Here's the notes I took, hope they are beneficial 1. Have Anxiety under control 1. Greeting Anxiety - Greet Anxiety, say hello to it, it's normal and natural, Take a deep breathe - Anxiety helps us, we just want to manage it 2. Reframing it as a conversation - Use conversational language (Inclusive language) - start with questions in your presentation - reframe presentation as conversation with audience - presenting isn't performing 3. Be in the present moment - bring yourself to present not the future - Be present Oriented - Walk out a building before talk - count number by back Audience should be comfortable 2. Ground Rules - Get yourself out of your own way, don't be perfectionist - See things as an opportunity not a threat - Improvise - Dare to be dull - "Yes and .. " make it always on your tongue 3. Slow down and listen - You should be in service of your audience 4. We have to tell a story - Never lose audience, you can hook them by a story - you have two structure : 1. Problem → Solution → Benefits 2. What → So what ? (Why) → Now what -Structure sets you free
Notes, general ideas, and summary: Agenda of being an effective speaker regardless of it's being planned or spontaneous, depends on: 1. Anxiety management. 2. Ground rules. 3. Speaking spontaneously. - Anxiety management 85% of people are nervous when they speak in public. Anxiety isn't inherently a bad thing it can help you focus. However, excessive anxiety could impair our ability to speak spontaneously. The techniques used in anxiety management: - When anxiety symptoms kick in few minutes before public speaking (as in gurgly stomach, shaking limbs, etc.), just be mindful about them, acknowledge them and don't resist them "We simply greet our anxiety and say hey" Take a deep breath and don't let anxiety spiral out of control. - Re-framing public speaking as a conversation and not a performance. There is no "right" or "wrong" way of presenting (although there are certainly better or worse ways). there are multiple ways to make it as a conversation like: - Start with questions: they are dialogic in nature. They could be rhetorical, polling, or simply asking for information. - Using conversational language. Using an inclusive language and not distance the audience from ourselves and the speech, in addition to having a relaxed body language. - Be present oriented. Don't think about the far future. This in turn will clear your mind and make you less nervous. There are some ways of becoming present in the moment such as doing pushups, walking, listening to music, tongue twisters (they can help in warming up the voice as an added benefit) or it could be anything that brings the attention and use some cognitive resources. - Ground rules for being comfortable in speaking in spontaneous situations - Get out of your own way. Dare to be dull. Don't worry about being perfect or doing stuff flawlessly. Improvise, don't stockpile information, let your brain act spontaneously. Train the skill of improvisation. Because aiming at greatness could be in your way due to over evaluation, and over analyzation which leads to freezing up. - See things as opportunities and not as challenges or threats. Make it a conversation and don't make it an adversarial situation. Make it an opportunity to clarify and explain what's in your head, and understand what people are thinking. Take a "Yes, and.." approach instead of "No, but..". - Slow down and listen. "You need to understand the demands of the requirement you find yourself in, in order to respond appropriately". Don't jump to conclusions without gathering enough information. So, slow down and listen to understand and be in touch with the receiver to fulfill your obligation as a communicator. "Don't just do something, stand there." - Tell a story. Respond in a structured way. Having a structure is key to having a successful spontaneous, and planned speaking. It increases processing fluency which is how effective we process information. We process and retain structured information 40% more reliably and accurately than non-structured ones. For example to memorize a string of 10 numbers we structure them into 3,3, and 4 numbers. Structure helps us Remember. A couple of useful structures: - The "Problem > Solution > Benefit" Structure. You firstly start talking about what is the problem, then talk about a way/ways to solve the problem, and finally, talk about the benefit of solving it. Never lose your audience. Set expectations and provide a structure to keep the listener on track, and this structure helps with that. Could be re-framed as "Opportunity > Solution [steps to achieve it] > Benefit" - The "What? So what? Now what?" structure. Start firstly by talking about what the problem/idea is, why is it important, and then what the next steps are. This is a good formula for answering questions, and introducing people [Who they are? Why are they important? And what to do next with them (listening,drinking, etc..)]. In a spontaneous speaking situation we have to think about two things simultaneously; Figure out what to say and how to say it. Practicing these structures is a key skill for effective spontaneous thinking. "Structure sets you free." Sorry if there are any grammatical or spelling errors. I'm not a native English speaker. Edit: Spelling.
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Notes 7:58 manage anxiety - acknowledge your anxiety 9:22 reframe as a conversation, not as a performance. 9:52 ask questions -gets audience involved, frames a conversation. 10:12 note, should be questions -so you can answer, this is more helpful to remember 10:29 use conversational language -includes audience and can help manage anxiety 12:13 Be present-oriented -helps manage anxiety, helps bring you to the present 16:42 Get out of your own way -stop thinking you need to get it right -you over analyze, you over evaluate, all this can make you freeze up 24:41 make your challenging situations into opportunities -your approach affects the situation 32:51 co-create and share -helps feel less nervous and defensive -these traits can help you accomplish 33:32 slow down and listen -you need to fully understand the speaker in order to communicate 38:35 Don't just do something, stand there -listen and then respond 39:35 - 42:54 structures -structures in speaking helps you process information more effectively
He is very confident, calm and knows exactly what he is doing. He has the pulse of the audience. Even as an online audience, I found it very interactive.
I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!
Same here. Sometimes I start watching Ted talks and leave it off because it is boring! Those 58m was the most enjoyable moment I had watching a speech!
After watching Matt Abrahams' talk, I was struck by how essential effective communication is in both personal and professional settings. His emphasis on the importance of preparation resonated with me; being well-prepared can significantly boost confidence. As someone who often feels shy and nervous when speaking in public, I found his tips on managing anxiety particularly empowering. The idea of reframing nervousness as excitement is something I plan to implement, as it could help transform my fears into a more positive energy. Moreover, his practical techniques for engaging an audience, such as storytelling and asking questions, made me realize that connecting with others doesn't have to be intimidating. I can start small by sharing personal experiences, which feels more authentic to me. Overall, his discussion inspired me to embrace my shyness and view it as a part of my unique communication style, motivating me to focus on honing my skills to connect with others more effectively.
It's a trail of an excellent teacher to able to express ideas and concepts in a clear and concise manner. Mr. Abrahams is, definitely, one of the best couch you can find on the Internet on this touched nerve topic.
I completely agree with you! Mr. Abrahams has such a unique ability to break down complex ideas and make them easy to understand. It's fascinating how his techniques can help us think and speak with more clarity, especially when under pressure. Do you think these communication techniques can work in more informal settings as well, like casual conversations with friends or family?
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@@clarissenovelo7430basically, if you are striving to be great, do not be afraid to fail and look silly or “dull.” If you are too focused on perfection you will freeze up - taking yourself away from the current moment as you second guess your every thought. If you aren’t afraid to be imperfect and accept that you may get things wrong, you put yourself in a great position to be a strong conversationalist. Remember, you have to approach these conversations as opportunities, not as presentations
For those whom dindt get it... “Dare to be dull” is a phrase often used to encourage people to embrace simplicity, humility, and authenticity rather than always striving to be flashy or extraordinary. It suggests that it's okay, and sometimes even preferable, to avoid being overly complex, attention-seeking, or overly ambitious. Source: Quora -
What I learned from this talk 1) anxiety is very natural and don’t let anxiety overtake you . Learn to manage it. I personally use deep breathing and meditation to overcome anxiety . 2) Be inclusive in your communication. 3) First become a good listener by being focused 4) Treat every speaking occasion as an opportunity not as a challenge 5) Remove No- But with Yes -And attitude 6) public speaking should be like an inclusive conversation not as a performance. 7) Your body language counts a lot . 8) structured communication- problem -solution - benefit OR what -so what - now what
I am a performer and I always feel over control and anxiety every time I do a presentation. After being a performer for 10 years, it has became my instinct to do everything perfectly in front of people. This video just touches on the right spot and unlocks my perception towards presenting.
"What I have learned from this video is that listening is the key to being a good speaker. We should greet anxiety. If we get the opportunity to talk, just speak (get out of your own way) without worrying about whether you are right or wrong. Everyone gets anxious; it's normal. Speak confidently. Always use structured conversations when conveying the message. Thanks for the video."
Dare to be dull. I think this was speaking to me. I often find myself stuck trying to give the very best but end up not doing it at all. Thank you Matt Abraham, I'll allow myself to make mistakes and correct them as fast as I can.
My key takeaways: 1. Be in the present moment 2. Reframe the situation as an opportunity 3. Listen carefully 4. Use structure in formulating your speech.
I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!
It's so rare to find a person with such exceptional EQ. His voice alone exudes such openness and joviality that I could not but relate. My heart is pounding right now.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.
You know why u kept watching this till the 58th min and the 20th second? becoz of one thing.. He was talking spontaneously!! He wasn't distant from his audience and he used an understandable vocabulary. Am going to read his book and look for other "conversations" of him. Worth watching 👍
The one thing I noticed is that he used humor to relax and open up his audience, which in turn helps him to do the same. Secondly, he used opportunities to make it interactive, which helps them learn better and also keeps their attention.
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I actually took the class he is referring to. It was a 12-week class held at the Stanford campus, a few hours a week. This is one of those "self improvement" classes that had a huge impact for me. It really helped me with public speaking inhibitions and freed myself to just speak and be in the moment. Highly recommended.
😊Glad to hear that you feel better now. I think I need the same kind of course. Could please share more information about this 12-week class. Thanks you!
List: Anxiety management: • Anxiety isn’t bad, it gives us drive to continue speaking. • Make your audience comfortable. • When your nervous try greeting your anxiety. • There are no mistakes in presenting. • List questions that you’re going to answer while presenting. • Use conversational language. • Don’t worry about the future consequences. • Try being in the moment. • Warm up your voice. Ground rules: • Speak more spontaneously. • Don’t be afraid to get things wrong. • Don’t fallow patterns. • Train your brain to get it out of the way. • See things as an opportunity. • Say more yes than no. • Slow down, focus and listen. • Respond with structure. • Never lose your audience. • Have ideas and themes. • Paraphrase questions. • Try figuring out who is your audience and what are their expectations. • If you’re asking a question, ask for some advice.
