How To Be More Confident Than 99% Of People
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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How To Be More Confident Than 99% Of People
How to become more confident and how to improve your social skills! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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“You never lost you confidence. You just buried it.” Gotta remove the layers. Thank you 🙏🏾
Yes! You're so welcome!
Dude I worked in a preschool, and the way those teachers beat down a child’s voice is unreal. Any time those kids are excited about something and they feel the need to shout. “Leo, come here, I need to talk to you. That’s not okay, Mister” *Leo’s face is now heartbroken, and he keeps looking around the room because he doesn’t know where to look*
Yes
Imagine if there were classes in middle/high school diving into these things.
That would be great.
I’m was only thinking the same thing 😊😊
I teach middle school theatre and I really want to dive into this kind of stuff. Thats why I am watching this channel. Found it a few days ago.
for me it was theatre !
Dead Poets Society
I love when people are authentic and vulnerable. It’s rare and refreshing❤️❤️
We truly feel the best when we are fully ourselves
Bro still has a maximillianmus profile pic. Well said though
@@bradenadsett9040 why would I change this masterpiece 😍🗿
It’s extremely rare unfortunately
@@h1ph0p10 to be authentic and vulnerable
Almost brought me to tears when he finally started his breakthrough. Don’t know the dude but I’m so proud of him!
It’s crazy how almost no one is authentic, particularly in public. Just working on my social skills and talking to people I find attractive - after months of this I think I’ve seen maybe one or two other people being fully authentic. I myself still struggle with it after years. It’s really crazy how strong social conditioning is.
I think it depends where you live/the culture you're from. I've lived in different countries and have had widely different experiences when it comes to the authenticity of the people in a particular place. Here, in Spain, the vast majority of people are authentic and very natural when it comes to expressing their thoughts and emotions without feeling embarassed or shy. Everyone is outside most of the time and interacting with others is a necessity (in the good sense), not a chore. In general, grown ups don't tells kids to be quiet here like they do in other cultures/countries, especially when they're expressing themselves. They encourage their kids to 'speak up' and the kids learn to be naturally confident. Awkward silences are very uncommon here too. When the Spanish run into people they know, they're love interacting with them.
Italians are very similar to the Spanish is this respect.
Northern Europeans tend to be more cautious, calculating and hesitant when expressing themselves. I would say the Spanish and Italians are more intuitive communicators, whereas Northern Europeans are more intellectual (intellect over intuition) communicators.
It's almost like you need to behave yourself for society to work. We can't all go around being authentic or everyone would hate eachother. That's why people with aspergers are outcasts instead of super cool authentic people 😎
@@BeWhoYouWant2 Why are you equating being authentic with hating people? You can be yourself without hating on others.
@@PB22559 You misunderstood. If everyone just did whatever they wanted, we would get on each-others nerves. If everyone always told people what they really thought we would hurt each others feelings.
Theres a reason we act different in public than with close friends or alone.
@@BeWhoYouWant2I think you might have autism, being authentic doesn't mean doing whatever you want.
Getting rid of SOCIAL ANXIETY takes a lot of self- discipline but its so Worth it !!
wow the negative household really hit home for me, i grew up in a negative household and i can honestly say its hard for me to even smile at someone or laugh genuinely, I really don't know why, but there is something i feel like is stopping me from allowing myself to smile and laugh around people. it sucks, and its lonely.
Right now im at the lowest point in my life and im very sad and this helped. Thank u very much
❤
you're not alone, Jesus loves you, and there is hope for a better life.
keep your head up, tough times never last
That "You're being so fake right now...!" THAT! Feels so real... great transformation
These types of videos are literally perfect for this kind of topic. Most videos regarding this just TELL you to do this and do that. But this actually SHOWS how to do it, and its MUCH more eye-opening.
I really love how everyone was encouraging, giving him that push when he was having that inner battle. Just feels nice to know that you’re not alone ❤
Even just watching it gives me social anxiety 'cause I imagine myself being in Jacob' s shoes on stage doing all this inner work in front of a crowd, it's terrifying. Well done, Jacob! I'm not sure I would be able to do it.
same except I imagine myself being the other guy :)
I actually recognized the “letting go” happen with the scream part in the video. Not just seeing it in him, but as I watched I was trying my best to embody him, put myself in that scenario, and I felt the tension and nerves release in myself when he did that. Actually very powerful to find ways to just fully let that go physically. Definitely something I’ll carry with me from here on out.
