The Trans Movement Is Hurting Young Women.
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My history teacher always said "Be suspicious about ANYTHING that targets children." and I can't stop thinking about that
I don't fully agree with your opinion because then the school system would fall under that same logic.
@@duvud0853actually no, I think even that applies to schools too.
@@trinity5502 I think we should be revising the school system not be thinking if it should be removed. Or am I misinterpreting your statement
@@duvud0853the school system should be put under extreme scrutiny because teachers often spend more time with children than their parents.
I already like your history teacher
When your own “ community “ shuts you out and throws hate your way for leaving them, it’s more of a cult than a community .
yeah, thats what im thinking.
The T's are the most hateful
Damn, imagine the betrayal, they "support" you and be your friend, when you on their side, but when you switch side, they left and unfriend you immediately. It's just shown how shellfish the community are, sorry cult. They only "SUPPORT" you when you are supporting their narrative.
Exactly 💯
That is saying the quiet part out loud
My boyfriend has a saying, "Don't make a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling." That should be an ethic we strive to bring back, especially concerning serious situations like this.
You must be a weird girl because most girls just get angry when you say stuff like that to them when they are emotional.
@@thomgizziz Both my boyfriend and I are naturally more intellectual than emotional. I do my best to analyze my feelings to understand why I'm feeling them and how to respond. Of course it doesn't always happen that way, which is expected since I'm human, but I don't like letting my emotions lead me to irrational beliefs or irresponsible decisions.
That saying originates to help people coping w/suicidal thoughts. js
@@silververnallbells191 Yes. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem is how I have always heard this phrase used, also.
love that
I’m mind blown. I NEVER thought about Disney channel shows teaching your kids to treat your parents like shit. But it totally makes sense. Literally all teenage shows are about a daughter normally hating her mother
So I'm not the only one who wondered about the "mom, you're embrassing me" trope?
That confused me when watching teen shows.
@@DrawciaGleam02I’m a 16 year old girl and my only friend is like that. She makes me incredibly uncomfortable and angry considering how her mom is genuinely so sweet and loving and in comparison to my mom who’s mean and has made it clear she didn’t want me, I love being around her mom. My friend is honestly just a brat
I blame the mothers because all of my ex girlfriends told me their mothers abused them
You mean there's yet *ANOTHER* reason to hate Disney?
i found that observation interesting because i was a disney channel kid but i was never disrespectful to my parents. i don’t even remember the kids being disrespectful to their parents on the show.
About a year ago my little sister (13) came up from school to my stepmom and said: "Mom, my name is Jack, and I'm trans." My wonderful stepmom said to her, do you know what that means? And she said, no. So she proceeded to explain it to her, with videos and examples. After the explanation, my stepmom asked her, are you trans, then? And she said, no. From that moment on, my little sister has been going to therapy to help her understand puberty, the changes, the feelings, etc, but especially to help her understand herself and to make sure that the horrible teens around her don't mess with her little brain! After all this time, she's doing amazing in school, piano, painting, sports, she's the "girly-tomboy" we all were at 13!! I'm so grateful that my stepmom took the steps to make things right!! We need to protect them!!
YES!!! THAT'S WONDERFUL!!! THAT'S HOW PARENTING IS SUPPOSED TO BE!!!
Therapist can cause harm! They can support and encourage children with gender confusion to transition.
@@nvtruant5994 Mistreatment can literalyl kill you and it DOES kill TENTHOUSANDS of people every year.
So, yes, of course this is always a problem.
To take something like that to go against transexuality is just as wrong as saying that medical care is wrong, because doctors kill tenthousands of people ever year with wrong diagnosis and misstreatments.
Of course the idea alone, to declare a 13 year old teenager transsexualy by a single remark is stupid. It's on the same level as giving someone chemotherapie because he comes up with the idea that he got cance, because some pain in the stomach or head. No, you obviously check for it first.
your stepmom is amazing. please send my best to her.
Why are you so afraid of therapy!? Hahaha oh, dear! I'm not even going to entertain these comments and, NO it's not Canada! It's somewhere in Latin America, but no need for me to explain anything. My sister is perfectly fine and happy. Grow up and go to therapy!
When a woman raises this issue and asks the questions she's immediately vilified but when a trans raises twisted arguments to suit their rhetoric it's glorified as brave and bold...
We must stop giving in by calling them "trans". They are not trans, because no one actually can transition between the sexes. The correct terminology is "person who identifies as trans".
the bar for bravery and boldness is often low for these degenerates
You are a very based turtle.
Based
I’ve been called a terf so many times for defending young mentally ill women who might be susceptible to be influenced the same way we used to protect young girls against anorexia idealization and extremely toxic beauty trends…. Apparently I’m the number one dangerous person…
I’m 38 and gay (lesbian). I was a tomboy my entire life (still am) and i never questioned my gender. My parents never pushed me to be more feminine; they just let me be me. I can’t imagine how different my life would’ve turned out if i grew up in today’s culture. It’s like they forget tomboys exist and doesn’t mean they want to actually be a dude. Children need to be protected.
the problem is that you will get called some crazy feminist terminology like "TERF" if you ever said this out loud. these new age queers seem to think if caitlyn jenner and jazz jennings hooked up, they'd be a lesbian couple. they really dont want biological sex to exist. being lesbian means you have a vagina and also like vagina.
not sure whats so hard to understand about this. maybe we need to take the T out of LGBTQ bc they dont even wanna be lesbian or gay, they just wanna be some genderless amoeba or something
i wish more people understood that straight men and lesbians have a lot in common. lol
@@gaintturnip you can’t “feel” like a male if you physically and biologically are’t one lol.
Tomboys totally exist. the trans population is pretty small.
I'm a gay man with two detransitioned lesbian friends, and I'm honestly fucking terrified for our future. Specifically gays and lesbians. This trans ideology is hitting us hard and it seems like every young homosexual who is uncomfortable with themselves is immediately pressured to join the trans cult as an easy 'get-out-of-gay/woman-free' card.
That blonde girl, I was in almost the exact same situation. It was terrible for me and my mental health. I woke up one day and everyone around me was trans, gay, or something else, and I had a friend say "you know you're the only cis person in our friend group, you'd fit in a lot better if you ended up being not cis" or something very similar to that. I spent YEARS mistrusting my parents, and hating them to an extent for stopping me and preventing me from ruining my life. I fell into a severe victim headspace, I lied because what was told to me was if you thought you were gay or trans, then you have to have issues with you parents and family, so I had to come up with issues. I was extremely manipulative, and then I woke up and was like "what the actual fuck am I doing with my life?" and told my parents I wanted to homeschool, I asked them to not ever give my phone back because it was bad for me and my mental health. I am still working on getting myself outside of my headspace, working on my mental health, just overall trying desperately to be a better person. My attempts to better myself lost me some of my closest friends, and some I cut off because they were truly toxic and bad for me. I am so glad I finally woke up and made those attempts to better myself, and I am so thankful to my parents for loving and supporting me despite every terrible thing I have done.
I can't even imagine doing this as a teen today. Like you're a hero and a badass to me
I'm so proud of you for doing whats right for yourself, even at such a steep cost of losing your closest "friends". I hope life is going better for you now.
Sounds like you have very patience parents, cherish them. I'm glad to hear you doing better. It's a bewildering notion that homeschooling would be a healthier alternative.
Her name is Misha Petrov if you wanted to look her channel up.
I don't know if Brett linked her anywhere.
It’s sad reading this, how in a weird way, I relate even though not very much so. I was always the weird kid, always. I was very democratic/liberal as a young person. Most of my friends were nerds, or those who would go on to end up in the LGBT+. Besides just being the weird kid, I hardly ever fit in with my LGBT friends either because I was straight, and as a woman, honestly couldn’t stand the sight of other women’s bodies. During high school I finally started phasing out of it, and started opening my eyes to how negatively they all thought, and how they all wore blinders and just followed the leader. I’m now more distant from them than ever, and it’s sad. My best and closest friends, who are actually my two cousins, are also extremely liberal. I don’t even feel like I fit in with them anymore because they’re both bisexual and talk nonstop about LGBT. I’ve started to really drift away because it’s all they care about anymore. I’ve always wondered why I don’t fit in, maybe I’m just in denial and I am also of a different sexuality, but then I have to take a step back and realize their influence is poisoning my rational thinking, and I’m just looking for a way to fit in.
It makes me dizzy when people understand that permanently putting ink on your skin is something that young people don’t have the commitment or decision making to do, but they say they should be able to decide to cut parts off their bodies.
I think even the idea that tattoo's being "permanent" is starting to vanish because now you just have kids saying "Oh well, I can just remove it later..." And it's the same with the transitions. They are literally thinking that "well if it doesn't work out, I can always just erase it" and then right there. Thats when they believe that all responsibility and consequences of their actions no longer will matter.
They are literally training themselves to believe that time is reversible.
There is a HUGE difference between tattoos and transgender....HUGE! Adding art to your body is one thing....cutting off your d!ck/changing your body chemically AND surgically doesnt even belong in this universal reality. One is a decision the other is a MENTAL PROBLEM!
@@blubunny2217 A cousin of mine let her son start getting tattoos at like 14, and now he is covered in them. And not even like a cool sleeve, its bathroom stall graffiti level art randomly dotted all over his skin.
Tattoos can be removed without any health risk tho
@MikoArtz ! its a very tedious process though. its not like u can just erase the ink from your skin
That blonde girl was SO based, calm, self-reflective and just plain beautiful! All the best to her.
that's what I was thinking.
Shame her life had to be fucked up though. And as for the rest of them they end up going insane and committing suicide.
Yeah amazing how even attractive women fall into this bullshit
@@ToothlessDragon536 Her life isn't fucked up because she got out on time. Her best years are about to come and I think she is very brave for sharing her story. It might have an impact.
the one thing I will agree with the catholic bible is that “your made for a reason “ so yes there are people that find it better being trans but you can also find comfort in your god giving body. It’s hard especially when you’re going through puberty and the fact that you might like the same sex and then you find out theirs trans and stuff, so yeah I agree they should wait until a given age to make these decisions.
Hell by the time I was 18 I was already reassured that I liked boys and I didn’t wanna change my body so just wait until you make sure is what I wanna get at.
Distancing kids from parents because of an ideology is a sad testament to the state of society at the moment.
we cna rverse indoctrination
It's a cult..........
Time to light the torches and sharpen up the pitchforks people
Seriously
"is a sad testament to the state of society at the moment"
What do you mean, "at the moment"? You don't get the left is always pushing their oppression on other people and accusing us of being the "real oppressors". Im just saying this weird crazy one sided mind control shit has been going on since the revolutionary war days and their talking points have always been essentially the same. If we dont do this the thread that holds the fabric of society together will begin to unravel.
Society has always been like this, its just whats new is the whole communist get a loud megaphone now angle to it.
Im just saying if you want to concerned just realize that this is exactly what it felt like in the 30s leading up to WW2.
