Best way to deal with a girl who ghosts you

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  • You really like her but she's completely unresponsive. She's gone 'dark'. What's the best way to deal with the situation? What this video.
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  • @JessicaOS
    @JessicaOS  2 ปีที่แล้ว +191

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    • @michaelpeople7283
      @michaelpeople7283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I understand walking away from them but what about if the two of you work in the same field and have to see each other everyday? Every time when I see her she turns her back to me, looks away, and doesn’t even speak . How do I handle that please?

    • @frederickkgagane
      @frederickkgagane 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you.

    • @chijiokeochubili7279
      @chijiokeochubili7279 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do U have a book? U really have great content.

    • @brianbrino4310
      @brianbrino4310 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No more comments here Jessica and thank you for your wise advice!👍👍👍👍

    • @michaelpeople7283
      @michaelpeople7283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Than you very much sir.

  • @princemeshack25
    @princemeshack25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +879

    Guys the number 1 thing to master the game, it’s to having an Abundance Mindset, no fear loss, Don’t care. Who cares if they ghost you. Go to the next

    • @omen3949
      @omen3949 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      My nigga ✊🏽

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      TRUE DAT. 😉💪🏽
      Their loss, not yours. Oh well...🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @matrixisreal2023
      @matrixisreal2023 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      But should you unfollow them ?

    • @trewilliams8789
      @trewilliams8789 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🗿

    • @Barber747
      @Barber747 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@matrixisreal2023 That's totally up to you...

  • @sifisoivorkoza1742
    @sifisoivorkoza1742 2 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    This is a very hard pill to swallow. I recently got ghosted by someone I genuinely loved. This broke my heart. Thank you Jessica for this video. Now I know what to do.

    • @jbaru648
      @jbaru648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      It stings for awhile but you’ll be stronger

    • @traplandtrinitie4955
      @traplandtrinitie4955 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Me too its hard to delete a girl you love t2 hard

    • @keysoteriq2590
      @keysoteriq2590 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Happened to me when everything was going perfect. Saw each other everyday and talked about merging our lives.

    • @sharadnakarja821
      @sharadnakarja821 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Exactly same thing here. Your world collapses and you have to start again

    • @evo8150
      @evo8150 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@sharadnakarja821 bro how did you ever deal with it I'm so confused on why she just left it doesn't make sense to me

  • @johnloydniala
    @johnloydniala 2 ปีที่แล้ว +387

    "People will begin to value you when you value yourself"
    These lines always reminds of who and what I'm doing in this world. Thank you Miss Jessica for creating a greater to people like. It means a lot and a life changing one.

    • @jbaru648
      @jbaru648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      False cliche. Some women are selfish and demonic and will ghost you regardless of how much “you love yourself”. Love yourself for you.

    • @johnloydniala
      @johnloydniala 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jbaru648
      You said it yourself "some women" , so not all women are like that. It is still the same thing with men though. It's up to us to choose someone who will value and love us as who we are.

    • @jbaru648
      @jbaru648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@johnloydniala exactly. Unfortunately in the process of us choosing a good woman we may have to sift through a demon or 2 to get there

    • @gghhh6210
      @gghhh6210 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jbaru648 you are damn right son the rate of toxicity in women today is beyond comprehension stand your grounds spiritually

  • @toystory922
    @toystory922 2 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    "Ghost me I ghost you, God no go vex." . . . . LOL. If someone ghosts you, let them rest in peace, no need disturbing the dead.

  • @sandoristar7597
    @sandoristar7597 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    You are TOTALLY right, If someone doesn't respond within a day, stop persisting and move on. There is no such thing as "I had too much work and I did not see it".

  • @prasannagupchup7887
    @prasannagupchup7887 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    If she ghosts you, why don't you? If she doesn't want to talk to you, why do you? If she is not interested, why are you following her? If she wants to forget you, why you want to remember her? If she looks down on you, why you want to place her on pedestal?Come on guys, respect your self, value your self, look after your self. Take charge and live your life fully. Don't waste it on who is not bothered about you. Good luck!

    • @flint9889
      @flint9889 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I was talking to this girl for a few months and we've gotten along well. She then pushed me away so I avoided her for a month. She then started coming back so I approached but she backed off again. She came back again by darting glances, watching me, being close to me. But I didn't approach. Now her eyes avoid me but sometimes her head turns back to me. What should I do? Did I miss my chance to fix things?

    • @oscaralonsolapuentevalera8724
      @oscaralonsolapuentevalera8724 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@flint9889 You didn't miss any chance, it is all on her. Keep in mind that you don't miss anything with anyone and if you ever miss that chance if you ever make any mistake, your "loss" is only for someone respectful to you, which she clearly wasn't by having you as an object who thought she could use like that. Love yourself mate, cheers 🤙

    • @johntez25mc-supercop
      @johntez25mc-supercop ปีที่แล้ว

      @@flint9889 run for your,,,, have the courage to move on,,, ahe must be seeing some dude somewhere and now may be she has been ghosted too,,,,, don't be cheap at all,,,

    • @Smiler2724
      @Smiler2724 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@flint9889 just avoid her at all costs you don't need her

    • @nauxsi
      @nauxsi ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@flint9889 bread crumbs. She just doing enough to leave door open but nothing more. Because loss is real....

