I used to be extremelly chilled out and nice to people, then shit happened... repeatedly, I had my failures and weaknesses used against me. Now I'm in a state of anxiety and people generally irritate me.
Read literally any chapter in the book “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius....I read it after I was dropped from Selection and was heartbroken/lost and the stoic philosophy there was exactly what I needed. Instantly changed my outlook on life and all my problems/inner bitterness
Yes! It's like when you're nice people hate you for being nice! I find being neutral but kind works. I think people take less advantage when you act neutral instead of just liking or helping them.
Yo get to a certain point and you realise people on irritate you because you are better than them and your probably have to pretend to be acquaintable with them
Its scary how well this explains me. He even uses the terms "putting up a wall", because I recognize my problem and I say to myself I shouldn't put up walls all the time. Thank you Jocko. Ill listen to this regularly just like your "Lies" video that I listened to daily and helped me get fit and lose 140 lbs.
And the process will become addicting, because you will feel yourself getting morally Stronger the more you admit your vulnerabilities - of putting up doors instead
I rub people the wrong way all the time, I have been told I am a very abrasive person. I saw recently how this cost me a job that I knew I was the right fit for after having a good interview. I am now trying to learn any way I can to not be so abrasive and you guys talking about being insecure definitely hit the nail on the head. Going forward I am going to try really hard to talk as well as listen to others. I also want to start not being so black and white and straight to the point because those are also abrasive traits.
This is solid gold here. Just found your videos & an digging the hell out of them When I worked as a mechanic, I learned to quit worrying about telling a customer I didn't know what was wrong with a car. I realized that it just meant that I hadn't found the cause(es) of the problem(s) - yet. I would explain what I'd found, where I wanted to look next (and why), and that even though I might have a pretty good idea, didn't *know* what was gonna' shake out on a proper, through investigation. This was almost always universally respected by customers, as it had integrity. I've seen guys "guess and go" @ diagnosis; they probably wanted to give the customer a fast answer and look like an expert. Then, they'd find there was more to the story, and end up having to cover their asses. When I learned this - really learned this - my life changed
I feel this so hard...i used to work on Porsches and i remember when i was first starting out it always fucked me up when i had to tell them "dont know whats going on with your 911 just yet"...i used to think it reflected that i was an inadequate technician or that they would think i wasnt up for the task. I learned though that the customer will always value integrity and honesty over anything, especially a sloppy shotgun approach
I said sorry to my wife this weekend. It was the 1st time I have ever said that word the way it is defined. I think I might be turning a corner after all these years. Thank you Jocko.
Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance by those, who lack it. I abide by the same principles but I wish I was more rigorous. Thank you and keep sharing.
The only real facet of my life where I know for a fact I am truly abrasive is calling out people on their shit when others don't. I have no idea why I feel the the ridiculous urge to instead of keep quiet. The majority of the time whatever the problem is, it doesn't even affect me. But it literally makes me anxious and irritated if I don't say anything. I've gotten in fist fights, lost a couple friends, and a couple of relationships over it. Not just because of that solely, but a part nonetheless. I've learned to control it a little bit. But I have a feeling I just am that way.
I just found your channel. I'm not huge on therapy, but I was recently made aware that I myself am the root cause of many of the failed relationships I've had. I've been described recently as aggressive and too vocal. In my search and self analysis I discovered you two. Immediate impact. Thank you... subscribing now.
automatic adversarial thinking has cheated me out of meaningful connections from being stuck too heavily on unseen scenarios, it's unfortunate, and I'm realizing unnecessary for the different situations they always were independent from what I had vowed to protect myself this time around from. The perspective to have fresh eyes for a new opportunity for a new heart's compassion is what I can strive for realizing this.
What if Jocko dies, Echo becomes president and the State of the Union address is two hours of a excruciatingly poor attempt at explaining Russian and American relations using Total Recall as an analogy?!?
@@bennygee3067 Bro, considering some of our previous vice-presidents EchoCharles would do just fine. I am supremely confident in his abilities, not to mention President Jocko would show him the way in case of his unlikely demise. And lastly, one name, two words. AL GORE. I rest my case...
