My wife wasn't a feminist, cooked, cleaned AND loved sex...On the flipside was an emotional trainwreck, never happy, wanted 100% of my time and attention, hated how I slept, hated how I ate, hated anything that I ever did to try and improve myself, constant shit tests all day every day... Stay single, gents.
From my experience that's normal for a woman they try control everything including there husband. Woman get bored very fast and are guilded by there emotions but I still love woman 🎉
“Never happy” At this point I don’t think most women can be happy. I look at women in my family and they are just constantly complaining and wanting their bf or husband to give them more .. my brothers wife is the same way and that terrifies me away from even wanting to try and date women.
47, just finalized my divorce after being together for 24 years. She wasn't "happy". Glad to be out of it, I will never let another person have power over me.
Was briefly dating a women who i was pretty smitten with recently. Thankfully she broke things off, and eventually i realized she did me a favour there. From what i could tell she had a great marriage with a great man for 13 years, and they had an 8 year old daughter. She basically told she "wasn't happy" and just decided to leave him on a whim and take half the empire that he had built. Now she just wanted to sleep with as many men as possible it seemed. Glad i never actual put out for her, as her behaviour in that regard was pretty gross imo.
@@cbilljones You just cracked the code. Women who leave for 'unhappiness or we grew apart' (same thing) are pump and dump only. They'll put out great until they have you on the hook, pull away and discard. Just pump and dump before the hook stage. We're awake to your use up and spit out tactic's ladies. We'll do the same just our time frames are much shorter than yours.
Yes , that's a societal role to pair off and form the family unit as a cast in stone societal role modeling for both men and women in the past about least 50 years ago. Today I would advise against any type of LTR with the women now.
Was in the grocery store yesterday, it struck me the amount of long term relationships on show where the man is two steps behind her and looks an empty shell following her round like an vacant pet. Not for me.
I was married 4 years before we had children, I must admit that those years were fairly good. After my son was born it was like a switch got turned off . My family status was below the dog . I could not understand what was going on. This was in the 80s, no internet back then.
It’s very disorienting. You don’t know what you’ve done wrong. You start to question everything. Is this the way things are supposed to be or is this just me? It’s torturous.
@@john-griffin It has taken me 20 years to understand. I used to have nightmares about it but now not so often.I appreciate very much your videos , your doing a great service to lots of men.Thank you.
She trapped you…woman literally do this on purpose…Oprah used to have segments where the woman vote on whither a woman should trap a certain man or not…
Lost my house, car and savings this last year in divorce court, tried dating a few times after it's been a nightmare.These women have the audacity to ask how much I make yearly,what I own and my 401k status on the first date smfh I'm done in it's just work , gym and sleep .
Me too my friend. The dating scene is a train wreck. Hoflation has really taken hold and as an 8+ man you're scratching for women that are a 4 at best. Work, gym, surf, sleep. I did that for 5 years then met a woman in work who was a straight 10 my perfect dream woman. After an amazing year, her hypergamy kicked in and she was gone leaving me in a mess, straight back to square one. That's when I tried the online dating thing again to my horror. Back to work, gym, surf, sleep.
@WildB06 For sure homie I tried the dating apps and they were horrifying full of scammers, prostitutes,catfishers,ghosters and gold diggers.I deleted all my accounts after a couple months .I was married 11 years not sure what happened in that span but tried the bars cause I was successful before I got married at that scene,not anymore.Think it's time alot of men get comfortable being on their own for real .
A woman on the first date asking about your income and investments is an instant Deal Breaker. They want to know how they can benefit from the relationship. Run.
@@rossgooding7423 and I'm not attracted to a long term realthionship or marriage to a average low quality woman who has a high body count masculine rude disrespectful and selfish and narcissistic too should I continue?
Women today are emotional, and financial burdens. Men don’t want that from anyone. We’d rather be single and to ourselves. No one to answer too, we keep our identity, and no attachments of any kind. MGTOW.
If that is how you feel and think, remember you are 100% *free* to be happy in that individual choice. If your mother is nagging about grandchildren: grow up, be a man, and tell her that she must arrange that lack of kids to care about *on her own*. There are millions of already born kids who could need an extra grandparent or two.
One wears 3 rings after marriage. Starts off with engagement ring where both parties are happy, full of anticipation and commitment, showing their best sides while hiding every skeleton in the closet. Then you sign your soul and finances away with a wedding ring, and the end game is Suffer-ring, an invisible accessory with the weight of a boulder.
Not to get married? Unfortunately I can hardly find reasons to spend time with them, even to just casually date or as a friend. As a man, I feel they now flat out hate or at the minimum don't respect us, why would I want to spend any time with them? What an awful sad time.
Time and again most have a wild list of demands and don't want to consider anything that would actually make you happy, unless it's accidental. As you quickly find most often better to remain single and pursue your own hobbies and goals.
Yeah i can’t go back to the plantation , im solo not single , however if I happen to want to hang out occasionally i am not proud of my weaknesses ,i do but keep it casual and short but sweet.
Ask a feminist if they are for equality in the Selective Service, i.e. the Draft, where ALL MEN 18-25 MUST register with the Selective Service, with significant penalties for not. The feminist will answer: "I don't believe in the Draft". They NEVER answer the question.
When the military services become safe from widespread sexual harrasment and when leaders appoint tasks according to individual capabilities, women will serve to promote peace. In the Swedish armed forces even hijab (if close-fitting) is permitted. At first women were allowed, if they aimed at becoming officers, now also in other capacities. It is of course a question if intelligence or muscles are required. High-tech requires more intelligence than muscles.
Israel has it right. Both women and men MUST serve after high school. No way out of it. I'm pretty sure wack job Feminism doesn't live there. But, beware of getting into fist fight with your lady over there. LOL
@@ericjames7819 Yep just try and explain to your girlfriend that you want to be a househusband. Sit around, make shitty meals, talk on the phone, and surf the net all day watching other men who do the same things bitch about how unfair they have it. Then pressure her to go to work and bring home her check so that you can buy stuff off ebay, or amazon. And then whine about how your getting fat. I mean if they can do it why can't we. Isn't that equality?
John, I've had long term relationships with American, European, and Latin American women. Trust me when I tell you that feminism has spread across the face of earth faster and more impactfully than COVID. Passport bros are discovering this the hard way.
Yeah I'm grabbing my passport and going abroad to travel, explore, work on hobbies, with no expectations of a woman entering the picture. I've come to terms that I may never be touched by a woman again.
@@john-griffin It is not really a Western thing! Men in Japan, China, Australia other places are not getting married. Soon, we gonna find out it is not about feminism!!! There isn't much feminism in Africa but women tend to have these negative attributes.
I listen keenly - because I love my husband, my brother, my son and step-sons, my grandson, I genuinely like many male friends, relatives, students, and teachers, and generally most people, except those who are evil or even just dishonest, regardless of gender. I'm hopeful that we are in an era of change, where old-fashioned marriage becomes a thing of the past. Adios for ever patriachy!
Cancelled my wedding party 2 months in advance, almost 10 years ago now. Learned about MGTOW and Bitcoin after that, retired at age 37. Single for almost 10 years now with no sex or regrets.
Mazal tov! You figured out life early; both the power of supply capped money vs inflation and the nonsense of committed relationships with beings primarily committed to their feelings. I admire men like you that took both the orange 💊and the black 💊early and have now truly escaped the matrix. I should have bought back then; I definitely have regrets lol. At least I successfully avoided marriage, kids, and divorce, so there's that copium. This reminds me of life of the child prodigy and youngest person ever to enroll at Harvard, at age 11, William James Sidis. From his Wikipedia "Shortly after graduation, Sidis told reporters: "I want to live the perfect life. The only way to live the perfect life is to live it in seclusion". He granted an interview to a reporter from the Boston Herald. The paper reported Sidis' vows to remain celibate and never to marry, as he said women did not appeal to him. Later he developed a strong affection for Martha Foley, and enrolled at Harvard Graduate School of Arts and Sciences." If you want peace, quiet and freedom, the only winning move is not to play.
I had a relationship end with a women I dated for 8 years recently. I was reluctant to get married again after having my first marriage end after 20 years, and I know my reluctance frustrated her. The statistics for second marriage are worse than first marriage, and we never came to a resolution on this point. She was incredible in many ways but had diffiuctly accepting any accountability on her end for our difficulties. I would rather be single then go trough a divorce again.
After a certain age, a man must accept women have a shelf life. Enjoy her as long as she will agree to your terms. As soon as she tries to test you it is her way of telling you she is ready for the relationship to end.
@@GBU61I never had relations with a woman who did not test me if she was interested. This is 100% at their core. With experience we get better at handling tests but (other than in celibacy) we cannot escape them. No tests from a woman = no interest.
@ thanks for the insight there mate. To adore you for so long speaks volumes to who you are and creates intrigue as to how you did you over the 40 years.
I gave what I could to make a lot of women happy. About 38 plus years and a ton of money, time and emotions. Not one was happy, other then when she was 100 percent of my attention. I have other things now to make me happy, time is running out and I have a lot to accomplish.
