Why Japanese Don't Date (Interview)
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There is an image that Japanese people don't date a lot. Certainly, a study shows that about 50% of twenty-something people in Japan are currently single.
I asked Japanese people why those singles people are not in a relationship. - บันเทิง
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The guy who just broke up with his girlfriend seemed really fun!^^ Also, his attitude seemed a lot more self-confident. No wonder he dates more often.
Demian Haki that guy made the video for me. He breaks the stereotypical view of japanese guys being timid and shit
Demian Haki lol that guy is a player thats why xD he know them girls
+Demian Haki I was about to make this comment but you nailed it, loved him lmao
+Demian Haki Cause he was through with the BS and is enjoying his freedom. He probably was like those dudes until he just got too frustrated with the games and decided, "I'm not doing that again.".
Those dudes who are unsure are mostly unsure because they think if they bang a chick they are getting themselves into a relationship. The prospective heavy baggage will always signal their brain to not pursue. They don't know how to define their own boundaries and treat themselves with respect in a way that woman will notice., and then have to follow his self-definition if she wants to spend any time with him at all.
+Radeo You are taking it way too far bud.
well it seems dating has become a nightmare worldwide
seems that way.... that or people enjoy overthinking shit because TV makes it seem strange
Kobe Beyan some because of watching too much TV and some because of watching the behavior of people (of different gender) around them are too scary, making their heart cold toward dating interest. This is my personal opinion and experience though... 😅😅
Cause it's awkward af
Read about islam , My friend...it has the solution of how the relationship between men and women MUST look like.
Staying single is best.
I find it interesting that a lot of Japanese people in your videos tend to think of foreign guys as super confident womanizers. In reality there are plenty of shy guys who don't dare approach a girl if their life depended on it also in Europe and other parts of the world (me included). It's probably because the only image they have from foreign men are from movies where you only see handsome male leads who get all the girls.
Western men in Asia are losers.
Did you help them find it?
Maybe I can help too if you tell me what they lost.
yea I understand im japanese I know western guy are not all confident n its all in general what ever is ur race.
Western male English teachers in Asia are losers.
Rara Jones not all western men.
Its 100% opposite here in the US. I often get crap from peers saying I should get a girlfriend. Also it's more sexualized; as in pressure to have sexual experiences. It's quite annoying.
raj panjabi true
Is it true in america a lot of bullying happen?? Cause opposite from japan. America more iberal in education.
Same here in Brazil.
If you are +20 and still single, all the time parents and co-workers will ask "when you will get a girlfriend? are you alone yet, srsly? will you ever marry?" or things like that.
@Ish They are getting indoctrinated that men and women are the same, that relationships don't matter. Then the PC freakout everything being offensive...
@@alfi-il7be
Tbh not really. Not to the point where the kids commit suicide like in Asia. I feel like bullying does happen everywhere but in America, it’s very rare they bully you to the point of death. Americans are more open minded about different people, especially the younger generation
What I'm getting out of this video is: Japanese guys don't have a gf but want to have one, and japanese girls have a bf but don't want one.
I think maybe japanese girls have a bf but don't really want that one...it seems that they re not satisfied at all LMAO
RexusprimeIX Lol that's funny. XD
@@lymailjj3010 hypergamy is called
It´s my first time hearing from a woman that studies in a only woman university. She said woman go there because they are afraid of men O.O
MiliakBR Given the reputation of Japanese men, particularly on the train, I can't blame them.
InfernosReaper
I can understand a high school only for girls(want to avoid girls pregnancy and focus only to get accepted in college)...but I university only for girls I think it´s time for them to have contact with men(for both professional and love).
Didn´t know japanese men have a bad reputation.
It's not all men, but there are women-only cars on trains/subways for a reason.
InfernosReaper But that's because they're stuffed. It's not that simple.
essennagerry The trains may be overcrowded and some use that as excuse to get away with molesting people. However, even when the trains aren't crowed, molestation still happens without intervention.
There are shy guys everywhere. Don't worry bout it Japan
Samuel Kajah How about guys who just don't care? They might seem shy, but the truth is, they just don't give a flying f---. Having a GF is expensive and overrated anyways. Hahaha.
And some girls just think a guy is being creepy if he tries too hard...
Ekins haha. First time I've heard "flying f---" but true. It is expensive. Why does the guy have to buy most of the things? We like receiving too.
Samuel Kajah Bc ingrained tradition. That's what society teaches, so that's what (most) women expect. It's what "makes them feel like women".
No offense to the lady who said "men have no balls", but neither do most ladies (not to be literal). Again, it stems from ingrained tradition. It sucks to be the pursuer bc it's just bleeding out resources & emotion for a CHANCE at A chance at happiness. Everything's "equal rights", except for cases like choosing who gets to do the legwork in the dating game.
holyordersol What true and beautiful words. Agreed
+Samuel Kajah And shy girls as well!
