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Depression usually is not a biological problem in the brain. It is NOT a chemical imbalance. NOT. Depression can be healed through proper therapy, humor, and finding the ideal people to be around.
Talk therapy for decades won't do nearly as much as finding community, volunteering, having some kind of purpose in your life. I did this and it saved my life.
Miserable surrounded by ppl stuck in a new paradigm of fear of passing on and/ or becoming infected by a life threatening pathogen may well be the origin of this now for many?
@@Sunshine-kn6or Being surrounded by other people can be disastrous, not therapeutic. My depression was never worse than it was in my college years, when people criticized me for my depression rather than understanding and trying to help. No one really cared. What helped me most was a dog, a simple beagle puppy who was my constant companion for the next 15 years. I spiraled downward the moment he died. Exactly one week later I found another beagle pup, a little female. She sleeps in my lap as I write this. She asks little from me, and gives me everything, more than people ever have.
Family is the only source of friendship which I can rely on but it is slowly slipping away from me and I'm just getting lonelier and lonelier. I can talk to people and i do associate with "groups" of people but I cant class them as friends when I mask my true identity to fit the environment and people around me all the time. Even the things I love doing are losing value and all I want to do is lie in darkness and fall asleep.
I've suffered from severe, chronic depression since I was a child. One of the most important tools I learned over the last 25 yrs, he mentions here. And that is: to NOT trust myself when I'm severely depressed. I will literally turn away from the worst thoughts in my head and say "You're not thinking right. Do not listen to that person, she's very sick and confused." I know this tactic has saved my life more than once. Just vouching that that advice, in particular, is so important. 👍
Gets harder to follow that advice the longer you have been depressed and the more entrenched you are in the depressive thoughts. After a while, it becomes less of a transient state and more just a part of who you are. I resent the "permanent solution to a temporary problem" axiom because of this, because for many, it's a problem that will persist throughout their entire life, just in vary degrees of severity.
@@rentalsnake6542 Agreed. At 33, I'm trying to unravel a decades worth of self hate and bitterness from depressive thoughts. Telling someone like me suicidal thoughts are a temporary state and instilling a sense of shame only produces further spiraling.
@@rentalsnake6542 i completely understand. I'm only saying what has helped me and CAN help others but no advice on depression and suicidal thoughts is blanket advice for everyone, of course. I started to use that tactic after I had my daughter, and she was also a HUGE factor in telling myself I wasn't allowed to listen to those thoughts. Not that I didn't have them, but that I didn't act on them. Before her, I was hospitalized more than once and once almost didn't survive. But since that tactic helped me so much I wanted to mention it in case it could help even one other person. I still struggle, especially since my mom just died. I hope you find help and hope within your struggles as well. 💛
Broken is a very accurate word for a severely depressed person. You feel absolutely destroyed and unable to do anything, no matter how small or trivial it is.
Depression has affected my whole life. Stemming from childhood incest. It is just now I am grieving all my losses. Many factors sealed this broken foundation or no foundation to stand on. As an adult I am trying to be responsible what I can do now.
I had one unfortunate episode that lasted 2 weeks. The world became tasteless. The realization of helplessness that comes with it just absolutely terrible. You are stuck in a terrible place and on top of that all exits are closed. There is no escape.
Love that he emphasized that ZERO ALCOHOL is important for people struggling with depression. No, red wine isn't good for you, and no drinking doesn't "take the edge off". It's a drug, and a terrible one for people with mood disorders.
Wise words, the negative impact alcohol had on my already shitty life is hard to put into words, it amplifies emotions you repress and it's addictive as fuck, bad combo for any mental illness
With out OCD schedules in modern life and work it's important to get some sun on your face. It's important to walk in a place where you safe and free from people that spew their judgemental garbage. It's good to find someone that doesn't just or try to control and just be goofy sometimes. That inner child is screaming, crying and needs attention. I find when I was bad I was looking in judging myself against a stupid set of standards our sick society has places as goals. I remember when people were judged by when they went to far the ones that were really nice people would step up and loudly proclaim that they were being an ass and that they were the problem not the person they were just ripping apart the little part of them that was holding on. I'm not talking about the stupidity of today but like telling yo mama joke in front of a man's mother while he's tied up "depression". It's sometimes like a stress test for the mind in this word with a psychotic prick making up the rules. I used to hate myself now I just don't give a F*** what anyone thinks since I'm the one that is in this body and they are like a disease trying to infect me with their own insanity that is aggressive like someone made them a god. Just get out of your own head and get some sun and help someone but not someone that will not appreciate it and they will give you the esteem from the look you get when they realize someone cares about them also.
I agree one of my favorite talks on depression as well. Here I am revisiting November 2024 on the 21st day, feeling depression, hitting hard with a cold dark weather, aches and pains, depression, anxiety, threats complications of all sorts. They just keep getting worse year-by-year I just wanna be done I wanna numb out I just wanna be happy.
I agree! One of the best sessions ever! Everyone could benefit from Dr. Yapko’s system and suggestions. Imagine, If we could all manage our emotions ~ think of how happy the world would be❣
Missed what you go school work and die traveling for rich people makeing friends thats a joke life about doing same shit over and over every freaking day mom only thing keeps me going i cant even see her if it wasn't for her i would end my life in this bull shit life
One thing I am beginning to understand lately is I have to manage depression when I am NOT depressed and keep the routine and good habits up. When I fall down the rabbit hole of depression no logic or reading anything will help just have to wait for it to pass .
@@banderas2000 Keep riding it out. It will eventually start getting better, it always does.. I'm going through a bad one lately. It's rough. Just hang in there. Nothing lasts forever.
Can it be, that unexpected expectations is the start or beginning of depression? As Citizens and ordinary people, we are constantly bombarded with constant negative opinions from the media and social media, like they really believe they know it all. And we wonder why people are depressed? It’s much easier to prophesies than to follow ones own self advice and be respectful . Depression is part of life. Animals in the wild die from depression when they are pushed away from their pride or become weak and frail. God Bless all and devote your time to people who love you and really care about you. Life is tough, especially with all the negativity in this world! Turn to your faith!
Yes and no. There are ppl whos lives are full of unmet needs yet they dont struggle with suicidal thoughts every day. Most ppl live out bland, noneventful existences in fact but are relatively, somewhat mutely contentish'. Yet ppl who have what would seem as all ones needs met can still feel flat, despondent and completely disaffected. They have recently used electro stimulation on different parts of ppl who have depressions brains and have discovered stimulating these parts alleviated depression almost instantly, similarly with a form of ketamine and psychedelics. So to reduce it to merely unmet needs is pretty reductive.
@@frankstared Oppression: Where?? Inequity: Work harder, no one owes you anything. Hierarchy: Find me one organization, anywhere, sport, management, frogs, flies, the cosmos, where there isnt some form of hierarchy. Maybe re-read number 2 again if you're having an issue with where youre at in the pecking order. Materialism: I suppose you want us to just live in trees and huts? Destroyed environment: You cant have civilization and have a clean planet no matter what the talking heads say.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
This is so helpful. I'm suffering from depression for years and it got to a point where I am not functional. I can't pay for a therapist right now but I'm gathering information during the days I have clarity and little by little I am trying my best. I hope that everyone suffering from depression can heal and starts loving life again ❤
Marco, Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
That perfectly shows how ridiculous and self harming the thoughts of a depressed person can be. I'm guilty of this. I often think if only I had done this, or if only I didn't do this than right now I would be happy. The fact is, that time has passed let go of the "ifs." Focus on the things you can do today. Do the things that 5 years from now you will be glad you did.
The “me” I present to family and friends is warm, funny and likeable. The real “me” is a self loathing depressed person riddled with anxiety and mood swings. It is exhausting to put on the “me” I present to others. Exhausting. I’m learning to cope with all the many past trauma I’ve survived and to understand why I am the way I am. It’s a long road.
I do exactly the same when I am around family members and friends. My reason to do so is my childhood experience that when I showed sad feelings I nearly immediately got criticised for having them or was blamed for the circumstances that caused them. When I was really young my mother would even threaten me when I was crying. She said: Why are you crying? You have got no reason to cry. Stop - or I will give you a reason to cry! Later with friends I made the experience that when I showed signs of being depressed I either got showered with useless advice or they left (because they had only been interested in the friendship as long as I was able to give them attention and energy). So putting on a mask always has been the best option - and develop the skills to detect false friends in an early stage of friendship and getting rid of them.
Whyever would you hate yourself? I think the big point of his speeches that you have to manage your feelings and not let them manage you. We mustn't hate ourselves it's bad for us. We must love ourselves, it's good for us.
You already have such a real realization of the truth how cool !!! But now you have work to do and you are not alone I know cliche but really look around it’s not always people we need use all your tools you earned them why the hell not my power tool is music it rarely lets me down it fascinates me it’s smart witty and sexy even sometimes we waste so much energy on people and expect everyone to love like us never gna happen so meanwhile music will listen and talk back in a really groovy way :)and we will inevitably know that the beat goes on and the beat goes on la da da da da diii la da da da da daaaaa
Hands down the best video I watched when going through a severe bout of depression last year. To anyone currently struggling, please hold on and make small steps - one. day. at. a. time. Sending you love and a hug x
I made researches and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helped to reduce anxiety and depression and some other mental health issues..i would love to try magic mushrooms but they are hard to source!
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues
I'm glad myco_alvin is mentioned... I've been having severe depression for years now but I had to hit him up and got some of his product..they work like magic.
"everything comes to an end." And "expectations are the first step on the road to disappointment". They sound pessimistic, unless you're talking about being pessimistic. If you expect the worse, disappointment is welcomed. If today sucked, wait till tomorrow.
The main problem with depression is you don't have the WILL to do the things you need to do to cure it. Most talks center on the things you need to do but don't tell you HOW to overcome the lack of motivation to even go outside.
Related to your comment, Dr. Yapko says to do things to "have fun." The conundrum is even things your normally love might not seem like fun when depressed.
The thing that really saved me from my depression were not specifically the medicine and therapy I received, but selling my house, getting a steadier financial situation and moving from the depressive evironment I was living in. Changing all the poison variables of my live to much healthier ones and finally creating a new purpose in live.
I didn’t listen for entertainment purposes; I’ve been hobbled by depression since I was 8. I’m now 72, see 2 therapists, am maxed out on psychotropics, and this is the first time I have heard actual practical steps toward helping me out of my “reflexive style.” Here I am, in Tucson Arizona, and I had to listen to the entire lecture twice-because it was so impactful. Thank you Dr. Yapko.
That guy is far funnier than that crowd have him credit for. A sign of true intelligence and rapport with people. Annoying side effects like death. I’d love to have that guy as my therapist
"Thinking is dangerous". My mom's words. She used to say: Who is the happiest person in the village? The village fool! I wish I could stop overthinking everything. I will listen to this video often to remind me of it.
Same here. My mum always used to say that I over-analysed everything. I always thought being a thinker was a good trait but the older I become the more I envy those people who just sort of drift through life.
This lecture was the turning point in my path away from depression. I found myself taking notes for the first time in a very long time. I will never forget this man! THANK YOU!
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
This talk should be required watching for all parents and teens. Period. It is solid gold. It is every bit as important as driving safety courses, drug education or sex education. Thank you sir.
1:05 "When I was a young psychologist, back in 1829..." 17:00 the influence of technology 23:00 what you need 25:44 the meaning of your feelings 27:43 thinking is dangerous 36:26 the past doesn't equal the future
I came home after work today, crying like any other day. This video gave me a little hope, that i know will help me sleep tonight. Wish I had that hope every day.
And now you'll be under pressure to live up to that. He talks about realistic expectations, and tells them not to ruminate; but he ignores that people have real concerns that they can't plan their way out of, and can't stop thinking about.
@@SovereignStatesman What a shitty response. Lighten up…this person just stated that this gave them hope. How about keep your own baggage to yourself and not project your own negative thinking onto others.
I was very depressed for a long time and when I started noticing my daughters depression I knew I had to do something about it. Depression is contagious... God bless you sir.
@Ron Krikorian Depression is not like sadness in that there is always a definite cause. In generality, depression is caused by chronic stress. It's an accumulation of stress over time that overwhelms a person's coping ability.
Couldn’t agree more. My therapists literally gave up and ghosted me. And so many therapists are strictly virtual, which I hate. Not natural. I need physical company and for us to feel each other’s physical presence even when I’d meet with them it felt like such a waste of time. Just talking. I need help making a plan to change things and learn how to not internalize and jump to conclusions and ruminate on the past and all the things this incredible dr shared in this talk. Thinking of you all
One possible issue within some parts of the profession may be that "talk therapy" is misunderstood to be just letting the client talk, that just by verbalizing one's troubles will heal the troubles. At least that is what I have seen from some therapists where I have been a client. Indeed, what Dr. Yapko offers here is a full-spectrum arsenal of techniques that can help train the depressed person's behavior patterns, truly "cognitive behavioral therapy". I do wish that 8 years ago I would have been told some of the simple actions presented here... BUT I am taking advice from this seminar that I can't waste a second thinking about that, instead thinking about how to apply this anti-depressive arsenal to my life today and consistently into the future! 😁
I think of my depression like a bug inside me; eating. Can’t kill it, it always comes back, it’s always there. It’s taken everything from me, and it wants more. True, real, clinical depression is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I hope I get better, and if you’re empathizing with me, I hope you get better too.
