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In this video, psychologist and narcissism expert, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, hosts a live therapy session with MedCircle host, Kyle Kittleson, to give an inside look at how she goes about diagnosing a narcissist. Not only does this discussion shed light on narcissist traits, what goes into diagnosing a narcissist, and how to spot a narcissist; it also sheds valuable insight into a therapy session.
Dr. Ramani also answers:
How long does it take to accurately diagnose a narcissist?
What's the difference between narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and narcissism?
What personality traits are weighed more when diagnosing someone with NPD or narcissism?
What can someone do to practice empathy and emotionality?
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Kyle's reactions (in the past that he describes) and style of being in a relationship seem more a cultural difference to me than some kind of narcissism or selfishness. Add to that, men with lots of extra testosterone are not going to be as warm, fuzzy, touchy-feely. Testosterone makes men feel like they can get out there are slay those dragons every day, and it keeps them in a mindset of "getting the job done, gotta get it done, gotta concentrate, don't break my concentration." Artists need to be left alone in their creative mode and cannot take interruptions, it's hard for them. I view the video making part of Kyle's career as being a highly creative process. Some of it -- and I'm going on a lifetime of experience and of paying attention to myself and others for the last 60+ years -- is just plain habit, and if we are brought up in a family that is more formal and not so cuddly or demonstrative, it doesn't mean the person is narcissistic or selfish, it just means they are not practiced at being as demonstrative as others, therefore not as comfortable in that mode. A lot of what we do in life, the way we turn out is "monkey see, monkey do." Kyle, or others similar to Kyle, might need more time to process, and demands for attention to tend to the emotional needs of others when it hasn't been "scheduled" may feel like being held hostage for an undetermined amount of time. For example at a theme park, people will stand in line for a ride for hours if they know exactly how long it will take to get to the front of the line. BUT ask them to stand in line with no information about how long it will take, and they will refuse to stand in the line.
MedCircle can we please discuss the sexual narcissist?? Many women / men are dealing with this and need help!! Please
Agree with Matalynn, on that or Pervert Narcissist. I'm sure atleast a few people will be able to benefit from that
My mom n ex bestie
@@matalynnwhite1006 Dr. Todd Grande discusses sexual narcissism. MedCircle is quackery.
When I suspect I know someone that’s a narcissist so I google this video, then I start to think what if I’m the narcissist.....
I don't know you but taking your comment at face value I would say given the fact that you are questioning yourself, looking inwards, that you're not a narcissist. The narcissist doesn't look inwards or self reflect on their behaviours. Years of gaslighting can make you feel like you are the narcissist, it's because you have suffered blame for THEIR behaviours.
@@sharon9270 great point Sharon. I too feel that way at times and look inward to make sure.
You might have some narcissistic qualities but not necessarily be one
Same
Sand here.
The best way to find out if someone is lying, ask the same question in different ways. Liars are inconsistent in their answers.
Let me correct you. BAD liars are inconsistent in their answers.*
No liar can keep track of previous lies so they become tangled in the web of deceit they created. Dishonesty will always be revealed eventually.
This can be viewed as a form of GASLIGHTING. My Narc tried to do this to me by asking me something several ways to determine if I was lying. The only time I'm taking the Psychological Assessment or Assay Test is when I'm seeking employment. This is also INSULTING! I bet you wouldn't like it if I CONSTANTLY asked you questions several different ways to determine if you were lying about something.
@@ysmithriley why are you owning the narc? You are saying “my narc” lol
@@doreeno475 IT'S A TERM OF ENDEARMENT! He's mine and mine ALONE. 🤣
The most successful people in life, imo, are the ones at peace with themselves. They don't need anyone else's validation nor do they wish harm or unhappiness for others.
sounds like one of the best definitions of success I've read.
My goal.
@Tina 👍Agree💯
wow, i want to think about sucess the same way. my definition right now is really bad. money and girls.
Yea I'm sure the top 0,1% of humanity are like that....not.
Knowledge is power. I am sitting here drinking coffee and watching this educational post. I feel so grateful that as a seventy-five-year-old woman that I am so unbelievably thankful that this format is available to all of us who love psychology and love to learn. Thank you Doctor Ramani and Kyle. You are saving lives, literally and figuratively. Thank you for Being, you are Enough.
Love your comment! Very thoughtful and inspiring!
They are more than enough, even some of the most useless souls are enough. They just started with way less ❤️
Amen!
I have so much respect for Kyle.. the fact that he was actually open enough, even after all the sh*tty comments people have left, to tackle this issue in such a public way is very inspiring and humbling. Thank you Kyle!!!! Everybody communicates differently. I appreciate your work :)
Is he a celebrity or something? I didn't see a last time to Google it...
NVM, I found him! 😊
Respect to this guy. He is good for the job so he can help others. Nothing wrong with men wanting success, empathizing with others, being open minded and vulnerable, and working to better the world.
Yes and their are sooo many bad things about narcissism that it’s confusing. I’ve even been called a narcissist.
If he is a real narcissist he will not care what comments people leave
Dr. Ramani
Exactly my thoughts!
@@PHE4_ Cool! :)
Much agreed - and good luck with your clinical training
@@drppr76 Aww thank you so much! Still 1 1/2 years to go :)
Whose the narcissist that liked this comment?
Oh God when she said "the 53rd time might be excessive for you, but sometimes they need to talk about it 150 time before letting it go", idk how to describe it but I feel like that's so amazing
True. I just think, that a narcissitic person, wouldn't be interested in the first 52 times. Like, I think there are a lot of people out there, that would get fatigued before 150. We certainly need the world to be more patient and understanding.
I feel you can look at this differently. For example I struggle with having boundaries. I have relationships with people who tend to lean on me because I am an empathic, but also I am a people pleaser. For me to learn to set boundaries sometimes I need to stop a person for leaning on my shoulder or telling me about the same problem 53 times to protect myself from getting "drained". So I think sometimes you need to put yourself first, too. I also think there is a difference when someone is struggling but fighting, working on theirselves, working on their problems, getting different views on their problems, developing and you talk about this a lot. Or if someone is wallowing in self-pity. Then it is not your responsibility to lift this person up every time. Then you should help that person to get help. But boundaries are really important and I think there is nothing wrong with setting them (even if I do struggle with setting them).
@@eduards.906 I did that with my narc sister..she drains me so I sent her to therapy! 👍🙄
@@starseed8809 I totally get that :-D
I feel like at a certain point it’s emotional dumping tho.
He's not a narc. We all have narcissistic traits and moments. Being very self aware of your flaws and conscious of your behavior is a sign of intelligence. He's just an imperfect person, like all of us.
@Adam nas x said the same lol 😂 💯🙏🏿
It seems like he is on the spectrum with regards to his comfort level with giving and receiving affection.
