the truth about being transgender: my detransition story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ม.ค. 2023
- This was a difficult video to post knowing the inevitable backlash that people who criticise the LGBT community receive. I've always been someone who strives for truth and fairness so I think it's important to share my story so that we can understand the effects that exposure to certain ideas can have on young children. It's a conversation that's only just starting to be had but I hope it ends with less children going through what I did.
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I am a 39-year-old trans woman and I firmly believe that there should be more gatekeeping for transitioning, there needs to be better education about the risks involved, and there are some very serious risks for anyone medically transitioning. I am happy that you did find your true self and I am sorry that the journey had to take you down a potentially dangerous path. As far as your trans friends shunning you for detransitioning, they weren't real friends. A real friend doesn't care if you are trans or not, they should care that you are happy with who you are no matter where you are on your journey to find yourself.
I hope you are happy now. What you say is so kind, thoughtful and true.
as there isnt enough gatekeeping already, you wanna add more???
Yes, much more education on side effects, long term, FEELINGS but, the facts on how, medically, what you go through. The taking of pills, as well as the pain of healing, procreation. It really is going to shorten life expectancy.
Lately, It seems glorified and a trend. I just am so worried that there's so much emphasis on making A DECISION NOW. Something so personal and intimate, should be looked at with hundreds of 100s of "what if" questions. In this case, in every case, there are no stupid questions. Explore everything as deep and far as you can. I can promise one thing in life...things change. Situations, feelings, science, literally everything changes whether we want them to or not. Love and light to all.
@@tcniatcniatcnia there’s not
@@georgia.newman There is. I won’t transition yet because of where I live. I don’t feel like being killed for expressing myself, so I’m going to move before I get to be happy. Anyway it’s less gatekeeping and more of most of the world wants you to die and go to hell or whatever for just existing.
i’m a detransitioned teenage girl (ftmtf) and you’re right. my mental health was terrible and i hated my body, therefore i thought the way out was to transition. glad i haven’t, because i don’t want to permanently damage my body.
take care always. i hope you'll find what you are looking for in life and have inner peace. ❤️
and the fact that our internal misogyny also gets out once we fall into the rabbit hole.. take care, sister, from a detrans teen gal to a detrans teen gal
@@darlingyouidiot how i've missed being called 'sister' haha!! thank you, lots of love!!
most teens hate their body when we have edited touched up photos plastered all over as role models
fr, i think all trans people are mentally not okay. mutilating ur body isnt the solution, therapy and help is needed ngl. im really happy for u queen :D
So happy for her she didn’t do anything irreversible. ❤ totally normal to have a “tomboy” phase, or to feel uncomfortable during puberty.
it's also totally normal for a 'tomboy phase' to last forever...well it has done in my case [so far], and I'm 62 now 😀
Me too....I'm 68
Tomboy (she’ll grow out of it) is quite normal for some girls. However for a boy, being a “sissy” has stigma attached
I’m the parent of a trans kid (ftm). I had a tomboy phase / gender dysmorphia for most of my childhood (5 to early 20s). There is a lot of pressure on kids now to physically transition as early as possible. I’m just trying to slow mine down enough to grow into themselves and make informed choices. He is socially transitioned, but I really don’t believe he can give informed consent to irreversible changes yet, or that he can be absolutely certain how his path will unfold at 14 (gender identity is a journey). Of course I’m going to love him whatever path he takes, but as the mum I feel I need to protect his right to have all the information and the maturity to make informed choices…
Do you know where she is at. it's beautiful
this video honestly made me realize i only want to transition because of my past experiences of sexual abuse and the fact that i dont want to be sexualized by men. thank you, i will try to understand myself better
I'm convinced I would have thought I was trans if I was a child nowadays instead of in the 90s. When I was a kid, I was just a bullied, depressed tomboy and I eventually started to feel better about myself once I got older. I'm so glad I got to have the opportunity of learning to love myself.
Unfortunately there isn’t enough education about trans people (Possible because of angry parents), a depressed kid today will hear someone talking about how much better they feel after their transition and automatically assume it will work for them too even tho they aren’t trans and are just confused.
Right. We never dealt with any of this. I remember when I was like 8, I felt like my body was more broad like a boy kinda, I didn't like it but I wasn't depressed about it either and I knew I had to grow. These kids need to consume 0 media.
@@candyluna2929 we used to refer to those female body types as amazons. Warrior stock.
I had (still have) the same physique. My native American/Welsh ancestors were built for hard labor. I knew i would never be a delicate little flower. I was a thistle. You can't ride horses and climb trees if you're a scrawny little waif!
If i had wanted a boyfriend i would have been sad. However...i didn't want a BOY or a friend. I wanted a MAN. A husband (some day) and i was in no hurry. The few times i did have a boyfriend he was nothing but a troublesome stumbling block. Immature, hormonal, smelly, unintelligent.
@@frogs3338 And how many "confused" cases are there? Is it possible all of them are just confused?
@@clouds-rb9xt The majority are just going through the difficulty of puberty.. or have you forgotten how that time in your life could be day to day...
I'm a transgender person and I can honestly say I hate a lot of what the modern transgender community has become. They say they want to be loved and accepted for who they are while at the same time being hateful towards people and having no acceptance of people with differing opinions and no acceptance for detransitioners. And at the same time push these stuff onto other people thinking they're life will be so much better afterwards and not saying a word of what negative stuff could possibly happen afterwards. You're an amazing person and thank you for sharing your story. And I think after this youre going to be getting support from so many people. Wish you all the best in whatever the future brings.
No, you are not.
"Transgend3r" and "person" are two distant things.
Tr@ns things are not peopIe.
@Dylan Peddle
Anyone deserves to be loved and accepted. I think that there should be more trans & detrans solidarity.
By the way, it's cool that there is a guy like you. I expected that there would be only transphobic mad conservatives who uses detrans people to prove their anti-human views.
@@soldatensieg hitler thinking, I am so sorry for miserable people like you
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I think you brought up a good point-puberty is hard-children need to know how hard it is.
Wtf. Every kid knows puberty is hard. Not ever child is suicidal BECAUSE of their puberty.
No, but puperty can be very challenging, even if you have like a dream childhood. Your body changes, your brain changes your thoughts etc. It can be very confusing and difficult and I think we underestimate puperty and the importance of it and how teenagers are should be supported in this time
@@neurotikayeah, you know everybody so can answer for everybody. Most schools can’t teach real sexual education so children are unaware what’s happening. I had a friend thinking he was dying because he had wet dreams. He had no clue about it. My best friend didn’t get taught about menstruation. She though you got it, voila, you’re a woman. She didn’t know she’d get a period every month. Don’t get me started on my perverse neighbors who are raising Christian soldiers and they have no clue about anything. They will be perfect prey for predatory adults. So no, not every child knows about puberty and knows it will be hard.
Tell me about it I had to Transition 15 times just to get thru puberty
@@neurotika How could they ever known if they've never been through it? Yeah maybe going through it and near the end they realized it was hard but when they first start out they have no idea bro!
What an intelligent and articulate young woman. Why can't we be having this debate more openly in the current madness?
Because the goal of the handlers is to butcher as many young people as possible.
Because the prince of the power of the air.
I figure it's because, if people _ever_ stop believing gender's foundation to be choice, and begun to believe gender's foundation to be objective biological characteristics, then the medical corporations that provide sex-change surgeries and hormone therapies would make less money.
maybe bc you call it madness
The other side knows they'd lose, hence why they play on emotions, especially fear, rather than use rational arguments. Transgender isn't the problem, self-identifying as the opposite sex is. Unfortunately, a cult based on self-ID ideology arose & has successfully managed to redefine trans to mean self-ID. It's time to separate the two.
I also used too see myself as non binary but never came out, now I’m glad about that lol. I’m starting to take pride in my femininity AND masculinity, as a woman. And I am in love with your glow of self love!🤍
As you should. Nothing wrong with either one of those. The people around you who truly love you should support you for being you. It’s a shame this is being pushed upon our youth. There are all walks of life and everybody brings something positive to the table. Let’s celebrate that and grow humanity with that in mind vs all the division we see today.
I'm sure that I if I had heard of the non binary identity in my early twenties I would have identified that way. I used to identify as androgynous even though I was never parading my identity around like a lot of young people do. Now I am almost 40, happy to be a woman and loving my masculine side too.
yaaas, yin yang
Delete your masculinity men don't like masculine energy on women if your into man of course
Taking pride in feminity and masculinity. What is that?