Please make TH-cam videos forever Julien. I’ve subscribed since 2012. 12 years later my life has changed a lot because of you.
I have honestly never been on the edge of my seat like this for a youtube video ever. I resonate so much with this and was even tearing up a bit at the very point he started recognizing he had some power. Felt like this was me talking to me. Such a powerful video. Mad props to this guy for finding out that he IS good enough!
"Embody that inner hero, now!"
i had the exact same reaction. this is what i needed.
Same. God Bless.
Julien is the real hero of our time helping us all become who we really need to become
This was a very interesting watch indeed. I found myself really rooting for the young Jacob, clapping along with the audience and cheering out loud at home in my living room. Jacob, thank you for sharing and best of luck on your continued transformation.
i was doin the exact same thing in my living room 😂😂
From jacob to JACOB! 🎉 Love to see people being themselves. ❤
I have a little daughter and after seeing this video I’ll never try to make her quiet anymore.
I love seeing how genuinely Julien cares about people
he’s working hard and doesn’t give up
"Let people see who you are, the way you are." This hits home. I'm always trying to do more to show I'm good enough.
I remember when I started holding back. First grade, I had a fight with a classmate, I pinned him down and asked if he concedes, he said yes, I let go of him and he backstabbed me. I hurt my knee and cried and the whole class witnessed this.
Listening on about the slaps after being born, I had water in my lungs, all blue, so I was on my way out while I got in.
Getting angry with your self and saying STOP when you feel nerves kick in is so simple but powerful
I'm in the middle of a divorce.😭 I have self guilt, self hatred, self abandonment. And did things that hurt my internal self and my marriage. My wife is has grown past me and she's going on her way to stay with the guy she's been seeing.😭😭😭😭 I understand where this man is coming from, I relate to him so much. I hate myself so much for taking my marriage and myself for granted. Thank you Julian for all the help you give to people. Im in therapy and I have a long ways to go.
😅 i relate ... even hearing someone crying is making me anxious . Thank you for the video
You're so welcome! Glad this resonates! 🙏
your videos actually was more helfull than anything i did for my social anxiety
22:07 This part resonated with me more than i expected it could.
The past year i started into self improvement and ever since then i've been planning and plannihg and consuming more content on youtube and instagram and although i did progress in most areas of my life i still find myself procrastinating and returning to a self improvement video to "motivate" myself back into action for a week until returning to my default. Through julien videos i realized this is a form of self sabotage that my brain uses in order to put me into a vicious cycle of motivating myself but never really achieving something meaningful.
And that, really helped me. Thank you so much
Love how His whole Energy changed !!!
I NEED THIS FIRST HAND .
Usually i would feel patronized or hardheaded but you sir are real .I know for a fact im a tough critic.Im very observant and study people close
"I'm shook" ❤
The scale of inner Resistance:
1. Apathy - lack of feeling, emotion or awareness
2. Grief - Intense distress and suffering
3. Fear - Being afraid, flight
4. Anger - Intense feeling of upset and annoyance
5. Courage - Power and fearlessness
6. Desire - Strongly wanting
7. Purpose - Reasons and a goal
8. Love - Deep affection, enjoyment, fulfillment
Question:
Does removing inner resistance result in telling people everything that is on your mind?
Doing so seems nice, but possibly harmful.
Thought of the same question. In my view, no, this is not a morally perfect world. You can't just trust everyone to the level that you tell them everything. Otherwise, we wouldn't even require military or any actions in the name of "security."
That “look” is probably top 3 Julian looks I’ve seen yet, and I’ve been following your YT since 2017! Love ❤
I love your loud unmatching clothes 🥹❤️ and your style of teaching 🎯
That deserved a standing ovation. Loved it!
Awesome videos as always Julien! I always watch your videos without any distraction to FEEL the breakdown.
