Tripped over this channel. In my life, I've dated a few trans women. When I was with a postop lady, she definitely used lubricant for intimacy. It's probably advisable for the rest of one's life. Happy to hear your transition is going well.
I’ve been following you off and on since long before you had the surgery, and if I’m being honest, this is maybe the happiest and most content I’ve seen you. I love your attitude and love that you are more interested in exploring your life as a fully transitioned woman than having every facet of your life revolve around you being trans. Also, I can hardly believe it’s been 3 years since you had the surgery. You look fantastic and your hair is beautiful. The color totally suits you. Anyway, so glad to see you so happy and healthy. ❤
I wholeheartedly agree with this statement. I saw this video and was like, 3 years *3yearssss* wow time fliessss! Yes, you should be happy to just live your life girl. Love this for you!
We also become more satisfied with our bodies as humans when we are happy and satisfied with our entire being. Yes... Yes woman critique ourselves only second to men lol. You are such a positive spirit... Who cares about the package. You are a lovely person. Be well. I have COVID round 3. Yikes.
As an almost 64 year Grandmother of 10 I fall into the “others” category curious and hoping to be a bit more educated. We all go through changes and phases of acceptance even as cic women or men. Being young and knowing who you are today will be different years later both mentally, physically and financially. To not live in the past is a blessing. Keep growing as the beautiful women you are as you can help many with your perspective and experiences.
Did you just call a male a ''beautiful woman'' or are you talking to actual women? Bcz women already have basic facts information, common sense, so it seems clear that you are not speaking to him in both those words. No hate, seriously, only saying bcz he is a male and to call someone beautiful they have to be a Truly good person. Like you have to know it too.
So happy for you Maya, you look so much more happy and “careless” now. I’m so happy that you love the results of your surgery and I don’t think you should disclose that to everyone you meet. That’s something very personal and NOBODY disclose their secrets when they meet someone new. You chose when and who deserves that level of trust. Much love sugar, hope you keep thriving ❤
I love your channel and your honesty. Thank you for sharing your journey. You are beautiful inside and out and that is coming from a Mom and Grandma. :)
Happy anniversary! I will have my 47th anniversary in June and am still going strong at almost 69. Been watching your videos for years and this was one of my favorite ones and very relatable. Although it was a long time ago, my first few years after were really all about beginning to live and fully experience life for the first time and believe me, I made the most of it if you catch my drift? Disclosing or not disclosing is up to you and the circumstances and don’t ever feel pressured into thinking that you have to do a certain thing but it sounds like you are figuring this out on your own and I am happy for you. FWIW, I was married at 30. I had known him for a year before things became intimate and it was two months after that when I shared my history which almost took drawing a picture with crayons because it was so hard for him to comprehend. In the end, it didn’t matter at all and hopefully, some day you too will find that someone special. Have a wonderful rest of your life!
I feel in love with a nice man 14 years ago : I told him the whole story....After a difficult time we are in a strong relationship now I'm 41 as a woman, 58 in my passport :)....(((...He's 40 ;)
I’ll be 47 years post myself on August 4 so we are the same Baby Boomers Generation. I’ll be 67 in December so I’ve grown up and old as a happy female and I see this sweet beautiful lady as feeling the same way. When it’s right it’s right but when it’s not it’s a nightmare.
@dianasalameh Hey! I know you as a former viewer of Mardi P's channel and from you own. I was very fortunate to have understanding parents that maybe didn't understand so much but nevertheless were supportive. Being trans, a word used retrospectively because I had no words for it back then, broke my childhood but I managed to keep it together and thrive. Kids didn’t transition in school but at 15, I starting living as a girl everywhere else and started HRT at 17 in 1972 before my senior year of high school. Upon graduation, I just got on with a normal and quiet life and eventually in 1977 at 22, I took 6 weeks off of work and had surgery with Stanley Biber in Colorado. Things are sure different today and in some ways better but in others, not so much. Many of the stories from our generation, at least the ones from those of us that survived are traumatic, horrific and depressing but certainly that was not the case for me and a few others that I know are still around who have gone on to live happy and productive lives To me, the real “pioneers” are from the ‘50s and 60s but those of us from the ‘70s also made our mark and helped pave the way for those that followed but there aren’t more than a handful of us still around but some of us still are and are wishing current and future generations all the best.
@@Elisabeth_Kron I have a huge respect to you... I had extreme problems 1979, as a 13years old child in Germany My family didn't understand my "weird" behaviour I had to spend two years in a psychiatric hospital ... ...Meanwhile my mother changed her mind and allowed my transition with 17 (...it was quite illegal at that time) in the greatest hospital in Munich (...my surgeon was Wolf Eicher, he wrote the book "Transsexuality") ....But than I was extremely bullied by my classmates... For years I worked from home for a publishing company So I was only able to complete my education much later ....I met my future husband there ;)
The men were shocked because most women do not give in easily-especially when she is highly attractive. You were most certainly out of their league. As a woman-being chaste is how you are expected to be-so those men were blown away by your willingness to be intimate with them without the normal conversations and requirements. FYI-that is how men can tell you’re different-so perhaps you need to take more time before hooking up. (From a mom)
Just my opinion but I say embrace your scars they were part of your journey to your true womanhood!! Congrats on 3 years you seem very happy and in a great place!
I can't believe it's 3 years. I followed you before the surgery and always liked your low key presentation to the subject of trans women. I'd just started my own journey 3 years ago and have lost touch due to a lot of negative things that happened to me after that time. Glad to meet you again and glad you are happy.
I've watched a few of your videos now and appreciate your openness and honesty. When I was a teen, my mother (who was Japanese) told me that I needed to go to college because no man would ever want me because I was a tomboy. Ha!!! I'm 63, married 30+ years to a wonderful man, have a son, daughter-in-law and a grandson and have 2 college degrees. And I'm still a tomboy. Keep being you hon. Wishing you nothing but love and light.
I by rule of thumb let people know off the get go mostly because that either shows if they legit are keen for you or not. (Saves allot of admin especially here)
I agree, If a man is keen he won’t be bothered at all. But if he chooses to walk away that’s ok as well! It doesn’t mean he’s transphobic or homophobic, it means he has a gender preference! Unfortunately rejection is a part of life that everyone has to accept!
@@ronferguson9695 I have been cheated on enough in the past to know if unless someone really wants you for you before all the the glorified relationship crap applies in it’s not worth the relationship
I haaaaate dilating. I had a mediocre surgeon because they were the only one my insurance would cover. Dilating is often difficult for me. I’m glad for y’all who had a good experience (: And even though I had a negative experience, I still would do the surgery again. Hopefully with someone else.
Hi Maya, have just come across your videos and have just sat here watching them for the last 5hrs continuously. You are such so beautiful, articulate,compassionate and above all informative. As someone who is in their 50's and just come out publicly as to who i really am having kept it inside most of my life, due to the generation i come from, and since then losing all family and friends,i have been feeling so lost and finding your channel has helped me understand myself a lot more. Thank you so much for all you have to say❤ Look forward to watching more of your videos.
Girl you know damn well you should be telling guys before you hook up with them that you’re trans. You are playing with fire and you will learn one way or another. I am trans saying this.
I avoid telling people how they should live their lives, but I do worry that she'll hook up with a hot psycho (a bunch of those out there) and being drunk might get her to drop some clues that the hot psycho may use to look her up on the internet, and then the hook up story could turn into a Captain Hook story.
@@Daysed.and.KonfuzedIt's not about being a psycho. It's about basic respect and decency. If you're dating a person, the least they deserve is to know your biological sex for a variety of important reasons. Not much to ask.
@@playtagwithasemi Do people in casual hook ups not deserve to know something as important as the biological sex of the person they're about to get intimate with? Aside from being very dangerous to deceive a person like that in such an intimate way (especially a man), it's just basic decency and respect to let a person know something so fundamental. I'm glad the trans person above who wrote the comment shares this perspective.
Thanks for sharing. I’m one year post op and have experienced so many of the same things you did in your early post surgery journey that it’s nice to hear how far you’ve come and the acceptance you discovered. I’m so happy that I did it but have had some mental things to work through and still working through and your journey and sharing have helped me realize that I’m not the only one to have some struggles and it’s ok. ❤
*Let me just tell you people something. If a doctor is a Real doctor they would be Healing the person WITHOUT cutting into your body. A real doctor would heal you from within as in the mind, which is where your dislike and negativity towards yourself comes from, try to work on accepting that biology is permanent and it is LITERALLY impossible to change it.*
i just wanna thank you for your brutal honesty and being comfortable enough to share your journey with us. as a 19 year old trans woman who is only 9 months into HRT, and is considering bottom surgery for the future; i really found a lot of comfort in your videos, thank you
I always feel in better spirits after watching one of your videos. You have such a wonderful outlook so positive, and you seem very happy. I wish I had the courage that you have. I myself have always been stuck in life and likely will never be able to live truly completely as myself as I only really just exist under the radar. When I feel down or confused, I can always count on feeling a bit better when I watch your videos, Thanks!