I was a child in the '90s. I come from a generation where being a tomboy was considered normal for many girls; nobody cared about it. I had some "tomboy-ish moments" myself just because I didn't like skirts and dresses; I wasn't at ease with puberty as well transitioning from a young girl to a young woman brought some challenges and questioning, and there was nothing wrong or abnormal with that.
It terrifies me because I probably would have fallen for this ideology if I were that same teen in today's world using social media.
Your video is fantastic, stay strong.
Same here.
Fellow 90' tomboy here. Completely agree with your comment. I wear male clothes and had realy short hair and no one told me to be more girly because I was. Nobody cared about my looks or not so girly hobbies. I was just this one girl that was a tomboy. And I grew up and I start to wear make up and stuff but my hobbies are still the same. But I am still asking myself what if social media asked back then about my gender and it is really scary.
@@ankaro4258 Ya exactly, what's ironic is that this movement constantly scream for tolerance and diversity, but by jumping on the trans wagon it is like they are not allowing kids to just be themselves, the reasoning of some of these people is as stupid as "if my girl don't like pink it's because she must be a boy inside" crazy.
Tomboys stem from 70’s and beyond.
@@bridgwll ya what’s your point?
As someone who’s FTM
Thank you for being so calm throughout the video. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I do think a lot of people mix up the experience of depression and puberty with gender dysphoria.
I do believe that people should have to go the therapy to transition and should have to be 18 the problem is people who don’t let their kids social transition because I think that would help with them figuring themselves out.
Transitioning is definitely not a fix all for body image issues and depression.
I’m lucky enough to have a mom who isn’t your stereotypical girl imagine. She likes hunting and fixing cars and doing things people would label aimed towards men because I think growing up that sit a line for me to understand that girls don’t have to be feminine or girly.
I love my mom even if she doesn’t agree with me.
There’s nothing wrong with loving those activities. I taught my daughter how to hunt, I show her how to work on cars, etc etc. a girl can like those things and still love being feminine. They aren’t mutually exclusive. As long as you can love yourself, that’s all that matters. I wish you well.
Im kinda in a transition stage in my life. I thought i was part o the LGBTQ community for almost 3 years now and im just relizing that i was heavily miss guided. I now face the fact that i need to come out to my friends as straight which i find to be very hard. I dont want to be desowned by my very "woke" friends and im scared that everyone else will think i was lying to get attetntion. The fact is that for many years I truly belived I was anything but staright. I have this inner hate for myself because i am straight and im so angry that i was so miss guided by the media. There were times when i even belived I was non binary or trans. I just wanna go back and undo all the damage that was done to me.
This is absolutely terrifying and horrible! Please wake up and I pray you get some “normal” people in your life. It is so scary this is how the young generation has been weaponized
Go out of this "bubble" your in and get yourself other friends. It's completely normal to change your mind about things in years. You have to live your life and not be a nice prop for your friends lives. That doesn't apply just for this topic but for life in general.
In 2003, my friends (mostly lesbians, gay and bisexual) made a short film about exactly what you're describing Talia. (In jest of course - as if this could never happen to anyone on earth... because back then, being openly gay was still extremely fringe and not at all accepted by the vast majority of people.) I remember thinking to myself that this scenario wasn't impossible. I'm so sorry you have suffered and it's understandable to be scared to lose friends! We can't go back in time, but we can take everything we've learned with us - just like this young woman Jamie has done. I believe that owning who you really are, being honest and kind to yourself and others (even if people's responses are not very kind or accepting towards you) and taking each day at a time will get you through it. I'm sure there is a supportive community of people who can relate. God bless you!
Friends should make us comfortable not the opposite. Peers sounds more like what you are referring to and that pressure is exhausting. It's nobody's business what your sexual preference is just remember that.
You are still unique if you are straight. Don't let others stop you from being yourself. In addition, doubting your feelings and looking for yourself is normal. I'm really happy for you! The fact that you found out who you are is amazing. You are valid and loved, including your history and your sexuality ☀️
I'm detransitioning back to a man after 50+ years. It's hard! You are a beautiful soul. Live your life!
What made you transition in the first place if i might ask? Like What did you feel and when? What male feelings did you have that made you think you needed to transition to a man? And why are you now de-transitioning back now?
You should make your own video on this it would be very interesting
I would love to hear your story.
No judgement here, it’s just that I’m not transgender and I’m seeking out life experiences of people who did transition to get a better understanding of what inner-battles they may be dealing with.
@@Dmd265 Thank you, Marie. That is something I am thinking about. My problem is that I am a rather secretive and yet at the same time a public person though so it does require some thought.
@@AshleyCarewArt Thank you.
This is so true about people today : "Aligned their identity so fully with their gender or sexuality."
That’s 50% of the problem.
Well why are those of us who are actually trans being blamed?
My friend I want to ask why do you think this is? Why do you think minority groups in America who are threatened by law, society, and mistreatment tend to identify heavily and almost make proud their race, sexuality etc, and identify so hard with these factors? Could it be that when you and your community are mistreated for that common factor of being black, trans, Hispanic, etc by mainstream society you tend to stick with and identify with that identity that is under attack. As well as the identity becoming a resistance against that mistreatment, pride in the face of attack. Trans pride is a response to trans hate, black power is a response to racism and white supremacy in America, etc. So people are so identified with it because it's being attacked, no one is saying "hey I'm trans I'm gay I'm special" it's hey I'm trans in the face of a country that doesn't seem to want me to exist and makes me feel lesser for being. I'm standing here proud of this factor, I am effectively looking to be resistance to the mistreatment.
or race
@@denverrsouthers5531 who are you to say who's actuallt trans? its a mindset
When i was 12 I started the transition and i started to identify as a trans men, and i started to isolate myself from my family and i started to take some testosterone pills ( against my parents) , and now i really regret. and if i made some kind of surgery or something like that for be a Man, i would regret this for the rest of my life, cause i was just a confused child.
I’m sorry you went through that
How did you get the testosterone pills if your parents were against you taking them?
This is what happens when first world kids have nothing better to do, like looking for your next meal. Haha is the direction we are heading towards
@@markomark9587What? How judgmental can a person be? How do you know that is a “first world kid” just by a TH-cam comment? 🙄 ugh.
@appleannz because noone in the 3 world country can think about this crap . They have more important things to do for their living and survival.
How many did you know " transkids" when you were growing up BEFORE INTERNET ???? NONE!!!
same with anorexia. I was born in Soviet Union where we often had empty refrigerator and you know what ??? Noone have ever tried to starve yourself even more.
Same with gender crap . If there were boys who looked small or weak or girlish -- they were drafted to the army for 2 years at the age of 18 and guess what happened??? They returned as grown up men.
So, fix your head first yourself before you try to put crap into my throat.
Otherwise, I start saying that I identify as a cat and don't you dare to say that I am crazy....you will be catophobic.
America has SERIOUS issues with the society and woke evil democrats are largely to blame.
This is really weird to watch with where I live. I needed 3 psychological evaluations to get bottom surgey. And even horomones I need a year of therapy. I transitioned when I was older(by that I mean 18) so that makes it even weirder for me to see this. Especially since I grew up around a trans sibling and friends. But I never really thought about my body issues until I was 17. Even than I only realized I was trans when tried really hard to be a man
Edit: I agreed with most of the video. Just got to the end. I was with you through out all of this. But they do tell you the changes of testosterone is permanent? They have to, legally tell you that. So either your doctor was shit or you didn’t really get close to transitioning other than socially. Which is why it’s always recommended to socially transition before medically. Cause than you can realize it was not you. Like you did
Which country do you live in? They don't need to tell you the changes. That isn't legal, even if it is, the government doesn't care. The law is only for fascists. Speaking as a former anti-fascist. There are exceptions for more trivial matters like transitions. It's not awful or life altering, or so I was told by others of the community.
I am no longer of that spectrum, but I still somewhat believe in their way of thinking, which is essentially as I just said. Peer pressure, take advantage of mentally unstable, and take advantage of loopholes in law. Ringleaders are trying to get more supporters, and the greater plan requires them to stir up hate and such. They need more fodder. They are paid to do so, anyone would do such things if they were being paid millions. Who wouldn't?