What I've experienced with relationships in Australia is that both ends dont really approach eachother and ask if they want to date but everyone around them hints at both that they like eachother and they then become a couple haha. Dating isnt a must here but a lot start seriously in senior high.
imjustamusician haha i'm from Aus too and this is so true!
imjustamusician Senior High?
SaceedAbul Yeah! At around the last semester of every ones second to last year of school some form pretty serious relationships but a lot break up either just before or after graduation.
imjustamusician we just call it highschool
SaceedAbul In general we do but we separate the seniors from the juniors usually so I said senior high to avoid the misconception that 13 year olds' get into really serious relationships here haha
I don't care about gifts and stuff like that or letting my partner pay for everything...this is teamwork, we both have to pay but what I really want in someone is - lots of cuddles - common interest -compassion and affection - lots of cuddles - and lots of cuddles
Hello fellow ARMY!
I get what you are saying too. I want lots of cuddes from Taehyung. :D
+Taehyunggie Yesss!
I'll cuddle you ;) lol
"this is teamwork, we both have to pay"
Um hi, would you like to be my gf
+Farhan who were u talking too?
While over here in America...it's not even uncommon for kids in fourth or fifth grade to date, but it's really not 'love' in most cases, more like getting a higher position in the hierarchy just because of the stigma that those who don't date are losers and those who do date are 'cooler' -_-
Most 13/14 year olds in my school have dated at least once and goes to these things called 'dances' where it's basically like a night club only for teens on weekends. Those who are in a relationship have so much drama occurring around them, sometimes I wonder if they're tired...but from my perspective, dating to them just seems like a hobby. They are arguing over who stole their boy/girlfriends, didn't text back, didn't change their status on Facebook or put them in their bios on Instagram, didn't post photos/videos of them together on social medias, and etcetera.
I've never dated as of yet, and I enjoy keeping to myself and just stay as friends with other people. Is it weird that I never had a crush since kindergarten? Sure, I guess I don't mind being friends with guys and girls or anything, but I don't really feel it's necessary to go beyond that boundary. Maybe I haven't found the right person since no one really is into the same hobbies as me, so we don't have much topics to talk about. Oh well, I still have a long way to go in life, relationships can wait :p
aHHHHH YES!! That is a nice way of thinking! Some people goes in a relationship just because they are bored or as what you said, be "cool" in the eyes of others in some way.
Enjoy your youth! Explore things! Befriend people and grow as individuals!! Friendship is a good foundation for a relationship and you must be ready to be in one first before taking a step up. I wish you a good life and journey! Bless you TTvTT
The guy who just broke up was super charming. It was fun to see such an outgoing Japanese guy. Like you, Yuta! :)
Eduardo Palacio lols.. when i read "Yuta" i think the "Yuta" from Kubera (webtoon) instead.. lols..
Yuta????!!! Nct?
@@taehyung1534 i knew id find an NCT comment somewhere here xDDD
Different strokes for different folks. I am in Spain. Definitely relaxed about dating. Some people go to bars just for sex partners, but doesn't interest me. I want to feel intellectually and emotionally stimulated in a relationship, so someone to share things with and build a common project together.
If I see anybody is more interested in my salary or how much money I spend than in who I am I immediately rule them out. Best thing is to be financially independent and have a relationship based on common affinity, not money. I'm not interested in paying anybody for company. Also as we say here, better to be alone than in bad company.
Miki Cerise Totally agree with you.
Yes you should never ask a man's salary
In Indonesia, being in a relationship is like a social pressure. If u don't have bf/gf even such in a young age (like in Junior high), u'll get pick on. It's so annoying.
That's interesting. I'd love to know more about what's Indonesian people think about dating.
+That Japanese Man Yuta it's true man and we called it "the jones" and the people who is in relationship make a fun of us, damn annoying
+lilseptgoal That sounds pretty terrible to me!! :O
+lilseptgoal But how do poor Indonesian men with their low rupiah manage to get women when there are so many opportunities for these girls to get men from abroad who can better take care of them?
+Canadian Egg well i know a lot of my friends is poor people and they somehow manage to get happy despite in low rupiah , food and other stuff doesn't come really expensive in here.
Here in Sweden most people don't really _"date"_. That's more of an American invention, and to a lot of people here the idea of having like a job interview for a relationship is very off-putting. We more hang around with different people and if we meet someone we're interested in we flirt a bit to try and figure out if we'd get shot down or not, and then kind of go _"You're pretty cool, I like you. Maybe we should give it a shot?"_ and they respond either _"Nah."_ or _"Yeah sure."_ and there you go. None of this beating around the bush.
Although dating has become more popular as of late, due to Americanization. A lot of teenagers are very enamoured with everything American, like American culture and want to be more like Americans. So they date, and celebrate halloween, and valentine's day, and all of that jazz. Personally I think it's kind of sad that they want to be something they're not.
+Gaius Baltar
Yo that sounds so much more chill than how North Americans apporoach things!
