Girl you are a brick wall , the way you dealt with this is so dignified and leveled. Please please do a video essay on how to manage emotions , you have a great GREAT energy!!!
@@Lady_Darkness29 NOPE, HE IS A MAN. HIS DNA, MUSCLE MASS, AND BONE STRUCTURE SAYS SO NO MATTER HOW MANY SURGERIES HE HAS OR HOW MANY HORMONES HE TAKES.
@@Lady_Darkness29 tbh, NAW let's gets some REAL facts here. Studies have proven again and again that men have a greater amount of skeletal muscle than women. In one such study that examined 468 men and women and was published in a 1985 issue of the “Journal of Applied Physiology,” researchers determined that men had an average of 72.6 pounds of muscle compared to the 46.2 pounds found in women. The men had 40 percent more muscle mass in the upper body and 33 percent more in the lower body. Men not only have more muscle, but pound for pound, their muscle is slightly stronger than a woman's -- about 5 to 10 percent, says Lou Schuler in "The New Rules of Lifting for Women." A study reported in a 1993 issue of the "European Journal of Applied Physiology and Occupational Physiology" attributed this strength difference to larger muscle fibers in men. So men have more actual muscle fibers than woman, and no matter what a woman does there is nothing she can do to change that.
My guess is her manager was the one who STARTED the gossiping, not the coworkers. The manager was simply following-up on his coercion of getting Maya to out herself to Igor's mom because he wanted to tinker with her relationship and personal life by injecting drama into it, like some kid pouring water down an anthill to see what happens next. He essentially forced her to come out to the mom. He must feel super important.
@@keiy.4031 I think there is a easier explanation but also kinda childish but that's some people are. he probably was just jealous how she was being respected and loved without being judged at all and maybe had feelings for igor himself so he was trying to make them break up? gay man are not always the "nicest".
I outed myself as mtf at my workplace 3 days ago and luckily everyone was being really supportive. I wanna thank you for inspiring me to become the person I always wanted to be. 💜
They WILL be supportive in the beginning. It's new, but I hate to be a debbie downer but over a period of time, the wheat will be separated from the chaff. The pretenders (of being supportive) will come out of the woodwork. At first, people don't want to offend because it's their job on the line, but after awhile they just can't help themselves. Some of the most standoffish people at my workplace, in the beginning, are now some of my most supportive. While the really "friendly" "OMG that's so super! You do you! Got any pics???" types are the ones who have the issues with it. Be careful.
Good for you to share so older people like me can be better workplace advocates. What a journey to be born one sex but identify as the opposite sex. This is no joke...it makes me thankful that I was born the sex I identify with
alesha watson Of course! I somewhat understand the people who get mad when they find out their date is trans (although I don’t agree with them) but if we’re not affecting you at all? It’s just insane.
No one should be able to fire any human as long as they're doing their job. You and other transgender people are brave for sharing your stories because educations brings understanding. Human discrimination of any kind should never be tolerated.
He was definitely ignorant and insensitive, but I don’t see why he would suggest a meeting with everyone to call our people spreading rumors if it was just him.
Actually, the boss was right. He is the one who has to deal with all of these issues being reported to him by co-workers and customers. If she wasn't happy with the way the boss handled the situation, she can always quit.
@Joshua Benefield what are you even talking about? How are straight people expected to cater to LGBTQ people anymore than say, autistic people, or people with ADHD? Just treat people with respect despite their differences...
@Joshua Benefield what are they shoving down your throat? You’re parroting a sentiment we’ve all heard a million times and idk what to say except I just don’t get it. You always say you don’t have a problem with what anyone does with their lives, but then you complain about it anyway? Who is forcing your children to be gay or trans? Not me, not my of the hundreds of gay people I know. Not the woman on this channel.
Maya you’re absolutely beautiful. I would never have guessed you were trans. You are educating and, hopefully, stopping misunderstanding and cruelty to trans with your vlog.
The word you wanted, I think, was "discriminatory". Maya, you handled both those crises with tremendous maturity & restraint. SO well done on your part. Congrats.
Maya you are so well spoken, confident, and SO strong. I’m so sorry this happened but It’s refreshing to see you handle this horrible situation with such class. YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT. ♥️
She still needs to document this crap and let people know you are documenting what they are saying. Really chills people out. Well if they are smart, it chills them out.
Anakin Thorné how sad and boring must your life be that you are so worried about someone else’s life. You should probably deep search why it does bother you so much 👌
@@notmyrealname9059 no. if you like to be a slave you know very well you are willing to suffer. if you enjoy the suffering, that's ok but you are intelligent enough to know you can't do that to others without it being consensual. Cloud Strife words are wise and truth. Not enough people share that view and that's why the world is a slavery mess for too many people.
Think there was a possibility that he made up the story. Can trans actually fully transition and just consider themselves as their new gender? This make me think of people who have dyed their hair one color and still describe themselves with the former hair color. Think many nontrans might get tired if people bringing up that they are. I understand if sharing your stuggles on your channel but not all the time. I worked at a wig shop and all the trans would bring it up out of nowhere. U are lucky u pass and don't overdo the hair , make up or clothes coz overcompensating are dead giveaways. No hate, just personal observation.
Maya, thank you for taking the time to tell your life encounters to your viewers. Your boyfriend is a lucky man to have you. Your straight forward and have a terrific heart. Your beauty comes from both inside and out. I know being trans is your identity, but what makes you special, your a exquisite person. Have a great day.
Hey Maya, thanks for posting this. I'm yet to transition and probably my biggest concern is my work place. I work in a very hyper masculine facility with lots of fragile men and i'm pretty scared of what is going to happen. But seeing you're maturity and strength to deal with your workplace issues gives me hope that i can deal with mine. Thank you.
I appappreciate your channel, Maya. I came across your channel and Blaire White's simultaneously. Before that, everything that I thought I knew about trans people was based on outrageous stereotypes. I find your channel very informative. Thanks.
I hope you don't let those anxious thoughts get to you. I've heard this, and it helped me a lot: You don't have to believe everything you think. Like, you don't have to believe that someone is "clocking" you - odds are they aren't actually doing that. :) All the best!
I came out recently too and so far my co workers have been ten times more supportive than my own family. I'm working on everything piece by piece. I'm just being my honest self now and hoping for the best. Don't give up Maya you are an inspiration to many!!!!!!
Trans, gay, straight, those terms should never enter the work place! It's none of their business your sexual orientation! I have watched this channel as a straight, conservative person, learning more about those around me and understanding everyone does not have to be the same. In fact, Maya is a prime example of how great ALL people are when they are allowed to be who they are, not who other think they should be. She is very much in control of herself, her future and her surroundings and should never be made to feel "Outside" the norm. She is the norm for her as I am the norm for me! You keep being yourself Maya, there is nothing about you that anyone should have a problem with. You are a great person and have a wonderful personality, keep faith in God and he will always get you threw. Always know your subscribers love you and support your efforts during your life's journey.
Sexuality doesn't have to be a topic for the workplace but I speak as a bisexual woman in a full time job...if you spend a significant amount of time in a job you enjoy with people you get along with, your home life *will* come into conversation. Even simple things like what car to buy "My Wife drove a Toyota"... It's natural to say. For an lgbt person there are avoidance techniques you may never realise are happening. We feel we are "outing" ourselves even if it really is just a chat about cars. Most people don't say anything but believe me when I say it's exhausting when they do. I don't want to have a conversation about it, well meaning or otherwise but it happens anyway. Until my wife came out as Trans I had no idea!
@Dimpy Rambo if it were related to the position I would agree, but for positions that are not gender specific, I would disagree. The military might be an area where gender might be needed or police where body searches may occur.