You've said it all! I've used some of those methodologies in my presentations. I said to myself " I think i there's a need to use a exclusive language that would inspire my audience, definitely it worked out the day i decided to implement them. You are hundred percent right ❤
i saw this lecture and now i realised (again) how important Drama/ Theater lessons were to me. It changed me so much, mu communications and freedom of expression changed a lot. I really hope to get back to it one day, and well, i hope more people have the same oportunities. Its a new world of undertanding art, comunications and people.
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Wowww guys, I accidentally searched for some communication tips and this video popped up. It has been a life-saver. Just nearly 1 hour, all practical strategies and tips come in one-pack, well-delivered. The speaker talks passionately and enthusiastically, his body movement is perfect, and that's what we can learn.
@@tinyrockyplanet8953 I live in Vietnam, and we’re over the pandemic for almost half a year; currently I’ve taken part in a speaking club, hence this video is still useful for me. FYI, last semester (Jan - May), I used Zoom and teachers still required students to film presentation videos as if we were standing in front of a room full of listeners, and that explain why I searched for this video.
This talk gave me practical tools to improve how I communicate under pressure. I learned that managing anxiety is key acknowledging nervousness as normal, seeing speaking as a conversation rather than a performance, and staying in the present moment helped me understand how to stay calm. Abrahams emphasized that simplicity is powerful. For me, this means keeping my message clear and not aiming for perfection. I also appreciated his advice to slow down, embrace silence, and use structured frameworks like "What? So What? Now What?" to organize my thoughts effectively. Another lesson I learned, this talk showed me that being brief makes my communication more impactful.
I agree, I think making your talk as a conversation rather than a performance makes you feel at ease and comfortable. It helps you achieve the best way of delivery possible and eliminate nervousness. Those structured frameworks will also be a lot of help in our talk in which it can help us deliver our talk in an organized manner.
1. Manage anxiety 1. “Greet” anxiety. “This is me feeling nervous” 2. Reframe as a conversation not a performance 1. Start with questions (rhetorical, polling, etc.) 2. Use conversational language (“this is important to you” vs. “one must consider”, “step 1” vs. “The first thing for you to consider..”) 3. Be in present moment to eliminate anxiety (orientation to time influences reaction). 1. How: 100 pushups, tongue twisters, walk around building, focus on song, count backwards from 100 by tough numbers. Tongue twister: I slit a sheet. A sheet I slit and on that slitted sheet I sit. 2. Warm up your voice 2. Practice Steps to Speak Spontaneously 1. Get out of own way (remove expectations) Activity: Point and shout wrong name, without pre-planning 2. See interactions as opportunities not challenges Activity: Surprise gift challenge. Giver: “I knew you’d like it because...” 3. Take time to listen Activity: Spell letters of conversation 3. Use a useful structure 1. Problem/opportunity-> solution -> benefit 2. What?-> so what? (Why important) -> now what? Book: “Speaking up without freaking out”
what is outstanding for me is, many old people want to hear and attend the seminar, and frequently ask the speaker how to talk effectively in order to talk without creating an altercation and ambiguity. Because I often see and feel, some of them are always feeling "I have been living in this world for a long time and you don't have the right to teach me how I live, specifically how to communicate with each other". But, amazingly, they're trying to listen and learn about it. I really appreciate those old people, furthermore, shout out to the speaker who gives a stunning presentation and education.
Takeaways - "Get out of your way", "Be in the moment" ----> "Do not pile up conversation in your head", "Don't be nervous", "Do some exercises like speaking a tongue twister", "Make your presentation a conversation, it also helps in listing down questions first", "Slow down and listen"
One can't avoid nervousness, nor do you need to, damn! All of these "experts" who can't get it right! But I do! th-cam.com/channels/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw.html
I can never in my wildest dreams take a course at stanford. I pretended i was at stanford while watching this. Thanks for bringing this much needed class to less fortunate. It was very helpful.
I never thought i would find a hour lecture so interesting, this really made me sit for a hour and take notes without taking a break. I wish we had him as our teacher, it would've made everything interesting :')
This is absolutely brilliant and I am so grateful that knowledge, wisdom, and guidance like this is readily available AND FREE on TH-cam. thank you so much!
This just happened to me in 2 days ago at a funeral, my mother in law died of cancer. We just had a funeral and my husband was very emotional to speak in public, so of course he ask me to speak for him. It was my first time doing a public speaking. There was more than 40 people there. I soon as I started reading a verse of psalms. I was crying the whole time. But I did it!!
It's my first time to be focused with this kind of content or talk. I am currently on my stage where I am looking for a career that I will enjoy for the rest of my life. I have observed that majority of the audience are in their 50 to 80s I think and already took their MBA degrees in Stanford, and they are still attending this kind of talk make me realize that life is an everyday learning, and we should continue educate ourselves no matter achievements we have. The speaker speaks clearly which is very good for me as a listener who's not a native speaking in English.
This is a great speaker to the core, and I have listened to this video for more than 5 times. As a podcaster, I see “Active Listening” as a fundamental communication skill. This is a great skill because it helps for full concentration, understanding, responding. In business, this technique is vital for building strong relationships with colleagues, clients, and stakeholders.
He is an incredible speaker and he knows how to efficiently get his point across I am a high school sophomore and I watched this entire video no issues its understandable and easy to learn from and take into your own life.
correct my grammar nicely if there's some error. I'm the type of person who get bored easily just by watching this kind of video , but in my suprised this is the first video that I completed which take 58 minutes more. And I'm amazed on how the speaker engage with his audiences and catch their interest just by relating it on them. so thank you very much for the advices , and techniques to overcome anxiety , I could apply this on my learning journey . Take note I can finish this type of video that has a short duration , that is why I'm amazed because I finished it that long. hehe
"in spontaneous speaking situations. The very first thing we have to do is manage our anxiety. Because you can't be an effective speaker if you don't have your anxiety under control. And we talked about how you can do that by greeting your anxiety, reframing as a conversation, and being in the present moment" I love the beginning and ending with words
"A Q&A session is an opportunity to clarify, to understand what people are saying"- Seeing it as an opportunity rather than a challenge and a threat. That whole sentence changed my life
Matt is gorgeous and super skilled podcast producer and an excellent lecturer/mentor. I really improved my listening and speaking strategies throughout his lectures.
This is without a doubt one of the best presentations on this subject. He gave real and actually advice and examples on how to manage/overcome public/impromptu speaking. I have watched oodles of talks on this and I always seems to not be any further forward than what I was, the advice is always so generic and there’s no actual advice given apart from “prepare and practice” but I always ask “practice what?”. This on the other hand is amazing! I now have something tangible to practice, thank you!
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If monetary or financial status is credited with boosting confidence then it would just as easily be blamed for low confidence levels if assessts/finances were lost. This creates opportunity to be unaccountable and detracts from our true potential. Also this mindset is giving unworthy credit to a worthless fiat currency for amazing abilities that we possess as human beings. The amount of potential we have is infinitely greater than any amount of money>
As a proud member of AA, I have over 6 yrs public speaking experience. I prefer spontaneous vs planned, so not to give myself time to overthink or to seem scripted. I don't usually get very anxious and it gets easier every time.
it's been a long time, since I have been hocked on to a video like this ! I usually skip or move on to next video on my recommendation but for these 58 minutes and 19 seconds. I was glued to my chair and was focused on the screen ! He is amazing !
Communication is AMAZING. It's ART all by itself. COMMUNICATION IS NOT ONLY VERBAL. Obviously, BODY LANGUAGE is essential as well. Not to mention. It's the SIMPLICITY for me. This Gentleman is literally having a conversation about CONVERSATION which equals, communication. Effective communication! ~ LISTENING. ✨
Damn, I’m half way through the video and it opened my eyes. I already had seen some tips and textbook advice but the way he presented everything was so easy to understand and apply in real life. I went to an interview and I felt so good after watching this - one of the best (if not the best) performances I’ve had for an interview LOL. I’m definitely going to finish the rest of the video and apply as much as I can because it is legit advice. Especially managing anxiety. What works best for me is slowing down. Never starting at 1000 words per minute! It helps sooo much to not have anxiety. You’d be surprised how well you can speak when you let what you’ve learned come out instead of your anxiety.
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Younger audience is just looking awkwardly at each other. The aged audience are the real learners they are taking the activities more seriously. Just loved their hunger for acquiring new knowledge!
Here is one thing that is Easier said then done, so let's quickly inclusive the matter - 1. Anxiety management 2. Spontaneous communication Both are extremely important but not easy to apply it's totally understood in addition to this approach, we can develop spontaneous communication skill as per our purpose. Which will help you to remain motivated and positive towards spontaneous situation. On the very serious note he is a ture spellbinder who's a phenomenal way of articulating his spontaneous thoughts and notion. Genuinely i'm enough fortunate to watched this powerful vedeo.😊
04:53 Manage the anxiety 06:42 How to manage anxiety 1. Greet (acknowledge) the anxiety 2. Reframing public speaking (Its not Perform, but Conversation) 09:33 Start with question 10:53 use conversational language
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I think that all the tips Matt gives us in this video are really useful. Yet, in my humble opinion the most important thing when it comes to public speaking is the message. It's having something to say and being really moved by the message so much so that one has no choice but speaking publicly about it. Make a shy person mad and they will most probably express themselves in a very effective way.
Notes, general ideas, and summary: Agenda of being an effective speaker regardless of it's being planned or spontaneous, depends on: 1. Anxiety management. 2. Ground rules. 3. Speaking spontaneously. - Anxiety management 85% of people are nervous when they speak in public. Anxiety isn't inherently a bad thing it can help you focus. However, excessive anxiety could impair our ability to speak spontaneously.
