Not only that but they will look for reasons to dislike you and hate on you in order to justify their feelings. They want to assert themselves above you in order to feel better. They don’t even know who you are, what else could be the reason? It’s because of the way you look. You look better than they do and most people won’t like that one bit. Few people are truly humble and grounded and secure.
This is why I'm as kind as I can be with other men. Treat them like a brother. Because I know the disgusting power of envy. It can make us feel so alone and undeserving. I wish you all the best, my dudes🌟🙌
This works either way too bro , in my case I tried treating everyone like a brother but many interpreted that in a manipulative way kinda like I wanted something from them so they hit defensive .
@@Adi29x i must admit i'm kind of like that too. I don't try to be all defensive but I try to brush people off that are "too nice" especially right off the bat. I think it's normal because any regular person should be skeptical.
Men trying to compete is a common reaction to feeling insecure, you will see it a lot as a handsome guy, and it will come about in various ways. All they’re doing in the end is confirming that they think you’re good looking, without realizing that you are catching on to it. Take it as a compliment.
I am at some level myself where I've been on BOTH sides of the coin plenty at least as I interpreted the situation and how I felt...near impossible to eliminate the problem of feeling less than, real or imagined. So yes, important to keep one's KNOWN advantages in mind, and if possible, without the intent detected, make a smooth comment relaying the REALITY of society. Extreme example: "you're frickin' hung aren't ya I knew it" immediate response "doesn't keep 'em around! Nope!!" You could still be seen as humblebragging but again the TRUTH shows through, maybe even 45 minutes later or 15 days later when the other guy ruminates on it a little bit. WE built it all so THEY could have the luxury of complaining about US making grape jokes instead of suffering war all of the time....
Not caring what they think about you and thinking/knowing the myriad of ways they can sabotage and bring you down are two different things. Passive aggressive motherfuckers. So in a way I do care about what they think about me. I know your gonna say something along the lines about not caring in an inner confidence with yourself way but I can’t help but admit that I do care what they think for all they can do. Even almost to the point of bullying you and starting some kind of fight or altercation-even if not necessarily physical-and then manufacturing the narrative to police that you were the problem you were the one who started problems with them your the problem to everybody else etc etc on and on and on. These people are sick and demented. Their passive aggressive insecurities can really cost you a lot of time energy sorrow and resources. So I always got to feel like I have to dip and dodge the snares and traps and gauntlets that these trash throw out in society and their EVERYWHERE man I mean EVERYWHERE. And I’m an introvert and just Do Not have the energy for it.
You even start to be hated by your own friends.. can’t tell you how many friendships I’ve lost due to getting better women.. but i don’t mind being the lone wolf
The competition is fierce and practically never ends. Yep even the married or taken guys will be envious. Why should they care? They already have a woman. Yet they will make it very clear that they don’t like that you get more attractive women than they do, and more positive attention from women in general, it makes them furious on the inside. Many just don’t know how to truly appreciate what they have and let others live their own lives. Everyone should just play the hand they’ve been dealt and let others be, but things aren’t so simple in that way.
A girl was dropping hints that she liked me, but I didn't respond to them. She was cute just not my type personality wise. Next thing you know she's joking around with me that I’m gay. Not being into you does not make me a Homo Sexual 🤦🏽♂️
That's not petty behavior, it's the last option girls use if they are into you to try to get your interest. The gay thing is womanese for "Why are you not asking for my number?".
Need more handsome men’s game for sure! I experienced something similar after I lost 50 pounds, gained muscle and implemented a face care routine. I was dumbfounded as to how people I just met tried to prove something to me and talking all about their accomplishments and their financial status. Especially around women.
I often get dudes girlfriends checking me out and even though I'm not looking back I can see in my peripheral vision an angry jealous look of boyfriends face and sometimes a deep loud sigh even if dude has no girlfriend. Kinda hard to make friends when people are offended by what someone look like
@@gymbum9891 Sometimes it feels like it sucks, but trust me, you would not want to live even one day of your life being as miserable as most people are. It always makes me wonder what these men and women think of themselves that generates all this hatred and negative energy in them. I've made efforts to make them getting bet and get out of their comfort zone but all it has led to was even more frustration. Nowadays it is my amusement to watch them getting angry over things I've accomplished and they just wanted to, most of them unfortunately cannot be helped.
People “qualify” themselves when they feel inferior. It happens to me as well. I just show them I’m normal, even though I don’t feel that way all the time 😂
I've even tried being overly nice to others. It's like this... In the workplace for example, I've been told by a few women that they find me attractive. The issue was that, they said it in front of other guys and I didn't pursue a relationship with any of these women. So from that point on, the other guys were envious of me and the females just hated me to the core. It can get overwhelming and always be prepared to find another job lol.
@@dannykicks603 me too. When you don't live up to their fantasy projections & give them what they want they hate you as much as a woman can hate anything in this world. You become every man theyve had an issue with their whole lives.
I been on both sides…..i have concluded it’s better to be good looking 😂 People treat you better They are more likely to help you out Life is somewhat easier More opportunities are given The halo effect is real!
Yes, but it can be lonely. You really can’t ever let your guard down, bc the second you do, somebody will turn that shit around on you or use it against you. Envy and jealousy are real.
Same. I’m guessing you got a lot of the usual strange behavior from these clowns? People making fun of you, people playing pranks or playing a dirty trick on you, people blaming something on you when you didn’t do anything, people looking for and pointing out any flaws or mistakes, people being awkward and inconsistent around you- sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. People spreading rumors about you and talking about you behind your back, men trying to make you look bad in front of women, people overreacting to something you said or did, people happy to see you fail in some way or taking pleasure in your misfortunes. People thinking you’re conceited or arrogant, people comparing you to a less attractive person, people trying to make you think you aren’t handsome, saying someone else looks really attractive in your presence, guys talking about how they can get attractive women to sleep with them or how a woman thinks they’re attractive. Men generally being extra competitive with you, going as far as bullying or picking fights with you and trying to tear down your social status, people wanting to use you or get you to give them money or possessions. Men calling you a faggot, a bitch, or some other insult. The list goes on but that covers a lot. Usually it’s women who get a bad rap when it comes to envy and insecurity but in my experience men are just as bad if not worse. It just isn’t talked about as much and men pretend they aren’t jealous and cover up that fact, and people need to know about it. Attractive guys deserve basic human decency just like anyone else. Facing these issues from people who want to see you fail is not a pleasant experience and these people secretly enjoy it when they see you suffer. When you’re really good looking you just tend to see the depravity of human beings. You go through life being hated on and have people trying to tear you down, people trying to sabotage your relationships. You think almost everyone hates you and that there’s something wrong about you and then after you’ve seen the same patterns of behavior over and over you realize those people who hated on you were actually envious of you and wanted to be you. Some even secretly admired you and many of the women had a crush and wanted to hook up with you. These lowlifes didn’t even know who you really were, they just hated on you for your good looks. Once you realize this you can rise up and take your rightful place. And all the mediocre losers stay right where they are, like the bottom feeders that they are. Never let anyone tear you down and make you feel like you don’t belong or aren’t worthy. Haters try to make you feel like something that is good about you is bad, but we know now exactly what they’re up to. Their devious scheming behavior loses it’s effect once you take your power back and pass them all up.
@@z1ll4jr53 I’m glad you get it man. Any truly handsome guy will have experienced at least a few of these things. And it’s not something that just gets talked about openly much but it’s all very true, I’ve seen all these things and more. It helps to relate to the other guys who’ve been through this.
One thing that I’ve noticed is that it’s hard to implement yourself in new friend circles. The single guys and guys with girls friends will often times be really strange around you and keep you out of the circle.
Being a handsome man, you need to be tough as well, too much jealousy and insecurity out here. Be head strong, be confident and enjoy the fact that you are a good looking bloke, unlike most of the ugly munters out here. Also, only beautiful men on the inside make handsome men on the outside ;)
So much truth man. I’ve even had “friendships” basically ruined because of awkward energy around there women. And it was always very discouraging, and I never knew how to handle it. Content like this is needed
I can relate to this 100 %. I dont understand why people have to be so insecure, i mean why are you even in a r/ship if you cant trust your woman fully around other men.
Bingo. Can complete relate. I get hit on by my friend’s girlfriends, I don’t react or ignore and still get kicked out/ abandoned from them all. It hurts so bad.
I grew up poor and with low self-esteem so I never had the confidence to approach most girls I liked. When I finally got my own job in high school and did things to improve my self-image and confidence, all women I'd approach assumed I was a player.
They assume the popular jock types are players, not all handsome guys. Most women appreciate a good looking guy but they have different types they’re attracted to. You can be the more reserved mysterious type and women won’t necessarily assume you’re getting all the girls, they’ll just think a lot of them have a crush on you which would be true and is confirmation bias. Many will like a man who has value in that way. Can’t really paint a wide brush in this case it really depends.
Trust me, you don't want to be a player. It's TOO much stress trying to juggle 3, 4 or 5 women. You have to constantly be on HIGH ALERT mode. You have to put up with the BS, have different phone numbers, have monitor every single thing you do to not cause any alarms suspicion, have to talk your way out of a sticky situation, have to go against your own good nature and moral code and be the bad guy. Then you have to watch out for the controlling, manipulating, possessing, stalking behaviors. I am telling you, all this takes away any pleasure and you wish that you just settle down with just one or none at all. Living the player lifestyle is not easy nor is it fun. It's just a thing some men do because of some other underlying psychological reason other than getting laid.
I JUST avoid em altogether to minimize the fxxkery. I'm strong,fast, TRAINED,and defense carry...rather NOT have to stretch a jealous bf/hubby TF out👀 over "his" girl UNLESS no choice 😒💯💯💯🧔🏾♂️
@@jadar9356took the words outta my mouth brother. The disrespect can be very out of hand sometimes. It's like they don't even realize that I am a person too.
Bro , thank you for this video. I went from 115 pounds to 185 lean and totally transformed my life in every way. Literally had people just assume I was a narcissist, women would think I was some playboy off the bat, even random work colleagues who would take pot shots at me for my looks and being fit. Really needed this video
I've been called handsome all my life. This is a very good explanation as to why random women in random places give me dirty looks without my ever having to utter a word. One glance at her without me showing any interest in her whatsoever, and she gives me a dirty look. I could never put a finger on why that was occurring over & over. And the other guy mate guarding his girl? I get that ALL THE TIME. Good video bro.
The worst part is the envy from other men. I can deal with all of the psychological head games and b.s. from ladies because it's expected. But when other men in your life start displaying that same emotionality, lack of discipline and self control over your decision to care for yourself, it's a test of mental toughness to stay above the petty drama. Win through it guys 💯.
Had a huge glow up from 23 to 26-27 and I lost the few friends I had, including childhood friends that became jealous that I attracted girls whereas I used to be an ugly fat loser with 0 social skills. They were just feeling better having me around when I was unattractive, it helped them to deal with their insecurities. At least being handsome made me realize I was hanging out with toxic insecured people that I should have got ridden off way earlier.
Also what ive noticed can be a sign someone is intimidated, nervous, uncomfortable or jealous is when they look at you and clear their throat with cough.