It is one of the hallmarks of marxism. Mao did that as well during the 'cultural revolution' in china
I’m a straight tomboy, always will be. Now that I’m older, I like to act a little more feminine every now and then. We should encourage kids to explore their PERSONALITY, because you can be a masculine woman and that’s it.
Agreed! Love being a tomboy and always will be one. I also embraced my feminine side of wanting to dress cute from time to time and learning makeup now but still meh at it. I did have some thoughts of “why am I a girl” since I was bullied for being one as a kid and the occasional situations I’m put in for being one, but otherwise I never really had much issues with being a gal. Feel bad for people who have to go through that nowadays because they’re fed the narrative of “Once you change you’ll be happy.”
Amen! I believe that kids these days are getting personality traits and gender mixed up! Oh, you think you're a girl just because you like to wear makeup? Well, that doesn't make you a girl! Gender is biology and genetics, not feelings!
I'm also a very tomboy-ish girl! I hate makeup and bras, but that doesn't make me any less of a girl! For awhile I didn't want to be biologically a girl, I didn't feel like a girl, but now I know that feelings don't determine gender! I wish all my woke friends knew this too!
The same!
Oh I’m a straight tomboy too! I prefer androgynous clothing though because I can then push an outfit more feminine or masculine if I want.
Being a tomboy is great, and I’ve always enjoyed them since I like to hike and adventure. But it can also be quite female and sexy, because as Hitchcock observed, having a colorful French women become sexy is expected, but a shy English women do so is more exciting.
I had a discussion at work with a trans teen. They were so very upset by the fact there's a 5 years holding time by the NHS for surgeries and hormone therapy. I nearly got a disciplinary because I told them "the waiting is because NHS want to make sure you're trans and not confused".
RESPECT
The fact that they won't admit the cause of all the new "delays" is a crime. They did that to those kids, with no, or obviously biased medical reasoning to do it. They put 8 year olds on hormone therapy, causing lifelong bone disorders! They have mutilated and broken these children in the name of dogma. They butchered these kids based on quackery.
You being a voice of reason to this young person is so valuable
You just have to understand that five years is a long time for somebody to wait ESPECIALLY when they feel like they are in the wrong body. I get why it's essential to have this kind of holding time but half a decade is too much in my opinion. Five years is a LONG time. I think two or maybe three years should be put as a general rule, and easily reversible treatment should start after a period of six months to one year. It's essential to have empathy for teens who feel like this. You have to understand that what they are feeling, they probably feel every day. It's not as if they chose to be like this, they simply are. Also, being subjected to this kind of hopelessness and being in a body that doesn't align with your gender identity is difficult for everyone, let alone somebody as vulnerable as a teen. It's understandable that they were upset for having to wait five years for the treatments that would alleviate their struggles and make their life a hell of a lot easier. Protect trans teens, but also respect their experience. Try to understand what it is like for them.
@aflin demi you're assuming the teen is actually trans though. A lot of teens who think they're trans wind up not being. I see myself in some of these kids because I was a very tomboyish teen girl who got along better with boys because of my upbringing, and if I was a teen now I could see myself potentially getting swept up in this. I personally don't think anyone should have medical interventions before they're 18. They can socially transition, but none of the medical interventions are truly reversible, despite doctors saying they are. I've heard people like Blaire white, who transitioned at the age of 20 and is totally happy with the decisions say that she regrets not being more informed at the age of 20. She said the prospect of estrogen ruining her fertility was not emphasized enough and as a 20 yr old she didn't care about having kids, now 8 years later that's a thought, and she can't have biological kids because estrogen permanently damages sperm production
I worked with a lesbian and I remember having a 2am conversation with her about sexuality… The conversation got turned to her talking about how her mom never wanted a girl, always dressed her up in boy clothing, and her friends were all lgbtq… At one point she started talking about what it would be like to be straight and have a family, but how she never could because then she’d lose her friends. I felt so bad for her, sure hope she’s doing better now.
Sounds to me like she's found out that she's not actually a lesbian, but she thinks she is because she was raised a certain way and immediately associated those things and/or behaviors to lesbianism.
@@zh0re59 SOund more incredible fake.
How shlal this even work?
Even more: since when do some work buddies tell you such prolonged stories?
Might be, that the mother wanted a son - but that got nothing to to with homosexuality.
That's where it already starts:
People don't that transsexuality, homosexuality, transvestie and all the other things got simply NOTHING to do with each other.
For exmaple when a boy likes girly things, that neither makes him homosexual nor transsexual, got ZERO to do with that.
Most of your lgbt are like this lacking proper parenting and finding lgbt as a way to cope
Encourage her to realize that, if her friends don't encourage her to be herself... they are not her friends... this is the same thing they say.
And tell her that the world has 8 billion people, there will always be a replacement, she shouldn't sacrifice her life, natural instincts and future just to appease some people.
@@ayushsenseisama So straight people don’t find ways to cope with bad parenting?
She has 5-10 friends also de-transitioning. I think the more people like this girl come out and report on what they go through, the faster we get through this social contagion.
That's exactly what it is.
the only reason the medical field is allowing for surgery and meds is to reduce the risk of suicide that is high in trans youths, 1% of trans people detransition, highest studies show 8% this is still incredibly low compared to the 92% that are very happy in their new bodies.
The study, titled “Association Between Gender-Affirming Surgeries and Mental Health Outcomes,” compared the psychological distress, substance use, and suicide risk of 3,559 transgender people who had undergone gender-affirming surgery with those of 16,401 transgender people who desired gender-affirming surgery but had not yet undergone any. It found that transgender people who had received one or more gender-affirming surgical procedures had a 42% reduction in the odds of experiencing past-month psychological distress, a 35% reduction in the odds of past-year tobacco smoking, and a 44% reduction in the odds of past-year suicidal ideation.
This study also found that people who received all of the gender-affirming surgeries they desired had significant reductions in the odds of every adverse mental health outcome examined, including past-year suicide attempts and past-month binge alcohol use. Furthermore, compared to people who only received some of the gender-affirming surgeries they desired, people who received all of their desired surgeries experienced even more profound mental health benefits across every outcome.
anyways, of Course believe what you want but Cleary everyone wants these children to be safe, happy, and alive, transitioning for most people with body dysmorphia reduces the suicide rate. if there are other solutions - backed by science and proven to work to reduce the suicide rate of people with body dysmorphia, then you should advocate for that. because as of right now this IS the only solution that has proven to work for MOST people. similarly if someone had a health concern that needed medicine you would prescribe the most effective medicine. not all medicines work for everyone but obviously you care more about the person being alive then the potential burden and side effects that unfortunately may come with that. I don't understand why people are anti- these policies that are proven to work but then don't offer an alternative solution. Because to people who are educated on this topic and have read the research when no alternative is offered it starts to sound like "I don't care if this child is at risk for sucicide because the way their body presents in society , the potential off chance for side effects, and who they are is more important then if they kill themselves"
Look on line ther are a huge amount of detransitoners, look up a brave young woman called chloe cole,
Problem is they’re being ostracized and considered the black sheep of the LGBTQ community which itself wouldn’t be a bad thing if they didn’t go to the extreme in bullying them into solidarity or use their own personal anecdotes of how “You’re just wrong and you were confused don’t push your false narrative” etc etc.
Finally someone with some sense
This is a VERY similar story for my daughter.
My child is currently detransitioning. At 11, they came out as lesbian I supported this fully. At 13, they came and said they were born in the wrong body that they were a boy and they wanted to transition. They wanted to be on Testosterone immediately. I was against this because I know what the drugs Estrogene and Testosterone can permanently affect, and I did not feel my child understood the implications of this in any way. At this point I also did extensive amounts of research, (I have access to all the peer reviewed literature because I am currently back in University), and discovered the realities of getting a phaloplasty and the skyrocketing numbers of young girls deciding they were trans. In my research, I also I discovered the term detransition. We went to doctors, we were put on waiting lists, and my child transitioned publicly and chose a new name. We still stood our ground on starting T. At 15, my child made appointments at clinics to begin testosterone on their own without parental consent. I had to argue my reasons for holding off and waiting until they were older and more mature to be making these very big life altering decisions. I have had doctors say to me , "Wouldyou rather have a son or a dead daughter?". At 16 my daughter came to me and said "mom I have been thinking about this for a couple months now and I think I should detransition". My daughter is now currently trying to maneuver this situation. She still has to finish high school, and she is embarrassed. They were always more of a tom boy and have not changed the way they dress, but she has stopped biding her chest and wears light mascara but does not know how to deal with taking back her birth name.
This entire subject is so political, it was very difficult to express my real feelings thruout. Especially with uber liberal friends. I am so grateful that I held off allowing her to start medical transition before becoming an adult.
Second time I hear the "Would you rather have a living trans son than dead daughter?"
They seem to like that one.
I'm glad you did your best. You kept your child from permanent long term damage. True, they are embarrassed but you are a good mom.
@@Karak-_- we should start replying, would you rather be an active therapist, or retired because youre dead
Maybe she felt that because she liked girls and and was probly tomboyish, she should be a boy
I wish kids couldnt be exposed to this so early because they won't know how to separate their sex from their sexuality 😢
This would of been my daughter at one point in the last couple of years. She had decided she was trans and had wanted to start taking hormone blockers and testosterone. She was in the later part of 15 almost 16. She started her period when she was at the end of 4th grade and by the end of 5th grade she had filled out quite a bit and was in a small c cup. She had an insanely hard time with her body image as she was growing up. She entered high school and I found out when I was contacted by her counselor that she had started to transition. The school had let her change her name and she was now dressing more masculine. I had no problem with her transitioning, I just didn’t want her to start taking hormones. I bought binders and did everything I could to help her feel more herself as she saw herself. We did therapy and she went to her doctor regularly and her doctor was pushing for the hormones to be something I would agree to. I couldn’t do that, I told her and the doctor that she needed to wait til she was 18 and she could make these decisions herself. I explained to her I thought it was a phase she was going through and that if I let her take these hormones there would be changes that wouldn’t go back if she decided she was no longer trans. She eventually grew out of the phase of being trans and now identifies as a lesbian. She is so happy I NEVER let her take hormones because she was never able to cause damage that was irreversible.
you’re a really good parent, it makes me so happy to see someone support their child!! i’m so glad that you took her future into consideration when it came to the medical stuff because i’m a trans teen myself and honestly it sounds like a nightmare to medically transition when i’m so young, especially considering i myself am not 100% sure. idk why this is getting so personal but very thankful you looked out for her! :)
@@jaydinnaidoo wtf
@@jaydinnaidoo pls dont
Your story gives me hope
So proud of you for protecting your child
I hate how people dont give enough attention to what detransitioners say
But, they’re the same people you warned that it’s not right for them, they scoffed and called you names.
they do but they're not allowed to otherwise they lose their jobs, their lives, their income etc.