+Gaius Baltar I see you're a big fan of an American TV series.
alphaknave I'm a big fan of quality entertainment, not so much of cultural appropriation.
Let americans be americans who celebrate american holidays, let swedes be swedes who celebrate swedish holidays. The world is far more interesting when the people in it are all different. Diversity for the win.
Dating is an American invention? Do you mean having a formal boyfriend is an American concept?
Sorry but I didn't get your point xD... Well, maybe I have never thought it could be something American before.
In Japan, having bf/gf has become a norm for younger people. And searching their future-husband/wife is like an interview with resume. I felt as if I was on a price tag. I felt so pressured by many friends who say "why don't you make gf?"
I'm a middle-aged japanese guy(42yo) and had been single. In my 20s and 30s, I struggled against harsh symptoms of depression. I envied many of my friends who enjoy having gfs/bfs, and felt so much inferior to them.
Now I've found the one now. I talked of how deep my inferiority complex to them was, and she said; I love you, who you really are.
hey, I know this comment is five years old, but I hope you and your partner are still together, and are happy. I wish you the best! :)
I died at the "herbivore men"!!! I wish there was no pressure everywhere. It's not easy for everyone to date or meet people. I live in a different country than mine and most of the time I spent it working....
you can be miserble with a girl, or happy single. or the other way around. i dont think happiness is a checklist. its just how you see life.
I'm 18 and still haven't had my first kiss, anyone else like me?
21 here.
24 here
19 here! And haven't had bf 🙂🙂
19 and haven’t had a gf 😉
16 babe.. I'm a girl :((... no bf yet
These are some of the best videos I have seen for understanding how Japanese people think and feel. Thanks very much to Yuta and the interviewees!
your contents are actually good. it makes people around the world to gather to watch it. I find that it's not just about "to know japanese" but also like a place where people can gather around to tell their experience from their respective views. The right place where people can learn to understand each other.
keep up the good work, Yuta.
Can you try asking as why there are more Japanese women dating foreigners then Japanese men, would like to know their opinion.
saeefa That's an interesting topic. Can you think of any interesting questions to ask?
ThatJapaneseManYuta Maybe questions like:
Why is their a significant difference between Japanese men and women dating foreigners?
Is it looked down upon for Japanese men to be dating foreigners?
Do Japanese men have a misconception about foreign women?
If they had a choice would they date foreign women over Japanese women?
Has their ever been a time where they liked a foreign woman but were to shy to approach her?
Would their parents be against them dating or marrying a foreigner?
If they had a choice which nationality would they want to date?
Apart from western women, what are their opinions on women from Africa, middle east, Filipino and Indian women?
ThatJapaneseManYuta i am a Vietnamese American and i want to know if japanese girls/guys are into Vietnamese girls/guys. Im not the only Vietnamese in USA that want to know. Majority of Vietnamese in USA and Vietnam studying japanese, therefore, one day they can live and work in japan and maybe start a family there. You're channel are only ones that can provide us these answer. thats why i love your channel so much. anyway heres some of my question.
1. What Japanese girls/guys thinks of Vietnamese girls/guys?(like attractive or not)
2. Do they see/meet any Zainichi Vietnamese in japan at all? ( would be more comfortable to know if there are my people around in japan while study abroad.)
3. Would they give Vietnamese girls/guys a chance on a date?
i researched this but there isnt much showed up. Once you make this video i will share it with my Vietnamese fellows.ありがとう! LOVE FROM USA AND VIETNAM.
saeefa saeefa i believed that he made those videos and answered already.
jason tran Not all of them, some are similar but most of them are aimed at Japanese men about the difference in disparity in dating foreigners between men and women
Thanks, it's interesting to see a real interview about this topic. I keep seeing interviews done by supposedly professional people like the BBC in the UK who try to find the most otaku/ hikikomori men they can find to hear them talk about how they are in a relationship with their body pillows... (-___- )
They completely misrepresent/ exaggerate the situation to make it sound more interesting to ignorant people who don't know any better. =\
jim bob You're so right! I hadn't even thought about that before but of course all the mainstream documentaries would choose extreme people to interview to make it "more interesting" :/
Your videos are really interesting to watch! Love the content!
The reason I love visiting Japan is because I can be by myself and not worry about being bothered by men. Men here in the U.S. won't leave me alone! A Japanese man will ask me politely if he may sit at the table beside me or opposite me. I let him, and he knows how to mind his own business. I really appreciate that.
Poor little thing...
and this is one of the reasons guys don't have the balls anymore...
Sorry Maria but I would not touch you with a ten foot pole. YOu are very toxic.
I love the men replying angrily to a woman, further proving her point.
Keep it up, guys ! That's why you'll never get a good woman and why the women of your countries are running away !
You see many American men doing the same. They are losers and only can get low class women in other countries.
Maybe the women should take the initiative in dating instead of criticizing men for not doing so. Stop waiting for Prince Charming to come get you. He isn't. Do it yourself.
