UPDATED: Parents Insisted For Paying For my Wedding But I Walked Down The Altar & Saw Estranged Sis
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- UPDATED: Parents Insisted For Paying For my Wedding But I Walked Down The Altar & Saw Estranged Sister Who Ruined my Wedding Last Time… I Confronted My Parents & They Say Everything Comes With a Price so Today 3 Yrs Later I Told Them The Same Thing When They Wanted to See Their Grandson For The First Time
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I never wanted my parents to pay for my wedding. I had always dreamt of a simple ceremony with only close family and friends in attendance. But my parents insisted, telling me that they wanted to give me the best possible start to my new life. Reluctantly, I agreed, thinking that it was only fair to let them have their way since they had done so much for me already.
Oh, look it's the consequences of their actions! Who could have thought that their daughter would reject them after they ignored her wishes !!
Well, they have two daughters. Better start harassing their golden child to give them a kid.
@@kitsumekat I am hoping that they end up resenting their alcoholic piece of trash "golden child" more and more over the years when they have plenty of time to stew over the fact that their grand child (maybe plural) is growing up and they did not get the joy of being a part of their lives or their other daughter's life and more and more they will blame the other daughter. As much of a piece of crap as she is this is technically unfair because had they not invited her to the 2nd wedding then ONLY the other sister would be banned and they would still get to be a part of the other family.
The OP needs to take a trip down to the local COURT HOUSE and obtain all of the necessary paperwork for RESTRAINING ORDERS for the 3 @$$H0L3$ that were once a part of her family.
Bet dollars to doughnuts the golden child ends up stealing money from the parents and ghosts them.
That comment applies to both stories. Disrespect bride's wishes at her wedding and disrespect vegan's wishes in her own house.
Everything comes with a price. Lol! Burn. 😅
Story One: Good for OP for using her parents own words against them. I suspect that they insisted on paying for the wedding so that they could invite the sister against OP’s wishes. That’s why they said that everything had a price. I hope that getting their way with the wedding was worth the price of being cut off from their grandson.
It would have also cost the father a bare knuckle boxing match the first time they showed up unannounced to my house after that if I were her husband.
Given that they have two daughters, they can start to harass their golden child to give them a grandchild.
op should still talk to a lawyer to see whether or not her parents can sue for grandparents rights as in some places that does exist
@@dennislemasters4339 the only way grandparents rights work is if OP is willing to establish a bond between her and her parents for the sake of the kids.
@@kitsumekat did not know that
Story 1. If someone is invited to your wedding. That you don't want there, and you notice them while walking down the aisle. Stop, stare at them, then walk back the way you entered. Everyone will be confused, but you didn't make a scene but made it VERY clear why the ceremony is halted. Then, when someone eventually wants to know what happened, tell them I'm not walking until they're gone. Everyone was invited there for this specific purpose. They're already on your side. Will it be a scene? Maybe. Will it be better than doing nothing and regretting it later? YES!
A "scene" might even go in your favor. Maybe then all of the friends and other family members there would ALL or mostly blame the scene on the parents and sister and instead of just being shunned by the OP and her immediate family she would be shunned by all or most of the extended family and family friends.
That's exactly what I would've done.
And if you know who invited them, kick those people out, too. I’m sure the bridal/groom’s party will be more that happy to help.
Someone needs to let the groom know why his bride ran away tho. I can only imagine how he would feel if he was left at the altar.
@@DeeL-u1c Bride walks after groom does. Pretty sure he'd see why
Story 1: I wouldn't have been surprised if the jerkoff parents were planning on bringing AH sister to the birth as well!!
OP should delay the wedding by a few minutes and call the police. Instead of nightmare of a wedding she would have satisfying memory of her sister being walked out by police…
Sarah, one of my aunts was in her seventies when she died and she still loved teddy bears.
My friends daughter had bachelorette event at build -a-bear
I think there's some key past details missing from story. Bet sis did more than wedding stunt. Well deserved justice for OP - your wedding, not theirs
Maybe not for the 2nd since the parents were paying for it but I wonder if she can SUE her sister for ruining the first wedding? I am really curious as to what she did to make a scene. I wish that was elaborated on more.
I HATE her FAMILY and I hate the parents EVEN MORE than the sister by the end of the story. As bad as missing out on the other sister and their grandchildren growing up without them even being allowed visits I hate them so much that even that is not enough suffering for my tastes. I hope that the family falls on hard times economically AND the OP does really well and gets rich somehow, maybe their family runs a successful business or something and they refuse to help the OP's family no matter how much they beg.
