An introvert's guide to networking | Rick Turoczy | TEDxPortland
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ค. 2018
- Rick explains that every person knows someone that someone else should know. That introverts can be comfortable with being uncomfortable by "collecting dots" and connecting dots only that willing individuals can see. If we are intentional on our own terms we can build community by making common sense, common.
Rick has been an active partner of startups within the Portland area for over 20 years, and produces content on his tech blog, Silicon Florist. Co-founder and GM of Wieden+Kennedy’s PIE (Portland Incubator Experiment), Rick advises engineers, makers, doers, bloggers, and geeks to create tech-fueled cultural disruptions around the world.
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Great point - introverts are really good at providing insights because they are so good at introspection and reflection. If more people could stop and reflect the dots would connect more easily. Nice Talk Rick!
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
Great talk. I’ve always seen networking as a self-serving, if necessary, activity. I like the idea of my networking creating necessary links between people who can help each another. Also, in a time that we’re glued to our phones, good old fashioned coffee dates are a refreshing departure. Thanks, Rick!
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
This is literally gold, seriously why doesn’t this have a million views?
That's cuz gold is precious, so only rich people only can get it 🥀
@@estacx. because its banal and patronising . It doesnt have any substance either.
Because he basically doesn't have a point and his only insight is "introverts have a different perspective"
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
The views are introvert
Rick you are underestimating the wonderful impact you have on people! You were kind enough to grab coffee with me in 2014 before I had even moved to Portland and gave such wonderful insight. Thank you for being so generous with your time and dots.
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
I'm an introvert as well, never thought a cup of coffee could help "connecting the dots" with others. Now I can see it could do beyond than just that, thanks!
As a fellow introvert, I really loved this. I will say yes to the next coffee invite, Rick, you won me over.
I know, I need to meet him, as a fellow introverted Portlander. With this talk, he has given me confidence in my upcoming job search come September.
@@ashleypg1708 Just let me know, Ash! I'd love to hear how the job search went.
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
I do great at speaking to groups, it's the one on one conversations that petrify me especially if I am in a room full of people I don't know. I speak my mind freely during meetings and such but approaching someone one on one afterwards can be very hard for me. I can and do connect with people one on one online or via email with no problem. I also am very good at connecting people with others. How can I overcome my awkwardness and fear of meeting or talking to people one on one? Or approaching people one on one at outreach events? I tend to sit at my booth or table and wait for people to approach me. Once they do, I'm totally fine with talking with them. It's when I have to approach them, that I start to feel anxious.
Same thing 😔
The art of conversation is knowing what to say--briefly--then gracefully moving on to the next person. No one expects 5 minutes of fascinating small talk. Go for 30 seconds of happy, friendly chat rather than 3 minutes of awkward bantering, then move on. It helps to be prepared with a few favorite opening comments that are universal, interesting, and brief. Google these or listen to what other people say and add them to your library. These will be your go-to comments at most every event in the future. Once you speak, the ball's in their court, so leave it to them to respond. If you listen closely, you'll hear your follow-up question in their comment, if a follow up is really needed, which is rare. Final observation: A nice compliment to someone will be remembered waaaay longer than what you said about topic X, Y, or Z. Smile and lift people up and everyone wins.
Its the opposite for me kind of...
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
sort of same thing for me, but I am in middle school instead and want trustworthy friends and to build myself a network to help each other out and keep company i guess
I started my TH-cam Channel for Introverts and those dealing with Anxiety because as an introvert I believe we need more people talking about introversion and anxiety in order to bring awareness and a sense of normalcy.
sure i will check out well check out mine as well and maybe we can connect on instagram at Ysaehi Konrad
Oh thanks alot
I'm checking ur channel now
You're amazing!
It IS normal. It's just a different personality type.
@@lindasue8719 Yeah, But introverts, we are hiding in backstage . We are missing the life.
Been introvert my entire life and this is changing as I become a PT, grow my network and business
Hi from another introvert
Hi fellow introvert!
Hi
Hello from an extreme introvert
Hi from yet another introvert
hey there, lets connect on Instagram at Ysaehi Konrad
Wow. This made sense to me, considering I am an INFJ. This is good advice about the dots. It's so great that I stumbled on this video. I learn a lot.
This is precisely what I needed. Thanks for sharing Rick!
Two cups of coffee to network.
That is an awesome idea from one introvert to another introvert. Thank you very much
The hii at 4:37 was a warm welcome to introverts!! Thank you Rick for this kind gesture.
I'm a more extroverted community builder but I really relate to Rick's description of collecting dots and connecting them. That's my value to the Sacramento startup community.
Thank you! I really appreciate the extroverts who do this work, too.