@Dimpy Rambo , you mistook my stand point on this. I agree companies can ask gender for purposes of identification and your right, the birth certificate is that proof. The point was, this company made a point of zeroing in on her specific gender to other employees as it relates to customers in a lounge who would have no reason for that information. By singling out Maya, they made an issue out of something that should be personal information. Transgender is not a sexual fantasy, it is a psychological rejection of the persons born gender. The manager did not call a meeting and say "This guy like to have sex with other guys.", that would be a sexual reference. The manager called the meeting to make known the fact of Maya's feelings of gender as if to make a point it mattered on the job. Any good HR department would have the gender records for employment purposes, but that's where it should stay unless the job required a specific gender for the job as I noted. Imagine if your manager called a meeting and told everyone you liked eating chocolate cake in vegetable soup as my dad did. It is completely unrelated to the job, but you might find some people thinking of you as weird because of it. Maya is allowed in a free society to think and feel anyway she wants as long as that does not cause harm to others and that is personal to her and God. Some people are sensitive about their lives and they have that right.
My delivery guy at work found out that my work neighbor was trans. He started going off about it and i stood there in shock. I couldnt believe someone would just say that kinda hurtful shit. She is so nice. I finally said " hey man, shes cool asf. Could you give it a rest." He gave me this like 'Oh fu**' look. It really threw me for a loop that day.
I'm a cis female that tends to watch trans youtubers so I can have a better understandng of the community. I've never seen a video of yours before now, so I was very confused by the title and decided to click. You look so beautiful and I wouldn't be able to tell your trans in any way. I'm sorry all of that happened to you, but I'm glad you handled it well and it all worked out. People should keep their noses out of peoples business, because as long as their doing a good job at work, it shouldn't matter who you are. I think I'm going to binge your other videos now :)
King of Kings Wow, someone has a lot of hate and doesn't know the meaning of minding your own business. Trans people don't harm anyone. They're trying to live their own lives and feel comfortable in their own skin. They're not preaching to anyone to change their gender, they just want to be accepted. Since you preached about your beliefs, I will too. "Love thy neighbor as thyself" is what Christ taught us, so if you are going to hate on others, you must really hate yourself.
@@sarenap1409 You ppl always use this one sentence from the bible (you all dont even believe). Telling you facts and truth is not hate, simply because you dont like it dont make it hate. Try applying that sentence to yourself.. which you cannot for if you could you would not think about changing who you are And you are hurting everyone, you make children think this is normal, even if you not want it, you setting a norm a standard, that must be countered
@@makipri But it is a choice, you chose to use hormones, you chose to act like a woman, you chose to cut your healthy body up, you chose to use drugs. Tell me again, what is not a choice in all of this?
I’m a trans-woman, who is also an electrician that recently went back to construction. I my new boss (with my support permission) informed the crew who had a week to digest it before I started. Things are going well. Everybody is cool with it and treats me as any other electrician. This is in south central Pennsylvania!
That guy should not be in a place of power if that is how he's going to handle situations like that. Your relationship isn't any of his business, how is he going to tell you what you have to do regarding it? I currently work at Starbucks and it's fantastic, all of our leads and district managers are very informed and accepting.
I'm so happy to see that you realize why these people treat you like that. It's not ever your fault. It's literally their own insecurity and negative attitudes. It's 100% all them projecting their trash onto you. Soo many people don't realize that and they truly believe that they themselves are the problem.. I'm glad you stood up and told the manager and it got resolved really quickly.
I really enjoy your voice and it gives me great insight into a world I don't know much about. Also just regular stuff, not trans related, really enjoy your channel and who you are and what you have to say. Much love and so much respect! You are an amazing Woman!
Back in the 80’s when I did my first transition. I nearly got killed for being outted at a club off Yonge st. It was so bad I didn’t come out for decades. What’s worse was they had no idea and they figured they’d get a little Japanese girl (me) out for a little fun..... then they found out and became aggressive and started assaulting me. I was able to escape but almost didn’t . Years later I had a problem at a work place so bad I couldn’t even blog about it. The depression and fear that set in and the company did what they thought was best but not understanding our challenges just made it worse for me. Watching your video, I’m so glad you made this!!! I hope CIS people can see this and be a bit more empathetic. Maya, you’re one of my favourite girls on the TH-cam!!!
What a cruel world we live in, people out there are not emotionless robots, they are monsters, it's really awful to get into such situations. Societies and lifestyle pushing us to go out from whatever safe zones we prefer to stay in, just to have some money to live! And what? Getting into all these troubles! I just hope there will be a global awareness and to have true support to emotional people, where they can get encouraging & peaceful support.
I'm from Ontario as well hon and work at a University as a custodian. I've been blessed to have been accepted as transgender overall there. Sure some people are weirded out but that's ok. The management though is amazing about it. Thank you for sharing and I'm glad your work experience was worked out. I'm going to Toronto tonight to my first ever LGBTQ event. Hoping to meet other trans people to connect with. Maya I appreciate your honesty and candidness. You are an inspiration :)
Finally an authentic video from you after some time I would say! those men question their own masculinity if they`re into you. yeah you handled this pretty well and gave me courage to make a video about my transphobic experience at the workplace.
Oh my goodness what a terrible situation you were put in. 😲 Such a terrible feeling when you're manager says people are talking about you. I'm in my first year as a Registered Nurse.. and my manager said "people have been talking about you, questioning whether you are confident or over compensating". It made me feel insecure and question myself. I'm sure it was my boss that was making stuff up. But it made me reevaluate myself and come to the conclusion that I am feeling more confident and it isn't worth my time to get hung up on things people say. Glad to hear you dealt with it really well. ❤️
I just got a trans woman in transition as a colleague and I immediately recommended your channel to her, because you are always so uplifting and helpful. Thanks for sharing and educating people Maya! 🙌✨
Maya, you're always so refreshing and honest to listen to. You're a beautiful woman, and I don't know why some bigots are so nasty to you. Thank you for sharing your interesting stories.
You're amazing and strong, Maya. People will always talk about things they don't understand, so you don't have to pay attention to them; be true to yourself and the things you fight for. 💪💜🌼
people near my school kept calling me the wrong pronouns and insulting me and I'm not even trans so I'm not sure if it would feel the same for someone who is trans but i do know it shouldn't happen.
superhoggbike you win 1st prize for the most ignorant comment, well done 👍🥇🏆. You obviously have no idea or just enjoy your ignorance about the complexities that go into making a person who they are but judging by your comment, I’d say that you lack the mental ability to grasp such details.
You are a star! I can't imagine how it would feel to have such a toxic work place situation. I work in mental health and addictions and this is the same type of stuff I worry about having to deal with. I have had a few scary calls already with clients threatening to "meet me" when my shift gets off. Stay safe people!
I'm sorry you had to endure that. You handled the ignorance very graceful. You can be proud of yourself for standing up for your self and making sure your co worker didn't just get away with his behavior. People need to be aware that the times where you could just say anti lgbt shit or any problematic ignorant stuff without getting called out for it are over. Ofc not everyone is understanding and will call someone out but the fact that you did is a great way of showing him that his words have consequences and that he will be held accountable. I feel like insecure people can sense when others are at peace with themselves and it makes them want to bring them down on their level. People throw rocks at things that shine. Keep on shining regardless and don't let anyone dim your light. ✨
Every discussion at work that does not immediately link to the mission and vision of the company to serve the customer and help the employees enjoy serving the customers is counterproductive. Most managers are ill-informed at best and downright ignorant as usual. That is upper management's challenge: to find good managers. But consider: most HR people have no clue and most, no even the best, HR schools have not idea about anything but some general legal requirements. Keep going, girl!
I think a lot of people that react negatively to these things are pretty insecure, whether they know it or not. it's a foundation built from years of being told you have to be a certain way and that only specific identities fit in specific roles, and being surrounded by that for much of their lives has molded them to be relatively inflexible, defensive, and hurtful.
