I'm in a deep place of depression and this video has helped a little. I feel so rejected and used but this gives me a little hope. I'm not alone, we're not alone in feeling this.
Lewis Murphy, I am so sorry you feel this way but you are right, you are not alone. Although it may seem otherwise, please know there are people that care about you that you do not know, and I am one of them. I hope you find happiness and peace of mind - this comes from within, not from outside of yourself. I wish you the very best! X
Lewis Murphy, you are loved no matter what you did there is a chance of reconciliation and there is everlasting love ready to befall on you from the grace of Christ. God loves you and his children, including myself, love you.
Hope you’ve overcome your depression by now. Just remember - this too shall pass as there’s nothing permanent in this world, whether it’s sadness, happiness, etc. Life is like that.
I hope by now you are no longer depressed. I am currently going through just what you were feeling. It's terrible I feel alone even when I'm with the people closest to me and i don't know what to do. I just got a car for my 16th birthday, and I thought that would help but now it feels like the only time people want me around is to drive them places. But the second after I drive them somewhere it feels like they stop caring about me. I dont even know what I want anymore. It just feels like the harder I try to make myself happy the more lonely I feel, and less happy. I dont want to tell my parents or go see a therapist cause I feel like people will judge me, or tell me that I'm wrong for feeling the way I do. Being depressed has such a negative stigma so I try to avoid it, and I act as happy as possible but it just feels fake. I dont feel like I'm being genuine with my self or others. If you have any tips that helped you get over it or deal with it I'd be glad to hear.
1. Be brave 07:40 2. Be faithful (to yourself) 08:14 3. Be wise 09:05 4. Be light (leave fear, shame and embarrassment behind) 09:36 5. Be beautiful (confidence and patience) 10:45 6. Be generous (give of yourself, give back, give compliments) 11:58 7. Be soulful 12:52
@@fancys4783 well she told nothing about the guy, just nothing how was he to her, how were they spending time in Australia. Thats not fair just got no fair assessment about her situation, just one sided one dimensional story, incomplete, irritating
I intentionally stay alone when I can. The universe has me cross paths with people for a reason so they stick around until they feel like leaving. Being alone has more benefits than people realize. It clears your head and gives you peace.
Nobody wants to be left alone but it is when you're alone that you discover your inner strength. Learn to be tough because it's the only way for you to get the upperhand of the relationship.
It's not about being tough: it's about self-love and self-respect. When you know yourself, and know how to take care yourself, you can afford to say, and to hear the word 'No', and not be araid or crushed by it.
Swankster My interpretation is that she’s talking about traveling in your own life. Going through your life alone. You don’t have to be with someone to do stuff alone and be faithful to your own self.
@Kevin Tewey yeah i was nice to listen to but not helpful since I have hardly nothing to my name and now stuck in the house thanks to covid i would love to travel but cant, I cant even really go in to town what are you meant to do when your stuck in the house and have no friends thanks to being isolated by your ex?
It's all about doing what works for you. What makes you smile instantly? What makes you feel good about you? And learning to enjoy your company. You enjoy your own company and other's will enjoy you. Also get out of the comparing and competing crap. Be proud, happy and love the life you have.
Divorced 30 years with never a desire to cohabit with anyone again. Love living alone. At 71 I occasionally wonder about having no one around if I should fall ill...but still no desire to live with someone.
Elizabeth: nothing was more Agonizing, terrifying than Marriage to the so called males I married. I was so Alone and was being abused Financially, emotionally, Physically all in the name Of marriage. Never again Will I marry . Look at the Rate of domestic violence Against women and children. The shelters are overflowing.
I am sharing this with our Women Healing Wounds Group. Being with ourselves is the hardest step. As women, we have been conditioned to serve others. This is a true test to serving the higher self. Thank you.
I can totally understand what you're saying. I'm from the USA, but of East Indian ethnicity. Indian culture treats women very poorly and has halted their progression for centuries. I do agree that in the past women were conditioned to only have a homemaker role, but today it's very different. I'd say those old gender roles were done away for at least 20 years now. Women get paid the same, and actually have a lot more rights than males today. Just look at sexual harassment cases/domestic abuse/sexual abuse/divorce... Men have far less rights in these areas. However, I'm very glad to see strong independent women making a life for themselves; but I also see a lot of overcompensation/false feminism/man hating from women -particularity millennial women, but crazy millennials are a whole different issue in their own. I just felt the lady in this video was tooting her own horn too proudly when what she went through was just a rough break up... I showed my mother this video and she laughed at this entitled white woman and said she never seen real suffering. My mother also said only spoke of first world problems and that far worse things can happen to a woman than being left at the alter. I see a lot of this "the world should cheer for me" attitude from a lot of white women, particularly in the Silicon Valley area where I live in CA. I mainly feel this is becasue white women, like white males generally have it a lot easier than people/women from other cultures; and so when they encounter any minor hardship that most women from another country/culture would find trivial, they're very quick to throw a parade for themselves. Like you so eloquently said, women from other cultures have had a rough time breaking the mold. My grandmother had to deal with war/civil unrest/genocide/famine/domestic imprisonment during the partition times in India; being left at the alter would've been the easiest thing to deal with for her. This is TED talk so I think only people who very extreme/unique stories should be called to get up on that stage, and for me this lady really had nothing spectacular to say; and this talk just felt more like reaching for attention and that she still didn't really learn much from what she went through. From what you wrote, you sound like a very sweet, wonderful and intelligent woman... I think you'd be better suited to go on that stage and talk over this lady. Being alone is not easy for anyone, whether woman or man... No woman "needs" a man, and no woman is less than any man. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing your viewpoint.
being alone for long enough you eventually dont feel anything anymore, it numbs your emotions, you really start to believe youre invisible to the world and that everybody is enjoying life and happy and youre just drifting through life day by day empty and nobody notices you or your pain or cares
That's loneliness, which is differs from being alone. Being alone is an act of agency and autonomy. You can have relationships but don't need them to feel good about yourself. If you really want to reconnect with people, it's best that you that you reconnect with who you are. What things you like doing, eating, drinking, what make you laugh, what gives you joy. Then go out and do those things. The energy you'll give off will be more attractive. Don't take things personally.
