Does Transitioning Harm Your Partner?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 มิ.ย. 2024
- Kristin Chirico, from the TH-cam Channel The Kitchen & Jorn Show, made a viral video a few years back with BuzzFeed about her then-boyfriend. Fast forward to the present day and Kristin has since married her boyfriend. Then, her husband came out as a trans woman. There is so much to unpack here but I think this whole situation is worth some serious discussion.
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I just love how "being a woman" is simply growing out your hair, slapping on a dress and makeup, surgery, and acting different.
Every women should be VERY insulted by that.
Weirdly I don't think they help with the dishes any more than before transition. funny how that works huh ?
That's just "crossdressing, isn't it?"
@@phipschi4255 And yet so many applaud it and support them even at their own setbacks.
It's all a sexual kink.
As a trans-widow, I can confirm: Yes, it’s a problem. No, you don’t have to stay.
It’s insane how ridiculously common this is becoming.
We are not wrong for drawing the line and saying “I married a MAN and require a HUSBAND.”
I am so sorry
Just simply say I don't swing that way.
I am so sorry, what i feel like is the worst part in all of this is how when people who marry/have kids and then do this or come out as gay are viewed as some hero. Its b.s. you completely destroyed multiple lives around you being selfish, you wanna be trans/gay whatever but dont hurt people, do that before you are in a relationship. Its like how men would claim women getting pregnant was "trapping" them, no THIS is trapping them. People who want divorce after being bamboozled are the victims, not the villains!
Exactly. And y'all are valid in feeling that way. Wish they could see that.
Those people are sick, they manipulate their partners just because they are confused about themselves and when they realize how they feel, they just throw away their partners without a second thought
She says she can’t put up the wedding photos bc he’s in “boy mode” and that would be disrespectful to him… When does it become disrespectful to her?
What’s even worse is in that video they made, she says there’s a photo of them together with her GRANDMOTHER WHO PASSED AWAY that she can’t put up because he’s in “boy mode” and Jesus Christ 😵💫
I could not have said it better myself!
To be fair, it probably feels uncomfortable for Kristen to put up wedding photos because her wife does not look like her wife. They both probably wish they had a do-over button with their marriage, and while vows could be renewed people cannot be brought back from the dead
I met Kristen on her honeymoon in Hawaii. She’s so sweet & loving, and can’t help to show her best side to the world. This man that paraded his own issues into her life, he should be committed to a psych ward. There’s nothing loving about this situation, it’s volatile & showing what weak men are willing to do to a loving woman. Manipulative.
The fact that she openly states he has a fat fetish and that he told her she wasn't fat *enough* theeen she goes on to gain a bunch of weight & so does he, and he literally morphs into her. God this is tragic 😢
It clearly states it in the word MANipulation
the man had mental illness and kristen herself is a people pleaser.
people pleaser tend to look kind to people, but we never know.
This happened to my sister. Her partner decided he wanted to dress as a woman for the rest of his life and one day transition. Well, my sister being straight told him they couldn’t keep dating. He went ballistic and told all their friends she was a bigot. She received insults from people that used to be her friends to the point she changed her cell number. She doesn’t regret her decision because why would she force herself to be attracted to this man that wants to be a girl. It was crazy
That’s absolutely insane. I’m so sorry for your sister. How long were they together? How did that even come about - I don’t get it?
What a bunch of rapey creeps. I wouldn't have changed my number, I would have told them to go date him themselves.
that’s absolutely ridiculous what has this world come to
Women are forced to be validation stations to the trans-identified, autogynophilic man. When we refuse, it's transphobia. That's why many trans don't want a single or 3rd bathroom spacee when offered, they need to be in women's spaces, all we are to them is validation. Cause who can validate you the most than real women? When we say no, the Narc, AGP rage comes out.
Your sister leaving him is trans acceptance because she isn’t into women so he should have been thrilled she was “recognizing” him as his preferred gender.
Kristen is trapped. Her woke philosophy is trapping her in this abusive relationship. He changes the entire terms of the relationship. It's unfair and manipulative
She seems to love him a lot but it’s hurting her. I think she’s scared of detaching because she’s so attached. I think Kristen thinks she’s going to be missing out on what could be and is still in love with her husband not her new “wife”.
She’s made her life centered around being “queer” (even though she’s in a heterosexual relationship and being indigenous (even though she is almost entirely white and wasn’t raised on the Rez) and being Uber woke and liberal. Now, she’s trapped in a prison of her own making. If she leaves him, her friends are going to side with him to save their woke points. You can tell it’s getting to her. She bans anybody that even remotely doesn’t agree with her on everything. Her Twitter is full of obsessing over queer TV shows (Our Flag means Death and Hannibal) and she’s trying to escape reality by obsessing over fictional gay men in tortured relationships. She’s having big health problems (migraines and hormonal issues) that could be exacerbated if not explained entirely by stress. Now her husband has decided that he needs to physically become her because he has always seen her as merely an object. I can’t imagine having to grapple with all of that.
@@justme1892 it's really sad
@@fraulein9256 her love for him is one sided. He loves himself and not her which is obvious from how he has treated her. If it’s not all about him then nothing else matters.
well said.... this is abuse.
When I was 19 years old, I had a roommate thats was ftm. He was a fun person who was dealing with a lot of mental issues. But fun nonetheless. But all of his friends were trans. All. Of. Them. Except me. I am a lady who people would call a tomboy. But every time I met a new one of his friends, they'd ask me if I was trans. It hurt my feelings. Like just because I don't wear dresses (most women don't) and don't wear make up (many women don't, that must mean I'm trans. I actually got insulted, that they thought I looked like them. I got told by them again and again that I had "manly energy" and I insisted over and over that I am a women. I didn't want to be a man. This constant pressuring ended that relationship with my roommate. He didn't defend me, he just looked at me like he was sorry. When he and I were by ourselves, he would act rationally and think rationally and would agree that there is some mental illness that is affecting his transition. But anytime he was with his friends he was terrified to speak. I just stopped with them all. I accepted them but if they cannot accept me then I am done.
It wasn’t right they were being pushy with you about your identity but also being insulted about being called trans just sounds like you think less of trans people. That it IS an insult or like it’s a bad thing 😭 and I’m only saying that because you made this comment under a video made by a bigot . Fuel to the fire
It is sad how trans people just agree with each other with fear that they will be hated or "cancelled" for thinking otherwise. Also i am very sorry that they asked you if you were trans multiple times!! I am a woman and if i got called a man i'd probably cry. I'm also 180cm tall which might make me more "manly" although height or what I wear isn't what determines that i am a woman. It's much more than just stereotypes, but the trans people refuse to understand that.
The grief part really hit me hard. My best friend came out as a boy right before being the maid of honor in my wedding. I didn't see it coming and I was in shock and then in grief for months afterwards. It was as if the person I knew had died and was replaced with a stranger. Thank you for addressing this issue.
Omg. Was your friend still in your wedding?
@@Pinkles666Right, that's what I wanna know
sounds like your "friend" wanted all the attention you had been getting - why else wait till right before the wedding?
@@Pinkles666 Yes, but we don't really talk much now, and the whole thing was really awkward. Not sure what the better solution would have been though.
They were…… always the same person .
My boyfriend’s “sister” transitioned after he-(biologically) was married to his ex of seven years who moved from Mexico to USA, and had kids together, decided to tell her after they had the second child that he didn’t feel like a man all of his life. A decade has passed and I met the ex/mother of the kids. She is up to this day, shocked and heartbroken that he could do this to her and the kids without caring. He left her after giving birth, started to transition and met someone else very quickly. Now she’s a single mom who is raising the kids, without knowing a lot of English, and is staying at home with the kids since the father is paying alimony. The mom wants to have a paternal figure for their kids but unfortunately he won’t present as that.
It’s just so messed up that after knowing that he had a mental problem for almost 3 decades, had the audacity to marry a woman who didn’t understand transgenderism, who was raised catholic and took an oath in marriage “till death to us part”, would have done such a cruel thing.
