Finding Love In Japan | 101 East
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- Finding Love In Japan - 101 East
The path to true love is never easy but in Japan, finding 'the one' has never been harder. Only a third of the nation's youth have been in a relationship.
Many consider a romantic partner bothersome in a country famous for maid cafes, herbivore men and pop idol shows. For the government, playing cupid is now in the national interest. As the country's population rapidly declines, it's funding matchmaking events to help encourage marriage - and babies.
Such events are also being embraced by reality shows, small towns and even monks who need a partner for their temple to survive. 101 East asks, can love find a way in desperate and dateless Japan?
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"I get rejected all the time"
That's one honest interviewer.
I got rejected all the time. But that is what you go through. =)
Siyovaxsh En-sipad-zid-ana but for the society...
Lol!!! That's so cool.
i admire that he just says that with no shame, he just owns it like a champ good for him
but each time getting rejected lowers their self esteem and making them less confident
i think the problem here are unrealistic expectations. for instance, that guy kept comparing all those women to an idol. but even idols themselves don't show their fans their true selves, they show a fabricated version of themselves that they know their fans would appreciate. so really, what he's expecting from a woman doesnt even exist
You'd think he wouldn't compare a real woman to an idol they're manufactured personalities.
really reminds me of the movie perfect blue
I think their "unrealistic expectations" are actually a defense mechanism against rejection, so they can tell themselves that the reason they are single is because their expectations are too high, and not because they had faced rejection.
Honestly, what's wrong with wanting to have the best? Is it a crime to tell a woman that's she's too ugly? Who'd want to spend time staring at ugly people? I'd rather just do something else. Literally.
Honestly most people are single because they don't like the people they are around. That's all. They'd rather not get to know the other people.
I'm Japanese and found this video by chance. Differences between real and documentary completely astound me. I'll tell you the truth about why the birth rate has significantly dropped here.
First, cultures like idol, anime, and maid cafes won't interfere with ordinary people's lives at all.
The fact fully comes from a long period of recession.
You cannot find any crazy anime shops and maid cafes outside of Akihabara that well recognized as a geek town and a foreigner's tourist destination.
Idol culture is also originated in the same place which means addicted people don't represent the majority of Japanese.
How many guys know that animes excepting for children's ones are broadcasted middle of the night so that many people even don't know its titles?
Before we were westernized, matchmaking set by their parents was a common style to find a partner since the women's job was considered to be a fulltime-house worker.
Individual people had warmly welcomed gender equality but women are still underpaid in their works. Why? Well, Japanese traditional companies treat employees like machines regardless of gender by forcing them to work under harsh terms. They can't quit their job even though underpaid and overworked since finding a new one is difficult. Traditionally, the education of workers is the company's responsibility but not for the university. Companies prefer to choose freshmen who don't know anything and then start brainwash them to make sure that they can't complain against their bosses. Most laborers are well-educated by owners and specialized only for their system but such skills are useless outside. They are not professional for one thing because moving across various type of departments and branches are under the hand of a company. Therefore, re-employed people are offered a much-lowered salary without options that they had once. That's why retirement is considered a stigma in our society since it's difficult to find a reason to quit other than a mental issue or something.
It sounds like perfect slaves for owners, right?
Nevertheless, women have a different option to escape from this fate without getting any stigma. That's marriage and become a full-time housewife. So, the retirement rate of women is higher comparing to the western society. But, realistically men cannot afford women after marriage because of a long period of depression. This is pressure for men before start falling into romance. Remember, their salary is also cheap.
Now you can easily understand why Japanese companies hesitate to provide maternity supports. From their perspective, women are fragile machines comparing to men so they are underpaid.
Just to be sure, I have to state here that I'm not a male chauvinist and just sharing the logic exists.
As most of us can't understand English, too many stereotype images have been created abroad for foreigner's entertainment. However, we are just people who struggling with different cultural problems. Not something like monsters nor freaks. We still love humans not dolls.
Thank you for your input on this matter.
It's a sad reality for your beautiful country and I hope you all guys will find the best solution in the end.
Had to dig deep to find original view on the subject.
In short females want money, which men don't have anymore huh.
Westerners don’t care :( They eat up everything that would make them feel superior to other people, I think Asian countries shouldn’t allow state sponsored media on their territory
Sad pathetic system to live in...
Thank you so much for your transparency
“Normal girls are too rowdy”
Sir.... idols are literally supposed to look cool & “perfect”. They’re paid to do fan service at events...
They are though talking about nagging every day in house.
Vaku Zaku they’ve never been on a date before so how would they know that. He just means he likes those girls cause they smile look pretty and don’t talk so there’s no issues with socialising
Tell that to all those Land Whales ex-wives beating up their husdbands xD
Vaku Zaku Yeah that happens if you don’t let them out for a walk. You need to let them out three times a day, feed them and occasionally let them socialise with others with their kind.
But in the end its worth to pay them for the affection and their service.
Talking to a doll is not a problem. The problem is when it talks back.
😂
(INSANITY INTENSIVIES)
In his case it'll be a dream cone true
wahahahah
The problem comes when the doll becomes chucky or ted.
"I don't want them to love me...it's a waste to love me"
Ouch dude.
Edgy ain't it?
I felt that when he said it. It's such a shame to think of yourself that way.
yeah that made me feel sad :(
yea that was sad :’( alexa play despacito
elguezj Aww that's sad. :(
“They’re school age”
We got him boys
I'm about to write this.
I hope he meant college aged👺
@@minah3004 they have people who are attracted to pubescent girls called lolicons in japan
@@MustacheDLuffy Time for another crusade.
@@christianleitel7906 what would the crusade even be about?
"what would you like to order?"
"i'll have some water from your last bath"
and then you wonder why you're single.