I heard any survival responses or modes are narcissistic because only important thing is self preservation but that doesn't mean someone has npd
Self awareness doesn't mean that he isn't a narcissist. Plus he's already in therapy. Maybe he was before...anyway
Relentlessly pursuing whatever his goals are and exploiting others to achieve this is actually high machiavellian behavior. Emotional cold he is definitely. I wouldn't wonder if he is scoring high on dark triad behavior. Lol. 100% he's controlling AF.
You might not understand what a narcissist is.
When we hear someone's emotions, we are simply saying, "I will be a witness to your journey, you matter to me." It is a powerful gift to give and receive.
Why do so few people understand this?
LOVE IT! THank you for sharing your message, Red Barn Homestead. I will remember that!
@@nocando89 maybe they never had it growing up, so it feels unusual, unnatural to them.
Your definitely speaking more truth than most people would even ever know.... Nicely spoken and well put...
The first three minutes of this (and I will come back to watch the rest) sound like Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style! (Not narcissism, not a diagnosis, just the result of subtle and consistent trauma in childhood)
I admire Kyle for being so open!
That's what I was thinking...oh and you know your stuff! Love your channel! I have had so many keyboard warriors tell me I am with a narcissist, but I know he is a DA...and I have learned to evolve around that as has he. But this narc talk..wow it does seem similar as the way this guy explains it. But Narcs are dangerous! This guy has empathy, but that leads me to believe he is not a Narc, he probably is a DA
This is not the type of narcissism I've been exposed to. Not even close. Waaaay too reflective.
@@wellnesspathforme6236 the verdict was he was not a narcissist...not even close, not even a smidge!
Some people are just not very touchy freely. In my experience when people who are less forthcoming do form and express emotional attachments they are far more sincere and meaningful.
Same thing I was thinking!
I knew a narcissist that used the word ‘transparant’ a LOT. He was so transparent he never heard what I was really saying and was never there for people when they needed him. THANKS BRUNO. (lol)
*cough* jeffree star *cough*
I shuddered when he talked about being emotionally incapable of giving what she needed. I dated ‘that guy’ who sucked love but didn’t give it. He walked in front of me. Said ‘I don’t hold hands. Get used to it’. It destroyed my heart v
@Shawn Mendrek it baffled me. For the first while I thought he was just teasing/joking with me.
After about 3 years I told him to get out of my life. He showed up crying on my porch with 2 dozen red roses to propose. I shut the door on him. No.
@@katharineharrison9091 So glad you kicked him to the curb and had the strength to avoid his attempt to hoover you back in! Good for you and I hope anyone in your future is better to you.
@@prettyevil6662000 thank you. If only I had known what are narcissistic traits earlier I would have exited sooner. Now my radar is strong!!!
Yeahh I can't be with a guy like that.....they may make great coworkers or business partners and be even very professional but not a great relationship partner because that emotional connection element is gonna be missing.
Pretty sure it was a “he” not a she but yeah sounds awful
"In order to love people we sometimes have to do things that don't feel comfortable to us because that is love.
" - Dr. Ramani
Careful with that though.
Watt Ng All day every day.
What about w a narc???
@@angelinh.5774 people should focus on the sometimes. And not feeling confortable != abused
Watt Ng This is true as long as
a.) you don't lose yourself in the process
and
b.) the other person does the same for you.
Give and take.
If you just give, give, give and the other person just sits there on the couch, doesn't do anything, but burps and naps, what is the point? Why stay for half-love?
Why stay in abuse?
Her questions are so obvious to me. If a narcissist was smart they could easily answer what she wants to hear.
and they do. they can manipulate people around easily. they are smart and know that it is good to appear as an empath...
@Max2020 I wonder why your reply is Highlighted... :-) And these 2 work with and for each-other so the therapist is already BIAS. She should not be the one interviewing him. She is also feeling uncomfortable as her own body language indicates. Just some facts ;-)
I agree. A narcisist knowing that thousands of people would watch this, he could be manipulative. She was very smart no to hurt him in front of thousands of people, but she was very clear that she left the door open to see a RED FLAG and analyze it. She said that she had a narcissistic patient that took her months to see the first glimpse of the narcissistic personality. I cannot say that he is narcissistic, but I saw more than one RED FLAG. That is for sure.
@Max2020 Thank you for submitting your excellent, thoughtfull, & informative discussion-
"Trust your gut" has saved me many, many times- and, perhaps is the best & most accurate defense when dealing with either known or unidentified danger.
@@PabloDelafuente2020
Yes. Proper analysis takes time, patience and exceptional skill.
Individuals who fall somewhere on the spectrum of Borderline Personality Disorders, will need a therapist/ Psychiatrist capable and experienced with not only the complex variations of psychopathology, narcissism, BPD's etc, but, also someone very skilled to cut through all the BS that gets thrown up as a distraction to manipulate, confuse and control the situation.
Thank you as well for your particular insight & thoughtful contribution to this incredible comment/post discussion.
Being in a relationship w a narcissist for 30 yrs, I can honestly say, I too, could be that person on the plane who can’t deal with the emotions of others. I found I had SO much or my own emotional drama/baggage, that I couldn’t find space for more emotional drama..... As I heal, my heart is opening up more and enabling me to give perspective to those in similar situations.....
I feel like this too. I'm not that great at holding other people and nourishing them for an extended amount of time even when they want it from me because I have enough issue carrying my own emotional baggage and I feel like I can't take on more. So I guess that part of me is narcacistic. Sure I'll try to practice it more but I always feel emotionally depleted afterward. :/
This is what kunal in bhootiyan kaniya
Kyle is the only presenter that shows his self in 3D with real human qualities, not just a robot who just does interviews. You're doing great at this job.
Shout out to Kyle for putting himself in the spotlight! That takes some balls to be evaluated on such a public scale
He seems like the kind of guy who does things because “that’s what’s supposed to happen” instead of him truly believing it’s the right thing to do
He was right sometimes though.. it's fcking annoying that some people ALWAYS want to "1-up" anything. The people who change the topic just because they want to be the center. "My mother just died"... "OH you should hear when ny dad died 40 years ago.. ".. and then continues 100% talking about that.
Lars, Like what you just did?
@@LarsRyeJeppesen that being said some people do mention similar experiences to yours to make it valid when they try to ask questions about your situation because they want you to know they're coming from a place of understanding. You really need to listen to the follow up, tone, and know the person well enough to know if 1-uping people is their MO or if they just care.
1-upers are annoying, being accused of being a jerk for 1-uping when you're trying to create a "safe space" so to speak is just infuriating.
Not sure how I "1-upped" the original comment? I just said that it's not easy to be a good listenener to a person you know will redirect anything they hear, to something centered around themselves. It does test the patience at times. Just my opinion.
