Does She Like You..Or Is She Just Being Nice?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ค. 2024
- In this video I go over how to tell if she likes you, or if she's just being nice. I get a ton of questions from you guys about this so I hope you all find this video helpful! Let me know what you want me to talk about next and leave a comment down below if you've been in this situation.. always love to hear your stories!
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She liked my meme, so I think things are getting pretty serious
I think it's time to go buy a wedding ring.
bruh she saw my stories. Where should I take her for the honeymoon? :P
Lol
Kip! long time no see!
😂😂😂
Personally, I'd much rather a girl just straight up tell me that she's not interested in me than for her to pretend that she does and intentionally lead me on
Facts I been there, don’t like the feeling rather have shit be straight the same way I am with them ya know?
Girls are to emo and care about your feelings to do that. But chances are if you are feeling like she is not interested is because she is in fact not interested. You are just blinded by emotion but your instincts are on point.
@@dnegel9546 But you could never be 100% sure unless she straightforwardly tells you. Like in my case: When I tried to get close, she always managed to slip away, but when I was backing down for a few day, she tried to get close and flirt.
It has happened several times, and I'm quite sure it's not my blind emotion. I'm interested in her but it's far from love and I would have no problem if she doesnt like me. But she just keeps getting in and out, keeping me guessing, neither refusing nor accepting, which drives me nut.
They like the attention
@@aclock2 if she does this one more time or so, just be straight up honest and confront her with your intentions. if she avoids the issue or doesn't know how to reply, then she's just into the attention and not into you. i'd just drop it and move on.
No matter if you are a man or a woman be direct with your feelings!! Dont give people false expectations, because it hurts them more in a long term.
Sad thing is I used to think I never attracted girls, and I did, but it was usually shy girls who didn't make the move, and I was suppose to try and assume their feelings through subtle approaches. As soon as I said something that sounds like rejection, rip! Happened a couple of times when I was a lot younger.
Not the best advice ever. Never be direct about your feelings until she initiated. Girls likes to flirt and so should you, they’d rather be indirect. If you directly tell them you like them that creates a huge tension and she might not have had enough feelings yet so hang out a free times, let her have feelings for you, let her initiate that conversation, until then enjoy the intimate moments. Being too direct kills all the fun.
@@Akrazzyy women need to be direct and men too
I disagree. I've had the roles were reversed, I would feel assuming the girl is pursuing me to be narcissistic, same vibe as "I have a boyfriend". So a woman may not know you're into them or at least suspects you are, but if she just bluntly says she's not into you, but you weren't pursing then it's very narcissistic. Just learn when things are actually reciprocal as the video says.
Ya but they crave the attention. That way they can go to their friends and say, "Oh my god, this guy won't leave me alone! 😊"
When you said "or she's a narcissist." You made me so happy, I just needed the validation.
Same
yeah, we probably ain't missing much by ignoring those signs
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
"She doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but long term doesn''t mind destroying you."
True so true
Amen.
Genius. Well said!
That's your problem though, chasing after somebody for months when there's no real interest
@@tramarthomas6105 Who are you talking to?
I generally go with the "she’s just being a nice person" to a female who’s friendly. I’m almost never wrong.
✔️
Me too.
You need to learn to read their body language. When women are attracted to you most of the time they will display subtle signs. Theirs video's on this subject.
@Blue collar Hero lol really?
@@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 yeah I actually agree, I’ve noticed when someone gives the signs, but usually girls if they try they’ll only do it for like 5 minutes and if we don’t react exactly when they want, they move on.
Always assume someone is being nice/polite and never be bothered with those unable to express what they think and feel.
Having been married for 22 years and recently divorced, it's interesting to listen to you, although I'm still a very long way off from wanting to start thinking about dating again. Lots of good suggestions. I remember walking through a busy grocer back when I was first married. When we left the store my wife told me that 5 women had hit on me and I was completely oblivious to it.
Sorry about that Rick. It sucks, divorce does. My ex-wife constantly told me about women hitting on me, and I wasn't even aware. I wasn't paying attention; which should have gotten to her thick brain, that I really was devoted to her. As for divorce...they say it gets better, but after 2 years, I don't know. Some things get better. That shellshocked feeling you get right after it is final goes away. You are angry, you are sad, and then angry, on and on. Holidays suck and so do birthdays, but I have also seen it as a good opportunity to just be myself with myself by myself. Does that make sense? I am not dating yet either, but I keep my options open. Most days it is okay to be single. You only have yourself to answer to. We never had any kids, so there is not that concern in my life. I have grown up a lot....basically I am saying that there can be positives from a negative ugly situation.
She was lying to you brah, that absolutely never happened. Dudes are clueless, you would absolutely know if a woman was hitting on you 😂
I'm married and happens alot now.
My rule: I ONLY initiate text conversations twice, then stop. If she doesn’t initiate after, that’s it. I stop talking to that one. That goes for personal interest or female friends, reciprocity is the measure.