I ran into this space in the red pill and I thought I was the only one that would experience these kind of things. I’m introverted and based on feedback and comments I’ve heard I am handsome. I have been accused of being a player and I evoke insecurities in men around me and women I date. I’ve had to master weight lifting and fighting for these reasons. I’ve had women try to get other men to attack me because I was not interested or I’ve had them defame my name to other women to make it harder for me to date. At a local gym I used to attend a girl i befriended told me that women would speak in the restroom and had said I had slept with them even though I’ve never even knew who they were or spoken to them. Also you get dudes trying to punk you, so it causes you to develop a strong back bone. Being handsome has been a double edge sword. Amongst other experiences I can say, I became a sigma and lone wolf. Let me know if any of you guys out there had any similar experiences, it feels good to relate.
A real sigma will intimate men and women, i experience this every day, I walk with my head straight and show confidence and boy does that intimidate both sexes I also learned and practice muay thai everyday so deep down I know how to defend myself but I rarely get looked at even by guys much bigger than me lol
When you said that random women you didn't know started to tell people you have slept with them that's where your stories have holes. I’m a woman and women usually do not bragg about such stuff if anything it's the opposite (in exceptional cases they do that only if they have really slept with you and you have super high status like a big celebrity or supper popular etc) but women on average do not make up lies about sleeping with an average guy they don't even know and start bragging about it. Either 1. You are lying and just made up this whole scenario. OR 2. The girl who told you about it lied to you for whatever reason that is.
That shit really scares me sometimes bro, like u find a guy so insecure about u taking his girl when u haven't even opened ur mouth or done anything other than pass by them or just being in the same environment as them. Makes u wonder wat he would do if he really finds out u are taping his paradise
@@mattjr4206 well here in Texas you try that with us and you could be Identifying as a Holey Spirit when you meet Jesus and asking to be apart of the Trinity with it ending in a denial of the role.
@@madallas_mons My hair stylist once suggested I get blonde highlights in my hair. I told her it was kinda gay. She laughed and didn't bring it up again.
Yup. Not having the ego to go with it (despite being told all the time I'm "handsome") makes this very confusing. It's a first world problem, though, as they say: just be happy knowing you're blessed and use your force for good! Imagine if you were ugly... different game altogether. Be happy.
First world problem thats right. The negative interactions are people eliminating and putting below you themselves. Thats what was sometimes happening when I was taking a lot of care of myself. Being kind was the key that turned a lot of people. I really liked being attractive most of all because just being kind granted me significant rewards and it was a win freaking win.
100% spot on. At my last interview for a good company, with my short haircut and everything, the lead interviewer is looking out the window shaking his head yes as I answer the last question, says “good answer” then in a clearly flat didn’t get the job tone “thank you for coming”. He just didn’t want to look at my face
I had this happen in the mid-nineties. Former Marine interviewed me for a sales job at a large company. Interview went great I thought but didn’t work out as I suspect he didn’t like me due to looking great in a suit and not a bad looking guy then. I believe he was insecure but after this outcome I realized I didn’t want to be in their employ. It was actually freeing me from perhaps a tumultuous relationship.
This is one of the extremely rare occasions I will leave a genuine comment and not just some silly shit for a joke. When he said a girl could think you are a douche or a player without ever talking to you, I felt that. A girl I worked with literally told me in person that she was completely wrong about me when she got to know me. It took several months for my personality to come through but one day I saw a complete change in her attitude towards me. She said when I first started working at the restaurant she just assumed I was just a douchebag purely based on how I looked. I was under the impression that I was average looking because I had only had two girlfriends at the time. She informed me that all the girls that worked there thought I was attractive but I was completely unaware. Since then several other people, men and women, have told me a version of, “I didn’t like you until I got to know you.” I was wondering why it seemed like new people didn’t like me without even speaking to me. Maybe it’s the assumed handsome man privilege but I still consider myself average looking. Everyone is there own toughest critic though.
I’m tall, attractive, athletic & in good shape and have tons of women interested in me. However, almost all of them are either intimidated by me & I have had women tell me they feel inferior to me and others say they can’t live up to my standards even though I’ve never even been out with them! wtf?
Yup, 100% here as well. I'm constantly getting he's out of my league vibes even just by the looks. And if I start talking to them, it's even worse and then they think I'm outer space out of their league... pretty shitty.
To me it’s more my male coworkers that disrespect me. I’m 6’2 170 and fit, braces for 2 years and now have great white teeth, thick black slicked back hair , always go out my way to smell good. They always try to treat me like the punching bag and then get mad when I don’t take it. I’ve noticed more handsome guys and same height are more friendly.
Lift some weights brother. I'm your height and 195 with below 10% body fat. Start packing some muscle and THEN watch their reactions. Not only are you handsome, you are also intimidating at that point.
This video was so unbelievably ACCURATE, especially the group invites, gym stuff and defensive men. Even when your just minding your own!!!! All my guy friends ditched me once they got girls!!! Best friends of 4-5 years +
The fact that so many content creators been doin handsome men’s game vids ; and not given Josten his cred shows the Ego involved in this space; big S.O. To Danny Vera definitely underrated creator
Oh man, that happed to me a few weeks ago. There's a fitness chick at my gym that tries to ignore me but I often catch her staring and purposely doing exercises next to me. Her boyfriend was doing shoulders and he saw that she was using a leg machine right next to me and he immediately came over to mate guard and pretend like he was going to do legs with her. I just laughed to myself and finished my workout.
This happens all the time to me at the gym 😂 I'm like bro u look so beta and weak I don't want your girl 😂 but seriously dudes will come kiss their girl, slap their asses , and even had dudes just take their girl to a completely different spot 😂
The worst thing is at the work place. All kindness and politeness received from girl coworkers at the beginning will become indifference and bitterness towards you when the time goes on.
I wish I had run into this channel before. So much truth. Men especially try to sabotage me. I have encountered so much toxicity from guys who I thought of as being my friends. I have always been a loner for this reason. It also took me a good while to build trust with my girl. It was always easy to build connections with women.
Brother Glad I found your channel. There are not much content on internet regarding what problems Handsome men face day to day. I have gone through lot of issues you discussed in your video. Please make more videos on this, and how to overcome it. some topics to discuss - facing beta males in masses - back talkers - aggressive stares by betas in Gym - Older men not taking us serious etc etc Thank you
Yes, old men not taking me serious, that so often happened to me, additionally I keep long hairs, people think I am some ........., reality I am a university topper with masters in Aerospace, people just don't believe me, this world is seriously nuts.
That thing in the gym (guys constantly marking their territory when ur just in the vicinity of a girl they believe is their property) happens to me ALL the time now. Creeps the living hell out of me.
This happens all the time to me 😂😂😂 meanwhile I'm thinking "bro I don't want your girl relax" they'll usually come up to their girl and kiss them or grab their ass to let me know she's taken 😂
@@oldhpirs4 Yes dude, every fucking time. They appear out of nowhere too. And thats the exact same thing im thinking. It's always dudes who are p whipped. The dudes who are cool and secure, their girls follow them around, not vice versa.
I'm not the most attractive guy, but I follow up with confidence and gentle assertiveness. I use it to the fullest at a farmers market where 90% of my customers are women, and the biggest downside is their boyfriends turn away their girls a lot. I find the best way to change this is to look the man straight in the eyes when I greet them, to make sure he knows I am addressing him first, and not after his girl, but i'll immediately get her to spend all his money.
Gettin the women to spend all they manz money, pretty sure they can get yu in trouble for that. Aye, all fun n games til yu meet one who gon crack yo jaw.
Bro i get attention all the time but dont know how to approach a woman and start a conversation. I am eager to do it but whenever i get a chance i freeze. You are right about one thing good looking women try to ignore because they dont want to feed your ego but you find them staring at you some times. Consequently you fall for ugly women, they ll stoop lower than anybody to get your attention but once they get it they defame you. Its a vicious cycle.
Truly the most important subject I never expected to get an answer to. I was always the ugly duckling growing up, but was always optimistic, nice and loving to everyone. Now that I grew up, hit the gym and am much improved, this reverse Halo effect was affecting me emotionally because I just couldn't understand why most social interactions were such a pain. One of the most important things that helped me in this stage of life is to BE PATIENT, and STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. This confidence of being who I've always been, along with a good sense of humor makes having patience for the long game and creating new connections much more delightful.
Great video. I’ve always been considered very attractive all my life and now in my late 20’s I’m realizing everything you said is true and experiencing. All good looking learn self defense, get yo masculine energy up. Master yourself, mind, body, and soul..
You aint lying about the gym scenario. I've had complete strangers try to do or say some slick shit to me because their girl was into me and i had no clue who they or their girl are. One time I had a girl that was staring at me from a few machines down, she was working out with her man at that time, so apparently her guy noticed because I was keeping an eye out from the corner of my eye using my peripheral view. I was doing a leg workout and her guy litterally came two feet next to me and set down a bar like he was about to do deadlifts right next to me! I looked at him like what are you doing im working out here. He litterally said "cant you go over there and do it" trying to run me off my spot. I told him no I cant, you need to backup. so he backed up one foot. I looked at him like are you serious. I told him back up more so he backed up a few more feet. I told him yeah thats fine. I finished my last set. Then moved to where they were earlier and started doing deadlifts and outlifted him in front of his girl. People get stupid out here. I got plenty more stories like you would'nt believe but that one almost lead to a fight.
Your story is the exact reason why my uncle ended a lot of mens lives. Often times that tough act is over a woman. That's often times not even around to see it
Yep. Gyms have become extremely toxic…. Dudes that are just “big” think they’re the best looking in the gym… when they’re just tall and have terrible proportions. These dudes will do supersets constantly in gym but they mainly do it so they can walk around gym and be seen… just desperate for somebody to see them… if you don’t look at them, they’ll come right in front of you it’s laughable … 😂 like ppl can’t just go to gym and lift 🤣 it’s not necessary to be waking aimless around gym supersets or not..
Please tell another man. Ive gotten some solace from this comment section knowing im not the only one who gets guys trying him like this. Took so long, basically my entire 20s before i realized how i secure some guys are and how they lash out because of the insecurity. Thankfully ive never had to get into anything other than a light scuffle, mostly just heated exchanges, but a lot of people get shot over silly stuff where im from and ive definitely had guys try to take it there with me over their girl giving me a look when i dont even give af about her or him. Ive had male coworkers try to drag me through the mud with shit talk behind my back to girls, weird bragging and arrogant displays to try to convince the women around theyre some kind of “alpha”, even situations exactly like you described just not in a gym. This weird stuff from other guys has always been the most off-putting and confusing part of coming to terms with how my attractiveness might play into the situations I face, much more so than some of the strange behavior from women.
Right it really pisses you off bc we know we can’t do anything about passive aggression from them . As soon as we say anything we’re considered conceited or “crazy”
@@jadar9356 Dude I have to deal with this so much, you wanna do something about the passive aggression, but you know as soon as you do your getting called crazy, then on top of that you have to sit there and let the anger build up so you don't ruin your reputation, which just gets you more pissed.
Cool but if you're handsome it doesn't and shouldn't matter to you lol You can always find a girl who will love you for who you are and what you do regardless.
