I Spent 8 Years LETTING GO... (95% Of People Get This Wrong)
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- This is the "letting go technique" that I've personally used the past 8 years... Discover HOW to let go using these 3 simple steps!
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I Spent 8 Years LETTING GO... (95% Of People Get This Wrong)
How to let go! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to let go using the letting go technique... Discover the art of letting go!
How to let go in 3 simple steps:
Step One: Become aware of what you want to let go of
Step Two: Allow yourself to experience it fully
Step Three: Let it come up and let it out
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honestly my biggest takeaway is that I realized I'm wasting time on TH-cam and Netflix every day, if I'm gonna accomplish my goals I should let that go.
Every attempt at finding a distraction from the unrest of our inner state is actually forming layers away from this peace within. We learn so much that the process of learning and searching in itself is the distraction we seek to avoid. Do less, be less, feel more deeply.
Thanks Julian for your work is has helped me navigate through tough times.
To FULLY experience the current moment/feelings inside, as much as I can. Im gonna do that now :)
😮Hey Julien. You make awesome content. But still waiting for you to speak about Porn and Masterbation? @julienHimself
My takeaway. Be genuine be authentic! I don’t think anyone else can “play” me lol 😂
“It’s at that point where you can be okay with it being there forever that it’s gone”
I NEEDED THIS more than ever and finally it really made sense to me. Thank you.
Yeah that's what I thought too.
its a mindset change, which sounds counterintuitive as doing act but afterwards it isnt.
Not gonna lie I felt my defenses go up when you mentioned how sad some people's existence is with how much they distract themselves. Even though I know you weren't talking to me specifically, I had the same feeling as if someone literally said it right to my face. I know I spend too much of my time on distractions and that I'm just putting off things that I know I should be doing instead, but don't want to do. I just didn't want to admit it to myself. Thanks for the wake up call Julien!
I stopped my distraction 8 years ago and FELT my emotions for the first time - changed my life
You can do it 🙌
With such beautiful honesty and insight, I know you got this brother. I wish you all the best
@@robertyatesagreed 🔥
Did you stay on the call or went back to sleep :D ? Checking in.
But I’m still gonna watch a film and not feel guilty
Great presentation! Just one thing to note, (at the end) he says that letting go makes you whole. It doesn’t make you whole. You’re already whole. It just brings your consciousness back to seeing and knowing that as the truth because you’ve now removed the false filters through which you’ve been looking at your life experiences.
I would say fine, but not whole, idk... That's just my take anyway... Like y'know...
Actually feeling like there's something missing, is what I would call this... They're not whole in the sense that they actively are holding back a part of themselves, or it's been blocked or locked away, and they would have to put in necessary effort to overcome that and resurface it...
Like... Idk...
I would say that the "being fine" or that in your take, being "whole" is like something imo perhaps you would tell someone who is delusional, like psychotic or smth... But hey that's just my take, I would like to hear yours and perhaps we could learn something from each other! 😊
Also... 😁**
This really sunk in for me today. I simply ALLOWED myself to experience whatever came my way, and I let go of trying to control or deny it. From there, I just naturally RESPONDED with what felt right, instead of REACTING like a child would. Great day so far. The difference is ENORMOUS, and I could feel it, and everyone around me could see it.
I have lied to myself all my life that I am an Introvert and don't need people to be happy. I have been looking at this channel for the last few weeks and the truth is I am scared stiff of letting go. Thank You Julien - I have made more progress in one week than I thought I would ever make. However, I know the journey has just begun.
What was the starting point? How did you find the exact feeling? How did you start letting go?
Thanks.
We are all social creatures and need people contact. All of us. Those who Really need others to validate them; tell them they're smart, or pretty, or have a great hair cut ... compliments and such, are called Extroverts. They need others to define them. They look outward for validation. Introverts are already secure in who they are; they consult with themselves inwardly, with their higher selves, to determine their place in the collective. Those labels are largely misunderstood. Are you Really an introvert? Most people are a bit of both. I know many introverts who are Very sociable, but at the end of the day they find solace and peace within themselves and quite like spending time alone. Maybe if we stopped labeling ourselves and limiting ourselves by those definitions we can discover All that we are.
Its difficult to. Let go of adultery but you are different from the other ones thanks good stuff good lad. 🤔🙏🇬🇧From Lancashire England UK pendle witches country
How is it going?