@@Zurround and why didn't OP or her husband send a cease and desist long ago?
@@LadywizardThis can depand on the poster's country. Different countries, different laws on stalking, nuisance and getting cease/desist or protection orders etc.
First story: it sounds like this isn't the first time OP's family was abusive. They just don't want to lose their perfect image or something of value. Hopefully OP can move and block them on everything. But, OP's first mistake was accepting the "gift" when she knew that her parents were on her sister's side.
She ought to have used a big sharpie and wrote "Return To Sender" on the letters and packages.
If I were her I might have suspected that they were trying to shoehorn in the other sister and I would sit down with them and explain in no uncertain terms that my sister is NOT allowed anywhere near that wedding and if they cannot accept that then I do not want or need their money to help pay for the wedding.
And when I saw my sister there I would as politely as possible pause the wedding and explain to the security guard of the venue that THREE people (I would have my parents kicked out too) are not welcome and need to be escorted out. Once that was over I would if necessary explain my reason to the other guests (some might already know since the sister ruined her previous wedding) and then tell them all that I am sorry about the interruption and now let's have fun!
@@Zurround yesss!!! Someone that thinks like me. After that u would never have to do something like that ever again cuz everybody would know better than to mess with the queen/king of shade
@@Zurround on one hand that's a mature way to handle a situation. On the other hand, they can use it as ammo.
@@kitsumekat I do not really see how they can use it as ammo. She would have been assertive and clear. Seems to me like they would have no ammo.
Story 3: the one about the brother cooking meat in his vegan sisters home which she is allowing he and his pregnant wife to stay at since they lost their place, NTA, if you are staying at someone else’s place you don’t violate their dietary restrictions, for example I would never go to my brother and sister in laws and eat or cook anything with peanuts (SIL is allergic) or go to someone who’s kosher’s house and combine meat and dairy, even after being given an out (you can cook it just not while the sister is there and not with her cooking equipment) you don’t then go and violate those requests, especially then claiming it was for your pregnant wife, when it wasn’t.
Sarah can make her own kids their baskets. Even the kids know their mom was out of line.
Birth isn't a spectator sport !
I heard one of these stories where lots of people were allowed in the delivery room. Definitely not in the US. Two randy uncles were in the corner discussing the mother's lady bits. How's that for a spectator sport.
You’re still a kid at 17 and you never outgrow Halloween and the fun things that come with it they just change
OP is not selfish. Her parents are and her sister.
Sarah being an AH story : No OP, you were not out of line asking your sister to grow up in front of her kids. She has probably been told this many times before but does not listen. With foster children with a difficult background, you have to treat them differently, often because their own sense of self worth has taken so many knocks. Every opportunity to tell them they are valued and loved needs to be taken as they need constant reassurance. Tell your sister that if she can't say anything good, don't say anything at all as she can cause a lot of harm to vulnerable people by her thoughtlessness. NTA
And tell all of those people who are pestering you that NOBODY tells you how to parent your kids. If they try, they will be given a taste of their own medicine and they will be told to leave your home and never come back. And that if they think they think they can have a say about how two siblings treat each other, then they should have a talk with Sis, because she is the one who started it. That they are walking on very thin ice with you and if they don’t watch where they stick their noses, they will find your door metaphorically closed on it!
11:43 OP didn't "undermine Sarah's authority" because Sarah had no authority in that situation. If she's opposed to looking like a fool in front of her sons then she shouldn't say or do foolish things.
Story 1 : "...and had my best interests at heart..."
Nope, narcissistic parents NEVER have your interests at heart, in their mind you're nothing more than a doll in their dollhouse that's expected to do exactly as they want and feel how they want you to feel. It is why they were so insistent on forcing OP to have a relationship with estranged sister and invited her behind OP's back, because they believe they know better than OP and that OP should magically change her point of view to agree to their whims.
My guess is now that OP isn't playing her role anymore they're scared.
