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honestly my biggest takeaway is that I realized I'm wasting time on TH-cam and Netflix every day, if I'm gonna accomplish my goals I should let that go.
Every attempt at finding a distraction from the unrest of our inner state is actually forming layers away from this peace within. We learn so much that the process of learning and searching in itself is the distraction we seek to avoid. Do less, be less, feel more deeply. Thanks Julian for your work is has helped me navigate through tough times.
“It’s at that point where you can be okay with it being there forever that it’s gone” I NEEDED THIS more than ever and finally it really made sense to me. Thank you.
It took me 3 years to actually understand and be ok with the anxiety just being there and the fear and not fearing what I was feeling and letting go and just do my thing and it comes to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
Not gonna lie I felt my defenses go up when you mentioned how sad some people's existence is with how much they distract themselves. Even though I know you weren't talking to me specifically, I had the same feeling as if someone literally said it right to my face. I know I spend too much of my time on distractions and that I'm just putting off things that I know I should be doing instead, but don't want to do. I just didn't want to admit it to myself. Thanks for the wake up call Julien!
I have lied to myself all my life that I am an Introvert and don't need people to be happy. I have been looking at this channel for the last few weeks and the truth is I am scared stiff of letting go. Thank You Julien - I have made more progress in one week than I thought I would ever make. However, I know the journey has just begun.
We are all social creatures and need people contact. All of us. Those who Really need others to validate them; tell them they're smart, or pretty, or have a great hair cut ... compliments and such, are called Extroverts. They need others to define them. They look outward for validation. Introverts are already secure in who they are; they consult with themselves inwardly, with their higher selves, to determine their place in the collective. Those labels are largely misunderstood. Are you Really an introvert? Most people are a bit of both. I know many introverts who are Very sociable, but at the end of the day they find solace and peace within themselves and quite like spending time alone. Maybe if we stopped labeling ourselves and limiting ourselves by those definitions we can discover All that we are.
Its difficult to. Let go of adultery but you are different from the other ones thanks good stuff good lad. 🤔🙏🇬🇧From Lancashire England UK pendle witches country
Great presentation! Just one thing to note, (at the end) he says that letting go makes you whole. It doesn’t make you whole. You’re already whole. It just brings your consciousness back to seeing and knowing that as the truth because you’ve now removed the false filters through which you’ve been looking at your life experiences.
Actually feeling like there's something missing, is what I would call this... They're not whole in the sense that they actively are holding back a part of themselves, or it's been blocked or locked away, and they would have to put in necessary effort to overcome that and resurface it...
I would say that the "being fine" or that in your take, being "whole" is like something imo perhaps you would tell someone who is delusional, like psychotic or smth... But hey that's just my take, I would like to hear yours and perhaps we could learn something from each other! 😊
1) aware of what you want to let go. Is it out of your awareness ? You want to tune into sensations: your heart starts beating. 2) Allow yourself to express, its natural. It's human. Distraction, doesn't help. Social media, movies, TH-cam. Numbing: food, alcohol, drugs. Is it gone? No. It's move away. Letting go happen through feeling, not thinking. Feel what you've been refusing your whole life❤ Feel enough approval? Control? Safe ans secure?
Here’s the problem - this means nothing to me. I do not understand this. I see and hear the words, but it doesn’t resonate with me. It might as well be in another language.
Took me 6 years to let go wrong person. I'm still stuck to some other minor sh*t but now I know the mechanism... and that relief when you truly let go, priceless.
This really sunk in for me today. I simply ALLOWED myself to experience whatever came my way, and I let go of trying to control or deny it. From there, I just naturally RESPONDED with what felt right, instead of REACTING like a child would. Great day so far. The difference is ENORMOUS, and I could feel it, and everyone around me could see it.
It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
@@lv4313 Yup, I think it boils down to letting go. Constantly checking your feelings is still worrying about them. Just LET yourself be yourself and stop correcting yourself for being yourself, and it all feels normal again.
I "exist" every sunday when I get my day off work. I go sit at the ocean and just sit there for a few hours. Sometimes I write in my journal, sometimes I watch the fish swimming in the river, sometimes I just listen to the waves or the wind through the trees. It's my favourite time of the week.
Around 12:45 - "Expression doesn't help....it never gets to the cause." You completely undermined my "need" to rage in the gym. I'll just be in the corner, still lifting heavy, but listening to reggae from now on with a smile. Thanks, Bro.
This is absolutely esoteric information. I've tried telling many people these concepts... It's like they can't process it if their soul isn't ready. Also the ego is often tuned to resist the second it feels threatened. This letting go is so simple and yet complicated.
You guys will all be okay. I have schizoaffective disorder, adhd, ptsd, social anxiety disorder, substance use disorder, and suicidal ideation and tendencies. I recently just lost the plot so bad but also I took a good look at myself and didn’t like what I saw. Basically watching one of these videos sent me into a psychosis but now I feel more adult and I’m gonna leave this house with my family at 38 years old using my ssi and some HUD housing.