@@BigHenFor Agreed, Being alone is far different than being lonely which can happen while in a marriage or other supposedly intimate relationship. For example, if you live with a mate who ignores you experience loneliness along with rejection which combined is extremely painful.
I agree with the above comments you're talking about loneliness NOT being alone!! I'm alone, never married, haven't had a girlfriend in almost 30 years!! It's been tough after I got paralyzed in an accident almost 30 years ago BUT.. I'm alone and I'm doing fine! Sure, I would like a girlfriend but it's not going to bring me down not having one!! I'm comfortable in my own skin and YES you have to be because if you're not strong minded it can destroy you!! On the other hand I'm not TOTALLY alone!!! I have TWO of the GREATEST friends in the world/universe... my best friend of almost 45 years Anthony Duarte and another best friend of 54 years (that's my age) that friend is JESUS CHRIST!!! *_GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!_*
Thank you for sharing your story Teresa. You are a strong woman. I’m 43 man and although my struggle is not with someone else, but a struggle with myself. I’ve lost my way but working towards finding it. This was a helpful piece to add to my stash of enlightening videos.
Balance is everything. We strive for wholesomeness. There will be times that you may find yourself alone and you'll have to make it by yourself. There will be times when you need people around and they won't be there not because they don't want to but because you've isolated yourself and decided to prove that you can do fine all by yourself and you made people believe that you don't need anyone... even though sometimes you may actually want someone around... Connections are great.. Being comfortable with your solitude is also great... Both are necessary in life
After being with someone for 8 years only to have her leave me and break my heart I fell into a hole of depression... it’s been a long period of grieving but this video helped a lot
Ouch! Poor lady thank you for sharing your growth with us. You are a great lady. Bravo. I know that hurt so badly. I’m so proud of you for your victory!
I thought it was just me. I'm happily single and about to turn 62. I've had many relationships, but so much more comfortable in my skin. People expect me to be a "bitter old lady", but the only expectations I have to keep are my own. I'm glad to know others are out there like minded as me.
I am currently visiting San Antonio with myself. It does feel a bit odd and yet liberating. I just got out of a one year relationship that was tearing me up and this trip could not have been planned at a better time. I am meeting the coolest people. Air BnB is helping me afford this trip. She is a bit scattered..however I get her point
Words simply can not describe how helpful to me Forwago is. It completely changed the way I think and feel about everyday things. This program is too good and it is too bad that many people don't know about it.
if anyone needs some motivation, start right now because if u don’t, a year from now u would’ve wished u started earlier. do it so your future self will thank u!!
Frankly speaking being alone is the best thing that has ever happen to me biblically speaking .... Iam in love with myself , self love is the cure to self loath ....
She's amazing. Thank you for sharing the journey you were on and the lessons learnt. Over 6 years from getting your talk posted on TH-cam, your story is still bestowing practical knowledge to those who see this video.
Great and challenging subject for many! I was in absolute denial of the fear I had around being single. It surfaced when by my own decisions I found myself on my own. What 'saved' me was my beloved Guru and the spiritual solutions he offered. This was a turning point in my life. I have decided to dedicate my life to Nithyananda's mission and now am a Hindu monk.
I was stuck in life, playing games all day and doing nothing, and then a friend introduced me to this program called Forwago. Now I'm on a clear path forward and enjoy every day.
Years ago I had my heart broken, (had quite a few broken hearts before this one) but after 7 months I sat in my car and realised I wasn't in love with no one, I didn't hurt anymore, and you know what? for once in a long time I felt exactly as she said, it was like I was a child again in the way I felt free, no broken heart, not even lonely, only happiness and delight, it was the best feeling ever. it's nice to be free. yes I'm happily married now.
how you realized that ? i dont get it? i miss being that happy as when i was a child...i really really crave for that feeling of simple happiness...i can't even smile anymore...
@@user-mi4yc7pr3x I don't know what happened at that stage it's like I just got over it. it didn't last for long once I got into another relationship and then life gets to you, but in the end you have to find inner peace, do you remember what made you happy as a child, was it nature or an animal that made you smile, are you holding grudges against people, because before we can heal we have to forgive, not what action they did but just as a human being. I grow a veggie garden that makes me happy seeing that seed grow into a big veggie, just to cuddle my little dog makes me happy when she is happy, and my husband makes me happy when he is laughing and happy.
Career in the service industry working with many other human beings every day helps me understand the value of being alone, which I think is really just a state of mind anyway. Most of my free time is spent with myself, doing whatever I want and whenever I want to.
This is one of the best talks I’ve listened to. Your words made me feel humbled and reminds me that no matter what you’re going through, there is always room for perseverance. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Beautiful talk! It seems you are addressing the Hero's Journey, the transformation that occurs through the willingness to leave what is familiar and take risks that force you to grow or die. Thank you for sharing your story. It is empowering and encouraging for us all to follow a deeper impulse in us to be the true spiritual travelers we are. Thank you.