The techniques used in anxiety management: - When anxiety symptoms kick in few minutes before public speaking (as in gurgly stomach, shaking limbs, etc.), just be mindful about them, acknowledge them and don't resist them "We simply greet our anxiety and say hey" Take a deep breath and don't let anxiety spiral out of control. - Re-framing public speaking as a conversation and not a performance. There is no "right" or "wrong" way of presenting (although there are certainly better or worse ways). there are multiple ways to make it as a conversation like: - Start with questions: they are dialogic in nature. They could be rhetorical, polling, or simply asking for information. - Using conversational language. Using an inclusive language and not distance the audience from ourselves and the speech, in addition to having a relaxed body language. - Be present oriented. Don't think about the far future. This in turn will clear your mind and make you less nervous. There are some ways of becoming present in the moment such as doing pushups, walking, listening to music, tongue twisters (they can help in warming up the voice as an added benefit) or it could be anything that brings the attention and use some cognitive resources. - Ground rules for being comfortable in speaking in spontaneous situations - Get out of your own way. Dare to be dull. Don't worry about being perfect or doing stuff flawlessly. Improvise, don't stockpile information, let your brain act spontaneously. Train the skill of improvisation. Because aiming at greatness could be in your way due to over evaluation, and over analyzation which leads to freezing up. - See things as opportunities and not as challenges or threats. Make it a conversation and don't make it an adversarial situation. Make it an opportunity to clarify and explain what's in your head, and understand what people are thinking. Take a "Yes, and.." approach instead of "No, but..". - Slow down and listen. "You need to understand the demands of the requirement you find yourself in, in order to respond appropriately". Don't jump to conclusions without gathering enough information. So, slow down and listen to understand and be in touch with the receiver to fulfill your obligation as a communicator. "Don't just do something, stand there." - Tell a story. Respond in a structured way. Having a structure is key to having a successful spontaneous, and planned speaking. It increases processing fluency which is how effective we process information. We process and retain structured information 40% more reliably and accurately than non-structured ones. For example to memorize a string of 10 numbers we structure them into 3,3, and 4 numbers. Structure helps us Remember. A couple of useful structures: - The "Problem > Solution > Benefit" Structure. You firstly start talking about what is the problem, then talk about a way/ways to solve the problem, and finally, talk about the benefit of solving it. Never lose your audience. Set expectations and provide a structure to keep the listener on track, and this structure helps with that. Could be re-framed as "Opportunity > Solution [steps to achieve it] > Benefit" - The "What? So what? Now what?" structure. Start firstly by talking about what the problem/idea is, why is it important, and then what the next steps are. This is a good formula for answering questions, and introducing people [Who they are? Why are they important? And what to do next with them (listening,drinking, etc..)]. In a spontaneous speaking situation we have to think about two things simultaneously; Figure out what to say and how to say it. Practicing these structures is a key skill for effective spontaneous thinking. "Structure sets you free.
I randomly clicked on this video just because I had time to kill but as soon as I heard the lecturer starts speaking, I was engaged in this lecture like I was allured by an addictive thing. I think this is truly an amazing lecture that everyone must watch regardless of whether or not you're a good speaker. Because apart from the lecture topic, the energy that he has and the power that the lecture itself gives me especially while watching people interacting with each other during this hard time, the pandemic, where I'm compelled to social distance myself, is so so helpful. Again, it was such an amazing and powerful lecture for overcoming my social anxiety, let alone for my knowledge.
Notes. Anxiety Management: -Notice and accept you're being nervous, this avoid it to spin up -Reframe, you're having a conversation, not a performance .ask questions .use conversational language -Be present-oriented, don't think about consequences, just focus on the moment Ground rules: 1. Get yourself out of the way, stop looking for perfection, "dare to be dull" 2. See the communication moment as an opportunity (for example to land more effectively your message) 3. Slow down and listen 4. Respond telling a story (having a structure) .Structure #1: problem, solution, benefit .Structure #2: what is it? why is important? what are the next steps? (what, so what, now what)
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I’ve been trying to find out why I some time freeze in the middle of a conversation and forget how to finish some of my sentences. This video right here has saved me from drowning with anxiety. I always knew I that I can communicate like no other when I’m full of confidence but when I crack under pressure, i become the most uncomfortable person to be around with. Day by day I’ll take everything on board from this video and will definitely revisit this in the near future
Notes. Anxiety Management: -Notice and accept you're being nervous, this avoid it to spin up -Reframe, you're having a conversation, not a performance .ask questions .use conversational language -Be present-oriented, don't think about consequences, just focus on the moment Ground rules: 1. Get yourself out of the way, stop looking for perfection, "dare to be dull" 2. See the communication moment as an opportunity (for example to land more effectively your message) 3. Slow down and listen 4. Respond telling a story (having a structure) .Structure #1: problem, solution, benefit .Structure #2: what is it? why is important? what are the next steps? (what, so what, now what)
I love the fact that this is the first video that I can focus on and not getting bored. I'm the introvert, like I always feel nervous and scared to present in front of my friends when that happens I tend to forgot about the topic that I'm going to talk about 😭 I really can't take that anxiety off
So I recognize Matt, he was my speech professor in 2009. It's good to see him on here. Matt is a good speaker and I learn alot from his class and videos that he presented to his students. He made feel comfortable.
I can't believe I just watched a 58-minute video in one sitting. Recently, I have turned to TH-cam to broaden my knowledge and deepen my thinking process. However, this is the first video where I learned practical and applicable knowledge that'll stick. Good stuff, Matt!
I love it! I'm a graduate student in bussines administration from Brazil, and these tips that were mentioned by Matt are very good for everyone who wants to be more effective in their voice. I consider myself a comunicative person, but I have some sttrugles when I am in front of lots of people. So after this presentation I'm more oriented on what I have to do to be more spontaneous when sharing my ideas.Thank you very much!
This was not just a communication course, it touches the cores of how humans have been deeply programmed by their environment and themselves and some ways to overcome the programs. What a great presentation!
This is really educational, entertaining & inspiriing. Unlike other speakers, he is very entertaining because it is obvious that his speech has a personal touch in it and it is not something that was memorized. As an inspiring tour guide and ESL teacher, this is something I would like to achieve. Kudos to the speaker!
Great workshop, even for the online video watchers consider this a fun and healthy workshop. The final words of this video actually got me my first job after PG Diploma i.e., asking for guidance. It is a powerful tool and really helps to connect with the person. Stay happy and healthy!
This is actually a great video; it's one of the videos that I don't find boring, and I would love to say that the speaker is very knowledgeable and he speaks confidently. I think this is what a professor should be like: to be able to listen and make the student comfortable in order for them to absorb the information that you're feeding them.
Upon watching the video I learned a lot of things on why a person think he/she cannot do spontaneous speaking. One of the major cause of this is having anxiety minutes before your speach. Anxiety is a major reason why individuals struggle with spontaneous speaking, as it activates the body’s fight-or-flight response, leading to physical symptoms like a racing heart, sweating, or trembling, which can interfere with clear thinking. This anxiety is often caused by a fear of judgment or making mistakes, creating mental blocks that hinder the ability to formulate thoughts quickly. In order for you to overcome your anxiety you need to acknowledge it, acknowledging your anxiety can help you transforms nervousness into excitement it also enables you to see speaking as opportunity rather than challenges.
One of the best Lecture I've watched in my life .. I've watched it before maybe 3 or 4 years and and again I've to listen to it and I will watch it more and more it's really good !!
That was such an incredible communication although i was watching from my laptop screen,..but i was totally into the lecture,....such a great personality and a communicator ,..Mr.Matt Abrahams...now this video has been get into my playlist of watching for again n again,....thnk u sir for such informative, interactive, and specially for the joyfully knowledge gaining activities,....
