your life with all problem better than millions around the universe just appreciate what God give you and try to give help advice to people who's in need your life will turn in to joyful and enjoyment each moment .
when she said anxiety and depression was an expression of you being disconnected to your true self 🤯 wow. I’m going to take inventory of my life and find out what makes me happy.
@@Sister2Sister115 it’s been a bumpy road. My husband and I had our ups and downs and the downs affected my mental health. We both have been doing inner healing work and that’s helped a lot. When I started hanging out by my self, self discovering and giving myself compassion, I was able to be curios and figure out what I enjoy doing. Reading 📖 learning. We weren’t meant to go through this journey alone. We need friends and a support system. And therapy is great too 😍
I believe everyone can find their true self, since COVID-19 I’ve been searching for my true self by reading lots of books about healing, where to find luck, how to be your true self and watching ted talks about this topic. People like this woman inspired me so much. I searched for every information I could because I realised that I wasn’t being my true self for years. I was also struggling with depression, anxiety and I was full of selfhate. Yesterday I saw the white light what she also was talking about, and I really felt the connection with my true self. If you out there also have the feeling that your are not living your optimal life, I know you can also find your true self, I believe in you, everything is possible ❤️🧘🏾♀️
Great to read. I didn't know what I was missing until I found it. I have just shared an exercise of self love and my some of my life on here. Let me know if it's helpful for your inner journey. Much love to you 🙏
Yes I have ptsd and hsp. Having illnesses after illnesses . I felt rock bottom I won’t get into it but after being raised with a toxic mother and toxic people it really made me feel burned out . Lost myself who I was . Now I’m on the Journey of reconnecting myself . Leaving toxic environment really helped but I did loose interest in what I used to love .
As a mechanical engineer who likes programming, singing, dancing, wrenching... I totally feel this. I had convinced myself that I needed to be 100% about excelling in my career. I'm sad it took me until 27 to realize that it's okay to have many interests and explore them.
Replacing your past programming is one of the most difficult things to do because you’ve been doing this program for so long it’s just a part of your being. She is proof that you can and must change your programming if it is holding you back.
This was one the best talks I’ve ever heard. Filled with so much truth. “If you don’t transform your society driven mindset to a mindset of TRUTH, you too will be flushed down the toilet towards despair and hopelessness”. Thanks for sharing your journey, Andrea.
Watching this with tears dropping. My partner of longtime cheated on me and I had to let him go. My mental health is seriously messed up. I'm going crazy!!
When she mentioned how she felt like she didn't want to die and she didn't feel suicidal, but she didn't want the life she had and then took control of it. Oml I felt so touched and understood I was crying-
True beauty is when you do the work, accept and do the work. I am on my journey as well and I’ve to the question “why are we so quick to accept society’s mold and reject ourselves?” I truly appreciate your story!
When we suppress who we truly are because of stigmas, religion and lack of self love we will suffer. Live happily and cherish every moment you have RIGHT NOW. do what makes YOU happy.
Thanks for sharing. It made me cry. I had an almost identical experience many years ago. Then, and several times since, God has brought me back from the brink. Now, I'm the most at peace than I've ever been. My tears, by the way, are tears of gratitude that God thought I was worth saving. I finally do, too, and am grateful to still be here. I hope you are, too. ❤️
I lived in the Mediterranean (southern Spain) for 6 years and they were by far the best and the happiest years of my life. The people, culture, food, atmosphere, everything makes you live life to the fullest!
When I was diagnosed with ADHD and depression, I began to try and “compensate” by striving for perfection. Anything less means I’m bad. Trying to overcome this. Thank you for this video. It’s very helpful.
The song spoke to my soul. Not being able to say I love myself, has been my biggest defeat. It has led me to a dark place and fighting my way out has been absolutely the hardest battle I've ever had to fight. I have so much to be thankful for, including a great family, two boys I raised to be amazing, positive, respectful, motivated and resilient young men. Yet, somewhere in all of it I lost myself. Trying to be so much to so many, for good reasons, but didn't ask myself what I wanted or needed. Now I am an empty-nester at 39, questioning who I am and what my purpose is. People say "This is your time to do all you want to do". Yet, when you don't know who you are outside of a mom, a provider it's not that easy of a leap. Most of all I've found myself in a relationship that isn't good for me. After so many years of focusing on raising my kids, I felt now is the time to pursue a relationship. He was a wolf in sheep clothing. He broke me down emotionally/spiritually, more than my physically abusive children's father did. I thought all I'd been through would give me xray vision in the "he's not for you" category. That was definitely not the case. Now almost three years later, I see him for what he is and always was from the beginning a unapologetic narcissist. Now I find myself wanting to not live this life anymore. To get back to ME, no matter how broken the pieces are. With life comes wisdom (if we're paying attention), especially through hurt, loss and failure. I may be flawed, but I know deep down I am worth ALL MY LOVE 💗 Now it's time start that self-loving journey Thank you for sharing your inspiration and beautiful song. The lyrics hit home 🙌🏽
Sometimes we do not feel - Good enough - Comfortable - Perfectionism Never enjoy fruit of your labor Depression Therapy sessions Start new hobbies that bring you joy Multiple interests - Go getter Degrees and certifications Gain wealth It's not enough Author, tv Appearances and Search for approval Burnout and self hate Depression and hopelessness Bliss and flow Stop conforming to the world around you Vision of life Decisions made to get the current circumstances We are loveable Surrender ego Do what you love Inspire creativity Self love Accept and love you as you are Don't wear the fake I'm fine box Reconnect with what makes you heart sing Anxiety is part of disconnect with yourself
i’m telling you, it always starts with your caregivers, then it turns into society and the ppl around you. i’m glad you’ve forgiven your parents and don’t place blame, i’m working on that myself. but oh my 😍😍😍 i haven’t heard a voice like that in so long! i’m glad you’ve allowed yourself to encourage all of your passions. 🙌🏽❤️❤️
I can’t believe I came here by coincidence. I‘m in my last two years of medical school, currently rediscovering my passion for songwriting and performing, being creative. It used to be a constant battle for me to bring those two worlds together without missing out on sth. Since I started my healing journey after a heartbreak that hit me hard last year, I put so much work and love into myself and my art again. I‘ve never been happier in my life and I am only 23 years old. So excited about what is still to come. Thank you for this talk with such a similiar history. Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to give up on myself for a career. I‘m on the right track. Much love from germany
I'm glad you came to this realization. For me, this came with deep pain, I was giving up myself for a career, friendships, love and everything really.. Until I failed so hard I had to switch courses, friendships were controlling, I was depressed and in deep pain and I had to make a shift, changed courses, blocked friends, stopped chasing love and begging for people who didn't want to stay in my life... It's been horrible, I'm still in pain, still trying to figure things out, learning graphic design, sewing, knitting etc, it's amazing, but I am here because now, I am ready to work on myself internally, externally is good, but now I am on my way to self love and I like it here
This is a fantastic talk. I often find myself dealing with anxiety and depression from trying to pin down one specific focus. This gives me strength and a sense of understanding. Thank you Dr Pennington :)
I have followed Dr Andrea Pennington on YT for years, she truly is and has been a blessing in trying times too. Absolutely adore her, she is so humble. True epitome of beauty inside out. What a lovely TedX talk. I could listen to her talk & sing everyday. 🤎🤎🤎
The phrase of the lyrics, "I must apologize (myself)" made me cry. I've never had that kind of thought. It's hard to be nice to myself but I think I'll try for a good change.