One of the things i've learnt is "it's just a Tape recording" We just need to take the negative stories we are playing and change them to how we would LIKE them to be... and play them a few times.. or i have fun with my Sad story and put "Once upon a time... (this happened)"
@@Storm_280 Take action. If needed visit a psycholiogist. Develop your mental muscles. Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Strictly avoid being constipated as it affects the mind instantly.
@@zapperrr100 If under medication reduce gradually over 3-4 months to the lowest mg and see how you feel and then take a decision to taper off completely under medical supervision. Benzos need to be avoided. To feel beeter and prevent side effects read my msg which I sent you and do the simple breath observing practice daily. I have been doing it for years and feeling relaxed and healthy. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
@@Storm_280 If under medication reduce gradually over 3-4 months to the lowest mg and see how you feel and then take a decision to taper off completely under medical supervision. Benzos need to be avoided. To feel better and prevent side effects read my msg which I sent you and do the simple breath observing practice daily. I have been doing it for years and feeling relaxed and healthy. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
Most comments here are written by those who suffer from the disease, where as I do not. I wake up, live and then fall asleep each day at peace. I have always maintained an excitement for life and find navigating through the challenges fairly uncomplicated. Unfortunately, my partner, best friend, and love of my life...is the exact opposite. She emphatically struggles with the state of her mental health. We are nearing 20 years together and I have a unique perspective of this disease by riding shotgun with someone who suffers similarly to the rest of you. When our relationship first began, naturally I thought she's crazy and said foolish things like "just calm down" or "why are you acting like that?" On top of that, I gave crap advise like " just don't care about what other people think of you!" These are the types of things we are all conditioned to say, but are not helpful... In time I realized if it were that simple, she would have already done so. As more and more time passed, I began to pick up on her triggers. Discovering what these were played a huge role in helping her maintain an even keel in regards to her emptions. I also learned, to shut up and listen. By listening for hours on end, she began to feel more comfortable telling me her thoughts and troubles. That sense of trust also helped the situation. I know, that no substance or person (including myself) can fix her and it is NOT fair. It just is, what it is. I have learned there are actions we can take to help ease the situation and develop hope towards the prospect of living a fulfilling life. Be empathetic, mindful, compassionate, loving and most of all accepting. Her illness does NOT define her, it is simply a part of who she is and I wouldn't trade her for the world! Take care everyone.
thank you for saying this. i hope my ex was like you tbh. i am healing but trust me it's hard. i remember i burst into tears when i had to take care of my 2 dying elderly dogs every single day for a year or more on my own and he said (not in purpose, i know) 'why don't you never smile anymore when i pick you up'. he said things like 'just ignore what people think', 'you can try be more grateful about things you have' or 'you should exercise/moving more'. just felt so misunderstood by him when i thought he could be the one to understand me (i opened up and explained the most to him). i was broken and he broke me even more. all i have to say is thank you for keep trying to understand your partner, loving her for her, accepting her and her limitations and please give her a tight hug from me :)
I’ve had major depressive disorder, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder for 6 years and the most effective treatment I ever received was cognitive behavioral therapy. My favorite therapist worked with me on cognitive behavioral therapy and radical acceptance of the current situation I’m in and I’m 100% sure that it saved my life. The ability to stop and look at things rationally and logically when you’re in the middle of an emotional crisis is incomparable, I’ve been off meds for 3 years and while I definitely still struggle, these strategies have stuck with me and keep me going. I also recommend getting a pet if you feel like you can handle it and are ready for them long-term, you’re never lonely and always have to get out of bed to care for them whether you want to or not. Love and best luck to everyone on their journey ❤️
I used to escape from depression into work and sex, it actually does work for me quite well, but as others have said the main goal is to find something that really works. It all boils down to whether or not one could re-program the mind to work for you and not against you. Most people find meaning in family and its generated problems that comes with it (raising a child and so on) but as I see more and more people opt-out this option so having more spare time is actually destructive for the mind. Ultimately we should just learn how to live or experience a more meaningful life without less outside stimulus
Getting a pet is a huge daily responsibility and if you can’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of another being properly. Recommending this to people who can’t think properly is not fair on the animal who needs a secure routine.
I went through years of depression and I tell you, the thing that brought me to, not just a stable life, but a joyful life, was when I started living like the people I loved mattered more than my fears. Life saver.
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
Great talk! I only wish my 30-year-old self could have heard it. By great good fortune, I'm having a retirement my younger self never could have envisioned. I will no longer question my contented self. Instead, I will simply enjoy my happiness and share it with the small fry in our clan to make sure they have the experience of a positive Auntie in their behavior toolkits.
@@Onlinesully I agree totally! For me, I've never found a decision I've made that has cured my depression, Hence, my cursed life circumstances. There is all this theoretical talk but nothing tangible. That's why you are picking up on my bitterness & anger .......
@@Onlinesully thank you for asking. That is very kind of you. My father passed away on Dec 27. Now I have lost both parents and it is a very difficult thing. I’m surrounded by people- great job, great husband wonderful daughters but if you are close to your parents, when they are gone it’s a loneliness that is indescribable.
As a person suffering from depression for a long time I must say too that as much as depressed people may impact negatively on others around them, there are those depressed people that are being negatively affected by toxic environmental factors like toxic work environments as well. Removing or managing toxic environments that really do exist outside of your moods or emotions is also very important.
I totally agree. Mine all started working in a toxic environment as a lunch lady for school children. It wasn't the kids they were great it was the small group of ladies I worked with in the kitchen that made me so depressed. They all ganged up on me and made me feel less than nothing. It got so bad I walked out the door into poverty. Now I have no motivation to do anything for the last 3 years. I don't like who I am anymore.
@@dorisrentrope1660 please fight for the life truly deserve. The flip side of removing toxic people from your life is replacing them with positive persons who will help to lift you up and motivate you. I pray you find that drive and with the help of a professional or/and loved ones pull through this.
"Back when I was a young psychologist in 1829..." This guy has a great sense of humor! Unfortunately, the audience were a bunch of uptight duds that could not appreciate his great personality.
No amount of talk therapy or pills helped me more than the practical advice in this video. I’m glad I found it and was brave enough to watch and learn.
i have severe depression and i joined jrotc my freshman year of highschool. it quite literally saved my life in more ways than one. it had the order, structure, and tight knit group of people that i was lacking my entire life. i couldnt be more grateful for that decision.
He is such a great speaker despite quite a dead audience. Everything is there: great structure, clear points, beautiful emphasis on the key points, jokes (!). I wish we had teachers/lectures like him!
I've watched this lecture 3-4 times since I first heard it a week ago. I have a master's degree in Behavior Management and have spent a decade working w/ individuals w/ emotional and behavioral disorders in schools, and this lecture still gave me new language to describe depression and terms for ideas I was aware of but couldn't quite categorize.
I spent 3 months doing classes 4yrs ago , and this guy is great , his one hour was a great overview reference for me to remind me of why I did all those different different classes . Hes jogged a few memories and reminders that I have forgotten ! He is excellent, proper good science . Im going to keep this vid :)
It's an amazing lecture, I have listened to it at least 10 times simply to understand more about depression and how to beat it. Everytime I listen I get something new from it
That's a tough crowd, atleast 3 of his good jokes did not land. It takes both guts and skills to make jokes while delivering a talk on such a serious issue
I used to suffer from a lot of depression due to a difficult childhood. It was only about 8 years ago that I got out of it due to good therapy and my willingness to change. No medication, nothing heavy duty, just talking and realizing that most of the things I went through weren't my fault. I'm 39 years old. I would say it took me a good 20 years to get rid of my depression, but it's doable.
Being a human can be so f’ing hard… the struggle to live life on life’s terms. It is easier though knowing that I am part of a 7 billion member team! I can find comfort and strength thinking about every human who ever walked this earth. Every one of you is my hero.
Thank you for your very true and kind words. I do feel the same about being human like you do. I personally find comfort in the idea of the early Christians (who partly believed totally different things than Christians do today). They believed that this world was a fallen world existing under the power of evil - only a shadow of the heavenly realms. In their eyes God was never almighty but the benign power fighting for human beings against the evil destructive forces that torture humans and lead them to destructive feelings and actions. God showed humans a way to enlightenment, to see this life and this world as it really is and to escape this world and its forces to enter again into his realm after death. Every time I feel deeply unhappy in this world - I always have had the feeling that I don´t belong here - I think of it as a prison world from which I am going to escape one day. I wish you all the best for this life here!
Twelve years ago the police came to tell me they had taken my wife body from the local canal. I have never got fully over it as I still get anxiety problems but friends were the biggest help in keeping me going.
Problem is...depressed people are too depressed to care enough to seek out this information in the first place, let alone be willing to take it all in and follow through.
It worries me to see that the people in charge of mental health are not capable of laughing at any of the Dr's good jokes... PLEASE!!! On the other hand, loved that he kept throwing his jokes even without any feedback from the crowd. He's great! :)
@@Foxtrottangoabc I've noticed sober crowds act livelier and happier than drinking crowds. There's nothing wrong with alcohol, it's just something I've noticed again and again.
Exercise (lots of cardio) is how I cope. Getting to the gym can be challenging but after 15-20 minutes on the treadmill, I feel like a new person. Such an amazing feeling. The joy is back, I’m smiling and getting in shape. Then me and all my joy, gets in my car and the thought of driving home where I live with a narcissist, is short lived. Thankfully I’m working on new living arrangements and saying bye-bye to all of the negative.
Exercise had incredible benefits for me as well, it wasn’t immediate but walks and pushing weights at the gym were gently massaging my mind to produce less toxic thoughts and made me a little more braver and resilient
Wow - this was truly a year's worth of therapy wrapped up into one hour. And he summed it up nicely when he said, "the goal is not to cure depression; the goal is to manage your moods. I recommend taking notes as you listen to this. You'll want to revisit his key points again and again. Excellent video!
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
I remember I was going crazy because of my emotional health it was getting worse And I was aggressive angry and tired And thats because of how I was living, I was sinning in my mind when I was letting lustful images enter to my brain, I did not now back then that this was described in the bible, If I knew I would have realized much earlier that if you open door to sin once now you you gonna get addictions and that will lead you to depression and death, I cried out to God and prayed and he set me free from my addictions, I started reading the bible each day Now Im mindful of what Im watching what music Im listening the food that Im eating Since I became Christian I started to filter my thoughts and now Im a totally different person I pray and fast and study the bible. Looking back I understood all the mistakes I did, I was selfish and sinned a lot by thinking about lust, And sin leads us to death, I started Repenting daily and God heard my prayer. Now I feel so happy everyday I just wish I turned to faith earlier and didn’t missed all that time of my life . Made my parents worry about me Now I feel healthy and wanna help others to heal, and thanks to God I found my purpose in life. I used to wake up feeling depressed now I dont even remember how I felt back then God is my Savior Now I feel peace and joy constantly
To you reading this right now: you are beautiful and loved. You’re not alone in this. Many others right now are thinking the same things you are. But, we all have something to offer each other. Stay connected in this chat and help others who need your insight and experience. One day, all this will make sense and you will be called to use what you have gathered and learned from all this and use it to help someone who will truly need you. Meanwhile, know that you have the support and love of all of us in this chat. We can be here for each other, as I need you to be there for me as well. I promise you, this upcoming day will be wonderful and you will sleep well and with great peace.
Why do people write these shitty generic comments? You do not know anything about the people you are a calling beautiful, loved, or not alone. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder it is irrelevant. They might not be loved, and they might just be alone, you just don't know, and strangers on the internet are not a good source of support for anyone.
this is probably the most comprehensive lecture on the finer points and risk factors of depression that i've seen on this platform. i've had depression for almost as long as i can remember, and this guy just nails the foundations and thought patterns that buttress the condition. i can't even tell you how many times i've been told by people in my life, pleaded with, yelled at, etc. to "let go of the past" and live presently. for some reason, hearing this guy firmly but gently say "you are not your past, but you can create possibilities for the future" and then actually lay out the framework of how to do that briefly made me break down in tears. i'm in a very dark place right now, very alone, and i haven't done shit to improve my situation for months. i've ended a two year relationship, started using drugs and alcohol way more, and almost entirely abandoned my hobbies and passions. i hate my job and have no idea what i could feasibly do for a career. for my entire life, everything has just felt out of my grasp and beyond the scope of my ability. i'm 24 and the thinking about the dreams i had as a kid causes me so much pain when i think about how deeply i've failed to accomplish any of them. my sleep schedule is erratic and my attention span is basically nonexistent. but for some reason i managed to sit here and listen to this whole thing, and he's right. i need to build a future for myself that's better than what's happening right now. i need to be with people i love, doing things that i care about. i need to get help.
when dealing with depression, I usually start by being humble: Aim for small incremental gains rather than making big major decisions. Nothing major... just cover the basics. Like exercising: I would start by walking few minutes or few minutes of yoga, rather than larger chunks of time. Same with meditation: start with five minutes... and aim for regularity. I do not longer aim to "get rid of the depression". I am for "being more functional" and "giving more space to small thinks I love". Start by trying to get into a routine with sleeping: same time, same ritual, no alcohol or drugs, and avoid screens . If you suffer insomnia as I did, aim for finding something that help you to relax while waiting for tiredness to come. Reading help some people. In my case I fill coloring books. I do not fight the lack of sleep anymore as it makes me ruminate. I aim for emptying my mind from worries. And colours help me. My psycologist helped me to look into "self-compassion" as the key ingredient to deal with the moods. I remind myself that nobody is perfect and that I cannot sort all out at once. So I focus on only one thing. And then I focus on drawing rather than sleep. As soon as I feel tired, I go back to sleep. If I wake up in the middle of the night and cannot go back to sleep, I just start again with drawing. I do not think anymore on "why I cannot sleep" or "why I am sooo stressed" or "look how time flies and I cannot sleep".. I just enjoy the colors and how things start to take shape. You need to go back to your hobbies as they bring you something to enjoy. It is part of taking care of yourself. Try to find some external support to start a process to deal with your type of depression & the reasons behind your addictions. Good luck. It requires work and tons of self-care.