Best way to counteract that is by searching for detrans, watch, listen, comment. There are new ones everyday
I agree. Even those who support trans people need to wake up to the reality that people are regretting this after having life altering medical interventions and that we need to limit the harm by having stricter policy and focus more on healing mental health rather than just affirm.
@@christinaedwards5084 yea then they realized they messed up n should’ve listened. Don’t let people’s words get to you, especially strangers
My little sister watched the Caitlin Jenner documentary back in the day and after that began to transition into a male. She told me recently that she had heard so many times “you may be gay” “you’re a lesbian” “you could be trans.” Actually, she was just athletic and liked to play outside in the dirt. She was non of those things! That she began to believe it. She too has detransitioned and gone on to live the life she was always destined to live. And I admire her bravery because when she detransitioned, the people around her were so vile and ugly. I took her in as any older sister would and I am so proud of who she is becoming. ❤
The thing is I have seen a lot of girls do the gay thing just because others thought they were gay. They were never happy when they were dating a girl and always ended sneaking off with men and then denying it to most people. There is a lot of brainwashing going on that is much too personal to be doing.
Massive L
@@henrysharingan heh? How?
SO AWESOME!!!!
@@rodjician337 this is the worst thing that has ever happened to mankind
During 2020, I was around a lot of people who identified as transgender and I was insanely chronically online. So I thought I was non-binary. It was the worst period of my life, I hated myself. I didn’t realize until August of 2022 that I wasn’t ok and I needed help, not a new gender identity. So I’ve been working on myself since then. Im 13 now, it breaks my heart knowing that there’s people younger than me out here that are having to deal with this, a lot of them are harming themselves with puberty blockers and putting hormones into themselves before they’re fully developed. Thank you so much for talking about this and how harmful it is.
you’re so young, i’m sorry you went through that :( but props to you for figuring yourself out and taking the steps to help yourself
@@dagbeet thank you :)
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that especially at such a young age. I’m happy for you that you were able to figure out yourself and that you’re doing better.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, we need more people like you speaking up! wish you the best
It was 2020 we were ALL chronically online. As a male who has a couple trans and non binary friends I wanna tell them that the world brainwashed them but I can’t. I also hate hurting others feelings.
Watching her speak, pausing as she searches for the right word/phrase to use, seeing the emotions building up in her eyes. How could anyone not truly hear her pain. This is the type of person I will listen to over any influencer/public personality or actor. She has my respect and my regret for what she has lived though so far.
Very well put! I agree
I completely agree! She’s a lovely, honest, raw human being. I love her!
I’m a tomboy that became a nurse. I don’t mind gross stuff. I’m not afraid of bugs/snakes/replies/etc. I jumped out of a plane a couple years ago. But I’m also a wife, and mother of three boys. I’m an avid gardener that sits and dreams of buying myself a wood chipper. I asked my husband, “does that make me trans?” And he said, “no, but you have grown a lot of penises.” 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 You sound like the perfect boy mom! I’m sure your boys love having a “tomboy” for a mother. 🥰
that made me laugh
That's a very good joke.
Your hubs is hilarious 😆
Hahaha
My best friend from high school has a nephew whose mom transitioned him into a girl at the age of 7. I told her honestly how I felt about it and said that although I didn't agree I still love her and her family always and she never spoke to me again. We were friends for over ten years dude. This ideology is ruining relationships, and people's lives. It is so sad to see.
That’s because it is a cult.
People ruin their own lives. Ideology, is just that, people are those who give it power. It just means, that's the person your friend always was.
That is absolutely horrifying. Imagine what will happen if grown up boy who was transitioned into a girl will understand it's not how he feels, and that his mom made huge mistake
@@disturbed1013 I don't know if "people ruin their own lives" is an accurate way to describe someone confusing a pre-pubescent child about the nature of reality and preparing them to be medicated with cross-sex hormones.
@@blueanima8623 I've talked about the friend and the ideology concept (refering to OP's last lines). Of course, when it comes to the kid, it's the parents who ruin the kid's life.
I fall into the tomboy category most of the time because of how I dress and behave. People have said I'm bi, trans, and a demiboy, even nonbinary too! I am none of these things, I am straight and a woman. Just because I do a martial art, act less feminine, and dress a certain way doesn't mean I'm a certain gender or sexuality.
I agree. It's stupid that gender categories are so narrow, probably even more now than in the past (80's - 90's). But it's not like typical femininity is a default state of women; it's a societal construct (that we're supposed to put a lot of time and money into because it's also tied to consumerism) and there's nothing wrong with not wanting to comply with it.
Same! I'm a woman but not very feminine either! For awhile there I wanted to be biologically non-binary and kinda still do but I now know that gender is not determined by how you feel! Just because I hate dresses and hate bras doesn't mean that I'm not a girl! In fact, now that I think about it, it's kinda sexist to think that how you act or dress determines your gender! I remember my woke best friend asked if I was aro which ig she was kinda right but like how can you judge someone just because of how they act?
@@keagaming9837 I agree, it's also what feminism was about in the past, that women should have the freedom to be any way they wish and don't need to follow sexist standards and that doesn't mean they aren't women.
For real I'm a woman who loves video games and boxing but that doesn't mean I'm trans or non binary or whatever it's just who I am
I am the same and I am also straight
I remember being so uncomfortable in my juvenile body. I hated being a girl. I grew out of it. Now I am a beautiful young woman😊
I'm also remember those time in my life 😅 but now, I LOVE my woman body, being pretty in front of mirror, being annoyed by acne and happy when it's gone. It's a bless right 🥰🥰
God bless you guys for figuring it out by yourself.
Yea ya are! Best of luck dude!!
Same. I was envious of my male friends who had grown very tall and magically got rid of their baby fat while I was a little chubby (not really, I just felt that way because I didn't exercise much). I hadn't thought about that until now, but I wanted to be like them so bad. Thankfully, I never thought it was a possibility, and now I love being a woman!
Most of us experienced a whole wild ride during puberty to land where we are. It's a rather long, confusing process full of exploration. Nobody can fault a kid with a new toy wanting to play... but there's a time for fantasy play and exploration and a time for reality. Reality is supposed to keep the fantasy in check
When that doesn't happen....... 🤷♂️
This girl is tragic... she's beautiful, intelligent, realistic and genuine. Unfortunately she destroyed the other part of her that would have finished her into a real catch had she just been left to her own thing... based on an equally naive society, at the level of her own peers. You can't make this crap up.
Wouldn't have happened if the culture wasn't so "pfft" and then *encouraging* the insanity.
The unfortunate result indeed. She now is stuck picking up the pieces and making what she can with it.
I hate how some people base their whole personality on the sexual orientation / if they're trans, smh
@User yeah , I'm fine with people being gay, but if you're gonna use it to get attention then that's so dumb, you never see straight people using their "straightness " For attention (to an extent)
Its because it shows exactly how intellectually shallow they are.
@@justtrollinalong977 as well as socially and emotionally shallow
It goes even deeper than that. The whole entire “gender” movement is basing your gender off shit that’s soooo specific, it may as well be your personality. There’s genders for SUCH specific feelings to a point where there’s like a hundred genders.
And once everyone has a different label, what’s even the purpose anymore?
@@justtrollinalong977 yes, they’re intellectually shallow because they’re teenagers. Teenagers labeling themselves has always been a thing.
Unfortunately this time around, teachers, multinational corporations and people in government are trying to make laws based on the thoughts and feelings of this teenage counterculture.
Teenage rebellion has always been a thing, but some forms are more dangerous than others:
Back in the late-60s, it was the ‘peace & love’ movement; kids grew their hair out, protested against proxy wars, hitchhiked across the country and were largely accepting of anyone who had long hair and dressed like a hippie. Remember what happened to that movement?
A 30-something y/o jailbird called Charles Manson indoctrinated around 60 of these open-minded kids - mostly young women - from Haight-Ashbury and other like-minded areas. He then brought them to Death Valley where he started up a cult with himself at the top as the new Jesus Christ and Devil rolled into one. He plied them with psychedelics to loosen their inhibitions, forced them to participate in group orgies at his command, and when he had full control of them to where they weren’t allowed to have sex with another ‘family’ member without his permission, he started pushing his ludicrous theory on the end of the world and turned at least six of them into bloodthirsty, heartless killers who truly believed they were starting the race war that would see their ‘family’ in-power at the end. Because, as Manson said it, “Blackie don’t know how to do nothing unless the White man showed him how it was done.”
The reason I gave this Manson summary is that the same thing is happening here; 30-somethings are indoctrinating children to believe in an insane ideology that will ruin their lives in the near future. Only now, with the internet as a form of induction into this mindset, the problem’s become much more atomized and therefore, much harder for people to grasp the full picture of.
But mark my words, this will be seen in a few years as one of the greatest human rights violations of our time.
She pretty much walks us through her journey of maturing mentally. And that's exactly the point - young people need to mature mentally before they decide what they're not.
Yesssssss
Yessss their frontal lobes aren't even fully developed yet!!!! Hence impulsiveness! 😖 These poor kids! 😢
And so true about 90s anorexia. My first online community was a proana forum. And I also remember how our forum changed into self acceptance. Along with other former proana spaces, that changed as the members matured.
A few years ago, as i went through highschool i also thought i was trans (FTM), i cutted my hair but never did anything medical, i told most of my friends and they were supportive, my parents found out and instead of supporting me they sent me to therapy, and i will never be more thankful that they made that desicion, i was not trans, i was a insecure teenager, i thought that becoming a male would make my trauma and problems go away, now im in a place in life where i have became a better person and happy with myself
I'm just very glad this young woman got her head straight before it was too late. I'm so glad of her self-awareness.
@User she’s exceptionally self-aware and well spoken.
is it not too late? is it still reversible for her to be able to get pregnant?
@@marcjanverdelantar9605 I'm pretty sure it was said that she didn't take any hormones.. Meaning she'd still be fertile (luckily).
I detransitioned as well, I used to make Non Binary my personality 😭
I was like 11 12 ish now that I'm older, 15 in June, I realize this was just me being young and dumb.
It’s ok the good thing is you know now ❤
Don't be sad, be happy because you didn't damage your body permanently and you can live your life again normally.
I hope that you found the self love, healing, and peace you deserve ❤
@@stephanierauba4887 Hell no XD
@@thebigwiggler well I hope you do one day!!! You deserve it❤️
The amount of impact your age has on your insecurities is huge and not addressed enough. I was a teacher and taught from the ages 7 to 13. The difference between an 8 year old and a 10 year old was massive. A child would go from super friendly and unafraid to try new things at a younger age, then they'd come in the next year and be a lot more insecure and shy. It wasn't their fault. They were just reaching that age of awareness.
My daughter turns 8 in a month. Here we go!
💯 my daughter recently turned 10 and it’s unbelievable the emotional changes she’s already been going through over the last year or so.