I'm wondering if I sounded rude to a chef who I felt was being disrespectful to me. The day before, she and my boss had taken me to the latter's office to talk to me about a few mistakes I made. But you know what? I think she could've handled it better. It really wasn't worth a trip to the office, let alone with both women. The chef could've just spoken to me privately for a couple mistakes, someplace else, with respect and tact. I think I deserved that. She was firm, restrictive, and insensitive. She even said to my boss, "Is there anything you want to add?" Way to rub my mistakes in my face, as if I'm a criminal in an interrogation room. And then the next day, she asked "How are you?" I replied, "With all due respect, please don't patronize me or be passive-aggressive after yesterday." Now I wasn't trying to be rude, but to be fair, her question was ridiculous. What was she thinking? That I was doing well after she treated me the day before? I guess my resentment made me say what I said. I felt disrespected by both her behavior the day prior and her "polite" question to me. I wouldn't lecture someone one day and ask how they are the next; that's rude and patronizing.
This is a problem for many men, oftentimes people put on a front just to hide their own insecurities and weaknesses etc. Everyone needs Love and it can be hard. At least when you have a consciousness of this fact you can attempt to try to crack it. Good luck to you all.
I know it's old and all... BUT I've often worked in groups that could SOOOooo easily come across as abrasive and mean... We often meet up in some "usual break area", starting the conversation (among us) with "F*** this, guys, let's just go drinkin'..." AND the obligatory round of chuckles. This clip brought it up, too. "It's weak to lose your temper and intimidate people, if you use it as a tool." specifically. That's the thing, though. When one of us realizes the whole crew is starting to get frustrated and stagnate... There's just a sort of "break point"... One of us will let fly a whole fountain of verbal filth, usually bordering on jibberish, and the rest of us will take notice (sooner or later) and start laughing at him... Sometimes we join in, and once in a while, we even get an audience or some outsiders step up to contribute... It blows off a little steam, and we don't let it get too out of hand... just an impromptu break to remind us all NOT to take ourselves too damn seriously, and then get a quick breathing exercise in, before someone else (usually part of the same crew) calls it off, and we turn to and resume whatever we were trying to do with fresh minds and eyes on the matter... SO... sometimes, when you see a ring of guys guffawing at the one in their focus, while he's jumping up and down, frothing and the mouth, and spewing every god-awful insult and fuming verbal filth you could think of... it's just a comedy routine. It releases the distress and pressure building up from some overtly complicated or just randomly unlucky function that must be tried over and over until "the magic happens"... We KNOW we look silly when we do this. That's the whole point. Sometimes there just isn't a "better way to do it". Sometimes there's just nothing you can do about "it" either... SO you blow off a little steam, and work off a little laughter. Then you breathe, relax, and resume keeping on. ;o)
inclusion and allowing inclusion are powerful and part of nature, and people can study nature, I enjoy equipping knowledge about this as it decodes reality before me, not fall into patterns of overcritical ism, to less frantic, less worried, be more at ease, with all of it.
Looking at the number of likes on these videos, and the comments, shows just how much effect they have on individuals. The sum total of improvement in society as a result of so many of us gaining self-awareness and becoming better team players in all aspects of our lives and achieving more, ... man, that just boggles the mind.
Whats so extremely hard for me is that when i became agressive (through hardship and trauma) i did 10x better in life, i just dont have many people in my corner besides my parents. I work hard, my morals are straight, people just dont like me because im an asshole. Im not rude, i just dont bullshit and im blunt. I tell you straight up what is on my mind. Im in this conflict where i feel like if i stop being aggressive i wont do as good in life... but im so lonely and depressed about while knowing i deserve it. Its fucked up honestly. I dont treat people bad and i bend over backwards for my family and employees and show the outmost respect for those i love. I just speak so fucking aggressively. The worst part is i know what im doing wrong.
What if the individuals who make the claim that you are abrasive only make the statement when you point out their flaws and don't allow them to lie or manipulate people in front of you ?
Echo, you definitely made a deep line of lyrics with that hard core hard shell statement! Better copy right that or its going to be in the next big hit! (i might even use it, dont hate me)
People don't understand how at 14 this was not around I was homeless and a kid who just got of lucky on a GBH case I really wanted to be better and I did what you said People took from me and still I smile Cuz you would not take from someone who has nothing
Here’s a tip. Don’t overreact about small shit. Too common these days. smh…. I enjoy annoying abrasive people. Pisses them off to no extent. lol Anger is a weak persons trait. Remember that.
