching your videos gives me some amazing relief. I have become addicted to you're live demonstrations, now I'm learning from you how to bring this change to others..Thanks a lot ❤
New subscriber. I love all the advice you give. Coming from someone who never felt was enough but has grown and still continues to grow these videos are very helpful and I will share this channel with anyone who seems like they need help. Thanks for making people feel alive!
You're so welcome! And welcome to the channel! 🙌
Would be interesting to hear Julians thoughts on how the different countries he visists differ in what people have issues with. We are all humans of course, but I think maybe different cultures have some different things.
You should only care about your own culture. Other cultures can cope with themselves in their ways.
I rushed to like this video when you said some people will choose to leave you bc even if you had one follower that would be me not from pity just bc your authenticity excitese and makes me laugh and believe in me. The work id is hard and it takes baby steps to make a progress but it is the best and l can not thank you for that🙏🏻🔥
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New insights, New resonates, & New Experiences, ALWAYS.
Thank you Julian !!!
Thank you Julian !!!
Thank you Julian !!!
--- Wahaj
Love these videos! They’re always inspirational.
Thank you! 🙏
That’s why God said LOVE people like you LOVE YOURSELF… that means you must FIRST love yourself!!!
I'm sorry, I did your natal chart lol you are super cool and have similarities to me and resonates. Your energy is me that I only show around friends but not always to the world. Hahaha Your videos are amazing thank you for this gift. ❤❤❤
I wish you love and abundance.
I sometimes do the "immidiate action" thing and after this video, I wanna do it more and I wanna take bolder steps. Thanks for the videos Julien. Btw, if you have it I really want to see her instagram story and find out did she really do the live talking
My job is ok. It allows me to be able to have a roof, eat and most importantly to create art and play music. I once quit a soul crushing job to finish a painting.
Shadow work is scary and painful. Ive finally chosen to embrace it.
Can relate to the music part, hence why my channel is called like that. I've been making music for 8 years, I wasn't doing music to be popular, I'm still bad at it, don't even know the basics, but yet I still continued to make it, to express myself. If it's bad - I don't care, If it's good - I don't care, I make music for m-y-s-e-l-f, to express myself and more importantly, I put it out, so even if someone would listen to it, tell me that it's bad, I wouldn't care, because, as I said, it's TO EXPRESS MYSELF, not to give an enjoyment to someone, I mean, if they like - cool ! It means, that me being my true self and putting my real self was liked by someone. After 8 years, I actually felt a lot better, I don't have these negatives emotions anymore to express, I have nothing to say anymore about it. (not all of them disappeared of course, but im doing better and keep working on it).
Most of my tracks are barely making any listening (views), and my most popular is over 100k views, and I was never destroyed by that I can't anything popular anymore, because from the beginning my goal was - express myself.
as someone wanting to be a psychologist and really beliving I can, or a youtuber xP having fun doing what I like and also helping people with their stuff
Ganz viel Liebe für sie❤❤❤
It literally will feel like you just got freed from a 10 year prison sentence when you learn to let go of the need for approval. Because you were imprisoning yourself
Thank you so much. Since I started watching your videos, something slowly is changing in me. It's been only a few days, it's already slowly created a process of finding myself. ❤❤❤❤
Her Face Glow and her body language shifted from small fearful to that of confident bright strong Woman. ;) .
Hey Julien, thank you for this content. It warmed my heart in so many different ways. I truly hope that you come to Austria someday. We have good beer here.
She is so brave
This is so authentic and real its insane! helps so much! cheers Julien!
Glad it helps! And yes, authenticity is all! 🙏
I need a job that won't fire me for being weird and dark, because that's kinda who I am on the inside. I'm no champion for a "polite society" that condemns the language of grown adults. It's abusive and controlling.
I did not understand. Could you use simple English
@@adityagarg3931 I want to work at a job that accepts me for who I am and won't fire me for my strange personality. I also don't like people who try to control the things other people say.
I accept you.
@@adityagarg3931In the second sentence he's basically saying "I don't like our society that doesn't let you use adult language (swears). It's hurtful and controlling."
if your chasing approval your asking for permission to have a future. i dont need anyones permission to have a future. i need ambition and relentlessness
I had so many criticisms of this guy What education does he have? This seems kinda Dangerous advice. But he got this woman out of her own way. It is freeing.
I like his action trigger resistance fear release do it again. Sometimes we need a little push, a positive response, we have positive influence, anything is better than nothing isn’t always true. I always thought get it right the first time that’s the main thing. Practice practice practice instead of avoid. But then do it.