My mother lied to me and betrayed me after my brother and I had a huge fight (long story). Christmas was approaching, and my mother wanted us to come the Sunday before. I told her I didn’t want to come if my brother was there, and she plainly said, “He won’t be here.” But after driving over an hour, when we got there with our year-old son, my brother and his wife were there. I told her we were leaving right then, and she begged us to stay. We did stay, but as we were driving away, I told my husband I was never going back. We were estranged for about 30 years. When she finally realized I wasn’t going to come back, I asked if she knew how betrayed I felt. She’s 95 now, and she’s trying to stay in touch more, but the damage has been done. My son has seen her maybe 4 times in his life. I love her, but I don’t like her very much. She’s reaping what she sowed. During the 30 years, I begged her to go somewhere else, a neighbor or a relative, and I’d bring my son to see her, but she wouldn’t do it. When she was 57, she told me it was “too far to drive and I’m too old,” for her to come and see me. Now I’m 71, and I’m expected to drive even further. Sometimes, you have to get toxic people out of your life.
She could have ADMITTED he would be there. Maybe her heart was in the right place and she was hoping for a reconciliation but that is NOT something that you use deception to attain. She should have just ADMITTED he would be there so that you would have the right to stay away and you should have left immediately and stood your ground and not stayed. Maybe its none of my business but I am curious what you and your brother were fighting about?
Did you ever reconcile with the brother?
@@Zurround My brother accused me of trying to cheat on my husband, because I was in our hometown for a small country-type fair. I was walking with my husband and we were pushing our baby in a stroller. (I’m not in the habit of looking for other men, but I don’t think I’d take my husband and baby with me if I did.) My ex-boyfriend’s mother had come to where we were and we were talking. I’d stayed close to her, even almost 20 years later. My brother and his #2 wife walked up.
Because I had just seen my parents with the baby, I was going to visit other relatives instead of going to their house, and I told my brother that. My brother went to my parents and “told on” me, and my father accused me of looking for my old boyfriend. My brother then said the same thing to me. (It’s really a long story, so there’s a lot more.) I told my mother I wouldn’t be coming back until I got an apology from my father, and she said he’d never said he was sorry in his life. She enabled him to be that way. I’d even written her a letter, telling her exactly how I felt, and that she didn’t have to choose between us, just choose a different time to see us. She should have called me and told me that he’d be there. When she finally called me about 6 months later, after NC from me, I told her that I knew she loved my brother more, but I didn’t have to come and have my nose rubbed in it.
Yes, my brother did finally apologize, nearly 10 years later. A real apology, not one with a “but” in it. (I’m sorry, but you made me mad is NOT an apology.) His #3 wife started working on him, after she got in touch with me. He’s on #4 now. My father never did, so I had nothing to do with him for the last 30 years of his life, and I haven’t shed a tear for him. I’m glad that abusive SOB is dead.
@@Joannakathryn What made your brother finally take responsibility if it took him a decade to do so? Why would it take that long? Plus didn't you explain to them that you wanted to visit other relatives?
Them thinking you were trying to get back together with your ex boyfriend did not make sense to me either. If you still wanted a relationship with him then why break up with him in the first place? Do the people in your family have below average intelligence or lack common sense?
@@Joannakathryn it's funny how a man with three ex-wives accused you of cheating on the one husband you married 🤔
@@Zurround My brother's 3rd wife, married almost 10 years after this happened, wrote me a letter or a card, asking if we could get together. I wrote her back, thanking her, but telling her that it wasn't her fight, and what my brother had done. I told her, "Sometimes you must think that you've married into the family from Hell." When she read that, she said she KNEW she had to get to know me, because she was starting to experience some of the cr@p from my father. She started working on my brother, and she and I started getting together for lunch, and he finally gave me a real apology. I'm still FB friends with her, but I didn't blame her for divorcing him. My father was an idiot, always looking for dirt and thinking the worst about people. My mother just enabled him, never making him take responsibility for his actions. Yes, I did tell my brother that I was going to see other relatives. When I wrote the letter to my mother, I told her if I'd wanted to find the old boyfriend I could have found him years earlier. I'd always known where he lived. My parents didn't like him, and my father was still bringing up stuff I'd done in high school, nearly 20 years later, when I'd been married over 10 years and had a baby. I could write a book!
The greatest thing I was in high school was a motto one teacher had up in his classroom.
"Everyone makes choices. All choices have consequences."
Even choosing not to do something is a choice,as choices are rarely ever truly binary.
In this case, the Parents made a choice, and now they must face the very foreseeable consequences of that choice.
They lost the ability to have you in their life after they invited your sister after you said not too.