I’m so happy for you Maya! I’m so glad you’ve reached that point in your post-op transition where you’re really comfortable and relaxed and casual about your gender in every respect! You’ve always been so pretty and feminine and yes, ‘passable’, I was sure you would reach that point where you were dating straight men who didn’t know at all. And why should they? It must be very reassuring and confidence-building. I’ve watched every video you’ve ever made, and I think you’ve created an invaluable, priceless record of your experience. It’s so inspiring. As someone who never had the courage to do what you’ve done, I find myself living vicariously through your amazing, inspiring example. Thank you, thank you, thank you! My only question is: if you met the right guy, who treated you right, was loving and tender and affectionate and mature and all those important things, but didn’t know, would the thought in the back of your mind that he might be different toward you, if he did know, be troubling in any way? I don’t ask this to be disrespectful or hurtful in any way. I just feel that if I was ever fortunate enough and courageous enough to be in your position, and had someone who said he loved me, and whom I felt deeply about, at some point I couldn’t help but wonder if he would feel the same way if I told him. Maybe the work-around to this issue is to only date men who are open-minded and progressive enough that you can feel assured they weren’t transphobic at all. Is that too much to hope for? It doesn’t seem like it should be, in a truly compassionate, empathetic world. Please keep posting Maya; I look forward to watching a lifetime of your videos, watching you grow as a person. Sincerely. 💔💔
As a straight cis woman I just stumbled across your page and you are so informative and well spoken, I love it! Thank you for educating us. I don’t blame you for not wanting to tell people, now that you have the surgery and they wouldn’t know any differently why should you be required to? Of course yes safety first but I probably wouldn’t tell them either in your shoes
Intelligence as well as beauty will always be one of the strongest draws. Of course, personal disposition plays the most important part as a solid keeper. You have the luck of the draw! Be glad🥰😇
You are great the way you are ! The perfect exemple of a trans woman actually being a woman. What's the point of arguing with the whole world about being "real women" if you consider you always need to specify being trans on top of it ?
I think you’re very beautiful, inside and out. Take that from a bi male with long term female partner. A journey is hard, and there will be canyons and peaks. It all makes you, who you are. If I was single, meeting someone as beautiful as you would be wonderful. I’ve watched many of your videos, seen your journey, and girl, you are looking absolutely gorgeous. Eyes are the windows to the soul, and your eyes are out of this world.
Are you concerned about the severe side effects of taking hormones. Women who go in synthetic hormones when they get to menopause are told they can only be on it for so many years. Excessive use of hormones causes cancer. Are you concerned about getting cancer?
RE hooking up with guys who don't know you're trans, good on ya. If anyone has a problem with that, then they're the one with the baggage and either: aren't mature enough to be hooking up with randoms in the first place, because who knows their backstory; or they need to make it clear they don't wanna hook up with a trans woman as they're the one with the baggage Why should we have different standards to literally everyone else? Generally speaking, 2 adults should, without saying a single word, be able to consent and hookup. STIs and other things that can cause physical health problems are the exception
The vast majority of heterosexual men are not interesting in transwomen whether they're pre-op or post-op. Maya is only putting herself in danger by not disclosing even if it's a random hookup. Is getting D from straight men really worth the risk? Why not stick to queer dating/hookup sites like Grindr? Why not go after bi/pansexual men who are more opening to transwomen?
@@scooter-wy3qs Because shock horror, straight guys are often into trans women, and I believe either social stigma/pressure/baggage or not seeing trans women as women is what drives guys to avoid any encounters with trans women, it sounds like you just want segregation 2.0 Even if your assertion is true that it's a majority, it's still irrelevant
@@ashleigh. Social stigma has nothing to do with it, it's just nature. Heterosexual men are turned off by the idea of being intimate with another male body(AMAB) no matter how much that body has been feminized by synthetic hormones and surgeries. Segregation 2.0? That's utterly ridiculous and a privileged view to have. Not wanting to date a certain demographic is not segregation. Dating is the one area in the world where you are allowed to be as discriminatory as you want.
@@ashleigh. Had to split my comment because of YT shenanigans. It's not just my assertion about the majority of straight men not being interesting in tr*nsw*men. There's a study published in 2019 that shows it. In this study 958 individuals of various genders and sexual orientations where surveyed on whether or not they would date a tr*nsg*nder person. Out of the 958 participants 87.5% said they WOULD NOT consider dating a tr*ns person. When broken down by gender and orientation 96.7% of heterosexual men were tr*ns exclusive in dating.
@@scooter-wy3qs Who said anything about dating? And of course studies around us dating would skew like that with the stigma against us, that doesn't mean you're not attracted tho, only if you see us as men once you find out, may that override your physical attraction This is all irrelevant anyway, if you wanna fuck a random girl who you don't know from Adam, then you better be prepared that she may be trans, and there's nothing wrong with that
You look amazing and your vibe is so positive! I am in no way surprised. You have always been so pretty! I’m just happy that things are going so well for you. I remember following you a while back and some comments were so negative. I think we can all, collectively, have a laugh at the haters’ expense, now.
Hi Claire, I think we are both at a similar stage. I have had two consultations in Munich Germany also and I'm waiting patiently for word of a surgery date. Like you, I'm very excited. Good luck Claire.
I’d be worried about guys getting aggressive after the fact, I think it’s also kind of treacherous territory with consent. Either way I hope you stay safe!
So you are saying who I am is a lie? Is that what you are getting at with the consent comment? Maybe think on that. Safety for women and trans women first and foremost, who gives an f who men nut in/on. What does that have to do with their safety?
@@Mayavhenry I don’t think who you are is a lie. I mean no offense to you or your identity. I care very much for the well-being of the trans people in my life and beyond. I do think there are differences between trans and cis women that can be relevant to sexual partners,drs,etc. I do think broadly speaking it’s best for all parties to have informed consent.
Hi. I just want to say that I’m very impressed how genuine you are and how beautiful you are as a person and human being. Keep going and no matter what others think. You are just a wonderful person. I wish I would new about you earlier even if I know that I’m probably to old for you (lol). Respect and love.
Hi Maya. Hey, I’m just a 73 year old geezer, but I’ve always had an open mind. Here’s my point: you look FANTASTIC. I would never have guessed that you’ve transitioned. You must have worked extremely hard to get to where you are today. Congrats!🎉
Hi Maya, I think this happens to a lot of gurls who transition and pass easily. It is an odd transition from "trans" being such a big part of who you are to almost being a memory that isn't important anymore. It happened to my sister, who just stopped telling people until they were in a relationship long enough to meet her family. I think it happens more than we think.
I fully support trans people. Live and let live. Do what makes you happy as long as it isn’t hurting anyone but… what you just said is so wrong. Your sister is lying to her boyfriend’s from day one. She needs to tell the from the get go otherwise honestly, your sister is a liar. I would be so mad to find out I was lied to from day one.
I agree. I think it’s perfectly natural and healthy to keep some things private, until you really get to know someone. Having been in two abusive relationships, I think it’s very important for people to know this is not only OK, but another way of protecting yourself. I have advised pre-op sex worker friends to make sure their dates know, but that’s a completely different context.
I would be furious to find out something that important that late in the game. That's why people like this get called traps. I don't know if that is a really bad thing, but in a case like this, it's pretty apropos. When it comes to strangers or casual acquaintences, or even friends until you know them better, it's not their business unless they deem it is. W/ an intimate partner, it is so different.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 If you (not you, but whomever) have been dating someone and they tell you they’ve trans, then what happens? I’m trying to understand what people get angry or upset about. When a romantic partner told me, I was just glad to know more about him and his experience. I’m not saying that’s better. It just would not have occurred to me to believe he had been dishonest, or anything. I didn’t ask. Maybe that’s a good tack to take. If a partner’s sex at birth is important to you, make a point of masking people you date. This also lets them know you feel strongly about either not dating someone trans, or them sharing that with you, so you are aware. I’m sure they would be glad to know that, as well.
@@sciencenotstigma9534 It's a huge and important thing to leave out. I'm Christian and I'm straight, so I guess that answers a lot of it. Maya would likely see me as a religious extremist and you might too. It would put me in a same sex relationship, just for starters, so that would upset me to know someone had w/held that from me. I could never have a normal sex life w/ a ftm trans person either. There are other more personal issues that have to do w/ a terrible betrayal I'm still trying to get over. I would end a relationship if I found out they had been lying to me. I have been good friends w/ a trans person before. So it's not a moral issue in itself. Seeing kids be transitioned is a nightmare. I'll just leave it at that. Thanks for calmly asking me. Hopefully my answer at least satisfies your curiousity.