  • @daibm5392
    @daibm5392 ปีที่แล้ว +290

    It's usually the toxic ones that will ghost you because their low self-esteem issues won't tolerate you lol

    • @LiamWirtz
      @LiamWirtz ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Please can you make me understand

    • @samya1231
      @samya1231 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@LiamWirtz they're insecure themselves

    • @shedparker
      @shedparker 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      @@LiamWirtzThey ghost you bc your character and integrity silently exposes who they are without you even knowing.

    • @Jojosiwo
      @Jojosiwo 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@daibm5392 if I ghost someone is no because I have low self esteem...is just because I am no interested

  • @Oldsoulmedia
    @Oldsoulmedia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    There are three stages in ghosting (ghosting is actually break up in disguise) you have to pass through these stages, I'm at the last phase myself now, it only gets easier to walk away as you go through these phases.
    The first phase is Shock: you don't believe she's doing that to you after all u both have been thru and how you've invested in this relationship
    Second Phase is denial: you refuse to accept the fact that she doesn't want you, that she's just using you. You see the signs clearly but you still won't believe it
    The third Phase is called Acceptance phase; this is where you come to yourself (consciousness) and review all that's happening and see things for what they truly are and not what you want them to be and accept that you've been rejected and quit trying, then walk away

    • @daveeshiofune5440
      @daveeshiofune5440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Story of my life right now.

    • @mhill88ify
      @mhill88ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      I have one stage: If there is no response within a certain amt. of time....I write that shit off. Charge it to the game, hold onto my nuts and mentally move on.

    • @wilfridjoseph6172
      @wilfridjoseph6172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      very accurate

    • @mohdzaid5439
      @mohdzaid5439 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Clear explanation 👍

    • @mhill88ify
      @mhill88ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You care too much about the other person and not enough about yourself if you have to break this down in such a detailed fashion.

  • @fegursonokwori8193
    @fegursonokwori8193 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    You get in life what you tolerate. If you tolerate disrespect, you'll get disrespected. If you value yourself, people will value you. Thank you so much Jessica for these reminders.

  • @user-tk8yi5xx5t
    @user-tk8yi5xx5t ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I too was ghosted by a girl i fell in love with. My chest has been heavy with emotion and on a number of times i thought i would break down from the grief and loneliness that her absence has brought in my life but it was while watching this video that i truly broke down not because of how i was treated but because of how accurately Jessica has predicted my position..it made me realise that i wasn't the only one facing this and that how important it is to have self respect and control over your emotions. Much needed video and thank you so much jess.

    • @Jabberwocky_McScrugel
      @Jabberwocky_McScrugel 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yeah I know the feeling, but all we can do is project no worries, but it's never not going to hurt. You have to dump and pump, not keep buying a withering stock.

  • @Raincity1
    @Raincity1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Ultimately if someone ghosts you....you let them go.... My Ex ghosted me for weeks and finally ended our relationship..... when I found a new girl... my Ex came back running wanting us to get back together... for 3 years she kept pushing...I'm not exaggerating....
    Don't go around chasing people that don't want to be in your space....you will never be appreciated or respected if you chase

    • @arnoldayugi4768
      @arnoldayugi4768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      True

    • @mademenchronicles2335
      @mademenchronicles2335 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Mine reached out after 17 years. I'm good. I'd rather die alone

    • @nosakhareanthony97
      @nosakhareanthony97 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@mademenchronicles2335 17 years? TF😂

    • @tylerfranger537
      @tylerfranger537 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W man’s

    • @nwten2240
      @nwten2240 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mademenchronicles2335 lol she got ran through during that time untill her looks start to fade and noone wants her

  • @asanteboakye3354
    @asanteboakye3354 2 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    That’s exactly what I do. And after valuing yourself, they’ll always come back. Never be a simp always put yourself on the highest pinnacle and thank me later

  • @TimothyGPTSanders
    @TimothyGPTSanders 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I've come to realize that when you are a kind hearted person and actually care about people, that's when you will get ghosted, and it will happen consecutively. I've experienced this on many occasions and it continues to happen unexpectedly, but I've learned to deal with it, because people are attracted to toxic and negativity then the positive person who has so much to offer. It use to sting at first, but then you realize that it's naturally a habit for people to do, and all you can do is move on and delete the person from your mind permanently. We live in a convoluted society

    • @dietis13
      @dietis13 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly stay as you are, don't be a bad person, until you find someone who deserve you !
      Take it as a gift from god, they can't manage you so they humiliate you, but it's because you are a "better" human,
      So they can't accept it, and so need to put you down,
      Be mature, and find someone better that deserve you, and will be happy to receive this gift ;)

    • @treize4ever69
      @treize4ever69 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@TimothyGPTSanders just happened to me. I fell for this girl she told me she loved me . We were great for a week then a few days later when she said she's going back to her boyfriend. Turns out I was a rebound but now I'm still in love with her.She was still talking to me but she is now ghosting me. B4 this my last gf of 10 yrs cheated so this is first girl in a very long time. I now have panic attacks and still love her.