"Women should take the initiative?". They live swimming in a pool of male attention & sex offer without lifting a finger, just for breathing and having a pulse. Which reason do you see to push their initiative?
@@manuelmanzanero5057 amen.
Again very interesting! interviews are such a good way to see how people think, and you always have good questions.
I always thought it odd that Japanese seem so nonchalant about dating in their twenties, but at the same time it seems there is a lot of pressure to be married by thirty. So then there's got to be a mad scramble in the late twenties. Or has the pressure to marry changed as well?
Krahn Check out the statistics: www.yutaaoki.com/blog/japan-sex-statistics-by-sagami
It's quite possible that all the people who don't date in their 20s rush to get married in their 30s. Marriage has a more important place in Japanese society than dating.
+That Japanese Man Yuta Oh, wow.
That's really fascinating. o.o
Are there also a lot of divorce rates? I would assume not seeming how the Japanese are a lot more withdrawn than the rest of the world, but now I'm curious.
Great video, Yuta! Really enjoyed this one and gives a good perspective on the way Japanese people view dating.
"Japanese men has good qualities too"
You're right. I fell in love with Japanese voice.I don't know why T T
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Shoujo manga ?!
+Bopa McNaine You mean anime?? Coz there is no voice in manga. :p
+cool blizzard Whilst reading manga not everyone has to sound like Christopher Walken, but that's the goal.
cool blizzard I'm not an anime fan, I prefer manga :3
but shoujo tho
my poor heart
What the link with having good qualities please ? u_u'
maybe he meant drama cds since you can listen to them while reading the manga XD
This is why Otome/dating sims exists. Arigatou, Japan!
In my country you can see very diverse situations. It's normal to have your first "relationship" with 12, although... I think they either do nothing and just bare that gf/bf label, lol, or at the most kiss, but in private. But it's also completely normal to have your first relationship with 18. The thing I find weird is that if they ask you at 16/17/18 if you've ever had a bf/gf and/or if you've ever kissed and the answer's no it's super weird, you're not labaled a loser, but it's still super weird, then again if someone finds out you had your first relationship with 18 it's not weird to them, at least to most. There is a pressure to be in a relationship or to have some sort of an active sexual/lustful/romantic life, but not as much as in Korea or some parts of the U.S., more than Japan. But even having that pressure you're not an outcast for not living up to those expectations, although, there are many diverse situations, so... you might be. If people know you've had at least one relationship up until 20 they wouldn't butt in your bussiness and it's somewhat similar later on as well, I guess. Being a virgin is looked down upon, especially if you own it and you're not necessarily looking to change it. It's rare that close circles of friends have diverse views on relationships and sex life, it happens and it's not weird at all, but it's rare. One of my best friends is way more active than me and she's fine with my choices and I'm fine with hers, we never let that stop our friendship from deepening. That's RARE.
essennagerry Thanks for the info! Where do you live by the way?
ThatJapaneseManYuta I live in Austria, but the country I'm talking about is my home country Bulgaria. :) Man I love Bulgaria! And I really miss it. It's both a good and a bad thing, but when it comes to being open-minded or close-minded we really have everything from the one extreme to the other, to everything in between. Your interviews are very interesting, thank you for responding and being kind. :)
essennagerry I'm from Bulgaria too :) and everything is as you said it is (y)
Ekaterina Pancheva I'm glad I didn't mess up or anything, haha. :D
+essennagerry da hast du leider recht..
als Asiate, der in Ö lebt, finde ich solche Einstellung von den meisten hier ziemlich falsch und traurig zugleich
Your videos are great cause they are consistent as you ask relative questions without being over bearing.
You make such great videos! I'd love to watch more and more of your Japanese culture videos
My country is also a "victim" of Americanization.. I've had classmates talking about being in a relationship since I was like 10 y/o. Everyone wants someone to have sex with but less people want to actually get married and also, there are waaaay more females than males so nowdays it seems like many ladies are just desperate to find a man, anyone, more than to find their "true love". Seeing this situation, I've honestly lost all interest in dating :/
+Danie Lee Nah, you haven't.
akrione You're not me lol
All I am saying is, when a(not "the" on purpose) right guy(or girl) shows up, you will get interested in dating(you still are but in a healthier way, compared to the desperate ones you mentioned eariler).Ok bruh? :P.
akrione Well, I understand what you're saying and you might be right. But if I never find that person I'm ok with it too. I just decided that finding a partner wouldn't be a goal of mine
Danie Lee Of course you will be okay. There are literally a million beautiful things in the world from science, trips, music, movies,art etc. However, there is some other "stuff" that is pretty good as well, it will be bad if we miss them :P
Great video! Thanks for interviewing and asking questions about dating!
Really interesting video!,and congrats on 10k subs, you deserve it :)
Nice interview!!
3:09 That absolutely, undoubtly me XD
And if I do start a convo, my deep voice is almost undetectable. :( ppl just can't hear me
+Kevin Pellegrini thnx, at least I know i'm not alone. ಥ_ಥ
especially in school, during speeches too...