That’s rough. I wonder how the state sees his transition in a divorce. Do they treat him like a man who was providing for his family? Or like a wife who needs to be supported?
Very odd.
That’s devastating. But… at least the dad is paying alimony.
What a bum
You’ll notice this about just about every trans person. It’s all about THEM, they don’t care whose heart they break, they are going to do it because they want the attention and trend.
and put 3 children through this. what a p.o.s
It reminds me of how Kris Jenner had to see Caitlyn after a while had passed, and Caitlyn said her birth certificate had been changed, and Kris was like, was I ever married if Bruce was never born?? And then at another point in the conversation Kris started to tear up, and Caitlyn said something like "why would you be upset?" The audacity of acting like this person's feelings are so easily dismissed was disgusting. How horribly self-involved.
but that is how it goes, most people who transition only care about their own needs and feelings, and never consider the impact of their choices on people around them, specially immediate family and close friends.
It's not audacity it's a mental illness including narc to some extent. Even Caitlyn says it. And it's TRUE. Why the fuck does it matter about the stupid birth certificate. Women are SOOOOOOOOOOO emotional FFS.
I watched that on Tiktok and shockingly the comments all thought the same thing. Everyone understood that even if Caitlyn was changing to make herself happy and being her true self or whatever- Kris Jenner still lost her husband, people completely overlook that struggle. :(
This is one of the rare instances where I actually feel bad for Kris Jenner, they were married for SO long, and her previous husband had passed away too :(
His feelings are the only thing that matters. His validation is the only thing that matters. His life never happened before his boob job? Expunge his sporting triumphs return his medals if he never existed before the boob job.
I always considered myself a liberal human but the more I watch her the more I see that her opinions are not nearly as outrageous as the internet makes them out to be… super logical and well spoken gal
This is literally me lol. I don’t consider myself conservative as i have plenty of liberal views but i agree with a lot of her videos, more than i thought i would
Same here. I consider myself very liberal, and I do not agree with everything she says. However, it is also refreshing somehow because it makes me really question things more "open minded"😂 (no idea if that makes sense)
@@tabi8488
Try officer Tatum too❤
Same. I consider myself a liberal, but I am way more center than I originally thought. I don’t agree with EVERYTHING she says but I respect the way she says it usually.
Trans widows are forgotten.. seems like the husbands leave their wives for the sin of growing older, they have an affair with the woman within (autogynephilia). Many are super smart because of the autism brainiac connection. Manlier than the average man. Not like the girly guys looking for a husband
He won't accept her if her lose weight, but she has to accept that he changes completely on her. Divorce him does not care about her or her feelings.
I had a male friend who transitioned while married to his wife. He eventually tried to transition back but it was too late for their relationship. It was an awful situation and so traumatic for everyone involved, including me. I was his only female friend and I met him when he was presenting fully as a "woman". I trusted him and was very close with him because he said having a "girlfriend" helped with his dysphoria, although I never really vocallized "support" for what he was doing to his body/mind. Eventually when he started to realize his mistake (his words), I suddenly had to come to terms with "her" being "him". His marriage fell apart and he confessed his love for me because I was "the female presence in his life that challenged him and made him realize that he was still a man". I had to completely cut myself off from that relationship because it became a matter of "if I keep seeing you and not having you, I'd rather be dead". He wasn't mentally okay to begin with, and the trans movement jumped on his insecurities and made evrything so, so much worse.
Anyone who says this isn't a mental illness, a horrible, debilitating mental illness, is a rotten liar. It ruins societies, families, friendships, and individuals. I hope my friend is okay and I still feel guilty that I couldn't do more for him.
@@ewokkris that’s awful… so sorry that you went through that. It’s taken a long time (and a few other relationships like the one I mentioned) for me to finally learn that at some point, I wasn’t the person that could “fix” it all. I believe everyone can change, but the weight of dealing with someone else’s illness should never cause your own. I hope you’re able to heal from that experience
@@ewokkris God, that's horrific. I also lived through a "friend" who became mentally, physically, and sexually abusive and basically kept me in his house by claiming he'd hurt me and kill himself if i didn't date him. During the trauma, I knew it was bad, but never realized exactly how bad. How little sleep I got, how every breath was walking on eggshells. I still struggle with friendships and relationships because of it. I grew up with a codependent family, too, so i really struggle to let anyone close to me. I'm still trying, though.
I am so sorry you went through that. It's so hard to get out of a situation like that. I'm glad you did.
@@ewokkris The shaking from a package definitely is trauma. And HE DID THAT TO ME TOO. I suspect it's a way to not let you go and a fear tactic. He sent me a mug that I used to use when I stayed there. I almost dropped the box. I started to shake. I went out and grabbed my dad's sledge, chucked the mug into the box and brought the hammer down on it until it was dust. Then lit the whole thing on fire in the driveway. Dramatic? Yes. But I wasn't going to allow any of his belongings in my parents' house. Which he'd somehow figured out their address and thought it was mine.
I'm glad you got your ornament back. Definitely look into counseling if you can. I found one doc years ago, who was the only good therapist I ever had. I came into her office with a two inch thick file of all of what I assumed where trauma responses I'd experienced afterward which was stopping me from living my life and told her to give it to me straight. Give me tools to fix myself. The stuff she taught me let me live again. And weather a few bad docs and another abusive situation. Unfortunately, there's not a cure I've found to help just trusting people again, but maybe there is something that can help.
I wish you much luck and happiness. We did the hardest part. The rest can be on our own terms. 💙
Yeah you don't want to be there and be his rebound or runaway. Where with you he feels okay
Please don't feel guilty. There was nothing you could have done for him, unless you are a psychiatrist. You did the right thing by letting him go. He was emotionally blackmailing you.
“He says that he likes overweight women…. He certainly has became one….”
Savage! 🤣
OOH do we need to call an ambulance to report a burn injury?
Yes, but not really...at all.
A man can't become a woman no matter what. What they call sex change and transgender surgery is just a lie.
He's still obviously a fat guy in a dress, with earrings and lipstick.
Now they are twinning.
I am watching this happen to my daughter's marriage; although she claims to be ok with her husband's transition to become her wife. I am grieving the loss of my son in law who I adored, and the grandchildren that they will not be adding to our family as they had told me they had planned . He came out to me by showing up to a dinner in a restaurant in a dress, without any prior conversation or indication that he was planning on transitioning. When I didn't immediately affirm him and excused myself from the dinner, I became his enemy. I needed time to process what is happening to my family. This has been a horrible experience that I don't wish upon anyone. The divide between my daughter and I is growing wider by the day, it's so sad.
sounds like a nightmare… wishing you strength !
There is a term for what your daughter is: trans widow
We need to start acknowledging that partners of biological men who transition to women go through a period of mourning. Stay strong for your daughter. She will need it eventually.
I'm so sorry. I hope you and your family find peace soon.
It is sad, scary, and frustrating to have to watch someone you love go through this and become isolated from them because of it.
It sounds like you have a part in that gap. You assume your daughter must be unhappy (and pretending not to be) in that situation, and maybe she is, but what if you're wrong? Just because you don't understand it and wouldn't wish it for yourself doesn't mean the same is true for your daughter. Your daughter's spouse's identity is what it is, so either they stay together or eventually divorce. You can't control that. But you can bridge the gap right now by accepting them so that you can be closer to your daughter. Right now you are just creating hardship for your daughter by adding friction to the relationship.
It is absolutely toxic. My ex coming out as trans freed me from a toxic relationship. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative. When he came out it woke me up to what he was. He turned me into what he wanted me to be. I realized I'm a straight woman and couldn't be a lesbian. You are always told not to judge someone by their outside, but your outside is actually a reflection of your inside.
Literally I just went through everything you just said! Omg I thought I was alone! 😔had he not came out I would’ve stuck around.
If my girlfriend transitioned into a man I wouldn’t stay with “him”. That’s a big no, trans folks shouldn’t surprised their partner is shocked or disgusted by it leading to a breakup. It’s disrespectful and selfish plan and simple. The fetishization of being trans is so damn weird and then these people say “just go for it”. Like what the hell?