I didn't know it for the longest time, but I was considered "a pretty boy" Growing up. I never knew it cause I was treated with such derision I actually thought I was ugly and unlikable, I just had no idea, and such I struggled with relationships all my life. Even when girls took an interest in me I always felt like I was just being teased. I'm 45 now, and although I ended up having a few significant relation ships in my life my last ended due to the pandemic and my governments response to it severing contact with my partner at the time (for two years) while she visited family over seas. Oh well I'm bald now, maybe that will help. LMAO
Thankful that this got recommended to me! There is alot of content for regular dudes which want to improve but not much content on the drawbacks of being a solid dude. This video got me nodding to alot of points and I’m kind of relieved that I’m not the only one who feels and experiences things like these. Thank you! 🤝
Yep, experienced this as a late bloomer who grew up in a conservative household in a country town. Moved to the city and I laugh at the assumptions some women have of me 😂 11:11 onwards is so accurate man
Im 39 now and handsome (always was) and the amount of unsolicited unwarranted JEALOUSY and saltiness (almost always from other males) I have seen in my life has been insane. I would even say that it started somewhere around age 7 or 8 too. I rise above it though. The Jealousy is real.
This sounds highly accurate and around the age when other males start openly expressing their envy. Men are even worse than women when it comes to this, it’s just ignored a lot. Women often tend to be much more supportive of each other where as men will show no remorse as they try and take you down for being better than them. You’ve gotta protect yourself and not let these envious mediocre men get to you, let them deal with their own issues as it eats them up on the inside. You were born with a gift, that is your birthright, how dare they try and take that away.
She could be more realistic than you, though. There's just a sliiiiight chance you're the narcissistic one and overrating yourself 😆. Based on the picture. See it way too often.
@szilardfineascovasa6144 lol never mentioned overrating myself but u are forsure assuming and speaking on my experience...all this based off a picture tho!? 😆
@@Blvkkise Based on the incongruence between your words (the inconvenience of an unattractive woman hitting on you) and the picture. (Maybe you have better pictures.) Logically, one would be led to conclude you consider yourself handsome. Or maybe you don't - I am wrong and aplogize then - and still look down on your lookalike. Most of us are average. Nothing wrong with that.
Who can relate: When your friends transform with a bitter attitude towards you as soon as they see a girl talking to you. I've suffered from this my whole life. I do have friends but then it becomes difficult to trust someone that you know is envious of you. Not saying all men are like that, but yes there's certainly some truth to this...
Women will always look at me but tend to look away to, also alot if women cannot hold eye contact especially if theyre insecure which alot of women are, so rejection is a big thing with handsome men that ppl dont talk about, iv been with lots of women in my 34 years and wvery single chick told me i was very handsome and looking but before they meet me they always give me dirty looks lol
Yep. Being good looking is a blessing and a curse. I love it to be honest as I just genuinely love people that hate. Makes me improve my looks even more and my confidence just oozes everywhere. The men are just as bad. I always get called gay. It’s their way of sexual combat with other men, it’s a real thing.
God i hate people taking their insecurities on me because i was gifted genetically gifted. I know being handsome is a good thing, but it has down sides too. Dax said it best, "if your ugly and someone likes you, they really like you for you"
Such a great video mate, I find everything to be exactly as you explained it, in a way I’m less sad since now I can see, I’m not alone going through all that hate and toxicity.
Sometimes you even feel bad when women look your way, they smile and when you get close to them they avoid to look your way like is something wrong with you 😂
Handsome guys (HG) get alot of attention outside. It is a gift from god to have been born this way. But also i think it comes with a price as this video describes it well. Glad that Danny used the word "Stoic". Helps keeping your mental frame regardless of outcomes. As I look at this Scenario in way that I as an HG find myself like in a movie where I play different characters as a main lead. What's under the hood is whatever that comes out of your mouth, in your present behaviour and in your smile.
I’m 34 yo and told I look like Bradley Cooper and have the body of a fitness model. I just moved to a small city in South Texas and can’t get a date to save my life. And I’m not going after bombshells, not that there are any here, but I can’t even get a date with a mid! Big cities are no problem, but it’s baffling to say the least. I have to drive an hour to go on dates now. I’m moving to Europe next month though. European women appreciate good looking men. Most American girls are trash.
You will fine if you stay away from Anglo countries. So stay away from the US, Canada and the UK. I say this as an Englishmen who’s also lived in Canada. I’ve lived in Europe and I’ve had far more luck. Women are more mature and less likely play games to get what they want. I would also say South America as well. They are more old school in a way but more feminine and sensual.
@@RaHeadD10 South America depends on the country because most Latinas prefer money and that you look like a criminal and gang member even if you are ugly. What Latin American countries are you talking about? Do you mean Argentina? They are the closest to Europeans because of their white skin and features and as they say above, European women like handsome boys and do not pay much attention to other aspects.
Your videos are 100% reality, even if some guys might call it BS (because they can't believe what they didn't experience). It's interesting, as I though men who have a more masculine attractiveness, like yourself, would not get such behaviors at all. At any rate, I think more "feminine" looking "pretty boy" types like Sean O'Pry (top rated male model), have it even worse than what you describe.
This video was truly amazing as I can literally relate to almost every topic you talked about. When I was young I remember my Grandma asking me if I have a lot of girls coming up and talking to me. I said no. She said that is because they think you are stuck up! I remember that so vividly, lol. And now lots of things are coming together after watching your video. Many girls I met all asked me the question of if I was gay or stuff like that and I would just say no I am straight. But that happened all the time. And yes I can also relate to almost never do I get approached by attractive women. there are times I can see them looking at me but 99% of the time they don't approach me. Some have approached me but that is very rare and usually it is because there might be a social thing in the background that allows that to happen. It is like you said always the ones I am unattracted to that come up and talk and stuff. In-fact, today in Trader Joe's I was noticing an older lady singing and dancing while walking near me. It was odd enough to make me think she was trying to connect with me but I could be wrong about that as well, but my gut tells me I was right. But thanks for the video as it is super intelligent stuff and good to be aware of things. Plus when girls would stand me up I always took that as a bad thing but now after watching your video I now realize they might have done it as a test and I could have given them a second chance to see what is going on. I thought the rejection might have meant they were not into me but maybe they were. So lots of new ideas are opening up a whole new world of potential possibilities and this is my first video I saw of yours! Thanks Danny!
Yep, you and I both bro! Great looking guys are pretty much eye candy to women, but try to build a relationship with one, and it is nonstop no trust issues and always assuming you are a player and have other women besides her. Yes, that can be true, but it is also true about guys who are not all that, esp in countries where men have the upper hand in dating, such as Russia and eastern Europe, where I lived for years.
If a women asks you if your gay, that's womanese for "Hey why haven't you ask for my number yet? Are you not interested?" This means she gave you signals of interest you must have missed.
Good looking ppl get envied because their life is on easy mode, and their results in dating come way easier than other guys. It's just like hating on a rich man cuz he's rich!
Everyone has problems. Rich people and handsome people have problems to solve to get the outcomes they want next. The people who wish they were handsome or rich dismiss the problems of the handsome and rich. Sometimes the handsome and rich dismiss the problems of the uglier and poorer people. Just like some parents dismiss the problems their kids have: “Wait until you get a job.” “You don’t really know what stress is.” It’s a cultural difference. They grew up differently from us or are maybe dismissing their own childhood issues. People who stay in touch with being formerly poor, formerly less attractive, or formerly a child. And maintain a positive attitude toward solving their higher level problems. They are the best.
This is very true and should be talked about more. I have been told multiple times that people assumed I was someone I wasn’t before they even got to know me, based on looks. People have got to realize what a shallow mindset that is to have. To be jealous and envious of others because they are well off or succeeding just goes to show the low quality heart they have. If someone thinks they are lesser than another, a fast way to be genuinely attractive is to be a good caring person who wants others to be blessed rather than trying to tear others down. That goes beyond looks.
I'm 34 years old. Recently, I cut my long hair, dropped from 220 to 185, all well putting on and toning muscle. Also, I have made better clothing choices than I did, even when I used to be at 185 lbs. I started noticing other guys in public giving me dirty looks or just consistently mean mugging despite the fact that im not over the top with my style. Noticed more positive interaction with women, though. It took me a minute to realize why all the dirty looks. I guess I had just forgotten what it's about, I used to get this in my 20s when i was in shape. Like guys going completely out of their way to start shit with me at social settings like bonfires or bars even though I was there with my kids mom (now ex-wife) and not hitting on other women. It's just beta rage. Luckily, it is easily dealt with.
As a handsome man, it doesn't matter what you do. I play videogames and most girls would think that's childish so I have to stop playing in order to get a girl but for you guys, you can play with action figures and watch spongebob and she wont care. Be grateful. I wish I could be a kid forever honestly and that's what you handsome guys basically have, that freedom to do what you want without people judging you too harshly for it.
This is very true. You will feel loads of passive aggressiveness and stupid ass jokes from other men. Because they know many women will be ON you and the very much dislike that.
@mamaurax25 ESPECIALLY as a handsome BLACK MAN 😒. Being a Tyrone (had to put in the grind work though), MANY non-select Black ninjas would try you on some hoe chit, or act like male groupies on some bruh bruh chit.
Of course. Watch a woman’s face light up in a handsome guy’s presence and see the mediocre men with a mean mug on. Even if they already have a woman they’ll still be that way. They can’t stand that the good looking man is selected and treated so positively while they’re just treated like an average Joe. Men are egotistical and competitive, they get bitter when they see the Chad succeed and is well liked. They secretly want to see you fail. The hidden feelings always come out. That’s why they start messing with you in some way. They can all see you’re fly and know how the women feel about you. It’s a wrap at that point. Stay on your guard.
I watched as a woman out of curiosity of seeing the other perspective. I guess it’s similar for attractive men and women in some ways. I always assumed it was easier for attractive guys than for attractive girls bc female jealousy is more prevalent than male jealousy since the importance of women’s looks is more emphasized in our society… but I guess it’s just hard for everyone. I feel like attractive ppl need to be thicker skinned and more careful about who they become involved with and the attention they attract.. you said that attractive men tend to attract attention from the women they don’t want rather than the ones they do… it’s def like that for attractive women. & yeah, I’m more intimidated if I see a hot guy and I have been guilty about assuming he’s a jerk.
I’ve always heard first impression lasts forever. But I never thought about how people would perceive me just by seeing me. Great content. Hope to see more videos similar to this topic. Thanks
you have to deal with alot of b.s from men and women...the two common interactions i experience, with women is guilt by association they all see me as some hot guy that scorned them in the past...the other is men and women put high expectations on you and when i slip up in some way they narcissistically get off on it.
Yea sir we do need more content like this. It can actually be difficult dealing w/ jealousy, hatred, one-uping, trying to put you down ect. ect. Learning the best ways to deal with this is a great idea
Thank u so much 4 making this, its exactly wut i needed 2 hear. Wish more channels would talk about the cons of being handsome. Thought i was going crazy, but u put it in 2 focus and now i have peace🙏
That advice is something I hadnt heard of ....''address it in a calm Stoic way and never show an insecurity or emotional responce'' Being 150 lb Ektomorph (small bones) liking the cool clothes wealth and success Im constantly bombarded with that crap and almost always surrounded with backward hick style people. It normally triggers a fury in me that can ruin everything I mean anger that stays with me for Days .... I think youre right, Im going to try that......