Currently I live in Canada and in universities the dating scene is practically non-existent. People seem to find it easier to just do one-night-stands or no-strings-attached relationships. I'm not one of these guys (in fact I still have all my cards if you know what I mean) because I'm one of those quaint romantics who's waiting for someone that's actually worth being in a real relationship with.
Anyways, from personal experience and from other people I know besides university students, I would say that dating is uncommon because it requires sacrifice and a deep emotional bond. That's something people are afraid of doing, especially since many get into relationships based solely on infatuations or just for the sake of being in one and then (eventually) break up. People prefer to be on the safe side and avoid the emotional trauma and losing a part of yourself. So in reality, Japan doesn't really have it much different than "foreign" countries.
I know I can't say much when it comes to dating, but I do know that I would have been worse off looking for any relationship I could get than taking care of myself and being patient. I have been able to do lots of things in my life that I do not regret, and its all thanks to taking care of myself and find out who I am rather than be in relationships that would have likely failed.
That is the way it is in Iceland. Foreigners likely will never get a date with a girl in Iceland. They hook up at bars.
Thanks for the great video, Yuta!
"Men don't have balls anymore"
Wtf !!! From a japanese woman it really surprised me !!! 😲 But it cracked me up before I get surprised. 😂😂😂
+Spinal Erectors
man that sounds pathetic
+Spinal Erectors
Lmao !!! Keep your anime girls, we, real people, we don't care about your paper girls. You pathetic freak.
That's not really what she said. Yuta was just having fun with the translation.
I think what she actually said was that Japanese men are losing their reliability or something like that (being unreliable).
can we say sum men don't have balls ijs
+shizukagozen777 Bitch
Love Your videos :D
I think i fit in more with how Japanese men are because in the US everybody i grew up with is always dating or married, pregnant or having kids..or more kids, and i am here, 26 as of last month, never dated anybody really and got shot down on all the girls i was interested in at one point but the weird thing is i have been asked out about 2 dozen times over the years but i never liked any of them that way and turned them all down but a couple were bat shit crazy and one was obsessive over me till i had to put her in her place and stop that shit cause she was so nuts, also doesn't help i was pretty much head over heels for my best friend for about 10 damn years till i realized it wouldn't work and burnt that bridge, she never knew what she wanted even though at one point she admitted she liked me a lot at one point just to retract that a year later, now she got married a few months ago...she hooked up with her first real boyfriend pretty much after i burnt that bridge, been 3 years since. Same thing with sex and all that shit, i never have so yeah i'm a virgin but i could have multiple times, but turned it down each time, one was pissed i wouldn't get in her pants and said it to everybody, she was a slut, the last time one of my friends i found out she liked me a lot and tried sleeping with me but she just came out of a bad breakup, i took her off me and talked to her instead of using her like that, my friends don't give me shit for it all and my female friends respect me for my views and understand how i am, but my family puts me down constantly and makes fun of me ( last night for a matter of fact my cousin and dad were busting my balls making fun of me for it, and the other day my 18 year old sister was too, yet my female cousin who is 2 years younger than me is and refuses till she is married but she never gets made fun of, well her last bf dumped her for that reason but yeah still....) so damn annoying and pisses me off
also doesn't help i am pretty much nearly only attracted to asians and i haven't seen many asians around where i live...only whites, mexicans and blacks in the majority :/
/sadlifestoryrantoff, not in a good mood at the momen(terrible week/weekend) and need to vent
blueraineee Yeah i understand what you mean, i have even heard from female friends of mine and some who have liked me even said it wasn't important and some wish they had waited till they were older (she was 12 at the time o.O )
As for my family thing yeah i have told them that before, my mom says she is glad i don't do what others do but at the same time wants me to be with somebody, dad too even though he makes fun of me lol, the sister who makes fun of me...she also is a virgin yet she makes fun of me for being one? female logic... , she keeps bugging me too for having kids cause she wants to be an aunt but when i do have kids i already promised my family they aren't seeing them, i don't want my kids to be messed up like me.
i had a bad time growing up and still do in my adulthood since i live with them again, moved out but had to come back after i had to quit my job and couldn't afford to be on my own anymore. As for the sex before marriage i am pretty much the same pretty much, maybe doesn't have to be married to have sex but be in a long term meaningful relationship with somebody i truly love, which hasn't happen yet but one day....
Heinrich6745 It's a blessed thing to wait for someone. Is your relationship with your family sort of bad? It sounds like you guys really need to have a deep talk.
Jobs are generally hard to find and more often than not, you can't get the job you want. I'm sure you'll get by fine if you try harder.
Love will eventually come to you :) I was told that I'll meet my special person later into the future at a specific place, but I just can't believe it because it seems so unreal, but all i gotta do is to get past this stage right now.
blueraineee yeah my relationship with my family is pretty bad, had a rough time growing up with lots of drama and everybody has anger issues and is stubborn lol, my sisters are bitches, dad is disabled (and had a full knee replacement last month), trying to get him on disability since 2009 too.