    • @user-bx2yf8sw1t
      @user-bx2yf8sw1t 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      It's almost like they can smell it on you if you are more than just a fling and they run for the hills....

  • @Kv0sol
    @Kv0sol 2 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Its not about revenge, its not about sending a message, its about peace of mind and giving yourself worth.

  • @glbgloboy7599
    @glbgloboy7599 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I just leave them alone and work on bettering myself

  • @ParlayParri24
    @ParlayParri24 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    My only issue with ghosting... is the fact that these people will ghost but than see you at some point and try to apologize 😂 that baffles me

  • @martinmusokem5765
    @martinmusokem5765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    Indeed Jessica there is more to life than people who take us for granted and eventually ghost us . Thank you.

  • @jossell911
    @jossell911 2 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    I realized that myself. People will begin to value you when you value yourself!! The same can be said about respect!! Thanks for the great vid Jessica. I needed this💯🙏🏿

    • @jbaru648
      @jbaru648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Cliche. A woman will still ghost you

    • @virtualworld2231
      @virtualworld2231 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@jbaru648 she will come back to you if you ghost her too and act like she is nothing you just gotta love yourself more and realize that there is a vast ocean of women out there

  • @DG-EditsYT
    @DG-EditsYT ปีที่แล้ว +24

    When they start creating ANY distance or disinterest I mirror the behaviours and move on.. I have seen and done it over decades after learning the hard way when younger and getting my head and heart broken. You learn after years when people take you for granted and are playing games. It takes time

  • @arandomguy.2309
    @arandomguy.2309 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    7:07
    Well you may be right, there are 8 billion people. But sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants. There are lots of fishes in the seas but not a lot of them are worth catching.
    It's difficult to give up on someone you had a connection with. Sure you can try other people but how many more heartbreaks is a person willing to risk to find another lover, who doesn't feel like a reward compared to the one you initially lost.
    Love is beautiful and so full of sadness at the same time. What a double edged sword planted in our emotions.

    • @MrSailor013
      @MrSailor013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      well said thank you i myself couldn’t put this in words myself..

    • @adrianchandler7853
      @adrianchandler7853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lust is full of sadness!

    • @ahmedhatimi4698
      @ahmedhatimi4698 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's where u die early

    • @isaiah2810
      @isaiah2810 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There really aren’t plenty of fish in the sea either that is nothing but bullshit.

    • @eugenedantzler4485
      @eugenedantzler4485 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well said

  • @breadknyf
    @breadknyf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Wish I saw this earlier. I entered into a relationship with a lady, I was made to think guys had treated her bad so I decided to treat her so well, and in 3 days I was ghosted lol. Me being the good guy reached out and showed up at her house to find out what was going on. She told me to stop coming to her house unannounced and she's had enough trouble. Hours later she now responded to my old chats calling it quits and she's having family issues. I really have been putting people first before myself. I will find love again. A window will open on the other side. Thanks

    • @harryschlitz4067
      @harryschlitz4067 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      See how they are Guys. Holy Smoke…Guy is respectful and decent and THIS is what he gets from these females. ??? (Although Brother, Please do not go over a Ladies house UNinvited, I can hear the Cops now. Ugh.) BET her old dude snapped his fingers and she fell into line.

    • @Ms_diamond24
      @Ms_diamond24 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You will. It's a matter of time

    • @n.m.3760
      @n.m.3760 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That's a giant red flag when she bad-mouths her previous exes. You know she's trouble.

    • @breadknyf
      @breadknyf ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Fast track today, am happily dating a lady, been in it for 3 months now and still feels fresh everyday!

  • @joesillamanrs7189
    @joesillamanrs7189 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Jessica is a global treasure. She must be protected at all costs!

  • @sages101
    @sages101 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Ghosting people is just immature. And as an adult, I don't want to waste my time with immature people. I met a girl who insisted I took her number, and after a few days I texted to see if she wanted to grab a drink with me . The message was "read" but she never replied. I just deleted her number and moved on. I never asked for her number in the first place. 🤷🏻

  • @josephbedwell3164
    @josephbedwell3164 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    The amusing part is when they ghost you and continue to watch your socials and such. But the best thing you can do is just ignore them and focus on you. The person that ghosted you is still keeping track of you and they're just waiting for their chance to come back. The more distance you create between you and the person they think you are, the better off you'll be.

