I really appreciate the fact that your advice is centered around sustainability. Each of these steps is actionable and can be incorporated fairly easily.
Author sounds logical, academic, theoretical rational. It looks good on the paper. But you don’t give real life examples and advice. It seems women have cart Blanche according to you due to their emotionality and neuroticism. Well, neuroticism - is mental health disorder. I am yet to hear that women need therapy so men don’t die 8 years younger after protecting and providing for women and children all of their lives.
im really struggling with this, and with all these other dudes online saying "treat women badly" and trying to dehumanize them makes me so uncomfortable. i would really like to have a relationship where honesty is the #1 value. and a lot of this stuff feels so crafty and a lot of these dating advices online don't fit my morality and i wouldn't do them. A lot of what you're saying is good. its not disrespectful to women, its not dehumanizing. and i appreciate that you make these videos for men struggling to date
Kind of in the same boat. I really don’t want to think of women as “less than,” but the way most of them present and want to be treated would require that type of mindset. More like dealing with a child than an equal. I’m 28 years old and twice divorced so I’ve known two women extremely well and the truth is the game never ends. You can never fully let down your guard and treat them as your exact equal, they’ll inadvertently lose respect and thus lose attraction for you.
'treat women badly' is absolute nonsense. The kind of women you attract with that are women who confuse bad treatment with 'love' because that's whay they know from childhood, sadly. They will treat YOU like shit as well. If you are not like that and you have to put up an act you will be absolutely miserable. Take a neutral stance and don't be a doormat.
@@zakzwijn8410 Sadly it is what it is. Don't blame the player, blame the game. These rules will persist whether you like it or not. You can disagree, but in the end, the truth stays the same. It's not about playing into the game or not, you ARE playing the game.
@@spkdoink If I have to do this, I'm not made for this planet. I've been raised well. Guess I'll stay single by choice and enjoy my money, friends and the occasional notch now and then.
@@zakzwijn8410 I'll go with what you say. Even if it is the game- I will not sacrifice my morals and values for something i desire. Hopefully i find the right woman but so far it's been nothing but tragic- and it's hard not to agree with this other guy, so i've avoided dating then i tried it again a few months ago and it ended poorly and quickly- i don't know what i need to do, ive tried transcending my desire to be loved but i cant supress it. should i just keep trying to date and keep loosing? or try to transcend my desires
It’s important for a couple to motivate each other to maintain healthy habits, keep the relationship interesting, and spend time together to strengthen the connection. But as the man, I understand that my partner looks to me to be a strong leader. She wants to feel safe and protected. And she also wants a confident/caring man.
great video mate. I have experienced all of these in a long term relationship. Always work on yourself and your girl should be a compliment to your life.
Brother I love your videos and I find you to be such a refreshing breath of air in this Manosphere type content. Moderation and realizing we are all humans that can and should strive for perfection yet acknowledging our limitations as humans is such a w take Keep up the great work dude.
This video is amazing!!! I at the beginning of my 3a relationship and is very good, so this video came at the best moment possible in my life. Somethings were about to became a trouble in my mind and u just helped me so much. I greatly thank you for the free wise words that remembered me how i should act from now on and how i can be a better men.
A couple of thoughts on the video...some salient points, but continuing to put in minimal effort once the relationship gets going, say after you agree to be exclusive, will kill the relationship. I completely agree that doing more than you normally would in the beginning sets the wrong tone, but so does doing very little. Familiarity does NOT breed contempt in an established relationship...it strengthens it. The whole idea of spending time together is specifically TO develop familiarity, and it is necessary for both partners to determine if the other person is the best person for them. Spending more time together should ramp up after you become exclusive, however, this should be done while you continue to participate in all of the activities that you took part in before the relationship. In other words, you bring her into your world as it exists, and she either fits in/likes it or she doesn't. If you go golfing every Saturday and get together with friends the 2nd Thursday of each month, then she needs to not only accept that, but encourage it. Whatever you do, do NOT give up activities that you enjoy just to spend more time with her. If she ever tries to push you to give up the things that you enjoy doing, that is a huge problem. If you explain that those things are important to you and she still keeps pushing you to give them up, she is not your person and you need to move on and find someone else. Very good points in here about setting standards and boundaries early to set the tone for the relationship. The very best thing that you can do is be yourself from the very beginning, and never try to be someone that you are not. If you don't have a lot of money, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking her to lower-cost restaurants on dates, or even better, making dinner for her at your place. A woman that is truly interested in you won't really care about where you take her as long as she gets to spend time with you. You should be the same person on the 100th (or 1000th) date that you were on the first date. Been very happily married to same woman for over 30 years and long-term attraction is absolutely possible, but it has to be the right person.