Whether or not to get the operation, I would think greatly depends on how dysphoric one is about producing sperm and dealing with an eggplant. Producing sperm is literally what being a male is all bout, biologicly.
For the disclosing your gender it doesn’t matter if it’s a concern of your safety to be honest because if that is a concern you shouldn’t have gotten to the point where you have to worry about it in a situation if you worry you shouldn’t get alone with them because if you’re at the point where you’re taking your clothes off and you’re gonna get into bed with another person you have to tell them that you are trans as a trans woman myself I believe that because that is so ignorant to negate that information and not tell them because that is withholding something that they have to consent with for themselves like this is something that affects them to because yes we are women as trans women but we both know biologically no so they have a right to know and move forward from there accordingly yes keep yourself safe but also think about it from someone else view
Awesome video thank you. Not sexualised or anything else like that. It is important to know that it can work out and without lots of complications for at least some out there I hope you are still doing these until you are old and grey and with the same informative approach You're looking as pretty as always ❤❤❤
If it's a casual encounter, it's a what you see is what you get situation for both people involved. It's not like you're promising something you're not able to give. 😊
That is the most they can do, because there is no future in same sex relationships. I'm being kept from my man because I'd get pregnant all the time. That is what normal couples do, they procreate. Homosexuals cut off their own lives, that is why they are always miserable and jealous of others.
I’m post op and I can truly say I feel at ease with myself not having to worry about ignorant people saying anything about my genitalia but srs isn’t for every girl tbh
Thank you Maya, amazing video as always, I have followed your videos for years including your GRS and all of your videos heled me decided to go ahead with mine and at this time it looks like mine will be happening in January so thank you for this video it has really helped me :) xx
Just learned of you and your channel yesterday.. so this is only my second video or so watching of yours.. but I would definitely say the things you talk about are extremely informative. In my 44 years I don't think I've ever been anti-anything that wasn't the "norm".. but I'd pretty much 20 some years ago go through my own transition (growing up) and being able to more openly express my support in accepting people as just people.. we are all people and we all are different and we all have our own experiences and challenges and things we want out of life. I truly support what your after! .. life!.. to live and enjoy as I would think each and everyone of us want! My only other comment was just hearing you talk about disclosing to someone that you meet that you're trans. I guess I'd never thought of how/if/why a trans would disclose that to someone. I've watched a couple videos now as I mentioned.. the other was of you and your mom's trip to Thailand. To me it seems like if your after to be looked at as female and seeking out a male that the last thing you would want to do is disclose your trans. But I can see coming from a guys standpoint that it would be the appropriate thing to tell him right off the bat that "hey.. I'm trans... just so you know" .. of course they have to know that it's not a joke and that you're serious!. But I was thinking about that yesterday and thought aghh... what an impossible position to with a clear conscience to at least not consider (should you disclose or not). I'd think that you'd want someone to just accept you as you without all the details. And down the road at some point if you thought it was right to disclose then you do so at that time. But then say ya spend a month or several months with a guy not knowing yur Trans and then you finally tell him and he freaks out!!... idk... thats gotta be so tough!! Idk what I would do if I were you. I don't know how I'd react as the guy either.. I'd hope that in my 44 years I'd be like "yeah alls cool!" 😊.. But I think if two people had that relationship going and all was solid then I'd hope that months later that added bit of information shouldn't make any difference anyway. If there was already mutual attraction physically and personally then.. hey that's probably what we all want anyway so why ruin a good thing! :) At any rate.. yur videos definitely initiate some good thought! Absolutely supportive of what you do personally and with yur videos! Keep doing you! :)
Maya, with all respect, there are many men that are not going to appreciate that you deceived them into sleeping with you. This is exactly the scenario where it can all wrong in a second and out of shock, they can become aggressive and violent because they feel violated. It's selfish and it's not all about you, your pleasure and your validation. There is another person involved who needs to know and be given the choice. Nomatter what you feel, what surgeries you've had, how you identify yourself and how you present, you are still a biological male. Some men will never want to sleep with a biological male. That's their choice. In the trans community, they use the word 'clock' a lot. 'He didn't clock me'. That word acknowledges the deception. It's saying, 'He didn't 'spot' anything that revealed/exposed I'm really a man, he thinks I'm a woman.' Be careful, Maya. I pray for your safety. Even the meekest, mildest and most gentlemanly of men can turn very nasty if they realise they have been deceived.
Doesn't it apply the other way around as well? Like if they are attracted to her, have a nice night or what with her and then reveal their well hidden transphobia? Also one night stands are kinda selfish by definition from both sides :D (And also - I wouldn't recommend going somewhere drunk with an unknown male to any woman, cis- or trans- ... it's very dangerous anyway.)
@@carnifaxx Yes, like I said it's about upfront honesty. Too many people engaging in dishonest, deceptive and toxic interactions, 'where it matters' and they KNOW it matters that's why they hide it. One night stands are not selfish. They are very upfront and mutually consensual. Consensual being the operative word. If someone dupes you by hiding essential information that they knew could have affected your decision to go forward, then that is not true consent eg the person has HIV (even though you can have very safe sex if you take the correct precautions). They may never see you again but they morally have a duty to disclose that, so that you can make the choice whether to go forward or not. You see them as a very good looking healthy person and would have a 1 night stand in a heart beat! You may or may not if you know they have HIV. The same if someone is married, etc. The more polarising something is, the more reason you need to disclose it. Yes, I agree with you totally on your last point!
I will not be taking advice from someone who believes my very existence is a deception. Can you imagine how downtrodden I would be if I lived life as a second rate “deception” of a human being? I’m here for my own happiness. If a man chooses to be with me, he chooses (regardless of his awareness) to be with a trans woman. I’m not anymore trans before or after he finds out. It’s the stigma and label that sometimes changes peoples minds, causing them to act based on societal prejudice and not their own instincts (which were to be with me lmao). Telling me that I am a deceiver, biological man, and that men will brutalize or murder me… gtfo! You don’t care about my safety.
@@NickyM_0 comparing transition to HIV sounds very weird... I would certainly consider that deceptive in a long term relationship, but for a one time drunken intercourse? There are people who have many different issues with other people and you just cannot list them for such random occasion. If it was something so important that it would prevent me from touching them, I would just ask. (And I honestly believe if Maya was asked, she would answer the truth.) I really understand your point and I would probably consider that safer esp. for her to tell them, but at the same time - she is an individual and sovereign adult human being as a whole person, either the side they see and either her mind and personality etc. Nobody needs to be a) totally responsible 24/7; b) brutally honest 24/7 - like I don't see people wanting girls to tell strangers e.g. "I have a shapewear on, half of my hair is fake, my eyes are actually not green, my cleavage is mostly silicone, I'm infertile because of the infection I had when I was 12, I had 3 abortions before being even allowed to drink legally..." And these are still completely valid parts of their life-time development and they own them and have a right to decide what to do with them (and deal with possible consequences). Funny enough, I think her transition proceeded so far that people feel an urge to be patronizing towards her and give her unrequested advice... as they do to any other woman :D
Thanks for the update Maya. I've been following you from the beginning, your journey has been amazing, it is wonderful seeing you in such a good place. What others think is about them and for them. We have a right to our own lives. SO happy for you. Cheers!
Hi Maya, you look stunning, think you are looking prettier each time you post. You do you and never ever worry what someone else thinks of you, you are special, you are loved.
The gland you mentioned does not create lubrication it connectes levels of lubrication to arousal. The source of the lubrication is the fact that a cis vaginal canal is a mucosial mebrane. There are versions of SRS that do allow for self lubrication the ones i know of are colovagionplasty and a type of penile inversion that uses tissue from near the stomach I think but I don't know a lot abou that procedure. As far as I understand with either it's still common to need lube for most penitrative sex however with time vaginal bacteria take over and it lets the trans woman have a "natural scent/taste" and the other way having enough lubrication that requres a lifetime of wearing pads is quite uncommon.
All I can say is thank you for sharing your videos, You are a real trooper. Also, darn it, I have to admit that Maya is a beautiful and brave trans woman both outside and inside.
What I have to contribute is this. Regardless of anatomy much of what we perceive gender as is an act that each do. I can act manly or femine and instantly will be perceived as that gender. Your very well spoken and a good looking girl. Thnx bye
😊I am not transgender or any of the LGBTQ folks…however I want to always be open to learning and living in truth. Your pod casts are so informative and you have educated me in such a lovely way. Thank you for your open and honest talks. You are appreciated. Cheers…Jeffrey (a 68yr old straight fella)😊
The first time I saw you I didn’t know you were trans. All I thought was: “what a gorgeous woman.” Now all I think is: “what a gorgeous and amazing woman.” Keep being you. ❤
Really? Not even with that deep male voice? Even if you didn't realize it you would think she was an old chain smoker with emphysema with that voice tone.