@@brattrox2939 Yes, totally agree - it's a fine line and hard to define.
Having a parent who most likely is a narcissist I must say that they can be hard to expose in this kind of setting and situation. My patent is highly intelligent and can put on this persona who would say and answer questions like these in this way ... but when a narcissist isn’t prepared/knows all eyes are on him/her, is living life (more behind the scenes) that is when they can be observed and more easily revealed.
I can’t say if this person is a narcissist or not, because I don’t even know who he is, but I want to highlight how extremely well spoken some people with complex personality disorders can be.
When I studied psychopathy during psychology studies I remember how one of the psychopathy research psychologist, who has been in this field for decades, wrote that he can work with a psychopath for years, always being aware and on guard but still get tricked by them over and over again.
And through my own experiences the only thing I can trust regarding my “narcissist” parent is that everything that comes out from that person’s mouth is a sort of game play.
This person is obviously (to me), hands down, not a narcissist
@@nancylane8092 Even the psychologist says in the end of their interview that it’s very hard to tell if he is or not ... that it might have shown further down the road.
Also there has been extensive research whether adults can tell if a child is lying (even their own) and results are that we can’t.
@@nancylane8092 not necessarily true. I had to talk to my ex’s counselor first to tell her how things really are because even a narcissist can fool a therapist.
My mother is 100% avoiding relation style, she's psychologist & I guess she's hidden narcissist. She knows exactly what to hide because she's a specialist in it, isn't she?
@@nancylane8092 I think he's a narcissist in a healing process but he's doing really well & I guess it costed alot of work to him. Admire.
Most interesting to me was when he said he no longer yells at customer service people on phone calls. He said the reason he stopped is because it didn't work, not that he felt bad. At no point did he actually display any concern for the feelings of those on the other end of the phone and the impact he might have had on them.
Sorry, but if you're lousy at your job you deserve to be yelled at. Wtf...
He is actually too nice.
@@mirabella2154 there is nothing that excuses abusing people.
@@linden5165 That's not "abusing". That's an adequate reaction to you being a failure. Do your f****** job.
Same!!! I was thinking the same thing, was thinking if i should comment or not then i saaw this. My thoughts exactly.
That was the interesting part for me too... That he didn't stop berating them because he felt bad for them, but because it didn't help get HIM anywhere faster. He realised be was wasting his energy and wanted to preserve it. Having worked in a call centre for several years, I know what it's like to be berated and abused for something that is not your fault... The person who answers the call for the organisation usually is paid the lowest out of that organisation and the fault is with the higher paid who use you as a meat shield and avoid dealing with angry customers. It was such a draining and soul destroying job. So his answer was very interesting to me.
i am gonna be honest she inspires me to become a psychologist
same here
Yes, the only inspiring therapist! And I've worked with several over a lifetime.
She is inspirational!
Me too ! She's the best ! Luv her to pieces ! She's like my ypunger sis !
Yeah😍😍😍
Me too!
I love the way she asks the question and just waits. Mm hm and silence. And he ends up talking more. The pressure is insane.
She would be an excellent interrogator
@@blahblahblahblah2837 He is a empath, not a narcissist. The narcissist is a talker and empath is a doer.
I do the “mhms” when I’m listening, but it’s a bit much. It seems like she is just trying to figure out if he’s a narcissist but I think that’s what this is
The NPD person in my life would answer all of these questions in a convincingly humble way. And not because they would purposefully be lying, but because they truly conceptualize themselves that way. NOT to imply that the gentleman here has NPD, as I know very little about him and never got that impression personally. But watching this video made it very apparent why people with pathological narcissism slip under the radar of professionals. For example, when she asks him if he expects recognition for the things he does. The NPD individual in my life would say something like "No. I do what I do because I feel it should be done, and I love doing it." But in reality, she'll have a bombastic meltdown if not enough people complimented her on the dish she brought to Thanksgiving, or she'll hold her lack of recognition from you against you for months and use it as ammunition later.
Exactly. I'm glad someone else can see this.
Another clue was:
- Do you ever rage?
+ No.
- How about on the phone to customer service?
+ Oh god yeah, I used to rage a lot
- Why dd you stop?
+ It wasn't helping *me*.
Also, with my own NPD ex... let's say she sent a text message saying "be here at 1:30" and I got there at 1:15, she might rage at me for not being there at 1:00. At first she'd insist I was late and the text said 1:00, then if I showed her the text she'd say, "I clearly meant 1:00, everyone knows you shouldn't leave things till the last minute". If I then pointed out "your communication could have been more clear" she'd have raged more, walked out and disappeared for a week, ignoring my calls and discarding the friendship.
Here's the kicker though: she would say something like, "Yeah, I think I'm very empathic. Like, if I feel as though someone's consistently failing to respect my boundaries, sure I'll listen to them and try to understand what's going on in their lives but I do believe there's only so far you should go. So at some point, yes, I will cut out people who I believe are toxic and damaging to my life".
And the listener would imagine she was genuinely the one who suffered the toxicity.
The thing is, she genuinely believed she had suffered. If she felt pain because her imagination said someone was late, she would genuinely perceive that person as being abusive, no matter the evidence to the contrary.
She would also have perceived my comment about "your communication could have been more clear" as gaslighting because, in her head, that was me turning something that was undeniably *my* error back on her and trying to make it seem like it was her fault.
Her suffering was genuine, just as mine was. She didn't "fool" anyone, they just accepted her in her reality.
This is *SO TRUE!*
@@williamwatson1829 sounds more like BPD (borderline personality disorder)
@@bodyofhope I was distracted by the BPD red herring for quite a while too but it never quite fitted. Covert narcissism was where it was at in the end with this girl - and it fitted like a glove.
The two are strangely similar and yet painfully different.
And thanks for your input. I appreciate it.
@@bodyofhope Actually, now I think about it, my description above was more of a blend of the behaviours of various ex's.
And so you're right, my description has lots of BPDness in it. Well spotted. It's probably more BPD than NPD.
With the NPD girl I'd say something totally innocuous like, "Would you rather go ahead or wait for me?" and then she'd just go furiously silent. I'd ask her what she'd heard me say cos she must have misheard it and she'd just get up and leave, send me a furious text telling me it was all over, that she'd blocked me and I was to never contact her again.
It was only a couple of week's later when she'd finally calmed down that we'd have some bizarre discussion where our "facts" didn't seem to quite match.
It always made sense to her that she was right to be angry at the time... it's just that she'd decided to do the noble thing and move on from it.
Difficult times.
Thank you, Kyle and Dr. Ramani, for educating us on narcissism! It is extremely helpful.
I have heard narcissist quote this "Everyone's responsible for their own happiness in a relationship" as a way to actually avoid taking in the emotional responsibility that it takes to actually be in a relationship.
