Hearing a stranger on the internet say "It's alright. You're not supposed to have it all together." is one of the most comforting things I've heard since my life took a turn for the worse.
You're supposed to haver it all figured out and all together if you don't then you become self-indulgent, self righteous and self-entitled and you end up being a parasite to the world you live in, to the people around you and eventually to yourself.
My advice for anybody seeing this video and smiling because of the message: don't click on another video after this. Just close TH-cam and all other social media. Just be happy, and don't worry.
I had no idea there was an entire genre of cowboy philosophers on TH-cam. It’s very comforting to hear that it’s okay to not have it all together. Thank you, mysterious cowboy man!
@@Gergaloth He seems like a nice enough guy. And the pipe helps. Anytime a dude with gray hair is smoking a pipe you automatically want to listen to him. But even though he seems pleasant and he's trying really hard for the look, all he's really doing is stating the obvious and throwing in some cliches. If you want some real "cowboy" wisdom and advice from a man who isn't quite so domesticated and actually has some rough edges and scars then I'd suggest you listen to anything Billy Joe Shaver ever wrote or sung. That's a real warrior poet. This guy just seems like your average, run of the mill, nice neighbor type. He's neither a warrior nor a poet.
Pain chisels at a man for sure. It either kills a man or it hardens his heart, his resolve. It also deeply humbles a man, so his priorities become simple, love and simple pleasures.
The wiser you become you realize just how little you actually know. This man is a blessing to us all. He's sharing his testimony of a cumulative life lessons put in perspective he worried about everything we worry about give a helping hand once in awhile if you see somebody struggling
I'm 31 years old. I have 60k in student debt, a degree I haven't finished, another degree I'm working on, a failed engagement, no savings, no mortgage, no kids, no partner, and am a barista at the coffee shop across the street. It will get better. It WILL get better. Thank you.
I’m from another angle but feel the same. I’m 35, Married to my best and only friend, 3 beautiful Daughters, been through some health stuff, as has my wife. And I’ve hit a point where my nobly doing physical hard work for jobs might be coming to an end. My body has started to turn on me and I’ve had my first real long term time off sick in my life. So I started uni today actually, today is the first day of my part time Uni course. To pick up my education again that ended in 2009. I’m struggling now to find non physical work, how wild is that, that the physically hardest work is the work I can’t get away from. The real heavy lifting work, I’ve wrecked my body at 35, and now I want to use my mind and I can’t find anything that doesn’t required being a graduate. But like you said, it *WILL* get better. It will get better. Love to you brother, you’re not alone. None of us are truly alone.
30 years old, still live with parents, no marriage, no kids, no idea what I want to do career wise and just trying to manage my depression. Feel so lost and behind, and always feel like a loser. But this definitely gave me some comfort, right at the time I needed it. Thank you.
Right in the same boat as a 22 year old...just learning like others who got touched by this video, which is to live life to the fullest and embrace what we have around us.
I believe in you man and ik that might not be much from a 22 year old, but I do. You may be older, but when you find what you want to do, you'll have the experience to back it. All I ask is you believe in you brother
1. Your job isn’t your life 2. Find something you love and do it 3. Enjoy time w Friends and family 4. Laugh and live in the moment 5. Find happiness in the small things I was missing my Grandma today and your video came up. It’s warm to hear your words. Thank you for sharing.
The best thing ive ever heard anyone say ....38 and not whinging, just live , love and just be nice , be respectful, and youll recieve the same ... 💚🤙🙌
I never had a father figure. From 15 to 24 I went through addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, legal trouble, car accidents, a whole world of trouble. I got my face absolutely kicked in my drugs until I had nobody and nothing left. Life had me on my ass. Overdoses. But god kept me here. Many days I wished I wasn't here. Now I'm 30, clean from everything, own a home, have a full time job, have relationships with my mom and brother again and even quit cigarettes recently (smoked 14 years). If I can do it, you can. And I'm not perfect man. Far from it. Embrace it. Let go of toxic shame. It only holds you back. Focus on the good.
@@heisawesome4329 Learned to laugh at myself, and my mistakes. And some time between me and the mistakes as well. I still overthink often but less so now that the drugs alcohol and gambling are gone.
I am 54, twice divorced, father of a 31 year old daughter from the first marriage, and I've been on my own again since the second marriage ended in 2005. I still have no idea what I am doing and I don't think my health will see me through to 75 (45 year heavy smoker and bad emphysema). Not the man I thought would grow into, but I'm more of a man than most guys I know in my peer circle who are still doing ridiculous things and learning lessons I learned long ago by starting early. I still have no idea what I am doing ,and I am totally okay with that at this point. I have some shoulda/coulda/woulda's but those are the most toxic thing I can imagine, so I try not to let them eat me from the inside out like a corrosive. And that's that.
@@HistoricMetals the sad part about 75 is I've seen so many friends go already and many of them come to me telling me they don't want to go I simply look at them and smile and say change your lifestyle you will be here longer it says if we try to destroy ourself with our pleasures I am very basic been married three times divorce since 94 have a grown daughter by first wife we don't talk my mother recently passed my sister's taking all the money but I still have a positive outlook and a smile on my face and try to get others to do the same we're all here for a reason and we'll all leave when it's our time I'm actually working part-time as a security guard which I seem to enjoy meet a lot of nice people but that could be the end of me also 😁😆😉🐝
@@beeamerica5024 I havent talked to my daughters mother since our last day in divorce court either almost 2 decades ago. She cheated. She took everything. I took a long time to recover. I attended my aunt's 90th birthday party yesterday in Nashville. I can't imagine turning 90 and you yourself are still a long way from it too. Here's hoping we both make it, just to be able to say we did that too. Hell sounds like we both already did everything else. I too am very basic. I think going through a lot of tough experiences in relationships, finances, having those ups and downs finally makes you realize, you can even out the bumps by being happier with what you got in the lows of the curves and not being so damn wound up about climbing back up to the peaks that matter less and less over time anyway. The middle, is nice and even and easy. Is it choosing mediocrity? Maybe, or maybe it's just choosing to get off the silly cycle and even things out. Good luck out there, Sir!
There's no reason to be your own worst enemy. You should always be your greatest supporter. What you mean to say is...Your mind is your own worst enemy. But that's because you never took the time to train it. Like a puppy that's pissing and shitting itself. Well that's our mind too, that is unless we train it. Only then will it do what we want. Let's not take our selves too seriously and confuse our own psychological drama with existential reality. It's miraculous that we are even alive, not to mention in this day of age where we have so many comforts and conveniences. Pull out a picture of yourself taken when you were 5 years old. Notice the smile, the joy, the exuberance for just being alive. That's how we should be every moment. We've somehow forgotten this as we got older. This is a reminder~ you are still that kid deep down inside in love with life itself. No need to make an enemy.
My dad passed away in April. Got married in June. Danced with my mom and talked about dad, then my mom passed away unexpectedly the week after the wedding. We were sitting on the tarmac delayed when I got that call. Transitioning out of the military next year and really wish I had my dad to talk to right now. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for making these videos.
You will make it... sounds like your parents led you well. Remember... it’s only a temporary departure. We absolutely go on and will reunite one day. Our passed on loved ones just graduated a bit sooner than we will. We still have a mission to accomplish here in this 3D world. Make decisions the best that you can and know that God is absolutely not worried about the final outcome. Your life will go exactly as planned. Be well... and know that ALL IS WELL. ❤
In a world full of people making you feel guilty for not spending every day getting something done, it is refreshing to hear a voice that reminds us it’s okay to take it slow and appreciate life. Thank you man.
Indeed. Decided at 64 to simply get off the treadmill. Been 6 months. My wife and I are happier than ever before. The decision made it impossible to have trinkets desired when younger. Miss them zero.
@Lani Childs “Don’t get me wrong. She turns me on, but I’m only sleeping.” Listen to John Lennon’s “Working Class Hero.” All the best to you and yours.
Having life together in terms of society is not the best metric to calculate yourself. Are you wiser than you were 10 years ago? Are you smarter than than you were 5 years ago? Do you have a better peace of mind than last year? What is going inside of you and if you have discovered the intelligence to accept yourself.. getting it all together is something that can come anytime.
"A pine tree Grows and matured very fast An oak tree Grows and matures very slow Which one lasts longer? Which one is stronger? Which one shelters more critters and birds? And when it's over and done. Which one is more valuable for the lumber? People aren't looking to buy pine furniture." WRANGLER SCHOOL These words touched me very deeply sir. Thank you
Wisdom for the depraved. There is nothing wrong with gaining a lot in a little time, if you can handle it. Even at that stage, the mature pine tree still has an infinite amount left to achieve. However, whether you are the oak or the pine tree. Life stays strong within both, and life appreciates both. Some are just born pine, some are born oak. It's ok to be both. Each has their own path to grow upon.
I’m 37 and going to college for the first time. I have to remind myself my timeline was different, and being a single mom juggling college is hard but I’m not giving up. Thank you so much
"Never regard your study as a duty but as the enviable opportunity to learn the liberating beauty of the intellect for your own personal joy and for the profit of the community to which your later work will belong." -Einstein
I'm 49, living in probably worst economy in the world (Zimbabwe). It's tough with unemployment at 97%. Our home was taken. Love this video just kept me going through another day, thank you.
Think alot of young people need to hear this. I'm 25 and have pushed myself into depression by putting so much pressure on myself because I haven't reached certain standards I wanted to by now. Social media definitely makes the problem worse because it seems like everyone is happy, rich and in love etc
Just turned 25 as well… I hear ya. I put a ton of pressure on myself as well and it’s not good. I’ve got a decent job but haven’t achieved as much as I’ve hoped by 25. I do have insta deleted though and I’ve even feeling better. Also listening to dry creek wrangler school
25 year old man here, man, I feel you. One thing I have tried to do in order to combat these kinds of feelings is to counter any social media content that makes me feel envious or low with content like this channel or something similar, remind yourself there are more people like you than those who are not and look to those who have lived well for reassurance, but mostly, as cliche as this sounds, enjoy the journey! God bless
Lost my son, my job, home, all in a matter of months, I'm 42, Your words have just managed to lift this elephant off of my chest for a few minutes, thank you.
Keep it together man. Just know you are being tested for your strength. Be strong and pass the exam of life. Everyone has one or two so you aren't alone at all.
Man, so many awesome take aways. 1. Lifes is not a race, so act your age and enjoy life. 2. Life is hard. The hardest thing youve ever been through is gonna feel like a disaster. Later on youll realize it wasnt. 3. Your gonna make mistakes, just make fewer. 4. Setbacks to goals happen. But dont give up. 5. Your not behind in life. The movies are a fantasy. Your ideal life is probably one too. 6. No one expects you to have figured it out. SAGE wisdom. Thank you brother!
The main issue with the first one is when you start comparing yourself to others, when people compare to each other they create a big poison to real personal success.
I’m 22 and haven’t been able to get a job. Pressure from family and peers is killing me right now. This was nice to hear, it was sort of relaxing. Update: I just got a job!
I’m 25 years old and earlier this week just went through a breakup with my girlfriend of 6 years after she confessed to cheating and loving someone else. This topic could not have come at a better time, and I’m very grateful for you, Duane.
I’m in a very similar situation brother, wife did the same thing to me after 6 years. “The cavity which suffering carves into our souls will one day also be the receptacle of joy.” I’m a little further down the road than you. Haven’t made it to the light at the end of the tunnel yet but I’m starting to see it, and I promise it’s not a train. Hang in there man
Stay strong man! I am going to say this, each boy needs a breakup to become a man, live your life man, go to the gym, work in your job harder and start figuring out how you want to live this is the best fuel you could get. Peace my man.
As you get older, you do realise that so many things you worried about don't matter. You also learn to appreciate the things that DO matter. Thankfully, those things are yours for the taking, and are earned with discipline, mindfulness and love - not money, popularity, or possessions.
One of the most challenging aspects of communicating this to someone and them fully grasp the validity of this simple truth is that; a large percentage of people on't absorb it because it isn't a quick "fix" so it might not instantly make them feel better. It's sort of an esoteric, philosophical answer that tends to go in one ear and out the other.
I’m not a man, but your words have really hit home. I recently lost what felt like my dream job, and to hear you put it into perspective like this was beyond relieving. I’m only 20, barely a full-grown human, expecting myself to have the knowledge and wisdom of someone twice my age. Life is tough, but I want to become tougher. Thanks for the advice, Dwayne. Much love from Carolina.
As an almost 27 yr old, hearing "act 26 not 56" really hit me. I worry so much about the future problems or possible problems that I don't focus on the now. I'm learning my worth and I want to stay open to learning more, always. Imaginary burden and cornering myself to worry about things that aren't mine to worry about (for the most part) are things I've gotta work on. I really needed to hear this, and by what I see in the comments, I'm not alone. You've done a great service for multiple generations here, thank you very much. 💕
It's ok that you worry about the future, as long as you also do something about it. Plan ahead, but also leave a little time and energy to enjoy the present.
26 here, I feel like I’m in the same boat. So much pressure from myself to be like those 20 year old millionaires we read about. But they aren’t me. I think the mindset of wanting to improve is the most telling aspect of a persons potential
@@ninjadeamonI've been there before, and I'm there right now. Failure only breaks those who don't understand it. It broke me when I was studying math and physics at university where I became so anxious I couldn't study anymore. A few years later I found myself homeless for the first time. I was in Minneapolis in the summer. Minneapolis is an astonishingly beautiful city, with parks and lakes everywhere. I was outside for 4 months that summer and it was probably the most blissful period in my life. I spent the days meditating by the lakes, and working in a group home, at night I slept in a hammock in the park. It's all about perspective.
It is, and it doesnt matter how many times you fall and fail as long as you keep getting back up and try one more time....that's how you get it together.
The way he pauses and say, "but they ain't got cool stories to tell," gives me chills! Heres to failure, heres to never giving up, and heres to having a damn good time doing it! Love and strength to you all.
Me too. One time I was in a cab ride to work, running late. We got stuck in traffic and got talking. He told me all hiking trails he’d completed. I told him about this one I’d tried and failed disastrously in hilarious circumstances (weren’t funny at the time I can tell you). We both laughed so much. Then he told me what I assume was his best hiking story, and it was that his wife almost fell over because her pack was so heavy. It occurred to me then that this guy may have meticulously planned and completed his trips, but I’d just went for it, messed up, but ended up with all these funny stories that I’ll remember for the rest of my life.