And how can guys assess how handsome they are? Is it a self-assessment or is it via the opinions of others? Some guys might delude themselves into thinking they are not handsome, or even more handsome than they are. I guess it depends greatly on their self-image.
Good question. I'm of the opinion that it's primarily something determined by others. So if you receive compliments throughout your life on your looks or you can get objective opinion from a variety of women, that would be a good indicator. I definitely agree guys can also delude themselves into thinking they aren't good looking or question if they're attractive, which is why I prefer to go off the feedback of other people (and a big enough sample size) to avoid delusions.
If you don't know you are handsome you probably aren't because people will make it obvious to you and especially women through how they interact with you. I don't even understand why this average joe sees himself as qualified to talk about this
I've never been called handsome by women, but I can tell that women really like my looks the way a lot of em just stare at me, loads of choosing signals and outright aggressive staring from some women. I live in a country where people don't really compliment random people, so all I have to go for is the way women any age look at me and how older married women want to come visit me at my place, or that I come visit their place when their husbands aren't at home etc.... Also as in the video, some guys start acting hostile towards you which is really good indicator also that your looks are good. So all I got to go for is the information I get from other people, mainly women since they don't stare at ugly uninteresting people.
Regarding how handsome a guy thinks he is... the chances are most guys will exaggerate their belief system. The reality is few guys are strikingly handsome with perfect/near perfect symmetrical features, very dominant lower third, (jawline area), pretty eyes. That's now how the average guy looks. If that were true most guys you'd see in public would be 8 ish or higher in looks. Go outside and do a test. See how many 8s (or maybe 7.5s) you see over a week or month. Probably very few compared to all the average looking guys you see. Same for most women too. Most women are not 8s or above. Women can cheat of course and wear makeup to fool guys they are considerably better looking. Unfortunately guys don't have the luxury of wearing lots of makeup to increase their looks rating.
@@bluegiant13A lot of handsome guys don't know. Most people don't complement men who are very handsome because they assume he knows already. Women view men differently than men, if the guy who made this video thinks he's handsome based on his interactions with women, then that means that WOMEN find him handsome. He couldn't care less about another man's opinion of his looks
Also I’m realizing something here! In the past I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me… I’m an introvert by nature but through sheer force of will and experience I’ve become more outgoing… BUT STILL, I struggle to make friends and I always get these bad vibes from people even though people that know me say I’m like the greatest thing since sliced bread.. I’ve always wondered is there something bad about me.. some Asperger’s that’s gone undiagnosed or some shit.. I’m funny and make people laugh, I have good convos with people, I like to smile and have a good time… I’m not stupid (though I’m no Einstein either) but listening to you man… now I see that it’s jealousy and insecurity and while I’ve been told that and heard that all my life.. you are breaking down how that matters and manifests. I’ve basically got to go above and beyond in the likeability department to make people at ease. I can’t go with a 5/10 or 6/10 likeability like the average person.. I need to ramp that up to extreme levels to offset peoples perception of my being arrogant… this is amazing!!!
I'm not the most handsome dude but I hear I'm reasonably good-looking. It's amazing how quickly women will do the same behaviors to handsome guys as the "creepy guys" that they all talk about lol
I was accused of being a player by an older woman once. I’m sitting there in a bar just chatting with people and she kinda yelled it for everyone to hear. It was baffling to me because I’m either rejected, friendzoned or totally ignored by women. Spent many years involuntary celibate. My love life has ranged from disastrous to non existent which has greatly effected my self esteem. Honestly, I thought she said it because she could see how unattractive I felt myself to be and this was the raw nerve to strike at. But now I wonder , am I not as unattractive as I thought?
Bro...some women try to r@pe your attention by doing negative stuff like that. If you were unattractive, you would never have caught her eye. She couldn't STOP noticing you, reasoned that you would NEVER be interested in her, and took away your consent to NOT notice her--all while getting lots of negative attention from everyone and 'humbling" you. Whenever some chick does that, do the following: look at her for a fraction of a second as if you are confused, then make a face that projects to everyone watching that she is not worth your attention before going right back to what you were saying before. Give her no more of your consideration. If she tries to say something again, say "I'm not interested; don't talk to me." It should be loud enough for everyone to hear, and say it with as little negative emotion as possible--as if you're bored/disgusted with her because you get this all the time. Be prepared for her to creep around and try to get your attention all night. Try it out, man! Don't let liars and bad-faith actors get in your head! Go forth and live YOUR best life!
I feel this video 😢😢, I'm going through a heartbreak, my roommate who i thought was my good friend was actually a snake this whole time because he despise for who i am
I've been labeled a pretty boy, hot, and handsome my entire life. I've never viewed myself as such. I've also been insecure my entire life about my attractiveness and have always carried myself with low self esteem never taking these compliments seriously. I'm now in my early 40's and have finally gained some perspective into how I've been perceived and how so many relationships have crashed and burned unbeknownst to me as to why throughout my years. This video has hit the mark with so many of my own life experiences around women and men. Women labeling me gay for rejecting them or no longer wanting to date them? Check. Settling for low caliber women because of their aggressive nature towards complimenting/catcalling me? Check. Having "friends" always make me the butt of their jokes if women approached me while going out for drinks? Check. Having men hate me because I've spoken to their girls in a platonic manner. Check. Part of me has always been in denial about my attractiveness because I don't want to believe that thats the reason why so many people have treated me horribly at times. I've always tried to place the blame inward, like something is wrong with my personality, but after watching this video I'm starting to believe that it really falls on the individual and their perception of me.
It really is all to do with that. They might look for flaws or create a situation to justify their feelings, make you look like the bad guy, but it’s usually they just act on their negative emotions in some way. I guess they think people won’t catch on to what they’re doing or maybe they don’t care. It’s not your fault, you can’t help the way you look. These people know they can’t beat you in looks so they try and socially dominate you. Men are even worse than women because they are insanely competitive and overly confident in themselves, or just very insecure. At least women support each other more, the “sisterhood” and all that. But men? They’ll straight up take you down for being better than them, they’re ruthless. That’s why it’s important to cut out the bad ones and try and find decent people to be around. Many people are just insecure and egotistical, they can’t handle someone else being better, but that’s their problem. They’re gonna have to deal with their own flaws and shortcomings and bad behavior. Don’t let these lowlifes get to you.
It’s interesting that many behavioral tactics and instruments women apply that you mention undeniably similar to diagnose criteria to those of narcissistic , which is by itself deadly in the long run.
Of course when others can’t get women like myself they link up together tryna intimidate a real man and when there tactics doesn’t work it forces them to fight you cause there ego got damaged by someone they can’t figure out
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As a handsome guy, I can confirm almost everyone hates or dislikes me before they even meet me. I’m a 23 year old guy with zero friends.
Zero
Yep, thats the number Im at too
At least their jelly I guess😂
Not only that but they will look for reasons to dislike you and hate on you in order to justify their feelings. They want to assert themselves above you in order to feel better. They don’t even know who you are, what else could be the reason? It’s because of the way you look. You look better than they do and most people won’t like that one bit. Few people are truly humble and grounded and secure.
Same here. What a beautiful life😂
I have one
Not zero at all
This is why I'm as kind as I can be with other men. Treat them like a brother. Because I know the disgusting power of envy. It can make us feel so alone and undeserving. I wish you all the best, my dudes🌟🙌
Envy and competitiveness
This works either way too bro , in my case I tried treating everyone like a brother but many interpreted that in a manipulative way kinda like I wanted something from them so they hit defensive .
@@Adi29x i must admit i'm kind of like that too. I don't try to be all defensive but I try to brush people off that are "too nice" especially right off the bat. I think it's normal because any regular person should be skeptical.
Men trying to compete is a common reaction to feeling insecure, you will see it a lot as a handsome guy, and it will come about in various ways. All they’re doing in the end is confirming that they think you’re good looking, without realizing that you are catching on to it. Take it as a compliment.
I am at some level myself where I've been on BOTH sides of the coin plenty at least as I interpreted the situation and how I felt...near impossible to eliminate the problem of feeling less than, real or imagined. So yes, important to keep one's KNOWN advantages in mind, and if possible, without the intent detected, make a smooth comment relaying the REALITY of society. Extreme example: "you're frickin' hung aren't ya I knew it" immediate response "doesn't keep 'em around! Nope!!"
You could still be seen as humblebragging but again the TRUTH shows through, maybe even 45 minutes later or 15 days later when the other guy ruminates on it a little bit.
WE built it all so THEY could have the luxury of complaining about US making grape jokes instead of suffering war all of the time....
The moment you stop caring about what people think about you is the moment you have peace and freedom.
Not caring what they think about you and thinking/knowing the myriad of ways they can sabotage and bring you down are two different things. Passive aggressive motherfuckers. So in a way I do care about what they think about me. I know your gonna say something along the lines about not caring in an inner confidence with yourself way but I can’t help but admit that I do care what they think for all they can do. Even almost to the point of bullying you and starting some kind of fight or altercation-even if not necessarily physical-and then manufacturing the narrative to police that you were the problem you were the one who started problems with them your the problem to everybody else etc etc on and on and on. These people are sick and demented. Their passive aggressive insecurities can really cost you a lot of time energy sorrow and resources. So I always got to feel like I have to dip and dodge the snares and traps and gauntlets that these trash throw out in society and their EVERYWHERE man I mean EVERYWHERE. And I’m an introvert and just Do Not have the energy for it.
Facts
Easier said than done 😅
Well said
Bingo
You even start to be hated by your own friends.. can’t tell you how many friendships I’ve lost due to getting better women.. but i don’t mind being the lone wolf
I have no male friends
Without fail their women will always 'make a scene' or sometjing
Most dudes are boring trash anyway tho
The competition is fierce and practically never ends. Yep even the married or taken guys will be envious. Why should they care? They already have a woman. Yet they will make it very clear that they don’t like that you get more attractive women than they do, and more positive attention from women in general, it makes them furious on the inside.
Many just don’t know how to truly appreciate what they have and let others live their own lives. Everyone should just play the hand they’ve been dealt and let others be, but things aren’t so simple in that way.
human psychology bro..nothing else
Facts. As soon as I started hitting gym that’s when all this started.
Get prepared 💯
A girl was dropping hints that she liked me, but I didn't respond to them. She was cute just not my type personality wise. Next thing you know she's joking around with me that I’m gay. Not being into you does not make me a Homo Sexual 🤦🏽♂️
Ha! Gaaaaaayyyyyyy!
☕Womn
The Rule of Thumb needs to come back
Right after we repeal the 19th
Typical petty behavior. People always act that way with attractive people if you don’t do exactly what they want, they get pissed.
That's not petty behavior, it's the last option girls use if they are into you to try to get your interest. The gay thing is womanese for "Why are you not asking for my number?".
Need more handsome men’s game for sure! I experienced something similar after I lost 50 pounds, gained muscle and implemented a face care routine. I was dumbfounded as to how people I just met tried to prove something to me and talking all about their accomplishments and their financial status. Especially around women.
