Ex-girlfriend had a meltdown years ago. She still thinks that a man is going to enter her life and treat her like a princess. She has been divorced 3x and will be 60 next month. The narcissism is strong in this one.
I had a 20 year old intern that showed up 15 minutes late. I asked her where the hell was she? She was shocked that anyone would question her whereabouts Another lady at work told me that I was pushing her to a breaking point be demanding that she showed up on time. Now I was shocked!!! Later she told me that she wore pajamas almost everyday while she was in college and her mother let her do anything she wanted when she was growing up and her father paid for everything. I can't imagine having such an easy mode life..actually her life was demo mode.
Over the years, now that I look back on my relationships, this happened a lot more than I realize. Now in my 60s I tell any woman if she wants to continue to see me that my expectations are not negotiable. Those that genuinely care will meet them and those that don’t, I stop seeing them. Definitely not worth it anymore
I am 67 and single. Sometimes I've thought I might be missing something by not being married. Turns out I haven't missed a damn thing! I can't help but laugh my way through this one. I don't know how you did it John but I'm thankful you are out here trying to save mankind. I'm all ears.
Same thing happened to me. Felt like I was dating an absolute child. Poor emotional control, poor money management, no ambition, always looking for attention online, always in a crisis, no resilience, narcissistic tendencies, dressed inappropriately. Kicked her to the curb pretty fast.
I’m a woman and he’s absolutely correct. The more we’re able to get what we want, the more we expect it. And the harder it will be to correct the behavior. I’m married 24 years and my husband has all but given up on giving me what I ask for. I appreciate him and love him truly. This video has made me more aware of being even more appreciative for my husband and to just be grateful for all that he’s done for us (me and the children) and STOP demanding/asking for more. Hearing this from a man’s perspective is eye opening because, of course, my mother and all other females in my life have never told me to act any differently…
I am 64, and have had 5 significant relationships in my life. They all at times said they loved me very much. But, not a single one of them really ever cared for me. Look forward to seeing Jack next time John.
Wife steals money from their husbands and sequester this money in a separate account? Or more properly, in a separate secret account? Yes, I had this in my marriage. When I discovered it, it was the single most important factor for me to know that a divorce was necessary. The strange thing is, this woman had my complete trust until this happened. I’m not sure a man shouldn’t hold a wife to basically the same standards he would hold an employee to. If an employee steals, they have to be fired. The same with the wife.
Also if the employee/woman stops doing the job you hired her for you have to fire her...without giving her half your assets. Therefore think long and hard before signing the marriage contract.
Wow, I'am just going through a similar situation with my ex who stole money for years in our business. I gave her complete trust with the financial side. She eventually left me with zero balance. My accountant was mortified, as we have two boys at uni and a shitload of bills to pay. I have just worked like a dog to pay the bills so I can wind down the business and move on.
I’m just laughing. I’m not laughing at anyone here. I’m laughing at myself. I too made the foolish mistake of having a joint savings and checking accounts. John you hit the nail on the head with this topic. This isn’t the first time I have heard of such events. On a final note I’ll give you something to ponder. My ex was stealing money from bank accounts as well as retirement accounts. My financial advisor stated to me that he had to go to court 12 times in 25 years over this issue. Eleven of the twelve times it was women stealing the money. Also he said they steal money in all ways. Little by little and or no n large amounts. Thanks for your videos John. Be well
My ex did the same. Squirrelled money away to some secret account for years without my knowledge. And the subsequent ‘fleecing’ (of me) through divorce meant that she eventually got everything. I feel I’ve had to pay through the nose for my own sins, but my ex appears to have had absolutely NO consequences from her actions (other than losing her husband, but who cares about me right?). I just hope ‘Karma’ is a thing, but years later my ex doesn’t seem to have met with Karma in any way. 🧐
@@lcmd7833 this is happening to my brother now!!!! There are thousands that she can’t account for!!!! The bad thing is he knows she has an account with ONLY her name on it yet he still hands over his money from the two jobs he works! He’s such a nice guy and she has made him miserable!!! He looks tens years older than he is ( he’s not even 40 yet). He just can’t stand up to her and she’s setting him up for a complete nuking of his life! I’ve talked and talked to him but it’s like he goes into a trance and can’t even hear me.
Wow! This one really rang true, John! From the time we married, I insisted my ex and I keep our finances separate. I didn't know of another married couple with such an arrangement. I was very conservative with money. Her, not so much. When she filed for divorce last year, I had a nice pile of cash and savings. She had over $30k of debt--which I didn't even know about. The house and the yard were full of chachkis. O, she also opened up two credit cards in my name along the way. All this was brought up by my attorney at our trial. It didn't matter one bit to the judge. Half my money became hers and half her debt became mine--plus half her attorney's fees.
@@CalinGilea I don't know, I've never done it. But it can't be that hard. She had my personal info obviously and she must have forged my signature. I only found out because my 300,000 mile car had finally had it and I needed a new car. They did a credit check and surprise! I started using Experian after that. Just as infuriating is how the judge just brushed it all off in her divorce decree.
Separate finances don't overrule the fact you've legally pooled your resources unfortunately. When you get married all assets and debts become shared, separate accounts give a false sense of security that doesn't exist. If anything you're better sharing an account after marriage as at least you'll likely recognise something is wrong with your finances sooner. Before marriage separate accounts are an excellent idea though. I'd imagine the reason the judge wasn't interested in your ex's loan fraud was because they viewed your credit as something your ex was entitled to share. The law surrounding this is extremely messed up. The only solution as I understand it is either to put your assets in something that is a separate legal entity to you or to never get married, co-habit, have kids or pool resources in any way. I'm sorry you had to learn this the hard way, thanks for sharing so we won't fall in to the same traps. Hope you're able to re-build your life stronger and move on to better things.
Chivalry is a medieval code of conduct between knights. Something that no woman would know anything about. Never allow a woman to scold, guilt or manipulate you.
@@john-griffin WOMEN NEED TO RESPECT YOU FIRST BEFORE THEY LOVE YOU. IF SHE DONT RESPECT YOU. SHE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU. ALSO YOU CONTROL ALL THE MONEY. IF SHE LEAVE YOU, SHE WILL ALWAYS TAKE ALL..ALWAYS. NOVEMBER 10, 2024. YES PRE NUPS ALSO
My ex wife was my lesson learned. Once I exited the joint bank account, the relationship just took a nose dive. Being single is the best. I remember my girlfriend telling me at my house that I needed a mancave. I just said, SWEETHEART, THIS WHOLE HALF ACRE AND A HOUSE IS A MANCAVE. YOULL NEVER RECEIVE MAIL OVER HERE.
