I had anger issues | bedtalk ep.8
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- We all need to find a healthy way to let off steam..!
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Societal pressure can be really dangerous for a lot of us. We all have been programmed to put on masks for society till the time when we fail to realize who we really are. Solo travel was one such thing that help me introspect and contemplate a lot of things too. It's a good listen. You should have a Spotify series too. All the best Dan.
With all the masks I had, there was a point when I felt like I didn’t know who I really was! I think that’s why I liked acting. I was kind of figuring out my true self playing different characters.
Spotify is not really commonly used here so don’t know how it works 🤔
@@ThizisDanny Reeally? Does Korea have an alternative application to Spotify that's used to listen to podcast? Or is podcasting not that popular in Korea?
This is something that I can really relate to.
My parents divorced when I was a kid and I had a really turbulant childhood with 1 parent that wasnt good at showing their love and 1 parent who was self centered and didn't really care about her children. This lack of love resulted in me wanted to be accepted by others no matter what, so I shoved my own feelings aside to put on a facade of being happy and friendly regardless of how I actually felt. This just resulted in letting people walk all over me, doing things I didn't want, sharing thiings knowing the ppl wouldn't return them, and just plain being treated poorly.
Of course I eventually cracked... but rather than anger I ended up having severe depression, became antisocial, and just secluded myself from everyone. The drastic change in my behaviour didn't go unnoticed and resulted in me having to visit my school therapist weekly for a few months.
If I had to give anyone advice... it's don't pretend to be someone else to satisfy others. While the praise or attention might feel good for a while, it's not sustainable and can really mess with your mental health.
I can feel you :) thank god you survived!!!
@@saramsarang537 thanks... Im lucky that I had a good father. Even tho he was really bad at showing his love when I was a child, I learned how much he loved me when I reached my young adult years and could appreciate the little things he did to show it.
I’m glad you managed to get through that period. I don’t know you well but from what I could tell from the comments and messages, I think you are a thoughtful person. The hard times of my life actually made me a better person, to think more thoroughly, to be more understanding, to love myself more and to see life in a different perspective. I think we grow from the pains when we manage to overcome it. And totally agree on not pretending to satisfy others. I actually sometimes still do that but I’m working on it! :)
@@ThizisDanny i strongly agree with you, in the process there is a need to nurture our positive emotions, in this life we are condemned to choose a side so it is up to each individual.
@@Krystal109 i am glad you had such a good love partner teller! You have such a precious dad who knows how to say love!! People say i love you depends on their own experience or the person/ thing/animal they are dealing with it can be as an order, a disappointment, a glare, an inconvenient word or action.. we just can't intrepret. Parents were lovers once at first, they bring love and love it, their imbued life experience taught them how to say love :), i got to a point that hated but i listened when i got ready and found love in all of what happened, love hurts and it is true,,
You are such a brave individual because you made me cry last night haha i can feel you!! I love you:)
PS: i wrote one previously last night but it hadn't been posted
For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness ☺️
We are just human after all. Pleasing others but you are crying inside. I lived outside and learned others culture and made me more understanding and choose to be happy.
I lived in Seoul for 7 years so sounds like a typical issue among most of my Korean friends.
For me one of the most important things that somebody told me was that “Anger is the flip side of depression”. That doesn’t mean though that everyone who is sometimes angry has depression but for me it was the start of looking at my anger differently instead of just continuing the cycle of getting angry and then feeling guilty and bad about myself until the next outburst. It took me years to work out the extend of what it means for me but it started me on a path of reframing my anger and understanding myself.
Thank you Danny for talking about these deeply personal experiences in such an insightful way. 🙏
I found you only yesterday, here in the beginning of 2022, but the more I watched what you posted, the more impressed I became. And then I came across this video of yours. Having a background in psychology and working with the mentally ill, I must thank you for having the courage to share your struggle with others, all with the intent to help them. What an amazing world this could be if we all would show such kindness! Just like on a tea kettle, talking about the pressures one feels is one of the greatest relief valves one can have. Hopefully everyone can find and develope those strategies which help them the most, no matter what form they may take--listening to certain music, taking a walk in the woods, volunteering at a charity, writing in a journal, etc.. The list is endless. THANK YOU, Danny, for caring so much about people you don't even know. And THAT is why we need to put the emphasis of kind back in humanKIND.