*cough* belle delphine *cough*
lmao but thats some incel activity no real life dude that had at least 3 brain cells could say that kinda stuff
@tonatha1985 how is it offensive sssh feminist. I mean it's disgusting 🤢 but not sure offensive is the right word since offensive words suppose to hurt people feeling in some way
it's a joke. a funny one at that
I felt so uncomfortable when he said that
Japan: Literally works their country to death
Also japan: Why aren’t people getting married?
Trino B lmao
High school students in japan are also not allowed to date, because dating will only be a distraction from their schoolwork.. If they allow high school relationships their birth rate problems could be gone. I mean just look at teen mom on tv. XD
Sfargang What? It's not like it's not forbidden right?
That's a big part of it
Truth
'I'll have some water from your last bath'.... I fully understand why this dude has never been on a date.
I think it's a funny line. Somewhat erotic, even.
DjangoPjango pathetic
DjangoPjango I kinda like that, I'm kinda kinky tbh (and I'm a girl from America) honestly some of those Asian guy should come over here
Lighting Sama Yes, it's a cute and funny line. Asians men do come here , but they are put off by the 'aggression' (they call it) of Western women. Better you go 'hunting' there. You would get lots of attention.
Dat boi thirsty
This is deeply sad.
To gain all the wealth as a society, but lose the most important and human part of you as individuals!
Every dystopia written in sci fi explores with infinite growth comes huge loss to something
@@vinsokukan1879 nanking?
you cant have it all
Leave the waifus alone
What would that most Important part of being human be..., ..., ?
*”I don’t have a strong heart”*
*”if possible I want to live a life with less hurt”*
*I FELT THAT*
Hahaha
Rejection is part of life.
Life is pain.
Art is pain.
Beauty is pain.
But in the end it is all worth it, if you can relate to this, I pity you. Please seek professional help possible from the West because it seems the East offers *NOTHING* ..
God Bless bro.
@@ZoeyKirituOfficial It shouldn't be.
@@ZoeyKirituOfficial something tells me you get arrest often :)
I feel really bad for Japan... I mean the dude that went on a date with his friend actually believed he didn't deserve to have anyone love him.....shame
Feminism
yes, i felt very sad for him when he said that :'( wish i could get him a girlfriend that loves him...
Sagar Sagar don't blame societies problems on your so-called view of feminism it's not giving this complex issue any justice
I live in Japan. It's absolutely not as bad as it seems. It's still a functional society. People go out, they flirt and go on one night stand. I believe the real problem is their work ethics mixed with their expectations of creating a family. In Japan you're expected to work an enormous amount of hours(they even have a word for "death by overworking" and something called "black companies" that tend to make their workers work way too much, these are usually the biggest companies in Japan) to seem loyal to your company. A lot of companies do not offer any money for overtime, either(very common). At the same time you're supposed to find time to get married and have kids. There's no wiggle-room for people to enjoy having a family, it becomes more of a hassle but is doable.
I'm still hanging around young people so maybe I haven't got the full picture. But from what I can tell from my Japanese friends and people I meet, people are still hooking up and having boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. The problem is the work ethics in contrast to family ethics(when referring to statistics). This is not mentioned in the documentary as much as it should be in my opinion. If they want people to find love, give people more free time.
Also, most translations are made in a weird way and some of them doesn't even include some of the things they say. For example, the guy in the white shirt said one of the reasons he was being a comedic in front of the girls was to not get in a situation where the girl is angry at him(怒られる okorareru). These type of translations was in the whole documentary but I'm sure most of it was a rough enough translation.
So the problem is, unrealistic standards?
The man who wears a white shirt in the matchmaking event has low self-confidence. He says that it would be a waste of time to love him. If he wants to love someone, he should learn to love himself first. It is sad.
White shirt is okay if is to warm.
I hear that argument over and over again. How does one love themselves? And what differentiates that "love" from narcissism?
@@a.r.5604 I agree with u. I don't think it is necessary to "love" oneself. I believe self respect is the key. A lot of these men don't respect themselves. And I can relate to that emotion. That's the problem.
The lack of self respect may be the symptom, not the cause. I agree with *a.r.5604* Japanese adults aren't that nice, largely due to exactly that, narcissism. I think his own hatred that he cannot confront, coupled with the fleeing from reality into fantasy makes him hate himself. Living in your own head is not the right path and the White shirt guy senses it, but doesn't change.
"I'll have a cola"
"And I'll have some water from your last bath" lol! Yeah that line wouldn't fly in the U.S. Things sure took a creepy turn with those dolls
Yitcok Shegitz well to be fair it’s essentially a cafe you pay to creep on the waitresses
I don't think that line would fly anywhere, even in Japan. The whole concept of the café is that the girls fawn over you, so if you're in there, it doesn't matter what you say. It's not like she'd give him even the slightest glance if she'd ever met him on the streets. She'd probably cross the street to avoid him XD
That's some smooth talking I think Ill steal that xD
You have different version of sexual harassment over there, no worries, Westerners are men of culture as well.
Well that was a joke, tbh not the type of joke I'd choose to make at a stranger but I would pull that one on female friends who know me well enough to know that I'm being ironic.
Japanese guy: I found love once, and it ended in divorce
Every American: and thennn???
Divorce is looked down upon in Asia, that's why :(
I'm surprised that China also has divorction as well, knowing they have strict regulations.
@@jacquelinenicole1932 why it's like 90% here. Live and learn. Marriage is dumb anyway live together for a few years if you still feel the same go for it if not move on.
@@supersyionbunta3972 lol "divorction"
American guys are gluttons for punishment
"The Town Matchmaker is looking for Love" - that sounds like a plot to a nice slice of life Anime
lmao you an iddiot
Areefa Khan Teaser
I want this anime lol
It sounds like "the shoemaker goes barefoot".
"Hiroyuki says living with these 17 dolls is more exciting than his job as a window cleaner."
lmao. i caught that too
Well he's not wrong. But so is just about anything.