So on point! So long as she does not feel comfortable enough to start shit testing and emotional blackmailing you, then you will be in a comfortable position. Never lose leverage!
We had a husband and wife business, where she controlled the money 100%. Big mistake. She had secret accounts for years until she finally left me with no money in the business account and a shit ton of bills to pay. She even took my dog.
Exactly. Because they aren’t happy with themselves, so they have to have things to try to make themselves happy. But those things don’t, so they just buy more things in hopes they will eventually bring them happiness. All due to their emotional immaturity, like a toddler. What’s hilarious is all these women on dating sites wanting a man with a high EQ, when they can’t mature past the toddler stage of EQ.
My nightmare is display cases and shelves full of useless crap that's on display like a museum. She spent $3000 just on one of the shelves...which I tried to explain was way, way too much but she refused to listen. Thankfully she spends her own money on this junk and makes more than I do, but what a waste. It's like dealing with a child who doesn't understand how to save for a rainy day.
Challenges in relationships are natural, but a path forward always exists. My marriage faced serious challenges, but with the right support, my wife and I resolved our issues and reinforced our bond. Solutions are within reach if you’re committed to the effort and working together. Don’t lose hope-answers are possible.
I’m going through significant issues in my relationship and can't bear to lose her. I miss and love my partner profoundly and am committed to doing whatever it takes to have her back. I would be very thankful for any advice or direction you might offer.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
@@BruceKnapp-n4q calling her a "partner" is part of the problem. MEN and WOMEN. They aren't "partners"... they are boyfriend/girlfriend or husband and wife. This "partners" bullshit terminology is feminist propaganda. MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. They are complimentary. Women are better at some things and men are better at some things. They come together to compliment each other but they are not equal. They are not "partners". Women need men far more than men need women. The human race needs both men and women to come to propagate the species but MAKE NO Mi$TAKE, men are quite capable of surviving without women. The same can not be said of women. The only reason women are able to survive and thrive on their own today is that they live in a relatively safe society that MEN created. Men don't need women. It's high time we reminded them of that fact. Then maybe they'll stop behaving so uppity and taking good and great men for granted.
A close friend had his wife accumulate so much junk that it eventually filled up their garage. After years of trying to convince her to at least get rid of "some" of it, one day he had enough. While she was out of town he had it all hauled away and when his wife complained he told her to pound it. She didn't talk to him for days, which of course he was okay with.
If you happen to be a young man watching this and think John is crazy please listen closely to him!!!! I know it seems completely backwards but he’s speaking 100 percent truth!!!!! Save yourself a lot of grief!!!!! Don’t try to pamper her and give her everything!!!! You will be miserable!
She wouldnt let me make any decision about the family business so I let her take charge of everything and boy am I regretting that to this day. You are too accurate on this one.
What I find that is the most revealing is setting and maintaining expectations on myself. Every man reaches his limits unless he sets and enforces those boundaries on himself simply as a way avoid issues from becoming problematic in his own life. Anyone who I allow in my life, male or female and to a lesser extent a child, will be held to it. I do not argue or get upset, I simply remove those people from my life.
When I was married I sent the wife out house hunting. Once she picked out the house. We both went to check it out. The previous owners, the wife was a master gardener. I told her she doesn't have a house plant in her home and never garden before. Against my best judgment, we purchase the house. Years later, she complained about maintaining the flower beds. I told her this is what she wanted. I refused to help her. That pissed her off! Now her daughter comes over to maintain the flower beds. Not my headache anymore.
I discovered as an elementary teacher, that child DEMAND foremost from adults boundaries, discipline and safety. Being their friend or fawning over them is a form of neglect to them and they will rebel.
I used to be a doormat and always get used. Until, I told women, "Look, I have options, and time is money". After that the respect either came or didn't. If it didn't, I saved time. When it did I gave them a chance for another date.
Played the role of emotional support dog once. Just long enough to get her stabilized so i could send her packing. NEVER again. Very happily single for 15yrs since & at this vintage, i won’t play house with another woman. She’s going to need her own place, her own money & FULL control of her emotional roller coaster at minimum. My filters are set so fine now, I’ve clearly got very few options for mates aboard another relationship. And if that means peacefully sailing solo to my grave, then so be it. My sanity & serenity are now paramount & uncompromisable.
lol you are so spot ON!! its hilarious but totally true! I made the same mistakes. Also with listening to the radio in the car. I am a rock/classic rock music lover, so would always put the top 40 radio channels on and I would just deal with music I could not stand.. At Christmas time she would have the 24 hour xmas music radio station playing the entire month of December. The stuff we do so we can avoid arguments. I had many red flags and I did not listen. I am grateful for our 2 children, we were blessed with awesome kids.
John, you have a unique way of simplifying and demistifying a woman's psyche. It's just at a certain age that I have to ask myself, do I want to work that hard to stand my ground to be in a relationship? I have peace, I have solitude, and I have money. I'm an excellent cook and a great housekeeper as I don't like a filthy home. I work out and am in better health than ever and take no medications, as I was able to get off of the antidepressants after the divorce. I have everything I need for a content and peaceful life. I don't need a mother, I don't need a housekeeper, nor do I need another moulth to feed, or feel that I need someone to share my things to find true happiness and contentment. I also don't need the mind police to tell me that I'm doing something wrong because I didn't do it their way. Plus, my home is no longer a catch-all from the neighborhood yard sales. 😊❤😊 Learning to love myself first, instead of being someone else's love slave has its advantages. 😊 I'm planning a solo cruise next month so I can scratch it off the bucket list.😊
@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets same here mate. We were barely keeping our head above water and she was getting quotes for a pool. Of course, she made me tell the kids...
It really helps to know I'm not the only one! I made the mistake early on of just giving in to my wife to avoid her temper tantrums as she's prone to extreme emotional outbursts, especially in public. However I've seen her to this to her own mother, and other members of her family often do it to each other. Thankfully, I was smart enough to keep our finances separate but giving her free reign to decorate the house was another mistake. So while our home looks like a dysfunctional hipster antique store, at least she only spends her own money on all of this useless junk. She can take it with her when we finally divorce.