Biggest Takeaways:
1. If you are in a lower state like grief or fear, tapping into anger is totally fine and it's not self-hate. (Although it should be temporary not long term). "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!"
2. Always take notes while introspecting. Whatever you FEEL, doesn't even have to make sense. Keeping coming back to these notes until they no longer trigger you.
3. What I am dying to hear from someone else?
4. Externel tools like reminders (aka training wheels for change) don't get to the cause but that doesn't mean you can't use them to trigger change.
5. YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN GOOD ENOUGH THE WHOLE TIME. THE ANSWER IS WITHIN AND STOP SEEKING IT OUTSIDE.
6. Even though this is hard, celebrate every little win in this path. :)
Quick Question on first takeway:
- How would I know if I no longer need to stay in anger state which I got in just temporarily to let go of grief/fear?
Awesome! I agree
I think that anger is what you use to start moving forward, break free from apathy and depression, so when you are moving forward consistently you can stop tapping into anger.
I discovered one hack for accessing this "moment". So, I when I was younger I could go to a party and dance. But for years, I hadn't been able to do that. I'd see some friends dancing and tell myself, that's not me, when in reality I wanted to.
This month, I was at a party, and for some reason I just felt like why the fuck would I waste this night (it was the freshers party at my uni)? And I danced really fucking hard, letting the worrying thoughts about how I look drown out with the loud ass music and lights. I could feel the difference, after the party, I felt less weight than usual. And friends did tell me that I was more unhinged (I'm using this word lightly, but this is the correct word here I feel) that night.
So, if you've had a similar thing with dancing or performing, just take a few people with you whom you trust into a situation where you normally wouldn't open up, and make a conscious decision it's either letting the fear rule you forever, or you let go at this point.
I love Juliens clothes deffo a unique style, great advice also
Thank you! 🙌
@@JulienHimselfbro love this fucking outfit
Julien looking GLAMOROUS
as always
I love your free, relatable and effective pieces/nuggets you put out there. To be honest the first time i saw one of your videos many years ago i immediately thought you must be a con artist with the way you acted and being loud, trying to sell so hard... now years later i'm really relating and enjoying these REAL and personal conversation
so thank you
I start laughing from joy every time he really lets it out. So powerful!
Watching this video was painful. The dude was holding so much. And I love that Julein won't let go of him.
Your videos have already made me more confident than 99% of people I will always remember your assistance and love you forever you gave me a better gift than money can buy
Thank you Julien for this content, you are not only helping that person but millions more to change their lives, I have SOCIAL ANXIETY and your videos have helped me improve little by little, I am enormously grateful, our mind can be our best friend or our worst enemy, all these problems like shyness are also very limiting. I spent many years trapped, I didn't see a way out, it was very hard, I lost many opportunities, now I have recovered a large part of my confidence and my freedom, so I am very grateful Julien for your great work, I'm still working I know I will achieve it ✨
I just want to express how much you've helped me overcome thoughts that drug me down and held me back, and watching you is really empowering! I find you to be super inspirational and I can say I feel normal again and myself, and little by little I'm able to just type out my thoughts and express myself more to friends/family without feeling trapped or stuck in my own head. All I can really say is thank you!!
Julien thank you so much for your video on negative self talk, you changed and possibly saved my life. When I get out of debt im going to make it up to you.
Dreaming to work with your coaching system! It’s fab! As a coach myself, I can say most advise out there is fluff on the surface level. Your approach is the root cause. Super, thanks. See you in Europe this year. ❤😊🙏
Julien never disappoints ! 👏🏼👏🏼
Julian is on another level
the first 2 minutes of the video I can relate to his awareness. I’m aware of WHY, every single why to the last detail I know why I am the way I am.. this year I’m working to fix it, and actually would hope to catch a seminar by December 2024.
So true, the perception of me as a child was this. Now I'm older and seeing everything differently and realizing kids cannot see or perceive what I see.
Yess❤
These type of videos have already started to change my life in the matter of a week, God bless Julien the best content creator just due to the nature and knowledge of it
Great work Jacob. Def inspiring ❤
All this advice is so obvious but powerful. I love it!!!