Been there. Yes, the lecture is great, and therapy works. Think of it that way: you're lucky you got aware of this at your young age, for me it was at exactly double your years. Let us know you took an appointment with your local Yapko
Rumination is a big problem for me at times. I have learned to weather these times and to challenge the thoughts as much as I am able. Ruminating is a sign that I need to “up” the self care levels for a little while and not be too hard on myself.
You must have energy in order for action to occur. That's what depression is. A lack of energy. It's essentially a state of energy conservation and hibernation. Not easy to get motivated to do anything to improve your life when your body just wants to do nothing or sleep.
Just get moving, push through the quicksand of malaise, it will prime the pump and most often we can rise to the occasion. Act as if....as if things are easy, that the wheels are greased. Theres a forest of brambles one can hack through to create new neural pathways. Eventually you will have your sweet grassy pathway. It IS possible.
I’ve had depression for a long time and I was skeptical after his first “thesis statement” when he said “yes, yes, yes yes” to depression being treatable and preventable. But had to listen to the whole thing because he has studied it for 40 yrs. Turns out I agree with everything. My depression is a result of the exact processes he described. I feel like depression is a condition that is a result of how I think, but not a description of what or who I am. I am not depression and I don’t “Have” depression, but I am prone to depression as a result of how I process information and what stories I choose to tell myself and choose to believe. This is a relief and I’m excited to try this new approach. Rumination is useless unless it leads to an action.
Hi xx yes you can choose to act happy and smile , to act with gratitude and forgiveness to others for the perceived slights against us , I hope you keep on feeling well , xx
I go to the restroom (just to pee) and 30 minutes later I'm still ruminating...until I notice my ass is numb. I now have an egg timer in the bathroom. lol hey, it works
Jesus loves you so much, so much that He died on the cross for you. He is the answer to everything and is our only blessed hope in this fallen world. He wants to save and heal you and have a personal relationship with you. Make Him your personal Lord and Saviour today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed and the pre tribulation rapture and His return is imminent! ABCs of salvation: Admit you are a sinner and have made mistakes. Repent (turn away) from your sins. Believe that Jesus is Gods’ Son, died on the cross for you and from rose from the dead on the third day. Confess Jesus as The Lord of your life and commit yourself to a life of following Jesus and serving others. Get water baptised and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit who will help you to do that. Get a KJV Bible, start by reading the gospel of John then the rest of the Bible. You will learn all about God, His love for all of His creation, how to obey Him and hear His voice and how to overcome everything until we go home to be with Him forever in heaven. Romans 10:9-10 KJV [9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. [10] For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
Nick Lloyd, Develop your mental muscles from within. Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Strictly avoid being constipated.
It's the best talk about depression I've heard. It goes beyond useless tips that clueless people are pushing from TED's stage. This guy is one who really should talk about depression on TED.
Agreed. I think TED often overlooks the requirements for somebody to be considered an expert in a topic. This guy's the real deal, over 40 years of research and treatment of people with depression. When in doubt, look for solid qualifications and research backgrounds I guess.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety levels, I would love to try shrooms
Psychedelics saved me from vears of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
Now i'm suffering severe depression , all he mentioned is what i'm experiencing right now. When he talks about the listing how to shower and the client only list 3 steps , i laughed when he said that there's literally 50 steps for getting in a shower but after she said that , he said " now next do a chart/list for how to be happy" i burst to tears , because i realized that i don't literally know the steps to be happy 😢 all these years , i thought i'm living in a flawed but happy life but the truth is not . This lecture cheered me up to do things i love and i'm grateful . THANK YOU VERY MUCH or should i say MARAMING SALAMAT PO 💖From Philippines ☺
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams.
Such a statement comes out of the teachings of Buddha, with your thoughts you create your world, the ''personality'' we create comes from a collection of memories.
@@JT-cv1yo :If you believe in a life after this current one then I assume you believe you had a life before this one, and so last time around you were more concerned about the next life.. Which is this one...Dig it...
@@firefox7801 - Living in a 3rd world country with no means (money and/or in-demand qualifications) to move. So to do so you're willing to settle for much less and suffer much more in terms of work, personal time, health and relationships as long as in your mind you're working towards it. You keep working and trying and just when you think that you finally get your break and can see the light for once, circumstances outside your control change and it goes away and everything becomes dark again. It haunts you every minute and every day... I wanna have faith but the reality is truly exhausting.
When I started therapy years ago, I went in and said “I’m co-dependent and…”. My therapist explained he didn’t believe in using labels. He wouldn’t say someone is an alcoholic. He’d say that is a person who has a problem with alcohol during this time in their life. That was so valuable.
Isn’t it true that during times of depression it’s easier to care for another than for ourselves!? And the magic is that, in caring for another we also care for and become aware of our own needs! Giving support and help to another can feed our souls. And leave us feeling empowered and important!
I could not move a finger to get up and Take care of myself, but would jump at the idea of caring for my nephews. Depression is a very strange land to be on.
Anyone reading this comment I just want to tell you that you're amazing, loved, cherished, valid, worthy, intelligent and soooo much more. You are appreciated and if you ever consider hurting yourself just know that you will rob the world of an amazing soul that can potentially change the world and if not the world, your own world by staying around and being YOU!! Much love!!
Actually suffered severe depression which led to my addiction to alcohol for over 7 years after I lost my husband. Not until my son recommended me to psilocybin. Psilocybin mushrooms treatment saved me from depression and addiction. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I've done microdosing for help and it works does cut depression out its been the best remedy I've ever had psilocybin been illegal is actually a crime against humanity
Hey! Yes I'm very sure of Dr.benshrooms. what's helped me more personally is micro dosing. I don't take a lot at all I'll only eat a cap or two and I'm good for the entire day. It just helps to clear your mind and cleanse your soul. Very hard to explain... It's like trying to explain colors to a person who's never been able to see.
Had major depressive episodes for the past 10 years. After watching this, I’ve come to understand my depression more clearly and I look forward to growing and learning to manage my moods. Excellent lecture!
This has really opened my eyes. Years ago I was told by a psychiatrist to trust my own feelings more but I now realise I've been trusting them too much during the times I've been depressed. If I've not felt like doing something then I haven't done it, even if it would have been something good for me. I've always thought that forcing myself to do something that I didn't want to do was always going to result in me feeling worse, even if that thing was exercise or something else that would have actually been good for me.
Yes! I had a therapist in my youth who encouraged me to push past the sluggishness I feel and get my exercise because it's a good mood booster! Wise words. It's just the "pushing through" part. It's really hard sometimes. The more I practice though, I get better. It changes the neuropathways and helps me not feel so sluggish anymore, like an upward spiral!
Jesus loves you so much, so much that He died on the cross for you. He is the answer to everything and is our only blessed hope in this fallen world. He wants to save and heal you and have a personal relationship with you. Make Him your personal Lord and Saviour today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed and the pre tribulation rapture and His return is imminent! ABCs of salvation: Admit you are a sinner and have made mistakes. Repent (turn away) from your sins. Believe that Jesus is Gods’ Son, died on the cross for you and from rose from the dead on the third day. Confess Jesus as The Lord of your life and commit yourself to a life of following Jesus and serving others. Get water baptised and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit who will help you to do that. Get a KJV Bible, start by reading the gospel of John then the rest of the Bible. You will learn all about God, His love for all of His creation, how to obey Him and hear His voice and how to overcome everything until we go home to be with Him forever in heaven. Romans 10:9-10 KJV [9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. [10] For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
@Angela G I think you misinterpreted trust your gut or your instincts, with trust your feelings. Feelings come and go and during depression they are unrealistic. Trust your gut, especially if you’re a healthy eater.
@@healthyone100 I do and I would wager many wrestle with some of the more common symptoms from time to time. It is important that we not only cultivate our tools to regulate our moods but also create environments defined by wellness, loving-kindness, and equity. Take care!
@@healthyone100 Reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
"my traumas control me" "using the past to predict the future" "i will never get a good job/relationship" ...."you are more than your history", "you are more than your body size", "they are not the basis to define myself" very powerful content.... thank you very much for uploading this.
"When you use your feelings as the indicator of what to do, you're going to make mistakes." People who tell you to listen to your feelings and what your heart tells you are giving you bad advice? This is the BEST advice I've ever heard - bravo! Us artistic types are not used to this kind of straight talk - and that's why we are so unsuccessful and sad, a lot of the time. I am the cheery type, but I STILL wish I heard this earlier in my life.
It's also the cause of many relationship breakups because people "lose the spark" or "fall out of love" and they think those kinds of fleeting emotions are all that matters (and yes I've been guilty of it as well, it forced me to reevaluate what I really want and find important).
This implies you can be robotically rational, thus ignore emotion and be "realistic". This is impossible, you can't function without emotion. Doesn't mean they're true, of course, but you can't arbitrarily ignore them and poof! you're cured!
This part, struck deep abt 28mins in. 👉🏼"Cognitive Rigidity, the key problem with depressed people is that they think things and make the mistakes in actually believing in themselves. " "Without the ability to learn how to go outside of urself, and reality test - all u can do is be a prisoner of ur own thoughts, and if ur own thoughts are depressing - U ARE IN TROUBLE!" This has been my issue since my 1st teen trauma at 14. I have suffered more traumas afterwards. Now I'm in my 40s and I'm in this mental loop because I don't have the tools to help myself. I can't mask it any longer. I masked it with marijuana as a teen, I masked it with alcohol as an adult. Pulled myself away from alcohol. I just want to stop this madness, I'm sure all who have depression want to. My brain is acting like it doesn't want to work past this loop of my own thinking at this point. 😢 I have been a prisoner of my mind for a very long time. I want to be free, so I can live the life God has for me. I want to find what will work for me specifically. So I am actively trying to figure this out. And pray that I can free myself before it's too late. 🙏🏼
"There are no guarantees in life, but we can take actions to create possibilities for the future." That is a very powerful statement and it's easy to lose sight of that when you're feeling depressed. I've not dealth with long term depression, but have dealt with bouts of it after breakups especially. And I'm generally definitely cursed with the tendency to think too much. It's so easy to get lost in catastrophising thoughts and ruminations. But even very small actions at first can start a snowball effect of possibilities. Go for a walk, clean your room, call a friend, say hello to one stranger... doing those things with intent and rewarding yourself afterwards for doing it can start the ball rolling again. But at first even those little things seem impossible.
Yes, snakedogman, overthinking is definitely a curse. Try talking to your brain, like if he wakes you up in the middle of the night wanting company and chatting as if there were no tomorrow, tell him to be quiet in order to regenerate, or that if you get sick from lack of sleep and die the very same thing will happen to him in no time. And that he also be well advised to think twice before hoping for a new host because there is no scientific evidence of reincarnation. You will end up the both of you laughing your head on at your own silly jokes, that’s a promise ❣️
4:57 And what emerged from that, with great clarity were: certain patterns of self-organization 8:51 It's far less about what actually happens to you and it's far more about how you actually interpret, how you give the significance to, what kind of meaning you attach to the events in your life. attributional style: a pattern of how people reflexively, unconciously interpret the significance of events 19:24- around 20:20 Learning about yourself(vulnerabilities, risk factors), everybodys different (good points) 30:07 ...to master the art of recognizing what you don't know instead of making stuff up and then actually believing yourself 38:04 You're more than your history, you're more than any characteristic... 39:05 the last thing you wanna do is define yourself by your unchangeable history
Concise,cogent and clear talk. The speaker is a genuine person. He wants people to get out of depression. He has taken the horse to the pond. He can’t make you drink. If one is determined to get out of depression, here’s how. He has shown us the path. Thank you very much sir for showing the way out. 👏👏👏🙏🏼💐
Great comment Lalitha! I also truly believe in the importance of getting your body CLEAN which I’ve come to understand is absolutely CRITICAL to one’s mental (and overall) well being. It’s been a journey for me but I’m SO SURE I’m on the right path now! Sending you love light and positivity 💕🙌
Something I've been struggling with in recent years is not feeling like anything, and that phrase, like "emotions pass, consequences stay" has really resonated strongly, thank you.
Yes, the doctor is right I think - the internet will depress a person overtime. Also Dr. Yapko mentions that depression is infectious and it affects people who are around the depressed person. But the depressed person needs to be around loved ones as it will help the depressed person. Isolation will only make the depressed person become more and more depressed. Therefore family and friends should never cut off the depressed person; it just makes matters worse.
I've learned from having depression most of my life that people avoid you because they can't deal with you when you're having an especially bad day. Even people who themselves struggle with depression. It just magnifies the isolation and loneliness. And the people who allegedly know you are surprised if you develop an addiction or engage in dangerous behavior or start feeling suicidal. Human contact can not be replaced.
It seems like a vicious cycle to me. I've found that quite a few friends and family members will listen but can't seem to really empathize. We isolate because people are scared of we who are depressed and think it WILL be contagious. When truthfully, so many of us would just like someone to take us out to lunch or just come over with some soup and a hug. I wish more people would understand that it's hard enough for us to get out of bed, much less socialize. A good, caring support system is so important. Unfortunately I don't have one.