I had childhood trauma,ptsd,anxiety, depression It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
Great advice. I just realised this week that I’ve all I need in my life. Anything else that enhances is the icing on the cake. Anything that hampers will be cut off immediately.
I REALLY appreciate the "visuals" in your explanations. I think in pictures, and this helped tremendously. BY FAR, THE BEST TALK I'VE EVER HEARD ON LETTING GO 💯
Such a beautiful explanation of letting go. I found it out myself, by following the sentence: ' you got to feel to heal'. So for me it is a confirmation. But I would've liked to hear this earlier.😊
It’s the same concept that I learned to deal with labor pains. I had an epidural with my first child and I hated how out of it I felt in what should have been such a special present moment. So I read and listened to so much advice about natural labor. The biggest advice was to go with the pain. Ride with the pain. Accept how horrible it feels. Don’t demonize it. Fear of pain makes it hurt worse. I was blessed enough to find the advice and take it and have a very present second labor. Thank God for people sharing this wisdom
Being with my own thoughts used to be hell, and I'm still working it out. However, Working as an Iron Worker, at 20 yo as of now, one of the main jobs apprentices get is Fire-watch. You stand there, 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. That time, being forced to stand there with my own thoughts, was excruciating. Every day was pushing more and more into it. I grew so much by just simply being with myself, and after listening to your knowledge and experience I feel I've made leaps and bounds of progress in just a couple days. There is way more to come, but that only makes me excited because being uncomfortable is the stimulus for growth
It’s unbelievable, how much discontent is actually worth . Only if you trying to seek truth and dealing with yourself to become a better person, you will find this pure gold
Your videos over the past week and a half of absolutely changed my life. I will watch one of your videos to the start of every morning just as a subtle reminder of who I am being aligned with where I need to be I love God and I’m a Christian, I read the Bible very often, but I never understood the concept behind letting go because I was never taught that so even though the Bible talks about that and giving these things to God, I never truly did I’m thankful for you Julien.
This is by far the best version of letting go that I have heard. I actually downloaded letting go when I heard you talk about it a year or so ago. Listened to parts of it but wasn't until I found untethered soul by Michael Singer did I get the concept of this. Fast forward to this morning while walking and listening to this I can honestly say you summed up the entire book of Hawkins and Singer in these 11 minutes. Folks listen to this over and over. Letting go NOT being afraid has changed my dialog in my head. I still have alot to go but I am learning, much less fearless, less scared, not afraid to more door, NOT all lol but I'm getting there.. I'm curious Julian what you thought of the untethered soul?! P.s the breathing technique from over a year ago definitely helps in some situations as well and I use in some moments. The breathe in 7, hold, for 3, breathe out for 7 hold for 3 3 times works great..
Thank you for this video. I tried letting go for about a year. But I haven't been able to. Today, I tried to focus on the feeling of the raw physical sensation at a particular body part (not even the vague emotions). This time it worked. I feel lighter. Later I watched this video and am surprised to see that you teach the same things. 😊 I feel like it is the most helpful video of yours. ❤
Thank you Julien, amazing content. It made me think about my life and do some analysis, so here we go. I'm 44 now. I consider myself a sensitive person, external approval used to mean (still means???) a lot to me. Since I was a child I tried to run away from myself, to be someone else, someone smarter. I can remember specific episodes from my childhood when I felt embarrassed for not being smarter. When I've met somebody that I considered to be smarter than me, I unconsciously tried to emulate them, I picked up their mannerisms (e.g. way of speaking, gestures, etc.). I was unconsciously trying to be them. I know this might sound funny to someone, but that was me for a long time. I am not 100% sure what caused that behavior but my guess is that it could be the big contrast between the love I was getting as a child from my warmhearted mother vs the lack of emotions on my father's side, who only seemed to give out some signs of approval when I did well in school. I guess that made me subconsciously think I was not good enough, I constantly felt the need to prove myself. Coming back to your video, I think I want to let go of this strong need for external approval.
Hello. When reading your comment, I felt like you could have been talking about me. I grew up with similar parents, it sounds like, and I've lived a similar way throughout my life, as well. I can remember being a little kid...I would do something specifically to receive praise and/or approval for it, specifically from my Dad. His approval and praise equaled love. I'm 42 now, and I still struggle with this. As much as I tell myself, "I'm doing this for me", or "I'm doing this because it needs to be done, and it's my responsibility"... I can't shake that feeling of "needing" approval/praise for it. I intentionally don't mention to people when I do something I know doesn't need to be recognized, but that feeling still exists. Your comment reminded me of this subconscious trigger, and how much I would love to let go of it. Take Care.
It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤I wish I had find this guy years ago hehe
Your videos are the biggest distraction for me, but I can't let go😋 Seriously, thank you for your videos. You really know what you're saying. One of your videos helped me a lot to let go of a guilt that accompanied me for over 20 years. I haven't been able to "remove" this guilt yet, but I've learned to accept this feeling and at the same time to shut up the little man in my head who tells me these lies. You are a great person and I wish there were more role models like you. I try to follow this example for others. Many greetings from Germany.