The trans person should inform a partner immediately when they've decided this, prior to any physical alternation, so that the individual retains their own autonomy in the situation, stay or go.
Yep. Thats not the same person u fell for at the start, so it's understandable u wouldn't stay. I would do the same thing if my husband randomly decides he's chopping off his organs and playing dressup for the rest of his life.
Dude, it goes without saying.
I would have never had a partner that would even consider such a thing. It takes a special breed of “stupid”.
Demons cause transgenderism, bisexuality, non-binary, etc., 100%. I was transgender and bisexual for 24 years before finding out the truth, and now I share my testimony daily, even though many people love to doubt me. My testimony: After being an atheist for 8+ years, and "married" to another female, I got the urge one day to say out loud "IF there is an Almighty God that does NOT wish us pain or sorrow, please bring me truth, I wish to know you exist". Then God immediately started bringing me the answers I had been searching 8-11 YEARS for! I witnessed Him take control of my internet and the rest of my reality; He first proved to me that demons exist (I called them "inter-dimensional beings"), then He proved His own existence, which I later found to be Jesus Christ. As soon as I found Jesus at the end of 2020, He IMMEDIATELY took away my transgenderism, bisexuality, depression, daily suicide attempts, self harm, bulimia and anorexia; and He did this all without me asking Him to, because THAT'S how merciful and loving He is! Praise God! Repent of all your sins, love Jesus Christ with all your heart, love your neighbors as yourself, and forgive everyone you haven't already. There's not much time, the Euphrates river is drying quickly, which is Biblical prophecy. I'm praying for you and your ex girlfriend. She will always be a "she". God bless you in Jesus' name❤
I saw a different video of Kristen and her husband where they were decluttering their apartment. She was feeling extreme guilt about wanting to keep some souvenirs from their wedding because, "OMG BABE, IT HAS YOUR DEAD-NAME!!".
The poor woman was weeping and groveling and apologizing to her husband for wanting to keep momentos from her wedding because she was scared those momentos would trigger him. She seems like she lives in fear of him leaving (or lashing out) if she upsets him. Its a terribly sad way to live. 😥
I hate the term "deadname". It sounds disrespectful to your parents who chose it. Why not simply say "birth name" or "original name"?
@@HumanLandslide You cannot freak out as much over a "birth name" but "dead name" has drama and fear. You can say someone wants you dead if they use it.
That's not the full picture. Kristen was prepared to throw the wedding suit away, but her partner wasn't prepared to do that. Becuse it reminded her of their wedding, and it was a precious memory.
@@Sharon-dv4so I think switching "maiden name" with "dead surname" would be intreresting.
She's grieving. Like loosing a husband it's hard and yes he's physically there but hes not the same person and, I'm sad she doesn't have space to grieve. :'(
Toward the end of this video, I was thinking to myself, "this is an abusive relationship". Right from the start he has been so successful at preying upon her insecurities that she has molded herself around everything he wanted. He seems like a control freak to me. This trans guy seems meek and mild on the surface, but deep down he exerts some sort of control over her.
There are lots of ways to have relationships, but controlling abusive behavior doesn't belong in them.
I think this is harder than someone passing, because it actually ruins memories. The fact that they can’t have pictures, or think back to those times, that person isn’t there anymore. That person doesn’t exist anymore. It’s between someone who is gone physically, another is a person who doesn’t exist at all.
I feel really bad for Kristen because she has had to accommodate so many drastic changes in this relationship in order to please her partner. Unreasonably so. This is the new, woke version of pressure to perform the “Cool Girl” fantasy. She changed her own body to suit his tastes, she has been a witness to his total transformation after they got married, now she cannot even express the complexity of her feelings for fear of hurting her loved one. Altogether it seems that she will now be forever having to contort herself around an individual that comes across as rather self-centered. I understand that people change over the course of relationships, but we should acknowledge how that affects the people around us, and so far her boyfriend/spouse is barely doing that.
It is abusive with his testing of her love for him.
The husband is starting to look just like Kristen. It’s really weird how he is mirroring her.
@@kasualbeauty309 It's not weird, she talked him into it. He looks and speaks like a hostage and she is elated.
She is enabling him. I don’t feel bad for her. She got herself into this mess instead of standing up for herself.
She's terrified of losing her career if she protests at all. Doing anything that's in any way critical of her former husband will get her utterly canceled. She needs a divorce, but that would cost her everything.
What's also quite odd about his transition is that he seems to be modelling his femininity EXACTLY on Kristen, same hair, same glasses, same clothes style. Something about that just screams fetish to me.
Edit. What's also weird is I wrote this comment about 3 seconds before Brett said they looked like sisters.
This happens frequently. It is creepy.
I mean you can see that creepy shizz in the thumbnail…. I would absolutely be out. “Sorry I transitioned into a man and I’m actually gay” lolz
Narcissistic fetidh maybe. Gets to bang his mirror image. Omg now u'm having Joedan Peele's Us flashbacks.
I always thought that, ironically enough it screams single white female 😂
they always try to single white female their wives!
For me I'm still young but I don't want to date anyone trans or someone who isn't straight/bio male. I'm a biological female and I'm straight, and my personal preference is biological straight men. But I've had so many people telling me that not wanting a trans partner is "selfish" and "being too picky" but it's not that hard to ask for? This video helped relieve some of those nerves. Brett is amazing and a huge role model to me
So… she’s attracted to thin hipster men, he’s attracted to obese women.
She changes for the worse to suit his fetishes, and he changes out of EVERYTHING she likes to suit HIS PREFERENCES.
Anne Perkins from Parks and Rec. The depiction of the woman who can’t maintain her own identity, independence or boundaries in a relationship was too real.
This happened to me in a previous relationship of 6.5 years. I was engaged to a woman that decided to "transition" into a man literally over the span of a weekend. She already had pre-existing personality disorders and was very active on sites like Tumblr and feminist blogs, so I have no doubt they influenced her. We had gone out Friday night and the next time I saw her that Sunday, she had chopped her hair off, Elmer's glued her dad's beard trimmings to her face, and was wearing my clothes. No prior discussion, no warning; just boom, this is how it is now. I tried to deal with it for almost a month, even after she admitted to having slept with her best friend in that time ("discovering her identity" she called it) but simply couldn't be with someone this mentally unhinged who clearly looked like a fake man. What I was unprepared for was the immediate and intensely vitriolic backlash I received for breaking off the relationship. I was called every name in the book by her family and friends (people I had known for the better part of a decade) and treated as though I were Satan himself. It was absolutely unreal and mind you, this was way back in 2007. There needs to be a support group for former partners who have experienced second-hand victimization of the trans mind-fuck.
Wtf did you feel like you were in an insane asylum? Just crazy
@@rebeccacampbell585 The thing that was hardest was how suddenly everything went downhill. Like many young men, I unwisely sacrificed so much of myself to the relationship. I had isolated myself from a lot of family, friends, activities, and a good part of my young adulthood to this person and I was just left adrift in a matter of weeks. It left me very jaded towards relationships and untrustworthy of others for a very long time. I'm doing well now with a family of my own, but I don't think something as fundamentally catastrophic as that can ever be fully erased. It made it very clear how twisted this ideology is though and how rabid its adherents are. I don't necessarily think trans individuals themselves are intentionally malicious per se, but just because you don't know something is evil doesn't make it not evil. Gender dysmorphia is an illness and ought to be addressed and treated as any other dysmorphia. It is only celebrated because institutions can make money off it. There's a reason we don't have things like "anorexia-affirming" care.
I liked this comment out of sympathy, not because I like anything about it. What a crazy story, and for what it's worth I think you were the brave one here standing up for sanity when everyone around you was not. Sorry for your loss.
@@supertrouperJC02 Thanks for the reply. And I've learned it wasn't my loss at all. 😂
You had to of felt like that was a prank at first. I would be so confused if my partner suddenly decided within a weekend to be the opposite sex... then acted like a cartoon character. I'm so sorry you went through this, and that her family and friends were apparently just as unhinged.