You were my introduction to the trans world. You showed up on my screen out if the blue one day. I have been following you since, about a year now. I am 79 yrs old and I must say that I am very proud of how you handled these situations. I Live in Austin, TX and been trying to keep up with the trans / crossdressing communities. You are still the my first visit on my computer every time I get on. Thank you for helping into this new world.
Quite a moving video. There is so much meanness at times, directed at Trans-Women, gratuitous meanness at that! In regards to the word "privilege", I think it's simply good luck, good fortune. And if a person is born with a silver spoon in their mouth, I say Thank God and eat your Wheaties!
People suck sometimes. It's amazing how insensitive and ignorant human beings can be, even when we mean well. I have a lot of optimism for our future though, and I believe we will continue on the path toward greater acceptance and understanding. Thanks for sharing your story.
Maya I 100% get you girl...I've lived through it, except it was my career and a place I had worked for 10 years and the ones targeting me were the owners of place I worked...it can be so hard when you just want to work and be looked at the same as everyone else but you know that they are either targeting you or talking behind your back....its so sad that some people cant just appreciate you as an employee but can only see the person you USED to be and not the person you are now
My friend Jessica was the very first ever trans Commercial airline pilot in Canada and she worked for Air Canada. She worked for the company before and through her transition and she told me (when she was still Trevor) they basically did everything they could to get rid of her, though legally they didn’t have a leg to stand on. I think she eventually left of her own accord. Granted, this was also over 20 years ago and I’m hoping the work place culture now is a lot more understanding and supportive.
If some co-workers would invest as much energy in their work as in gossiping and useless bullshit, some businesses would really pay off much better. I really really really can't understand, why some people are so interested in others lifes. Must be very sad and unsecure people.
Everyone should be able to work in a safe and healthy workplace. The Occupational Health and Safety Act sets out roles and responsibilities of workplace parties with respect to workplace violence and workplace harassment. If human resources get involved in a situation where an employee is being harassed by a co-worker the manager should let them go with zero tolerance for that shit. It's another thing when your manager is harassing you too. If human resourses gets involved in a situation where your boss is doing it, the ministry and human resourses gets really nasty about that. They or he had no right and are just ugly ass people who need to get fired, you burn you learn. Zero tolerance - no exceptions.
You go! I'm sure you'll be able to! I'm ftm and I thought I would have never been able to transition, now I've been on hormones for 4 months. Don't give up, you'll make it one day!
"You don't transition into anything." Yes you do. Are all the physical and mental changes not obvious to you? Many of which are permanent changes, or do you need to have your retinas examined by an ophthalmologist? Perhaps see a neurologist, and get an MRI done on your brain for white matter disease. 😂 We know we aren't becoming biological women, but we are transgender women. Gender and biology are not the same thing. You are the one that needs to understand such a simple concept, else you'll forever out yourself as being mentally disabled.
Hey--I love how well-spoken you are. You never put the blame on yourself (as you never should.) If my boss came up to me and threw the 'so you're trans' line at me, I would instantly think I'm doing something wrong. I would feel like I need to apologize for something (it's ridiculous, I know ;_;.) But you clearly articulate that *he's* instilling that sense of paranoia in you. *He's* manufacturing that sense of unease and fear. It was nothing you did. This was healing to listen to. Thank you
Reality can differ for people, due to the fact that people do have their differences, also other variables do have their outcomes and impacts on life too.
I felt your comment was like Adam Savage would say in Mythbusters "I reject your reality and instead substitute myown reality" Which I always thought was a pretty neat comment, as reality its self is subjective and relative. 🤷anyway, look at me getting deep in youtube comments😹
Omg, so sorry you went through that! Although i am not trans, as a woman who has experienced work place issues, I totally get the your feelings of unease and worry over your safety and job security. But, they are wrong and you shouldn’t have to feel bad in your own workplace environment:( i hope you find a job that treats you better soon!
Why do people think they should have dominion over someone because they know your “ little secret “. Very immature and ignorant behaviour by the manager
It shouldn’t matter in the workplace if someone is cis or trans. I’m really disturbed that people talk behind people’s backs, make issues out of other people’s identities. I’m glad you are a strong person but no one should have to go through this kind of situation. I hope some day we will be living in a world where people are more accepting and loving and being cis or trans is just a part of who we are as human beings.
My son came out and blew my mind as a man. So I started researching to ease my mind. I say thank you for sharing your story I know different then his but kind of the same. You are a beautiful lady inside and out
I will put this here in case it helps anyone: There is a legal policy called the Whistleblower’s policy; basically it protects people who report something in their workplace from getting unfairly treated (fired, fewer shifts, poor direct treatment) because of said report. I’m not saying you should have but I feel like this fear is common and the law is on their side with this stuff
King Of Kings yeah but it’s not as easy as that. If you’ve worked at a place for ages with a good record and not gotten into trouble and then conveniently get fired for “some other reason” a couple of days after dobbing, then it’s hard to cover that up
As a former hospitality manager I know for a fact that his question was improper and illegal... he should have reprimanded the gossipers in private. You are a very classy person. Pretty lady keep your head up.
You handle it very well and I hope all your future endeavors go better than this experience, but seeing how you handled it I can already tell you will rise above whatever comes your way.
I admire the way you handled those two situations... I sometimes too hear transphobic and/or homophobic remarks in my (now ex) workplace and I just kinda freeze at first, out of fear and also out of surprise of what i just heard. I do sometimes speak up, even if it's never easy.
Agreed on all points. No one should have to come out if they don’t want to and no one should have to be the one to educate others. Safety first my friends!!
I just found your channel and was afraid to click this video because I thought it was another cis person dissing the trans community so I looked at the comments first and I'm so glad that I watched this. I'm figuring out the safest route for me to work a part-time job as a non-binary person and it's been stressful. You're lovely and I can't wait to watch more of your videos.
And this is sadly why I no longer work anymore. I’m so grateful to have a partner that can provide for me. My last job was with the Canadian company, Shopify. I worked remotely, because I live in Ireland, and it was at the very start of my transition so my colleagues didn’t know. It was a weekly occurrence that my colleagues would make trans related jokes, many of them who were completely against any sort of transgender rights. Allowing transgender people to use the bathroom of their identified gender was so shocking to them. I couldn’t believe their mentality because I had been told Shopify was such an ultra open-minded company to work for... yeah right. I knew I couldn’t transition while working there and had to leave. It scared me away from ever wanting to work with people again, unless it was something exclusively lgbt related. What a sad world we live in. People say countries like Canada and Ireland are so liberal and friendly, but opinions and mentalities towards trans people are stuck in a 1950’s mentality whilst women’s and gay rights have advanced so far.
My best friend works for shopify in Ottawa. He told me during his interview they asked him his pronouns and everything (he's cis). I've never heard of anything like that about shopify. I have dealt with that though at another software company. It seems like when people don't know you're trans, they think they can get away with a lot more stuff than if they do know
Studio Gallifrey What bugged me most was that a lot of these transphobic remarks were being made from the very first week in training, right in front of our Canadian trainer, and she did absolutely nothing to stop it. You’re right, there was nobody visibly trans, so yeah, I guess they thought they could get away with saying a lot of crappy things. During training we would observe how Shopify employees ‘chatted’ to customers and I remember seeing a chat with a customer that had a fairly masculine name. The Shopify employee kept referring to this person as “sir” and when the customer told them that they were a “miss”, not a “sir”, the employee or “Shopify guru” clearly got offended and replied to the customer “well you told me your name is #### so that’s why I’m using sir”. I mean, instead of apologizing and correcting themselves, they insinuated that this person was a male because of a name and refused to accept otherwise. My manager didn’t see anything wrong with what that employee had said. I’m sure there’s a lot of great people working for Shopify at the main Ottawa office, but lately they’ve employed a lot of people remotely and standards are dropping rapidly.
