UPDATED: My Whole Family Dropped me & Refused to Talk to me When They Thought I Wasn't Dad's Son..
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- UPDATED: My Whole Family Dropped me & Refused to Talk to me When They Thought I Wasn't Dad's Son.....3 Years Later Grandpa Steps in & The Truth is Out & Now They're Begging to Get Back in Touch
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I grew up in a happy household. My parents loved each other deeply, and they loved my siblings and me even more. They were attentive and caring, and they always put our needs before their own. My relationship with my parents was particularly good. My dad worked long hours to provide for us, but he always made time for us when he could. He would take us on fishing trips, teach us how to play sports and tell us stories about his own childhood. My mom, on the other hand, was the glue that held our family together. She cooked us delicious meals, helped us with our homework, and made sure that we were always clean and presentable.
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Story 1: Even if it turned out that you were not your father's child, this was your fault HOW??? Classic case of blaming the victim for their own stupid mistakes. Screw 'em all.
If I was the OP I would have for closer sat down with my family and pointedly asked my parents if they would have reached out to me to make amends if the paternity test had shown that I was not my father's son and ask them if the ONLY reason that they now pretended to love me and miss me was because I "passed" the paternity test. Then I would have glared at my mother and said to her, "Oh and by the way, even IF I had not been my father's son YOU STILL WOULD HAVE BEEN MY MOTHER SO WOULD YOU HAVE STILL CONTINUED TO REJECT ME???
I would have confronted them brutally rather than just ignore them.
@@Zurround Exactly, to me the mom's betrayal is the worse. I can understand the father's and the siblings' (not that I agree with it, what they did is unforgivable), but the mother knew that he was 100% her son in any case and she rejected him. Even worse she rejected him while she was his last hope in his mind. He might have ended up killing himself if he didn't had amazing friends, and his mom would have been the one giving the last push...
He got super stupid brothers and sisters who came out the same womb.
@@Zurround And at the end of the confrontation, I would have given them some of my blood (in a tiny vial, blood drops on a piece of paper, whatever) and tell them: "Since blood is so important to you, take this and leave me TF alone!"
Classic women behavior. Nothing unusual for this gender
Reconciling and not reaching out to OP was the final nail in the coffin. That says everything he needed to know about their "love" and "apologies".
S1: Something tells me the grandfather was making a will & they suddenly want to reconcile with the one they treated like FILTH or they'll be written out.
That's what I thought too. They realize the optics make them look bad and they want that money.
That's fucked up that OPs mom and dad got back together but they didn't try to reach out to OP at all? Mom gets forgiven but the one person who didn't do anything wrong gets left out in the cold? I hope OPs family carry the guilt of what they have done for the rest of their lives and they live in torment every day because of it.
Perfectly stated. I'm so freaking mad right now.
Its more shameful that OP's parents were gone to therapy without OP. They have seen their mistake and left OP out? Like what? Thats disgusting.
This is so perfect I dont know what else to say lol.
And now it’s on the internet for the whole world to see! If they find it I really hope they read the comment section to see how much of an AH’s they really are!
Story kinda sounds like another where ops and eldest brothers DNA test got mixed up the mother had cheated everyone thought it was op but come to find out the real b*stard was the eldest but yet dear dad didn't want to give up his eldest in the same way he did his biological son apparently his mother had a type as the eldest looked like the guy he thought was his dad
They already proved their love is conditional, even OP's mom who was actually responsible.
Any love that requires passing a DNA test to receive is not real love. For lack of a better term, if you are raised by a family for 18 years and share love and nurturing experiences with them and everyone THINKS you are their son then you are GRANDFATHERED IN and if they stop loving you because of a DNA test then did they ever even love you in the first place?
S1: "Sorry. Your son died the second his whole family ganged up to stab him in the heart. You best go back to your real family. Don't bother me again."
He should have told them he would take the test if his siblings did as well.
GOOD POINT. Since its hard to know the timing of the cheating they should ALL be tested. Imagine how much of an eff you it would be to them if it turned out that both of his siblings were affair children and HE was the only one who was biologically related to BOTH of the parents but they are stuck with the 2 bastards and their only son won't have anything to do with them.
Story 1: OP didn't ask to be born. Even if he'd been the result of an affair, there is no excuse for the way his family treated him. He's better off without them. OP would never be able to trust them again.