They are like an abusive boyfriend that controls by isolating you from friends and family by telling you they are the only one who understands
My son just turned 10 and I see a noticeable change in him that I also see as comparable to what happened to my daughter 11 when she was 9 or 10
EXACTLY what I've been seeing too. Classic abusive tactic
I had a group like hers when I was 12. It didn't take long into 7th grade, when this became more and more saturated in my age group, that I started saying I was a boy. And I did that until I was 18 years and five months old. When I was 18, I joined the fire service, and I had just started my medical transition. (Here's where the blessing comes in, the thing that makes me thank God, my Mother, and my lovely partner every day). Through the fire service, I gained confidence, I gained grit and will and mental toughness. I realized I was not a boy, I was just deeply confused about my feminity. Through the fire service, I was surrounded by these incredible, strong, tough, get-it-done women who were also feminine. It was eye-opening, and it helped me figure out who I was before I had done any real damage to myself. My voice is still deeper than it used to be, rougher I'd argue. My body hair is a bit thicker, and there are other things I tend to notice, but I am a woman, and proud to be one. Detransitioning was one of the most difficult things I've ever done. There are people who I have not spoken to since, my partner doesn't even know the full extent of it all because I am too embarrassed to talk about it, but I am extremely happy I did it.
We need to educate our children what to expect during puberty.
Parents need to keep these kids from being influenced by others.
If their child comes to them and tells them something, they need to sit them down, have a conversation, and make sure they're not being influenced by their peers
That’s something that I really love about my friend group. They are every shade of the rainbow-we have gay, we have les, we have trans, we have non-binary-but not once have they ever made me (or another member of our group) feel that we needed to change parts of ourselves to be like them, whether that’s who we’re attracted to (unless it comes down to a specific person, we all look out for each other when it comes to toxic partners), how we talk, how we dress. Anything. They’re perfectly accepting that my views won’t match up perfectly with theirs, and they don’t make me feel like my opinions don’t matter as a result. I wish that the entire LGBTQ+ community could be more like that instead of constantly playing the victim.
I think it's more so parents need to have a more close relationship with their children, pay attention to what they're doing, give them pointers and inform them when a thing or feeling they're experiencing is normal for puberty or not, and have an aura of trust present. Because the moment your child feels like they can't talk about something without being met with negative consequences, judgement or weird looks is the moment they become more susceptible to strangers who will in all likelyhood not have their best interests in mind. And even then they can perhaps develop a mentality in your absence that makes them think you may judge them even if you had no such things occur prior. Tldr: teach them about the common issues to expect from puberty growing up, share some from your experience, speedrun over the "no one cares about me, no one understands me, i must justify my existence by whether or not other care about me" and explain why its bullshit, keep your eyes pealed for what your children do, what activities and communities they participate in, what thoughts they have and when absolutely necessary and there's no alternative present put your foot down. Granted i guess this can feel like overwhelming them in some cases but you're their parent first and their friend second. Case by case basis.
@@ShootingStarStudio You didn't mention if there were any straight, white men in your group or not.
How diverse can it be?
Uncertain if they'd listen. There's more appeal to being a misunderstood teen than an understood teen.
Sarcastic alert. That is good parenting skills and we the state and the government will have none of that we will raise your kids you just bear them they are hours. At least that's what they think that's the weather acting. But for one I agree with you.
I have to be sarcastic to a degree if not I will say what I really think and get thrown off the platform.
When she said it was her "dream now to have kids" it brought a tear to my eye. Yes I'm a male, but my whole life i was against having kids, and now i want them and i cant imagine what it would be like biologically to loose that ability
Considering that the majority of women get into serious relationships late in their 30s, this whole idea is terrible for a young teen or young adult. They'll regret their decision
@jenny hubbock
Another all lower-case name, faceless, sock puppet account. Another little TH-cam trend.
Men can be emotional. In fact, it's pretty traumatic long-term to hold our emotions in. And I happen to share his view. I can't imagine my life being anywhere near as fulfilling if I were unable to have children.
@@bilko777 Who hurt you.
@jenny hubbock I'm not playing victim or anything here Jenny, i was raised in a society that taught me to be self indulgent and to think kids are a burden. Nothing wrong if you dont want kids, I can imagine many reasons to not have one but i personally see them now as a part of life.
ALL women know exactly what it is like to lose that ability. It’s called “the menopause”.
as a detransitioner myself, i thank you for highlighting stories similar to my own. that being said, this young woman is a desister, not a detransitioner, meaning she didn’t go through any medical transition before arriving at a conclusion of regret. similar, but very different.
Did you always feel trans or did you hop on the trend?
Basically she's a luckier one. Because once you start to change the body, you can't go back.
how are you doing?
I’m only part thru the video and listening while cooking but I thought the young lady did say she went through some procedure. .. idk maybe I mixed up something. Also to someone who had their younger identity BE trans yet not physically happened yet, wouldn’t upholding the opposite idea understandably to that person be no different than detransitioning?
Yes if I’ve mixed up here, no procedure, nor physical detransitioning. But I think in terms of understanding her experience it still falls under that.
Congratulations! I'm glad you got out of there and didn't force yourself to go through with something that wasn't right. I hope you heal and are able to love yourself the way God created you. You may inspire others, I hope your life is filled with love, joy, peace, and happiness. God loves you, and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39.
I found this girl a month (or so) ago, and I’m so glad that Brett is giving her the platform she deserves. She is truly inspiring for teen girls such as myself!
Whose the girl? What’s her channel her voice is calming to listen to
Brett's mom should have her own yt channel teaching parents how to parent.
I also banned the Disney Channel when my sons were growing up. All the kids were obnoxious, and the parents were idiots. Other people looked at me like I was crazy when I said anything. They thought everything from Disney was harmless fun. Glad people are starting to see it isn't.
@@laurendavis1418 Can I ask what did they watch instead? Thanks!
@All Good They watched a lot of animal/nature shows, older cartoons, and played outside.
@@laurendavis1418 Oh that's a great idea, animal and educational shows!
I think jesus knows how to parent tbh
i’m super grateful that my questioning gender phase only lasted a few a months and i haven’t went on medication, i just had to deal with growing super short hair. i’m currently 16 and to the younger girls out there it gets better, i promise it does. yes i do still struggle with myself but my 14 years self would’ve felt so proud. i feel like nobody talks about how uncomfortable it is to be this age and not the “if you feel this way, you’re trans”.
Same her, but I'm 22 now. I was questioning myself when I was 16, and only cut my hair short to try out being more androgenous. Regretted it after a week. At least my hair could grow back, and now it's longer than it has ever been
I'm 20 and had two such phases, one put of going it would help my dear with deep loneliness ans depression, the second I was dran into by a cultlike Friend group that manipulated people very heavily.
It's toxic communities like this that aim for young peo9le who feel lost. They love bomb them if they follow their ideology and make them hate themself when they start questioning their statements.
There is also immense pressure to date people from the LGBT group which is increasing the numbers of LGB part. Back in the day homosexual people admitted that they made a choice that many of them it was a decision to dive into that world but in the 80s the groups that were trying to promote it found that if they said they were born that way then they could demonize everybody that is against them like they were making fun of disabled people. Everybody has an agenda and they will push for that agenda. This girl would have probably never been dating girls if she wasn't in the virtual cult that she was in with all the pressure they put on her.
Pov: you think doctors transition people if they just say "i feel like a boy"
honestly i don’t get the whole “if you feel this way you HAVE to be this way!,’!!!” thing, gender is well fluid and personally while i think it’s good to experiment, it is COMPLETELY fine to realise that “oh hey, i’m not actually trans/nb/anything other than cis” (in fact that’s the whole point of experimenting with gender, to find out what’s best for you) and to younger teens considering transitioning, that’s completely fine (i am too lol, i already socially transitioned a bit but i’m not fully out of the closet as yet)!! genuine piece of advice: just start out socially first and then when you’re old enough to start hormones, do some self assessing alongside gender therapy. not at this point in time but it really does help a lot! wish all my cis, trans and genderqueer friends a happy journey of life! p.s. sorry if this doesn’t make too much sense i tend to get sidetracked often + it’s late
My teenager went through so much over the trans movement. She is ok now, man has it been a roller coaster. Thank you for bringing the awareness to it all. Thank you again to you and your team. ❤
I’m glad she saw the light before she made a life altering decision. Her beauty now is radiant.
Thank god. Its scary when they want the surgury and some terrible terrible surgeon is willing to just do it and thimk they have no part in the responsiblity for the consequences of their actions
She is a very self aware, articulate and reflective young woman. I wish her well.
@User me too
Once Amala said “Why can’t there just be gay people anymore,” and I’m always reminded of that during discussions like this. The moment a male feels more feminine or a female feels more masculine the entire world tells them they’re trans.
Happened to me, I'm finally realizing people did that to me and I just understand that I'm a man, and I have a very feminine androgynous look and that's all. I luckily never got too brainwashed with some of this nor did I do that much transitioning in the 2 years sense doing that. But I'm back to who I am and I just feel bad for the people that are still believing this
Yeah, it's so sad. If you don't fit in the box you're told there is something wrong with you and you need to fix it so you can fit in a different box.
Trans identity, is destroying feminism and lesbian/gay's fight whilst pretending to share the burden and have the same objectives.
When did she say that? im trying to find the video
Or, just for being a cheerful person, im deemed as gay, or effeminate lol im neither (dont mind it, but people take niceness/cheerfulness as a weak or gay)
If my kids starts going down this path we’re moving back to Guatemala with the rest of our family. This shit doesn’t happen down there.
So u wouldn't help them?
You'd be surprised, it's happening everywhere, just at a different pace, they'll catch up eventually
@@BeckyRRRno. Not everywhere. In my country it's not happening either.
This is me! Thank you for your support ☺️
Thank you for speaking about this. It can be hard to admit we were wrong, but I'm glad you got out of it before it was too late.
Wonderful job explaining and untangling the twisted ideology. Thank you for sharing. Your level headed rationale is very encouraging.
@@itsGuy the link is in the description
@@itsGuy the video Brett is reacting to is linked in the first sentence of the description lol you gotta open the whole thing
I love the chickens in the background
I had this conversation with my husband. I was feeling bad for not being “feminine “ enough since I’ve been a tomboy my whole life. He talked me down and told me that it’s ok to be ME and that I’m still a woman at the end of the day.
@@jocm99 King comment 👑
Obviously if you married a man
I had a friend who was 24 or so and already had 3 kids. She wanted to get her tubes tied and the drs refused to do it because she was too young and might want to have more kids and that surgery is mostly irreversible . . . But let's make a teen infertile on a whim, without hesitation, without saying "you might change your mind, let's wait". My niece is this age and struggles. I'm so afraid she'll be sucked in to this.