Rachel that seems to be an increasingly bigger problem than when shopify was a new company. I guess the more employees they have, the harder time they're having regulating that stuff. Ugh. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that
I admire your courage ...... that word is discriminatory, im 66 alone , i listen to you everyday, you make me relax . You are an incredible person in so many ways . My name is James , thank you for being you.
Stay strong No manager that’s any good would never do what he did and bring those talking about you to a private room and speak to them about the problem they had with you. He would also never ask you to say something to all of them That’s not your job You seem like you’re very together with who you are both on the outside and inside. I can’t imagine what you go through with small minded ppl.
Thankfully the company I work for has some good policy on trans rights (though they are a bit out of date). Plus we have a bunch of people who stand up for LGBTQ+ rights and always behind our trans brothers and sisters if we have any. They also very supportive of me when I got attacked by TERFs this time last year.
I agree with other comments about how you have undoubtedly grown so much in the area of emotional honesty and emotional intelligence. I fear confrontation but what you said makes sense. If you're secure in who you are, you can see the situation clearly and it takes the sting out of it. I can't get that first part yet. But you're hella inspiring.
This made me so uncomfortable, I'm so sorry you went through it. Their behavior was totally unacceptable & discriminatory. It turns my stomach, my heart goes out to you.
It's already hard to deal with ignorance when you are a woman, then if you are trans, I understand from your stories, it gets much much harder. Anyway, you surely taught the guy a lesson and your general manager gives me the impression of wanting to help you but overdoing things, namely taking over. As a woman is important that you learn to become assertive with guys in general because they always tend to patronize you in a way or another.
Doing that drags yu into shit..thats why yu don't do that. I am 20 now and when I was 17 I started to see patterns of behavior like never before..there's a reason why no on looks at one another while passing by on the street..we "bs glance around" or at our phones. Yu better do either of the two otherwise yu will have some interesting/troubling anxiety, paranoia and unplesant escalations with ppl..Yu can't go out, have a good time and expect a call back from that person or solid hangout plans later. ..it dsnt work that way usually. Or they want something from you, dragg yu dwn in someway...
Aww Maya I'm so sorry those incidents happened to you at you workplace, you are such a wonderful person, I would be happy to have you as my coworker. People can be so ignorant and immature.
First of all thank you for your channel . It is important to correct anyone that is transphobic or prejudice in a work environment, bringing it to management attention most of the time produces the desired effect. In less management mishandles the infraction and or is prejudicial itself. I work in a male dominated industry and have recently came out as transgender and indeed there is much discrimination but there is also
It's a shame.people can't just be nice to each other ,I have never had a problem with transgender people,why should I ,they live their life and I live mine ,I have found some.trans people very attractive people ,but even if I didn't live and let live ,how about the golden rule if nothing else.I wish you well and safety .
I worked at a Bath and Body Works in Canada and a lot of the males on staff were gay, so I felt pretty safe and happy there, and then one night during closing my gay male manager started going on a rant about he supported Trump lmao. Other LGBT people in the workplace can be just as insane or even self-hating. I was lucky to have a place with an owner whose brother is gay and who hired very diversely so we had a team full of cool and largely accepting people, I can't imagine how many fights I would start out in the parking lot if my coworkers outed me and I found out they were gossiping.
Thank you for sharing your story. The more society hears these stories, the better it will be for everyone, even non-trans people, as there are many ways to be.
Girl you are a brick wall , the way you dealt with this is so dignified and leveled. Please please do a video essay on how to manage emotions , you have a great GREAT energy!!!
@sonoki82 Shut up noob. She is sexiest girl i seen
You don't have to be GAY to be able to manage your emotions. Normal people do it all the time AND DON'T ASK FOR SPECIAL FUCKING RECOGNITION.
@@Lady_Darkness29 NOPE, HE IS A MAN. HIS DNA, MUSCLE MASS, AND BONE STRUCTURE SAYS SO NO MATTER HOW MANY SURGERIES HE HAS OR HOW MANY HORMONES HE TAKES.
@@ryotaryuu tbh muscle mass doesn't say anything as there are girls who have big muscles from often training.
@@Lady_Darkness29 tbh, NAW let's gets some REAL facts here. Studies have proven again and again that men have a greater amount of skeletal muscle than women. In one such study that examined 468 men and women and was published in a 1985 issue of the “Journal of Applied Physiology,” researchers determined that men had an average of 72.6 pounds of muscle compared to the 46.2 pounds found in women. The men had 40 percent more muscle mass in the upper body and 33 percent more in the lower body. Men not only have more muscle, but pound for pound, their muscle is slightly stronger than a woman's -- about 5 to 10 percent, says Lou Schuler in "The New Rules of Lifting for Women." A study reported in a 1993 issue of the "European Journal of Applied Physiology and Occupational Physiology" attributed this strength difference to larger muscle fibers in men. So men have more actual muscle fibers than woman, and no matter what a woman does there is nothing she can do to change that.
I can’t believe he called Igor’s mom after to find out how it went. Like wtf, it’s none of his business. This guy sounds really unprofessional
My guess is her manager was the one who STARTED the gossiping, not the coworkers. The manager was simply following-up on his coercion of getting Maya to out herself to Igor's mom because he wanted to tinker with her relationship and personal life by injecting drama into it, like some kid pouring water down an anthill to see what happens next. He essentially forced her to come out to the mom. He must feel super important.
@@keiy.4031 I think there is a easier explanation but also kinda childish but that's some people are. he probably was just jealous how she was being respected and loved without being judged at all and maybe had feelings for igor himself so he was trying to make them break up? gay man are not always the "nicest".
i cant beleive someone called there kid igor
Yes, he has no boundaries, and should be watched. Not fit for management. He's exploiting his position.
@Sean Beckerer - well paying jobs are hard to find, maybe the mum told her or him about a position where she works. Totally logical.
I outed myself as mtf at my workplace 3 days ago and luckily everyone was being really supportive.
I wanna thank you for inspiring me to become the person I always wanted to be. 💜
They WILL be supportive in the beginning. It's new, but I hate to be a debbie downer but over a period of time, the wheat will be separated from the chaff. The pretenders (of being supportive) will come out of the woodwork. At first, people don't want to offend because it's their job on the line, but after awhile they just can't help themselves. Some of the most standoffish people at my workplace, in the beginning, are now some of my most supportive. While the really "friendly" "OMG that's so super! You do you! Got any pics???" types are the ones who have the issues with it. Be careful.
And tomorrow you want to be somebody else? And then? recarve everything up again?
@@centralintelligenceagency3838 No one needs to deal with your bs.
@@centralintelligenceagency3838 isnt how it is. But even if that was the case it should and can be done through mutagens of the future.
Good for you to share so older people like me can be better workplace advocates. What a journey to be born one sex but identify as the opposite sex. This is no joke...it makes me thankful that I was born the sex I identify with
Mmmm in my opinion its not anyone elses business if someone is trans, it doesnt change their work ethic or who they are as a person
alesha watson Of course! I somewhat understand the people who get mad when they find out their date is trans (although I don’t agree with them) but if we’re not affecting you at all? It’s just insane.
alesha watson exactly!
Amen💖
it'sMe TheHerpes to be able to know who to be afraid of. In case we are afraid of transgender people
Very true the only thing thats wrong ever is if trans ppl pretend there that sex from birth and trick ppl apart from that ive zero problem with them
No one should be able to fire any human as long as they're doing their job. You and other transgender people are brave for sharing your stories because educations brings understanding. Human discrimination of any kind should never be tolerated.
Here’s a clue...the person with the problem was your boss.