@@amg726 Sometimes I think it’s also important to accept that empathize and communicate can also take a lot of energy for some people, even for those that doesn’t seem to suffer. Everyone have a lot of problems on their hands and it can be tough for them to juggle everything. Not even mentioning that without effective communication from all parties, some ppl probably doesn’t even know what to do in the situation, esp. when they have never been taught about it. For example, when we want someone to take us for lunch, they probably don’t know that that’s what we wanted.
@@langletprolet8378 Sure, I agree! I was talking about friends and family who DO know that you're depressed. And also sometimes even when we do express the need for companionship, they don't seem to get it. Perhaps you're right that some people just don't have that much empathy.
@@amg726 Yes, unfortunately that’s what I was trying to get at. Which is why the advice on this lecture on realistic expectations is very, very important. I’m trying to be honest, sympathy is easy, but empathy is the opposite. It takes experience, time, teaching, etc. It’s easy to say “We’re here for you, you’re not alone keep fighting,”, etc. especially on the internet but acting on it is in another level. For example, it’s easy to feel empathy on the passing of a loved one, cus almost everyone knows how it feels. But depression is very unique to each one, and made harder when most ppl are not taught on how to help properly. While I have some symptoms of mood disorder, it is my sister who definitely has a higher level and risk factor. I always try to have fun with her and accompany her, but I gotta be honest, it’s super difficult when the going gets rough when her mood and lack of stress management has taken a negative effect on her academic life. It takes a lot of patience especially cus I have my own problems to deal with. I have hope that it can get better, but still very much unsure if I have helped properly or even enough.
Listened to the whole thing. This was eye opening. By far the single most helpful talk I’ve listened to about depression. Everything else I’ve listened to treats depression like a mysterious boogie man. This guy lays it out very pragmatically.
Just in case you guys don't know, Dr Michael Yapko is one of the greatest hypnotherapists working in America today. I've watched a video of him working with a depressed client using hypnosis and his love and care really shines through.
One of the BEST videos I’ve watched related to Mental health, IF NOT THE best. Seriously...bravo. This talk seriously woke me up from my rumination and everything else he mentioned. I now have new clarity and purpose; skills and things I need to work on. This has truly given me a new sense of hope and a path forward in my life. Life changing. Thank you so much.
@@montesa9136 yeah. Pairing depression with anxiety anf years of abandonment and insecurities in my friendships and overthinking tends to isolate me and its even harder in this climate. I feel like i would rather just be alone and medicated sometimes.
Medications are simply blunting your emotions. The depression is there to show you there's something wrong with your life and lifestyle that needs to be addressed. To suppress that is to do yourself a disservice.
Medication masked my feelings and kept me from being able to realize I was surrounded by abusive people. It made it so I was able to be around, and attract, abusive partners, and tolerate toxic work environments. Then I wondered why my trauma was compounded. Medication kept me from recognizing that I was in dangerous and toxic situations that I needed to leave. Which is what caused my depression in the first place. Both of my parents were in deep denial about their own lack of self esteem, and treated us kids like extensions of themselves, whom they thought very little of. And I was the youngest, raised in abuse and neglect by parents who had zero parenting skills, and then proudly let the older siblings raise the younger ones, never stopping constant bullying and sexual abuse. Gee, I wonder why I was depressed? But I was gaslit constantly and told that it was only me. Everyone else in the family was fine. I became scapegoated as I was the only one willing to admit that there was a problem. I was the physical manifestation of all of our family problems. Since the family had no problems it all had to be my fault. And I couldn’t figure out why I was depressed. After all, I was constantly told, we had such a wonderful mother, had a pool in the backyard, lived in California, I was an attractive blonde, so everything was wonderful. If there was anything wrong it was that I was supposedly “spoiled” and “ungrateful,” as clearly I had a magical childhood. I even repeated this to people. I had a perfect childhood. It wasn’t until adulthood that the cracks started to appear. Other siblings had “breakdowns,” which they treated with supplements or blamed on genetics. One was simply dehydrated. One blamed her problems on her bad marriage. It wasn’t until recently when my parents both passed away that I realized that I had had a bad mother. And that our family was toxic. Weird how my “chemical imbalance” is going away now that I’m getting away from my toxic family! Now I’m finally going off of SSRIs, learning HEALTHY coping techniques, seeing how my own behavior has been toxic as well.
Anyone suffering from depression should listen and take to heart what is being taught here. I wish we had a program in schools that would take these suggestions and research and is integrated into the curriculum and our whole system. It could save not just the future of our children, but the core of our society..
So wish I'd known this 40 years ago! Missed so many opportunities and family situation was so bad. Religion was where I was sent and it was NO help! This is a great lecture! Very True!
I’ve suffered from depression alot of my life and PTSD. However, things i don’t do anymore are dwell on the past, i could care less what others think about me, if something is real important i will get it said and discuss it and move on, i don’t get too deep on anything or over analyze it because more than likely I’m wrong, i like to deal with reality head on, and i take care of myself better now than i used to. I have learned these things over time. I am on meds and believe in God with all my heart and that has not changed for decades. I would like to be a testimonial for those who are suffering to let them know there is hope.
I had a awesome upbringing. No traumas. I was 16 sitting in Algebra class. It got cloudy outside and began to rain. All of a sudden a wave of sadness came over me and I started to cry for no reason. I had to leave class and go home because I had no idea what the hell was going on. I had to be hospitalized at age 16. There were no troubles in my life. I just kept hearing in my head, why do we live when we’re going to die anyway? Long story short, my hormones were out of wack. Same thing happened after the birth of my two daughters. I was experiencing depression, not being “depressed”. So my point is make sure you get hormones checked if feeling really down.
Thank you i relate so strongly to this. I have no traumas and feel like a fraud sometimes for feeling like i have anxiety or depression. Im hoping its my hormones too. Going to a therapist this week
PMDD is a highly unrecognized disease. Two weeks before your period, if you ever feel depressed, suicidal thoughts, paranoia, make hasty decisions that you normally wouldn’t then talk to your gynecologist and find a psychiatrist who really has experience with this area. I’m glad I found a name for what I was going through. Premenstrual Dysphoria Disorder.
By a long margin the best talk on depression and how to manage it that I have ever heard. Dr Yapko is a truly brilliant academic and his presentation should be required listening for all clinicians and their patients.
I freaking love that the best comprehensive video on treating depression was a lecture from a psychologist that sounds like Eeyore.. so freaking adorable
Psilocybin DMT, mushrooms and psychedelics, as a whole, have shown substantial promise as beneficial agents that can truly aid individuals grappling with mental health difficulties.
I totally agree! DMT, Psilocybin mushrooms and psychedelics in general have shown great potential in helping people with mental health issues. It's truly remarkable how effective they can be in treating depression and anxiety
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
Going from depression to living AND enjoying life was a long hard journey, prayers for those going through hard times.
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Depression usually is not a biological problem in the brain. It is NOT a chemical imbalance. NOT.
Depression can be healed through proper therapy, humor, and finding the ideal people to be around.
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Talk therapy for decades won't do nearly as much as finding community, volunteering, having some kind of purpose in your life. I did this and it saved my life.
Where did you find a community you felt good in??
I was just thinking this same thing. I’m alone and miserable surrounded by people. Just sad
Miserable surrounded by ppl stuck in a new paradigm of fear of passing on and/ or becoming infected by a life threatening pathogen may well be the origin of this now for many?
@@Sunshine-kn6or Being surrounded by other people can be disastrous, not therapeutic. My depression was never worse than it was in my college years, when people criticized me for my depression rather than understanding and trying to help. No one really cared. What helped me most was a dog, a simple beagle puppy who was my constant companion for the next 15 years. I spiraled downward the moment he died. Exactly one week later I found another beagle pup, a little female. She sleeps in my lap as I write this. She asks little from me, and gives me everything, more than people ever have.
Our choices are more limited during the pandemic...but manageable!
it's hard to get out of depression when you have no friends but depression makes it soo hard to make friends
Much harder when there are no friends and no family either.
Quintessential "catch 22"
It's hard to keep friends when you are miserable to be around...
Family is the only source of friendship which I can rely on but it is slowly slipping away from me and I'm just getting lonelier and lonelier. I can talk to people and i do associate with "groups" of people but I cant class them as friends when I mask my true identity to fit the environment and people around me all the time. Even the things I love doing are losing value and all I want to do is lie in darkness and fall asleep.
@@rong2962 Me too.
24:04 Risk Factors
25:01 Internal Orientation
30:31 Stress Generation
35:03 Rumination
40:16 Global Thinking
46:20 Unrealistic Expectations
55:22 Other Tips
Thank you.
Perfect summary! Thank you!
Thank you!
Saint
I've suffered from severe, chronic depression since I was a child. One of the most important tools I learned over the last 25 yrs, he mentions here. And that is: to NOT trust myself when I'm severely depressed. I will literally turn away from the worst thoughts in my head and say "You're not thinking right. Do not listen to that person, she's very sick and confused." I know this tactic has saved my life more than once. Just vouching that that advice, in particular, is so important. 👍
Good advice.
Gets harder to follow that advice the longer you have been depressed and the more entrenched you are in the depressive thoughts. After a while, it becomes less of a transient state and more just a part of who you are. I resent the "permanent solution to a temporary problem" axiom because of this, because for many, it's a problem that will persist throughout their entire life, just in vary degrees of severity.
@@rentalsnake6542 Agreed. At 33, I'm trying to unravel a decades worth of self hate and bitterness from depressive thoughts. Telling someone like me suicidal thoughts are a temporary state and instilling a sense of shame only produces further spiraling.
@@rentalsnake6542 i completely understand. I'm only saying what has helped me and CAN help others but no advice on depression and suicidal thoughts is blanket advice for everyone, of course. I started to use that tactic after I had my daughter, and she was also a HUGE factor in telling myself I wasn't allowed to listen to those thoughts. Not that I didn't have them, but that I didn't act on them. Before her, I was hospitalized more than once and once almost didn't survive. But since that tactic helped me so much I wanted to mention it in case it could help even one other person. I still struggle, especially since my mom just died. I hope you find help and hope within your struggles as well. 💛
@@bellona6356 ^^^^this is for you as well. 💛
Broken is a very accurate word for a severely depressed person. You feel absolutely destroyed and unable to do anything, no matter how small or trivial it is.
Oh
Huh I think I have finally reached beyond "mild" after 5 years of dealing with it on-and-off....
Depression has affected my whole life. Stemming from childhood incest. It is just now I am grieving all my losses. Many factors sealed this broken foundation or no foundation to stand on. As an adult I am trying to be responsible what I can do now.
And the Saddest part is it gets worse with age not better! Physician assisted suicide should be allowed!
Yeah definitely
I had one unfortunate episode that lasted 2 weeks. The world became tasteless. The realization of helplessness that comes with it just absolutely terrible. You are stuck in a terrible place and on top of that all exits are closed. There is no escape.
Love that he emphasized that ZERO ALCOHOL is important for people struggling with depression. No, red wine isn't good for you, and no drinking doesn't "take the edge off". It's a drug, and a terrible one for people with mood disorders.
It's a depressant!
@@holographer4810 yes? still a drug?
@@Matty94 classified as a depressant yes!
Wise words, the negative impact alcohol had on my already shitty life is hard to put into words, it amplifies emotions you repress and it's addictive as fuck, bad combo for any mental illness
With out OCD schedules in modern life and work it's important to get some sun on your face. It's important to walk in a place where you safe and free from people that spew their judgemental garbage. It's good to find someone that doesn't just or try to control and just be goofy sometimes. That inner child is screaming, crying and needs attention. I find when I was bad I was looking in judging myself against a stupid set of standards our sick society has places as goals. I remember when people were judged by when they went to far the ones that were really nice people would step up and loudly proclaim that they were being an ass and that they were the problem not the person they were just ripping apart the little part of them that was holding on. I'm not talking about the stupidity of today but like telling yo mama joke in front of a man's mother while he's tied up "depression". It's sometimes like a stress test for the mind in this word with a psychotic prick making up the rules. I used to hate myself now I just don't give a F*** what anyone thinks since I'm the one that is in this body and they are like a disease trying to infect me with their own insanity that is aggressive like someone made them a god. Just get out of your own head and get some sun and help someone but not someone that will not appreciate it and they will give you the esteem from the look you get when they realize someone cares about them also.
Still, to this day, I return to this talk over and over again. This is one of the best talks on depression I have ever seen.
Does it helpv
100 %. Not that it is helping me, but still a great talk, in fact probably the best on TH-cam.
Me too because I have depressed friends
I agree one of my favorite talks on depression as well. Here I am revisiting November 2024 on the 21st day, feeling depression, hitting hard with a cold dark weather, aches and pains, depression, anxiety, threats complications of all sorts. They just keep getting worse year-by-year I just wanna be done I wanna numb out I just wanna be happy.
I agree! One of the best sessions ever! Everyone could benefit from Dr. Yapko’s system and suggestions. Imagine, If we could all manage our emotions ~ think of how happy the world would be❣
I'm scared that one day, when I get old, I'll see myself in the mirror thinking about everything I missed in life because of depression and anxiety.
I hope that motivate you to stand up right now and try to be happy ♥️
Me too
Goddamnit! That's a miserable life to live. It's like a long-ass suicide.. I'm currently fighting depression..
@RECITE-GOD-HEAL-ME-EACH-SECOND Good advice. It's not instant but then it doesn't matter if it takes years to implement.