I started to publically transition in 5th grade, at the age of 11. I still go by Max instead of my birthname (Carson) just because I'm more used to it now. But it is crazy to me that people will look at an 11 year old like I was and go "hmm, yes this 5th GRADER can totally get surgeries that aren't medically necessary". I thought I was a boy until covid happened and I very quickly realized that I was definitely NOT a boy and went "Well I guess I'm just nonbinary". I am now 18 and 100% a girl and I look back and realize that I always was a girl, I was just going through so many medical issues ontop of going through puberty and not being in a "good" house (at least not a good one according to the internet). Its crazy to me that people think that instead of putting a kid who hates themselves or their bodies through therapy to just go straight to hormones and surgeries because I know people my age who at the age of 15/16 who got surgeries and got started on hormones and had NEVER been sent to therapy.
I was a tomboy growing up, and I was also really shy. I remember when I got my first period, I was mortified, and ashamed, and embarrassed. I have a sister who's three years older but for some reason we never talked about it (I think maybe she was embarrassed too.) I would *always* get my damn period right before a pool party or when we would take our summer vacation to the beach. I would pray to God to take my period away, at those times I honestly resented being a girl.
I was 15 when I went to the hospital thinking I had appendicitis. I found out I actually had an ovarian cyst (still do.) It makes my periods extremely painful. I was put on birth control but the hormones made me so sick I had to stop. So not only was I filled with anxiety and fear about my period, but now I was in, worse than normal, horrible pain every month.
Fast forward to today, I'm a mother (and BREASTfeeder 🤣) of three and I thank God for my period every day. I am so grateful I was not a young teen in current times because I honestly fear that my hatred of my period would have eventually driven me to join the trans-cult. It's also this lived experience that enrages me when men claim they have periods. 🤬
Okay, sorry for the period rant. 😂
you can be boyish without be gay or need to change gender
As someone who is bisexual, the lgbt community has gone completely insane and I’m so sorry we have influenced you in bad ways. I love you Brett!
Lol every bish I've ever dated and most all my female friends are bisexual
It would be weird if you weren't and you're a female
Say that again. Lgb(T). To refresh your mind, the T stands for TRANSGENDER. Trans people have always existed believe it or not! It’s such a shame to see people in our own community shaming the same group they’re in.
@@ysrr4259 just shut up. Your not scaring anyone
@@ysrr4259wake up to reality. The LGBT community has been going downhill for a while now. The whole public community is detached from reality and warping it to fit their own ideologies.
@@ysrr4259 It used to be us all fighting for our rights to marry one another but now it's just them taking over and making up all sorts of nonsense genders, pronouns, and invading biological women's spaces.
Brett's mom is a hero. Thank you for producing high quality individual.
I'm 36yo dad of two and I am inspired.
58 years on the spinning ball and never have I seen such Crazy lunacy.
Im currently 12, my body is changing and yk how others go through it, its weird and doesnt feel right? I try not to focus on it but like if i wanted to learn abt it or smth i would honestly trust brett with it, i wouldnt really go to my school for help for unknown reasons i just dont have a real reason for it, but if i had To learn aboutit, i would want to learn from brett. She just feels like a virtual parent who kinda gives guidance? I dont know 😭 i think this is because i find like comfort and feeling of happiness that comes from brett. I do t k owwhat point im trying to go at but just yeah. At school the teachers AND students heavily affect each other i dont think they delise the affect of their actions .
throughout middle and high school, i got a lot of comments to the idea of "oh i thought you were lesbian" or other such nonsense. Im very much straight but im an artist and i like wearing old fashioned clothes. I fit very well into the lgbt community. this suggestive language went on for roughly seven years, and it started to get to me despite my fairly strong sense of self. I questioned if i actually liked girls since i don't crush often or easily, but now that im out of that environment, i can happily say that i am confident in myself and happy with who I am. Im so glad I was born with an intensely stubborn streak and comparatively little regard for what people think of me, I might not have made it otherwise.
I don’t understand how any of this would make girls a lesbian
I got called gay when I was 12 for getting my left ear pierced, I didn't know what it meant then but it made me want to wear it more. 32 years later and I still have it. Ignorance is a stupid narrative.
I get called gay just cause I’m a Tom boy. I’m straight
@@MegaSizeBunny internet culture man. anything that isn't following current trends makes you neurodivergent and gay.
I'm so glad I grew up in the 80s and 90s and was able to be a tomboy without being pushed into anything crazy. Now I'm a girly girl lol
Trans was there in the 80s and 90s too there where just no phones that we have now or whatever
Same here and mostly I’m happy I didn’t have a fucking phone or 24/7 access to the net till about 20/23yrs. I’m still a tomboy tho, a tomboy that loves pink😉
Lol I’ve always been the Tom boy that wears girly clothes. Except for middle school I wanted to look like a boy for some reason. Like a skater boy.
My sister wanted to be a boy when she was a kid, she even cut her hair with scissors when she was like 10 years old and wore boys t-shirts and stuff. 2 years later she forgot all that, went through a short goth phase and now 15 years later she is very happy, feminime and beautiful woman and a model, even winning natural model competitions. She is very important to me and if they ruined her life by pushing hormones for her and cutting her up I could never forgive those people for the depression, dysphoria and sadness it would have caused to her. It would be so sad I couldn't take it.
@@redlamina5937 Ayo dude pink was manly till a while ago😌🤌
I'm often reminded of a sociology class I took in college. One day, we spoke about social conformity. I realize now, when you're younger, the equivalent of social conformity's explanation is "If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do that too?" No one ever actually sits down and explains social conformity until you reach a college level. Kinda weird.
My entire school experienced this trend. It confused me so much that people got attention for saying their pronouns were “they/them”. Eventually, even I believed that because I was uncomfortable with my body, and I had a “crush” on another girl (turned out I just admired her) that I was not straight. And when I told my friends, they were so supportive and I got SO much attention, and for a while I was happy. Long story short I discovered I was confused. I feel no resentment for the LGBTQ+ community, but I do believe that peer pressure influences young minds into believing that they are something that they are not. I don’t think I could’ve forgiven myself for not understanding who I am, if it weren’t for Brett. Thank you so much!
I went through some gender issues and thankfully I went to a great therapist who actually helped me. She helped me realize it was due to trauma I had not dealt with after being SA as a child, around puberty.
I love my parents, but when this happened to me as a child they really dropped the ball. My dad treated me like a stranger from that day on, and my mother shamed me, and belittled womanhood.
Saying I "knew better" (I was TEN years old. I was a CHILD) but also that women can't help it, it's "our nature and burden" to be exploited in this way. That I was a "woman" now because my body looked the way it did (I went through puberty at 8 or 9 and had fairly large breasts by 10) and so I was no longer a kid.
It was exactly the wrong thing to do. So from that point on, I hated being a "woman" (I was a little girl, but you get my point). I hated the "womanly" features I had developed and associated them with an inherent threat to my worth, dignity, and actual life.
My dad had always been close to me before then. Our personalities our very similar, our likes/dislikes, sense of humor.
Him shutting down and withdrawing from me was devastating. I had somehow become a "woman". I was now, at best, not interesting, and at worst, disgusting and worthless. (That's not the truth, but that's how it felt)
I just pushed my self hatred into the back of my mind and tried to ignore it.
But it came back up the next time my body changed- when I had children. I started hating my even more obvious womanly body and started hating all men for being inherent sex-crazed "monsters". I totally had a nervous breakdown.
Thank god I got a good therapist, and I gained my sanity back. She helped me see that what happened was not ok, but that it didn't have to do with me being a "woman". It was because a bad guy decided to do bad things to a kid.
My parents are just people who tried their best with the messed up situation and failed, because they're human. I've been able to accept that, forgive them (to some extent) and move forward. They are no longer in charge of my safety. I am. So I don't have to fear overly much. Men aren't monsters. They're just humans. Some are bad, some are fine people, and some are even fantastic. Just like women.
We definitely do have differences, but we have more in common than not, and those differences don't have to define the worth of our humanity. Sure, I'm not going to beat a man in a sport. But he also can't get pregnant. But someone's humanity and worth doesn't have to be defined by their sex.
I learned to accept biological reality but also accept that that shouldn't define my character or worth as a human. It's simply biology. No more, no less.
This saved me. It saved my children from losing their mother. It saved my marriage, saved my husband from losing his wife. I no longer feel hatred toward my body. I no longer hate men. I no longer am obsessed with gender stuff in general.
Telling people who are in crisis what they THINK they want to hear is NOT the way to go about helping people like us. If some doctor had simply indulged my self hatred, I would likely not be here today. Because transitioning would NOT have helped. The problem wasn't my gender or body. It was trauma that needed to be processed and moved on from.
The reaction of your father was guilt for not protecting you and your mother’s was fear.
thank you for sharing this, don’t forget you are a child of god regardless of what anyone says. you are strong and loved ❤
Thank you for opening up about this. Thank God you're in a good place now.
I’m so glad you’re here with us still to share this story, and thank you for sharing. Very powerful. You’re an inspiration. I appreciate you having the courage to share this and giving us an insightful perception on these issues. Much love!
((((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry you went through that, sorry for the loss of closeness in your family and I Am so happy you made it through and cane put the other side. You are so brave.
The thing is, we all have discomfort when growing up. I felt so uncomfortable wearing a swimming suit that I quit swimming. Taking advantage of young people just because they are uncomfortable within themselves it’s atrocious.
That is EXACTLY what they’re doing. Puberty was uncomfortable for the majority of people, and they’re making it out like if you feel uncomfortable there is a problem with your BODY!!! Your body that is doing what it’s supposed to. It’s a period of adjustment that they’re exploiting to harm children as their reproductive systems are maturing. Why are they targeting permanent destruction of the reproduction systems in the upcoming generations????
Trans people exist.
I’m so glad I found your channel. I am 32 years old, and I feel so desperate watching the world try to steal (mentally) my children away from me. It’s comforting that it’s noticeable even by those who don’t even have children yet. No one knows you better than your parents, and in most cases, they care about you, maybe even more than you care about you. It’s so important to remember this.
Please bring her on your show, she’s been through so much and came out the other side with such a reflective approach. Much Respect to her, she speaks so beautifully too. So calm and cool ❤
She has the makings to be a great mother. She's become so self aware that she is already being a great mother to herself. I hope her future is full of love and joy
Not just young women, young men as well. I have a friend who has no idea who he is because he’s stereotyped as gay for liking band and theater. And the bigger problem is that people are forgetting that it’s okay to be anything else.
Seriously? So does it mean that all male actors are also gay? Cause they had to like theatre as well in order to become actors
We need to start addressing young girls and how devastating it can be to be 8, 9, 10 years old and suddenly start your period or your body starts to grow, puberty takes over and all of the issues that can affect some one so young. I started my period at 8 and I remember how devastating it was....I thought I was dying and my mom had told me what to expect. I was a huge tomboy back then and thankfully I didn't grow up in this generation or I could have been in this girls situation. Make sure to check on your kids and how they are feeling.