He was definitely ignorant and insensitive, but I don’t see why he would suggest a meeting with everyone to call our people spreading rumors if it was just him.
Actually, the boss was right. He is the one who has to deal with all of these issues being reported to him by co-workers and customers. If she wasn't happy with the way the boss handled the situation, she can always quit.
@Joshua Benefield what are you even talking about? How are straight people expected to cater to LGBTQ people anymore than say, autistic people, or people with ADHD? Just treat people with respect despite their differences...
@Joshua Benefield what are they shoving down your throat? You’re parroting a sentiment we’ve all heard a million times and idk what to say except I just don’t get it. You always say you don’t have a problem with what anyone does with their lives, but then you complain about it anyway? Who is forcing your children to be gay or trans? Not me, not my of the hundreds of gay people I know. Not the woman on this channel.
I'd like to solve the puzzle is it : I am a bad boss with insecurities who needs to learn to love.
Maya you’re absolutely beautiful. I would never have guessed you were trans. You are educating and, hopefully, stopping misunderstanding and cruelty to trans with your vlog.
The word you wanted, I think, was "discriminatory". Maya, you handled both those crises with tremendous maturity & restraint. SO well done on your part. Congrats.
Maya you are so well spoken, confident, and SO strong. I’m so sorry this happened but It’s refreshing to see you handle this horrible situation with such class. YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT. ♥️
You handled that way better than I most likely would! What a classy gal you are. ✨
He's a man.
@@nickc3856 your a prick
@@justin.187 *you're
She looks and sounds great, also seems to be pleasant.
She still needs to document this crap and let people know you are documenting what they are saying. Really chills people out. Well if they are smart, it chills them out.
Your strength in the face of idiots is awesome.
Wait isn’t illegal to question those things by a manager in Canada?
Yep! It is!
Exactly! I would take legal action if someone tried to mess with my personal life
@Ren Helene Is that why Trudeau was found guilty of taking a bribe to funnel millions from Canada into a fake Muslim charity?
Chompy Said please do prove links to your sources cause that straight up sounds like right wing propaganda.
Anakin Thorné how sad and boring must your life be that you are so worried about someone else’s life. You should probably deep search why it does bother you so much 👌
Your general manager should be canned. Period. Inexcusable behavior on his part.
@sonoki82 Grasping for wrongs committed by the other to justify your own wrongness is a sure sign of stupidity.
the manager isn't mentally ill like this dude doing all the crying.
The manager was stirring the crap up. He was a drama queen and should be fired.
I go by the rule ‘ treat others how you wish to be treated’ and if everyone follows this the world would be a better place
well said.
@@notmyrealname9059 no. if you like to be a slave you know very well you are willing to suffer. if you enjoy the suffering, that's ok but you are intelligent enough to know you can't do that to others without it being consensual.
Cloud Strife words are wise and truth. Not enough people share that view and that's why the world is a slavery mess for too many people.
Some people hate themselves so to me that expression is kind of wonky but I get it.
I always say this. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
So your boss decided to single you out rather than singleing out those who were gossiping of you...=wrongdoing since the beginning
I'm guessing most of the gossiping originated with that manager.
What would you expect? What you not laugh when you go to a circus to see the circusfreak perform? Same thing happens here
Think there was a possibility that he made up the story. Can trans actually fully transition and just consider themselves as their new gender? This make me think of people who have dyed their hair one color and still describe themselves with the former hair color. Think many nontrans might get tired if people bringing up that they are. I understand if sharing your stuggles on your channel but not all the time. I worked at a wig shop and all the trans would bring it up out of nowhere. U are lucky u pass and don't overdo the hair , make up or clothes coz overcompensating are dead giveaways. No hate, just personal observation.
It'sMe theHerpes - Maybe someone should pick on you for whatever lifestyle you live. I bet you wouldn't like that.
Your question makes no sense: "What are you live in?"
I just keep thinking about how soft and comfy her top looks.
Yea
@@aprilflowers9214 I want one.
@ ...and?
@adam zarbon She's a beautiful young woman. It doesn't matter what she was born as.
@@alyxandraramsey5828 she doesn't even have a womb
I loved this video Maya. Don't let the workplace or others get you down. Work is the most stressful and depressing thing ever.
Sounds like the GM was the one that was gossiping, and probably only him.
I hope you know how maturely + reasonably you handled this. That’s so awful. Sending love xx
Hii.. i am really happy to see you..you are really a true beauty!! I love it
Maya, thank you for taking the time to tell your life encounters to your viewers. Your boyfriend is a lucky man to have you. Your straight forward and have a terrific heart. Your beauty comes from both inside and out. I know being trans is your identity, but what makes you special, your a exquisite person. Have a great day.
Hey Maya, thanks for posting this. I'm yet to transition and probably my biggest concern is my work place. I work in a very hyper masculine facility with lots of fragile men and i'm pretty scared of what is going to happen. But seeing you're maturity and strength to deal with your workplace issues gives me hope that i can deal with mine. Thank you.
I appappreciate your channel, Maya. I came across your channel and Blaire White's simultaneously. Before that, everything that I thought I knew about trans people was based on outrageous stereotypes. I find your channel very informative. Thanks.
I hope you don't let those anxious thoughts get to you. I've heard this, and it helped me a lot: You don't have to believe everything you think. Like, you don't have to believe that someone is "clocking" you - odds are they aren't actually doing that. :) All the best!
I came out recently too and so far my co workers have been ten times more supportive than my own family. I'm working on everything piece by piece. I'm just being my honest self now and hoping for the best. Don't give up Maya you are an inspiration to many!!!!!!
Trans, gay, straight, those terms should never enter the work place! It's none of their business your sexual orientation! I have watched this channel as a straight, conservative person, learning more about those around me and understanding everyone does not have to be the same. In fact, Maya is a prime example of how great ALL people are when they are allowed to be who they are, not who other think they should be. She is very much in control of herself, her future and her surroundings and should never be made to feel "Outside" the norm. She is the norm for her as I am the norm for me! You keep being yourself Maya, there is nothing about you that anyone should have a problem with. You are a great person and have a wonderful personality, keep faith in God and he will always get you threw. Always know your subscribers love you and support your efforts during your life's journey.
Sexuality doesn't have to be a topic for the workplace but I speak as a bisexual woman in a full time job...if you spend a significant amount of time in a job you enjoy with people you get along with, your home life *will* come into conversation. Even simple things like what car to buy
"My Wife drove a Toyota"...
It's natural to say.
For an lgbt person there are avoidance techniques you may never realise are happening. We feel we are "outing" ourselves even if it really is just a chat about cars. Most people don't say anything but believe me when I say it's exhausting when they do.
I don't want to have a conversation about it, well meaning or otherwise but it happens anyway.
Until my wife came out as Trans I had no idea!
@Dimpy Rambo if it were related to the position I would agree, but for positions that are not gender specific, I would disagree. The military might be an area where gender might be needed or police where body searches may occur.
@Dimpy Rambo , you mistook my stand point on this. I agree companies can ask gender for purposes of identification and your right, the birth certificate is that proof. The point was, this company made a point of zeroing in on her specific gender to other employees as it relates to customers in a lounge who would have no reason for that information. By singling out Maya, they made an issue out of something that should be personal information. Transgender is not a sexual fantasy, it is a psychological rejection of the persons born gender. The manager did not call a meeting and say "This guy like to have sex with other guys.", that would be a sexual reference. The manager called the meeting to make known the fact of Maya's feelings of gender as if to make a point it mattered on the job. Any good HR department would have the gender records for employment purposes, but that's where it should stay unless the job required a specific gender for the job as I noted. Imagine if your manager called a meeting and told everyone you liked eating chocolate cake in vegetable soup as my dad did. It is completely unrelated to the job, but you might find some people thinking of you as weird because of it. Maya is allowed in a free society to think and feel anyway she wants as long as that does not cause harm to others and that is personal to her and God. Some people are sensitive about their lives and they have that right.