Why is it that the ONE person who is always innocent in these cheating situations get the shaft? The family got back together and was content to leave OP in the wind! Ughh....I would never want those people in my life. The mother is the worst of the worst. Maybe it wasn't the father's kid, but it absolutely was her child! She's more horrible than anything!
I posted above that even though it is totally wrong to raise a child for 18 years THEN disown or reject them because you find out that its not your sperm it is EVEN WORSE for the MOTHER to reject him because UNLIKE the father even if its another man's sperm SHE IS STILL HIS MOTHER. She flat out told him that she cannot stand to look at him.
My karmic revenge fantasy is for the Op to insist that they get him AND his siblings DNA tested and have the results prove that all of his siblings have different fathers and he is the only one who has both of them as parents. How ironic would that have been?
I have more trust in one friend than I do in my whole family sometimes you just have to look at it for what it is and know you're own self worth.
Story 1: Don't let them back in. They were content when they believed you were not their child. What would happen if the test revealed you were not theirs? They would easily left you on the streets like before.
Those assholes deserve to live with the guilt and bruised ego for the rest of their lives.
Also, why did no one did the paternity test in the first place? Why did it take the grandfather YEARS nefore he decides the family should take one.
The mother is even worse than the father. Even if he turns out not to be her father (still wrong though) but its a FACT that the woman is his MOTHER regardless of who the father is so she has even less excuse than the father does.
Story 1. So let’s get this straight - Mum and dad messed around and suddenly the parentage of OP is brought into question. Mum & Dad toss kid to the curb don’t want anything to do with him, even the mother who bore him. Then the siblings get involved and don’t want to have anything to do with OP either! On what planet of insanity does any of that make sense. If this really happened, I personally would call them all together and rip the hell out of them for what they did. Then walk away. Don’t need those types of people in your life. If they ALL screwed you over something this important, I would never trust them again.
You speak facts! If I happened to me I wouldn't never turn away my siblings! The parents yes, but my sisters never!
@@Sifya they ALL turned away from him. What siblings do that! It seemed that when all this info came out none of the siblings were living at home, so they should have developed the ability to know and understand the dynamics of what had occurred. His father kicked him to the curb, Mum did the same, but why would his siblings do the same? Doesn’t make sense to me! Seems the whole lot of them are just a bunch of hypocritical wankers. He’s better off without them.
Why wasn’t the mother held responsible for her infidelity? It’s always sad to see a kid, who’s the result of an affair, be the one to suffer the consequences of an unfaithful parent’s choice and actions. Hopefully OP has moved away from their family and has cut them out of their life, at least I hope they have if there’s another update.
Both parents cheated, not just the mother.
At 6:42, you state that OP’s parents were there for him every step of the way. OP’s friends were there for him every step of the way.
Editing error.
Story 1 : I'm happy that OP stand his ground and refused to get in touch with them again. They quickly abandonned him without even bothering doing a paternity test. If they did it once, they'll do it again. Good thing that it was not like most of similar stories where OP gets weak and let them in again.
And another thing : they questionned OP's paternity. Why didn't they questionned the siblings' too ? It's really unfair and to my opinion it says a lot about how they viewed OP compared to his siblings...
Oh and one last thing, the grandpa is taking the good role in the story, but it took him 3 years... He didn't do anything before that, even when the parents got back together. I hope OP cut contact with him too. He's the less bad of them, that doesn't mean he's not bad.
They drove you out on mere SUSPICION?!?! They didn't even do the damned test before yeeting you!?!?
I don't understand people who abandon others due to paternity. Like, if anything, I would feel nothing but sympathy if I learned a family member wasn't blood related to me when they had thought that their whole lives. The fact that they didn't reach out until the paternity test was shown positive says everything you need to know about them. Not that I would do this, but the father not wanting to interact with OP while I think is harsh, and I personally wouldn't be able to throw out a kid who I raised regardless of potential biology, I can get the mixed emotions. The siblings and the mother especially have no such excuse, and the fact that the siblings forgave both of their cheating parents, along with the parents forgiving each other, but still didn't reach out to the person who did nothing wrong is beyond disgusting. As OP said, they've shown they're willing to throw someone out, and I wouldn't ever trust them not to do it again even with the positive test. Hell, I'd feel that same way if I wasn't OP and I was just one of the siblings. Them being willing to throw my sibling out like that without warning would be a massive red flag to get out of that family and support my estranged family member.
I can see a man needing some distance while the revelation is still raw in his mind and can't handle the reminder of cheating. This case is really f'd up in that the mom didn't step up either and the whole thing was her fault.