    • @adrianchandler7853
      @adrianchandler7853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You are 💯 percent correct!!!

    • @brianwaller7383
      @brianwaller7383 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yep I unfriend my ghost from Facebook but I know she’s probably looking at my profile. So I posted random things like how I don’t tolerate ghosting and I’ll dismiss immediately who does. I’m calling her out indirectly because if she reads it she’ll know it was aimed at her.

    • @josephbedwell3164
      @josephbedwell3164 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@brianwaller7383 I typically post a lot of misleading stuff to create distance.

    • @DG-EditsYT
      @DG-EditsYT ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@brianwaller7383 yes but you are thinking of them clearly and they see the posts and they know it means them, they arent fools and you drop them flat/cut off. I know because I used to go through these same times. You don't own them nothing only yourself. Value yourself 100%

  • @jerryessien2087
    @jerryessien2087 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I've been through this pain. It hurts so bad. I was able to walk away after a long time. And she felt it in the end.

  • @davidrivas6412
    @davidrivas6412 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    What went wrong is usually the big question that many have that have been ghosted by someone they genuinely like. The thing is if you tried to make things work and be the best person for them and they still ghosted you out of the blue then the problem is not you, IT'S THEM. If you reap ghosting, you shall sow ghosting!!! Ghosting is a very cowardly move. A real man or woman don't ghost because they face their problems like mature adults but children run away from their problems.

  • @divamisi24
    @divamisi24 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you for the much-needed moment of silence at the beginning of the video for those who have been ghosted Jessica. Really appreciate it…appreciate your words of comfort, support, & counsel too. Simply the best.🤗👍

  • @fredrickkoech8396
    @fredrickkoech8396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    There is more to life than one person who doesn't like you. Think clear, wider and smart enough

  • @robi7803
    @robi7803 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This was great Jess. Thanks for it. So many times it is fear of the unknown that makes us not brave enough to walk away.

  • @theeagle_personality3007
    @theeagle_personality3007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Jessica honestly, this is what I feel and being going through for some weeks now. I cried everytime I think about the whole thing. I begged like never before. It's really painful and brain draining. But I must say that, I kind of getting stronger and confidence after watching this video. I will try to adjust and pull up myself.💪
    Thanks so much Jessica.

    • @sheilakhabere
      @sheilakhabere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You're doing well champ

    • @Oldsoulmedia
      @Oldsoulmedia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      You're not alone bro. There are three stages in ghosting you have to pass through, I'm at the last phase myself now, it only gets easier to walk away as you go through these phases.
      The first phase is Shock: you don't believe she's doing that to you after all u both have been thru and how you've invested in this relationship
      Second Phase is denial: you refuse to accept the fact that she doesn't want you, that she's just using you. You see the signs clearly but you still won't believe it
      The third Phase: this is called the acceptance phase, this is where you come to yourself (consciousness) and review all that's happening and see things for what they truly are and not what you want them to be and accept that you've been rejected and quit trying, then walk away

    • @theeagle_personality3007
      @theeagle_personality3007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Oldsoulmedia exactly, you are right.
      Thanks so much bro. for the advice.

    • @michaeloshea4236
      @michaeloshea4236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I get you in d same boat

    • @michaelpeople7283
      @michaelpeople7283 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well, I’m that case I’m still stuck in the 1st phase. Making my way slowly to phase 2. This needs to hurry up.

  • @captainkeyboard1007
    @captainkeyboard1007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You have a large amount of valuable knowledge and wisdom. The significance of it is that your suggestions are clean. Jessica, you should be on top of the world!

  • @mrreddington777
    @mrreddington777 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Damn this was amazing. Thank you. Was ghosted by my ex after 4 years in the relationship. I complained the lack of seeing her and her being overly busy to reply to texts and she then decided ghosting me was the best thing to do. Listen, it sucks and it’s been literally 48 hours but I’m ok. The hurt and shock turned into anger and now I’m like whatever. Her loss. Keep ya head up ladies and fellas. It gets better.

    • @justme-so2en
      @justme-so2en ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Did she come back yet , I’ve got the same problem and I crave the day she comes back , they always do lol

    • @mrreddington777
      @mrreddington777 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@justme-so2en nope and honestly it’s totally fine. I met someone online and we’ve gone out on a couple of dates and it’s been fun. Of course it’s going to feel strange and in some weird way I felt like I was cheating or something but that will pass.
      I’m 45 and if I sat here waiting for her to comeback I’d be missing out on living. You shouldn’t either and if they left you then that’s their loss.