I love your comment. Its the best so far
@@SILVERVIDIUS2012 get lost. She's beautiful and if being yourselve is a metal disorder then we need more of that.
Hi Maya, just passing through and I enjoyed this video. Thanks for bringing trans perspectives to the conversations that bring us together.
My delivery guy at work found out that my work neighbor was trans. He started going off about it and i stood there in shock. I couldnt believe someone would just say that kinda hurtful shit. She is so nice. I finally said " hey man, shes cool asf. Could you give it a rest." He gave me this like 'Oh fu**' look. It really threw me for a loop that day.
im glad u said something
Thank for being the difference in this harsh world!
>Things that happened
>This story
Pick one.
@@nickc3856
Someone: I drank water today
r/thathappened: ITS TRUE I WAS THE WATER AND THEN EVERYONE CLAPPED
Thank you for standing up for her💖
I'm a cis female that tends to watch trans youtubers so I can have a better understandng of the community. I've never seen a video of yours before now, so I was very confused by the title and decided to click. You look so beautiful and I wouldn't be able to tell your trans in any way. I'm sorry all of that happened to you, but I'm glad you handled it well and it all worked out. People should keep their noses out of peoples business, because as long as their doing a good job at work, it shouldn't matter who you are. I think I'm going to binge your other videos now :)
King Of Kings You’d better mind your own business. You’re not helping anyone. Transgender people aren’t hurting other people so what’s your problem?
King of Kings Wow, someone has a lot of hate and doesn't know the meaning of minding your own business. Trans people don't harm anyone. They're trying to live their own lives and feel comfortable in their own skin. They're not preaching to anyone to change their gender, they just want to be accepted. Since you preached about your beliefs, I will too. "Love thy neighbor as thyself" is what Christ taught us, so if you are going to hate on others, you must really hate yourself.
King Of Kings I’m not spreading anything. Being trans is not a choice any more than being gay. You cure nothing and just spread hate.
@@sarenap1409 You ppl always use this one sentence from the bible (you all dont even believe). Telling you facts and truth is not hate, simply because you dont like it dont make it hate. Try applying that sentence to yourself.. which you cannot for if you could you would not think about changing who you are
And you are hurting everyone, you make children think this is normal, even if you not want it, you setting a norm a standard, that must be countered
@@makipri But it is a choice, you chose to use hormones, you chose to act like a woman, you chose to cut your healthy body up, you chose to use drugs.
Tell me again, what is not a choice in all of this?
I really hope as a cis female, I can be an ally to those that need it. Thank you for speaking up about these issues
Meg Doyle you already are
Meg Doyle you're a moron
alaskanmes you ignorant ass
mango55512 you’re just as ignorant for calling someone else ignorant, and no, alaskanmes is not ignorant
@@squeakyb.7709 I dont really understand how its an attack on non trans people??
I’m a trans-woman, who is also an electrician that recently went back to construction.
I my new boss (with my support permission) informed the crew who had a week to digest it before I started. Things are going well. Everybody is cool with it and treats me as any other electrician. This is in south central Pennsylvania!
That guy should not be in a place of power if that is how he's going to handle situations like that. Your relationship isn't any of his business, how is he going to tell you what you have to do regarding it?
I currently work at Starbucks and it's fantastic, all of our leads and district managers are very informed and accepting.
I'm so happy to see that you realize why these people treat you like that. It's not ever your fault. It's literally their own insecurity and negative attitudes. It's 100% all them projecting their trash onto you. Soo many people don't realize that and they truly believe that they themselves are the problem.. I'm glad you stood up and told the manager and it got resolved really quickly.
I really enjoy your voice and it gives me great insight into a world I don't know much about. Also just regular stuff, not trans related, really enjoy your channel and who you are and what you have to say. Much love and so much respect! You are an amazing Woman!
I'm a transmale and I can safely say that I'm a hermit
You won't get attacked if you stay inside all day :")
I'm a cis Male and I'm kind of a hermit too lol
Me too cis ppl are scary.
Yeah. I don’t have allot of friends so I stay home. I don’t understand people in general.
I'm a cis male and a hermit as well. It seems everyone is under attack these days for stupid ass reasons.
:-( people suck
Some people are quite immature with what they think are funny, you handled that very classy.
Back in the 80’s when I did my first transition. I nearly got killed for being outted at a club off Yonge st. It was so bad I didn’t come out for decades. What’s worse was they had no idea and they figured they’d get a little Japanese girl (me) out for a little fun..... then they found out and became aggressive and started assaulting me. I was able to escape but almost didn’t . Years later I had a problem at a work place so bad I couldn’t even blog about it. The depression and fear that set in and the company did what they thought was best but not understanding our challenges just made it worse for me. Watching your video, I’m so glad you made this!!! I hope CIS people can see this and be a bit more empathetic. Maya, you’re one of my favourite girls on the TH-cam!!!
What a cruel world we live in, people out there are not emotionless robots, they are monsters, it's really awful to get into such situations. Societies and lifestyle pushing us to go out from whatever safe zones we prefer to stay in, just to have some money to live! And what? Getting into all these troubles!
I just hope there will be a global awareness and to have true support to emotional people, where they can get encouraging & peaceful support.
@@itsMe_TheHerpes perfect description of yourself
@@itsMe_TheHerpes and you aren't?....freak.
Dear managers, our transitions are not yours and not about *you*!
then dont go parade your illness to the outside world
Funny thing about not being a chud. People will actually find you likeable. 👍
I'm from Ontario as well hon and work at a University as a custodian. I've been blessed to have been accepted as transgender overall there. Sure some people are weirded out but that's ok. The management though is amazing about it. Thank you for sharing and I'm glad your work experience was worked out. I'm going to Toronto tonight to my first ever LGBTQ event. Hoping to meet other trans people to connect with. Maya I appreciate your honesty and candidness. You are an inspiration :)
This story hurts my heart because 1. It is disgusting, no one deserves that, and 2. It’s very reminiscent of every place I’ve ever worked 😭
Finally an authentic video from you after some time I would say! those men question their own masculinity if they`re into you. yeah you handled this pretty well and gave me courage to make a video about my transphobic experience at the workplace.
Oh my goodness what a terrible situation you were put in. 😲 Such a terrible feeling when you're manager says people are talking about you. I'm in my first year as a Registered Nurse.. and my manager said "people have been talking about you, questioning whether you are confident or over compensating". It made me feel insecure and question myself. I'm sure it was my boss that was making stuff up. But it made me reevaluate myself and come to the conclusion that I am feeling more confident and it isn't worth my time to get hung up on things people say. Glad to hear you dealt with it really well. ❤️
I just got a trans woman in transition as a colleague and I immediately recommended your channel to her, because you are always so uplifting and helpful. Thanks for sharing and educating people Maya! 🙌✨
Believe in yourself always , stay strong , don’t let anyone’s words or misguided beliefs bring you down
You should write a movie that's like the trans version of Get Out, featuring that manager. What a creep. 😂
sounds dumb tbh
Come Out
Maya, you're always so refreshing and honest to listen to. You're a beautiful woman, and I don't know why some bigots are so nasty to you. Thank you for sharing your interesting stories.
You're amazing and strong, Maya. People will always talk about things they don't understand, so you don't have to pay attention to them; be true to yourself and the things you fight for. 💪💜🌼
people near my school kept calling me the wrong pronouns and insulting me and I'm not even trans so I'm not sure if it would feel the same for someone who is trans but i do know it shouldn't happen.
