I'd tell her to take me off the emergency contact list. But before I did that, I'd talk to the school and tell them to call CPS if they can't reach anyone within 30 minutes, which in many places is the normal school response anyhow. If the parents are going to be that irresponsible, they deserve the consequences.
I''m a teacher and I agree with other comments here, she needs to let the school know that they should contact CPS the next time it happens, because you know it will. I'd hate it for the kid to be picked up by them but he deserves better than a Mom that thinks her "me time" is more important than the safety of her child. What if something happened to him at the end of the day?? She wouldn't even know and he'd be alone at the hospital surrounded by strangers.
I’ve been sick as a dog before, had to arrange for my mother to take care of drop-off and pick-up of my little ones, because I couldn’t hardly leave the bed-and I STILL don’t put my phone on DND because what if??? Anything could happen!
I'm forty-five, and all my husband or I have to do to override my mom's DND (which she _only_ uses when she and my stepfather are at a play, the movies, a funeral, or something similar) is call three times in less than five minutes. I think that's eminently reasonable, as I'd feel terrible if a random butt-dial interrupted something important.
This has happened in my town before a few years the mom left their kid at school til 7pm the cops and cps was called she was arrested and cps took the kid permanently cause the mom was on hard core drugs.... from what i have heard the kid is doing so much better now and with their dad
Date night at the movies? Should leave the movie theaters number though and instruct the baby sitter to call the theater and ask them to deliver a message if there’s an emergency
You could still receive text messages while in the theater. Silence the ringer, turn down the illumination & check your phone every so often to make sure you haven’t received any emergency texts.
You can set up your phone to ring through for certain numbers. Your kid’s school should ALWAYS be able to get through! I would be horrified if I forgot to pick up my kid and didnt even realize until an hour and a half later!
NTA!! You're more of a responsible parent than the child's actual parents. Which is really heartbreaking. As someone who worked in a school and daycares. Yes, if parents can't be reached after a set amount of time. We would call the police who would call CPS. They should be kissing your feet for picking up their child.
What if her child had thrown up Doring class or broken his arm doring recess Even if the first person on the list responded in that situation would she and her husband not want to know about it? The backup plan failed TWICE because not only did they misunderstand and not pick the kid up They also failed to respond to the school calling them Normal people make their chid's safety their number 1 priority NTA
I keep my phone on DND a lot but it has exceptions - one is if the same number calls twice and two if anyone on my favorites calls me. Mom Is an idiot. Aunt is NTA.
NTA She 💯 did her due diligence & thank God she did. I'm not a parent & frequently keep my phone on silent as constant notifications drive me crazy. That said, I check for messages several times a day (5 to 8). If I were a parent, I would 💯 adjust accordingly. Unfortunately Dusty, you're right, it's not if but when it happens again. I feel sorry for the child. 😢
If you have young kids, at least one parent should have their phone on. You can have that thing where if you get multiple calls from the same number it turns off dnd right? I mean I don't have that option as far as I know but still
Don't say when it happens again. I'm 50 years old, I can't tell you how many times I've had a suggestion or complaint that another has shot down or pushed back, only for them to follow my advice later. No acknowledgement, no sorry, just the new course of action.
I really hope so too. The insults could be her way to cover up her hurt pride, but in reality she is secretly coming up with plans for this to not happen again. People are weird.
I'd tell her to take me off the emergency contact list. But before I did that, I'd talk to the school and tell them to call CPS if they can't reach anyone within 30 minutes, which in many places is the normal school response anyhow. If the parents are going to be that irresponsible, they deserve the consequences.
I thought the same.
I thought the exact same thing
I''m a teacher and I agree with other comments here, she needs to let the school know that they should contact CPS the next time it happens, because you know it will. I'd hate it for the kid to be picked up by them but he deserves better than a Mom that thinks her "me time" is more important than the safety of her child. What if something happened to him at the end of the day?? She wouldn't even know and he'd be alone at the hospital surrounded by strangers.
Op: Take me off the list, I'll just let the school know to report you for child abandonment next time.
Exactly what I came here to comment. Let her learn the consequences to her idiotic actions.
The ONLY reason as a parent of young kids to not answer your phone is if you're unconscious and bleeding from the head.
I’ve been sick as a dog before, had to arrange for my mother to take care of drop-off and pick-up of my little ones, because I couldn’t hardly leave the bed-and I STILL don’t put my phone on DND because what if??? Anything could happen!