I would say i have to deal with drama nearly every day too which sucks cause i wanna live in peace but my family sucks, was nice when i moved away for work which i am trying to do again, hoping i can hear soon and if it works i will move to texas with a good buddy of mine, he will be my boss if it turns out to be how we are hoping, the thing holding me back is my family cause all my money goes to them and i can never save anything up, doesn't help i need a proper education, never finished high school back in the day cause of many issues i had in school, my school was terrible when i went there but once my sister went there it changed and got better lol....go figure.
Here's to hoping things work out for both of us and eventually we meet that somebody!
P.S. hopefully she is Japanese. :3
+Heinrich6745 Good for you man I am 21 yr old gilr and I am the same, I am gonna wait till marriage :D I also havent dated any guy even tho I been asked out a lot of times I said no to them too cuz I aint dating anyone unless I see potential in them also I dont wanna date to pass time I wanna date so I could marry them someday. Dont let ur family putting u down ever get you or anyone else for that matter :) dont give 2 shits abt them :) also good luck *high five
Heinrich6745 Man, my family situation ain't that bad, but I can sympathize with you some what. Are the benefits for disabled people that bad in US? I just know it's hard to look for a job in the US.
I loved that last guy
Great video. Just subscribed :)
Have a great day.
You don't have to be aggressive to find someone...
If you're interested in a particular person just talk to them and show you're available/interested, you'll most likely realize whether or not they're interested in you quite quickly. If not then move on, it can be awkward at first but its worth it once you find someone.
+Lovasz I think they say aggressive they mean they dont just walk up and talk to the person. They (and other people) say that their culture is rather shy. That's just what I think though. Definitely not fact
+Lovasz I thought u would've gotten it. Aggressive clearly means as a form of confidence. As in they don't have much confidence to approach them.
+Eren I don't have much confidence either, I feel like in today's time it's just awkward to do it because I feel 90% of women that I'm interested in have bfs and it's pretty much like a certain rejection and I don't like the feeling of rejection it's just so embarrassing haha
You actually have to.
Just subscribed to you Yuta! I like these street interview videos because they are very real and they answer a lot of questions about Japanese culture and Japanese stereotype.
I wanted to hug the guy that said he'd recently broken up with his girlfriend. He seemed a bit shaky in his answers, maybe hurt and vulnerable. Poor baby. I'm sure he'll find someone else in due time though.
Also...this is a bit weird, but...in a way, I like that Japan isn't as aggressive with dating as here in the U.S. That shyness means less sexual harassment. It means less cockiness and arrogance, even if it does mean a sacrifice in confidence. I'd rather a shy guy where I can approach him comfortably rather than being hit on aggressively to the point of harassment. Or someone suddenly touching up on me.
+Fluffymiyster You might feel differently about that if you ended up having to initiate everything. Chicks here are borderline resentful about having to lead.
The grass is always greener.
Radeo Maybe, I can't say that would never irk me at some point. I'm sure men feel that way about women here in the west, haha! But I'm not going to lump either hemisphere into a single category of this and that. While one outcome is more likely with each side (shyer men in the east, loud confidence in the west), I know that's not every guy. So, east or west, I'm looking for that middle ground :)
And honestly...I've found that in the face of a weakness or hesitancy of another person, I often don't mind stepping up and leading, lol. Initiating is fine. Having to deal with a "no man", someone that's too scared to ever do anything outside of their normal routine, is where I would start to get an anime vein pulsing in my temple, XD!
I think japanese guy is kind and adorable
just on the surface...
Maren why do you mean?
grim. I’m not mean, it’s just my general opinion. there might be exceptions of course.
Maren oh no im sorry i meant you do you mean? (guess i didnt check my grammer sorry)
grim. I don’t understand your questions, I’m sorry. What do you want to know?
I actually would really love to visit Japan! I love the culture and find asian/japanese man really attractive... . The only problem: I do not speak japanese at all and people in Japan seem to not speak english very well. I am from Germany btw. :3
+ClickDi Clack Oh, I feel the same way, ich komm auch aus Deutschland :D
Ilayda Güler ja oder? ^^
+ClickDi Clack Wir bräuchten japanische Freunde :D
Apoc Wolfman regardless , he killed a lot of innocent people , how do you justify that ?
david garcia sorry to interrupt your discussion....but I think that Apoc Wolfman is a faker...so I would not waste my time on someone like him.
We all know that Hitler did some very bad things and that there is no way to change history...
thank you for this amazing video ;) i love everything related to japan
Love it! Give a real perspective on dating.
I love watching your videos yuta :D , they are so entertaining ^o^
YaY new video!!! 😀
Yuta- This is a great channel. I watch each video twice. The first time for the interview and the second time to observe the background - people, shops, traffic, etc., and I learn a lot from each viewing. But tell me - does the sun ever shine in Japanese cities? In almost every video the sky is cloudy and grey.