It is like when a comic book series or some other fictional creation applies RETROACTIVE CONTINUITY. He had been their son all those years and their family had had all of those experiences together and then when some DNA test proves otherwise somehow all of that disappears?? And to boot even if your father had rejected you for not being his son what about your mother?? Even if another man is the father SHE IS STILL YOUR MOTHER.
Unless OP was making 200K or more, two years salary probably isn't enough to do all the things on the list. However, if it can get her an affordable place to live and time to find a job, she should be fine.
I really feel for Second OP She's a great human being.
WTF were these people thinking????
Mom and Dad are both cheater, blame one of the kids, just because, then refuse to make things right when the cheating dad took the cheating mom back. That whole family is so toxic and broken OP is better off without them.
Its not lost on me that they only wanted him back in the family because he "passed" the DNA test. If I was him I would pointedly ask my @$$H0L3 parents whether or not they would be reaching out to me to make amends if the test had proved that the affair partner was the father then I would specifically ask my MOTHER how SHE could reject me because my father had the excuse of not being my father (maybe) but no matter what she knew that she was MY MOTHER even if some other man knocked her up.
9:27 it was never about the paternity. It was finding someone to blame for the ongoing train wreck.
Makes me wonder if Granpa's got some money, and they think or know he's going to leave it to OP
That's exactly what I was thinking. They are sucking up to OP to keep an avenue open to that money, as they are afraid grandpa will give it to OP to make up for the sh*tty treatment he was given by the rest of the so-called family.
Make them go through another round of family therapy, reopening their issues as well as presenting yours. Then dump them.
What horrible people op's parents and siblings are hope he can go nc with them all and have a better life without them
Wtf did they blame him. It was the mother's fault. Why didn't they do a paternity test from the beginning??
YES and to boot just to be on the "safe side" they should have gotten the tests for all of his siblings too. How effing shallow does a person have to be to raise a child for EIGHTEEN YEARS then disown them when they FAIL A DNA TEST??????
@@Zurround THIS. I completely understand not wanting to be responsible for a kid you find out isn't yours, but how does all the love for a child just automatically disappear? But the thing that pisses me off the most about this is that you made the person who just so happened to come into existence a total outcast, but not the one who MADE THE CHOICE to spread her legs for another man?
@@whitneybennett4857 I posted on another thread that raising a person for 18 years and treating them as your child and sharing love and affection and nurturing experiences with them then suddenly deciding that you do not love them anymore when you discover that the DNA does not match is like a real life application of a literary term called RETROACTIVE CONTINUITY which is used in some fictional stories, "retcon" for short. Just retroactively erasing EIGHTEEN YEARS from your life. And in some other situation where the parentage was discovered even later would you ALSO disown their children after helping raise your grand children? If a person is 90 years old and they find out that their 65 year old son was the result of an affair do they tell their now senior citizen son not to visit them at the nursing home anymore because they are disowned? How long does it take to be considered a member of the family no matter what? How far back does the "retroactive continuity" go?
Ohhhh nonono they don't get forgiven. After the hurt and hate against an innocent person in their little toxic family I would shame them to everyone. On social media to every family member all their friends,their jobs I mean everyone. Then when no one wants to be around them maybe they will feel some of the pain. I hope grandpa tears them all a new one for doing this in the first place and gives everything to grandson in his will.
That DNA test happened a few years later. The least that they could have done was IMMEDIATELY get the test taken. But even then, how the hell do you raise a child for 18 years then disown them based on the fact that nearly 2 decades earlier, many months before he was even born then disown and abandon him because of something that predates his birth? I hope he ends up starting his own family and refuses to let his parents be a part of his grandchildren's lives. When it hits those 2 @$$H0L3$ that they won't get to be a part of their grandchildren's childhoods it will hit them like a ton of bricks.
Then they went to family therapy together, without including you?!?!?!?!?!
I would have loved a scene where the family therapist says to them: "I am sorry but there is nothing more that I can do for you and I cannot in good conscience continue to take your money. Family therapy is only helpful when everyone in a family loves each other but has difficulty communicating. When both parents are flat out @$$H0L3$ with no moral character then family therapy is useless".
Last story nta, and not the point but what store let's a kid buy something that expensive with someone else's credit card? No way I'd ring it up because I'd 100% think it was stolen.
What would that family feel if OP had deleted himself in the depths of his depression?
