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There is a lot of focus on one person changing to more secure however I would not take my ex back unless they had made changes too. If they aren't meeting your basic needs for connection and intimacy then the cycle will repeat over time. Both parties need to change imo
You have to remember that was the fantasy period. (Honeymoon). Mine was doing porn Star stuff!!! That comes to a crashing end. At the very end she couldn’t even look at me eating lunch together. So don’t let that cloud your mind. The real person is the one walking out the door. Remember that one. Not Debbie does Dallas.
Hard part about being with a avoidant is that they give so much time and energy to all other aspects of their lives social media binge watching Netflix work friends their home pets but the one person who truly loves them. They struggle with a phone call or a text or I love you just being vulnerable it sucks because deep down side, you know they really care and love you how do you get them to open up or exposed their attachment style?
This is my experience exactly, like Jekyll and Hyde. The flip once the honeymoon phase was over, was devastating. No more sex or affection, like being with a sexless robot. And you know they actually love you way more than they'll ever admit, that's why their subconscious defenses have overridden their brain. In time, they will realize what a mistake and how childish their behaviors are. Maybe Honestly, I think this is a form of autism
I felt like I connected so deeply with my DA. He knew he was a DA. I tort him about attachment theory. He really showed up, we spent so much time together, everyday, did so much together, trips etc the 1st 3 months was a lot of push and pull - we were always a situationship but he hasn’t had an official partner for like ten plus years. he moved to the other side of the world a couple of weeks ago, was calling and messaging constantly daily, but the last couple of days basically nothing. I know it doesn’t have a future and I need to let go, no matter how much I love them. I will stay away from avoidant people going forward, not that they are bad people, they’re not. I just can’t investment in them anymore.
@@777watchmanruss7 She hasn’t come back yet. I actually sent her a long message just tonight laying out why I thought she left. I really don’t have anything to lose. Who knows if I’ll even get a response…
Most things in life are counter-intuitive; for example, struggling in quicksand is intuitive but will likely hasten one’s demise. Thus, becoming one with the universe, through natural living and lifestyle, will, with no further effort on your part, attract others, and possibly your ex…. PS Keep your hands up at all times 👊 and careful what you wish for ❤
Wouldn't reconnecting prelude to a on off relationship , Wouldn't reconnection be better after the treated or shadow worked their attachment style. I would say no don't recconect until if they treated or shadow worked ln them self. But then do DA's really admit their attachment style first of all?
I have a Q, I dated an Aviodant (6 month) that worked on himself (admited that he is afraid cus it becaomes srious) it did bacame better until we had an amotional fight were I cryed in. Anyhow, day after he spoke to his freind and broke up from me saying my reaction was too much for him. After a month I so him again in the dating app this time he wrote that he is looking for a long- term and open for children. And found a new girlfreind and deleted the app. I am so hurt... did I make the "Job" for the new girl? Cus Now he knows how to behave, after he had the exprience with me....😔
Nope, very few change. He discarded you that quickly, sounds like he still has problems. Consider yourself lucky. Eventually this rebound will fail and the unlucky person will be devastated thinking it was long term with children.
Book Your Breakup & Attachment Assessment Session Here
app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14325791&appointmentType=9998645
Book a Coaching Session if you want an immediate strategy with your DA
www.katyamorozova.me/single-session/
There is a lot of focus on one person changing to more secure however I would not take my ex back unless they had made changes too. If they aren't meeting your basic needs for connection and intimacy then the cycle will repeat over time. Both parties need to change imo
Agreed
So hard when the chemistry and sexual chemistry was amazing. 😢
Yup😢
Same exact problem for me
You have to remember that was the fantasy period. (Honeymoon). Mine was doing porn Star stuff!!! That comes to a crashing end. At the very end she couldn’t even look at me eating lunch together. So don’t let that cloud your mind. The real person is the one walking out the door. Remember that one. Not Debbie does Dallas.
Hard part about being with a avoidant is that they give so much time and energy to all other aspects of their lives social media binge watching Netflix work friends their home pets but the one person who truly loves them. They struggle with a phone call or a text or I love you just being vulnerable it sucks because deep down side, you know they really care and love you how do you get them to open up or exposed their attachment style?
This is my experience exactly, like Jekyll and Hyde. The flip once the honeymoon phase was over, was devastating. No more sex or affection, like being with a sexless robot. And you know they actually love you way more than they'll ever admit, that's why their subconscious defenses have overridden their brain. In time, they will realize what a mistake and how childish their behaviors are. Maybe
Honestly, I think this is a form of autism
@@CryptoTaurusMoonsome avoidants are on the spectrum by the way
I always said to my ex “ I wish there was as much room in your head for me as there is for everything else”.
@@BirdieHaze2207Nice one.
They don’t want to get attached so they keep their distance.
Dating an avoidant made me fall into depression and develop generalised anxiety disorder
Me too
I already had those but I don’t know what I have now. This is tearing my soul apart 😢
Havent felt so down as I have since splitting 5 months ago. Low and depressed. Daily battle
I felt like I connected so deeply with my DA. He knew he was a DA. I tort him about attachment theory. He really showed up, we spent so much time together, everyday, did so much together, trips etc the 1st 3 months was a lot of push and pull - we were always a situationship but he hasn’t had an official partner for like ten plus years. he moved to the other side of the world a couple of weeks ago, was calling and messaging constantly daily, but the last couple of days basically nothing. I know it doesn’t have a future and I need to let go, no matter how much I love them. I will stay away from avoidant people going forward, not that they are bad people, they’re not. I just can’t investment in them anymore.
I can’t stop loving her. I don’t yet understand how, but I believe we will be together in the future.
I'm right with you man. It's been just over a month. I'm really dying inside. She was, hopefully is still my forever.
I’m with you boys. I believe he is my forever. 🤷🏼♀️
I am like this, too. I feel like she’s the one she pulled away.
@@777watchmanruss7 She hasn’t come back yet. I actually sent her a long message just tonight laying out why I thought she left. I really don’t have anything to lose. Who knows if I’ll even get a response…
I have this thought but I may have to give it up.
Most things in life are counter-intuitive; for example, struggling in quicksand is intuitive but will likely hasten one’s demise.
Thus, becoming one with the universe, through natural living and lifestyle, will, with no further effort on your part, attract others, and possibly your ex….
PS
Keep your hands up at all times 👊 and careful what you wish for ❤
If he is healed why not ... if it is not .No thanks!
I would never get involved with another DA, especially my DA ex.
I was in love but I have no time to get someone that’s nuts. Bye bye. Life is to hard. 🏃♀️
Too hard 😢
Yes, I really connected with my disconnection.
Wouldn't reconnecting prelude to a on off relationship , Wouldn't reconnection be better after the treated or shadow worked their attachment style. I would say no don't recconect until if they treated or shadow worked ln them self. But then do DA's really admit their attachment style first of all?
I have a Q, I dated an Aviodant (6 month) that worked on himself (admited that he is afraid cus it becaomes srious) it did bacame better until we had an amotional fight were I cryed in. Anyhow, day after he spoke to his freind and broke up from me saying my reaction was too much for him. After a month I so him again in the dating app this time he wrote that he is looking for a long- term and open for children. And found a new girlfreind and deleted the app. I am so hurt... did I make the "Job" for the new girl? Cus Now he knows how to behave, after he had the exprience with me....😔
Nope, very few change. He discarded you that quickly, sounds like he still has problems. Consider yourself lucky. Eventually this rebound will fail and the unlucky person will be devastated thinking it was long term with children.
Sounds like more of a narcissist to me.