You don’t need people to be happy.
Happiness is an inside job and it’s not contingent on who is or isn’t in my life.
It's definitely worth re-explaining in different ways so that others can understand, but the book definitely does mention the 'how to' of letting go. It describes the exact meditation-like practice. From the book:
"Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it..." and so on.
Is it ok to cry until it is gone? Thank you.
@@alexfinn7989 Crying is not a barrier, quite the opposite, it can be a sign of opening, leaving resistance behind and finally letting go.
@@TAC3O thank you.
@@alexfinn7989 Absolutely! It is a sign that you are releasing trapped emotions - of course, as long as that is your intention. Try to understand in your mind that you are not a victim, while simultaneously feeling the emotion fully in order to release it and improve yourself. If you are just crying and dwelling on your problems, and maintain a 'woe is me' attitude, then it can be negative.
@@retardedphil thank you!
Took me 6 years to let go wrong person. I'm still stuck to some other minor sh*t but now I know the mechanism... and that relief when you truly let go, priceless.
I'm still struggling with this shit.
Although we're not together she's on my mind. Hope I can let go of her some day.
Going through this too - been about 2 years. He has moved on but I cannot! :(
Wow that’s long. The maximum detox time for me is 1 to 2 years
On year 4 here.
@@clairec8496Im in the exact same situation, except switched genders. You aren't alone.
1) aware of what you want to let go.
Is it out of your awareness ?
You want to tune into sensations: your heart starts beating.
2) Allow yourself to express, its natural. It's human.
Distraction, doesn't help. Social media, movies, TH-cam.
Numbing: food, alcohol, drugs.
Is it gone? No. It's move away.
Letting go happen through feeling, not thinking.
Feel what you've been refusing your whole life❤
Feel enough approval? Control? Safe ans secure?
So what are you supposed to do?
Embrace the present
I "exist" every sunday when I get my day off work. I go sit at the ocean and just sit there for a few hours. Sometimes I write in my journal, sometimes I watch the fish swimming in the river, sometimes I just listen to the waves or the wind through the trees. It's my favourite time of the week.
Have you always lived by the ocean? That sounds so peaceful
"The only way out is through." The whole process in one sentence.
This is absolutely esoteric information. I've tried telling many people these concepts... It's like they can't process it if their soul isn't ready. Also the ego is often tuned to resist the second it feels threatened. This letting go is so simple and yet complicated.
I REALLY appreciate the "visuals" in your explanations. I think in pictures, and this helped tremendously. BY FAR, THE BEST TALK I'VE EVER HEARD ON LETTING GO 💯
This is by far the best version of letting go that I have heard. I actually downloaded letting go when I heard you talk about it a year or so ago. Listened to parts of it but wasn't until I found untethered soul by Michael Singer did I get the concept of this. Fast
forward to this morning while walking and listening to this I can honestly say you summed up the entire book of Hawkins and Singer in these 11 minutes. Folks listen to this over and over. Letting go NOT being afraid has changed my dialog in my head. I still have alot to go but I am learning, much less fearless, less scared, not afraid to more door, NOT all lol but I'm getting there.. I'm curious Julian what you thought of the untethered soul?!
P.s the breathing technique from over a year ago definitely helps in some situations as well and I use in some moments. The breathe in 7, hold, for 3, breathe out for 7 hold for 3 3 times works great..
BEST VIDEO ive ever seen on letting go. Ive written & read many stories on letting go/detachment and this is SPOT ON! Thank u thank u thank u!
Dang this was surprisingly one of the best videos I've ever watched on youtube. So much great info in such a small amount of time. Right to the point.
I love Julien's talks. They're so real and brings genuine peace and connection with yourself.
Thank you Julien, amazing content. It made me think about my life and do some analysis, so here we go. I'm 44 now. I consider myself a sensitive person, external approval used to mean (still means???) a lot to me. Since I was a child I tried to run away from myself, to be someone else, someone smarter. I can remember specific episodes from my childhood when I felt embarrassed for not being smarter. When I've met somebody that I considered to be smarter than me, I unconsciously tried to emulate them, I picked up their mannerisms (e.g. way of speaking, gestures, etc.). I was unconsciously trying to be them. I know this might sound funny to someone, but that was me for a long time. I am not 100% sure what caused that behavior but my guess is that it could be the big contrast between the love I was getting as a child from my warmhearted mother vs the lack of emotions on my father's side, who only seemed to give out some signs of approval when I did well in school. I guess that made me subconsciously think I was not good enough, I constantly felt the need to prove myself.