In the USA, as a child you need extensive testing from mental health professionals to get care beyond social transition/presentation (haircut and a nickname.) It has to be persistent and consistent for a kid to get anything medical. As an adult, the informed consent model requires the doctor to walk you through the side effects point-by-point. When I started on testosterone, I had to sign off on each section of side effects (bottom growth, hair growth, body recomposition, voice changes.) I signed my legal name maybe 12 times and was given a printout to take home. It was very thorough. I was fortunate to have a clinic near me that does informed consent. A larger gender clinic took a year just for me to get an appointment with them. The gatekeeping is strong and I agree with it.
I think a lot of kids especially say "I transitioned!" when really they got a haircut and a nickname. People assume children are getting surgeries but the actual number of kids medically transitioning are very low. The woman in the video is right though, Trans is the new Goth and as a trans adult it can be very annoying to see children treat this identity as a frivolous trend. It really takes away from trans kids who experience extreme dysphoria and belittles their experiences.
I think she got puberty blockers mixed up with testosterone? cause ive never heard anyone say that testosterone is irreversible
The thing is, if x guy thinks she is a girl, the moment he opens up to someone about it there's barely anyone who will question that he's not that, they'll lure him into believing it even if initially he was just questioning it, regardless of if he actualy wants to be a girl deep down, and if someone says something that would make this guy turn back for a moment, they're transphobic and he shouldnt listen to the hater. Suddenly without realising x is now as you call it socially transitioned, and not even a psychologist will question it, he may now take hormones and get through irreversible changes, since he already socially transitioned. The act of medical transition will give you warnings along the way? Yes, but socially transitioning will not and thats the issue. Everything needs to be able to be questioned by anyone, its not the same if you only see one side of the coin. In this comment section if you scroll for a bit you can see quite a lot of stories of others who de transition, most of them admit to be confused or having thought that their struggles would be solved if they transitioned, so if its a common issue why cant people bring it up as a point when others are questioning their gender?
@@kellmedd4925"as a former anti-fascist" so what are you now exactly
As an old granny I have become convinced it’s best to live as a medical minimalist getting only a short list of surgeries
You do know they call talk like this transdenial and transgenocide.
@@jamegumb7298 I call it common sense to not put one's body through unnecessary harm and trauma.
@@jamegumb7298 guess what? Those labels don't mean anything. They're ad hom attacks to get people to shut up, have them lose their jobs and kids. People are going to increasingly not give a shit what a lobby of mentally unwell people throw at them, particularly as civilization collapses. People are waking up. The March of progressive white women ideology is heading towards reality. Guess which one will lose.
@@thephotoandthestory `White supremacist racist says what?
@@jamegumb7298 again, another asinine, baseless and stupid insult. You can call me whatever you want. But don't blame me when you regret your bottom surgery.
Oh my days. What an amazing young woman. Every youngster needs to see this.
So much truth .
Get this in schools now! 👍
Transgenderism is not real science. It's based on humans feeling that can change any moment. Many will irreversibly damaged themselves mentally and physically by going through gender changes such as mutilation and taking tons of nasty synthetic chemicals. Transgenderism is result of fragile one's feeling that do not represent objective truth. It's pure narcissism.
@@jensiash6660 Of course your kid must be aware of the transgender choices they want to make, but there's nothing wrong with being trans, your kid is not a "crazy trans kid". Let your child freely find who they are, no matter if they are trans or not. When you choose to have kids, you must be conscious that they may be disabled/ part of the lgbtq+ community/ have mental health issues/ etc, its not something they can control. I totally understand that the trans stuff may be a little complicated to you, but if you do some research, you can better help and support your child find who they are, without forcing any kind of identity other than their real one. It's a process that takes time, your child is just trying to figure out their identity. And there's nothing wrong with it. The transgender agenda is NOT destroying families, they are just trying to raise awareness. We should always try to have empathy, and put ourselves in others' shoes, it's a hard time when you're confused with your own identity, support and acceptance from relatives are always welcomed! xoxo
@@mfdoomlistener_ How bout we leave children alone? If they want to transition as adults, fine. Let's wait till their frontal lobes are fused together before they make such life altering decisions by themselves.
@@jensiash6660 You have to be careful to not confront your kid and make things worse. Your goal is to help them to be happy and to figure out why they feel that discomfort with their body, it's important to communicate without aggression and being someone your kid can trust. Work together, seek therapy for you both and don't focus on "not being trans". You don't have to change your views, just be smarter.
@@rainydaze9318 wdym by leaving children alone- im totally aware of how life altering those decisions can be, my point was to explain to the parent that for now, while their kid is a still child, the best thing they can do is to show support to their kid, not to encourage those life changing decicions, for now. i dont get ur point..
Hello I currently identify as transmasculine and I am reflecting on wether I want to transition or not and to what extent.
Videos like your's are very helpful because I can learn from your mistakes and compare my experience to yours.
I think videos are not only valuable to people who misidentify as trans but also for people who are just discovering that they are trans.
I for example am becoming more and more sure that transitioning is right for me and videos like your's also make me really deeply reflect and take my time with decision making which is good.
So thank you for your video :)
what does "transmasculine" mean for you ? is it different form just " masculine" or "man" ? To what do you identify with exactly ?
Im genuinely curious
What a smart young woman. As a trans man I agree with most everything you said. I am so glad you are giving voice to the issues of today. On behalf of the ENTIRE LGBTQ🏳️🌈 I APOLOGIZE for the behavior of some of the members of our alliance. Please remember I, myself, at least respect you very much. Please continue your work. It is indispensable
Back in the day 90's you used to go through at least two years of therapy to ensure there was not another reason people wanted to trans because sometimes it's trauma from abuse of body dysphoria. Mermaids lobbied and got rid of this safeguard. I hope it comes back as it is a great safety net to help those genuinely trans and those that aren't
Transgenderism is not real science. It's based on humans feeling that can change any moment. Many will irreversibly damaged themselves mentally and physically by going through gender changes such as mutilation and taking tons of nasty synthetic chemicals. Transgenderism is result of fragile one's feeling that do not represent objective truth. It's pure narcissism.
It should be increased (tripled) not reduced.
This is true it was a big process and it wasn't even thought about if you were a kid
It’s truly shocking how so much safeguarding has been(and is still being) erased. I cannot fathom why that is happening. The only conclusion I can come to is that it’s ideological forces pushing for policy change. Maybe they don’t care about the risks and harm because they just care about maximising their own personal choices and freedoms.
The tide is turning though, thank goodness. It’s unfortunate that people really had to wait to see the (inevitable) disastrous real world consequences before they started to wake up and fight this.
@@onepartyroule People voted into positions due to being popular rather than being qualified.
The threat of negative publicity attacking their income.
Emotional blackmail.
Those are some of the ways this had evolved to the ridiculous point it has now. And yes, it's all selfishly driven.
But as you say the tide is turning (although we should never have had a tide).
i started transitioning socially to male at 15. i'm 20 now and have largely cast out those feelings of transness and accepted myself for the woman i am. it's still very difficult and i'm struggling to find who i am after losing her for 4/5 years but at least i know that i'm on the right path now. i'm just glad i never took any medical steps either! thank you for opening up and sharing your experience, of everyone who's posted about detransition i've never found someone who is as similar to me as you are x
She didn't get lost, she was always there and now she's determined to be seen....as she should.
Walk tall and proud with her because she's going to get you through your toughest moments in life.
We see you ❤️
She
Good for you Sophie, gl with your journey. 👏
The first time I finally stopped being self conscious about my body or sex was when I was 25, when I first walked around the apartment shirtless(w/ bra on) while having some people around. It helped that I'm roommates with two gay guy friends who are shirtless a lot. But that moment was the first time I mustered showing that much skin, I thought the anxiety would cripple me but it didn't. I felt good about my body. For background, I'm nonconforming and the first time I wore shorts was when I was 17. Gender ideology politics would not survive here in my country because we don't have a native word nor concept of modern 'gender', only biological sex and that's what matters.
You cannot find what is already there but you can get to know yourself. It takkes time to develop your passions, beliefs and moral character and in the meantime we feel lost.
Don't beat yourself up in the meantime friend. Your mind won't finish developing until you're 25 and in that time period you will discover so much about yourself. Until then find purpose, find God and just give love into the universe so that it may come back to you.
Society is lost and we deal with the negative repercussions of a lost society. Families are broken and due to this we have no sense of community and belonging and generations before us did but it is okay to not know at times and it is okay to be alone.
I hope these words have some meaning and hope all is well in your life. ❤
I love it when the cat appears at 2:30 ... It is like the cat is also giving support to her.
Yes!!
