Ask Better Questions to Build Better Connections | Amber L. Wright | TEDxCSULB

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  • Asking better questions isn’t simply another way to make small talk. Instead, it’s a path to creating real connection with the people around you, in a thoughtful and genuine way. This talk by communication expert and certified life coach, Amber L. Wright, explores how to ask better questions and invest in one of life’s greatest currencies: relationships. Amber L. Wright, CSULB Alumna, is a communication expert, certified life coach, and speaker who helps people find their voice during moments that matter. An award-winning educator, she holds a master’s degree in Interpersonal Communication. Well versed in the power of storytelling, she is known for giving dynamics presentations on how to communicate effectively and live authentically.
    Amber has shared her expertise on what it means to speak, live, and lead with confidence in notable media outlets such as Forbes, Mashable, Fast Company, and Black Enterprise. She is the host of the Talk to Amber Podcast and author of, “Can We Talk? 10 Life Lessons on Finding Your Voice and Finding Yourself,” a wildly popular personal development book. She is a married mom of two, proud lefty, and a card-carrying member of Beyonce’s BeyHive. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @roolshool
    @roolshool 2 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Criminally underrated talk

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow, thank you so much, Ruhul!

    • @50tenspro
      @50tenspro 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed Ruhul! So glad this came across my feed. Dr. Wright gets to the crux of what constitutes meaningful communication. Thank you Mrs. Wright. 😊

    • @tomherald
      @tomherald 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree!

  • @januarsalonga2170
    @januarsalonga2170 2 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    "I'm not doing my best today but I'm trying my best." Powerful. Thank you Amber,

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you for watching, Januar!

    • @EngrushOfficial
      @EngrushOfficial ปีที่แล้ว

      @@wordswellsaid Thank you for enlightening us through your valuable words. Love you from India.

  • @MrValod818
    @MrValod818 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    So much compassion in her voice.

  • @silondilejali5473
    @silondilejali5473 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I did yesterday, I wasn't having the greatest day and when asked how I am - my response was "I'm not having the best day but I'm doing my best". And let me tell you how goooood that felt, to be honest and vulnerable yet still able to maintain my privacy. Thank you Amber

  • @MissHuergo
    @MissHuergo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Thank you Amber, what an amazing speech.
    I had the same situation a week ago with my very close friends or (Big Sister) Pamela. I always smile even when I cry but this time I was sinking from the inside. We gather up at her house and we’re talking about life. For the past weeks and months I wasn’t fine and she took the momentum to not ask me but to tell me; I know you are not okay. WOW! that was powerful I literally couldn’t hold my tears., It was a very emotional time. My best friend committed suicide two months ago and after that day I been so aware of these feelings, so harsh.
    If you are reading this and consider yourself a good friend pay attention and good luck 🍀

  • @spyram31
    @spyram31 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Wow, “Communicating with intention”, I love it.

  • @yassirislam5223
    @yassirislam5223 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    An excellent talk..warm, engaging ,and full of insight..thank you!

  • @inyango9055
    @inyango9055 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just love her energy and her voice

  • @kristinedreimane1454
    @kristinedreimane1454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Absolutely love this speach! Thank you ❤

  • @91choudhariazam
    @91choudhariazam 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love you Professor. You are the best one.

  • @mrterrygivens
    @mrterrygivens 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    What a wonderful explanation of this skill. Thank you Amber.

  • @aqmeriamen-wint6313
    @aqmeriamen-wint6313 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is really amazing! Thank you Amber!

  • @VernettaRFreeney
    @VernettaRFreeney 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Great talk Amber. Definitely need to do better asking better questions myself.

  • @ajordan1847
    @ajordan1847 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Amber you are such an inspiring communicator!!! Grateful to be able to witness your, "genius zone" in action. I plan to implement what you shared with others, the intentionality in questioning and showing empathy, resonated. Awesomeness all around.😊 (by the way this is Alethea J from class).