Coming back to your video, I think I want to let go of this strong need for external approval.
Hello. When reading your comment, I felt like you could have been talking about me. I grew up with similar parents, it sounds like, and I've lived a similar way throughout my life, as well. I can remember being a little kid...I would do something specifically to receive praise and/or approval for it, specifically from my Dad. His approval and praise equaled love. I'm 42 now, and I still struggle with this. As much as I tell myself, "I'm doing this for me", or "I'm doing this because it needs to be done, and it's my responsibility"... I can't shake that feeling of "needing" approval/praise for it. I intentionally don't mention to people when I do something I know doesn't need to be recognized, but that feeling still exists.
Your comment reminded me of this subconscious trigger, and how much I would love to let go of it.
Take Care.
Beautifully done bro. Been listening to "Letting Go" audio version on my phone and in car rides a lot lately.(also have a physical copy) This is an amazing video to go along with it.
Thank you for this video. I tried letting go for about a year. But I haven't been able to. Today, I tried to focus on the feeling of the raw physical sensation at a particular body part (not even the vague emotions). This time it worked. I feel lighter. Later I watched this video and am surprised to see that you teach the same things. 😊 I feel like it is the most helpful video of yours. ❤
Letting go is just not falling into the same repetition loop. Yes it needs practice to release the sensation first. So you are spot on. Bingo.
Your videos over the past week and a half of absolutely changed my life. I will watch one of your videos to the start of every morning just as a subtle reminder of who I am being aligned with where I need to be I love God and I’m a Christian, I read the Bible very often, but I never understood the concept behind letting go because I was never taught that so even though the Bible talks about that and giving these things to God, I never truly did I’m thankful for you Julien.
thank you a millions time for your videos..... since i discovered your channel a couple months ago i started working on myself and recently i just started to feel more excited about my life. big love
I am completely overwhelmed everyday with regret and obsessive thoughts about my past. This helped me tremendously he spoke to me cus I compensate with every grip detail of my life being displayed on this video
Your videos are the biggest distraction for me, but I can't let go😋 Seriously, thank you for your videos. You really know what you're saying. One of your videos helped me a lot to let go of a guilt that accompanied me for over 20 years. I haven't been able to "remove" this guilt yet, but I've learned to accept this feeling and at the same time to shut up the little man in my head who tells me these lies.
You are a great person and I wish there were more role models like you. I try to follow this example for others. Many greetings from Germany.
Such a beautiful explanation of letting go. I found it out myself, by following the sentence: ' you got to feel to heal'. So for me it is a confirmation. But I would've liked to hear this earlier.😊
Great advice. I just realised this week that I’ve all I need in my life. Anything else that enhances is the icing on the cake. Anything that hampers will be cut off immediately.
Thank you for your videos. You are a life’s saver. Please continue to touch lives. More blessings to you
My father used to say, “If you have to cross the street to be happy, you’ll never be happy.” Pity he never found a way to take his own advice.
It’s the same concept that I learned to deal with labor pains. I had an epidural with my first child and I hated how out of it I felt in what should have been such a special present moment. So I read and listened to so much advice about natural labor. The biggest advice was to go with the pain. Ride with the pain. Accept how horrible it feels. Don’t demonize it. Fear of pain makes it hurt worse. I was blessed enough to find the advice and take it and have a very present second labor. Thank God for people sharing this wisdom
Thanks for the book recommendation! I now see the source of the "Apathy, grief, ... desire, love" chart.
you make a huge impact on people and i’m happy to say even my self. I’m finally on my path to healing :)
I really respect you for teaching this stuff man. I’ve learned so much and will keep learning from you. Thank you🙏🙏
First of all. I like the way you simplify things. It's better than any studied psychologist could explain (imo). You are kind of describing the acceptance therapy, but in a way more practical way. In that way I actually understand it way better.
We can not compare ourselfes to dogs, because they dont have prefrontal cortex, but I get the point.