I experienced the same thing but without religion as context and it STILL BANISHED MY DEPRESSION!! Over 2 months strong, no faltering happiness foundation. I now analyze my emotional situation and address it as it comes now. No buildups.
This is one of the realest talks I have ever heard and I can relate to most if not everything .That’s when you realize we are not so different our experiences are so similar in one way or the other so it’s good to share so someone out there does not feel like they are alone and weird because of what they are going through. Just like you I also eventually had a realization with divine intervention and though it’s still a journey am glad I clearly know my purpose and where I should be.
It's surreal how relatable (other than med school), and specific my journey was. Especially being called crazy for nurturing and exploring so many interests. Meanwhile, it was WHOLISTIC, not distracted or irresponsible. Thank you for calling out that label of not being good enough as punishment for not conforming. Huge thank you for sharing 🙏
Extremely hopeful, and at the same time, very sad. When we’re kids we crave above all, our parent’s approval. We hide, demean and ignore our true passions and true selves, because as tool-less children we think that maybe if we do that, we will be loved. This feeling of otherness gets replicated in adulthood, which is tragic and no one should go through this. At the same time, however, I feel this is very hopeful because, it’s a universal truth we all deserve love and compassion, and as Andrea said, true self love is archivable. Inspiring, and beautiful journey, thank you for sharing ❤️🌷
I never related so much with a vedio before. This is exactly what's happening with me. I am more an artistic person,I love signing, art so much, but I have been told since childhood that these should not be a career option. Though I enjoyed science but not more than art and music. But was so afraid that people will think I'm not smart enough if I'm not good in science. This way I lost my motivation to study and it became a burden to me. Half of me is trying to please my parents and society with good grades and half of me is dying to go back to my creative self, .. listening to her bring me to tears..
I can so relate...with this..."ADD, Depression and Anxiety maybe the Symptoms of Disconnection with Authentic Self"......I have seen it within my Family....
Wow, thank you for this I really needed this. I’ve denied my true passions my whole life in order to fit into someone else’s dream. I have lots of things I’m interested in doing but I settled for what looked good on paper. Now at 30 years old I find that I can’t even get the strength to put on a good face anymore. I’ve gotten a BA, 2 master and on the outside everyone things I’m happy but I’m not. I been diagnosed with depression twice and the second time I didn’t tell anyone. Because I felt like no one understood the first time. I gotta find that live for myself, I feel like I’m on a journey to a me I’ve never met before.
The mirror is the hardest when I see myself and tell myself, I love you, I feel like I am full of it. I practice to love myself, I have a long way to go. Thank you!!
Wow. This is so me, albeit older than I am. I’m also a talented singer and pianist, and performing is what I love with all my heart and soul, but I am going to law school because of its stability. I am also diagnosed with anxiety but when I go back to singing, that and my self-hatred disappear completely; we just have to do what we were meant to do! No matter how trying law school gets, I will always set aside time to perform. This woman’s story is such an inspiration; so glad to see that there are other people who understand, because there are not many people like this. Renaissance Men and Women-one of a kind. Thank You for being such an inspiration!
Phenomenal woman. Thank God He didn't answer your prayer to end your life. You such an inspiration! God bless you for embracing your true authentic self!
So proud and grateful for people like her who can actually share these painful experiences. It helps a lot to know that we are not alone in this. Hiding ones true self is a real burden. Thank you so much for this.
So I had a vision too I was just thinking that I am crazy and that holding on to it was just crazy , but the vision was to encourage me to not be afraid what ever will happen God will help me . The vision was related to my awakening that I will be going through a lot of miserable things before awakening and God told me before hand to take heart I will help you , I always disregarded it and tried doing things my way , always overthinking about the vision and ending up on my own conclusion that may be I never saw it ,may be I am crazy well no God really trying to make me who I am created to be , He never left me I am still alive and a lot more encouraged to be me . this was sign and your voice gave me goosebumps loved the talk and your journey God bless
Seriously was contemplating hurting myself and breaking my iPad and destroy my journal I have written positive affirmations and goals..I’m surrounded by so much toxicity that I have unconsciously adopted these negative self talk habits..then I heard this playing behind me on my iPad..I was bedridden for 5 years right out of high school and music and art was my outlet..but I couldn’t write or walk..so naturally I succumbed to this negative self talk..and for the past 3 years I’ve been struggling to unlearn that..but today just lost all faith..I’m crying rn cause the only people that remind me to keep my head up and make me feel like I’m genuinely being understood is by famous dead people or by those miles and miles away..ty for doing this Ted talk..🙏
Yes, she is confident now but do not forget that, thanks to her family's persistency, she has now a very noble profession and excellent income to pursue her hobby! Who knows where she would have been now without her degree, and no guarantee that her musical skills are so outstanding that will help her to build a succesful career!
About two years ago everything in my life started to change for the better the day I could say I love you in a mirror to my self and actually believe it and feel it. Make it your practice to tell yourself I love you every morning and evening, but watch for any negative self talk, allow yourself to love yourself and allow yourself to have compassion for everything you've been through. Learn to love yourself and your life will blossom into something beautiful, full of joy and love! May you feel loved and may you be free from suffering 🙏 Beautiful TED talk.
Love your children, show them you do, take care of their emotions without making them feel weak. It is seen in big and felt in little things. So when ever life runs them over, as in most people's life, they will stand up and know they deserve succes, happiness and even those times in darkness they will not feel alone and hopeless because they were loved. Being seen by your parents and be fully accepted in all you are is what we -the adults lacking selflove -often full of selfhate- is something which takes a lifetime to embrase. At 46 it is still a daily struggle. Do not compare, we are all special and gifted, we all have things to give and talents. Be kind to yourself and others. People want to be seen, I see you and how great would it be if you could truelly see yourself.