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🎉 The session begins with a focus on enhancing effective communication in spontaneous situations. 00:26 💬 The session is interactive and participative, with emphasis on learning by doing. 01:30 🧠 The speaker uses a simple 'count the f's' exercise to demonstrate how easily we miss details, drawing a parallel to public speaking. 02:00 🔍 The focus of the session is spontaneous speaking - instances where one has to speak off the cuff and in the moment. 03:04 🎓 The workshop was created in response to student demands at a business school. 03:37 🌐 Spontaneous speaking, including introductions, feedback, and Q&A sessions, is more prevalent than planned speaking. 04:10 📝 The speaker outlines the agenda, which includes anxiety management, ground rules, and the core of the session. 04:39 😰 Public speaking anxiety is a common issue, and learning to manage this anxiety is vital. 06:10 🤹 A speaker's role is to make the audience comfortable so they can absorb the message. 07:09 🧘 Techniques to manage anxiety include acknowledging it and reframing the speaking situation. 08:15 🎭 Presenting should be viewed as different from performing; there's no one "right" way to present. 09:18 💬 Engaging your audience in conversation and using questions, rhetorical or polling, can effectively manage anxiety during a presentation. 10:21 🗣️ Using conversational language can make a speaker feel more at ease and foster a better connection with the audience. 11:26 😌 Employing methods to become present-oriented, like doing physical activities or saying tongue twisters, can help manage presentation anxiety. 14:43 🛠️ Reframing the situation as a conversation, greeting the anxiety, and becoming present-oriented are useful techniques to manage speaking anxiety. 15:17 🎤 The speaker outlines an interactive and participatory method for becoming more comfortable in spontaneous speaking situations. 16:45 ⚠️ Overemphasis on perfection can hinder effective spontaneous speaking; it's important to get out of your own way. 17:43 🕹️ The activity "shout the wrong name" is introduced as a way to demonstrate how our need to get things right can interfere with spontaneous speaking. 18:49 🧠 The speaker encourages the audience to participate in an activity where there's no "wrong" answer, teaching them to plan less and act more. 20:13 👯♀️ Participants engage in an exercise, speaking out words unrelated to what they see, noticing patterns their brain defaults to. 21:14 🔄 The audience is encouraged to dismiss these automatic thought patterns and see what emerges when not relying on them. 22:07 🎮 The speaker recommends practicing this kind of brain training game to overcome the barriers one creates for oneself. 23:42 🎭 The speaker advises the audience to "dare to be dull" as a strategy to prevent over-analysis and self-pressure, allowing natural responses. 24:43 🎁 The speaker emphasizes viewing speaking opportunities as a chance to clarify and understand, rather than a challenge or threat. 26:21 🎉 The audience is invited to participate in an imaginary gift exchange to help them perceive situations as opportunities. 27:54 🎁 The speaker introduces an interaction game where participants exchange an imaginary gift, and the receiver reacts positively, no matter what it is, emphasizing the need for positive responses in communication. 28:53 🎭 The speaker advises the audience to partner up and practice the imaginary gift exchange game, highlighting the importance of real-time interaction and response. 32:09 😮 In reflecting on the game, the speaker emphasizes the value of creativity and spontaneity in communication and the need to 'get out of our own way' to foster positive and open communication. 33:08 🤝 The speaker introduces the improvisation saying "Yes and" as a technique to open up opportunities and frame situations positively, underlining the potential of a positive mindset in communication. 34:11 👂 The speaker advises to slow down and listen, emphasizing the importance of understanding the audience's needs and responses to be an effective communicator. 34:35 🎲 The speaker introduces a new game where participants spell out everything they say to their partner, to highlight the importance of active listening and slowing down in communication. 37:01 🧠 Reflecting on the spelling game, the speaker points out that participants had to focus and couldn't think ahead, highlighting the value of staying present in the moment during communication. 37:57 🎧 Listening actively and understanding the message is crucial to delivering a targeted and effective response. 38:33 📖 The power of storytelling in communication: effective communication follows a structure, enhancing both spontaneous and planned speaking. 39:09 🧠 Structured information increases processing fluency: it is processed 40% more effectively than unstructured data. 40:08 💡 Introduction to useful communication structures: "Problem-Solution-Benefit" and "What-So What-Now What". 42:23 🗣️ Spontaneous speaking requires handling what to say and how to say it at the same time: structures help you decide the 'how', freeing you to think about the 'what'. 46:07 🛠️ These structures are tools that can help in spontaneous speaking situations by guiding the flow and order of your thoughts. 47:07 🚀 A four-step approach to spontaneous speaking: manage your anxiety, get out of your own way, give gifts (see interactions as opportunities), and use structures. 48:14 📘 Continuous practice using these techniques can make you more compelling, confident, and connected as a speaker. 48:46 🎤 The speaker encourages audience participation and is open to questions. 49:15 💥 In hostile situations, anticipate potential challenges, acknowledge the emotion without naming it, and reframe the situation to your comfort. 51:16 🌐 For remote audiences, include engagement techniques to maintain audience interest and participation. 52:40 ⚖️ In challenging situations like expert testimony, focus on key themes and use paraphrasing to buy time, reframe questions, and craft efficient responses. 54:07 📖 The speaker shares information about his book and affirms its availability. 54:38 🌍 When presenting to culturally diverse audiences, understanding and accommodating cultural expectations is crucial. 55:38 😄 Humor can be a great tool for connection in presentations, but it can be risky due to cultural interpretations and personal tastes. 56:07 😂 If you're aiming to be funny, self-deprecating humor is the safest choice. Validate your joke with others first, have a backup plan if it doesn't land, and if unsure, avoid it. 56:37 🎤 When communicating, always have a backup plan in case your initial approach doesn't work. If you're uncertain about your plan or its backup, reconsider your approach. 57:05 🗞️ Journalists often ask spontaneous questions. To bypass rehearsed responses, ask 'why' multiple times, or ask the interviewee to provide advice, which often leads to more authentic and detailed answers. 57:34 💡 To encourage more authentic responses, ask people for advice related to the topic at hand. This adjustment in relationship often leads to more in-depth information. 58:03 👋 Ensure a proper closure to your communication, inviting further questions or interactions as needed. Made with HARPA AI
46:57 speaking clearly phase 1: manage anxiety -> greetings your anxiety, reframing as a conversation, being in the present moment 47:05 phase 2 of speaking effectively: get out of your own way, give gifts, take time to listen, and structure create freedom.
This video is truly inspiring and provides valuable insights on becoming an effective speaker. It is particularly helpful for students like me who seek self-improvement, especially in managing anxiety during class reporting, public speaking, or any situation involving an audience. Some techniques that Mr. Matt Abraham mentioned that I find very helpful for achieving successful and effective speaking, whether planned or spontaneous, include acknowledging our anxiety, practicing deep breathing, stepping out of our comfort zones, allowing ourselves to be imperfect, using conversational language, staying present, and many others.
Here are some of my key takeaways in watching this video; Anxiety is inevitable, but with proper recognition, you can manage your anxiety. Managing your anxiety is one of the important factors in having a spontaneous speaking. In order to do it, you need to focus on the present and avoid thinking about the aftermath. Be present oriented. Learn to listen and to respond as it helps you and the audience build a strong connection that helps enable everyone to understand the message of each individual. Don't think as if everything is a challenge. Take it as an opportunity where you can improve your skills. Be a person who sees things in a different light instead of making it always a situation that'll cause you to fail as it will hinder you from trying to stepping out of your way.
I agree with you Roscel , this talk really helped me understand how to handle my nervousness during public speaking. I often get anxious, but his advice to treat speaking as a conversation and not a performance made sense to me. I also liked how he mentioned slowing down and using pauses, which gives me time to think. These takeaways give me confidence to improve my speaking and feel less nervous in front of others.
Here's the notes I took, hope they are beneficial
1. Have Anxiety under control
1. Greeting Anxiety
- Greet Anxiety, say hello to it, it's normal and natural, Take a deep breathe
- Anxiety helps us, we just want to manage it
2. Reframing it as a conversation
- Use conversational language (Inclusive language)
- start with questions in your presentation
- reframe presentation as conversation with audience
- presenting isn't performing
3. Be in the present moment
- bring yourself to present not the future
- Be present Oriented
- Walk out a building before talk
- count number by back
Audience should be comfortable
2. Ground Rules
- Get yourself out of your own way, don't be perfectionist
- See things as an opportunity not a threat
- Improvise
- Dare to be dull
- "Yes and .. " make it always on your tongue
3. Slow down and listen
- You should be in service of your audience
4. We have to tell a story
- Never lose audience, you can hook them by a story
- you have two structure :
1. Problem → Solution → Benefits
2. What → So what ? (Why) → Now what
-Structure sets you free
Thanks!
Thanks 😊
Thank you 💙
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Bless you!
He Never uses "um","well","ah","hmm" for 50mins. Incredible....
Yes he did. Check 16:06
@@jesseraymond2240 You're one of those people loll... nice catch though 😂
He rather uses "so" to make transitions between the thoughts/sentences, but it you cannot really notice it, because it can also mean "therefore".
not difficult to do...just make it a habit. I used to use these words and almost never do now. took me a long time. like years.
@douke turambi no he didn't.
Notes, general ideas, and summary:
Agenda of being an effective speaker regardless of it's being planned or spontaneous, depends on:
1. Anxiety management.
2. Ground rules.
3. Speaking spontaneously.
- Anxiety management
85% of people are nervous when they speak in public. Anxiety isn't inherently a bad thing it can help you focus. However, excessive anxiety could impair our ability to speak spontaneously.
The techniques used in anxiety management:
- When anxiety symptoms kick in few minutes before public speaking (as in gurgly stomach, shaking limbs, etc.), just be mindful about them, acknowledge them and don't resist them "We simply greet our anxiety and say hey" Take a deep breath and don't let anxiety spiral out of control.
- Re-framing public speaking as a conversation and not a performance. There is no "right" or "wrong" way of presenting (although there are certainly better or worse ways). there are multiple ways to make it as a conversation like:
- Start with questions: they are dialogic in nature. They could be rhetorical, polling, or simply asking for information.
- Using conversational language. Using an inclusive language and not distance the audience from ourselves and the speech, in addition to having a relaxed body language.
- Be present oriented. Don't think about the far future. This in turn will clear your mind and make you less nervous. There are some ways of becoming present in the moment such as doing pushups, walking, listening to music, tongue twisters (they can help in warming up the voice as an added benefit) or it could be anything that brings the attention and use some cognitive resources.
- Ground rules for being comfortable in speaking in spontaneous situations
- Get out of your own way. Dare to be dull. Don't worry about being perfect or doing stuff flawlessly. Improvise, don't stockpile information, let your brain act spontaneously. Train the skill of improvisation. Because aiming at greatness could be in your way due to over evaluation, and over analyzation which leads to freezing up.
- See things as opportunities and not as challenges or threats. Make it a conversation and don't make it an adversarial situation. Make it an opportunity to clarify and explain what's in your head, and understand what people are thinking. Take a "Yes, and.." approach instead of "No, but..".
- Slow down and listen. "You need to understand the demands of the requirement you find yourself in, in order to respond appropriately". Don't jump to conclusions without gathering enough information. So, slow down and listen to understand and be in touch with the receiver to fulfill your obligation as a communicator. "Don't just do something, stand there."
- Tell a story. Respond in a structured way. Having a structure is key to having a successful spontaneous, and planned speaking. It increases processing fluency which is how effective we process information. We process and retain structured information 40% more reliably and accurately than non-structured ones. For example to memorize a string of 10 numbers we structure them into 3,3, and 4 numbers. Structure helps us Remember.
A couple of useful structures:
- The "Problem > Solution > Benefit" Structure. You firstly start talking about what is the problem, then talk about a way/ways to solve the problem, and finally, talk about the benefit of solving it. Never lose your audience. Set expectations and provide a structure to keep the listener on track, and this structure helps with that. Could be re-framed as "Opportunity > Solution [steps to achieve it] > Benefit"
- The "What? So what? Now what?" structure. Start firstly by talking about what the problem/idea is, why is it important, and then what the next steps are. This is a good formula for answering questions, and introducing people [Who they are? Why are they important? And what to do next with them (listening,drinking, etc..)]. In a spontaneous speaking situation we have to think about two things simultaneously; Figure out what to say and how to say it.
Practicing these structures is a key skill for effective spontaneous thinking. "Structure sets you free."
