No need beating about the bush. She comes back after rejecting you simply means that she did not manage to get a better option and obviously that you are NOT her first choice. Never let in a woman for whom you're nothing more than a choice by default. She will drop you the day she will come accross someone of her true standards. PERIOD
She left you. You leave her. She doesn't respond, you don't either. She doesn't text back, follow no contact rule. You call her, she doesn't answer. Stop calling her. Respect her totally by exactly reciprocating the way she is treating you. Man, this is the way to go. You will never be happier than this.
She will always come back to look for you. Because she will get dump by others and she will think of you. What goes around comes around. Remember that. Karma may take time but karma never fail to do it's work. It is just a matter of time she will look for you again.
Finally someone in the comments that is not a cry baby “she’s gone forever” be atch. Sometimes you smother someone out of your life and they need a little space to appreciate you.
Remember this: you lived your life before, without her. You ate your food, you played your toy, you enjoyed your youthful without her by your side. So, you can live without her. You dont need her for you to live. You proved that already, a long time ago!
Reason 6 is the main reason and they find out the grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely they was rejected by the guy they wanted and not realizing she rejected the guy she needed
When a woman distant her self from you Please use that moment wisely, focused on your self put your happiness first heal your self. Correct your self from all’s your mistake You had with her your past Relationship.work your life back up, believe me you will see different they will know you the master Mind.
My friend told me to never take someone who never chose me the first time. Someone who comes to you after rejecting you the first time. You are special. NEVER GIVE SECOND CHANCES.
@@stefbaws she want me to be her choice now.be she find out that I live over seas and doingwell not likeI wasn't doing well then but now I'm doingbetter...that could never work no way
TO be honest it’s better for us men to be single and work on ourselves. Woman these days will leave as soon as she feels she has other options. Once those options run dry she come running back
Funny, that's how women feel about men. Men will leave a long term relationship, even after telling their girl that she's the love of their life and promising marriage, just because they found new tail.
@@MAGAISKLAN nah. You got it wrong. More than likely a man will stay in a relationship even if he is unhappy especially if he has kids with said woman. Plus if a man cheats it literally means nothing. He still loves his girl. But when a woman cheats. It means everything bc women form an emotional connection way b4 the sex happens
A lady left me at my worst moment, when I was sick,she was no where to be found, when I got better she started giving me silent treatment, I ignored her. Now after 2 years my life is better and she is trying to do all she can for me to accept her. I made her do some stuff and kicked her to the streets. She was only interested in me for my progress not who I am.
Narcissists do this As soon as they see you as "inferior" (not well in this case) they treat you like trash as their "perfect image" of you is shattered
If she comes back it might simply be because she hasn't found any better options out there. Never forget she let you down once because she is more than likely to repeat that again for whatever reason. Stay focus brothers #TeamAlpha🐺
The best big sister ever with so much wisdom and insight....not only do i become better for relationships whenever I listen to you, I so become a better person with your teachings. Thank you love you big sister ❤️
This last girl I used to date was very attractive, and she told me a few stories of guys who would become obsessed over her , even to the extreme that some guy went to her house and started yelling at her from outside because she had dumped him. I told her then that I was not that kind of guy. Shortly after she tried to friendzone me. I validated her decision of not seeing me anymore, and refused to be friends with her. She insisted and I said it's better to part ways. She then said she would still "say hello" if she ever saw me in the neighborhood. Fellas, don't be that crazy stalker that chases her around. Take your L with dignity, move on QUICKLY, and carry on with your life as if nothing happened. Yeah it sucks to be rejected, but it sucks more betraying yourself by agreeing to do something you don't want. Having that clarity of what you want is key. Do not ever settle for less. Thank you Jessica , your content is PURE GOLD,.
I hate wen a lady tells me let’s be freinds,how do you tell a 38 year old man to keep female freinds up and down?later they’ll say men are scum and men don’t stay one place!
know your worth, fellas. focus on you. and like from that one video I recently saw says, "you don't deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves."
