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- 3 UPDATES: Estranged Family Who Always 'Pretended' to Love Me Took My Lying Ex's Side During Our Divorce is Now Begging to Reconcile Bcuz She Just Gave Birth & I Left Them Begging in The Rain Bcuz…
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I (29M) got divorced from my wife (27F) two months ago. She'd been cheating on me with my estranged brother (27M) for a while and four months ago, I finally found out when she told me that she was pregnant. Initially, she tried to convince me that the baby was ours but my brother's frequent visits made me question everything so I decided to check her phone. I confronted her about whatever texts I found and she ended up confessing that she'd been cheating on me with my brother since she pretty much had no other option anymore. My family and I hadn't been on talking terms ever since I left home when I turned eighteen. They'd always treated me like an outsider even in my own family and my brother was the golden child. He was the best, it was always my brother this and my brother that.
Any lawyers that cook up a false narrative or judges who pull this kind of crap should face harsh punishment ngl
Its ops fault for being a super pssy
They should be disbarred,that's scumbag behavior.
@@theprodigaltrue The judge just ruled on the evidence given. That's OPs fault for sure. Him not trying to fight back at all...also OPs fault. People lying under oath and back stabbing him, a lawyer not doing due diligence to verify the validity of claims...not OPs fault.
@@theprodigaltrueGood thing the time he almost went for the jugular. I'm saying 'almost' because OP should've demanded the first alimony back when he proved his ex and his family's lawyer bs'd the first time.
Sadly it happens all the time, especially here in the USA....
“I tried to be a good wife…” YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE A GOOD WIFE!”
OP, you owe your family nothing and should block them and get restraining orders on them all.
He should but he won't!
He was a doormat ..until he wasn't
Alimony should have been canceled once the ex got remarried.
I thought that’s what was s supposed to happen
@@leroysgamesandmore2226in most cases yes, some dont do that though they can just be over a set time period eg 30 years or so. Given the ex wife wasnt working id imagine it heavily swayed towards that
Alimony should be abolished
If you leave the marriage, you leave the support you got from the marriage
@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer agreed. It's beyond unfair, especially if a settlement was already given, which shouldn't have been given in the first place.
Cheaters should never eat alimony. The Ex and the brother should have sued for alimony.
And this is why "Reconciliation" is never a good idea.
The only mistake OP made, was letting those people back into his life, even though they didnt care about him at all.
Some people do change with age though not all my moms side is like that the older they get the more controlling they try to be on me and my siblings and then they wonder why I don't want to talk to them or go to church the latter is because until I graduated from high school I was forced to go to church on Sundays and wednesdays I hated going to church once I realized it was getting in the way of my life at 11 years old I actually stop going unless stayed because parents went to another state and I couldn't go because they were gone til we were in school I don't know why dad went along with what his wife with that crap he knew we were miserable at that house why I rather went to my cousins house yeah her father was strict but compared to my grandparents at least I would have someone to play with and then the evil hag wondered why I didn't want to stick around to help her with the chores down at the house and ran up to the dog lot instead few times I was forced to stay with her once I got the chance I was gone up there gramps just shook his head everytime he knew what his wife was like and that's why he stayed up in the dog lot the whole day I hated house chores back then and the hag wanted me to work in the garden with bees wasps and hornets long story short I was stung and was scared of them yeah they were also up in the dog lot but I could avoid them easier
@@beverlyarcher546 In all my life, people never change. They'll pretend to, especially if doing so benefits them at your expense but very, very rarely does anybody change for the better. They just learn to mask their sh!ttiness better.
The other mistake was not getting any evidence for the cheating!
@@beverlyarcher546These are the sorts of people who never change and deserve no second chances. OP should never have allowed them back in. They’re all parasites. Parents who have a golden child deserve no relationship with the disfavored child. The ex is an evil monster as was the brother.
@@beverlyarcher546 behavior never change but may be wiser.
So, his useless brother with no job is better than him? 😂😂😂 I want whatever they're smoking.
I've seen this sort of behaviour with my own family...
People just think they are above everyone, it also happens in all layers of society.
Hahahaha
Same. It has to be some good good 😂😂.
The perfect retort to the father when he said "you had betrayed them all by refusing to help"
Is "you speak to me of betrayal after taking my cheating ex's side and lying for her in court to get undeserved alimony"
Or after he said he betrayed his family. Just say “you’re not my family so I have no obligation to any of you”
@@Ace0Spades17Oh that’s a good one but hindsight you know
Last update, my money is on ex was somewhere recording op and his family. They wanted him to do something so they could use that as evidence. Claiming they just went there to talk and he attacked them. Op said brother and parents were there but not ex, and that's why dad stopped brother from attacking op, they couldn't use it as evidence against op then.