First of all. I like the way you simplify things. It's better than any studied psychologist could explain (imo). You are kind of describing the acceptance therapy, but in a way more practical way. In that way I actually understand it way better. We can not compare ourselfes to dogs, because they dont have prefrontal cortex, but I get the point. Also, are you provoking with that gucci shirt? If yes. I like it
For 30 years my husband would ask me how I felt about something when I told him he would tell me " you're wrong you don't feel that way. So I just stopped feeling. He died and now I want to feel again.
Now that he's gone, this is your time to reclaim your life and learn to feel your own feelings. Also to make your own decisions and they are yours to make, and the outcomes are yours as well.
Beautifully done bro. Been listening to "Letting Go" audio version on my phone and in car rides a lot lately.(also have a physical copy) This is an amazing video to go along with it.
It all makes sense now! I would always hear “Let it go! Make peace with whatever is bothering you.” I tried to make peace but it never let it go. I used to have people I was really close with to release my negative energy on. They also did the same to me. It wasn’t much but having an attitude at times. I moved 1000 miles away and I no longer have them people around me to have an attitude with to release this energy. How do I release this energy now if not through attitude?
thank you a millions time for your videos..... since i discovered your channel a couple months ago i started working on myself and recently i just started to feel more excited about my life. big love
Every feeling that comes up wants to leave. If stays ONLY if we resist. Become aware of your 'resisting' and stop the resisting. Allow the feeling to go as it wants to. NOTHING stays. This is the core understanding that nailed it for me. Imagine the situation, allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. Repeat until it's ALL gone.
Just got laid off from my casual job I had for the last four months, I knew it wasn't gonna last forever and it lasted longfwe than it was supposed to, but still sucked that I didn't get any notice and just told me after work finished this afternoon, I've already applied for nearly 10 other jobs and am keeping a positive mindset, I really enjoy watching videos like this and just look at this situation as an exciting new turn of events haha, just wanted to vent a little here to some lovely strangers on the internet, thanks! 😂😊
The cold water method to learn how to let go physically, then mentally, and finally emotionally. That’s when you learn to “play” in pain as it comes along instead of allowing it to destroy you. Playing, in this case, doesn’t mean having fun when bad things happen. It means breaking out of the pain-hide cycle and into the pain-accept-learn cycle.
When I was in high school, I remember calling a friend one time. We started talking about our parents/family, and we got emotional and started crying on the phone. I straight balled my eyes and went over the abuse I felt and it felt more liberating.
I started the Sedona method 2 years ago and it's been great! Now going into nondualy. What ride but I'm really happy to see we took a similar direction. Thx btw for helping me to get laid when i was 20. Keep spreading the word of peace ! Would love to see you in person one day
I think most people’s problem is the fact that they think “Letting go” takes time and effort as you say but on the other hand you also say ‘click’ and let go NOW.. I agree with the fact that you can let go right now and stop letting things affect you, maybe I think like this because I’ve been open minded and meditating for years and letting go for the past 2 weeks of traumas..
Yes! Every time I get a full on 'emotion' - and I go into it.. it feels like death... and yet... after doing this... everything shifts in REALITY, and the UNIVERSE says HERE YOU GO!
Its like you are not into pain, but actually addicted to its slightly less worse version the controls the worse version which is the key to focus on. We are so fucking weak, you cant deny this plays a part
I never had anxiety or depression until I had Covid then after I found out my spouse had been cheating for 9 months. But for the few years prior I didn’t realize he was fussing at me when I’d get ready to go somewhere telling me to hurry and we would be late even if I wasn’t running late. So it caused me to stress out to get ready to go anywhere and I stopped going. I used to be the happiest easy going person you would meet. Now I can’t stand being around anyone. Thank you for this video!
@@MichaelSmith420fu yes, everyone still has to face the fears and challenges, true. Everyone’s path is different. But people with dissociative disorders have their own problems that many can’t relate
@@tommiethrash fair enough. I realize that it's a complex of it's own but I still experience normal person stuff too and do try to take away what I can from dudes videos tho.
Letting Go by David Hawkins is also right up there as one of my favourite books. I'd love to know what exactly Julien disagrees with. Also, to say David Hawkins doesn't tell you how to let go is a strange thing to say - he literally spells it out in chapter 2 "mechanism of letting go" which is basically the same as what Juien outlines here. Julien isn’t reinventing the wheel here, he's recycling ancient wisdom. And that's great 💯 This is not a criticism. We all do it - take a teaching and pass it on. With our own flavor. If we are skilled enough, we haven't corrupted the original (which some unawakened teachers do). Julien does a good job here.
This makes sense in an insane level. Basically breaking down the barriers we place to not feel something especially after something traumatic as your mind is in survival mode and places up defenses to protect you inadvertently cause you harm in the long run. Very deep and insightful this topic as is the first real thing that's benefited me personally. 😊😊
Thats why I dont have much nightmares anymore. When something dark happens, I run to it and face it and just say hi to it. Ghosts, demons, enemies I have had in life, frightening stuff, phobias. Easier there than irl, but I havent had nightmares since because I accept what happens, no matter how weird my dreams get.