This speech moved me deeply. I was crying while watching. I also struggle with focusing on one thing that interests me. Also my parents somewhat sheltered me in a 'box', they always tell me that someone is better than you and that I fail because I was stubborn or a non-sense thinker. Thank you for enlightening me that I was never wrong feeling that way. :) My experience is also the same of most everyone and it is valid. By watching this, I clearly understand now that each human being is UNIQUE.
That was very helpful for me.Denying who you are in order to please others is a sure way to get depressed.That includes the expectations of the religions we choose.We must remember to be ourselves in any situation. Thanks!
She is so much like me. This story is very inspirational, thanks for sharing. I went to college and pursued a pre-med biology degree, worked extremely hard, became extremely depressed. After I graduated I learned to become and embrace the musician and artist I truly am.
Watching this with tears dropping. My partner of longtime cheated on me and I had to let him go. My mental health is seriously messed up. I'm going crazy!!
@@jamesevelyn7414 I know this is 3 months later, but I am sending you lots of love! Him cheating on you is a sign of the universe that you have to let him go, and that he was not right for you. I hope you find your authentic self and become the most beautiful radiant version of yourself!
I always appreciate myself as the way I am... And whenever I felt disappointed I just look at myself and said " I love you, and I love the way you are"
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@Sarah Murphy overachievers are seen as overly ambitious individuals, driven by their ambitions more than emotions, while being feminine relates with having and expressing emotions.
@@sskhussaini Not really. You just have a stereotype in your head of what an overachiever looks like and its a male businessman in a suit with a cold personality. Maybe you dont know many women who are overachievers. There's a lot out there that I know personally and none of them have "sacrificed" their femininity. Open your mind.
@@NN-fz4pd umm, I only said, "overachievers *ARE SEEN AS*" I *DIDN'T* say "I see overachievers as" or "I think overachievers are". Please learn to read more thoroughly before pointing fingers.
This is beautiful. Thank you for this. I’m experiencing this and I’m just 30 years young. Feels good to know that I’m not alone experiencing this, as this shows that I’m not crazy, but I’m normal
Your Father was "Awesome!" He pushed you to success. Most of us are depressed and have fathers who don't care. P.S. Schedule "Joy" into your life. Have Hobbies. Also "Prayer Changes things."
YESSSS! MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL. I LOVE YOU , ME. Speaks to My Soul and Lift me up, OUT of a depressing moment. Thank you I can say, I Love You,ME. I have to share your message
I had the "melting into the bed" ( wishing to die ) Supernatural experience too.... Once when I was super depressed and didn't want to live anymore.... I asked to please let me be exploded into billions of tiny particles ( no discernable chunks, I felt this was important) and scattered across the Universe, ❤️😢 but only if I never had to live again, because it's too painful.... I imagined it over and over and felt the life force leaving my body. I was "disappearing" and melting into the bed, and knew I'd be gone by morning.... When there was almost no life force left, a Huge Beam of pure Unconditional Love covered my entire body, along with a beautiful harmonic chord of healing music, that included a healing Vibration. I could tell it was a huge beam coming from above. I heard the words "I Love You." I was so depressed, I rejected it, I shoved the beam off of me and said "If you knew everything about me ( every mistake I had ever made) if you knew everything about me, you wouldn't love me," and I shoved the beam away. It answered firmly "NO. - - I *LOVE* you." So I let it stay on me, and soaked in the unconditional love, the beautiful healing musical chord and healing vibration. After a long time I fell asleep; it was still there, healing me... When I woke up the next day, I was no longer depressed. . I tried to find music similar to what I heard, the closest I can find is on TH-cam called "HAPPINESS FREQUENCY" by Red Green Productions. But it's not supposed to have the banging chime notes, just the background chord of music and vibration. ( If you're feeling higher tone than that deep depression, it's probably not "healing" for you. Because it's meant to RAISE your vibration. If you're already higher vibration than that sound, then it would be lowering your vibration. ( I'm guessing.) Because when I feel higher vibration, that sounds a little depressing to me. ❤️ So I listen to happy music instead. ❤️ If somebody is really depressed, have them listen to that music in case it might help. .
You are such a very beautiful human being, being able to get past all your challenges and being able to fully embrace who you truly are. Such an inspiration! I love your voice too!
I think this video has beautiful points, her experience was painful and challenging for sure, but I also think that this can mislead us...usually ppl are not multitalented and are struggling to find one single thing that they’re good at, normally ppl don’t have those bright light, vision and clarification moments where we see our new path and then depression is gone. In reality we do struggle to understand what makes us happy, who we are amongst all that external sources made us believe that we are, and being proactive in getting to know ourselves. Coming out of depression isn’t as easy as having a vision, it is faith, work within yourself, therapy, sometimes medicines...I felt watching this like oh God, why aren’t I talented and good at anything. It’s my experience, but I believe in trying everyday a bit more, just for today being alive and try to find my true self and something that I am good in, I believe as well that everyone can do this...it’s hard, but we can always ask for help. We deserve to life loving and believing in ourselves.
I am so grateful for this video because it spoke volumes to my heart and soul. Loved the part where she said we (not other people) are responsible for our life choices whilst on this earth. Reminded me of some of my passions that I left behind for whatever reason. I plan on going back to try each and every one of them one step at a time. So thrilled I finally watched the video!
There are so many ppl those r suffering to find their true self, nd I was one of them but now after trying 1an half years I feel so glad that i started this journey. Still feel like to go a long way.fall in love with yourself is feel much more exciting and happier than fall in love with others. It can give u the same kind of butterfly in your heart ,when after trying a lot u look back on past self nd understand that how far u have come nd how much u r enjoying your company now u find the happier u ☺😊...... So keep trying I hope u get out from your comfort zones nd being able to find the real u ☺
I love myself. I'll always do so. I've never wished nor will wish being anyone instead of me. Furthermore, to all others in this world from me, I hope you'll always love yourselves. God in Heaven wishes this for us. Thus we deserve to. Just as he wishes our always loving each other.
What an amazing, authentic, incredibly talanted women. Not to mention beautiful and a voice like an angel. I think the most inspiring TED talk I have had the pleasure to watch. Incredibly well spoken, amazing delivery, beautiful energy. 10/10 Dr Pennington.