That’s just a tragedy, most men opt suicide than such a reality
Sounds like a fun time. I'd take 17 dolls any day before those exhausting works.
My mom taught me how to face the harsh reality of life...but this man is just to scared to face it.
You know its bad when the government has to step in to promote dating
It's necessary in countries with low immigration and low birthrates. You need to do something, lest entire communities become depopulated.
To much anime
Where I live the government should step in to discourage it.
@@thundergun933 What country do you live ?
@@justakidmeh6284 you do know counties are pretty diverse and broad right?
"No girls met my standard" - my question is did YOU meet 'their' standards??
I was thinking the EXACT same thing. The first two guys are super nerdy. And not "funny/interesting personality" type of nerdy but like straight up dorks. That's why they can't get girls. Girls love funny guys but most don't want any dorks. He's talking about Girls not meeting his standard when the real reason is that him and his friends and way too "goofy goober" for a girl to take them seriously.
Hahahah
There were some lovely girls there at the event with them! I lost my empathy for them after that line. :(
In the states tho, Ive seen lots of cosplayers marry each other and so on. I think that because of the harsh work ethic, shyness of many, and popular substitutes for real relationships- makes it hard.
about "did YOU meet 'their' standards" he said like I suck and I'm not good for any girl. So it is like there no girls good enough for me but also I'm not good for any girl either.
Let's be real if the peak of your comedy is drinking from a water fountain, you're probably not going to get far in the dating scene
carl Carrington id say going down the children’s slide in the absolute peak
I didn't even know they were joking. I act like them in real life and that's me being serious D:
somehow that whole thing reminded me of another duo, Abbot&Costello. They were on another level tho ofc. I can hardly call this comedy at all, it's idiocy and women (well, people) don't usually like it
@@sponish0 LOOOOOOL
8:47
"Most people are generally nice, and I only get mean messages online." This isn't saying much in a culture where most people wouldn't dare express their true feelings about anything, especially not with strangers.
Something which wasn't discussed in the video was how Japanese women are expected to give up their jobs after becoming mother's and be housewives and that there is widespread discrimination against mother's in the workplace. The choice is so black and white between being a housewife and a career woman, and men are expected to make work a priority over everything.
Perhaps decreasing working hours so make it overall more accessible to put time into developing relationships and taking care of the house and children for both men and women.
MagicEve thats a dumb idea, they have economic troubles, they need that money to live. and the men who are disenfranchised from relationships avoid them because they cant afford them. so what good would reducing work have for them? the real answer is, people who want to have familys are going to come to the realization, that you need 1 parent to take care of the child most of the time. and that said parent needs a flexible job or just be a stay home while the other gets the money the other family members need. And there is no incentive for men to make this sacrifice anymore.
It's not a dumb idea at all. Do you know that many japanese people die from overworking? It's a terrible problem that should be adressed.
they are dying of overwork, but at the same time have you considered that when you have a family you have to give up what you have for them. they go to those jobs and work themselves to death because they seriously need that money. that doesn't happen to single people because all they have to worry about is themselves, and can take time off from work without hurting the people they love. if they want to fix this problem they have to give incentive for people, (especially men) to not be single and only have to worry about themselves. sex is not a good enough incentive.
edit: also men are expected to give their wives their entire check and the woman gives them an allowance out of it. so yea, theres no incentive to want to slave like that.
"need that money to live", yeah, too bad they don't get the fucking money when they're overworking, since those hours are to "prove loyalty". Stop being such a dolt. Look at how successful we are in Scandinavian countries. Here in Sweden, we have paid paternity leave. It is your right as a parent to be able to spend time with your children.
Also, some things like prostitution or adultery isn't seen as something "big". if a man goes to a prostitute, she basically has to accept it because in their culture, if the man doesn't get what he wants from his wife sexually, he has "no other choice". damn Japan is really a tough place for women
"I'll have some water from your last bath"
its good to see True Love still exists
Eh sad part is there are people that perverted they would actually drink it o.O.....
I see what you did here.
When you say it in Japan, it's a joke. But when you do it in the West, you get jail time for sexual harassment.
"Shes 25 kilograms of silicone"
Dude...
Actually some Japanese guys believe a girl with over 40 kg is fat. I was told so once. Crazy.
Lol
@@tokyojapan4264 oh
He's not wrong 😂
In Japan they have dolls but in America we have the Kardashians.
ALSO: I read a great story from a Japanese native on how this is all due to the fact that parents never express affection or even touch or say I love you to their children. So you have a whole society of emotionally repressed people out there who have no idea how good and positive an emotional connection can be because they’ve never experienced any form of it.
Even in my society. Saying I love you to your children or to your partner is very rare. And we still fine.
i heard that "i love you" in japan was only said three times in life:
birth,
marriage,
death.
@@lalallaaaaa What society is that? I doubt it doing "fine".
Japanese people are actually very honest during interviews i like that
For the first time in my life I feel sorry for Japan
japan is done for
It was done for the minute internet was introduce there.
FacingTF Its declining cuz of atheism, lack of family values, they have only few years left no one is having kids same is happening in europe rapidly. Culture is total regressed and corrupt, suicide rates and depression very high
Point to a country that's better, or a time that's better. Go ahead and try.
The United States!
Man to think their ancestor used to be fearless samurais to herbivore man, pop idol shows.
nobunaga oda would be very embarassed
To be fair only a relatively select social group became samurais, defining Japan by samurais would be like thinking every Saudi owned their own oil company.
@@jamesworkshop9181 I think he means as a symbol not literally samurais...
To be honest. Samurai too are dishonorable. The abuse their power, just like knight in europe. And often changing lords.
@@brushrolla8379 If Vikings could see what some of their descendants are like they would be disgusted! It's so sad!!
So grateful my wife and I found each other when I was 20. If not for her, I’d be one of these guys too.