This is good stuff right here
Yeah but the problem is that narcissists will also suggest that you need to be responsible for their emotions too, especially if it's a covert narc. The remedy is not to ascribe any sayings or wisdoms to narcissists because they use everything to be toxic with you.
Taking responsibility for your own happiness is very healthy when it's interpreted in a healthy way. Don't dump responsibility onto your partner but also don't deny your partner their rights and the things you agreed to provide for each other. Narcs demand your emotional participation to the point of being drained to death. They demand your blood.
I second that. The problem is they don't see that they can be responsible for someone's misery, like my ex would say that, and I'd say, yes, I am happy alone, but our relationships have an effect on us...
YES
Ah, yes. I didn't listen to my sister when she said clearly, I lose interest when people are in trouble, you are the older one, so don't expect me to stick around when our parents get older. She said it and i didn't want to believe it.
Seeing Dr. Ramani in action is a true joy to watch. I was so impressed with the way she addresses Kyle and asks the relevant questions. Her delivery is intelligent, respectful and shows the mastery of her profession. I've been impressed with her since I started watching Med Circle about a year ago but this was different somehow. To see Kyle answering her questions and hearing his answers revealed a guy that isn't much different from me. Now I'm a fan. Great video.
Thank you Dr. Ramani for this topic of your interview. It would be tremendous to hear raw answers from a narcissist. I am sure many people would enjoy and learn from it. Thank you for the interview.
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Oluwaseun Mabinuori really? That easy they will just take the number and clone it ?
I believe that in a previous episode Dr R explains that there are no known cases of successful NPD therapies precisely because Narc's are so grandiose they aren't going to seek therapy.
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He’s so right, talking about feelings seems very hard for him. It takes at least 4 questions of Dr Ramani to get a feeling. Maybe even recognizing them is hard? I can totally relate.
But something seems off, like he is trying to say the right thing. Maybe it’s just me 🤷🏻♀️
I saw that, too. I wasn't able to identify it until you wrote it. He did seem to be trying to say what was socially acceptable rather than his true thoughts. I just picked this up intuitively--can't say how I got this impression. Who knows if it's right.
There were simply too many "transparency, honesty" kind of words that were off-putting. At some point even he realized he was trying too hard to be honest and made a joke about it. Only after that he started to sound more genuine as in his other videos. But that's highly understandable given that millions will be watching
No, i did not get that at all. I think he's quite sincere
@@janedoe3648I have to respectfully disagree.
Belive it in your gut your gut never lies I felt it too he might just hide but we need to follow our gut feelings always that's what narcists doo to belive in there world 🌎 of only them in this world
Dude, I love her. Her energy is brilliant! And she is so lovely, and a great teacher, shes so easy to understand, shes well with her words. Also, I think shes so pretty! Especially her long hair. I love watching her videos and videos shes in.
I want to see an interview with someone that has been diagnosed as a narcissist. (if the person actually agreed to be recorded of course)
The Sam Vaknin interview
@@sstaikou which one? Link?
@@aerynb8738 and Sam Vaknin's channel. th-cam.com/users/samvaknin Priceless!
@@aerynb8738 this one too th-cam.com/video/DAsVHeI1C6k/w-d-xo.html
I saw one with a diagnosed psycho
When people say, “I’m just going to honest” or “I’ll be transparent” I feel like the exact opposite occurs.
Wendie, Agreed ! ... Here's my assessment ...4:50 in response to "how important are those compliments .." The subject responds with a quick succession of poking his tongue out , (indicative of contradicting his words )..Body language betrays a certain amount of veiled disdain regarding this particular question ...
Seconds later he states " I'll be very transparent " 4:52 yet, at the same time, his head moves, quite emphatically, from side to side, with a categorical, "No! " ..Body language reveals an obvious lack of candor here ...
11: 49 " yeah the person who is walking out of an expensive car is more successful than a person on the street ..."
Such ideology strikes me as someone with a somewhat glib, shallow outlook on life. A personality devoid of any real depth of character...This derth of insight might not point, necessarily to narcissistic personality disorder, however, such want of perception, surely betrays a certain superficiality of character. Someone lacking in higher awareness which is indicative of someone with narcissistic tendencies, wouldn't you say ?
Again, when asked, " Has rage ever been a problem for you ? " 14:30 The subject denies that it has , however , 15:25 he goes on to state that 10 years ago he would have been irate, screaming, yelling.. In my opinion, such response, does, come across as somewhat of an over the top reaction to have during a brief customer service call ...Oh well ...
stormwings1 I wholeheartedly agree. It seemed like his answers were “too perfect” and some were just...so quick! This seemed prepared, scripted, rehearsed. The 11:49 moment particularly jumped out at me, too.
Well actually thats usually a sign that they arent always honest, if they have to call out they are being honest THIS TIME, then what about all the other times
I think there's two forms, misdirection and buffering. One aims to obscure the truth, the other aims to provide a lead in, and frame, where you can soften its blow. The latter is a matter of control as you're biasing the listener's perception towards a more personal, and vulnerability level, such that they're less likely to react strongly. If they do react strongly, the frame has been established where your internal world can be selectively leveraged and weaponized as supporting evidence, and thus you can bring in the more abstract ideas about human existence. Which again, provides the illusion of personal presence and vulnerability, when in fact there is very little. It can be very powerful for the risk-averse.
But if you pay attention to the context (which is revealing himself about his business strategy in front of his viewers), "let's be honest" and "I'll be transparent" are something that you would say, because businesses/business(wo)men usually aren't comfortable in revealing their trade.
Not me sitting here grinning at the end, awwwww. It’s always really nice to see people take ownership over their lives like this 😊 this is why I always feel better after a therapy session, brings back that feeling of comfort that there’s something I can do to help myself.
Needed this, especially at the end when Doc says that you have just give people an ear for when they need to vent irrespective of the number of times they keep repeating themselves.
Fighting my internal battles with narcissistic people, I took back some of my empathy even from genuine friends. This taught me to not close myself so much that I forget to share myself with good people. ❤
Kyle literally made sure to give the right amount of right answers and put little things in there to show when his “empathy” runs out and as an empath I see right through him. Kyle is the guy I would use all the lessons for and RUUUUUN if we crossed paths.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt a little off-put by how positive all of his answers were. Almost over-genuine, if that makes sense.
But hey, it's one TH-cam video that he knew would be posted for his audience. I don't think we can give this one video too much weight.
Plus he was pre-empting all of his answers. He couldn’t just say “yes “ or “no” he had to justify his answers every single time
I also thought the same..his nearly perfectly planned answers..sorry Kyle no offense!
Yep RUN. I think Romney is aware
I think she knows he is full of shit!