We got goosebumps watching this. You are so so brave! We miss you!!! Also bomb af intro 🙈
Angela Roldan thank uuu Angela ❤️❤️❤️ miss u guys 😩
don't speak for me thank you very much.
soldiers are brave, border patrol are brave, a homosexual trying to pull the wool over peoples eyes by wearing a dress, nothing brave about it.
superhoggbike you win 1st prize for the most ignorant comment, well done 👍🥇🏆.
You obviously have no idea or just enjoy your ignorance about the complexities that go into making a person who they are but judging by your comment, I’d say that you lack the mental ability to grasp such details.
You are a star! I can't imagine how it would feel to have such a toxic work place situation. I work in mental health and addictions and this is the same type of stuff I worry about having to deal with. I have had a few scary calls already with clients threatening to "meet me" when my shift gets off. Stay safe people!
I'm sorry you had to endure that. You handled the ignorance very graceful. You can be proud of yourself for standing up for your self and making sure your co worker didn't just get away with his behavior. People need to be aware that the times where you could just say anti lgbt shit or any problematic ignorant stuff without getting called out for it are over. Ofc not everyone is understanding and will call someone out but the fact that you did is a great way of showing him that his words have consequences and that he will be held accountable. I feel like insecure people can sense when others are at peace with themselves and it makes them want to bring them down on their level. People throw rocks at things that shine. Keep on shining regardless and don't let anyone dim your light. ✨
People who can't or don't want to understand. Or those who mistreat you.
Just keep in mind that you have far more courage than any of them.
Your new intro is so beautiful (and so are you)
Every discussion at work that does not immediately link to the mission and vision of the company to serve the customer and help the employees enjoy serving the customers is counterproductive. Most managers are ill-informed at best and downright ignorant as usual. That is upper management's challenge: to find good managers. But consider: most HR people have no clue and most, no even the best, HR schools have not idea about anything but some general legal requirements. Keep going, girl!
I think a lot of people that react negatively to these things are pretty insecure, whether they know it or not. it's a foundation built from years of being told you have to be a certain way and that only specific identities fit in specific roles, and being surrounded by that for much of their lives has molded them to be relatively inflexible, defensive, and hurtful.
You were my introduction to the trans world. You showed up on my screen out if the blue one day. I have been following you since, about a year now. I am 79 yrs old and I must say that I am very proud of how you handled these situations. I Live in Austin, TX and been trying to keep up with the trans / crossdressing communities. You are still the my first visit on my computer every time I get on. Thank you for helping into this new world.
Quite a moving video. There is so much meanness at times, directed at Trans-Women, gratuitous meanness at that! In regards to the word "privilege", I think it's simply good luck, good fortune. And if a person is born with a silver spoon in their mouth, I say Thank God and eat your Wheaties!
People suck sometimes. It's amazing how insensitive and ignorant human beings can be, even when we mean well. I have a lot of optimism for our future though, and I believe we will continue on the path toward greater acceptance and understanding. Thanks for sharing your story.
Maya I 100% get you girl...I've lived through it, except it was my career and a place I had worked for 10 years and the ones targeting me were the owners of place I worked...it can be so hard when you just want to work and be looked at the same as everyone else but you know that they are either targeting you or talking behind your back....its so sad that some people cant just appreciate you as an employee but can only see the person you USED to be and not the person you are now
My friend Jessica was the very first ever trans Commercial airline pilot in Canada and she worked for Air Canada. She worked for the company before and through her transition and she told me (when she was still Trevor) they basically did everything they could to get rid of her, though legally they didn’t have a leg to stand on. I think she eventually left of her own accord. Granted, this was also over 20 years ago and I’m hoping the work place culture now is a lot more understanding and supportive.
If some co-workers would invest as much energy in their work as in gossiping and useless bullshit, some businesses would really pay off much better. I really really really can't understand, why some people are so interested in others lifes. Must be very sad and unsecure people.
Everyone should be able to work in a safe and healthy workplace. The Occupational Health and Safety Act sets out roles and responsibilities of workplace parties with respect to workplace violence and workplace harassment. If human resources get involved in a situation where an employee is being harassed by a co-worker the manager should let them go with zero tolerance for that shit. It's another thing when your manager is harassing you too. If human resourses gets involved in a situation where your boss is doing it, the ministry and human resourses gets really nasty about that. They or he had no right and are just ugly ass people who need to get fired, you burn you learn. Zero tolerance - no exceptions.
Hey Maya. ^.^ I just want to say that you're really beautiful 💜
I hope one day I can transition too 😭
I'm a transgender MtF too ^.^
You go! I'm sure you'll be able to! I'm ftm and I thought I would have never been able to transition, now I've been on hormones for 4 months. Don't give up, you'll make it one day!
It's not easy but the more people openly be themselves the better, so that one day in the future it will be :)
"You don't transition into anything." Yes you do. Are all the physical and mental changes not obvious to you? Many of which are permanent changes, or do you need to have your retinas examined by an ophthalmologist? Perhaps see a neurologist, and get an MRI done on your brain for white matter disease. 😂 We know we aren't becoming biological women, but we are transgender women. Gender and biology are not the same thing. You are the one that needs to understand such a simple concept, else you'll forever out yourself as being mentally disabled.
@@flocaffeine7505 awww thank you.
Wow that's amazing, I'm really happy for you!♥
@@LadyOfTheEdits Thanks a lot! I wish you the best of luck with your transition
Hey--I love how well-spoken you are. You never put the blame on yourself (as you never should.) If my boss came up to me and threw the 'so you're trans' line at me, I would instantly think I'm doing something wrong. I would feel like I need to apologize for something (it's ridiculous, I know ;_;.) But you clearly articulate that *he's* instilling that sense of paranoia in you. *He's* manufacturing that sense of unease and fear. It was nothing you did.
This was healing to listen to. Thank you
stay strong. dont let others determine your reality
@@oslatron damn right he is
@@oslatron haha yeah! It's literally been for years, obviously not just a phase.
Reality can differ for people, due to the fact that people do have their differences, also other variables do have their outcomes and impacts on life too.
@@itsMe_TheHerpes just admit it. your true attraction is with trans women...the truth will set you free
I felt your comment was like Adam Savage would say in Mythbusters
"I reject your reality and instead substitute myown reality"
Which I always thought was a pretty neat comment, as reality its self is subjective and relative.
🤷anyway, look at me getting deep in youtube comments😹
Omg, so sorry you went through that! Although i am not trans, as a woman who has experienced work place issues, I totally get the your feelings of unease and worry over your safety and job security. But, they are wrong and you shouldn’t have to feel bad in your own workplace environment:( i hope you find a job that treats you better soon!
Why do people think they should have dominion over someone because they know your “ little secret “. Very immature and ignorant behaviour by the manager
It shouldn’t matter in the workplace if someone is cis or trans. I’m really disturbed that people talk behind people’s backs, make issues out of other people’s identities. I’m glad you are a strong person but no one should have to go through this kind of situation. I hope some day we will be living in a world where people are more accepting and loving and being cis or trans is just a part of who we are as human beings.
I used to work for uk government and was bullied out of my work place when I came out as transgender.
Sue!
My son came out and blew my mind as a man. So I started researching to ease my mind. I say thank you for sharing your story I know different then his but kind of the same. You are a beautiful lady inside and out
I will put this here in case it helps anyone:
There is a legal policy called the Whistleblower’s policy; basically it protects people who report something in their workplace from getting unfairly treated (fired, fewer shifts, poor direct treatment) because of said report.
I’m not saying you should have but I feel like this fear is common and the law is on their side with this stuff
Like any halfwit is that stupid, you just kick them out for some other reason, no biggie
King Of Kings yeah but it’s not as easy as that.