I love how they're completely honest about themselves, and accept who they are and who they are not.
Fewer men likely to choose rape to itch that scratch. Bring'em on.
Daddy Feli
We have, as a species, sapience and intelligence unheard of before on this planet, and yet most people are so basic that they can't help but think their instinctual base urges are the most important thing in the world. We should celebrate our intelligence and our freedom from animalistic instincts.
It's instead your shaming tactics that are honestly pitiable. That you can't imagine the possibility that even a single person could live a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle while also rejecting what you erroneously think is universally important is sad.
These Japanese men know who they are, what they want, and don't feel the need to greed for more out of life, and their honesty about themselves does in fact mean they are living in a healthy manner because it means they aren't suffering from any cognitive dissonance.
Love those Beautiful little towns in Rural Japan They are so peaceful and beautiful
or not.
David Lopez That was one of the things that attracted me to Japan, the rural area.
mirukaze so do you live in A small Town there ? Because i have some friends that do and I just love how peaceful they are and I just heard that lots of young couples are moving out of the city and moving to smaller town
David Lopez No no. But I wish I do. I understand why people may want to move out because life is slow. But for me, life there would be perfect. And ofcourse opportunities are higher in big cities for people with high ambitions.
And so crasy
It's a sad reality, 😢 the energy I input to accept it in my head.
I just find it fascinating how in a country with the most densely populated city in the world...the Japanese can be leaps and bounds ahead of other nations as far as technology and science, yet fall to the bottom of the barrel when it comes to interpersonal relationships. 😮 Tokyo is a city with people literally stacked on top of one another... and yet people almost seem to go out of their way to not have to deal with each other. As an introvert myself, compared to them I'm practically a social butterfly.
"....it would be a waste to love me....I'm a low form if man". That is tragic.
100904usc If that's general attitude of Japanese men, I can't see how problem will be solved
I think the objectification of women, sexualization of young girls,and ideas of "perfect relationships" are a huge problem. and the jobs for young girls over there are so shady.
This. Porn has also been a big contributor to that. Guys just want sex nowadays. It's a worldwide issue.
I agree but this problem is the same if not worse in the US since every form of media objectifies any shred of intimate relationships
In Japan at least in their society theyre taught to be respectful. And we're talking about country where the goal in life is to work. And where the saying death by overwork exists.
Of course there would be a population issues when 90% of their day is spent to only focus on work.
Its also the women who add to this. Many would like to focus on being successful in their workplace and would rather focus on themselves. Nothing wrong about that.
But you can see how dedicated to work they are in their society. To where either sex has no time to think about the other
Unfortunately,because nowadays young people aren't taught well,and they aren't serious enough about the things. They just seek fun,and they make women be some objects..
Maybe they don't want to put up with all the shit and rejection only to find someone who treats them like shit and expects them to be grateful for it.
Aderla22 Hm...seeing how desperate they are in this video I don't think so
“Some women sign up for food rather than partner”😅😅😂😂🤣🤣
Sounds realistic lol
Japanese people are actually very honest during interviews i love that
Japanese want perfection in everything, I have lived in japan for 10 years and I have noticed this. It is easier to relate to anime or a Doll or even an idol. The Japanese don’t know how to love or afraid of showing their true feelings.
Dottie Land dude did you watch the show the guys claimed none of the women were up to their standards
sponish0 whats the name of the show?
Yeah why are they like that? To shy and introverted?
Cuz anime gae
sponish0 which show?
"he finds it more exciting than his job as a window cleaner"
lmao no shit ?
we truly live in a society
us gamers are oppressed
Be the society
GRU
Gamers
Rise
Up
being alone is a strength
The doll guy is definitely unusual, but it’s also kind of impressive that he painted all the faces. They look really accurate to the characters
Agreed. He's very artistic. I know boys/men who collect the smaller, Barbie sized dolls (Popular Character Figures), so for me he's not strange. Although I do thinks he needs counseling on how to meet real women.
@@ir9567 I guess they would be correctly called Character Figures, and not dolls. I know people from all sorts of walks of life, men and women, who collect them. Be they Super Hero characters, TV characters, Anime, or the Funko Pop ones. Not infantile, just another popular item lots of people like to collect. I'm 50 and collect Pandas of all types, and it's just something I've always enjoyed. People collect all sorts of ordinary or odd things. Who am I to look down on what brings others happiness?
I hope his business thrives after covid so he brings in $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.....and watch all the japanese women start to prey on him. but as he did mention, as my boss would say....."women are not worth it".
@@ir9567 what's wrong with anime figurines? They're extremely popular
Those two guys look like they are in love with each other.....
Rejection will take a toll eventually...
@@eternallegacy89 he was only rejected once
10:00 bruh. I wonder what that grandma told the kid after what she saw, she was like "don't pay attention to the pervert, just keep walking" lmao
One thing I can agree with is the rejection part, getting rejected in love/relationships is worse than getting rejected in any other scenario.
so true, ir messes you emotionally and mentally, and it's worse whn you already had low self-esteem,
"on a date you have to focus on a girl, here you have fun" DUDE HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THE PROBLEM😂😂😂
Amela Mesinovic you mean it's important to actually be interested in the girl and have a real conversation.?!?? Blasphemy
That is true. I've never gone on a date myself, but my friends have said the same thing.
"most of my female friends like memes and are always talking about video games."What? your girl friends are manchilds? ugh...
Id thumb up this a thousand times
Morhevr yeah but they should stop crying about loneliness then
I think arranging these kind of meetups is a very cheap bandage solution, and doesn't attempt to fix the underlying culture + work conditions that are the root of the problem. People work from 8am to 9pm, when do they have the time or energy to reproduce?
This
You are absolutely correct... I think this is more linked with Cost of living which is high in Japan. People are indirectly forced to work more even to meet their short time and regular day to day needs.