    • @justme-so2en
      @justme-so2en ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mrreddington777 actually I asked a few times to talk to me more communicate and go on dates but it all was about school and work no intimacy nothing for 11 months so one day i got up told her I was going home and broke up with her . Be talked to her since and she’s said please wait for me yet she still treats me like I’m not a priority or a option so I’m healing and going on with my life . Thought she was the one and idk what happen to her but that’s not the woman I fell in love with

    • @mrreddington777
      @mrreddington777 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@justme-so2en I’ll say this. If your partner doesn’t treat you like a priority after you mention your feelings to her or him then it’s time to move on. No one is perfect but never accept being an option than someone’s priority. I was feeling the same way and I made my case and instead of my ex saying hey I’m sorry she ghosted me. Totally fine too. I can sleep peaceful at night knowing I tried and can now meet different people. Best of luck to you and stay strong. You are worth it.

    • @justme-so2en
      @justme-so2en ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@mrreddington777 thanks , even though my ex started school and asked for me to wait I broke up and am trying to move on even now trying to talk to her to get a date to get my stuff still she reads it and ghosts me at times I’ve had enough

  • @Jakilyn
    @Jakilyn ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I've learned that everyone has the right to behave how they desire. It's OK to be sad and upset when you're ghosted. But you can't resent that person. I agree it's disrespectful in some cases. I was dating a guy for weeks and he ghosted. The best action is to reconcile within yourself to avoid carrying that negativity into future relationships. 💗

  • @toniasehkar8729
    @toniasehkar8729 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you Jess! I did called her 3 days after she ghosted, she apologized and asked that we be friends. It's been almost five weeks and I'm moving strong without her existence. By her ghosting me, it has boosted my confidence and self esteem

  • @justiceowusuasare701
    @justiceowusuasare701 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I'm leaving this comment here so after a month or year when someone likes it, I get reminded of this video

    • @innavision1920
      @innavision1920 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Reminding you of this video

    • @vs31396
      @vs31396 หลายเดือนก่อน

      *Nudge*

    • @Msyztik
      @Msyztik หลายเดือนก่อน

      Psst

  • @Tenshotz
    @Tenshotz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Facts Jess! Walk away like a winner, keep the winner energy! even if it hurt u that aint going to kill u, Respect urself first!

  • @meltonmoses8776
    @meltonmoses8776 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Really going through a lot right now, hitting rock bottom, but I trust God for a way out, I am looking for a job as well to help me for upkeep,

  • @benvergus1573
    @benvergus1573 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you so much, just what I needed to hear 🙏 "Celebrate the fact that a toxic and low integrity person has walked out of your life" Yeah, in retrospect the other did me a huge favour. They showed they just cant communicate in a straightforward and honest way and rather keep me guessing and worrying. Should be glad indeed I dont have to get involved with them any further.

  • @jidezinho23
    @jidezinho23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Jessica you just helped my current situation and my heart already prays for you .. you just put smile on my face for providing a solution, you shall be celebrated worldwide. You made me to stay off atrocities and violence, indeed you are the best woman in the world

  • @sojialabi6746
    @sojialabi6746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great woman. Thank you.
    Someone did that to me few weeks ago and I did what you just advised. I loved her but had to respect their opinions as well. Cheers

  • @yonticonseil.tv.1030
    @yonticonseil.tv.1030 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Jessica, you're one of the best we have.

  • @bobyfun79
    @bobyfun79 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I swear sometimes i think Jessica knows what is going on in my life or I am feeling.
    She's like angel with the right answers

  • @davidwalalason7630
    @davidwalalason7630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Jessica I'm going through the same for the past days and I lost myself seriously but thank God I came across your videos, God bless you

  • @keepitabuck9961
    @keepitabuck9961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    She has the most precise videos I’ve ever seen 🙏🏾

  • @kelvinchegwe3000
    @kelvinchegwe3000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thanks Jessica, this has bees happening to me for years, now I know she's ghosting. Now I know better and she comes back after few months to beg me

  • @ahmedbillah5140
    @ahmedbillah5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I do this more often.
    My principle is very simple, I'm very accommodating yet very SNOBBISH. I'm very good at goodbyes 👋

  • @living_craft
    @living_craft 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Wow.... This one hit me... Because Its happening to me...thank you Jessica..... Great insights....

    • @silveraruchi2421
      @silveraruchi2421 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fine the reason why she's ghosting u someone can just ghost u for no reason.

  • @stevevien8337
    @stevevien8337 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    That moment of silence hit me really hard

  • @realollywood
    @realollywood 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I broke up with my ex last year. I feel more ashamed of how I reacted, the questions and all the neediness, disrespecting myself makes me feel worse than her disrespect.

    • @christianbenn316
      @christianbenn316 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      never have anything more to do with her for she not only ghosted you but broke your trust as well so don,t give her a 2nd chance to take her back in your life for it,s a red flag

  • @nyatefewemegah9589
    @nyatefewemegah9589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks Jessica this is so true. I have released this so quickly so I decided to focus on growing myself in academics

  • @tacque0488
    @tacque0488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I followed the advice on one of your videos and she finally said yes. Thank you

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good for you!