Missed what you go school work and die traveling for rich people makeing friends thats a joke life about doing same shit over and over every freaking day mom only thing keeps me going i cant even see her if it wasn't for her i would end my life in this bull shit life
One thing I am beginning to understand lately is I have to manage depression when I am NOT depressed and keep the routine and good habits up. When I fall down the rabbit hole of depression no logic or reading anything will help just have to wait for it to pass .
What do you do in your routine and good habits?
That's been my experience too.
And remember "bad feelings come and go. But the consequences (of your actions only) last." So profound. I should have heard this talk way earlier.
i have been noticing the same. what do u do in times when it's lasting a while? around late afteronoon i been feeling it bad.
@@banderas2000 Keep riding it out. It will eventually start getting better, it always does.. I'm going through a bad one lately. It's rough. Just hang in there. Nothing lasts forever.
“You are not a machine with broken parts; you are a human being with unmet needs.”
-Johann Hari
I really needed to hear that today
...and another PRIME need is to live in a world not defined by oppression, inequity, hierarchy, materialism, destroyed environments and pollution.
Can it be, that unexpected expectations is the start or beginning of depression? As Citizens and ordinary people, we are constantly bombarded with constant negative opinions from the media and social media, like they really believe they know it all. And we wonder why people are depressed? It’s much easier to prophesies than to follow ones own self advice and be respectful . Depression is part of life. Animals in the wild die from depression when they are pushed away from their pride or become weak and frail. God Bless all and devote your time to people who love you and really care about you. Life is tough, especially with all the negativity in this world! Turn to your faith!
Yes and no. There are ppl whos lives are full of unmet needs yet they dont struggle with suicidal thoughts every day. Most ppl live out bland, noneventful existences in fact but are relatively, somewhat mutely contentish'. Yet ppl who have what would seem as all ones needs met can still feel flat, despondent and completely disaffected. They have recently used electro stimulation on different parts of ppl who have depressions brains and have discovered stimulating these parts alleviated depression almost instantly, similarly with a form of ketamine and psychedelics. So to reduce it to merely unmet needs is pretty reductive.
@@frankstared
Oppression: Where??
Inequity: Work harder, no one owes you anything.
Hierarchy: Find me one organization, anywhere, sport, management, frogs, flies, the cosmos, where there isnt some form of hierarchy. Maybe re-read number 2 again if you're having an issue with where youre at in the pecking order.
Materialism: I suppose you want us to just live in trees and huts?
Destroyed environment: You cant have civilization and have a clean planet no matter what the talking heads say.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
Is he on the internet?
This is so helpful. I'm suffering from depression for years and it got to a point where I am not functional. I can't pay for a therapist right now but I'm gathering information during the days I have clarity and little by little I am trying my best. I hope that everyone suffering from depression can heal and starts loving life again ❤
A day at a time Marco, hold on. We are in this life together, I wish you healing too!
Marco, Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Look up the crappy childhood fairy...she has guests one is man who teaches similar concepts.
❤️you can do it, you already show the desire to get better and thats the first step. Wishing you the best!
@@shyaaammeneen63 why you gotta be that guy Shyaaam?
"I am not gonna be happy until my parents start treating me better when i was a child". Perfect
yep, I know about putting unreasonable criteria on healing.
My mommy said that I'm a Big Boy because I can blow bubbles in the bath...
CAN ANYONE BEAT THAT!!!?
😂😂😂
That perfectly shows how ridiculous and self harming the thoughts of a depressed person can be. I'm guilty of this. I often think if only I had done this, or if only I didn't do this than right now I would be happy. The fact is, that time has passed let go of the "ifs." Focus on the things you can do today. Do the things that 5 years from now you will be glad you did.
hahahha
The “me” I present to family and friends is warm, funny and likeable. The real “me” is a self loathing depressed person riddled with anxiety and mood swings. It is exhausting to put on the “me” I present to others. Exhausting. I’m learning to cope with all the many past trauma I’ve survived and to understand why I am the way I am. It’s a long road.
I do exactly the same when I am around family members and friends. My reason to do so is my childhood experience that when I showed sad feelings I nearly immediately got criticised for having them or was blamed for the circumstances that caused them. When I was really young my mother would even threaten me when I was crying. She said: Why are you crying? You have got no reason to cry. Stop - or I will give you a reason to cry!
Later with friends I made the experience that when I showed signs of being depressed I either got showered with useless advice or they left (because they had only been interested in the friendship as long as I was able to give them attention and energy).
So putting on a mask always has been the best option - and develop the skills to detect false friends in an early stage of friendship and getting rid of them.
Exactly. We got this
Whyever would you hate yourself? I think the big point of his speeches that you have to manage your feelings and not let them manage you. We mustn't hate ourselves it's bad for us. We must love ourselves, it's good for us.
This is me. I have two personalities. Public and private. It’s exhausting keeping them separate
You already have such a real realization of the truth how cool !!! But now you have work to do and you are not alone I know cliche but really look around it’s not always people we need use all your tools you earned them why the hell not my power tool is music it rarely lets me down it fascinates me it’s smart witty and sexy even sometimes we waste so much energy on people and expect everyone to love like us never gna happen so meanwhile music will listen and talk back in a really groovy way :)and we will inevitably know that the beat goes on and the beat goes on la da da da da diii la da da da da daaaaa
Hands down the best video I watched when going through a severe bout of depression last year. To anyone currently struggling, please hold on and make small steps - one. day. at. a. time. Sending you love and a hug x
Thank you!!! 🤞🙏🏽
I made researches and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helped to reduce anxiety and depression and some other mental health issues..i would love to try magic mushrooms but they are hard to source!
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues
@FredTyson-mc8owI get mine from myco_alvin
I'm glad myco_alvin is mentioned... I've been having severe depression for years now but I had to hit him up and got some of his product..they work like magic.
"Feelings come and go. Consequences last."
Well put. Fantastic video.
Agreed, definitely one of the many things I'll remember from this talk.
"everything comes to an end." And "expectations are the first step on the road to disappointment". They sound pessimistic, unless you're talking about being pessimistic. If you expect the worse, disappointment is welcomed. If today sucked, wait till tomorrow.
Easier said than done. Feelings may come and go but the negative thoughts persist year after year after year
I’ll remember this, hits home
@@waroftheworlds2008 expecting the worst is a cognitive distortion, and it also robs you of motivation to do things.
20 years living depressed, ruined life, shattered dreams, traumatic experiences and yet still alive.
You aren’t alone.
That's heartbreaking, depression also laid ruin to my life
63 years for me!
I'm done ...........
You are still standing!
@@JoshuaSwan `Yea, but at what cost?
The main problem with depression is you don't have the WILL to do the things you need to do to cure it. Most talks center on the things you need to do but don't tell you HOW to overcome the lack of motivation to even go outside.
I hear you brother 🙏
Why this isn't the top comment . This is the main problem of depression, it sucks the energy and motivation out of one's life
Medication, plain and simple.
Related to your comment, Dr. Yapko says to do things to "have fun." The conundrum is even things your normally love might not seem like fun when depressed.
The answer is drugs. Medication did WAY more for me than any doctor, therapist or lifestyle change ever could.
This is probably one of the best lectures on depression I have seen, by one of the world's most prominent expert on the topic.
Agreed!!!!
@Recite_GodHealMeCre⁰⁰⁰⁰ateMiracles
The thing that really saved me from my depression were not specifically the medicine and therapy I received, but selling my house, getting a steadier financial situation and moving from the depressive evironment I was living in. Changing all the poison variables of my live to much healthier ones and finally creating a new purpose in live.
Ive done the exact same thing it feels like a toxic weight lifted
I have been thinking about that but my depression will follow.
@@wildflowerwind6941 it won’t, stop telling yourself those things! That’s what’s keeping you down
@@wildflowerwind6941 It may, or it may not. If you are depressed anyway, it could be worthwhile to give changing things up a shot.
Do you remember what pulled you down so you can avoid these situations and people? I agree that there are toxic atmospheres.
I didn’t listen for entertainment purposes; I’ve been hobbled by depression since I was 8. I’m now 72, see 2 therapists, am maxed out on psychotropics, and this is the first time I have heard actual practical steps toward helping me out of my “reflexive style.” Here I am, in Tucson Arizona, and I had to listen to the entire lecture twice-because it was so impactful. Thank you Dr. Yapko.
nobody would listen to this for entertainment… people want to get better.
72 also. 30 years of meds. Very little counseling so this is very helpful.
jesus can help you ! take away the demons causing it
Living depressed your whole life must truly be something else. I hope you find inner peace soon.
bless you
That guy is far funnier than that crowd have him credit for. A sign of true intelligence and rapport with people. Annoying side effects like death. I’d love to have that guy as my therapist
For real. Wonder if he does telehealth.
Most mic are not there to get crowd response.
He’s great isn’t he?
Yes mine too🤔
@@godsownlunatics9650 Thats like the GettysBerg address, only more inspiring.
This is the best talk on depression I’ve ever heard. It’s life-changing. Thank you, Dr. Yapko.
He didn’t say anything to try and make me “feel better” went straight to accountability and taking control of my own life. This was really helpful.
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"Thinking is dangerous". My mom's words.
She used to say: Who is the happiest person in the village? The village fool!
I wish I could stop overthinking everything. I will listen to this video often to remind me of it.
I’m on my third listen today and I just discovered it. I think I will be listening to it quite often.
Same here. My mum always used to say that I over-analysed everything. I always thought being a thinker was a good trait but the older I become the more I envy those people who just sort of drift through life.
This is my second time today. I get “depression attacks”.
Ignorance is bliss
@@elielsolis I only got a full grasp on that saying after watching the Matrix.
This lecture was the turning point in my path away from depression. I found myself taking notes for the first time in a very long time. I will never forget this man! THANK YOU!
good luck man
Im wishing you the best!! and im proud of you for being able to be pro active!
same dude let's goooo
me too
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
This talk should be required watching for all parents and teens. Period. It is solid gold. It is every bit as important as driving safety courses, drug education or sex education.
Thank you sir.
1:05 "When I was a young psychologist, back in 1829..."
17:00 the influence of technology
23:00 what you need
25:44 the meaning of your feelings
27:43 thinking is dangerous
36:26 the past doesn't equal the future
THANK you..
All I can think about is this date...
When he was young and inexperienced. 😁
16:49 amongus
Thanks!
I came home after work today, crying like any other day. This video gave me a little hope, that i know will help me sleep tonight. Wish I had that hope every day.
I wanna give you a hug, I'm a grandma xxx
🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️ISAIAH 35:5,6 🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️
And now you'll be under pressure to live up to that.
He talks about realistic expectations, and tells them not to ruminate; but he ignores that people have real concerns that they can't plan their way out of, and can't stop thinking about.
@@SovereignStatesman What a shitty response. Lighten up…this person just stated that this gave them hope. How about keep your own baggage to yourself and not project your own negative thinking onto others.
Mate, I wish I could give you a hug. Best of luck, you can do it.
I was very depressed for a long time and when I started noticing my daughters depression I knew I had to do something about it. Depression is contagious... God bless you sir.
You did a good thing for your daughter
I wish you will recover soon and you two will lead hopeful life ❤️
@Ron Krikorian Depression is not like sadness in that there is always a definite cause. In generality, depression is caused by chronic stress. It's an accumulation of stress over time that overwhelms a person's coping ability.
@Ron Krikorian Who's asking?
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This guy is AMAZING!!! Why can't I find a therapist that is even a little like him? This was more helpful than 4 years in therapy.
Switch your therapists until you get someone like him, they exist!
Couldn’t agree more. My therapists literally gave up and ghosted me. And so many therapists are strictly virtual, which I hate. Not natural. I need physical company and for us to feel each other’s physical presence
even when I’d meet with them it felt like such a waste of time. Just talking. I need help making a plan to change things and learn how to not internalize and jump to conclusions and ruminate on the past and all the things this incredible dr shared in this talk. Thinking of you all
One possible issue within some parts of the profession may be that "talk therapy" is misunderstood to be just letting the client talk, that just by verbalizing one's troubles will heal the troubles. At least that is what I have seen from some therapists where I have been a client. Indeed, what Dr. Yapko offers here is a full-spectrum arsenal of techniques that can help train the depressed person's behavior patterns, truly "cognitive behavioral therapy". I do wish that 8 years ago I would have been told some of the simple actions presented here... BUT I am taking advice from this seminar that I can't waste a second thinking about that, instead thinking about how to apply this anti-depressive arsenal to my life today and consistently into the future! 😁
I think of my depression like a bug inside me; eating. Can’t kill it, it always comes back, it’s always there. It’s taken everything from me, and it wants more. True, real, clinical depression is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
I hope I get better, and if you’re empathizing with me, I hope you get better too.
One of the things i've learnt is "it's just a Tape recording" We just need to take the negative stories we are playing and change them to how we would LIKE them to be... and play them a few times.. or i have fun with my Sad story and put "Once upon a time... (this happened)"
Right on, I would rather have surgery without being sedated then be depressed any more in life.
@@Storm_280 Take action. If needed visit a psycholiogist. Develop your mental muscles. Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Strictly avoid being constipated as it affects the mind instantly.
@@zapperrr100 If under medication reduce gradually over 3-4 months to the lowest mg and see how you feel and then take a decision to taper off completely under medical supervision. Benzos need to be avoided. To feel beeter and prevent side effects read my msg which I sent you and do the simple breath observing practice daily. I have been doing it for years and feeling relaxed and healthy. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
@@Storm_280 If under medication reduce gradually over 3-4 months to the lowest mg and see how you feel and then take a decision to taper off completely under medical supervision. Benzos need to be avoided. To feel better and prevent side effects read my msg which I sent you and do the simple breath observing practice daily. I have been doing it for years and feeling relaxed and healthy. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.
the biggest moment in this video was his mention of teaching problem solving skills and social skills to very young kids.