So I'm an attractive female and sweet Jesus do I relate. Now I'm a parent of two sons I took on. Time to get over my own crap. That hard core/hard shell stuff is GENIUS, totally stealing. Kids will *love* that.
I can relate. Im a female however Ive been verbakly bullied for a long time and I have it embedded. Niw Ive changed my eating habits feelbgreat however I am very aware of the bs. I do not appearing as a little bitch either! However, I'm working on fundamentals.... not every being is trying to cast me down & keep me up in calamity.
He explained once that he does it basically bc when you see black and white you see the whole picture vs if it's in color you see all the details that dont matter. I explained it poorly but just the power in using black and white and the message behind it.
No you don’t become the dominant one Jocko LMAO!!!! YOU BECOME A DICK....A BULLY...the one people will chose not to be around...shake itself out. I like howJocko took the time to listen to different perspective, I also liked how I was able to see him reroute the scenario in his mind to play out what Echo was getting at and see it
Take jocko's advice BUT also make sure you're built like a mack truck OR you're an MMA badass because THEN there's no reason to be scary when you know the chances of being threatened are really low. I doubt jocko could've developed that insight without being a big physical guy. Scrawny jocko might not sound so wise
He just described my work out partner to a T. an insecure abrasive meathead who sucks a communication. Also is a drama queen, talks about other dudes when they aren’t in the gym. He recently insulted my wife and our parenting of our child when he doesn’t have any kids at all. I’m done with this dude. He’s weak.
I'm on the cusp of kicking a young guy out of my shop because I've gone so far out of my way and he just won't grow up and show up on time or get a shit done in his early 20s I don't like being that guy but I don't know what else to do with this point I've gone way too far out of my own way and people surrounding me or telling me to cut him loose
Who cares if he is 10 m in ns late. You want him on time but then you ask him to stay after the agreed upon working hours?(not neccesarily you juat some bosses) But for real whats a few mins?
@@phannypack3951 if he is a hard worker then I would say it's okay to be late, but from the comment it sounds like he is lazy and is probably dragging the team down, which wouldn't be allowed in a Seal team.
@@phannypack3951 sounds like you are an entitled corporate employee I farm and reclaim old barns and make furniture It's not about being 10minutes late 1 day and if you are ok with being late regularly it shows a clear lack of respect and LAZINESS that is pervasive in this society. I wouldn't apprentice you that is for sure
@@joshsimpson10 but asking him to do more than agreed upon is what? Respectful? And nope. I was an independent contractor for 5 years and now i work in a warehouse with rigid guidelines.
@@MRINSANE32 the guy being late wouldn't be a navy seal in the first place. The guy is mad the kid has poor time management but wants him to work extra or do tasks that aren't in the job description?
I am afraid. Im afraid as a LEADER I am going to get people killed. As I am a Father, that is my leadership role, those PEOPLE are my children. Single Dad who did almost everything wrong in life up till 5 years ago. I also died so many times as a direct result, or maybe not, of lack of discipline, lack of rules, lack of self worth, and complete obsession with anything BAD or dark or wrong. Jail. Dual Diagnosis Rehabs. Poverty. Anger. As a result, or maybe not, I am TOO strict. To hard on my boys. It all falls on me and I dont want to make decisions that could lead them to harm. Im terrified they will make the mistakes I made as a result of my poor leadership... That is why I am here girls and boys. Its a long road ahead, alot to learn, and excited to GET AFTER IT!!!! (Just broke my keyboard I typed those last words so hard, Is That Aggressive? lol)
I would rather work for a hard ass fair leader than an emotionally vocal afraid to set task and not get the job done.. people who respect a leader would jump to get the job done. I understand jocko is trying to speak to the emotional masses..
Lmao. 1 dislike. Lol bet that's the bloke who asked the question. He he he. Also call you out jocko; ecko says about dick bloke and you get sooo defensive and jump in thinking that it's you he's insinuating is the dick. Check you on that. Much love. Keep up the good philosophical work. Peace.
“You don’t need a hard shell, if you have a strong core” 👌
Having both are better
Damn right brother
That was deep
Ab exercises it is
Awesome !
I used to be extremelly chilled out and nice to people, then shit happened... repeatedly, I had my failures and weaknesses used against me. Now I'm in a state of anxiety and people generally irritate me.