Wow thats cute word from Jessica,I ve a girl dat I really love so much and was planing to end up wit her,I just travel for two months and she mess up and I came bck and notice and was able to forgive her but her attitude was nothing to write about but this girl has become part of me and am still battling to let her off from my hrt.
Wind that back, treat her like a lady as Joe Thomas sang, before you do that though practice karma= treat her like a fan and she will keep on begging for an autograph every time she sees you around!📝
In my experience, women often come back because they miss the power they had over you. My advice to any guy in this situation would be to move on without them. There’s no better feeling than finding happiness elsewhere, with someone who genuinely appreciates you, and leaving those who rejected you behind. It’s not uncommon for them to reach out via text or social media as well, trying to pry themselves back into your life, but you gotta let them know that ship has sailed. Don’t waste your time with these women.
It's been 8 months and my boyfriend's ex keeps looking for him and calling him, I've already gotten married from that situation and well yesterday we broke up because I'm tired of that girl being everywhere, he says he told her not to look for her and that he doesn't want anything with her anymore but I don't understand how an older woman like that can't understand the word no, in the end my relationship is over because he isn't able to put a stop to it, surely he still wants her in his life, I preferred get out of that shit, cause you ain't giving me my spot.
Well said. My ex was dating a guy for a month before she even told me. Just kept blowing me off, even after saying she wanted to get together. Flat out lied bold face to me. In our last conversation, she told me she loves me, but is not in love with me. I said it's lady's choice, and told her I'm out. Haven't heard from her since and I am pretty sure she moved in with her new BF's house. If she was my friend, why would she lie? My hope is we never see each other again. It's difficult because I had no idea, but people don't do that to people they care about. We were together for 8 years. She just vanished. Oh well. If she would have been honest, there was a chance we could have been friends. We have known each other since 5th grade. Such disrespect. It's appalling.
Like she said if the only thing someone is interested in doing is keeping the flame from dying but doesn't want a relationship then more than likely they are surrounding themselves with other flames too. Just remember they may love collecting all that warmth and bright light from those flames now, but eventually the only thing that's going to do is cause their house to burn down.
Things get VVVVEEEERY INTERESTING in the work place when a women you were light-weight flirting with (because she opened the door to see if she still has that type of pull) catches another good looking woman trying to flirt with you in her face 😂😂😂 The aftermath is freakin hiiiiilarious
I will cherish this channel…the men in my family always taught us to chase money…because you’ll lose money chasing women but you’ll NEVER lose women chasing money💪🏾💯
I’m good but thank you…I don’t want her back I just move on and constantly progress with no distraction…I’m actually glad we split now I have a peace of mind
This is also a good advice to us women. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he said that we can't be together in reality. And aside from that I gave him too much of my time and attentions which is didn't reciprocate at all. When I stopped talking to him after 2 months, he came back and asking me too much questions. He asked me to meet him but I rejected it because I'm still not getting over him. Thank you Jessica, love your channel❤
I've watched every break up video on TH-cam now that I am going through my most painful breakup and yours are the only one that have made me feel better! You've indirectly reminded me that I don't need to chase her and that if we dont make things work then life will be okay without her. Thankyou
I will never give them a chance. Once an abusive person. Most likely always an abusive person. They left you every for less. Your job is not to redeem them but, for them never to do it again. Learning is a self taught lesson hardest to do but, best for you future.
I was pondering some of these questions about a year ago based upon an experience I had at the time so hearing your perspective is so refreshing and enlightening. Thanks Jessica much love!
"They get curious why you aren't giving them attention anymore....and they will come back...DON'T GIVE IT TO THEM"....Jessy I really like your take, side comments, thought process, concepts and constructs. Those punches of advice that you so softly punctuate your video are invaluable. And some sense of humor.
Jessica, I can't appreciate you enough. I was almost crying to this. But you're really helping lots out there. I bless the day I found you. Thank you so much for your invaluable pieces. You need to be awarded in the hall of fame for all the males out here.