The way you described how you used to be, was so similar to the way I was! once I was in middle through university! I always thought I couldn’t say things or express myself because I’d hurt those around me or I was afraid they’d be upset by the things I said. After I got to university, I’d bottle it all up (along with the stress) and then I’d have like a mini break down or panic attack. It got to a point where I realized I didn’t have it all under control, and I can’t just keep saying things were okay when they weren’t. When I started going to church it helped a lot and I was able to learn that I should be “ slow to anger and fast to forgive”, but that didn’t mean I had to push my feelings down it just meant to stop talking and reacting when I was angry or frustrated and then once I calmed down speak to the person and explain why I felt the way I did. It’s helped me a lot over the years. Now I love taking walks and listening to music when I’m feeling like that about anything! I hope you are feeling better now, it’s good that you’ve found ways to help you!
Having a good support team is vital. Life is tough and we all experience hardships. Those hardships can cause turmoil. But having people in your life that know you can help ease the burden with just a listening ear is a world of difference. Grant it this video was posted awhile back but me hearing it today means the world to me. I been struggling lately and realized the support I don't have. I need to refocus my mentality and even at my age it's hard. Thank you for telling us your story. ❤❤❤❤❤
I’m just binging these bed talks today. And it’s crazy how I can relate to every single thing you’ve said. With every story, regret, fear.
It’s like you’re repeating everything that’s been on my mind. Love these videos
I really resonates with this ep of bedtalk. I scared my family and teachers one year at school because I exploded in anger because of a silly little thing. They had never seen me mad or sad like this. I was the “calm, quiet and happy child”. So I resonate with that. I went to New Zealand for 4 month on my own and that made me grow. Getting to know new people who didn’t know me from before helped me to get more of an self insight.
I hope you sleep better now and that you have someone who ask you, how you are doing by your side. Take care of yourself and stay safe 🤗
It was part of growing up… the pressure to be what everyone expect us to be.
Man i really relate. Going abroad i feel a lot more free than i was before, and listening to this reminds me of the expectations and pressure that I didn’t know of, but always felt. Being away there’s still expectations but it’s different as we can be ourselves.
We feel more brave to be ourselves or sometimes it could be the opposite..! But it’s a nice opportunity to explore who we really are :)
what help me deal with stress and people is keeping a daily journal. at the end of the day, before going to bed i write in my journal. i right exactly what i think, peppering the pages with every curse word i can think of. i always feel refreshed afterwards. and i sleep well too.
I can relate to your video. Sounds like you are on the right track dealing with pressures from all walks of life. Choose your battles wisely. It is ok to say no if you don't like something.
Honestly Dan, I don't know how to react on this one! The way you describe yourself in any of your videos is basically me and I don't know how to say this without sounding like a creep who literally agrees to everything that you say!!
The expectations I used to face, my image in people's mind, the frustration I used to swallow in order to fit that image, the explosion after a certain point, sudden anger spikes and even the way to deal with that anger these days after I've given some thought and gotten a bit matured is so much similar.
Only thing that I can say is that the more I'm watching you, more I'm relating to you. And I believe a lot of other Asians do. You might not know this but a lot of people, including me, don't speak their mind even if they are really sorted and matured just because they don't want people to get involved with their personal life. And for such people, you are a literal blessing as you have been speaking out everything that's been on their mind and are giving them a mental release they long for!
Lot's of wishes Dan! I hope you have a great future!
People without anger issues are not normal. It's part of family life and the society we live in. It happened to me many times in the past esp when I was so young.