This public story means so much to me. I identified as trans for a while because I was very uncomfortable and hateful about my body and later realized that I had probably thought that if I was in a boy's body, maybe I would like myself more. There needs to be de transitioners shouting their stories from the rooftops for girls like me and other confused young girls. This is such a powerful story and thank you so much for sharing this with the world
but like you didn't start hrt or anything, so like ... isn't it okay to explore gender with a soft transition ... ? I am failing to see what harm came from this except that you feel as though it was harmful to you. Do you think you just have internalized transphobia?
@VioletJewel1729 i definently don't have internalized transphobia. I know im a girl now, I was simply confused before. It was harmful to myself to treat myself as someone who I was not and am not. My point was with this comment that in my own experience and many other experiences, people can become confused or influenced into thinking they're another gender when they're just uncomfortable with themselves. Obviously im not saying this about people who truly do feel like another gender, im just saying that it does indeed happen
@@rysanctuary so then do you think that the radical acceptance of careful care of trans minors to ensure that they get the help that they need after ensuring that they consistently and persistently identify as trans is working fairly well considering that the detransition rate for minors is less than 2.5% (
Also, would you consider someone who didn't pursue HRT or anything beyond "soft transition" but then decided that they were mistaken a "detransitioner"?
This might not sound like it makes sense but this whole things reminds me of the anorexia & ednos epidemic that took hold of us in the 90s/00s.
As someone who was hospitalised for anorexia, so many aspects of this are giving me deja vu. When Dr's tell you about the long term consequences of doing this to yourself, it doesn't sink in because you've made this illness your whole identity, you felt lost, confused and overwhelmed before and now you drown out real life with this issue.
There were people who didn't fit the diagnostic criteria for anorexia because they were a healthy weight and they made a new diagnosis, eating-disorder not otherwise specified. There were even people who advocated for a weight category to be removed from the diagnostic criteria for AN because they wanted the diagnosis but they weren't skinny. And it was offensive to think otherwise, you had to respect their self-diagnosis.
The only major difference was that no sane person or health professional would've allowed any adolescent to pursue their goal of starving themselves to death while saying "ok if you think you're fat, we will call you fat and help you lose weight!"
Body Dysmorphia is a real thing, especially prevailant in young people whose bodies are quickly changing, and the effects of it are manifesting differently today.
I think body dysmorphia isn't quite the right word. It needs to focus on the mind, not the body.
@@barbarasimons3762 perhaps you're right it's somewhat of an identity crisis
@@hayley8907 That's why it's so repulsive they mutilate their bodies for something that requires a mental solution.
anorexia and now gender disphoria are examples of cults. Everyone who disagrees is seen as "them" as opposed to "us". I was in the cult of Scientology and can see so many parallels in the mentality and the way people are welcomed into the beliefs and then ostracised if they try to change their mind.
@@juliesheard2122 Exactly.
This is a great film, so well explained.
I am over 60 and as a young girl I longed to be a boy. I liked boys cloths and toys. In games I wanted to be the king, the knight, the horse or dog, anything but the princess or queen. I was jealous of boys.
I did fancy men from a very young age and I was attracted to some women too but not sexually, just longed to be near them. If becoming transgender had been a thing that was possible then, by that I mean talked about and accepted. I would have probably wondered if that was what I wanted.
I studied agriculture. I was the first girl from a large London comprehensive to do this. I drove tractors as one of my first jobs. I now mostly wear trousers and was so happy when my children were boys as I had the excuse to get all the boys toys to play with (so I could play with them too). I made sure they had lots of girls toys to play with too and a whole mix of dressing up stuff.
I am very glad to be married and to be a mum. Being a woman is wonderful once you understand that you don’t have to be “typical”?
I wish you happiness and love in your life.
It's funny that everyone having this conversation is a woman. Us males aren't pressured into being feminine. When I transitioned at 14 I had nothing to lose, I was going to end my life. So I ended up throwing the life I knew away. Stop attacking all of us because a bunch of confused girls.
Thanks for sharing 🙂
@@denverrsouthers5531 no one is attacking you, I hope your transition went well and that you feel better. No one would wish transition or detransition on anyone that didnt require it for their gender dysphoria
there is nothing at all wrong with wanting any of this! there's nothing wrong with wanting to do "boy" things and still maintaining that you're a girl. there's nothing wrong with transitioning from female to male. there are different ways to be female, we need to continue to have conversations about things like this, about how there are multiple ways to be feminine or masculine. Nobody is saying you should have transitioned because you like "boy" things. the problem is that the conversation has shifted from "there are multiple ways to experience femininity" to "you're trans because you don't experience femininity in a specific way".
@@fancydeer ok I'm glad to understand that your point of view isn't one filled with hate. I'm totally against telling a child they're trans but when a child tells you they're trans it's a different story. I want people to hear my voice and know that we're not all horror stories. Stopping male puberty saved my life, male puberty was the most horrible thing ever. All my friends were turning into women and getting beautiful but I felt like I was turning into a monster. Nobody should be forced to watch their body grow into something that feels wrong.
Thank you for sharing this! So many people are struggling with this and need to hear your message.
I'm gay, and not transphobic. There are trans people, but the numbers are way smaller than what is happening today. But I basically left the LGBabc123 community as soon as I learned that kids were only being "gender affirmed" without question, and not letting them be kids and explore who they are. I think this has a huge social contagion to it, especially with the rise of social media, and all these young kids are being pulled into the hype. It terrifies me to think if I grew up in today's society, I remember crying myself to sleep, wishing God had made me a girl instead of being a gay man so bad. If I had tiktok as a kid in the 90's... I could have had a very difficult life for no reason.
The history of social contagions is quite startling, particularly in generations of young girls, and a lot has to do with not being comfortable in your changing body. Anorexia, cutting, and gender dysphoria, are all serious emotional issues that spread like wildfire in young people and can be tracked in huge spikes in numbers every 20 years or so. I'm so happy you were able to get out before any permanent and irreversible surgeries.
These experimental gender-affirming ideologies on children need to stop! Children and teens have no understanding of what they are getting into for the rest of their lives, no matter how much you explain it to them.
you don't think the same can be said about homosexuality?
the detrans rate is less than 1% but okay. go off with your transmedicalist rhetoric that is harmful to trans people whether you're transphobic or not. it's ironic considering that society is just getting over "gay panic" and "the contagion of gayness"........ oh well........
@@NKanchevfulIf he literally is only attracted to men then he is gay. SOME people try to say they are gay or bi in order to fit in or be cool, but that is not true of every gay person. Dudes get legitimately disgusted when being intimate with a woman so why would he pretend to love a woman and lie to her just for you to be comfortable?
@@doid4354 who says theyre bi for "popularity"? like im bi and pretty much the least popular person ever. i think anyone can have any opinions they want, however being bi lowkey ruined my life. dont get me wrong, im pretty happy with myself now but getting yelled slurs at me isnt exactly what i'd call "popular"-
@@qu1gsley I should have specified, I saw a lot of girls growing up who said they were bi to appear sexier to boys. (Because dudes love to objectify sapphic relationships). They were faking it to get men’s attention.. they weren’t actually bi. That’s not all women obviously, but just a trend I noticed in the 2010s at least when i was in school
Brace yourself jamie, your on the verge of being a TH-cam phenomena. Brett of course decided to share your amazing story.
I know I came here and found out about this video after watching Brett's video. I wish more amazing stories like this will become more well-known.
@@dylanpeddle6859 To be honest, if it gains too much traction TH-cam will scrub it as "hate speech".
@@hunterslaptop7024so true TH-cam deletes searches from my search history all the time
@@hunterslaptop7024 true
@@dylanpeddle6859 same
i am a trans man and i agree with every point you’ve made - it’s becoming cult-like and dangerous
woman*
You are not a man.
Maybe wo-man, but never a man.
You are a woman, not a man.