I used to think it was worth tolerating from time to time, but I just can’t see it anymore. I can’t see how it’s worth it from any angle. Then again, I haven’t dated abroad yet
Schopenhauer tells us that the major reason we suffer in this life is because we believe that lasting happiness is possible in this world. His advice is to view the world as a penitentiary a penal colony and accept that unhappiness is not the exception but the rule. Once we accept the above as true the solution according to Schopenhauer is to stop seeking happiness and do as much as possible to minimise unhappiness and pain. He recommends solitude and silence and exposure to the sublime.
fundamental flaw in their character is that they have no sense of justice. This is due to the fact that nature has not destined them to be dependent on strength but on cunning; this is why they are instinctively crafty and, and have an ineradicable tendency to lie - Arthur Schopenhauer
I have peace 7 years post-divorce. The fun phase was purged from my system 4 years ago. I can't recall the last intimate interaction I had and that does not bother me at all. I'm thankful to those who got me to where I am, including my ex, because without that adversity, I would not have been challenged. And without challenges a man is a shell of his true self. Keep on chuggin' along, men. Don't soften yourself. Soften your grip because nothing is ours to keep.
Very well said brother! I'm approaching 6 years post and never been happier! In the beginning of it it's pretty rough, went through depression. Dated for a few years but older now, saw red flags and wasn't willing to go through the same issues all over again. After being single for a while I noticed my sleep, mood and energy started to get better over time. Life now couldn't get any better. Keep trucking along men! I Life is beautiful but short. Spend time doing the things that you enjoy and that make you happy.
Peace is priceless. We have God's Spirit within us, each of us, waiting patiently for our attention. We have to run on the hamster wheel until one day we wake up and ask 'why am I doing this?" "A fool who persists in his folly becomes wise" - William Blake
I think this video should be mandatory for all high school girls to watch. John has amazing insight and wisdom that needs to be unleashed on this next generation of young people. As for the part about the Cult of Children, my experience is that you are 100% correct. I warned my wife about this 25 years ago and here we are now as roommates due to her total focus on the kids as they were growing up.
As a resingled man, one is just better off not getting remarried. Just live a good life, build your relationship with God, Fitness, Enjoy your work and make good money, Friends, Family, Get out there.
Hey John, I've been following your videos from time to time and wanted to share my thoughts. I'm 28, tall, good-looking, financially successful, and have been in shape since I was 16. I’ve been an athlete my whole life and am respected by other high-value men. I guess you could say I’m the “Chad of Chads.” I only mention this to provide some context for what I’m about to say. Even with these advantages, I’ve chosen to walk away. The level of narcissism, delusion, and lack of morals and integrity I’ve encountered is astonishing. It’s incredibly difficult to find a woman who is both feminine and attractive nowadays. Feminism, in many ways, has done a disservice to young women. Your videos have really helped me understand the potential consequences of marriage and long-term commitment. While every relationship is different, your advice and the experiences you’ve shared have solidified my decision to live life on my own terms. Life is beautiful, and having an abundance mindset has allowed me to find happiness alone, much like you’ve described in your own journey. Thank you for the work you’re doing. You’re providing a valuable service to men everywhere. Keep it up!
I’m fortunate to be in a relationship with a very attractive woman who is wise, well educated, funny and not financially needy. What really helps is that she lives in her own home 16 miles away. We see each other mainly on weekends and enjoy our autonomy the rest of the week. Neither of us are interested in ever getting married because it would spoil the great thing we have now.
My mom told me that a man boss if you ask him the same question everyday uou get the same answer if you ask a woman boss the same question everyday you will get a different answer.
John, you just described my marriage with my ex-wife. The phrase "cult of the child" hits the nail on the head. The moment my daughter was born, my wife and I stopped sharing a bed-literally for eight years until we divorced. Everything, and I mean everything, revolved around the child. I couldn’t even parent properly. Anytime I said something like, "Clean your room," my wife would immediately get in my face, acting like I’d committed a crime. She’d then clean the room herself instead of letting our daughter take responsibility. I worked my ass off for 14 years to give her the house and life she dreamed of, and now here I am, living in a small apartment. It’s ironic, isn’t it? I built the dream, and I’m the one who had to move out of it.
@@moresugartradercc2744 IMO I think the straight talk he gives is necessary for the truth to be understood. The bluepilled training will pull a man back onto the plantation so easy with comfortable language.
57 and never married. I think I'm a 6~ but my likes and hobbies have always been a big turnoff to women I think. And, not being a 6-figure guy with the "bad boy" persona; I know I've made all those "nice guy" mistakes and put off numerous chances just by staying genuine to who I am. Into my 40s I still dreamed about meeting someone compatible and getting married someday but now it's too late, I'm committed to solitude. Thanks so much for your show. Cheers.
It's not too late. You're still young. Have you ever done any volunteering? Something involving your interests and hobbies? You can meet women who like the same things that way. There is nothing wrong with solitude, but it's also good to have good company at times. Being able to sit in silent companionship together is one of the best things ever. No need to explain or apologise with the right person. Peace 🕊️
@nyx3967 your comment made my day, it really did, and I thank you so much. I could not agree with you more. Honestly tho, I've been volunteering my entire life -- so much so I've sacrificed income and career over it. My advocacy and activism is for things most women just aren't interested in, or run from actually. I've been blessed with many good friends of both sexes my entire life, but all are generation(s) ahead. The orgs I've chosen are all dying from lack of generational backfill; it's always the same tired volunteers doing everything (and they are old) with no real infusion of "new blood". The "kids" are nowhere to be found. I think in 10 years most will be dead, unless at least GenX (my gen) makes a sudden appearance and gets involved. I could go on and on for hours re historic preservation, open space, walk-bike safety and infra, etc. If anything it's been a huge red flag toward finding a relationship. Here's my brief bio instead. Best to you. www.1stbikes.org/2013/05/about.html
If all women went to Mars for one year, whenthey returned hollywood would be bankrupt along with all that tv programming. And their beloved celebs would be working as waiters.
@nyx3967 I've run the gambit with volunteering, esp in the areas of habitat conservation, hiking clubs, biking clubs, etc. I ran a campaign for 4 years to save critical open space for a regional park where I live, and we lost to the developer at the very end. Nobody has put themselves out there more than I have, trying to do good for community, the common good -- and working behind the scenes bc to me it's not about "credit" or drawing attn to myself. Our built environment really sux and that's why most people are isolated. No "3rd Place" for most living in the suburbs. Now I'm a shell of my former self, a broken man, unable to fathom the idea of volunteering for anything, having been to the dark side, experiencing govt corruption first hand. But yeah, I agree with you -- it's what I tell everyone. There's never "nothing to do" esp after retirement if you are single. Orgs all over the place need people, and it's a great way to meet others and if nothing else make friends.
No fault divorce and feminism are the 2 most damaging to families. I will never let the state pillage my assets again by signing a license to marry and then divorce.
I'm going to have to push back on no fault divorce. If it didn't exist, every man getting a divorce would be sent to prison for false accusations she laid down in order to get a at-fault divorce to "find herself" (swimming in other men's sperm)
I will never forget the advice i got from an older friend when I was young, He said " Long term most marriages will end badly - Just follow my rule which is the four F rule..... Find them, Feel them, F*** them and Forget them" I think I would have been much better off If I had followed his advice.
Apostle Paul int the Bible said: It is better to live a single life like me and be closer to god than be married and be beholden to your wife and putting god in a lower position than your wife.
@midragga 99.9% of them are zinc dumps 40 years old here I've never met one that was quality my entire life all of them are creeping with all different men this whole time
Marriage is the worst contract for men, and thanks to social media and instant sharing of information more men understand this today. In many ways, marriage is an antiquated norm from a very long time ago, when the powers in charge needed to incentivize men to be financially and physically responsible for a woman (wife) and her children. But in today's world, we have extensive welfare and an omnipotent state that takes care of women, their children, and all their needs. Men really are not needed to sign away their life, to the worst business contract ever devised. Perhaps the state needs to change marriage laws, if they want marriage to remain viable. A start would be to end the state-enforced splitting up of a man's assets and the almost permanent alimony after divorce.
The State won’t do that ever. Because the laws are exactly the way they want them to be. Women, dating, marriage, houses, cars, children, divorce: it’s all Business, and it’s all to keep the money flowing. Oh, and to keep men weak. And round and round the world goes. 🧐
The take on child worship nowadays is spot on - been an obsession with most women since around the late 90s or so. The child becomes the center of their Universe , or their pet. Their Men become an after thought. ruins the relationship and dynamic. Another gynocentric example
Tbh much depends on simply whether man accepts this or not. Alot of men don't agree...but still go along with that setting and maybe complain in the internet. Though I don't wish to advocate men be some sort of tyrants in their relationships - whether man simply openly asserts himself or not is a big thing.
John has a true gift of explaining the real problems of today's dating world. I hope that women watch his videos, so they can have a true understanding of how men feel.
I want to tell the ladies that John has lots of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ for you, so try to lock him down and marry him to get all of his $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ in divorce. Let the games begin ladies.
Agree, you are on fire lately John, home run insights the last few weeks. Massive knowledge , appreciate these important vids of high value. Bottom line : stay single, date women Only on your own terms. Besides, with the exception of their sex value, unless one desires companionship, best to rent vs buy (do Not cohabitate or get 'locked down' as Mr. boyfriend).