I’ve heard either this story or just way to many similar stories. Either way doesn’t matter his siblings and parents can burn in a house fire. I especially hate the siblings.
The tittle did seem familiar to one I heard before
that story went viral when I op was disowned by his dad when mom admitted to infidelity. but the DNA test got mixed up and it was found out ops brother was the affair baby. ops older brother abused him and beat him until he did it in front of ops grandfather and the old man said he would kick his ass if he hit op again. once it was found out op was a bio kid the parents got back together and op wanted no part of it and they were guilty tripping. but there was a lawsuit that was settled against the diagnostic labwith a undisclosed amount of money and op essentially disowned his parents and family
@@Rando1624 I remember that story. And his brother who turned out to be the actual bastard never got disowned. I AGREE with taking the DNA test if need be. People should know the truth and if there needs be be something done medically like a blood or tissue donation from one family member to the next it tends to work better if they are more closely related. But if you can stop loving someone that you have raised for many years and had so many nurturing experiences with just because they fail a DNA test then did you really love them in the first place? I posted above that disowning a child after many years of raising them due to a DNA test is like the term RETROACTIVE CONTINUITY like in a fictional story (happens a lot with comic books) where the past is retroactively altered to fit a narrative, often abbreviated to "retcon". By disowning someone because of DNA after so many years of functionally being a family is like applying retroactive continuity IN REAL LIFE.
Who wants to bet grandpa is writing his will, and terrible father and siblings don’t want to look bad to him? And what kind of mother turns her back on her own child for HER OWN FAULT?!?
QUIT BLAMING THE KID FOR THE PARENTS EFF UPS
Thing is that would take a long time as this goes back hundreds of years
Wait so they just assumed he were not his child? No paternity test?
Really?!?!
Story 1: wait the parents went to therapy and it brought them back together but never in therapy did they think about op?
1st story, IMAO OP should stay in contact with grandpa, but do whatever he feels with siblings and parents. If NC then NC.
2nd story NTA, NTA 💯. Live your best life.
Hopefully if she is still fixated on her passed lover, a sperm donation was taken so she can have his child when time is right for her
I don't know. Seems like even grandpa didn't do much until everyone else was "forgiven" and still needed to do the paternity test. That's the thing. If they'd accepted OP back without the test, then the apology could have been considered sincere. The fact they needed proof is the problem
@@carlrood4457 Yes, if I was the OP I would angrily ask them if they would have ever contacted him again to make amends if he had failed the DNA test. If someone has to pass a DNA test to be loved after being your son for every definition of the word EXCEPT DNA for EIGHTEEN YEARS then did you really love them in the first place? Failing a DNA test is the worst reason imaginable to stop loving a person.
We want to reconcile! Get bent.
The fact that the parents reconciled and even then didn't reach out tells you everything.
Yeah, that seems like a special kind of slap in the face.
First story, why not test all the kids?
Story 1: A postnatal abortion. He wasn unwanted and his family aborted him. Now they want to unabort him but it's too late. He's real gone.
Honestly story 3 seems to be missing some information. 1- even if true why didn't she check to see if someone stole her card and bought something that they did not agree upon. that's not mistrust that's normal. 2nd how does she treat her two kids. Should her daughter of done that. No. but if she is not showing as much love to her daughter as her son that's also a problem. She's nta for what she did but I can't determine if there is more factors to this or not.
The girl is a thief for no reason but greed. End of.
Text: "My Friends"
Narrator: "My Parents"
The SAME PARENTS who ABANDONED FIRST OP? OI!
Last story: OP needs to talk to the Police to ask for help to get her kid onto the straight and narrow since her idiot sperm-donor is not a good influence. In fact I would go back to Court to get custody and reduce him to visitation rights on the grounds that he is teaching her to be a thief.
I wouldn't forgive to easy they absolutely broke u your mother and father were to blame they cheated not u
A ridiculous story since a DNA test would be quick
I hate the Enabling Bio Dad and Thief Daughter. You are NOT THE AH OP!
I’d tell mom n dad the only way they would earn my forgiveness was leave me everything in there will and self shuffle off their mortal coils in the next few weeks
Basically leave me everything in your will then kill yourself? Suicide is a bit harsh but if the parents had any honor left in them a good way to make amends would be to leave everything to the OP in the will and nothing to the siblings who also treated him terribly. And there should be no conditions for him forgiving them either. They owe him RESTITUTION.