100% in agreeance with you my guy. I'm exactly the same way. Two txt initiations and if she doesn't initiate on the third chat? Game over. Disappointed? Yes but i'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. Her loss not mines.
This is best )
I am not texting anybody 🤣
Smart man
@@blinkzone1 What if she always replies to your text?
Courtney is talking to us a lot and giving us her direct attention. Is she just being friendly or does she like us? 😂 😂 😂
Man idk! What should I say??!
She's not looking at us, she's looking at me
@@Richard-wp6ep No, she's was looking me. I saw her first.
she's letting us down gently.
@@kevinmalone3210 I'm too high for this shit 🤣 🤣
I went through all of this, and I finally, after about 4 months, got her actually into me. In the end, it didnt workout but it was an insane learning experience. This video has helped me understand even more where i went wrong and why she would do the things she did.
If anyone is wondering how I went from her just being nice and us being friends to her actually wanting me, what changed was an increase in confidence, being a lot less needy, not being afraid to speak my mind and i massively improved my flirting just through techniques i found on YT.
I also threw in some simple and funny dirty talk ("you can get undressed in front of me i dont mind" kind of stuff), better eye contact, broke the touch barrier e.t.c. The main issue guys have is a lack of belief in themselves. If you think you can get her into you and when the time is right you flirt well and give off the right signs, play it cool, its actually pretty straightforward tbh.
I'm not sure how I came across your videos, but I'm glad I did. You're insightful, direct and succinct. Thank you!
I learned a long time ago, she's just being nice. Always.
How tall are you?
@@Mogamishu I'm 6'1" of ugly bastard
@@zachw2538 me too just a couple inches shorter
I’m 6’4, 6 figures of “such a good friend”. 😈
Same bro I just assume most girls are Bing nice I made the mistake of assuming a girl who is just being nice to liking me and it always ended with it being awkward
I smashed the Like button, but don't get it twisted. I'm just being nice.
🤣😂🤣 toxic
Good point.
😂😂😂😂😂
You took it to far. Just give her the view. Not the like.
🅿️ushin 🅿️
I been going toy local convenient market gas station and had conversations with a attractive woman. Haven't seen her the past year to recently couple weeks ago, and she gave me a big smile. Seen her the next week walking in and immediately i noticed her eyes light up with big smile peeking under the food rack checking me out. That made my day😁. Week later she walk out the store while getting out of my car and she walk up to me smiling and said hello, and i responded the same then she went to her car. Im a gentleman and seeing where this might go. Im a introvert but more comfortable with people i know.
I really like this TH-cam channel because she always tells it how it is and doesn't sugarcoat anything. I can tell she's trying to be as honest as she can.
“I can’t say I’ve ever really ghosted somebody”
Fellas like this comment if you didn’t believe that bullshit for one second
lmao no way in hell when she was in her teens and early 20's she ghosted all the time 100%
If you're a woman you've ghosted a few rugby teams worth of men in your life.
Alexis Valdovinos are you that desperate for validation?
as a girl myself, I can tell you that as soon as a girl is conventionally attractive, she has probably ghosted someone at least once.
Absolutely. Technology as a whole is great, but it's given people the ability to filter out anything they don't feel like dealing with. Young people, and even some older people, are so terrified of any kind of confrontation and it's so easy to enable that with just a click of the "unfriend" and "block" buttons. It's absolutely embarrassing. All that over something that's most likely a misunderstanding that could've been solved with a fucking sentence or two.
Courtney likes me. I can tell by how she looks at me through the video🥰
Lmao me too
Same
Dude you just cracked me up
you and the other millions of viewers.. 😂
Lmaoo she is just being nice.. thats her job
I respect that you actually respect your followers! Alot of these female hosted channels seem to make men think it's okay to simp over a woman instead of being the man you should be.
I don't need too much help in this situation.. however, it's always nice to know some tricks to keep a conversation light and fun.. I watch this more for regular interaction with women. Men and women are very different creatures.
Here's an example,.. I can naturally talk about Cars, Fitness and Boxing all day but as soon as you start talking to women about it they'll lose interest if you drag it on. But men could sit there all day and talk.
So it's just nice to know what women appreciate in conversations.. no one wants to be redundant or boring no matter who they're talking with.
Courtney does a great job for this; she is being informational in a very intellectual and common-sense direction.
There is a community of women who are probably outraged that Courtney is giving valuable trade secrets. She’s on our team 🙌🏽🔥💪🏽
No, she's making money off you watching her ramble on without really having to deal with you.
@@2birddogsandawolfdog945 right xd, but still she is helping you isn't she
most of this shit is obvious tho...
@@cope_r3270 Me?? No. I'm just reading through all the simps in the comments!! 🤣It's basically a money making machine. Same as guys throwing money at baristas wearing bikinis or strippers. Put a decent looking chick on a video that puts on a sympathy talk and all these guys get their feelers all tingly. If she'd open a live chat, OMG these idiots would throw their life savings at her hoping for a phone number.