It's not really the voice or deepness, it's the tone that isn't natural and the mannerisms. To see her, really beautiful. When she starts talking, there are the usual tells.
Some people may not want to sleep with a trans person... Their reasons, whether transphobic or something you might empathize and respect deeply are irrelevant, it's their choice and you denied them (and yourself) their consent. btw, your body language and elocution belie your justifications.
This conversation/ revelation about the disclosure topic is the first time I've felt like I really understood someone not disclosing. Thank you so so much for sharing such vulnerable stuff. I have been trying to come to terms with wanting bottom surgery after 2 years of transition. Thanks girlyyyy
I've enjoyed your videos. This and others have been helpful getting myself educated and not asking silly, stupid, or offensive questions of trans friends.
When i walk through a public garden nature center and observe a bumblebee collecting pollen and millipede nestling in potted soil levels. I see all the different types of living energy and Everyone is Doing They're Part. (Omaha Nebraska) 🌱✨🌽✨🌱
Love how positive you are and well said. It feels so great to live your experiences vicariously and see how confident and happy you are. I hope that I can become this happy some day. I'm 20 months on HRT, but I started at 26 after twenty years of difficulties. I'm very happy, never misgendered, am mostly passing, and have a wonderful straight handsome bf full of thoughtfulness and drive, but I always looking to be more happy now that I am more me than I have ever been and don't have to pretend anymore :)
First of all I'm not hitting on you or anything so please do not take this wrong but you are a very pretty woman. This is the first video of yours that I've seen and it was very interesting and informative. Now I am a CIS male however that does not mean that I'm not interested in learning about other people and about how things work. I am probably wrong the way I look at things but to me you are a woman you were born a girl you had a disability that put the wrong body parts on you but you were born female. Thank you so very much for an informative and interesting video and I wish you absolutely the best.
Wow that was educative, I would have so many questions to ask. Great that it is going awesome for you, and a CIS male, you totally are a woman in my eyes. Go Maya!
I love you and i am a huge fan of yours and i think how you talk about your story has helped so many people! That being said I personally do believe that trans people should disclose before being intimate because you are robbing that person of their right to make a fully informed decision before doing something as intimate as having sexual relations which is wrong. If you feel like you do not want to bring it up is likely because you are worried they could make a decision not to want to carry on... Whilst that could happen that is for them to make that decision knowing all of the facts
Yeah I agree that informed is a good point. But than if you feel it's going to rob you of a informed decision you should ask if there is any medical history. Anyone dating trans, non trans, someone might feel robbed of their experience if you didn't tell them let say you were a prostitute. If you ask someone did you ever do that. That might get creeped and make exit, like wtf are they asking that for. Point is if it's going rob that much of the experience and you should bring it up. Does it bother the sexual experience that much or you don't want to lose a date or sexual fling because they think that if you asked the question that you think that's the case. You got choose which one is more important Especially if it's the guy( usually the case) approaching the girl. I think it makes easier to disclose sooner rather than later but duty no.
If you are fully post-op and undetectable then there should be no issue not telling people about being post-op, you don't owe anyone anything. If a guy comes on to you then they are fair game. When or if you ever decide to disclose your personal life to anyone it should be on your own terms and not because you feel guilt about who you are. After all, do we really want to cater to people who hate us for who we are. I Carry to protect people around me for good reasons and you should too. Oops..you can't Carry because you live in Canada.
Is there a rule that if you’re American and u become a trans woman you have to take on a valley girl persona? Is there a reason y’all end up sounding & acting the same? No matter how much of a woman you may feel. Once you accept another person into ur life, or become intimate you have to give them a choice to love you for you. When you lie, you r taking away their freedom to choose. You don’t have to tell everyone you meet, but u do need to before u get intimate. As a woman, if a man lied about who they were, I’d take that as a sign they don’t take me seriously & they were trying to mess with me. Yes at face value you’re a woman, you live like one, most ppl don’t need to know, but you’re not a woman, you’re a trans woman.
These transwomen go with the valley girl persona because it’s what they believe men find attractive. The persona may also be inspired by influencers like the Kardashians.
If I was into someone who has transitioned and things happened I wouldn’t have an issue. My problem is if they presented as a woman on top and was pretty but I found out they were not down below I would be furious. I love Maya’s response
@@Mayavhenrythat’s because… wait for it: you are a MAN. You do not have the same at stake as women: pregnancy, hello? Your biology is STILL “pollinate as many flowers as you can.”
The only shit that happened was you not disclosing you were trans. Consent was given under false pretense.. Just tell them, they have a right to know...
I do think you should tell someone before having actual sex, not just for your partner’s own peace of mind but like you said, for our own safety. I see trans women as women, seeing as I am one, and I respect your choice & perspective, but I do fear that we could run into someone who really doesn’t respond well if they were to find out. I understand that the alcohol played a part in blurring the lines of consent on both sides but like you said before it’s probably not a scenario that we as trans women should be repeating lol..
Yes thank you! I totally agree. It just doesn’t sit right with me for all of those reasons. And no I don’t have any internalized homophobia or trans a phobia. Sorry just don’t.
One truly needs to move away from the "trans" experience to get free of the stigma of it. As a 20+year vet (of the same surgeon too), I can totally relate. Men care if they see a penis, but not so much if they find a pretty place to put it. I'm glad you're now looking selectively for a partner, and moving forward with the real things that will define your life story.
Oops, apologies. I misread and thought you were encouraging NOT discovering a good partner...love to all and fascinating topic. Maya is gorgeous and stunning in her honesty.
Love this video; one of your best ever. Everything was so accurate and truthful...and I think your mindset is spot on! I hope that people will see this and just understand the truthfulness and sincerity of the information you were conveying. Thank you for making it and all of your dialogue!
I love your viewpoint. and did I say you are the most beautiful woman on the planet next to my wife. as a portrait artist I am sincere when I say that.
I'm a little past 10 months post SRS myself. My biggest complication was having urinary control issues, but those have been resolved for about 4 months now
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Tripped over this channel. In my life, I've dated a few trans women. When I was with a postop lady, she definitely used lubricant for intimacy. It's probably advisable for the rest of one's life. Happy to hear your transition is going well.
I’ve been following you off and on since long before you had the surgery, and if I’m being honest, this is maybe the happiest and most content I’ve seen you. I love your attitude and love that you are more interested in exploring your life as a fully transitioned woman than having every facet of your life revolve around you being trans. Also, I can hardly believe it’s been 3 years since you had the surgery. You look fantastic and your hair is beautiful. The color totally suits you. Anyway, so glad to see you so happy and healthy. ❤
I was just aboput to write a very similar post. I've been following her for a long time, and this is definitely the happiest I have seen her.
I wholeheartedly agree with this statement. I saw this video and was like, 3 years *3yearssss* wow time fliessss! Yes, you should be happy to just live your life girl. Love this for you!
We also become more satisfied with our bodies as humans when we are happy and satisfied with our entire being. Yes... Yes woman critique ourselves only second to men lol. You are such a positive spirit... Who cares about the package. You are a lovely person. Be well. I have COVID round 3. Yikes.
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Your biggest asset is your perspective on life, your wisdom is beyond your years.
As an almost 64 year Grandmother of 10 I fall into the “others” category curious and hoping to be a bit more educated. We all go through changes and phases of acceptance even as cic women or men. Being young and knowing who you are today will be different years later both mentally, physically and financially. To not live in the past is a blessing. Keep growing as the beautiful women you are as you can help many with your perspective and experiences.
Ive been following your journey Maya ,Congratulations .Luv You❤🎉
Did you just call a male a ''beautiful woman'' or are you talking to actual women? Bcz women already have basic facts information, common sense, so it seems clear that you are not speaking to him in both those words. No hate, seriously, only saying bcz he is a male and to call someone beautiful they have to be a Truly good person. Like you have to know it too.
He is a man.
@@Vero2yu what?
@@werixwolf What do you not understand about that simple comment I made?
Explain maybe?
So happy for you Maya, you look so much more happy and “careless” now. I’m so happy that you love the results of your surgery and I don’t think you should disclose that to everyone you meet. That’s something very personal and NOBODY disclose their secrets when they meet someone new. You chose when and who deserves that level of trust. Much love sugar, hope you keep thriving ❤
it's online. 😂 what secret ?