Brilliant content that is explained well and objectively. I've already watched a lot of level up content as a man. Yours is qualitatively and factually proven and doesn't want to sell you any products so that you belong to the 1% of men.
Hi man, I think I follow your videos from the beginning. Now, i'm in a relationship since a few months, and your points and those of your other videos are amazing. I tend to be a "dictator" as I can't stand certain things she's doing wrong and I'm very demanding so sometimes I feel guilty of my "authority", maybe you could find a way to address this in a video. Cheers!
That's feminism propaganda making you feel guilty about being a man. Words like "dictator" and "controlling" are used to make us second-guess our nature. As long as you put forth the frame that she is free to leave if your standards are too high for her you aren't a dictator. It her choice to live by your standards or she can go find lowers ones that are more comfortable for her.
1. Attack the Problem not the Person 2. Speak clearly and don't lose your 💩 by raising your voice or getting hectic 3. Don't insult her but be clear with your needs and requests. She's a woman not a dog. 4. If she's making you mad excuse yourself and step outside of the room to cool off. Let her know you'll be back to continue the conversation when you cool off. 5. If she's blatantly disrespectful (insults you for example) end the conversation until she apologizes. Let her know that's not acceptable behavior. (Of course don't disrespect her or you don't have a leg to stand on.)
@@Pantdino Ah yes, sounds familiar... for me (introverted) it's the other way around. The more I age the more I start to think I am better off with a few women to drink beer and party with from time to time, than to be in a full-time committed relationship. Dating usually goes fine but I can't keep the pace in the long run. I like to carve my own path through life in different ways.
This constant grinding, anticipation of her unrealistic expectations, and oversight of things in not only your life but hers (aka her looking up to you) sounds okay but in practice it's hell and just shows you have to take the accountability for 2 and if you have kids with a woman like this you're actually just responsible for those kids plus one in her. This is not a remotely attractive proposition. It also to me demonstartes why as a society we're at the point where we need to disempower these girls entitlement not by supression but by giving men other options that take the validation and power away from women. Its been a relatively understood concept throughout history, but to support the deulsions of women mens needs have been sacrificed and thats an injustice.
This is the equivalent of covering yourself in shit and expecting people to want to stick around. If all she is getting is your worst she will most likely leave. That statement you made only applies to temporary situations. You lose your job and are struggling for a year, if she remains by you she is a good one. If she helps, even better. However if this goes on year after year and she isn't seeing you actually trying to get back on your feet, she wont remain loyal. You can't blame her. You are derailing your life, and by extension, hers. The idea in this video is to just always get better in life. Build a high market value and keep it. You shouldn't allow yourself to backslide whether you have a girl around or not. Self improvement is a never ending journey.
@@rann1074 of course my original reply to you was deleted🙃. wow dude. anyways, i think i answered you before this dude decided to take it down for his own benefit. talk about engagement😂
Like calmness in yourself, and how clearly and precise you talk the concepts
Stoicism is about emotional mastery not control or being a robot. A guy that can be in the chaos of things and keep a cool head is valuable.
Tough to hear. But all true. The courtship never ends.
Always be willing to walk away
You look like Ryan Reynolds man😂
Deadpool giving relationship advices through TH-cam 😂
I really appreciate the fact that your advice is centered around sustainability. Each of these steps is actionable and can be incorporated fairly easily.
Author sounds logical, academic, theoretical rational. It looks good on the paper. But you don’t give real life examples and advice. It seems women have cart Blanche according to you due to their emotionality and neuroticism. Well, neuroticism - is mental health disorder. I am yet to hear that women need therapy so men don’t die 8 years younger after protecting and providing for women and children all of their lives.
im really struggling with this, and with all these other dudes online saying "treat women badly" and trying to dehumanize them makes me so uncomfortable. i would really like to have a relationship where honesty is the #1 value. and a lot of this stuff feels so crafty and a lot of these dating advices online don't fit my morality and i wouldn't do them. A lot of what you're saying is good. its not disrespectful to women, its not dehumanizing. and i appreciate that you make these videos for men struggling to date
Kind of in the same boat. I really don’t want to think of women as “less than,” but the way most of them present and want to be treated would require that type of mindset. More like dealing with a child than an equal. I’m 28 years old and twice divorced so I’ve known two women extremely well and the truth is the game never ends. You can never fully let down your guard and treat them as your exact equal, they’ll inadvertently lose respect and thus lose attraction for you.