The alcoholic sister is the "favored" one I bet. I bet that during their childhood they doted on and spoiled the now alcoholic sister and ignored or neglected the OP?
I think the REAL REASON that they insisted on paying for the 2nd wedding was to shoehorn in her sister. "We are paying so we get to choose" or whatever.
Why did the OP and her husband not get RESTRAINING ORDERS? I hate the parents EVEN MORE THAN I HATE THE SISTER. The sister did not even apologize sincerely and make amends for ruining the wedding like Sandra Bullock did in the drama movie about alcoholism called 28 days.
And the AUDACITY of not only nagging their daughter to ALLOW her to be in the wedding AT ALL but to boot be a BRIDESMAID?? Even being allowed back as a REGULAR WEDDING GUEST is a tall order but on top of that they tried to make her a BRIDE'S MAID?
Her sister is obviously an alcoholic and my revenge karma fantasy is for her to need a liver transplant (a living donor can donate a small portion of their liver, that DOES regenerate and is not permanent damage unlike a kidney donation and it can save the life of a person with a damaged liver) and for her sister to be a viable donor but REFUSE and tell her sister that if you cannot find another donor then you are going to die. Yes, I am SO VINDICTIVE that if someone ruined two of my weddings IN A ROW (and let's face it, this show would be several hours long if they had to tell their entire life stories so its abridged. If her sister would ruin 2 of her weddings then I strongly suspect that she has ruined over types of occasion like birthday or christmas or graduation ceremonies and ruined her day in other cruel ways too over the years. I highly doubt that ruining two weddings is the ONLY bad thing she did to her sister)I would NOT save their life. Even if their life required a BLOOD TRANSFUSION which is not at all permanent (the needle is so tiny that it does not even leave a scar) I would refuse it (this is legal, under the law a person can never be forced against their will to donate any bodily fluid. If my URINE was needed to save someone else's life I could legally refuse).
Story 2: As someone who had not the nicest childhood due to medical reasons i held on to a fox plusheie a few years longer than maybe a boy usually does as it gave some confort to deal with things. So Not the asshole and your daughter probably appreciate that you let her recapture some lost childhood.
Why didn't she have the sister ejected?She let the wedding be "ruined"
Because it looks bad on her.
Isn't that what the groomsmen are there for? 😂
People need to respect peoples food styles even if you don’t agree with it the only exception is if they’re hurting an animal or a kid, and no one should be making fun of anyone is what food they like she took them in the kindness of her heart, and they do not follow her boundaries
OP was not disrespecting, Sarah she was telling her to stop being a party pooper pretty much. Sarah does not sound like a fun person.
The brother cooking meat did it for one reason only. He was exerting his dominance. He's butt hurt that he has to rely on his sister and decided on his petty revenge. She shouldn't even let him visit her home again, much less stay there.
Did you know there's a chef in Australia that banned vegans and sales skyrocketed?
I'm a meater, I have a mate who is Vegan, I would not eat meat in his home, I will be house sitting there shortly, and took the time to ask him if he would be ok with me eating a non vegan pizza at his place.. it is basic respect. I ask people not to smoke in my home, there is no difference.
First story- Bravo 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾
Everything has a price is what the parents said to OP, then everyday after that has been an endless struggle vying for OP to reconciliation and the ace up the sleeve was not to have anything to do with their grandchild and future grandchildren. Everything has a price and what the parents did to OP cost them to be cut out of completely.
S1: wow, sis managed to ruin TWO WEDDINGS!
I'm not sure who I'd have slapped first: my parents or my asshole sibling. And I'm not adverse to making a scene at my own wedding. I'd definitely go NC with all three for life.
S1: One of my pet peeves is whenever someone tries to use the family card.
Family is important, there is no doubt about that. However, being in a family is more about behavior than blood.
A lot of parents need to stay out of their kids wedding especially if you’re not close with a sibling but they’re family. It doesn’t mean they’re good for you.
Abusive, controlling parents with a golden child are given control over the wedding of the OP. Shockers, they act the way they always do. What a stunning outcome. It's hard to feel sorry for such a doormat.
That pan would have been up side his head and tossed to the curb with a bill. That is like going into a fine dining establishment and going into their kitchen. You Don't Do That.
If I was the pregnant wife I would be absolutely livid at my husband for not respecting his sister's one super reasonable boundary. Like he's so selfish and rude and is causing his pregnant wife more stress than she needs with his bullshit.