I often get dudes girlfriends checking me out and even though I'm not looking back I can see in my peripheral vision an angry jealous look of boyfriends face and sometimes a deep loud sigh even if dude has no girlfriend. Kinda hard to make friends when people are offended by what someone look like
Just be a confident mf...i save you 14 minutes of bs....indirectly pushing incofidence..nah man i got you
Facts. They’ll try to throw shade through passive aggression in front of women.
@@gymbum9891 Sometimes it feels like it sucks, but trust me, you would not want to live even one day of your life being as miserable as most people are. It always makes me wonder what these men and women think of themselves that generates all this hatred and negative energy in them. I've made efforts to make them getting bet and get out of their comfort zone but all it has led to was even more frustration. Nowadays it is my amusement to watch them getting angry over things I've accomplished and they just wanted to, most of them unfortunately cannot be helped.
People “qualify” themselves when they feel inferior. It happens to me as well. I just show them I’m normal, even though I don’t feel that way all the time 😂
I've even tried being overly nice to others. It's like this...
In the workplace for example, I've been told by a few women that they find me attractive. The issue was that, they said it in front of other guys and I didn't pursue a relationship with any of these women. So from that point on, the other guys were envious of me and the females just hated me to the core. It can get overwhelming and always be prepared to find another job lol.
Fax if you don’t worship the women after they confess they will hate you
dont do it brahh .. just do ur job ,,, and go home ..
Big facts bro💯
@@MrComic97ouch.. had it happen. The hate is outta this world
@@dannykicks603 me too. When you don't live up to their fantasy projections & give them what they want they hate you as much as a woman can hate anything in this world. You become every man theyve had an issue with their whole lives.
I been on both sides…..i have concluded it’s better to be good looking 😂
People treat you better
They are more likely to help you out
Life is somewhat easier
More opportunities are given
The halo effect is real!
Yes, but it can be lonely. You really can’t ever let your guard down, bc the second you do, somebody will turn that shit around on you or use it against you. Envy and jealousy are real.
I've been getting hated on since middle school and it took me a while to figure out why
Same. I’m guessing you got a lot of the usual strange behavior from these clowns? People making fun of you, people playing pranks or playing a dirty trick on you, people blaming something on you when you didn’t do anything, people looking for and pointing out any flaws or mistakes, people being awkward and inconsistent around you- sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. People spreading rumors about you and talking about you behind your back, men trying to make you look bad in front of women, people overreacting to something you said or did, people happy to see you fail in some way or taking pleasure in your misfortunes. People thinking you’re conceited or arrogant, people comparing you to a less attractive person, people trying to make you think you aren’t handsome, saying someone else looks really attractive in your presence, guys talking about how they can get attractive women to sleep with them or how a woman thinks they’re attractive. Men generally being extra competitive with you, going as far as bullying or picking fights with you and trying to tear down your social status, people wanting to use you or get you to give them money or possessions. Men calling you a faggot, a bitch, or some other insult.
The list goes on but that covers a lot. Usually it’s women who get a bad rap when it comes to envy and insecurity but in my experience men are just as bad if not worse. It just isn’t talked about as much and men pretend they aren’t jealous and cover up that fact, and people need to know about it. Attractive guys deserve basic human decency just like anyone else. Facing these issues from people who want to see you fail is not a pleasant experience and these people secretly enjoy it when they see you suffer. When you’re really good looking you just tend to see the depravity of human beings. You go through life being hated on and have people trying to tear you down, people trying to sabotage your relationships. You think almost everyone hates you and that there’s something wrong about you and then after you’ve seen the same patterns of behavior over and over you realize those people who hated on you were actually envious of you and wanted to be you. Some even secretly admired you and many of the women had a crush and wanted to hook up with you. These lowlifes didn’t even know who you really were, they just hated on you for your good looks. Once you realize this you can rise up and take your rightful place. And all the mediocre losers stay right where they are, like the bottom feeders that they are. Never let anyone tear you down and make you feel like you don’t belong or aren’t worthy. Haters try to make you feel like something that is good about you is bad, but we know now exactly what they’re up to. Their devious scheming behavior loses it’s effect once you take your power back and pass them all up.
@@AndI0td763
Holy shit. I’m starting to understand now. How is this so real.
@@z1ll4jr53 I’m glad you get it man. Any truly handsome guy will have experienced at least a few of these things. And it’s not something that just gets talked about openly much but it’s all very true, I’ve seen all these things and more. It helps to relate to the other guys who’ve been through this.
@@AndI0td763 As a man, im not other "men".
@AndI0td763 very well said man 👏🏻
One thing that I’ve noticed is that it’s hard to implement yourself in new friend circles. The single guys and guys with girls friends will often times be really strange around you and keep you out of the circle.
To the other single guys you are competition , bro up the dudes first
I've experienced this. I'm seen as a threat.
Facts
Being a handsome man, you need to be tough as well, too much jealousy and insecurity out here. Be head strong, be confident and enjoy the fact that you are a good looking bloke, unlike most of the ugly munters out here. Also, only beautiful men on the inside make handsome men on the outside ;)
True man you gotta get thick skin otherwise ur done for 😂
Preach
Got a gun pulled on me three times last year..
How to even know if you are handsome or not
@@Marrtinike19buddy if you are asking that question, you got a long, long way to go
So much truth man. I’ve even had “friendships” basically ruined because of awkward energy around there women. And it was always very discouraging, and I never knew how to handle it. Content like this is needed
I can relate to this 100 %. I dont understand why people have to be so insecure, i mean why are you even in a r/ship if you cant trust your woman fully around other men.
@@freedom4life123 Send your woman on a beach vacation with single girls and you will be cured of your concern
Bingo. Can complete relate. I get hit on by my friend’s girlfriends, I don’t react or ignore and still get kicked out/ abandoned from them all. It hurts so bad.
@@freedom4life123 Building self-esteem is hard work that most people avoid.
I grew up poor and with low self-esteem so I never had the confidence to approach most girls I liked. When I finally got my own job in high school and did things to improve my self-image and confidence, all women I'd approach assumed I was a player.
I get this all the time and the handsome men end up losing out because most women just assume your a player.
Story of my precious life bro... Its messed up man 😔
They assume the popular jock types are players, not all handsome guys. Most women appreciate a good looking guy but they have different types they’re attracted to. You can be the more reserved mysterious type and women won’t necessarily assume you’re getting all the girls, they’ll just think a lot of them have a crush on you which would be true and is confirmation bias. Many will like a man who has value in that way. Can’t really paint a wide brush in this case it really depends.
Trust me, you don't want to be a player. It's TOO much stress trying to juggle 3, 4 or 5 women. You have to constantly be on HIGH ALERT mode. You have to put up with the BS, have different phone numbers, have monitor every single thing you do to not cause any alarms suspicion, have to talk your way out of a sticky situation, have to go against your own good nature and moral code and be the bad guy. Then you have to watch out for the controlling, manipulating, possessing, stalking behaviors. I am telling you, all this takes away any pleasure and you wish that you just settle down with just one or none at all. Living the player lifestyle is not easy nor is it fun. It's just a thing some men do because of some other underlying psychological reason other than getting laid.
@@DwyaneWadeCounty yeah I figured itd be too much for me anyways.
Yes, jealous husbands and boyfriends are a pain in the ass, but a small price to pay to win at the game.
I JUST avoid em altogether to minimize the fxxkery. I'm strong,fast, TRAINED,and defense carry...rather NOT have to stretch a jealous bf/hubby TF out👀 over "his" girl UNLESS no choice 😒💯💯💯🧔🏾♂️
@@jackiechun5817 Shh is real out there bro, i feel ya
@@jackiechun5817can you knock someone out within seconds bro? You must be humble as fuck to not bother with peoples jealousy
@@jackiechun5817 HAHA I LOVE THIS COMMENT 😁
LOL! I found being handsome gets you into the quicksand sooner.
You actually have to NOT GIVE A FUCK PERIOD! It works, but most Men can’t do that. 💪🏾
Well it’s really a respect thing. Especially if it’s at work.
Facts it may take time but eventually I get used to it
Facts 💯
@@jadar9356took the words outta my mouth brother. The disrespect can be very out of hand sometimes. It's like they don't even realize that I am a person too.
Facts bro I get better results when I don’t care
Bro , thank you for this video. I went from 115 pounds to 185 lean and totally transformed my life in every way. Literally had people just assume I was a narcissist, women would think I was some playboy off the bat, even random work colleagues who would take pot shots at me for my looks and being fit. Really needed this video
Yep, you and I both bro!
Lol is this between the ages of 12 and 16? You definitely didn't gain 70lbs of muscle.
I've been called handsome all my life. This is a very good explanation as to why random women in random places give me dirty looks without my ever having to utter a word. One glance at her without me showing any interest in her whatsoever, and she gives me a dirty look. I could never put a finger on why that was occurring over & over. And the other guy mate guarding his girl? I get that ALL THE TIME. Good video bro.
Me too I’m pretty good looking especially when I have a decent haircut and beard trim with casual clothes
Maybe everyone knows that you’re gay except for you?
It’s basically them being on guard knowing women like us more than the average guy.
@@bekabeka71 have you come out of the closet yet?
@@Rzazigzag lol why are you asking that
As a dude who struggles with confidence, I am SO glad I came across this video.
The worst part is the envy from other men. I can deal with all of the psychological head games and b.s. from ladies because it's expected.
But when other men in your life start displaying that same emotionality, lack of discipline and self control over your decision to care for yourself, it's a test of mental toughness to stay above the petty drama. Win through it guys 💯.
100% stay blessed fam 🙏
Had a huge glow up from 23 to 26-27 and I lost the few friends I had, including childhood friends that became jealous that I attracted girls whereas I used to be an ugly fat loser with 0 social skills. They were just feeling better having me around when I was unattractive, it helped them to deal with their insecurities. At least being handsome made me realize I was hanging out with toxic insecured people that I should have got ridden off way earlier.
Same exact experience right here
Also what ive noticed can be a sign someone is intimidated, nervous, uncomfortable or jealous is when they look at you and clear their throat with cough.
Absolutely
yea or sniff 😂
I ran into this space in the red pill and I thought I was the only one that would experience these kind of things. I’m introverted and based on feedback and comments I’ve heard I am handsome. I have been accused of being a player and I evoke insecurities in men around me and women I date. I’ve had to master weight lifting and fighting for these reasons. I’ve had women try to get other men to attack me because I was not interested or I’ve had them defame my name to other women to make it harder for me to date. At a local gym I used to attend a girl i befriended told me that women would speak in the restroom and had said I had slept with them even though I’ve never even knew who they were or spoken to them. Also you get dudes trying to punk you, so it causes you to develop a strong back bone. Being handsome has been a double edge sword. Amongst other experiences I can say, I became a sigma and lone wolf. Let me know if any of you guys out there had any similar experiences, it feels good to relate.
Truth. Similar experiences down to the sigma personality.