Disagree about the last part about what is essentially passport bros. Those men are in for a rude awakening when they find out that women they are with only want them for their security and money. Which is actually far worst than their first wives who may have been more caring of them as an individual. That’s how you get a Robin Williams or Anthony Bourdain level of suicide.. Your best hedge against a woman is engage them only on your terms and always be willing to walk away when you’re not enjoying their company any longer. If you’ve been married before, it is in your best interest to never get married again.
women are the same everywhere. Even in the deepest of jungles womens nature is the same, is just masked. bring that same woman back to the west and see how that turns out! perhaps not all but a large majority of them. I for one getting to the point I dont want anything to do with western women , there just way too toxic and disagreeable, a never ending of complaint's.
Yeah the passport bros are on the wrong track. Once they bring these women to the US or any western country these women will adapt and their wants and needs will grow quickly. Then they will want to "level up". Yeah, rude awakening.
I’m 54, divorced due to her infidelity and substance issues. Still having to pay. I’ve moved past bitterness, but I have no desire to ever live with or marry a woman again. The risk of losing everything again is simply too great
I was in Las Vegas over the weekend attending the Las Vegas Grand Prix totally solo and I couldn't believe the total of men that were like myself enjoying our best lives without be strapped to a woman. I was able to enjoy everything without any feminine distractions. It was a whole weekend of machine and the drivers technique and the thrill of it all. By the time I got back home, I felt great and needed that time away from females in general.
Getting married in Australia is probably as bad, or even worse than in The States. I dodged a bullet by not having kids with my ex. I would've been slaughtered going through lawyers and the family court system. It's not worth it. Now I just work and live here for part of the year. TRAVEL THE WORLD 🌎
@john-griffin It's been a blast! I appreciate the content your making, and helping create awareness for younger men such as myself regarding marriage. I'll never forget what my lawyer said to me, when I first walked in his office. "Most men know more about the wedding cake, rather than what happens to them once s*** hits the fan!" All the best mate. 👍 🇦🇺🦘
All our problems stem from not being grounded in reality. If you treat a rattlesnake like a cute fluffy bunny, you will get bitten. Once you know it is a rattlesnake, you treat it as such and then there are no more surprises.
The only woman I have ever loved is my mother, and I plant to keep it that way. I am not old (21) but I have no interest in dating, or getting married. Never interacted with a girl romantically, and don't plan to either. (Most people think I am gay XD). Even before I saw channels like this, and knew MGTOW was a thing, I had made my mind up, because unlike the horny guys around me, I actually observed married people, and all of them seemed like dead, soul less walking corpses, and that terrified me, genuinely! I really enjoy my life, and my freedom. Worked hard to get it, and am not going to lose it just because I couldn't keep my pants up, no thank you! I think keeping my desires in check (been on NOFAP before I even knew it was a thing) has given me a lot of confidence in my decision as well.
You are very a very wise young man who will live a prosperous life full of freedom, adventure, and happiness without a woman f9cking things up for you.
You are spot on when you talk about the man becoming unimportant to the wife when children are born. It not necessarily their fault as I’m sure evolution has baked into their DNA the priority of the child over the husband. But this was a big factor in my own divorce. And I was a very involved, attentive father.
Great video, you're right on, nicely done.61 years wise,no children, never married,and I'm addicted to my solitude and my time in nature, thanks! peace ✌️ men!
Kids were why I stayed married as long as I did. Somebody had to be a stable influence in my kid's lives, of course as crazy as she made me, I'm not sure I qualified anymore. Since my divorce, I've tried dating again, but just not worth it. Nothing but crazy out there and I don't want to bring that back into my house.
I dunno, married 30 years and 6 months separated after being discarded as many of us have been. But just met a woman 14 years younger, wants to work on building a deep connection, claims she never argues, never weaponizes and i dont doubt it or this want will never work. Super calm and comforting voice/ way of talking, intelligent conversation, no subject is off limits, high sex drive, claims a drop in quality of sex is a problem that must be addressed immediately and is submissive to me with goals to become a relationship councilor of some sort. Why was she single? To me its important to know. Women who discarded shall be discarded themselves, the brotherhood must stand together! Fortunately appears ive avoided them for now. First ex cheated on her while pregnant and the rest weren't able to open up to achieve a deeper connection she wants. Seems it scares many men, but those of us who stuck it out and fought for our marriages have done enormous self-reflection already. Maybe i just got lucky, but i did look for women who were after communication and stressed its what i needed. From what ive seen in my limited time on apps, is the higher quality women will recognize our good men traits of sticking it out for so long. Asking for that communication they'll know why thats important to you. DO NOT give them pet names until actually dating and keep sexual inuendo to a minimum - they want to see you're a serious partner and not just after sex. Who knows how it pans out from here, but she appears to check all the boxes atm. For me i know ill need to meet her submissive needs and maintain my frame always.
I am 55 and never got married. I often listen to these videos on this channel while playing video games on Xbox - lol. I've been a gamer since the early 80s when I had the Atari 2600 with Pac Man, ET, and Yar's Revenge. Now, it's mostly Assassin's Creed Odyssey as my obsession. My mindset is "Marriage is just something that those grown-ups do. Someday, when I grow up maybe I'll do it" - LOL. To be serious, I am a data scientist working on a PhD. Instead of marriage, I put my energy into building an engineering career and earning six master's degrees since the 1990s - mostly in engineering. I am currently studying AI for a dissertation topic. I spent much of Sunday debugging python code for AI. So, all my energy goes into a full-time engineering job then the rest into graduate research. On study breaks, I either workout or play video games. I hiked four miles with leg weights at dusk. There is no time or energy left for dating at the moment. It's always a good legitimate excuse. As a data scientist, the probability analysis of risk assessment for marriage as an institution seems really bad. In general, the divorce rate is about 50%. For those marriages that do not end in divorce, about half lead to infidelity or a sexless marriage or some other crisis or conflict. The net probability of a truly happy marriage appears to be less than 20% at best. Those are very bad odds. Moreover, those "successes" just seem to be attributed to unusual good luck - no way to really "strategize" it with factual data. So, it's easy for me just to keep blowing it off. I just like working on engineering research while listening to classic rock like Boston with the great MIT engineer who built his own amplifiers. Or I listen to the soundtrack of "Blade Runner" or "Westworld" while studying AI. I feel like I'm still 13 with my mindset focused on a job, research, and total avoidance of marriage - lol. From John Griffin's total aggregation of videos, it doesn't look like I'm missing out on much.
@@Listener-r2j Yes, when I saw the film "Back to School" in 1986 at age 17 I identified with the teen freshmen in the film. It was about an old divorced dad (Rodney Dangerfield) going back to college to help his son. Now, at age 55, I identify with his character. I bring decades of industrial experience into these engineering courses. I know what the professors are not teaching that would be used in industry. Surprisingly, even at age 55 I have been occasionally able to meet college females. But as an old guy I know to stay out of trouble and move around campus as if HR is flying a drone over my head.
@@manuelsteele7755 Considering your academic credentials I have a question for you: In the future will it be possible to imbue farts with Artificial-Intelligence?
Roy Batty's soliloquy in Bladerunner is pretty much perfect. "All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die." The replicant understanding life better than the humans.
John, I really liked what you said about modern women putting children above their husbands. I'm a bit younger than you but was raised the same way, we got the basics and had to figure out the rest of ourselves. It makes me sick to my stomach when I see mothers overly doting on their sons with outpours of emotion, especially past the age of ten. It's no wonder they end up becoming feminized emotional basket cases even as adults. My wife and I are DINKs and I realized years ago that even on a good day, I'm probably #6 or #7 on my wife's priority list. It's a helluva thing when you realize your wife just wants you around for the security your income provides, and doesn't seem to understand what men really need to be happy. Divorce is my only option to find that peace I gave up...never again.
Got married in 2023 DecemberZ left the apartment and asked her to move out around Aug 2024. The abuse I had to go through this year was just unreal. As a man no one cared when you try to explain this. So I left and I don’t feel like I really need a relationship anymore. I work out, make music, train muy thai. Life is good.
Nobody wanted to stick with me in my 20's, 30's, and 40's. Chilling out and enjoying the fruits of my labors from 50+,, i will have peace and relaxation.
I think a big problem is because of dating apps, most men struggle to benefit from sleeping with a lot of women. I'm 6ft 5 with a six pack at 215lbs and even dating is tricky for me. 2/3 women flake so it requires a lot of time and effort to find 3 decent options who aren't ruined or been about the block a bit.
Thank you so much for airing all these factors. So much to ponder and reconsider. A lot of the stuff you talk about has an immediate resonance. I recognise it instantly and I feel a fool for not admitting it. I've gone along with it because I've thought "Well that's how society is and I have to go along with it" but at the same time feeling very uncomfortable with it and feeling a heavy burden sacrificing my life and happiness. The people you say that leave angry comments are the very people who need what you're telling them. You are a mirror for them. Who wants to admit to themselves that they've been made a fool of?
I found this extremely interesting because it perfectly summed up every reason that led to my family being destroyed and my life being ruined by a woman in my 20 year marriage.
It actually hasn’t come in yet. I’m still using the old one. I just smack it every once in a while to make sure it works. Every time I send it out over the water I hold my breath. There made in either Norway or Denmark and it takes weeks for them to get here.
I am literally going overseas to give a shot. Heading to Vietnam next month. My first trip there and my first country on my list I’m visiting. I have decided on expat living. I will be 52 next month. Yes women are women no matter where you go. But I’d rather try to date abroad than here in the U.S. Been watching expat content creators living abroad educating myself. I’ve been told, go where you are appreciated and valued. Go where you are treated best. ✈️ 🏃♂️
I have much more experience with Asian women than your average American or even Expat. while being the most beautiful on the outside, they rank dead last on inner beauty. If you have 35 years to waste discovering this truth yourself - have at 'em.