Nothing will make me sadder, in regards to this topic, than seeing Kris and Bruce Jenner having a conversation about him changing his birth certificate to show “female,” and Kris asking, “If he doesn’t exist, does that mean we were never married?” She looked so incredibly heartbroken. I can’t even imagine.
Yeah, what happened to Bruce Jenner? Did he just wink out of existence as if he had never existed at all? Who won all those medals?
Yes, Bruce did his whole family completely dirty during his transition. He did not consider them or involve them in any way. Not like it effected them at all🙄
Edited: removed a word that shouldn’t have been in there.
@@ShanaLawson From everything I keep seeing, the stuff about him not considering them at all seems so true. They all appear to be very self-centered, often narcissistic and act very entitled (it could of course be that most videos focus on the bad ones only though) but making a change as big as this definitely has huge consequences for their partner
True. Also, if he didn't exist, then how will his kids exist? They came from Bruce, hence if Bruce has always been non-existent, where did those kids come from? 🤔
@@tinewordsmith126 I think he says his kids still call him dad
Im trans and it took me a while to be accepting of people who transition and continue to date the same sex as before. It was mind boggling. People should be able to openly grieve trans people, especially if they didn't come out until later in life. I don't expect my parents or anyone to call me my preferred name when for majority of my life i was known as someone. Its extremely selfish to expect people to change almost immediately
My cuz came out as trans. I miss who she was.
@@auouraschannel5230 I feel that, I probably was similar to her which is where I can say I f'd up. Before I transitioned I was being who other people wanted me to be or expected me to be. When I transitioned I started being myself which everyone else took as me changing who I was. I never felt comfortable to be who I was with them because I was insecure about myself so for your cousin it might be something like that
@@IsaacDaniels777 maybe... you still loose the one you love
@@auouraschannel5230 that is true, I hope y'all can gain a new relationship
When you said they look like sisters it sent me. I know a girl who is a well known alt/bimbo type model & had a boyfriend who ended up transitioning as soon as they broke up to look like her CLONE. Like clearly there is something bigger here
AGPs, when you become the girlfriend you’ve always wanted
My sister in law transitioned about 3 years ago. My brother was devastated, as his then wife changed sexual preferences to female. Even worse was no one wanted to listen to his side of the story. He was expected to just continue their relationship like nothing happened. My father and I were the only ones who were reasonable and did what we could to comfort him. My brother signed divorce papers and is doing so much better today thankfully. The other side of the family was absolutely hateful and intolerable to us because of this. It still doesn't sit well with me to this day.
Yeah. Like the stopped wanting him, so what's the point of staying. So horrible the treatment they gave him :(
Poor guy, he basically had to greive
and i am sure the other side of the family called him misogynist as he didn't care about her needs and feelings either ?
Is your brother alright?
@@stanedgie5910 if this was the situation can they even call it misogyny if they're both "men"? UNO reverse lol.
But I guess they did, and that they called him transphobic too. The world is messed up.
I knew a woman who ended up in a really bad way because of a situation like this. They had just had a new child, I think he was only a month old when they moved into their first home. They hadn’t even finished unpacking when he came out as gay to her. She told him to leave, he did and everyone slammed her for not supporting him. About a year later the house was sold, they divorced and they sorted out custody. Everything had kind of boiled down now. They started to get friendly again and so would start confiding in each other. Turned out he wasn’t gay, he was a trans woman and he wanted her support transitioning. Again, she refused and was slammed for it. He is now a trans woman in a relationship with a gay guy. She is with a guy now who treats her well but she still gets crap from people about it from time to time. She wasn’t allowed have her own feelings about the whole thing, only he was ever considered and supported.
You know what? Somebody has every right in the world to identify as whatever the f-ck they want. Nobody else is under any obligation to be "accepting and supporting," and frankly, if anybody were to slam me for not supporting some mental case like that would be told to go f-ck themselves post haste.
That's just awful. The deception and victim blaming. I'm glad she's with someone better now.
Lets try this again "trans-woman" is a closeted gay person. Embrace it sport don't hide in the trans space
she is based.
It's just another way of cancelling women and their feelings. Women are "supposed" to be compliant to men's needs. By refusing to support him she becomes a "bad woman".
I’ve loved Kristen and Jen sense buzzfeed, even before the transition it felt like she was walking on eggshells. Now it’s like you can watch her calculate each comment before she makes it so she doesn’t hurt feelings or get “cancelled”.
a person can only live like that for so long before they break down - I hope she gets out before then 🙏
My husband had mental health issues right after we got married to the point where we literally separated for almost two years. He got help due to this and is doing much better now. When we got back together we had to address that I had felt like he was a totally different person and it was like he had died. I explained this to him in those exact words and cried harder than I had in a long time. I got him back, thank God, and now looking at other people going through that same kind of grief just makes me so sad. People who haven't gone through that don't understand how much it hurts to look at somebody you love so deeply and know that you can't reach them anymore. Every marriage has a point where you will have to address the cracks in the relationship and the cracks in yourself. Its about choosing your marriage and your vows and your life together over selfishness. I think the couples we are seeing where one of them transitions after the marriage is people spectacularly failing at that.
Imagine someone said “my husband loves skinny women” and the husband was fetishizing the girl, forcing her to become anorexic, starving herself and being unhealthy. This is the same thing but if this was put on the internet the husband would get destroyed. Crazy world we live in eh :/
my thoughts exactly!!
That exact thing happened to my youngest daughter!
Kristin also came out with a video a few months back where she said she was now using they/them pronouns and that it was common for spouses of trans people to “explore their own gender.” It is just so sad and wild that this is the only personality trait people are allowed to have these days and it defines everything about them and is literally contagious.
“Literally contagious”
This is a terrifying point.
The woke mind virus! Yep. Contagious!
She married a real Chris Chan, now, didn't she?
@@americancapitalist9094 Agreed
It's called social engineering, it's a form of rewiring and brainwashing.
My husband is the love of my life. Started dating as 17/18 year olds and we are now 39/40. 2 wonderful children, house, vacations, etc. I love the life we built together. He is my best friend and we have been by eachothers sides for more than half our lives. He is a wonderful father. I can't say enough great things about him. HOWEVER, if he were to transition and say he was a woman, I would be filing for divorce. I married a man. I made a commitment to the man that I love. I would also have grave concerns about his mental health and question if he would be able to be a safe father to our kids.
Thankfully, that isnt happening so I will just continue to be happily married to my highschool sweetheart ❤
She is in an abusive relationship. The fact that what she probably truly feels cannot be true to herself. She has to settle to what He wants
This is such an abusive relationship. First he encourages her to gain way too much weight and now she’s stuck with him and his issues, cause he “can’t do it without her”. She’s stuck in a very bad situation. Run woman run, preferably to a gym.
Textbook narcissist behaviour = if you leave me, I'll kill myself.
Seriously when things escalate this bad just let them do it and run.
@@91bpatrick Yeah my ex has said that exact thing to me, well when we parted ways he had apparently alrdy been talkin to someone like 2 months prior and instantly started dating her (it went horrible haha) said the same thing about her, both times never even did anything xd
More like "away from creep. We'll get you to the gym after you're safe."
gym over men always
There's an entire buzzfeed video about how he's a chubby chaser and views her as a sex object. They joke about him leaving if she loses weight. He's abusing this poor woman.
He really benefitted from this relationship: she did everything to please his fetish and he was accepted at every level. He wanted to be a big girl and she gave in to his every whim.
This what Narcs do, after all.
Its sad to hear her describe him as the type of guy she always wanted (thin, dark hair etc)but "could never get". Her low self esteem is why she has allowed this person to manipulate her into being whatever he needs/wants. It's all about his needs.
This is why I am terrified of the dating scene. I have deemed that it is easier to stay single than go through this. I hate that this is a legitimate worry for trying to find someone to be with.