There's always something comforting about an old man letting you know it's gonna be alright. Shit is wack rn and it never seems to slow. Really needed this
Lol....he's 53, that's not an old man. I'm 53 now and don't consider myself an old man by any means...more like a wise soul. You'll see when you're 53....God willing.
@@DaveSchnare At 53 you're over halfway to dead. You are getting old. You don't have to *feel* old though. That's the secret. Some of the youngest souls I've met have been in creaky old bodies.
Im 39. Im divorced. I have maybe around 90 k in debt. No friends. Live with my parents again.I did start an own buisines i started to save money again. Starting from scratch again. It s a long way. Hope i don t lose my mind in the process.But i will get there. Someway somehow..
Hello, I absolutely believe you can bounce back. I have faith that you can. Whatever further hardships you face in the future, just keep fighting through. We all go through challenges, but we all learn something from them. good luck, and have a blessed day 👍
I’m 33 and reading some comments, I realize that everywhere in the world there are people going through difficult times, and it makes me value what I have, no matter how much or little, there are people who are really in a difficult situation.
Just turned 22,GF of 4 years broke up with me 3 months ago and got engaged a month after,failing at school and can’t find a decent job.I feel more lost than ever but this gives me some hope as a man that I’ll make it through…
I’m sorry for whatever circumstances led to you starting from scratch, but the fact that you are here means you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and you’ll be alright. Stay strong Leah.
This is real relevant to me. I’m 35, going through a divorce with the woman I thought was the love of my life, seems like I’ve lost everything in the last year. I was feeling like it was too late to start over, feeling like I was ashamed with where I was at. Living in the back of my $1000 truck working as a laborer on a construction site. Your video brought a little positive energy to me, I’m grateful
There with you brotha, just take it one day at a time I had a good size tire shop lost everything due to an ex but now working day to day. Im tired but we gots to keep going.
Divorced at 31… had to pay out 30k in alimony plus half of everything. Now at 47 yea of age, got it all together. But still so much to learn Hang in there friend… you got this
28, left a toxic relationship that made me feel emasculated. Low self esteem. I am miserable at the moment, but I am free to mold myself. Same with you, and God bless you with all the happiness, health and wealth.
I'm 83 and couldn't be more supportive of what you have just shared. Words that are important to all of us to absorb - even regardless of age. I would feel proud if I could do what you have just done here.
thanks for your comment Bob, for me this felt so important. young men like me are yearning for connection with the elder folks, seems like it is wiped out in our society. to much loneliness, to little interaction.
@@joeybutts13 I wanted to think about your request for any advice a while before I responded. So here goes. I never give advice because I don't live your world. But what I will do is suggest you think about this - from birth on forward we are all indoctrinated with the following belief which is as American as Apple pie, yet it drives most of our feelings and behaviors in a way totally unknown to us. That belief is: "You're not good enough, yet." Think about what that means, how that affects youvwhen you are silently and unknowingly believing it of yourself.
I got it together at 40, that was many years ago. I'm at peace and content with my life. I got nothing to complain about. I own little and live a simple life alone. My looks still get me attention without looking for it, I just live like I'm taken... I'm blessed and try my hardest to live a humble life. I'm blessed.
Might sound kind of cheesy, but I really needed to hear this today. I'm a young woman in my mid-twenties, and I'm only just now realizing that I'm not a failure because I don't have everything together. The last two years were so full of problems and stress, and in the last few months, I was completely broke and had to move across the country to a new job with only my sister helping, which up to then was one of the hardest problems I had encountered. I was terrified of driving big vehicles, almost to the point of anxiety attacks, but the only option I had was a U-haul, so I steeled myself up, said a prayer, and made it happen. And it turned out fine and I'm not as afraid of moving anymore. I tried to take those months of crisis, depression, and paycheck-to-paycheck one day at a time, and the good Lord helped out and everything ended up fine; now my job is going well, I'm ahead on bills, I've paid one of my debts off already, and I'm on the way to finish paying off the last two in less than a year. Sometimes things go up and down but the most important thing I've learned is that pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. When you face the pain and inconvenience and pointless difficulties in life head on and treat them more as learning and humbling experiences, you get a lot more out of it and aren't so afraid anymore.
I'm a stranger on the Internet. Reading this filled me with genuine, strong pride. I'm adude in his Mid 20's, England, and I can relate to your issues so much, especially when it comes to dealing with Anxiety attacks head on. You may not believe it but you're inspirational. As much as you needed this wonderful video, I needed this comment. Bless you, Bless your family and bless your future. You got this
Enjoy your 20s. You got time. God is good, and Rome wasn't built in a day. "Slow down u crazy child, your so ambitious for a juvenile, there's only so many hours in a day." Billy Joel
I'm 78 and listening to this young man of 55. Wish I was that age again. But this is probably the happiest time of my life despite the aches. I think you never stop learning even at my age I always thought old people must have it figuered out. Sorry they don't, not if they're honest. Just enjoy each day as it comes because you have less of them no matter what age you are. They're running out. I suggest you act now and stop dreaming of a better life. It's your life so take control. Mistakes are inevitable but you'll learn from them and at least you tried and you'll be a better person because of it. Persistence will get you everywhere. OK....enough.
Ive been noticing i have been wasting a lot of my time wishing I was younger because things were better/easier with more of a future. Im losing my future now by being stuck in that mindset instead of living
I'm 25 and going through the roughest year of my life so far. I lost my Papa in August, and I only realized it after he passed but that man had all the wisdom and knowledge I needed to get me through this tough time. I was sitting here missing him wishing I could just ask him for some advice and then I open up TH-cam and this video just randomly pops up. My Papa was the biggest cowboy I ever met. And one of the greatest men to ever walk this planet. And everything said in this video is exactly what I think he would tell me right now if he could. Thank you for this.
I lost my parent in August also. My mother was an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. I thought that since she was once in Hospital and was diagnosed with a liver cancer she will open her eyes. But she didn't, and 3 hours before she died I spoke to her on a phone (I am 19 years old and moved to Netherlands in June, didn't even had a chance to say goodbye to her in person). I am scared to death what will happen with me after my dad will pass away, and the fact that he is suffering from Parkinson's is a fuel for my anxiety. I wish you all the best, a lot of strenght. After some time we will surely get through this. :)
Your dad sounds like a total legend and I hope you can take solace from all the wonderful times you had together. I bet you've got some great cowboy stories! Sending you a big hug☺️💝 glad you getting some comfort from this video too x
@@alu697 dear alicia, I'm so sorry that you are suffering so much pain right now. I hope you can see your dad as much as possible but I know how scary it is - my father is 74 and I have anxiety about his health. I found polyvagal exercises are good for calming anxiety. There are books and videos on how to calm vague nerve. Also deep breathing, immersing face into ice water, mindfulness all help me to survive PTSD for the last 12 years. I wish you well, you are stronger than you think💐🌿☺️
I'm 49... This is the first year I've ACTUALLY had stuff figured out. I live on 5 acres in a 5th wheel off grid. At one point I owned a 3200 sq ft home.... Yet here with near nothing, I'm more stable, more focused, more centered, and yes wiser. I have a CLEAR vision of what I NEED to do... I've healed from my childhood trama and I'm finally figuring out WHO I am and what I WANT.... And what I NEED... this man is telling extream truths
I'm a 27 year old single mom trying to start a small farm. I've just been struggling so much lately. My life is so incredibly far from where I wanted to be by this age but this video made me cry. It was full of things I didn't realise I needed to hear. Thank you so much for reminding me I'm ok and I'll figure things out. My own family is constantly on me for being behind or not doing things right. This brought me significant peace after a rough day.
Hey, so this is just a massive shot in the dark, but im also 27 and going thru some tough times, but you said you're trying to start a farm but are struggling, basically I'm wondering if you have your own place and are close to a city and in a place that is warm during winter? I do door dash for work and I'm living in my car, trying to get to a warm place for the winter, but I'd gladly help you get your farm started in exchange for just a place to park and sleep in my car basically 🙃 I know it's a long shot and im just a random stranger on the internet, but times are tough and it's worth asking 🤷♂️
@@JoshwaLaw She's a young single mother trying to create and run a farm best You go find another parking spot for Yourself and Your car. You may be a decent person but it's way too risky for a Young lady to take a chance. Besides isn't it legal to park anywhere for an overnight before moving on again. Then You don't need to park on lady's farm.
Be careful what You post on the Internet Saying You're a young single mother & and running Your own farm to some means You're a vulnerable weak & an easy meal. At best You'll be conned and betrayed At worst You and Your child will be in danger Please be vigilant and wise for all things. Love and kindest of regards Strength and safety be with You and Yours
I'm 18 with no car, no jobs getting back to me, and no scholarship's to go to college with. I struggled though highschool during COVID, got low grades, and I've lost near all my friends through school, school changes and rumors. I feel like I'm lower in life than others my age. this video helped me to realize that I need to slow down and keep doing things to help my future. Thank you.
I was in the same boat. I couldn’t change on my own and decided I need the help. That help came in the form of joining the Marine Corps. Find your own legend, make that legacy!
I’m 18 and in the same situation, 3 years ago my dad lost his job, he got diagnosed with dementia, we sold our house, was homeless for 3 months and he passed away last year in January. Then 5 months later I almost had a major heart attack and am lucky to be alive, the doctors said it would take a year to heal. So here I am with a bad education because of the reasons I just listed and on top of that I can’t get a job or move any of my chess pieces on the board because I’m still healing ❤️🩹. It could always be worse even though that really doesn’t help your feelings much but look at it this way, at least we aren’t in Ukraine getting blown up into a million tiny pieces right now. We both feel stuck, my plan is to get a car first, save some money and then go into the military or trade school. Definitely not alone bro and the grass is not always greener on the other side, sometimes there’s no grass at all, so chill and decide what the first step is and slowly move from there. I saw my dad slowly lose his mind, he couldn’t talk, he just screamed, he couldn’t eat, he had to drink shakes, he couldn’t drink hardly at all by the end of it and he was so skinny you could see his ribs, I had to pick him up when he collapsed. I would rather go to war than go through that again. THE ONLY REASON IM TELLING YOU THIS IS BECAUSE IT CAN GET ALOT WORSE THAN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE SO JUST CHILL
@@haxor6863 this is my motivation to keep going man I am so sorry that happened to you. You did not deserve that. But it all happened for a reason. God gives his strongest men the hardest tests.
28 year old here, I can absolutely promise you, that if you keep your chin up and press on, it will blow over. You'll look back on this period as one of those times you had to "go into the forge to get stronger". All these difficult times count for something, it's just not always apparent when you're going through the thick of it. Press on.
I’m 25 and lost my brother to suicide. I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you❤ Edit: me and my family just want to thank all the kind supportive messages 💚 makes me feel like I’m not alone
I’m now 27 and my life hasn’t changed since I was 23. Not married, no relationship, no kids, I moved back in with my parents. I went back to college and got a 2nd BA degree because my GPA was so low I couldn’t get into a Masters program. I got my dream job worked it 5 weeks and quit because my boss was verbally abusing me on the daily. Now I’m working at an elementary school and learned the importance we leave on people’s lives. “They may be a little part of your life, but you are a big part of theirs.” Knowing that has brought me more happiness than anything else. Find what makes you happy and focus on that, the rest will come in due time.
Aye man I’m in a similar situation from 23 unitl now I’m 25 things have been the same live by myself I am a licensed barber but the gig isn’t doing it for me financially anymore I want to go back to school to try and pursue my dream career thinking about moving back with my parents im not sure if being 25 is already to late to go to school
@@sixstrz8310 I’ll tell you this, I went back for my second BA at 24. Covid hit and I didn’t finish till I was 26. It was worth every second. It was a better experience and I did better in class. We place too much stress on high schoolers to go straight to college, but they need more exposure to the real world and time to grow up some more.
@@kloveda5 thanks for the words of wisdom and I do agree sometimes we need to get into the real work world to gain some life knowledge school is always there for you in case you wanna go back to it exactly what I’m going to
I'm 22 and I lost my dad 4 months ago and my 16 year old brother 2 months ago, it's honestly been a big struggle and a friend's mom sent me this video, it's honestly what I needed to hear.
I'm 23 and lost my younger sister 11 months ago. Loss is incredibly hard. And it's alienating to experience it at our age I think. Remembering this videos message helps me. You only get stronger from climbing uphill. Things will get better eventually. Be patient and go easy on yourself!
@@Justchillin429 Oh my god, that’s horrible. I’m so sorry to hear about that. It’s so saddening and disgusting to realize what kind of savages are out there in this world, who have no regard or remorse for human life when it comes to getting something they want. I hope they caught the SOB, if not which hopefully isn’t the case, I’m praying for the guilt to devour and eat up the perp. It genuinely upset me to hear about that, so I can’t even imagine in the slightest, what you are going through. Please stay strong brother, and never give up! God rest your brother’s soul, and let karma come strike down the sad excuse of a human who committed the act.
That's amazing to hear! At 22, you're in such a powerful place to embrace this wisdom. It's great to see you already reflecting on meaningful advice. Keep going!
as a 21 year old who has been freaking out about "not doing enough" since my teenage years, watching this genuinely made me cry. and reading the comments section made feel so safe. it's weird but i'm actually so happy to know that there are people my age and even older than me who feel the same way. i feel like as a girl, i have to prove myself a lot and over and over again or else i won't be seen as "important" or "valuable" to my family. i know it sounds very immature and weird to consider yourself "valuable" or not but i really do feel that pressure to be the best of the best or else my education and my upbringing has been completely useless and i'm a failure. thank you very much for lifting some weight off my shoulders ❤
Ah man, we love ya. I hear so many kids on VRChat who have these same fears. You *should* be afraid. Gen Z is looking pretty solid. Millennials were pretty hard on ourselves too. Half the Boomers see us as entitled and they don't understand why we can't buy or build homes as they draw another social security check from my children's future. Many boomers think we're not having children because children are inconvenient. Children are a blessing, but I'm not bringing more kids into a world without the time and finances to give them the best future I can give them. I waited until 34 to start having kids. That's not unusual for my generation. We're scared. The more I understand legislation, the more I see that we *should* be scared. Our parents excessively borrowed from our future and that payment is coming due. Don't think of life as inherited from your parents. It's also borrowed from your kids. This man has some sweet words, but they're sweet poison. We need to act. Don't just lean back and say "we didn't start the fire." The average age of first-time mothers in America is now up from 21 to 26, while for fathers, it's increased from 27 to 31. Children aren't inconvenient, Boomers are. They sucked off their parent's blood and then spun around and drained their daughters.