This talk really resonated with me. I'd like to share my story. It's not as...adventurous as Dr. Pennington's, but I feel compelled to share it anyway. I'm an artist, and a huge nerd. I always have been. I've been drawing as long as I could pick up a pencil, and I drew inspiration from the media I consumed (mainly animated shows and games). The two fed each-other in a good way. I made a lot of friends through these passions, and I always found a sense of connection through them. I felt like there was always a place for me to belong because of them. And then high school came around, latter half of sophomore year, specifically. I was at a new school, and I made connections with some people who shared my interests as I eventually did when I found myself in a new school. However these people they were very critical of me and my tastes. Every time I would show passion or interest in something, or showed some of my art, they would always sort of...dissect it, and then would subtly shame me for it. Trust me when I say this was NOT constructive criticism, when it came to my art anyway. Being in high school, I felt a need to be accepted or else be alone, and at the time, I valued connections with people with whom I shared common interests with above all else. So I began trying to please these "friends" of mine. I craved their approval of my art and my tastes. Over the years, I slowly began to try and please everybody. It was like a disease, slowly taking over my mind. I experienced a kind of subtle rejection for the things I loved the most for the first time in my life. I was used to other students picking on me for my interests, but never something like what I was going through at the hands of my "friends". That made me want their approval even more, and I lost sense of my self. With that I was diagnosed with depression, took meds that numbed me, and went in and out of therapy for a very long time. Over time, I slowly gave up my dreams of being a professional artist and writer. Gave up my dreams of having my own comics or stories that people would connect with one-another over, and I slowly convinced myself that it was okay. I became lost. Taking majors in community college that did not interest me at all. Not showing the real friends that I eventually made my art, or my writing, or talking about things that I really enjoyed, and I just kind of shut that part of me down to the world. Keep in mind I never really stopped making anything, but I became ashamed and embarrassed by it, and my tastes in media. I eventually began to hate myself, and I became convinced that I was not worthy of love, from either myself or anybody else. That became the norm for me until very recently. Barely even a few months back. I had long since cut off those people, and I have a great support network. But what I'm doing for a living, I realized it was not fulfilling me at all. Like Dr. Pennington said, I was getting up in the morning out of obligation, and I realized I didn't want to live anymore. Not like this. So now I'm taking steps to be more vocal about who I am. Putting my art out there more, expressing passions and thoughts and feelings either directly or through my art. It's been a long time since I felt like myself, but I'm starting to connect with that person I was again. It feels incredibly liberating, and I can see a light at the end of this long, dark tunnel of self-denial and self-hatred. I'm listening to talks like this, journaling, meditating, and putting my art out there more. I'm starting to feel like myself again. I hope if you've read this, it sort of...supplements the video in a way, and maybe it'll help you find yourself again too. Thank you.
"i was not suicidal i had no plan to harm myself but i didnt want the life that i was living to go on anymore" i felt that
Just a fan definitely can relate
I read this but didn't know what you meant. But as it kept playing I heard it. Yea I feel that way now
I FELT that as well....TIME FOR CHANGE
Literally me
your life with all problem better than millions around the universe just appreciate what God give you and try to give help advice to people who's in need your life will turn in to joyful and enjoyment each moment .
when she said anxiety and depression was an expression of you being disconnected to your true self 🤯 wow. I’m going to take inventory of my life and find out what makes me happy.
Awesome❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
How is your journey going????🤗
@@Sister2Sister115 it’s been a bumpy road. My husband and I had our ups and downs and the downs affected my mental health. We both have been doing inner healing work and that’s helped a lot. When I started hanging out by my self, self discovering and giving myself compassion, I was able to be curios and figure out what I enjoy doing. Reading 📖 learning. We weren’t meant to go through this journey alone. We need friends and a support system. And therapy is great too 😍
"..why do we have to be only one thing and why can't we celebrate all parts of us?" ❤
I really felt that. I’m so so glad that this time is calling us to become our fullest expression.
Variety is the spice!!
@@HighVibeCat "variety is the spice" I like that 👌🏾
I needed to hear this sentence so much!
You can celebrate anything you want to dont seek validation from anyone
It makes me smile that mental health isn’t as taboo anymore. We’ve needed this since the beginning of time.
Not really because society created mental illness throwing off our mental balance...
Agree! We’re fortunate to see the beginning of this revolution.
absolutely!! But we still have a long way to go to make it as acceptable as talking about physical disease
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@@jamiedolton2336 Couldn't have said it better, my friend.
"My mind had been so programed to deny, shut down, and belittle myself for my creativity that I was really suffering."
I. can't. breath.
I agree 💯
breathe then.
I hope You can breath now....
I believe everyone can find their true self, since COVID-19 I’ve been searching for my true self by reading lots of books about healing, where to find luck, how to be your true self and watching ted talks about this topic. People like this woman inspired me so much. I searched for every information I could because I realised that I wasn’t being my true self for years. I was also struggling with depression, anxiety and I was full of selfhate. Yesterday I saw the white light what she also was talking about, and I really felt the connection with my true self. If you out there also have the feeling that your are not living your optimal life, I know you can also find your true self, I believe in you, everything is possible ❤️🧘🏾♀️
I am currently on the same path
same here! please share some of the books you’ve been reading, I need some
I’ve reached this point as well. Currently in therapy!
I resonate with this ✅
Great to read. I didn't know what I was missing until I found it. I have just shared an exercise of self love and my some of my life on here. Let me know if it's helpful for your inner journey. Much love to you 🙏
Alot of this is on point!!! Depression has to do alot with ignoring who we are
Factssss!!!
Journey Dream Yessss
I learned that through much psychotherapy and examination of myself. So very true!
Yes I have ptsd and hsp. Having illnesses after illnesses . I felt rock bottom I won’t get into it but after being raised with a toxic mother and toxic people it really made me feel burned out . Lost myself who I was . Now I’m on the Journey of reconnecting myself . Leaving toxic environment really helped but I did loose interest in what I used to love .
@@Shamarie0328 zz dd 3d.
This talk is underrated! Btw she looks fantastic in that dress
Beiyingzi Hu yes! That dress!!
I thought she was a model when i looked at her first
She looks amazing.
Yes indeed!
Absolutely!
She speaks so elegantly, her words are music.
Indeed, combined with her body language to give life to her words .
i can't stand it. it is a very generic audiobook voice.