Read literally any chapter in the book “Meditations” by Marcus Aurelius....I read it after I was dropped from Selection and was heartbroken/lost and the stoic philosophy there was exactly what I needed. Instantly changed my outlook on life and all my problems/inner bitterness
I feel you Bro
Yes! It's like when you're nice people hate you for being nice! I find being neutral but kind works. I think people take less advantage when you act neutral instead of just liking or helping them.
Yo get to a certain point and you realise people on irritate you because you are better than them and your probably have to pretend to be acquaintable with them
Self check and get yourself together. It makes you look weak and insecure.
As a woman with a short temper and a tendency to put up a front. This was very much needed. Thank you
Its scary how well this explains me. He even uses the terms "putting up a wall", because I recognize my problem and I say to myself I shouldn't put up walls all the time. Thank you Jocko. Ill listen to this regularly just like your "Lies" video that I listened to daily and helped me get fit and lose 140 lbs.
Dude nice. Congrats
And the process will become addicting, because you will feel yourself getting morally Stronger the more you admit your vulnerabilities - of putting up doors instead
Congratz
REMAIN FOCUSED AND CENTERED.
When I’m feeling lost in decision, I watch these to find strength.
I rub people the wrong way all the time, I have been told I am a very abrasive person. I saw recently how this cost me a job that I knew I was the right fit for after having a good interview. I am now trying to learn any way I can to not be so abrasive and you guys talking about being insecure definitely hit the nail on the head. Going forward I am going to try really hard to talk as well as listen to others. I also want to start not being so black and white and straight to the point because those are also abrasive traits.
"You dont need a hard shell if you have a hard core" Mic Drop. - Echo Charles
"You got to be a chess player, not a checkers player" ..
..good stuff
This is solid gold here. Just found your videos & an digging the hell out of them
When I worked as a mechanic, I learned to quit worrying about telling a customer I didn't know what was wrong with a car.
I realized that it just meant that I hadn't found the cause(es) of the problem(s) - yet.
I would explain what I'd found, where I wanted to look next (and why), and that even though I might have a pretty good idea, didn't *know* what was gonna' shake out on a proper, through investigation.
This was almost always universally respected by customers, as it had integrity.
I've seen guys "guess and go" @ diagnosis; they probably wanted to give the customer a fast answer and look like an expert.
Then, they'd find there was more to the story, and end up having to cover their asses.
When I learned this - really learned this - my life changed
I feel this so hard...i used to work on Porsches and i remember when i was first starting out it always fucked me up when i had to tell them "dont know whats going on with your 911 just yet"...i used to think it reflected that i was an inadequate technician or that they would think i wasnt up for the task. I learned though that the customer will always value integrity and honesty over anything, especially a sloppy shotgun approach
This channel pretty much saved me emotionally.
Thank you so much Jocko and Charles...if you read this.
Thank you for posting this. I’ve been told that I can have a mean look on my face or that I keep a wall up so I don’t let others get too close to me.
I said sorry to my wife this weekend. It was the 1st time I have ever said that word the way it is defined. I think I might be turning a corner after all these years. Thank you Jocko.
Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance by those, who lack it. I abide by the same principles but I wish I was more rigorous. Thank you and keep sharing.
The only real facet of my life where I know for a fact I am truly abrasive is calling out people on their shit when others don't. I have no idea why I feel the the ridiculous urge to instead of keep quiet. The majority of the time whatever the problem is, it doesn't even affect me. But it literally makes me anxious and irritated if I don't say anything.
I've gotten in fist fights, lost a couple friends, and a couple of relationships over it. Not just because of that solely, but a part nonetheless.
I've learned to control it a little bit. But I have a feeling I just am that way.
I just found your channel. I'm not huge on therapy, but I was recently made aware that I myself am the root cause of many of the failed relationships I've had. I've been described recently as aggressive and too vocal. In my search and self analysis I discovered you two. Immediate impact. Thank you... subscribing now.
this was really helpful, i think i was in the same position as this guy but yall really got through to me and this made complete sense. thanks
I was wondering about this earlier, then mindset without eyeballing every thing
automatic adversarial thinking has cheated me out of meaningful connections from being stuck too heavily on unseen scenarios, it's unfortunate, and I'm realizing unnecessary for the different situations they always were independent from what I had vowed to protect myself this time around from. The perspective to have fresh eyes for a new opportunity for a new heart's compassion is what I can strive for realizing this.