@@2birddogsandawolfdog945 she really should consider live streaming. The super chats would flow in… 😄
I always like to tell my buddies that if you are in touch with yourself, and your objective is to live a good, fulfilling life (as opposed to solely chasing women, getting laid etc) - you will never put yourself in a situation where you need to worry about whether or not she likes you like that.
You will create platonic joy and depth with the people you interact with, women or otherwise. And that will always feel amazing and fill your heart. Winning female affection will become much less of an obsession.
And when a woman does have romantic feelings for you, the indications will be obvious. Women will make an effort to pursue a good man in their network. You just need to work on yourself!
These are great insights!
What is it they say about a man in his 50s: he finally becomes the man he always wished he would be. :)
Honestly just be yourself, your fun/funny confident version of yourself and be ambitious, and a women will eventually like you
@@Blinkers2007GameDev not if you are not attractive, that gets your foot in the door.
I agree that you should have a purpose in life and know what you are doing. This attracts girls. But I would not hope too much that they will reach out to you first. It depends on the culture, but still girls do that very rarely. At best, she can give you some signs, but this can be very misleading, as explained in this video. So with girls you should behave the same way is in life: know what you want and go ahead irrespectively of whether you think that she likes you
Hi Cortney, Good day!
I recently started watching your videos in TH-cam and I feel lot of them (almost all) that I watched are nice, educating and sensable without any melodrama and straight into the point.
Cheers for that.
Thank you so much for making this. A lot of us men really get
Confused
By
Some woman’s or most of their mixed signals. This is huge to note. This could’ve saved me a lot of time, money and pain a year ago that Oom
E 7 months
To get
Over a girl that was just enjoying my company in bed, living with
Me for a few
Months and almost having my baby(!). I would’ve spent the rest of my life with this woman, if given the chance, and now looking back a year later and watching this video, I asked myself what was I thinking so glad to have a new perspective and dodging so many bullets of women seemingly interested. No thanks. This guy
Doesn’t eat only “affection crumbs” like he used to… that’s so messed up how women are seriously encouraged to be narcissist in our society more so now than ever before, in the history of mankind.
Me a lot
Not sure about other guys, but when I was younger a girl literally had to throw herself on me for me to pick up on whether she liked me. It's years later that I figured out a lot of girls were flirting and I couldn't get their obvious signals. Now only married moms hit on me.
@ DM - They ALWAYS claim that they give "obvious' signals, so you NEVER really find out what was happening.
Not your fault. They just get away with being awkward.
Agreed!
I'm exactly the same, I don't have a clue
@@AppleBottomJ 🙄then grow a little bit of courage for 10 seconds and tell him your true feelings. Literally just one small moment of courage is all it takes. We men have to do it all the time.
#1 She never initiates conversations but she keep replying
#2 Bails last minute
#3 Touching
#4 No deep conversations/questions
#5 Attention
#6 Behavior with other guys
Just being nice to you
@@DigvijaySingh-ct7lu she likes the attention
@@rick-ry3kj probably
I learnt that the hard way last night, I broke down fr n spent all night picking myself back up, I haven't slept for 26 hours cos I'm scared of sleeping now
@@ktbecstasy damn bro I hope you got some sleep, I wouldn't tell you to change your whole life at once, you gotta put out 1 fire at a time, focus on getting some sleep, once you got that down improve your diet, then go to the gym, in a matter of a month or two, you'll get the rubber to meet the pavement
I was at a restaurant the other day and this girl and I were having a conversation, she was giving me all of her attention, eye contact and she was asking me all sorts of questions about myself like how I like my steak cooked. She was even taking notes!! I think she must like me
Just always tell myself they’re just being nice, puts my mind at ease.
Hey, I got it!!! To be on the safe side, just regard any and every woman you meet as "only trying to be nice." You'll never expect anything from them nor be disappointed, this way. Thanks, Courtney!
Facts💯
I assume every woman is a lesbian even if they do all the signs because even if a woman sleeps with you, she can just be doing it because she's being nice.
And then you'll never have a romantic partner ever!
blessed is he who expects nothing - for he is never disappointed
This the way life ought to be lived. Assume the least of everyone.
In a relationship for years. But does she like you?
The answer is...its' hard to tell.
haha....but also yeah, truth. feels.
Being in a long term relationship doesn’t stop you from feeling attracted to other people. Crushes other than your significant other let you know how much the relationship means to you.