Anyone up for an interesting experiment:
Next time your mind randomly starts singing the lyrics of a song go to a quiet place and play that song. Then look inside which sensations come up (what there is to "let go of" if you will)....
Will give that a try, thanks for the suggestion :)
I think Julien is improving at what he does, very nice.
Can You Please make a video on the topic -"I don't like and love the way I look ,The way my face is ,which quite asymmetrical as well .Too insecurity about the way my face is , sensitive of people's opinions about me .This makes me fearful and anxious in life thinking others may take advantage of me or manipulate me or even laugh and mean to me because of this........
Inferiority Complex and feeling of Not being Good enough and feeling Lacking Behind Than others
No marriage No True Love
I am 29 .
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Please Help 🙏
How can I do the shadow work ??
Self Care does not seem to make any difference..
Help Help Help 😢
I am aware that my most of my habits and behaviour stem from the low self image and self concept of
I don't look good.
I hate the way I look and how my face is.
Do not take photos of myself and make videos of the event in my own mobile phone.
I really believe that My Future husband will leave me for a beautiful woman in future.
Please address this issue 😭🙏
And one thing more surgery is not the option for me ...
Through your videos, am getting to know that am not alone... and it makes everything seem a bit more bearable and gives hope...
Well, I'm stuck with almost whatever I'm trying to do right now, I have a good job that pays good but in the end I don't really care about money, I don't even use it, it just gets invested or sits on my account ...
I have many things I want (I guess?) to do, but they feel like arbitrary objectives and I'm not sure if they're real goals I like or just something I invented thinking I would like it ... every time I start moving towards it, I just stop and barely continue ...
Don't even know how to advance my career either lol, cause I'm just gliding each day one after the other.
Also have so many self doubt about myself even though I out perform everything I start lol, got praised so much at work but still feel like a fraud
Life is complicated man
I love you Julien. You're a real master. The work you are successfully doing is next to impossible. ❤❤❤. Words are not enough to thank your work.
Thank you so much!! 🙏
I LOVE YOU JULIEN ❤
I'm fitting to be a whole menace if i'm not careful lol. But I am putting it in my mind that no one really cares about you, and are more likely to laugh and shame you than uplift you no matter what you do. So free yourself because you can't please everyone, please yourself.
Damn we've come along way from saying crazy neg comments to spark conversation for the sake of rejection experience 🙏
First thing about confidence I hear is crying? Crying is a sign if weakness. If u cry outside ur not gona have an applaus. | btw unrelated: Men shud not cry. Men shud be stronger than their surrounding, or at least think they are.
I love her honesty. ❤
Hm awesome all of you! I love how I have proof for myself too that even tho i get critized by my family, I react raw (tho i try not to offend them) .. they love it. They hate it when im not around at bday partys. I still feel like i am not good enough, but compared to 5 years ago i am indeed doing pretty crappy. But its nice to know there is alot to improve
I ❤her energy!
Watching her record her story made me cry.
I would love if you ever did a show in Idaho! I would definitely come. Your seminars have helped me to be able to breath.
Wow she is beautiful all the way through
I've been slowly starting to incorporate that being my authentic self in public, and I get a mixture of reactions to it, good and bad. I just need to get rid of that thought that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because in the moment that's exactly what I'm thinking about! I'm looking for that feedback of what does this person think of me for being my authentic self? Did I even become my authentic self? Those sorts of negative thoughts. I think, for me, a lot of the work comes from introspection and time passed that I come to the conclusion that I'm glad I did it, even if it ended in disaster by being judged etc. At least I was my authentic self ❤️
Wow 12:59 this is scary
17:25 this , “I would have never done this in ten years”. Real shit! Wow
23:40 “be willing to lose the wrong people” celebrate if you lose 500 followers because they not resonate with you
Literally the perfect guy to come to in our self improvement journey fuck, this channel is convenient
i started doing letting go process following the letting go steps in a video.. what I notice is when I watch the mind when triggered(or catch it when it talks non stop), i suddenly don't feel a thing.. but your video suggest allow the feeling or sensation in body.. it feels as though my mind forgot what it was chatting about when I observe my mind. But you say pay attention to emotions and sensation. when I pay attention to body, feels nothing. Is this common?
I don't know what she said... but she was really amazing
Wow, phenomenal insights about attachment to validation! Genius 👏
She was amazing 🫶🏽
Yes! It takes a lot of courage and willingness to do the work... Massive respect to her! 🙌
i love your videos man. i see that there is light and you explain it so easily. thank you