I love your videos so much. You have so much wisdom and experience to learn from. I also love it that you don't have any annoying music. I believe you are doing the Lord's work by spreading fairness and knowledge. ❤👍🏼💯😊
30 years married. 3 years divorced. Been brutal, but the more I listen to these (especially) and other reflective videos on marriage/women I realize just how much I had it wrong. How I wasn’t even playing the same game she was. I’ve learned how important it is to maintain my own bearing, to not try to fix or please others, to give my life priority, but mostly how important it is to derive my value from me, not from her or the roles I admitted liked playing so she wouldn’t cry like a princess.
For 8 months recently I "on and off" dated a needy 57yr old princess!! After a while I made no attempt to compromise anything with her, or to be the kind of man she wanted. We broke up many times because of this, but she would always concede and eventually we would get back together. Even so, her attitude was just too much to tolerate for a long term relationship.
All the points you made are too late for me to implement now, as she’s abandoned our family and moved out. However, I have 3 young sons who will benefit greatly from the wisdom I’ve gleaned the hard way.
These are great lessons for a seasoned man, but almost impossible to teach to a younger guy. As a young man the biological imperative is so powerful that they cannot see reality for what it is or they don't care. The drive to experience the mood of these energies, overrides reason. So much work is to be done demonstrating to the young men the long term outcomes of their behaviors. Our society needs a new men's institution to proactively influence and educate our sons from early childhood or they are doomed to repeat the same mistakes we made. I've been developing the framework for a new institution for men which I coined "The strong man's society" in order to redirect and rehabilitate our youth. I want to throw this idea out there to men of influence to hopefully seed the idea into the world and hope it takes root. Much work is to be done.
I took one of my ex GF to psychiatrist as i said "i really do not know how to help you he will know for sure he fixes people" .. Her face and state of her after that talk with him was gold like ! I asked , "sooo how was it ??" she was steaming/furious "how could he said that to me , male chauvinistic pig shame on him bla-bla-bla" etc. .. "what did he say i asked ??" well , basically he said to her - grow up ! you're not baby girl anymore ! .. Few months later i pulled a pug on her , far too much baggage for my sanity .
With my kids (both girls), when telling them ‘No’, they’ve always known it’s come from a place of non-punishment and non-judgment…. They would also get a reason for the ‘no’, so they understood it wasn’t coming from my ego or coming from the desire to punish or hurt them. For instance, if I told them no about having something they wanted, they’ve always known that if I could give them something I always would… but if I can’t or if it doesn’t make sense, they would understand, and they never ever threw a fit wanting something… because they knew I always put them first, and if I can, I would. Who wouldn’t give their kids anything in the world if you could? And they know I would if I could, therefore they see the love and they show it back by understanding. It all boils down to effective communication and speaking from a place of love and no ego. That’s what’s worked for me and I’ve got an 18 and 16 year old daughters, and my relationship with them couldn’t be better.
SO funny! Been there done that as they say. Raised 3 wonderful children and met that boundary stage like your daughter and didn’t flinch. Where I got it wrong is with my ex-wife, your video completely explains everything, thanks a lot John!
Talking about money! I know of a case where the husband was in upper management & supported her all in own for over 30 years. However, when her father passed and left a small fortune , her attitude was THAT'S MY MONEY!
A man must lead in a relationship. This means seeing the "big picture" and setting goals. He must also set boundaries to protect said goals. An example of a boundary is a budget. Before putting a budget together, both parties must be self disciplined. If a woman crosses said boundaries, the man must be willing to leave and have other options, i.e., other women who are interested in him. Not that he is cheating on his current partner. Remember that even in an ideal relationship, nothing lasts due to the nature of impermanence.
@john-griffin A common shaming tactic is to say: "Well, you men just need to pick better wom3n!". They don't realize that wom3n change over the course of a marriage for a variety of reasons: Hormonal changes, mental health issues, boredom (in which case they will manufacture drama), the sisterhood, bait & switch, reading Eat, Pray, Love, and the list goes on and on. There is no way to guard against that in a marriage. Look at Tom Brady - if even he can't succeed in marriage in modern times, what chance does the regular guy have? The institution of marriage is so horribly outdated and needs to be reformed in order to save the nuclear family which is the backbone of society.
With a womans thoughts & actions i learned to always reason the 'why is she doing this?' by adding the words 'like a child' after it. If you keep in mind their emotional immaturity you can keep your own head in arguements and they become very predictable.
Thank you so much for the great work and the support to the men community; possibly with your work you contribute even to save some lives. At the age of 60, this is my opinion: it's still OK being interested in women, but a full on relationship with cohabitation is out of question; I believe problems start with living together and getting in each other pockets 24/7. A man and a woman, should not see each other all the time; cohabitation, familiarity and boredom will ruin even a potentially perfect relationship. Maintaining a level of freedom and your own house it's a must. When you have enough of each other, just go back home.
Awesome video John 👍 This is the real Alpha advice, having boundaries. It's a quiet and authentic strength that is very impressive once you recognize it. Great analysis.
Yep , Do not become her therapist, they want sympathy not solutions. And to be honest, its so relieving that I don't have to waste any energy giving them advice !
3:12 Interesting note. 4:40 Interesting scenario. 12:35 I see 15:39 First time I see somebody talking ahead of time to keep the content updated. Good move.
Never give them everything, they can’t be trusted with it. I made that mistake. By all metrics she was perfect, except she felt like she controlled me. I know better now.
On top of finances, i think separate bedrooms as well , if it can be afforded. One third room for " husband and wife" duties / obligations. Probebly be empty most the time.
A fella at work met a Russia girl, brought her back to Scotland. She quickly made friends and within 6 months the friends had totally changed her Outlook on life.... in otherwords "don't do that for him, you deserve better", "you're not his slave".
Its always good to ask open ended questions that gets her to work toward what advice would she give to someone in her situation. Try to get the focus off her problems and toward solutions for someone else.
This was the most hilarious video I’ve ever listened too! Had I only listened to this 40 yrs ago when I married my gal! Everything in this video should be written in stone for all men to live by!!! From stealing money to solving countless train wrecks of emotion and financial woes she exposed me too! I vote you sir for our next President !!!!!
Too funny. You’re definitely not getting remarried. I totally identify with everything you’ve saying; my ex wanted the joint checking, filled the house with crap, and on and on.