@frankjrock FACTS homie 🎯, this chit gets alittle crazy from time to time ngl🤣💯💯💯💪🏾🧔🏾♂️
Same here brotha
A real sigma will intimate men and women, i experience this every day, I walk with my head straight and show confidence and boy does that intimidate both sexes I also learned and practice muay thai everyday so deep down I know how to defend myself but I rarely get looked at even by guys much bigger than me lol
When you said that random women you didn't know started to tell people you have slept with them that's where your stories have holes. I’m a woman and women usually do not bragg about such stuff if anything it's the opposite (in exceptional cases they do that only if they have really slept with you and you have super high status like a big celebrity or supper popular etc) but women on average do not make up lies about sleeping with an average guy they don't even know and start bragging about it. Either 1. You are lying and just made up this whole scenario. OR 2. The girl who told you about it lied to you for whatever reason that is.
This video is too true if I get one more guy holding his woman extra tight when I walk by I swear lol.
Every. Damn. Time. I walk outside and dudes do stuff like that
@@savvy1221 lol it's the Men's version of clutching your pearls or lack their off 🤣
Incel
That shit really scares me sometimes bro, like u find a guy so insecure about u taking his girl when u haven't even opened ur mouth or done anything other than pass by them or just being in the same environment as them. Makes u wonder wat he would do if he really finds out u are taping his paradise
@@mattjr4206 well here in Texas you try that with us and you could be Identifying as a Holey Spirit when you meet Jesus and asking to be apart of the Trinity with it ending in a denial of the role.
Its true about girls testing me on the gay thing , also men either get along super well with me or they hate me and my family
hate your family? a bit extreme
@@tempacct5812yea my dad hate on me and my mom do to sometimes weird
The gay comments is so true. I get asked or insulted by that all the time. And catcall is accurate as hell.
Swrs I get called gay by girls 😂especially cus I dyed my hair gold at one point
@@nwokedidaniel7553Dying hair blonde is actually a trend in the gay community fyi, I wouldn't recommend you doing it
@@madallas_mons that explains it 😂😂😂Welp no more dyes anymore
@@madallas_mons My hair stylist once suggested I get blonde highlights in my hair. I told her it was kinda gay. She laughed and didn't bring it up again.
Yeah that’s why insecure white man call kpop idols and handsome Korean men gay lol
Yup. Not having the ego to go with it (despite being told all the time I'm "handsome") makes this very confusing. It's a first world problem, though, as they say: just be happy knowing you're blessed and use your force for good! Imagine if you were ugly... different game altogether. Be happy.
First world problem thats right. The negative interactions are people eliminating and putting below you themselves.
Thats what was sometimes happening when I was taking a lot of care of myself.
Being kind was the key that turned a lot of people. I really liked being attractive most of all because just being kind granted me significant rewards and it was a win freaking win.
A lot of rejection can just be spite
100% spot on. At my last interview for a good company, with my short haircut and everything, the lead interviewer is looking out the window shaking his head yes as I answer the last question, says “good answer” then in a clearly flat didn’t get the job tone “thank you for coming”. He just didn’t want to look at my face
I had this happen in the mid-nineties. Former Marine interviewed me for a sales job at a large company. Interview went great I thought but didn’t work out as I suspect he didn’t like me due to looking great in a suit and not a bad looking guy then. I believe he was insecure but after this outcome I realized I didn’t want to be in their employ. It was actually freeing me from perhaps a tumultuous relationship.
This is one of the extremely rare occasions I will leave a genuine comment and not just some silly shit for a joke. When he said a girl could think you are a douche or a player without ever talking to you, I felt that. A girl I worked with literally told me in person that she was completely wrong about me when she got to know me. It took several months for my personality to come through but one day I saw a complete change in her attitude towards me. She said when I first started working at the restaurant she just assumed I was just a douchebag purely based on how I looked. I was under the impression that I was average looking because I had only had two girlfriends at the time. She informed me that all the girls that worked there thought I was attractive but I was completely unaware. Since then several other people, men and women, have told me a version of, “I didn’t like you until I got to know you.” I was wondering why it seemed like new people didn’t like me without even speaking to me. Maybe it’s the assumed handsome man privilege but I still consider myself average looking. Everyone is there own toughest critic though.
story of my life bruh
hits super close to home
"only 2 girlfriends" bruh lol
I’m tall, attractive, athletic & in good shape and have tons of women interested in me. However, almost all of them are either intimidated by me & I have had women tell me they feel inferior to me and others say they can’t live up to my standards even though I’ve never even been out with them! wtf?
True. I've also same kinda of experience. Most chicks say they are not of my standard which makes me confuse what kinda standard they are talkin bout.
Same 💯
Yup, 100% here as well. I'm constantly getting he's out of my league vibes even just by the looks. And if I start talking to them, it's even worse and then they think I'm outer space out of their league... pretty shitty.
To me it’s more my male coworkers that disrespect me. I’m 6’2 170 and fit, braces for 2 years and now have great white teeth, thick black slicked back hair , always go out my way to smell good. They always try to treat me like the punching bag and then get mad when I don’t take it. I’ve noticed more handsome guys and same height are more friendly.
Lift some weights brother. I'm your height and 195 with below 10% body fat. Start packing some muscle and THEN watch their reactions. Not only are you handsome, you are also intimidating at that point.
This video was so unbelievably ACCURATE, especially the group invites, gym stuff and defensive men. Even when your just minding your own!!!! All my guy friends ditched me once they got girls!!! Best friends of 4-5 years +
The fact that so many content creators been doin handsome men’s game vids ; and not given Josten his cred shows the Ego involved in this space; big S.O. To Danny Vera definitely underrated creator
Rom Wills started handsome men's game
He isn't handsome, he is delusional 😂
@@rafaeljoaoantunes1042 finally somebody spoke the truth 👍
Because he's coping.
Oh man, that happed to me a few weeks ago. There's a fitness chick at my gym that tries to ignore me but I often catch her staring and purposely doing exercises next to me. Her boyfriend was doing shoulders and he saw that she was using a leg machine right next to me and he immediately came over to mate guard and pretend like he was going to do legs with her. I just laughed to myself and finished my workout.
haha its so obvious too
This happens all the time to me at the gym 😂 I'm like bro u look so beta and weak I don't want your girl 😂 but seriously dudes will come kiss their girl, slap their asses , and even had dudes just take their girl to a completely different spot 😂
Most women have no respect for their partners!
@@oldhpirs4 The mate guarding is real... Lol I never give women the chance to cheat, always be the guy she cheats with not the guy she cheats on. 😁😁
Things like this start to become a norm when you're improving. Like, never been more obvious lol
The worst thing is at the work place. All kindness and politeness received from girl coworkers at the beginning will become indifference and bitterness towards you when the time goes on.
Why ?
@@Dopaaamine27 Because they feel rejected in their mind by you.
Imagine being handsome and working. lol
Just play videogames on twitch and make bank.
Smh
Can confirm this. You will be hated like nothing else. Be very careful who you keep around you.
Rom Wills started handsome men's game.
I wish I had run into this channel before. So much truth. Men especially try to sabotage me. I have encountered so much toxicity from guys who I thought of as being my friends. I have always been a loner for this reason. It also took me a good while to build trust with my girl. It was always easy to build connections with women.
It’s a real issue. I’ve had to fight several times in the past because of jealousy. People don’t realize the amount of hate you get.
Brother Glad I found your channel. There are not much content on internet regarding what problems Handsome men face day to day.
I have gone through lot of issues you discussed in your video. Please make more videos on this, and how to overcome it.
some topics to discuss
- facing beta males in masses
- back talkers
- aggressive stares by betas in Gym
- Older men not taking us serious
etc etc
Thank you
Yes, old men not taking me serious, that so often happened to me, additionally I keep long hairs, people think I am some ........., reality I am a university topper with masters in Aerospace, people just don't believe me, this world is seriously nuts.
no wonder i have no gf and no wonder why so many people envy
but i take pride in making the haters even more envious by showing them even better
I'd jus ignore it, not tryna come off as "cool" by makinn em even more envious for attention.
That thing in the gym (guys constantly marking their territory when ur just in the vicinity of a girl they believe is their property) happens to me ALL the time now. Creeps the living hell out of me.
fact
Lmao, I have ZERO male friends
This happens all the time to me 😂😂😂 meanwhile I'm thinking "bro I don't want your girl relax" they'll usually come up to their girl and kiss them or grab their ass to let me know she's taken 😂
@@oldhpirs4 Yes dude, every fucking time. They appear out of nowhere too. And thats the exact same thing im thinking. It's always dudes who are p whipped. The dudes who are cool and secure, their girls follow them around, not vice versa.
@@oldhpirs4 Stg when dudes do that shit, they come off as gay. It's like Gtfo of my personal space you weirdo.
I'm attractive. Couples engage in PDA in front of me (after they notice me) out of the blue all the time.
I've had couples chase me to do that, crazy mfers
Ha! What are ppl even doing in the gym??
I'm not the most attractive guy, but I follow up with confidence and gentle assertiveness. I use it to the fullest at a farmers market where 90% of my customers are women, and the biggest downside is their boyfriends turn away their girls a lot. I find the best way to change this is to look the man straight in the eyes when I greet them, to make sure he knows I am addressing him first, and not after his girl, but i'll immediately get her to spend all his money.
Modern problems require modern solutions 😂🤌
You will get her to spend all his money? What do you mean?
😂😂
Hard to imagine mate guarding against the dude cashing out your tomatoes
Gettin the women to spend all they manz money, pretty sure they can get yu in trouble for that. Aye, all fun n games til yu meet one who gon crack yo jaw.
Bro i get attention all the time but dont know how to approach a woman and start a conversation. I am eager to do it but whenever i get a chance i freeze. You are right about one thing good looking women try to ignore because they dont want to feed your ego but you find them staring at you some times. Consequently you fall for ugly women, they ll stoop lower than anybody to get your attention but once they get it they defame you. Its a vicious cycle.
Jezus Christ, nail on the head with this one! They try to get your attention FOR THEIR VALIDATION 😂
They seek validation from attractive men, sometimes that’s all they literally want.
Truly the most important subject I never expected to get an answer to.
I was always the ugly duckling growing up, but was always optimistic, nice and loving to everyone.
Now that I grew up, hit the gym and am much improved, this reverse Halo effect was affecting me emotionally because I just couldn't understand why most social interactions were such a pain.
One of the most important things that helped me in this stage of life is to BE PATIENT, and STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF.
This confidence of being who I've always been, along with a good sense of humor makes having patience for the long game and creating new connections much more delightful.
Me too brother
Great video. I’ve always been considered very attractive all my life and now in my late 20’s I’m realizing everything you said is true and experiencing. All good looking learn self defense, get yo masculine energy up. Master yourself, mind, body, and soul..
You aint lying about the gym scenario. I've had complete strangers try to do or say some slick shit to me because their girl was into me and i had no clue who they or their girl are. One time I had a girl that was staring at me from a few machines down, she was working out with her man at that time, so apparently her guy noticed because I was keeping an eye out from the corner of my eye using my peripheral view. I was doing a leg workout and her guy litterally came two feet next to me and set down a bar like he was about to do deadlifts right next to me! I looked at him like what are you doing im working out here. He litterally said "cant you go over there and do it" trying to run me off my spot. I told him no I cant, you need to backup. so he backed up one foot. I looked at him like are you serious. I told him back up more so he backed up a few more feet. I told him yeah thats fine. I finished my last set. Then moved to where they were earlier and started doing deadlifts and outlifted him in front of his girl. People get stupid out here. I got plenty more stories like you would'nt believe but that one almost lead to a fight.