Im 27 and i still have this heavy anxiety and pressure that i MUST be buying a house, be earning x amount a year. But even in my mind i imagine having all of it together but I question myself "would that make me happy? Really? Would having all that just make my problems go away? I dont think it would. Whats wrong with me. What will make me happy-im lost. I panic. I shut down and dont want to do anything. I dont want to smalltalk people (or especially customers) i couldn't care for them as they make 0 difference to my life nor I do theirs. Then i think everythings meaningless. Then I blame myself for being so negative and thus worry about bringing others around me down with me and i hate myself for not being happy. Im stuck in a loop.
@@MrShazaamable I'm 30 y/o and will change my work because of bad work environment and adhd and depression related problems and doing a reha measurement and such. And I really start feeling happy and content although there is still so much to do and to think about. Try to take a deep breath, take your time and try not to judge your feelings, they are completely valid if you feel them, they have a reason. The world we live in is very complex and absurd and full of problems. So it's normal for every human to feel sometimes lost and every person takes their own time, some take longer and that's okay too :) don't stress yourself over what will make you happy, just feel your feelings and you will figure out what you don't want and what you clearly want... But most of it will be a maybe. So try to do some things and if they make you happy, try to do more of it :) you don't have to know what you want and how to get it, you don't have to be happy and perfect, the journey is what's counting. Be kind to yourself, that's the most important part.
I am greatfull for your videos! I happen to be 68 and I can't count just how many times I've thought I've got it all together only for life to wreck my serenity and make me realize how foolish I've been there is always something else to learn. My grandfather used to say " everyday you don't learn something you might as well be dead' and for me that's so damn true! Don't try to figure it ALL out just figure you've got more to learn until GOD says come home my child .
Got diagnosed with a rare brain tumor, vestibular schwannoma at 26. Turned 27 and had surgery a week later. I graduated college with my computer network engineering degree right before my surgery. I’m 28 now. Been in recovery since July 2021 when I had the surgery. Lots of therapies and moments of weakness with feelings of hopelessness as I learned to maneuver my new norm of the loss of balance, chronic dizziness, migraines, hearing lost on surgery side, memory issues, severe dry eye.. this video brought me a great amount of peace, and I want to thank you personally for putting this video out there to others. It was very introspective and helped put my life more into perspective. Take care!
I'm right there with you. 27 when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor (anaplastic astrocytoma), had the surgery (awake craniotomy, Sept. 2021), just finished up 15 months of chemo. I've had a lot of the same issues, I was about halfway done my degree when the diagnosis happened, ended up dropping out. Prognosis could be better, so school's off the table for now. But definitely felt the loss of normalcy and trying to readjust to everything again. Videos like this really help.
I’m 38, a survivor of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia, just a little over a year in remission and actually just had my port removed today. I keep talking about getting a degree in computer or mechanical engineering but haven’t put fourth the effort to enroll. I have 10yrs in machining but nothing else other than a ton of excuses . But this video and y’all comments are very eye opening and thank you all for that.
This might help, it might not, but maybe look into getting Daith piercings. Sounds stupid, but they do actually help with migraine and dizziness. I was suffering with both thanks to inheriting a susceptibility to them. Got the piercings and a month on, I've had maybe one dizzy spell since. Hope things keep on getting better for you.
God bless you ! I’m turning 27 this year, you make my situation feel like child’s play.. but we’re bith going to figure this out! God bless you! I hope to get my degree in computer science
Dude you're absolutely killing it if you're still taking care of them even with all the shit going on. People would have given up but you didn't. You should be proud of yourself for still going through life. I may just be a stranger but stay strong man I believe in you
36 with a son. Been working for a company that has literally been a nightmare. Fear of the unknown has kept me there, today that changes. Going to an interview for another firm. I’m nervous, excited, scared but hopeful and know that no matter what I’m gonna show the eff up for the sake of my son and wife. We are more frequent than most would think. Fight on my friend, you got this.
And I'm a 37 year old man, barely dated let alone wife or kids, and I had a sudden epileptic seizure last month, was carried in an ambulance and kept on saline for 2 days......doctor said abject loneliness is a cause, I overthink all the time. And it's true. Hang in there bud.....we are all in this shit together
Hello, 19y/o here. Recently, I’ve been in a constant state of depression and hopelessness. One of the things that’s been eating away at me is not knowing what I want to do in life. I know that I want to be successful in life, and I know I want to be something great, but right now, I feel so lost, and hopeless. I feel like there’s no escaping it for me. I want to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I just can’t give up. This video has helped me out a lot, and I just want to say thank you.
I’m a 13 year old girl who was just scrolling on youtube to get my mind out of the worries and stumbled upon a cool cowboy philosopher. must be a little weird seeing my age around here but I wanna say thank you.
You have time to figure it all out. But you also don't have forever, it's a balance. Too many people wait for the right conditions and life passes by. If I could go back to being 13 I wish I was more focused. Now I'm focused but don't have the time. It doesn't have to consume your life either, enjoy being a kid and take care knowing you will have many, many lows, but they always pass somehow.
I’m a 63 year old black man who stumbled across your channel. I agree with everything you had to say because I have lived it. Your past , present and future I realize that I’m not the same man I was in the past, and I will be a different man in the future. I am now retired and I realize at this age that I don’t know everything and I’m not trying to pretend that I do. I tell my wife that we have made it this far in our journey. God has truly blessed us , we find ourselves without any wants or needs, just enjoy the ride.
I'm a 61 year old white man....share the same feelings and experiences. Don't know what race has to do with it. A man is a man and their journey is their own.
"I'm 55 yrs old, and I'm just starting to get a little figured out" I'm 56, that sounds about right. Your doing a good job sharing, and your using that gift that He gave you -the gift of encouragement. The world needs this right now, bravo for running your race and doing it well. cheers from New England
There's moments where I've had it all together, sometimes long moments, then life shows me I'm not always running this ship. I got to improvise and learn from my mishaps. And just know, life goes in circles, so you'll get another chance to show what you've learned and then it's a choice to make that change.
As a young man from Europe actually im at difficult situation. Ain't got it all together and by the chance i found out your channel. It's good to listen some older man who's got a life experience and shares it for people. Keep going, you're probably doing more job than many internet dumb-coaches who only want to get your money. I wish i can watch more of your videos in the future.
I'm a 22 years old brazilian woman and just had a breakdown. I feel like I'm not getting anything although I always try really hard. I feel left behind, misunderstood and worst of all, a burden for my friends and mainly my family. I really needed to hear this, though I'm pretty sure it's meant to help young men. Thank you very much for your nice words, they were truly tranquilizing.
im 27 and i feel like my life is in shambles… moved from alabama to los angeles thinking i was ready for the world and become a star but i ended up living in Skid Row in a shelter on foodstamps/GR with a 2 yr old untrained dog … this literally a combo for disaster but i been holding it together trying to maintain my mental health
ive never been a very faithful man but damn it, if i'm god's child then yes i'm certain it was his fault i'm watching this and feeling better about this month already
As a 24 yr old man, after college and the military didn't work out, I lived for years telling myself I'm a failure in life. I needed to hear this sir, thank you.
25 year old. I struggled years in college only to find out I failed desperately trying to think this was what was expected of me. Never worked a day in my life, and I usually ask people for advice on where I can start. Not easy to do, and people are so judgemental calling people lazy or have some learning disorder.
❤Life isn’t about how you pay the bills. It’s about how you emotionally discipline yourself to meet challenges and choices you make can either help and make life better or provide more to overcome and help you grow up. Love is the icing of living well.
Just keep swimming! A 10 mile journey gets completed one step at a time. Slow and steady is better than no movement. Anyways.. don’t give up, follow what you love to do and you’ll be guided into the right direction. And if you don’t know what you love doing, start trying out random activities. Be patient with yourself. You’re are amazing and you will push through! ❤️💯🔥
43, lost my wife and daughter on Valentine’s Day a few years back. I don’t know how I ran into your videos on here but I get a bit of peace through your words. I’m a professional writer and often offer words to others on certain platforms but when guys like me need a wiser older friend. That’s what I feel like we have within you. I appreciate you making these videos. I’m looking forward to diving into them all. Thank you for what you do.
I’m 43 as well my friend. I’m sorry for your loss. Thankfully I’ve never experienced that, but I did lose my wife due to her infidelity and I’ve been single ever since, that was 7 years ago. I don’t know about you, but I can honestly say I don’t feel 43, so hopefully we have enough time to “figure it out.”
I'm watching this at 4am and I'm so happy i found this video. Thank u so much. I needed this. I was going to give up but now I'm focused on becoming "a sword"❤
I’m 35 and was just sitting in my car today applying for jobs but feeling down on life that I’m not were I feel I should be. I got on TH-cam to watch something funny to cheer me up and this was one of the first videos I seen. Im still trying to get it together but now I’m doing it with a renewed sense of courage thank you.
Don’t feel bad bro I’m turning 34 this February, I have no money in my bank. I maybe have a couple of dollars, also I don’t have a car. So I’m doing side work with my friends to make money n sustain myself. I still live with my parents, also I have an alcohol n drug addiction, I’ve been dealing with as well. So I definitely don’t have it figured out, and I feel like I’m spinning my tires in the mud . Trust me I feel like a fucking loser or failure sometimes, but I know Im not and I will eventually get it right. Just keep your head up ⬆️ keep grinding, pray to god things will get better. Don’t stop applying or trying stay strong it could be way worse.
@@mod19899 was ch “conversations with the devil” on TH-cam. It will change your life and help get over your addiction. It’s all in your mind. Reprogram! Thank me later……
I am 52 and still have not figured “it” out. Ironically, when I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s I thought I hade everything dialed in. The older I get the more I appreciate that wisdom comes through experience and things are not always black and white, there is a lot of nuance in the world. Also, I sent this to my son who is 24 because I think every young person should hear it.
My father died to covid infecting his lungs at the age of 52 last year when I was 16. Life's so valuable and so many people just don't understand how much time they have. Use your knowledge and wisdom to help others around so when you are gone, people still remember you. Cause nobody remembers bad memories. Don't be a bad memory.
I really envy older generations who remark on how they thought they had it figured out at such a young age. Me and almost every person that I know in my age group are so riddled with anxiety and self doubt that we genuinely don't feel like we know anything.
@@Thomas_Angelo I'm sorry for your loss. My dad died of lung disease a few decades ago. I can still remember him and hear his voice and remember the love and hope he had for me. I'm over 50 now and I'm very relieved to still be here able to keep trying and to be worthy of the life my parents gave me. It's something that I can never give up on. It's no where near a perfect life, but a life that has definitely been worth living. I wish you well.
I'm also in my middle age and it's funny/not-so-funny how life can change. Like you think you know in your 30s how the rest of your life is going to go only to get curveball after curveball thrown at you. My life today is nothing like what I thought it was going to be even as little as 20 years ago. In some ways better; in some ways a lot worse. You just have to roll with the punches and keep moving forward.
@@michaellockhart6632 Yes. So many people hate the fact that their parents brought them to this world but I'm not like them. I appreciate and acknowledge every second I had with my dad till I was 16 when he passed. It's been 2 years and his pictures in our house makes it feel like he is still with us and listens and helps us all the time. I hope one day I will be able to meet him. And I'm sure you had a good father just from how you described him. I wish the best for you and one advice I learnt from my dad was: do good without expecting anything. God, or whatever you believe in will give back what you gave to others in need. Like giving your favorite food to poor people. I always buy my favorite snacks for homeless people in my area to share the joy I get from that snack. That's the beauty of life.
30 man. Lost my dad to cancer 3 years ago, he was a great man and It feels like he's talking through you. Thank you for making videos and taking the time to talk with us.
Its a dangerous world, all kinds of thugs, nuts and crazies will want you dead upon sight and this includes doctors who normally feel safer about trying to maim and murder , its not easy trying to convict them , most only do a couple years for malpractice and is another reason other then treasure that villains are sometimes willing to put money and time in a medical career. most of such doctors are not going to degrade you or call you names like in a fictional book, their just trying to kill you or maim you. I wish that was the case, That a doctor will call you names and say, I hate you and your baby pink face., Thanks for the warning, Now it time for innocent Joe to skip and dance to a new doctors office. I find good looking pale skinned doctors or woman doctors the safest for me.
Man, I needed this. I’m 28 and feel like everything is fucked up, and headed nowhere. Stuck in a job I hate, which takes me away from my kids, making just enough to survive in this economy. But hey, it’s all gonna be alright. Every single situation in life, is temporary.
I don't know if you'll ever see this comment but I've struggled with not having it all together since finishing college. I don't have any of the success markers that society says I should have but I'm working toward being a success in a way I define. I was really down on myself until I watched this entire video. You sir have no idea how big a positive impact your words have had on me. Thank you for speaking them.
Friend, I didn't feel like people took me seriously until I was in my 30s, so I wouldn't stress about it much. For now, just be a sponge. Find a mentor who will let you pick their brain. Gain experiences and dabble a ton... and your path with develop on its own. As for "success markers", you need to ditch that thinking real quick before it leads you to a regret. The only person that should be defining your success is you.
I’m 23 years old and I really needed this. I’m more along than others but far behind compared to some. I just hope all the hard work pans off, I’m not sure where I’m headed at the moment but I’m working as much as I can, learning everything I can, and treating every person as kind as I can. I’m still nowhere near where I’d like to be but I’m starting to get the grasp of this thing called life. Thank you sir, may your words of wisdom live on for ages.