Please do not be discouraged, you can form genuine living relationships, just make sure your values and beliefs align from the very beginning.
My cousin sadly did this to his newly wed wife. She stood by his side through the transition and the controversy and everything then he had the nerve to serve her divorce papers before her board exams.
My ex boyfriend came out as trans years before the pandemic. He is goth he had long black hair and wore eyeliner as a man, even painted his nails black. I was ok with that but gradually he started to buy his clothes a bit more feminine, even buying high heeled boots and wearing more makeup. Until he told me he felt he was a woman. We tried to deal with this for a long time, but eventually we split up because even though I don't believe he was ever a woman, I couldn't deal with the fact that he was dressing like one. I was devastated, he didn't take any hormones or have any gender changing surgeries, but he has pretty features so he actually does pass as a woman. We remained in contact for a few years, always trying to get back with me. Recently I cut off all contact because now he's saying he is a witch 🤦🏽♀ a Wicca or whatever they call themselves. These people just need attention. I was not stupid enough to stay in his delusional world.
Sounds kinda like a friend I knew who turned into a goth trans woman
Its also demonic so the witch jump isnt surprising
You have saved yourself. Be happy.
@StrawberryStar7 I kind of agree myself being a practitioner of ‘witchcraft’ I don’t see why you would have to bring that up to someone who you have repeatedly been trying to get with even after they have expressed that they don’t want to get back with you, unless it was to gain attention be it of any sort if not to fetishize an entire eclectic religion. Though I suppose I personally don’t have and experience with being in a relationship with someone, let alone someone who transitioned or claimed to transition it seems kind of insensitive to not respect someone’s wishes to not get back together, and to add more thing that most like would further make the person uncomfortable and to still pursue them. I know a lot of people view witchcraft as bad or satanic but it’s more of the people who are bad apple that are louder then the few good ones who quietly try to go about their lives which can be said for many groups more so recently trans people that you see on tv and social media. Though I’d take everything with a grain of salt being a high schooler myself I am still yet to really experience the world so fully as actual matured (hopefully) adults, none of this is to be disrespectful, just my own thoughts and opinions to how some people can be. (Sorry for the long paragraph)😅
I’m so sorry you went through that.
So. Here's my story. My brother and I grew up extremely close. I named my firstborn son after him. My kids adored my brother and his brand new wife. My brother had a complete mental breakdown. He quit his career, came out as trans, left his wife of ten months, and moved 1000 miles away to live with a person he only knew online (a fellow trans and furry) all within a six month period. You CANNOT convince me this has always been his "truth."
Anyway, so, when I ask, "What am I supposed to tell my (VERY young) children?" He said, "Oh. Well. Kids are more resilient and accepting than any adults. Just tell them the truth. But also- never mention my birth name again in my presence. That's my dead name." THAT IS MY SON'S NAME.
My kids wept over the news of my brother's divorce. They were heartbroken. They kept asking why they wouldn't ever get to see their new aunt again. They were so excited to have a new aunt and to get to know this new family member, and they were confused and grieved to learn that she wouldn't ever be speaking to our family ever again.
But I was the ignorant one for feeling hurt and angry.
so sorry to hear this. One day, when all his trans friends dump him and he's alone, he will know the meaning of family. God is All-Seeing, All-Hearing.
These people never talk about the heart ache they cause theor partners when they come out
That’s a crazy story, sorry your family had to go trough that
What a JERK. (and lol furry WTF) Good riddance and hopefully he'll never come back.
Transgenders, narcissistic and selfish as always
“Jeans ripped in all the right places.” Sounds like a Wattpad book.
HAH IM GLAD SOMEONE SAID IT
I’m prepared to go on record that I absolutely 💯 did NOT for even a fraction of a millisecond ever think you were trans or apparently an “egg” since that is a thing - they literally use that as a coping mechanism to deal with their own insecurities and the fact “these people” CANNOT not ever be wrong. You a gorgeous female, who doesn’t require affirmation to know who you are lol love ya girl - keep on keeping on lol
My ex-husband came out as a trans woman right before I filed for divorce due to his abuse and severe mental health problems, and suspicion of him wanting to be trans. We had a baby together right before that happened. Hes been trying to teach my son that he is his mother and insists that he’s called that. It’s painful every time I have to interact with him. I could deal with it if we didn’t have a child together and just parted ways. But my son and myself are forever roped into a lifestyle we never asked to be a part of, due to visitation and parenting time required through the courts. I am getting married again soon and my son is with me full time so he has an actual father in his life, but we still have to interact with my ex husband.
So sorry. Can’t imagine what that must be like from a kid’s perspective.
Omg I'm going thru the same just not married. Our poor boys
That’s so vile and disgusting I’m so sorry for you just keep telling your child the truth have your child call him what he truly is… a father a man. Don’t give into the bs that person is mentally deranged I wish you and your new marriage lots of love and happiness as well as mental clarity in the future for your child
@Elena Barron he has custody rn and won't let me say or do anything unless it's about him NEVER MY SON.
I’m so sorry to hear that
I was such an androgynous child growing up all the way through high school. After I had my daughter my motherly instincts kicked in and I had this urge to dress super feminine and loved it. I would be devastated now if someone swayed me into thinking I was a boy and put me on T destroying my chance to have my babies. I was a Tom boy, occasionally wondered if the grass was greener on the other side (which I feel is normal) but NEVER wanted to be a male. I'm so glad the internet was not as developed back than.
@Gengar I don't eat grains, wheat minimal carbs actually, under 10. Less then 1500 calories a day and daily exercise. In fact I have lost 20 lbs in the last month. I'm not really sure what your point is on my comment. Hopefully you can find some therapy to help, I'm sure Brett has a code for ya.
@Gengar tf are you talking about? She didn't mentioned weight in her original comment so your reply is unnecessary and off topic.
@Gengar she also didn't say she was fat so why would you assume she is? Just because she gave birth? Grow tf up.🙄
I am confused why people think tom boys and trans people are one in the same. or why it has to be one or the other ? im sure you never wanted a beard or a penis, yet maybe you liked sports and playing in the dirt. I feel this is a very very different discussion. I say this as a girl who grew up as a tomboy myself
@@cucumber790 absolutely they are not one in the same. But I did think "man I wish I was a boy" "man I hate my breasts" (as I began to tape them down) "I don't get being a girl" " I feel like i was born in the wrong body" I was insecure, hated and felt awkward in my female form through most of puberty years. I absolutely would had been the type of person pushed into transitioning and I would had offed myself as an adult once I was removed from the cruel world of high school girls.
Brett is such an unbelievably articulate and insightful young woman. I resonated so much with her take on this and the relational aspect of this couple. She hit the nail straight on!
I strongly dislike Kristen. One time she posted on instagram some medical lies (basically saying that obese people don’t have more surgery complications just for being obese, which is completely untrue). So i send her a dm, being super polite, but telling her she was spreading misinformation, and she has a big platform, she should be aware of the information she posts. She didn’t answered me, but she did a print screen of my interaction and put me on blast on her instagram story calling me fatphobic and leading her followers to come at me.
Since that day, I don’t like her a bit. Don’t wish her bad fortune, but don’t wish her a good fortune either. Just don’t care.
My granddaughter left her husband (already had problems) when he decided to trans. She just didn't want that life.
Relationships are difficult enough. That is just too much.
That life is being forced to lie to someone who is having an identity crisis as if playing along with their self-hate delusion fantasies of them being born in a body that needs to be "fixed" is best for them when really that's the worse thing you could do to a person, lie to encourage their self-destruction or self-harm. Many people who transition do physical damage to their bodies, that's mutilation, some mutilation even given to children can cause permeant damage, that's evil. There is help out there for people with gender dysmorphia, but if it's not lying to them then the internet take the real help down. I pray those in need find what they need and it's not being lied to, that's not loving.
I don't blame her, most of them look like clowns and it must be reasonably embarrassing to be in anyway associated with them
She married Steve, not Eve and had the wherewithal to leave.