Sorry if there are any grammatical or spelling errors. I'm not a native English speaker.
Edit: Spelling.
Thank you!
thanks for this
Happy to help
bless you, thank you !
Fantastic. Thanks a lot
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Notes
7:58 manage anxiety - acknowledge your anxiety
9:22 reframe as a conversation, not as a performance.
9:52 ask questions -gets audience involved, frames a conversation.
10:12 note, should be questions -so you can answer, this is more helpful to remember
10:29 use conversational language -includes audience and can help manage anxiety
12:13 Be present-oriented -helps manage anxiety, helps bring you to the present
16:42 Get out of your own way -stop thinking you need to get it right -you over analyze, you over evaluate, all this can make you freeze up
24:41 make your challenging situations into opportunities -your approach affects the situation
32:51 co-create and share -helps feel less nervous and defensive -these traits can help you accomplish
33:32 slow down and listen -you need to fully understand the speaker in order to communicate
38:35 Don't just do something, stand there -listen and then respond
39:35 - 42:54 structures -structures in speaking helps you process information more effectively
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Thank you.
I reply would be quit hindering me or my children they deserve better than they got so far
You are suprb
He is very confident, calm and knows exactly what he is doing. He has the pulse of the audience. Even as an online audience, I found it very interactive.
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He is humorous as well do not forget that. It's absolutely essential to connect on a deeper level.
I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!
I’m sorry it’s maybe to personal but now are you like your own boss ?
his lecture is truly engaging. Thumb up!
You are so Lucky I've known him today 😔
Reply to your comment while I'm brushing my teeth 😂
How do you brush your teeth and check the phone? Can't you just finish brushing them and then check the phone?
First time in my whole life watching a video with 58min without getting bored even a second!!
TRUE!! same thought
Same with me!
Same here. Sometimes I start watching Ted talks and leave it off because it is boring! Those 58m was the most enjoyable moment I had watching a speech!
Me too
Same
I have studying to do. So I'm procrastinating productively by watching this video.
same, same ik
Hahaha 😅
me tooo! i'm glad we're all in the same boat lol
Same
Why do you think I’m here 🤣🤣
i love his way of speaking,
it feels like he is a father talking kindly to his own children (audience),
it's comforting and easier to understand ♡
Hi
I felt that too... Very compassionate about his craft. And genuine
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After watching Matt Abrahams' talk, I was struck by how essential effective communication is in both personal and professional settings. His emphasis on the importance of preparation resonated with me; being well-prepared can significantly boost confidence. As someone who often feels shy and nervous when speaking in public, I found his tips on managing anxiety particularly empowering. The idea of reframing nervousness as excitement is something I plan to implement, as it could help transform my fears into a more positive energy.
Moreover, his practical techniques for engaging an audience, such as storytelling and asking questions, made me realize that connecting with others doesn't have to be intimidating. I can start small by sharing personal experiences, which feels more authentic to me. Overall, his discussion inspired me to embrace my shyness and view it as a part of my unique communication style, motivating me to focus on honing my skills to connect with others more effectively.
One of the best video on Communication skill I've ever watched. Thanks Stanford Business for uploading this.
It's a trail of an excellent teacher to able to express ideas and concepts in a clear and concise manner. Mr. Abrahams is, definitely, one of the best couch you can find on the Internet on this touched nerve topic.
You probably meant "coach", not "couch". 🙂
@@dqdcz you understand well my leader
I completely agree with you! Mr. Abrahams has such a unique ability to break down complex ideas and make them easy to understand. It's fascinating how his techniques can help us think and speak with more clarity, especially when under pressure. Do you think these communication techniques can work in more informal settings as well, like casual conversations with friends or family?
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That's why we need to plan ourselves making extras in all we do because depending on paycheck that can give us our comfort and peace till we die is not guaranteed
This is actually what most families are going through, tax and rents takes almost what they got monthly, leaving them with no savings...
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"If you are striving for greatness, dare to be dull" Amazing advice!
i don't get this
@@clarissenovelo7430basically, if you are striving to be great, do not be afraid to fail and look silly or “dull.” If you are too focused on perfection you will freeze up - taking yourself away from the current moment as you second guess your every thought. If you aren’t afraid to be imperfect and accept that you may get things wrong, you put yourself in a great position to be a strong conversationalist. Remember, you have to approach these conversations as opportunities, not as presentations
I also don't get it
For those whom dindt get it... “Dare to be dull” is a phrase often used to encourage people to embrace simplicity, humility, and authenticity rather than always striving to be flashy or extraordinary. It suggests that it's okay, and sometimes even preferable, to avoid being overly complex, attention-seeking, or overly ambitious. Source: Quora -
What I learned from this talk
1) anxiety is very natural and don’t let anxiety overtake you . Learn to manage it. I personally use deep breathing and meditation to overcome anxiety .
2) Be inclusive in your communication.
3) First become a good listener by being focused
4) Treat every speaking occasion as an opportunity not as a challenge
5) Remove No- But with Yes -And attitude
6) public speaking should be like an inclusive conversation not as a performance.
7) Your body language counts a lot .
8) structured communication- problem -solution - benefit OR what -so what - now what
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being inclusive with those around me always makes me feel better when I'm communicating. Definitely helps lower the anxiety.
thank you for being so helpful👍
@@jesschan7240 👌👌
Perfect
I am a performer and I always feel over control and anxiety every time I do a presentation. After being a performer for 10 years, it has became my instinct to do everything perfectly in front of people. This video just touches on the right spot and unlocks my perception towards presenting.
"What I have learned from this video is that listening is the key to being a good speaker. We should greet anxiety. If we get the opportunity to talk, just speak (get out of your own way) without worrying about whether you are right or wrong. Everyone gets anxious; it's normal. Speak confidently. Always use structured conversations when conveying the message. Thanks for the video."
Dare to be dull.
I think this was speaking to me.
I often find myself stuck trying to give the very best but end up not doing it at all.
Thank you Matt Abraham, I'll allow myself to make mistakes and correct them as fast as I can.
My key takeaways:
1. Be in the present moment
2. Reframe the situation as an opportunity
3. Listen carefully
4. Use structure in formulating your speech.
I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!
Cool
Tell me that you went to Stanford without telling me…
cool to know you had the privilege
So you were there in 2007
@@SandeepSharma-wr9lb He taught my first speech class yes! Not here
It's so rare to find a person with such exceptional EQ. His voice alone exudes such openness and joviality that I could not but relate. My heart is pounding right now.
people listen to soft music to do their homework, but i find these hour long podcasts with speechless delivery more enticing and relaxing
Yes! When I'm doing a repetitive task I like to put this kind of content. I relax and learn at the same time.
Nice to know that I'm not the only one!
Same!! Can you suggest me some more insightful podcasts that has a min runtime of 30 mins?
I have a problem in finding good ones
@@arvindr1838 Jordan Peterson, Jocco Willink and David Goggins
I sense an elite club here , I'll try doing the same next time.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
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I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.
You know why u kept watching this till the 58th min and the 20th second? becoz of one thing.. He was talking spontaneously!! He wasn't distant from his audience and he used an understandable vocabulary.
Am going to read his book and look for other "conversations" of him.
Worth watching 👍
The one thing I noticed is that he used humor to relax and open up his audience, which in turn helps him to do the same. Secondly, he used opportunities to make it interactive, which helps them learn better and also keeps their attention.
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great observation
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Well said. I agree completely.
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I actually took the class he is referring to. It was a 12-week class held at the Stanford campus, a few hours a week. This is one of those "self improvement" classes that had a huge impact for me. It really helped me with public speaking inhibitions and freed myself to just speak and be in the moment. Highly recommended.
😊Glad to hear that you feel better now. I think I need the same kind of course. Could please share more information about this 12-week class. Thanks you!
Do you have the handout link?
Actually found it on his website. Nofreakingspeaking.com nofreakingspeaking.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Think-Fast-Talk-Smart-Hand-Outc.pdf
The handout please
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List:
Anxiety management:
• Anxiety isn’t bad, it gives us drive to continue speaking.
• Make your audience comfortable.
• When your nervous try greeting your anxiety.
• There are no mistakes in presenting.
• List questions that you’re going to answer while presenting.
• Use conversational language.
• Don’t worry about the future consequences.
• Try being in the moment.
• Warm up your voice.
Ground rules:
• Speak more spontaneously.
• Don’t be afraid to get things wrong.
• Don’t fallow patterns.
• Train your brain to get it out of the way.
• See things as an opportunity.
• Say more yes than no.
• Slow down, focus and listen.
• Respond with structure.
• Never lose your audience.
• Have ideas and themes.
• Paraphrase questions.
• Try figuring out who is your audience and what are their expectations.
• If you’re asking a question, ask for some advice.
Thanks for this summary
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This video is never going to be die.
My grandson will learn mostly everything about presentation by this video
"Die"="The" in Deutsch/German
You've said it all!
I've used some of those methodologies in my presentations. I said to myself " I think i there's a need to use a exclusive language that would inspire my audience, definitely it worked out the day i decided to implement them. You are hundred percent right ❤
i saw this lecture and now i realised (again) how important Drama/ Theater lessons were to me. It changed me so much, mu communications and freedom of expression changed a lot.
I really hope to get back to it one day, and well, i hope more people have the same oportunities. Its a new world of undertanding art, comunications and people.
It amazes me greatly how I go from living an average lifestyle to making over 63k per month
I've learned a lot over the past few years that there are plenty of opportunities in the financial markets; all it takes is just to focus on the right thing. Credits to Zach Micah Demers
I looked up his name on Google and was impressed by his resume; I consider myself lucky to have found this comment section.
You can certainly earn well with a good start-up capital. I take profits every week, and I've made a lot of money investing with Sir Zach Micah Demers, but your results are dependent on your investment capital.
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Wowww guys, I accidentally searched for some communication tips and this video popped up. It has been a life-saver. Just nearly 1 hour, all practical strategies and tips come in one-pack, well-delivered. The speaker talks passionately and enthusiastically, his body movement is perfect, and that's what we can learn.