I know I have a lot of bad patterns, but if I would be in isolation. I would thrive. I did for most of the last seven months, illness gave me a reason. I do well with people and some consider me to be social. But Im not, being alone is the best feeling. ❤❤❤
You can't let go... You have to embrace new things to replace the old... So even if you falter and return to an old habit that you don't want anymore... You have the new thing to gravitate towards.
Yes you have to find new things which really is more in line with what you want or need. First stress relaxing methods, then start learning new good things. Here right now for me is letting go of some to find better real friends, without toxicity. Stopping believing men can be friends. Most cant. And listen to my inner voice when red flags pops, which I just did. Many of us have a slowed down re-actionmode. Takes time to re-learn.
This video is crash course of many life changing programs. Just it’s very difficult to actually understand it from heart. So will watch it 20-30 times. I am not comfortable with the part which asks to feel it as that thing didn’t work for me yet. Very great work! 👏
It's Not about feeling it alone. It's about accepting the sensation the feeling Highlights in your body and to kind of allowing its existence and relaxing Into the sensation. At least that's how I understand it. Maybe this helps?
Distractions… numbing: violent game addiction. So damaging. Cortisol. Nehativity. Puberty damages many people with shame n guilt for all the stupidities done. The parents desperately trying to control the damage evolving. Thdn getting the blame for traumatising their kids. Good to see you try to clean up the mess. Yet we all need to take responsibility for our own addictions, behaviour, stupidities n mistakes please. Thank you
he needs to do a video about when people saying mean things about you but don’t let other people hurt you when they say mean things about u, crossing your boundaries, doesn’t care abt y, ect. (aka. more) cuz like that would be quite helpful tho actually, yAy! :D = ^-^ =
I think everything triggers me! I always have intense emotions, obssess a lot , think about people and situations which makes doing the work very hard😢
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honestly my biggest takeaway is that I realized I'm wasting time on TH-cam and Netflix every day, if I'm gonna accomplish my goals I should let that go.
Every attempt at finding a distraction from the unrest of our inner state is actually forming layers away from this peace within. We learn so much that the process of learning and searching in itself is the distraction we seek to avoid. Do less, be less, feel more deeply.
Thanks Julian for your work is has helped me navigate through tough times.
To FULLY experience the current moment/feelings inside, as much as I can. Im gonna do that now :)
😮Hey Julien. You make awesome content. But still waiting for you to speak about Porn and Masterbation? @julienHimself
My takeaway. Be genuine be authentic! I don’t think anyone else can “play” me lol 😂
“It’s at that point where you can be okay with it being there forever that it’s gone”
I NEEDED THIS more than ever and finally it really made sense to me. Thank you.
its a mindset change, which sounds counterintuitive as doing act but afterwards it isnt.
It took me 3 years to actually understand and be ok with the anxiety just being there and the fear and not fearing what I was feeling and letting go and just do my thing and it comes to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
Not gonna lie I felt my defenses go up when you mentioned how sad some people's existence is with how much they distract themselves. Even though I know you weren't talking to me specifically, I had the same feeling as if someone literally said it right to my face. I know I spend too much of my time on distractions and that I'm just putting off things that I know I should be doing instead, but don't want to do. I just didn't want to admit it to myself. Thanks for the wake up call Julien!
I stopped my distraction 8 years ago and FELT my emotions for the first time - changed my life
You can do it 🙌
With such beautiful honesty and insight, I know you got this brother. I wish you all the best
@@robertyatesagreed 🔥
Did you stay on the call or went back to sleep :D ? Checking in.
But I’m still gonna watch a film and not feel guilty
I have lied to myself all my life that I am an Introvert and don't need people to be happy. I have been looking at this channel for the last few weeks and the truth is I am scared stiff of letting go. Thank You Julien - I have made more progress in one week than I thought I would ever make. However, I know the journey has just begun.
What was the starting point? How did you find the exact feeling? How did you start letting go?
Thanks.
We are all social creatures and need people contact. All of us. Those who Really need others to validate them; tell them they're smart, or pretty, or have a great hair cut ... compliments and such, are called Extroverts. They need others to define them. They look outward for validation. Introverts are already secure in who they are; they consult with themselves inwardly, with their higher selves, to determine their place in the collective. Those labels are largely misunderstood. Are you Really an introvert? Most people are a bit of both. I know many introverts who are Very sociable, but at the end of the day they find solace and peace within themselves and quite like spending time alone. Maybe if we stopped labeling ourselves and limiting ourselves by those definitions we can discover All that we are.
Its difficult to. Let go of adultery but you are different from the other ones thanks good stuff good lad. 🤔🙏🇬🇧From Lancashire England UK pendle witches country
How is it going?
You don’t need people to be happy.
Happiness is an inside job and it’s not contingent on who is or isn’t in my life.
Great presentation! Just one thing to note, (at the end) he says that letting go makes you whole. It doesn’t make you whole. You’re already whole. It just brings your consciousness back to seeing and knowing that as the truth because you’ve now removed the false filters through which you’ve been looking at your life experiences.
I would say fine, but not whole, idk... That's just my take anyway... Like y'know...