Jesus Christ is the ONLY answer. ❤😇🙏🙌
"i'm the token trans person that anti-trans people use as a bullet against other trans people"
around four years ago i too started feeling “trans” and thought that the only way out was being more male presenting to kill all this feelings of hatred towards myself that i was feeling. i never came out, i kept it all to myself, i warped my own memories to try and justify that i was “indeed trans”, because it all “made sense” why growing up other girls didnt want me around, why i hated dresses, why i refused to even start wearing make up and all your stereotypical “girl” things. i kept growing up, my body changed and it was turned against me, i really wanted to get rid of my breasts, at the ripe age of 13 years old.
im glad i never came out.
i too would’ve grown to be a detransitioner
i dont wanna make this too long but i figured out that to be a woman is what i chose it to be and and mean to me, if i enjoy more stereotypical “dude” stuff that doesnt mean im a guy, i still sometimes want to get rid of my chest but not because its too “femme” purely bcs it ruins some outfits that with a small chest theyd look pretty neat.
i found out that i am is defined my myself, not all these labels floating around in this digital era.
i am me, very simply just me. i am a woman, i am not femme but that is more than ok, i am still a girl and yes i am me
Thank you for your honesty and candidness. You are helping MANY people, especially children who will hear this
The part where you admit that you now "dream to have children" had me in tears. I'm a male so its not the se but i grew up my whole life thinking i didnt want kids, and now i really want kids. I could not imagine losing that biological ability to have children. Im very happy for you to weather through the storm and come out stronger on the other side
Yeah! I thought the same thing! Especially the part where she says that children should try to understand their parents, it's not like a grown ass woman is making children feel guilty for not being close to their parents... What a world is this! Immature adults raising children and then they complain... please dont have children, especially people like you and this woman 😅
@@mateocastillo7560are you ok?
Thank God it didn't come to that. This is a gentle young lady, just the type that children need ❤
A lot of people tend to push aside detrans and see it as a thing that doesn’t happen. I believe gender identity is complicated and you aren’t going to know it easily. It takes a lot of time. I’m glad that this video got on the popular side. Younger people are always figuring themselves out, even when they’re older. This is why getting therapy is good, talking with parents. Recently I told my father I was questioning being transgender and we had a lengthy private conversation (that I won’t share here). I am open to change. I am open to being cis or trans, whatever happens I know my family will still love me. It’s sad that people think it’s “cool” to hate your parents. I love my family they are awesome. Gender identity and sexuality are so confusing. Detrans people are real, detrans people are valid, and acknowledging detrans people isn’t transphobic.
Acknowledging detrans people isn’t transphobic. What is transphobic is believing they make a significant enough proportion of the trans population to make widespread medical and legal changes that put the other 99% of trans people who are happy at increased risk of suicide and discrimination. Also purposefully ignoring that a lot of detrans people do so out of societal pressure, or decide they’re non binary. It’s ok to be detrans but don’t assume anything else about other trans people. Your life is yours and theirs is theirs.
There's not really any confusion. You can tell your gender by looking down your pants. If you're talking about gender identity, well yes, that's very confusing and inconsistent.
@@jessicadavid5661xactly. There’s nothing complicated or confusing about it.
@@jessicadavid5661 I meant gender as in gender identity, not biological sex. I’ll edit the comment to make corrections.
@@jessicadavid5661 sex=/=gender
im around 14 and going through very similar feelings and struggles that you talk about in this video. i love how gently this is worded and it is a wonderful perspective on the other side of things. thank you for talking about this.
As an 19 year old girl who went through the ideas of "maybe im a boy, it would be fun to try transitioning- there would be no pressure to conform to stereotypes". That's the thing though- never forget this:
Never let a stereotype push you into a box. Never let anyone define you. You are an incredibly unique and beautiful human being. "Feminine" and "Masculine" mean nothing in the grand scheme of your unique DNA, and your unique thoughts, and your unique soul. You are 100% YOU.
I was very close to becoming trans during the ages of 14-18 and I realized after a long while of struggling that I changed SO SO much over those 4 years and it was worth it to wait and be patient with myself and my mind and body. I was too unique to be pushed into the LGBTQ stereotypes (because oddly enough, they try to break stereotypes by making so many more stereotypes). Not to hate on the LGBTQ at all- I just see it as a human being being far too diverse in far too many aspects that it is impossible to fit yourself into a box.
I don't care if im not 100% femenine, I don't care if im not 100% Masculine. I know for certain that I am 100% me, and only I can define what I am by being myself and allowing myself to learn and listen. :] You are incredibly unique, so whatever you decide to do in life, don't ever forget how unique you are.
I'm an 18 y/o girl who's also been going through this, it can last for a long time. Especially if you grew up around ONLY boys like me
Dear person, please wait before making irreversible changes to your body. I’m 66 and female. I was the tomboy of all tomboys. The body is what I was born in and gratitude for having a healthy one, is all I feel today. My best wishes for you. ❤️
This is exactly what happened to me during my stint under the umbrella. Hated my body, had bad relations with my parents, unstable living situation. Instead of working on these issues, I went deeper down the rabbit hole. After insanity continuing to ensue for months, I woke up one day and was just like "what the fuck have I done". Then I announced my intention to detrans and my closest friend, who was of course also trans, stopped talking to me. I basically posted on social media after "im detransitioned." and have ever since abandoned all social media ad just do everything alone, go to work and come home and spend time alone every day. Everyone I was friends with wound up being superficial and i talk to none of them now. and now I am in my early 20s but still have scars of my past as a guy who has to wear a chest-binder forever despite being born male.
You were very well spoken, articulate and compassionate in your approach. Telling your story is very powerful and will resonate with other adolescents going through the same or similar.
I am so happy for you that you came out on the other end without regret of making major medical and life altering decisions.
I wish you all the best on your endeavour to becoming a Mum. It has been the most amazing experience for me and my husband. I’m 30 years old with an almost one year old and pregnant with my second baby due in June.
PS. At one point in my younger years I had decided that children weren’t for me and that if I was to my only choice would be to adopt. Things change for us over time as women and mental health is a huge contributor. I too worked on my mental health for years and finally came out on the other end stronger and capable.
Transgenderism is not real science. It's based on humans feeling that can change any moment. Many will irreversibly damaged themselves mentally and physically by going through gender changes such as mutilation and taking tons of nasty synthetic chemicals. Transgenderism is result of fragile one's feeling that do not represent objective truth. It's pure narcissism.
I'm a male and used to think I was trans. I like men, nail polish, dresses, dolls feminine things etc. I can relate to you about the LGBT community they're pretty toxic. I remember saying something online and people replied "WELL DO YOU HAVE GENDER DYSPHORIA? DO YOU HAVE DEPRESSION? DO YOU DO YOU DO YOU" blah blah blah. I got so mad at the comments I said... you know what? Maybe I'M NOT TRANS. I don't wanna be trans if yall gonna act like this. I don't wanna identify with yall if yall acting like clowns. But in a way they DID convince me I wasn't trans so I thank them.
I'm just a gay, cisgender femboy and I'm happy with that
Gosh that’s perfect 👍😊
The words and actions of random people online shouldn't affect the way you view trans people as a whole... that's textbook transphobia. The internet is full of trolls and assholes, not sure why that resulted in you thinking trans people act like clowns. This video and many of the responses to the video are fostering a lot of hatred (even though the poster probably didn't intend that) and misunderstanding toward trans people. Ex: she says she hated her parents and found ways to demonize them "probably because that's what my friends were doing". That's not how trans people (not people who think they might be trans) feel, they are often hated by their parents. There is no "doing what their friends are doing" because they're not like their friends... at all. I don't like how many people are twisting and misunderstanding.
Sadly, the LGBTQ community has been fractured something fierce. I like to refer to the toxic ones as being part of the Rainbow Mafia.
Why are you mad at trans people wanting to help you or to understand you?
@@trixicenby999 they weren't helping me. At the time, idr what I said exactly but I said something like "i identify as trans but why do trans people get so offended over small things like pronouns etc. The general people don't understand and they are ignorant so why get offended when you can tell them your story and educate them"
And then the trans people attacked me by saying a lot of things like "WE'RE NORMAL PEOPLE. WE DONT NEED TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING. PEOPLE NEED TO STFU" and such
Very well said. Im autistic woman and if i was a teenager today I would have thought this was the solution to feeling alien to this planet and my body
I feel alien to myself also and I would have definitely transitioned as a teenager if this stuff was around. I'm diagnosed with autism too.
I felt the same growing up adhd female. I didnt fit in with the girls quite right and I thought it meant I wasn’t one.
Thank you for touching on the community slowly alienating one’s family away. It’s something that I’ve noticed that people online jump to the conclusion of the need to “cut off” those who disagree with them. My heart truly aches for those in the trend portion of the community that are very likely to regret permanent decisions. Please keep sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your story. I have an 11 year old daughter and have tried to make her comfortable with the changes she is going through and explaining that it's all normal and that I went through it too. I worry that she will get sucked in. So far, so good 🤞
Keep going, make sure you‘re there for her, listen & talk to hear. Else she might look somewhere else for comfort when feeling confused during puberty. And that cult like community of the transactivists is overly welcoming to insecure kids, that’s dangerous…
It seems though you did that perfectly so far👏
Show her this video....