Thanks for sharing this. I am an extroverted-introvert. I found my way to mastering networking, which I just shared on my channel with the hope anyone sees and field better.
Love this! I love meeting people for coffee! I love connecting people!
Thank you for sharing these valid and helpful points on networking!
Nice, Rick. Portland appreciates you.
Thank you!
Hey there! Just stumbled upon "An Introvert's Guide to Networking" and it's an eye-opener! Rick really knows his stuff. As introverts, networking can feel daunting, but his advice on "collecting dots" and connecting them in our own terms is genius. Let's build our community and make common sense, well, common! Time to conquer those networking events with confidence!
I really love this - - thanks so much!
what exactly does Rick do for a living? hearing this made me remember how i consider myself a collector of sorts, and if i can collect people and then draw lines between them like that, then i wanna do it
I run a startup accelerator called PIE, so I'm always hoping to connect with interesting companies and potential startups. That's what drives a lot of my dot collecting and connecting.
"Collecting the dots isn't even the most valuable part...", he goes on to say, " the real value comes when I have the opportunity to step back and reflect on that dot. Upon reflection, that dot gains context. It gains connection. It starts to provide value to all the other dots."
After watching this valuable video, I have decided to go and have an amazing golden cup of coffee with an amazing new person with common sense that is not common :D. Thank you, Rick!
grateful that i found this ted talk
It was awesome, really enjoyed it
I feel like networking is hard maybe for my environment at least for me especially Im also an introvert, because on my campus network can only achieved when you're volunteering/joining an organization within campus- where it's less harder when you actually enjoy your time there. It's not as easy to ask them to hangout, sadly. Everyone are so busy, people hang out privately I almost feel like I never really know everybody
Amazing! Very valuable
Thanks for the tips
Great talk regarding networking! Networking is a huge way to succeed and everyone needs to be able to do it. Great message and advice!
Tip Top, I'll share this with my creative introverts!
Idk, this man's humour sounds like a confirmation of all socially awkward people, not just introverts.
Love it!
This is brilliant
Im so proud of introverts are doing good in the world makes me tear up. Makes me less sad about me being unsuccessful
Fantastic! Fantastic!
Wonderful explanation
giggling all through the talk
One of the best smart stand up comedy
Thanks!
That's brilliant!
Came here cause my social level got drained like 30 min into a start up meeting and planned to network but I’ve been a hermit crab as a full time student and wah I forgot how hard it was to meet new people
Watching this just before meeting
thanks for the video
Only said 2 important thing this whole video
First: 1 on 1 conversation are easier
2: Go invite someone for lunch to build a connection
Love it
Good point!
great advice. it's not as simple as it sounds though. everything and everyone terrifies me
Marvellous
Great talk
Thank you!
The family system also produces a lot of people who are easily threaten. It tends to mix with network people as that group huddles together to stick.
This "connecting dots, 1 on 1 meeetings" seems to be a strategy that CEOs like Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk prefer to use because it is more focused and the conversations are deeper.
Yeah but finding the worthy other is a bit of a challenge ...isn't it ? I mean you don't pump into them all the day
🤣💀 when he said my best friend was a walnut.
I don't know what the walnut did to him,but I'm sure it protects him from bullying,by that I mean he throws that wallnut at the bullies
As an introvert, I like group meetings more than one-on-one meetings because I rely on others to add fluff to the conversation
Agreed 👍
Introverts rule the world!!!
thank you , i will make a new friend and a tea with him to create a new dot ,and if some one asks me for a tea i will say yes.
I didn't understand.. someone summarise the dot thing
I am another introvert in 2024 tapping in to get wisdom.
Sure I would say yes to the next coffee invite, but we introverts don't get a lot of em.
I chose CS because I thought I will be coding from home all day long and dont have meet anyone in real life but now that I have reached the point where I have enough skills and I have been trying to get a job but I am getting rejected because of my zero social skills and zero network. I mean I cant even talk to my programmer neighbour I just cant. So that's why I am here.😅
This is the third vid on networking that I didn't find very useful... I start to think it is a real challenge !
Give me a break have coffee and connect like you bump into worthy people all the time or they wont think what that creepy wants from me ..
Sorry Introverts we have to have a different strategy than this ..love to all of you !
Exactly! I agree with you. People won't easily accept to go for a coffee date. You would have to face so many rejections from people before one person would finally agree to go on a coffee date.
@@mamabear3610 I think the more you get rejected the more you learn to adjust your approach
@@keithrobin6566 thank you
I find that unless the other person suggests one-on-one coffee, it just won't fly.