There are places on earth where its worst to be a woman. Once you meet them kind, you will feel sorry for them. You will cry with them as they say how lucky you are being careless and free. I am thankful that I wasn't born that way. Freedom is everything. Being alone sometimes will take you to a place where not everyone have been. Cheers to #strongwomen
Wow! This video truly inspired me. It’s funny how sometimes we judge things too quickly. At first I wasn’t very interested in keeping the video rolling but a few minutes in and I felt very connected to what she was saying. Beautiful words.
in 2012 as a young 21-year-old, I backpacked around North America on my own for 3 months. My only plan was to enter the first pub I see as soon as I leave the airport and I did. My life changed, I lost all of my depression and the world opened up for me.
I loved this. When she started talking about traveling alone it really spoke to me. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about going on trips by myself. This helped a whole lot
fati fleur. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN GUARANTEE TO WAKE UP WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS YOURSELF, SO GET TO KNOWN YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. I LOVE THIS QUOTE BECAUSE IT IS SO VERY TRUE!
I believe there are no accidents, upon just leaving my love, I have been diving into sadness, coming across this video may very well be an intricate part of changing my life. Thank you so much !
Love yourself, that is the only solution to everything, if you know how to love yourself first before love someone then you will have no problems at all, even if you get betrayed cos the first reaction you should have is to love yourself and make sure you're not hurt.
She reminds me on how I used to travel by myself. I just dont do it anymore because I am busy looking for someone to travel with. I should start packing again. Thank you :D
Maybe wanderlust is part of human nature. Perhaps we're supposed to be a bit nomadic, and having a fixed home is just a side-effect of the agricultural revolution which is unhealthy for some people.
Not going to lie, I mastered this at an early age due to being an only child. However I have a friend who could really hear this right now. Great advice, spoken with true wisdom. Thank you!
It's so inspiring to see Teresa point of her life. I was married for 25 years & I have 3 boys in there mid 20. My life changed when my mum passed away 2015 I spent 5 months looking after mum In Cyprus,when I came back to the UK things were different with my wife towards me, I promised to my mum to make it with my brother & that broke down very slowly, in the end for my safety as she became dangerous towards me I moved away & bought a house on my own. It's never easy to do but I plan to make life for myself and be happy. Now it's been 3 years & it's been tough but, it was worth it with a new home and a new job comes with new friends and nabours and new you. Now I'm safe but I'm leaning to be alone happy 👍
@@TeresaRodriguezSF Hi Teresa, now I'm in my 4th year and now I'm very happy with my new life it wasn't easy but it was worth it 😊 They say time is a healer & it's very true.
5 years ago, I was planning my retirement. I had good money in the bank account. I always dreamed of having an in-ground pool. So wife and I move from a detached suburban cottage to a condo near the city but near a river. It has a nice outdoor pool where we can socialize with other ci-owners. There are multiple bicycle trails and trails in the woods. We meet people when we walk on the trails. It is a very fulfilling life. I often say to my wife how I appreciate the life we have. When I am alone, I will go read the paper at a nearby café of ride my bicycle on one of the many trails. I know the best life is here at the present moment. Last night, we were playing with our 1 year old Maltese dog on the bed and I said to my wife to appreciate the present moment, it doesn’t get better than that.
7:00 Create space for yourself for something New by leaving ALL labels about yourself behind. 👍 Be Brave (committed) Be faithful (individual happiness = world peace) Be safe, be light (fear says no, You're not allowed to, no it can't happen...) Be Beautiful, Be Generous, *Be Soulful (share *encouragement, understanding & wisdom with others).
I'm doin' it!!!! Just sold my house with no idea where to go BUT, have great ideas... I just had been getting freaked out and this timing couldn't be better🙏
She used that as her own personal example to show the importance of being alone. Traveling was the platform she used to express this in her talk. Can you not connect the dots? Much like mythology uses stories to express the deeper meaning of how life events effect us on a soul level.
Galaxy’s Animations Yes! Thank you so much for saying that. I wish that everyone with negative thoughts would keep them to themselves. Spread positivity not negativity.
Im 23 years old, just got divorced after 1 year of mirrage, car broke down, and lost my job all in 2 months. Being alone is scary but i think its my best chance to grow as a person and be happy with no responsibility.
This is not about owning alone. It's about traveling alone. Unless you're privileged it's not realistic to "travel the world" as a means of therapy. Also she said this happened in the 80's but she referenced a book by Elckhart Tolle which was written in 1997 as if she had read it back then. ????
I have no problem with it just being my dog and I. She’s my best friend. I talk to her and let her know how much I love her….she’s well loved. I will always have a dog that’s my one and only friend/best friend. I guess I’m considered an introvert/extrovert. I have no problem talking to people…I just don’t want to make any friends. I love my time with just my dog and I. I’m very independent. The downside of not having friends is that if I ended up in the hospital or something where I wasn’t able to take care of my dog I don’t know who would. It couldn’t be just anyone so that is my fear. I love being single and alone. I can do whatever I want anytime whenever however…. I talk to myself and my dog all the time. When I’m at work and I’m thinking out loud, I really have to watch what I say
My British friend told me that the name was a mispronounced French name of some store that used to be there, such L'Enfant and something else...Is it true?
I appreciate the general sentiment of this so much, but the precedent of throwing out inpatient paperwork and flying halfway around the world isn't a one-size-fits-all policy - it's pretty dangerous. I'm so glad it worked out for her!