I personally started my period at age 12, but it was like so rare (1-2 times per year), until I was like 22 when it got normal, so, I was going to the doctors to "figure out what is wrong" and why I am not getting regular periods. I was feeling perfectly physically and yet was dragged to the doctors over and over, because if you don't hsve regular periods you are not normal, felt like a freak sometimes.
I think 100% these ppl would have convinced me that I am trans or intersex or what ever, because I didn't feel normal.
I'm a girl and I dislike dresses, and skirts, and jewelry and I have short hair because I don't like having long hair. I'm just kind of a tomboy, not trans. Because there's a difference between being a tomboy and being trans. I still feel like a woman and I use she/her pronouns, I just dislike certain female things. That's all and people really need to learn the difference between those things because going through puberty and disliking your body doesn't make you trans.
Not feeling totally 100% comfortable about your body growing up is a part of the process that I think most people deal with at some point. I don’t understand why it’s now treated as “oh you must be the opposite gender”
I can't understand it either. In my school days it was peer pressure to smoke pot or cigarettes now kids pressure others into genders and sexualities. It's incredibly sad and troubling. I'm literally scared to death for the future.
Me neither.
It's not always true. Some people really do feel like the opposite gender.
@@gaintturnip Yes, but is it gender dysphoria? Insecurities about being more feminine or masculine? What about depression or anxiety? Those things can cause people to think they’re the wrong gender, but transitions don't solve that; in most cases it just makes it worse.
@@Theawesomeninja_XD I see your point. Genuinely feeling another gender than the one you were assigned with is okay, but some times people who are simply confused with their identity jump to conclusions. I do think that if you truly feel male and wish to actually be one is acceptable, but this is becoming more and more risky because now that the idea of being trans is so popular that some people misinterpreted their own feelings and make the wrong choice. I do get your point of view.
It breaks my heart how similar her story is to mine. I wasted 5 years of my life, people would see me as an alien, didn't know how to approach me and how to talk to me so as not to offend me. I was victimising and isolating myself. I'm a 20 year old beautiful woman and I couldn't be happier about myself. I finally accept myself and am free of this poison that got into my head when I was 14 and discovering the ugly side of the internet. Thank god I have nothing in common with my old LGBT friend group anymore. It is indeed more of a cult than a community. It disgusts me. I hope my kids never have to go through this hell. I'm happy to get closer to my family too, especially my mother who I used to absolutely HATE when I was young. Therapy did nothing to me, since I had more serious personality problems and PTSD, but I'm working on myself and I would never have it any other way. I'm glad it's over and I grew out of it. I even hate joking about it, my best friend sometimes calls me Orpheus which is a guy name I used to go by, 2 years ago. God I despise it. But that part of me is dead and I'm glad. I'm not the most feminine woman, I dress like a gremlin and I don't quite take care of myself, to look pretty for others. I prefer comfy. But I haven't felt more of a woman in my life, I'm telling you.
Totally get where you’re coming from, as I used to identify as ‘Agender’ (non gendered) under the non binary umbrella because I was so convinced that being uncomfortable with my womanly parts and traits had to be dysphoria. In reality, I just didn’t align with an ultra feminine woman stereotype, I struggled with accepting my curves/transitioning between teen girl to womanly body and I also was scared of being sexualised due to previous experiences re: SA. Unfortunately most people including professionals blindly affirmed by and never bothered finding reasons and even had a professional encourage me to go down the route of medical transition, which I’m soooo glad I didn’t. The same professional that encouraged this also said in a group I went to, that she’d like to see more lesbians coming to it as many might actually just be trans, not lesbians… which was kind of a red flag for me even then
@@reyne5373 exactly! there is a serious problem nowadays with therapists refusing to "help" kids who don't even know what identity is, and would rather drive them the "what gender you're feeling today, want some hormones?" route.
Sorry you didn't grow up in the 90's like I did. We were taught there is nothing wrong with being a boy who is very feminine. Gender norms are on a spectrum and only sometimes match your gender there's nothing wrong with that. Literally nobody in my entire school growing up for all of K-12 not one single trans kid and I attribute that to the personal acceptance that was taught to my generation.
this last week has had some really heavy topics. brett, we love you for putting this content out and speaking the truth. thank you 🫶🏼
Agreed. Heavy and important. Thank you for doing this work, Brett.
I was 12 when I decided was coming out as trans, I cut off all my hair and changed my name and begged my mom to let me go on testosterone but she refused, looking back im so thankful that she said no. it wasn't until someone very close to me made me realize i would never be genuinely happy being trans, that I switched back to being a girl. I thought that because I wasn't the most feminine girl that I must not be a girl at all, which also opened up many problems like SH because of that. im a lot older now and im so glad nobody let me make any permanent changes that I would have surely regretted.
I think the medical industry is preying on vulnerable people and if people were honest, they'd admit that "transitions" rarely help because the underlying mental issues are never really addressed. Most of the issues can be solved with simple advice like wait till you're 20 yrs old, get proper diet, sleep, exercise and hopefully disconnect from this woke bubble. You'll be so much happier and not live in this bitter world where you have to convince yourself that everybody outside your little club is evil.
Most kids feel weird about themselves, especially during puberty and teenage years, and if they don't have a positive outlet to channel their energy and ground them, they can end up latching onto things like this. They know they'll get praise, especially online and be the center of attention for a while. They think the answer to all of their problems is this one thing. It's really really easy to trick kids into joining groups because they don't have positive outlets.
It's disingenuous because most people who just wait and reach adulthood abandon the trans idea. We have that data and know this, but there's a rush to get them involved from a young age anyway.. it's honestly so predatory.
What’s really tragic and disgusting is how quick doctors are to push the medical transition route. They do this knowing full well that they will have a patient for life, a patient they can profit off of. When you become a doctor, you swear an oath to do no harm. And yet that’s exactly what’s happening.
Beautifully said. I would argue a similar point about turning straight to medication as the answer for anxiety or depression. While it can be helpful, it does not address the root cause, only numbs the negative feelings.
So basically the statistics about suicide rates spiking for kids AFTER transitioning (if true), and the stats of how many kids who finally grew up & detransitioned... all hidden the same way as the vaccine data by 'big pharma'?
Well. ya. they make money off these hormone dosages and surgeries.. ... I hope future lawsuits change this
@@briannahuefner556 If it was easier to profit from pitching those healthy habits, they would be the dominant advice.
For sure society is overmedicated, idk how we change that though.
Detransitioning videos have come on TH-cam a lot on my feed. Like Brett says, stories like these don't get out there and are suppressed.
Used to be trans, but never got on T and I am SOOOO grateful that my parents didn't let me as a teen. About seven years ago I said fuck it, I'm miserable, I wanna be me. Now I'm me. I have a male personality, but I realized I don't need to be a male to have a masculine personality. It's just how I am. So fuckin glad my parents said hell no, they saved my life. I can see how selfish my decision was.. and I regret doing this to them everyday.. I still apologize. They are just happy that I'm a right leaning person like them. We're all republicans.
@ItsTheSjwApocalypse just means your a tomboy but yeah good stuff.
@@iramak4195 Thanks man, yeah I'd definitely consider myself a tomboy. So glad I found sanity seven years ago.
@User Aww man thanks. Yeah I am so against it as I used to be trans. I'm not against trans people, I'm against children being able to be in T. Disgusting. Thank you again, I feel like I'm an extinct gen z species.
@User And yes I thank my parents daily and apologize to them too. I feel horrible to this day.. I'll admit I was in the wrong and yes I regret even being trans back then so I'd DEFINITELY regret it if I had gotten in T.
When I was in high school I was surrounded by lgbt people, I came out as bi. Now that I'm out of that environment, I don't think I am. I wish I never came out, I think I'm just straight. I am honestly ashamed.
In highschool everyone looked at me odd when I said I was straight, because I had a very short pixie cut. I was also a tom boy at the time. There was alot of pressure in that environment, I actually thought I was trans, I am not, and that terrifies me, not just because I could have transitioned, but because of younger kids who are also going thru this
Thank you Brett for voicing these things
Edit: thank you all for your kind words. God bless
Wow, that's crazy! I had the exact same experience down to the hair too. I also believed I might be trans for a couple of years, but I thought about it a lot and kept it to myself. Ultimately I concluded that I was still a girl despite what others tried to make me believe.
Its actually crazy how much of this is simply peer pressure. I became homeschooled in the middle of middle school and that comes with its own issues like shyness but I feel like I also dodged a bullet. When all my friends went to high school so many of them came out as gay, bi and trans, especially the girls I knew. It used to be smoking and doing drugs to look cool and now its all this nonsense. I'm happy it all worked out for you and wish you good luck in life.
Don't be ashamed. That is part of the problem. There should be no shame in making a choice that you felt was the right one. Fortunately , you did not make any permanent choices and you could figure out your own path. And since when does a Pixie cut symbolize being Bi or LGBTQ? I think the pixie cut is super attractive and very feminine. If that is so, that may be why my success rate for dating women was so low. lol
Please don’t be ashamed. I’m sorry you went through that, and I’m sorry that no one accepted you for being something so normal. I can’t help but see this almost like some type of sexual abuse? Hear you are, a perfectly normal beautiful child and your peers are pressuring you to being gay. I can’t help but see it as abuse.
Had a somewhat experienced people would say I'm Bi or lesbian lol.
THIS young lady is BRAVE,not the people who are pushing an agenda. Jumping on a trend isn’t brave.standing up for what you believe in, and admitting you made a mistake and informing others what you went through so they may make a better more informed decision on such an irreversible situation, and such a charged discussion knowing you are going to get backlash and or lose all your supposed “friends “is the epitome of being brave.