Jocko Wilink for president 2020
Really needed this.
Perfect video for what i've been dealing with lately, i need to stop being afraid of looking weak. Thank you Jocko
I needed to watch this pod cast! I’ll be taking these words with me and putting them into practice! Thank you guys!
Jocko for President.
(And EchoCharles as vice)
😁
Can't disagree in any way, shape, or form.
What if Jocko dies, Echo becomes president and the State of the Union address is two hours of a excruciatingly poor attempt at explaining Russian and American relations using Total Recall as an analogy?!?
@@bennygee3067
Bro, considering some of our previous vice-presidents EchoCharles would do just fine. I am supremely confident in his abilities, not to mention President Jocko would show him the way in case of his unlikely demise. And lastly, one name, two words. AL GORE. I rest my case...
James Relinski 😂😂solid argument 👍
Jocko Mattis 2020
I'm wondering if I sounded rude to a chef who I felt was being disrespectful to me. The day before, she and my boss had taken me to the latter's office to talk to me about a few mistakes I made. But you know what? I think she could've handled it better. It really wasn't worth a trip to the office, let alone with both women. The chef could've just spoken to me privately for a couple mistakes, someplace else, with respect and tact. I think I deserved that. She was firm, restrictive, and insensitive. She even said to my boss, "Is there anything you want to add?" Way to rub my mistakes in my face, as if I'm a criminal in an interrogation room.
And then the next day, she asked "How are you?" I replied, "With all due respect, please don't patronize me or be passive-aggressive after yesterday." Now I wasn't trying to be rude, but to be fair, her question was ridiculous. What was she thinking? That I was doing well after she treated me the day before? I guess my resentment made me say what I said. I felt disrespected by both her behavior the day prior and her "polite" question to me. I wouldn't lecture someone one day and ask how they are the next; that's rude and patronizing.
I aspire to be half the man Jocko Willink is. Stay blessed people👏
Why, this man literally preaches not to put people on a soap box
Jocko made a great point on another video and said you have to learn to detach yourself from a certain situation and evaluate from others perspective
This was me in previous relationships, going to work on making a change. Saving this video, thanks jocko
Every video is geared towards dealing with aggressive people. Well I'm the aggressor. I use it to keep people away from me.
Wow this really spoke to me. Thanks.
Ugh! I love this. Thanks jocko!
Big Respect guys 🙌
Subtly life changing. Thanks fellas.
Great advice! Still trying to get my company to bring Jocko out to speak.
Thank You Much 😊
This is a problem for many men, oftentimes people put on a front just to hide their own insecurities and weaknesses etc. Everyone needs Love and it can be hard. At least when you have a consciousness of this fact you can attempt to try to crack it. Good luck to you all.
Assertive yet, Receptive!
I know it's old and all... BUT I've often worked in groups that could SOOOooo easily come across as abrasive and mean... We often meet up in some "usual break area", starting the conversation (among us) with "F*** this, guys, let's just go drinkin'..." AND the obligatory round of chuckles.
This clip brought it up, too. "It's weak to lose your temper and intimidate people, if you use it as a tool." specifically.
That's the thing, though. When one of us realizes the whole crew is starting to get frustrated and stagnate... There's just a sort of "break point"... One of us will let fly a whole fountain of verbal filth, usually bordering on jibberish, and the rest of us will take notice (sooner or later) and start laughing at him... Sometimes we join in, and once in a while, we even get an audience or some outsiders step up to contribute... It blows off a little steam, and we don't let it get too out of hand... just an impromptu break to remind us all NOT to take ourselves too damn seriously, and then get a quick breathing exercise in, before someone else (usually part of the same crew) calls it off, and we turn to and resume whatever we were trying to do with fresh minds and eyes on the matter...
SO... sometimes, when you see a ring of guys guffawing at the one in their focus, while he's jumping up and down, frothing and the mouth, and spewing every god-awful insult and fuming verbal filth you could think of... it's just a comedy routine. It releases the distress and pressure building up from some overtly complicated or just randomly unlucky function that must be tried over and over until "the magic happens"...
We KNOW we look silly when we do this. That's the whole point. Sometimes there just isn't a "better way to do it". Sometimes there's just nothing you can do about "it" either... SO you blow off a little steam, and work off a little laughter. Then you breathe, relax, and resume keeping on. ;o)
inclusion and allowing inclusion are powerful and part of nature, and people can study nature, I enjoy equipping knowledge about this as it decodes reality before me, not fall into patterns of overcritical ism, to less frantic, less worried, be more at ease, with all of it.