"How much greater could I be if I truly love me." Wow, no lies told here
As a mechanical engineer who likes programming, singing, dancing, wrenching... I totally feel this. I had convinced myself that I needed to be 100% about excelling in my career. I'm sad it took me until 27 to realize that it's okay to have many interests and explore them.
Replacing your past programming is one of the most difficult things to do because you’ve been doing this program for so long it’s just a part of your being. She is proof that you can and must change your programming if it is holding you back.
This was one the best talks I’ve ever heard. Filled with so much truth. “If you don’t transform your society driven mindset to a mindset of TRUTH, you too will be flushed down the toilet towards despair and hopelessness”. Thanks for sharing your journey, Andrea.
Watching this with tears dropping. My partner of longtime cheated on me and I had to let him go. My mental health is seriously messed up. I'm going crazy!!
People pleasing☠. Self love 🍀
When she mentioned how she felt like she didn't want to die and she didn't feel suicidal, but she didn't want the life she had and then took control of it. Oml I felt so touched and understood I was crying-
True beauty is when you do the work, accept and do the work. I am on my journey as well and I’ve to the question “why are we so quick to accept society’s mold and reject ourselves?” I truly appreciate your story!
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Her hand gestures are so graceful! What a queen.
I relate to this woman more than anyone..
Glad i'm not alone feeling like this
You are definitely not alone! 😊
Me too! I thought I was the lonely weirdo for feeling like this while everyone seems to look so fine and normal. Hope you will be fine friend!
"It's us to decide who we will be and who we will become" at our core we are truly unique and beautiful..
When we suppress who we truly are because of stigmas, religion and lack of self love we will suffer. Live happily and cherish every moment you have RIGHT NOW. do what makes YOU happy.
Everything about this is awesome;Her beauty,her dress code,voice, delivery, message,,,just everything
Thank you and God bless you sister!
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Once when I also asked God to take my life I heard Him audibly say "Peace be still."
Thank You Jesus!
I heard " it is all going to be alright" that was years ago and now it is!
are you serious? that's my mantra too when everything goes down "peace be still'
Thanks for sharing. It made me cry. I had an almost identical experience many years ago. Then, and several times since, God has brought me back from the brink. Now, I'm the most at peace than I've ever been.
My tears, by the way, are tears of gratitude that God thought I was worth saving. I finally do, too, and am grateful to still be here.
I hope you are, too. ❤️
@@YeniQue9ja that is God speaking through someone else to you!! God is good all the time 🙏
Amen!
I lived in the Mediterranean (southern Spain) for 6 years and they were by far the best and the happiest years of my life. The people, culture, food, atmosphere, everything makes you live life to the fullest!
When I was diagnosed with ADHD and depression, I began to try and “compensate” by striving for perfection. Anything less means I’m bad. Trying to overcome this. Thank you for this video. It’s very helpful.
The song spoke to my soul. Not being able to say I love myself, has been my biggest defeat. It has led me to a dark place and fighting my way out has been absolutely the hardest battle I've ever had to fight. I have so much to be thankful for, including a great family, two boys I raised to be amazing, positive, respectful, motivated and resilient young men. Yet, somewhere in all of it I lost myself. Trying to be so much to so many, for good reasons, but didn't ask myself what I wanted or needed. Now I am an empty-nester at 39, questioning who I am and what my purpose is. People say "This is your time to do all you want to do". Yet, when you don't know who you are outside of a mom, a provider it's not that easy of a leap. Most of all I've found myself in a relationship that isn't good for me. After so many years of focusing on raising my kids, I felt now is the time to pursue a relationship. He was a wolf in sheep clothing. He broke me down emotionally/spiritually, more than my physically abusive children's father did. I thought all I'd been through would give me xray vision in the "he's not for you" category. That was definitely not the case. Now almost three years later, I see him for what he is and always was from the beginning a unapologetic narcissist. Now I find myself wanting to not live this life anymore. To get back to ME, no matter how broken the pieces are. With life comes wisdom (if we're paying attention), especially through hurt, loss and failure. I may be flawed, but I know deep down I am worth ALL MY LOVE 💗 Now it's time start that self-loving journey
Thank you for sharing your inspiration and beautiful song. The lyrics hit home 🙌🏽
Sometimes we do not feel
- Good enough
- Comfortable
- Perfectionism
Never enjoy fruit of your labor
Depression
Therapy sessions
Start new hobbies that bring you joy
Multiple interests - Go getter
Degrees and certifications
Gain wealth
It's not enough
Author, tv Appearances and
Search for approval
Burnout and self hate
Depression and hopelessness
Bliss and flow
Stop conforming to the world around you
Vision of life
Decisions made to get the current circumstances
We are loveable
Surrender ego
Do what you love
Inspire creativity
Self love
Accept and love you as you are
Don't wear the fake I'm fine box
Reconnect with what makes you heart sing
Anxiety is part of disconnect with yourself
What a beautiful summary of my talk! Thank you 🙌🏾❤️
@@DaeEss1Drea WOW. YOU ARE METICULOUS, DR. BOO ... 🙏🎊💐🎂☕☕☕☕💫💟🌷🍰☕☕☕☕☕🎈😇🙏
This is definitely one of my favorite TED talks.. She is connected with herself & I think every woman and man creative needs to hear this!!
i’m telling you, it always starts with your caregivers, then it turns into society and the ppl around you. i’m glad you’ve forgiven your parents and don’t place blame, i’m working on that myself. but oh my 😍😍😍 i haven’t heard a voice like that in so long! i’m glad you’ve allowed yourself to encourage all of your passions. 🙌🏽❤️❤️
Why, after watching this do I feel super jealous instead of happy with myself? She's so beautiful and smart and talented and perfect.
No need to be. You will also be as beautiful if you start loving yourself for who you are.
I believe I’m the same way. I have so many passions I don’t know what to choose
If you can, all of them.
Pick one. Run with it. Then pick up another. Run with it. Cycle through what you like.
Me too
@@Etuffly That has definitely worked for me over the years! :-)
This one got me out the bed today! I feel better ❤️ went and got my hair done, enjoyed nature. Soaked up some sun ☀️ thank you 🙏
This is what I like to see!
Soak up the sun its the light we need in life not the darkness
Well spoken, stunning dress, and her voice 🥰 I love the self confidence and self love she emits
At our core we are pure and truly lovable, and we desrve to be celebrated for our uniqueness not crammed into the box of conformity.