I don't think women are too worried about a man shortage, with them being okay with sharing the top 20%, or just switching over to women. Men on the other hand...
The problem is that this top 20% (I would argue for a smaller percentage) has no intention to commit or provide for them. Which is quite frustrating for a woman. Women are craving for more than just good seed donors.
Having been divorced 10 years ago, I have personally witnessed the online dating scene go from a fair 50/50 with even matches and plenty of opportunities to the current nightmare of only the top 5% of men getting a look-in and the ridiculous behaviour of the women.
Getting married nowadays is paying new price for a used car and then finding out it was only a lease. So when the lease is up you lose it and everything you invested. I’m 53 and never married and don’t intend to
John. This is one of my top 3 favorites!!! I am a feminist. 100%. But I have my feminist boundaries. Seems like the majority of women abuse what feminism means. I love how you dedicated this video directly to women. You are a force and I want to be part of this male movement. We just need a leader! Women today have no idea how they are manipulating men. It’s almost like it’s inbred and they are doing it subconsciously. Women today just don’t get it! Maybe one day when our population is cut in half they will wake up. For now, I am just focusing on my daughter my career and my freedom! Only drama I face is from my 9 year old and my crazy freight job. I don’t have any capacity left for any type of personal relationship. Not today. Probably not for many more years. Every women I meet I sense right away if they are trying to control my mind. 😮trippy shit!
"To heal the world, first one has to start with oneself becoming an anti-feminist." also, "A daughter grown in poison soil will be fruitless." Lao Tzu probably
The societal seeds of decay have sprouted long ago. There is no going back. It has been rotting now for several generations; it is taught to children in the schools, even the elite academies. We are in the last stage of decline.
John. Youbare raising questions and realities that are presented to me at 61 and my son who is 31. Dispute this being a large social issue - and it most certainly is! Your thoughts and comments represent the solution and turn around back to a path that works. For the record, I was married for 26 years and single now 9 and everything you have touched on is spot on. Mim not bitter nor angry but I will never become cohabited again for all of the reasons you have highlighted since discovering your Chanel. Well done Sir and special comment on you do play both sides where and when appropriate. It has been a true pleasure discovering your channel. Few months ago. Methanol you!!
There is another consideration, but it's more "meta." Cultures and ethnic groups and nations that "give up" on family formation will go extinct. Period. Your own gene line WILL go extinct if you don't have children. You will need to look into yourself, and decide whether or not you care about this. If you do care, then you will have to take a risk. Just like starting a business (most of which fail), you will have to take a risk if you decide to form a family. It would be very very wise to use EXTREME discernment, and ask the opinion of elders, family (if they are wise), and really wait a good year or two. Observe the woman. Does she exhibit any narcissistic traits? Here is the biggest test I personally recommend to try on anyone, in any relationship, not just romantic: randomly say "no" to a request. If the other person reacts calmly and is like, 'oh, no problem, maybe next time,' that's a good sign. If she responds with rage, resentment, or revenge, run. Finally, what you are looking for is a spiritually advanced soul to marry or form a family with. We live in a time when the culture and civilization are very degraded. You will need to seek something you don't think can't exist, but I believe it still can. I say that as someone who went through the ringer, and shouldn't be optimistic. But without hope, life has no meaning. Keep on pursuing excellence, and work on yourself. If something in terms of relationship is meant to be, the woman will come into your life naturally. Not on Tinder.
The saying no thing is a great idea. An adult should have no problem with it. Unless of course it's something very important that absolutely needs to be done and they are unable do it. Narcissists can hide their narcissism for a long time though. You should do a video!
Ahh I'm so lucky idgaf about trivialties like legacy, human life or idea to bring someone to continue this nonsensical toll. I spare the potential generation from the bs and it's my highest form of love. I'm an antinatalist.
*Staying single gives men the freedom to focus on their purpose and avoid unnecessary drama. When the right connection comes along, they’ll be better prepared for a fulfilling partnership.*
Why would any man ever get married these days when Tyrone or Chad is constantly lurking in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to undermine the relationship. Shalom
My wife wasn't a feminist, cooked, cleaned AND loved sex...On the flipside was an emotional trainwreck, never happy, wanted 100% of my time and attention, hated how I slept, hated how I ate, hated anything that I ever did to try and improve myself, constant shit tests all day every day... Stay single, gents.
CALLED A MICRO MANAGER, PROBABLY HATED HOW YOU BREATHED?
Same! The dramas the killer!
From my experience that's normal for a woman they try control everything including there husband. Woman get bored very fast and are guilded by there emotions but I still love woman 🎉
Hi Dan, had the same type of wife and she cheated and left me after 20 years of marriage. I can't tell from your comment if you're still married.
“Never happy”
At this point I don’t think most women can be happy. I look at women in my family and they are just constantly complaining and wanting their bf or husband to give them more .. my brothers wife is the same way and that terrifies me away from even wanting to try and date women.
Marriage:
Currently: The worst business contract devised.
Devised no. Currently, absolutely
@@gavinjohn1728for men. yes.
For one side…
47, just finalized my divorce after being together for 24 years. She wasn't "happy". Glad to be out of it, I will never let another person have power over me.
Did it cost you a lot financially?
Was briefly dating a women who i was pretty smitten with recently. Thankfully she broke things off, and eventually i realized she did me a favour there. From what i could tell she had a great marriage with a great man for 13 years, and they had an 8 year old daughter. She basically told she "wasn't happy" and just decided to leave him on a whim and take half the empire that he had built. Now she just wanted to sleep with as many men as possible it seemed. Glad i never actual put out for her, as her behaviour in that regard was pretty gross imo.
@@user-fv6gh6ms9x classic “I’m not happy”
@@cbilljones You just cracked the code. Women who leave for 'unhappiness or we grew apart' (same thing) are pump and dump only. They'll put out great until they have you on the hook, pull away and discard. Just pump and dump before the hook stage.
We're awake to your use up and spit out tactic's ladies. We'll do the same just our time frames are much shorter than yours.
That's the only way marriage used to be workable. Women had zero power over men.
Bill Maher once said that marriage for men is like experiencing a hurricane: at first you get blown a lot and then you lose your house.
😆!
Hilarious quote
lol!
That’s hilarious
LOL! I saw someone once posted a question online asking how deep the average vagina was? Someone replied, "Deep enough to swallow your house and car!"
I'm a woman... but my opinion of women is as long as they are expensive headaches, avoid them.
@@suefleming your right
@MosesTumwesigye-z2v I think society is too materialistic anyway. I love being a minimalist.
I genuinly do not enjoy their company any longer, and my marriage was more of a social compliance rather than a desire.
Yes , that's a societal role to pair off and form the family unit as a cast in stone societal role modeling for both men and women in the past about least 50 years ago. Today I would advise against any type of LTR with the women now.
Was in the grocery store yesterday, it struck me the amount of long term relationships on show where the man is two steps behind her and looks an empty shell following her round like an vacant pet. Not for me.
@@John_Wood_ that's because he didn't set the parameters of the relations from the very beginning, she did.
Yeah same here. I don’t enjoy being with them anymore. I can usually sense the drama or bs from miles away.
@@ICFUBARvery men can set and hold parameters long term though
I was married 4 years before we had children, I must admit that those years were fairly good. After my son was born it was like a switch got turned off . My family status was below the dog . I could not understand what was going on. This was in the 80s, no internet back then.
It’s very disorienting. You don’t know what you’ve done wrong. You start to question everything. Is this the way things are supposed to be or is this just me? It’s torturous.
@@john-griffin It has taken me 20 years to understand. I used to have nightmares about it but now not so often.I appreciate very much your videos , your doing a great service to lots of men.Thank you.
I am so sorry for the abuse (neglect) you suffered
She trapped you…woman literally do this on purpose…Oprah used to have segments where the woman vote on whither a woman should trap a certain man or not…
I tried telling people this 35 years ago. At least I took my own advice.
You’re the man
Yeah I’m staying single for the rest of my life to I never found love at all and I’m not going to bother with it anymore
Lost my house, car and savings this last year in divorce court, tried dating a few times after it's been a nightmare.These women have the audacity to ask how much I make yearly,what I own and my 401k status on the first date smfh I'm done in it's just work , gym and sleep .
Me too my friend. The dating scene is a train wreck. Hoflation has really taken hold and as an 8+ man you're scratching for women that are a 4 at best.
Work, gym, surf, sleep.
I did that for 5 years then met a woman in work who was a straight 10 my perfect dream woman. After an amazing year, her hypergamy kicked in and she was gone leaving me in a mess, straight back to square one.
That's when I tried the online dating thing again to my horror.
Back to work, gym, surf, sleep.
@WildB06 For sure homie I tried the dating apps and they were horrifying full of scammers, prostitutes,catfishers,ghosters and gold diggers.I deleted all my accounts after a couple months .I was married 11 years not sure what happened in that span but tried the bars cause I was successful before I got married at that scene,not anymore.Think it's time alot of men get comfortable being on their own for real .
A woman on the first date asking about your income and investments is an instant Deal Breaker. They want to know how they can benefit from the relationship. Run.
At this point we should just ask these whores their price tag..