OUTSTANDING 13.5 MINS!!!!
It takes a hell of a man to stand in the same lane as Jocko, and Echo Charles has ALWAYS matched that .. just such an impressive duo.
Looking at the number of likes on these videos, and the comments, shows just how much effect they have on individuals. The sum total of improvement in society as a result of so many of us gaining self-awareness and becoming better team players in all aspects of our lives and achieving more, ... man, that just boggles the mind.
Whats so extremely hard for me is that when i became agressive (through hardship and trauma) i did 10x better in life, i just dont have many people in my corner besides my parents. I work hard, my morals are straight, people just dont like me because im an asshole. Im not rude, i just dont bullshit and im blunt. I tell you straight up what is on my mind.
Im in this conflict where i feel like if i stop being aggressive i wont do as good in life... but im so lonely and depressed about while knowing i deserve it. Its fucked up honestly. I dont treat people bad and i bend over backwards for my family and employees and show the outmost respect for those i love. I just speak so fucking aggressively.
The worst part is i know what im doing wrong.
This could not have come more timely.
Thank you again 😊❤️😇
Damn this was my exact same issue last week.
I truly needed this!
Unfortunately it may just be my fear of not being a great supervisor that makes me come across as aggressive
Doh! Your right Jocko.....
What if the individuals who make the claim that you are abrasive only make the statement when you point out their flaws and don't allow them to lie or manipulate people in front of you ?
But that was deep echo....love that bro
I find myself sometimes getting into altercations because I’m overly aggressive. I need to stop this behavior
One of the best Americans to come along in years! Jocko is the freakin’ man
Wow ... strong
Too right Jocko, its fear, and that fear needs to be tamed and under control.
This hard shelled Ninja turtle is turning into a avocado. Thank you EC haha
People suck now days. They treat you like a fruit if you be nice but if you put your foot down they call you a bad guy.
🙏🏼
Jocko and Echo C are now the new drug
Fear of fear is basically fear of fear of fear and being insecure about being afraid.
"Did you just make that up?" HAHAHAHA
7:51 That. Right. There.
I relate
Hey Jocko, can you make a video on How to stop comparing to others
Echo, you definitely made a deep line of lyrics with that hard core hard shell statement! Better copy right that or its going to be in the next big hit! (i might even use it, dont hate me)
Hi jocko🙂
Where can I submit a question?
Where do you send in questions?
If you guys ever make a softshell jacket it's got to quote Ecco: "hardcore soft shell!" 😁
People don't understand how at 14 this was not around I was homeless and a kid who just got of lucky on a GBH case
I really wanted to be better and I did what you said
People took from me and still I smile
Cuz you would not take from someone who has nothing
9:20 It doesn't always shake out at the end.
*Meditation!*
whats up with jockos headset? xD
basically non toxic masculinity
Fuck, this hits home 🏠
Love disappeared in the stone ages
Aaaargh Jocko you got me with your damn logic.fuck!
Where do I submit a question?
Yo echo that was deep as fuck! The hell are you talking about!
If you confess your sins, you become invincible.
Everbody has an issue.Including me......
They needed to go a step further and tell the gentleman what he needs to do to become strong inside, no?
They talk about that pretty regularly to be honest.
As opposed to being dishonest? =^)
My problem is that I have a case of RBF....
Here’s a tip. Don’t overreact about small shit. Too common these days. smh…. I enjoy annoying abrasive people. Pisses them off to no extent. lol Anger is a weak persons trait. Remember that.
I needed that ❤
Tbh I am only aggressive as last resort but it gets really ugly then
So I'm an attractive female and sweet Jesus do I relate. Now I'm a parent of two sons I took on.
Time to get over my own crap.
That hard core/hard shell stuff is GENIUS, totally stealing. Kids will *love* that.
I can relate. Im a female however Ive been verbakly bullied for a long time and I have it embedded. Niw Ive changed my eating habits feelbgreat however I am very aware of the bs. I do not appearing as a little bitch either! However, I'm working on fundamentals.... not every being is trying to cast me down & keep me up in calamity.
I have two expressions: Smile Happy look and I'm going to destroy you look.
wow, such a badass.