I can’t believe I came here by coincidence. I‘m in my last two years of medical school, currently rediscovering my passion for songwriting and performing, being creative. It used to be a constant battle for me to bring those two worlds together without missing out on sth. Since I started my healing journey after a heartbreak that hit me hard last year, I put so much work and love into myself and my art again. I‘ve never been happier in my life and I am only 23 years old. So excited about what is still to come. Thank you for this talk with such a similiar history. Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to give up on myself for a career. I‘m on the right track. Much love from germany
I'm glad you came to this realization. For me, this came with deep pain, I was giving up myself for a career, friendships, love and everything really.. Until I failed so hard I had to switch courses, friendships were controlling, I was depressed and in deep pain and I had to make a shift, changed courses, blocked friends, stopped chasing love and begging for people who didn't want to stay in my life... It's been horrible, I'm still in pain, still trying to figure things out, learning graphic design, sewing, knitting etc, it's amazing, but I am here because now, I am ready to work on myself internally, externally is good, but now I am on my way to self love and I like it here
Happy 4 you !
Song writing pathologist here...keep the music alive! All my music up at my page...Rock on!
Nothing is a coincidence, we all were meant to be here! Hope you all reached the greatest versions of yourselves
God led me to listen to this powerful message this morning.
I have learnt this very hard way that only person who is gonna be with you in your highs and lows is yourself so take care of that person❤️
This is a fantastic talk. I often find myself dealing with anxiety and depression from trying to pin down one specific focus. This gives me strength and a sense of understanding. Thank you Dr Pennington :)
"how much greater could I be, if I truly loved me" - that spoke to me, thank you for the amazing talk!
OUTstanding!!!! Thank you Dr. Pennington - THANK YOU ANDREA. This is simply raw, beautiful, and helpful.
I have followed Dr Andrea Pennington on YT for years, she truly is and has been a blessing in trying times too. Absolutely adore her, she is so humble. True epitome of beauty inside out. What a lovely TedX talk. I could listen to her talk & sing everyday. 🤎🤎🤎
Thank you for your support Kris 💜🌟🙌🏾
PenningtonMedia You are welcome. Keep up the great work 💐
The phrase of the lyrics, "I must apologize (myself)" made me cry.
I've never had that kind of thought.
It's hard to be nice to myself but I think I'll try for a good change.
I experienced the same thing but without religion as context and it STILL BANISHED MY DEPRESSION!!
Over 2 months strong, no faltering happiness foundation.
I now analyze my emotional situation and address it as it comes now. No buildups.
This is one of the realest talks I have ever heard and I can relate to most if not everything .That’s when you realize we are not so different our experiences are so similar in one way or the other so it’s good to share so someone out there does not feel like they are alone and weird because of what they are going through. Just like you I also eventually had a realization with divine intervention and though it’s still a journey am glad I clearly know my purpose and where I should be.
Thank you and God bless you!
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It's surreal how relatable (other than med school), and specific my journey was. Especially being called crazy for nurturing and exploring so many interests. Meanwhile, it was WHOLISTIC, not distracted or irresponsible. Thank you for calling out that label of not being good enough as punishment for not conforming. Huge thank you for sharing 🙏
Extremely hopeful, and at the same time, very sad. When we’re kids we crave above all, our parent’s approval. We hide, demean and ignore our true passions and true selves, because as tool-less children we think that maybe if we do that, we will be loved. This feeling of otherness gets replicated in adulthood, which is tragic and no one should go through this. At the same time, however, I feel this is very hopeful because, it’s a universal truth we all deserve love and compassion, and as Andrea said, true self love is archivable. Inspiring, and beautiful journey, thank you for sharing ❤️🌷
I love it. What a beautiful woman with so much wisdom!
Yeah
such beauty much wow
Dr. Pennington you have a beautiful spirit and voice.
Thank you, June 💜
I never related so much with a vedio before. This is exactly what's happening with me. I am more an artistic person,I love signing, art so much, but I have been told since childhood that these should not be a career option. Though I enjoyed science but not more than art and music. But was so afraid that people will think I'm not smart enough if I'm not good in science. This way I lost my motivation to study and it became a burden to me. Half of me is trying to please my parents and society with good grades and half of me is dying to go back to my creative self, .. listening to her bring me to tears..
I can so relate...with this..."ADD, Depression and Anxiety maybe the Symptoms of Disconnection with Authentic Self"......I have seen it within my Family....
Wow, thank you for this I really needed this. I’ve denied my true passions my whole life in order to fit into someone else’s dream. I have lots of things I’m interested in doing but I settled for what looked good on paper. Now at 30 years old I find that I can’t even get the strength to put on a good face anymore. I’ve gotten a BA, 2 master and on the outside everyone things I’m happy but I’m not. I been diagnosed with depression twice and the second time I didn’t tell anyone. Because I felt like no one understood the first time. I gotta find that live for myself, I feel like I’m on a journey to a me I’ve never met before.
The mirror is the hardest when I see myself and tell myself, I love you, I feel like I am full of it. I practice to love myself, I have a long way to go. Thank you!!
A much needed message to hear at this appointed time in my life. Thank you for being a vessel to the souls that are running dry!
such a nice comment
@@LizBrousseau I like her shades. ;)
Wow. This is so me, albeit older than I am. I’m also a talented singer and pianist, and performing is what I love with all my heart and soul, but I am going to law school because of its stability. I am also diagnosed with anxiety but when I go back to singing, that and my self-hatred disappear completely; we just have to do what we were meant to do! No matter how trying law school gets, I will always set aside time to perform. This woman’s story is such an inspiration; so glad to see that there are other people who understand, because there are not many people like this. Renaissance Men and Women-one of a kind. Thank You for being such an inspiration!
Holy moly that's a lot of talent, brains, and beauty wrapped into one soul! Beautiful message. Thank you.
Thats the Holy spirit answering your praying. Yess. A genuine path to love. Thank you.
Wow I’m so moved by her story. She’s amazing including her singing! Love her.
Phenomenal woman. Thank God He didn't answer your prayer to end your life. You such an inspiration! God bless you for embracing your true authentic self!
So proud and grateful for people like her who can actually share these painful experiences. It helps a lot to know that we are not alone in this. Hiding ones true self is a real burden. Thank you so much for this.
"...you don't have to look like anybody else..." Crying...tears pouring down my face. Thank you.
So I had a vision too I was just thinking that I am crazy and that holding on to it was just crazy , but the vision was to encourage me to not be afraid what ever will happen God will help me . The vision was related to my awakening that I will be going through a lot of miserable things before awakening and God told me before hand to take heart I will help you , I always disregarded it and tried doing things my way , always overthinking about the vision and ending up on my own conclusion that may be I never saw it ,may be I am crazy well no God really trying to make me who I am created to be , He never left me I am still alive and a lot more encouraged to be me . this was sign and your voice gave me goosebumps loved the talk and your journey God bless
She is an amazing woman. So proud of her for following her true passion ❤️
She's so beautiful!