Julien you are doing more good for the world with your content than you could possibly imagine. Thank you so much ❤
God I just love the way julian dresses. It's so free and fun and just idk...theres no like...direction behind it. Or like...preconceived notions? If that makes sense? Haha. I literally can soak up over an hours time trying to find an outfit that im okay with...and I usually goes thru multiple outfits only for me to land back on the same outfit I wore yesterday lol. Idk I guess I feel like I put SO many restrictions and conditions on what I allow myself to wear. What I deem appropriate. I miss what I thought of clothes when i was younger...before middle school. Where colors were fun and I loved cool unusual fabrics. I remember I had these bright blue sleek Shiney bell bottom pants that I loved to wear in like 4th grade. And I had a camo tank top that had a bunch of little Shiney almost disco ball like little reflector dots all over it, and it would shine and reflect when light was on it. Like I did not care what kids thought I just wore what I thought was cool for the sake of just that. Lol just stuff like that. I still wore high heels even tho I was one of the tallest girls in class. I can count on one hand how many times I've wore high heels in the past like 15 years. 2 times. Lol only 2 times. I love high heels. Especially boot high heels haha. But I dont ever wear them...I let the intrusive thoughts win every single time when it comes to dressing myself. I have so many pretty clothes...even tho I don't fit into a lot of them anymore coz of all the damn weight I've gained the past 2 years. But even when I did fit in them I still only ever wore the same handful of clothes all the time. Julian is just so himself...Im trying to be like that but even that feels wrong because you shouldn't have to trryyry to be authetic ya know. At least that's how I feel...idk. I really just dont know jack sh¡t. Sorry for rambling haha.
I heard you!
Julien you should probably start giving fashion tips also ☺️😻
Fashion channel coming soon! 😂😂
@@JulienHimself We're waiting.. 🤭
Get in! Jacob you got this
He crushed it! Massive respect to him! 🔥👊
I’ve listened to thousands of hours of videos from self-help gurus, and this guy is the best, with the lowest amount of views… crazy.
The best haha fake ass guru peacocking 😅😅😅 the guys an absolute spud lad 😂😂😂
Hey Jacob, if you’re reading this, I just want you to know you nailed it. I thought as if I was looking at myself. I too am at a terrible state of social anxiety to the point I just said enough is enough. Looking you struggling with your yourself made me cry because you are a lot braver than me. Accepting all of that, wasn’t easy 100%. I hope all of us, struggling through anxieties of different sorts, will find a way out. I am getting better(just pouring my heart out) after reading How be yourself by Ellen, atomic habits by james clear, and doing stuff slowly
Love
Muhammad ❤
This training is amazing. I need to go to a live event
Let’s go Jacob 🔥🔥 all up from here
Massive respect to him! 🔥
You're amazing Julien. Respect bro ❤
So proud of him, let's go bro you crushed it !!!!!!!
For me it was never "STOP CRYING!". It was im a people pleaser and i would cry and see that it made my friends or family sad so, in my mind me feeling is selfish because of how those around me react. I doubt that made sense but yeah....
Apathy - Grief (powerlessness) - Fear (take responsibility) - Anger (empowering - let's do something about it - forgive yourself) - Courage - Desire - Purpose - Love
Bro this guy with bit of glow-up can conquer the world.
He do have courage of Lion because to look into the abyss after such a long time of neglect, it takes balls.
Dude is on right path, dare I say war path?
Progress not perfection Jacob! Keep growing stop overthinking, it's all just learning bro. Level Up King!