Its ok to compromise the quality in products they make and instead they should try to improve quality and time in building new relationships...
I completely agree Henry. Cultural traditions seem to have led to difficult work conditions and a sexist culture that perpetuates unrealistic expectations. Not to mention the lack of emotional maturity and self-esteem these people are struggling with.
Delete anime
Happiness is a state of mind. That's why Keigo prefers to live alone.
They end up kodokushi
"It is a waste to love me"
Ouch.
The anime aint helping
ya know japan dislike otaku
That’s true.
It's helping me
It is the problem
It actually does the other thing around, stop watching it 😉
"Some women sign up for food rather than a partner."
Why is this me?? 😖😭
not you mean because that's naturally what you guys like to do is eat and eat and eat in and out the words turn around and blame men for your habits when men call them out or any other woman calls them out. And I'm only just answering your question don't take it too seriously if that's not you.
@@xintisousvrimlisus4368 you took her comment way too seriously lol.
Gross
You're Beautiful 😍🥰✌🏻
because you're a fat sow
Its not just in japan...its everywhere. Everyone is lonely.
No it not every where it's only civilised countries africa and most of asia and south america are difrent and they live normal life with partners
“You’re no longer our taxman!”
“No!”
“You’re now the town’s official matchmaker.”
“Wait, what?!”
its a lack of confidence and fear of opening up to others.
Ive been watching for 5 minutes and...idk if I should cry for them or think as them as weak...it is sad though. But its weekend now so...YaaaY!
you got it!
When u think u hit rock bottom just remember that there is always doll man under you.
I guess so. Wish me luck with the girl I liked since school
Good luck!
Nah man, doll man isn't under. In fact he looks more happy with a fake woman than some guys do with a real one. Just sayin.
@@Aego384 just approach her she won't bite
@@101mahina so right...many people are in miserable relationships...relationships are sometimes really complicated
That mountain village is so amazingly beautiful.
Yes..
25:00 y'all can laugh on him for being "vegetarian" (or herbivore or whatever tf the word is..) but listen to his answer.....He has self confidence issues,he needs counseling, being laughed on will only make it worse...
True, but he's also the one saying none of these girls are idol standard and therefore below his own standard. It's kind of a blow to the girls, too. But I totally agree with what you're saying, too.
@@vmorris7639
He was joking
@Alin Mihai 💔
Sorry, the old man living with dolls is just plain creepy.
hey! that is mean! Personally, i agree with his point of view, would even buy a doll, but i bet they quite expensive.
Vladimir then perhaps you are also creepy.
Reboka Boatche i'm the cutest person ever! But, then again, i don't think that guy is creepy by any means, so our perception about cute/creepy thing may deviate)
I say it's easy for an outsider to judge. Rather than labeling them as creepy, why not put in the effort to learn about why they are the way they are, and by extension learn about humanity as a whole? I guess making fun of people on the internet is easier, though.
mnguyea the guy is a creep alright
As much as I love japan,I dislike their obsession over everything CUTE.
Japan shallow make u cute!!!
North Korean Obsessed with Communists and Kim Jong Un.
But cute things are cute.
Are you just butthurt that you aren't cute?
the keyword here is "OBESESSION".
Your comment is CUTE...
I was 24 when i met my girlfriend. Before then, i had zero experience romantically. I tried many times to initiate something, but faced rejection a lot. I almost wanted to delete myself. There was a long period where i became reclusive. I feel for young men who are lonely. It's very hard, especially in today's society.
When men see perfect looking women everywhere in fiction and media, they don't accept "normal" women. So instead of compromise, they keep hitting these maid cafes which only hires the cutest girls. From on perspective, it's all about greed. Not settling for the second best, and therefore remain alone.
''normal'' woman at least should be thin and not always overweight like in western countries.
Coops in that case, men should not be overweight.
@solaroid55 I think you should edit it as "most men in West " in Japan,Korea and following china this is common
@@rudy1999 thats YOUR idea of normal, there is no human standard, even people who are poor can have a large body
@@blackwaltz3135 When i visit hospital sometimes for check-ups , most people attending it are old and overweight, they don't tale care of themselves and want doctors to do everything.
7:35 Wow, how did he get the doll's hair to stick up so perfectly like that?
lalakuma9 gel and hair spray? or magic. O_o
Ambrosia Cunningham witch craft
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I think Japanese film industry needs to produce more movies about a normal marriage where couples fight, disagrees , get cross get mad and angry and still can stay together and care for each other,
LOL wtf you don't understand how marriage works in Japan at all. Do you think they don't have couples fight?!
@@Zeriel00 I think he meant normalizing the realistic aspects of marriage rather than always portraying the perfect experience with all aspects of life in media.
@@KLuqman01 Marriage in Japan is very traditional and it has always been. The media influences everything so I can't say it doesn't, but unlike in the US marriage in Japan has very defined roles. The wife stays at home and takes care of the House, finances, husband and kids. The husband works like a mule and provides the income. They still have couple's fights like everyone else and I'm pretty sure nobody thinks marriage is "perfect" but it works well for them. The only problem Japan has is the over work and low wages that doesn't allow many Japanese to afford children.
I think they need to cut the school girl fantasy for starters. That’s literally the main reason. Alsooo why are u simping over school girls like Bruhh they are literally minors
@@eshap731 Literally NOBODY is talking about school girls this is not even a real issue...and how do you plan to stop a "fantasy" exactly? are you planing to implement a thought police?? because news flash, fantasizing is not illegal.
This was filmed years ago in a country half way across the world from me and I still cringed when he said "I'll have some water from your last bath"
I remember showing this exact documentary years ago to my family, when they said _"Terrible to see the youth so isolated in Japan today."_ I replied back _"This is not only going to keep happening over there, it's starting to happen right here as well."_ There was a following comment from them trying to deny that such things could happen in more densely populated western countries, but after social scientis were wrong about a baby boom during the lockdowns, a steep birthrate collapse in the west followed shortly after and social isolation has taken a root here as well. This is the quote from them after five years _"I was worried about Japan then, now I'm worried just like you were back then about the youth over here."_
We need to stop thinking this problem is encapsulated in the east, since it's rapidly growing here as well. The lockdowns only made things worst and the problem more evident.