The sister who ruined the OP's wedding in the first story is a perfect example of why I hate alcoholics and despise people who get drunk. If a person gets drunk in their personal life but leaves me the hell alone while they are drunk and does not cause harm to others I will let it slide but I NEVER allow being drunk as an excuse for misbehavior. I might make an exception if someone was forced against their will to drink, either because they did not know there was alcohol in the punch bowl or because someone held them down and forced liquor down their throat.
Her sister was a disgusting piece of trash. It is not even like she showed up totally sober then had too much champagne. She SHOWED UP DRUNK. Showing up drunk to ANY social gathering AT ALL even if its just some friends casually hanging out together is extremely rude and inappropriate but she would show up to HER OWN SISTER'S WEDDING DRUNK??? I have flashbacks to the Sandra Bullock movie 28 Days, a dramedy about alcoholism.
I wish I could know more about the "scene" she created because SOME drunk people are able to mask it pretty well and avoid making an ugly scene.
Not inviting her to the next wedding is not enough. She should not be invited to ANYTHING AT ALL, and not just by the sister but by the ENTIRE FAMILY. She should be permanently disowned or at least shunned until she has made reparations and atoned in some way.
Can she be sued? I know that weddings are expensive and under certain circumstances you can sue a person for ruining a wedding. If at all possible I hope you sued your sister for as much as possible.
Sadly she can't, OP didn't pay for the wedding. That was OP's second mistake, first one was not suing her sister for the damage at the other ceremony. Hope she can get a restraining order and not a "they have changed" mentality
I’m “oldern’dirt” lol & still like eeyore, animal from the muppet show & older cartoons...
Tell Sarah that maybe you shouldn’t be giving holiday buckets to her children since she’s the adult.
Vegan story : NTA OP Your house, your rules. Your brother has no respect for you or your rules. He could not be bothered using his own pans etc. and was just taking the mick. You are quite right to have kicked him out, after warning him and being ignored. They could always have eaten out cheaply if they wanted meat or fish. You have not kicked your pregnant SIL out, but it seems as though she is trying to guilt you to let him back in. DO NOT DO IT or he will be just as bad as before, and you should not have to put up with such disrespect in your own house when you are going out of your way to help them. If they find another option of accommodation elsewhere, let them. It is not your responsibility to house them.
S2 NTA how you choose to parent your daughter is your decision. Tell everyone else to kick rocks.
So he made bacon pretty much for himself and lied and put it on his wife’s cravings
Sarah was undermining op authority!
I think if I were the husband I'd tell her father I want to see him in a boxing ring. No gloves.
'The happiest day of my life.' 'The wedding I waited for so long' ... Darling, it was your second wedding.
Brass neck territory.
That could've been a remake wedding.
Amen to that.
What a snarky way to discount her feelings as if she has no right to have them.
Story 2: Anybody ever heard of fastfood or UberEATS?? How about a microwave?? I eat PLENTY of meat which I RARELY have to cook I don't often buy it raw!!!
If I was her husband I would of spotted the sister way before my wife showed up and kicked her out and the parents if need be, I would never allow that level of disrespect at my wedding.
Story 2 Your sister Sarah is horrible, how dare she say these things about your daughter. Even if she was 40 if you want to give her a candy basket the great. It’s disgusting she wanted her kids to get the stuff you spent on your own. I wouldn’t want Sarah in my home. Listen even adults love build a bear.
Story 3 geez just kick them out, you are sweet letting them mooch off you. They can get out of your home. Having a kid and they can’t afford their own place? Come on……he’s a fool.
Op should have said she's right, they're for the kids. And 17, or 117 it doesn't matter because she'll always be his kid.
Story 2 really pissed me off.
1. IT is none of her GODDAMN BUSINESS.
2. Children who suffer trauma sometimes have their emotional and social development stunted and if she enjoys some activities meant for smaller children what is the problem? I agree with the narrator that its better than drugs or smoking or alcohol or other harmful activities.
3. Some people are YOUNG AT HEART and enjoy childish activities. That is not the same thing as ACTING IMMATURE like that horrible aunt lady. I had a friend once who brutally berated me for reading a book meant for children. I enjoyed the book and it was my personal business what books I read and he brutally and angrily berated and criticized me for it and it damaged our friendship and hurt my feelings badly. We are not friends at all anymore.