Also, are you provoking with that gucci shirt? If yes. I like it
Thanks for the wake-up call. I needed it. 😊
You always upload these bigger videos when I need them the most. Very appreciated.
You’re so welcome!
Being with my own thoughts used to be hell, and I'm still working it out. However,
Working as an Iron Worker, at 20 yo as of now, one of the main jobs apprentices get is Fire-watch. You stand there, 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. That time, being forced to stand there with my own thoughts, was excruciating. Every day was pushing more and more into it. I grew so much by just simply being with myself, and after listening to your knowledge and experience I feel I've made leaps and bounds of progress in just a couple days.
There is way more to come, but that only makes me excited because being uncomfortable is the stimulus for growth
Thank you! I like it very much! Especially not using the mind but only feeling it. For me the problem is sometimes sharing with people - it took me long to see my shadow and then I shared it too soon and now I judge myself viewing myself with the eyes of others.. also in away I feel a bit fixed now.. any suggestions? I guess I would always recommend everyone work on yourself first, get in a new state and then open up about your past 🙃🙏🏻
phenomenal content julien
Eye opening speech! You deserve my subscription! Thank you 👏👏👏
This makes sense in an insane level. Basically breaking down the barriers we place to not feel something especially after something traumatic as your mind is in survival mode and places up defenses to protect you inadvertently cause you harm in the long run. Very deep and insightful this topic as is the first real thing that's benefited me personally. 😊😊
I'm proud of you Julien. This is gold.
WOW. So powerful. Too many aha moments to count. Thank you for sharing this 🙏
Emotions vs Sensations and Acceptance vs Resistance... This hits the nail on the head for me.
Keep up the great letting go!!!!
Hands down the best video I have ever watched. Life changer
What a brilliant soul you have. Thank you for showing! This is what I try to make people in Sweden to see…
this is one of the best explainations of letting go I've ever heard
You are saving my life. Thank you!
Gold what is being said.
All about memory renegotiation I've been learning
I was called out on so many levels, and I NEEDED it😊
Thank you for this video ♡
This is SO good. Saved, downloaded.
Thank you for this 🌺
Thank you julien, you are helping me a lot
Very creative way of describing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
He's so on the point with this one! Sums up the letting go book and somatic experiencing by Peter Levine in this little TH-cam video❤
Spooky timing, I really needed this.Thanks!
Awesome... Bless you... Greetings from the Netherlands
Wow i love you man. You help me think in different ways.
Bruh this is GOLD, thank you
Beautiful, such wisdom in a man so young.
Awesome!!! Love you talk. So true. And.....so hard
I started the Sedona method 2 years ago and it's been great! Now going into nondualy. What ride but I'm really happy to see we took a similar direction. Thx btw for helping me to get laid when i was 20. Keep spreading the word of peace ! Would love to see you in person one day
It’s unbelievable, how much discontent is actually worth . Only if you trying to seek truth and dealing with yourself to become a better person, you will find this pure gold
This video is crash course of many life changing programs.
Just it’s very difficult to actually understand it from heart. So will watch it 20-30 times.
I am not comfortable with the part which asks to feel it as that thing didn’t work for me yet.
Very great work! 👏
It's Not about feeling it alone. It's about accepting the sensation the feeling Highlights in your body and to kind of allowing its existence and relaxing Into the sensation. At least that's how I understand it. Maybe this helps?
This is a Masterpiece! 25 min of genius! Thank ypu!
You're so welcome! Glad this resonates!
Most impactful video ever… excited and scared to try the technique
Also this advice just freed me from the fear of not being able to quit all my bad habits. Thank you
slipping into reality might be the most underrated high feeling, you forgot to mention that ;) great work
This video has been life changing for me
julien absolute legend man
Thank you, it helps a lot
This guy is amazing!!
Thank you Julien. I really appreciate you.
When I was in high school, I remember calling a friend one time. We started talking about our parents/family, and we got emotional and started crying on the phone. I straight balled my eyes and went over the abuse I felt and it felt more liberating.
For 30 years my husband would ask me how I felt about something when I told him he would tell me " you're wrong you don't feel that way. So I just stopped feeling. He died and now I want to feel again.