  • @gabrielbrown9467
    @gabrielbrown9467 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you Jessica
    My life has been so terrible experiencing this building a relationship thinking I was in the right direction only to walk away from
    But I feel so much better watching this video and I have decided to walk away from it now

  • @Debbie_Awurabenaa
    @Debbie_Awurabenaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The moment of silence got me

  • @willgabriel5275
    @willgabriel5275 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you Jessica! I'm dealing with this right now.

  • @ashleynolan8926
    @ashleynolan8926 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Going through this right now with a girl that I had been dating for 3 weeks still hurts so bad!!

    • @francispellerin5093
      @francispellerin5093 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      any updates ? mine lost interest after two weeks and ghosted me gradually by only answering without reciprocity.

    • @seanm7539
      @seanm7539 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My gf was in my life for about a year but , she went cold on me. And went back to her child’s baby daddy. It ended poorly. But I’m bouncing back we broke up back in January

  • @christophermala5259
    @christophermala5259 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Damn, these videos are so informative, it takes away the feeling of sadness and worthlessness. No one loves you more than you. Thanks Jessica and God bless

  • @Andrew-vw4vl
    @Andrew-vw4vl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    If Jessica open a school I would be the one of the first to sign up! Pure knowledge Jess 👊🏽

  • @brianbrino4310
    @brianbrino4310 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Dearest Jessica I did exactly what you said in your video and now life is opening great future opportunities for me ! Thank you for your wonderful video and Cosmic blessings for your kindness and help!
    Love Life and Light to you always!
    🙏🙏🙏🍀🍀🍀🍀🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏

  • @albertmusakanya1966
    @albertmusakanya1966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm up here @3 am watching your video. And you don't know how much it has helped me. I really needed to hear this. I believe God has used you to speak to me especially after my breakup. Thanks Jessica ❤❤and God bless🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @xmagiclordx
    @xmagiclordx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I know most of this info but the way you spoke on the topic was well recieved.

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I appreciate you. And your support as well 🥰

  • @iam_delalidavid
    @iam_delalidavid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Value is important in every relationship… be it in the professional space, personal & in fact everything in general…

  • @t-timelegends7523
    @t-timelegends7523 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video really touched my heart! Thank You Jessica and God Bless You and Your Family!

  • @arthurisaac9921
    @arthurisaac9921 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It's the articulation in your spoken English for me.
    Proud to be a Ghanaian

  • @King_Aux
    @King_Aux 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you Jessica. Exactly what I wanted to hear from you...

  • @JonMo94
    @JonMo94 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    After every single girl Ive attempted to date and get into a relationship with has ghosted me, Ive realized this, It really doesnt matter, you can try your hardest, you can be a good man with a balanced lifestyle, take care of yourself, value yourself, be a great candidate, and still get ghosted. It's a pattern and I don't understand why. Which leaves me thinking, everyone I meet will end up ghosting me down the road so why even bother?

    • @psyheim
      @psyheim 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      We’re in the same boat bro, I honestly don’t even try anymore

    • @isaiah2810
      @isaiah2810 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why bother
      It’s gonna hurt me
      It’s gonna kill when you desert me
      This happened to me twice before
      It won’t happen to me anymore 🎸🎼🎶

    • @jah_guar
      @jah_guar หลายเดือนก่อน

      if someone ghost you mind me it's a red flag and that she finds something new

  • @allstarscope
    @allstarscope 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great advice thank you! she was always talking to me everyday in person and we would walk, talk, smile, make eye contact then this week she acts like i don't exist, she won't even look in my direction or say hello even if we pass by, i had to just mirror her actions because i don't wanna be the onlyone making an effort, i never reached out to her or asked her why or whats wrong i just accepted it and i will continue to accept it and carry on as normal, but i just don't understand!

    • @juggalogamer8541
      @juggalogamer8541 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I've had so many women do that to me where they would act like they're into me great conversations I contact I mean you felt like you had a great connection and they would even tell you certain things and then next thing you know the next day comes and poof they just act like you don't even exist anymore must be nice to be that damn emotionalism just cut off a guy and not give a s***😂 but these are the same people that sit there and complain about they can't find a good person it's so f****** hilarious I just hit a woman with exactly what they do to me I'm like okay well I sent her a message and if she's not going to respond and that's if I see her in person I'm not going to give her any attention last girl that I spoke to worked up at the Planet Fitness desk where I was going to so next time I go in I'm just going to act like she don't even exist to me since she wants to play this little game because if somebody really cared about you they would make the effort they wouldn't just disappear but the sad part is a lot of women now have a problem being honest I guess they think everything is solved by ignoring a guy it's like how can you fix the situation if she's just going to go silent I mean what's going to happen if these women ever get married every time her man does something she doesn't like she's just going to go mute what did I do wrong for the odds are usually she's talking to somebody else I feel like majority of women now only going to go for the guys that offer the most which is really sad

    • @juggalogamer8541
      @juggalogamer8541 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I made the mistake a couple times where I would ask what did I do wrong what did I say and it's like you know what you got to realize you didn't do a damn thing wrong she's the one acting funny it's like you know what f*** you then I'll move on and give you the same damn treatment you want to act like I don't exist and I'll do the same thing to you

  • @JuanGArangoTV
    @JuanGArangoTV ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I needed you in my life!!! 😂 Thank you! Your words have been pure gold to me. So grateful for you. Had a girl do this and then waltz back in to also tell me she has a boyfriend. yet she wants to meet up.