@@JennJenification Oh, I definitely will be showing her this video!
Take her out of public school immediately. Then you're good!
Limit any and all contact with social media!
I believed I was trans for 7 years, it caused me a lot of pain... luckily I only socially transitioned but even that was too far
It was traumatic.
All power to you girl
Your so strong for sharing 💪 💗
Im sorry it didn't work out for you, its not for everyone. I just hope you dont attack other trans people for it/try to "prevent" it
@@tcniatcniatcnia of course I'd never attack anyone for their path in life.
I am autistic and I see that the people who commonly regret their transition are other autistic individuals who mis identify with the trans label....
I'm not referring to actual trans individuals.
Thank you for your kind comment
I appreciate 🙏 💛
@@tcniatcniatcnia Why do trans people feel so triggered with detrans stories? It's very important to talk about them to prevent other people. Yes, I said prevent.
@@champigranja1179 I am not triggered about detrans people, I want them the best in life because we are all just people trying to survive and live our lives, I am not happy however with people like you thinking youre able to control people's lives and choices, you do you with your own body. not tell others and try to "prevent it"
I will support detransitioners till the end, they deserve recognition too, i just cant support anti trans rhetoric :)
@@tcniatcniatcnia the passive aggression says something very, very different
You are an incredible speaker/storyteller! I admire and frankly envy your vibe ❤ The part about how kids are pushed to doubt their parents is so eloquent, insightful, and mature. You are a great philosopher and I'll be listening to your videos throughout this week 🩷
Wow, you are incredibly insightful, intelligent and articulate. Re: your comments about LGBT dogma…I’m gay and you’ve just said what I’ve always thought, spot on! Good on you!!!!!
As a female child of the late 70s early 80s. You are all normal. Pop culture has set toxic standards for you, & the prolificness of p0rn has ruined your idea of romance & intimacy. Please think for yourselves & be a rebel!!! No one is born in the wrong body. You were born in YOUR body & it is perfect & beautiful just the way you are. If I had one wish, is that we could all learn to love ourselves & each other. ♾✌❤🌎✝️
This!!! We need to teach people to love themselves as they are!
Porn isn’t the issue. Being anti sw is being antifeminist. The issue is literally mens control over porn.
@@sbocaj22 he/they 'NOT a girl' of course. The misogyny is the basis for your identity. And the vast amount of women in the sex trade have a history of abuse n don't want to be abused on camera or off by creepy disgusting males. And the porn industry is also run by and made for men. So it's not feminist. To be wanted to treated like a slave is misogynistic, not feminist.
@@sbocaj22.. porn is the issue. sexualization of children, exposure to porn when your brain is still developing, inability to differentiate between fantasy & reality.. big issue for children & even adults who no longer can have intimate relationships.
@@emmapeel8163 that’s not Lorna fault lmao. Porn is intended for adults and if children have access to it that’s the fault of the PARENTS not monitoring them enough. The fact that you’re willing to shame tens of thousands of SWers and blame it on them when they aren’t the real issue. Ppl go into debt every year buying candles from bath and body works for candle day but it’s not the companies fault. They didn’t make you buy them. Same applies to porn. I don’t listen to ppl who same SWers
There is much more to life than one's sex, gender and pronouns but at 12 or 13 who can see through that mind set. Life is a learning experience and mistakes are part of the learning process I believe you made a very wise decision. I wish you the best.
Transgenderism is not real science. It's based on humans feeling that can change any moment. Many will irreversibly damaged themselves mentally and physically by going through gender changes such as mutilation and taking tons of nasty synthetic chemicals. Transgenderism is result of fragile one's feeling that do not represent objective truth. It's pure narcissism.
those that aren't kept in the bubble can see through this mindset. Normal people can. It's okay though, we have to accept the terminally online as people. Even as they fail to comprehend the obvious.
i may be genderqueer, but i was not so deeply intrenched in the community that it became my entire personality. my gender identity is part of me, but it is not the whole of me. it is the same to me as my nationality, or my food preferences. not all teenagers are fully swallowed by this craze of existing only as queer, you can have hope for my generation after all! and for those of us who still live in that bubble of living as a sexuality first, a personality second, we all have to grow up eventually and most of those people will realise that there is more to life than sex, gender and pronouns.
(sorry if this came out super confusing, it’s late)
This makes me much more confident in transitioning believe it or not. I did a lot of questioning and trying to find out where my feelings were coming from, and im about 99% sure i would not transition because i hated myself. Actually exact opposite. I dont hate my body, despite the fact that it doesnt alingn with my identity inside. It makes me feel dysphoria, but i objectively find it quite beutiful tbh. But i know for a fact i cant imagine a future where i am a woman. Things can still change tho, its an important decision and it cannot be rushed. Im glad you figured things out for yourself!
No one’s interested. Good talk though. Slow clap.
@@odavies5219 Alright, I dont care either. Thanks for replying ;)
@@odavies5219 go have some manners before replying to others, weirdo.
It's a very weird feeling to believe your body is beautiful and still experience dysphoria, I feel like I'm an intruder in some random woman's body
@@lizziedoesthings1450 Oh I feel like that too. Sometimes its funny, other times I feel like a total creep for it lol
I feel for you and everyone going thru this pain. I will support you and anyone going thru this pain, even when those who push this on you abandons you once you speak your mind. I'm so sorry for those who go through this. I will never abandon those who go through this no matter what. Your pain is my pain. Ty for sharing your journey.🎉
Brett Cooper sent me. This is such a powerful, eloquent testimonial. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your experience.
The book “Nutrition and Mental Illness” really helped me along my journey, especially after getting the blood work done and getting my zinc, copper and histamine levels balanced. B vitamins, methionine, magnesium, choline, inositol and high doses of niacin were particularly helpful for me.
I think most Don realized how crucial vitamins are. They play a huge role on our hormones, depression anxiety and on top of that the horrible foods we eat. They create a huge imbalance in us. I can see why so many struggle mentally and how easily teens can be swayed.
Transgenderism is not real science. It's based on humans feeling that can change any moment. Many will irreversibly damaged themselves mentally and physically by going through gender changes such as mutilation and taking tons of nasty synthetic chemicals. Transgenderism is result of fragile one's feeling that do not represent objective truth. It's pure narcissism.
@@sarbantz This has nothing to do with my comment, my comment was in response to the part about dealing with depression and mental health struggles. Dr. Pfeiffer's book was particularly helpful in my exploration of the subject.
Go react in a more sensible way to a comment discussing the topic you're referring to.
Your gentleness, reason, and compassion speak volumes. Thank you for sharing your experience.
This is why I’ve decided to just cancel my subscription to gender as a whole. Because when I was discovering all this stuff I was recognizing that I didn’t resonate with how I viewed society to define a woman as. I thought maybe then I was gender-fluid or androgynous or something, but the more I tried to find some mold to fit into, the more I realized that none of them fit me. I feel so much better just being whatever I am and not trying to define it any further than “I’ve cancelled my subscription to gender. My biological sex is female, call me whatever pronouns you want.” Because it does occasionally make me feel nice inside when someone online or that hasn’t met me refers to me as “they” or “he,” that I could be viewed as something other than stuck inside the social construct of what femininity should look like. I can just exist. And I like that.
I feel the same!
I just saw a reaction to your video on Brett Cooper's channel. She just did it a few minutes ago and I'm so proud of you and for you being brave enough to speak about this.
I pray that a lot of young people who are struggling see this video.
Notice brett never talks about the success stories that still far outweigh the detrans stories?
this was very insightful to listen/watch, especially since I’ve always questioned who I was as I lacked the feminine traits compared to my peers. I would definitely consider myself a tomboy but to be trans was something I struggled to identify myself with. To hear it from another person’s perspective like yours, I really appreciate you sharing as I learned something new about being trans and in the LGBT community. Thank you for speaking about this :)
LGB Alliance is the future
Thank you for coming on here and speaking out. More and more young women are telling their detransition stories and it is so important that kids going through this now, hear those stories. Anyone who is not an adult should not be given the choice to make a permanent physical change to their bodies. The teenage years are tricky to navigate and it is a time when you try to find your identity and discover yourself. As a teenager, I was sort of a tomboy. I did not like dresses and preferred baggy trousers and comfy t-shirts, but my parents and everyone else understood that this was a normal phase that I was going through. I was never made to believe that I was a boy. The truth is, it is totally normal for teenage girls and even adult women to not "Feel feminine" at some point in their lives. We need to teach girls that if they do not fit into today's definition of femininity that it is still okay and it does not mean you are not female. Different women like different things. You can be a female trucker, female firefighter, or female bodybuilder. Being a woman does not mean fitting into a set of feminine traits outlined by today's society.