Your story is the exact reason why my uncle ended a lot of mens lives. Often times that tough act is over a woman. That's often times not even around to see it
By any chance are you on semen retention?
Yep. Gyms have become extremely toxic…. Dudes that are just “big” think they’re the best looking in the gym… when they’re just tall and have terrible proportions. These dudes will do supersets constantly in gym but they mainly do it so they can walk around gym and be seen… just desperate for somebody to see them… if you don’t look at them, they’ll come right in front of you it’s laughable … 😂 like ppl can’t just go to gym and lift 🤣 it’s not necessary to be waking aimless around gym supersets or not..
Please tell another man. Ive gotten some solace from this comment section knowing im not the only one who gets guys trying him like this. Took so long, basically my entire 20s before i realized how i secure some guys are and how they lash out because of the insecurity. Thankfully ive never had to get into anything other than a light scuffle, mostly just heated exchanges, but a lot of people get shot over silly stuff where im from and ive definitely had guys try to take it there with me over their girl giving me a look when i dont even give af about her or him.
Ive had male coworkers try to drag me through the mud with shit talk behind my back to girls, weird bragging and arrogant displays to try to convince the women around theyre some kind of “alpha”, even situations exactly like you described just not in a gym. This weird stuff from other guys has always been the most off-putting and confusing part of coming to terms with how my attractiveness might play into the situations I face, much more so than some of the strange behavior from women.
That's messed up man
Needed to hear that last five minutes. I’ve had days where the jealousy altered my mood
Right it really pisses you off bc we know we can’t do anything about passive aggression from them . As soon as we say anything we’re considered conceited or “crazy”
@@jadar9356 Dude I have to deal with this so much, you wanna do something about the passive aggression, but you know as soon as you do your getting called crazy, then on top of that you have to sit there and let the anger build up so you don't ruin your reputation, which just gets you more pissed.
Im 58 and get hate from men and women half my age. Its really sad that people paint a mental picture of you based solely on your looks.
Eddy you grow out those sides just to the point where it’s not faded and you’ll look hella classy
Because they are losers
@@USAPatriot001 Thanks i may just consider that bro 👍
@@sarak6083 Another reason to make the situation worse. Callin em "losers".
Cool but if you're handsome it doesn't and shouldn't matter to you lol
You can always find a girl who will love you for who you are and what you do regardless.
This is all true. I work now and then as a model and “has it all”, beautiful girl, home, car, bike etc. The hate is savage. Very tragic. 😢
I didn't know it for the longest time, but I was considered "a pretty boy" Growing up. I never knew it cause I was treated with such derision I actually thought I was ugly and unlikable, I just had no idea, and such I struggled with relationships all my life. Even when girls took an interest in me I always felt like I was just being teased. I'm 45 now, and although I ended up having a few significant relation ships in my life my last ended due to the pandemic and my governments response to it severing contact with my partner at the time (for two years) while she visited family over seas. Oh well I'm bald now, maybe that will help. LMAO
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men guarding their girl i have personally experiences this they literally see you as a competition if your are even above average looking
Bro I needed this, ive had all these symptoms it can get lonely! But damn you hit every point. Even the snakey friend
The number one thing about being handsome is people thinking your gay because you take care of yourself
Thankful that this got recommended to me! There is alot of content for regular dudes which want to improve but not much content on the drawbacks of being a solid dude.
This video got me nodding to alot of points and I’m kind of relieved that I’m not the only one who feels and experiences things like these. Thank you! 🤝
Bro, most women want ego boost from me, but they have the right assumptions about me too, for the most part
Yep, experienced this as a late bloomer who grew up in a conservative household in a country town. Moved to the city and I laugh at the assumptions some women have of me 😂 11:11 onwards is so accurate man
Me too
Im 39 now and handsome (always was) and the amount of unsolicited unwarranted JEALOUSY and saltiness (almost always from other males) I have seen in my life has been insane. I would even say that it started somewhere around age 7 or 8 too. I rise above it though. The Jealousy is real.
This sounds highly accurate and around the age when other males start openly expressing their envy. Men are even worse than women when it comes to this, it’s just ignored a lot. Women often tend to be much more supportive of each other where as men will show no remorse as they try and take you down for being better than them. You’ve gotta protect yourself and not let these envious mediocre men get to you, let them deal with their own issues as it eats them up on the inside. You were born with a gift, that is your birthright, how dare they try and take that away.
@@AndI0td763 I wonder why, prolly cus yu blame all men. Glad im BETTER.
😂u gotta do a video on that non attractive woman trying to get at u thing..currently going through it lol
What makes her unattractive
1. how does her face look?
2. is she fat
She could be more realistic than you, though.
There's just a sliiiiight chance you're the narcissistic one and overrating yourself 😆. Based on the picture.
See it way too often.
@szilardfineascovasa6144 lol never mentioned overrating myself but u are forsure assuming and speaking on my experience...all this based off a picture tho!? 😆
@@Blvkkise
Based on the incongruence between your words (the inconvenience of an unattractive woman hitting on you) and the picture. (Maybe you have better pictures.)
Logically, one would be led to conclude you consider yourself handsome. Or maybe you don't - I am wrong and aplogize then - and still look down on your lookalike.
Most of us are average. Nothing wrong with that.
@szilardfineascovasa6144 I got you 💯👌🏾
Who can relate: When your friends transform with a bitter attitude towards you as soon as they see a girl talking to you. I've suffered from this my whole life. I do have friends but then it becomes difficult to trust someone that you know is envious of you. Not saying all men are like that, but yes there's certainly some truth to this...
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Women will always look at me but tend to look away to, also alot if women cannot hold eye contact especially if theyre insecure which alot of women are, so rejection is a big thing with handsome men that ppl dont talk about, iv been with lots of women in my 34 years and wvery single chick told me i was very handsome and looking but before they meet me they always give me dirty looks lol
Yep. Being good looking is a blessing and a curse. I love it to be honest as I just genuinely love people that hate. Makes me improve my looks even more and my confidence just oozes everywhere. The men are just as bad. I always get called gay. It’s their way of sexual combat with other men, it’s a real thing.
God i hate people taking their insecurities on me because i was gifted genetically gifted. I know being handsome is a good thing, but it has down sides too. Dax said it best, "if your ugly and someone likes you, they really like you for you"
Such a great video mate, I find everything to be exactly as you explained it, in a way I’m less sad since now I can see, I’m not alone going through all that hate and toxicity.
Sometimes you even feel bad when women look your way, they smile and when you get close to them they avoid to look your way like is something wrong with you 😂
New subscriber here, would love to see you and JostenJ speak more on the topic💯
Handsome guys (HG) get alot of attention outside.
It is a gift from god to have been born this way.
But also i think it comes with a price as this video describes it well.
Glad that Danny used the word "Stoic". Helps keeping your mental frame regardless of outcomes.
As I look at this Scenario in way that I as an HG find myself like in a movie where I play different characters as a main lead.
What's under the hood is whatever that comes out of your mouth, in your present behaviour and in your smile.
I’m 34 yo and told I look like Bradley Cooper and have the body of a fitness model. I just moved to a small city in South Texas and can’t get a date to save my life. And I’m not going after bombshells, not that there are any here, but I can’t even get a date with a mid! Big cities are no problem, but it’s baffling to say the least. I have to drive an hour to go on dates now. I’m moving to Europe next month though. European women appreciate good looking men. Most American girls are trash.
You will fine if you stay away from Anglo countries. So stay away from the US, Canada and the UK. I say this as an Englishmen who’s also lived in Canada. I’ve lived in Europe and I’ve had far more luck. Women are more mature and less likely play games to get what they want. I would also say South America as well. They are more old school in a way but more feminine and sensual.
@@RaHeadD10 South America depends on the country because most Latinas prefer money and that you look like a criminal and gang member even if you are ugly. What Latin American countries are you talking about? Do you mean Argentina? They are the closest to Europeans because of their white skin and features and as they say above, European women like handsome boys and do not pay much attention to other aspects.
Sometimes it’s for envy, sometimes it’s for prejudice, sometimes it’s for something valid.
Your videos are 100% reality, even if some guys might call it BS (because they can't believe what they didn't experience). It's interesting, as I though men who have a more masculine attractiveness, like yourself, would not get such behaviors at all. At any rate, I think more "feminine" looking "pretty boy" types like Sean O'Pry (top rated male model), have it even worse than what you describe.
This video was truly amazing as I can literally relate to almost every topic you talked about. When I was young I remember my Grandma asking me if I have a lot of girls coming up and talking to me. I said no. She said that is because they think you are stuck up! I remember that so vividly, lol. And now lots of things are coming together after watching your video.
Many girls I met all asked me the question of if I was gay or stuff like that and I would just say no I am straight. But that happened all the time.
And yes I can also relate to almost never do I get approached by attractive women. there are times I can see them looking at me but 99% of the time they don't approach me. Some have approached me but that is very rare and usually it is because there might be a social thing in the background that allows that to happen.
It is like you said always the ones I am unattracted to that come up and talk and stuff.
In-fact, today in Trader Joe's I was noticing an older lady singing and dancing while walking near me. It was odd enough to make me think she was trying to connect with me but I could be wrong about that as well, but my gut tells me I was right.
But thanks for the video as it is super intelligent stuff and good to be aware of things.
Plus when girls would stand me up I always took that as a bad thing but now after watching your video I now realize they might have done it as a test and I could have given them a second chance to see what is going on. I thought the rejection might have meant they were not into me but maybe they were.
So lots of new ideas are opening up a whole new world of potential possibilities and this is my first video I saw of yours! Thanks Danny!
Yep, you and I both bro! Great looking guys are pretty much eye candy to women, but try to build a relationship with one, and it is nonstop no trust issues and always assuming you are a player and have other women besides her. Yes, that can be true, but it is also true about guys who are not all that, esp in countries where men have the upper hand in dating, such as Russia and eastern Europe, where I lived for years.
If a women asks you if your gay, that's womanese for "Hey why haven't you ask for my number yet? Are you not interested?" This means she gave you signals of interest you must have missed.
Haha! Yeah, I know, I've picked up on that a time or two when asked that by women. @@ardvan
So sad people judge this way.
This is basically why i dont go outside.
Same here bro
Lol 😂😂😂
Good looking ppl get envied because their life is on easy mode, and their results in dating come way easier than other guys. It's just like hating on a rich man cuz he's rich!
I am Hella handsome but my dating life iz zero.. Never dated what could be the pee
@@Mullan_IX I’m not and I’m with a hot latina rn
Everyone has problems. Rich people and handsome people have problems to solve to get the outcomes they want next. The people who wish they were handsome or rich dismiss the problems of the handsome and rich.
Sometimes the handsome and rich dismiss the problems of the uglier and poorer people. Just like some parents dismiss the problems their kids have: “Wait until you get a job.” “You don’t really know what stress is.”
It’s a cultural difference. They grew up differently from us or are maybe dismissing their own childhood issues.
People who stay in touch with being formerly poor, formerly less attractive, or formerly a child. And maintain a positive attitude toward solving their higher level problems. They are the best.