Actually feeling like there's something missing, is what I would call this... They're not whole in the sense that they actively are holding back a part of themselves, or it's been blocked or locked away, and they would have to put in necessary effort to overcome that and resurface it...
Like... Idk...
I would say that the "being fine" or that in your take, being "whole" is like something imo perhaps you would tell someone who is delusional, like psychotic or smth... But hey that's just my take, I would like to hear yours and perhaps we could learn something from each other! 😊
Also... 😁**
1) aware of what you want to let go.
Is it out of your awareness ?
You want to tune into sensations: your heart starts beating.
2) Allow yourself to express, its natural. It's human.
Distraction, doesn't help. Social media, movies, TH-cam.
Numbing: food, alcohol, drugs.
Is it gone? No. It's move away.
Letting go happen through feeling, not thinking.
Feel what you've been refusing your whole life❤
Feel enough approval? Control? Safe ans secure?
So what are you supposed to do?
Embrace the present
Here’s the problem - this means nothing to me. I do not understand this. I see and hear the words, but it doesn’t resonate with me. It might as well be in another language.
Took me 6 years to let go wrong person. I'm still stuck to some other minor sh*t but now I know the mechanism... and that relief when you truly let go, priceless.
I'm still struggling with this shit.
Although we're not together she's on my mind. Hope I can let go of her some day.
Going through this too - been about 2 years. He has moved on but I cannot! :(
Wow that’s long. The maximum detox time for me is 1 to 2 years
On year 4 here.
@@clairec8496Im in the exact same situation, except switched genders. You aren't alone.
This really sunk in for me today. I simply ALLOWED myself to experience whatever came my way, and I let go of trying to control or deny it. From there, I just naturally RESPONDED with what felt right, instead of REACTING like a child would. Great day so far. The difference is ENORMOUS, and I could feel it, and everyone around me could see it.
It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
@@lv4313 Yup, I think it boils down to letting go. Constantly checking your feelings is still worrying about them. Just LET yourself be yourself and stop correcting yourself for being yourself, and it all feels normal again.
@@jeh-ruhd4466 that's true
@@jeh-ruhd4466 that's why is so difficult for millions of people they can't let go or don't know how to do it correctly.
I "exist" every sunday when I get my day off work. I go sit at the ocean and just sit there for a few hours. Sometimes I write in my journal, sometimes I watch the fish swimming in the river, sometimes I just listen to the waves or the wind through the trees. It's my favourite time of the week.
Have you always lived by the ocean? That sounds so peaceful
Why dont u fo it everyday an half hour
slipping into reality might be the most underrated high feeling, you forgot to mention that ;) great work
"The only way out is through." The whole process in one sentence.
Around 12:45 - "Expression doesn't help....it never gets to the cause." You completely undermined my "need" to rage in the gym. I'll just be in the corner, still lifting heavy, but listening to reggae from now on with a smile. Thanks, Bro.
My father used to say, “If you have to cross the street to be happy, you’ll never be happy.” Pity he never found a way to take his own advice.
This is absolutely esoteric information. I've tried telling many people these concepts... It's like they can't process it if their soul isn't ready. Also the ego is often tuned to resist the second it feels threatened. This letting go is so simple and yet complicated.
Letting go is just not falling into the same repetition loop. Yes it needs practice to release the sensation first. So you are spot on. Bingo.
You guys will all be okay. I have schizoaffective disorder, adhd, ptsd, social anxiety disorder, substance use disorder, and suicidal ideation and tendencies. I recently just lost the plot so bad but also I took a good look at myself and didn’t like what I saw. Basically watching one of these videos sent me into a psychosis but now I feel more adult and I’m gonna leave this house with my family at 38 years old using my ssi and some HUD housing.
Hope you find peace of mind and all what you wish for
@@h.saied12 Aw you’re sweet. Thank you so much 😊. I hope you’re doing well and happy holidays.
how did it go, are you feeling better today?
I had childhood trauma,ptsd,anxiety, depression
It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤
Great advice. I just realised this week that I’ve all I need in my life. Anything else that enhances is the icing on the cake. Anything that hampers will be cut off immediately.
I REALLY appreciate the "visuals" in your explanations. I think in pictures, and this helped tremendously. BY FAR, THE BEST TALK I'VE EVER HEARD ON LETTING GO 💯
Such a beautiful explanation of letting go. I found it out myself, by following the sentence: ' you got to feel to heal'. So for me it is a confirmation. But I would've liked to hear this earlier.😊
It’s the same concept that I learned to deal with labor pains. I had an epidural with my first child and I hated how out of it I felt in what should have been such a special present moment. So I read and listened to so much advice about natural labor. The biggest advice was to go with the pain. Ride with the pain. Accept how horrible it feels. Don’t demonize it. Fear of pain makes it hurt worse. I was blessed enough to find the advice and take it and have a very present second labor. Thank God for people sharing this wisdom
Being with my own thoughts used to be hell, and I'm still working it out. However,
Working as an Iron Worker, at 20 yo as of now, one of the main jobs apprentices get is Fire-watch. You stand there, 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. That time, being forced to stand there with my own thoughts, was excruciating. Every day was pushing more and more into it. I grew so much by just simply being with myself, and after listening to your knowledge and experience I feel I've made leaps and bounds of progress in just a couple days.