Most comments here are written by those who suffer from the disease, where as I do not. I wake up, live and then fall asleep each day at peace. I have always maintained an excitement for life and find navigating through the challenges fairly uncomplicated.
Unfortunately, my partner, best friend, and love of my life...is the exact opposite. She emphatically struggles with the state of her mental health. We are nearing 20 years together and I have a unique perspective of this disease by riding shotgun with someone who suffers similarly to the rest of you.
When our relationship first began, naturally I thought she's crazy and said foolish things like "just calm down" or "why are you acting like that?" On top of that, I gave crap advise like " just don't care about what other people think of you!" These are the types of things we are all conditioned to say, but are not helpful... In time I realized if it were that simple, she would have already done so. As more and more time passed, I began to pick up on her triggers. Discovering what these were played a huge role in helping her maintain an even keel in regards to her emptions. I also learned, to shut up and listen. By listening for hours on end, she began to feel more comfortable telling me her thoughts and troubles. That sense of trust also helped the situation.
I know, that no substance or person (including myself) can fix her and it is NOT fair. It just is, what it is.
I have learned there are actions we can take to help ease the situation and develop hope towards the prospect of living a fulfilling life. Be empathetic, mindful, compassionate, loving and most of all accepting.
Her illness does NOT define her, it is simply a part of who she is and I wouldn't trade her for the world!
Take care everyone.
thank you for saying this. i hope my ex was like you tbh. i am healing but trust me it's hard. i remember i burst into tears when i had to take care of my 2 dying elderly dogs every single day for a year or more on my own and he said (not in purpose, i know) 'why don't you never smile anymore when i pick you up'. he said things like 'just ignore what people think', 'you can try be more grateful about things you have' or 'you should exercise/moving more'. just felt so misunderstood by him when i thought he could be the one to understand me (i opened up and explained the most to him). i was broken and he broke me even more. all i have to say is thank you for keep trying to understand your partner, loving her for her, accepting her and her limitations and please give her a tight hug from me :)
Your are a wonderful person ❤
Girls.
How wonderful person you are
Thank you ❤️
Thank you for being out there, being the way you are, man, thank you
I’ve had major depressive disorder, PTSD, and borderline personality disorder for 6 years and the most effective treatment I ever received was cognitive behavioral therapy. My favorite therapist worked with me on cognitive behavioral therapy and radical acceptance of the current situation I’m in and I’m 100% sure that it saved my life. The ability to stop and look at things rationally and logically when you’re in the middle of an emotional crisis is incomparable, I’ve been off meds for 3 years and while I definitely still struggle, these strategies have stuck with me and keep me going. I also recommend getting a pet if you feel like you can handle it and are ready for them long-term, you’re never lonely and always have to get out of bed to care for them whether you want to or not. Love and best luck to everyone on their journey ❤️
Getting à pet what a good thing to do I do have several pets and it's such a big help
I used to escape from depression into work and sex, it actually does work for me quite well, but as others have said the main goal is to find something that really works. It all boils down to whether or not one could re-program the mind to work for you and not against you. Most people find meaning in family and its generated problems that comes with it (raising a child and so on) but as I see more and more people opt-out this option so having more spare time is actually destructive for the mind.
Ultimately we should just learn how to live or experience a more meaningful life without less outside stimulus
Thanks. My cats are therapy pets.
did you ever tryed Omad one meal a day?
Getting a pet is a huge daily responsibility and if you can’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of another being properly. Recommending this to people who can’t think properly is not fair on the animal who needs a secure routine.
I went through years of depression and I tell you, the thing that brought me to, not just a stable life, but a joyful life, was when I started living like the people I loved mattered more than my fears. Life saver.
Thank you for this thought. I took a screenshot of it and I want to remember it. ❤️
@@yeshalloween I'm glad it touched you 🥰
This is also a beautiful film that I saw that talks about depression and love. It shows how tightly linked depression is with resentment sometimes especially when we fall in love: th-cam.com/video/nSC4ptU79-8/w-d-xo.html
Omg i swear like this is the best talk about depression i have ever heard.... i can feel like he is describing me
I started taking meds about 2 months ago and this talk is exactly what I needed. It's like yeah, I do those thinks and now I know how to move forward.
Great talk! I only wish my 30-year-old self could have heard it. By great good fortune, I'm having a retirement my younger self never could have envisioned. I will no longer question my contented self. Instead, I will simply enjoy my happiness and share it with the small fry in our clan to make sure they have the experience of a positive Auntie in their behavior toolkits.
Me too
Check out also dr. Sapolsky speach on the subject, I think you'll appreciate that too.
See videos about ECT at (ds electroshock). Speak out once you know the truth.
Sometimes when you’re so depressed, you lose the power to make decisions and avoid it at all costs...
absolutely right, me now.
That's the right thing to do. Making decisions when you are dysfunctional seldom work out well
@@Onlinesully I agree totally! For me, I've never found a decision I've made that has cured my depression, Hence, my cursed life circumstances. There is all this theoretical talk but nothing tangible. That's why you are picking up on my bitterness & anger .......
I agree... there have been times I have just tried to sleep through life-
@@Onlinesully thank you for asking. That is very kind of you. My father passed away on Dec 27. Now I have lost both parents and it is a very difficult thing. I’m surrounded by people- great job, great husband wonderful daughters but if you are close to your parents, when they are gone it’s a loneliness that is indescribable.
As a person suffering from depression for a long time I must say too that as much as depressed people may impact negatively on others around them, there are those depressed people that are being negatively affected by toxic environmental factors like toxic work environments as well. Removing or managing toxic environments that really do exist outside of your moods or emotions is also very important.
I totally agree. Mine all started working in a toxic environment as a lunch lady for school children. It wasn't the kids they were great it was the small group of ladies I worked with in the kitchen that made me so depressed. They all ganged up on me and made me feel less than nothing. It got so bad I walked out the door into poverty. Now I have no motivation to do anything for the last 3 years. I don't like who I am anymore.
I need to let go of the past. Like the Dr. Explained.
@CrystaBee thank you for sharing
@@dorisrentrope1660 please fight for the life truly deserve. The flip side of removing toxic people from your life is replacing them with positive persons who will help to lift you up and motivate you. I pray you find that drive and with the help of a professional or/and loved ones pull through this.
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"Back when I was a young psychologist in 1829..."
This guy has a great sense of humor! Unfortunately, the audience were a bunch of uptight duds that could not appreciate his great personality.
They're depressed!
Huh?
Does it always require an explosive laughter in order to appreciate the humor? Or did you hear them not smiling etc?
@@metheiam5714 explosive laughter? I would think that in an audience of people the sound of humor would be heard.
It is heard (at least with headphones).
This man's voice is so soothing and kind. I wish he was my therapist
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I agree
I think so too
No amount of talk therapy or pills helped me more than the practical advice in this video. I’m glad I found it and was brave enough to watch and learn.
wait are you?? just asking
Rhiana dat
Yes me too reluctant to watch but glad I did
theorpy pills and this vid did not help 😂
What an incredible incredible lecture I would say that this man has saved my life. Thank you zthank you for this insightful lecture
i have severe depression and i joined jrotc my freshman year of highschool. it quite literally saved my life in more ways than one. it had the order, structure, and tight knit group of people that i was lacking my entire life. i couldnt be more grateful for that decision.
He is such a great speaker despite quite a dead audience. Everything is there: great structure, clear points, beautiful emphasis on the key points, jokes (!). I wish we had teachers/lectures like him!
NO ONE REACTED TO THE JOKES 🤦♂️
Totally, what a chap!
They did respond to some degree…the microphone barely picked up on it
Maybe they were all depressed
@@realpoetics 😬
I've watched this lecture 3-4 times since I first heard it a week ago. I have a master's degree in Behavior Management and have spent a decade working w/ individuals w/ emotional and behavioral disorders in schools, and this lecture still gave me new language to describe depression and terms for ideas I was aware of but couldn't quite categorize.
I spent 3 months doing classes 4yrs ago , and this guy is great , his one hour was a great overview reference for me to remind me of why I did all those different different classes . Hes jogged a few memories and reminders that I have forgotten ! He is excellent, proper good science . Im going to keep this vid :)
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Perfectly summarized what I get out of the talks and lectures I view, seems to be an amazing time to compound knowledge.
It's an amazing lecture, I have listened to it at least 10 times simply to understand more about depression and how to beat it. Everytime I listen I get something new from it
A decade? The op is the type of therapist I hope I never meet, LOL
That's a tough crowd, atleast 3 of his good jokes did not land. It takes both guts and skills to make jokes while delivering a talk on such a serious issue
Indeed, but we are talking about a lecture on depression.
💯! I think it’s his calm tone - they didn’t land but I laughed 💕☺️
🎤”Hello...is this thing on? Tough crowd”
I thought they were funny. I particularly like his joke about how he started working in the 1800s. This crowd were tough.
@@lynncrf maybe they are depressed and their decision - making process was not ready to laugh.
I used to suffer from a lot of depression due to a difficult childhood. It was only about 8 years ago that I got out of it due to good therapy and my willingness to change. No medication, nothing heavy duty, just talking and realizing that most of the things I went through weren't my fault. I'm 39 years old. I would say it took me a good 20 years to get rid of my depression, but it's doable.
What was so good about the therapy. I’ve tried it and it didn’t help
Being a human can be so f’ing hard… the struggle to live life on life’s terms. It is easier though knowing that I am part of a 7 billion member team! I can find comfort and strength thinking about every human who ever walked this earth. Every one of you is my hero.
That is so sweet !
Thank you for your very true and kind words. I do feel the same about being human like you do. I personally find comfort in the idea of the early Christians (who partly believed totally different things than Christians do today). They believed that this world was a fallen world existing under the power of evil - only a shadow of the heavenly realms.
In their eyes God was never almighty but the benign power fighting for human beings against the evil destructive forces that torture humans and lead them to destructive feelings and actions.
God showed humans a way to enlightenment, to see this life and this world as it really is and to escape this world and its forces to enter again into his realm after death.
Every time I feel deeply unhappy in this world - I always have had the feeling that I don´t belong here - I think of it as a prison world from which I am going to escape one day.
I wish you all the best for this life here!
This is so wholesome
This comment makes me happy ❤️
@@basicallymystic .
That is actually the best video about depression I've ever seen on youtube and believe me, I've seen a lot.
Have you seen videos on depression and psyolcibin?
@@sveeny sounds intriguing, could you link to those?
@@dunkindonut36 Have you checked out Jordan B Peterson?
@@liammurphy2725 I haven't but thank you for the recommendation!
@@sveeny 0
Twelve years ago the police came to tell me they had taken my wife body from the local canal.
I have never got fully over it as I still get anxiety problems but friends were the biggest help in keeping me going.
I’m so sorry for your loss in such tragic circumstances Ken 🙏
Friends are such a blessing.
I don't have any, but I keep working on my recovery from depression.
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My heart goes out to you.
I am truly sorry for what you had to go through. I'm glad you had a support system to help you go through it.
Problem is...depressed people are too depressed to care enough to seek out this information in the first place, let alone be willing to take it all in and follow through.
That’s exactly right
I'm severely depressed yet here I am
It worries me to see that the people in charge of mental health are not capable of laughing at any of the Dr's good jokes... PLEASE!!! On the other hand, loved that he kept throwing his jokes even without any feedback from the crowd. He's great! :)
Tells you most of them are depressed
There was no beer served , killed the mood 🙂
@@Foxtrottangoabc I've noticed sober crowds act livelier and happier than drinking crowds. There's nothing wrong with alcohol, it's just something I've noticed again and again.
Is it natural to cry everyday
They're just not funny.
Exercise (lots of cardio) is how I cope. Getting to the gym can be challenging but after 15-20 minutes on the treadmill, I feel like a new person. Such an amazing feeling. The joy is back, I’m smiling and getting in shape. Then me and all my joy, gets in my car and the thought of driving home where I live with a narcissist, is short lived. Thankfully I’m working on new living arrangements and saying bye-bye to all of the negative.
I totally hear u! My whole family is so dysfunctional..and I've met a lot of narcissistic people
Glad to hear that! Hope everything's changing for the better in ur life ❤️
You’re living with Obuma?? 😎🦎
Yep, D, exercise is the only thing that ever helped me with depression
Exercise had incredible benefits for me as well, it wasn’t immediate but walks and pushing weights at the gym were gently massaging my mind to produce less toxic thoughts and made me a little more braver and resilient
Wow - this was truly a year's worth of therapy wrapped up into one hour. And he summed it up nicely when he said, "the goal is not to cure depression; the goal is to manage your moods. I recommend taking notes as you listen to this. You'll want to revisit his key points again and again. Excellent video!
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@Jessica J ...