This is very true and should be talked about more. I have been told multiple times that people assumed I was someone I wasn’t before they even got to know me, based on looks. People have got to realize what a shallow mindset that is to have. To be jealous and envious of others because they are well off or succeeding just goes to show the low quality heart they have. If someone thinks they are lesser than another, a fast way to be genuinely attractive is to be a good caring person who wants others to be blessed rather than trying to tear others down. That goes beyond looks.
I'm 34 years old. Recently, I cut my long hair, dropped from 220 to 185, all well putting on and toning muscle. Also, I have made better clothing choices than I did, even when I used to be at 185 lbs. I started noticing other guys in public giving me dirty looks or just consistently mean mugging despite the fact that im not over the top with my style. Noticed more positive interaction with women, though. It took me a minute to realize why all the dirty looks. I guess I had just forgotten what it's about, I used to get this in my 20s when i was in shape. Like guys going completely out of their way to start shit with me at social settings like bonfires or bars even though I was there with my kids mom (now ex-wife) and not hitting on other women. It's just beta rage. Luckily, it is easily dealt with.
As a handsome man, it doesn't matter what you do.
I play videogames and most girls would think that's childish so I have to stop playing in order to get a girl but for you guys, you can play with action figures and watch spongebob and she wont care.
Be grateful. I wish I could be a kid forever honestly and that's what you handsome guys basically have, that freedom to do what you want without people judging you too harshly for it.
This is very true.
You will feel loads of passive aggressiveness and stupid ass jokes from other men.
Because they know many women will be ON you and the very much dislike that.
@mamaurax25 ESPECIALLY as a handsome BLACK MAN 😒. Being a Tyrone (had to put in the grind work though), MANY non-select Black ninjas would try you on some hoe chit, or act like male groupies on some bruh bruh chit.
100 %
wouldnt you?
Of course. Watch a woman’s face light up in a handsome guy’s presence and see the mediocre men with a mean mug on. Even if they already have a woman they’ll still be that way. They can’t stand that the good looking man is selected and treated so positively while they’re just treated like an average Joe. Men are egotistical and competitive, they get bitter when they see the Chad succeed and is well liked. They secretly want to see you fail. The hidden feelings always come out. That’s why they start messing with you in some way. They can all see you’re fly and know how the women feel about you. It’s a wrap at that point. Stay on your guard.
Facts. Then when you call them out on it they’ll claim plausible deniability.
I watched as a woman out of curiosity of seeing the other perspective. I guess it’s similar for attractive men and women in some ways. I always assumed it was easier for attractive guys than for attractive girls bc female jealousy is more prevalent than male jealousy since the importance of women’s looks is more emphasized in our society… but I guess it’s just hard for everyone. I feel like attractive ppl need to be thicker skinned and more careful about who they become involved with and the attention they attract.. you said that attractive men tend to attract attention from the women they don’t want rather than the ones they do… it’s def like that for attractive women. & yeah, I’m more intimidated if I see a hot guy and I have been guilty about assuming he’s a jerk.
I’ve always heard first impression lasts forever. But I never thought about how people would perceive me just by seeing me. Great content. Hope to see more videos similar to this topic. Thanks
you have to deal with alot of b.s from men and women...the two common interactions i experience, with women is guilt by association they all see me as some hot guy that scorned them in the past...the other is men and women put high expectations on you and when i slip up in some way they narcissistically get off on it.
Yea sir we do need more content like this. It can actually be difficult dealing w/ jealousy, hatred, one-uping, trying to put you down ect. ect. Learning the best ways to deal with this is a great idea
Give no attention is the way to deal with it
@@Movieclips_101 true
This has been the story of my life.....the hate is tremendous
Thank u so much 4 making this, its exactly wut i needed 2 hear. Wish more channels would talk about the cons of being handsome. Thought i was going crazy, but u put it in 2 focus and now i have peace🙏
That advice is something I hadnt heard of ....''address it in a calm Stoic way and never show an insecurity or emotional responce'' Being 150 lb Ektomorph (small bones) liking the cool clothes wealth and success Im constantly bombarded with that crap and almost always surrounded with backward hick style people. It normally triggers a fury in me that can ruin everything I mean anger that stays with me for Days .... I think youre right, Im going to try that......
And how can guys assess how handsome they are?
Is it a self-assessment or is it via the opinions of others?
Some guys might delude themselves into thinking they are not handsome, or even more handsome than they are.
I guess it depends greatly on their self-image.
Good question. I'm of the opinion that it's primarily something determined by others. So if you receive compliments throughout your life on your looks or you can get objective opinion from a variety of women, that would be a good indicator. I definitely agree guys can also delude themselves into thinking they aren't good looking or question if they're attractive, which is why I prefer to go off the feedback of other people (and a big enough sample size) to avoid delusions.
If you don't know you are handsome you probably aren't because people will make it obvious to you and especially women through how they interact with you. I don't even understand why this average joe sees himself as qualified to talk about this
I've never been called handsome by women, but I can tell that women really like my looks the way a lot of em just stare at me, loads of choosing signals and outright aggressive staring from some women. I live in a country where people don't really compliment random people, so all I have to go for is the way women any age look at me and how older married women want to come visit me at my place, or that I come visit their place when their husbands aren't at home etc....
Also as in the video, some guys start acting hostile towards you which is really good indicator also that your looks are good. So all I got to go for is the information I get from other people, mainly women since they don't stare at ugly uninteresting people.
Regarding how handsome a guy thinks he is... the chances are most guys will exaggerate their belief system. The reality is few guys are strikingly handsome with perfect/near perfect symmetrical features, very dominant lower third, (jawline area), pretty eyes.
That's now how the average guy looks. If that were true most guys you'd see in public would be 8 ish or higher in looks. Go outside and do a test. See how many 8s (or maybe 7.5s) you see over a week or month. Probably very few compared to all the average looking guys you see.
Same for most women too. Most women are not 8s or above. Women can cheat of course and wear makeup to fool guys they are considerably better looking. Unfortunately guys don't have the luxury of wearing lots of makeup to increase their looks rating.
@@bluegiant13A lot of handsome guys don't know. Most people don't complement men who are very handsome because they assume he knows already. Women view men differently than men, if the guy who made this video thinks he's handsome based on his interactions with women, then that means that WOMEN find him handsome. He couldn't care less about another man's opinion of his looks
Also I’m realizing something here! In the past I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me… I’m an introvert by nature but through sheer force of will and experience I’ve become more outgoing… BUT STILL, I struggle to make friends and I always get these bad vibes from people even though people that know me say I’m like the greatest thing since sliced bread.. I’ve always wondered is there something bad about me.. some Asperger’s that’s gone undiagnosed or some shit.. I’m funny and make people laugh, I have good convos with people, I like to smile and have a good time… I’m not stupid (though I’m no Einstein either) but listening to you man… now I see that it’s jealousy and insecurity and while I’ve been told that and heard that all my life.. you are breaking down how that matters and manifests. I’ve basically got to go above and beyond in the likeability department to make people at ease. I can’t go with a 5/10 or 6/10 likeability like the average person.. I need to ramp that up to extreme levels to offset peoples perception of my being arrogant… this is amazing!!!
I'm not the most handsome dude but I hear I'm reasonably good-looking. It's amazing how quickly women will do the same behaviors to handsome guys as the "creepy guys" that they all talk about lol
I was accused of being a player by an older woman once. I’m sitting there in a bar just chatting with people and she kinda yelled it for everyone to hear. It was baffling to me because I’m either rejected, friendzoned or totally ignored by women. Spent many years involuntary celibate. My love life has ranged from disastrous to non existent which has greatly effected my self esteem. Honestly, I thought she said it because she could see how unattractive I felt myself to be and this was the raw nerve to strike at.
But now I wonder , am I not as unattractive as I thought?
Bro...some women try to r@pe your attention by doing negative stuff like that.
If you were unattractive, you would never have caught her eye. She couldn't STOP noticing you, reasoned that you would NEVER be interested in her, and took away your consent to NOT notice her--all while getting lots of negative attention from everyone and 'humbling" you.
Whenever some chick does that, do the following: look at her for a fraction of a second as if you are confused, then make a face that projects to everyone watching that she is not worth your attention before going right back to what you were saying before. Give her no more of your consideration.
If she tries to say something again, say "I'm not interested; don't talk to me." It should be loud enough for everyone to hear, and say it with as little negative emotion as possible--as if you're bored/disgusted with her because you get this all the time. Be prepared for her to creep around and try to get your attention all night.
Try it out, man! Don't let liars and bad-faith actors get in your head! Go forth and live YOUR best life!
I think you can be friends and be mutually attracted to one another.... if you're adults those are just boundaries you don't cross❌️
I feel this video 😢😢, I'm going through a heartbreak, my roommate who i thought was my good friend was actually a snake this whole time because he despise for who i am
Excellent 🎯💯
There is this flipside to the 'impostor syndrome', where people think you are doing much better than you are actually doing. Crazy.
Good point
I've been labeled a pretty boy, hot, and handsome my entire life. I've never viewed myself as such. I've also been insecure my entire life about my attractiveness and have always carried myself with low self esteem never taking these compliments seriously. I'm now in my early 40's and have finally gained some perspective into how I've been perceived and how so many relationships have crashed and burned unbeknownst to me as to why throughout my years.
This video has hit the mark with so many of my own life experiences around women and men. Women labeling me gay for rejecting them or no longer wanting to date them? Check. Settling for low caliber women because of their aggressive nature towards complimenting/catcalling me? Check. Having "friends" always make me the butt of their jokes if women approached me while going out for drinks? Check. Having men hate me because I've spoken to their girls in a platonic manner. Check.
Part of me has always been in denial about my attractiveness because I don't want to believe that thats the reason why so many people have treated me horribly at times. I've always tried to place the blame inward, like something is wrong with my personality, but after watching this video I'm starting to believe that it really falls on the individual and their perception of me.
It really is all to do with that. They might look for flaws or create a situation to justify their feelings, make you look like the bad guy, but it’s usually they just act on their negative emotions in some way. I guess they think people won’t catch on to what they’re doing or maybe they don’t care. It’s not your fault, you can’t help the way you look. These people know they can’t beat you in looks so they try and socially dominate you. Men are even worse than women because they are insanely competitive and overly confident in themselves, or just very insecure. At least women support each other more, the “sisterhood” and all that. But men? They’ll straight up take you down for being better than them, they’re ruthless. That’s why it’s important to cut out the bad ones and try and find decent people to be around. Many people are just insecure and egotistical, they can’t handle someone else being better, but that’s their problem. They’re gonna have to deal with their own flaws and shortcomings and bad behavior. Don’t let these lowlifes get to you.
It’s interesting that many behavioral tactics and instruments women apply that you mention undeniably similar to diagnose criteria to those of narcissistic , which is by itself deadly in the long run.
Tall and handsome even more resented. Don't be surprised when short dudes despise you for no reason.
Of course when others can’t get women like myself they link up together tryna intimidate a real man and when there tactics doesn’t work it forces them to fight you cause there ego got damaged by someone they can’t figure out
This is the best video i've seen on this subject. I relate SO much to this. Thanks a ton.
Very informative video, subscribed. Would like to see some more Handsome Men's Game content.
100 percent agreed with this, especially the snake part.