Tea With Bea: Putting Down Heavy Stuff And I'm 2 Years Binge Free (approximately)
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At 35, is when I had my mid-life crisis. Lets face it, I am a realist. I was overweight, unhappy and had holes I didn't know how to fill. I thought I was so behind everyone else my age. Now I am 40, I have, in 5 years, got grounded in my faith, lost 95lbs, gained a Bachelors degree. I could still sit here and say, but I am not a homeowner, but I never had that second kid, I am not well-travelled. All those things to poke holes in myself but that leads to no progress. Its all about changing your mind and sticking to it. Making progress instead of making excuses. I am a long time watcher. I remember some of those struggles. We're here to support you too!
Making progress instead of excuses, doesnt matter how big or small. For someone whose been in therapy with better help/health for what how many years she hasnt really made any progress she needs to see a real therapist
@@Controversialopinions69? In what world has she not made progress? Are you ok?
@@amadamiaaa I think they are commenting on a lot of people's posts, I replied to them in a different post. They had a very close minded opinion, just like this one
@@Controversialopinions69 It's "who's", which is a contraction for "who has" been in therapy. For those who've not graduated grade... 2? You might also consider the use of punctuation sometimes.
@whitneywalker2085 You just described my life. 39, one kid, working on my bachelor's degree, not a homeowner. I think all the time that I am behind. I appreciate your comment. ❤ I'm proud of you!
I wish I could like this twice. You’ve made so much progress in so many areas! This internet stranger is proud of you!
this! exactly this! so proud of you Bea 💚 thank you for letting us in this much. Your journey is so inspiring!
Yes! Me, too 💕
That’s amazing, 2 years binge free is something to celebrate!
I am so glad you mentioned the Dad stuff. There's so so many people who can have a relationship with a parent once you get to the realization that they are never going to be the parent you wish for or imagine, simply because it is not in their capacity, so you just accept them at the place where they are because that is what they can give. That allows you to give up the guilt and weight for the lack of a relationship.
It’s not can ’s actually willing. I wish people would stop seeking out people who aren’t willing to do the bare minimum, simply because society has taught people a parent is always suppose to be in the life no matter how off they treat their child.
As someone who has a biological father that does that same crap etc and has done worse, i have no guilt i dont feel sorry for him cause hes alone cause he made it this way no one else did so why should we feel guilt?
@@Controversialopinions69 Your experiences, like mine, have led you to not talk to your parent, but for Bea it is different. Her needs are clearly different to your needs, and thats okay. Every situation is different and every person is different. Even after the horrible things my dad did to myself and my family, I still feel guilty every so often for cutting him out. It's all about dialectics, you can maintain boundaries by not talking to your parent whilst also understanding how said boundary is hard on them. I think this is what happens when you've reached a certain level of healing.
My jaw literally dropped when you said you hung out with your Dad. I am WOW'd by you Bea...hugs to you. 🌹
Same!
I know right? I set down my matcha 🍵 and leaned into the screen wide eyed like she was actually in the room spilling hot tea 😂
this!!! :D
I know me too! I was like oh yeah she wasnt kidding about spilling the tea!
Same. So happy for Bea 💖
Congratulations on your accomplishments! It's taken me a year to lose 5 lbs but what people don't see is the muscle I've gained, the core strength I now have and balance that has improved my quality of life, the fact I can do a low squat and my ankles and feet feel amazing. This journey is so much more than just losing lbs. My sleep has improved, my relationship with alcohol and food has improved, and I'm on the path to getting my ADHDS/Autism diagnosis from my therapist and psychiatrist AND I got a degree. Saying "I've been on a fitness journey for a year and I've only lost 5lbs" would be SUCH a negative mindset. It took me a year just to dial in what me and my partner should be eating and how to resist weekend temptations, it's a process and that's ok! Small, incremental changes ftw. Idc if it's not entertaining for the algorithm.
Congratulations 🎉 I had to do a mental shift concerning weight loss too.
That's amazing!! Proud of you!
It was absolutely astonishing and impressive and beautiful to see you be able to talk about your Dad. I am so proud of you. I can remember when you weren't able to say My Dad without having anxiety and pain. It's so amazing all the work that you've put in, and so much growth! I am just blown away by how you've grown! Well done Bea!!!
This made me realise I’m almost 1 year binge free!!!!!!!!
Good job to us and to anyone out there trying (whatever that might look like) ❤
Happy for you ❤.
That's so awesome! 🤗
Any other video I’m watching immediately ends when I get the notification Bea has posted a new video.
I totally just did the same. Was watching another one and saw Ms. Bea and immediately clicked on hers.