I like who I like. Doesn't matter who they used to be 🤷♂️
Love how you communicate, personality, pretty, care for yourself and others. Your a truly beautiful women
I love your channel and your honesty. Thank you for sharing your journey. You are beautiful inside and out and that is coming from a Mom and Grandma. :)
Happy anniversary!
I will have my 47th anniversary in June and am still going strong at almost 69. Been watching your videos for years and this was one of my favorite ones and very relatable. Although it was a long time ago, my first few years after were really all about beginning to live and fully experience life for the first time and believe me, I made the most of it if you catch my drift? Disclosing or not disclosing is up to you and the circumstances and don’t ever feel pressured into thinking that you have to do a certain thing but it sounds like you are figuring this out on your own and I am happy for you.
FWIW, I was married at 30. I had known him for a year before things became intimate and it was two months after that when I shared my history which almost took drawing a picture with crayons because it was so hard for him to comprehend. In the end, it didn’t matter at all and hopefully, some day you too will find that someone special.
Have a wonderful rest of your life!
I feel in love with a nice man 14 years ago : I told him the whole story....After a difficult time we are in a strong relationship now
I'm 41 as a woman, 58 in my passport :)....(((...He's 40 ;)
I’ll be 47 years post myself on August 4 so we are the same Baby Boomers Generation. I’ll be 67 in December so I’ve grown up and old as a happy female and I see this sweet beautiful lady as feeling the same way. When it’s right it’s right but when it’s not it’s a nightmare.
@dianasalameh Hey! I know you as a former viewer of Mardi P's channel and from you own. I was very fortunate to have understanding parents that maybe didn't understand so much but nevertheless were supportive. Being trans, a word used retrospectively because I had no words for it back then, broke my childhood but I managed to keep it together and thrive. Kids didn’t transition in school but at 15, I starting living as a girl everywhere else and started HRT at 17 in 1972 before my senior year of high school. Upon graduation, I just got on with a normal and quiet life and eventually in 1977 at 22, I took 6 weeks off of work and had surgery with Stanley Biber in Colorado.
Things are sure different today and in some ways better but in others, not so much. Many of the stories from our generation, at least the ones from those of us that survived are traumatic, horrific and depressing but certainly that was not the case for me and a few others that I know are still around who have gone on to live happy and productive lives
To me, the real “pioneers” are from the ‘50s and 60s but those of us from the ‘70s also made our mark and helped pave the way for those that followed but there aren’t more than a handful of us still around but some of us still are and are wishing current and future generations all the best.
@@Elisabeth_Kron I have a huge respect to you...
I had extreme problems 1979, as a 13years old child in Germany
My family didn't understand my "weird" behaviour
I had to spend two years in a psychiatric hospital ...
...Meanwhile my mother changed her mind and allowed my transition with 17 (...it was quite illegal at that time) in the greatest hospital in Munich (...my surgeon was Wolf Eicher, he wrote the book "Transsexuality")
....But than I was extremely bullied by my classmates...
For years I worked from home for a publishing company
So I was only able to complete my education much later
....I met my future husband there ;)
im so happy for you! and i also love the fact that you're german, you people as a nation are lovely sending love & light your way xx@@uswruser7996
The men were shocked because most women do not give in easily-especially when she is highly attractive. You were most certainly out of their league. As a woman-being chaste is how you are expected to be-so those men were blown away by your willingness to be intimate with them without the normal conversations and requirements. FYI-that is how men can tell you’re different-so perhaps you need to take more time before hooking up. (From a mom)
💯 they are still male in their minds.
Tell me how you have never met a real woman.@@manyplanets
I’ve been following you since before your surgery and you are a beautiful woman. Never let negativity get you down.
Just my opinion but I say embrace your scars they were part of your journey to your true womanhood!! Congrats on 3 years you seem very happy and in a great place!
I can't believe it's 3 years. I followed you before the surgery and always liked your low key presentation to the subject of trans women. I'd just started my own journey 3 years ago and have lost touch due to a lot of negative things that happened to me after that time. Glad to meet you again and glad you are happy.
I've watched a few of your videos now and appreciate your openness and honesty.
When I was a teen, my mother (who was Japanese) told me that I needed to go to college because no man would ever want me because I was a tomboy.
Ha!!! I'm 63, married 30+ years to a wonderful man, have a son, daughter-in-law and a grandson and have 2 college degrees.
And I'm still a tomboy.
Keep being you hon. Wishing you nothing but love and light.
I by rule of thumb let people know off the get go mostly because that either shows if they legit are keen for you or not.
(Saves allot of admin especially here)
I agree, If a man is keen he won’t be bothered at all. But if he chooses to walk away that’s ok as well! It doesn’t mean he’s transphobic or homophobic, it means he has a gender preference!
Unfortunately rejection is a part of life that everyone has to accept!
@@ronferguson9695 I have been cheated on enough in the past to know if unless someone really wants you for you before all the the glorified relationship crap applies in it’s not worth the relationship
I haaaaate dilating. I had a mediocre surgeon because they were the only one my insurance would cover. Dilating is often difficult for me. I’m glad for y’all who had a good experience (:
And even though I had a negative experience, I still would do the surgery again. Hopefully with someone else.
No-one enjoys dilating. That's delusion talking.
Это настоящие счастья вас видеть каждый день!!!❤❤❤
Hi Maya, have just come across your videos and have just sat here watching them for the last 5hrs continuously.
You are such so beautiful, articulate,compassionate and above all informative.
As someone who is in their 50's and just come out publicly as to who i really am having kept it inside most of my life, due to the generation i come from, and since then losing all family and friends,i have been feeling so lost and finding your channel has helped me understand myself a lot more.
Thank you so much for all you have to say❤
Look forward to watching more of your videos.
Girl you know damn well you should be telling guys before you hook up with them that you’re trans. You are playing with fire and you will learn one way or another. I am trans saying this.
I avoid telling people how they should live their lives,
but I do worry that she'll hook up with a hot psycho
(a bunch of those out there) and being drunk might
get her to drop some clues that the hot psycho may
use to look her up on the internet, and then the hook
up story could turn into a Captain Hook story.
I agree 💯
@@Daysed.and.KonfuzedIt's not about being a psycho. It's about basic respect and decency. If you're dating a person, the least they deserve is to know your biological sex for a variety of important reasons. Not much to ask.
@@kezzokav5905 hard disagree, especially in the context of casual hookups.
@@playtagwithasemi Do people in casual hook ups not deserve to know something as important as the biological sex of the person they're about to get intimate with? Aside from being very dangerous to deceive a person like that in such an intimate way (especially a man), it's just basic decency and respect to let a person know something so fundamental. I'm glad the trans person above who wrote the comment shares this perspective.
Thanks for sharing. I’m one year post op and have experienced so many of the same things you did in your early post surgery journey that it’s nice to hear how far you’ve come and the acceptance you discovered. I’m so happy that I did it but have had some mental things to work through and still working through and your journey and sharing have helped me realize that I’m not the only one to have some struggles and it’s ok. ❤
*Let me just tell you people something. If a doctor is a Real doctor they would be Healing the person WITHOUT cutting into your body. A real doctor would heal you from within as in the mind, which is where your dislike and negativity towards yourself comes from, try to work on accepting that biology is permanent and it is LITERALLY impossible to change it.*
ok cis@@Vero2yu
i just wanna thank you for your brutal honesty and being comfortable enough to share your journey with us. as a 19 year old trans woman who is only 9 months into HRT, and is considering bottom surgery for the future; i really found a lot of comfort in your videos, thank you
Aw thank youuu 💖💖
Now, this is one pretty lady. Thanks for the upload.
I always feel in better spirits after watching one of your videos. You have such a wonderful outlook so positive, and you seem very happy. I wish I had the courage that you have. I myself have always been stuck in life and likely will never be able to live truly completely as myself as I only really just exist under the radar. When I feel down or confused, I can always count on feeling a bit better when I watch your videos, Thanks!
I’m so happy for you Maya! I’m so glad you’ve reached that point in your post-op transition where you’re really comfortable and relaxed and casual about your gender in every respect! You’ve always been so pretty and feminine and yes, ‘passable’, I was sure you would reach that point where you were dating straight men who didn’t know at all. And why should they? It must be very reassuring and confidence-building. I’ve watched every video you’ve ever made, and I think you’ve created an invaluable, priceless record of your experience. It’s so inspiring. As someone who never had the courage to do what you’ve done, I find myself living vicariously through your amazing, inspiring example. Thank you, thank you, thank you! My only question is: if you met the right guy, who treated you right, was loving and tender and affectionate and mature and all those important things, but didn’t know, would the thought in the back of your mind that he might be different toward you, if he did know, be troubling in any way? I don’t ask this to be disrespectful or hurtful in any way. I just feel that if I was ever fortunate enough and courageous enough to be in your position, and had someone who said he loved me, and whom I felt deeply about, at some point I couldn’t help but wonder if he would feel the same way if I told him. Maybe the work-around to this issue is to only date men who are open-minded and progressive enough that you can feel assured they weren’t transphobic at all. Is that too much to hope for? It doesn’t seem like it should be, in a truly compassionate, empathetic world. Please keep posting Maya; I look forward to watching a lifetime of your videos, watching you grow as a person. Sincerely. 💔💔
As a straight cis woman I just stumbled across your page and you are so informative and well spoken, I love it! Thank you for educating us. I don’t blame you for not wanting to tell people, now that you have the surgery and they wouldn’t know any differently why should you be required to? Of course yes safety first but I probably wouldn’t tell them either in your shoes
I’m happy for you , you seem so comfortable with your decision. You’re beautiful.