My older siblings used to tell me that I was mean when I was little. Seeing pictures of myself as a toddler, I never smiled. I guess I didn’t know how to express myself, being such a quiet. As a teenager, I became a perfectionist. My parents didn’t pressure me about succeeding in school or anything, but I think having older siblings I felt like I needed to always do good. Like you, I kept all that frustration inside. As an adult I always tried to please everyone. I’m a genuinely giving person, but again I put too much pressure on myself. Until one day, I exploded. There’s nothing wrong with being angry. It’s human. But it’s how you deal with anger that makes a big difference. Sorry for the long story, but hearing your experience reminded me a lot of myself
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i can relate a lot . my anger issues are rly bad i remember breaking pens and pencils around me or punching walls, throwing things around here and there or even sh . sometimes it got to the point where i realized i hurt the people around me and lost them. btw really enjoying your content! keep up the amazing work!
Hi PoohBear, it's a bit hard to imagine you being angry but I can picture nonetheless. The reason I say this is because I went through a patch in my life when I had major issues and having MPD does not help. I did find a way to get over my anger issues & to focus. I'm not able to travel but going to the beach both day &/or night takes away my anger. People who know me say I'm a sweetheart, lol, and my response to be them is and may always be: " I'm the nicest person you have meet but if you cross me I'll be the worst person you have ever meet!" They always laugh. I'm 5'2" have a short complex. Anyway I'm glad you found peace as I did. Thank you for sharing. Take care 😊🤗
I'd simple say this was very helpful Dan. You gave me a wonderful idea to deal with my anger outbursts or moments where I feel low since I am already dealing with depression (diagnosed). I never thought of trying this. Will do now. Thanks again.
I find this relevant. I have anger issues too.
Thanks for your comments, excellant advice. Glad you recognized what was going on. Life is challenging, that is what I have always told my son.Emotions are a part of being human. I like to meditate, very helpful.
We all are so scared of losing our sanity in front of people but we gotto understand sometimes there is no question of generalizing people’s perception on anyone or anything. Any perceptions or some perception in particular is always instigated in people with their good or bad experience with anyone or any situation. Your subscribers- including me 😊- absolutely love you the way you are. Judge less, love more- more power to you ❤️❤️❤️
Life is very challenging not only for young peeps but also to almost everyone. Continue taking those stress relievers and if you find a trusted listener it will help open up your feelings and release some of those emotions. God Bless🙏Much love from ATL, GA 🇺🇸 USA
First, I just want to thank you for sharing. I am writing from another perspective coming from the parent side. I have been on your side with the calm persona "experience" so I definitely understand that societal pressure. It's funny because that pressure can follow you even until the various adult stages you will enter. Even in parenthood there are a lot of expectations for what you should do. Thankfully videos like yours give me comfort as to my own vision for my kids' future.
I wish more (older gens) in Asian society would understand these "angry" outbursts are a cause-and-effect from the suppression and constant mask we are expected to put on due to "face".
I fret over the future gens and I'm really glad to hear you found a way to channel your emotions. Keep writing and sharing as that is the best way to alleviate stress.
Humans are meant to talk and communicate. We are social creatures and yet my heritage seems to teach the opposite. To trust nobody (because you need to worry about what everyone *might* say about you); to be self-sufficient (because you cannot lose face by asking for help); to lock up your emotions and etc. I could rant on as I'm sure you may know too.
Awareness is key and the more we share the more people who feel alone can be reached. I think that is a wonderful thing.
Good luck!
You have the answer to your issues but you aren’t facing the truth and the real you. I feeling you drained yourself and nothing comes back, set some boundaries and see if that’s work for you. Love your great soul, I sending blessings and vibes to you
i have anger issues too , but mine didn't explode yet
and i have problem communicating with ppl ; i like to be around ppl and chat and have fun but i am super honest and sometimes ppl think it is rude , i guess I'll just wait for me time to explode
I am so proud of you Dan. It takes a very special individual that takes that inner journey to reflect and question their thoughts and actions. Healthy living can be challenging for the most seasoned of veterans and must come from deeper awareness and understanding of self. Turning one’s self around and stopping unwanted behaviors and activities in favor or more positive outcomes is awesome! Wow. That my friend, is true personal power. You are wise beyond your years. I am so glad that you share these perspectives with others. It is a powerful positive path to changing this world into a peaceful, joyful, loving and more wonderful place to live. I want to buy you a coffee! 🤗💖
Your share can really help others who are or who have gone through the same situation. To know that your not the only one can be a big comfort ❣️
Hit the nail on the head. I'm the type of person where I turn my negative emotions into jokes and never allow myself to vent properly. Eventually, I shut down and go into isolation. I've lost friends doing that and have come close to losing my job. I still haven't gotten out of holding myself back emotionally 😔 but, I do try to be a good person. I'll listen to everyone else's problem and try to help. I guess I'm afraid of showing vulnerability.