I remember I was going crazy because of my emotional health it was getting worse And I was aggressive angry and tired And thats because of how I was living, I was sinning in my mind when I was letting lustful images enter to my brain, I did not now back then that this was described in the bible, If I knew I would have realized much earlier that if you open door to sin once now you you gonna get addictions and that will lead you to depression and death, I cried out to God and prayed and he set me free from my addictions, I started reading the bible each day Now Im mindful of what Im watching what music Im listening the food that Im eating Since I became Christian I started to filter my thoughts and now Im a totally different person I pray and fast and study the bible. Looking back I understood all the mistakes I did, I was selfish and sinned a lot by thinking about lust, And sin leads us to death, I started Repenting daily and God heard my prayer. Now I feel so happy everyday I just wish I turned to faith earlier and didn’t missed all that time of my life . Made my parents worry about me Now I feel healthy and wanna help others to heal, and thanks to God I found my purpose in life. I used to wake up feeling depressed now I dont even remember how I felt back then God is my Savior Now I feel peace and joy constantly
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To you reading this right now: you are beautiful and loved. You’re not alone in this. Many others right now are thinking the same things you are. But, we all have something to offer each other. Stay connected in this chat and help others who need your insight and experience. One day, all this will make sense and you will be called to use what you have gathered and learned from all this and use it to help someone who will truly need you. Meanwhile, know that you have the support and love of all of us in this chat. We can be here for each other, as I need you to be there for me as well. I promise you, this upcoming day will be wonderful and you will sleep well and with great peace.
all u need is ice coffee
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Why do people write these shitty generic comments? You do not know anything about the people you are a calling beautiful, loved, or not alone.
If beauty is in the eye of the beholder it is irrelevant.
They might not be loved, and they might just be alone, you just don't know, and strangers on the internet are not a good source of support for anyone.
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this is probably the most comprehensive lecture on the finer points and risk factors of depression that i've seen on this platform. i've had depression for almost as long as i can remember, and this guy just nails the foundations and thought patterns that buttress the condition. i can't even tell you how many times i've been told by people in my life, pleaded with, yelled at, etc. to "let go of the past" and live presently. for some reason, hearing this guy firmly but gently say "you are not your past, but you can create possibilities for the future" and then actually lay out the framework of how to do that briefly made me break down in tears. i'm in a very dark place right now, very alone, and i haven't done shit to improve my situation for months. i've ended a two year relationship, started using drugs and alcohol way more, and almost entirely abandoned my hobbies and passions. i hate my job and have no idea what i could feasibly do for a career. for my entire life, everything has just felt out of my grasp and beyond the scope of my ability. i'm 24 and the thinking about the dreams i had as a kid causes me so much pain when i think about how deeply i've failed to accomplish any of them. my sleep schedule is erratic and my attention span is basically nonexistent. but for some reason i managed to sit here and listen to this whole thing, and he's right. i need to build a future for myself that's better than what's happening right now. i need to be with people i love, doing things that i care about. i need to get help.
Good luck to you! You can do it. . .start with one small change and build from there. It is possible!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. All the best, sir. I pray that you will find the help you need either internally or externally.
sending you love, light, & prayers for your peace and abundance!! You got this King💪💡💛
when dealing with depression, I usually start by being humble: Aim for small incremental gains rather than making big major decisions. Nothing major... just cover the basics. Like exercising: I would start by walking few minutes or few minutes of yoga, rather than larger chunks of time. Same with meditation: start with five minutes... and aim for regularity. I do not longer aim to "get rid of the depression". I am for "being more functional" and "giving more space to small thinks I love". Start by trying to get into a routine with sleeping: same time, same ritual, no alcohol or drugs, and avoid screens . If you suffer insomnia as I did, aim for finding something that help you to relax while waiting for tiredness to come. Reading help some people. In my case I fill coloring books. I do not fight the lack of sleep anymore as it makes me ruminate. I aim for emptying my mind from worries. And colours help me. My psycologist helped me to look into "self-compassion" as the key ingredient to deal with the moods. I remind myself that nobody is perfect and that I cannot sort all out at once. So I focus on only one thing. And then I focus on drawing rather than sleep. As soon as I feel tired, I go back to sleep. If I wake up in the middle of the night and cannot go back to sleep, I just start again with drawing. I do not think anymore on "why I cannot sleep" or "why I am sooo stressed" or "look how time flies and I cannot sleep".. I just enjoy the colors and how things start to take shape. You need to go back to your hobbies as they bring you something to enjoy. It is part of taking care of yourself. Try to find some external support to start a process to deal with your type of depression & the reasons behind your addictions. Good luck. It requires work and tons of self-care.
Been there. Yes, the lecture is great, and therapy works. Think of it that way: you're lucky you got aware of this at your young age, for me it was at exactly double your years. Let us know you took an appointment with your local
Yapko
"Rumination is dangerous when it doesnt lead to timely, effective action."
Rumination is a big problem for me at times. I have learned to weather these times and to challenge the thoughts as much as I am able. Ruminating is a sign that I need to “up” the self care levels for a little while and not be too hard on myself.
You must have energy in order for action to occur. That's what depression is. A lack of energy. It's essentially a state of energy conservation and hibernation. Not easy to get motivated to do anything to improve your life when your body just wants to do nothing or sleep.
Just get moving, push through the quicksand of malaise, it will prime the pump and most often we can rise to the occasion. Act as if....as if things are easy, that the wheels are greased. Theres a forest of brambles one can hack through to create new neural pathways. Eventually you will have your sweet grassy pathway. It IS possible.
Rumination is a type of OCD. IT is horrible when accompanied by health anxiety and depression.
@@Opethfeldt , I relate completely. Bless you.
This should be a class taught in school
Grade :10year old girls and 13 year old boys
If the older generations practiced it, the younger ones would learn by example.
Damn straight 💯
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Are you kidding me?! The Ice-cream joke was so good, how did it fly over everybody's head?! Grateful for this brilliant professional.
I’ve had depression for a long time and I was skeptical after his first “thesis statement” when he said “yes, yes, yes yes” to depression being treatable and preventable. But had to listen to the whole thing because he has studied it for 40 yrs. Turns out I agree with everything. My depression is a result of the exact processes he described. I feel like depression is a condition that is a result of how I think, but not a description of what or who I am. I am not depression and I don’t “Have” depression, but I am prone to depression as a result of how I process information and what stories I choose to tell myself and choose to believe. This is a relief and I’m excited to try this new approach. Rumination is useless unless it leads to an action.
Hi xx yes you can choose to act happy and smile , to act with gratitude and forgiveness to others for the perceived slights against us , I hope you keep on feeling well , xx
@@christinebeames2311 that's called acting.
I go to the restroom (just to pee) and 30 minutes later I'm still ruminating...until I notice my ass is numb. I now have an egg timer in the bathroom. lol hey, it works
Jesus loves you so much, so much that He died on the cross for you. He is the answer to everything and is our only blessed hope in this fallen world. He wants to save and heal you and have a personal relationship with you. Make Him your personal Lord and Saviour today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed and the pre tribulation rapture and His return is imminent!
ABCs of salvation:
Admit you are a sinner and have made mistakes. Repent (turn away) from your sins.
Believe that Jesus is Gods’ Son, died on the cross for you and from rose from the dead on the third day.
Confess Jesus as The Lord of your life and commit yourself to a life of following Jesus and serving others. Get water baptised and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit who will help you to do that.
Get a KJV Bible, start by reading the gospel of John then the rest of the Bible. You will learn all about God, His love for all of His creation, how to obey Him and hear His voice and how to overcome everything until we go home to be with Him forever in heaven.
Romans 10:9-10 KJV
[9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. [10] For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
Nick Lloyd, Develop your mental muscles from within. Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Strictly avoid being constipated.
It's the best talk about depression I've heard. It goes beyond useless tips that clueless people are pushing from TED's stage. This guy is one who really should talk about depression on TED.
TED talks are just progressive liberal fascists who want to force sexual perversion onto children. No thanks.
Agreed. I think TED often overlooks the requirements for somebody to be considered an expert in a topic. This guy's the real deal, over 40 years of research and treatment of people with depression. When in doubt, look for solid qualifications and research backgrounds I guess.
TED is a joke
@@revolutionunderground Jeez man. Go to some maga or qanon site to bore people to death. Don't bother us with your bs.
@@yihaw149 Tell that to Jordan Peterson haters :)
MOST brilliant talk on depression ever.
From a recovered from depression happy therapist!
Radical self acceptance/accountability.
Self acceptance 👍
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings.
This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety levels, I would love to try shrooms
Psychedelics saved me from vears of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
bergwilly11 is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.
depression and anxiety is like the worst disease you can get
Now i'm suffering severe depression , all he mentioned is what i'm experiencing right now. When he talks about the listing how to shower and the client only list 3 steps , i laughed when he said that there's literally 50 steps for getting in a shower but after she said that , he said " now next do a chart/list for how to be happy" i burst to tears , because i realized that i don't literally know the steps to be happy 😢 all these years , i thought i'm living in a flawed but happy life but the truth is not . This lecture cheered me up to do things i love and i'm grateful . THANK YOU VERY MUCH or should i say MARAMING SALAMAT PO 💖From Philippines ☺
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams.
Such a statement comes out of the teachings of Buddha, with your thoughts you create your world, the ''personality'' we create comes from a collection of memories.
@@JT-cv1yo :If you believe in a life after this current one then I assume you believe you had a life before this one, and so last time around you were more concerned about the next life.. Which is this one...Dig it...
Family environment can cause children to develop depression.
Is that so
In fact any bad environment can do that.
-Mobbing at school
-Combat situations in Iraq
-bad job/ no job
-etc.
No shit! Really?
That's what causes mines Rick 🤔
@@firefox7801 - Living in a 3rd world country with no means (money and/or in-demand qualifications) to move. So to do so you're willing to settle for much less and suffer much more in terms of work, personal time, health and relationships as long as in your mind you're working towards it. You keep working and trying and just when you think that you finally get your break and can see the light for once, circumstances outside your control change and it goes away and everything becomes dark again. It haunts you every minute and every day... I wanna have faith but the reality is truly exhausting.
When I started therapy years ago, I went in and said “I’m co-dependent and…”. My therapist explained he didn’t believe in using labels. He wouldn’t say someone is an alcoholic. He’d say that is a person who has a problem with alcohol during this time in their life. That was so valuable.
Isn’t it true that during times of depression it’s easier to care for another than for ourselves!? And the magic is that, in caring for another we also care for and become aware of our own needs! Giving support and help to another can feed our souls. And leave us feeling empowered and important!
Nice comment
It would be if I had someone to care for.
I could not move a finger to get up and Take care of myself, but would jump at the idea of caring for my nephews. Depression is a very strange land to be on.
Gotta keep yourself in the best condition you can, to be the most efficacious help to other people, however
"The key to self mastery, is self forgetfulness"
He hit it right on the nail about medication. It’s just a bandaid to temporarily suffice. Treatment is long and painful, but it ultimately heals.
Anyone reading this comment I just want to tell you that you're amazing, loved, cherished, valid, worthy, intelligent and soooo much more. You are appreciated and if you ever consider hurting yourself just know that you will rob the world of an amazing soul that can potentially change the world and if not the world, your own world by staying around and being YOU!! Much love!!
Actually suffered severe depression which led to my addiction to alcohol for over 7 years after I lost my husband. Not until my son recommended me to psilocybin. Psilocybin mushrooms treatment saved me from depression and addiction. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I've been looking to try shrooms, just very difficult to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I've done microdosing for help and it works does cut depression out its been the best remedy I've ever had psilocybin been illegal is actually a crime against humanity
Hey! Yes I'm very sure of Dr.benshrooms. what's helped me more personally is micro dosing. I don't take a lot at all I'll only eat a cap or two and I'm good for the entire day. It just helps to clear your mind and cleanse your soul. Very hard to explain... It's like trying to explain colors to a person who's never been able to see.
Does he ship? Can he deliver to me in TX
Saw people talk about him on instgram..., checked him out and I must say he is very good at what he does.
Had major depressive episodes for the past 10 years. After watching this, I’ve come to understand my depression more clearly and I look forward to growing and learning to manage my moods. Excellent lecture!
How are you doing now?
This has really opened my eyes. Years ago I was told by a psychiatrist to trust my own feelings more but I now realise I've been trusting them too much during the times I've been depressed. If I've not felt like doing something then I haven't done it, even if it would have been something good for me. I've always thought that forcing myself to do something that I didn't want to do was always going to result in me feeling worse, even if that thing was exercise or something else that would have actually been good for me.
Yes! I had a therapist in my youth who encouraged me to push past the sluggishness I feel and get my exercise because it's a good mood booster! Wise words. It's just the "pushing through" part. It's really hard sometimes. The more I practice though, I get better. It changes the neuropathways and helps me not feel so sluggish anymore, like an upward spiral!
You make a VERY good point...I heard a great quote that is somewhat related...”Your feelings aren’t always meant to be a blueprint for action”
Now you know that you must do something in order to feel better
Jesus loves you so much, so much that He died on the cross for you. He is the answer to everything and is our only blessed hope in this fallen world. He wants to save and heal you and have a personal relationship with you. Make Him your personal Lord and Saviour today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed and the pre tribulation rapture and His return is imminent!
ABCs of salvation:
Admit you are a sinner and have made mistakes. Repent (turn away) from your sins.
Believe that Jesus is Gods’ Son, died on the cross for you and from rose from the dead on the third day.
Confess Jesus as The Lord of your life and commit yourself to a life of following Jesus and serving others. Get water baptised and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit who will help you to do that.
Get a KJV Bible, start by reading the gospel of John then the rest of the Bible. You will learn all about God, His love for all of His creation, how to obey Him and hear His voice and how to overcome everything until we go home to be with Him forever in heaven.
Romans 10:9-10 KJV
[9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. [10] For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
@Angela G I think you misinterpreted trust your gut or your instincts, with trust your feelings. Feelings come and go and during depression they are unrealistic. Trust your gut, especially if you’re a healthy eater.