Narcissists show great interest in you in the beginning of the relationship!
You are the "cream of the crop" and they show their concern for what you say and how you feel. They "hang on your every word"!
Once you trust them and are emotionally invested, they respond to you with indifference!
Wow. This is a good one.
And verbal abuse that gets worse
Exactly
Holy crap that's exactly what I've done... However I say I've gotten to know them deeply quickly and there's nothing else to guess about 😉
And abusive behavior..
Major props for putting yourself under the microscope, Kyle. Like you, I struggle with outpourings of emotions from others, sometimes. I've been burned by love-bombing and I sometimes don't trust it when someone is being overly effusive, especially when I don't know them very well. Those of us who are empathic sometimes need to have strong boundaries to protect our own mental/emotional/psychic energy, because there are people who will take advantage. I see that as being a case-by-case thing. I think it's good that you asked for some tools, given that that pattern has hurt you in relationships. It shows your willingness to look at your flaws and try to improve what you can, which is the opposite of most narcissists, who have a really hard time with self-reflection.
The way she holds back when he says all rich people have made good financial decisions and all homeless people have made poor financial decisions. I’m guessing therapists are use to holding back when clients say their opinions
He's also admitted that he's been doubtful about the existence of ADHD in the past (in another (newer?) video), so he's definitely open to being corrected. I suspect what's at play here is a common item of cultural indoctrination that we all know too well: The idea that everyone, at the fundamental level, is of the same boilerplate, and if someone deviates from that, they're "being bad". It's a very convenient way of excusing away the struggles of those who don't mesh well with society's rules for the game of resources, easing the burden of neglecting people in need of accommodations and making it easier to procrastinate a change of rules.
Now, I'm not saying that he's entertaining these notions consciously, but rather that, like so many, he seems to have fallen victim to our culture of strife in his thinking.
THANK YOU !!!📢 I noticed that too and I was like oop 🤭
That must’ve been hard to hold back. I wanted her to educate him but I understand it wouldn’t have been appropriate.
Not every homeless person has made poor decisions and not every rich person has made good ones, period!!!
@@christianknuchel soo well put.
Yeah those heirs and heiresses really made great financial decisions to be born into money 😆
@@sarzootashoota yeah.. they are lucky.. maybe. But why care about them or their money. One needs money to have a good life.,but after a certain point it's really just too much. And you can't have normalcy anymore. A fulfilling life isn't anymore, even with that much money, then
The phrasing of the questions is so clever. 'How do you deal with frustration?' has a presupposition that the interlocutor gets frustrated (on a regular basis and/or has methods for dealing with it)
YES!
that fact he would sit down and be willing to do this means he isn’t a narcissist. He is able to self reflect and own where he is a human being. We need to be careful in how we apply narcissism.
We all can have narcissistic moments or traits. A full on personality disorder is completely different.
Hard to say, they’re master bullshiters
No narcissists love sitting down to talk about themselves.
@@abbylynn4869 if they do, it's a dishonest and grandiose monologue.
@Jonnica1991 totally agree. I have never viewed this man as being a narcissist. Armchair therapists need to calm down and stop labeling everyone a narcissist.
@@crickkett7510 absolutely agree💯...and divisive also. I've viewed massive amt of videos on narcissism, but people should understand there's a spectrum of narcissistic traits and full blown npd. Of course people have lot critical thinking skills so they see everything as black and white.
Kyle doesn’t sound narcissistic to me, but relatively healthy given his willingness to focus on self-improvement and undergo therapy. His level of self-awareness and ability to take feedback, even admitting to feeling jealous at times, reveals a level of self-awareness that some do not possess. He appears honest & forthright, admitting that he’s limited in using the Love Language of verbal praise which does not equal lack of empathy.
You will always feel alone when your involved with a narcissist..
You are not the only one.
Same here...
Yep! Exactly how it feels. Better to be alone :)
well said. I remember telling my family..even though we are together I feel like I'm alone emotionally.
And sad.
28:35 soooo true! I completely shut down if I'm talking about something important and I see that reaction, it tells me that I'm clearly being a bother, why would anyone keep sharing with someone who clearly doesn't want to listen? it's heartbreaking even if it's done out of ignorance or habit.
Thank you so much for volunteering, Kyle. I really appreciated watching and learning from Dr. Ramani as a therapist to be myself 🙏🏻
"Being successful is having the freedom to do what you want to do, and have it feel like it's the thing that you should be doing." Love that definition!
I love Dr. Romani so much, she is such an inspiration and has so much great information on the subject of narcissism. She makes me feel comforted and validated and she isn’t even my real life therapist.
Yeah, when Kyle answered the definition of success question, I knew he failed the narcissist test. Great session. Thank you both for your dedication and contributions to mental health. I am a therapist and I get a lot from these mock sessions. Would live to have Dr. Ramani as my therapist.
Same. He said he would have to know someone and that was like oh yup
Why?@@LowSlungBadBitch
Narcissists love attention, infact they always have the answers, never wrong, politically correct, love status, can't understand people emotional and feel like the world needs their greatness. Their conversations are the things we've heard over and over again in a sense that they say things that they know people will agree with. Remember they are not emotionally open and always make sure that they are not seen in a bad light.
wow this sounds like my father
I was waiting for this comment thank you!
Sounds like Meghan Markle 😄
i've met plenty of narcissists who weren't at all politically correct. they are whatever they're bubble deems as cool and what makes them popular.
@Noeea 🤔some; a type of them. The ones that I have been exposed to don’t fit the attention, status, and rarely enough are very quiet 🤐 people.
His body language around the questions. Its very defensive and protective. It relaxes when interview is over.
Would have been interesting to hear about his parents and how he was raised, it reveals a lot.
AWESOME point.
He's an emotionally avoidant
@@Sand24 Do you know what causes that? The term you used applies perfectly to someone that I know. I wondered if it was a childhood thing, or just personality.
I had the same point. It would be interesting to know about Kyle's relationship with his mother, specifically about what he experienced in childhood. Because there's the key.
As a psychology graduate their are many studies emerging that reveal that childhood experiences do and can develop into narcissistic individuals.
For anyone interested google freuds theory ( kinda questionable), more over use google scholar and type in narcissim and childhood, it will give you alot of studies... ive just completed a dissertation on narcissitic triats as alot of narcissits go un diagnosed as they dont think or perceive themselves to be the issue...their ego and grandiosity,manipulation tactics, ego wont allow them to. Thats why i find this hard to believe that one has allowed themselves to be filmed...however, look at all the excuses for his behaviour that he is giving...is anything his fault? Would love to see his NPI-40 SCORE x
Oh this was such a good segment. They need to do more simulations like this, I just realised how much I love watching Dr. Ramani work, and Kyle too obviously.