Thanks Dan! Very well presented and true to heart. Reminds me of myself during last few years. Pleasing people can be tough, especially when one is clouded with societal pressure and is loaded with expectations. I started learning a new language and traveling to take my mind off the anger which had been buried for years. Baby steps at a time.
I love these posts so so much. You don’t even understand 🥺❤️
I find myself searching , just to be sure I haven’t missed one.
Thank you for sharing these aspects of yourself with us, I know for experience that baring your soul is not always easy and it might take some time to find the courage and the right person to talk to.
You are a thoughtful, careful, and wise young man. I’m glad you are sharing your lessons. One thought I would share is that other people don’t “make” you angry; it’s your response/reaction to what they do that make you angry. The anger arises from within you. That’s the challenge…to respond rather than react.
Heavy Dan, I love my life with people who respect and love me for who I am. I agree sometimes people especially family members/friends will challenge you to be angry. Those people think that they have all the right to judge other life. I don’t like that, I learn how to talk to those people and yeah I admit sometimes in a hard way. Those persons that judge you has a lot to learn about their life they also are insecure, not happy, have lots of problems you don’t know.
One thing they forget we all responsible for our life how we speak how interact with other people. Best way is to talk about the situation and find a solution for our problems. Is always good to focus on other things in life things that you like traveling that’s give you inspiration to go further in life. I also like to focus on things that I like in life. Love life. Thanks ✌️❤️🌹😘
I went through a similar stage in my twenties when I was angry for no reason, I was snapping back at everyone, I lost friends during those years, etc. Yes, it can be difficult to control the anger but at the same time, as you said, repressing it only makes it worse as it escalates inside. Now I feel a lot calmer overall, despite difficulties I may encounter, however, I think I feel this way because I am more at peace with who I am as a person. I have nothing to prove to anyone, I don't live for others and I want people in my life to actually like me for who I am and not who they want me to be. I am happy you came to realize that as well. :) We all have good sides, bad sides, we all get angry and are happy too so I can prob picture you angry. It's only human after all.
All i can say is you are not alone.And as you grow older and hopefully become assertive you will be able to be more comfortable in your skin !
This was really great. I appreciated how you had an honest assessment of yourself, where you've been, and where you're going. And we all have areas of communication, expressing ourselves, and managing how we respond to expectations of those around us or society. You talked about a difficult subject in a thoughtful and insightful way. Appreciated this conversation!
So proud of you talking about this subject cs lot of people don t like to do that ...just be urself and forget every1 around u ..the only one who matters is urself this is what i always say for my 7 and 8 yrs old boys ...i say always be urself and even if it is good or bad always say the truth of course with respect but never keep anything inside
Every person experiences anger and pressure differently.
I was always a shy and calm child and I don't remember having such outbursts of anger. The problem, of course, was that I kept them to myself and ended up crying alone in my room at nights. Maybe I did not have the courage to break out so intensely or I was just always thinking about the consequences of my actions. Fortunately I found refuge in music (I used to put on headphones and listened happy songs to calm down).
I think the way you reacted back then was better, because having these outbursts of anger the people around you understood that something was bothering you and so they could help you get over it.
Anyway, I truly believe that you are a mature and good person!🥰👍
I think I did need those outbursts because I was feeling suffocated with all the angers inside of me. We all need to find these healthy ways to cope with it. music for you and traveling for me !I don’t know if I’m a good person but I know I’m trying to be one :)
@@ThizisDanny I do not know you for a long time but I am sure you are a very good, sensitive and mature person.🥰🥰🥰
I really can relate to this, especially the exploding part always scares my self.