What kind of pants + boots combo is Julien wearing, I love the style, it reminds me of Dante
my hands shake so much when im infront of a lot people, i cant control it either but when i talk my voice doesn't seem nervous, its like im nervous in my subconscious mind
Great awareness... Something to dive deeper into and LET GO of! 👌
@@JulienHimselfI hear you always say to let go of the fears once you find out what triggers them but how do you let them go that’s what I don’t get is it something you say to yourself or by letting go you mean just recognise the fear and forget about it please explain
@@JohnnyW7733 keep reminding yourself every day and with time, you'll find how ridiculous it all was.
letting go doesn't happen overnight
Hi Julian, I love your work, Im 51 years old.My confidence has been buried since before I can remember. Mum and Dad told me I was a "good" baby because I was so quiet and never made much noise. I have a huge eye contact problem and fear of noise even little kids yelling startle me. There was a poster on the wall in my bedroom as a young boy of around 5 years old, was a valvoline ad with a man who was looking at the camera when picture was taken and the eyes followed you no matter where you were in room. I ended up scratching the eyes out with a pen and scribbling all over them, so the eyes couldn't see me but they still seemed to follow. So I had eye contact issues before that time. Sitting around a table with workmates I've known for many years I'm a nervous wreck with all the people facing me and eye contact especially when no one is speaking. Sorry for the rant but maybe some people's confidence has been buried since birth and they never had it in the first place. I know I was dropped on my head as a baby and I was a difficult birth using clamps on my head as they used to do, but I don't have brain damage.
Thanks
Greg
‘You fucking did it’ hell yeaaaahhhh
Julien, wonderful video as well. Could you even keep a segment as to what a parent should be doing instead of the ‘conditioning’ ideally
Have joy being yourself. I have not been true to myself for too long as well. I see now, that only hurts me
I watch your videos always but this one was more diffrent cause ı saw jacob really saw that he can actually change its beutiful to see that am so happy for him
12:30 .. is extremely powerful wow, I can literally see the split in real time of the two different personalities.
This was an awesome video!
Thank you! 🙌
That was pretty strong, it's a liberating expérience no doubt and I sincerely congratulate Jacob
I’ve been watching your videos for a while man and my fear is presentations and I have never done one till a month ago at college and it was terrible because it was meant to be 5 minutes instead of 1 and tbh I’m scared to do it again in case I race through it but I’m glad I forced myself up there in the first place. Colin,
Let me know if you'd like my help with this: application.julienhimself.com
@@JulienHimself that’s it applied man
Love to everyone here. Special love to the guy that shouted out ' just fucking say it' 🎉❤
Yes! Be who you want to be, be the person you were meant to be! 🙏🏼 God loves you🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amazing ending points ty!
Came for the talk, stayed for the outfit. The fucking CROCS bro youre too funny
To me the negative self talk isn't so much you're 'not good enough' but rather 'not all you could be' while willfully choosing to live below your potential. I think the sort of un-accomplishment or complacency that's self-initiated or ignored is what can deplete the self-worth of especially conscientious people. Trying to set goals or even casually pursue the whole generic 'personal improvement' arc may perhaps instill a definite sense of direction or motivation, which in turn contributes to outward charisma.
Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
Booyah! 🔥👊
Transformation of that guy was crazy.
Having a comfortable job at an european central bank, so everything is covered in my professional life, but I keep thinking that all that I have accomplished in all aspects of my life was in times of despair. I’m so comfortable in this place in my life, that for the love of God I can’t have the courage to engage and try to meet a person that I could know on a personal level. Should I finally acknowledge that I am miserable without a personal connection and try to fuel myself with this realization of unhappiness?
Julien is on his purpose
Sending love and kindness to this brother. Thinks will be okay man
So awesome dude! Super inspiring!!
"Embody that inner hero, now!"
Thank you for this. Subscribed
You're so welcome! And welcome to the channel!
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FORGIVE YOUR SELF! May was the answer.
That was something huge!!!WOW ,Thx.
I just want to say that I hope whoever is reading this can see the day when you realize that what Julian is saying is literally *100000000000000%* correct.
im a messenger from the universal Spirit of *Goodness..* and trust me.
the man *KNOWS* what he's teaching.
trust me (and yourself 😉)
rare and raw
I Loved this! 🥺🥹😭😭😭 Good Job young man and Julien!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's the control getting in the way. Don't hold back! Stop retreating. Fragmentation.
Wow
Who is this Julien bloke ?
2 videos and I a convert.
I finally - finally understand self acceptance 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
Ok now to put it in practice ❤🎉❤
Great video man, really inspirational for really work on that inner self
Thanks
Bro your outfit sent me on the loop with the crocs being out of place. Kinda like me in social gatherings