@@tonyblake7569 exactly my grandma still does trick or treating and easter egg hunts. To quote a family member of mine you can stop doing all of that when you are ready on your terms no one else's
Anyone under the age of 18 is an "actual kid." If you don't believe that, you're under 18 mentally.
Story 3: sadly your brother is absolutely the AH.
To think that he has the unmitigated gall to move into your house, sneak behind OP’s back by bring meat products into the house as well as use her cooking and eating utensils.
When given a pass our out he violates that rule.
Basically his word is not his bond and he is most definitely a massive AH.
Vegan taking in her family... OP was VERY lenient. Her brother was an entitled smug @$$hat.
Hell I'm a grandmother and I love build a bear. Wish I had one near me
WAIT!!! WAIT!!! WHAT???
OP said her sister ruined her 1st wedding?
What happened to the 1st husband?...
Did the sister have anything to also ruin OP 1st marriage too?...
I’m 44 and I would love a gift card to build a bear Sarah obviously has let the kid go and her and it shows how sad
Story3 your brother disrespected you, kick HIM out and let SIL stay till their place is ready...
Couls of ended worse. Last time a story said everything has a price it ended up with two old friends having to duel at sunrise in Paris for their freedom. Consequences
the vegan thing, it's her house, her rules and frankly the same as being in a kosher home. in my family you could not keep meat on the same shelf as dairy. (my overly controlling father threw hotdogs in my direction because they were on the cheese shelf) other stricter families shell out for a second fridge purely for dairy and the other purely for meat.
why was it so hard for him to cook meat with his own tools? I realize siblings are dicks to each other but he's a grown ass man. he should show the woman who took him in some respect.
Agreed. OP only gave one rule to stay there, even after he violated it still accommodated their desire to cook meat, and they already had their own cookware! Was it really so hard to go to his storage to get his own cookware, just to continue residing somewhere rent free?
That being said, this is an accidental blessing for OP, because ain't no telling what would happen if they stayed long enough to start raising a baby in OP's home.
Episode title : walked down the altar -- > ( altar is a table for consecrating wine )
Story 1. I would never speak to them again. That is an unforgivable abuse. The one day that is supposed to be all about you was still about her.
S1 Till the last bit, I was sure that OP would continue to bend over and allow her "cold and calculating" parents to have their way with her. I could see OP at 50 reluctantly accepting the cxxp show dished out by dominating parents of 70+!
Even a worm will finally turn, hooray!
You told him several times and then the joke about having a bacon sandwich. I would say you are welcome to stay, but my brother is not because he will not listen to my boundaries and respect my food choices.
Halloween story I am in my 50's.
I still go out for Halloween.
I see nothing wrong with going with your 17yo to build a bear or making Halloween buckets, Easter baskets.
Hell I send Easter baskets and Halloween stuff to my mother,father ( divorced mom was mentally and physically abusive) and my sister and she is older than me and vice cersa
Clearly sister learned from parents.
Story 1 - NTA but op is the A for not kicking her sister out. Because sister won in the end. She got to ruin op's wedding a second time and ruin her relationship with the parents. Their whole family argument feels like they would be worried about their image if she wasn't there.
They will never know their grandson. But that could change with time. Or if it dose it will have the same negative out come. Because they will bring sister into it or some other drama. Because people like that almost never change for the better.
Story 2 - NTA it's funny how the family is upset that sister was disrespected. But don't care about op or the adopted daughter. Showing they don't see them as family. Because that's what the sister is teacher her kids. Who cares if a 17 year old likes to go to build a bear. Sister is a choosing begger. Sister didn't pay or make then so she doesn't have a say in any of it.
Story 3 - NTA brother had no respect for op and had every intention to disrepect them. Even threw his pregnant wife under the bus. It's funny how much money he will waste for being dumb and lazy. I bet he was putting animal products in ops food and laughing about it. He is acting like a child the way he rubbed his sandwich in ops face. It's pathetic and he is about to be a dad. Sadly he will be a poor father from the sounds of it. Hope his wife is ready to raise kids since he won't be any help and except wife to baby him.
If the OP in story 2 deserves any criticism AT ALL it is for being TOO GENTLE with her sister. I would have been even more rageful.
@Zurround! 1000 to gentle with the sister and the family who are taking her side. It's crazy how they are trying to gaslight op into thinking they were in the wrong
Story 1: time for a restraining order....and keep the nc...
St1: Was all of these worth it? For the sake of inviting to a wedding an unwanted person?