Too funny, they ask for MORE alimony and wind up getting NONE😂😂
OP needs to start collecting evidence on their ceaseless harassment and get a restraining order. He should after his mother got into an argument with the receptionist where he works.
They sound obliviously entitled. They aren’t going to stop.
Does insanity run in this family? The entitlement was shocking from all of them, the Dad, mom, brother, and ex. Why wasn't a restraining order bestowed to OP to keep them from his home and work? ;-)
I think this was in Asia and their system is different regarding those (if they have it) and require harder incidents than just harrassment of family that could be brushed off as them being 'concerned' specially since they could lie again and say that's the case
The brother is delusional 😂😂 while i think OP should've cut the support and any contact with them far earlier in his life that visual of watching the family go from glee to shock must've been a masterpiece.
They did OP dirty with a betrayal of epic proportions and then they have the balls to ask him for help?! Hell no!!!
With "family" like this who needs enemies?
And with the new DIL scummy ex wife who cheated on OP.
Glad OP was able to stop paying her and his greedy family’s asses alimony
This
Why are people so damn weak nowadays? Feeling guilt after they treated you like trash your whole life? Treat trash like trash...period
Yeh OP is so pussified idk why, hes brother almost punch him and didnt even protect himself! I would have snapped
He was traumatised as a kid because of parents and brothers treatment. His reaction unfortunately is what you’d expect
Tell your family, the brew you stir today, you drink tomorrow.
Im just posting so i can remember this saying, cause im going to use it.👍🏾
@zander8018 *YOU REAP YOU SOWN !!!*
"I didn't even bother to fight back and just agreed with him" GO OP!
The one mistake OP made was not fighting the first time.
Opie‘s parents left him a long time ago they showed who side they were on. They don’t deserve any help. He was perfect for letting them stand in the rain. They lied they threw a OP under the bus is not holding grudges. It’s called karma but entitled, horrible people will never understand that.
I am so happy I'm the type of person that once you show me who you really are I BELIEVE THEM and move accordingly. OP knew who they were and DECIDED to disregard what he knew. They came to him with WORDS not ACTIONS. "My mother contacted me and asked me to visit them" his answer was suppose to be "NO FUCK OFF!"
The brother and ex wife need to get jobs flipping burgers if they are so desperate for money
Firat story : NTA OP> It feels like you are being used for your money because you are being used for your money. Your awful family are so used to 'getting one over' on you that they think you will just roll over again and forget how they have treated you. OP, you need your self respect and these people have no respect at all for you. Brush the dust of them off your feet and give them not a penny more of your hard earned cash. They have already had much more than they should have had, if justice had prevailed. However, now is the time to draw a line. Make your own friends as your family and live your own life as you want to. Good luck.
If you start giving them money it. will. never. end.
Make sure your will is ironclad & be sure there’s no way they can get guardianship over you & make decisions on your behalf should you be unable to make those decisions.
Have your attorney send them addresses & phone numbers of the local food bank & other agencies that help those in need.
& keep an eye on your credit & ID
OP eventually learned not to be a doormat.
why do people feel guilty of people that wronged them?
They are just weak people.
Because good ppl have a sense of morality and this can suck sometimes
Pathetic and spineless people do this bs.
S1. OP just needs to go NC with his family. I would have called the cops on my mother if she made a fuss in my office. I would never speak to them again.
Should of given them enough for a local call so they could call someone who cared. 😂😂😂
OP should cut his losses and leave them in the dust.
PEOPLE! if stuff like this happens RECORD EVERYTHING! RECORD RECORD RECORD. Collect EVIDENCE!!!
You don't have to pay child support when the child's not yours. There are paternity tests for that.
Thats not true lol you have no idea what you’re talking about. In some states if a child is born during the marriage the husband is legally the father even if not biologically, you also have to pay if you sign the birth certificate even if you’re not the father. Sit down
@@Calories_To_Calibers Yeah I agree. Plus, in some countries, paternity tests are illegal. The truth is, the government knows they should do it but refuse to do it because they don't want to pay another woman's stupid mistakes if they can help it.
who told you that shit? in canada and the states if you sign that paper your stuck. all a woman says is he loved the baby when we were in love and he didn't mind it then, but now it's hate and he swore to care for my baby which is why he signed and that's all sucker. 99.99% of the time it goes that way. also in france they banned dna testing on babies to prove parenthood. so where is that shit coming from?
@@Calories_To_Calibers So you just ASSUME OP lives in the US?
@robertx8020 yes, now sit down.
Narcissist should have quit while they were ahead. Now ex lost the alimony too and all because they saw OP as the whipping boy who will do whatever they say and can be thrown out without a word. Good on OP for showing them he’s free
Narcissists only view you as an obstacle in their path.