Thanks Jessica for the advice I was in the same situation a couple years ago,and I just cut her off because all she was doing is used up my energy and time.
You read my mind at point #8 when you said jealousy a woman hates to see a man at his very best and not be apart of it that's something I see a lot with most women 💯💯💯
Most of them are like that! From my prospective that's a toxic behaviour! They want us to like them even when they are at they're lowest but when we are at our lowest they dump us! Double standards i see.
Women will project and put you down for having a nice car, clothes and job. Especially if it means they need to compete with other women or they can not do it for thenslves
This lady is so on point. 👍🏾. Me being a man I have had this happen to me at least 3 times in my life. Couldn't figure out why they would wanna come back after I moved on.
They end up coming back, you've worked on yourself, in the many months you've been apart. You find after a few months of being back together that in fact they're the ones that haven't changed. They never worked on themselves instead jumping into a rebound relationship. When that fails them after weeks or months, they reach out. You slowly reconcile but realise that you're carrying and compensating for their behaviour because working on yourself made you aware to be calm, tolerant and forgiving. It takes both parties to change things.
You are amazing. Thank you for mentioning that a woman who doesn't want you and doesn't want you to move on with someone is a witch. You are the best Jessica. 👌 I learn a lot from you and continue this ministry to us.
Your videos have been of immense help to me... I have started the road to recovering myself and focusing on the things that matter: myself, my goals, my future... Thank you so much. I deleted so many contacts that were of NO benefit at all to me. Still more contacts to go
You have nuff good points your videos are Great , my EX wife left me how much years & now she's Begging to come back she even divorce me for how much years & went overseas , she had invited me for Dinner & Breakfast sending numbers for me to come back , I told her the Relationship is over & done , thanks be to God I could wash clean cook bake everything in the house ,Now she's found regrets , your video is the Best
@@savead6628 one advice I can tell you ,if you buck up on persons like those run for your life because there head isn't good ,& I choose not to go back in Relationship like those .
@@savead6628 it's not every one you see out there that wear clean clothes has a good mental,most of them need to see a Doctor so careful who you pick up , most persons looking some one for a Stepping Stone to come out of there Poor life ,I got the shitty end of the stick my story is long & what had happened to me in the past can't catch me again.
You're so strong I'm trying to find myself at the moment and as I am I pray I find this same level of levelheadedness. It's been a roller coaster but being alone totally makes you better and analyze all your own faults and love yourself
@@erinmerlot8826 I won't be going back to her not now not ever ,thank GOD I can wash, Cook, Clean,Iron, Bake, there's nothing in the Home I can't do I can do everything .Plus I work for the Government long hours . I don't let a thing Bothers me
I've been in some horrible situations recently and one of my friends send this to me, thanks for being so genuine and knowledgeful you words really got a way to my heart ❤❤
This is so spot on 🙏 My ex has recently unblocked me on social media after I stopped contact with her. All these points feel valid in my situation. I wish there was a more meaningful reason but my gut is telling me exactly what you’re saying in this video. I feel empowered to keep going with no contact. Thanks
@@JessicaOSso it matters the colour of our skin? You’d be more willing to help out someone of colour but whitey can just get on with it? You wouldn’t have replied to this message if he hadn’t mentioned colour!!
Jessica, it appears to me that you are highly inspired in all these sensitive topics. You always strike the nail on the head. I can always relate to your topics. Thanks
@@GTP-sz3sc Yup! Cut it off COMPLETELY and they start to fiend. Focused on myself while still being carefree and found a knockout who can't get enough of me and caters to my every need. Funny how that works....