Sadest part is, her parents still don't get what they did wrong and this is toxic
What horror!!! Her pans and knives were touching meat. Call the cops right now!!!
Some people who are vegetarians feel the presence of meat products interferes with their meditation. It’s actually a religious belief. Would you mock a Muslim for eating halal meat or a Jewish person for only eating kosher? No. Because it’s religious. I had a coworker who was a very strict vegan. For him at the potluck I made vegan soup with a brand new crockpot and brand new utensils. Never touched animal products. He was very appreciative.
Wedding and overbearing parents story : OP does not seem to have tried very hard to block her parents, as they kept getting distressing messages through. Did she really want them to contact her but just be different? Had her family wrecked her first marriage? Might have to be a ;move across the country; situation. Either way, OP needs therapy as she is exhibiting signs that her anxieties may have been caused by much more than a single event. As the parents and, especially, the sister are the triggers, keeping away from them at all costs seems paramount. Has noone told the parents that giving birth is not a spectator sport?
I would have gotten a restraining order as soon as they escalated their attempts. Get one ASAP to include your son. Get cameras for home inside and out. Inform others to insure they don't involve OP's parents.
The A hole in this story is op because her whole adult life she let her parents her around and she is supinated that her toxic sister is at wedding 🤦 story 1
Story 2. Speaking up for the older parents here. Yes, you will always be a child to us. Always. It isn’t about you or any disrespect to you. Thankfully my children and grandchildren love me for remembering the things I did when they were kids. I still do them now. But with an adult twist.
Last story wasn't abt the meat. It was a power play. Especially since he bragged abt it in front of OP's face.
Halloween story was abt vicarious greed.
S1: "My parents were overbearing, controlling and constantly made decisions on my behalf without consulting". And you put them in charge of your wedding???
1-Stop the wedding and say, We will continue after my parents and sister
leave.
2- Sarah is a selfish, rude, nosy, greedy B.
3- How controlling she is.
Last story. You're home you're rules. Damn they were staying for free
Last Story: So on the one hand it's OP's house so she has all the right to dictate the rules and it's very shitty of her brother to disrespect them.
On the other hand she did take advantage of their situation with the no meat or fish demand, essentially forcing them into having vegan-only meals in her house. They could of course eat out but that would put a strain on their finances. It became more fair when it was changed to "When I'm not here and with your own cooking tools" and Brother was an ass for breaking that
This all the way. They both suck tbh
Why didn't the jerk brother in the last story buy pre-cooked meat?
I mostly don’t understand Sarah’s problem with Madeline getting a basket she’s making her grow up too fast I still celebrate Halloween and I’m 44 for years. My mother made me my sister and all her friends Easter baskets when they were in college.
S1 NTA your parents knew your boundaries, they were conniving so they got what she he deserved, cut them off completely. It's your wedding and your allowed to be selfish.
Your parents ruined your wedding. Make them pay the price for this.
You can't reason with IDIOTS. Block them and get restraining orders. They have no right at all.
He can get his own pans and cook them them instead of using his sisters it’s not that difficult It doesn’t matter why he cooked it there in her house and they need to respect her. I think the wife is fine. I think it’s her brother who’s not respecting her
Walk down the aisle. The alter is a table
Love how its all forgive and forget when it seems the sister wasnt even sorry. Were they on the sister too.? Or just OP.? Nobody gets to tell someone they need to forgive someone else. Its up to that person to decide if they want to forgive or not. Also, family is who you choose. Not blood. That's just a bs excuse for manipulative and narcissistic parents.
S2 , Op any child is a person with needs and a child in the foster system requires a a bit more understanding than kids who have been through hell and back . Op your child is now doing things that she couldn't do in the past and making up the moments they didn't have as a preteen . Good for pointing out that even as an teenager and even as an adult you still enjoy being looked after sometimes .
I am a meat eater and not at all a vegetarian or vegan but not only would I have honored her rules I would have THANKED her for letting us stay there by sometimes cooking vegan meals. I know a lot of vegan recipes partially because even though I love eating meat my body can get worn out by it and sometimes I go a few days eating like a vegan to cleanse my system of all the fat and grease, to give my body a break from it. Plus I LOVE TOFU and I like tofu more than most meat, and many of my meat recipes like stir fry can just substitute tofu.
I would BOND with my sister and show gratitude by cooking delicious meals for us to share that are vegan.