I have to congratulate you for the way you describe your stories. You have a way to be raw and funny at the same time. Your innovative thought to start this channel makes a positive impact for many of us. Don't be pessimistic though, I think there's a way for a man to live harmonious with a woman.
It's called being an 'emotional tampon', which is usually a role played by a beta orbiter in her friend zone. 'Doll house" great meme, a man needs his own personal space, man cave if you will where he can do his hobbies and decorate to his own taste. I have my room and when my guy friends come over that is where we aways hangout. Just never let her take over anything!
This is the reason girlfriends are better than wives,once they're secure they drop the facade and you have to tolerate it because getting out is extremely expensive
Had one of these women before. She could only take a stable healthy happy relationship for so long before she would ruin it. It really seemed like she got bored with the good times.
If the relationship breaks down you have to be in a position to walk away clean at all times without getting financially shafted. (1) Don't get married - a marriage contract gives the judicial system carte blanche to do as they please in a divorce scenario. (2) The ideal scenario is that you live in a house she owns so you can walk away, otherwise a lease where her name is on it, a joint lease means she won't leave but you are financially on the hook for the payments & any damage she does. You being on the lease only is better than joint but then you have to find a way to get her out - she may not make that easy. (3) Completely separate finances & all your bills go to an address where you don't share living arrangements. (4) If you have children then it is only right that she has financial security if she's staying home with them, so agree all this with lawyers *BEFORE* you have children. I know this all sounds ridiculous but the entire feminist court system is about blaming & extracting money from *YOU* . Most men learn this the hard way...
I regret that I handed over the handling of the household finances/bills when I moved her in with me. Lifestyle creep has her commenting on money whenever I slack off on overtime for 2-3 weeks in a row. It's like, how have you not put a little money aside in all the years that I've worked 450 - 550 hours of OT a year? That on top of her full-time job.
Knowing your boundaries is absolutely critical in life. If you don't know where your boundaries are, then you may assume they are further out from you than they actually are, just to be safe. That makes you less capable to be receptive to people, to help people, to be generous with people. Or you might assume that your boundaries are closer in from where they actually are. And that would cause you to be someone that others can take advantage of because they can cross your boundaries without you knowing it. Unfortunately, for whatever reason since 1955 men have simply no longer learned where their boundaries are. It may be because so many men were raised by single mothers and learning one's boundaries perhaps is something that is exclusively taught by fathers.
Instead of seeing her as the child, you should see yourself as the leader, and she’s the follower, as that’s how it’s supposed to be. They are supposed to look towards you for guidance and help. You don’t want an “equal”, as that would be another man, or some woman competing with you for leadership. And if she was letting you lead, that was a good and used to be a normal thing. I had to pause the video to write this… paused at 8:33 mark. About to resume now…
This is valuable information to be getting as 22 year old. Thanks man, respect all the way from Botswana. Hey if you see this comment do you mind centering some of your content on how younger people can navigate the dating scene to avoid entering a horrible deal in the future. I'd really appreciate that, thanks for all your wisdom. Ohhh by the way, are you Christian?
The story you share about your daughter, made me laugh pretty hard.😅 The princess delusion is strong in many women, and it does us no favors. Good day to you, and happy weekend!
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Ex-girlfriend had a meltdown years ago. She still thinks that a man is going to enter her life and treat her like a princess. She has been divorced 3x and will be 60 next month. The narcissism is strong in this one.
Its absolutely off the charts in cureent batch of 20 year olds. They think social media is reality.
😂🤣🤣🤣
The negative force is strong in her is it? ~ Your friend Yoda 😂
Lol strooong
@@racebannon96 she's delusional and entitled 🙄
They see kindness as weakness.
Always, and it's disgusting. Once you understand how their brains really work, most men lose all respect for them.
Cuz most are narcissist
Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Risk without reward is a fool's errand.
Exactly!
@@john-griffinyou are providing great value to this platform keep it real as always
And they will blame you that is not true love if you ask for reward.
I had a 20 year old intern that showed up 15 minutes late. I asked her where the hell was she? She was shocked that anyone would question her whereabouts Another lady at work told me that I was pushing her to a breaking point be demanding that she showed up on time. Now I was shocked!!! Later she told me that she wore pajamas almost everyday while she was in college and her mother let her do anything she wanted when she was growing up and her father paid for everything. I can't imagine having such an easy mode life..actually her life was demo mode.
That’s hilarious and tragic
I hope you let her go
And they think their life is so hard. They're quite the creatures.
Over the years, now that I look back on my relationships, this happened a lot more than I realize. Now in my 60s I tell any woman if she wants to continue to see me that my expectations are not negotiable. Those that genuinely care will meet them and those that don’t, I stop seeing them. Definitely not worth it anymore
Demo mode is crazy😂
I am 67 and single. Sometimes I've thought I might be missing something by not being married. Turns out I haven't missed a damn thing! I can't help but laugh my way through this one. I don't know how you did it John but I'm thankful you are out here trying to save mankind. I'm all ears.
I consider you a mentor sir.
I'm glad to help!
@john-griffin I'm 52 and I have been red pilled for 7 years. I love your channel and I consider you my internet big brother.
Same thing happened to me. Felt like I was dating an absolute child. Poor emotional control, poor money management, no ambition, always looking for attention online, always in a crisis, no resilience, narcissistic tendencies, dressed inappropriately. Kicked her to the curb pretty fast.
I swear they lowkey love being in crisis because it feeds their need for excitement and drama.
I agree with you on that
@@plasmaarmelund💯
Sounds like my ex-wife. I just left 7 months ago and divorced her after 26 years.
You hit it on the head!
You just described my wife of 25 years who I divorced about two years ago! Amazing
I’m a woman and he’s absolutely correct. The more we’re able to get what we want, the more we expect it. And the harder it will be to correct the behavior. I’m married 24 years and my husband has all but given up on giving me what I ask for. I appreciate him and love him truly. This video has made me more aware of being even more appreciative for my husband and to just be grateful for all that he’s done for us (me and the children) and STOP demanding/asking for more. Hearing this from a man’s perspective is eye opening because, of course, my mother and all other females in my life have never told me to act any differently…
I am 64, and have had 5 significant relationships in my life. They all at times said they loved me very much. But, not a single one of them really ever cared for me. Look forward to seeing Jack next time John.