I'm a decent, normal person (and well liked in my small social circle, so I don't think I give off a creep Vibe lol), but when I've suggested coffee with most people, the question may never have existed, or at worst, they insist on a group ... Usually of their friends or colleagues.
I have found that the best information comes from HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) resources. The information might be very slightly different from introverts, but for me it nailed it exactly. You'll find lots of good information on the internet.
I was fortunate to go to a series of workshops locally. Aside from the overall excellent information learned a couple of really good points that were relevant to my life and interacting, especially with groups and with people I don't know.
Yeah... Introvert. Done with that ages ago. (Smile, make yourself converse. You're not fake, nor are you putting on airs.)
No less, from this moment forth I don't care what anyone ever said; be it majority nor any place of learning... I do pledge my sole word, will, and accord mine own person. Lord, let it be so. Amen.
❤️❤️❤️
First, i always want to write it :)
On Network people earning it and becoming leaders.
They end of receiving a lot of installed thinking.
They tend to be very fragile in discussion and consider their views and current tactics definitive .
They don't like to listen to a lot of thinking outside of their group even when new information is always emerging.
They view their group as very small rather than taking in the minds of all those around them and help build their country.
They need to see that taking in new ideas and changing yours when confronted with new information as a strength when leading.
Wow I don't feel alone now. 😁
00:33 🌐 Portland's diverse startup community extends beyond tech, encompassing areas like apparel, banking, healthcare, and more.
01:22 🤖 Building community within a startup ecosystem is a grassroots effort, and anyone, including introverts, can contribute.
04:24 🍵 Introverts can excel at one-on-one meetings, making face-to-face interactions less intimidating than group events.
07:05 🤝 "Collecting dots" through coffee meetings efficiently connects people, fostering community and diverse perspectives.
08:12 🧠 The real value in building community comes after reflection, as connections between collected dots gain context and provide insights.
10:50 ☕ Schedule a coffee meeting with one new person to start building community, as everyone has unique dots that can contribute to a more tightly knit startup community.
Buenos porque acostumbrados a incertidumbre y nervios, comprender sentido post jintada,
Not too many comments because introverts don't really comment
I didn’t learn anything from this 😂
Facts, honestly there was no advice for introverts at all
As someone who's just really getting his career started - I always thought that networking was for jerks with an underlying agenda. Never thought about it as connecting the dots and reflecting on who needs to know who.
This here my man
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The point are walnut is solid
I felt alone for along time
Common sense for, special for others.
Take a cup of coffee, collect a dots
Still waiting for my invite 😂😀
Are there any sides for introverts?
💡
Being introverted and being shy are two completely different things.
portlanders also seem on the cutting edge of rioting and chaos.
Hello from another introvert! Are there any options for collecting half dots?
Here's my half dot.. 😉
Greetings from an introvert mutated to an ambivert
It is not in the real world 🌎. In real world introverts must choose carefully, it isn't just connecting dots, you mustn't rely upon everyone, it's often a fatal mistake. Also something surprising is that the majority of people are introverts
Hello 👋 from an introvert
I dont know why i m being introvert some times bexome extrovert person . it happens sometimes and i enjoye and remember those moments but unfortunately againe become introvert
what a pitch
30 years, never had a coffee invite, thanks society, another reminder that it hates me.
Good idea with coffee meetings. However I don't drink coffee.....
I find it difficult to find a job because I don't have any connections. All I do is just apply on job ads. I am losing hope
I really want to be better at networking and building a community. I get so stuck in myself. I wish it was easier. Ugh.
So am i. Do you think that it is hard? If you need communicate with somebody, you just do it. Not easy, not hard. You can come into action without bad thoughts.
We will achieve this.
@@Snnne-df8di Thank you for the great words. You are correct. We just have to push ourselves and take that damn chance. I remind myself of how fast time is going and that I cannot afford to waste anymore time.
i like to talk with objects that make me laugh but i fear by just looking at faces...
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If people are talented or skillful in something, it isn't because they are from network. Most have to work against what they are taught to actually acquire a skill.
They are often given a lot of misinformation.
"whoring?" There is a big range in that and a lot of it is subjective.
Sure you will find more of these people there.
Do they make the best ones? Just by numbers?
Introverts rule the world..... 😉
I've been here
Is networking more like superficial? It's not like everyone open up with everyone they meet right?
8:48 Bru, Louise CK.
too late dude
i gotta say being introvert is way more powerful than being extrovert ..
the only way extroverts beat introverts is the time before graduating .. and thats not what everybody agrees on
if your introvert and financially stable BE that way
Under society's heavy weight an extrovert can easily be turned / crushed in to a meaningless introvert 😢
He sounds like Jeb the gardener without that twinge that you know it's sarcasm.
I'll work on my twinge ❤️