I bet his dolls cheat on him.
:)))) I died ...so true
Lol.
Tevusalane
I sure hope so! 🤣
I sneak into the house and bang his dolls while he is out washing windows :D
@@strong6574 hahahaha
One of the guys said the key phrase that prevented him form getting a partner: "None of the girls meets my standards". That is nonsense! He is far from a perfect male, so what are his "standards"? A true relationship grows with time, and both partners help and support the other to grow and mature, improving the relationship. I am married for 40 years, and we were never perfect, nor met each other's "standards", but we did past that difficult part. So can anyoneelse!
The women in the country bro have high standards. They want men who are rich and perfect like a tv drama or boy pop band. Plus their more focus on their own selfish careers than raising children.
These men also want to be with some pop-star they think meet their standard. The women might also have high expectations but some of these guys are unbelievable. Women don't want to sit at home anymore and take care of their husbands. Some of these guys build up these fantasy superficial relationships (with dolls, maids etc). ofcourse they get rejected since anyone can notice that they just want some girlfriend that can't voice her opinion and takes care of them.
Vivian i know this is old, but whats harder to get, money and fame? or decent charisma, submissiveness and a cute persona.
the herbivore men seemed to think looks arent a problem, so they care more about the attitude.
Raymond Ramírez Asian guys are choosy asf. I'm half Mexican half black Brazilian and I was into Asian guys but was rejected. They have high standards like they must be skinny (I'm thin but curvy ) they're still single though. Even my Asian girl friends advised me to stay away from Asian dudes.
meximouse:
Yeah, fuck men for having a preference! I mean, I know women often demand a man that's handsome, fit, rich, and has a perfect personality, or the woman will just dangle the bait called "relationship" just three centimeters beyond his reach, leeching him off emotionally and smearing him all over their social network if he ever gets tired of it... But that's just how women are, you know? Men should be glad for getting any scrap of attention any woman is willing to throw their way, amirite?
When it came to the guy with the dolls, and he said a soul grows in them, I felt so sad for some reason.
Almost had the urge to cry.
So he just talks to the dolls, combs their hair ...
And nothing else?..😏
And in that moment he feels like they have a soul
Oh man... Let that soul scare him... Hahahaha
watching anime all day after that 😂
👌🏾👈🏾
Dude stop
That otaku culture keigo's in is really strange. You get grown middle age men following little girl idols to every event they perform at.
Sheikhspeare
"Sheikhspear"
Hahaha genius xD
What's wrong with otaku's?
they aren't harming anyone or doing anything bad. you should watch "Tokyo Idols" on Netflix, maybe you'd understand these men a little bit more. Keep an open mind instead of judging others like this because they end up judging themselves a lot harder and that's one of the biggest reasons why men or women grow deeply insecure and feel out of place in this world and end up resorting to looking up to idols or people who don't judge them.
Your username is the most creative one I have ever seen, you sir are awesome.
wtf sheikhspeare?? LOL
relationships aren't easy and their not meant to be. people have their ups and downs, skills and faults, thats just life and people are just people. to expect someone to be perfect in every way just doesn't make sense because you are not perfect, why should someone else be for you? sure idols might seem perfect, but they are not 'real' people they are heavily controlled personalities. some times it doesn't work out and you just have to move on or stay friends, no use never trying again if its going to make you feel lonely.
Everyone lies, get with the times and don't expect anything from anyone. The thing i agree with is that is not worth investing a lot of time on someone else when you can be investing it on being happy with yourself. Trying to find your happiness on others or expecting them to fix your psychological/inferiority/complex issues is a moot point. Learn to be passionate about yourself.
Like 7 Oranges when they realize this idols are fake too they will be more lonely
No person is an island. We need community and a sense of belonging. It's important to like who you are and focus on yourself, but alot of people go too far in that extreme and aren't happy either. They end up putting too little effort in developing meaningful connections.
24:32 such deep words, then a giggle. Japanese people are so nice, trying to lighten the mood.
“I want to live a life with less hurt”. I felt that l
lol. Those two guys have a really high standards. And most of it are based on the superficial.
So do the women in the country. The women want the guy to own property and a car. Or so called Mr. Perfect. This scares away majority of the men.
Before you bash these people, it is important to understand that many people of different cultures and civilizations have been condition to have these artificial standards in a love interest. These standards are promoted by society. In the United States, the adopted standards include being sexually attractive, wealthy, and confident while in Japan the standards includes being young, wealthy, and traditional. Sometimes, many people who told to have these standards are really lost in what they truly want in a partner. It's even worse since many people have these artificial and unrealistic expectations tune out from dating and forming relationships when they soon realize that those artificial standards aren't what they really want from a partner. They tune out because they spent so much time adopting these standards instead of forming their own standards they want from a partner.
i wanna give those clowns a mirror.
... not unlike most women, eh?
watch the video, women don't want men just a mere comedian, what kind of high expectation is that? if men expect women more than just giving birth to children is that also high standard?
Japanese mentality for “perfection” has become a problem.
Yep, seems in Japan dating for just having some romance is a waste of time. People prefer to focus on study, work and having fun with friends so a bf or gf is like wasting time. Mostly the reason for dating is finding a partner to marry. And no fun and romances at least seems for many Japanese surely not all.
Japan has offered the world advanced technologies. Who else wouldve done it? Not every country contributes to humanity
sure it's true Japanese perfect has made many great things from cultural, technological etc. But it's different thing to try make a product perfect and social pressure on people to be perfect.
Awh this is so sadly pathetic . This is delusional to the extreme.