SAME!
Absolutely
Burnt mouth, sweaty, just cried is such a MOOD. Who doesnt go to the grocery store like this?! Love you B keep up the good work 💛
You are so cool, self-discovery, and then sharing it publicly is very brave . You are helping a lot of people just by being honest about yourself.
Congrats on seeing your dad. He reminds me of my mom. I think sometimes society puts so much pressure on people to talk things out and have this big confrontation to address the past and it keeps people from moving forward. Sometimes the best thing you can do is leave the past in the past and move on. I hope seeing each other is happy and healthy for you all
Good evening, Bea! This is my first time writing to you, and I must say, what an incredible journey you’ve had. It’s wonderful to see how much you’ve grown and changed for the better. You seem so happy, and I can’t help but feel a bit envious of all the animals you have-dogs, a cat, a guinea pig, and even chickens! Animals truly have a powerful impact on our well-being. I also loved your tub video; you are truly amazing!
Thanks so much for opening up. I literally cried when you talked about the pain of abandoning someone you love, eventhough they hurt you. And you can be so proud of accepting peoples faults. Real growth!!!
Congrats Bea on 2 years!!!!!
My Dad was a gambler and he alienated so many people in his life because of it - including me and my brother but there came a point where we realised he was getting old and we helped him and were there for him during his last illness. You just have to make sure when you do give in and start contact again that you set boundaries to keep yourself safe and happy.
You are AMAZING Bea! Some of us have been here since day 1. Watching your growth and love bloom.. lots of rollercoasters in your life! However, you continue to be you!! Much love and respect on all that you share! ❤
Oh Bea, I appreciate how you shared your process with us, and appreciate you as a person. Keep up the good work. I heart you!
Bea, you are such a beautiful soul.
When you said you didn't want anyone to be lonely and it hurts your heart when you think of older people not having anyone to help them it made me cry.
You have come such a long way and helped so many people with your honesty.
I hardly ever comment on anything but felt the need to say how proud I am of you.
You deserve all the happiness in the world.
Big hugs and love XX
Yay! Congrats on 2 years! 🎉🙌🏾✨
You are amazing! Journaling is great to show us that we have made progress when we think we have stalled. I too journal, and was going through similar feelings, but my journals showed me the progress I had made over the past 4 years. Thanks for being you, and for reminding me to reflect on my progress, rather than just seeing all failures. You empower so many of us with your reflections! Thank you!!
So happy to see you grow, be kind to yourself and coming to terms with yourself over everything or everyone else's expectations 🙏🏻 love the newly aquired positive outlook and retrospect for yourself 🥰
2 years binge free❤❤❤I’m so glad you reconnected with your dad and feel good about it. It’s good to be able to move on and except it for what it is
Accepting that people aren't going to change even if they should, and being able to accept them as they are in your life is definitely a sign of maturity and mental strength. This was an amazing video
Bea…..listening to you…I recalled a video of you in a tub…and your emotions were overflowing…and I was so sad you were going through it. Now LOOK AT YOU! I am so proud of you and how you have finessed your way through your life. Geez…. Your Dad, liking Christmas, building your life with your family, the chickens and Stebie. ❤u!😊
It's so awesome right!?! It's like watching your favorite TV character get all the good things they deserve after being dragged around by the plot, only it's better because you know the real person is getting these good things 🥰🥳
Thanks for being so open! You help a lot of people with your honesty and compassion.
Absolutely! Doing the work and putting down things no longer serving us is so important.
I'm happy for you Bea and the acceptance you've found regarding your dad. I remember early on when it was a real hard subject for you to touch on, and now you're in a different space to talk about him. Bear hugs from an internet stranger x
Halfway through I forgot you were on the screen and not in my kitchen. I think that is because you are open and honest and not fake so that you feel like "in real life" even though you are on the screen. That is a gift. Thanks Bea.
You are my favorite. Thank you for being you and staying brave. We’re here for the journey, wherever it takes you! ❤❤
One day, I’m gonna be 2 years binge free too. Congratulations Bea!! You are inspiring
You can do it!
"My inner dialogue is relentless" - I feel this!!
Oh, Bea, you are so loved by this YT community! This is a vlog FULL of things to celebrate! Always proud of you in your journey and ecstatic to hear that you are feeling better about where things stand with your dad. Take it as it comes and don’t ever be afraid to prioritize your mental health! Side note: I have a relative who suffers from mental illness and he sadly did that same exact thing to his daughter and she had to cut all communication with him to preserve her mental well being. (Not saying your dad is mentally ill…… just expanding on what you said) Continued love and support to you! ❤
Moving closer to your mom and having Steven as a friend has been really good for you. Love you 💜🙏
I’m so happy for you love. I feel like Steve has been super good for you. You don’t speak on that a lot but I feel like we are seeing a lot more confidence from you since he came around. LMK if I’m right?