Wish you peace and serenity in your life
Totally 100% agree with your statements on disclosing. Glad you feel that way. 💜
Intelligence as well as beauty will always be one of the strongest draws. Of course, personal disposition plays the most important part as a solid keeper. You have the luck of the draw! Be glad🥰😇
I love your channel, your videos are so real. As a trans woman myself, this is such educational content. Thank you for posting this!
Hello Maya. Your hair looks great today. Thank you for sharing and taking the time to provide an update. 💕🇨🇦🎃
You're gorgeous and intelligent. Any guy who can't see this, doesn't deserve your attention.
You are great the way you are ! The perfect exemple of a trans woman actually being a woman. What's the point of arguing with the whole world about being "real women" if you consider you always need to specify being trans on top of it ?
you're such a gd dmn inspiration
So here in the "now". Live in the moment. Guess what? You get to live your life. Love and peace to you ❤
I think you’re very beautiful, inside and out. Take that from a bi male with long term female partner. A journey is hard, and there will be canyons and peaks. It all makes you, who you are. If I was single, meeting someone as beautiful as you would be wonderful. I’ve watched many of your videos, seen your journey, and girl, you are looking absolutely gorgeous. Eyes are the windows to the soul, and your eyes are out of this world.
Thank you for educating so many people and for speaking about inequalities the way you do.
I admire your determination and overall courage to become the beautiful lady you are Maya❤❤
Are you concerned about the severe side effects of taking hormones. Women who go in synthetic hormones when they get to menopause are told they can only be on it for so many years. Excessive use of hormones causes cancer. Are you concerned about getting cancer?
RE hooking up with guys who don't know you're trans, good on ya. If anyone has a problem with that, then they're the one with the baggage and either: aren't mature enough to be hooking up with randoms in the first place, because who knows their backstory; or they need to make it clear they don't wanna hook up with a trans woman as they're the one with the baggage
Why should we have different standards to literally everyone else? Generally speaking, 2 adults should, without saying a single word, be able to consent and hookup. STIs and other things that can cause physical health problems are the exception
The vast majority of heterosexual men are not interesting in transwomen whether they're pre-op or post-op. Maya is only putting herself in danger by not disclosing even if it's a random hookup. Is getting D from straight men really worth the risk? Why not stick to queer dating/hookup sites like Grindr? Why not go after bi/pansexual men who are more opening to transwomen?
@@scooter-wy3qs Because shock horror, straight guys are often into trans women, and I believe either social stigma/pressure/baggage or not seeing trans women as women is what drives guys to avoid any encounters with trans women, it sounds like you just want segregation 2.0
Even if your assertion is true that it's a majority, it's still irrelevant
@@ashleigh. Social stigma has nothing to do with it, it's just nature. Heterosexual men are turned off by the idea of being intimate with another male body(AMAB) no matter how much that body has been feminized by synthetic hormones and surgeries. Segregation 2.0? That's utterly ridiculous and a privileged view to have. Not wanting to date a certain demographic is not segregation. Dating is the one area in the world where you are allowed to be as discriminatory as you want.
@@ashleigh. Had to split my comment because of YT shenanigans. It's not just my assertion about the majority of straight men not being interesting in tr*nsw*men. There's a study published in 2019 that shows it. In this study 958 individuals of various genders and sexual orientations where surveyed on whether or not they would date a tr*nsg*nder person. Out of the 958 participants 87.5% said they WOULD NOT consider dating a tr*ns person. When broken down by gender and orientation 96.7% of heterosexual men were tr*ns exclusive in dating.
@@scooter-wy3qs Who said anything about dating? And of course studies around us dating would skew like that with the stigma against us, that doesn't mean you're not attracted tho, only if you see us as men once you find out, may that override your physical attraction
This is all irrelevant anyway, if you wanna fuck a random girl who you don't know from Adam, then you better be prepared that she may be trans, and there's nothing wrong with that
You look amazing and your vibe is so positive! I am in no way surprised. You have always been so pretty! I’m just happy that things are going so well for you. I remember following you a while back and some comments were so negative. I think we can all, collectively, have a laugh at the haters’ expense, now.
Hi Claire, I think we are both at a similar stage. I have had two consultations in Munich Germany also and I'm waiting patiently for word of a surgery date.
Like you, I'm very excited.
Good luck Claire.
Don't believe everything you see, do research outside social media and get a good informed consent before doing something permanent and irreplaceable.
I’d be worried about guys getting aggressive after the fact, I think it’s also kind of treacherous territory with consent. Either way I hope you stay safe!
So you are saying who I am is a lie? Is that what you are getting at with the consent comment? Maybe think on that. Safety for women and trans women first and foremost, who gives an f who men nut in/on. What does that have to do with their safety?
@@Mayavhenry I don’t think who you are is a lie. I mean no offense to you or your identity. I care very much for the well-being of the trans people in my life and beyond. I do think there are differences between trans and cis women that can be relevant to sexual partners,drs,etc. I do think broadly speaking it’s best for all parties to have informed consent.
Hi. I just want to say that I’m very impressed how genuine you are and how beautiful you are as a person and human being. Keep going and no matter what others think. You are just a wonderful person. I wish I would new about you earlier even if I know that I’m probably to old for you (lol). Respect and love.
Hi Maya. Hey, I’m just a 73 year old geezer, but I’ve always had an open mind. Here’s my point: you look FANTASTIC. I would never have guessed that you’ve transitioned. You must have worked extremely hard to get to where you are today. Congrats!🎉
Hi Maya, I think this happens to a lot of gurls who transition and pass easily. It is an odd transition from "trans" being such a big part of who you are to almost being a memory that isn't important anymore. It happened to my sister, who just stopped telling people until they were in a relationship long enough to meet her family. I think it happens more than we think.
I fully support trans people. Live and let live. Do what makes you happy as long as it isn’t hurting anyone but… what you just said is so wrong. Your sister is lying to her boyfriend’s from day one. She needs to tell the from the get go otherwise honestly, your sister is a liar. I would be so mad to find out I was lied to from day one.
I agree. I think it’s perfectly natural and healthy to keep some things private, until you really get to know someone. Having been in two abusive relationships, I think it’s very important for people to know this is not only OK, but another way of protecting yourself. I have advised pre-op sex worker friends to make sure their dates know, but that’s a completely different context.
I would be furious to find out something that important that late in the game. That's why people like this get called traps. I don't know if that is a really bad thing, but in a case like this, it's pretty apropos. When it comes to strangers or casual acquaintences, or even friends until you know them better, it's not their business unless they deem it is. W/ an intimate partner, it is so different.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 If you (not you, but whomever) have been dating someone and they tell you they’ve trans, then what happens? I’m trying to understand what people get angry or upset about. When a romantic partner told me, I was just glad to know more about him and his experience. I’m not saying that’s better. It just would not have occurred to me to believe he had been dishonest, or anything. I didn’t ask. Maybe that’s a good tack to take. If a partner’s sex at birth is important to you, make a point of masking people you date. This also lets them know you feel strongly about either not dating someone trans, or them sharing that with you, so you are aware. I’m sure they would be glad to know that, as well.
@@sciencenotstigma9534 It's a huge and important thing to leave out. I'm Christian and I'm straight, so I guess that answers a lot of it. Maya would likely see me as a religious extremist and you might too. It would put me in a same sex relationship, just for starters, so that would upset me to know someone had w/held that from me. I could never have a normal sex life w/ a ftm trans person either.
There are other more personal issues that have to do w/ a terrible betrayal I'm still trying to get over. I would end a relationship if I found out they had been lying to me. I have been good friends w/ a trans person before. So it's not a moral issue in itself. Seeing kids be transitioned is a nightmare. I'll just leave it at that. Thanks for calmly asking me. Hopefully my answer at least satisfies your curiousity.
Whether or not to get the operation, I would think greatly depends on how dysphoric one is about producing sperm and dealing with an eggplant. Producing sperm is literally what being a male is all bout, biologicly.