The fact that answering those questions would’ve been the exact same from me is freaking Awesome. It’s crazy the world doesn’t think that being genuine is a thing anymore 🥺
I've only seen a couple of these videos with Kyle, although I watch many of Dr. Ramani's videos, so this isn't a fair criticism of him. I doubt he's a narcissist, but he does use a lot of definitives(Is that a word?) like "I always...", "I very much...", "I definitely..." and kind of follows with a statement that makes himself look good. That triggers something in my brain. I think it might be that he seems a little self-centered, but I'm so dysfunctional myself that he probably just has a healthy sense of self and that is foreign to me. Kudos to him to be vulnerable and expose himself to us like this.
This video is so fascinating. I watched it a year ago and was very confused by it, but have learned so much since then. Now, it's so clear that Kyle is high functioning but very narcissistic. He is educated enough to know the "right" answers. Narcissists don't want to be unmasked and they are more than capable of pretending. Kyle is pretending but clearly does not have empathy. It's fascinating to see that Dr. Ramani seems to not see it. I don't question her empathy and sincerity. It's fascinating because as knowledgeable as she is, she cannot bring herself to see it. He may not have NPD, because he's functional and his lack of empathy does not seem to be affecting his life in a negative way, but I would bet he's caused a lot of pain for others. Empaths are probably drawn to him and he cannot truly reciprocate the feelings, etc . He's not "evil" because he cares enough about his curated image as a "normal" "healthy" person to behave and conduct himself somewhat like an empathic person. I do also appreciate his courage. But, ultimately the video is a real disservice. I was struggling to understand narcissists and still am. For folks that are watching this and feeling confused, your gut is right. Start trusting your gut, but also keep learning more. You'll start to understand it deeply. If your empathic, youve got to really learn how to see through the act of those that lack it, be real with yourself about the attraction to such people, and really understand that they are truly different, and will never feel the things you do.
I watched it a long time ago as well. I don't think he has npd but he isn't someone I'd want to hang out with. He comes across as high in some negative narc style traits and avoidance p.d. I'd be uncomfortable around him, he would raise red flags for me. Depends if he can let his barriers down but I'm not keen on his ideas on what success is nor his time limited empathy. Not someone I'd want to share with. He has traits and I suspect he has empathy but can be very judgemental
@@bereal6590I’m coming back to this video now too and like you and the comment you responded to I kept thinking about how cold he is but thinking he’s doing a good job of masking it. On one hand he owns his limitations as something that aren’t limitations, but also says he’s a good listener and empathic. He had a very limited understanding of empathy and likely himself and why this coldness of feeling manifests and he can’t eradicate. I wouldn’t want to date or be his friend either. If he’s not a narc he’s damn close to it, and I think Ramani knows it too but soft pedals here to not start conflict.
Something in his past did this to him, surely. I wonder if his passion for animals that took up fifteen years of his life for a career has something to do with his inability to connect intimately with humans - he can have closeness with animals because they aren’t demanding of affection in a way where they control the energy, these animals need humans so Kyle gets the control of a situation while also interacting with some living being to fill that primal need. He can bask in his human coldness because an animal can’t detect the nuances of it. They just need the surfaces which Kyle can only provide. (9/5/24)
These are the answers !
He's not answering openly and honestly, he's being duplicitous and strategic in his responses, and I believe Dr Ramani knows it.
Most people with NPD have avoidant attachment styles. I believe he has both, but as it is a spectrum disorder; he seems to be functional and more aware than the average NPD patient (Maybe because he’s in therapy and has a comprehensive understanding of the topic, he is after all, engaging in dialogue with an educated specialist). He is however extremely reward motivated (to the extent that interpersonal and empathic motivations can become irrelevant, he admitted that not being emotionally available has been a detriment in his romantic relationships), uses a win/lose lens with which to see the world, he’s ego driven on a more acute scale and superficial. He did a good job of controlling and being very intentional with his answers; I’m sure he was prepared for this interview.
My Dad was a narcissist. I remember feeling sorry for him that he did not know about love as I did. That put me at an advantage over him which I used to get through my needing an un-present Father. I was 5. Kids will use their imagination until they get out from under that roof.
The fact at the end he said that he really hates when someone tells him about their life on the plane and how he hates having to listen because it isn't important and how he also ends up doing it to friends, really makes me feel he is narcissistic. Since narcissists have a hard time giving attention to others without getting anything out of it.
Confession Time: KYLE IS E-X-A-C-T-L-Y ME.
I'm so grateful to Kyle for being honest unlike other people. Because of him, I feel more confident and not alone.
Second, I'm really really GRATEFUL and IN AWE OF RAMANI, THE PSYCHOLOGIST. Your advice is very VALUABLE FOR ME and Your dissection SO ACCURATE.
I seriously feel happy 🙏
❤️🙏
So interesting, because the way kyle answered every question was almost opposite myself :P So cool the world is full of so many people
To really put a Narc on the spot, you need to have friends, ex- friend's, family or ex -conworkers brought in.
Very true because most narcissists will manipulate the truth if alone to paint themselves as the good guy.
Lost BorderlineSoul 👏 So well said and so true.
Damn like an addict reunion
So true, so true. When a light is shone on them and they are put on blast,they can hide it so well. You would think the victim is lying or making it up in their heads. But in a setting where they are secretly recorded with family, friends and co workers,that's when they truly shine in their true colours.
I think exes, for sure! I feel like every narcissist I've dated had manipulated their friends and family, and reserved their cruelty for girlfriends. I think exes are essential to talk to!
I liked that she was asking the questions this time. I’m surprised that many people accused him of being a narcissist. I never got that vibe from him. He seems very introspective and has the ability self reflect and understand what he needs to work on. Just because he’s not an emotional touchy feely guy doesn’t automatically mean narc. He could just be more avoidant.
I think people think he is a narcissist could be because he is less on the emotion/compassion spectrum. People relate to each other through emotions and while he is great with the practical side of things, interview skills etc, there is less of the emotional give and take with others and that shows but clearly that's not a Narc.
I mean if you listen to the video he does come off as being kind of cold, and he doesn't seem to empathize very well. When be mentioned how he gets annoyed when people bring up a similar shared experience, I was like damn but aren't they just expressing that they can relate? And him not being able to be intimate with partners. Those are red flags.
@@Ayaforshort someone on the autism spectrum can behave in similar ways. For example, someone with high functioning autism can be cold and lack empathy because their brains are wired to be overly logical. They lack emotional and socially intelligence. They lack eye contact and some have sensory issues which may cause them to not enjoy being touched. They can be very standoffish and appear self absorbed because they are in their own world. There is also something called alexityhmia where an individual has difficulty identifying emotions in themselves and others. I think Kyle is way too introspective and aware of his flaws to be considered a narc. I think a narc would typically deflect and deny any flaws they may have and over compensate by saying how amazing they are. Kyle was really able to look inward and think about what he needs to work on. As for someone sharing their personal experiences, it’s quite a common thing to do, but it actually does not show empathy. Even counsellors refrain from personal sharing a relatable story because it takes the focus off the other person and makes it about you. So he’s not really wrong for saying that he doesn’t like it because it’s usually not appropriate or necessary.