I have the utmost sympathy for you in dealing with your father. My sister is similar, so the relationship has been on and off throughout the years. And the problem with being a good person is hoping they will be and feeling bad for having to limit interactions with them. I just have to constantly remind myself it’s not me. She can make up whatever crazy stories she wants, blame me for whatever, it’s fine, I know in my heart what did and didn’t happen and have given up trying to fight for myself, it’s a waste of my time and effort and doesn’t do anything but hurt me. I accept it for what it is and keep her at arms length.
That great!! Congratulations on being 2yrs binge free. I’m so happy for you and proud of you. 🎉🎉
Long time follower here, I have loved your channel and look forward to your videos. Proud of you Bea
We are on the same wavelength Bea! I went looking through old pictures which kind of serves as a journal to me. I remember what I was thinking when I took some photos and I could see when I should have been more confident, and days when I was glowing with it. I felt stronger after looking back at photos over the last 7 years and realizing I had this attitude that I could be anything. I could get that back. Also I was eating cereal and paused mid bite when you mentioned your dad. That's so good for you. I'm happy for you because my dad was sort of similar with alcohol and he's no longer here but I forgave him before he passed. You seem to be doing really well. Don't let worrying about others take over your life though! They made choices too. It's a two way street. Give others grace but give yourself grace too. Thanks for the video ❤
Your amazing, healthy , compassion , beautiful, balance.. WE all need and are growing in these areas!
Bea! I’m so happy for you! I remember when you couldn’t even mention your dad without crying. Now look at you! So happy for you!
You hit the nail on the head. I rarely regret things, even the very bad things that happened in my life because right now, I am in a very good place and I wouldn't have gotten here had those bad things not happened. It is so freeing to finally get 'it". Part of those bad things for me was trying to help someone in my life, who dragged me through the ringer until I realized that I can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Letting go put me on the path to no regrets.
Lots of love, Bea!
I love your comment section! Most of us have lots of support to give you. I know I watch you because of how relatable you are and how much I see myself in you.
Thanks for existing! ❤
It's okay to cry Bea, and we're very proud of how far you've come! Grief has a funny way of being non linear. All you can do is feel the feelings you need to and keeping moving forward ❤
So proud of you, Bea! Nothing you have done so far has been easy, and it's so clear how much you are growing as a person! That's all we can hope for in life.
I am HERE for Tea with Bea.
Also (and I know this is pathetic), a few months ago I made an "Eating like Beatrice Caruso for a Day video" where I made poached eggs, pineapple jalapeno chicken, and green chili and I'd love for you to see it someday!
Either way, here for the tea and here for you.
Ohhh saved your video to my watch later list ✨🤌🏽
Emotions are fleeting. They come and go and that's okay BUT peace, peace is a state of being that doesn't go away no matter what is going on with your life. With peace comes knowing that no matter what - Everything will be okay.
This is such an amazing video! So much wisdom!!!!
Congratulations on all the work you have done and how far you have come! I love that you shared how your view of challenges has shifted. I feel like this has been a HUGE pivot point for me on my own journey.
So glad I stumbled across your channel all those years ago, thank you for being you and being willing to be so vulnerable sharing your journey with us! 💜
Thanks for sharing your experiences with us ❤
We have so much in common Bea. It's really interesting to me. I also had cut off my dad from my life for most of my 20s and then I reconnected with him a few years ago so that I could see my family on his side and reconnect with my grandfather who passed away 2 months after his 99th birthday 2 years ago. And now, for the first time in, I don't know how many years, I'm going to celebrate my dad's birthday with him in person by going to the last ever home game for the Oakland A's so congrats, it'll take time, but if you can find 1 or 2 things to focus your relationship on (like baseball if that's a thing for you) then it will certainly help build back an acquaintanceship, at least, so good for you.
Im seeing my dad again upcoming sunday for the first time again in 6 years (im 26) spoke to him on the phone tonight, he makes up stuff as well. Its hard. You win and you lose some. Totally needed this video of you talking about this, shared experiences lighten the heart. Thanks Bea for being so open about your life. You would be surprised how many of us experience similar things in life. I think I would've loved to be friends if you didnt live on another continent 😂 love your channel and thanks for staying real!! Love from the Netherlands, you rock ❤
We obviously don’t know each other but I am so proud of all the work you’ve put in, keep being your amazing authentic self!