You're looking good. Hope all is going well for you.
For the disclosing your gender it doesn’t matter if it’s a concern of your safety to be honest because if that is a concern you shouldn’t have gotten to the point where you have to worry about it in a situation if you worry you shouldn’t get alone with them because if you’re at the point where you’re taking your clothes off and you’re gonna get into bed with another person you have to tell them that you are trans as a trans woman myself I believe that because that is so ignorant to negate that information and not tell them because that is withholding something that they have to consent with for themselves like this is something that affects them to because yes we are women as trans women but we both know biologically no so they have a right to know and move forward from there accordingly yes keep yourself safe but also think about it from someone else view
Awesome video thank you.
Not sexualised or anything else like that.
It is important to know that it can work out and without lots of complications for at least some out there
I hope you are still doing these until you are old and grey and with the same informative approach
You're looking as pretty as always
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Agreed I'm all for hearing all people's stories and experiences ❤ it can only educate and help people ❤
If it's a casual encounter, it's a what you see is what you get situation for both people involved. It's not like you're promising something you're not able to give. 😊
Exactly.
That is the most they can do, because there is no future in same sex relationships. I'm being kept from my man because I'd get pregnant all the time. That is what normal couples do, they procreate. Homosexuals cut off their own lives, that is why they are always miserable and jealous of others.
I’m post op and I can truly say I feel at ease with myself not having to worry about ignorant people saying anything about my genitalia but srs isn’t for every girl tbh
Congrats for your 3 year anniversary❤️❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦
Thank you Maya, amazing video as always, I have followed your videos for years including your GRS and all of your videos heled me decided to go ahead with mine and at this time it looks like mine will be happening in January so thank you for this video it has really helped me :) xx
Just learned of you and your channel yesterday.. so this is only my second video or so watching of yours.. but I would definitely say the things you talk about are extremely informative.
In my 44 years I don't think I've ever been anti-anything that wasn't the "norm".. but I'd pretty much 20 some years ago go through my own transition (growing up) and being able to more openly express my support in accepting people as just people.. we are all people and we all are different and we all have our own experiences and challenges and things we want out of life. I truly support what your after! .. life!.. to live and enjoy as I would think each and everyone of us want!
My only other comment was just hearing you talk about disclosing to someone that you meet that you're trans. I guess I'd never thought of how/if/why a trans would disclose that to someone. I've watched a couple videos now as I mentioned.. the other was of you and your mom's trip to Thailand. To me it seems like if your after to be looked at as female and seeking out a male that the last thing you would want to do is disclose your trans. But I can see coming from a guys standpoint that it would be the appropriate thing to tell him right off the bat that "hey.. I'm trans... just so you know" .. of course they have to know that it's not a joke and that you're serious!.
But I was thinking about that yesterday and thought aghh... what an impossible position to with a clear conscience to at least not consider (should you disclose or not). I'd think that you'd want someone to just accept you as you without all the details. And down the road at some point if you thought it was right to disclose then you do so at that time. But then say ya spend a month or several months with a guy not knowing yur Trans and then you finally tell him and he freaks out!!... idk... thats gotta be so tough!! Idk what I would do if I were you. I don't know how I'd react as the guy either.. I'd hope that in my 44 years I'd be like "yeah alls cool!" 😊..
But I think if two people had that relationship going and all was solid then I'd hope that months later that added bit of information shouldn't make any difference anyway. If there was already mutual attraction physically and personally then.. hey that's probably what we all want anyway so why ruin a good thing! :)
At any rate.. yur videos definitely initiate some good thought! Absolutely supportive of what you do personally and with yur videos! Keep doing you! :)
Maya, with all respect, there are many men that are not going to appreciate that you deceived them into sleeping with you. This is exactly the scenario where it can all wrong in a second and out of shock, they can become aggressive and violent because they feel violated.
It's selfish and it's not all about you, your pleasure and your validation. There is another person involved who needs to know and be given the choice. Nomatter what you feel, what surgeries you've had, how you identify yourself and how you present, you are still a biological male. Some men will never want to sleep with a biological male. That's their choice.
In the trans community, they use the word 'clock' a lot. 'He didn't clock me'. That word acknowledges the deception. It's saying, 'He didn't 'spot' anything that revealed/exposed I'm really a man, he thinks I'm a woman.'
Be careful, Maya. I pray for your safety. Even the meekest, mildest and most gentlemanly of men can turn very nasty if they realise they have been deceived.
Doesn't it apply the other way around as well? Like if they are attracted to her, have a nice night or what with her and then reveal their well hidden transphobia?
Also one night stands are kinda selfish by definition from both sides :D
(And also - I wouldn't recommend going somewhere drunk with an unknown male to any woman, cis- or trans- ... it's very dangerous anyway.)
@@carnifaxx Yes, like I said it's about upfront honesty. Too many people engaging in dishonest, deceptive and toxic interactions, 'where it matters' and they KNOW it matters that's why they hide it.
One night stands are not selfish. They are very upfront and mutually consensual. Consensual being the operative word.
If someone dupes you by hiding essential information that they knew could have affected your decision to go forward, then that is not true consent eg the person has HIV (even though you can have very safe sex if you take the correct precautions). They may never see you again but they morally have a duty to disclose that, so that you can make the choice whether to go forward or not. You see them as a very good looking healthy person and would have a 1 night stand in a heart beat! You may or may not if you know they have HIV. The same if someone is married, etc. The more polarising something is, the more reason you need to disclose it.
Yes, I agree with you totally on your last point!
I will not be taking advice from someone who believes my very existence is a deception. Can you imagine how downtrodden I would be if I lived life as a second rate “deception” of a human being? I’m here for my own happiness. If a man chooses to be with me, he chooses (regardless of his awareness) to be with a trans woman. I’m not anymore trans before or after he finds out. It’s the stigma and label that sometimes changes peoples minds, causing them to act based on societal prejudice and not their own instincts (which were to be with me lmao). Telling me that I am a deceiver, biological man, and that men will brutalize or murder me… gtfo! You don’t care about my safety.
@@NickyM_0 comparing transition to HIV sounds very weird...
I would certainly consider that deceptive in a long term relationship, but for a one time drunken intercourse? There are people who have many different issues with other people and you just cannot list them for such random occasion. If it was something so important that it would prevent me from touching them, I would just ask. (And I honestly believe if Maya was asked, she would answer the truth.)
I really understand your point and I would probably consider that safer esp. for her to tell them, but at the same time - she is an individual and sovereign adult human being as a whole person, either the side they see and either her mind and personality etc. Nobody needs to be a) totally responsible 24/7; b) brutally honest 24/7 - like I don't see people wanting girls to tell strangers e.g. "I have a shapewear on, half of my hair is fake, my eyes are actually not green, my cleavage is mostly silicone, I'm infertile because of the infection I had when I was 12, I had 3 abortions before being even allowed to drink legally..." And these are still completely valid parts of their life-time development and they own them and have a right to decide what to do with them (and deal with possible consequences).
Funny enough, I think her transition proceeded so far that people feel an urge to be patronizing towards her and give her unrequested advice... as they do to any other woman :D
@@Mayavhenry it’s still wrong to deceive men.
Thanks for the update Maya. I've been following you from the beginning, your journey has been amazing, it is wonderful seeing you in such a good place. What others think is about them and for them. We have a right to our own lives. SO happy for you. Cheers!
Get a grip.
@@kezzokav5905 Ha ha ha. I said a prayer for you, sad, weird, rando poster. :)
❤ I watched your two-year video also and want to thank you for making these.
Hi Maya, you look stunning, think you are looking prettier each time you post. You do you and never ever worry what someone else thinks of you, you are special, you are loved.
"Pussification" I love that. Congratulations I'm super happy for you. :D
your scars will fade!!! nothing to worry about!
You look so happy now 😭 happy for you!! I've been watching your videos for 3 years and dang you have helped me so much 😭
The gland you mentioned does not create lubrication it connectes levels of lubrication to arousal. The source of the lubrication is the fact that a cis vaginal canal is a mucosial mebrane. There are versions of SRS that do allow for self lubrication the ones i know of are colovagionplasty and a type of penile inversion that uses tissue from near the stomach I think but I don't know a lot abou that procedure. As far as I understand with either it's still common to need lube for most penitrative sex however with time vaginal bacteria take over and it lets the trans woman have a "natural scent/taste" and the other way having enough lubrication that requres a lifetime of wearing pads is quite uncommon.
so what? It's a small price to pay. Who cares? Plenty of cis women use lube
Great informative video from Maya. Loved hearing about her ongoing journey.
All I can say is thank you for sharing your videos, You are a real trooper. Also, darn it, I have to admit that Maya is a beautiful and brave trans woman both outside and inside.