@@sonderman8079 🎯
Some women will give you respect others won’t. The more you give the more they will take if they don’t respect you
This is so relatable lol, they are just looking for a second dad
I had no idea until it happened to me
My ex- had two dads, and no real relationship with either. Back then we didn’t know these warning signs
Wife steals money from their husbands and sequester this money in a separate account? Or more properly, in a separate secret account? Yes, I had this in my marriage. When I discovered it, it was the single most important factor for me to know that a divorce was necessary. The strange thing is, this woman had my complete trust until this happened. I’m not sure a man shouldn’t hold a wife to basically the same standards he would hold an employee to. If an employee steals, they have to be fired. The same with the wife.
Also if the employee/woman stops doing the job you hired her for you have to fire her...without giving her half your assets. Therefore think long and hard before signing the marriage contract.
Wow, I'am just going through a similar situation with my ex who stole money for years in our business. I gave her complete trust with the financial side. She eventually left me with zero balance. My accountant was mortified, as we have two boys at uni and a shitload of bills to pay. I have just worked like a dog to pay the bills so I can wind down the business and move on.
I’m just laughing. I’m not laughing at anyone here. I’m laughing at myself. I too made the foolish mistake of having a joint savings and checking accounts. John you hit the nail on the head with this topic. This isn’t the first time I have heard of such events. On a final note I’ll give you something to ponder. My ex was stealing money from bank accounts as well as retirement accounts. My financial advisor stated to me that he had to go to court 12 times in 25 years over this issue. Eleven of the twelve times it was women stealing the money. Also he said they steal money in all ways. Little by little and or no n large amounts. Thanks for your videos John. Be well
My ex did the same. Squirrelled money away to some secret account for years without my knowledge. And the subsequent ‘fleecing’ (of me) through divorce meant that she eventually got everything.
I feel I’ve had to pay through the nose for my own sins, but my ex appears to have had absolutely NO consequences from her actions (other than losing her husband, but who cares about me right?).
I just hope ‘Karma’ is a thing, but years later my ex doesn’t seem to have met with Karma in any way. 🧐
@@lcmd7833 this is happening to my brother now!!!! There are thousands that she can’t account for!!!! The bad thing is he knows she has an account with ONLY her name on it yet he still hands over his money from the two jobs he works! He’s such a nice guy and she has made him miserable!!! He looks tens years older than he is ( he’s not even 40 yet). He just can’t stand up to her and she’s setting him up for a complete nuking of his life! I’ve talked and talked to him but it’s like he goes into a trance and can’t even hear me.
Wow! This one really rang true, John! From the time we married, I insisted my ex and I keep our finances separate. I didn't know of another married couple with such an arrangement. I was very conservative with money. Her, not so much. When she filed for divorce last year, I had a nice pile of cash and savings. She had over $30k of debt--which I didn't even know about. The house and the yard were full of chachkis. O, she also opened up two credit cards in my name along the way. All this was brought up by my attorney at our trial. It didn't matter one bit to the judge. Half my money became hers and half her debt became mine--plus half her attorney's fees.
How can someone open up a credit card 💳 in someone else’s name? 😱
Painful lesson to learn man. Please don’t marry again. Ps what is chachkis?
@@CalinGilea I don't know, I've never done it. But it can't be that hard. She had my personal info obviously and she must have forged my signature. I only found out because my 300,000 mile car had finally had it and I needed a new car. They did a credit check and surprise! I started using Experian after that. Just as infuriating is how the judge just brushed it all off in her divorce decree.
Separate finances don't overrule the fact you've legally pooled your resources unfortunately. When you get married all assets and debts become shared, separate accounts give a false sense of security that doesn't exist. If anything you're better sharing an account after marriage as at least you'll likely recognise something is wrong with your finances sooner. Before marriage separate accounts are an excellent idea though.
I'd imagine the reason the judge wasn't interested in your ex's loan fraud was because they viewed your credit as something your ex was entitled to share.
The law surrounding this is extremely messed up. The only solution as I understand it is either to put your assets in something that is a separate legal entity to you or to never get married, co-habit, have kids or pool resources in any way.
I'm sorry you had to learn this the hard way, thanks for sharing so we won't fall in to the same traps. Hope you're able to re-build your life stronger and move on to better things.
It's an evil world we live in.
Chivalry is a medieval code of conduct between knights. Something that no woman would know anything about. Never allow a woman to scold, guilt or manipulate you.
Oh man, I want to see a round table with John, Alexander Grace and Dr. Orion Taraban.
“Trust not when a woman weeps, for it is in her nature to weep when she wants her will.” - Socrates
I married a woman 20 years younger and this exactly what happened to me, you cannot be their counselor or charge card is a death spiral
You know my life!
@@john-griffin WOMEN NEED TO RESPECT YOU FIRST BEFORE THEY LOVE YOU. IF SHE DONT RESPECT YOU. SHE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU. ALSO YOU CONTROL ALL THE MONEY. IF SHE LEAVE YOU, SHE WILL ALWAYS TAKE ALL..ALWAYS. NOVEMBER 10, 2024. YES PRE NUPS ALSO
My ex wife was my lesson learned. Once I exited the joint bank account, the relationship just took a nose dive. Being single is the best.
I remember my girlfriend telling me at my house that I needed a mancave. I just said, SWEETHEART, THIS WHOLE HALF ACRE AND A HOUSE IS A MANCAVE. YOULL NEVER RECEIVE MAIL OVER HERE.
So on point! So long as she does not feel comfortable enough to start shit testing and emotional blackmailing you, then you will be in a comfortable position. Never lose leverage!
Exactly! She can never get too comfortable to the point she feels she can start testing you and starting unnecessary conflict. Keep her in her place.
We had a husband and wife business, where she controlled the money 100%. Big mistake. She had secret accounts for years until she finally left me with no money in the business account and a shit ton of bills to pay. She even took my dog.
Pink satin bedcovers...plants everywhere...closets exploding...bathroom overexploding with bottles of cosmetics, hygiene products...junk and clutter growing everywhere!!!
Exactly. Because they aren’t happy with themselves, so they have to have things to try to make themselves happy. But those things don’t, so they just buy more things in hopes they will eventually bring them happiness. All due to their emotional immaturity, like a toddler. What’s hilarious is all these women on dating sites wanting a man with a high EQ, when they can’t mature past the toddler stage of EQ.
You forgot to mention that it's okay for them to spend money on things but they complain when you do.