'treat women badly' is absolute nonsense. The kind of women you attract with that are women who confuse bad treatment with 'love' because that's whay they know from childhood, sadly.
They will treat YOU like shit as well.
If you are not like that and you have to put up an act you will be absolutely miserable.
Take a neutral stance and don't be a doormat.
@@zakzwijn8410 Sadly it is what it is. Don't blame the player, blame the game. These rules will persist whether you like it or not. You can disagree, but in the end, the truth stays the same. It's not about playing into the game or not, you ARE playing the game.
@@spkdoink If I have to do this, I'm not made for this planet. I've been raised well. Guess I'll stay single by choice and enjoy my money, friends and the occasional notch now and then.
@@zakzwijn8410 I'll go with what you say. Even if it is the game- I will not sacrifice my morals and values for something i desire. Hopefully i find the right woman but so far it's been nothing but tragic- and it's hard not to agree with this other guy, so i've avoided dating then i tried it again a few months ago and it ended poorly and quickly- i don't know what i need to do, ive tried transcending my desire to be loved but i cant supress it. should i just keep trying to date and keep loosing? or try to transcend my desires
As a woman I appreciate your content.
It’s important for a couple to motivate each other to maintain healthy habits, keep the relationship interesting, and spend time together to strengthen the connection. But as the man, I understand that my partner looks to me to be a strong leader. She wants to feel safe and protected. And she also wants a confident/caring man.
Great video as always. Hope you pop off in 2024 bro, definitely deserve more views.
Appreciate it brother 🫡
Thank you for this video, i just started a relationship with this gorgeous girl, and i want to do it right, thank god i find this video
great video mate. I have experienced all of these in a long term relationship.
Always work on yourself and your girl should be a compliment to your life.
Brother I love your videos and I find you to be such a refreshing breath of air in this Manosphere type content.
Moderation and realizing we are all humans that can and should strive for perfection yet acknowledging our limitations as humans is such a w take
Keep up the great work dude.
This video is amazing!!! I at the beginning of my 3a relationship and is very good, so this video came at the best moment possible in my life. Somethings were about to became a trouble in my mind and u just helped me so much. I greatly thank you for the free wise words that remembered me how i should act from now on and how i can be a better men.
A couple of thoughts on the video...some salient points, but continuing to put in minimal effort once the relationship gets going, say after you agree to be exclusive, will kill the relationship. I completely agree that doing more than you normally would in the beginning sets the wrong tone, but so does doing very little. Familiarity does NOT breed contempt in an established relationship...it strengthens it. The whole idea of spending time together is specifically TO develop familiarity, and it is necessary for both partners to determine if the other person is the best person for them. Spending more time together should ramp up after you become exclusive, however, this should be done while you continue to participate in all of the activities that you took part in before the relationship. In other words, you bring her into your world as it exists, and she either fits in/likes it or she doesn't. If you go golfing every Saturday and get together with friends the 2nd Thursday of each month, then she needs to not only accept that, but encourage it. Whatever you do, do NOT give up activities that you enjoy just to spend more time with her. If she ever tries to push you to give up the things that you enjoy doing, that is a huge problem. If you explain that those things are important to you and she still keeps pushing you to give them up, she is not your person and you need to move on and find someone else.
Very good points in here about setting standards and boundaries early to set the tone for the relationship. The very best thing that you can do is be yourself from the very beginning, and never try to be someone that you are not. If you don't have a lot of money, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking her to lower-cost restaurants on dates, or even better, making dinner for her at your place. A woman that is truly interested in you won't really care about where you take her as long as she gets to spend time with you. You should be the same person on the 100th (or 1000th) date that you were on the first date.
Been very happily married to same woman for over 30 years and long-term attraction is absolutely possible, but it has to be the right person.
Brilliant content that is explained well and objectively.
I've already watched a lot of level up content as a man. Yours is qualitatively and factually proven and doesn't want to sell you any products so that you belong to the 1% of men.
yea.. once a girl starts complimenting you like "oh youre so sweet' oh youre so nice. its game over and she got plans .