@@tinybrit3225 I think those are all great points. As for the not sharing personal stories, it really just depends on how frequent it occurs with the individual relaying them. And intentions matter. If their intention is too soothe someone by telling a personal story and acknowledging that they don't wish to invalidate that person's feelings or experiences, then it isn't a grasp at personal attention. I would think those who have the ability to empathize with others and not draw the worst conclusions about the motives of others would be able to decern when someone is being self absorbed.
He has been told that he doesn't share his emotions and that his partners experience a lack of intimacy from him... but he is unable to connect the fact that he refrains from offering very much feedback when listening to someone's problems and doesn't share his own personal experiences unless absolutely necessary, with why people think he is withdrawn.
That leads me to believe that he refrains from those behaviors because he dislikes them in others, not because he dislikes them in himselfand was told not to.. Possibly he doesn't like people giving him advice, doesn't like being told he is loved, doesn't like when people share their personal experiences. So he has possibly adjusted his behavior to not do those things for others.
Possibly he could be autistic, but barring that, it is more likely that he is at least somewhat narcissistic.
Especially since he does make eye contact and is so comfortable being in front of the camera and interviewing others.
He is introspective and is in therapy working on himself, but narcissism can present in many different forms. He is overall content with his life and may be going to therapy for other issues.
I'm just looking at this a a case study of course. I don't want to make assumptions about who he is or hurt his feelings, but I am not getting the impression of autism from his answers and disposition.
@@tinybrit3225 Therapist also refrain from sharing personal stories to maintain some professionalism and because telling personal stories can change the dynamic. The person is then able to judge the therapist on who they are as a person rather than focusing on their own self and judging their own behavior. If the therapist believes the story can help they will tell it. They just don't spend much time on it or dig into it.
I think it has less to do with attention. People don't usually talk about their problems or feelings just for the attention. They do it because they are requesting emotional or logical support.
Being heard and validated is so important. Also, when strangers talk to you, listen to them, so many people have such interesting life stories and you will learn so much from them. 😊 I think Kyle is a nice guy and very ambitious… nothing wrong with that at all!
Being nice and ambitious is good, but these are not great traits on their own. I know nice people who lack empathy and ambitious, utiliatarian people are ten dollars a dozen (I'm accounting for inflation since the clique was first used!). I think there IS something wrong if empathy is lacking in a person!!
Thanks!
I personally believe that it is difficult to diagnose a narcissist, especially a Cerebral Narc as they are very intelligent, manipulative and are able to show empathy. They are good at presenting a positive image to the public and only those close to them truly see who they are.
So on point Eliza! 👏👏👏 I know a bench of them, and they can be very charming and popular!
Once you are familiar with the pattern and how it looks and feels, you can spot it *immediately*. It's not difficult at all.
Sounds like you are describing a covert narc (aka vulnerable narc)...
My ex was it, and i am so sorry to his next supplies. It will be never ending story.
Narcissist are on the verge of extinction. There's a ton of information on youtube. They no longer have the power they once had.
In love with Kyle view of a relationship. "Do not want someone to complete." That's it. We don't need to be completed. We are already complete being who we are. 😍
The interesting to me was that, after being "diagnosed" not narcissistic, he ended the interview saying it was very good for HIM! :)
I mean... thats understandable tho. Like to know that your * not * a narcissist would be a relief to your mental health ~ thus very good for him.
But if u are not narcissistic you will know that. If u are a kind person who never wanna harm anyone in anyway, you know that
Loved it.
When Dr Ramani asked how he used to feel about compliments, I suddenly felt so sad mentally seeing how I would answer that question.
My feelings about it are basically a mix of:
"people will have their opinion about you based on certain interactions at a limited gap of time and they have a full emotional baggage and a lot of stories that will have to do with what they will think about you"
+ "It's my right to agree or disagree with their opinion"
+ "love, kindness, and gentleness aren't for granted"
+ "I want to cry so much for DAYS because I want to so much to have my good qualities seen and praised - and at the same time I'm so alone in this moment of my life and I miss so fucking much positive and SINCERE words, and I crave for authentic, deep and genuine validation and honest kinship and oh my god I feel SO LONELY----"
Thank you both for being so open and willing, it helps us all.
This man is me...I'm very much an arms length avoidant personality type. Keep things at a polite distance. Wasn't always like this but people wear you down eventually.
Sad... try to fix yourself and open your heart
Better that way
Nothing WRONG with being the way this guy is in the scenario it's also brave of him to put himself on the spot
amen!! i am exactly the same . for many reasons.
Kyle very so much shows the tendencies of an avoidant type personality.
It’s fascinating to see how our self-defense mechanisms show our shadow (hostility, vulnerability, repressed aggression, etc), even when we make our best “logical” attempts to be cool, collected and honest in our delivery. Good episode. 👌🏼
Amazing.
"Relentless pursuit of what my TARGET is..."
not goal or objective, but TARGET 🙂
A lot of movement throughout the entire clip! A lot of body language, micro-expressions both sides. Very insightfully for any scholar! Great material! 🙏
Wow, that is huge: ".....when those big ticket days happen those are the bridges that carry the relationship to the next level. And that's where narcissistic people can't go."
Brussel Sprout, hope you are not with a narc 😈!
I love that he gets it at the end about what he hasn’t practiced emotionally and therefore was not able to give to others in the past! Kyle you are so open and honest and that really came through. Great video!
I love the blue Dr. Ramani is wearing. Hopefully he can overcome his narcissistic traits with her advice,
I respect Kyle for doing this. Nobody is perfect and he is clearly admitting what he can and will not do (setting up his boundaries) but at the same time trying to extend that boundaries (doing effort to improve himself) not for himself but for the people that matter to him.
This man reminds me of my oldest child, who is intellectually gifted. Therapy is useful for those who are incredibly intelligent, in that it helps them reevaluate how they interact with others. However, they’re so smart, they can see where the therapist is going and actually enjoy outwitting their attempts to diagnose issues. They will play verbally with the therapist’s best attempts to do therapy. They will reveal whatever they want and hide what they want. Not a narcissist, just incredibly smart. This gentleman, if assessed intellectually, would score highly in verbal reasoning.
What Dr. Ramani says at 28:29 to 29:00 is pivotal. We all need to practice this more in our lives no matter what stage we're in. Subbed.