I was so ashamed of my feelings, sometimes I still like this. I felt like a terrible person for having emotions , even more for the so called “negative” emotions. Learning how to cry and to explain how upset I feel , got easier for me through writing my mind out of my head , to notes.
Growing up in environment were my needs was not met , also being the oldest, never allowed me to feel upset , angry or sad..
This year I want to be more fair, to my self and let my heart speak more often.
Being GOOD comes with a big price tag. In life, it pays off to be BAD in small doses. Leave Being GOOD and to be LIKED to GOD and ANGELS. Truly love yourself, honor your inner peace, and stay curious. Recognize the world is not fair, has evil and corruption, but also has a few good people you end up surrounding yourself with to stay aligned. Getting angry does not make you bad. Just do not seriously hurt people and living things.💖💖
You have navigated the pressures of growing up in an intense culture. For me, growing up in the US with mostly everything I could want really developed a selfish side. Travel also expanded my me to see that not everyone is so lucky as I have been. I have been developing a sense of gratitude ever since. Travel expanded physical borders and my emotional borders. Thank you for being willing to talk about uncomfortable things. 💜👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I can relate to almost everything that you've said. It's never easy to feel like you are hurting yourself with your own emotions.
You can really asked if you are still a good or a bad person. *sigh
Love this. Thank you for sharing.
Hey Dan, Nice talk. It’s all about the types and mentality of the society that put a lot of pressures on us. Especially, on us (i. e.,boy) by saying that you have to take all the responsibility and have to give all the happiness and safety to the family. But only we can know, how we are feel and suffer from which state of mind. Anyway, its all about the types of society, just ignore them, as I always do, enjoy your time by your own way and keep going up bro. 💪🏻
Thank you so much, sir. This is my life now. Since my soul mate passed away, I try to be normal around family and friends as they told me I should be over this pain. They have not been through what I have tried to endure so I get mad and keep it down. I am slowly learning to deal with this, but it is hard. This is why I like do this with people who do not know me and I feel comfortable expressing my feelings. I know it is hard for you as you are truly a really good person and some people try to change you. To me, you are just perfect and trying to do what you do best. Best of luck and wishes to you, sir.
Hello Dan my family had same problem with my brother now we are seeing it with my grandson who is 14 hopefully it can be resolved I think nowadays there is much more help and school support also help in the 70s there was no help at all really thank you for sharing a very personal issue Dan much love to you from MoMo in UK Stay safe and well xx 🤗❤️xx
It's called being a human and growth. Just like everything else human beings evolve and our coping mechanism changes hopefully for the best. However those feeling were as honest back then as they are today and your actions were the only way you knew to express it at that time. Although looking back you feel bad about some of your actions which is understandable, just make sure you put a lot positive energy toward your growth and how you have improved.
I think of you as a human. A person who’s living to find what makes him…him. I’ve gone through everything point you’ve mentioned. My anger finally flowed out of me during high school. It took me years of reevaluation and acceptance to find who I am today. Thank you for being you. For showing others this is a normal stage of life.
Great he can share it feeling to others 👍
Good night , was a good talk , I was a good listener☕️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I can truly relate to some of what you have gone through. I hope your channel grows. It's good for everyone, especially men, to self reflect. You have inspired me to start journaling 😊
Thanks for your bed talk. It's enlightening.
Good for you. It took me many more year to come to the point of where you are in learning to constructively express your feelings and resolve conflict and be the person you are without apologies.👏🏿👏🏿🙏🏿❤️
Hi! Thank you for sharing & discussing this sensitive topic on such a personal level. Stay well.
Thank you for sharing part of your life journey. Much appreciated. Greetings from Costa Rica 🌴😎
Being uniquely you is one of the best experiences of life because you can never be anyone but you; you can make refinements of you but you're still you. And being happy with that and all that that entails and learning how to and when to express yourself is so freeing but i know it's also a joyous revelation. I'm sure that writing out your feelings/experiences; your chronicles is also very therapeutic. I enjoy them because they're relatable; keep up the good work for yourself
I am so happy that you could work through it and now you can control your emotions and also be yourself so well... I didn't know ... But after listening to your words I felt like I needed to hear these today.. thank you so much 😊 and best of luck for future 😊
your voice is so calm
I am sorry Dan. I hope you are okay now and have worked through it all.