My nightmare is display cases and shelves full of useless crap that's on display like a museum. She spent $3000 just on one of the shelves...which I tried to explain was way, way too much but she refused to listen. Thankfully she spends her own money on this junk and makes more than I do, but what a waste. It's like dealing with a child who doesn't understand how to save for a rainy day.
If they had an Amazon warehouse, within a week the place would be overflowing with their junk, it's a lifestyle. Absolutely disgusting
You just described my ex-wife 🙂
Challenges in relationships are natural, but a path forward always exists. My marriage faced serious challenges, but with the right support, my wife and I resolved our issues and reinforced our bond. Solutions are within reach if you’re committed to the effort and working together. Don’t lose hope-answers are possible.
I’m going through significant issues in my relationship and can't bear to lose her. I miss and love my partner profoundly and am committed to doing whatever it takes to have her back. I would be very thankful for any advice or direction you might offer.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
You should... I promise you will not regret it
@@BruceKnapp-n4q calling her a "partner" is part of the problem.
MEN and WOMEN. They aren't "partners"... they are boyfriend/girlfriend or husband and wife. This "partners" bullshit terminology is feminist propaganda.
MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL. They are complimentary. Women are better at some things and men are better at some things. They come together to compliment each other but they are not equal. They are not "partners". Women need men far more than men need women. The human race needs both men and women to come to propagate the species but MAKE NO Mi$TAKE, men are quite capable of surviving without women. The same can not be said of women. The only reason women are able to survive and thrive on their own today is that they live in a relatively safe society that MEN created.
Men don't need women. It's high time we reminded them of that fact. Then maybe they'll stop behaving so uppity and taking good and great men for granted.
These are free diamonds everyone. Thank you John for making them so readily available for all.
@@dougk7075 thanks
John~! Your story about the wife taking over the decorating of the house...YES~! I experienced the same shit. SO tiring and expensive.
I knew there had to be other guys that experienced that! Thanks
It’s easy to spend someone else’s money
A close friend had his wife accumulate so much junk that it eventually filled up their garage. After years of trying to convince her to at least get rid of "some" of it, one day he had enough. While she was out of town he had it all hauled away and when his wife complained he told her to pound it. She didn't talk to him for days, which of course he was okay with.
If you happen to be a young man watching this and think John is crazy please listen closely to him!!!! I know it seems completely backwards but he’s speaking 100 percent truth!!!!! Save yourself a lot of grief!!!!! Don’t try to pamper her and give her everything!!!! You will be miserable!
She wouldnt let me make any decision about the family business so I let her take charge of everything and boy am I regretting that to this day. You are too accurate on this one.
I would’ve made the decision for her if that were the case.
What I find that is the most revealing is setting and maintaining expectations on myself. Every man reaches his limits unless he sets and enforces those boundaries on himself simply as a way avoid issues from becoming problematic in his own life. Anyone who I allow in my life, male or female and to a lesser extent a child, will be held to it. I do not argue or get upset, I simply remove those people from my life.
Just live alone. Embrace loneliness, silence, pain. Become strong, become a warrior. Choose your battle
When I was married I sent the wife out house hunting. Once she picked out the house. We both went to check it out. The previous owners, the wife was a master gardener. I told her she doesn't have a house plant in her home and never garden before. Against my best judgment, we purchase the house. Years later, she complained about maintaining the flower beds. I told her this is what she wanted. I refused to help her. That pissed her off! Now her daughter comes over to maintain the flower beds. Not my headache anymore.
I'd say she was bargaining on you maintaining them all along..... not for a second did she intend to do the work.
@barry5138 yup!
Her: “Your money is our money. My money is my money”.
Exactly
@@john-griffinI will NEVER again let a woman have access to my finances.
MORE LiKE: "My money is my money, your money is my money... go work harder to make U$ some money..."
I discovered as an elementary teacher, that child DEMAND foremost from adults boundaries, discipline and safety. Being their friend or fawning over them is a form of neglect to them and they will rebel.
@@andre1987eph thanks for sharing 👍🏻
There were girls in my kids’ daycare who wore princess dresses every day. 😂
I used to be a doormat and always get used. Until, I told women, "Look, I have options, and time is money". After that the respect either came or didn't. If it didn't, I saved time. When it did I gave them a chance for another date.
Seeing so many common threads with experienced men kind enough to share their experiences almost makes females predictable.
They have all been infected with the same malware.
Played the role of emotional support dog once. Just long enough to get her stabilized so i could send her packing. NEVER again. Very happily single for 15yrs since & at this vintage, i won’t play house with another woman. She’s going to need her own place, her own money & FULL control of her emotional roller coaster at minimum. My filters are set so fine now, I’ve clearly got very few options for mates aboard another relationship. And if that means peacefully sailing solo to my grave, then so be it. My sanity & serenity are now paramount & uncompromisable.
lol you are so spot ON!! its hilarious but totally true! I made the same mistakes. Also with listening to the radio in the car. I am a rock/classic rock music lover, so would always put the top 40 radio channels on and I would just deal with music I could not stand.. At Christmas time she would have the 24 hour xmas music radio station playing the entire month of December. The stuff we do so we can avoid arguments. I had many red flags and I did not listen. I am grateful for our 2 children, we were blessed with awesome kids.
They...are...relentless.
About 16:31: You have Friends, Family, Wives, Girlfriends. None of them can mix.
John, you have a unique way of simplifying and demistifying a woman's psyche.
It's just at a certain age that I have to ask myself, do I want to work that hard to stand my ground to be in a relationship?
I have peace, I have solitude, and I have money. I'm an excellent cook and a great housekeeper as I don't like a filthy home.
I work out and am in better health than ever and take no medications, as I was able to get off of the antidepressants after the divorce.
I have everything I need for a content and peaceful life.
I don't need a mother, I don't need a housekeeper, nor do I need another moulth to feed, or feel that I need someone to share my things to find true happiness and contentment. I also don't need the mind police to tell me that I'm doing something wrong because I didn't do it their way.
Plus, my home is no longer a catch-all from the neighborhood yard sales. 😊❤😊
Learning to love myself first, instead of being someone else's love slave has its advantages. 😊
I'm planning a solo cruise next month so I can scratch it off the bucket list.😊
I agree. It does seem like a lot of work!
It was always fun being the one saying No! We’re not getting a inground pool.
@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets same here mate. We were barely keeping our head above water and she was getting quotes for a pool. Of course, she made me tell the kids...
That’s funny
John, I hate to sound like a broken record, but you nailed it again! Your videos are amazing!