Can’t be alone bro? 😎
We choose solitude over disrespect and all the rest that comes along with it.
Poor choice, beta -male essentially quitting. Desirable women are not attracted to quitters!
@@rossgooding7423lol. Please tell ne you're joking
@@rossgooding7423 and I'm not attracted to a long term realthionship or marriage to a average low quality woman who has a high body count masculine rude disrespectful and selfish and narcissistic too should I continue?
@@rossgooding7423lmao i almost fell for your sarcasm
Women today are emotional, and financial burdens. Men don’t want that from anyone. We’d rather be single and to ourselves. No one to answer too, we keep our identity, and no attachments of any kind.
MGTOW.
AIYCSS!
If that is how you feel and think, remember you are 100% *free* to be happy in that individual choice. If your mother is nagging about grandchildren: grow up, be a man, and tell her that she must arrange that lack of kids to care about *on her own*. There are millions of already born kids who could need an extra grandparent or two.
A lot of women are not worthy of marriage and that's simply on moral grounds before even considering financial ramifications
That's what women have always been.
@@DNA350ppm Great advice !
One wears 3 rings after marriage. Starts off with engagement ring where both parties are happy, full of anticipation and commitment, showing their best sides while hiding every skeleton in the closet. Then you sign your soul and finances away with a wedding ring, and the end game is Suffer-ring, an invisible accessory with the weight of a boulder.
Become Lord of the Rings!
Not to get married? Unfortunately I can hardly find reasons to spend time with them, even to just casually date or as a friend. As a man, I feel they now flat out hate or at the minimum don't respect us, why would I want to spend any time with them? What an awful sad time.
Time and again most have a wild list of demands and don't want to consider anything that would actually make you happy, unless it's accidental. As you quickly find most often better to remain single and pursue your own hobbies and goals.
Same. Do what you have to do to get what you have to get, and then leave!
Yeah i can’t go back to the plantation , im solo not single , however if I happen to want to hang out occasionally i am not proud of my weaknesses ,i do but keep it casual and short but sweet.
exactly, its almost like asking why don't men hang out with crocs.
Today it seems the younger the women the more hate for men.
Ask a feminist if they are for equality in the Selective Service, i.e. the Draft, where ALL MEN 18-25 MUST register with the Selective Service, with significant penalties for not.
The feminist will answer: "I don't believe in the Draft". They NEVER answer the question.
Repeal the 19th.
When the military services become safe from widespread sexual harrasment and when leaders appoint tasks according to individual capabilities, women will serve to promote peace. In the Swedish armed forces even hijab (if close-fitting) is permitted. At first women were allowed, if they aimed at becoming officers, now also in other capacities. It is of course a question if intelligence or muscles are required. High-tech requires more intelligence than muscles.
Israel has it right. Both women and men MUST serve after high school. No way out of it. I'm pretty sure wack job Feminism doesn't live there. But, beware of getting into fist fight with your lady over there. LOL
They want the choice to work if they choose to, while men have the obligation to work. They call this "equality".
@@ericjames7819 Yep just try and explain to your girlfriend that you want to be a househusband. Sit around, make shitty meals, talk on the phone, and surf the net all day watching other men who do the same things bitch about how unfair they have it. Then pressure her to go to work and bring home her check so that you can buy stuff off ebay, or amazon. And then whine about how your getting fat. I mean if they can do it why can't we. Isn't that equality?
John, I've had long term relationships with American, European, and Latin American women. Trust me when I tell you that feminism has spread across the face of earth faster and more impactfully than COVID. Passport bros are discovering this the hard way.
That’s kind of what I have been thinking. I knew that passport was not a way to bypass feminism. Thanks for confirming it for me.
Yeah I'm grabbing my passport and going abroad to travel, explore, work on hobbies, with no expectations of a woman entering the picture. I've come to terms that I may never be touched by a woman again.
@@john-griffin It is not really a Western thing! Men in Japan, China, Australia other places are not getting married. Soon, we gonna find out it is not about feminism!!! There isn't much feminism in Africa but women tend to have these negative attributes.
Passport f00ls if you will
@@nunuvyurbiz123 Never have, never will be. Feminism is the cure to humanity's blight on the Earth it seems.
Dating is a woman's game and men are forced to take part in it. For a man to free himself is not to play the game to begin with.
Men choose to take part in it.
I love it when you talk to women in your videos...like they would ever listen
I can dream!
More like a nightmare!
Haha, I’m listening. I realized this and changed my mindset. I’m married now. I think the key is to find someone who is self-aware.
You married only because you found chad.
I listen keenly - because I love my husband, my brother, my son and step-sons, my grandson, I genuinely like many male friends, relatives, students, and teachers, and generally most people, except those who are evil or even just dishonest, regardless of gender.
I'm hopeful that we are in an era of change, where old-fashioned marriage becomes a thing of the past. Adios for ever patriachy!
Cancelled my wedding party 2 months in advance, almost 10 years ago now. Learned about MGTOW and Bitcoin after that, retired at age 37. Single for almost 10 years now with no sex or regrets.
Mazal tov! You figured out life early; both the power of supply capped money vs inflation and the nonsense of committed relationships with beings primarily committed to their feelings. I admire men like you that took both the orange 💊and the black 💊early and have now truly escaped the matrix. I should have bought back then; I definitely have regrets lol. At least I successfully avoided marriage, kids, and divorce, so there's that copium.
This reminds me of life of the child prodigy and youngest person ever to enroll at Harvard, at age 11, William James Sidis.
From his Wikipedia
"Shortly after graduation, Sidis told reporters: "I want to live the perfect life. The only way to live the perfect life is to live it in seclusion". He granted an interview to a reporter from the Boston Herald. The paper reported Sidis' vows to remain celibate and never to marry, as he said women did not appeal to him. Later he developed a strong affection for Martha Foley, and enrolled at Harvard Graduate School of Arts and Sciences."
If you want peace, quiet and freedom, the only winning move is not to play.
You should go to Thailand. The sexual action is unbelievable.
I had a relationship end with a women I dated for 8 years recently. I was reluctant to get married again after having my first marriage end after 20 years, and I know my reluctance frustrated her. The statistics for second marriage are worse than first marriage, and we never came to a resolution on this point. She was incredible in many ways but had diffiuctly accepting any accountability on her end for our difficulties. I would rather be single then go trough a divorce again.
Probably a really good decision. Hard in the moment but much better in the long run.
Amen. ☮
Not probably a good decision - definitely a great decision. Also dont take. her back, if you do shell assume you've capitulated to her terms.
After a certain age, a man must accept women have a shelf life. Enjoy her as long as she will agree to your terms. As soon as she tries to test you it is her way of telling you she is ready for the relationship to end.
@@GBU61I never had relations with a woman who did not test me if she was interested. This is 100% at their core. With experience we get better at handling tests but (other than in celibacy) we cannot escape them.
No tests from a woman = no interest.
Age 50 here: I don’t know how a man can retain the fullness of his masculine power living with his woman let alone marrying her.
You can't!
@@ALT3REDB3AST😉
Good men do not get married. Marriage is unethical.
Only way is if she adores you. It’s worked for me for 40 years with my wife
@ thanks for the insight there mate. To adore you for so long speaks volumes to who you are and creates intrigue as to how you did you over the 40 years.
I gave what I could to make a lot of women happy. About 38 plus years and a ton of money, time and emotions. Not one was happy, other then when she was 100 percent of my attention. I have other things now to make me happy, time is running out and I have a lot to accomplish.
The only thing that makes a woman happy is $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$, clothes and shoes.
Bob Marley said loud and clear:no woman no cry
Dating is an absolute sh*tshow and it's getting worse every day.
I used to think it was worth tolerating from time to time, but I just can’t see it anymore. I can’t see how it’s worth it from any angle. Then again, I haven’t dated abroad yet
@@floatpool8307So funny 😂
Save your money! It should be 50/50 payment with this equality.
2 videos in 1 day? you're killing it John! Great work and great advice too.
Schopenhauer tells us that the major reason we suffer in this life is because we believe that lasting happiness is possible in this world.
His advice is to view the world as a penitentiary a penal colony and accept that unhappiness is not the exception but the rule. Once we accept the above as true the solution according to Schopenhauer is to stop seeking happiness and do as much as possible to minimise unhappiness and pain. He recommends solitude and silence and exposure to the sublime.
fundamental flaw in their character is that they have no sense of justice. This is due to the fact that nature has not destined them to be dependent on strength but on cunning; this is why they are instinctively crafty and, and have an ineradicable tendency to lie - Arthur Schopenhauer
I have peace 7 years post-divorce. The fun phase was purged from my system 4 years ago. I can't recall the last intimate interaction I had and that does not bother me at all. I'm thankful to those who got me to where I am, including my ex, because without that adversity, I would not have been challenged. And without challenges a man is a shell of his true self. Keep on chuggin' along, men. Don't soften yourself. Soften your grip because nothing is ours to keep.
Quitters are losers
Very well said brother! I'm approaching 6 years post and never been happier! In the beginning of it it's pretty rough, went through depression. Dated for a few years but older now, saw red flags and wasn't willing to go through the same issues all over again. After being single for a while I noticed my sleep, mood and energy started to get better over time. Life now couldn't get any better. Keep trucking along men! I
Life is beautiful but short. Spend time doing the things that you enjoy and that make you happy.