Yeah. Ted talks only apply to the able-bodied who are struggling with mental issues. Nothing can help a person not feel lonely if they aren't physically able to get around and if no one has time for them.
I actually enjoy being alone because I never have to worry about relying or worrying about anyone else wirh me. It gives me time to be at peace and have self love. But part of me is still afraid. That no one will love me if I am alone. And I also wish that I had the courage and confidence to stand alone and tell others there is nothing wrong with it.
fear of living alone? i lost count of how many times i have looked around my home and thought "WOW this is awesome" look at what all i have and i can do what i want, when i want, and how i want. no arguing, being controlled, manipulated, etc. no wife = happy life.
Her advice is so right-centred! If guys give the same advice, the girls would make comments like "he thinks like a little boy", "he is not a man enough", "he needs to be understanding", "he should keep looking for the right woman", etc.
I went on my 1st loaner trip and surfed in California. Turned out to be awesome! My best memories were when I was single. I was single twice for 10 years total. Turned out those times were the best times of my life!
I talk to myself, we never argue and we like the same things.
I talk to myself, we always argue and we like different things.
I envy that
love It
Lol!
That made me laugh
I'm in a deep place of depression and this video has helped a little. I feel so rejected and used but this gives me a little hope. I'm not alone, we're not alone in feeling this.
Lewis Murphy, I am so sorry you feel this way but you are right, you are not alone. Although it may seem otherwise, please know there are people that care about you that you do not know, and I am one of them. I hope you find happiness and peace of mind - this comes from within, not from outside of yourself. I wish you the very best! X
Lewis Murphy, you are loved no matter what you did there is a chance of reconciliation and there is everlasting love ready to befall on you from the grace of Christ. God loves you and his children, including myself, love you.
Hope you’ve overcome your depression by now. Just remember - this too shall pass as there’s nothing permanent in this world, whether it’s sadness, happiness, etc. Life is like that.
I hope by now you are no longer depressed. I am currently going through just what you were feeling. It's terrible I feel alone even when I'm with the people closest to me and i don't know what to do. I just got a car for my 16th birthday, and I thought that would help but now it feels like the only time people want me around is to drive them places. But the second after I drive them somewhere it feels like they stop caring about me. I dont even know what I want anymore. It just feels like the harder I try to make myself happy the more lonely I feel, and less happy. I dont want to tell my parents or go see a therapist cause I feel like people will judge me, or tell me that I'm wrong for feeling the way I do. Being depressed has such a negative stigma so I try to avoid it, and I act as happy as possible but it just feels fake. I dont feel like I'm being genuine with my self or others. If you have any tips that helped you get over it or deal with it I'd be glad to hear.
Im the same i can relate.
1. Be brave 07:40
2. Be faithful (to yourself) 08:14
3. Be wise 09:05
4. Be light (leave fear, shame and embarrassment behind) 09:36
5. Be beautiful (confidence and patience) 10:45
6. Be generous (give of yourself, give back, give compliments) 11:58
7. Be soulful 12:52
Thanks ❤️
actually this sounds really good.
Wow, I would never want to be rejected in the way this woman was. It's admirable that she was able to turn things around.
Theitsybitsyspider she did nothing great
Atul Lall Uh, what?
that is bcoz u haven't heard the other side of story, the man's side. He must have gone through a lot as well :)...!! don't u think
Spot on Pam there's two side to every story.
@@fancys4783 well she told nothing about the guy, just nothing how was he to her, how were they spending time in Australia. Thats not fair just got no fair assessment about her situation, just one sided one dimensional story, incomplete, irritating
I intentionally stay alone when I can. The universe has me cross paths with people for a reason so they stick around until they feel like leaving. Being alone has more benefits than people realize. It clears your head and gives you peace.
Tungsten when it's a choice
Tungsten I agree. When you say they stick around until they feel like leaving, what do you mean by that?
Or the opposite. But yeah for the most part, it does bring peace
Thank you for this !
I truly agree....
Eating alone doesn't bother me, I use to being alone but it would be nice to have meaningful conversation with someone.
Luana Robbins
Yup me too, here in Australia.
can i join you guys? what time are we meeting?
Luana Robbins Lets have a diner.I will cook for you.
Josh Uddin No problem
Tell me when
Rejection is good for the ego.
Heartbreak opens the heart ♥️
That’s my experience.
Great lines
Relatable
I feel this
Totally.
The loneliest times I’ve spent in my life have been while in a bad relationship or in my broken family dynamic, not while I was actually living alone.
So relatable
Same.
Nobody wants to be left alone but it is when you're alone that you discover your inner strength. Learn to be tough because it's the only way for you to get the upperhand of the relationship.
It's not about being tough: it's about self-love and self-respect. When you know yourself, and know how to take care yourself, you can afford to say, and to hear the word 'No', and not be araid or crushed by it.
BigHenFor I think that’s what my lesson has been for my whole journey.
@@BigHenFor Well said ! Kudos:)
@@BigHenFor Well said! Kudos!
the title of this was misleading. This talk is all about TRAVELING alone, not being alone on the daily.
Swankster My interpretation is that she’s talking about traveling in your own life. Going through your life alone. You don’t have to be with someone to do stuff alone and be faithful to your own self.
This is one of worst ted talks
ty for saving 10min of my life
@Kevin Tewey yeah i was nice to listen to but not helpful since I have hardly nothing to my name and now stuck in the house thanks to covid i would love to travel but cant, I cant even really go in to town what are you meant to do when your stuck in the house and have no friends thanks to being isolated by your ex?