Her dress too 💗💗
no shes very beautiful
Seriously was contemplating hurting myself and breaking my iPad and destroy my journal I have written positive affirmations and goals..I’m surrounded by so much toxicity that I have unconsciously adopted these negative self talk habits..then I heard this playing behind me on my iPad..I was bedridden for 5 years right out of high school and music and art was my outlet..but I couldn’t write or walk..so naturally I succumbed to this negative self talk..and for the past 3 years I’ve been struggling to unlearn that..but today just lost all faith..I’m crying rn cause the only people that remind me to keep my head up and make me feel like I’m genuinely being understood is by famous dead people or by those miles and miles away..ty for doing this Ted talk..🙏
This talk changed my whole perspective on life. She looks so content & confident in herself! Truly a beautiful woman!
Yes, she is confident now but do not forget that, thanks to her family's persistency, she has now a very noble profession and excellent income to pursue her hobby! Who knows where she would have been now without her degree, and no guarantee that her musical skills are so outstanding that will help her to build a succesful career!
We are all responsible for loving ourselves to heal the world and make it a better place starting from within.
Great Talk!
About two years ago everything in my life started to change for the better the day I could say I love you in a mirror to my self and actually believe it and feel it.
Make it your practice to tell yourself I love you every morning and evening, but watch for any negative self talk, allow yourself to love yourself and allow yourself to have compassion for everything you've been through. Learn to love yourself and your life will blossom into something beautiful, full of joy and love! May you feel loved and may you be free from suffering 🙏
Beautiful TED talk.
Love your children, show them you do, take care of their emotions without making them feel weak. It is seen in big and felt in little things. So when ever life runs them over, as in most people's life, they will stand up and know they deserve succes, happiness and even those times in darkness they will not feel alone and hopeless because they were loved. Being seen by your parents and be fully accepted in all you are is what we -the adults lacking selflove -often full of selfhate- is something which takes a lifetime to embrase. At 46 it is still a daily struggle. Do not compare, we are all special and gifted, we all have things to give and talents. Be kind to yourself and others. People want to be seen, I see you and how great would it be if you could truelly see yourself.
This speech moved me deeply. I was crying while watching. I also struggle with focusing on one thing that interests me. Also my parents somewhat sheltered me in a 'box', they always tell me that someone is better than you and that I fail because I was stubborn or a non-sense thinker. Thank you for enlightening me that I was never wrong feeling that way. :) My experience is also the same of most everyone and it is valid.
By watching this, I clearly understand now that each human being is UNIQUE.
That was very helpful for me.Denying who you are in order to please others is a sure way to get depressed.That includes the expectations of the religions we choose.We must remember to be ourselves in any situation. Thanks!
She is so much like me. This story is very inspirational, thanks for sharing.
I went to college and pursued a pre-med biology degree, worked extremely hard, became extremely depressed. After I graduated I learned to become and embrace the musician and artist I truly am.
Wow...beautiful display of brilliance & authenticity! Well Done!
Watching this with tears dropping. My partner of longtime cheated on me and I had to let him go. My mental health is seriously messed up. I'm going crazy!!
@@jamesevelyn7414 I know this is 3 months later, but I am sending you lots of love! Him cheating on you is a sign of the universe that you have to let him go, and that he was not right for you. I hope you find your authentic self and become the most beautiful radiant version of yourself!
Everything starts with one important thing is called SELF-LOVE!
Wow, just wonderfully gifted. The nerdy, the creative, the authentic, elegant and beautiful, all in one package. Loved the singing. Thanks Andrea 💕
I always appreciate myself as the way I am... And whenever I felt disappointed I just look at myself and said " I love you, and I love the way you are"
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I'm so glad you were able to find breakthrough to fully embrace and live life for who you are. Your voice is beautiful and I loved the song.
Denied disowned. Reconnevt with what makes my heart sing. Step up and live as my authentic self. And i dont have to look like anybody else.
She's amazing!! An overachiever without sacrificing an ounce of her femininity.
Leo Feza WTF?? You might wanna check yourself.
@Sarah Murphy overachievers are seen as overly ambitious individuals, driven by their ambitions more than emotions, while being feminine relates with having and expressing emotions.
@@sskhussaini Not really. You just have a stereotype in your head of what an overachiever looks like and its a male businessman in a suit with a cold personality.
Maybe you dont know many women who are overachievers. There's a lot out there that I know personally and none of them have "sacrificed" their femininity. Open your mind.
@@NN-fz4pd umm, I only said, "overachievers *ARE SEEN AS*"
I *DIDN'T* say "I see overachievers as" or "I think overachievers are".
Please learn to read more thoroughly before pointing fingers.
This is beautiful. Thank you for this. I’m experiencing this and I’m just 30 years young. Feels good to know that I’m not alone experiencing this, as this shows that I’m not crazy, but I’m normal
Your Father was "Awesome!" He pushed you to success. Most of us are depressed and have fathers who don't care. P.S. Schedule "Joy" into your life. Have Hobbies. Also "Prayer Changes things."
YESSSS! MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL. I LOVE YOU , ME. Speaks to My Soul and Lift me up, OUT of a depressing moment. Thank you
I can say, I Love You,ME.
I have to share your message
The advice and experience doesn't sound like it applies to others honestly, but singing is incredibly, I would pay to hear it
I had the "melting into the bed" ( wishing to die ) Supernatural experience too....
Once when I was super depressed and didn't want to live anymore.... I asked to please let me be exploded into billions of tiny particles ( no discernable chunks, I felt this was important) and scattered across the Universe,
❤️😢 but only if I never had to live again, because it's too painful.... I imagined it over and over and felt the life force leaving my body. I was "disappearing" and melting into the bed, and knew I'd be gone by morning.... When there was almost no life force left, a Huge Beam of pure Unconditional Love covered my entire body, along with a beautiful harmonic chord of healing music, that included a healing Vibration. I could tell it was a huge beam coming from above. I heard the words
"I Love You."
I was so depressed, I rejected it, I shoved the beam off of me and said "If you knew everything about me ( every mistake I had ever made) if you knew everything about me, you wouldn't love me," and I shoved the beam away.
It answered firmly "NO. - - I *LOVE* you."