Peace is priceless. We have God's Spirit within us, each of us, waiting patiently for our attention. We have to run on the hamster wheel until one day we wake up and ask 'why am I doing this?"
"A fool who persists in his folly becomes wise" - William Blake
I’m almost 44. My ship sailed many years ago. Thank God I missed the Titanic!😂
Rather swim with the sharks than get on the ship!
I think this video should be mandatory for all high school girls to watch. John has amazing insight and wisdom that needs to be unleashed on this next generation of young people.
As for the part about the Cult of Children, my experience is that you are 100% correct. I warned my wife about this 25 years ago and here we are now as roommates due to her total focus on the kids as they were growing up.
@@WesLanphier dump her
As a resingled man, one is just better off not getting remarried. Just live a good life, build your relationship with God, Fitness, Enjoy your work and make good money, Friends, Family, Get out there.
Hey John,
I've been following your videos from time to time and wanted to share my thoughts. I'm 28, tall, good-looking, financially successful, and have been in shape since I was 16. I’ve been an athlete my whole life and am respected by other high-value men. I guess you could say I’m the “Chad of Chads.” I only mention this to provide some context for what I’m about to say.
Even with these advantages, I’ve chosen to walk away. The level of narcissism, delusion, and lack of morals and integrity I’ve encountered is astonishing. It’s incredibly difficult to find a woman who is both feminine and attractive nowadays. Feminism, in many ways, has done a disservice to young women.
Your videos have really helped me understand the potential consequences of marriage and long-term commitment. While every relationship is different, your advice and the experiences you’ve shared have solidified my decision to live life on my own terms. Life is beautiful, and having an abundance mindset has allowed me to find happiness alone, much like you’ve described in your own journey.
Thank you for the work you’re doing. You’re providing a valuable service to men everywhere. Keep it up!
I’m fortunate to be in a relationship with a very attractive woman who is wise, well educated, funny and not financially needy. What really helps is that she lives in her own home 16 miles away. We see each other mainly on weekends and enjoy our autonomy the rest of the week. Neither of us are interested in ever getting married because it would spoil the great thing we have now.
Perfect!
Just remember the adage- “She’s not yours it’s just your turn.”
Hopefully, she’s not getting piped down by Tyrone during the week.
lol 😂😂
Well done
My mom told me that a man boss if you ask him the same question everyday uou get the same answer if you ask a woman boss the same question everyday you will get a different answer.
cuz it depends on the state of emotion the woman boss is at when the question is asked
Women - different every day ?
Help them fight the patriarchy, let them pay their own way through life !
Use this knowledge as a shield and not a sword - CGA
If needed, a pocket knife 😂
John, you just described my marriage with my ex-wife. The phrase "cult of the child" hits the nail on the head. The moment my daughter was born, my wife and I stopped sharing a bed-literally for eight years until we divorced.
Everything, and I mean everything, revolved around the child. I couldn’t even parent properly. Anytime I said something like, "Clean your room," my wife would immediately get in my face, acting like I’d committed a crime. She’d then clean the room herself instead of letting our daughter take responsibility.
I worked my ass off for 14 years to give her the house and life she dreamed of, and now here I am, living in a small apartment. It’s ironic, isn’t it? I built the dream, and I’m the one who had to move out of it.
Morals, Ethics , Values , Principles and Control your Biology . You'll be unstoppable and hard to Control. Hammerhand
Hammer hand has it right he is a little rough around the edges but he genuinely cares about men he is a true gentleman
@moresugartradercc2744 could be rough for some for sure. When I first listened to him many years ago, he was saying everything I was thinking 🤣.
@@moresugartradercc2744 IMO I think the straight talk he gives is necessary for the truth to be understood. The bluepilled training will pull a man back onto the plantation so easy with comfortable language.
57 and never married. I think I'm a 6~ but my likes and hobbies have always been a big turnoff to women I think. And, not being a 6-figure guy with the "bad boy" persona; I know I've made all those "nice guy" mistakes and put off numerous chances just by staying genuine to who I am. Into my 40s I still dreamed about meeting someone compatible and getting married someday but now it's too late, I'm committed to solitude. Thanks so much for your show. Cheers.
Hobbies are an alien concept to women; they have shit interests like Fashion, Make-up, Selfies, Celebrities, and Pop-Music.
It's not too late. You're still young. Have you ever done any volunteering? Something involving your interests and hobbies? You can meet women who like the same things that way. There is nothing wrong with solitude, but it's also good to have good company at times. Being able to sit in silent companionship together is one of the best things ever. No need to explain or apologise with the right person. Peace 🕊️
@nyx3967 your comment made my day, it really did, and I thank you so much. I could not agree with you more. Honestly tho, I've been volunteering my entire life -- so much so I've sacrificed income and career over it. My advocacy and activism is for things most women just aren't interested in, or run from actually. I've been blessed with many good friends of both sexes my entire life, but all are generation(s) ahead. The orgs I've chosen are all dying from lack of generational backfill; it's always the same tired volunteers doing everything (and they are old) with no real infusion of "new blood". The "kids" are nowhere to be found. I think in 10 years most will be dead, unless at least GenX (my gen) makes a sudden appearance and gets involved. I could go on and on for hours re historic preservation, open space, walk-bike safety and infra, etc. If anything it's been a huge red flag toward finding a relationship. Here's my brief bio instead. Best to you. www.1stbikes.org/2013/05/about.html
If all women went to Mars for one year, whenthey returned hollywood would be bankrupt along with all that tv programming. And their beloved celebs would be working as waiters.
@nyx3967 I've run the gambit with volunteering, esp in the areas of habitat conservation, hiking clubs, biking clubs, etc. I ran a campaign for 4 years to save critical open space for a regional park where I live, and we lost to the developer at the very end. Nobody has put themselves out there more than I have, trying to do good for community, the common good -- and working behind the scenes bc to me it's not about "credit" or drawing attn to myself. Our built environment really sux and that's why most people are isolated. No "3rd Place" for most living in the suburbs. Now I'm a shell of my former self, a broken man, unable to fathom the idea of volunteering for anything, having been to the dark side, experiencing govt corruption first hand. But yeah, I agree with you -- it's what I tell everyone. There's never "nothing to do" esp after retirement if you are single. Orgs all over the place need people, and it's a great way to meet others and if nothing else make friends.
No fault divorce and feminism are the 2 most damaging to families. I will never let the state pillage my assets again by signing a license to marry and then divorce.
Again? Sheeiiitttt!
I'm going to have to push back on no fault divorce. If it didn't exist, every man getting a divorce would be sent to prison for false accusations she laid down in order to get a at-fault divorce to "find herself" (swimming in other men's sperm)
Nice video brother.. you broke it down calmly and accurately.... A beautiful place to explain it too.. we hear you loud and clear..
Yes, we do!
I will never forget the advice i got from an older friend when I was young, He said " Long term most marriages will end badly - Just follow my rule which is the four F rule..... Find them, Feel them, F*** them and Forget them" I think I would have been much better off If I had followed his advice.
Apostle Paul int the Bible said: It is better to live a single life like me and be closer to god than be married and be beholden to your wife and putting god in a lower position than your wife.
Wombat rule, eats roots and leaves.
It's quite literally "I wouldn’t marry you if you were the last woman on earth" We will not comply, not negotiate with this current "-ism"
We will not settle for left over women.
Most guys marry these singles mothers
I'd rather die alone than shack up with the modern zinc dump
@midragga 99.9% of them are zinc dumps 40 years old here I've never met one that was quality my entire life all of them are creeping with all different men this whole time
You really don’t have much choice.
Marriage is the worst contract for men, and thanks to social media and instant sharing of information more men understand this today. In many ways, marriage is an antiquated norm from a very long time ago, when the powers in charge needed to incentivize men to be financially and physically responsible for a woman (wife) and her children. But in today's world, we have extensive welfare and an omnipotent state that takes care of women, their children, and all their needs. Men really are not needed to sign away their life, to the worst business contract ever devised. Perhaps the state needs to change marriage laws, if they want marriage to remain viable. A start would be to end the state-enforced splitting up of a man's assets and the almost permanent alimony after divorce.
The State won’t do that ever. Because the laws are exactly the way they want them to be. Women, dating, marriage, houses, cars, children, divorce: it’s all Business, and it’s all to keep the money flowing. Oh, and to keep men weak. And round and round the world goes. 🧐
A man will be beneath the children and her pets in a relationship.
The take on child worship nowadays is spot on - been an obsession with most women since around the late 90s or so. The child becomes the center of their Universe , or their pet. Their Men become an after thought. ruins the relationship and dynamic. Another gynocentric example
Ain't that the truth... Got the t-shirt...
Children should be first, always. But the same woman may demand from her partner that he puts her before the children.
@@marvinidler2289 The woman always puts herself first. Children are just an assessory to her. It is the man that always comes last.
Tbh much depends on simply whether man accepts this or not. Alot of men don't agree...but still go along with that setting and maybe complain in the internet. Though I don't wish to advocate men be some sort of tyrants in their relationships - whether man simply openly asserts himself or not is a big thing.
John has a true gift of explaining the real problems of today's dating world. I hope that women watch his videos, so they can have a true understanding of how men feel.
I wanna tell the two ladies watching this that John is indeed single.
Thanks for your help man. I appreciate it.
I want to tell the ladies that John has lots of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ for you, so try to lock him down and marry him to get all of his $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ in divorce. Let the games begin ladies.