U dont understand how real this is. Its funny but its not a joke
Casuallyexplained level of uncertainty
@@NeptuneJr hahahah yess bro
First off, I back what you are doing! It's nice to know that I am not the only non femi-nazi out there nowadays! love sharing your videos with my friends who I have supported from many a self-proclaiming woman. And I love the way you used the expression "the bees-knees!" Funny, I was just thinking of you as "Rosie the Riveter." You are bringing back the older, better ways in which women really were true feminists who stood by their men. Men need to be heard. Now first thought on this video, pimps, anyone?? I even dated a narcissist abuser like that. He gave me everything "my heart desired..." He was what dreams were made of, spending lots of money on me, like on fancy motels and dinners. He thought women should look "pretty." He also liked hiding me and even on occasion tried selling me. That's what they do and I think that's what suckers a lot of women in, is the excessive spending! Any beast who focuses more on vanity to me (like the Divas you spoke of), that's a major red flag. I have always preferred your "museum" idea.
Some of this was tough love, but got the answers I needed. Thank you; there's a reason you're the best. Cheers!
This is so much more awkward with the waitress sitting next to me in th3 car. I ain't getting any answers that make sense !
I knew a guy in school who (I think) was somewhere on the spectrum. he had a lot of trouble forming social connections, and most people (especially girls) would just dismiss him. so every now and again, when he'd meet a girl who simply wasn't rude to him... was just being polite... he would end up thinking that they liked him. I always felt bad for him for that. I saw him get hurt several times because of it.
jeff -- I was that dude.
😮
Yeah being on the spectrum makes attracting girls a billion times harder
Random Dude: Courtney, I think this chick likes me. She keeps rubbing my back.
Courtney: She's a massage therapist, it's her job.
Me: LOL!!!!
😂😂😂😂 I’m laughing!
Same happend to me! My massage therapist started whispering in my ear if i was enjoying it. I answerd positively.
Then she started kissing my neck, And biting my ears. A bit strange but probably part of the procedure
At the end of the session, she winked at me, asked if i was free tonight, And if i wanted a happy ending at her place. I had to do tax returns, so i said no and explained that to her. She got mad afterwards.
Tbh i just think she was being nice, and didn’t think much about it.
@@CourtneyRyan I have a good one for you... Long time ago I met this girl at work. She was a packet she pack orders she would ask me everyday to help her and to get her orders for her. Then she got a job up front in the office. I would be in the door way and she would be in the parking lot and I would hear her call out to me Mark cook so I would run to her and I would say yes Ashley she said walk with me she did that 4 times what did she meant by that ? And asking me to help her everyday? I was in love with her but I made mistakes and she acts like she hates me now.
@@CourtneyRyan you're probably just being nice
@@gentlebabarian damn I didn't know massage therapies end with winks, ear kisses and house invitations. Must be a VIP service!
Girl: “I wanna baby with you… 🥵”
Courtney: “Top signs that she is already pregnant with some douchebag and pin the pregnancy on you”
and she'll make sure you pay for the child support.....
Damn girl at least take me out to dinner first
Ain’t even joking!
DNA!
😂 I know three guys this happened to. 😢
Thank You for making this Courtney Ryan, this video is really needed.
Don’t even have to watch this....she’s just being nice. The end. 😆
Lol true
Why do women and dating in general have to be so complicated 🤣
Mgtow is the only way
Its not, your just over complicating it.
It's actually quite simple. The girl determines whether or not she will let you fuck her within the first 3 seconds of scanning you from head to toe. It's either a ✅ or a 🚫. Anything you do or say after that decision has been made is completely irrelevant in the grand scheme of things.
Hormones
@@nonexistenceisbliss9528 and you probably think the friend zone is real 😂🤣😂 that 3sec decision is made every time they see you🤔 you choose to enforce the yes or no
First off, I back what you are doing! It's nice to know that I am not the only non femi-nazi out there nowadays! love sharing your videos with my friends who I have supported from many a self-proclaiming woman. And I love the way you used the expression "the bees-knees!" Funny, I was just thinking of you as "Rosie the Riveter." 💪You are bringing back the older, better ways in which women really were true feminists who stood by their men. Men need to be heard. Now first thought on this video, pimps, anyone?? I even dated a narcissist abuser like that. 😠He gave me everything "my heart desired..." He was what dreams were made of, spending lots of money on me, like on fancy motels and dinners. He thought women should look "pretty." He also liked hiding me and even on occasion tried selling me. That's what they do and I think that's what suckers a lot of women in, is the excessive spending! Any beast who focuses more on vanity to me (like the Divas you spoke of), that's a major red flag 🚩 . I have always preferred your "museum" idea.
Just discovered this series of videos. I think that you are spot on with your observations some of which I have learned through painful experience. In others, that I don't have personal experience with, it's reassuring to know that my instincts/suspicions have been confirmed. Med do need an education about these things and women should not assume that these insights come naturally to us. They don't and reason being that hope springs eternal.
You're the person who tells people what they need to hear vs. what they want to hear. Quality tips
#2 is spot on. I cut off a girl last year and blocked her for good after we never met in person and she always bailed with one excuse after another. After the 3rd time, I disappeared
like clockwork!! definitely a big one to pay attention to 👏🏼
@@CourtneyRyan I like to use the baseball method, strike 1, strike 2, strike 3, you're out 👎🏻
That is definitely a good decision you made.
