Wow! You said it and you did it :D Thanks a lot for this so much awaited and anticipated video :) So, in the end it all comes down to being ourselves, our true selves. Listening to our needs, our intuition, our fears, dreams, ideals and set clear goals. I would also say that setting boundaries is also important: the ones who truly love us will respect them, the others will just reveal their true intentions, whatever that might be. P.S.: Somehow listening to your thoughts was like listening to my own inner voice, and it’s surprising how much I felt that this video was addressed to me, even though I am a woman. It all comes down to being a decent and genuine human being.
Yes you're right about setting boundaries! That one is easier said than done...especially if you have grown up to be a people pleaser like me lol. It does come down to being decent and genuine like you said. A lot of us have forgotten how to be that. And if the message rang true to you as a women I'd say were just on the same wavelength as to what is "true" to us. By the way, really appreciate the few comments you've left on my videos. It really made my entire day. Thank you for taking the time. It means a lot to me. V.
Yes, I was one too (-᷅_-᷄๑) , until I realised that "people-pleasing" was destroying my mental health, so I had to set boundaries. I had to learn it the hard way, haha :) Starting to say "no” without feeling guilty, was one of the most freeing experiences I’ve had. But I agree, easier said than done ;) Usually I don’t leave comments on videos, because most of the time there is always someone who has already written what I wanted to say. If I don’t feel I could contribute something meaningful to a discussion, I just remain silent and just enjoy the social dynamics and the information shared. Your channel however is aimed towards your viewers’ perspective and experiences. You share your own thoughts as a way to reach out to other fellow humans along their maturity journey, and you want to share this self- and life- exploration journey with them. I am also in such a journey myself, that’s why I am glad to comment here whenever I have time. Stay well and healthy V.
I think, what it means to be a man is a complex question. But first we have to ask, what is it to be human, and then branch off more specifically to masculinity. First reflect on the strengths of what it is to be human. Intelligence, communication, team work, crafting and creating, imagination, endurance etc. Then add what unique features an average male is typically born with over the average female. Size, strength, drive, aggression, reaction time and spatial awareness, etc. After going over the strengths of these, then you can assign roles that are better suited and are naturally inclined to what it means to be masculine. I like the traditional concepts of masculinity such as bravery, honour, protecting those around you, hard work, good ethics, fortitude, wisdom, a sense of duty, responsibility, leadership, and the pursuit of excellence. A man can be good or evil and most likely has a bit of both in them. But I think to be a real (complete) man, he has to nurture the good within, and defeat the internal evil within.
That is all very well worded and said. You are right, finding the tone of masculinity that suites you, like traditional, and stick with it. It is within each and every one of us, just need to have the strength and courage to express it. Times like these are perfect opportunities for each and every one of us to find the man within...and to express it. Thanks for the well thought out comment! V.
A man is whatever he wants to be. Damn the world and their god damn expectations. Own yourself, don't count on anyone else, and don't kowtow to the endless needs of others. THAT'S being a MAN!
Wow! You said it and you did it :D Thanks a lot for this so much awaited and anticipated video :) So, in the end it all comes down to being ourselves, our true selves. Listening to our needs, our intuition, our fears, dreams, ideals and set clear goals. I would also say that setting boundaries is also important: the ones who truly love us will respect them, the others will just reveal their true intentions, whatever that might be.
P.S.: Somehow listening to your thoughts was like listening to my own inner voice, and it’s surprising how much I felt that this video was addressed to me, even though I am a woman. It all comes down to being a decent and genuine human being.
Yes you're right about setting boundaries! That one is easier said than done...especially if you have grown up to be a people pleaser like me lol.
It does come down to being decent and genuine like you said. A lot of us have forgotten how to be that. And if the message rang true to you as a women I'd say were just on the same wavelength as to what is "true" to us.
By the way, really appreciate the few comments you've left on my videos. It really made my entire day. Thank you for taking the time. It means a lot to me.
V.
Yes, I was one too (-᷅_-᷄๑) , until I realised that "people-pleasing" was destroying my mental health, so I had to set boundaries. I had to learn it the hard way, haha :) Starting to say "no” without feeling guilty, was one of the most freeing experiences I’ve had. But I agree, easier said than done ;)
Usually I don’t leave comments on videos, because most of the time there is always someone who has already written what I wanted to say. If I don’t feel I could contribute something meaningful to a discussion, I just remain silent and just enjoy the social dynamics and the information shared. Your channel however is aimed towards your viewers’ perspective and experiences. You share your own thoughts as a way to reach out to other fellow humans along their maturity journey, and you want to share this self- and life- exploration journey with them. I am also in such a journey myself, that’s why I am glad to comment here whenever I have time. Stay well and healthy V.
@Tongji-os5my I really appreciate that. Thank you...
Same to you as well 😊 ☺️
Intriguing insights. The collective wants us to be homogenized.
I think, what it means to be a man is a complex question. But first we have to ask, what is it to be human, and then branch off more specifically to masculinity.
First reflect on the strengths of what it is to be human.
Intelligence, communication, team work, crafting and creating, imagination, endurance etc.
Then add what unique features an average male is typically born with over the average female.
Size, strength, drive, aggression, reaction time and spatial awareness, etc.
After going over the strengths of these, then you can assign roles that are better suited and are naturally inclined to what it means to be masculine.
I like the traditional concepts of masculinity such as bravery, honour, protecting those around you, hard work, good ethics, fortitude, wisdom, a sense of duty, responsibility, leadership, and the pursuit of excellence.
A man can be good or evil and most likely has a bit of both in them. But I think to be a real (complete) man, he has to nurture the good within, and defeat the internal evil within.
That is all very well worded and said. You are right, finding the tone of masculinity that suites you, like traditional, and stick with it. It is within each and every one of us, just need to have the strength and courage to express it. Times like these are perfect opportunities for each and every one of us to find the man within...and to express it. Thanks for the well thought out comment!
V.
A man is whatever he wants to be. Damn the world and their god damn expectations. Own yourself, don't count on anyone else, and don't kowtow to the endless needs of others. THAT'S being a MAN!
Poetically put my friend...agreed. thank you!!
Actually, you’re the man 🫡