  • @floridaroadways
    @floridaroadways 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    If she ghost me I'll leave her alone forever

  • @davidcoppotelli3957
    @davidcoppotelli3957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My Girl Always Kills It With The GREAT VIDEOS. Thank You Jessica. DAVID, RI

  • @kofidaysta6376
    @kofidaysta6376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    At a point, you got to accept that is just me, my self and I.

  • @Colonfuego
    @Colonfuego 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I think I have been ghosted but I backed off. I feel like I came on to strong but it happens to the best of us I know what she wanted and I played it safe 🤦‍♂️. I feel like I do eveything right when it comes to dating im just hard on myself.

  • @ikjosh5751
    @ikjosh5751 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your mindset gives me Joy always. It amazes me on how your thinking aligns mine most cases
    💙💙💙

  • @falcone_2128
    @falcone_2128 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Everytime I come and listen ... I just get better . Nice one Jessica ❣️

  • @AGJunyah
    @AGJunyah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This was well needed thank you‼️

  • @piusseda
    @piusseda 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You are a genius Jessica! Always on point.

  • @fredrickkoech8396
    @fredrickkoech8396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Think hard, deep enough. Thank God another toxic and low integrity person has walked out of your life

    • @Steffy-xm7mc
      @Steffy-xm7mc หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@fredrickkoech8396 yes the universe took out the garbage for you ❤️

  • @vanalpha3081
    @vanalpha3081 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I must just say thank you. Its like you knew my situation even before you did the video. Thank you so much mama. I really enjoy watching your videos

  • @kwabenasarfoboateng9333
    @kwabenasarfoboateng9333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks so Jessy...there's this colleague of mine at the work place that I like so much. She was always ghosting me...when I decided to ignore her, just in 3 days she started buying me groceries and I always made sure she never received even a common thank you from me...I'm really enjoying the moment.

  • @poteznywarmianin5840
    @poteznywarmianin5840 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Being ghosted by coworker hurts deeper, seeing them everyday when they pretend not to see you, sometimes she gives me glance from time to time. Even if that's a year I still can't fully get over her, thus this was the 1st and only who ever showed interest in me (love boomed me at the beginning, with her constantly approaching me, texting first everyday, etc.). Although she always come to shake a hand with me and say hi, that's all I get, then she avoids me. I do same to her, but obviously she doesn't give a fck about it. Well, maybe someday I will meet someone who will like me :D

    • @joesillamanrs7189
      @joesillamanrs7189 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Stay strong! I was ghosted as well. I see the girl I was with every day at school. She laughing and probably dating another guy. It hurts so much but we must stay strong, we will come out of this better

    • @brianwaller7383
      @brianwaller7383 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And shit like that they wonder why men are walking away from dating in droves

    • @SolitarySoldier
      @SolitarySoldier 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sad thing is thats what ghosting is. Dont think you’re the problem because you’re not. Its just the way the system is today. Growing up i used to put too much stock in my mistakes (we all make some, small big etc) that i made but I realized the people i was around weren’t good for me so over time I realized that and forgave myself

  • @edberry1805
    @edberry1805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Let them be…there’s honor in walking away..! It helps you recoup your lost energy and regain yourself..! Never repay disrespect with respect… that’s too much disservice, take the walk of honor…!! Leave..!

    • @isaaqmulumba9143
      @isaaqmulumba9143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is very great advice right here. Very informative. Best thing you can do for yourself

  • @stevemakayi1036
    @stevemakayi1036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Put premium on your life.
    Thank you Jessica...you are a source of inspiration, encouragement and a GIFT..love you ❤️

  • @emmanueljoseph2049
    @emmanueljoseph2049 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Come on you really change my lifestyle today I got girlfriend but she’s treating me like a young kid but I will try what you’ve preach and I belief it will work thanks a lot and God bless you forever All the way from Nigeria 🇳🇬

  • @carlosverde-datingtips7001
    @carlosverde-datingtips7001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Great tips! Getting ghosted - it’s part of the game, it comes with the territory, and there’s nothing you can do about it!
    But you can reframe it - and start thinking of it as she doing you a favor. Why would you want to get involved with a person like that anyway?
    She’s basically showing you her hand early as opposed to later on - when you have wasted all your time and energy on her!
    Anyway, that’s my two cents.
    -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

  • @mohabatkhanmalak1161
    @mohabatkhanmalak1161 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Plenty of fish in the sea". For some doing that won't be easy, but here is my advice, that want and craving is like a toxin in you and gently let time purge you of it. Also, try to move away far and out of any contact. And finally look after yourself, your general health, the foods you eat and your appetite and the people you surround yourself with, keep positive people arround you. Soon you will find yourself springing back and think of that relationship as just a phase in life.