I have 1 BIG tip for all of us guys, I don't say it's 100% right, but a lot of the times it is...
If a guy asks a girl out on a date, she finds an excuse or really can't fit into his plan, if she wants to hang out with him and be with him, she will definitely suggest next time when she is free to go out even if it's in a week or two from the time he asked her...
I don't even suggest giving her a second or third chance...
I think we all are special and awesome and we should treat ourselves like that...
I hope I helped someone :)
@@jovanjovanovic3442 In my case, I initiated the first 2 times and got bailed on so I took a step back and let her initiate it. Before the 3rd and final came, she initiated while I took a step back and still cancelled. To me, she was just seeking attention and validation which is why #2 is good advice. Keep doing your thing and help others, we all can learn from each other 🙏🏻🙂
@@johngonzalez4298 The baseball method killed me 😂 I couldn’t have put it better myself!
Courtney, your videos should be shown in every 6th grade classroom, as a public service. Wish you had been around when I was an adolescent.
While I appreciate Courtney's advice and have to give her credit my "lifelong" experience tells me there are so many women that were "frustrated" at me (as I found out later) that I did not pursue them because I "interpreted" their "politeness" as them "just doing their job"! So many times when I was working in "public service" women would "chat me up" or pursue some form of "discourse" with me (extensively so!) and it was I who was "just being nice". LOL! Oh well. Nevertheless a great and valuable video.
"Does she like me or is she just being nice?"
Twelve minutes later: "She doesn't like you. She is just being nice."
I had the opposite. "She is just being nice" by the end I am like "Shit maybe she does like me" at the end of the day the best way to find out is to ask them out. if they say no they say no. Tell them to have a nice day and walk away. Its hard though!
@@TheBanana93 That is definitely an option when you just meet someone by accident. Not that easy to just walk away when you actually know the person, and meet them on a regular basis.
@@jirkazalabak1514 i met a girl in my college...and i am always in a doubt, some day i think
she likes me. The other day is shy... or the third day - just being nice
Yeah i only initiate conversations and i don't really know what to do now
Should i ignore her... don't talk much or huuuhhh!!!
My city is too small if you ask someone out you will see them again.
In which you she may like you? I am a woman so I can like a man for his physics, but that's not enough to want to date. I may like his wisdom, but if comes as cold ans arrogant, I lose interest. So you see, needs to be a balance. As with men. In the dating process, any moment you can be damped or rejected there are risks in everything. Just be mature and have not too many expectations. Or at least keep expectations low and do not fantasizes something that is not there still.
I'm 21 now and I wish I knew all of this when I was 17. And even tho I don't consider myself old, I recommend to all teens who subscribed to Courtney's channel to listen carefully. You will save yourself valuable time and energy by letting go of someone who is not truly interested in you.
Same here. o /
You sound like me
Amen
Totally, specially for teenage girls it's really hard to be assertive in this subject.
I'm still learning and I'm almost 49. Eventually I developed the ability to not give a fuck about the outcome of flirting which is the secret. Now it's fun and not as stressful
Thank you, this was so helpful!
Dear Courtney… I wish I would stumble upon your channel couple years ago! After 12 years of relationship going back to dating world… I don’t know what I am doing - thank you for making it clearer!
Best way to tell if she likes you is to ask her out on a date. Anything other than yes means she isn't interested. The body language, eye contact, etc that Courtney mentioned is also important.
Very true, it saves your time and energy 😏
What if she is a widow? Her husband died 5 years ago.
Nope. Do not ask any woman on a date without knowing her a bit. Mostly if you approach her online. Many women are scared for safety reasons and would like to know some things before meeting up. So many men rush these things I lose interest when a men after few messages asks me out. I end up finding a fault or ghost him, or he ghosts me after I find something to put him off. I want a man to take the time to decide whether he wants to meet. I would meet him after 1-2 weeks conversations.
Five or six weeks of intermittent intense texting may have been waiting too long to ask her out in person.
@@ana-maria448 to take his time, after 1-2 weeks ? :D
Damn. I haven't had a conversation started by a woman to me outside of work in , gosh how many years.
When Courtney puts it like this I realise how repellant and cringe I am .
Damn that hits a spot
I've literally never had a woman initiate a conversation with me so you're doing better than I am! (and I just turned 34 lol)
U just realised
Bruh 😨
@@erikbeckstrand3748 they have me,only when they want something.
Keep in mind in the U.S. it's the man's job to get the ball rolling with the girl. Sounds doable on the surface, but the problem is that if a woman does like you, just who is the 'you' she likes? While men are pretty flexible in getting to know a women, with women they will have a whole 'play' that they need you to perform in, and you will be graded on how well you play your part. You'll only have a chance if you make it past the audition and opening night. The weird thing is if you win them over with this charade if you turn out to be a complete asshole they may actually stay with you. It's so strange...