Thanks
It really helps to know I'm not the only one! I made the mistake early on of just giving in to my wife to avoid her temper tantrums as she's prone to extreme emotional outbursts, especially in public. However I've seen her to this to her own mother, and other members of her family often do it to each other. Thankfully, I was smart enough to keep our finances separate but giving her free reign to decorate the house was another mistake. So while our home looks like a dysfunctional hipster antique store, at least she only spends her own money on all of this useless junk. She can take it with her when we finally divorce.
Great story, thanks
I love your videos so much. You have so much wisdom and experience to learn from. I also love it that you don't have any annoying music.
I believe you are doing the Lord's work by spreading fairness and knowledge.
❤👍🏼💯😊
Thank you so much!
30 years married. 3 years divorced. Been brutal, but the more I listen to these (especially) and other reflective videos on marriage/women I realize just how much I had it wrong. How I wasn’t even playing the same game she was. I’ve learned how important it is to maintain my own bearing, to not try to fix or please others, to give my life priority, but mostly how important it is to derive my value from me, not from her or the roles I admitted liked playing so she wouldn’t cry like a princess.
For 8 months recently I "on and off" dated a needy 57yr old princess!!
After a while I made no attempt to compromise anything with her, or to be the kind of man she wanted.
We broke up many times because of this, but she would always concede and eventually we would get back together.
Even so, her attitude was just too much to tolerate for a long term relationship.
All the points you made are too late for me to implement now, as she’s abandoned our family and moved out.
However, I have 3 young sons who will benefit greatly from the wisdom I’ve gleaned the hard way.
Damn I wish I had learned this from my absent Dad when I was young. Would have saved me so much aggravation and dispair.
Thanks
Chivalrous is definitely right! But I think those days have long gone!😢
The worst thing you can do as a parent is call your daughter princess.
That hardly matters, society will drill into her head she IS a princess.
@@jasonscala5834 Not if you indoctrinate her before she enters society.
These are great lessons for a seasoned man, but almost impossible to teach to a younger guy.
As a young man the biological imperative is so powerful that they cannot see reality for what it is or they don't care. The drive to experience the mood of these energies, overrides reason.
So much work is to be done demonstrating to the young men the long term outcomes of their behaviors.
Our society needs a new men's institution to proactively influence and educate our sons from early childhood or they are doomed to repeat the same mistakes we made.
I've been developing the framework for a new institution for men which I coined "The strong man's society" in order to redirect and rehabilitate our youth.
I want to throw this idea out there to men of influence to hopefully seed the idea into the world and hope it takes root.
Much work is to be done.
Thank you. Your talks are like a mirror. They identify gaps in my relationship and suggest a healthy way forward.
Yep, I told my ex wife many times that she was my third child… the one that would never grow up. So glad she is gone!
Amen. Seperate checking accounts!
I took one of my ex GF to psychiatrist as i said "i really do not know how to help you he will know for sure he fixes people" ..
Her face and state of her after that talk with him was gold like !
I asked , "sooo how was it ??" she was steaming/furious "how could he said that to me , male chauvinistic pig shame on him bla-bla-bla" etc. .. "what did he say i asked ??" well , basically he said to her - grow up ! you're not baby girl anymore ! ..
Few months later i pulled a pug on her , far too much baggage for my sanity .
I wish I saw this video 23 years ago!!
With my kids (both girls), when telling them ‘No’, they’ve always known it’s come from a place of non-punishment and non-judgment…. They would also get a reason for the ‘no’, so they understood it wasn’t coming from my ego or coming from the desire to punish or hurt them. For instance, if I told them no about having something they wanted, they’ve always known that if I could give them something I always would… but if I can’t or if it doesn’t make sense, they would understand, and they never ever threw a fit wanting something… because they knew I always put them first, and if I can, I would. Who wouldn’t give their kids anything in the world if you could? And they know I would if I could, therefore they see the love and they show it back by understanding. It all boils down to effective communication and speaking from a place of love and no ego. That’s what’s worked for me and I’ve got an 18 and 16 year old daughters, and my relationship with them couldn’t be better.
The clutter part I can totally relate too. Thought I was the only one.
SO funny! Been there done that as they say. Raised 3 wonderful children and met that boundary stage like your daughter and didn’t flinch. Where I got it wrong is with my ex-wife, your video completely explains everything, thanks a lot John!
Talking about money! I know of a case where the husband was in upper management & supported her all in own for over 30 years. However, when her father passed and left a small fortune , her attitude was THAT'S MY MONEY!
A man must lead in a relationship. This means seeing the "big picture" and setting goals. He must also set boundaries to protect said goals. An example of a boundary is a budget. Before putting a budget together, both parties must be self disciplined. If a woman crosses said boundaries, the man must be willing to leave and have other options, i.e., other women who are interested in him. Not that he is cheating on his current partner. Remember that even in an ideal relationship, nothing lasts due to the nature of impermanence.
@john-griffin A common shaming tactic is to say: "Well, you men just need to pick better wom3n!". They don't realize that wom3n change over the course of a marriage for a variety of reasons: Hormonal changes, mental health issues, boredom (in which case they will manufacture drama), the sisterhood, bait & switch, reading Eat, Pray, Love, and the list goes on and on. There is no way to guard against that in a marriage. Look at Tom Brady - if even he can't succeed in marriage in modern times, what chance does the regular guy have? The institution of marriage is so horribly outdated and needs to be reformed in order to save the nuclear family which is the backbone of society.
Very true
You hit the nail on the head,Brother
thanks
With a womans thoughts & actions i learned to always reason the 'why is she doing this?' by adding the words 'like a child' after it.
If you keep in mind their emotional immaturity you can keep your own head in arguements and they become very predictable.
Thank you so much for the great work and the support to the men community; possibly with your work you contribute even to save some lives. At the age of 60, this is my opinion: it's still OK being interested in women, but a full on relationship with cohabitation is out of question; I believe problems start with living together and getting in each other pockets 24/7. A man and a woman, should not see each other all the time; cohabitation, familiarity and boredom will ruin even a potentially perfect relationship. Maintaining a level of freedom and your own house it's a must. When you have enough of each other, just go back home.
The most ideal scenario for both is to have your own space, your own money. Really can't go wrong with this formula.
Awesome video John 👍
This is the real Alpha advice, having boundaries. It's a quiet and authentic strength that is very impressive once you recognize it. Great analysis.