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this woman…she just told my story to the tea… literally every part, but especially this. everyone around me on the internet always told me “being gay is right!” and even “we hate straight people, you’re all just so bigoted and haven’t found the right woman!” and i was told to believe that if i was cis or straight, i was the problem. during that time, my parents were busy at work almost all the time, so they couldn’t monitor me. i started saying i was trans male, and even went so far as to wear a “binder” (a tank top hack where you could fold an undershirt a certain way and it would work like a binder). little did i know that wearing that basically too-tight-bra would completely screw up my breathing. it’s nothing permanent, it’ll just take a couple years to return completely to normal. but that doesn’t make it good. it’s impossible to take a deep breath and just going up stairs is a chore because my lungs don’t expand all the way. i haven’t seen a doctor about it, but i did not wear it for long enough to make permanent damage, just trouble breathing for a little bit. i was never even insecure of my body or feminine nature, i actually loved being a girl and everything about myself, but everyone surrounding me said “every teen girl is insecure and transitioning is the only was to fix it!” so i began faking this gender dysmorphia so i could fit in with everyone else and be “a cool quirky teen who hates their parents and goes by every other pronouns but your birth gender.” i was trying to shove myself in an imaginary box that i didn’t fit into in the first place. and the timestamp, this felt like a stab to the chest. i spent so long pushing my parents away because i was told if you were gay, you have to hate every adult you know. it also affected my religion. i am christian, and as you probably know, those two communities didn’t really get along. i spent years pushing myself away from my religion because i was told that it was horrible and christians just hate everyone. i pushed away my parents, my religion, some of my friends even, just because i was so obsessed in my fantasy that if they didn’t play along with every bit of it, all they wanted was to see me fall. that was probably my worst emotional state too. it might’ve been my school at the time, but this definitely contributed to it. i was just constantly in fight or flight, i was told from the internet that everyone was against me so any time someone talked to me and it wasn’t someone i knew i would assume they were out for me and fight back with unnecessary comebacks. i feel so bad for this woman, and the fact that i relate to her story so much shows how messed up this is. im not over exaggerating, it feels like my own life is being spat out at me.
also i’d just like to say, thank you brett. thank you so so much. you are the one who opened my eyes to this insanity i was being force fed my whole life. if i didn’t find your channel, i might still be in that phase right now. at first i hated that you showed up on my yt shorts because all i wanted was lgbt stuff and hated “the transphobes being on my feed!!!2!!11”, but i finally watched some of your videos to the end, just to see what they were. your points kept making more and more sense to me until it finally clicked that sometimes cutting off your breasts until your happy wasnt the best thing to do. you’re the reason i have an open mind. i used to think “i have an open mind unless you have a different opinion from me, then youre a bigot!” but you showed me not only the insanity of that view point, but that even if you dont agree with every belief someone has, you can still listen to their view. i cannot express how grateful i am to you. if this comment does nothing else, let it remind you that what your doing is worth it. you are reaching people. you ard making a difference. even if you change no one elses mind about anything, please remember that you did for me. your content does so much more than you know, you are opening the eyes of so many people if not only me, please continue what your doing. you are so smart and amazing, and just thank you for what you do, coming from a 14 year old girl(which most if these people seem to be when they undergo these horrific treatments) just know you saved at least one teen from this fate, thank you so much, and keep up the amazing work❤
Wow! I completely agree 😊 thank you for sharing your story
What a beautiful story.
That's a long paragraph
I’m sure you’re one TOUGH girl for overcoming that & making it out on the other side ! I have so much respect for your story and your ability to evolve in your beliefs and values ! Bravo 👏 I’m rooting for you girl. God bless you 🤍
I too struggled with my femininity as a younger teen some 10 years ago… it’s crazy how the child mutilation agenda may have sunken its claws into me had I experienced that discomfort during this day and age.
When do you start to feel comfortable being a girl
@@edenbeth Probably when she grew up a little more. Just being who you are, right now, is perfectly ok.
This video hit so close to home. Holy crap. I detransitioned after 4 years finally and it’s been the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m so thankful I backed off before it was too late.
I've saved this one for my daughter. she is 18 and has made it through the high school years without thinking she's trans, but she identifies as Queer. thank god she really doesn't understand politics, but I'm worried about her as she heads off to college.
@@brunetteXer Colleges are a really big spreader of LGBTQ ideologies, that's quite worrying.
@@brunetteXer I'm 18 as well actually in my first year of college. Ironically, college was what really started steering me away from the left because I got to see the ridiculousness first hand haha. I hope she can find the truth in the craziness like I did.
Glad you found Brett's channel as a bonus. It's not a coincidence that the left supports trans ideology; they reject all of human nature and try to destroy kids' understanding of reality
when i told my mom i was a boy she told me no i wasn’t and that moment pushed me to start understanding what i was actually saying and thinking about myself and i’m thankful i didn’t make any mistakes
I'm so glad she told her story. I'm a detrans person but I never had any medical intervention (because i identfied as a trans boy around the age of 14-17 so I wasn't able to go to the doctor by myself) and I never felt like my experience was valid, because there are no long term effects (apart from confusion about that period). Teenage years and puberty were so difficult and I only recently realized that there was nothing wrong with me. I also wish that adults talked more about the hardships of growing up (not just about hormones but about the confusion, disgust towards one's body and how every person you meet could easily brainwash you etc)
I think they call those who didn't undergo medical/surgery as desisters.
@@AkitaMix 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think it’s so sad that parents are STILL not having conversations with their kids about puberty and how much it changes your life. I don’t remember my parents ever really addressing my hormone changes. Thank God there was no social media/very little internet when I went through puberty because I would have gone on there and probably fallen down the wrong path. But parents, start having these conversations with your kids!! And do it young before their friends educate them.
Exactly. Parents think they talk to their kids but they obviously aren’t talking enough. I knew I would feel all kinds of way about my body but that I would be okay later because my mom told me everyday about puberty and how things were. I can’t even remember the amount of times she had conversations with me about EVERYTHING!!! It was that many.
My mom told me about puberty at age 7 and birds/bees at 8. So I wasn't freaking out over puberty and understood the conception of babies.
What a lovely woman - God bless her! I hope she has a lovely and peaceful life and fulfills her goal of becoming a mother. I’m sure she’ll be a wonderful and very understanding one.
Not if she dates women 🤮
@@Red-zh7vqwhat the fuck are you talking about mate
@@erg6316 I’m saying she’s munches carpets
@@Red-zh7vq and that stops someone having a good life?😂
I used to want to be a woman. Never considered transitioning, but I had daydreams about it.
Then I learned that you can like purple, stuffies, and cute things AND like masculine things like guns, hunting, and such.
Don't throw your life away for a guilty pleasure.
You shouldn't feel guilty for liking the color purple, cute things and stuffies as a male but I get the meaning of your comment.
Men who like stuffies are great. My fiance was MANLY but could knit and still had childhood stuffies.
He taught me how to do woodworking and plumbing too. You can like a variety of things!
Wait... since when is purple something feminine ???
It is derived from "pourpre" which is a dark wine color ans was the color of kings for a long time...
I understand for pink, but I don't get it for purple....
Well, it’s time to watch more of societies flaws. At least some people like Brett know what’s wrong people.
We must stop giving in by calling them "trans". They are not trans, because no one actually can transition between the sexes. The correct terminology is "person who identifies as trans".
I’m getting old now. I’ve worked in the medical industry for a long time. I am a sheep farmer now and the more I see the actions of people the more I love my sheep…(NO! Get your mind out of the gutter! “Like”…better?)
So, I was on hormones for 3-4 years in my late 20's (mtf). I've been off them for about 5 years now.
Looking back, it was definitely the culture I was surrounded by; and my psychiatrist at the time pushing for it over the simple fact that, for a short time, around once a year, I'd hate my penis and want it gone.
No one delved deeper into anything. And after being off them, and removing myself from things online and that environment, I'm generally happier, and actually taking steps to better my life.
I'm luckier as I'm not sterile, but will always have the little bit of breast growth, unless I get surgery.
Better late than never! Best of luck to you.
DHEA has helped my daughter's hormones' and body back by a lot. Look into it and see if this would be a good options for you. She was on T for 2 years. This "hormones are reversible" lie needs to stop too.
@@MP-tj5xv It's different for males and females. Testosterone is very powerful, and sadly, ftm's are left with far more irreversible changes. Even sterility for mtf is only /while/ you're taking hormones; you become fertile again once off them. Guys who detransition are just left with boobs. Girls are left with deeper voices, sterility, etc.
@@sephi7ac the way DHEA works, is your body uses it to make your other hormones to the optimal levels. I have a granddaughter now, so it is proof that it works. I wish nothing but the best for you! 🙏🏽
I am amazed and happy you covered this young woman. I started following her and at the time she only had 10 or something subscriber's. She has alot of good things to say. I am so happy she is getting attention bc she is down to earth
Brett explaining Her mother's guidance made Me happy. Brett's mother deserves praise and admiration for her wisdom and direction in raising her daughter. If more mothers were like her, our world would be a better place.
I thought I was trans as a teen, and I was the same way with my mom. Even after I told her, she was entirely supportive, but I still distanced myself and had a plan to move out the second I turned 18, for no real reason other than pressure from other trans friends/my ex (also trans) because in the ideology, all parents are the enemy, no matter how supportive they are, simply because they aren't trans so they don't understand.
My relationship with her has gotten a lot better since I embraced my womanhood and cut those bad friends out of my life.
Virtually all teenagers have issues with those around them, it's a part of being a teenager with complex emotions who is trying to figure themself out. Many teens have issues with their parents. What I dont understand is the jump to it being the fault of the community - because if a kid starts acting like they have issues with their parents when there are no actual issues, that is not the fault of those who *are* actually having issues because their parents do not accept them. The lgbtqia+ community wants families to be together and support one another, there's no agenda to remove kids from their families.
I'm sorry if you had shitty friends growing up, but that's on those friends - not on the community.
@@mxqueer I'm not necessarily saying everyone in the community believes it. It's just the idea in the teenagers in the community. Not a single trans kid at my middle or high school had a good relationship with their parents. It was always "I can't wait to cut them out and run away from them". And I live in a city, so virtually everyone is supportive of trans teens.
@@crystalgeode2336 I don’t really know anyone, cis or trans, who had a good relationship with their parents. Many of them get on okay now (my classmates and I are now 30/31) or even became close over the years. It genuinely isn't a trans issue, it's just a teen issue - life is hard as a teen!
@@mxqueer You make a good point, that's true, but I'm more so making the point that I've never met a trans teen who had a good relationship with their parents and didn't resent them - even when they were perfectly supportive. I had cis friends who had good relationships with their parents in middle and high school, but never had a trans friend who did.
I vow to teach my daughters about womanhood and what that means for their bodies. Girls naturally retreat inward into their bodies because so much is changing. And you’re reminded every month. I want want her to learn the sacredness of it and not get sucked into fear and confusion
Biggest issue is, the majority of parents aren't actually parents anymore. They want to be their kids friends. My parents are in their 60s, they love me and I can talk to them about anything. However, they aren't my friends, they are my parents! They brought me in to this world and they still aren't scared to take me out of it. I hear from so.many educators that the number one issue is that most parents expect schools to raise their kids. This is why issues , like these in this video, exist.
So true. My mom was always clear that she was my mother and not my friend. As an adult the relationship has changed a bit but she is still my mom, not my bff.
I totally agree. But there have been instances where the parents have tried to prevent their child from going further into the transitioning pipeline only to have the dept of children and family services called on them. I just can't imagine how powerless and frightening that would feel if I were in that position.
@@HoagieHut if everyone actually disciplined their children then CPS wouldn't even scare people. Many people threatened my parents with CPS calls and you know what happened? Nothing!
Even when CPS shows, they have little power unless they can prove excessive abuse and neglect. Discipline isn't exclusive to either of those.
Parents with no backbone is just as big a problem.
I'm so glad I grew up in the emo culture and not whatever is going on now. I think it's fine to have things that influence you as a kid, but when it's irreversible it gets messy. Tattoos and piercings can be removed. It's so crazy to me how things have changed and become so drastic
She made a REALLY great point at ~10:30
"No one explained to me... I knew there would be hormone changes, but not emotional..."