The part about workers and co workers is very accurate. If a coworker or peer is just as nice or even more nice outside of school or your job it seems to be more likely.
I say that all the time, be straight with the other person, honest and truthful, it might hurt you and the other person, but eventually its the best option.
sadly my dad doesn't understands this. whenever my dad sees a girl talking to me he'll try to encourage me to talk to her and get me to believe she's into me and I tell him just because someone talks to you DOESN'T mean they like you
I'm sure he understands seeing how he managed to reproduce via making you
Maybe because your father has a better understanding of female nature, or he thinks women are the same as the ones he met back then, i cannot tell for sure.
@@onceuponarevenant9409 well it’s different nowadays based on how women are taught by female rappers and other bad influences from other women. Also I’ve had girls flirt, talk and even touch me and still didn’t mean that she likes me. So I have a really tough time telling if a girl likes me so I just leave it alone at this point
Right! He asked why i dont give my co-worker a ride home? Huh? She doesn't know me like that.
Listen to your dad, go chat them up, make them laugh and actually listen when they talk to you. It WILL turn her on and she'll be even more interested.
Me: So, does a girl likes me?
Courtney: The quick answer is NO!!
Me: Darn.
Dude - don't give up. Work on yourself, and use women as motivation. The particular woman that you are using for motivation may not be the woman you end up with, but you can decide to improve yourself. No PMO is a great place to start, as well as exercising. Set some fitness goals, work hard, again do the no PMO thing. At some point you'll be content on your own, and the right woman will just come along. Again I will stress this point - no PMO works wonders as it increases testosterone.
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@@aodh5966 women should not be a motivation for improvement, that would be chasing validation from them
@@rick-ry3kj not validation, I know I'm relatively good looking, but I also know that many women prefer other guys and wouldn't like me at all. Validation is weak, self confidence is key
@@aodh5966 yea
I know this came out three years ago, but I just have to say I like how you explain all of this. I dunno it's just you're not over the top and you sound reliable. So thank you
Thank you so much for the tips, I have watched a lot videos and never came across anything informative as the one.
What hurts the most is the day you hear no dude I don't see you that way you're just a friend
That's melting 😂😂
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Gosh! Courtney, you're a living legend...everything you talk about is so relatable and straight to the point. I appreciate that.
so i have a female friend which is very introverted show some signs, so i came here to make sure. but after a while i remembered she just has no male friends so it just new to her
but this video still kind of helped so thank you
i still am impressed that she manages to rep my messages in literally seconds even if she is offline, i could never do that
Great vid.
Just shows that every girl I've ever been interested in, every girl I've made laugh in messages or in person, doesn't actually like me! 😂😂
Especially loved the tip about asking questions. Sometimes it's hard to pay attention to whether or not the other person is really engaging in the conversation until reflecting on it afterwards. Great insights, thanks for sharing!
I always recognize whether she's asking me questions or not. If someone's interested in you, they'll ask about you. Plus if I feel like I'm just interviewing her, I get bored real quick, and then I actually lose interest.
1 Is she obligated?
2 Actively messaging first ?
"" Cancels last minute?
Touches you/comes closer?
Asks personal questions?
Gives attention?
How she flirt with other guys? Or treat you different?
Nothing happens except 2 seconds of eye contact and "does she likes me ?"
This is valuable, because for most of my adult life I was getting it wrong on BOTH sides, to the extent that I got too timid, and in retrospect lost a lot of opportunities with women who were very interested in me, but I was only 95% sure instead of 100% sure so I didn't make a calculated reciprocation.
Valuable video. This situation is sooo puzzling , but this helps.
i am on the verge of quitting social media. it's just too psyhco and everyone has developed some narcistic traits. It's usually just "me, me, me"...
Definitely. I'm thinking about selling my phone and getting rid of all my social media (except for TH-cam). Society is getting more superficial by the day and the most prudent thing would be to just stop cold turkey with all this surface level shite. My generation will all have such awful mid-life crises.
I did it months ago and I would recommend to do so the fact I have felt great for months now is amazing it’s a different type of good when you feel good for like 99% of the time instead of just good here and there because of a dopamine hit or something
Hope you gave it a try! Deactivated Facebook and Messenger for 6 months and felt great, back on Facebook now but primarily to upload artwork, same with Instagram. Using practically no chat services that don't involve work/business or planning meetings, and the silence is golden. Been some whiny people who think I'm upset with them or who complain about how they're supposed to get in touch (the latter usually the same people who only want to text and cancel meetups consistently). Found that people contact me when they actually want something as opposed to when they're bored these days.
@@salthcreative5540 I kid you not!! I replied to you and my answer go deleted. I did NOT use any profane or triggering words. I just wrote how I did try it out and it has changed my life for the better. (My time is limited to write it again.) The heck is going on with TH-cam?