Yuta, you are the man!
0:34 IMASEN
+Lil' Fuggboy Shokugeki no Soma is a cooking manga.
+Gundam Magic Good for you
+Lil' Fuggboy do you play street fighter 5?
LUL! These comments are so random!
Imasen 😭
She was totally right about them being shy and mostly introverted enjoying their time with them selves
My first time here ...
I subscribed right now
Have fun , love your content :)
Well here in the U.S dating is very very common most people are never single (from what i see)
***** Well I've never had a girlfriend or a date
***** Oh, well I hope you good fortune on that. I dont really have any hope to get a girl friend.
***** Im sorry, Im just lonely and I went through the same thing, I have add and adhd. I am fine now since, I get to see a relative I haven't seen in a long time, so you have a great day!
You sure? I always see people being single in the u.s
You would be very surprise to the numbers who are.
The reason there is such disparity is because the expectations of men buying them things and spending what little they already make, after being overworked working 16+ hour days is not worth the trouble.
Nobody works 16 hours a day. You would be dead. Much of that "work" is bending their elbows at the bars with their fellow workers.
The first question reminded me of a psychology study where they asked Japanese and Italian boys how many girlfriends they
Had through school. While the Italians reported 14-15 the Japanese mainly said 0-1
Asking an Italian how many girlfriends he has had is like asking Jeff Bezos how much money he has.
Yuta! I’m so excited to come to Japan this summer! I hope to have a nice summer moment with nice Japanese guy.
It's legitimately in my bucket list to visit Japan someday!! Lots of love from India !
the girls at $;19 have a wrong image of men outside of japan, common decency is not as common as they think
+jody024 really? I find that us guys are friendly and always happy to aid people. but then AMERICAN ladies look down on us for being nice and helping out. So girls bitch about a guy in America not being a gentleman its because of the American ladies.
Jerid Glasspoole
that's what you think....
*****
My dad was English, and that is not true. those manners are old school (sucks but true)
*****
Really, you're THE Authority for all men in England now ? HAHAHA. You crack me up.
PS: I'm not American, please don't insult me like that, I'd rather die then live in the US....
***** Not only in England, even in America you find that the majority of men will open doors for others, not only woman but for other men and children, or allow woman to enter first. My 35 years of experience has led me to the understanding, older gentlemen and ladies, will thank you.. Male Adults will thank you for holding a door for them if their hands are full... female adults ranging from mid 30's to early 20's will ignore the person holding the door and keep walking without a word... Teens are teens and very mattering their upbringing and rebellious nature. That is what my experience has shown me in America.
FOREIGN MEN WALKING ON THE STREET SIDE? XD
WTF??
The last man that walked on the street side for me was my dad.
When I was 5.
(I'm italian btw)
Do they srsly think westerns pay attention to something like that?
Guys, you need to go abroad more, cause you have a really unrealistic idea of us... :O
Chiara Broglia We still stick to a huge stereotype opinion which doesn't come from our own experiences with any foreigners. Its kind of fantasy though, some of us(maybe most of us) still believe that what types of act you guys do to opposite sex,haha
That's why I say go abroad XD you'll find out a lot of things about us!
Chiara Broglia I know. Since I moved to other country in my senior high to undergraduate, things which burst my bobbles came out. The grass is always greener after all.
+Chiara Broglia But that's.....actually a pretty common thing in latinamerica.
+Chiara Broglia i am a 28 year old Southern Guy(without the accent) and it always thought walking on the street side was common sense for men to do with their significant.
Tennessee by the way :)
You speak good English sir , way to go, I also like and enjoyed your video
For me, Affection, Trust, Respect are very important in a relationship and of course both of you should be a teamwork in regards to expenses.
This is why I want to visit Japan more than South Korea although both have things I like. I don't want to feel pressured to rush into a relationship. Would be nice to make friends also.
0:30 Senpai noticed her.
Key to success in all situations is to be a go getter. A dominant force that puts yourself out there, and is expressive. If you don't attempt to take, and keep holding yourself back, then you'll never get. As the saying goes "It's better to try and fail, then to never try at all. If you're hurt, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" So boys and girls everywhere. be balsy and try and form a friendship with that guy and girl, then maybe form a true deep relationship. because the best girlfriends/boyfriends, are the girlfriends you can learn from and enjoy hobbies together.
Thank you for killing my heart with the "I Love You" in the end ;-;
Where to meet Japanese men? I started a meetup group in Tokyo for non-Japanese women and Japanese men. Come and join here: www.meetup.com/Tokyo-Non-Japanese-Women-Japanese-Men/
+ThatJapaneseManYuta I wish I could date Japanese girl ~
***** Wow seriously>3
***** yups of course man. Hehe. Well anyway it's my dream to go out with Japanese girl x3
***** HahaIt'd okay dude. I know it is hard xD
***** It's okay bro XD Haha. Well I'm gonna go to Japan next year. Maybe I can date somebody there ;3
that one guy that broke up with his girlfriend 😆 ;c
4:37
Behind the guy there passed a truck with an R-shitei advertising poster!