I'm 34, basically lost everything, covid even ruined study plans at the Open Uni (UK) and moved back where I grew up (fortunately the house is empty and I can be noisy with my drums). Everyone is either living on their own, married with kids or even divorced already (hey, that's more to value, I don't even have kids, just bad relationships...). I have been asked why don't I have a car and I always reply that a supermarket is 10 minute walk away.... I know I don't have a car cause I can't create a steady income to afford one but I can see they're judgemental, even though rural european towns are fairly walkable. Of course things will go wrong when I was ridiculed as a kid and was prevented from studying IT and now as a high school dropout I have to take on crappy jobs that I regularly quit, cause I decided to stand up for myself and I won't let anyone talk down to me. I do all the work to a tee but get blamed for someone else's mistake..... It's worthwhile standing up for yourself, even if you have to reset everything in your 30s.. or 40s.. or whenever you're ready. I see a lot of people may look happy now with _everything figured out_ but let's just wait and see how many of them will divorce after 20 or 30 years, perhaps lose everything and won't know how to handle a failure in old age. I have failed spectacularly now in middle age and learned how to cope better.
You've got this, and the Universe has got you. It may not be beneficial to compare yourself to anyone else, but I believe you're on the right track. Keep going!!
I can really appreciate this. I’m 22 years old. Been a felon since 18, spent years in and out the system, and am just now centering in on building a life for myself. It’s rough (not complaining) trying to catch up on shit people gained through just being free, living “normal”. I see myself acquiring all that I need/want, but a big fear of mine if becoming another statistic because it’s a weird place to be in when the system has a hold on you. I see the growth, I see the knowledge acquired, I see that I want a peaceful life, but what kills me is forever starting from scratch. Idk. God bless us all.
dont worry about it at all, the time people lose on bs university departments and loans after getting out of that hassle at age 26, 30, consider yourself lucky pal
I'm a 30 y/o combat vet with really bad PTSD. I'm terrified to leave the apartment to take the trash out these days. I've been right on the ledge lately and I'm not sure why, but 5:57 brought me to tears. "You keep going" in that gentle tone. Not a demand, not an order, not begging someone to stay...just the words from someone who did keep going. You say you're not wise, but you are. I will keep going and find that card to play. You saved a life sir. Thank you.
So sorry it's been so hard. The VA has help for this. It's called CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy. There are other therapy methods that can help overcome the severity of PTSD too. EMDR, and more.
I haven't gone through anything nearly as traumatizing, but I went through a really bad breakup. Everyday I remind myself of how much I been through & that I'll get through this one too and it'll only make me stronger and then I would be unstoppable 😂. But there's some truth to it I feel. The more you go through, the tougher skin you develop and it becomes harder to take you down. Listen to, "There will be days like these", by Miles Carter. Every line is beautiful, but one he says, "your past is not who you are, but rather the context for who you will be. Your flaws do not make up your being, but serve as reminders that you are human broken in a way that is beautiful leaving no room for normalcy you... are special". "Realize there is power... in your perspective... the world is yours". Things will get better because your the narrative of your own story ✨️
I thought you might be in your mid 50s. I’m climbing up hill 63 and have been telling each of my four children (who are all over 30 now) pretty much exactly what you touch on here. That wisdom is only achieved through experience and time. I share this with them almost at every turn they go through in their lives - “Time is the only true currency of life, so spend it well. Invest in adventure. Invest in kindness and compassion. Invest in good and good will become your companion throughout your journey towards wisdom.” I’m still learning ever day on my journey.
"just embrace life" you are so right and that statement overall brought me to tears I'm 27 and going through the fire like you say. thank you for putting yourself out there with your years, perception and knowledge for random people to absorb and potentially learn from... for anyone who reads the comment just keep going don't get caught up in the fire and chill when you can it isn't easy but its worth it every second of it our life experience defines us and how we act on it is truly what matters the most that will give the respite from said fire to prepare and overcome the heat that comes next. be yourself and do your best at what you can we get better and life goes on we all go on!
29 year old black female and this video came out of nowhere. It is very helpful as this is new years day and I am approaching 30 feeling behind in life sometimes. Thank you sir for wisdom 🙏🏾
Wow sis me too I'm literally exhausted and sick of this I'm working hard I'm not even enjoying my life just by trying to keep a roof over my head it's depressing to keep up a facade when I'm not okay
@@queenofthedancehall5669 it is ok to not be ok. I'm 27 with severe mental illness and just now getting some results with a few supplements I'm on. I finally was able to clean the kitchen and fridge. It was horrible and miserable, but my lithium orotate got me through it. One day at a time. One new supplement at a time, for me at least. Happy new years, let's hope our 2023 is better than 2022.
I'm 67 and when I saw you in that rocket chair with that hat I had to listen. Then I know this was a clip that my son of 26 and my older son at 35 needs to hear. I hope all young people will hear this. These young people are growing up with so much stress in their life. I pray that they all end up reading the word of God bc there is no other way. God bless you sir!
Man listening to this was like listening to what I missed out from my older family members and I gotta say I appreciate this video it was a breath of fresh air
This video randomly popped up in my feed and I’m 23 and I can’t tell you how badly I needed to see this video. Especially with having close friends who are doing big things and I’m left feeling like I’m still putting the pieces together. Thank you for sharing your insights and wisdom, It’s very appreciated
It’s social media my guy you’re still really young but a man or woman none the less but never look to what others have and look to and be thankful for what you do have. People who are 70 ain’t done learning and improving. Me personally I don’t believe anyone of us ever figure out what “it” is. Always stick to your word and never bend on your morals.
@@phenarax7759You aren’t competing with them my guy don’t view it like that. You’ll get yours and by yours I mean whatever it is that finally brings you some peace and a sense of belonging in this life. Head up.
I'm 45. House just burned down, pet died, divorced with a kid, trying to reassemble myself. I'm not mad about it all, even though I do go through my fair share. But I hope I'm still trying to put everything together until the day I die of old age, and still accept that I have just no clue. Take care of yourselves, folks, and accept the love and kindness that are around you. Being vulnerable isn't weakness, it's strength. Be open to the gifts of the universe. Love your family, love your kids, love your created family, and let them love you back. You're enough, I promise you. And sir, you just got a new subscriber.
As a 23 y/o political science dropout who comes from a family of criminality, mental illness, addiction and unemployment, your words meant so much to me.. ty sir, subscriber earned.
I have had my dark days. I would say become a plumber or other such trade. Two years of effort and I promise your world will change. I promise you with work it will get better.
“A smooth sea has never made a skilled sailor.”
Nice!
I love this
Amazing
A great Franklin D. Roosevelt quote, for sure.
@@troxexlot18lol
This is the best cutscene from Red Dead Redemption 2 ever.
😂😂😂
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
Lol
He's definitely an honorary member of the Morgan/Marston Gang 👌
RDR2 is a shit game
Hearing a stranger on the internet say "It's alright. You're not supposed to have it all together." is one of the most comforting things I've heard since my life took a turn for the worse.
The only way to feel human and connected to anyone in my life is by sharing our vulnerabilities
Exactly!
this is an amazing video and so much respect for this guy doing this video
Same 😭❤
You're supposed to haver it all figured out and all together if you don't then you become self-indulgent, self righteous and self-entitled and you end up being a parasite to the world you live in, to the people around you and eventually to yourself.
My advice for anybody seeing this video and smiling because of the message: don't click on another video after this. Just close TH-cam and all other social media. Just be happy, and don't worry.
Thank you
cheers boss
Thank you
was about to do it , but yeah starting gym again today😴
I was gonna click on another video of his!
I had no idea there was an entire genre of cowboy philosophers on TH-cam. It’s very comforting to hear that it’s okay to not have it all together. Thank you, mysterious cowboy man!
This is actually why people love cowboys
Not the guns or the horses
It's the fact they're all warrior poets
Country folk have more thoughts going on in their heads than a city slicker might fathom... nature has a way of bring it out in all of us...
It’s just a man speaking on life, no genre
COWBOY PHILOSOPHER 💀
@@Gergaloth He seems like a nice enough guy. And the pipe helps. Anytime a dude with gray hair is smoking a pipe you automatically want to listen to him. But even though he seems pleasant and he's trying really hard for the look, all he's really doing is stating the obvious and throwing in some cliches. If you want some real "cowboy" wisdom and advice from a man who isn't quite so domesticated and actually has some rough edges and scars then I'd suggest you listen to anything Billy Joe Shaver ever wrote or sung. That's a real warrior poet. This guy just seems like your average, run of the mill, nice neighbor type. He's neither a warrior nor a poet.
"A man with enough wisdom has seen too much pain."
Pain chisels at a man for sure. It either kills a man or it hardens his heart, his resolve. It also deeply humbles a man, so his priorities become simple, love and simple pleasures.
The reality of life
The smart people learn from their mistakes and the wise people will learn from others too ❤
Or a man with enough wisdom has read a lot of books.
Pain teaches empathy.
Pain is a temporary punishment for a life long gift.
Beginning of video: "Now, im not very wise"
Rest of the video: *Pure, unadulterated wisdom for us to learn from*
The more you know, the more aware you are of all the things you don't know...
The beginning of wisdom is "I do not know."
nj
Yes, precisely my friend
The wiser you become you realize just how little you actually know. This man is a blessing to us all. He's sharing his testimony of a cumulative life lessons put in perspective he worried about everything we worry about give a helping hand once in awhile if you see somebody struggling
“a blade does not become strong, it does not become tempered, until it’s been through the fire” - that really hits hard
It stabbed me Hard ❤😂
Exactly when I read this comment he spoke this line
Adversity can refine and strengthen us indeed
"Hold up! His writing is this FIRE???"
until it's been through the fire... multiple times
I'm 31 years old. I have 60k in student debt, a degree I haven't finished, another degree I'm working on, a failed engagement, no savings, no mortgage, no kids, no partner, and am a barista at the coffee shop across the street. It will get better. It WILL get better. Thank you.
Im right there with you just a personal shopper instead
Same life.
But 29, cooking degree//working on game design now, 40k in debt, I'm a server at a fancy hotel
It will get better 🎉
As it should and so will you.
good luck with your endeavors.
I’m from another angle but feel the same. I’m 35, Married to my best and only friend, 3 beautiful Daughters, been through some health stuff, as has my wife. And I’ve hit a point where my nobly doing physical hard work for jobs might be coming to an end. My body has started to turn on me and I’ve had my first real long term time off sick in my life. So I started uni today actually, today is the first day of my part time Uni course. To pick up my education again that ended in 2009. I’m struggling now to find non physical work, how wild is that, that the physically hardest work is the work I can’t get away from. The real heavy lifting work, I’ve wrecked my body at 35, and now I want to use my mind and I can’t find anything that doesn’t required being a graduate. But like you said, it *WILL* get better. It will get better. Love to you brother, you’re not alone. None of us are truly alone.
You got this man! Keep going brother
30 years old, still live with parents, no marriage, no kids, no idea what I want to do career wise and just trying to manage my depression. Feel so lost and behind, and always feel like a loser. But this definitely gave me some comfort, right at the time I needed it. Thank you.
Right in the same boat as a 22 year old...just learning like others who got touched by this video, which is to live life to the fullest and embrace what we have around us.
@@your_boi3365 You are young, trust me you got time. My best advice, have fun but don't lose your twenties completely.
Much love fam..and thank you..hope all is well for you too.
Construction labourer and get a trade maybe. Get your hormone levels checked oestrogen vs testosterone and thyroid.
I believe in you man and ik that might not be much from a 22 year old, but I do. You may be older, but when you find what you want to do, you'll have the experience to back it. All I ask is you believe in you brother
1. Your job isn’t your life
2. Find something you love and do it
3. Enjoy time w Friends and family
4. Laugh and live in the moment
5. Find happiness in the small things
I was missing my Grandma today and your video came up. It’s warm to hear your words. Thank you for sharing.
Missing my granny too…first holiday season without her
Eat healthy and move every day
wish late-stage capitalism in the U.S. didn't make these key principals hard to follow (sending wishes of comfort regarding your g-ma though)
I can't do 3. I have no friends or family 😭
The best thing ive ever heard anyone say ....38 and not whinging, just live , love and just be nice , be respectful, and youll recieve the same ... 💚🤙🙌
I never had a father figure. From 15 to 24 I went through addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, legal trouble, car accidents, a whole world of trouble. I got my face absolutely kicked in my drugs until I had nobody and nothing left. Life had me on my ass. Overdoses. But god kept me here. Many days I wished I wasn't here. Now I'm 30, clean from everything, own a home, have a full time job, have relationships with my mom and brother again and even quit cigarettes recently (smoked 14 years). If I can do it, you can. And I'm not perfect man. Far from it. Embrace it. Let go of toxic shame. It only holds you back. Focus on the good.
I don’t know you, but I am happy for you!
How did you get rid of toxic shame, if I may ask?
@@heisawesome4329 Learned to laugh at myself, and my mistakes. And some time between me and the mistakes as well. I still overthink often but less so now that the drugs alcohol and gambling are gone.
Great job. I'm happy for you. Stay clean.
Well Dwayne I'm 75 and I'm here to tell you I don't think you ever get it completely figured out we are all our own worst enemy 🐝
I am 54, twice divorced, father of a 31 year old daughter from the first marriage, and I've been on my own again since the second marriage ended in 2005. I still have no idea what I am doing and I don't think my health will see me through to 75 (45 year heavy smoker and bad emphysema). Not the man I thought would grow into, but I'm more of a man than most guys I know in my peer circle who are still doing ridiculous things and learning lessons I learned long ago by starting early. I still have no idea what I am doing ,and I am totally okay with that at this point. I have some shoulda/coulda/woulda's but those are the most toxic thing I can imagine, so I try not to let them eat me from the inside out like a corrosive. And that's that.
@@HistoricMetals the sad part about 75 is I've seen so many friends go already and many of them come to me telling me they don't want to go I simply look at them and smile and say change your lifestyle you will be here longer it says if we try to destroy ourself with our pleasures I am very basic been married three times divorce since 94 have a grown daughter by first wife we don't talk my mother recently passed my sister's taking all the money but I still have a positive outlook and a smile on my face and try to get others to do the same we're all here for a reason and we'll all leave when it's our time I'm actually working part-time as a security guard which I seem to enjoy meet a lot of nice people but that could be the end of me also 😁😆😉🐝
@@beeamerica5024 I havent talked to my daughters mother since our last day in divorce court either almost 2 decades ago. She cheated. She took everything. I took a long time to recover. I attended my aunt's 90th birthday party yesterday in Nashville. I can't imagine turning 90 and you yourself are still a long way from it too. Here's hoping we both make it, just to be able to say we did that too. Hell sounds like we both already did everything else. I too am very basic. I think going through a lot of tough experiences in relationships, finances, having those ups and downs finally makes you realize, you can even out the bumps by being happier with what you got in the lows of the curves and not being so damn wound up about climbing back up to the peaks that matter less and less over time anyway. The middle, is nice and even and easy. Is it choosing mediocrity? Maybe, or maybe it's just choosing to get off the silly cycle and even things out. Good luck out there, Sir!