Another top shelf video. Best 23 minutes of my week.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Agree, you are on fire lately John, home run insights the last few weeks. Massive knowledge , appreciate these important vids of high value. Bottom line : stay single, date women Only on your own terms. Besides, with the exception of their sex value, unless one desires companionship, best to rent vs buy (do Not cohabitate or get 'locked down' as Mr. boyfriend).
Do not ,REPEAT, do not get married.
Disagree about the last part about what is essentially passport bros.
Those men are in for a rude awakening when they find out that women they are with only want them for their security and money. Which is actually far worst than their first wives who may have been more caring of them as an individual.
That’s how you get a Robin Williams or Anthony Bourdain level of suicide..
Your best hedge against a woman is engage them only on your terms and always be willing to walk away when you’re not enjoying their company any longer.
If you’ve been married before, it is in your best interest to never get married again.
women are the same everywhere. Even in the deepest of jungles womens nature is the same, is just masked. bring that same woman back to the west and see how that turns out! perhaps not all but a large majority of them. I for one getting to the point I dont want anything to do with western women , there just way too toxic and disagreeable, a never ending of complaint's.
Yeah the passport bros are on the wrong track. Once they bring these women to the US or any western country these women will adapt and their wants and needs will grow quickly. Then they will want to "level up". Yeah, rude awakening.
Solid logic and strategy! Unlike most of the whiny losers here
Their nature is the same regardless of country of origin
You always pay.. It's cheaper overseas for a better product..
Everything in life has some tradeoffs
I’m 54, divorced due to her infidelity and substance issues. Still having to pay. I’ve moved past bitterness, but I have no desire to ever live with or marry a woman again. The risk of losing everything again is simply too great
I was in Las Vegas over the weekend attending the Las Vegas Grand Prix totally solo and I couldn't believe the total of men that were like myself enjoying our best lives without be strapped to a woman. I was able to enjoy everything without any feminine distractions. It was a whole weekend of machine and the drivers technique and the thrill of it all.
By the time I got back home, I felt great and needed that time away from females in general.
Thanks for sharing!
Remembered line from a novel I read...."Marry her? That's not what they're for!"
When my ex got her daughter with our second child was the moment i began to evaporate. I became like a ghost in my own house.
I am so sorry for the abuse she put you through
Never sign a contract when the other party is paid out of your own pocket when they break it
Getting married in Australia is probably as bad, or even worse than in The States.
I dodged a bullet by not having kids with my ex.
I would've been slaughtered going through lawyers and the family court system.
It's not worth it. Now I just work and live here for part of the year.
TRAVEL THE WORLD 🌎
Sounds like fun!
@john-griffin It's been a blast!
I appreciate the content your making, and helping create awareness for younger men such as myself regarding marriage.
I'll never forget what my lawyer said to me, when I first walked in his office.
"Most men know more about the wedding cake, rather than what happens to them once s*** hits the fan!"
All the best mate. 👍 🇦🇺🦘
@ what your lawyer said it was absolutely true
Here is an agnostic question for everyone. If sex didn't exist. Would men still pursue women to the same levels we see now?
@@melenico4512 good question
@@joshcrawford7864easy answer - no
Nope. Male friends and dogs do a much better job of filling the other needs.
Absolutely not.
If aex didn’t exist, we would still be sitting around a fire and having loudest fart competitions!! Happy as clams
I love women very much .But I would never marry one .
Women are useful for a few hours per week.
Nothing more.
Haha good point bro !
I like the table dance places. lol.
All our problems stem from not being grounded in reality. If you treat a rattlesnake like a cute fluffy bunny, you will get bitten. Once you know it is a rattlesnake, you treat it as such and then there are no more surprises.
The only woman I have ever loved is my mother, and I plant to keep it that way. I am not old (21) but I have no interest in dating, or getting married. Never interacted with a girl romantically, and don't plan to either. (Most people think I am gay XD). Even before I saw channels like this, and knew MGTOW was a thing, I had made my mind up, because unlike the horny guys around me, I actually observed married people, and all of them seemed like dead, soul less walking corpses, and that terrified me, genuinely! I really enjoy my life, and my freedom. Worked hard to get it, and am not going to lose it just because I couldn't keep my pants up, no thank you! I think keeping my desires in check (been on NOFAP before I even knew it was a thing) has given me a lot of confidence in my decision as well.
You are very a very wise young man who will live a prosperous life full of freedom, adventure, and happiness without a woman f9cking things up for you.
@@Chad.Tyrone4UNow Thank you for the vote of confidence brother.
21? GenZ is cheating! Yall get to gain the learns without the burns.
@@KeyHimself101 😁 I don't know whether to thank the older generation or console them XD.
You are spot on when you talk about the man becoming unimportant to the wife when children are born. It not necessarily their fault as I’m sure evolution has baked into their DNA the priority of the child over the husband. But this was a big factor in my own divorce. And I was a very involved, attentive father.
Great video, you're right on, nicely done.61 years wise,no children, never married,and I'm addicted to my solitude and my time in nature, thanks! peace ✌️ men!
Kids were why I stayed married as long as I did. Somebody had to be a stable influence in my kid's lives, of course as crazy as she made me, I'm not sure I qualified anymore. Since my divorce, I've tried dating again, but just not worth it. Nothing but crazy out there and I don't want to bring that back into my house.
Well stated
I dunno, married 30 years and 6 months separated after being discarded as many of us have been. But just met a woman 14 years younger, wants to work on building a deep connection, claims she never argues, never weaponizes and i dont doubt it or this want will never work. Super calm and comforting voice/ way of talking, intelligent conversation, no subject is off limits, high sex drive, claims a drop in quality of sex is a problem that must be addressed immediately and is submissive to me with goals to become a relationship councilor of some sort.
Why was she single? To me its important to know. Women who discarded shall be discarded themselves, the brotherhood must stand together! Fortunately appears ive avoided them for now. First ex cheated on her while pregnant and the rest weren't able to open up to achieve a deeper connection she wants. Seems it scares many men, but those of us who stuck it out and fought for our marriages have done enormous self-reflection already.
Maybe i just got lucky, but i did look for women who were after communication and stressed its what i needed. From what ive seen in my limited time on apps, is the higher quality women will recognize our good men traits of sticking it out for so long. Asking for that communication they'll know why thats important to you. DO NOT give them pet names until actually dating and keep sexual inuendo to a minimum - they want to see you're a serious partner and not just after sex.
Who knows how it pans out from here, but she appears to check all the boxes atm. For me i know ill need to meet her submissive needs and maintain my frame always.
Marriage is like having to buy a brewery to have a beer.
Or buying a 747 to get the free peanuts....
That is perfectly described
I watched the whole video and that was my marriage
I was married 30 years
100% Right there with you Edward. 30 years.
Perfectly explained!
Thanks
I am 55 and never got married. I often listen to these videos on this channel while playing video games on Xbox - lol. I've been a gamer since the early 80s when I had the Atari 2600 with Pac Man, ET, and Yar's Revenge. Now, it's mostly Assassin's Creed Odyssey as my obsession. My mindset is "Marriage is just something that those grown-ups do. Someday, when I grow up maybe I'll do it" - LOL.
To be serious, I am a data scientist working on a PhD. Instead of marriage, I put my energy into building an engineering career and earning six master's degrees since the 1990s - mostly in engineering. I am currently studying AI for a dissertation topic. I spent much of Sunday debugging python code for AI. So, all my energy goes into a full-time engineering job then the rest into graduate research. On study breaks, I either workout or play video games. I hiked four miles with leg weights at dusk. There is no time or energy left for dating at the moment. It's always a good legitimate excuse.
As a data scientist, the probability analysis of risk assessment for marriage as an institution seems really bad. In general, the divorce rate is about 50%. For those marriages that do not end in divorce, about half lead to infidelity or a sexless marriage or some other crisis or conflict. The net probability of a truly happy marriage appears to be less than 20% at best. Those are very bad odds. Moreover, those "successes" just seem to be attributed to unusual good luck - no way to really "strategize" it with factual data.
So, it's easy for me just to keep blowing it off. I just like working on engineering research while listening to classic rock like Boston with the great MIT engineer who built his own amplifiers. Or I listen to the soundtrack of "Blade Runner" or "Westworld" while studying AI. I feel like I'm still 13 with my mindset focused on a job, research, and total avoidance of marriage - lol. From John Griffin's total aggregation of videos, it doesn't look like I'm missing out on much.
WELL at least you know you have never grown up!
@@Listener-r2j Yes, when I saw the film "Back to School" in 1986 at age 17 I identified with the teen freshmen in the film. It was about an old divorced dad (Rodney Dangerfield) going back to college to help his son. Now, at age 55, I identify with his character. I bring decades of industrial experience into these engineering courses. I know what the professors are not teaching that would be used in industry. Surprisingly, even at age 55 I have been occasionally able to meet college females. But as an old guy I know to stay out of trouble and move around campus as if HR is flying a drone over my head.
@@manuelsteele7755 funny! yes u better stay away from such young females!
@@manuelsteele7755 Considering your academic credentials I have a question for you: In the future will it be possible to imbue farts with Artificial-Intelligence?
Roy Batty's soliloquy in Bladerunner is pretty much perfect. "All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. Time to die." The replicant understanding life better than the humans.