  • @frany7493
    @frany7493 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant, sweet, caring, powerfully humble and effective.
    Thank you 💕💕💕

  • @pranayraycha9974
    @pranayraycha9974 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had been wondering for a long time how to connect things in order to remember them and how to remember to connect things. And suddenly I see this video in my recommendation and yeah I found one answer. Thank you.

  • @user-rf5cm2if2t
    @user-rf5cm2if2t 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Meaningful speech, thank you Amber ❤

  • @reginabass4515
    @reginabass4515 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for helping me through your speech recognize it is okay not to be okay.

  • @tashajackson6751
    @tashajackson6751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I saw this talk live several months ago (pre-covid). It has stayed with me. Truly inflicted the way I talk to my youngest. Thank you for this gift. Your talk has had impact! 🙏

  • @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc
    @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for this talk!!! Just what I was looking for. Very well presented.

  • @roopakurup3931
    @roopakurup3931 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Such a powerful and amazing talk. Loved it.
    Thank you Dr Wright for such an inspiring talk .

  • @raeg5257
    @raeg5257 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was incredible!! I have been feeling like my relationships have been superficial the last while. And it made me feel like for some reason I was at fault. But I’m going to try to ask more insightful questions. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!!

  • @Abahale11
    @Abahale11 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Its amazing how deep we are in this "education narrative", besides accepting the fact that we all are learning and all we can do is try to communicate this learning to others. There's no such thing as "teaching".

  • @dorothyedwards7225
    @dorothyedwards7225 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you, that was uplifting and connecting.

  • @user-xd7gd6rg8j
    @user-xd7gd6rg8j 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love every single words of this

  • @flossa1960
    @flossa1960 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this talk is amazing, it’s really changed my outlook! thank you amber

  • @CEOLife
    @CEOLife 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much! These are great, community is everything!

  • @06.phamvomybinh44
    @06.phamvomybinh44 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    love your talk. really inspired. thanks a lot amber

  • @ajinkyadeshmukh6324
    @ajinkyadeshmukh6324 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so so much for this info! It changed my perspective and made me think deeply about relationship building!

  • @jordantoronto863
    @jordantoronto863 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this talk so much!!!!

  • @JOwens
    @JOwens 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love this, Amber Authentic Communication bonds, builds and helps us grow positive relationships . Thanks - it’s the best mentoring.

  • @darchabennett7917
    @darchabennett7917 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That was awesome and much needed, thanks for the transparency 😊

  • @trameldavis7763
    @trameldavis7763 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well said Ms. Amber.

  • @priscaisimoya
    @priscaisimoya ปีที่แล้ว

    I really enjoyed this speech!

  • @yordanostemesgen1417
    @yordanostemesgen1417 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is such an interesting topic to talk about !!

  • @user-cj7xw4bk6j
    @user-cj7xw4bk6j 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love her.

  • @caneysherfield
    @caneysherfield ปีที่แล้ว

    Very insightful thank you for sharing!

  • @Ms76Cocoa
    @Ms76Cocoa 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was so good Amber! Thank you!

  • @tomato3347
    @tomato3347 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing talk, learned Hundred things

  • @jameskovach1210
    @jameskovach1210 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Much appreciation Amber, for sharing, and for enduring and/or moving through whatever obstacles “could have” stopped your work from getting to the rest of us. Is the phenomenon of -the entire universe being made up of nothing but answers (the only action necessary is to ask Questions [quality questions] to receive them) a common observation?
    Is this observation incorrect?
    If individual people are an aggregate that make up a more complex being, then you are a healthy cell and I’m grateful.
    Being Human is weird huh? Hope you enjoy these questions and many thanks.
    Is a “rhetorical question” just a phrase for a statement? Why are there so many important definitions for the word “just,” such a commonly used word? Sorry for yammering, I JUST have so many questions. 😂
    Your speech has brought about an action in me, to make an effort to be aware of questions asked-and to react in a pleasant way to the curious and information seekers encountered throughout the day. To be aware when I am making statements rather than connections and so much more.