The travel is a metaphor. She's talking about navigating your life alone.
We really need more videos like this, not ones that scare you with severe health warnings about being alone but how to live a great, fun life alone.
Be faithful to yourself, have a plan, make it clear, be brave, be cautious, use wisdom and go do what you said you would.
Im a grown man and traveling alone sounds scary. I'm inspired by you brave ladies.
Come on, do it! :)
Start to another city by yourself for a couple days. You can do it!
I loved it, I love it because travelling with others can be stressful.
They're grown women. Are you suggesting that being a grown man makes you stronger?
I feel the same. Couchsurfing helps
You will meet people when traveling alone that you wouldn’t if you traveled with a partner. It’s an adventure!
It's all about doing what works for you. What makes you smile instantly? What makes you feel good about you? And learning to enjoy your company. You enjoy your own company and other's will enjoy you. Also get out of the comparing and competing crap. Be proud, happy and love the life you have.
Best advice ;)
hotcarmel12 so true!! ❤️
ehanks
hotcarmel12 well said
geez your hot im tempted?
Divorced 30 years with never a desire to cohabit with anyone again. Love living alone. At 71 I occasionally wonder about having no one around if I should fall ill...but still no desire to live with someone.
I'm like that also. I divorced at age 30 and now I am 58 and no desire to remarry. I love my peace.
Elizabeth K
I feel the same. I love being alone
Darn, I really was hoping. Top of my list is 71-year-old stuff.
Elizabeth: nothing was more
Agonizing, terrifying than
Marriage to the so called males I married. I was so
Alone and was being abused
Financially, emotionally,
Physically all in the name
Of marriage. Never again
Will I marry . Look at the
Rate of domestic violence
Against women and children.
The shelters are overflowing.
But these is not being alone, you have empathy here and some kind of friendship here!!
Being faithful to ourselves is the most challenging part
I am sharing this with our Women Healing Wounds Group. Being with ourselves is the hardest step. As women, we have been conditioned to serve others. This is a true test to serving the higher self. Thank you.
sue lisak no one has conditioned women to serve others, only sheep follow the herd
I can totally understand what you're saying. I'm from the USA, but of East Indian ethnicity. Indian culture treats women very poorly and has halted their progression for centuries. I do agree that in the past women were conditioned to only have a homemaker role, but today it's very different. I'd say those old gender roles were done away for at least 20 years now. Women get paid the same, and actually have a lot more rights than males today. Just look at sexual harassment cases/domestic abuse/sexual abuse/divorce... Men have far less rights in these areas. However, I'm very glad to see strong independent women making a life for themselves; but I also see a lot of overcompensation/false feminism/man hating from women -particularity millennial women, but crazy millennials are a whole different issue in their own.
I just felt the lady in this video was tooting her own horn too proudly when what she went through was just a rough break up... I showed my mother this video and she laughed at this entitled white woman and said she never seen real suffering. My mother also said only spoke of first world problems and that far worse things can happen to a woman than being left at the alter.
I see a lot of this "the world should cheer for me" attitude from a lot of white women, particularly in the Silicon Valley area where I live in CA. I mainly feel this is becasue white women, like white males generally have it a lot easier than people/women from other cultures; and so when they encounter any minor hardship that most women from another country/culture would find trivial, they're very quick to throw a parade for themselves.
Like you so eloquently said, women from other cultures have had a rough time breaking the mold. My grandmother had to deal with war/civil unrest/genocide/famine/domestic imprisonment during the partition times in India; being left at the alter would've been the easiest thing to deal with for her. This is TED talk so I think only people who very extreme/unique stories should be called to get up on that stage, and for me this lady really had nothing spectacular to say; and this talk just felt more like reaching for attention and that she still didn't really learn much from what she went through.
From what you wrote, you sound like a very sweet, wonderful and intelligent woman... I think you'd be better suited to go on that stage and talk over this lady. Being alone is not easy for anyone, whether woman or man... No woman "needs" a man, and no woman is less than any man. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing your viewpoint.
What if the woman is a never-married single mother over 25? Is that even worse in the Russian culture? Just curious.
I'd love to be a member of your group. Is it online?
sue lisak can you please add me
Thing that sucks being alone is when you cook you know you always got to the dishes.
Muy buena wey jajajjajsjja
that's what paper plates are for, my friend, LOL
@@kateSullivan3927 and disposable cutlery lol
being alone for long enough you eventually dont feel anything anymore, it numbs your emotions, you really start to believe youre invisible to the world and that everybody is enjoying life and happy and youre just drifting through life day by day empty and nobody notices you or your pain or cares
That's loneliness, which is differs from being alone. Being alone is an act of agency and autonomy. You can have relationships but don't need them to feel good about yourself. If you really want to reconnect with people, it's best that you that you reconnect with who you are. What things you like doing, eating, drinking, what make you laugh, what gives you joy. Then go out and do those things. The energy you'll give off will be more attractive. Don't take things personally.
@@BigHenFor Agreed, Being alone is far different than being lonely which can happen while in a marriage or other supposedly intimate relationship. For example, if you live with a mate who ignores you experience loneliness along with rejection which combined is extremely painful.
agreed
It's different for different people.