Congratulations on letting things go and not stuffing your feelings. It's difficult to face them (your feelings) and actually feel them-even the uncomfortable ones.
I've felt that relief and lightness of forgiveness too love it 🧡
I've been excited to hear about an update like this for a while. I am so glad you are facing some of these challenges head on and finding more peace than turmoil these days. It's really cool seeing you grow and overcome so much over the years. We're so proud of you and just want to see you Bea happy! ;)
You have grown so much and healed so much. It has been a pleasure to watch. Your struggles are REAL and the way that you have journeyed thru self discovery has been so inspiring. I'm glad that you've had such a weight lifted off you. I'm glad for your Dad too, somewhere in the mistakes he's made, I know he loves you and has missed you. I am so so proud of you and I'm SO incredibly glad that I've been watching from your some of your first videos. Best recommendation from youtube yet. Btw....spearmint tea made my cycle regular and my chin hair softer and less! I hope you get good results with it too!
There is so much to love about you! Thank you for all you share! You’ve turned your pain into purpose and those of us who get the joy of watching your channel are the better for it. I commend you on all the work you’ve done… from my own experience, I know it can be a very tumultuous journey… that is forever evolving and ongoing… but so worth it! You are amazing!🌟💕
Bea, you are the kindest soul to be able to reflect and move forward with so much maturity. I have been “quietly” following since the beginning as needed inspiration to loose weight, but this channel is so much more than that now. Proud is an understatement ❤
It's so wonderful to see how much you have grown as a person while on this journey you share with us, whilst retaining every sparkle and spunk it that great personality of yours. So proud of you Bea, and I'm a 45 year old from Belgium that you will never meet except on the internet!
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OMG I had similar experience with family so can relate and cried with you. I see you! You are one special person. You are funny, talented, smart, beautiful and so real. Glad you found your person and finding peace in life. Thx for sharing. ❤❤❤
Bea, I cannot tell you how much this has resounded with me. your perspective has already changed the way I view some of the things that affected me negatively, and I can’t thank you enough for sharing!
Bea, you are such a joy! I look forward to all of your videos. Just keep being yourself. You are amazing!
Oh Bea! I'm so proud of you! Been here all along, and always feel honored to get to share in your journey. It's honest and real and I'm proud of where you are at right now.
Wow, Bea, this is huge. So happy for you. So much growth and healing.❤
I love your videos! I had a really bad morning and this video lifted my spirits so much. Thank you for being your authentic self and sharing that with us. We love you ❤
Thank you for sharing your life with us. You brought tears to my eyes thinking about my dad.
Everything you said about journaling is why I *LOVE* journaling. (I can scream it from the rooftop) I usually do not read mine back as they can sometimes be too painful with all the rambling and stream of consciousness rabbit holes but it frees up so much for us to just get it out of our heads and down on paper. Listening to you realized these beautiful and wonderful things was so inspiring.
Yes Bea. My dad and I have had a similar relationship while I was growing up - he has a wild imagination that somehow he’s turned into fact in his brain. He’s gotten much better as we’ve both gotten older but for a while I had to limit interaction to preserve myself. ❤
Thank you for the real tea talks.
So glad you are healing! Its good that you’re sharing your feelings with us which may help others on their own journey. Thanks for being the most “real” person on TH-cam!!☺️❤️❤️
Girl you are growing and Growing... Its amazing to see your progress and your growth ❤ owww! ❤
Wow we are living the same life. Lol not really but I can empathize with the binging, trying to lose weight, cutting dad out and reconnecting recently. Same internal thoughts you brought up! We got this Bea. Sending you love and hugs.
I also fell in love and I think seeing someone love me with knowing every part of me made me open my eyes to love myself. I know the saying is like “love yourself before blah blah blah”. Anyway it seems like your partner is also very supportive.
You seem happy and I truly hope you are. That’s all that matters. ❤
Love seeing your self awareness Bea!! Been admiring and enjoying your content from day 1!!
Bea!! I have watched you through the good, fun, happy video's, and the times life is feeling not so good, but gosh darn it, you persevere, and its inspiring! I sure hope, that you are proud of yourself, I feel like one of your long distance/internet friends, who is so amazed by your growth, and I'm always here for all of your progresses, tea's with Bea, and of course just the silly shenanigans you invite us along with. I am proud of you! :D
You have the kindest heart. 💚
I just feel so much love for you and am proud of you and rooting for you. You're the best, haters be damned.
One thing I love about our watching your videos is what a real person you are.