  • @Sky_11029
    @Sky_11029 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One of the best ted talks I've seen I wonder why so little visibility

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I appreciate that, Diane. Thank you!

  • @wildfireol
    @wildfireol 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant talk 💜

  • @NaturalieOne
    @NaturalieOne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ambert is amazing.

  • @eclips3354
    @eclips3354 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing talk!!!

  • @kwamechristianesq.4558
    @kwamechristianesq.4558 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Incredible talk!

  • @strainwashed
    @strainwashed หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you amber

  • @kaimurphy7953
    @kaimurphy7953 ปีที่แล้ว

    GREAT TED TALK!!!

  • @michelleb4035
    @michelleb4035 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wonderful advice.

  • @tebogoikaneng727
    @tebogoikaneng727 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the talk, and I learnt a lot...

  • @justinaez4029
    @justinaez4029 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Đã là fan thì mãi mãi là fan😉💗

  • @rosedevereux2391
    @rosedevereux2391 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    4:18-7:30 💝💖💞
    "You young AND you old at the same _toime_ " Sooo Cali!!

  • @carololiveira6889
    @carololiveira6889 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just beautiful !!

  • @maureenclement2553
    @maureenclement2553 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonderful!

  • @ambermack7243
    @ambermack7243 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved this

  • @danaa.leblanc2543
    @danaa.leblanc2543 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent. Clear and concise. Thank you.

  • @carmensumlin4294
    @carmensumlin4294 ปีที่แล้ว

    AWESOME!

  • @tamannaarora8892
    @tamannaarora8892 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are phenomenal

  • @tushararan9222
    @tushararan9222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful!

  • @prenapoetry
    @prenapoetry 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @mosytube
    @mosytube 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Solid. Very.

  • @Hervebutoyi
    @Hervebutoyi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Way too few views! thanks for the talk Amber. All the way from Denmark.

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for watching, all the way in Denmark!

  • @BobF510
    @BobF510 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is an amazing reservoir of knowledge. A book I read with similar wisdom was a paradigm shift for me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @ContentCanvasYT
    @ContentCanvasYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is profound.

  • @joshaquino8189
    @joshaquino8189 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thoughtfully curious

  • @TheStreetsurfer06
    @TheStreetsurfer06 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing

  • @bizhustle3741
    @bizhustle3741 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Perception shattered, Connection made... Nice!

  • @jasonhewitt2150
    @jasonhewitt2150 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are good

  • @TellSamyra
    @TellSamyra 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Helpful

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you, Samyra! I'm glad you found it helpful.

  • @antjr54
    @antjr54 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Interesting

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 ปีที่แล้ว

    7:40

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 ปีที่แล้ว

    10:05

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 ปีที่แล้ว

    3:30

  • @HilalIbnKhalifat
    @HilalIbnKhalifat ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Relationships are life's greatest currency" can a metaphor be more American than that 😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @christinadone774
    @christinadone774 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Today is all I have

  • @user-mx5vr5ce7m
    @user-mx5vr5ce7m 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Kendrick Lamar is even talked about in Ted talks 🔥🔥🔥🔥 drake stood no chance

  • @robrobusa
    @robrobusa 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wonder - how does one stop oneself from oversharing, then? :D

  • @MekonenMeteor123
    @MekonenMeteor123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lose sleep by that opener of this talk I have the worst icebreaking questions

  • @Arachne-qw1vr
    @Arachne-qw1vr ปีที่แล้ว

    Nah. I used to be like that. It's only good in micro doses.

  • @pazzodi3
    @pazzodi3 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is corporate nonsense. True meaningful questions are the most difficult ones to ask.. how about asking, what's the most difficult thing about being you, what's the hardest thing about being a child/sibling/young, what's the easiest thing about being you? Etc.... Superficial questions will lead to superficial relationships.

  • @parisrealick
    @parisrealick ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Go deep, not wild" @tykwondoe