@@HistoricMetals you too my friend and you are right
There's no reason to be your own worst enemy. You should always be your greatest supporter. What you mean to say is...Your mind is your own worst enemy. But that's because you never took the time to train it. Like a puppy that's pissing and shitting itself. Well that's our mind too, that is unless we train it. Only then will it do what we want.
Let's not take our selves too seriously and confuse our own psychological drama with existential reality. It's miraculous that we are even alive, not to mention in this day of age where we have so many comforts and conveniences.
Pull out a picture of yourself taken when you were 5 years old. Notice the smile, the joy, the exuberance for just being alive. That's how we should be every moment. We've somehow forgotten this as we got older. This is a reminder~ you are still that kid deep down inside in love with life itself. No need to make an enemy.
My dad passed away in April. Got married in June. Danced with my mom and talked about dad, then my mom passed away unexpectedly the week after the wedding. We were sitting on the tarmac delayed when I got that call. Transitioning out of the military next year and really wish I had my dad to talk to right now. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for making these videos.
I'm sorry, I lost my Dad a few years ago.
May God keep you and bless you ... pray for your parents.
With you the best my man, in this life we must roll with the punches and never forget we can always make the world a better place through our actions
I’m sorry for your losses. God bless
You will make it... sounds like your parents led you well. Remember... it’s only a temporary departure. We absolutely go on and will reunite one day. Our passed on loved ones just graduated a bit sooner than we will. We still have a mission to accomplish here in this 3D world. Make decisions the best that you can and know that God is absolutely not worried about the final outcome. Your life will go exactly as planned. Be well... and know that ALL IS WELL. ❤
In a world full of people making you feel guilty for not spending every day getting something done, it is refreshing to hear a voice that reminds us it’s okay to take it slow and appreciate life. Thank you man.
Indeed. Decided at 64 to simply get off the treadmill. Been 6 months. My wife and I are happier than ever before. The decision made it impossible to have trinkets desired when younger. Miss them zero.
At 30 you should be able to build a robot replica of a humanoid that can pass off as a real one.
@Lani Childs “Don’t get me wrong. She turns me on, but I’m only sleeping.” Listen to John Lennon’s “Working Class Hero.” All the best to you and yours.
@@nerobaal6655 ah yes , the Elon Musk life gameplay
@@Dan_Kanerva Elon has to hire people. I just do the work for myself.
being 24 forced to grow up as fast as possible, i needed to hear this. i’m constantly beating myself up because i don’t have my life together.
25 and same
Having life together in terms of society is not the best metric to calculate yourself. Are you wiser than you were 10 years ago? Are you smarter than than you were 5 years ago? Do you have a better peace of mind than last year? What is going inside of you and if you have discovered the intelligence to accept yourself.. getting it all together is something that can come anytime.
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I’m 22 same bro
"A pine tree Grows and matured very fast
An oak tree Grows and matures very slow
Which one lasts longer?
Which one is stronger?
Which one shelters more critters and birds?
And when it's over and done. Which one is more valuable for the lumber?
People aren't looking to buy pine furniture."
WRANGLER SCHOOL
These words touched me very deeply sir.
Thank you
I must admit it, I liked that analogy too.
Definitely not whichever one I used on my kitchen floor.
Amen! Much wisdom here!!!
Wisdom for the depraved. There is nothing wrong with gaining a lot in a little time, if you can handle it. Even at that stage, the mature pine tree still has an infinite amount left to achieve. However, whether you are the oak or the pine tree. Life stays strong within both, and life appreciates both. Some are just born pine, some are born oak. It's ok to be both. Each has their own path to grow upon.
he is a natural poet!
I’m 37 and going to college for the first time. I have to remind myself my timeline was different, and being a single mom juggling college is hard but I’m not giving up. Thank you so much
"Never regard your study as a duty but as the enviable opportunity to learn the liberating beauty of the intellect for your own personal joy and for the profit of the community to which your later work will belong."
-Einstein
32 years old back in college as well! Good luck on your education journey!
Best of luck to you! You got this!
Ride the waves. Life's ups and downs
You fine for 37, but I just graduated just this month at 33 😊
I'm 49, living in probably worst economy in the world (Zimbabwe). It's tough with unemployment at 97%. Our home was taken. Love this video just kept me going through another day, thank you.
We will make it
Keep strong brother!
I'm rooting for you, brother.
May Allah make it easy for you my brother and take you and your family in a safe position
❤
I'm a 25 year old woman and I wanted to thank you for this from the bottom of my heart.
Think alot of young people need to hear this. I'm 25 and have pushed myself into depression by putting so much pressure on myself because I haven't reached certain standards I wanted to by now. Social media definitely makes the problem worse because it seems like everyone is happy, rich and in love etc
They “seem” to be, but are they really doing that well?
@J doubt it but the perception is enough to make people feel like a fuck up
@@user-ho4ns5te8b Well you’re not so just keep taking steps. 1,000 miles can only be walked one step at a time.
Just turned 25 as well… I hear ya. I put a ton of pressure on myself as well and it’s not good. I’ve got a decent job but haven’t achieved as much as I’ve hoped by 25. I do have insta deleted though and I’ve even feeling better. Also listening to dry creek wrangler school
25 year old man here, man, I feel you. One thing I have tried to do in order to combat these kinds of feelings is to counter any social media content that makes me feel envious or low with content like this channel or something similar, remind yourself there are more people like you than those who are not and look to those who have lived well for reassurance, but mostly, as cliche as this sounds, enjoy the journey! God bless
Lost my son, my job, home, all in a matter of months, I'm 42, Your words have just managed to lift this elephant off of my chest for a few minutes, thank you.
go to JESUS brother.
@@lunarmist428 I have, love and blessings to you.
Blessings and prayer for you my friend! 🙏❤️🕯🕊
Keep it together man. Just know you are being tested for your strength. Be strong and pass the exam of life. Everyone has one or two so you aren't alone at all.
@@Thomas_Angelo ODAAT my brother 🙏
Man, so many awesome take aways.
1. Lifes is not a race, so act your age and enjoy life.
2. Life is hard. The hardest thing youve ever been through is gonna feel like a disaster. Later on youll realize it wasnt.
3. Your gonna make mistakes, just make fewer.
4. Setbacks to goals happen. But dont give up.
5. Your not behind in life. The movies are a fantasy. Your ideal life is probably one too.
6. No one expects you to have figured it out.
SAGE wisdom. Thank you brother!
6. *Many expects you to have figured it out. But they can go f_ck themselves!
The main issue with the first one is when you start comparing yourself to others, when people compare to each other they create a big poison to real personal success.
bless up for the notes have a great day
It's OK to make mistakes as long as you learn from them - it's unavoidable! Some things you think are a sure thing can still turn out to be wrong.
You're*
I am 71 , I have to agree. This whole life so far has been a learning experience. At this age I ain't got it yet. But I am getting there.
I’m 22 and haven’t been able to get a job. Pressure from family and peers is killing me right now. This was nice to hear, it was sort of relaxing.
Update: I just got a job!
congrats on getting a job man!
congrats man im looking for one myself
well done my guy :)
Congratulations man!
Congratulations Brethren!!
I’m 25 years old and earlier this week just went through a breakup with my girlfriend of 6 years after she confessed to cheating and loving someone else. This topic could not have come at a better time, and I’m very grateful for you, Duane.
You got your whole life ahead of you. I wouldn’t worry about it.
I’m in a very similar situation brother, wife did the same thing to me after 6 years. “The cavity which suffering carves into our souls will one day also be the receptacle of joy.” I’m a little further down the road than you. Haven’t made it to the light at the end of the tunnel yet but I’m starting to see it, and I promise it’s not a train. Hang in there man
Lots of fish in the sea, birds in the Forrest, and bitches in the world. Be single for a couple years man.
Stay strong man!
I am going to say this, each boy needs a breakup to become a man, live your life man, go to the gym, work in your job harder and start figuring out how you want to live this is the best fuel you could get.
Peace my man.
Physical pain can be eased by placing your hand on the injured site, emotional pain cannot. I'm sorry you went through this, I wish you the best.
As you get older, you do realise that so many things you worried about don't matter.
You also learn to appreciate the things that DO matter.
Thankfully, those things are yours for the taking, and are earned with discipline, mindfulness and love - not money, popularity, or possessions.
Screenshotting this comment. Fantastic observation.
One of the most challenging aspects of communicating this to someone and them fully grasp the validity of this simple truth is that; a large percentage of people on't absorb it because it isn't a quick "fix" so it might not instantly make them feel better.
It's sort of an esoteric, philosophical answer that tends to go in one ear and out the other.
douglby out here with the life lessons
Hey Dan! Huge fan. Love your work. Hearts.
What happened to the algorithm that made danbull and I collide on this pipe smoking cowboy I've never heard of?
I’m not a man, but your words have really hit home. I recently lost what felt like my dream job, and to hear you put it into perspective like this was beyond relieving. I’m only 20, barely a full-grown human, expecting myself to have the knowledge and wisdom of someone twice my age.
Life is tough, but I want to become tougher. Thanks for the advice, Dwayne. Much love from Carolina.
As an almost 27 yr old, hearing "act 26 not 56" really hit me. I worry so much about the future problems or possible problems that I don't focus on the now.
I'm learning my worth and I want to stay open to learning more, always. Imaginary burden and cornering myself to worry about things that aren't mine to worry about (for the most part) are things I've gotta work on. I really needed to hear this, and by what I see in the comments, I'm not alone. You've done a great service for multiple generations here, thank you very much. 💕
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Jesus said "Only those who behave like children shall enter the kingdom of heaven." That's a fact. :)
It's ok that you worry about the future, as long as you also do something about it. Plan ahead, but also leave a little time and energy to enjoy the present.
26 here, I feel like I’m in the same boat. So much pressure from myself to be like those 20 year old millionaires we read about. But they aren’t me. I think the mindset of wanting to improve is the most telling aspect of a persons potential
Same here, check out this booked called “think like a monk” by jay shetty, my wife got it for me and it’s been helping me alot
Ppl think failure is bad, but its the best teacher. Failure is necessary for growth. Its a gift.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
Failure is all fun and games until you end up homeless and starving under a bridge somewhere.
Except grades at school,nobody born with the same brain
@@ninjadeamonI've been there before, and I'm there right now. Failure only breaks those who don't understand it. It broke me when I was studying math and physics at university where I became so anxious I couldn't study anymore. A few years later I found myself homeless for the first time. I was in Minneapolis in the summer. Minneapolis is an astonishingly beautiful city, with parks and lakes everywhere. I was outside for 4 months that summer and it was probably the most blissful period in my life. I spent the days meditating by the lakes, and working in a group home, at night I slept in a hammock in the park. It's all about perspective.
It is, and it doesnt matter how many times you fall and fail as long as you keep getting back up and try one more time....that's how you get it together.
The way he pauses and say, "but they ain't got cool stories to tell," gives me chills! Heres to failure, heres to never giving up, and heres to having a damn good time doing it! Love and strength to you all.
Yup, I'm the one with no stories to tell for fear of failure. At 30 it is beginning to crush me. I'm glad for this video.
Me too. One time I was in a cab ride to work, running late. We got stuck in traffic and got talking. He told me all hiking trails he’d completed. I told him about this one I’d tried and failed disastrously in hilarious circumstances (weren’t funny at the time I can tell you). We both laughed so much. Then he told me what I assume was his best hiking story, and it was that his wife almost fell over because her pack was so heavy. It occurred to me then that this guy may have meticulously planned and completed his trips, but I’d just went for it, messed up, but ended up with all these funny stories that I’ll remember for the rest of my life.
You are so right it's better to loved and lost then have done nothing at all
Very well said Nathan :)
Cheers :)
“Embrace the process.” I like that
There's always something comforting about an old man letting you know it's gonna be alright. Shit is wack rn and it never seems to slow. Really needed this
Yep
Lol....he's 53, that's not an old man. I'm 53 now and don't consider myself an old man by any means...more like a wise soul. You'll see when you're 53....God willing.
@@DaveSchnare he’s 55 he said it in the video
@@DaveSchnare At 53 you're over halfway to dead. You are getting old. You don't have to *feel* old though. That's the secret. Some of the youngest souls I've met have been in creaky old bodies.
@@DaveSchnare 53 is old, nothing wrong with being that way
Im 39. Im divorced. I have maybe around 90 k in debt. No friends. Live with my parents again.I did start an own buisines i started to save money again. Starting from scratch again. It s a long way. Hope i don t lose my mind in the process.But i will get there. Someway somehow..
I believe in you man. you got this
Hello, I absolutely believe you can bounce back. I have faith that you can. Whatever further hardships you face in the future, just keep fighting through. We all go through challenges, but we all learn something from them. good luck, and have a blessed day 👍
You got it
You got this. You are taking action. thats the first step. Rome wasnt built in a day. Tiny baby steps. it will happen
You will absolutely overcome this challenge in your life! Envision who you will become & dig deep for strength. Bless your journey…
I’m 33 and reading some comments, I realize that everywhere in the world there are people going through difficult times, and it makes me value what I have, no matter how much or little, there are people who are really in a difficult situation.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
31 here, such valuable advice
30 here. I agree.
34 here and realizing that gratitude for what we have here, right now, is all you need. The rest is moot
Relax and aim.
Just turned 22,GF of 4 years broke up with me 3 months ago and got engaged a month after,failing at school and can’t find a decent job.I feel more lost than ever but this gives me some hope as a man that I’ll make it through…
My gosh, I'm a 47 yr old woman starting over from scratch and I needed this so much I'll probably replay once a day for a while. Thank you.
How are you holding up?