You really sound calm and soothing when you speak.... I would never have guessed.
I m amazed by ur bold confession of ur anger issues.there is a phase in life for everyone where we have to go through this,some manage some get into wrong ways.anger, frustration is a part of life where sometimes it is caused by too much of expectations burden on us it might be parents teachers loved ones or society we tend to try to reach their expectioms not to disappoint them even if we are not able to which sometimes leads us to this ur experience has reminded me all the struggle and pressure I have been through as a home-maker.I think they are many who face the same.everyone whether children ,or adults are subjected to these situations and pressurized thus causing emotional conflicts.I admire ur sincere talks and ur contents which are fair and true.I hope who ever sees ur video might take u as an example and inspiration to take over anger issues and lead a happy life👍👌good work.U have truly inspired me and many others with ur talks🙂👋👋👋
I feel so calm and relieved while listening to this video. Perhaps because of the feeling that there is someone else in this planet have the same issue as I am right now, and they can resolve it so maybe I can too. Thank you for such a nice talk.
Dan, WOW! How transparent and self-revelatory. I so appreciate your bed talk. As you were sharing, I was remembering. So many, including myself are so much like you. I like swimming. For me it is so solitary. I can just focus on my strokes and my breathing. Nothing else. Thank you so much for sharing your truth. I am glad I subscribed!
Well said, Sir. 😌
Oh no…that is sad. I want to give you a big hug listening to your bed talk. It is okay to get angry sometimes. Although folks may think that you are immature and don’t know how to manage your feelings. But sometimes you just have to let it out. I usually say give me a minute and walk away from the person or situations. When I was your aged I used to be stressed about pleasing my family. getting good grades and not getting into to trouble with boys. But after I graduated from undergraduate school I started to make decisions that would please me and not my family. Basically, do what makes you happy and forget about what other people thinks. They are either going to love you or not, and if they don’t then that’s their problem and not yours.
Be happy my friend!!! I am rooting for you!❤️
As a communication major, this highlights the reason why communication education should be taken more seriously. If young teens are taught how to address their feelings and talk about them or even just process them, and if mature adults learn what is and isnt harmful to say (even if it isnt their intention) to kids then everyone will have healthier relationships/mental states. Communication studies can also help people to understand their attachment styles, how they deal with their interpersonal relationships, conflict management and a whole lot of other good information that will surely help a lot of people!
What you experienced is called ‘gunny sacking’, you pile up all of the emotions that you feel you can’t say until you eventually explode. But now you’ve learned how to remove yourself from the situations that cause stress and productively talk about your emotions. Which is awesome for you! Im glad that you’ve been able to grow intrapersonally and interpersonally :)
You become a really amazing man,you have learn from your experience, and still do.And you are a really smart guy with pretty amazing soul.🙂
You’re describing exactly what my life was and still is. À part of the angry part. I was angry only towards me. I burst out only twice in 40 years,.I got chronic insomnia and other health issues but I still can get out of it. I’m under the pressure to be good at everything and towards everyone.. Glad that u got out of it . I still hope that I would . Wish u the best 😊
Thanks for your content
I think it's good practice to be on the same page with those you have the most interactions with, such as significant other or parents and certain close friends..I mean, instead of pressing down your thoughts and feelings in order to avoid conflict, it could be a good idea to say, 'I want to discuss this with you, but if I do so now, I'm just going to get angry and I don't want that to happen. So I need some space and time alone and let's talk about this subject in a few days when I have thought it through and I am calm.'
That way, you're not putting it off indefinitely and frustrating the other person, but you're also taking care of yourself to be able to come back and have good conflict resolution.