@@tinyrockyplanet8953 I live in Vietnam, and we’re over the pandemic for almost half a year; currently I’ve taken part in a speaking club, hence this video is still useful for me.
FYI, last semester (Jan - May), I used Zoom and teachers still required students to film presentation videos as if we were standing in front of a room full of listeners, and that explain why I searched for this video.
mine are superior th-cam.com/channels/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw.html
This talk gave me practical tools to improve how I communicate under pressure. I learned that managing anxiety is key acknowledging nervousness as normal, seeing speaking as a conversation rather than a performance, and staying in the present moment helped me understand how to stay calm.
Abrahams emphasized that simplicity is powerful. For me, this means keeping my message clear and not aiming for perfection. I also appreciated his advice to slow down, embrace silence, and use structured frameworks like "What? So What? Now What?" to organize my thoughts effectively.
Another lesson I learned, this talk showed me that being brief makes my communication more impactful.
I agree, I think making your talk as a conversation rather than a performance makes you feel at ease and comfortable. It helps you achieve the best way of delivery possible and eliminate nervousness.
Those structured frameworks will also be a lot of help in our talk in which it can help us deliver our talk in an organized manner.
1. Manage anxiety
1. “Greet” anxiety. “This is me feeling nervous”
2. Reframe as a conversation not a performance
1. Start with questions (rhetorical, polling, etc.)
2. Use conversational language (“this is important to you” vs. “one must consider”, “step 1” vs. “The first thing for you to consider..”)
3. Be in present moment to eliminate anxiety (orientation to time influences reaction).
1. How: 100 pushups, tongue twisters, walk around building, focus on song, count backwards from 100 by tough numbers.
Tongue twister: I slit a sheet. A sheet I slit and on that slitted sheet I sit.
2. Warm up your voice
2. Practice Steps to Speak Spontaneously
1. Get out of own way (remove expectations)
Activity: Point and shout wrong name, without pre-planning
2. See interactions as opportunities not challenges
Activity: Surprise gift challenge. Giver: “I knew you’d like it because...”
3. Take time to listen
Activity: Spell letters of conversation
3. Use a useful structure
1. Problem/opportunity-> solution -> benefit
2. What?-> so what? (Why important) -> now what?
Book: “Speaking up without freaking out”
thanks dear
Nice breakdown.
Thank you. Your notes saved my life this evening. ;dd
Thanks
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""Presenting" is not a performance"
Bro..tht line...will forever be engrained in my mind..
what is outstanding for me is, many old people want to hear and attend the seminar, and frequently ask the speaker how to talk effectively in order to talk without creating an altercation and ambiguity. Because I often see and feel, some of them are always feeling "I have been living in this world for a long time and you don't have the right to teach me how I live, specifically how to communicate with each other". But, amazingly, they're trying to listen and learn about it. I really appreciate those old people, furthermore, shout out to the speaker who gives a stunning presentation and education.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
He's a great communicator because he had me, a 15 years old teen watching this 58 minutes video without stopping
ah yes, the average 15 year old
@@arandomlemon6707
I mean... yeah (: i'm kinda too outgoing so i hope i don't scare you ! Thank you for the compliment though, that's nice
@@rimaaouadi9092 famous last words lol
@Kevin Mejia
Oh well i mean...sure
Same for me.
Who's here learning to be a human after Covid
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Takeaways - "Get out of your way", "Be in the moment" ----> "Do not pile up conversation in your head", "Don't be nervous", "Do some exercises like speaking a tongue twister", "Make your presentation a conversation, it also helps in listing down questions first", "Slow down and listen"
One can't avoid nervousness, nor do you need to, damn! All of these "experts" who can't get it right! But I do! th-cam.com/channels/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw.html
Hello there how are you doing today 👋👋👋
I can never in my wildest dreams take a course at stanford. I pretended i was at stanford while watching this. Thanks for bringing this much needed class to less fortunate. It was very helpful.
I never thought i would find a hour lecture so interesting, this really made me sit for a hour and take notes without taking a break. I wish we had him as our teacher, it would've made everything interesting :')
This is absolutely brilliant and I am so grateful that knowledge, wisdom, and guidance like this is readily available AND FREE on TH-cam. thank you so much!
Glad there are so many interested people watching this in 2024. Hopefully we have that same energy in 2034
I think in the 2032 l well be grindmam hhhhh😂
Am very interested in the video
Am very glad 😢
@@ROON581amen
Excellent job
This just happened to me in 2 days ago at a funeral, my mother in law died of cancer. We just had a funeral and my husband was very emotional to speak in public, so of course he ask me to speak for him. It was my first time doing a public speaking. There was more than 40 people there. I soon as I started reading a verse of psalms. I was crying the whole time. But I did it!!
Good for you. Sorry for the loss. Sending love and healing to all of you.
@@gilashroot8697😢❤
It's my first time to be focused with this kind of content or talk. I am currently on my stage where I am looking for a career that I will enjoy for the rest of my life. I have observed that majority of the audience are in their 50 to 80s I think and already took their MBA degrees in Stanford, and they are still attending this kind of talk make me realize that life is an everyday learning, and we should continue educate ourselves no matter achievements we have. The speaker speaks clearly which is very good for me as a listener who's not a native speaking in English.
This is a great speaker to the core, and I have listened to this video for more than 5 times. As a podcaster, I see “Active Listening” as a fundamental communication skill. This is a great skill because it helps for full concentration, understanding, responding. In business, this technique is vital for building strong relationships with colleagues, clients, and stakeholders.
He is an incredible speaker and he knows how to efficiently get his point across I am a high school sophomore and I watched this entire video no issues its understandable and easy to learn from and take into your own life.
correct my grammar nicely if there's some error. I'm the type of person who get bored easily just by watching this kind of video , but in my suprised this is the first video that I completed which take 58 minutes more. And I'm amazed on how the speaker engage with his audiences and catch their interest just by relating it on them. so thank you very much for the advices , and techniques to overcome anxiety , I could apply this on my learning journey . Take note I can finish this type of video that has a short duration , that is why I'm amazed because I finished it that long. hehe
"in spontaneous speaking situations. The very first thing we have to do is manage our anxiety. Because you can't be an effective speaker if you don't have your anxiety under control. And we talked about how you can do that by greeting your anxiety, reframing as a conversation, and being in the present moment" I love the beginning and ending with words
"A Q&A session is an opportunity to clarify, to understand what people are saying"- Seeing it as an opportunity rather than a challenge and a threat. That whole sentence changed my life
Matt is gorgeous and super skilled podcast producer and an excellent lecturer/mentor.
I really improved my listening and speaking strategies throughout his lectures.
This is without a doubt one of the best presentations on this subject. He gave real and actually advice and examples on how to manage/overcome public/impromptu speaking. I have watched oodles of talks on this and I always seems to not be any further forward than what I was, the advice is always so generic and there’s no actual advice given apart from “prepare and practice” but I always ask “practice what?”.
This on the other hand is amazing! I now have something tangible to practice, thank you!
The most inspiring thing about this video for me is his confidence while speaking and teaching
The flow is smooth and worth emulating
just planned the best surprise party for my mom and gave the best speech i've ever given because of this video, thanks for your help sir! the best way to start progressing in life is by saving money, i promise nothing brings the confidence level up like a a good finance believe me!! i'm taking her to hawaii afterwards will tell you how the trip went
how did you get to this level of success if you don't mind giving a few pointers?
@@donaldlocher2537 1)Never let anyone bother you, you can make your own decisions and 2) I use a Financial adviser who handles my savings. she's the best in the business
@@taylorgreen5908 how do i get to this advisor pls i would like to build my dividend portfolio?
@@feliciasherbert989 i can't actually leave details on here, you could do that yourself her name is Lucy Maria Koss, she's quite known ,you can search and connect with her on her website
If monetary or financial status is credited with boosting confidence then it would just as easily be blamed for low confidence levels if assessts/finances were lost. This creates opportunity to be unaccountable and detracts from our true potential. Also this mindset is giving unworthy credit to a worthless fiat currency for amazing abilities that we possess as human beings. The amount of potential we have is infinitely greater than any amount of money>
As a proud member of AA, I have over 6 yrs public speaking experience. I prefer spontaneous vs planned, so not to give myself time to overthink or to seem scripted. I don't usually get very anxious and it gets easier every time.
what is AA ?
@@ainnsufiaa Alcohol Anonymous
it's been a long time, since I have been hocked on to a video like this ! I usually skip or move on to next video on my recommendation but for these 58 minutes and 19 seconds. I was glued to my chair and was focused on the screen !
He is amazing !
Communication is AMAZING. It's ART all by itself. COMMUNICATION IS NOT ONLY VERBAL. Obviously, BODY LANGUAGE is essential as well. Not to mention. It's the SIMPLICITY for me. This Gentleman is literally having a conversation about CONVERSATION which equals, communication. Effective communication!
~ LISTENING. ✨
Only part of it, learn it ALL HERE: th-cam.com/channels/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw.html
Damn, I’m half way through the video and it opened my eyes. I already had seen some tips and textbook advice but the way he presented everything was so easy to understand and apply in real life. I went to an interview and I felt so good after watching this - one of the best (if not the best) performances I’ve had for an interview LOL. I’m definitely going to finish the rest of the video and apply as much as I can because it is legit advice. Especially managing anxiety. What works best for me is slowing down. Never starting at 1000 words per minute! It helps sooo much to not have anxiety. You’d be surprised how well you can speak when you let what you’ve learned come out instead of your anxiety.
If you wanna be successful, you must take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to making you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life...
Absolutely. Market success requires emotional maturity
I trade as a side hustle while keeping my job. I'm tired of trading in losses myself. I've blown my account twice and it's frustrating. I see people making a living out of trading and I want to do the same. Please I need help can someone teach me how to trade?
the market is profiting if you are using a good broker or account manager to help out with trades or provide signals
I'll recommend Expert Mrs. Theresa Walton to you. She's the best I've seen. She trades my fx account and makes me good profits weekly
So you guys know her too?... Wow, she made me have my own house and car. She is awesome
Such an excellent speaker. I love his presentation. He's an effective communicator, not just a coach.