  • @joesottilare609
    @joesottilare609 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Someone relatively new ghosting you is easy to get over fast..but after 4yrs and countless moments memories invested time energy resources and emotions..its a whole other level of evil dysfunction...my DA.is ghosting me for the 2nd time in 6mnths..ive walked away for good..women like this are just not worth the space they occupy...ghosting is the ultimate disrespect...and should never be tolerated..if they try to come back later...never give them the time of day again
    .they should be dead to you.

    • @innavision1920
      @innavision1920 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s even more disrespectful than saying hurtful things to the person. At least in argument there is confrontation and such that can bring understanding. Ghosting is the cowards way out, and causes severe emotional trauma in the ghosted if it’s a long term relationship

  • @LifeAndStories89
    @LifeAndStories89 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    These are advises from a mother to her sons. Just to say thank you Jess❤️😘💐

  • @Anonymous-jm5yk
    @Anonymous-jm5yk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    3.7k views in 3days + 3.4k likes.
    Wow keep the 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 burning 💪💪💪
    I just subscribed and liked the video because I really needed the #facts#(walk away) in the video.
    Love your work. God bless you 🙏😇😇.

  • @lawrenceatteh3442
    @lawrenceatteh3442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    There's so much more to life indeed..... Thanks for your selflessness, Jess. Keep being you ❤️

  • @mrscribbles._.4984
    @mrscribbles._.4984 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thankyou.this made me feel so much better,I begged her to come back or reply for almost a month and I could clearly see she was ignoring me cause her account was online honestly it's gonna be hard but I feel like you've inspired me to move on and find someone new.thankyou😊

    • @juggalogamer8541
      @juggalogamer8541 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Honestly I kind of feel like once she hasn't responded to you in 2 days I feel like she's already lost interest because if somebody really likes you they're going to keep the communication going especially if you see that they've been online a million times but they can't even respond to your message quite obviously lost interest and of course honesty is something people don't want to give you so you're never going to get any reason why they stopped talking to you but usually the odds are they found somebody else that fast or they were already talking to somebody else I've been ghosted a million times and honestly I've gotten to the point where I don't even want to try anymore cuz it just leads to nothing

    • @mrscribbles._.4984
      @mrscribbles._.4984 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hope you find someone one day🥰 hugs* 🫂

  • @alfredloka3636
    @alfredloka3636 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you for the wise words - love you ! From this moment onwards I will never let anyone do this to me again! Done!

  • @grahamturner1290
    @grahamturner1290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Impeccable advice. And very timely. Thanks! 😊

  • @Micky_Frimps
    @Micky_Frimps 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    That’s a great advice 🙏🏽
    Thanks Jessy 👏🏽

  • @NeoAutodroid
    @NeoAutodroid 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So this person ghosted me. We were in serious and committed long term relationship. We never had a fight, never even had a disagreement. I always asked them how they felt and they always said things were good. It's just so jarring especially since we have history and no indicators anything was wrong. It's just so bizarre how anyone can behave like this. Every time I have been unsatisfied with a relationship I have formally ended things with respect and dignity. Regardless I can be confident that anyone who ghosts me has done me a favor because I don't to be associated with anyone who behaves in such a weak, ineffectual manner with such disregard.

  • @wandilemkhwanazi8016
    @wandilemkhwanazi8016 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm glad I found this video now. Very comforting words.

  • @lotushead_music
    @lotushead_music ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That was disrespectful..ur right. And I deserve love

  • @antiquemusicsa.6604
    @antiquemusicsa.6604 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    One Just did now , "You're not challenging me"
    Then got blocked , when I was 21 ... told my self that we're working with people who really would like to be really with us , you ghost me or block me
    I move.

  • @savage_navy_official
    @savage_navy_official 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your advice are real and helpful. I am well updated now and everytime I watch all your episodes I learn new things that helps my person like you know what I am going through

  • @user-nl7jn9iq6z
    @user-nl7jn9iq6z 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I thank you Jessica. For the ideas how do deals with Ghost women that I was a victims of the game’s she were playing to me that I wasn’t aware of… I only hold her hand when I walk with her goes through the parking lot, after I had dinner with her and she gave me a hug that all; and no sexual involved whatsoever…. Jessica. You are the best and I have learned so much about life’s that’s I didn’t know it’s exit… I wanted to thank you again….

  • @malvinmuchinako7502
    @malvinmuchinako7502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I hate giving pipo a sense of importance that they dont deserve .