39 and starting from scratch but already feel like I’ve achieved more this time then I did in last 38
I hope you are well Leah.
I’m sorry for whatever circumstances led to you starting from scratch, but the fact that you are here means you’ve got a good head on your shoulders and you’ll be alright. Stay strong Leah.
I hope you find success and happiness, Leah. Good luck!
This is real relevant to me. I’m 35, going through a divorce with the woman I thought was the love of my life, seems like I’ve lost everything in the last year. I was feeling like it was too late to start over, feeling like I was ashamed with where I was at. Living in the back of my $1000 truck working as a laborer on a construction site. Your video brought a little positive energy to me, I’m grateful
Sound like a hard working individual.
There with you brotha, just take it one day at a time I had a good size tire shop lost everything due to an ex but now working day to day. Im tired but we gots to keep going.
living in the back of your truck? what a chad.
Divorced at 31… had to pay out 30k in alimony plus half of everything. Now at 47 yea of age, got it all together. But still so much to learn
Hang in there friend… you got this
@@jledesma1175 any advice while going through it.
Turned 29 and tapped into my strength and stopped making excuses. Still a long way to go. Thank you my good man
It took turning 32 and I don't have the energy to do what I need to do all over again like when I was younger. Good luck in your journey
@@dangerouseducation40 I appreciate it but don’t underestimate yourself. Your mind is powerful beyond measure. Good luck to you as well
@@dangerouseducation40stop making excuses just go for it with 32 you are still very young
28, left a toxic relationship that made me feel emasculated. Low self esteem. I am miserable at the moment, but I am free to mold myself. Same with you, and God bless you with all the happiness, health and wealth.
@@prod.din0273 Is 36 still young? Where do we expect a 36 year old to be at in life?
Almost 30 and feeling lost and unhappy with what ive accomplished. thank you man.
I'm 83 and couldn't be more supportive of what you have just shared. Words that are important to all of us to absorb - even regardless of age. I would feel proud if I could do what you have just done here.
thanks for your comment Bob, for me this felt so important. young men like me are yearning for connection with the elder folks, seems like it is wiped out in our society. to much loneliness, to little interaction.
my respect sir
Do you have any advice for me at 28 years old?
@@joeybutts13 I wanted to think about your request for any advice a while before I responded. So here goes. I never give advice because I don't live your world. But what I will do is suggest you think about this - from birth on forward we are all indoctrinated with the following belief which is as American as Apple pie, yet it drives most of our feelings and behaviors in a way totally unknown to us. That belief is:
"You're not good enough, yet." Think about what that means, how that affects youvwhen you are silently and unknowingly believing it of yourself.
@@marinusvanvliet5135 See what I wrote to Joseph.
"Stop being so hard to yourself."
This, for some reason, hit so hard coming from him than any other person I've ever heard it from.
fr right!?
Dude is the living Arthur morgan
Probably because he truly meant it. Came straight from his soul.
"A blade does not become strong, It does not become tempered until it's been through the fire" I'll treasure that for the rest of my life.
"A gem can't be polished without friction"
"Diamonds can't be formed in the absence of pressure"
"An arrow can't reach its destination without being pulled back"
I got it together at 40, that was many years ago. I'm at peace and content with my life. I got nothing to complain about.
I own little and live a simple life alone.
My looks still get me attention without looking for it, I just live like I'm taken... I'm blessed and try my hardest to live a humble life.
I'm blessed.
70+ and still learning. You never stop learning till your gone. "Keep on keepin on" is one phrase that gets me thru.🤔👍🇺🇸💯
48 and I still have a ways to go
47 and just starting to see the light
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Wisdom!
From the books you read and the people you talk to!
Thank you
Might sound kind of cheesy, but I really needed to hear this today. I'm a young woman in my mid-twenties, and I'm only just now realizing that I'm not a failure because I don't have everything together. The last two years were so full of problems and stress, and in the last few months, I was completely broke and had to move across the country to a new job with only my sister helping, which up to then was one of the hardest problems I had encountered. I was terrified of driving big vehicles, almost to the point of anxiety attacks, but the only option I had was a U-haul, so I steeled myself up, said a prayer, and made it happen. And it turned out fine and I'm not as afraid of moving anymore.
I tried to take those months of crisis, depression, and paycheck-to-paycheck one day at a time, and the good Lord helped out and everything ended up fine; now my job is going well, I'm ahead on bills, I've paid one of my debts off already, and I'm on the way to finish paying off the last two in less than a year. Sometimes things go up and down but the most important thing I've learned is that pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. When you face the pain and inconvenience and pointless difficulties in life head on and treat them more as learning and humbling experiences, you get a lot more out of it and aren't so afraid anymore.
I'm a stranger on the Internet. Reading this filled me with genuine, strong pride. I'm adude in his Mid 20's, England, and I can relate to your issues so much, especially when it comes to dealing with Anxiety attacks head on. You may not believe it but you're inspirational. As much as you needed this wonderful video, I needed this comment.
Bless you, Bless your family and bless your future. You got this
Way to go girl 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 you need to be really proud of yourself. You are making great strides.
Good on you! Proud of how far you've come! It all turns out as it should in the end, despite the pain at any given moment.
Kudos to you for persisting! All obstacles can be overcome
Enjoy your 20s. You got time. God is good, and Rome wasn't built in a day. "Slow down u crazy child, your so ambitious for a juvenile, there's only so many hours in a day." Billy Joel
I'm 78 and listening to this young man of 55. Wish I was that age again. But this is probably the happiest time of my life despite the aches. I think you never stop learning even at my age I always thought old people must have it figuered out. Sorry they don't, not if they're honest. Just enjoy each day as it comes because you have less of them no matter what age you are. They're running out. I suggest you act now and stop dreaming of a better life. It's your life so take control. Mistakes are inevitable but you'll learn from them and at least you tried and you'll be a better person because of it. Persistence will get you everywhere. OK....enough.
Wise words. Much respect sir I wish you all the best
Ty
Ive been noticing i have been wasting a lot of my time wishing I was younger because things were better/easier with more of a future. Im losing my future now by being stuck in that mindset instead of living
Thank you for inspirational worlds sir
I am 67 and wholeheartedly agree! Thank you, sir.
sometimes you find a diamond in the middle of all the brain rot content out there
I'm 25 and going through the roughest year of my life so far. I lost my Papa in August, and I only realized it after he passed but that man had all the wisdom and knowledge I needed to get me through this tough time. I was sitting here missing him wishing I could just ask him for some advice and then I open up TH-cam and this video just randomly pops up. My Papa was the biggest cowboy I ever met. And one of the greatest men to ever walk this planet. And everything said in this video is exactly what I think he would tell me right now if he could. Thank you for this.
I lost my parent in August also. My mother was an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. I thought that since she was once in Hospital and was diagnosed with a liver cancer she will open her eyes. But she didn't, and 3 hours before she died I spoke to her on a phone (I am 19 years old and moved to Netherlands in June, didn't even had a chance to say goodbye to her in person).
I am scared to death what will happen with me after my dad will pass away, and the fact that he is suffering from Parkinson's is a fuel for my anxiety.
I wish you all the best, a lot of strenght.
After some time we will surely get through this. :)
Yessir!..keep your head up young man..there's greatness inside of you!
Stay blessed my friend.
Your dad sounds like a total legend and I hope you can take solace from all the wonderful times you had together. I bet you've got some great cowboy stories! Sending you a big hug☺️💝 glad you getting some comfort from this video too x
@@alu697 dear alicia, I'm so sorry that you are suffering so much pain right now. I hope you can see your dad as much as possible but I know how scary it is - my father is 74 and I have anxiety about his health.
I found polyvagal exercises are good for calming anxiety. There are books and videos on how to calm vague nerve. Also deep breathing, immersing face into ice water, mindfulness all help me to survive PTSD for the last 12 years. I wish you well, you are stronger than you think💐🌿☺️
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I'm 49... This is the first year I've ACTUALLY had stuff figured out. I live on 5 acres in a 5th wheel off grid. At one point I owned a 3200 sq ft home.... Yet here with near nothing, I'm more stable, more focused, more centered, and yes wiser. I have a CLEAR vision of what I NEED to do... I've healed from my childhood trama and I'm finally figuring out WHO I am and what I WANT.... And what I NEED... this man is telling extream truths
So happy for you! Good luck!
I'm rooting for you ❤❤❤❤
Needed to see this comment. 44 and see the same change coming.
The sooner you realize that you’ll never have it all together the better imo. Not at 16, 26, 36…66…never, and that’s ok.
@@scotiacrumpler2824 agreed....
I'm a 27 year old single mom trying to start a small farm. I've just been struggling so much lately. My life is so incredibly far from where I wanted to be by this age but this video made me cry. It was full of things I didn't realise I needed to hear. Thank you so much for reminding me I'm ok and I'll figure things out. My own family is constantly on me for being behind or not doing things right. This brought me significant peace after a rough day.
Hang in there, Gina. God Bless you
Hey, so this is just a massive shot in the dark, but im also 27 and going thru some tough times, but you said you're trying to start a farm but are struggling, basically I'm wondering if you have your own place and are close to a city and in a place that is warm during winter? I do door dash for work and I'm living in my car, trying to get to a warm place for the winter, but I'd gladly help you get your farm started in exchange for just a place to park and sleep in my car basically 🙃
I know it's a long shot and im just a random stranger on the internet, but times are tough and it's worth asking 🤷♂️
Me as a 18 year old hearing about this I'm so proud your still thriving! Keep going :)
@@JoshwaLaw
She's a young single mother trying to create
and run a farm best You go find another
parking spot for Yourself and Your car.
You may be a decent person but it's way
too risky for a Young lady to take a chance.
Besides isn't it legal to park anywhere for
an overnight before moving on again.
Then You don't need to park on lady's farm.
Be careful what You post on the Internet
Saying You're a young single mother &
and running Your own farm to some means
You're a vulnerable weak & an easy meal.
At best You'll be conned and betrayed
At worst You and Your child will be in danger
Please be vigilant and wise for all things.
Love and kindest of regards
Strength and safety be with You and Yours
He's like the Dad I never had yet needed. Thank you
I'm 18 with no car, no jobs getting back to me, and no scholarship's to go to college with. I struggled though highschool during COVID, got low grades, and I've lost near all my friends through school, school changes and rumors. I feel like I'm lower in life than others my age. this video helped me to realize that I need to slow down and keep doing things to help my future. Thank you.
Eventually you just gotta realize that you’re the only one who can save yourself and you gotta grind this shit out
I was in the same boat. I couldn’t change on my own and decided I need the help. That help came in the form of joining the Marine Corps. Find your own legend, make that legacy!
I’m 18 and in the same situation, 3 years ago my dad lost his job, he got diagnosed with dementia, we sold our house, was homeless for 3 months and he passed away last year in January. Then 5 months later I almost had a major heart attack and am lucky to be alive, the doctors said it would take a year to heal. So here I am with a bad education because of the reasons I just listed and on top of that I can’t get a job or move any of my chess pieces on the board because I’m still healing ❤️🩹. It could always be worse even though that really doesn’t help your feelings much but look at it this way, at least we aren’t in Ukraine getting blown up into a million tiny pieces right now. We both feel stuck, my plan is to get a car first, save some money and then go into the military or trade school. Definitely not alone bro and the grass is not always greener on the other side, sometimes there’s no grass at all, so chill and decide what the first step is and slowly move from there. I saw my dad slowly lose his mind, he couldn’t talk, he just screamed, he couldn’t eat, he had to drink shakes, he couldn’t drink hardly at all by the end of it and he was so skinny you could see his ribs, I had to pick him up when he collapsed. I would rather go to war than go through that again. THE ONLY REASON IM TELLING YOU THIS IS BECAUSE IT CAN GET ALOT WORSE THAN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE SO JUST CHILL
@@haxor6863 this is my motivation to keep going man I am so sorry that happened to you. You did not deserve that. But it all happened for a reason. God gives his strongest men the hardest tests.
28 year old here, I can absolutely promise you, that if you keep your chin up and press on, it will blow over. You'll look back on this period as one of those times you had to "go into the forge to get stronger". All these difficult times count for something, it's just not always apparent when you're going through the thick of it. Press on.
I’m 25 and lost my brother to suicide. I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you❤
Edit: me and my family just want to thank all the kind supportive messages 💚 makes me feel like I’m not alone
So sorry to hear this
Condolence,brother.And don't give up on this life
im sorry brother my condolences dont stop and keep fighting God loves you
I'm so sorry friend. I wish you a steady healing journey. Remember, he is always with you
embrace you man
I’m now 27 and my life hasn’t changed since I was 23. Not married, no relationship, no kids, I moved back in with my parents. I went back to college and got a 2nd BA degree because my GPA was so low I couldn’t get into a Masters program. I got my dream job worked it 5 weeks and quit because my boss was verbally abusing me on the daily. Now I’m working at an elementary school and learned the importance we leave on people’s lives. “They may be a little part of your life, but you are a big part of theirs.” Knowing that has brought me more happiness than anything else. Find what makes you happy and focus on that, the rest will come in due time.
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Aye man I’m in a similar situation from 23 unitl now I’m 25 things have been the same live by myself I am a licensed barber but the gig isn’t doing it for me financially anymore I want to go back to school to try and pursue my dream career thinking about moving back with my parents im not sure if being 25 is already to late to go to school
@@sixstrz8310 I’ll tell you this, I went back for my second BA at 24. Covid hit and I didn’t finish till I was 26. It was worth every second. It was a better experience and I did better in class. We place too much stress on high schoolers to go straight to college, but they need more exposure to the real world and time to grow up some more.
@@kloveda5 thanks for the words of wisdom and I do agree sometimes we need to get into the real work world to gain some life knowledge school is always there for you in case you wanna go back to it exactly what I’m going to
Keep going man and I am so happy to hear that you are sharing your experience with young minds at school who need it most. Stay blessed.
I know this video is 2 years old but this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
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I want to hear your story stranger. Share it plz.
I'm 22 and I lost my dad 4 months ago and my 16 year old brother 2 months ago, it's honestly been a big struggle and a friend's mom sent me this video, it's honestly what I needed to hear.
I'm 23 and lost my younger sister 11 months ago. Loss is incredibly hard. And it's alienating to experience it at our age I think.