He seems so confortable talking in public that it also makes me more confortable to listen to him. Awesome video!
A good talk that deserves the speaker's name on the title- Matt Abrahams, and a completed intro in the brief.
Younger audience is just looking awkwardly at each other. The aged audience are the real learners they are taking the activities more seriously. Just loved their hunger for acquiring new knowledge!
??? The older audience is probably protesting covid and taking Ivermectin lol
I just love when people speak so knowledgeably and afluently,i wonder whether i can ever achieve such milestones in public speaking
Here is one thing that is Easier said then done, so let's quickly inclusive the matter -
1. Anxiety management
2. Spontaneous communication
Both are extremely important but not easy to apply it's totally understood in addition to this approach, we can develop spontaneous communication skill as per our purpose. Which will help you to remain motivated and positive towards spontaneous situation.
On the very serious note he is a ture spellbinder who's a phenomenal way of articulating his spontaneous thoughts and notion.
Genuinely i'm enough fortunate to watched this powerful vedeo.😊
04:53 Manage the anxiety
06:42 How to manage anxiety
1. Greet (acknowledge) the anxiety
2. Reframing public speaking
(Its not Perform, but Conversation)
09:33 Start with question
10:53 use conversational language
Thanks for sharing.!
more silly word games....
The lecturer is super humble and funny! What an exquisit style of speech delivering!
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time .
Exactly ! That's my major concern and what lucrative investment can one venture into with the current rise in economic downturn
In fact, I had no prior experience or understanding when I began investing in 2018, but by the end of 2019, I had made a profit of almost $750k. All I had been doing was going by what my financial advisor had told me. This demonstrates that all you truly need is a professional to assist you; you don't even need to be a great investor or put in a lot of work.
@@hunter-bourke21bravo! I appreciate the implementation of ideas and strategies that result to unmeasurable progress, thus the search for a reputable advisor, mind sharing info of this person guiding you please?
Certainly, I am still working with *Izella Annette Anderson* and the beauty of it is her expertise extends to various aspects of financial advisory, including stocks. She has skillfully constructed a diversified portfolio for me, capable of withstanding inflation and outperforming the S&P500.
I think that all the tips Matt gives us in this video are really useful.
Yet, in my humble opinion the most important thing when it comes to public speaking is the message.
It's having something to say and being really moved by the message so much so that one has no choice but speaking publicly about it.
Make a shy person mad and they will most probably express themselves in a very effective way.
Notes, general ideas, and summary:
Agenda of being an effective speaker regardless of it's being planned or spontaneous, depends on:
1. Anxiety management.
2. Ground rules.
3. Speaking spontaneously.
- Anxiety management
85% of people are nervous when they speak in public. Anxiety isn't inherently a bad thing it can help you focus. However, excessive anxiety could impair our ability to speak spontaneously.
The techniques used in anxiety management:
- When anxiety symptoms kick in few minutes before public speaking (as in gurgly stomach, shaking limbs, etc.), just be mindful about them, acknowledge them and don't resist them "We simply greet our anxiety and say hey" Take a deep breath and don't let anxiety spiral out of control.
- Re-framing public speaking as a conversation and not a performance. There is no "right" or "wrong" way of presenting (although there are certainly better or worse ways). there are multiple ways to make it as a conversation like:
- Start with questions: they are dialogic in nature. They could be rhetorical, polling, or simply asking for information.
- Using conversational language. Using an inclusive language and not distance the audience from ourselves and the speech, in addition to having a relaxed body language.
- Be present oriented. Don't think about the far future. This in turn will clear your mind and make you less nervous. There are some ways of becoming present in the moment such as doing pushups, walking, listening to music, tongue twisters (they can help in warming up the voice as an added benefit) or it could be anything that brings the attention and use some cognitive resources.
- Ground rules for being comfortable in speaking in spontaneous situations
- Get out of your own way. Dare to be dull. Don't worry about being perfect or doing stuff flawlessly. Improvise, don't stockpile information, let your brain act spontaneously. Train the skill of improvisation. Because aiming at greatness could be in your way due to over evaluation, and over analyzation which leads to freezing up.
- See things as opportunities and not as challenges or threats. Make it a conversation and don't make it an adversarial situation. Make it an opportunity to clarify and explain what's in your head, and understand what people are thinking. Take a "Yes, and.." approach instead of "No, but..".
- Slow down and listen. "You need to understand the demands of the requirement you find yourself in, in order to respond appropriately". Don't jump to conclusions without gathering enough information. So, slow down and listen to understand and be in touch with the receiver to fulfill your obligation as a communicator. "Don't just do something, stand there."
- Tell a story. Respond in a structured way. Having a structure is key to having a successful spontaneous, and planned speaking. It increases processing fluency which is how effective we process information. We process and retain structured information 40% more reliably and accurately than non-structured ones. For example to memorize a string of 10 numbers we structure them into 3,3, and 4 numbers. Structure helps us Remember.
A couple of useful structures:
- The "Problem > Solution > Benefit" Structure. You firstly start talking about what is the problem, then talk about a way/ways to solve the problem, and finally, talk about the benefit of solving it. Never lose your audience. Set expectations and provide a structure to keep the listener on track, and this structure helps with that. Could be re-framed as "Opportunity > Solution [steps to achieve it] > Benefit"
- The "What? So what? Now what?" structure. Start firstly by talking about what the problem/idea is, why is it important, and then what the next steps are. This is a good formula for answering questions, and introducing people [Who they are? Why are they important? And what to do next with them (listening,drinking, etc..)]. In a spontaneous speaking situation we have to think about two things simultaneously; Figure out what to say and how to say it.
Practicing these structures is a key skill for effective spontaneous thinking. "Structure sets you free.
thankyou very much
This was just what I needed! Thank you
Thanks!
Thank you very much
I randomly clicked on this video just because I had time to kill but as soon as I heard the lecturer starts speaking, I was engaged in this lecture like I was allured by an addictive thing. I think this is truly an amazing lecture that everyone must watch regardless of whether or not you're a good speaker. Because apart from the lecture topic, the energy that he has and the power that the lecture itself gives me especially while watching people interacting with each other during this hard time, the pandemic, where I'm compelled to social distance myself, is so so helpful. Again, it was such an amazing and powerful lecture for overcoming my social anxiety, let alone for my knowledge.
Notes.
Anxiety Management:
-Notice and accept you're being nervous, this avoid it to spin up
-Reframe, you're having a conversation, not a performance
.ask questions
.use conversational language
-Be present-oriented, don't think about consequences, just focus on the moment
Ground rules:
1. Get yourself out of the way, stop looking for perfection, "dare to be dull"
2. See the communication moment as an opportunity (for example to land more effectively your message)
3. Slow down and listen
4. Respond telling a story (having a structure)
.Structure #1: problem, solution, benefit
.Structure #2: what is it? why is important? what are the next steps? (what, so what, now what)
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As a newbie, what do I need to do? How can I invest, on which platform? If you know, please share. I'm new to this, please how can I contact her?
Use her name to quickly conduct an internet search.
SHE’S MOSTLY ON TELEGRAMS APPS WITH THE BELOW NAME.
I’ve been trying to find out why I some time freeze in the middle of a conversation and forget how to finish some of my sentences. This video right here has saved me from drowning with anxiety. I always knew I that I can communicate like no other when I’m full of confidence but when I crack under pressure, i become the most uncomfortable person to be around with. Day by day I’ll take everything on board from this video and will definitely revisit this in the near future
Notes.
Anxiety Management:
-Notice and accept you're being nervous, this avoid it to spin up
-Reframe, you're having a conversation, not a performance
.ask questions
.use conversational language
-Be present-oriented, don't think about consequences, just focus on the moment
Ground rules:
1. Get yourself out of the way, stop looking for perfection, "dare to be dull"
2. See the communication moment as an opportunity (for example to land more effectively your message)
3. Slow down and listen
4. Respond telling a story (having a structure)
.Structure #1: problem, solution, benefit
.Structure #2: what is it? why is important? what are the next steps? (what, so what, now what)
Lovely!
Thank you
Thank you!
Thank you, kind sir.
@@danwekoya9735 Your welcome sir
I love the fact that this is the first video that I can focus on and not getting bored. I'm the introvert, like I always feel nervous and scared to present in front of my friends when that happens I tend to forgot about the topic that I'm going to talk about 😭 I really can't take that anxiety off
Really this is a shared problem with me
I wish to have a way to help get out of this
So I recognize Matt, he was my speech professor in 2009. It's good to see him on here. Matt is a good speaker and I learn alot from his class and videos that he presented to his students. He made feel comfortable.
I can't believe I just watched a 58-minute video in one sitting. Recently, I have turned to TH-cam to broaden my knowledge and deepen my thinking process. However, this is the first video where I learned practical and applicable knowledge that'll stick. Good stuff, Matt!
I love it! I'm a graduate student in bussines administration from Brazil, and these tips that were mentioned by Matt are very good for everyone who wants to be more effective in their voice. I consider myself a comunicative person, but I have some sttrugles when I am in front of lots of people. So after this presentation I'm more oriented on what I have to do to be more spontaneous when sharing my ideas.Thank you very much!
It should be talk fast, think faster. I hate it when a speaker tell the audience to stand up, what the hell.
É nois
This was not just a communication course, it touches the cores of how humans have been deeply programmed by their environment and themselves and some ways to overcome the programs. What a great presentation!
This is really educational, entertaining & inspiriing. Unlike other speakers, he is very entertaining because it is obvious that his speech has a personal touch in it and it is not something that was memorized. As an inspiring tour guide and ESL teacher, this is something I would like to achieve. Kudos to the speaker!
Glad you enjoyed it Kimberly, yeah Matt's got great content, really enjoy his videos!
Great workshop, even for the online video watchers consider this a fun and healthy workshop.