There is way more to come, but that only makes me excited because being uncomfortable is the stimulus for growth
It’s unbelievable, how much discontent is actually worth . Only if you trying to seek truth and dealing with yourself to become a better person, you will find this pure gold
Your videos over the past week and a half of absolutely changed my life. I will watch one of your videos to the start of every morning just as a subtle reminder of who I am being aligned with where I need to be I love God and I’m a Christian, I read the Bible very often, but I never understood the concept behind letting go because I was never taught that so even though the Bible talks about that and giving these things to God, I never truly did I’m thankful for you Julien.
Kudos. Youve just solved 99 percent of the worlds problem in a 25 min video. Keep up this work!
This is by far the best version of letting go that I have heard. I actually downloaded letting go when I heard you talk about it a year or so ago. Listened to parts of it but wasn't until I found untethered soul by Michael Singer did I get the concept of this. Fast
forward to this morning while walking and listening to this I can honestly say you summed up the entire book of Hawkins and Singer in these 11 minutes. Folks listen to this over and over. Letting go NOT being afraid has changed my dialog in my head. I still have alot to go but I am learning, much less fearless, less scared, not afraid to more door, NOT all lol but I'm getting there.. I'm curious Julian what you thought of the untethered soul?!
P.s the breathing technique from over a year ago definitely helps in some situations as well and I use in some moments. The breathe in 7, hold, for 3, breathe out for 7 hold for 3 3 times works great..
Thank you for this video. I tried letting go for about a year. But I haven't been able to. Today, I tried to focus on the feeling of the raw physical sensation at a particular body part (not even the vague emotions). This time it worked. I feel lighter. Later I watched this video and am surprised to see that you teach the same things. 😊 I feel like it is the most helpful video of yours. ❤
Thank you Julien, amazing content. It made me think about my life and do some analysis, so here we go. I'm 44 now. I consider myself a sensitive person, external approval used to mean (still means???) a lot to me. Since I was a child I tried to run away from myself, to be someone else, someone smarter. I can remember specific episodes from my childhood when I felt embarrassed for not being smarter. When I've met somebody that I considered to be smarter than me, I unconsciously tried to emulate them, I picked up their mannerisms (e.g. way of speaking, gestures, etc.). I was unconsciously trying to be them. I know this might sound funny to someone, but that was me for a long time. I am not 100% sure what caused that behavior but my guess is that it could be the big contrast between the love I was getting as a child from my warmhearted mother vs the lack of emotions on my father's side, who only seemed to give out some signs of approval when I did well in school. I guess that made me subconsciously think I was not good enough, I constantly felt the need to prove myself.
Coming back to your video, I think I want to let go of this strong need for external approval.
Hello. When reading your comment, I felt like you could have been talking about me. I grew up with similar parents, it sounds like, and I've lived a similar way throughout my life, as well. I can remember being a little kid...I would do something specifically to receive praise and/or approval for it, specifically from my Dad. His approval and praise equaled love. I'm 42 now, and I still struggle with this. As much as I tell myself, "I'm doing this for me", or "I'm doing this because it needs to be done, and it's my responsibility"... I can't shake that feeling of "needing" approval/praise for it. I intentionally don't mention to people when I do something I know doesn't need to be recognized, but that feeling still exists.
Your comment reminded me of this subconscious trigger, and how much I would love to let go of it.
Take Care.
Absolutely nailed it. Abraham Hicks also teaches this method.
BEST VIDEO ive ever seen on letting go. Ive written & read many stories on letting go/detachment and this is SPOT ON! Thank u thank u thank u!
Dang this was surprisingly one of the best videos I've ever watched on youtube. So much great info in such a small amount of time. Right to the point.
It took me 3 years to understand the concept and get to a point where you are not checking symptoms feelings 24/7 and you're like wow that's all it takes it that simple just let go and let yourself be in that moment/present and everything becomes "normal" it's crazy. ❤I wish I had find this guy years ago hehe
Your videos are the biggest distraction for me, but I can't let go😋 Seriously, thank you for your videos. You really know what you're saying. One of your videos helped me a lot to let go of a guilt that accompanied me for over 20 years. I haven't been able to "remove" this guilt yet, but I've learned to accept this feeling and at the same time to shut up the little man in my head who tells me these lies.
You are a great person and I wish there were more role models like you. I try to follow this example for others. Many greetings from Germany.
I love Julien's talks. They're so real and brings genuine peace and connection with yourself.
These concepts are not easy to communicate to westerners. I am grateful to those who do it so well. Brilliant
We misunderstood the term "let go". It's not letting go of the unpleasant feeling. It's letting go resisting that unpleasant feeling.
spot on
I let go, I clear my thoughts and it goes away. Practice it over again if it pops up in your head. Simple 💓💓
Emotions vs Sensations and Acceptance vs Resistance... This hits the nail on the head for me.