That was good love you bed talks
This was a really nice video to watch and listen to :)
I had anger issues because of my medication I take, it was not normal something really was wrong, whenever am mad I would be boiling literally, I would shout, yell in the street, and sometimes I wanted to hit the person in front of me, I would be so scared that each time I would breakdown and tell the person that I can't calm down it is so hard to calm down and I have no idea how to and why. After that I told my doctor to reduce my dose cause it was impossible to deal with myself like that. Now I'm so calm like the opposite 💀 and whenever I feel am starting to get mad, I just leave for sometime, I don't want to explode like before, so scary.
Woah. I can relate to you a lot. People think I’m calm and nice. But I’m a mess. I come from a broken home that was abusive. I ran away from my family by joining the military. That was another crazy ride. But today I’m the happiest I could ever be. I have a husband who’s the greatest and I go to therapy now lol. I’m glad you’re able to speak about it. A goal for me is to be able to share my story in hope that someone doesn’t feel alone as well.
I hope you have a good day and be safe out there and never give up 👏
Hello Dan, hope you had a great start this week!
Anger issues I would say evry one of us hv been through this phase I guess....
As a kid while growing up I hv no idea about anything (literally anything!)I hv no idea abut gaming or movie or toys nothing other than books n (just the book of the classes I was studying in then.) I evn never bothered as my mom made sure that I could never think abut anything 🤷.
When I lost my dad things strtd going a dfrnt way all of sudden n I couldn't get adapted to those changes and felt sick for a very long time as I couldn't express what were my thoughts back then!
The thought to say NO use to scare me like hell...I spent my highschool years with this suffocation everyday...
And finally those unspoken felling and pain and suffocation lead me to hospital and get a treatment from a psychologist!
I couldn't sleep at nights n don't knw how I hv evn got to this day ... spent my youth in hsptls n pills n all this frustrating situations made me talk for myself and stand for myself.
Now I m me and I like being myself!
I listen to wht people say as I know very well how suffocating it gets when we hv no one to listen to our true thoughts.
What I learned through this journey is...
You being you is the most precious thing one can have in life!
And I m very much addicted of being myself and I like it this way!🍻
Had a good time listening to your heart out Dan!
I’m glad to hear you made out of those period. I’m sure it must have been a painful journey for you. I’m proud ( if I may be) that you survived and got to where you are now! Someone who loves oneself :)
Me being me and you being you! we all need to do that. Even when life seems to fall apart in every way possible, there is always a new way and we have it in us to stay strong and make through those period :)
@@ThizisDanny let's just 🍻 have a beautiful journey ahead....!
Damn thats so true
My older brother it's like this, because of that i don't talk to him since like 3 years ago
I can fully relate!
I love this real talk bed talk👍🏼 I also love your Charlie Brown shirt😉
thank you! the shirt is cute right ?! haha
You have a great English accent. You are definitely different. Love your videos .thanks for sharing. The world is here for you ❤ 💕. With all mental support. Is ok to be sad and angry and is ok to be aware of it.
We should proud to be live in India.. beacuse we are spending beautiful childhood with our parents and caring family ❤ and whole life with a single partner(mostly)..
Most of Indians are now obsessed with korea after watching kdaramas including me also...
But we should realise that inner peace and calmness is more important than outer world brightness...
And also we have it...proud to be it!🦋
These dayz I'm so stressed out don't know why...small things make me angry😓
nobody's perfect Dan, I don't know you, and how old are you, but you are really nice person, eveybody have worries and everybody are scared with new things, new changes, and everybody have worries to keep continue to be a good person and Son/Daughter, but you can need to live your life as you ARE, not for everyone's keep continue to saw you.....
Just live as you ARE......
I'm wish that you read my message, and I wish that you don't give up, ok?
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Glad to hear that you find a way to make yourself free from stress…I think most of us have some kinds of issue🤫 But the most important thing is we realize it and try our best to resolve…No worried you’re not the only one…I remember that it happened twice i think it was quite serious “pressure explosion”…People think that I love smile…seems nothing could make me depressed or hurt me…cos I used to show my shinny side in front of my friends and family, but actually I tear in my bed or during shower when I was hurt by someone or something…I know crying or tearing cannot settle matter, but it just released stress…and make me get my energy back…
But do you realize that you may mostly get angry with someone who you’re care and you maybe just calm down by one word from that person….