She saved herself years of abuse. Good for her. Trans widows stories are very heartbreaking cause it's always abusive
I remember a few years ago, the girl I was dating at the time wanted to transition to a male. We talked about it, and I decided to break off the relationship after stating that I wouldn't date her following the transition. She then proceeded to flip her shit and rant and rave at me for my decision, saying that I didn't truly love her if I refused to go from straight to gay/bisexual for her. Six years on, I'm glad I've made my decision
They only seem to look at the relationship based on what they can take. When it comes to relationships, we think about our rights more than our obligations.
They want transitioning to be seen on the same level as cancer or postpartum weight gain.
Speaking from a gay man. Nobody chooses who they are attracted to. It is completely okay for you to end the relationship if they decide to transition.
And this is why you should always still single.
Well why not still date her? She’s still female.
@@anna.luv3 Because that was six years ago. Since then I've found someone else, settled down, gotten engaged and we're now expecting our first child sometime in the upcoming months
if my partner transitioned in our relationship, i'd pack up my bags and get the hell out there-
My heart goes out to everyone who's partners transitioned and flipped their lives upside down ❤❤❤
She's literally scared to state how sad she is. She can't look at her wedding photo because he said no. This is insane. This isn't normal except for the fact he will push a line again.
Sooner or later what hoop will he push her through when he's done with this?
Will he decide he's a puppy and she needs to care for his puppy self?
Or will he flip and be a guy again?
He's coming off very narcissistic to me .. what hoops are next for Kristen? How sad.
i have a feeling he will flip at some point and want to milk it for publicity as this whole thing seems to be anyway. At the end of the day, while i feel for her (the biological her) she also allowed this to happen.
Get out now.
Be happy with you.
Blessings
I was in high school when the trans stuff started gaining a bit more traction and becoming more common (around the time Bruce went Kaitlyn). I was dating a girl and one day she hits me with a "I think I might be a demi-boy. Like im not full trans but I have some boyish tendencies." I told her straight up that if she started dressing and acting like a dude i was out cuz im not gay. She was pissed but accepted it. When i did break up with her cuz she nearly cheated on me and it was the dude who told me about it all not her, she didnt deny what happened. Like a month later she was "non-binary". All my buddies told me i dodged a bullet, i disagree, i dodged a cannonball
non-biary scares you ? it's what you are saying ?
@@m3w367 no it's cause they're not gay and didn't want to be with a girl who acts and dresses like a dude. Don't be an idiot
People are what they are, but high school kids are still growing and can be immature and behave badly. I wonder if this person will look back with any ounce of embarrassment for cheating, because… yeah… but you totally dogged a cannonball in many ways!
@@m3w367 “non binary” doesn’t exist
@@m3w367lol you don't get it and sounds like you don't want to do it's fine put your head in the sand in your ass high in the air the safest place for you
My partner actually went through a brief phase where she wanted to be trans. At first I thought it was a joke, but when it came up again I almost broke down. I had to sit in the bathroom and console myself and try to calm down. Eventually she thought about it, after I offered support and decided that she loved being a woman. She was kind of brought up in an environment where she was treated like she was less than her brothers and believed only men get respect. I am glad she didn’t go through with it, because honestly, even as a trans friendly person, it was hard.
Don't talk the talk if you won't walk the walk. If you call yourself trans friendly you should have have been the first lining up to affirm her.
affirmation without confirmation is the opposite of supportive
hearing stories like these i sometimes try put myself in the other person‘s shoes. i tried to imagine what it would be like for me if my boyfriend was trans and it made me rather distraught and it honestly made me cry. i couldn’t imagine remembering all these great memories but i know they’re just not the same anymore. i cant even imagine how kristen feels, bless her heart
Here's what people don't talk about. Fetish is one thing. "I prefer morbidly obese women" = I have low self esteem/image, and need someone who is worse than me so I can feel good, and control them... since I can't control myself.
That was my thinking as well. Your doing gods work
Read like a book.
Exactly.
It made sense when it said that he preferred bigger women. it turns out that's what he was secretly wanting to become one in his future...
that is true, i noticed that the fat fetish people only care about keeping there partner fat and lazy in bed. it's very disgusting and disturbing.
So much here to unpack:
-He could be guaranteeing nobody else lays eyes on her by making her get morbidly obese.
-He feels so little besides a woman like her that he’s trying to become her to compete against her inner beauty.
-She looks so unhealthy by now that he may even be getting pleasure from seeing her get sick.
This man is an awful gaslighting machine. He screams “abuser” so loud it’s deafening. He’s obnoxiously selfish. He capitalizes on her insecurities.
He’s got mommy issues and is passing the receipts onto her, slowly and heartlessly.
And at the same time, trying to become her and getting off to it. Autogynophilia right there. Definitely abusive, most trans couples are toxic.
🎯🎯🎯
I do think there is more to it than one person in a vacuum suddenly wants to change genders. So these things are all possibilities. The one constant among all these cases is unbelievable selfishness so that also seems to support some of these other things you bring up.
Yes! He's got lots of red flags here. Seems rather controlling.
He fetishized obese women, transitioned out of nowhere. I can almost bet he is addicted to pron and is just escalading things
He liked her so much that he started morphing into her
This video gave me closure as a girl who got out of a disgusting relationship with an abusive male who was trans-fettished. He called me a goddess and then years later admitted how he wished he were me. I was 14 when it started and 18 when it ended. Absolutely disgusting. I was so scared and I also lost a sibling to mental tragedy where they were turned entirely different. I also suffered thinking I was trans for a long time but realized I define the stereotype- the stereotype doesn’t define me. This video gave me so much closure I am brought to tears yet don’t know what to say to express just how much I’ve been through to resonate with this. I’m so glad I was self aware and was raised in a conservative home- whether it was abusive or not- it truly benefitted me in the long run.
It's crazy how an average heterosexual relationship is seen as odd and problematic.
Because it's not something you get special snowflake brownie points for.
I remember when you saw a man and another man walking or eating together, you assumed they were friends and not lovers.
Like when the left calls us “cis” for simply being normal
@@mikewilcox9348 #bringbackbromance
@@eeveeofalltrades4780 i am so sorry 😔
I once dated a girl who thought she was a man and it was so interesting to me how she referred to herself as a gay trans man and was attracted to me. The whole time I was thinking to myself...”soooo you’re straight? You’re interested in what you’re wired to be interested in?”
Saw a girl on twitter that chopped her breast off and did the whole guy thing and said she was a gay dude that only liked dudes in her bio,it will never make sense as much as they try to make it make sense
What did she say/do after that?
I'm a man who gay and your ex girlfriend is a female. I wouldn't date a trans man and I've had them hit on me before. They're just not men to me but rather butch straight women who hit on me 🤷🏽
@@MetalHeadManic612 oh she dumped me saying she couldn’t be with someone who won’t support her on her journey because it’s who she is and it’s her truth and all that shit
@@trevster75 Mental health issue if u ask me
This happened to me. My partner went from being loving and emotional to having one emotion: rage. Punched a hole in the wall once out of anger but never cried anymore. Everything was just “fine” or “rage”. You basically wake up not knowing the person you were married to. And yes the endocrinologist monitors the levels of hormones. That was the “healthy” dose of testosterone given.
As a wife, if my husband came to me saying he was trans I would be absolutely devastated. Our lives would completely change. I would completely lose him because I married him, not a fake woman. On top of it, any dream we had together to start a family would be crushed because I would never bring a child into that environment. He would likely lose his job because the very reason why he loves his job is because of the people there but then I know the people wouldn’t be comfortable around him so he’d lose said people, he’d hate his job and probably leave.
Admittedly im a stay at home wife, so if my husband left (well paying job) I would have to get a job to help support us, which sounds selfish but that was part of the conversation when he was courting me (he wanted a stay at home wife). I wouldn’t divorce him because marriage should be treated as a commitment not a choice, so our relationship would be strained. I’d have to learn to love him as a completely different stranger, and grieve my best friend that I met in our church parking lot. I would be in mourning for years until the numbness finally came.