I agree with the above comments you're talking about loneliness NOT being alone!! I'm alone, never married, haven't had a girlfriend in almost 30 years!! It's been tough after I got paralyzed in an accident almost 30 years ago BUT.. I'm alone and I'm doing fine! Sure, I would like a girlfriend but it's not going to bring me down not having one!! I'm comfortable in my own skin and YES you have to be because if you're not strong minded it can destroy you!! On the other hand I'm not TOTALLY alone!!! I have TWO of the GREATEST friends in the world/universe... my best friend of almost 45 years Anthony Duarte and another best friend of 54 years (that's my age) that friend is JESUS CHRIST!!!
*_GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!_*
Thank you for sharing your story Teresa. You are a strong woman. I’m 43 man and although my struggle is not with someone else, but a struggle with myself. I’ve lost my way but working towards finding it. This was a helpful piece to add to my stash of enlightening videos.
I hope that you are doing better! Thank you for sharing! Teresa
Balance is everything. We strive for wholesomeness. There will be times that you may find yourself alone and you'll have to make it by yourself. There will be times when you need people around and they won't be there not because they don't want to but because you've isolated yourself and decided to prove that you can do fine all by yourself and you made people believe that you don't need anyone... even though sometimes you may actually want someone around... Connections are great.. Being comfortable with your solitude is also great... Both are necessary in life
Great comment, couldn't agree more!
I love this!!!! Thank you!!!! Strangely, despite me being alone, I do not feel alone ❤️
She's so strong. She's such an inspiration. She gives so much hope!!!! ❤️❤️
After being with someone for 8 years only to have her leave me and break my heart I fell into a hole of depression... it’s been a long period of grieving but this video helped a lot
hope you're better now mate
Hope you are doing great now. My husband left me last month after being married for 9 years and I am so depressed.
@@beforethelastpetalfallz7888 I hope that you are doing better! YOu got this! Teresa
Ouch! Poor lady thank you for sharing your growth with us. You are a great lady. Bravo. I know that hurt so badly. I’m so proud of you for your victory!
Be brave, be faithful, be wise, be light, be generous, be soulful.
I thought it was just me. I'm happily single and about to turn 62. I've had many relationships, but so much more comfortable in my skin. People expect me to be a "bitter old lady", but the only expectations I have to keep are my own. I'm glad to know others are out there like minded as me.
I needed this it’s ok to be single and even if it’s forever.
It’s ok to...This is a touching reminder nothing is forever..
I am currently visiting San Antonio with myself. It does feel a bit odd and yet liberating. I just got out of a one year relationship that was tearing me up and this trip could not have been planned at a better time. I am meeting the coolest people. Air BnB is helping me afford this trip. She is a bit scattered..however I get her point
Words simply can not describe how helpful to me Forwago is. It completely changed the way I think and feel about everyday things. This program is too good and it is too bad that many people don't know about it.
if anyone needs some motivation, start right now because if u don’t, a year from now u would’ve wished u started earlier. do it so your future self will thank u!!
Frankly speaking being alone is the best thing that has ever happen to me biblically speaking .... Iam in love with myself , self love is the cure to self loath ....
She's amazing. Thank you for sharing the journey you were on and the lessons learnt. Over 6 years from getting your talk posted on TH-cam, your story is still bestowing practical knowledge to those who see this video.
Thank you! I hope that you are doing well. ~Teresa
Great and challenging subject for many! I was in absolute denial of the fear I had around being single. It surfaced when by my own decisions I found myself on my own. What 'saved' me was my beloved Guru and the spiritual solutions he offered. This was a turning point in my life. I have decided to dedicate my life to Nithyananda's mission and now am a Hindu monk.
Good to see you here🙏. What better life than that of brahmachari.
I was stuck in life, playing games all day and doing nothing, and then a friend introduced me to this program called Forwago. Now I'm on a clear path forward and enjoy every day.
thanks a lot
Yes, the key is to live in the now. Enjoy each day, tomorrow will take care of itself.
Years ago I had my heart broken, (had quite a few broken hearts before this one) but after 7 months I sat in my car and realised I wasn't in love with no one, I didn't hurt anymore, and you know what? for once in a long time I felt exactly as she said, it was like I was a child again in the way I felt free, no broken heart, not even lonely, only happiness and delight, it was the best feeling ever. it's nice to be free. yes I'm happily married now.
how you realized that ? i dont get it? i miss being that happy as when i was a child...i really really crave for that feeling of simple happiness...i can't even smile anymore...
@@user-mi4yc7pr3x I don't know what happened at that stage it's like I just got over it. it didn't last for long once I got into another relationship and then life gets to you, but in the end you have to find inner peace, do you remember what made you happy as a child, was it nature or an animal that made you smile, are you holding grudges against people, because before we can heal we have to forgive, not what action they did but just as a human being. I grow a veggie garden that makes me happy seeing that seed grow into a big veggie, just to cuddle my little dog makes me happy when she is happy, and my husband makes me happy when he is laughing and happy.
@@eyesee1212 yeah it's always good to find another gf/bf. But if they are a strange person it's only gonna make it worse
Career in the service industry working with many other human beings every day helps me understand the value of being alone, which I think is really just a state of mind anyway. Most of my free time is spent with myself, doing whatever I want and whenever I want to.
This is one of the best talks I’ve listened to. Your words made me feel humbled and reminds me that no matter what you’re going through, there is always room for perseverance.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
If you change your scenery even if it's just the next town you change your perspective therefore changing your mind.
This is true
Beautiful talk! It seems you are addressing the Hero's Journey, the transformation that occurs through the willingness to leave what is familiar and take risks that force you to grow or die. Thank you for sharing your story. It is empowering and encouraging for us all to follow a deeper impulse in us to be the true spiritual travelers we are. Thank you.
I have NO CHOICE but to do things alone.