Great video, it so good to see you happy Maya! ❤
What I have to contribute is this. Regardless of anatomy much of what we perceive gender as is an act that each do. I can act manly or femine and instantly will be perceived as that gender.
Your very well spoken and a good looking girl. Thnx bye
😊I am not transgender or any of the LGBTQ folks…however I want to always be open to learning and living in truth. Your pod casts are so informative and you have educated me in such a lovely way. Thank you for your open and honest talks. You are appreciated. Cheers…Jeffrey (a 68yr old straight fella)😊
The first time I saw you I didn’t know you were trans. All I thought was: “what a gorgeous woman.” Now all I think is: “what a gorgeous and amazing woman.” Keep being you. ❤
Really? Not even with that deep male voice? Even if you didn't realize it you would think she was an old chain smoker with emphysema with that voice tone.
@@solangelalebron1348 it’s not really that deep. It really depends on what your preconceived notions are. I have known many cis women with low voices.
@@arwong222 Lol. That must've surely been a hormonal imbalance like PCOS.
It's not really the voice or deepness, it's the tone that isn't natural and the mannerisms. To see her, really beautiful. When she starts talking, there are the usual tells.
@@solangelalebron1348 her voice isn’t even that deep. You need to meet more women. And there’s no need to be rude.
Some people may not want to sleep with a trans person... Their reasons, whether transphobic or something you might empathize and respect deeply are irrelevant, it's their choice and you denied them (and yourself) their consent. btw, your body language and elocution belie your justifications.
You look prettier and prettier in every update videos ❤
This conversation/ revelation about the disclosure topic is the first time I've felt like I really understood someone not disclosing. Thank you so so much for sharing such vulnerable stuff. I have been trying to come to terms with wanting bottom surgery after 2 years of transition. Thanks girlyyyy
I've enjoyed your videos. This and others have been helpful getting myself educated and not asking silly, stupid, or offensive questions of trans friends.
You are awesome. You are also one of my biggest crushes ever 😅 ❤ happy to see you are doing good
Has it been 3 years already? My goddess, 5 years and going and I'm still trying to get mine.
Still happy for you, I can't wait for my time.
Happy to see you here, Jeannie 😊
I hope you’re able to make it over the hurdles preventing you. Love you, friend 💜💕
Love your channel! Entertaining and informative.
When i walk through a public garden nature center and observe a bumblebee collecting pollen and millipede nestling in potted soil levels. I see all the different types of living energy and Everyone is Doing They're Part.
(Omaha Nebraska)
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You be you boo! Congratulations on living as your authentic self!❤
You're beautiful. Keep your energy-level up. Cheers!
Love how positive you are and well said. It feels so great to live your experiences vicariously and see how confident and happy you are. I hope that I can become this happy some day. I'm 20 months on HRT, but I started at 26 after twenty years of difficulties. I'm very happy, never misgendered, am mostly passing, and have a wonderful straight handsome bf full of thoughtfulness and drive, but I always looking to be more happy now that I am more me than I have ever been and don't have to pretend anymore :)
Like l said be your best self. I've been following you since before brest augmentation. Your a lovely woman now enjoy life. Love you😊
First of all I'm not hitting on you or anything so please do not take this wrong but you are a very pretty woman. This is the first video of yours that I've seen and it was very interesting and informative. Now I am a CIS male however that does not mean that I'm not interested in learning about other people and about how things work. I am probably wrong the way I look at things but to me you are a woman you were born a girl you had a disability that put the wrong body parts on you but you were born female. Thank you so very much for an informative and interesting video and I wish you absolutely the best.
Wow that was educative, I would have so many questions to ask. Great that it is going awesome for you, and a CIS male, you totally are a woman in my eyes.
Go Maya!
A good supportive cushion sit on for a while until one feels healed up, Petra-B ❤xxx
You do you boo! You are such an inspiration. ❤
Ok….you’re beautiful!!
What a beautiful woman...thank you for your openess.
If you're happy, the rest doesn't matter.
Since before you had any work done I’ve been loving you Maya ❤️✌️🥰😍♥️
I love you and i am a huge fan of yours and i think how you talk about your story has helped so many people! That being said I personally do believe that trans people should disclose before being intimate because you are robbing that person of their right to make a fully informed decision before doing something as intimate as having sexual relations which is wrong. If you feel like you do not want to bring it up is likely because you are worried they could make a decision not to want to carry on... Whilst that could happen that is for them to make that decision knowing all of the facts
Yeah I agree that informed is a good point. But than if you feel it's going to rob you of a informed decision you should ask if there is any medical history. Anyone dating trans, non trans, someone might feel robbed of their experience if you didn't tell them let say you were a prostitute. If you ask someone did you ever do that. That might get creeped and make exit, like wtf are they asking that for. Point is if it's going rob that much of the experience and you should bring it up. Does it bother the sexual experience that much or you don't want to lose a date or sexual fling because they think that if you asked the question that you think that's the case. You got choose which one is more important Especially if it's the guy( usually the case) approaching the girl. I think it makes easier to disclose sooner rather than later but duty no.
If you are fully post-op and undetectable then there should be no issue not telling people about being post-op, you don't owe anyone anything. If a guy comes on to you then they are fair game. When or if you ever decide to disclose your personal life to anyone it should be on your own terms and not because you feel guilt about who you are. After all, do we really want to cater to people who hate us for who we are. I Carry to protect people around me for good reasons and you should too. Oops..you can't Carry because you live in Canada.
Congratulations sis ❤️ on completion of 3 years journey of SRS.
Is there a rule that if you’re American and u become a trans woman you have to take on a valley girl persona? Is there a reason y’all end up sounding & acting the same?
No matter how much of a woman you may feel. Once you accept another person into ur life, or become intimate you have to give them a choice to love you for you. When you lie, you r taking away their freedom to choose.
You don’t have to tell everyone you meet, but u do need to before u get intimate. As a woman, if a man lied about who they were, I’d take that as a sign they don’t take me seriously & they were trying to mess with me.
Yes at face value you’re a woman, you live like one, most ppl don’t need to know, but you’re not a woman, you’re a trans woman.
These transwomen go with the valley girl persona because it’s what they believe men find attractive. The persona may also be inspired by influencers like the Kardashians.
I believe they said they're Canadian
there are even valley girls in canada!
Curious and respectful, here. Honestly, you are just perfect, inside and out. Don't ever forget that. Carry on!
11:15 YES! 💯 I love this, Maya!
but why would you even want to be with a guy that would have rejected you if they knew ?
It’s not about that. It’s about living in the moment and shit happens. I could care less! Two ships passing in the night.
If I was into someone who has transitioned and things happened I wouldn’t have an issue. My problem is if they presented as a woman on top and was pretty but I found out they were not down below I would be furious. I love Maya’s response
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I totally agree!
They either “don’t tell us” or “be up front!”
@@Mayavhenrythat’s because… wait for it: you are a MAN. You do not have the same at stake as women: pregnancy, hello? Your biology is STILL “pollinate as many flowers as you can.”
The only shit that happened was you not disclosing you were trans. Consent was given under false pretense.. Just tell them, they have a right to know...
I do think you should tell someone before having actual sex, not just for your partner’s own peace of mind but like you said, for our own safety. I see trans women as women, seeing as I am one, and I respect your choice & perspective, but I do fear that we could run into someone who really doesn’t respond well if they were to find out. I understand that the alcohol played a part in blurring the lines of consent on both sides but like you said before it’s probably not a scenario that we as trans women should be repeating lol..
Yes thank you! I totally agree. It just doesn’t sit right with me for all of those reasons. And no I don’t have any internalized homophobia or trans a phobia. Sorry just don’t.
this is trash advice. You have been brainwashed
One truly needs to move away from the "trans" experience to get free of the stigma of it. As a 20+year vet (of the same surgeon too), I can totally relate. Men care if they see a penis, but not so much if they find a pretty place to put it. I'm glad you're now looking selectively for a partner, and moving forward with the real things that will define your life story.
Wouldn't looking for an appropriate match partner be a good choice?
Oops, apologies. I misread and thought you were encouraging NOT discovering a good partner...love to all and fascinating topic. Maya is gorgeous and stunning in her honesty.
Love this video; one of your best ever. Everything was so accurate and truthful...and I think your mindset is spot on! I hope that people will see this and just understand the truthfulness and sincerity of the information you were conveying. Thank you for making it and all of your dialogue!
I love your viewpoint. and did I say you are the most beautiful woman on the planet next to my wife. as a portrait artist I am sincere when I say that.
I'm a little past 10 months post SRS myself. My biggest complication was having urinary control issues, but those have been resolved for about 4 months now