Y’all would probably call me a coward but I think I’d run away. I think my strength to remain in my morals would falter and I’d run, try and find the cheapest apartment and try and get on with my life.
If these people feel so offended or bad when they see themselves as a their original sex, no offense they haven’t fixed their problem. If you are proud of where you are then being true to yourself is admitting where you came from. She should be able to put that picture up and he should not be bothered at all.
Yes! This bothered me, too - especially when she said she couldn't put the photo up out of respect for him, and he said, "Sure." He should have said, "Of course you can put it up," and shown respect to *her* The thing is, like you said, they aren't healed. People don't have meltdowns to see themselves as children, or a teenagers, just because they have transitioned into adulthood. Ugghhh... I agree with Brett, thinking I would just cringe but now I'm sad and upset.
@@j15n5ll5 What hit me a little was when he said "I can't do this without her", seems like he's taking her hostage, and the worst thing is that he is not forcing her with a gun to her head, is forcing her through her affection for him. Wonder if he ever at least asked her forgiveness for the betrail he comited leting her believe she was marrying a normal man. Though I understand too, she is just folowing along, she's responsible for that. Codependency
@@imagginary_8 I hadn't thought of it that way, and I see your point. I commented elsewhere that I would support my husband if he needed to transition, but my love would also transition into the love of a friend. I would get a divorce because I need a man as my life partner. My "husband" would have "died," and marriage is "until death do we part."
Any reminder that these men aren't women breaks the autogynophilia s3xual fantasy, that's why they say they were "always a girl" (never woman) and calling the birth name "deadname". Men with autogynophilia need to live in this 24/7 validation of being affirmed as a woman all the time, thus why they get so many like the "it's MA'AM" dude, you broke the fantasy, you killed their hard-on, you ruined their jerkoff session at home in front of the mirror. That's why they need to be in every female space, why Kristen can't put up that photo she likes, it reminds her husband he is a dude, thus stopping his c00m.
Amen. The whole dead naming thing is pure narcissism and control over others, even down to trying to control their speech and memories and feelings.
I’m currently transitioning myself…from a dude who prefers blondes to a dude who prefers brunettes. The transition has been really hard, but I know I will get through it with the support of the straight-male community and its allies.
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Good one😂
Ngl had us in the first half.
I'm pan in that regard
there is a good chance you will likely de-transition back to liking blondes at some point
You have my support, brother. We're here for you.
Just gonna leave this here:
1) It was called a sex change WAY back in my grandfathers day. It isn't new, by any stretch. Even changing the name.
2) Just BE A CROSS DRESSER. It's a thing. Let me introduce you to Eddie Izzard.
3) You aren't a fairy/lizard/cat/etc...you're a cosplayer. Which is TOTALLY fine to be. Just...cosplay.
Peace.
Eddie Izzard now identifies as a woman, I think 😂
Absolutely. You've willfully changed the terms of your agreement. You are no longer the person they fell in love with. Worst of all, you demand to be celebrated for turning their world upside down and destroying whatever future plans you had together.
I was on a dating site and was talking with a guy who liked bigger girls than me. He was asking me if it would be ok for me to get fatter for him. I was like no, absolutely not. And he was like well if you want to be with me, that is what I like. I just blocked him. I remember thinking that was messed up. Literally, his turn on is to watch a woman get fatter to her death. There's something ill about that whole thing.
Exactly if a man tells you, “I like bigger women”. Run. That’s behaviour of a feeder, who tries to get the person their dating to eat more so they can become fatter and unhealthier because their freaks who get turned on watching people eat themselves to death and enjoy dating a person so fat and undesirable that their victim becomes reliant on them to do basic things like walk and move around while feeling like they can’t leave because the feeder is the only one who finds them “attractive” now that their the size of a whale. It’s messed up and down right disgusting that their are people like this in our world and are current society is still encouraging obesity.
It's always the freaking Brian's! My ex husband also named Brian came out as trans! Horrible for mine and my kids life and it's not any better 4 1/2 years later. It is so detrimental to everyone!!
Oh my, so I'm guessing he declares himself a lesbian
@@benjaminreyes3624 Yes he does. He even has someone in his life that puts up with it, they're engaged. They met at the church him and I attended together before all of this.
@@Katie-jr8bs that's a tough one because you have kids. Would probably be a lot easier if you didn't
My heart goes out to you. May God give you all the strength you need to make it through.
Oh god! My bf is Brian.
The comfort to my thoughts about this is he's strongly conservative. Thank God
When I was still working Disney a couple of years ago ( like right after we reopened) they came to the cart I was at in Animal. They would barely talk to tell me what drinks they wanted and seemed genuinely unhappy with one another. I felt the secondhand awkwardness. I feel like these videos are just to save face.. I feel bad for her
As someone with a family member who has done this, the grieving never stops. Especially when ultimatums are thrown out. You want to save the relationship but if you give in to the lie then you lose yourself and your real love for them as well. Real love doesn’t pretend your delusion and mental illness is okay
I think it boils down to people having a skewed, self-centered definition of love in their minds. Love is ensuring the best for the other person, even at risk of hurting their feels or making them uncomfortable
It makes me made because it boils down to “ my feelings matter more then yours, because I’m trans!”
I think that is a pretty good simplification of who these people are. SJW seems to take groups of people and remake into narcissistic cry-bullies.
That's literally all it is
As a detransitioner, I was told transitioning would fix all of my confidence problems, would make me happy etc... And it's just not like that.
Edit: Thank you so much for your support :)
Never give up the grind to putting the past behind you and re-transitioning into the best version of yourself possible, you got this.
You can do this honey! Thank you for speaking out ❤❤❤
I’m wishing you all the best!
God's peace be with you.
You are loved and you are enough.❤
You're so right about death being a much easier loss to grieve than other types of loss. There is closure in death. Loss due to another person's choices or inability to fill a needed role (like a father) have the grief of losing that person with the added heartbreak of letting go of hoping for change and the struggle to not take any of it personally.
I’m so happy that my man loves me for who I am and where I am at physically right now. I’ve noticed he finds plus size women attractive. But, he celebrates my weight loss and encourages fitness. He has an active body type. My body type is prone to hanging onto fat. I always struggled with being overweight. We met in April of 2022 and he watched me proceed to lose a good amount of weight and celebrated those milestones with me.
One of the guys i used to work with went from married Christian man with two small kids to divorced polyamorous transwoman declaring that his 6 year old is also trans. Guess what? He's still depressed. He's still struggling with self-hatred. Surgeries and hormones don't help a mental health issue
people who swing from one extreme to the other are a trip.
So I had a similar situation with my first love . As a high schooler it was honestly confusing. I tried my best to be supportive but was so tired of being called unsupportive and transphobic . I felt like I had lost someone. When I left some of MY FRIENDS were so triggered??? So glad you are calling this out
ambiguous loss is genuinely the hardest version of grief. You can see it. its tangible, permanent change. she is honestly a victim in this situation.
you were so right in saying transition has become easy and glorified. i started taking hormones in 2013 and got my breasts removed it 2016. i 100% regret it now. i was offered no therapy before or during my transition and was told it would fix all my problems. i still have the same problems i did before, but now with the extra weight of what transition has done to me piled on top.
May I ask did you have anyone in your life who was trying to stop you? If so was that person or people attacked/silenced by others in your life who blindly supported it?
Stories like yours are the kinds people need to hear.
So sad
I really hope you didn't take hormone blockers too
God, I'm sorry. I have two detrans friends who still live with surgery and T regret. Looking back I feel so fucking stupid for blindly supporting them when it was obvious that it wasn't actually helping. We all bought into the culty side of the trans movement and there were real consequences, for some of us more than others.
I just love how brett laughs when she disagrees 😂
Same! 😅🤦🏻♀️👏
Facts 😂
Bregg Cooper cracks up when she disagrees.