Now that he's gone, this is your time to reclaim your life and learn to feel your own feelings. Also to make your own decisions and they are yours to make, and the outcomes are yours as well.
that cliff metaphor is sooo good
This is the best, most eye opening speech I have ever heard. Can’t even … This should be thought at school.
Bro... you are the best!! Thank god for RSD....
Avg self help consumer :- cold is the enemy .
julien :- You have no enemies
I noticed it with cold showers.
Once you ease and relax into it, it doesnt bother you at ALL. I imagine whatever blockage one might have, same approach applies
It all makes sense now! I would always hear “Let it go! Make peace with whatever is bothering you.” I tried to make peace but it never let it go.
I used to have people I was really close with to release my negative energy on. They also did the same to me. It wasn’t much but having an attitude at times.
I moved 1000 miles away and I no longer have them people around me to have an attitude with to release this energy. How do I release this energy now if not through attitude?
My suggestion: Move your body. Sports, dancing, household chors etc. Release the energy trapped as Adrenalin in your muscles.
I'm in too much pain to finish this video
Hey stranger, I truly hope you're doing better. Maybe you would want to rewatch this video, just a random reminder :) sending out a virtual hug to you
God loves you❤
You guys will all be okay. I have schizoaffective disorder, adhd, ptsd, social anxiety disorder, substance use disorder, and suicidal ideation and tendencies. I recently just lost the plot so bad but also I took a good look at myself and didn’t like what I saw. Basically watching one of these videos sent me into a psychosis but now I feel more adult and I’m gonna leave this house with my family at 38 years old using my ssi and some HUD housing.
Hope you find peace of mind and all what you wish for
@@h.saied12 Aw you’re sweet. Thank you so much 😊. I hope you’re doing well and happy holidays.
how did it go, are you feeling better today?
I let go, I clear my thoughts and it goes away. Practice it over again if it pops up in your head. Simple 💓💓
loved this one. when you say face your monsters, open the door. do you say internally or like something we fear externally? i had trouble understanding that part. what i mean is at on point you said facing your fear like in social anxiety can work but thats not it because when you stop it comes back. that's why i wonder i want to understand fully what you mean by facing your monsters, opening the door
The physical feelings in the body are EVERYthing. On year 2, amazing leaps and bounds. Some really dark and painful days but all worth it.
Said two comments, but this is my third (just to myself in the ether)… this is amazing x
Julien i want to be my best self just to meet you one day and thank you. Thanks man
I never had anxiety or depression until I had Covid then after I found out my spouse had been cheating for 9 months. But for the few years prior I didn’t realize he was fussing at me when I’d get ready to go somewhere telling me to hurry and we would be late even if I wasn’t running late. So it caused me to stress out to get ready to go anywhere and I stopped going. I used to be the happiest easy going person you would meet. Now I can’t stand being around anyone. Thank you for this video!
i am guilty of all those vices. i have a better understanding now of paying attention to myself n how i can sincerely appreciate my flaws n qualities. i can do better for myself n quit using others to make me feel better. i actually want to feel this time bc i have been avoiding ʻfeelingʻ. n ur so right, that avoidance wasnʻt working for me. ha! i really needed to hear this!! ❤ tysm
it was the right word at the right time. i appreiciate u.
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Good stuff 👍
Nice content !
Just got laid off from my casual job I had for the last four months, I knew it wasn't gonna last forever and it lasted longfwe than it was supposed to, but still sucked that I didn't get any notice and just told me after work finished this afternoon, I've already applied for nearly 10 other jobs and am keeping a positive mindset, I really enjoy watching videos like this and just look at this situation as an exciting new turn of events haha, just wanted to vent a little here to some lovely strangers on the internet, thanks! 😂😊
It's gonna get good Mike! :)
One of THE most eyeopening videos on TH-cam. I think everyone has to fall down so he/she can rise🙋🏻♂️
Thanks!
These concepts are not easy to communicate to westerners. I am grateful to those who do it so well. Brilliant
Thanks bro.
I love love your perspective. I totally understand what you are saying. I love myself so much,. I enjoy “me” time. I rarely go out! Lol 😂. Now I must start liking going out,. I am having trouble getting out! Lmao 🤣 know I was very social,. After 2020 happened I became introverted. I still love all people,. I just do things I love to do. Trying to find others of like mind can be difficult.
Same here. Pandemic messed a lot of things up😭