@By Way Of Deception I need this. People say I have a great smile, but also a resting FU face. 🤷♂️
Maybe the creators of GoT should've watched this before they made the new season.
Plot twist: he's older than Jocko
Not what I was looking for, just seemed to advocate using aggression
I've always wondered this: is there a reason all of your vids and posts are in black and white?
Cuz it's his daughters room, it's pink
cuz it looks fucking badass
He explained once that he does it basically bc when you see black and white you see the whole picture vs if it's in color you see all the details that dont matter. I explained it poorly but just the power in using black and white and the message behind it.
Navy seals are not flashy or fancy
I was rubbed the wrong way before. Then I learned about leaving the tip first.
No you don’t become the dominant one Jocko LMAO!!!! YOU BECOME A DICK....A BULLY...the one people will chose not to be around...shake itself out. I like howJocko took the time to listen to different perspective, I also liked how I was able to see him reroute the scenario in his mind to play out what Echo was getting at and see it
Bro, but if people treat you like you’re nothing, like a piece of shit, even then, I can’t defend myself?
it is sad that social dynamics require such strategy.
ECHO has lost so much weight in his shoulders and bi-ceps. Has he stopped lifting? Asking for a friend...
Take jocko's advice BUT also make sure you're built like a mack truck OR you're an MMA badass because THEN there's no reason to be scary when you know the chances of being threatened are really low.
I doubt jocko could've developed that insight without being a big physical guy. Scrawny jocko might not sound so wise
this doesn’t exactly help in my case
He just described my work out partner to a T.
an insecure abrasive meathead who sucks a communication. Also is a drama queen, talks about other dudes when they aren’t in the gym.
He recently insulted my wife and our parenting of our child when he doesn’t have any kids at all. I’m done with this dude. He’s weak.
I'm on the cusp of kicking a young guy out of my shop because I've gone so far out of my way and he just won't grow up and show up on time or get a shit done in his early 20s
I don't like being that guy but I don't know what else to do with this point I've gone way too far out of my own way and people surrounding me or telling me to cut him loose
Who cares if he is 10 m in ns late. You want him on time but then you ask him to stay after the agreed upon working hours?(not neccesarily you juat some bosses)
But for real whats a few mins?
@@phannypack3951 if he is a hard worker then I would say it's okay to be late, but from the comment it sounds like he is lazy and is probably dragging the team down, which wouldn't be allowed in a Seal team.
@@phannypack3951 sounds like you are an entitled corporate employee
I farm and reclaim old barns and make furniture
It's not about being 10minutes late 1 day and if you are ok with being late regularly it shows a clear lack of respect and LAZINESS that is pervasive in this society.
I wouldn't apprentice you that is for sure
@@joshsimpson10 but asking him to do more than agreed upon is what? Respectful? And nope. I was an independent contractor for 5 years and now i work in a warehouse with rigid guidelines.
@@MRINSANE32 the guy being late wouldn't be a navy seal in the first place. The guy is mad the kid has poor time management but wants him to work extra or do tasks that aren't in the job description?
I am afraid. Im afraid as a LEADER I am going to get people killed. As I am a Father, that is my leadership role, those PEOPLE are my children. Single Dad who did almost everything wrong in life up till 5 years ago. I also died so many times as a direct result, or maybe not, of lack of discipline, lack of rules, lack of self worth, and complete obsession with anything BAD or dark or wrong. Jail. Dual Diagnosis Rehabs. Poverty. Anger. As a result, or maybe not, I am TOO strict. To hard on my boys. It all falls on me and I dont want to make decisions that could lead them to harm. Im terrified they will make the mistakes I made as a result of my poor leadership... That is why I am here girls and boys. Its a long road ahead, alot to learn, and excited to GET AFTER IT!!!! (Just broke my keyboard I typed those last words so hard, Is That Aggressive? lol)
I would rather work for a hard ass fair leader than an emotionally vocal afraid to set task and not get the job done.. people who respect a leader would jump to get the job done. I understand jocko is trying to speak to the emotional masses..
Lmao. 1 dislike. Lol bet that's the bloke who asked the question. He he he. Also call you out jocko; ecko says about dick bloke and you get sooo defensive and jump in thinking that it's you he's insinuating is the dick. Check you on that. Much love. Keep up the good philosophical work. Peace.