I think, as adults, we tend to assume the teenager UNDERSTANDS what we mean when we tell them things, because we've been through it... but they haven't. So they're aren't picking up on the obvious things you leave out.
Two good examples of things I heard as a child that I didn't take seriously:
1) "Don't pick your acne, you'll get scars."
As a child, your scars heal really well. I thought to myself: "I've had scars, they always heal.... no biggie"
I didn't understand that the adults were saying: "you will have PERMANENT indentations on your face for the rest of your life, that there is NO CURE for, if you continue to pick at your face."
$4000 of fraxal laser treatment later... my "scars" are less prominent, but they are still there. In my 20s, the fraxal was very helpful. But now in my mid 30s, with less collagen in my face, the scars are more prominent.
2) "Coffee stunts your growth."
As a child, I thought: "well I'm already short, and I'm a female, so ... it's not a big deal if I'm short"
I didn't understand that coffee stunts your DEVELOPMENTAL growth. Pair that with constant activity, I've been flat chested all my life. As a young woman, I always felt like a woman trapped in the body of a 10 year old. I was 95 pounds, size 00, 5'1"... you're like "that sounds great"... FLAT AS A BOARD. I had a great booty and gorgeous legs, because I walked everywhere. I had a 22 inch waist, because I was constantly active... but the WOMANLY parts of me... I might as well have been a 10 year old. I also wore size 3-4 shoes, so I always had to shop in the kids section for some clothes and shoes, AS A COLLEGE STUDENT. I also still had baby teeth at age 22 (horizontal inside my gums)! I had to get them surgically removed.
The whole transgender is very sad to me, my exgf was considering doing tshots and wanted to become “non-binary”, the more she got into it the more fearful I became, then I finally put my foot down and basically gave an ultimatum. I don’t think I handle the situation in a good way, I still don’t know what I should’ve done differently though. Looking back on it now I’ve realized how unhealthy it was for me to keep dating her for many reasons. I feel much empathy and sadness for her and wish I had the courage to say to her what I really think about all she is doing to her self. She has fallen into the trap that “it has no negative effects” and I fear for what may happen to her
I don't know if ultimatums are ever a good thing to do but removing yourself from a situation that brings your fear and anxiety or make you uncomfortable is good. Trying to help someone who doesn't want to help themselves is exhausting. It's a bit like when someone you love falls into an addiction of some sort that is destroying them (should it be alcohol, drugs, unhealthy behavior or anything really), you try to help them but they won't listen...there is no shame in walking away from them. It's normal to not want to see them destroy themselves. We as people, also have to protect ourselves emotionally/psychologically. Being selfish isn't always a bad thing.
@@DreamieQueen Why are ultimatums bad? Rationships go two ways and if you don't realize that, there has to be a clear consequence
I'm a rough Aussie from the country whose currently doing my own research on Trans issues. I recently lost a young friend to unaliving after a severe response to HRT. 22 years old. Lots of pre-exisiting trauma, ED struggles, substance abuse. The final weeks of their life was tragic, locked away in a psychiatric hospital. None of their transmovement friends acknowledged their death. They all just kind of.. kept going on about their agenda. I found that incredibly disturbing, I walked out to my paddock and wailed.. and I don't cry often. It actually changed my opinion on transitioning. I acknowledge REAL trans people. Not the disordered thinking of a mentally ill person. They need proper CARE. The first suggestion is getting the hell off TikTok.
We have a 50 year old trans male to woman in our home town and years back before they transitioned.. we all kinda just knew. And when they finally started the transition, there was no big show or announcement. For this person, it was very sacred and private. The community (majority white, farming, Australian rural) all accepted their informed decision and supported them in maintaining their valued position in town. We fought against them getting let go from a business due to their transition. We back this person 100% and they are happily going about their life with dignity.
Edit: I suppose what I'm getting at is.. a majority of people have no issue with Trans people. Because until recently, Trans people just wanted to be who they felt they were, be accepted and live a happy life. What we have issue with, especially in Australia, is being told porkies and being expected to accept it. We need to protect true Trans people from these disordered people. The Trans community is at real risk of losing alot of the freedoms and acceptance they've struggled so long for because society refuses to corral unstable people.
Thank you for sharing! As a 17 year old, my ex best friend (trans girl) recently started her transition almost out of nowhere. She's had a lot of mental health issues and trauma, so I've been worried about whether transitioning so suddenly is the right decision for her (prior to coming out she didn't really show signs of gender dysphoria or femininity at all really). We don't talk anymore anyway, but I completely agree with you. I just hope that she is doing the right thing for herself, because she is someone who is greatly at risk to suicide and depression having personally been best friends with her for years. Unfortunately there's nothing I can do anymore. She is very caught up in LGBTQ circles and her beliefs have changed quite drastically to fit the status quo. She is a lovely person whose experienced a lot of bad luck and trauma, and I truly hope that she won't regret her medical transition.
Omg, yes!!! (I'm also aussie) I have a friend who I believe is truly a Child of Loki, but every other "NB" person I've met was severely mentally ill (energetically they felt like broken glass or bruises), and all of them were female...
I was a tomboy as a kid and all of my friends were boys. If all this trans stuff was talked about back then the way it is now, I would’ve for sure wanted to transition so I could be like my friends which were all boys. In high school during puberty, I became more feminine and had a boyfriend, and someday I hope to get married to a man and have kids which is something I wouldn’t be able to do if I transitioned. I also went to a school with a boy that was very feminine and only played with girls and he grew up to be gay but still very happy being a man. I bet in 5-10 years from now we’re going to be hearing a lot more trans kids speak out as adults and say how much they regret it and how much irreversible mental and physical damage it has caused them.
Real friends don't stop being friends because of who you see yourself as. Real friends support you no matter what.
Wrong. Thats not what jesus said a true friend was.
No. Real friends encourage you to make the right decisions and steer you away from danger. If you're a man who wants to surgically transition into a woman, a real friend would discourage it because of the extremely dangerous and irreversible effects. The solution to gender dysphoria isn't pleasing the anxiety through transitioning, it's through getting rid of the anxiety. Studies have shown that mental health on average does not improve after transitioning (suicide has been shown to usually take place after the surgery, about 5 years or so) so it's evil for people, whether it be family or friends, to encourage it.
Real friends are also rarest resource in the world ~
a real friend would not let someone do some stupid shit that could ruin their own life in some cases
@@TheAnnoyingBossu probably think Jesus was white💀
My parents told me when I was 13, hey, your going through puberty, so your body is going to change, your impulse control is going to suck and essentially the next couple years are going to be weird. It was a good conversation because when I came to moments were I made a stupid decision or thought I look weird I knew what it was and was like oh, so this is what happening.
That woman deserves standing ovations! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 She made her case in a very compelling and authentic way - and she is absolutely right!
As a trans woman I am thankful when the voices of detransitioners voices and stories are heard. If we (humans) are unwilling to hear someone's story that differs from ours, we are part of the problem.
Transitioning saved my life. Yet, that does not mean it is the right choice for everyone.
Sadly, my experience with the trans community is very much one where it is treated as a cult. When I chose to "go stealth" and not live "out" as a trans person, but just a normal woman it was treated like I had devalued everyone else's experience.
Transitioning, being a woman, or my sexuality aren't part of my personality. It is sad that so many people in the lgbtq community are so closed minded
Aye bro, I really hope that it works out for you. Hope all is well. I respek
I’m not gay (lesbian) and I never was but I’ve always been a tomboy. If you are a young girl find your tribe in people who have common interests not surrounding sexuality. I gravitated towards the athletes, the funny kids, and the debate team. It all changed my life. Thankful I’m 28 and did not grow up in the era of foolishness
same here! im 28. I grew up at an evangelical school, which I loved, but being a tomboy got people to label me my whole life. and it really does a number on you, you question yourself a lot. maybe if we had all os this information back then, I'd probably believe I was trans. I'm glad I know who I am now.
This is such good timing for Brett to post this video. I'm doing a research topic on transgenderism and there was this young woman named Helen Kerschner (23 y.o.) and she felt gender dysphoric by the age of 14 because she was well invested in the LGBTQ side of tumblr. She did hormone treatment and regretted transitioning. I found it interesting when Brett said in one of her videos that teenage girls transition often, and Dr. Lisa Littman said it might have something to do with the fact that many teen girls are susceptible to peer influence on social media. I must admit, the topic is really interesting.
I have always been curious why it is mostly the teenage girls who often have these kind of problems.
If you believe in the fact that males and females *tend* to have different personality traits (like females tending to be more social and/or males being more interested in things than in people) then it kinda makes sense that they fall for these kind of trends.
Heck, that still leaves the mystery open why things likes Beatle/Bieber mania are also generally female dominated phenomena.
interesting
@User, frankly, researching how social media and peer pressure can influence people is probably actually a great idea at your age, being it's about the age people tend to start being very susceptible to it. It could forewarn and fore-arm you against it.
Part of it comes from trauma, specifically SA related crimes. Many girls feel that the attack wouldn't have happened if they were male, so some become trans men to deal with the trauma. It's tragic, and I wish more help was available these girls. Puberty is already chaotic, and becoming an SA victim doesn't help anything. These girls need help, not hormones.
I feel like a lot of it comes from the constructed image we are constantly bombarded with by the media about what femininity is. We all suffer from low self esteem because what a woman/man is "supposed" to be is such an unattainable fantasy. We try so hard to be that feminine woman but more importantly FEEL like that feminine woman, but it's a fleeting thing like beauty. No one ever confidently feels fully 100% feminine/masculine and balance between the 2 is actually necessary to survive and thrive. It's like we have so many expectations of what we have to do to be women that we get completely burnt out and just give up entirely. And I get it... It can be really difficult. But it's not abnormal.. it's very very normal probably a universal thing. We just need to have these conversations with our children about self esteem, identity, and acceptance. If we don't, our children will turn to other adults for that acceptance and validation that they are so desperately craving.
What an articulate young lady. I'm so glad that she's sharing this and I hope that the Right audience sees this video. Sharing how vulnerable and easily persuaded our younger generation can be and it's understandable. They want to fit in and feel comfortable with their bodies and you've got all these celebrities and doctors telling you that this is the answer to happiness. It's really sick and disturbing and heartbreaking at the same time.
I’ve always been very tomboyish. I didn’t like being a “girly girl” as a kid, as that was usually depicted as frivolous, vain, and weak. The culture depicted femininity as lesser than masculinity, so I leaned away from anything girly. Now that I’m an adult, I have found my love of floral dresses, child rearing, embroidery, and baking. I do not feel weaker than my husband for the interests that I have, and he certainly still admires me as a strong person with or without a bow on my hat. I’m so glad all this transitioning of the kids wasn’t around when I was a child, for I fear what could’ve happened to me. I will do everything in my power and stand as an example of strong femininity for my potential future daughters, so they may never feel lesser than for just being themselves
Oh my god, I have so much respect for this young woman for coming forward with her story, she's so brave, and so amazing.