So I let it stay on me, and soaked in the unconditional love, the beautiful healing musical chord and healing vibration.
After a long time I fell asleep; it was still there, healing me... When I woke up the next day, I was no longer depressed.
. I tried to find music similar to what I heard, the closest I can find is on TH-cam called "HAPPINESS FREQUENCY" by Red Green Productions. But it's not supposed to have the banging chime notes, just the background chord of music and vibration. ( If you're feeling higher tone than that deep depression, it's probably not "healing" for you. Because it's meant to RAISE your vibration. If you're already higher vibration than that sound, then it would be lowering your vibration. ( I'm guessing.) Because when I feel higher vibration, that sounds a little depressing to me. ❤️ So I listen to happy music instead. ❤️
If somebody is really depressed, have them listen to that music in case it might help.
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You are such a very beautiful human being, being able to get past all your challenges and being able to fully embrace who you truly are. Such an inspiration! I love your voice too!
Thank you, Uzzel! ✨
I think this video has beautiful points, her experience was painful and challenging for sure, but I also think that this can mislead us...usually ppl are not multitalented and are struggling to find one single thing that they’re good at, normally ppl don’t have those bright light, vision and clarification moments where we see our new path and then depression is gone. In reality we do struggle to understand what makes us happy, who we are amongst all that external sources made us believe that we are, and being proactive in getting to know ourselves. Coming out of depression isn’t as easy as having a vision, it is faith, work within yourself, therapy, sometimes medicines...I felt watching this like oh God, why aren’t I talented and good at anything. It’s my experience, but I believe in trying everyday a bit more, just for today being alive and try to find my true self and something that I am good in, I believe as well that everyone can do this...it’s hard, but we can always ask for help. We deserve to life loving and believing in ourselves.
I am so grateful for this video because it spoke volumes to my heart and soul. Loved the part where she said we (not other people) are responsible for our life choices whilst on this earth. Reminded me of some of my passions that I left behind for whatever reason. I plan on going back to try each and every one of them one step at a time. So thrilled I finally watched the video!
"my body melted, then i saw this bright light and felt as if I were being pulled into it"
Sis was shifting
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself❤
Wow! She is a superwoman!! I’m inspired. 🎉🎉🎉
Love the song too - what a beautiful voice and message
This woman is way too perfect!
Your stage presence and voice is so captivating. Thank you for sharing your story.
The most inspiring woman of our modern time!! I absolutely love this powerful yet vulnerable talk
There are so many ppl those r suffering to find their true self, nd I was one of them but now after trying 1an half years I feel so glad that i started this journey. Still feel like to go a long way.fall in love with yourself is feel much more exciting and happier than fall in love with others. It can give u the same kind of butterfly in your heart ,when after trying a lot u look back on past self nd understand that how far u have come nd how much u r enjoying your company now u find the happier u ☺😊...... So keep trying I hope u get out from your comfort zones nd being able to find the real u ☺
Love to hear your journey. For past 3 year I am also into it and still feels like l have to go more
A beautiful message for a beautiful person inside and out.
Powerful message. Beautiful voice. Your an inspiration and a light. Thank you
I love myself. I'll always do so. I've never wished nor will wish being anyone instead of me. Furthermore, to all others in this world from me, I hope you'll always love yourselves. God in Heaven wishes this for us. Thus we deserve to. Just as he wishes our always loving each other.
What an amazing, authentic, incredibly talanted women. Not to mention beautiful and a voice like an angel. I think the most inspiring TED talk I have had the pleasure to watch. Incredibly well spoken, amazing delivery, beautiful energy. 10/10 Dr Pennington.
This talk really resonated with me.
I'd like to share my story. It's not as...adventurous as Dr. Pennington's, but I feel compelled to share it anyway.
I'm an artist, and a huge nerd. I always have been. I've been drawing as long as I could pick up a pencil, and I drew inspiration from the media I consumed (mainly animated shows and games). The two fed each-other in a good way.
I made a lot of friends through these passions, and I always found a sense of connection through them. I felt like there was always a place for me to belong because of them.
And then high school came around, latter half of sophomore year, specifically. I was at a new school, and I made connections with some people who shared my interests as I eventually did when I found myself in a new school. However these people they were very critical of me and my tastes. Every time I would show passion or interest in something, or showed some of my art, they would always sort of...dissect it, and then would subtly shame me for it. Trust me when I say this was NOT constructive criticism, when it came to my art anyway.
Being in high school, I felt a need to be accepted or else be alone, and at the time, I valued connections with people with whom I shared common interests with above all else. So I began trying to please these "friends" of mine. I craved their approval of my art and my tastes. Over the years, I slowly began to try and please everybody. It was like a disease, slowly taking over my mind. I experienced a kind of subtle rejection for the things I loved the most for the first time in my life. I was used to other students picking on me for my interests, but never something like what I was going through at the hands of my "friends". That made me want their approval even more, and I lost sense of my self. With that I was diagnosed with depression, took meds that numbed me, and went in and out of therapy for a very long time.
Over time, I slowly gave up my dreams of being a professional artist and writer. Gave up my dreams of having my own comics or stories that people would connect with one-another over, and I slowly convinced myself that it was okay.
I became lost. Taking majors in community college that did not interest me at all. Not showing the real friends that I eventually made my art, or my writing, or talking about things that I really enjoyed, and I just kind of shut that part of me down to the world. Keep in mind I never really stopped making anything, but I became ashamed and embarrassed by it, and my tastes in media. I eventually began to hate myself, and I became convinced that I was not worthy of love, from either myself or anybody else.
That became the norm for me until very recently. Barely even a few months back. I had long since cut off those people, and I have a great support network. But what I'm doing for a living, I realized it was not fulfilling me at all. Like Dr. Pennington said, I was getting up in the morning out of obligation, and I realized I didn't want to live anymore. Not like this.
So now I'm taking steps to be more vocal about who I am. Putting my art out there more, expressing passions and thoughts and feelings either directly or through my art. It's been a long time since I felt like myself, but I'm starting to connect with that person I was again. It feels incredibly liberating, and I can see a light at the end of this long, dark tunnel of self-denial and self-hatred. I'm listening to talks like this, journaling, meditating, and putting my art out there more. I'm starting to feel like myself again.
I hope if you've read this, it sort of...supplements the video in a way, and maybe it'll help you find yourself again too.
Thank you.
Thanks for explaining everything...glad you have made a turn-around and good luck
Love your story and your journey to healing!
The song at the end was the icing on the cake! Great talk! Great woman!