Hey man! great videos! Do you have any advices for people wanting to visit your country for a couple of months? Like which city is interesting for a german like me :D
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LOL "I think Japanese men have alot of good qualities too, so please come visit Japan" xD this guy, this fucking guy! XD
:) smart answer. Yeah being in a relationship IS expensive. And not only you'll spend a lot of ❤ but also time and money. Love this vid :)
That's crazy!! I visited Japan last month and all I saw were couples holding hands :o
As a German living in Japan I don't think that dating in Japan is any different than in Germany and probably many other countries. Japanese people tend to have a wrong image of what 'foreign countries' are like, which can also be seen in this video. They talk about how 'foreign guys' are much more aggressive, basically grouping all (western) countries together as if there aren't any differences.
From my experience that is not true at all. Some Japanese guys are shy, some are agressive and so are guys from any country.
As a german I disagree with you a lot. Its totally different. Especially the man's attitude towards their priorities and their lack of respect for women.
@@Maren3108 german men are shy as well and not gentlemen like
I can totally relate 😭 being single is fine
I've never dated in real life but I feel like it would be the same online. Online dating gives headaches especially when you're so far away from them so you won't know if they're cheating.
I wish i could go to japan and meet many people like them. I love their calm and shy attitude.
Let the girls chase after the rich guys and the idols who look like models.
That's what they want, then they shouldn't worry about what the average guys do.
It's really funny how in the Span of Two years only six people liked your comment (I'm the Seventh)
That first woman straight up lied...
I am currently an American high schooler, and in my experience dating is a mix bag here. I have some friends who have had many girlfriends over the years, and other (sadly like myself) who have never had a single one. It really depends on the personality of the person.
Can u make video of beauty standards of japan and what is beauty for japanese guy ? pleaseee :3
I'd rather spend my time with my personal interests too, and I actually enjoy being alone; totally cool with it.
More of these interviews! Great stuff. In our country (Slovakia) everyone would say yes because most of our people in this age are just too horny. But there are exeptions. Whenever they see a women they just can't help to look back. For example my sister can't be without a partner for a longer time, when she broke up with someone it won't be long before she'll find someone. Yop, that's the situation pretty much almost everywhere in Slovakia.
Lubos Nemec And slovakian girls are damn gorgeous, can't blame you guys for being horny.
Yuta, I would like to know if most of your videos were made in Tokyo or not, i think thats important because people want to know more about local and non local people.
I love how honest they are
its not only in japan dude..
In Ireland you just get drunk and knock up a bird, then you're set for life.
Please add Japanese subtitles. I'm learning Japanese and that would help a lot.
That guy was really cool. So inspiring.
Hello Yuta. I just want to hear your opinion related to issues brought up by some of your videos. A lot of Japanese girls mention that they prefer their Japanese men to be like the Western men in terms of their outgoing personality and "ladies first" mindset. Some of the women you interviewed also seemed to blame the lack of dating that is occuring in Japan right now to the "herbivores" mindset of Japanese men, and they themselves will never initiate a relationship and rely on the men to initiate it. The men that you interview seems to be shy people, which is understandable considering the Japanese society, but doesn't the Japanese female population realize that part of the reasons why men are shy to approach girls for dating is because they are constantly reminded of the possibility that they will be viewed as creeps if they accidentally become too intimate with girls? Japanese men did not grow up in a culture where they learn how to intimately interact with girls, so this mindset of being viewed as creep is particularly damaging to their interest in dating girls.
america is so different...just.....the complete opposite dating wise. you get a lot of pressure to find your "soul mate" or "true love".
theycallthewindmariah williams In America, people who dont have a bf/gf are considered losers.
dot so true.
+dot The same in Europe, it is a hell for shy people.
+theycallthewindmariah じゃ。 The east is very different from the west I guess. Asians in general do not stress on dating I'm chinese and we have the same view to japanese.
bintuae1 I see. Yeah, the West and East are pretty different. If there isn't much dating, is it hard to find someone? Are there many divorces in china? In America, although there is a lot of dating, we have a high divorce rate. Why, if we see so many people, there are so many in unhappy marriages? *****
Yuta-san no channeru wa yappari daisuki da. Subscribed.
I agree with one of the Japanese girls who said that Japanese guys don't approach the girls , the girls have to approach them to talk to. I'm not saying that it should always be the guys that need to approach the girls to talk to them but there are girls who are too shy to approach anyone so it helps to be approached first, just as some girls are confident enough to approach guys. I was in Japan for a month in May and when I wanted to meet Japanese guys I had to struggle a bit since there was a language barrier and also because I wasn't used to approaching a guy due to my shy nature. ><
Good job with the video! I had a lot of similar experiences like the people in the video so I could connect with it. The questions were very well put as usual too :) keep up the good work!