First of all. I like the way you simplify things. It's better than any studied psychologist could explain (imo). You are kind of describing the acceptance therapy, but in a way more practical way. In that way I actually understand it way better.
We can not compare ourselfes to dogs, because they dont have prefrontal cortex, but I get the point.
Also, are you provoking with that gucci shirt? If yes. I like it
For 30 years my husband would ask me how I felt about something when I told him he would tell me " you're wrong you don't feel that way. So I just stopped feeling. He died and now I want to feel again.
Now that he's gone, this is your time to reclaim your life and learn to feel your own feelings. Also to make your own decisions and they are yours to make, and the outcomes are yours as well.
Beautifully done bro. Been listening to "Letting Go" audio version on my phone and in car rides a lot lately.(also have a physical copy) This is an amazing video to go along with it.
It all makes sense now! I would always hear “Let it go! Make peace with whatever is bothering you.” I tried to make peace but it never let it go.
I used to have people I was really close with to release my negative energy on. They also did the same to me. It wasn’t much but having an attitude at times.
I moved 1000 miles away and I no longer have them people around me to have an attitude with to release this energy. How do I release this energy now if not through attitude?
My suggestion: Move your body. Sports, dancing, household chors etc. Release the energy trapped as Adrenalin in your muscles.
You always upload these bigger videos when I need them the most. Very appreciated.
You’re so welcome!
thank you a millions time for your videos..... since i discovered your channel a couple months ago i started working on myself and recently i just started to feel more excited about my life. big love
Every feeling that comes up wants to leave. If stays ONLY if we resist. Become aware of your 'resisting' and stop the resisting.
Allow the feeling to go as it wants to. NOTHING stays. This is the core understanding that nailed it for me.
Imagine the situation, allow it to come up and allow it to pass through. Repeat until it's ALL gone.
Just got laid off from my casual job I had for the last four months, I knew it wasn't gonna last forever and it lasted longfwe than it was supposed to, but still sucked that I didn't get any notice and just told me after work finished this afternoon, I've already applied for nearly 10 other jobs and am keeping a positive mindset, I really enjoy watching videos like this and just look at this situation as an exciting new turn of events haha, just wanted to vent a little here to some lovely strangers on the internet, thanks! 😂😊
It's gonna get good Mike! :)
The cold water method to learn how to let go physically, then mentally, and finally emotionally. That’s when you learn to “play” in pain as it comes along instead of allowing it to destroy you.
Playing, in this case, doesn’t mean having fun when bad things happen. It means breaking out of the pain-hide cycle and into the pain-accept-learn cycle.
this is one of the best explainations of letting go I've ever heard
When I was in high school, I remember calling a friend one time. We started talking about our parents/family, and we got emotional and started crying on the phone. I straight balled my eyes and went over the abuse I felt and it felt more liberating.
Thank you for your videos. You are a life’s saver. Please continue to touch lives. More blessings to you
One of THE most eyeopening videos on TH-cam. I think everyone has to fall down so he/she can rise🙋🏻♂️
This is a Masterpiece! 25 min of genius! Thank ypu!
You're so welcome! Glad this resonates!
Avg self help consumer :- cold is the enemy .
julien :- You have no enemies
This is the best, most eye opening speech I have ever heard. Can’t even … This should be thought at school.
Very creative way of describing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
you make a huge impact on people and i’m happy to say even my self. I’m finally on my path to healing :)
the master embraces simplicity. Thus he is the most bored yet enlightened efforlteslly.
Balance and focus...work hard play hard chill hard...breathe
I started the Sedona method 2 years ago and it's been great! Now going into nondualy. What ride but I'm really happy to see we took a similar direction. Thx btw for helping me to get laid when i was 20. Keep spreading the word of peace ! Would love to see you in person one day
This guy is a dangerous genius
I think most people’s problem is the fact that they think “Letting go” takes time and effort as you say but on the other hand you also say ‘click’ and let go NOW.. I agree with the fact that you can let go right now and stop letting things affect you, maybe I think like this because I’ve been open minded and meditating for years and letting go for the past 2 weeks of traumas..
Omg I just read Untethered Soul and thought this same thing....HOW do I let go?? Looking for answers and found this video. Feeling more hopeful...
Yes! Every time I get a full on 'emotion' - and I go into it.. it feels like death... and yet... after doing this... everything shifts in REALITY, and the UNIVERSE says HERE YOU GO!
I get the feeling im jumping off the edge of a cliff and i find myself floating when i let feelings come close, a feeling of freedom
Julien i want to be my best self just to meet you one day and thank you. Thanks man
You will never know how much you have helped me
I was called out on so many levels, and I NEEDED it😊
The physical feelings in the body are EVERYthing. On year 2, amazing leaps and bounds. Some really dark and painful days but all worth it.
Absolutely amazing! Wisdom like this is so rare! Thank you so much! 🙏💯
I'm proud of you Julien. This is gold.
julien absolute legend man
Also this advice just freed me from the fear of not being able to quit all my bad habits. Thank you
Its like you are not into pain, but actually addicted to its slightly less worse version the controls the worse version which is the key to focus on. We are so fucking weak, you cant deny this plays a part
Eye opening speech! You deserve my subscription! Thank you 👏👏👏
Gold what is being said.