Hi man, I think I follow your videos from the beginning. Now, i'm in a relationship since a few months, and your points and those of your other videos are amazing. I tend to be a "dictator" as I can't stand certain things she's doing wrong and I'm very demanding so sometimes I feel guilty of my "authority", maybe you could find a way to address this in a video. Cheers!
That's feminism propaganda making you feel guilty about being a man. Words like "dictator" and "controlling" are used to make us second-guess our nature. As long as you put forth the frame that she is free to leave if your standards are too high for her you aren't a dictator. It her choice to live by your standards or she can go find lowers ones that are more comfortable for her.
1. Attack the Problem not the Person
2. Speak clearly and don't lose your 💩 by raising your voice or getting hectic
3. Don't insult her but be clear with your needs and requests. She's a woman not a dog.
4. If she's making you mad excuse yourself and step outside of the room to cool off. Let her know you'll be back to continue the conversation when you cool off.
5. If she's blatantly disrespectful (insults you for example) end the conversation until she apologizes. Let her know that's not acceptable behavior. (Of course don't disrespect her or you don't have a leg to stand on.)
This is a brilliant video Danny. Thanks
I have way better back-end game than front. I think it’s an introvert/extrovert thing partially.
what do you mean with back-end game than front? English is not my native language.
@@zakzwijn8410 I think he means he does better at keeping a relationship going than wowing a girl at first.
@@Pantdino Ah yes, sounds familiar... for me (introverted) it's the other way around. The more I age the more I start to think I am better off with a few women to drink beer and party with from time to time, than to be in a full-time committed relationship. Dating usually goes fine but I can't keep the pace in the long run.
I like to carve my own path through life in different ways.
I teach people how to live life, and i would definitely recommend this video to them
I understand all this, and its completely exhausting.
Wooooow, thanks for this video
Amazing video
Somebody told me a while back to always be in dating mode with a woman. Don't get comfortable guys.
When you said “preventive medicine” makes me suspect you’ve been reading The Rational Male: Preventive Medicine
8:22 Band of Brothers...."he wasn't a bad leader because he made bad decisions, he was a bad leader because he made no decisions..." Classic
You have to always be her perceived best option. that's how you keep a woman.
This constant grinding, anticipation of her unrealistic expectations, and oversight of things in not only your life but hers (aka her looking up to you) sounds okay but in practice it's hell and just shows you have to take the accountability for 2 and if you have kids with a woman like this you're actually just responsible for those kids plus one in her. This is not a remotely attractive proposition. It also to me demonstartes why as a society we're at the point where we need to disempower these girls entitlement not by supression but by giving men other options that take the validation and power away from women. Its been a relatively understood concept throughout history, but to support the deulsions of women mens needs have been sacrificed and thats an injustice.
Best fucking video I’ve seen
Once she loses attraction so do I. I have seen these women without make up.
So if you've seen them without makeup, what's next for you?😂
@@exploityourinsight4014 Lights off only
Dating a narcissistic psychopath 101 :
Who cares, let her lose attraction. If she can't handle me at my worst then she doesn't deserve me at my best.
the cope is high with this one lol
that phrase is just an excuse to act poorly
This attitude is low value
This is the equivalent of covering yourself in shit and expecting people to want to stick around. If all she is getting is your worst she will most likely leave. That statement you made only applies to temporary situations. You lose your job and are struggling for a year, if she remains by you she is a good one. If she helps, even better. However if this goes on year after year and she isn't seeing you actually trying to get back on your feet, she wont remain loyal. You can't blame her. You are derailing your life, and by extension, hers. The idea in this video is to just always get better in life. Build a high market value and keep it. You shouldn't allow yourself to backslide whether you have a girl around or not. Self improvement is a never ending journey.
Lol you guys are npc's. Who cares if she doesn't like you. Grow up.
What this dude doesn’t realize is that content like his will be less and less desirable. We are not in 2016.
How so? If anything his content will be desired more. There is a major shift happening right now for both men and women.
@@rann1074 of course my original reply to you was deleted🙃. wow dude. anyways, i think i answered you before this dude decided to take it down for his own benefit. talk about engagement😂
I don't understand what you mean, care to elaborate? You mean what he says applies to 2016 and the rules have changed (again) ? In what way?