They can throw their own sins at him all they want because that's what they really want. They don't want to take responsibility for their actions: they want him to carry it and make them look like they are good people. It's like when cheaters accuse others of cheating when in reality the target is completely innocent of such a crime. They're just irresponsible beggars of wanting to be something they're not.
I would have relocated and moved. Sold the house. Change my number. Block them on social media. 0 contact. You wouldn't find me. Good job OP for standing up for yourself. The alimony shouldn't have happened and stopped immediately.... since your brother doesn't want to work while raising a family on your dime.... your parents are horrible. Your so called family got what they deserved.
Blocking isn’t a good idea - it’s better to keep record of the crazy stuff they send. He should make sure he has cameras all around his house and a good security system.
All this talk about taking responsibility but they all want free money from someone else LOL.
These kinds of people are ALWAYS about money. NOT any sort of "Reconciliation"
what a roller coaster ride. congrats to OP and his newly found freedom from his family. again
Does the OP not understand the block function on a cell phone?
They only want your money.
They didn’t make good judgments or put their priorities in order. So that’s on them.
Just say NO
It’s ok to say NO.
Matthew 5:37.
S1, Op it wasn't your place to help your backstabbing family members ,they lied to a judge to get as much of your assets as possible and now that you want nothing to do with them they will harass you until you either block them or get the police involved or both .NTA
Alimony is only paid up to the point when the Ex-spouse remarries.
OP COULD have [and should have] gone for repayment.
The fact that OP didn't put a restraining order on his family and ex is ridiculous. He deserves the frustration he faced.
after listening to the entire story i can tell OPs family viewed him as a doormat for years and have never respected him..
OP went nc, but didn't block them anywhere... i dont get op feeling guilty at all. I guess i am TA. Cause i simply dont see why he would.
10:32 Pretend the money had been used to buy a house that was sitting atop a volcanic gas vent and was slowly killing the family, including the infant. I STILL would not recommend shelling out one thin dime to rescue his former family. After all, if it had been built over a gold mine vein, would the family share some of that with OP? I doubt it!
They can sell their big fancy house and YOU need to prove those MFers are cheaters and she remarried. Stop lying down and taking it
When OP decided to leave the house and not to comeback it should have included not to introduced his wife. That was a blunder for his part. He made again mistakes not cut all contacts. Phew, the stupidity is boiling me.
So many of these doormats bring this $#!t on themselves when they can't keep the promise to even ignore their detractors. They allow them to abuse them by meeting, taking texts, answering phone calls. I just angry with idiots like OP making their own lives miserable. 😖
The ex-wife, brother and parents lied and manipulated the court to take OP to the cleaners in the divorce. Glad OP finally stood up for himself and his family had to give up the idea that he was not going to be their animated ATM machine. Ex-wife needs to go down to the welfare office and sign up for assistance.
People like that never learn lessons or hold themselves accountable for there actions. If their degeneracy leaves them in a good situation they don’t care what they did to get there and they always double down if things go bad
Imagine feeling any hint of guilt in this sort of situation. It almost doesn’t even seem real
I don’t understand women cheating but also cheating on poor husbands with loser siblings. I mean can’t they see making a huge mistake?
Omg OP is annoying me why is he giving so much time to these energy vampires?
He's just weak minded...a lot of people are nowadays. They value "blood" tooooo much..smh
She: You are heartless
He: Guess who made me that way. *Proceed to walk away in the sunset*
It must be a cultural thing for OP to have so much respect for this toxic family.
"You are a no good person that will never amount to anything."
Is that why you are begging him for money?
I hate it when women cry to manipulate men and children. It just infuriates me. Mom and brother are jerks. Bro definitely needs a job. Bro can support himself and his parents. Do not fall for their manipulation. Only slightly less that blubbering. I hate the be the bigger person crap. Do not be the bigger person if that means giving them their way
Only the little people expect you to be the bigger person
in fact, the "family" owes OP for everything.
Dude needs a restraining order
At the end of the day if you got money who needs a toxic family. Also if i was driving by and i saw my familys car on my property i would drive on by and call the cops telling them that i have some trash on my property.
That's the kind of family I keep a distance the farder the better😂😂😂
I feel guilty!
I could help them!
I can afford it!
Am I doing the right thing??
What a simp!
The ending saves his dignity. I hope it lasts!
On the last story, I am so glad that you stuck to your guns! That family doesn't deserve you, your money but especially your love. I'm proud of you and move on with your life. They're trash and not worth a second thought! Good luck on all your future endeavors!❤
It's your typical Redditor response to a fight or when people just trash talk you to your face just stand there and take it. Then post on Reddit what you would have said to them but you didn't 😂 OP never stands up for him self all of those comebacks were pretty much in his head. How sad nobody even knew that his wife cheated with his brother
What an audacity, block them all and forget them all
I agree they were probably trying to provoke OP, maybe to anger him into striking first whilst one of them was recording to get him into trouble and prove their case. But staying silent doesn't diffuse the situation, it just encourages them to escalate the hostilities to get a rise out of you, OP should simply read the riot act about how it's them that are the lessers for treating him like crap his whole life whilst celebrating his non-achieving deadbeat bro, make them understand that he isn't believing their idiotic point of view about him being in the wrong for not being a doormat. Also never threaten to call the police, just call them before or instead of engaging them, threatening to call may make them back off but for people this entitled or deluded they're more likely to call your bluff, use the time before they arrive to concoct a story about you being the aggressor, or in the most extreme case murder you, hide your body, and claim your estate as next of kin.