All about memory renegotiation I've been learning
"reowning what you disowned - it's the game changer"
I never had anxiety or depression until I had Covid then after I found out my spouse had been cheating for 9 months. But for the few years prior I didn’t realize he was fussing at me when I’d get ready to go somewhere telling me to hurry and we would be late even if I wasn’t running late. So it caused me to stress out to get ready to go anywhere and I stopped going. I used to be the happiest easy going person you would meet. Now I can’t stand being around anyone. Thank you for this video!
WOW. So powerful. Too many aha moments to count. Thank you for sharing this 🙏
That letting go book will change your life!!!
Thanks. As someone with a dissociative disorder I appreciate this kinda stuff. 👍
Dp/dr?
@@tommiethrash osdd
But that's not really the point.
Taking on fears and challenges is still the same for anyone
@@MichaelSmith420fu yes, everyone still has to face the fears and challenges, true. Everyone’s path is different. But people with dissociative disorders have their own problems that many can’t relate
@@tommiethrash fair enough. I realize that it's a complex of it's own but I still experience normal person stuff too and do try to take away what I can from dudes videos tho.
I related with what you're saying, man... And I spent 8 years as well as you did... It was frustating state at that moment
Letting Go by David Hawkins is also right up there as one of my favourite books. I'd love to know what exactly Julien disagrees with.
Also, to say David Hawkins doesn't tell you how to let go is a strange thing to say - he literally spells it out in chapter 2 "mechanism of letting go" which is basically the same as what Juien outlines here.
Julien isn’t reinventing the wheel here, he's recycling ancient wisdom. And that's great 💯 This is not a criticism. We all do it - take a teaching and pass it on. With our own flavor.
If we are skilled enough, we haven't corrupted the original (which some unawakened teachers do). Julien does a good job here.
The Obstacle is the way. Uderstading this phrase takes a lot of time but helps the utmost
Beautiful, such wisdom in a man so young.
This makes sense in an insane level. Basically breaking down the barriers we place to not feel something especially after something traumatic as your mind is in survival mode and places up defenses to protect you inadvertently cause you harm in the long run. Very deep and insightful this topic as is the first real thing that's benefited me personally. 😊😊
Thats why I dont have much nightmares anymore. When something dark happens, I run to it and face it and just say hi to it. Ghosts, demons, enemies I have had in life, frightening stuff, phobias. Easier there than irl, but I havent had nightmares since because I accept what happens, no matter how weird my dreams get.
This is SO good. Saved, downloaded.
I know I have a lot of bad patterns, but if I would be in isolation. I would thrive. I did for most of the last seven months, illness gave me a reason. I do well with people and some consider me to be social. But Im not, being alone is the best feeling. ❤❤❤
What a brilliant soul you have. Thank you for showing! This is what I try to make people in Sweden to see…
You can't let go... You have to embrace new things to replace the old... So even if you falter and return to an old habit that you don't want anymore... You have the new thing to gravitate towards.
Yes you have to find new things which really is more in line with what you want or need. First stress relaxing methods, then start learning new good things.
Here right now for me is letting go of some to find better real friends, without toxicity. Stopping believing men can be friends. Most cant.
And listen to my inner voice when red flags pops, which I just did. Many of us have a slowed down re-actionmode. Takes time to re-learn.
I really respect you for teaching this stuff man. I’ve learned so much and will keep learning from you. Thank you🙏🙏
Most impactful video ever… excited and scared to try the technique
that cliff metaphor is sooo good
Thanks for the wake-up call. I needed it. 😊
great video, what was the official step three?
Every guy I personally know who has gone through the PUA route with the genuine desire to improve himself has become a better human being.
What does this have to do with PUA?
@@alexinivai08as a hiker let me just confirm that he is right even though he has no clue we why.
This video is crash course of many life changing programs.
Just it’s very difficult to actually understand it from heart. So will watch it 20-30 times.
I am not comfortable with the part which asks to feel it as that thing didn’t work for me yet.
Very great work! 👏
It's Not about feeling it alone. It's about accepting the sensation the feeling Highlights in your body and to kind of allowing its existence and relaxing Into the sensation. At least that's how I understand it. Maybe this helps?
Awesome... Bless you... Greetings from the Netherlands
Distractions… numbing: violent game addiction. So damaging. Cortisol. Nehativity. Puberty damages many people with shame n guilt for all the stupidities done. The parents desperately trying to control the damage evolving. Thdn getting the blame for traumatising their kids. Good to see you try to clean up the mess. Yet we all need to take responsibility for our own addictions, behaviour, stupidities n mistakes please. Thank you
he needs to do a video about when people saying mean things about you but don’t let other people hurt you when they say mean things about u, crossing your boundaries, doesn’t care abt y, ect. (aka. more) cuz like that would be quite helpful tho actually, yAy! :D = ^-^ =
I think everything triggers me! I always have intense emotions, obssess a lot , think about people and situations which makes doing the work very hard😢
Spooky timing, I really needed this.Thanks!