My child is in his 30's, lives in a completely different state and I still don't turn my phone off. He is the reason I still have a house phone.
Thank you loving parent. My folks like that with me and I'm in my 30s
I'm forty-five, and all my husband or I have to do to override my mom's DND (which she _only_ uses when she and my stepfather are at a play, the movies, a funeral, or something similar) is call three times in less than five minutes.
I think that's eminently reasonable, as I'd feel terrible if a random butt-dial interrupted something important.
As a former cps investigator, i had to show up many times bc parents forget they are parents. The sad part was, the kids seemed numb to it.
I was waiting for the Dungeons and Dragons part to come into it until I realized it was referring to Do Not Disturb 😅
Same
Turning your phone off for dnd makes sense though...
@@krazycats564 Not if the kids might need to reach you
This has happened in my town before a few years the mom left their kid at school til 7pm the cops and cps was called she was arrested and cps took the kid permanently cause the mom was on hard core drugs.... from what i have heard the kid is doing so much better now and with their dad
When you have kids, your phone should never be on dnd. End of story!
Date night at the movies? Should leave the movie theaters number though and instruct the baby sitter to call the theater and ask them to deliver a message if there’s an emergency
@@Infernal_Hellhoundjust turn down the ringer.
@ you’re supposed to silence your phone during a movie in the theaters
@@Infernal_Hellhounddon't go to movies if you're baby needs a pick up from somewhere
You could still receive text messages while in the theater. Silence the ringer, turn down the illumination & check your phone every so often to make sure you haven’t received any emergency texts.
NTA you can't put your phone on DND when you have young children, unless you KNOW they are with someone you trust
You can set up your phone to ring through for certain numbers. Your kid’s school should ALWAYS be able to get through! I would be horrified if I forgot to pick up my kid and didnt even realize until an hour and a half later!
Longer than that: op called 40 mins after pick-up, mum called back 90 minutes after that, so 130 minutes/over 2 hours
Go ahead and take her off the list.. next call the school makes is the PD.. .Have fun explaining that one to the cops.
NTA!! You're more of a responsible parent than the child's actual parents. Which is really heartbreaking. As someone who worked in a school and daycares. Yes, if parents can't be reached after a set amount of time. We would call the police who would call CPS. They should be kissing your feet for picking up their child.
CP's will be called
NTA tell her remove you from emergency contact
What if her child had thrown up Doring class or broken his arm doring recess Even if the first person on the list responded in that situation would she and her husband not want to know about it? The backup plan failed TWICE because not only did they misunderstand and not pick the kid up They also failed to respond to the school calling them Normal people make their chid's safety their number 1 priority NTA
I don't believe the grandparents would also abandon the kid - it's mum CYA because she forgot the kid
Well that sister is a brat who should not have had kids I hope the school calls the cps next time.
Ok so next time CPS gets called. Hope they enjoy their consequences.
I keep my phone on DND a lot but it has exceptions - one is if the same number calls twice and two if anyone on my favorites calls me. Mom
Is an idiot. Aunt is NTA.
NTA She 💯 did her due diligence & thank God she did. I'm not a parent & frequently keep my phone on silent as constant notifications drive me crazy. That said, I check for messages several times a day (5 to 8).
If I were a parent, I would 💯 adjust accordingly.
Unfortunately Dusty, you're right, it's not if but when it happens again. I feel sorry for the child. 😢
If you have young kids, at least one parent should have their phone on. You can have that thing where if you get multiple calls from the same number it turns off dnd right? I mean I don't have that option as far as I know but still
It's an absolutely not for me! You don't ever turn your phone off where the school is concerned. NTS
Don't say when it happens again. I'm 50 years old, I can't tell you how many times I've had a suggestion or complaint that another has shot down or pushed back, only for them to follow my advice later. No acknowledgement, no sorry, just the new course of action.
I really hope so too. The insults could be her way to cover up her hurt pride, but in reality she is secretly coming up with plans for this to not happen again. People are weird.
So does she just not like her kid or something?
Take me off…I no longer care…you do you boo boo…
Hoping sister is just defensive because she's embarrassed she messed up.
uhmmm... Put on an alarm.
They arranged for grandparents to pick the kid up so they could nap? Kinda sus
Just another account of people not enjoying parenting.
My phone is on permanent DND except my parents and my brother and my work
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