One of the best talks in ref to depression & ways to actually deal with it ( cope with it ). Bravo 👏
very good i have depression do you?
@@healthyone100 I do and I would wager many wrestle with some of the more common symptoms from time to time. It is important that we not only cultivate our tools to regulate our moods but also create environments defined by wellness, loving-kindness, and equity. Take care!
That has described me and helped me a lot... I have some work to do... Thank you so much!!!
@@ilovecats581 I found CBT with meds very suitable for me
@@healthyone100 Reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
"my traumas control me" "using the past to predict the future" "i will never get a good job/relationship" ...."you are more than your history", "you are more than your body size", "they are not the basis to define myself" very powerful content.... thank you very much for uploading this.
"The feelings come and go, the consequences (of bad decisions) last ".
Yeah, that's the best takeaway.
So the lesson is...
Never make your decisions when you are in your or someone's "bed".
Jep, forgive yourself in order to heal, look forward and live in the present moment
"When you use your feelings as the indicator of what to do, you're going to make mistakes." People who tell you to listen to your feelings and what your heart tells you are giving you bad advice? This is the BEST advice I've ever heard - bravo! Us artistic types are not used to this kind of straight talk - and that's why we are so unsuccessful and sad, a lot of the time. I am the cheery type, but I STILL wish I heard this earlier in my life.
It's also the cause of many relationship breakups because people "lose the spark" or "fall out of love" and they think those kinds of fleeting emotions are all that matters (and yes I've been guilty of it as well, it forced me to reevaluate what I really want and find important).
This implies you can be robotically rational, thus ignore emotion and be "realistic". This is impossible, you can't function without emotion. Doesn't mean they're true, of course, but you can't arbitrarily ignore them and poof! you're cured!
This was the best thing I’ve heard from any physiologist in a long time. This gave me hope
This part, struck deep abt 28mins in. 👉🏼"Cognitive Rigidity, the key problem with depressed people is that they think things and make the mistakes in actually believing in themselves. "
"Without the ability to learn how to go outside of urself, and reality test - all u can do is be a prisoner of ur own thoughts, and if ur own thoughts are depressing - U ARE IN TROUBLE!"
This has been my issue since my 1st teen trauma at 14. I have suffered more traumas afterwards. Now I'm in my 40s and I'm in this mental loop because I don't have the tools to help myself. I can't mask it any longer. I masked it with marijuana as a teen, I masked it with alcohol as an adult. Pulled myself away from alcohol. I just want to stop this madness, I'm sure all who have depression want to. My brain is acting like it doesn't want to work past this loop of my own thinking at this point. 😢 I have been a prisoner of my mind for a very long time. I want to be free, so I can live the life God has for me.
I want to find what will work for me specifically. So I am actively trying to figure this out. And pray that I can free myself before it's too late. 🙏🏼
"There are no guarantees in life, but we can take actions to create possibilities for the future." That is a very powerful statement and it's easy to lose sight of that when you're feeling depressed. I've not dealth with long term depression, but have dealt with bouts of it after breakups especially. And I'm generally definitely cursed with the tendency to think too much. It's so easy to get lost in catastrophising thoughts and ruminations. But even very small actions at first can start a snowball effect of possibilities. Go for a walk, clean your room, call a friend, say hello to one stranger... doing those things with intent and rewarding yourself afterwards for doing it can start the ball rolling again. But at first even those little things seem impossible.
Yes, snakedogman, overthinking is definitely a curse. Try talking to your brain, like if he wakes you up in the middle of the night wanting company and chatting as if there were no tomorrow, tell him to be quiet in order to regenerate, or that if you get sick from lack of sleep and die the very same thing will happen to him in no time. And that he also be well advised to think twice before hoping for a new host because there is no scientific evidence of reincarnation. You will end up the both of you laughing your head on at your own silly jokes, that’s a promise ❣️
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And what emerged from that, with great clarity were:
certain patterns of self-organization
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It's far less about what actually happens to you and it's far more about how you actually interpret, how you give the significance to, what kind of meaning you attach to the events in your life.
attributional style:
a pattern of how people reflexively, unconciously interpret the significance of events
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Learning about yourself(vulnerabilities, risk factors), everybodys different (good points)
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...to master the art of recognizing what you don't know instead of making stuff up and then actually believing yourself
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You're more than your history, you're more than any characteristic... 39:05 the last thing you wanna do is define yourself by your unchangeable history
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Concise,cogent and clear talk. The speaker is a genuine person. He wants people to get out of depression. He has taken the horse to the pond. He can’t make you drink. If one is determined to get out of depression, here’s how. He has shown us the path. Thank you very much sir for showing the way out. 👏👏👏🙏🏼💐
Good English and good reasoning...yours, I mean.
Great comment Lalitha! I also truly believe in the importance of getting your body CLEAN which I’ve come to understand is absolutely CRITICAL to one’s mental (and overall) well being. It’s been a journey for me but I’m SO SURE I’m on the right path now! Sending you love light and positivity 💕🙌
I been feeling lost and so down 😔 but I am doing all I can.
Something I've been struggling with in recent years is not feeling like anything, and that phrase, like "emotions pass, consequences stay" has really resonated strongly, thank you.
Yes, the doctor is right I think - the internet will depress a person overtime. Also Dr. Yapko mentions that depression is infectious and it affects people who are around the depressed person. But the depressed person needs to be around loved ones as it will help the depressed person. Isolation will only make the depressed person become more and more depressed. Therefore family and friends should never cut off the depressed person; it just makes matters worse.
I've learned from having depression most of my life that people avoid you because they can't deal with you when you're having an especially bad day. Even people who themselves struggle with depression. It just magnifies the isolation and loneliness. And the people who allegedly know you are surprised if you develop an addiction or engage in dangerous behavior or start feeling suicidal. Human contact can not be replaced.
It seems like a vicious cycle to me. I've found that quite a few friends and family members will listen but can't seem to really empathize. We isolate because people are scared of we who are depressed and think it WILL be contagious. When truthfully, so many of us would just like someone to take us out to lunch or just come over with some soup and a hug. I wish more people would understand that it's hard enough for us to get out of bed, much less socialize. A good, caring support system is so important. Unfortunately I don't have one.
@@amg726 Sometimes I think it’s also important to accept that empathize and communicate can also take a lot of energy for some people, even for those that doesn’t seem to suffer. Everyone have a lot of problems on their hands and it can be tough for them to juggle everything. Not even mentioning that without effective communication from all parties, some ppl probably doesn’t even know what to do in the situation, esp. when they have never been taught about it. For example, when we want someone to take us for lunch, they probably don’t know that that’s what we wanted.
@@langletprolet8378 Sure, I agree! I was talking about friends and family who DO know that you're depressed. And also sometimes even when we do express the need for companionship, they don't seem to get it. Perhaps you're right that some people just don't have that much empathy.
@@amg726 Yes, unfortunately that’s what I was trying to get at. Which is why the advice on this lecture on realistic expectations is very, very important. I’m trying to be honest, sympathy is easy, but empathy is the opposite. It takes experience, time, teaching, etc. It’s easy to say “We’re here for you, you’re not alone keep fighting,”, etc. especially on the internet but acting on it is in another level. For example, it’s easy to feel empathy on the passing of a loved one, cus almost everyone knows how it feels. But depression is very unique to each one, and made harder when most ppl are not taught on how to help properly.
While I have some symptoms of mood disorder, it is my sister who definitely has a higher level and risk factor. I always try to have fun with her and accompany her, but I gotta be honest, it’s super difficult when the going gets rough when her mood and lack of stress management has taken a negative effect on her academic life. It takes a lot of patience especially cus I have my own problems to deal with. I have hope that it can get better, but still very much unsure if I have helped properly or even enough.
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Listened to the whole thing. This was eye opening. By far the single most helpful talk I’ve listened to about depression. Everything else I’ve listened to treats depression like a mysterious boogie man. This guy lays it out very pragmatically.
This is why it’s important to watch doctors talk about depression not social influencers
Just in case you guys don't know, Dr Michael Yapko is one of the greatest hypnotherapists working in America today. I've watched a video of him working with a depressed client using hypnosis and his love and care really shines through.
Can you provide a link, please
One of the BEST videos I’ve watched related to Mental health, IF NOT THE best. Seriously...bravo. This talk seriously woke me up from my rumination and everything else he mentioned. I now have new clarity and purpose; skills and things I need to work on. This has truly given me a new sense of hope and a path forward in my life. Life changing. Thank you so much.
This is definitely worth listening too !!! Medications can not take the place of humanity.
Well said!!
Absolutely right! However, medication is accessible while meaningful human interactions are not
@@montesa9136 yeah. Pairing depression with anxiety anf years of abandonment and insecurities in my friendships and overthinking tends to isolate me and its even harder in this climate. I feel like i would rather just be alone and medicated sometimes.
Medications are simply blunting your emotions. The depression is there to show you there's something wrong with your life and lifestyle that needs to be addressed. To suppress that is to do yourself a disservice.
Medication masked my feelings and kept me from being able to realize I was surrounded by abusive people. It made it so I was able to be around, and attract, abusive partners, and tolerate toxic work environments. Then I wondered why my trauma was compounded. Medication kept me from recognizing that I was in dangerous and toxic situations that I needed to leave. Which is what caused my depression in the first place. Both of my parents were in deep denial about their own lack of self esteem, and treated us kids like extensions of themselves, whom they thought very little of. And I was the youngest, raised in abuse and neglect by parents who had zero parenting skills, and then proudly let the older siblings raise the younger ones, never stopping constant bullying and sexual abuse. Gee, I wonder why I was depressed? But I was gaslit constantly and told that it was only me. Everyone else in the family was fine. I became scapegoated as I was the only one willing to admit that there was a problem. I was the physical manifestation of all of our family problems. Since the family had no problems it all had to be my fault. And I couldn’t figure out why I was depressed. After all, I was constantly told, we had such a wonderful mother, had a pool in the backyard, lived in California, I was an attractive blonde, so everything was wonderful. If there was anything wrong it was that I was supposedly “spoiled” and “ungrateful,” as clearly I had a magical childhood. I even repeated this to people. I had a perfect childhood. It wasn’t until adulthood that the cracks started to appear. Other siblings had “breakdowns,” which they treated with supplements or blamed on genetics. One was simply dehydrated. One blamed her problems on her bad marriage. It wasn’t until recently when my parents both passed away that I realized that I had had a bad mother. And that our family was toxic.
Weird how my “chemical imbalance” is going away now that I’m getting away from my toxic family! Now I’m finally going off of SSRIs, learning HEALTHY coping techniques, seeing how my own behavior has been toxic as well.
Anyone suffering from depression should listen and take to heart what is being taught here. I wish we had a program in schools that would take these suggestions and research and is integrated into the curriculum and our whole system. It could save not just the future of our children, but the core of our society..
So wish I'd known this 40 years ago! Missed so many opportunities and family situation was so bad. Religion was where I was sent and it was NO help! This is a great lecture! Very True!
I’ve suffered from depression alot of my life and PTSD. However, things i don’t do anymore are dwell on the past, i could care less what others think about me, if something is real important i will get it said and discuss it and move on, i don’t get too deep on anything or over analyze it because more than likely I’m wrong, i like to deal with reality head on, and i take care of myself better now than i used to. I have learned these things over time. I am on meds and believe in God with all my heart and that has not changed for decades. I would like to be a testimonial for those who are suffering to let them know there is hope.
Thank you
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thank you for your post we need clarity and your post helps God bless you.
God doesn't exist 🤦
@@mrbrad4637 your opinion.
I had a awesome upbringing. No traumas. I was 16 sitting in Algebra class. It got cloudy outside and began to rain. All of a sudden a wave of sadness came over me and I started to cry for no reason. I had to leave class and go home because I had no idea what the hell was going on. I had to be hospitalized at age 16. There were no troubles in my life. I just kept hearing in my head, why do we live when we’re going to die anyway? Long story short, my hormones were out of wack. Same thing happened after the birth of my two daughters. I was experiencing depression, not being “depressed”. So my point is make sure you get hormones checked if feeling really down.
Thank you i relate so strongly to this. I have no traumas and feel like a fraud sometimes for feeling like i have anxiety or depression. Im hoping its my hormones too. Going to a therapist this week
What did they do against that ?
I think it was postmartem depression or something... usually occurs after giving birth..
Sounds like schizoaffective disorder (ie. voices in head, mood swings.)
PMDD is a highly unrecognized disease. Two weeks before your period, if you ever feel depressed, suicidal thoughts, paranoia, make hasty decisions that you normally wouldn’t then talk to your gynecologist and find a psychiatrist who really has experience with this area. I’m glad I found a name for what I was going through. Premenstrual Dysphoria Disorder.
By a long margin the best talk on depression and how to manage it that I have ever heard. Dr Yapko is a truly brilliant academic and his presentation should be required listening for all clinicians and their patients.
I freaking love that the best comprehensive video on treating depression was a lecture from a psychologist that sounds like Eeyore.. so freaking adorable
Haha. “Nobody cares about me”. That’ll cheer me up.” - so true. This was helpful. Yes.
Psilocybin DMT, mushrooms and psychedelics, as a whole, have shown substantial promise as beneficial agents that can truly aid individuals grappling with mental health difficulties.
I totally agree! DMT, Psilocybin mushrooms and psychedelics in general have shown great potential in helping people with mental health issues. It's truly remarkable how effective they can be in treating depression and anxiety
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
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Dr. Jaffet has pure psychedelics products.
How can I reach out to him? Is he on instagram