If you’ve worked at a place for ages with a good record and not gotten into trouble and then conveniently get fired for “some other reason” a couple of days after dobbing, then it’s hard to cover that up
As a former hospitality manager I know for a fact that his question was improper and illegal... he should have reprimanded the gossipers in private. You are a very classy person. Pretty lady keep your head up.
You are amazing woman. I start my journey today on HRT
Congratulations!!
Sarah lynn yayyyy go you
He is a man, that will never change.
@@sweetguy19762 just shut the fuck up and leave please
@@sweetguy19762 You are wasting your time, that will never change.
You handle it very well and I hope all your future endeavors go better than this experience, but seeing how you handled it I can already tell you will rise above whatever comes your way.
Okay but I literally can't get over how pretty Maya is. omg
I admire the way you handled those two situations... I sometimes too hear transphobic and/or homophobic remarks in my (now ex) workplace and I just kinda freeze at first, out of fear and also out of surprise of what i just heard. I do sometimes speak up, even if it's never easy.
That is so unprofessional and unfair. Good for you for handling it so well.
Agreed on all points. No one should have to come out if they don’t want to and no one should have to be the one to educate others. Safety first my friends!!
Wow I cannot believe how inappropriate he handled that. He’s lucky you didn’t report him or quit. Sorry you had to deal with that.
I just found your channel and was afraid to click this video because I thought it was another cis person dissing the trans community so I looked at the comments first and I'm so glad that I watched this. I'm figuring out the safest route for me to work a part-time job as a non-binary person and it's been stressful. You're lovely and I can't wait to watch more of your videos.
And this is sadly why I no longer work anymore. I’m so grateful to have a partner that can provide for me. My last job was with the Canadian company, Shopify. I worked remotely, because I live in Ireland, and it was at the very start of my transition so my colleagues didn’t know. It was a weekly occurrence that my colleagues would make trans related jokes, many of them who were completely against any sort of transgender rights. Allowing transgender people to use the bathroom of their identified gender was so shocking to them. I couldn’t believe their mentality because I had been told Shopify was such an ultra open-minded company to work for... yeah right. I knew I couldn’t transition while working there and had to leave. It scared me away from ever wanting to work with people again, unless it was something exclusively lgbt related. What a sad world we live in. People say countries like Canada and Ireland are so liberal and friendly, but opinions and mentalities towards trans people are stuck in a 1950’s mentality whilst women’s and gay rights have advanced so far.
My best friend works for shopify in Ottawa. He told me during his interview they asked him his pronouns and everything (he's cis). I've never heard of anything like that about shopify. I have dealt with that though at another software company. It seems like when people don't know you're trans, they think they can get away with a lot more stuff than if they do know
Studio Gallifrey What bugged me most was that a lot of these transphobic remarks were being made from the very first week in training, right in front of our Canadian trainer, and she did absolutely nothing to stop it. You’re right, there was nobody visibly trans, so yeah, I guess they thought they could get away with saying a lot of crappy things. During training we would observe how Shopify employees ‘chatted’ to customers and I remember seeing a chat with a customer that had a fairly masculine name. The Shopify employee kept referring to this person as “sir” and when the customer told them that they were a “miss”, not a “sir”, the employee or “Shopify guru” clearly got offended and replied to the customer “well you told me your name is #### so that’s why I’m using sir”. I mean, instead of apologizing and correcting themselves, they insinuated that this person was a male because of a name and refused to accept otherwise. My manager didn’t see anything wrong with what that employee had said. I’m sure there’s a lot of great people working for Shopify at the main Ottawa office, but lately they’ve employed a lot of people remotely and standards are dropping rapidly.
Rachel that seems to be an increasingly bigger problem than when shopify was a new company. I guess the more employees they have, the harder time they're having regulating that stuff. Ugh. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that
Maybe because women make up half of the human population and have been publicly advocating for our rights for a longer period of time?
It’s because trans people are an attack on biological men and women. REAL men and women. We deserve rights and protections too.
I admire your courage ...... that word is discriminatory, im 66 alone , i listen to you everyday, you make me relax . You are an incredible person in so many ways . My name is James , thank you for being you.
Love you Maya!!! Thank you for sharing this❤️
Stay strong No manager that’s any good would never do what he did and bring those talking about you to a private room and speak to them about the problem they had with you. He would also never ask you to say something to all of them That’s not your job You seem like you’re very together with who you are both on the outside and inside. I can’t imagine what you go through with small minded ppl.
Thankfully the company I work for has some good policy on trans rights (though they are a bit out of date). Plus we have a bunch of people who stand up for LGBTQ+ rights and always behind our trans brothers and sisters if we have any. They also very supportive of me when I got attacked by TERFs this time last year.
I agree with other comments about how you have undoubtedly grown so much in the area of emotional honesty and emotional intelligence. I fear confrontation but what you said makes sense. If you're secure in who you are, you can see the situation clearly and it takes the sting out of it. I can't get that first part yet. But you're hella inspiring.
WHEN MAYA’S NOTIFICATION APPEARS ON MY PHONE 📱 ❤️❤️💕💕💕🙌🏻🙌🏻 AS ALWAYS YOU ARE AMAZING 😉
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This made me so uncomfortable, I'm so sorry you went through it. Their behavior was totally unacceptable & discriminatory. It turns my stomach, my heart goes out to you.
Im sorry this happened to you, you dont deserve that but im glad he apologized even though what he said was not okay.
It's already hard to deal with ignorance when you are a woman, then if you are trans, I understand from your stories, it gets much much harder. Anyway, you surely taught the guy a lesson and your general manager gives me the impression of wanting to help you but overdoing things, namely taking over. As a woman is important that you learn to become assertive with guys in general because they always tend to patronize you in a way or another.
Freaking jerks people just don't put themselves into other people's shoes, and it shows
Doing that drags yu into shit..thats why yu don't do that. I am 20 now and when I was 17 I started to see patterns of behavior like never before..there's a reason why no on looks at one another while passing by on the street..we "bs glance around" or at our phones. Yu better do either of the two otherwise yu will have some interesting/troubling anxiety, paranoia and unplesant escalations with ppl..Yu can't go out, have a good time and expect a call back from that person or solid hangout plans later. ..it dsnt work that way usually. Or they want something from you, dragg yu dwn in someway...
We can't put ourselves in their shoes because we know it's wrong and can not relate
I don't want to put my feet in other people's shoes, especially women's shoes!
Aww Maya I'm so sorry those incidents happened to you at you workplace, you are such a wonderful person, I would be happy to have you as my coworker. People can be so ignorant and immature.
The manager was totally over the line on this and you should have sued him for defamation of character!
First of all thank you for your channel .
It is important to correct anyone that is transphobic or prejudice in a work environment, bringing it to management attention most of the time produces the desired effect. In less management mishandles the infraction and or is prejudicial itself. I work in a male dominated industry and have recently came out as transgender and indeed there is much discrimination but there is also
It's a shame.people can't just be nice to each other ,I have never had a problem with transgender people,why should I ,they live their life and I live mine ,I have found some.trans people very attractive people ,but even if I didn't live and let live ,how about the golden rule if nothing else.I wish you well and safety .
I worked at a Bath and Body Works in Canada and a lot of the males on staff were gay, so I felt pretty safe and happy there, and then one night during closing my gay male manager started going on a rant about he supported Trump lmao. Other LGBT people in the workplace can be just as insane or even self-hating. I was lucky to have a place with an owner whose brother is gay and who hired very diversely so we had a team full of cool and largely accepting people, I can't imagine how many fights I would start out in the parking lot if my coworkers outed me and I found out they were gossiping.
Aloha Maya! You are so good & beautiful! I am sorry that you have to go through all that stuff!
it'sMe TheHerpes If Maya is not happy I am not happy!
Thank you for sharing your story. The more society hears these stories, the better it will be for everyone, even non-trans people, as there are many ways to be.