Paid to say that?
Oh he totally got paid a fuckton of money to leave a TH-cam comment, and it got over 10 likes!!!
It’s a lucrative business, the comment-leaving.
lol you guys are so funny 😂
Nothing is deeper than happiness Kyle .. inner peace and happiness is success .
So good to see Dr Ramani in this context - obviously the girl knows what she's doing but this episode really showcased how astute she is. Respect!
Thank you for sharing this experience. Growing up my mother needed a "sounding board " that became me - she knew and uses many tricks of the traid for managing her public self and maintaining her ability to have friendships that were meaningful for her. Friendships that were not only satisfying and fun but also supportive, a support group. She was amazing to me in her people skills.
But her home growing up was physically and mentally/emotionally abusive. So behind closed doors - she managed her inner turmoil by taking it out on the kids. Counseling Services were in their infantce and mom,I don't believe would have ever dared to work on her can of worms as she call her issues for fear of becoming "Humty Dumpty " like the Nursery Riem falling & broken... can't be put back together - lots of fears etc.
I loved the end!! really makes you think about how you can look to other people by just changing your ways, smiling to people more often or listening to their stories. I am an introvert so it's hard for me sometimes to do that, but this gives a lot of insight!
This is such a great interview. I love Dr. Durvasula so much! She's so good!
I also noticed a statement he said. Words are very powerful. I can't quite remember the question given to him but what JUMPED out to me was when he said " THEY'D BETTER BE". To me, that speaks volumes.
I love the transparency in this discussion. Kyle and Dr. Ramani are soo awesome and relatable 💜
I love this so much. Kyle is brave for being so open, Dr Ramani is amazing, keep it up!
Kyle is clever and has amazing tools . He crabed me on one of his interviews with same Dr. On sociopathic, narcissistic behavior.
He really listens well and reacts with the right facial expression. I think his shadow is Kyle's best friend and he is aware of it and how creepy and dangerous it is. Great interview!!
I am nurse never ever comment on this kind of video I am old school 57, but I have learned so much from these ! Awesome
Sooo good. It was neat watching Kyle having breakthroughs as the session was coming to a close. A good therapist can eventually lead someone to that point, however, I can see that getting a narcissist to that point may take a long time if ever.
You should do a segment on hoarding in the family and it's effects on the mental health of others.
I presume you have personal experience with this? I do too. Want some resources? I have collected a few.
I know I could use that!
Even I am an emotionally unavailable person. So I can understand where he is coming from. But a lack of empathy is usually not a problem for us as we can have empathy but not be able to express it.
Roshall Lambert yeah
love the way Ramani gets every info she wants in short words i have that skill too
I loved watching this. Kyle was so quick to know how he feels and how he responds to others under different circumstances. I would like to see an interview between Dr. Ramini and a narcissist.
Me, too. That would be insightful!
After watching this interaction...I love Kyle even more than I ever did. He is a great person doing the very best he can and who can ask more than that. He is willing to do the work required to continue to grow?...and we all benefit from his career choices via MedCircle. 🙏🏻
Discernment is key. Our self-confidence has to be internally based. NOT on the opinions of others.
I am watching your series to help me determine if my 76-year-old husband is a narcist or if it is his on-going neurological issues (fronto temperol lobe.) When we met, (I was age 45 and he was age 50) he was emotionally available to me. When I got a bad case of the flu he stayed home from work and took care of me. He was loving and empathetic both verbally, physically and emotionally to me. Today, 27 years later he is empathetic and sympathetic to his co-workers so I know he is able to be those things, but he is not those things with me today. He has had some insulin resistance cognitive decline. We now have his insulin resistance corrected through diet, exercise and lifestyle changes. He no longer thanks me for everything I do or recognize me in any way and I have taken care of him alone now for the majority of our married years (27 years.) He shared his bad habits and mistakes in his first marriage and was transparent to me about them. He also showed me how he had changed. He came to our marriage in debt and I moved him in with me and supported him financially so that he could get his debts paid off. I felt I was supporting him emotionally and working to build our new life together. How do I know whether his pulling back, his expectations etc. is neurological or narcissistic? He no longer drives but work three days a week so I drive him to work and home again which equates about 2 hours per day or 8 hours per week. I now find myself doing all of the household chores and all of the food sourcing (for our two separate, specific diets) laundry, errand running, bill paying (he is no capable of making good financial decisions.)I also have health issues (multiple Autoimmune Decisions) and I find myself exhausted, frustrated, burnt out, angry and isolated. Yes, he is working three days a week so that we have the Functional Medicine out-of-pockets, special supplements, and extra payments on our mortgage to try to get our condo paid off. I am grateful for his working but he now thinks he has to do nothing in the home. When we dated I made it very clear I was looking for an equal marriage partner not another child to take care of. (I had already raised my two sons and was done with that stage of my life and ready to focus on my career and meeting some of my own needs after 20 years of meeting everyone else's needs.) This was my number one desire in a relationship. He knew this and he agreed. But he has not kept his side of the agreement. Oddly enough his former wife of 21 years (and mother of his two children) approached me once and told me that she was glad I had married Gene because living with him was like taking care of a third child. I was stunned at this, and I defended him at that time by saying "This has not been my experience." But now, I think of this comment and wonder...I wonder IF this had been a pattern in his life and in the midst of falling in love and being in lust, I had just missed the signs altogether. Some of this I chalked up to being raised in an Italian family (Italians tend to spoil their children) and the fact that he was the youngest of four children) and spoiled by his siblings as well and his parents. This is a cultural thing. I'll keep watching.
Outstanding interview. I so much admire and respect Dr. Ramani's work. Appreciated Kyle's transparency and receptiveness towards Dr. Ramani's insight and suggestions. Bravo! Great work!
"I'm a really good listener" but "I hate it when people start talking about themselves"
Riiight
I know, right? Such a contradiction
He likes to listen to people talk about things not themselves. That's definitely possible
Hard to talk about things without talking about yourself.
@@Mr_Goodall_CD not really. There are plenty of ways to not talk about yourself. People just like to do that to make things easier because that's all they have to bring to the conversation.
Every time you open your mouth, you are expressing yourself. Even if you're not talking specifically about yourself. Get what I mean?
I love his definition of success- totally agree! Great video. Thank You!
No way, no how. This guy is self-aware and was too frank describing his imperfections and self-criticisms. He came off as a "normal" person, imperfect as we all are, likable and genuine.
I love this because I’ve been thinking of finding a therapist and this gives a glimpse of what a session could look like. Thank you!
God I want to see more content like this, where it basically is a therapy discussion but includes insights from both parties. This was so useful, and her tips at the end were good advice for pretty much anyone!
He seems like a wonderful person who's all together.🤗
Lol 😂 wtf