@@paulmcgorian5712
I know I would rather date an average person who is real and engaging than be perfect and lonely sad indeed.
This my future
Who's with me?
They need to change their culture when it comes to socializing. People should be encouraged to be honest but respectful, assertive and not passive. The shyness, lack of communication and showing unconditional love is what's killing all of us.
Very true, the problem with the world is each cultures thought standards of what if and buts, i pray they can change their systems or else they will be un such an unlikely place, we all deserves to find our simpliest truest joys, me i am hopeful that someone will come in my life and be my love ❤️
Yup it's not only Japan but this whole digital society
@@devlishangel1, I will pray you find your special someone. 🤗
@@DJUniMekaju … Thank you very much ♥️
@@devlishangel1, you're welcome. 😄
I believe the issue of a lot of young Japanese man is that, they are too perfectionist, and there's no "perfect" woman around them. They like a pretty, skinny, feminine woman who caters to them. When they meet that kinda ideal woman for them, they get rejected because they are not handsome or rich enough. On the other hand, woman's standards are high too, not necessarily on the physical level but they want man to be educated, rich, manly... The country is not helping either, there is no support for parents with kids. No parent leave when the baby is born, not enough economic support, low amount of daycares and kindergartens... TBH it sounds like is easier to be single and enjoy the life. After all living in Japan especially Tokyo, is so much fun.
They just use that as an excuse to fall back on. The dude didnt look interest in those girls anyways he knows hes not boyfriend material and just makes jokes then says they werent good enough after. That idol hides her true personality anyways so the girl he wants doesn't exist. What is fun about living in japan? just curious.
Easy for a beautiful woman like you to say...
This is sort of a problem everywhere. People are always trying to fish deeper than their fishing lines allow. It seems to be pretty hard to accept you are not great stuff.
Still, this looks way worse in Asia. I find them incredibly awkward. These guys looks like teens. They can't even talk to women. Grow some balls, Asians!
Females are in fact more successful then man in any developed world. Just look at the statistics. Smarter women wants even smarter male partner so we should consider women more of a perfectionist than men. It is natural human instinct for a female to find man better than them because it insures survival for the next generation and that's natural. Today although men are the bulky gender of society they are usually hardworking but some aspects of society and economical tightness took this away from men making them more prone to loose there jobs and isolated themselves from relationships while thinking how much women can be very demanding from men. Those demand women place can put men in stress if the men does not have higher status like wealth and education then their partner. Men today turned reality into fantasy because it felt like they can keep up in there fantasy then their reality like real relationships and jobs therefore use distractions and escapism to accomplish there imaginations. It's that lack of social stigma that men are put through making men silently depressed without anyone knowing this make this situation truly sad in how generation treat relationships
@killermeh meh Pretty much if you make lots of money in Japan for a lot of men they could have fun with different girls all the time without ever settling down which is a big reason why imo people don't get married, also the food are great.
"some women sign up for free food rather than finding a partner..." Yaaas! That's my girl!!! :D
Norda Vind just heard that as I read your comment lol
NexusWarior211 aw, male tears. that will accompany the free food quite nicely!
Norda Vind Inb4 you bitch about MGTOW and why nobody wants a snowflake like you.
Are you serious?
Jay Diggy Japanese women are not is miserable by being single.they choose to be single bc if we get married and have kids it will be extremely hard to continue working. If you don't know the work place in japan is very Pettit of there's no time for finding love, people work almost to death there
Japan is out off this world which makes me love them more
Another 10 years when this doll become live AI. This doll guy will be Visionary instead of weirdo.
keigo is in a bubble of his own. there is no perfect girl. he has an idea set off of an idol girl who probably acts completely different off stage and behind the scenes. these girls are told to act nice and act sweet in order to earn the money from their fans.
there's nothing to explain here, the thing is in japan, people is too used to think famous people behave in their private life just like they behave in the scenario, that's not how it works, but japanese people are too naive to understand that
@asian dude Idols have a persona - like actors - where they have lots of energy, friendliness and cuteness. Keigo worships an idol but he does not realise who he loves is only a persona, she does not exist. Keigo's expectations for a girlfriend are abnormal because of his idol worship. He is stuck in fantasy.
That's not to say idols are fake and terrible people, they are normal people like us. We just don't get to know the true person behind the persona.
The guy is in love with an illusion. Kind of feel bad for him. Hopefully he will grow out of this fetish.
@@expsterm1 is he really in love with an illusion, or he uses this illusion as an excuse to not get out there? it seems to me that he set a high standard, that he knows he can't reach and he finds all girls too low for his standards, only to secure the avoidance of rejection.
@@amelia1868 I think you are right. Fantasy really is a way to avoid reality. Reality is painful sometimes. He probably didn't have much male model or influence in his life to show him that being rejected by a female is just part of life. I was taught for example to pick yourself up and move on to the next target, that there are many fish in the ocean. I remember being told by a male mentor to think of rejection as one step closer to the One and have fun with it.
holeup. That dude's doll-girlfriend is Sakura lmao. she's like 11 haha
Time to Call the Lolicops and the FBI
RIGHT??
Luiz Builder_Roblox BR dont forget the c4s theyre useful for walls
Boom FaceYT Don't forget the drum mags,we are going to use some ammo
Then why is her body that of an adult woman?
Japanese and Korean we grew up being told we must study 12 hours per day to go to good university and everything else comes after even dating. Then we consume a lot of pop culture to ease our mind from the pressure. Also we don’t have a lot of free time or place to go to spend spare time so we play and take break online most of the time. And you continue this life style even when you are grown up. Things only get worse when you grow up with all the other problems we have. so people lose hopes and become disinterested in finding love. It’s not that they chose this reality either. But in fact we’re not that different from our past generations. We are just not forced to get married like people back in the days with arranged marriage. Without being forced to get married we just choose not to. It’s a horrible decision financially anyways.