Remembering this videos message helps me. You only get stronger from climbing uphill. Things will get better eventually. Be patient and go easy on yourself!
Much love ❤. Stay strong. You’ve got this bro
How did your brother pass? Sorry for your loss btw. Stay strong!
@@jacks910 he was robbed and shot in the head over $40.
@@Justchillin429 Oh my god, that’s horrible. I’m so sorry to hear about that. It’s so saddening and disgusting to realize what kind of savages are out there in this world, who have no regard or remorse for human life when it comes to getting something they want. I hope they caught the SOB, if not which hopefully isn’t the case, I’m praying for the guilt to devour and eat up the perp. It genuinely upset me to hear about that, so I can’t even imagine in the slightest, what you are going through. Please stay strong brother, and never give up! God rest your brother’s soul, and let karma come strike down the sad excuse of a human who committed the act.
as a 23 year old guy i didnt know i needed to hear this in such a genuine way untill i just started crying out of no where
كلنااا💔
17, same
19, same
hang in there. your life is going to be an adventure.
I am 22, this is some of the best advice I've ever heard.
That's amazing to hear! At 22, you're in such a powerful place to embrace this wisdom. It's great to see you already reflecting on meaningful advice. Keep going!
You’re a good man Arthur Morgan
as a 21 year old who has been freaking out about "not doing enough" since my teenage years, watching this genuinely made me cry. and reading the comments section made feel so safe. it's weird but i'm actually so happy to know that there are people my age and even older than me who feel the same way. i feel like as a girl, i have to prove myself a lot and over and over again or else i won't be seen as "important" or "valuable" to my family. i know it sounds very immature and weird to consider yourself "valuable" or not but i really do feel that pressure to be the best of the best or else my education and my upbringing has been completely useless and i'm a failure. thank you very much for lifting some weight off my shoulders ❤
You are a human BEING. Just be!
Ah man, we love ya. I hear so many kids on VRChat who have these same fears. You *should* be afraid. Gen Z is looking pretty solid. Millennials were pretty hard on ourselves too. Half the Boomers see us as entitled and they don't understand why we can't buy or build homes as they draw another social security check from my children's future. Many boomers think we're not having children because children are inconvenient. Children are a blessing, but I'm not bringing more kids into a world without the time and finances to give them the best future I can give them. I waited until 34 to start having kids. That's not unusual for my generation. We're scared. The more I understand legislation, the more I see that we *should* be scared. Our parents excessively borrowed from our future and that payment is coming due. Don't think of life as inherited from your parents. It's also borrowed from your kids. This man has some sweet words, but they're sweet poison. We need to act. Don't just lean back and say "we didn't start the fire." The average age of first-time mothers in America is now up from 21 to 26, while for fathers, it's increased from 27 to 31. Children aren't inconvenient, Boomers are. They sucked off their parent's blood and then spun around and drained their daughters.
Im 27 and i still have this heavy anxiety and pressure that i MUST be buying a house, be earning x amount a year. But even in my mind i imagine having all of it together but I question myself "would that make me happy? Really? Would having all that just make my problems go away? I dont think it would. Whats wrong with me. What will make me happy-im lost. I panic. I shut down and dont want to do anything. I dont want to smalltalk people (or especially customers) i couldn't care for them as they make 0 difference to my life nor I do theirs. Then i think everythings meaningless. Then I blame myself for being so negative and thus worry about bringing others around me down with me and i hate myself for not being happy. Im stuck in a loop.
@@MrShazaamable I'm 30 y/o and will change my work because of bad work environment and adhd and depression related problems and doing a reha measurement and such. And I really start feeling happy and content although there is still so much to do and to think about. Try to take a deep breath, take your time and try not to judge your feelings, they are completely valid if you feel them, they have a reason. The world we live in is very complex and absurd and full of problems. So it's normal for every human to feel sometimes lost and every person takes their own time, some take longer and that's okay too :) don't stress yourself over what will make you happy, just feel your feelings and you will figure out what you don't want and what you clearly want... But most of it will be a maybe. So try to do some things and if they make you happy, try to do more of it :) you don't have to know what you want and how to get it, you don't have to be happy and perfect, the journey is what's counting. Be kind to yourself, that's the most important part.
Dude who cares you are young
This is unironically the most manliest man video for men about men having struggles its awesome
Real
IKR
I am greatfull for your videos! I happen to be 68 and I can't count just how many times I've thought I've got it all together only for life to wreck my serenity and make me realize how foolish I've been there is always something else to learn. My grandfather used to say " everyday you don't learn something you might as well be dead' and for me that's so damn true! Don't try to figure it ALL out just figure you've got more to learn until GOD says come home my child .
Got diagnosed with a rare brain tumor, vestibular schwannoma at 26. Turned 27 and had surgery a week later. I graduated college with my computer network engineering degree right before my surgery. I’m 28 now. Been in recovery since July 2021 when I had the surgery. Lots of therapies and moments of weakness with feelings of hopelessness as I learned to maneuver my new norm of the loss of balance, chronic dizziness, migraines, hearing lost on surgery side, memory issues, severe dry eye.. this video brought me a great amount of peace, and I want to thank you personally for putting this video out there to others. It was very introspective and helped put my life more into perspective. Take care!
I'm right there with you. 27 when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor (anaplastic astrocytoma), had the surgery (awake craniotomy, Sept. 2021), just finished up 15 months of chemo. I've had a lot of the same issues, I was about halfway done my degree when the diagnosis happened, ended up dropping out. Prognosis could be better, so school's off the table for now. But definitely felt the loss of normalcy and trying to readjust to everything again. Videos like this really help.
I’m 38, a survivor of Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia, just a little over a year in remission and actually just had my port removed today. I keep talking about getting a degree in computer or mechanical engineering but haven’t put fourth the effort to enroll. I have 10yrs in machining but nothing else other than a ton of excuses . But this video and y’all comments are very eye opening and thank you all for that.
You guys stay strong, you made it so far and I hope all the best and health for you. I don't know you but I am proud of you, stay strong kings🔥
This might help, it might not, but maybe look into getting Daith piercings.
Sounds stupid, but they do actually help with migraine and dizziness. I was suffering with both thanks to inheriting a susceptibility to them. Got the piercings and a month on, I've had maybe one dizzy spell since.
Hope things keep on getting better for you.
God bless you ! I’m turning 27 this year, you make my situation feel like child’s play.. but we’re bith going to figure this out! God bless you! I hope to get my degree in computer science
As a 37 yr old man with 2 son's, I thank you for this. I've been struggling horribly. This brought it all back around for me. Thank you.
@dogshit thats a nice comment man
Dude you're absolutely killing it if you're still taking care of them even with all the shit going on. People would have given up but you didn't. You should be proud of yourself for still going through life. I may just be a stranger but stay strong man I believe in you
36 with a son. Been working for a company that has literally been a nightmare. Fear of the unknown has kept me there, today that changes. Going to an interview for another firm. I’m nervous, excited, scared but hopeful and know that no matter what I’m gonna show the eff up for the sake of my son and wife. We are more frequent than most would think. Fight on my friend, you got this.
And I'm a 37 year old man, barely dated let alone wife or kids, and I had a sudden epileptic seizure last month, was carried in an ambulance and kept on saline for 2 days......doctor said abject loneliness is a cause, I overthink all the time. And it's true. Hang in there bud.....we are all in this shit together
@@The_man_with_the_plan no no no this is the standard you’re not doing anything special if you take care of your kids.
Man when you said stop being so hard on yourself..
I broke down in tears..
Thanks for the encouragement
He's right. Best of luck to you
Thank you buddy. I wish you all the best too..
I hope you have been well brother¡
Hello, 19y/o here. Recently, I’ve been in a constant state of depression and hopelessness. One of the things that’s been eating away at me is not knowing what I want to do in life. I know that I want to be successful in life, and I know I want to be something great, but right now, I feel so lost, and hopeless. I feel like there’s no escaping it for me. I want to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I just can’t give up. This video has helped me out a lot, and I just want to say thank you.
I’m a 13 year old girl who was just scrolling on youtube to get my mind out of the worries and stumbled upon a cool cowboy philosopher. must be a little weird seeing my age around here but I wanna say thank you.
You have time to figure it all out. But you also don't have forever, it's a balance. Too many people wait for the right conditions and life passes by. If I could go back to being 13 I wish I was more focused. Now I'm focused but don't have the time. It doesn't have to consume your life either, enjoy being a kid and take care knowing you will have many, many lows, but they always pass somehow.
@@overratedprogrammerl
god i needed to hear this as a 17 yo ty @@overratedprogrammer
PLEASE take the time to choose to be an idiot. Now. Call a friend and go do something stupid today or tomorrow. You'll remember it for years.
Jesus loves you so much and He is waiting for you with open arms, please accept Him in your heart and life while He is near
I’m a 63 year old black man who stumbled across your channel. I agree with everything you had to say because I have lived it. Your past , present and future I realize that I’m not the same man I was in the past, and I will be a different man in the future. I am now retired and I realize at this age that I don’t know everything and I’m not trying to pretend that I do. I tell my wife that we have made it this far in our journey. God has truly blessed us , we find ourselves without any wants or needs, just enjoy the ride.
bless you, sir
When?
I'm a 61 year old white man....share the same feelings and experiences. Don't know what race has to do with it. A man is a man and their journey is their own.
Nice one William. I’m glad I found this channel too. (I am a 60 year old, not too wise, white woman.)
Gratitude is the attitude . That is amazing , and I’m sure you have a lot of stories to tell.
"I'm 55 yrs old, and I'm just starting to get a little figured out" I'm 56, that sounds about right. Your doing a good job sharing, and your using that gift that He gave you -the gift of encouragement. The world needs this right now, bravo for running your race and doing it well. cheers from New England
Amen. Exhortation
Very well put
58, figured out I always have new things to figure out. I have figured out I will be able to figure it out.
There's moments where I've had it all together, sometimes long moments, then life shows me I'm not always running this ship. I got to improvise and learn from my mishaps. And just know, life goes in circles, so you'll get another chance to show what you've learned and then it's a choice to make that change.
"you'll not get there if you quit" saved me man. Thank you
Hope you're okay, friend.
As a young man from Europe actually im at difficult situation. Ain't got it all together and by the chance i found out your channel. It's good to listen some older man who's got a life experience and shares it for people. Keep going, you're probably doing more job than many internet dumb-coaches who only want to get your money. I wish i can watch more of your videos in the future.
where from europe?
@@tutorialchief From Poland unfortunately.
There is worse places
@@OOUGGE And also better.
Well said
I'm a 22 years old brazilian woman and just had a breakdown. I feel like I'm not getting anything although I always try really hard. I feel left behind, misunderstood and worst of all, a burden for my friends and mainly my family. I really needed to hear this, though I'm pretty sure it's meant to help young men. Thank you very much for your nice words, they were truly tranquilizing.
We love you, im glad this video reached you. You’re a wonderful woman.
BRAZIL AMERICAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I mean, men are the main demographic who consumes his content so it's aimed at them but it's absolutely meant for you too.
Thank god because I'm a woman and I reallllly needed to hear this. ;( I'm so glad there is content like this for men and boys though of course
You are not a brazilian woman. You are a woman. And you are not 22 years old you are just 22 years on this earth.
im 27 and i feel like my life is in shambles… moved from alabama to los angeles thinking i was ready for the world and become a star but i ended up living in Skid Row in a shelter on foodstamps/GR with a 2 yr old untrained dog … this literally a combo for disaster but i been holding it together trying to maintain my mental health
Things will work out love. I hope you have kept maintaining your mental health. You’re going to shoot forward like a sling shot ❤
I'm a 39 year old female, and God knew I needed this video! Thank you, and blessings to you sir!! 🙏🏼
ive never been a very faithful man but damn it, if i'm god's child then yes i'm certain it was his fault i'm watching this and feeling better about this month already
@@lucaswarnke3668 sir your last name is Warnke you have no grounds for criticism at this timd
@@lucaswarnke3668 that comment sure came off pretty rude and critical. You certainly know that.
@@lucaswarnke3668 that sounds very depressing and irrelevant
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As a 24 yr old man, after college and the military didn't work out, I lived for years telling myself I'm a failure in life. I needed to hear this sir, thank you.
25 year old. I struggled years in college only to find out I failed desperately trying to think this was what was expected of me. Never worked a day in my life, and I usually ask people for advice on where I can start. Not easy to do, and people are so judgemental calling people lazy or have some learning disorder.
Dude, I’m in the same boat getting out of the military makes you feel like your whole world is changing.
❤Life isn’t about how you pay the bills. It’s about how you emotionally discipline yourself to meet challenges and choices you make can either help and make life better or provide more to overcome and help you grow up. Love is the icing of living well.
David Goggins
Just keep swimming!
A 10 mile journey gets completed one step at a time.
Slow and steady is better than no movement.
Anyways.. don’t give up, follow what you love to do and you’ll be guided into the right direction.
And if you don’t know what you love doing, start trying out random activities.
Be patient with yourself. You’re are amazing and you will push through! ❤️💯🔥
43, lost my wife and daughter on Valentine’s Day a few years back. I don’t know how I ran into your videos on here but I get a bit of peace through your words. I’m a professional writer and often offer words to others on certain platforms but when guys like me need a wiser older friend. That’s what I feel like we have within you. I appreciate you making these videos. I’m looking forward to diving into them all. Thank you for what you do.
I’m so so sorry to hear that man! God bless
I’m 43 as well my friend. I’m sorry for your loss. Thankfully I’ve never experienced that, but I did lose my wife due to her infidelity and I’ve been single ever since, that was 7 years ago.
I don’t know about you, but I can honestly say I don’t feel 43, so hopefully we have enough time to “figure it out.”
Holy shlt, Im sorry.
Wow bud, that’s a hard hit..
Thanks for sharing and staying strong!
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I’m so sorry for your loss. God bless you
I'm watching this at 4am and I'm so happy i found this video. Thank u so much. I needed this. I was going to give up but now I'm focused on becoming "a sword"❤
I’m 35 and was just sitting in my car today applying for jobs but feeling down on life that I’m not were I feel I should be. I got on TH-cam to watch something funny to cheer me up and this was one of the first videos I seen. Im still trying to get it together but now I’m doing it with a renewed sense of courage thank you.