Proud of you and your achievements ❤️
How you've bloomed and grown... wonderful! I am so happy for you! I am estranged from my mother, because she's a narcissist and is cruel for the sake of being cruel, she derives delight from that nasty behavior and then denies doing said garbage. For me, it was healthiest to completely cut all ties. The fact that you powered through things, accepted the fact that he is who he is and realized that has nothing to do with you (meaning his behavior), and offered yourself and him a clean slate and can now move forward from this point forward strong and solid (unshakeable) is so POWERFUL and so HEALTHY! Loved this video for all that and more. Also, you being surprised that hot tea stayed hot in a container made to keep things hot (or cold) is so beautifully you (and most of us, too! ) LOL
Bea!
Don’t feel bad about changing your major so many times!…It’s a proven fact that a large number of college students will have changed their major five to six times by the time they graduate.❤️
Congrats on your progress!!! It’s been an honor to watch you grow and change. I am so happy you have found peace and acceptance
So proud of you and happy for you!!!! Let that heavy stuff go. So great that you could see your dad on your terms and without rehashing the painful past and letting him have his "stories", and you know the truth so it no longer bothers you. That is a huge victory! You have processed all or most of the painful issues you had been avoiding with overindulging in food. That is amazing. I believe you will see lots of good results coming from this and wish you all the best.
So happy for you reconnecting with your dad! It totally makes sense for you to feel lighter. I think even when we choose to move on and leave people in the past, they're still there, hovering in the corner of our minds, and we're not really done with them, ever. Hopefully you can find a balance of having him "off your shoulders", but also not being a negative presence either. ❤❤❤
I’m so happy for your Bee, you took a gigantic step towards healing yourself and that would reflect in your body . Our relationship with food reflects our struggles in life . Sending you love from a dietitian in Mexico ❤
It's Bea Time!! YAY Congrats!
Got me cryin’ over here! You have such a beautiful heart, Bea. 💛
WOW Bea. I absolutely loved this one!! I can see that you have grown so much recently, but to hear you speak on it..really put in perspective just how much!! I am so unbelievably proud of you and how far you've come. You owe it to yourself to celebrate where you're at!!!!🎉❤
Thank you so much for this. I have a feeling that i will keep coming back to this video in the future. It was extremely inspiring and uplifting to me. I can't put into words why, but you are radiating wisdom and contentment and it is just wonderful.
Thanks again for being brave and putting it out there. My cup is very full right now but in a good way.
Love the tea with Bea!! 🥰 I hate burning my mouth on a hot beverage !!
Bea - Great video! Thanks for sharing. Your complexsion looks great!
I’ve followed you for a while now. You have come such a long way. Proud of you.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤ (seriously, you made a shift happen in my heart)❤
No need to explain how I totally relate to you and the dad situation. I’m so glad you are reconnecting with him. It’s totally worth it. Find peace before it’s too late.
Thank you for sharing your journey. The story about your dad was helpful as I navigate my sister. She would switch up on me, my sister, mom, and dad and blame us for things that never happened and aren't real and she really triggered me and hurt me. She too doesn't see the things she did was wrong. So I am in the no contact journey to protect my mental health because I get panic attacks after hearing her voice when she calls my mom. But the pressure you explained is exactly what I feel all the time and hopefully one day I can also release it. Seeing you talk through that makes me feel hopeful. You are such a beautiful person
You are amazing! I am so happy you have stuck with this channel through everything! I love that you share your inner feelings and thoughts with us. It is so helpful! I love your grandma! Tell her I said hello.
You have come such a long way Bea. And you inspire me to deal with my own feelings! ❤
I know it's odd but I am so pleased that you have been able to lay to rest some of the issues with your father. You really are an inspiration
Yay! Way to go, Miss Bea. I know that the struggle is real. Keep up the excellent work. You are a true inspiration. Hugs to you, your grandma, Miz. Elmo and all the critters in your marvelous menagerie, including Stevie. 😊 💖
I'm so happy you were able to look back and gain new perspective and see how much progress you've made. I've been watching your channel for years and I don't even know how I stumbled across it because I was never really into weight loss content but I'm really glad I did. It's easy for me as an outsider to see how far you've come and how much progress you've made. I'm just super glad I got to be along for the ride. Much love Bea 💜
You made me cry, Bea!!!!!!😭
So much to unpack with this episode! Thank you for openly sharing about some hang ups with your dad, I can totally relate to some of the frustrated feelings associated. I felt that you put such a mature and healed spin on your circumstances, so much to learn from here Bea! Congrats on your relentlessness to push forward through everything meant to keep you down. Leaving this episode feeling validated and grateful. Thanks for being vulnerable with us! 🦖