Thanks
Thank you for helping so many!
Im glad you enjoy the content. Thanks
You nailed it. Well said. Thank you!
Yep , Do not become her therapist, they want sympathy not solutions.
And to be honest, its so relieving that I don't have to waste any energy giving them advice !
RIGHT ON, JOHN! You have to do a talk on interfering older sister and mother!
The interior design commentary sent me😂too true!
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Interesting note.
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Interesting scenario.
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First time I see somebody talking ahead of time to keep the content updated. Good move.
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Never give them everything, they can’t be trusted with it. I made that mistake. By all metrics she was perfect, except she felt like she controlled me. I know better now.
On top of finances, i think separate bedrooms as well , if it can be afforded. One third room for " husband and wife" duties / obligations. Probebly be empty most the time.
I tried marrying a foreign woman...but made the mistake of bringing her here.
What happened?
@@plasmaarmelundshe gone
@@plasmaarmelundshe left him for a better man 😂
@@plasmaarmelund maybe brainwashed by the feminism and all the woke shit here
A fella at work met a Russia girl, brought her back to Scotland. She quickly made friends and within 6 months the friends had totally changed her Outlook on life.... in otherwords "don't do that for him, you deserve better", "you're not his slave".
Its always good to ask open ended questions that gets her to work toward what advice would she give to someone in her situation. Try to get the focus off her problems and toward solutions for someone else.
@@promansplainor5245 Very underrated comment alert! Great technique 👍
This was the most hilarious video I’ve ever listened too!
Had I only listened to this 40 yrs ago when I married my gal!
Everything in this video should be written in stone for all men to live by!!!
From stealing money to solving countless train wrecks of emotion and financial woes she exposed me too!
I vote you sir for our next President !!!!!
Too funny. You’re definitely not getting remarried. I totally identify with everything you’ve saying; my ex wanted the joint checking, filled the house with crap, and on and on.
Its unreal what they do to keep their little brains occupied.
@@john-griffinI call them "peanut brains", tiny little brains that are constantly on the look out for crazy.
I have to congratulate you for the way you describe your stories. You have a way to be raw and funny at the same time. Your innovative thought to start this channel makes a positive impact for many of us. Don't be pessimistic though, I think there's a way for a man to live harmonious with a woman.
Date Long. Marry Slow. Divorce Fast...
It's called being an 'emotional tampon', which is usually a role played by a beta orbiter in her friend zone. 'Doll house" great meme, a man needs his own personal space, man cave if you will where he can do his hobbies and decorate to his own taste. I have my room and when my guy friends come over that is where we aways hangout. Just never let her take over anything!
This is the reason girlfriends are better than wives,once they're secure they drop the facade and you have to tolerate it because getting out is extremely expensive
Had one of these women before. She could only take a stable healthy happy relationship for so long before she would ruin it. It really seemed like she got bored with the good times.
If the relationship breaks down you have to be in a position to walk away clean at all times without getting financially shafted.
(1) Don't get married - a marriage contract gives the judicial system carte blanche to do as they please in a divorce scenario.
(2) The ideal scenario is that you live in a house she owns so you can walk away, otherwise a lease where her name is on it, a joint lease means she won't leave but you are financially on the hook for the payments & any damage she does. You being on the lease only is better than joint but then you have to find a way to get her out - she may not make that easy.
(3) Completely separate finances & all your bills go to an address where you don't share living arrangements.
(4) If you have children then it is only right that she has financial security if she's staying home with them, so agree all this with lawyers *BEFORE* you have children.
I know this all sounds ridiculous but the entire feminist court system is about blaming & extracting money from *YOU* . Most men learn this the hard way...
I regret that I handed over the handling of the household finances/bills when I moved her in with me. Lifestyle creep has her commenting on money whenever I slack off on overtime for 2-3 weeks in a row.
It's like, how have you not put a little money aside in all the years that I've worked 450 - 550 hours of OT a year? That on top of her full-time job.
Great video! Really thoughtful!
Reminds me of the video from psychacks "How to KEEP A WOMAN: the past is prologue"
Recommend everyone to watch it.
I'll check it out!
Thank you, you hit the nail on the head again !!
You are so welcome
Right on brother!
Knowing your boundaries is absolutely critical in life. If you don't know where your boundaries are, then you may assume they are further out from you than they actually are, just to be safe. That makes you less capable to be receptive to people, to help people, to be generous with people. Or you might assume that your boundaries are closer in from where they actually are. And that would cause you to be someone that others can take advantage of because they can cross your boundaries without you knowing it. Unfortunately, for whatever reason since 1955 men have simply no longer learned where their boundaries are. It may be because so many men were raised by single mothers and learning one's boundaries perhaps is something that is exclusively taught by fathers.
Good advice, all of this resonates with me.
Facts and I confirm John 👍
Yes! ⚠️”Happy wife happy life. “ Sold to and further created all the little b- simps! False Bill of Goods! Hold Frame and ManUp Today ! 🛑
Funny you post this when just last night she complained to me "why haven't you ever given me flowers?"
Show her the video! Question answered
@john-griffin your channel is one of the few places in my life where I find peace nowadays. God bless you 🙏🏻
Tell her you will give her flowers at her funeral😂
LEGO flower, there, done, now you never have to give her flowers 😂
Thanks!
Thank you!
Instead of seeing her as the child, you should see yourself as the leader, and she’s the follower, as that’s how it’s supposed to be. They are supposed to look towards you for guidance and help. You don’t want an “equal”, as that would be another man, or some woman competing with you for leadership. And if she was letting you lead, that was a good and used to be a normal thing. I had to pause the video to write this… paused at 8:33 mark. About to resume now…
That’s a great point
This is valuable information to be getting as 22 year old. Thanks man, respect all the way from Botswana. Hey if you see this comment do you mind centering some of your content on how younger people can navigate the dating scene to avoid entering a horrible deal in the future. I'd really appreciate that, thanks for all your wisdom. Ohhh by the way, are you Christian?
Whish somebody told me this years ago. My Dad didn't because he made similar mistakes with my Mom. He's 76.
Great information for the men in relationships or looking to make them apart of a man's future. 😊
The story you share about your daughter, made me laugh pretty hard.😅 The princess delusion is strong in many women, and it does us no favors. Good day to you, and happy weekend!
What's 'Ours' is mine, What's yours is Mine, and what's Mine is Mine. Women's logic.
Great Advice!
Thanks