You are amazing Jamie, I hope you know that this video will really help a lot of people in the same boat as you. I personally thought about it too but I'm glad I did not push through with it. Puberty is really tricky and I hope in the wake of this that there will be more conversation on how it feels to enter adulthood that goes beyond hormones and the birds and the bees talk. Emotions are really high at this point and I can understand at this vulnerable state we can be easily swayed. People have observed for many many decades the repercussion of that rebellious stage in our lives.
Good morning/evening young crowd 🤘💜 I hope everyone is doing well 🙏. I just came across your channel. I am transitioning myself and I appreciate you speaking out, sharing your own experiences it's so very important. Ive also said that you need to heal, work on improving your mental health, other aspects before even considering to transition. Thank you love and blessings to you, your family and everyone 🙏❤️
I agree completely as a non-binary person! Good luck on the transitioning :)
This was so beautifully and eloquently shared. Thank you for your vulnerability, this video is going to help others so immensely.
I just found you because TH-cam recommended it, but omg I love your voice 🥹 so happy you have more videos, I’m gonna watch them all. I hope you feel so much better now and you are happy with yourself 🤍
I'm an elderly woman, and just grieve for all these young people, so disturbed by what they perceive to be a solution to just feeling different when they are young. I went through this, but the terrible ideas now in place were not there, and I just grew through it. I'm 77 now, and am so happy to be a woman. I wish all these unhappy youngsters the same. God bless.
Came here from Brett Cooper's reaction video as well. Very important video with a very important warning for today's and future generations. Thank you for speaking out and helping to keep the ball (to extra awareness regarding this topic) in motion.
Came here from Brett Cooper’s reaction video. Need to help boost this in the algorithm.
If I had grown up in todays era, I would’ve most definitely been considered trans. I was and kind of still am very much a tomboy. As an adult I have embraced my femininity. It’s crazy how much has changed culturally in the last 10-20 years. So proud of you to speak out with your experience. I genuinely feel very sad for all of you that had been sold a lie at such a vulnerable age. Adults that have an agenda have used all of these children and it’s sickening. Prayers for your future and wishes for you to one day have children. They are a struggle but also so much of a blessing. They fill your heart with so much joy.
Just in case any far-right conservatives are watching this, when most people transition they don't usually detransition, but those who have deserve respect and love.
You don’t deserve anything from anyone. Respect is earned. You’re talking about others’ emotions which you rightly have no control of. You don’t tell people how to feel or act. You can’t force someone’s love or respect. Lunacy
I'm 3m to the right but the midpoint is not at 0
@@odavies5219 Hey chill out, basic respect is something that should be normal, that's the way life should be, the person just said that people who went through some kind of struggle don't deserve hate for no reason, what's wrong with that? No need to get angry about it, lunacy is something far different from just respecting others life choices and let them be. Of course this is meant in general sense, don't twist my words for specific situations. Live your life and let others live their life, simple as that, just that itself is huge respect that everyone, including you, deserves. :3
If it wasn't like that, I could easily start blasting insults left and right, calling you who know what curses, that's the general disrespect that would be lunatic. I mean, we already respect life itself, yet we have difficulty to do so with our species, that's kinda funny in a way, no? We are more human towards ships, cars, stuff etc. than ourselves and others. Haha in a way we are kinda lunatic. Anyways, spread love, not hate, there's already enough of that and it didn't get us anywhere so far. Have a great rest of the day, whoever you are or wherever you are, just, be happy. :D
What does being a far right conservative have to do with being respectful?
@@odavies5219lol thry said they deserve love. Everyone deserves love. Saying everyone deserves love doesn't mean "Hey you, go love this person cuz I say so". The fact that you took this that bad says a lot about you. I hope you seek therpay one day.
This video is one of the bravest I’ve literally ever watched. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are an inspiration and your self-awareness is sooooo impressive. ❤
Hello, 16 year old trans man here. I'm about 2 and 1/2 months on testosterone. I've only ever came out and identified as Eric(he/him/his/himself). I believe we need to educate more people but also not come at the trans community. I don't really involve myself with the trans community but I'd like to say some things
My mother would not let me transition for a long time because of her religion. Which did cause me and her to separate. She let me start testosterone and now me and hers relationship is so much better. I love my family... I personally don't think the community promotes hating your family but we all have different stories...I understand.
I actually became dysphoric AFTER puberty, I was 13 and couldn't look in the mirror without Wondering who it was and breaking down.
It's so unfortunate to have never been able to be connected to the feminine feeling. Gender roles definitely do play into this, and gender roles are important with our community. I'm a man. Just a trans one. Thank you
So, you're a butch lesbian.
This is really cool, thanks for sharing :) congrats for getting on T Eric
With all do respect. While you may be confident in your gender and who you are, you are not a man, youre a teenage boy. While your gender may be male You havent fully developed yet thats kind of the point of her video and you cant understand how much you will develop mentally in the next 10 years
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You are explaining this exceptionally well. I am looking to educate myself on this as I was totally out of the loop where this social ideology was concerned. Thank you for the upload. I am happy you are finding your path:)
I really hope that you are happy now. Don't let anyone stop you from being yourself. You are unique and the fact that you are a detrans doesn't make you worse than the other people who have "never doubted themselves". Doubting your feelings and looking for yourself is normal. I think you should be proud of yourself!
Greetings from happy trans person.
We need more of these people as this courageous girl!! ❤ Do not stop talking about your experience , because what you say makes sense, and young people will identify with you!! Sending love from an gran’mama from NZ❤❤
I wish I could like this a hundred times, my experience is so similar to yours. This is becoming such a problem in this world and it scares me because I don’t want anyone else to go through what I went through.
It is never lost on me how lucky I am to have not gone through with a physical transition. Even so, emotionally that experience still has a big effect on my life now, even after 6 years. It impacted my social development due to the isolation, so many impacts on me.
I attended groups etc at that time and I feel so angry now at the adults who had a duty of care towards vulnerable teenagers, of whom many of us ended up in this same boat :(
I've just sat with a good cup of coffee and watched a few of your videos, starting with this one. I don't know how old you are, but obviously still young. But it's nice to see some coherent and well thought out ideas from someone still young, rather than the endless narcissism so common, particularly in many young women these days.
I want to thank you for sharing your story here. It's so incredibly important that people like yourself who have been caught up in the trans ideology relay their story for others to hear, who may be about to turn down a road that there would be no fully coming back from. Where your head is at any given moment in your life, is no indicator of where it can potentially be further down the line in life. The beautiful thing about getting older is that you build up a library of experience based on years spent on this planet, that cannot be obtained any other way.
It'a heartwarming to see where you are, compared to where you've been from your videos. It gave me a good chuckle in your other video saying that your attendance at a Marxist convention made you realise you were no longer on the left. Welcome to the club! That's also my story.
If I could travel back to my 20yo self and tell myself where I am at with my perspectives on the world, I would probably be in a heated slanging match with myself. The best thing I have ever done is to be flexible with my positions as new information and ideas present themselves. Dogma never serves anyone well. Good luck with everything, keeping posting. Subbed! ❤💪
You are amazing and so brave!! Thank you for sharing this, I hope this reaches all the young women that are going through this!
I’m so proud of you ! It’s very brave of you to share your experience. Hopefully, many confused teenagers will come to realization before it’s too late.
This is really cool of you to share, thank you! It takes courage to talk about the messy, confusing process of figuring oneself out throughout adolescence and beyond, but I'm sure lots of people can relate to your story.
So sorry you had to experience this but I’m glad you are getting better!
Eloquently put and very bravely done. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your story. Do not let anyone silence you! For everyone malevolently lashing out at you, there are many more who'd stand by you and back you up in a heartbeat. You did a good thing, in a good way. Wish you all the best!
As a mum, I am so proud of you and many others who are sharing your stories online. People can be who they want to be, but only with proper evaluation, counselling and professional advice before changing any part of their body. All the best in your future plans, watching from Nairobi, Kenya.
non-binary here who's not that young anymore; I'm incredibly sorry you had to go through all of this. Stories like yours highlight how necessary it generally is to go to therapy and to seriously reflect and question what you feel and what causes these feelings before transitioning.
