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He uses the utilities. He is there more nights than not, he needs to be introduced and paying rent.

NTA. I think I would end an relationship as well, if my partner cares more about getting a "vision" realized,than gettin married to whom she is supposed to love that much, that the surrounding won't matter that much. And Hawaiian beach in the moonlight with the sparkling ocean ...damn that's f*ing romantic! Her insisting on having it her way,eads me to the conclusion, that she is either immature or totally self- centered or both. And that's not the kind of person you want to marry

typical low-T Boomer Simp advice.... husband is FIRST priority he's her main job he NEEDS sex, he needs that 1 on 1 time.

it took him hours to get home which is suss

This woman needs to go out and touch grass. Stop living in the fantasy of the internet, 9 times out of 10 the proposal videos like that is pre-meditated and fake. The trip to Hawaii would make me want to marry him with no proposal!! She would deffo exclude people who don’t look good from wedding photos.

Sorry but Dusty is wrong here. Roommates are taking advantage and I would definitely code that shit!

Please don't judge the girl and her priorities now. She is soooo young and the frontal lobe for both needs more development. Also they know for years they will get married.

I don't use dishwasher to clean it use it as a drying rack 😂

We knew each other at school and lost touch for 9yrs when i left for college. 3 weeks after we found each other again and started dating he woke me up asking if i wanted coffee, i said yes. He asked me to marry him, i said yes. . I thought i was still agreeing to coffee 😂 i went for a cig (i quit yrs ago now don’t come for me lol), came back to bed and asked if he just proposed cause i thought id imagined it. His poor face he looked so worried when he said he had, i just started smiling and told him i just needed to check and im saying yes. I asked him why so soon after we started dating and he said “i lost you once before, im not loosing you again”. Turned out he’d had a crush on me the entire time we were at school and i never knew 😅 I never want that proposal to change, inc the fact i had full on bed head and morning face 😂 we’ve been married 10 years, together for 14. Hes a pain in my arse, my best friend and my world ❤

She was warned, she could have listened.

I never even got a proposal. 😂 We both just assumed it was going to happen, then eventually picked a date.

There's a second update. Apparently her therapist talked some sense into her and told her what Dusty and Candy were saying - that something as superficial as the proposal doesn't matter if she loves him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him. She's come around and apologized, but OP isn't having it and they've broken up.

I think I sat on the ring box when I got in my boyfriend/future husbands car! 😂 That was my proposal, pretty much. It’s a great memory.

This woman sounds impossible. I'm exhausted just hearing about her.

NTA there's only one person in the relationship as far as she's concerned and its her, this relationship is over.

My hubby asked me over the phone. He was in Florida for military training and I was in Virginia. A few days later he came for a long weekend visit and we went ring shopping. After we got back to my house he asked again, down on one knee, in the hallway of my house. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It worked for us. We've been married for 21 years. ❤️

This guy took her to HAWAII and it still wasn’t enough! NTA break up and dodge that bullet.

When I proposed to my wife it was Christmas morning and she wouldn't stop and sit down when I asked her to multiple times so I tossed her the ring and told her to open it when she wanted to. That was 30 years ago.

Instagram Generation

OP makes no sense. Why even get the TV for the mutual space if you’re not going to share it with everyone and you already have a TV in your room, and OP said they wanted a TV for the living room so that people would watch out there instead of piling in their bedroom? If you want something for just yourself, keep it your private space or don’t have it at all. It’s that simple. OP is only causing unnecessary drama at this point.

Sounds like a girl with a dream to me

Hes a total jerk.

Put it in your room if you don't want to share. I agree with you Dusty. OP is the ass in my opinion. If he doesn't want to share the TV in his room, lock your room and tell them if they want a communal TV they can pitch in for one.

My now husband proposed with cake 😂 ❤

Put it in your room

I'm a moth, I love light and sparkles. That said, if I met the right person, I would happily accept a proposal in the lighting section of Home Depot.

Nope. You’re totally wrong. OP is under no obligation to share as they refused to chip in. He’s also under no obligation to not use communal space as he wants to. You completely missed it on this one.

Run man run. Don't look back.

We don't know her tone, we can only assume. But why couldn't he wait until he could plan and include some of the elements she had always dreamed of.

When my husband propose to me, we we at the Santa Cruz Beach, both in jeans and sweatshirts and he just said “I have something for you” before getting down on one knee and asking me to marry him. My right hand was also broken. I wouldn’t have it any other way

A proposal does not a marriage make. These people have watched too much TikTok and Instagram and yes, TH-cam and TV if you love someone it doesn’t matter how they ask just that they do.

Sadly yes many people view children born from affairs the the same judgment as the cheating parent. My mother tried to play nice but in the end she couldn't see my half sibs as anything more than proof of my dad cheating.

She's gonna end up divorced. How does that look? How does being divorced look? My husband told me when he was going to propose.

He should run! What that’s going to be is a nagging wife who is all about money . She should be building him up, supportive , caring and kind . This is a nightmare

It is kind of unrealistic to expect to get 10 to 15 years out of a appliance nowadays though

Candy brings a mature perspective to the topic. Sounds like you have a new merchandise idea. “Love fades, Insta likes last forever”

YTA . You know how she’s wants it done and didn’t do anything remotely close. Her reaction was OT Edit: after watching more shes TA not you. She changed what she wanted and is being dramatic, I see why you’re reconsidering.

My husband proposed when I was laying on the couch watch a movie in my pajamas. It was perfect.

Just be lucky someone is in love with you enough to propose. Who cares what it "looks" like. As they say, it's the thought that counts. If you want a shallow relationship, I guess you're on the right track. Hopefully this experience will help her grow up and realize how shallow she was being.

I have this shirt! 😍

Lol the way people are defending him… like you wanna marry the woman, get to KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS. Also, she is an ah too but y’all assuming way too much coz she wants something many people do. If she sees him as the only ONE then yeah, makes sense she wants to have the way she wants it. But also when generation after generation tells you women are more meant to be the ones most involved with weddings.

She's high maintenance...Run!

How can someone be so cruel-she doesn’t love him.

The wedding does not make a marriage! Just like the proposal is not about the “looks” but about the LOVE!! Don’t marry her!! Move on. She’s too superficial. Much love and peace to you! 🫶🏼

I think both OP and his GF are too young and immature to be considering marriage. The girlfriend needs to get off social media so that she can reconnect with who she is as a person, but OP also knows what she is like right now and then is upset that she is acting accordingly. Obviously the GF has a lot of maturing to do, but give her props for consistency. It isn't fair to yourself to be with someone who is preoccupied with optics, and it isn't reasonable to expect them to just magically change when they've given you zero indication that they will.

ESH He admits this isn’t what she wanted and reads that as a rejection of everything to do with him. She ran away and threw a fit when something wasn’t 100% her vision. Neither of these people are mature enough for marriage.

No OP knew exactly what she wanted and refused to do it. This is like that guy who bought the cruise tickets. Just because you put money into something that doesn't mean you deserve credit. Some things GF said were concerning like the proposal only being about the bride, but he sucks majorly. They are too young to get married, but good she's not with him anymore.

My husband called me and said do you want to get married on Fri or Mon? That was it no ring no nothing we are married for 36 years.

It was raining. Star Trek: TOS was on the UHF channel in his living room. We were eating graham crackers. The question was so from his heart in that moment, that he hadn't even procured a ring yet. Our marriage lasted 36 years before cancer took him. Social media didn't exist way back then. Live your lives the way you like, not for "likes".