The final words of this video actually got me my first job after PG Diploma i.e., asking for guidance. It is a powerful tool and really helps to connect with the person.
Stay happy and healthy!
shoutout to the people that are aged in this workshop yet actively learning at that stage.
This is actually a great video; it's one of the videos that I don't find boring, and I would love to say that the speaker is very knowledgeable and he speaks confidently. I think this is what a professor should be like: to be able to listen and make the student comfortable in order for them to absorb the information that you're feeding them.
18:22
Stock piling
23:20
Reacting rather than responding
Dare to be dull
25:56
See things as an opportunity
33:49
Slow down and listen
Who's watching in 2024 😊❤
Me
Me too
Me
Yhh here i amm👊
Hola
The fact that this video was uploaded way back 2014 and is still relevant until this day is 👌🏻✨
It's increasingly more important every year as in person communication becomes less frequent in every day life
Upon watching the video I learned a lot of things on why a person think he/she cannot do spontaneous speaking. One of the major cause of this is having anxiety minutes before your speach. Anxiety is a major reason why individuals struggle with spontaneous speaking, as it activates the body’s fight-or-flight response, leading to physical symptoms like a racing heart, sweating, or trembling, which can interfere with clear thinking. This anxiety is often caused by a fear of judgment or making mistakes, creating mental blocks that hinder the ability to formulate thoughts quickly. In order for you to overcome your anxiety you need to acknowledge it, acknowledging your anxiety can help you transforms nervousness into excitement it also enables you to see speaking as opportunity rather than challenges.
One of the best Lecture I've watched in my life ..
I've watched it before maybe 3 or 4 years and and again I've to listen to it and I will watch it more and more it's really good !!
Speak up without drinking out
That was such an incredible communication although i was watching from my laptop screen,..but i was totally into the lecture,....such a great personality and a communicator ,..Mr.Matt Abrahams...now this video has been get into my playlist of watching for again n again,....thnk u sir for such informative, interactive, and specially for the joyfully knowledge gaining activities,....
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🎉 The session begins with a focus on enhancing effective communication in spontaneous situations.
00:26 💬 The session is interactive and participative, with emphasis on learning by doing.
01:30 🧠 The speaker uses a simple 'count the f's' exercise to demonstrate how easily we miss details, drawing a parallel to public speaking.
02:00 🔍 The focus of the session is spontaneous speaking - instances where one has to speak off the cuff and in the moment.
03:04 🎓 The workshop was created in response to student demands at a business school.
03:37 🌐 Spontaneous speaking, including introductions, feedback, and Q&A sessions, is more prevalent than planned speaking.
04:10 📝 The speaker outlines the agenda, which includes anxiety management, ground rules, and the core of the session.
04:39 😰 Public speaking anxiety is a common issue, and learning to manage this anxiety is vital.
06:10 🤹 A speaker's role is to make the audience comfortable so they can absorb the message.
07:09 🧘 Techniques to manage anxiety include acknowledging it and reframing the speaking situation.
08:15 🎭 Presenting should be viewed as different from performing; there's no one "right" way to present.
09:18 💬 Engaging your audience in conversation and using questions, rhetorical or polling, can effectively manage anxiety during a presentation.
10:21 🗣️ Using conversational language can make a speaker feel more at ease and foster a better connection with the audience.
11:26 😌 Employing methods to become present-oriented, like doing physical activities or saying tongue twisters, can help manage presentation anxiety.
14:43 🛠️ Reframing the situation as a conversation, greeting the anxiety, and becoming present-oriented are useful techniques to manage speaking anxiety.
15:17 🎤 The speaker outlines an interactive and participatory method for becoming more comfortable in spontaneous speaking situations.
16:45 ⚠️ Overemphasis on perfection can hinder effective spontaneous speaking; it's important to get out of your own way.
17:43 🕹️ The activity "shout the wrong name" is introduced as a way to demonstrate how our need to get things right can interfere with spontaneous speaking.
18:49 🧠 The speaker encourages the audience to participate in an activity where there's no "wrong" answer, teaching them to plan less and act more.
20:13 👯♀️ Participants engage in an exercise, speaking out words unrelated to what they see, noticing patterns their brain defaults to.
21:14 🔄 The audience is encouraged to dismiss these automatic thought patterns and see what emerges when not relying on them.
22:07 🎮 The speaker recommends practicing this kind of brain training game to overcome the barriers one creates for oneself.
23:42 🎭 The speaker advises the audience to "dare to be dull" as a strategy to prevent over-analysis and self-pressure, allowing natural responses.
24:43 🎁 The speaker emphasizes viewing speaking opportunities as a chance to clarify and understand, rather than a challenge or threat.
26:21 🎉 The audience is invited to participate in an imaginary gift exchange to help them perceive situations as opportunities.
27:54 🎁 The speaker introduces an interaction game where participants exchange an imaginary gift, and the receiver reacts positively, no matter what it is, emphasizing the need for positive responses in communication.
28:53 🎭 The speaker advises the audience to partner up and practice the imaginary gift exchange game, highlighting the importance of real-time interaction and response.
32:09 😮 In reflecting on the game, the speaker emphasizes the value of creativity and spontaneity in communication and the need to 'get out of our own way' to foster positive and open communication.
33:08 🤝 The speaker introduces the improvisation saying "Yes and" as a technique to open up opportunities and frame situations positively, underlining the potential of a positive mindset in communication.
34:11 👂 The speaker advises to slow down and listen, emphasizing the importance of understanding the audience's needs and responses to be an effective communicator.
34:35 🎲 The speaker introduces a new game where participants spell out everything they say to their partner, to highlight the importance of active listening and slowing down in communication.
37:01 🧠 Reflecting on the spelling game, the speaker points out that participants had to focus and couldn't think ahead, highlighting the value of staying present in the moment during communication.
37:57 🎧 Listening actively and understanding the message is crucial to delivering a targeted and effective response.
38:33 📖 The power of storytelling in communication: effective communication follows a structure, enhancing both spontaneous and planned speaking.
39:09 🧠 Structured information increases processing fluency: it is processed 40% more effectively than unstructured data.
40:08 💡 Introduction to useful communication structures: "Problem-Solution-Benefit" and "What-So What-Now What".
42:23 🗣️ Spontaneous speaking requires handling what to say and how to say it at the same time: structures help you decide the 'how', freeing you to think about the 'what'.
46:07 🛠️ These structures are tools that can help in spontaneous speaking situations by guiding the flow and order of your thoughts.
47:07 🚀 A four-step approach to spontaneous speaking: manage your anxiety, get out of your own way, give gifts (see interactions as opportunities), and use structures.
48:14 📘 Continuous practice using these techniques can make you more compelling, confident, and connected as a speaker.
48:46 🎤 The speaker encourages audience participation and is open to questions.
49:15 💥 In hostile situations, anticipate potential challenges, acknowledge the emotion without naming it, and reframe the situation to your comfort.
51:16 🌐 For remote audiences, include engagement techniques to maintain audience interest and participation.
52:40 ⚖️ In challenging situations like expert testimony, focus on key themes and use paraphrasing to buy time, reframe questions, and craft efficient responses.
54:07 📖 The speaker shares information about his book and affirms its availability.
54:38 🌍 When presenting to culturally diverse audiences, understanding and accommodating cultural expectations is crucial.
55:38 😄 Humor can be a great tool for connection in presentations, but it can be risky due to cultural interpretations and personal tastes.
56:07 😂 If you're aiming to be funny, self-deprecating humor is the safest choice. Validate your joke with others first, have a backup plan if it doesn't land, and if unsure, avoid it.
56:37 🎤 When communicating, always have a backup plan in case your initial approach doesn't work. If you're uncertain about your plan or its backup, reconsider your approach.
57:05 🗞️ Journalists often ask spontaneous questions. To bypass rehearsed responses, ask 'why' multiple times, or ask the interviewee to provide advice, which often leads to more authentic and detailed answers.
57:34 💡 To encourage more authentic responses, ask people for advice related to the topic at hand. This adjustment in relationship often leads to more in-depth information.
58:03 👋 Ensure a proper closure to your communication, inviting further questions or interactions as needed.
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46:57 speaking clearly phase 1: manage anxiety -> greetings your anxiety, reframing as a conversation, being in the present moment
47:05 phase 2 of speaking effectively: get out of your own way, give gifts, take time to listen, and structure create freedom.
Taking the time to listen is an important communication skill that shows we care about what the other person is feeling and thinking.
This video is truly inspiring and provides valuable insights on becoming an effective speaker. It is particularly helpful for students like me who seek self-improvement, especially in managing anxiety during class reporting, public speaking, or any situation involving an audience. Some techniques that Mr. Matt Abraham mentioned that I find very helpful for achieving successful and effective speaking, whether planned or spontaneous, include acknowledging our anxiety, practicing deep breathing, stepping out of our comfort zones, allowing ourselves to be imperfect, using conversational language, staying present, and many others.
I am so glad I listened to this (again), it finally took hold. Your students are so lucky to have you as an instructor.
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This seminar is the best example of what he taught us.
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Watching this in 2021 and am so thankful for the tools he shared. What a fantastic, professional presentation!
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Here are some of my key takeaways in watching this video;
Anxiety is inevitable, but with proper recognition, you can manage your anxiety. Managing your anxiety is one of the important factors in having a spontaneous speaking. In order to do it, you need to focus on the present and avoid thinking about the aftermath. Be present oriented.
Learn to listen and to respond as it helps you and the audience build a strong connection that helps enable everyone to understand the message of each individual. Don't think as if everything is a challenge. Take it as an opportunity where you can improve your skills. Be a person who sees things in a different light instead of making it always a situation that'll cause you to fail as it will hinder you from trying to stepping out of your way.
I agree with you Roscel , this talk really helped me understand how to handle my nervousness during public speaking. I often get anxious, but his advice to treat speaking as a conversation and not a performance made sense to me. I also liked how he mentioned slowing down and using pauses, which gives me time to think. These takeaways give me confidence to improve my speaking and feel less nervous in front of others.