@@NoctLightCloud The hell? Damn site is going mental.
Anyways, good to hear it turned out well!
You’re spot on in this video. I ran into the girls who canceled at the last minute and girls who didn’t ask me questions. Before seeing this video, I did recognize the sign. I didn’t pursue and stopped communicating with them entirely. This video re-enforces my thinking. Thanks.
The questions bit was one of the biggest tells for me. I was seeing this girl for a bit, and I think for her it was out of loneliness/boredom. Because, not only did a lot of things feel superficial on the few dates we went on, but she never really asked me any real questions, no attempts to try and get to know me, though I would ask her things about herself.
Things felt one-sided very quick, and so I had to end it.
It’s really interesting hearing this while I’m trying to figure this out. I met a girl at a party a couple weeks ago and we had a really great conversation and it led to me getting her Snapchat. She mentioned that she works at a bar and I decided to take a couple of friends with me to go there when she was working and while I was there I asked her if she wanted to get dinner some time.
But anytime I hear the “she doesn’t text you first” but I always start to panic because I’ve only text her first ever (granted it took me like a week to even text her at all which I kinda wish I hadn’t done). But when it comes to eye contact we are constantly catching each other looking at each other. I genuinely can’t tell whether she likes me or not but all of my friends insist that she’s totally in to me.
I’m in a similar situation. Some of these signs apply and some don’t. I’ve become friends with this girl at work and just for some context, she’s a scientist and I’m a “lab supplies technician”, meaning I deliver supplies to the floor she works on. She had randomly acquainted herself with me a few months back and has been initiating conversations with me every so often since then. I say every so often bc there are days when it gets real busy and she’ll only have time for a “hello” or a “nod of acknowledgement”. But all of the conversations we’ve had in person have been initiated by her. She’ll also wave at me and say hi whenever she sees me and sometimes says things like, “hi, again” whenever she walks past me. Another thing too that’s on this list is that she makes eye contact with me all the time, especially when we talk. Most notably, she was, one time, pushing a cart with beakers on it past me and said, “hey[my name]” then proceeded to lock eyes with me for a solid 3 seconds while still pushing the cart forward. I had told a platonic girl friend of mine about it and she, with full confidence, went, “oh she likes you.” I gave her my number a month ago and she liked that I did but didn’t text me until 2 days later. She hasn’t been the one to text me first but will reply, very slowly, to mine. However, she’ll still initiate conversations with me in person. Something to make note of too is that she’s about the only scientist on her floor who talks to me the way she does, when she doesn’t have to. When others talk to me, it’s usually just questions about certain supplies or if they can get something delivered. She’s never really talked to me about any of that, and when she does it’s to ask if my day’s been busy. You see how I’m struggling here? My friend thinks she’s into me but there are points when I’m not sure. Sorry about the long ass comment
Dude if she’s looking at you. Jackpot. Enjoy the fact a women is actually looking at you. It’s a wonderful feeling. She’s definitely into you.
This is easy for me! She is ALWAYS just being nice. Literally always.
The sad thing is that the only reason a video such as this one exists is because there are soooo many dudes out there who've never gotten to feel how it feels to have a girl like you :(
Trust bro, it is glaringly obvious when they do, i went through primary, highschool and half of uni until a girl liked me and wanted to talk to me. Work on yourself bro and live your life good will come. Nothing worth getting ever came easy :)
@angelorganization “Work on yourself” is the cop out advice to end all cop out advice.
Its better to have no girls like you than to have toxic ones trying to take your soul
@@thejet4672 That’s easy to say when you have actually had girls like you.
@@donaldwobamajr6550 just work out and they'll like you when you're buff. Lot of shallow girls
Thank you for clarifying all this.
When I was first dating i regretted not having a sister but now as I am older and divorced my daughters are even better to give advice and now TH-cam helps big time.
As a man, I have the opposite problem. I always assume they don't like me, so when some of them actually do, I completely miss the opportunity. This happen to any of you, lads?
And thanks for the insight as always, Court. Such a great coach to have.
I can definitely relate to that. Kinda hard to tell if a girl is just being friendly with you or whether they're really into you. I was never that good at reading their body language so I didn't pay too much attention to it.
I have a lot of female friends so its a tough call, but I just play it safe and chalk it up to them just being nice. Usually keeps things from being awkward.
@@DioBrando1996v Honestly man, I don't know why so many advice channels (not Courtney) always grill us for not reading female body language or social cues right as if it's a total cake walk, when it's clearly not. lol
I dont even understand my own body language, since i act mostly blank, so how i am supposed other people's?
All the time from what I've heard. Their flirting goes right over my clueless head
In my experience, when a girl actually likes you, she won’t show it because she’s afraid of the potential possibility that you won’t like her. She’ll often give subtle hints but won’t be upfront about it at all.