Her @$$H0L3 family treated her like a joke and did not show any appreciation at all. I hate people like that.
Hang on can't op just wash her dishes pots and pans easy
@@princesszeldaprincess447 Not the point, somebody asks you not to do something in their home, don't do it. or leave.
Story 2: as my late wife used to say growing old is mandatory growing up is not as well as ironically as she missed the age by 7 years if you haven't grown up by the time you hit 50 you don't have to.
Even at 43 she'd do the occasional Build A Bear run and her collection of BAB and anime plushies still grace the back of the couch. As for me at 61 I still have the amazing ability to cosplay a responsible adult but only when I absolutely have to and the obvious damper of having been a widower forced on me aside I try to maintain my worlds oldest teenager status intact. Additionally while not halloween my brother and sister in law prepare an Easter package for me still with candy but a few more " goodies " befitting a gentleman of my years and it has been fun watching as the nieces and nephew's baskets are getting closer to matching their uncle's goodies
For the first story I would tell the parents I don’t have a sister so why is there a stranger at my wedding but I love the revenge of not allowing them to see the grandkids
#1. Nta.
3. #Nta she make a request not difficult to get their own pots and pans.
Meat touched the pan! Oh, the horror!!
So sister got drunk at Ops first special day, that's why she didn't want to invite her on her second special day. She hated her sister for so long or she was married for 1 year and remarry next day?
Story #1 Oh the drama. Oh, the trauma!
I hope she really didn't walk down the altar as it says in the title. Hahaha
and you still have people making excuses 'good person but acts like a ...'.. good grief. call them what they are
SIL is being pressured by brother, who is an AH.
This man really can’t live without meat and fish. How sad I am most vegetarian but I also meat and vegan you need to respect peoples food choices
How many times this been married and his parents is paying for his wedding and he so upset over his only sister being there it not like he is financially being help by his parents really is he blame his first marriage on his sister.
Story 2: I got married at 23. I went to build a bear on my honey moon and got darth bearda, my star wars army has since grown. I'm 31. I also took my 2 kids a year ago to the big build a bear (the first one I saw) with left over fabric from the quilts my Nana made them. We put the fabrics around hearts that we put into bears they chose. I also got one with scrap from mine and my Nana's quilts. We then saw her for the last time. My boys might not remember her since they're so young but they'll remember the bears. Build a bear doesn't have to be just for kids.
I'm 57 and have several BABs. I even dress them up when I go to Comicpalooza!
OP's parents are the worst. Especially the other daughter. Everything comes with a price? Family is family? Op's family has imploded. It's her parent's fault. I'd tell her to go to court and get a RO and cancel their grandparents rights quickly. Let them pay the consequences of their actions.
Why did the sister want to be there?!
Story 1-Your NTA. Everything does have a price. Have a good life now that the toxicity is gone. Good luck with LO!
STORY 2-NTA
STORY 3-NTA Rudeness deserves rudeness. Children need to learn not to be rude.
Story 4- NTA! Your house, your rules! You were disrespected in your own house! Bye bye!
They knew u were vegan before they came and agreed Ur house Ur rules to disrespect Ur views in Ur own house in staggering they got what was right . Personally I would have kicked them out after the first time ,u were very tolerant and forgiving but they still pushed it too far soo entitled and arrogant, well tough on them
10:49 My kids are 24 and 25, and I still make them, and they're significant others.Easter baskets stockings everything every year. They enjoy it and so do I. It always makes me happy to see their faces light up. 17:47 But the fact that he couldn't even follow a few tiny rules that you had by using his own hands and when you're not home makes him the jerk
Op my sibling had that kind of attitude I would had kick Sara out the moment she start talking crap story2
Story 1 NTA but just get a restraining order against them because those idiots aren't going to stop until you take legal action against them.
Story 2 NTA and I used to make personalized Easter baskets for all my kids till they graduated high school and moved out.....they loved those things and now I make them for all my grandkids who love them too.
Story 2 all OP did was teach his nephews how to defend themselves against a ahole siblings.
the OP needs to grow up
what a load of crap.
This is a bride with way too much baggage which will sabotage her second marriage. what happened to the first? Imagine letting your sister and parents live rent-free in your head to the extent that they are all you can think about during your wedding and pregnancy, three years later. They didnt "ruin" either of her weddings, she did, by letting them and their behavior distract her.
So now she will deprive her own child of loving grandparents.