I dont think OP was bluffing at that point. He REALLY wanted to call them.
@@BraveryWing26 I've heard a few AITA stories where calling them was absolutely justified and the OP threatened to do so, but never did and things escalated in an update.
@@djdomain Point taken. You are right then.
OP should cut all contact with these toxic people.
“Hey mom, dad, bro.
I’ll give you 1000$ for every minute you let me fight you in a boxing ring. You can’t fight back and you have to sit there and take it just like I had to take it from you all.”
Don't send them a dime. They will always keep treating you like trash and wanting more and more from you.
Men, who noticed that the OP likely picked a woman like his mother.
Dumb choices lead to dumb consequences ..Most probably they planned this in advance so they could take his assets. It was a mistake on his part to let them in his life again.
i think its hilarious for them to call OP jealous and a loser errrrm whos the ones not working and begging for money ?
I’m 6:47 in. If this story is real I’ve got questions. How are they still contacting OP? Why is OP giving them a second of attention? Why is OPs immediate response not “why ain’t you in the ground yet you traitorous old incubators”?
8:20 nope fuck this release a loud fart as you leave the house.
The answer is because this Lady makes up annoying nerve wracking stories. It is fiction. 100%
I assume because he never changed his phone number. I had to change mine after 14 years and you would be shocked on how many things you gotta update and fix and the constant calls I get from previous owners of the number I get. Like I know way to well that the guys that have my old phone number never paid bills because I get collections calls for some random family.
Because he's the idiot.
Yeah I don’t think that’s gonna be the last you hear or see them I’m sure others have said this but I would recommend that you put security cameras up around your house. Also record any interaction with those POS.
He is lowkey doormat.. so much opportunity wasted for him to tell how trash they are
Why didn’t he go nc and told them if they didn’t stop harassing him, he’d call the police? He’s as bad as they are!
Time to go back to court to remove the alimony since his ex got remarried and they weren't married all that long.
Block all phone calls. You can’t trust them anymore
No way bro just said "I'm sorry I'm better than you in every way but you need to grow up"
I'm not sure of the jurisdiction, but this doesn't make sense. Alimony for a two year marriage? How did the wife take so much? The marital assets would be split in half. That wouldn't be much in a two year marriage. If it was an at-fault state, she'd owe him. He must have had a crap divorce attorney. And the stories the family told the court wouldn't have mattered unless there were custody issues. So, this doesn't make much sense.
I’d file for a restraining order on them, get security cameras, and maybe sell my house and move.
Moving and changing phone numbers would have killed most of this drama.
By this point, you need to get a restraining order and start calling the police.
His brother and ex-wife just need to get jobs rather than begging OP
You must have had the worst lawyer in existence if you ended up litterally paying for your brother and ex wife to live off your money. Basically paying child support for a kid who is not yours
Get cameras, proof when they show up again for restraining order. Also get your lawyer to send them a warning that they are not welcome. Also legally sever your ties with the family, then you are no longer family and they can't try and use that against you.
"Do it for Dan" hahaha 😂
If I was op I would say "I forgot that my family died along time ago, and I don't feel comfortable letting novies into my home".
Coming to find out op didn’t even fight for himself the first time I guess I don’t feel as bad for him but glad he’s finally fighting back the second go around
How was he still paying alimony when she remarried
Where do you be finding these stories?
Op should have knew that the only reason why his family want anything to do with him is because they need some money from him story1
Sometimes I wish we could hear the other side because how could something this cruel happen to someone by their own families
I would've send them a video of me eating a nice juicy steak. A realy expensive one
Don’t do it they will keep
Asking for more😊
Should have just changed his phone number 😂😂😂😂😂
Story 1: op needs a restraining and no contact orders like yesterday.....
Get security cameras to put outside your window and house and get a windmill door cam so you can record
Oh man, I bet they wished they hadn't played favorites huh.
I also bet the ex wishes she didn't try to be so greedy cause now she lost all alimony payments.
I wouldn't help them with crap
help pay thier bill
--- Why is the ex-wife when she has gotten married? Too bad she and the rest of the family have lost their cash cow and the mill's run dry.
Should've contested alimony as soon as she lived with the brother
Omg. Op you are right, do not help them.