It's the opposite for me. A girl will make it obvious she likes you by talking a lot with you or smiling at lot when she is talking with you and doesn't make things difficult if you want to get together with her.
It depends on her confidence level. staring into your soul and smiling then laughing at anything you say. Shy girls avoid eye contact but they show it other ways like fixing their hair and being awkward
@@rascal211 Only works for the 1%ers. Because they are a catch and thus something for said women to show off. If you're less "high value" in the general belief, she wont because it makes them look like bad too.
lol bro you don’t get a lot of women then, they’re so obvious if they like you.
In my experience, I’ve learned that most times I’m just projecting my feelings or desires on her. The times when someone was interested, most of the attention I would receive was unprompted.
I agree ,I much rather you tell me no than waste my time .
Shes reading my mind😭😭😭😭again its just the video i needed😭
Thank you!!!
Yay!! ❤️
Like the third time she's made a video right after I was asking myself something about dating lol
Does she like me? No
*Video over*
*Curb your enthusiasm theme plays*
Treating you different or talking to you more than the other guys in the room is a strong sign that she likes you.
Courtney I just asked a girl out today. Unfortunately she was seeing somebody. It took me prolly 3 months to finally do it. It was very nerve-wracking but I'm glad I did it.
Courtney your voice is super smooth and captivating. I find it hard to take myself away when you start your simple and practical advice.
The most dangerous and abusive encounters I've had with women were those who were expert at pretending to genuinely like me. Either as a friend or potentially more. I've become increasingly more aloof and skeptical over the years and at this point waste ZERO time on any person of either gender who would be hostile to my morals or who I am. Let them repel from me on their own, takes care of the problem before it ever gets started.
Based.
Bro, you’re delusional. They never liked you. If they liked you then you would know and would bang them. Or they like you and when they get to know you they think you’re lame
Thank you Courtney! This really helps!
Good point about a girl just being nervous or tongue-tied. Once, in my circle of friends, there was someone who I assumed disliked me very much--until one day her close friend said she was crazy about me (but froze up and resisted eye contact because she just got nervous around me).
Thanks for advices Courtney. They are real gold. I just want to say that man needs to trust his own feeling. Feeling never lies. We are the ones who neglect it because we want to believe in something that is not.
Straight up, this goes for both sexes. You can’t force relationships. Whether it be romantic relationships or friendships. You can put forth the effort but if the other party doesn’t reciprocate, that’s on them. Those that want to be in your life will be and so forth. Relationships are a two way street and it takes two to maintain! Wish everyone the best
I have experienced this signs and it's damn crazy to come out of this dilemma.
Please guys this video is very good
I wish I had somebody like you in my twenties to give me this advice, it would have saved me a lot of wasted time. Excellent information!!
It's embarrassing how long it took me to realize that when a girl is nice to me, that she treats everyone like that and that I'm not special to her at all.
Thank you so much, I appreciate that your video helped me understand her emotions.
My default setting is "she is just being nice". Because I know how hurt it stings when I assume the reverse.
I've learned later in life that this one girl I really was into years ago was waiting for me to act. I read her as "let's be friends" at all times.
This is a nice cold dose of reality. I'm going to save this one and put it on replay constantly.
For me this is the rule of thumb: If she is nice to you, she is very likely want you to do something for her.
Not the cynic we want, but the cynic we need: you
Ladies: shut up you liar!!!
They hated him for telling the truth
Facts
Thank you I needed to hear something like that cuz there's a lot of scandalous women out there everything makes sense
i really appreciate the question of "is she working?" Because I have been a tutor and teaching assistant to students my age, and a few of them have expressed interest in me simply because I was polite to them and showed interest in their lives (I guess). I normally ask everyone how they are doing, and try to show all of my students that I care about them. I am extra nice when I am on the job, and it is to everyone, not just men. It is hard to show negative emotions to them because I could risk my job, and I really don't want to.
Me: I talk to the girl in the store*
Also me: I think she likes me
Courtney: Im about to end this mans whole career
I am you from the future
@@sirlanceinhole9299 what the hell is happening here!
You might be the most honest woman who I don't know, who I actually feel like I do know . I love your honesty.
Even if she really does like you, it doesn’t mean she likes you
In my younger days I tended to read too much into things and face rejection so eventually I stopped making that leap. However, in the time since then there have been times when I'm confident they were actually interested but since I stopped trying in fear of rejection I never made a move and assumed they were being friendly. Looking back, I can say with almost total certainty some of the women I met were actually interested and I missed out on what could have been. Fellas, if you like the girl and you got that feeling, go out on that limb. If she doesn't seem interested or does anything listed in the video then at least you know. But like with everything else in life you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Tbh Im so glad I found this and your channel (naturally i subbed) but it also hurt because I realize that no girl has ever really liked me...it's frustrating to accept but thank you. I guess that means that it's still my time to focus on personal improvement!