We can all learn from this.
A lot of the time, you can't reach objective insights without a competent and, most of all, neutral (not lgtbq+ friendly and definitely also not anti-lgtbq+) therapist. So if you are seriously questioning; find a competent, neutral therapist who will figure these things out together with you and find the best way to approach things. This is the way to go. And if at the end of at least a year of therapy the conclusion is that a transition is the best for you, then go for it. If the result is a different one: hey, also great, bc you just safed yourself a lot of irreversable changes that probably aren't the right ones for you. Just make sure it's a good therapist.
Stop being a narcissistic person.
There's no such thing as non binary though.
@@amandak.4246 no it is not a real thing this is all just toxic narcissistic girls who get their hair short a stereotype of a man I guess men can't have long hair? Non binary is an ideology it's not real.
@@derekb4977 bigot
@@francisbartoszewski2284 leave Detrans and LGB alone you are homophobic
this was a very insightful video to watch as a trans man who is around the same age as you. honestly, i think it's very normal to discover new ideas and explore them when we are younger, including gender identity. we are all figuring ourselves out at that time in our lives. some people take different paths than others once we get older and are more aware of how we feel and why we do. just as i don't understand why it matters if someone is trans, i also don't get why someone would be upset at you for realizing you are not because we've all had to take the time to figure ourselves out in some way. thank you for sharing your experience !!
@@spookyghost3140 i’m a bit confused as to what you mean by this. i never said anything about body dysmorphia please elaborate
Well the reason why is many detrans people use this opportunity to grift and throw the trans community under the bus just because transition wasn’t for them. It is telling how her “the TruTh about TrAnsGenDer” video is the only video that’s gotten thousands of views. But who knows. Maybe that’s just a coincidence...
@@lillily4655 i agree with you 100%. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with sharing your personal story but many transphobic people use detrans stories to fuel their transphobia. i also do think the title is s little weird and i guess clickbaity ?? it feels like she’s trying to lure transphobic people to her video by framing it as if she’s trying to “expose” trans ppl. it’s just weird bc i don’t think she says anything particularly transphobic but ppl will find ways to be transphobic anyway
@@spookyghost3140 we're way too late for that. do you know how much money cosmetic surgeons make on just normal (non trans related) surgery? do you know much the diet industry makes? the makeup industry? NONE of these industries want us happy with ourselves because they wouldn't make money if we were. this problem is so much bigger than people think it is. Marketing for almost ANY product relies on you NOT being happy with your body, with yourself, etc. body dysmorphia is already a normalized and accepted part of society, we're just so used to it that you probably don't even feel it anymore.
@@erinsymone1645 thank you 💯
I commend you for so eloquently talking us through your story. Wishing you all the very best.
ive had similar friend groups in the past and i thought i was non binary but over time ive embraced my femininity and worked on my insecurities and i know i wouldve felt so trapped and depressed if id transitioned to what id believed i was for months.
Sent here from Bret. I am glad you shared your story. I wish the best for you and many children with your loving family behind you. Take care.
I feel like this video should be shown in high schools ✨🙏🏻✨ you explain each point beautifully x well done for making this video and being honest and opening yourself up to strangers, you are so strong 🤗
You are a beautiful articulate young lady, thank you for your story.
You articulated your experience so beautifully. I'm so glad you found your way. I hope you experience great blessings. ❤
Hey I'm detrans too . Be the amazing awesome woman you are x
Thank you for explaining your story and journey. It's really helpful to understand from someone who has been through it.
Amen!!! “Heal your mental health FIRST AND FOREMOST” and give yourself plenty of time to grow and mature. Adolescence is and has always been a turbulent time in one’s life, don’t make major life decisions until you are in a good place mentally with your feet firmly on the ground as an adult. Please take the time to get to know yourself. Peace 🕊️💕
Thank you for this video! Showing it to my kids so they can be prepared if anything like this comes up in their life.
Hey Jamie, I came from Brett Cooper’s video (her channel is The Comment Section) and she played this video about detransitioning. She really wanted to share your story and I absolutely agree with her that voices like yours are so important. I think you’re incredibly courageous to be able to talk publicly about your experience growing up and I think there are a ton of people who can relate to how you felt that need to hear a voice that maybe challenges or even sheds a different light on their situation.
It’s so easy to get lost in the echo chamber and feel like you’ve gone past the point of no return, but your story will free so many young girls who have isolated themselves and can’t find their way out of the loneliness, anxiety, depression, confusion, and unhappiness that comes from not knowing how to heal mental health issues. I wish I had found someone like you when I was going through similar situations as a young girl and I’m certain you are already making a positive impact on many lives.
I hope you are able to achieve your dream of having children, as a mother of two I maybe bias but I feel like it was my purpose in life to raise and cherish my boys and it’s been the most joyful and fulfilling experience of my life so far. Best wishes for you in the future!
Wow! You explain this so eloquently….I really hope other young people on the cusp of making huge decisions get to listen to this …. X
Great video - thanks for sharing your story. You are so intelligent and articulate and you've tackled a very difficult time in your life and difficult subject with great sincerity and sensitivity. I hope this is widely shared and helps some other young people to pause and reflect before making irreversible mistakes.
Luckily my kids - who between them had quite tough puberties and a hell of a lot of serious mental health issues - are just old enough to have dodged all this social contagion but I really worry about my grandchildren...
I’m happy that you have discovered this realization in your heart and found peace and happiness; and I commend your bravery in speaking up out of compassion for others who may have found themselves in similar situations. 🙏💖
Just found this video through a post made by Brett Cooper of the daily wire. This video is eloquent and well presented. And the way it addresses the issues around trangender in young people without attacking or pointing fingers is amazing. You are brave to stand up and share your story and I thank you.
Souls, remember this verse:
2 Timothy 3:16
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
Which clears out the question(complains) that bible is man written, IT IS NOT.
Our sinful nature allows not to write any which were written into the bible.
Nor can any man see future, unless GOD has given him visions.
Joel 2:28
And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions:
Acts 2:17
And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams:
Galatians 3:22
But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
Galatians 3:8
And the scripture, foreseeing that God would justify the heathen through faith, preached before the gospel unto Abraham, saying, In thee shall all nations be blessed.
(My advice to many souls out there, don´t believe all the diagnoses the "dr" give you. )
@@theharshtruthoutthere I'm not religious so I won't comment on most of that. However, I would like to comment on your statement of not believing all the diagnosis a doctor gives.
In general doctors and medical professionals give great and educated advice. I would say, for anything major ask the questions of how the diagnosis was formulated, ask about risks and don't be afraid to do your own research and ask for second opinions.
A doctor should remain impartial and never push an agenda. If you feel a doctor is pushing you a certain way and you're uncertain... that's a good point to ask for second opinions from other reputable sources.
@@Petermabbutt But sadly not today they no longer give correct diagnoses and many amongst them push the evil agendas there is.
Hearts of man shall wax cold - enough said here.
Christianity has nothing to do with religions.
We may like it so much to believe and practice, but truth aint never gonna mix with lies. Truth and lies shall shine apart.
Thank you so much for speaking out. This is a story that so many of our youth today needs to hear because so many are encouraged to make life changing decisions by people that they should be able to trust such as schools counselors physicians etc and take hormones that could endanger their future health so it's so important for people like you to do this thank you!!! We love and support you 100%!!
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Brilliantly said. It’s the timeless adage that if you’re not happy inside before a big life change of any kind, you won’t be happy after. Learning to be happy and accepting of one’s self must come first (and in many cases by that time, one has realized that they are okay the way they are). Also, this shows how any group of young people experience the same thing that young people have been experiencing since the beginning of time. Namely, clinging to whatever identity they relate most to, thinking everyone else is against them and ignorant or uneducated because they don’t have the same level of commitment to a belief that they do. It’s just part of growing up process we all go through.
Very thoughtful and respectfully presented. Your message needs to be heard! Peace to you! 🙂
You’re very well spoken, thank you for speaking out.
This is amazing. Thank you for your story.💖
You are lovely! Thank you so much for this video. It’s so important for people to hear what you have to say!
Thank you so much for your courage. Please keep talking!! This is such a terrible contemporary crisis!!! I am heartbroken about the lives being destroyed and the families being torn apart. God bless you in this new positive phase of your feminine journey!!!