John, I really liked what you said about modern women putting children above their husbands. I'm a bit younger than you but was raised the same way, we got the basics and had to figure out the rest of ourselves. It makes me sick to my stomach when I see mothers overly doting on their sons with outpours of emotion, especially past the age of ten. It's no wonder they end up becoming feminized emotional basket cases even as adults.
My wife and I are DINKs and I realized years ago that even on a good day, I'm probably #6 or #7 on my wife's priority list. It's a helluva thing when you realize your wife just wants you around for the security your income provides, and doesn't seem to understand what men really need to be happy. Divorce is my only option to find that peace I gave up...never again.
Your piece of mind is your most valuable asset
Once a child is out, the husband becomes merely a 2-legged tool with a brain to provide financial support for the family.
Obrigado!
Thank You!
Great work on your channel!
Thanks a lot!
Got married in 2023 DecemberZ left the apartment and asked her to move out around Aug 2024. The abuse I had to go through this year was just unreal. As a man no one cared when you try to explain this. So I left and I don’t feel like I really need a relationship anymore. I work out, make music, train muy thai. Life is good.
Nobody wanted to stick with me in my 20's, 30's, and 40's. Chilling out and enjoying the fruits of my labors from 50+,, i will have peace and relaxation.
Wait until you hit 60, you will think that you died and went to heaven...it gets better
Great content and so true. Thank you 👍
Glad you enjoyed it
I love these walks you take, does it snow where you live; in other words, will you continue these walks in the snow?
@@genxpianoplayer yes it does snow and yes, I still walk. And I’m looking forward to it.
Ah!!! I love that you are finally not making apologies for your content. Great job and keep up the great content.
I appreciate that!
I think a big problem is because of dating apps, most men struggle to benefit from sleeping with a lot of women. I'm 6ft 5 with a six pack at 215lbs and even dating is tricky for me. 2/3 women flake so it requires a lot of time and effort to find 3 decent options who aren't ruined or been about the block a bit.
Thank you so much for airing all these factors. So much to ponder and reconsider. A lot of the stuff you talk about has an immediate resonance. I recognise it instantly and I feel a fool for not admitting it. I've gone along with it because I've thought "Well that's how society is and I have to go along with it" but at the same time feeling very uncomfortable with it and feeling a heavy burden sacrificing my life and happiness. The people you say that leave angry comments are the very people who need what you're telling them. You are a mirror for them. Who wants to admit to themselves that they've been made a fool of?
I found this extremely interesting because it perfectly summed up every reason that led to my family being destroyed and my life being ruined by a woman in my 20 year marriage.
Was it a cult of the children?
I see your new upgraded drone came in, nice!
It actually hasn’t come in yet. I’m still using the old one. I just smack it every once in a while to make sure it works. Every time I send it out over the water I hold my breath. There made in either Norway or Denmark and it takes weeks for them to get here.
I am literally going overseas to give a shot. Heading to Vietnam next month. My first trip there and my first country on my list I’m visiting. I have decided on expat living. I will be 52 next month. Yes women are women no matter where you go. But I’d rather try to date abroad than here in the U.S. Been watching expat content creators living abroad educating myself. I’ve been told, go where you are appreciated and valued. Go where you are treated best. ✈️ 🏃♂️
I am sure it will be an adventure! Enjoy and report back. Thanks
@ I sure will. I plan to post videos on my TH-cam channel.
Be very very careful! It is not what it seems to be. Have zero expectations and travel to travel and discover not to date
I have much more experience with Asian women than your average American or even Expat. while being the most beautiful on the outside, they rank dead last on inner beauty. If you have 35 years to waste discovering this truth yourself - have at 'em.
You'll end up supporting her and her entire family until you are bled dry. Her loyalty will always be to them over you. Don't be "their" next sucker.
I don't think women are too worried about a man shortage, with them being okay with sharing the top 20%, or just switching over to women. Men on the other hand...
They are because they won't get commitment, just being ran through. Men on the other hand don't need commitment.
The problem is that this top 20% (I would argue for a smaller percentage) has no intention to commit or provide for them. Which is quite frustrating for a woman. Women are craving for more than just good seed donors.
Having been divorced 10 years ago, I have personally witnessed the online dating scene go from a fair 50/50 with even matches and plenty of opportunities to the current nightmare of only the top 5% of men getting a look-in and the ridiculous behaviour of the women.
So much Truth Thank you
Thanks
I'm Single, and NOT looking. Never married, no kids, retired very very early and my time is my own.
Getting married nowadays is paying new price for a used car and then finding out it was only a lease. So when the lease is up you lose it and everything you invested. I’m 53 and never married and don’t intend to
Not only as lease...but a lemon.
John. This is one of my top 3 favorites!!! I am a feminist. 100%. But I have my feminist boundaries. Seems like the majority of women abuse what feminism means. I love how you dedicated this video directly to women. You are a force and I want to be part of this male movement. We just need a leader! Women today have no idea how they are manipulating men. It’s almost like it’s inbred and they are doing it subconsciously. Women today just don’t get it! Maybe one day when our population is cut in half they will wake up. For now, I am just focusing on my daughter my career and my freedom! Only drama I face is from my 9 year old and my crazy freight job. I don’t have any capacity left for any type of personal relationship. Not today. Probably not for many more years. Every women I meet I sense right away if they are trying to control my mind. 😮trippy shit!
@@PricelessSpits thanks for the support
"To heal the world, first one has to start with oneself becoming an anti-feminist."
also,
"A daughter grown in poison soil will be fruitless." Lao Tzu probably
Women Rule the World, look at Kamala Harris, Angela Merkel, Queen Elizabeth, and Amber Heard.
Of course you are Karen.
@@Chad.Tyrone4UNowDon't forget Miley Cyrus and Courtney Cox ROTFL.
The societal seeds of decay have sprouted long ago. There is no going back. It has been rotting now for several generations; it is taught to children in the schools, even the elite academies. We are in the last stage of decline.
Then what happens?
@@Spartan-Of-Truth That's when the fun begins my friend.
Look at Education Department on any campus for 40 years worth of social rot.
This channel deserves a lot more subscribers!
STRAIGHT FACTS !!!!!
John. Youbare raising questions and realities that are presented to me at 61 and my son who is 31.
Dispute this being a large social issue - and it most certainly is!
Your thoughts and comments represent the solution and turn around back to a path that works.
For the record, I was married for 26 years and single now 9 and everything you have touched on is spot on. Mim not bitter nor angry but I will never become cohabited again for all of the reasons you have highlighted since discovering your Chanel.
Well done Sir and special comment on you do play both sides where and when appropriate.
It has been a true pleasure discovering your channel. Few months ago. Methanol you!!
Thanks
I was thinking of getting married, but instead I decided to buy a wild hyena with rabies. 😊
Good choice!
Wow John, you summed that up well. Thank you for the words of wisdom! Saving me so much time and have me asking the right questions. ❤🎉🙏🏿
Glad it was helpful!
You are point on, John!!!
There is another consideration, but it's more "meta." Cultures and ethnic groups and nations that "give up" on family formation will go extinct. Period. Your own gene line WILL go extinct if you don't have children. You will need to look into yourself, and decide whether or not you care about this. If you do care, then you will have to take a risk. Just like starting a business (most of which fail), you will have to take a risk if you decide to form a family. It would be very very wise to use EXTREME discernment, and ask the opinion of elders, family (if they are wise), and really wait a good year or two. Observe the woman. Does she exhibit any narcissistic traits? Here is the biggest test I personally recommend to try on anyone, in any relationship, not just romantic: randomly say "no" to a request. If the other person reacts calmly and is like, 'oh, no problem, maybe next time,' that's a good sign. If she responds with rage, resentment, or revenge, run. Finally, what you are looking for is a spiritually advanced soul to marry or form a family with. We live in a time when the culture and civilization are very degraded. You will need to seek something you don't think can't exist, but I believe it still can. I say that as someone who went through the ringer, and shouldn't be optimistic. But without hope, life has no meaning. Keep on pursuing excellence, and work on yourself. If something in terms of relationship is meant to be, the woman will come into your life naturally. Not on Tinder.
The saying no thing is a great idea. An adult should have no problem with it. Unless of course it's something very important that absolutely needs to be done and they are unable do it. Narcissists can hide their narcissism for a long time though. You should do a video!
Ahh I'm so lucky idgaf about trivialties like legacy, human life or idea to bring someone to continue this nonsensical toll.
I spare the potential generation from the bs and it's my highest form of love.
I'm an antinatalist.
Hypergamy reminds me of the Monkey's song, "I'm not your stepping stone". Men do not like realizing they're just the next step on the stairs.
This video sums up the situation very well.
*Staying single gives men the freedom to focus on their purpose and avoid unnecessary drama. When the right connection comes along, they’ll be better prepared for a fulfilling partnership.*
Spouting facts!
Why would any man ever get married these days when Tyrone or Chad is constantly lurking in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to undermine the relationship. Shalom
@@gregorystinette8271 tyrone and chad are not "lurking in the shadow", the wives are secretly lurking for them.
Both
Great video. 62 yoa male married at 20 for 25 yrs.
Took me a month just to wipe the smile off my face after divorce..
Did it cost you a lot financially?
Solid video. Thank you.
Glad you liked it!
Hypergumy is beneficial to young woman up to their mid 20's. It's detrimental afterwards. Ladies, choose early and wisely.