Same, cant hold straight face
Except for when it's something really messed up and hurtful. Then she gets.......spicy
In my opinion there is huge difference between preference of clothes/other stuff of the opposite gender and actual gender dysphoria. And like Brett said in todays society where this stuff is encouraged and even fetishized (is that the right word?) it's very hard to figure things out in normal time and come to terms with it. I personally know of ONE person that was actually preparing for transition (for years). In my country it is a very long procedure and you have to undergo psychological tests and stuff. What I think is really sad is that young teenagers are right now more confused than ever because of this and don't really talk things through appropriately, just get soothed and encouraged without any doubts.
WOW!!! You hit 1 mil in 5 months! Hope you continue to grow! LOVE YOU!
The message for guys to "get in touch with their feelings" took a negligently toxic situation into an endulgently toxic one. Everything in moderation!
Does moderation also apply to the toxicity of a poison?
Tbh some things shouldn't be moderated they should be totally abstained from.
OMFG EXACTLY men can be sensitive that doesn’t mean they are a woman men can cry that doesn’t mean they are a woman my question is is why womanhood defined by emotions or how they act instead of actually having a uterus or XX chromosomes bc if you don’t have either of those then you are not a woman even when a woman has a hysterectomy she still has XX chromosomes she is still a woman
When I saw the new video thumbnail, it was so genuinely weird. It’s like he wants to be Kristin. He now has her body shape, he wears makeup and hair the same way. I agree with feeling empathy for her. She has shoved herself into a small corner of her own life to make this person happy above and beyond her own happiness.
He's giving real serial killer vibes. Dude wants to wear her skin or something. This is not normal behavior...
Giving me buffalo bill vibes
he is single white female-ing his own wife.
@@v25467I bet he will end up in prison one day
Brett should do an update on this story!
The husband had “gender-confirming surgery” to make him look “like a fat woman”. It is laughable that he thinks he can “pass” as a fat woman when he clearly has the face and voice of a man. I tried watching their video on his surgery and it was so cringe I couldn’t get past the first few minutes. He is just trying to look like his wife.
It is so sad how much weight she has gained. She’s unrecognizable because her face is now storing so much fat.
If I could like this video a million times I would! I laughed so hard at your reactions during this video because they also matched mine and exactly what I was thinking. This epidemic of mental illness we have on our hands is getting out of control. Thank you for being one of the sane ones leading everyone in the right direction!
She can't display a picture of her dead grandmother bcz he's in "boy mode"?? This guy is extremely selfish. She's done and still doing so much for him but I heard absolutely nothing he's doing for her. It's like take it or leave it with him. How's that love??
I had a bad feeling about her husband when he told her he didn't want her to lose weight even though she was trying to be healthier. This was several years ago when she was still on BuzzFeed. If he really loved her, he should have put aside his fetish for fat women in favor of a healthier and happier wife.
@@rationalcynic8416 absolutely. he's only with her bcz he knows her self esteem is in the trash and she'll do anything to keep what she's perceiving as love. bruh is a tool.
Brett has had this channel for about 10 months and she's almost at 2 million subscribers. That is a TH-cam milestone that I don't think has ever happened before. She deserves a medal.
I think she's being propped up by DW.. probably signed one of those contracts Crowder was talking about.
@@DC-nw3uc what kind of contracts?
@@adinamanolache51 Go watch Steven Crowder's video. I'm not saying there's anything sinister going on. I think Brett deserves the success. But it's obviously not organic.
@@DC-nw3uc Go watch Jeremy Boreings video. It's longer and actually explains the contract from a business stand point. It was the initial offer meant to be negotiated. Crowder didn't do that.
there's a weird Asian channel that went from like 10,000 subs to 20 million subs in 2 months. I have no idea how they did it and I kind of think the Chinese governments somehow manipulated the subs but yeah 20 million subs. There's actually a bunch of channels, there's 2 k-pop channels that have over 70 millions subs and they've only been around since last year.
Brett you are amazing!! Great videos! I love hearing a sensible voice for once...keep it up!
The part where she was talking about a photo of them and her grandmother that she loves but supposedly can't put it up anywhere cause it would be "disrespectful." No. That is still the same person. They've just changed. You should still, as a couple, be able to cherish those moments together. Stuff like that should transcend gender identity. Like, what?
My ex roommate is mtf trans and he's dating a ftm trans. They have 3 children who are 10, 13,16 and they are non binary. When he told me all this my brain exploded
Mental illness being passed on for generations
... what the heck 😂
You could never convince me that all of this isn't a social contagion
What?! These creatures can have babies now??
So straight with extra steps…
sooooo.. they claim to have always been a woman but married someone under the pretence of being a man? imagine finding out your whole relationship has been a lie
That’s what happened to kris Jenner lol
Yea. Because your partner has to lie about who they are because of a culture of hate. Happens all the time.
The idea that they HAVE to is a lie.
They are told getting married will “cure them.” That’s the lie. So other people get hurt once you realize the lie isn’t working and you need to be yourself. Lots of gay people marry thinking it will cure them. It doesn’t.
It should be a crime. Your basically sleeping with/marrying someone know that you are lying about your sexual orientation. It's basically gRape
Wow thank you for sharing a little insight into your backround, would never have known you didn't come from a regular healthy family environment, or that you had such close proximity to serious mental health issues, it really hit the heart hearing particularly the bit about the relationship with yout dad, i greive the same very thing (probably different reasons, everyones situations really are unique in my experience)
I loved your content already agree with most if not all you speak about, keep up the amazing work, you are having such a positive impact in the world, that is badly lacking generally and sorely needed ❤)
If I was a woman, and my husband told me he was a girl. I'd tell him no. Leave it at thst. Everytime he'd bring it up I'd just say no. No arguments. Just no.
Yea, my sister asks us to use they/them pronouns. She is fully pregnant right now. She is pregnant and asking me to not call her a mother and requesting that my children don't call her Aunty......!!!!! I want to have a relationship with her, but I can't play along with her magical thinking. I think she will refuse to talk to me if I stand my ground. I am also very concerned she will use they/them pronouns for her child. blah. It's not a good feeling and I think I need to have a very uncomfortable conversation with her.
Cut her out and keep your kids away from her before she transes them too. Save yourself the toxicity. Trans ruins everything and everyone. Do it for you kids dude, and your sanity. It ain't worth it.
@@noonesishome took the words right out of my mouth.
New fear unlocked getting married to a “I think I’m a woman” guy😔
This was my partner and I we had been dating for 4yrs when he came out as non binary. I stuck with him through the journey because I loved him and COULD still see the personality and softly and contentment he brought to my life. 2yrs in he grew boobs on HRT and dressed more feminine and changed his name and then he decided to change his birth certificate to female. I was expecting him to change it to non binary as that’s what he’d said he was so to see female was a slap in the face for him to of lied to me about what his gender identity was
That’s the point I realised that even though I’d set my boundaries with him on things about the transition I wasn’t comfy with if he wanted to do it anyway he was gonna do it regardless of what I felt about it.
It’s been 3 weeks now since we broke up almost 7yrs into the relationship and after almost 3yrs of making him feel comfortable without thinking fully about my own comfort for fear of him leaving me wich happened anyway after a single non gender affirming statement I made (never said anything like that before our loud to him) and he dumped my ass straight away
I'm sorry you had to deal with that sort of narcissistic abuse.
I always felt bad for Kristen in this. Yeah I only saw parts of the story but she lost her husband the man she fell in love with. She once said “unfortunately I am still attracted to men”
I felt like she was being shamed for who she liked. Which I weird since that is what is not supposed to happen and you can “like whoever you want”
Kristen definitely put others needs before her own.
Kristen should come out to him as a thin woman and inform him that she will start her transition. He should be anything but supportive.
@Benjamin Roman yes, she should! 🤣
One of my sister's guy friends who's also married told her he came out as a trans women. She told me they cried, said they loved and supported him. Great. All I could think of was "what about is wife? His wife of ten years. How is SHE doing? I she ok?". People who do this are so damn selfish. It's no different than men who'd marry women, start a family then come out as gay.