P R little B.
The one thing that really made me feel better, energized, and determined to reach my goals was Forwago. Thank you so much !!!
Hello, this is remarkable and refreshing to hear thank you so much! I'm so glad you bounced back Ms. Teresa I can relate to your story.
Holy shit. This made me realize that I have been living my life on neutral.
There are places on earth where its worst to be a woman. Once you meet them kind, you will feel sorry for them. You will cry with them as they say how lucky you are being careless and free. I am thankful that I wasn't born that way. Freedom is everything. Being alone sometimes will take you to a place where not everyone have been. Cheers to #strongwomen
I'm so glad you conquer that hurt in your life. You have made me stronger today. Thank you.
It's wonderful. Don't be afraid.
I recommend a podcast called Solo by Peter Mcgraw. It's empowering and I'm encouraged to not be afraid being single my whole life and being solo.
This talk flew me from being happy with myself alone to getting ultimately excited for traveling all alone. It has infused a dream in me❤️✨
lesson learned: don't trust ANYONE.
Cheeky Fox you clearly didn't learn anything at all
Cheeky Fox "Trust but verify." - Ronald Reagan. Never trust anyone over yourself. Always be open and a skeptic.
Atul Lall I don't even trust myself
Dont trust anyone even your own self hehehe
Omg yessss
Wow! This video truly inspired me.
It’s funny how sometimes we judge things too quickly. At first I wasn’t very interested in keeping the video rolling but a few minutes in and I felt very connected to what she was saying. Beautiful words.
Thank you Angel Rose. :-) You made my day. - Teresa
Love this! I’m a nomad and my family don’t get it! You experience growth with every country, culture and person you encounter!
Solitude is Truly brave and beneficial
And involuntary, therefore pointless. It doesn't give us what we truly need or want. It's just business. Business is not fulfillment. 💔
I am alone but not lonely. I love traveling solo. I love my small cabin and my time in the quiet.
Me too. ❤️
Being vulnerable and caring to your spouse makes magic.
in 2012 as a young 21-year-old, I backpacked around North America on my own for 3 months. My only plan was to enter the first pub I see as soon as I leave the airport and I did. My life changed, I lost all of my depression and the world opened up for me.
how you're doing now mate?
@@user-mi4yc7pr3x Never better in all my days haha thanks for asking. Actually going solo on an ayahuasca retreat in less than two weeks as it happens
@@vinylninja found some love in the meanwhile also?
I loved this. When she started talking about traveling alone it really spoke to me. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about going on trips by myself. This helped a whole lot
We come to this life alone we will leave it alone this is a good lesson👌
fati fleur big facts
fati fleur. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN GUARANTEE TO WAKE UP WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS YOURSELF, SO GET TO KNOWN YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. I LOVE THIS QUOTE BECAUSE IT IS SO VERY TRUE!
I believe there are no accidents, upon just leaving my love, I have been diving into sadness, coming across this video may very well be an intricate part of changing my life. Thank you so much !
Love yourself, that is the only solution to everything, if you know how to love yourself first before love someone then you will have no problems at all, even if you get betrayed cos the first reaction you should have is to love yourself and make sure you're not hurt.
J Nick, you are spot on!
Such good words and Ms Rodriguez makes alot of good scents. Here is a flower for a fabulous lady like you. ⚘
Thank you! I hope you have a beautiful day!
She reminds me on how I used to travel by myself. I just dont do it anymore because I am busy looking for someone to travel with.
I should start packing again.
Thank you :D
Who could leave this gorgeous, intelligent lady?
Well said ... being solitary is underrated. 🦋
I needed this. Thank you a lot. 😭
Maybe wanderlust is part of human nature. Perhaps we're supposed to be a bit nomadic, and having a fixed home is just a side-effect of the agricultural revolution which is unhealthy for some people.
I totally agree, Andy Brice!
agreed
Perfectly said !
I get attached to places
@Christina Reynolds That's called a comfort zone, not commitment
Not going to lie, I mastered this at an early age due to being an only child. However I have a friend who could really hear this right now. Great advice, spoken with true wisdom. Thank you!
Great topic, so happy people are talking about it now
It's so inspiring to see Teresa point of her life.
I was married for 25 years & I have 3 boys in there mid 20.
My life changed when my mum passed away 2015 I spent 5 months looking after mum In Cyprus,when I came back to the UK things were different with my wife towards me, I promised to my mum to make it with my brother & that broke down very slowly, in the end for my safety as she became dangerous towards me I moved away & bought a house on my own. It's never easy to do but I plan to make life for myself and be happy.
Now it's been 3 years & it's been tough but, it was worth it with a new home and a new job comes with new friends and nabours and new you. Now I'm safe but I'm leaning to be alone happy 👍
How are you doing now? Hope all is well!
@@TeresaRodriguezSF
Hi Teresa, now I'm in my 4th year and now I'm very happy with my new life it wasn't easy but it was worth it 😊
They say time is a healer & it's very true.
Nice talk👍🏽. Things happen for a reason in our life and a positive attitude can make all the difference! Thanks for sharing!🙏🏼
Marz
I do it all most all the time, and I really enjoy it.
Every time i feel alone i listen this
I love this talk it feels like I understood it since it's the same as the voice I hear in my head.
Yes dinning alone is most scariest thing.
Your speech is inspiring.