I think the comfort I feel when I come back from a trip also help me feel peace because I realize how comforting my home and my life is :)
Yes sometimes just a simple and warm word from the people who we care about can melt all those pressed anger and hard feelings away..!
Don’t always push it down Sophia! sometimes you need to resolve the stress and pressed down angers :) I sometimes feel better singing my heart out in Karaokes haha
Yea u r mature n good in articulating ur thoughts. I can relate. Listening the way of how u describe n analyse urself, somehow i think that u have a different way of keeping a positive mindset 🙂
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I think i can't control my anger sometimes 🤦♀️ but trying to work on it 🙏🌟
we all find it hard sometimes :) maybe you can look for a healthy way to let off your steam when you feel those angers ?!
This is what I m feeling from some time.. 😔 you just said all the feelings n pain of mine..I thought I m the one who feels like this but I m wrong...
I also need to figure it out
Good job
Good day Dan, Thank you for sharing your thoughts, but believe me you are not the only one ... I wish you for a nice evening ... Take care please
After my divorce and when my disabled child died, all the anger I held inside because all my life I tried not to be mean, I exploded like you. I couldn’t take the meanness and cruel words people told me after my son died. I lashed out and told them off something I couldn’t do at all most of my life. Eventually I would fly off on small things and didn’t like who I became. Later I learned how to let my feelings out appropriately and not let myself get so impacted what people say to me. God helped me clear the bitterness inside of me and I am finally in charge of my emotions, not bottling them up but also not lashing out either.
it is true i am the eldest from 3 siblings..it is not easy when your parent put high expectation for me..sometimes i cant control my anger but i ended up with thinking that life is like that have up and down 😆
I was waiting for this anger issues
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U know this is something I relate too cause I don't get angry fast but I am afraid that I might cause any trouble to others ,U know I will stay beside who gets angry and sit silently until they talks with me or some people they gets irritated not angry and I will get away from them cause we will get upset bcuz of them .I don't know they simply gets irritated even if we say like one word and they don't even feel sorry for scolding us . I'm actually feeling normal everyday like getting up everyday, doing some things , household chores, devoting to God and sleeping at night u know this is getting daily routine work , I don't have a miracle in my life, I am waiting for a miracle that could change my life.Anyways gudnight 🌌🌃💜 I am glad that I have friend like u to share things 🥰
I think it’s already a miracle we are alive and we get to live this amazing life! :) having your family and friends and also God! There will be some special moments of course but I believe our lives are already a miracle ~!
@@ThizisDanny Yeah I hope so 😀
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Just reach home....I'll listen at bedtime. 🤗🤗
Okhay..
This is a topic where there can be many comments and this is such a relatable topic for me too.
But i won't say much about those.
What i wanted to say here is that travelling and exploring different places and meeting new people makes me feel good and let me be me.
So im planning my next trip on January 2022.,and this time im taking my parents too which will be my first time for me to take them out.
Much thanks to you Danny for showing us your way of showing your love to your parents.Starting to do the same,staycation looks so much fun less time consuming.🤗🤗
Hope you continue to have good health and strength to make good contents😇
That’s great to hear! Hope you have a great time with your parents :) We really need to cherish the time we have with them!!!
Traveling and staycations are fun itself but also there’s this weird feeling of comfort when I come back home which also makes me realize that my life is good and I’m content with it :)
@@ThizisDanny True,our life itself is sometimes enough for us to live with but as we humans need more of whatever we have,we wanted to spend our time somewhere and somewhat different sometimes 😄😄
Hmmm.throw things if u're anger n can't sleep well..than i will give u hug instead😍don't be pretend to be nice just to be u.happy to hear that u can manage that anger issue better now😄my parents always told me.just being u.good or bad your personality show it. express it u feel disagree.or someday it will became not healthy for your soul n mind😉tq too..to show more of you😍😊