I am an American and almost 78. My one big regret in my life was not finding a relationship with a Japanese lady. I had a relationship with a lady in the Philippines, a French lady from Quebec, one from Mexico, a German lady from Austria and one from Colombia. Years ago when I was in my teens, I had a pen pal (pen pals were popular in the late 1950's and 1960's) and if my memory serves me correctly, her name was Michiko Haoka or Haoko. (Michiko? Are you still out there?)
Why so many foreign women? Well, I traveled a lot because I had this powerful penchant for meeting all kinds of people and learning about their lifestyles, languages and culture. However, I have been looking deeply into the modern Japanese culture. While I think I would have a terrible time with the culture norms, I still would like to settle down permanently with an older Japanese lady. I speak Spanish, German and VERY marginal French. But unfortunately, no Japanese, but I have been looking at learning some of it on the Internet.
"They don't meet my standards".. and he's like a 4/10
BreathingBelow _ ya but with that personality a 4 is kinda high.
But what if his standards revolve on a different spectrum?
he literally says that he's like a lowlife at the end, so I dont really smell any hypocrisy. And since when is it wrong to dream?
He may be a 4/10 to you, but I found him kinda cute.
He understands that I think. That's why he doesn't bother, it looks like he's given up on the world
These guys have WAY too high of standards. Seriously. There are NOT that many idols in the world where they'd even have a chance at dating them.
Idols are normal people just like them
They have to understand that
crystal.pepsi western women are sadly the same way
Women date up, so if you are a man at the bottom the really is no one to date for you outside of invalids, so they rather chose to live in fantasy land.
Fankas2000 There is no universal "up" or "down" in dating. The only thing that has been consistently proven is that people in general tend to marry within the same economic class. But there are plenty of exceptions to this.
Believing that there is such a thing as being at the bottom, is what destroys people's confidence to actually go out and try.
Meanwhile in 2019 , my neighbour already have 11 kids and still wont stop. Damm... japan is another whole another lvel country
Send that man over to Japan to repopulate the country immediately.
Not related to the topic but Kazuki's hometown is so beautiful, exactly like in animes...I hope his efforts pay off..
Some girls signed up because the event offered free food... not in to find bae
Anna Gibbons you're probably not that attractive so it wouldn't work.
Zabi Faqiri p
Who doesn't like free food, mate?
@@carnival5925 Yeah whereas men are such heros who never think of themselves. Woe is you. Booohhhooooooooo
@@jess5007 mhmmm 😒
Maid cafes and idol groups terrify me. With say, a girl in an anime or game, it's obvious that they are fictional. I mean, they're a bunch of 2D pixels after all! So it stands to reason that they way they speak and behave is also fiction. But the girls in maid cafes and idol groups are real, human girls, who are behaving like fictional characters. This is where things get dangerous. I think it's blatantly obvious that these girls are putting on an act, but I suspect that many idol and maid cafe fans might not realize this. They're going to go though life, looking for a real girl who acts in the hyper cute and childish manner that these girls do, and they're never going to find a girl like that.
totally terrifying..
Bcuz there idiots.
Rejection is part of life...and dating.
The men know it's fake too. While creepy for those grounded in reality, for those who opt to visit or live in a fantasy world instead of building a better personal reality - it is just escapism taken to an extreme. Lack of confidence, and confused gender role in a society in transition form traditional to western modern has left many feeling lost. They can't behave like their fathers/grandfathers. They don't know how to be modern men - no role models to grow up aspiring to. Loneliness hurts and fantasy is an escape. But no one is saying they can't live in a fantasy world. Women focused on climbing the ladder and expecting traditional aspects of men making more and being more successful is also setting as unreasonable standards as the men's fantasy characters. There needs to be a social shift to allow more balanced roles, and remove the unreasonable standards of and from both genders. Roles have changed, but not expectations. It kills confidence, and leads to desperation.
This maid and idol obession makes me sick, but in a way I think that the problem goes both ways. Alot of japanese girls are high maintenance they want rich men who can give designer clothes and such things, my pinay girlfriend have a japanese-filipino niece Yukie just want designer labels and are spending tens of thousands of her paycheck every month on designer labels like clothes, handbags, shoes and other such things, if a jpanese girl doesn't have a high paying job like Yukie it's not surprising that she would be going for a sugardaddy.
Whatever makes them happy. Better to be alone and happy in a fantasy that doesn't harm anyone, rather than forcing themselves into relationships and causing hesrtbreaks all around.
But that is what this video is about. They are hurting people. They stopped mating.
I been rejected too and tried again in the pursuing of love from a woman. Now I am in a loving healthy relationship with a woman.
lol "id like some water from your last bath"
Literally the creepiest pick-up line I've ever heard...
thecatbehemoth lol
ew
thecatbehemoth it's funny tho
garing pisan nya si tolol komedian
Sounds like my last BF. He spent most of his time watching anime, found out he had a "girlfriend", not like another girl but an anime character who he was in love with and so on.
That happens when you date a guy who watches kids cartoons. Did you learn your lesson?
So blow him. Bet he forgets about her real quick.
Juuso Peltoniemi that's a pretty dumb comment. To judge someone for their likes says more about you than them. Ps my bow partner also watches anime. Has nothing to do with watching anime or not. It's about personality. Maybe you can learn something.
Mr Caesar you tell him!!! My partner now also watches anime and we are also happy together.
@@elizavallentine1703 great stuff u now happy. Thanks for sharing
Love and relationships is not for everyone . Not in our days . Have your own project , to spend time . Lonelyness is a luxury problem .
Let's be honest, in a country that you have to study more than 10 hours a day in schools and even after that, and work 6 days a week for nearly half of a day , DO U EVEN HAVE NERVE TO TRY AND FIND IT IN ORDER TO HAVE MORE PROBLEMS???