Don’t feel bad bro I’m turning 34 this February, I have no money in my bank. I maybe have a couple of dollars, also I don’t have a car. So I’m doing side work with my friends to make money n sustain myself. I still live with my parents, also I have an alcohol n drug addiction, I’ve been dealing with as well. So I definitely don’t have it figured out, and I feel like I’m spinning my tires in the mud . Trust me I feel like a fucking loser or failure sometimes, but I know Im not and I will eventually get it right. Just keep your head up ⬆️ keep grinding, pray to god things will get better. Don’t stop applying or trying stay strong it could be way worse.
@@mod19899 watch Jordan Peterson
@@mod19899 Thanks man I know it will get better for us.
@@mod19899 you got this brother. I’m 3 years without drinking and I never thought I could quit. Iron sharpens iron.
@@mod19899 was ch “conversations with the devil” on TH-cam. It will change your life and help get over your addiction. It’s all in your mind. Reprogram! Thank me later……
I am 52 and still have not figured “it” out. Ironically, when I was in my late 20’s and early 30’s I thought I hade everything dialed in. The older I get the more I appreciate that wisdom comes through experience and things are not always black and white, there is a lot of nuance in the world.
Also, I sent this to my son who is 24 because I think every young person should hear it.
My father died to covid infecting his lungs at the age of 52 last year when I was 16. Life's so valuable and so many people just don't understand how much time they have. Use your knowledge and wisdom to help others around so when you are gone, people still remember you. Cause nobody remembers bad memories. Don't be a bad memory.
I really envy older generations who remark on how they thought they had it figured out at such a young age. Me and almost every person that I know in my age group are so riddled with anxiety and self doubt that we genuinely don't feel like we know anything.
@@Thomas_Angelo I'm sorry for your loss. My dad died of lung disease a few decades ago. I can still remember him and hear his voice and remember the love and hope he had for me.
I'm over 50 now and I'm very relieved to still be here able to keep trying and to be worthy of the life my parents gave me. It's something that I can never give up on. It's no where near a perfect life, but a life that has definitely been worth living. I wish you well.
I'm also in my middle age and it's funny/not-so-funny how life can change. Like you think you know in your 30s how the rest of your life is going to go only to get curveball after curveball thrown at you. My life today is nothing like what I thought it was going to be even as little as 20 years ago. In some ways better; in some ways a lot worse. You just have to roll with the punches and keep moving forward.
@@michaellockhart6632 Yes. So many people hate the fact that their parents brought them to this world but I'm not like them.
I appreciate and acknowledge every second I had with my dad till I was 16 when he passed. It's been 2 years and his pictures in our house makes it feel like he is still with us and listens and helps us all the time.
I hope one day I will be able to meet him.
And I'm sure you had a good father just from how you described him.
I wish the best for you and one advice I learnt from my dad was: do good without expecting anything. God, or whatever you believe in will give back what you gave to others in need. Like giving your favorite food to poor people. I always buy my favorite snacks for homeless people in my area to share the joy I get from that snack. That's the beauty of life.
30 man. Lost my dad to cancer 3 years ago, he was a great man and It feels like he's talking through you. Thank you for making videos and taking the time to talk with us.
29 now lost my dad due to cancer 3 years ago. You are not alone, glad you got another year of his presence then I did.
It is him.... God is speaking through him for you... God bless you man...
Love you dude keep pushing
25 right now lost him with 16 to cancer it gets better trust me .. idk why i ended up here blessings to u guys tho
Its a dangerous world, all kinds of thugs, nuts and crazies will want you dead upon sight and this includes doctors who normally feel safer about trying to maim and murder , its not easy trying to convict them , most only do a couple years for malpractice and is another reason other then treasure that villains are sometimes willing to put money and time in a medical career. most of such doctors are not going to degrade you or call you names like in a fictional book, their just trying to kill you or maim you. I wish that was the case, That a doctor will call you names and say, I hate you and your baby pink face., Thanks for the warning, Now it time for innocent Joe to skip and dance to a new doctors office. I find good looking pale skinned doctors or woman doctors the safest for me.
Man, I needed this. I’m 28 and feel like everything is fucked up, and headed nowhere. Stuck in a job I hate, which takes me away from my kids, making just enough to survive in this economy. But hey, it’s all gonna be alright. Every single situation in life, is temporary.
I don't know if you'll ever see this comment but I've struggled with not having it all together since finishing college. I don't have any of the success markers that society says I should have but I'm working toward being a success in a way I define.
I was really down on myself until I watched this entire video. You sir have no idea how big a positive impact your words have had on me.
Thank you for speaking them.
You're on nobody else's schedule, only you write your story.
@@sakeenahm Exactly!
Friend, I didn't feel like people took me seriously until I was in my 30s, so I wouldn't stress about it much. For now, just be a sponge. Find a mentor who will let you pick their brain. Gain experiences and dabble a ton... and your path with develop on its own.
As for "success markers", you need to ditch that thinking real quick before it leads you to a regret. The only person that should be defining your success is you.
You are alive friend. Take it as it comes.
@@OldSaltyBear thank you!
I’m 23 years old and I really needed this. I’m more along than others but far behind compared to some. I just hope all the hard work pans off, I’m not sure where I’m headed at the moment but I’m working as much as I can, learning everything I can, and treating every person as kind as I can. I’m still nowhere near where I’d like to be but I’m starting to get the grasp of this thing called life. Thank you sir, may your words of wisdom live on for ages.
Writing this from Nepal...I'm also 23, looks like our story match. But, it's Just the beginning! More power to you friend❤️
I'm 34, basically lost everything, covid even ruined study plans at the Open Uni (UK) and moved back where I grew up (fortunately the house is empty and I can be noisy with my drums). Everyone is either living on their own, married with kids or even divorced already (hey, that's more to value, I don't even have kids, just bad relationships...). I have been asked why don't I have a car and I always reply that a supermarket is 10 minute walk away.... I know I don't have a car cause I can't create a steady income to afford one but I can see they're judgemental, even though rural european towns are fairly walkable.
Of course things will go wrong when I was ridiculed as a kid and was prevented from studying IT and now as a high school dropout I have to take on crappy jobs that I regularly quit, cause I decided to stand up for myself and I won't let anyone talk down to me. I do all the work to a tee but get blamed for someone else's mistake..... It's worthwhile standing up for yourself, even if you have to reset everything in your 30s.. or 40s.. or whenever you're ready.
I see a lot of people may look happy now with _everything figured out_ but let's just wait and see how many of them will divorce after 20 or 30 years, perhaps lose everything and won't know how to handle a failure in old age. I have failed spectacularly now in middle age and learned how to cope better.
Good luck to you.
We WILL get ahold of our lives.
Be great!
I totally see you. I’m also 23, and in a similar space. Not only is this video insightful but so are comments like your’s. Keep rocking it 🤘🏽
You've got this, and the Universe has got you. It may not be beneficial to compare yourself to anyone else, but I believe you're on the right track. Keep going!!
23 year old and I’m very fortunate the Lord has brought me here. If you were to write a book I would absolutely give it a read!
This channel is a blessing to so many such as myself!
did you know mein kampf is the 2nd most read book ever after the bibol
@@Sh0n0 Bible.
@@petermelnyk7664 pardon?
@@Sh0n0 you wrote bibol...were you referring to the Bible?
I can really appreciate this. I’m 22 years old. Been a felon since 18, spent years in and out the system, and am just now centering in on building a life for myself. It’s rough (not complaining) trying to catch up on shit people gained through just being free, living “normal”. I see myself acquiring all that I need/want, but a big fear of mine if becoming another statistic because it’s a weird place to be in when the system has a hold on you. I see the growth, I see the knowledge acquired, I see that I want a peaceful life, but what kills me is forever starting from scratch. Idk. God bless us all.
dont worry about it at all, the time people lose on bs university departments and loans after getting out of that hassle at age 26, 30, consider yourself lucky pal
I'm a 30 y/o combat vet with really bad PTSD. I'm terrified to leave the apartment to take the trash out these days. I've been right on the ledge lately and I'm not sure why, but 5:57 brought me to tears. "You keep going" in that gentle tone. Not a demand, not an order, not begging someone to stay...just the words from someone who did keep going. You say you're not wise, but you are.
I will keep going and find that card to play. You saved a life sir. Thank you.
I hope things improve for you
So sorry it's been so hard. The VA has help for this. It's called CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy. There are other therapy methods that can help overcome the severity of PTSD too. EMDR, and more.
I haven't gone through anything nearly as traumatizing, but I went through a really bad breakup. Everyday I remind myself of how much I been through & that I'll get through this one too and it'll only make me stronger and then I would be unstoppable 😂. But there's some truth to it I feel. The more you go through, the tougher skin you develop and it becomes harder to take you down. Listen to, "There will be days like these", by Miles Carter. Every line is beautiful, but one he says, "your past is not who you are, but rather the context for who you will be. Your flaws do not make up your being, but serve as reminders that you are human broken in a way that is beautiful leaving no room for normalcy you... are special". "Realize there is power... in your perspective... the world is yours". Things will get better because your the narrative of your own story ✨️
May God bless you and keep you safe! Greetings from Romania, bro!
Your not alone sir. We are here for you.
He needs to have a podcast. He has such a beautiful voice and what he is saying is phenomenal.
You can find the podcast on Spotify as Dry Creek Podcast
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool OMG you replied thank you so much I love your work!! I hope you have a wonderful day xxx
A podcast with Joe Rogan would be sick
Always good when young adults have their heads on strait and have some amount of good sense.
💌, "🎁" TRUE UPLIFT...
I MOST DEFINITELY CONCUR..."THIS SIR❣"
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I thought you might be in your mid 50s. I’m climbing up hill 63 and have been telling each of my four children (who are all over 30 now) pretty much exactly what you touch on here. That wisdom is only achieved through experience and time. I share this with them almost at every turn they go through in their lives - “Time is the only true currency of life, so spend it well. Invest in adventure. Invest in kindness and compassion. Invest in good and good will become your companion throughout your journey towards wisdom.” I’m still learning ever day on my journey.
Your children are very lucky to have you, good on you for looking out for them
some comments are as good as the original video. thanks!. I hope you have a lot of adventure ahead.
"just embrace life" you are so right and that statement overall brought me to tears I'm 27 and going through the fire like you say. thank you for putting yourself out there with your years, perception and knowledge for random people to absorb and potentially learn from... for anyone who reads the comment just keep going don't get caught up in the fire and chill when you can it isn't easy but its worth it every second of it our life experience defines us and how we act on it is truly what matters the most that will give the respite from said fire to prepare and overcome the heat that comes next. be yourself and do your best at what you can we get better and life goes on we all go on!
29 year old black female and this video came out of nowhere. It is very helpful as this is new years day and I am approaching 30 feeling behind in life sometimes. Thank you sir for wisdom 🙏🏾
Wow sis me too I'm literally exhausted and sick of this I'm working hard I'm not even enjoying my life just by trying to keep a roof over my head it's depressing to keep up a facade when I'm not okay
SAME!!! 2023 time to just DO no overthinking just do it!!! We got this!
@@queenofthedancehall5669 it is ok to not be ok. I'm 27 with severe mental illness and just now getting some results with a few supplements I'm on. I finally was able to clean the kitchen and fridge. It was horrible and miserable, but my lithium orotate got me through it. One day at a time. One new supplement at a time, for me at least.
Happy new years, let's hope our 2023 is better than 2022.
God bless
God bless you and your family ❣️🙏
Protect this man at all costs
I think he’s doing fine man. Sitting outside smoking his pipe. He doesn’t need protecting.
@@RolandKoller90 for real, I hate when people say this shit lmao
I'm 67 and when I saw you in that rocket chair with that hat I had to listen. Then I know this was a clip that my son of 26 and my older son at 35 needs to hear. I hope all young people will hear this. These young people are growing up with so much stress in their life. I pray that they all end up reading the word of God bc there is no other way. God bless you sir!
I turned 27 yesterday and have finally realized that in my own life. Praise god
Man listening to this was like listening to what I missed out from my older family members and I gotta say I appreciate this video it was a breath of fresh air
Just turned 23 today and have been feeling lost in life. I really needed this. Thank you
23 is young
23 is so young. I just turned 25 and I have no idea where the time went.
And am 38 years old and achieved nothing
This video randomly popped up in my feed and I’m 23 and I can’t tell you how badly I needed to see this video. Especially with having close friends who are doing big things and I’m left feeling like I’m still putting the pieces together. Thank you for sharing your insights and wisdom, It’s very appreciated
I’m 22 with no friends 😂
Man, i feel this. My two closest friends are moving up in the world big time. They're a few years older than me, but it certainly sets a high bat.
It’s social media my guy you’re still really young but a man or woman none the less but never look to what others have and look to and be thankful for what you do have. People who are 70 ain’t done learning and improving.
Me personally I don’t believe anyone of us ever figure out what “it” is. Always stick to your word and never bend on your morals.
@@phenarax7759You aren’t competing with them my guy don’t view it like that. You’ll get yours and by yours I mean whatever it is that finally brings you some peace and a sense of belonging in this life. Head up.
23 is like the start of life. Lol. Don't take things so serious would be my advice.
I'm 45. House just burned down, pet died, divorced with a kid, trying to reassemble myself. I'm not mad about it all, even though I do go through my fair share. But I hope I'm still trying to put everything together until the day I die of old age, and still accept that I have just no clue. Take care of yourselves, folks, and accept the love and kindness that are around you. Being vulnerable isn't weakness, it's strength. Be open to the gifts of the universe. Love your family, love your kids, love your created family, and let them love you back. You're enough, I promise you. And sir, you just got a new subscriber.
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This sir has been the video that has ever affected my mindset, ever. Even more than any movie or any book. I am flying with joyness. Thank you
As a 23 y/o political science dropout who comes from a family of criminality, mental illness, addiction and unemployment, your words meant so much to me.. ty sir, subscriber earned.
bro don't let your family affect your personality. you are born free. go to hubermanlab youtube channel and grab some tools for self improvement
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@@jonny_codphilo7809 facts?*
I wish you well Darth. You'll be fine.
I have had my dark days. I would say become a plumber or other such trade. Two years of effort and I promise your world will change. I promise you with work it will get better.