5 years ago, I was planning my retirement. I had good money in the bank account. I always dreamed of having an in-ground pool. So wife and I move from a detached suburban cottage to a condo near the city but near a river. It has a nice outdoor pool where we can socialize with other ci-owners. There are multiple bicycle trails and trails in the woods. We meet people when we walk on the trails. It is a very fulfilling life. I often say to my wife how I appreciate the life we have. When I am alone, I will go read the paper at a nearby café of ride my bicycle on one of the many trails. I know the best life is here at the present moment. Last night, we were playing with our 1 year old Maltese dog on the bed and I said to my wife to appreciate the present moment, it doesn’t get better than that.
7:00 Create space for yourself for something New by leaving ALL labels about yourself behind. 👍
Be Brave (committed)
Be faithful (individual happiness = world peace)
Be safe, be light (fear says no, You're not allowed to, no it can't happen...)
Be Beautiful, Be Generous, *Be Soulful (share *encouragement, understanding & wisdom with others).
I solo travel often, but this video really put into words what happens when you commit to your dreams and vision for yourself.
It's the space between the notes that makes the music.
I am glad this woman took a stand for herself.
Not "every" girl. I never wanted the white wedding.
This whole talk is actually problematic from a “white” narrative standpoint, unfortunately.
I'm doin' it!!!! Just sold my house with no idea where to go BUT, have great ideas... I just had been getting freaked out and this timing couldn't be better🙏
This is scattered. Are we talking about being alone or going on a vacation alone?
😂😂 yes, she was a mess? Wtf
Exactly.
She used that as her own personal example to show the importance of being alone. Traveling was the platform she used to express this in her talk. Can you not connect the dots? Much like mythology uses stories to express the deeper meaning of how life events effect us on a soul level.
Galaxy’s Animations Yes! Thank you so much for saying that. I wish that everyone with negative thoughts would keep them to themselves. Spread positivity not negativity.
This woman is on to something. I need to come back to this
I am going to trust the universe to take care of my wellbeing
Im 23 years old, just got divorced after 1 year of mirrage, car broke down, and lost my job all in 2 months.
Being alone is scary but i think its my best chance to grow as a person and be happy with no responsibility.
Don't forget to go MGTOW. 😉😎🖒
It’s not the fear I need to conquer, it’s the BOREDOM of being alone ☠️
Ive honestly never experienced that
Tombro no
Feel the same
I'm willing to take on this journey to be single and take care of myself. It's a journey no human being can run away from
This is not about owning alone. It's about traveling alone. Unless you're privileged it's not realistic to "travel the world" as a means of therapy. Also she said this happened in the 80's but she referenced a book by Elckhart Tolle which was written in 1997 as if she had read it back then. ????
I got that traveling made her feel she was in the now. A concept she had discovered for herself before the book was written.
THANK YOU
She meant the 80s wedding dress.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It was beautiful and uplifting.
You're beautiful, I can't imagine anyone leaving you alone.
I have no problem with it just being my dog and I. She’s my best friend. I talk to her and let her know how much I love her….she’s well loved. I will always have a dog that’s my one and only friend/best friend. I guess I’m considered an introvert/extrovert. I have no problem talking to people…I just don’t want to make any friends. I love my time with just my dog and I. I’m very independent. The downside of not having friends is that if I ended up in the hospital or something where I wasn’t able to take care of my dog I don’t know who would. It couldn’t be just anyone so that is my fear. I love being single and alone. I can do whatever I want anytime whenever however….
I talk to myself and my dog all the time. When I’m at work and I’m thinking out loud, I really have to watch what I say
Hahaha I live in Elephant and Castle, and the fact that is sounded magical is actually one of the reasons why I moved there.
My British friend told me that the name was a mispronounced French name of some store that used to be there, such L'Enfant and something else...Is it true?
sonja k no it’s not true. The reason is because there was this castle there and an Elephant lived in it. That’s why.
Thanks for sharing Aarti!! That is so great! - Teresa
I have found that if I am working out, things like fear of being alone, are greatly diminished. Solution: a long walk or jog.
I appreciate the general sentiment of this so much, but the precedent of throwing out inpatient paperwork and flying halfway around the world isn't a one-size-fits-all policy - it's pretty dangerous. I'm so glad it worked out for her!
Yeah. Ted talks only apply to the able-bodied who are struggling with mental issues. Nothing can help a person not feel lonely if they aren't physically able to get around and if no one has time for them.
Be faithful to myself.. she’s darn true.
Elephant and Castle sounded magical.... I nearly spit out my tea laughing. Anyone from London knows it's anything but!
Maria M anything but?
Mav Mav hahahahha agree E@C is the last place to be magical
The name is magical. It is the place where I spent a night at an abandon building with the London homeless when I was working illegally in London.
That magical place Elephant & Castle lol. I knew it in the 90s...maybe its improved.
Mav Mav my thinking exactly 😂
I actually enjoy being alone because I never have to worry about relying or worrying about anyone else wirh me. It gives me time to be at peace and have self love. But part of me is still afraid. That no one will love me if I am alone. And I also wish that I had the courage and confidence to stand alone and tell others there is nothing wrong with it.
fear of living alone? i lost count of how many times i have looked around my home and thought "WOW this is awesome" look at what all i have and i can do what i want, when i want, and how i want. no arguing, being controlled, manipulated, etc. no wife = happy life.
Her advice is so right-centred! If guys give the same advice, the girls would make comments like "he thinks like a little boy", "he is not a man enough", "he needs to be understanding", "he should keep looking for the right woman", etc.
I went on my 1st loaner trip and surfed in California. Turned out to be awesome! My best memories were when I was single. I was single twice for 10 years total. Turned out those times were the best times of my life!