Hi Jessica, I have a feeling that women happen to be the most selfish people I have ever seen. Imagine as a man, I'm chasing goals for us, so that we two get better especially financially. Then, she starts complicating life, wants to be chased and pampered like babies. Come on, love should be considerate of our life dreams together, not passing all the time pampering someone. Time waits for no one. Let's focus on our goals and as well as love each other genuinely.💞
You always answer my questions ..... when ever I don't have answers to life questions you always seem to post videos at the right time .... thank you very much u are a real Blessing
My spouse stop call like 3wks i call twice promise to call but never did i no he will out of the blues when i don't answer he will put his sister or some stranger to call an say they miss me that is witch craft for sure
Spot on! I've seen these very same characteristics displayed in a particular individual with whom I once dated. That is why I stepped off -and kept it moving!! I knew,know and realized my sf -worth very early on. My father(R.I.P.) always instilled in me to never chase any woman. And I don't....💯🖐🏿
I agree with you this time. I dropped them fast! I couldn't find myself chasing a woman these days. I think it's about 5-10 women out of a million deserve to be chase.
A lot are good at putting on an image of "desirability" and doing major things. The reality is really an illusion. A lot really ain't shit 😂😂😂. Just "decent looking" substanceless gashes.. 😬 REAL Ladies please stand!
Fellas please don’t take her back when she comes back.. Why? She literally playing games with you and giving you mixed signals when things should be straightforward..
9:07 this part sweet me 😌😌😌, that’s what I’m going thru right now with a lady , she stares at me everyday with curiosity , wondering why I moved on 😌😌😌
Before men mislead each other, there is no manual to these things especially matters of the heart. Advising each other to not give them a second chance because they didn't make you their first choice when they left. Speaking from experience, I dated a girl for 6 months. The relationship ended, but the girl pursued me for 3 years straight, from the moment we broke up. I knew she was a great girl but as a potential wife I realized we had differences in principles. The love was there but because she told me straight up she wouldn't compromise I started to withdraw until she called the relationship off as an experiment but that was it for me. We became kinda close friends, but she kept asking when we would get back together and if I was ready to give us another shot. All the stuff I thought were deal breakers when dated, she fixed during the time we were friends, which was amazing butI thought I had time, I was complacent until she made a decision to actually call it off and put stringent boundaries on the so called friendship. When I pursued she said she was done, say she decides to come back, I don't think it would be fair to say I wasn't her first choice when she left. Sometimes we just need to admit we are the problem and not to just stereotype
I keep seeing all of these 1) She couldn’t find someone better 2) don’t give her a second chance These are all so negative. Sometimes a woman just needs space to contemplate the relationship, feel big feelings, feel your absence and realize how much she values about the relationship to continue it. Peoples minds jump straight to negative
Sometimes they leave because the guy became comfortable in his own space and lost his path 😞 we need to self reflect and become a better version and when the time is right if she or he was for you God will bring you two together. Sometimes all we need in life is to self reflect and change for better. Thanks for the postive comment.
I needed this. Helped me understand my baby mother a little more....you explained it perfectly. Thanks for giving the sauce out lol you real for helping us men out like this. 🙌🏼
@@buravan1512 many reasons, here are some 1. Blame it on the alcohol, 2. Drugs 3. Condom troubles 4. Pull-out game is weak 5. She got that ushy gushy pu55y"😂 6. She thought /believes that by having your baby now you must be with her.......
It happens please understand it happens I made a child with one girl we would have got it for a year my mistake on that right cuz it didn't work out and did end terribly. My second baby mother was actually a woman I was with for 11 years total 8 years boyfriend and girlfriend 3 years married. At the 8-year Mark all her family was asking us to have a child and all that nonsense but I'm going to say this you never really know someone until you have live with them for at least 5 years. And to be honest when a child is brought into the picture women go through hormonal changes and then they think about everything they went wrong in a relationship once they lose their weight after the baby a lot of them feel renewed sense of sexuality and want to experiment and explore so when there is rigors and turbulence of that nature the man and woman can grow apart exponentially fast. It's sad but I've seen it from personal experience and I fought for my marriage but hey can't do anything about their (your spouse) personal decision they're free right
@@erinmerlot8826 you explained it better! a man may stay for old time sake, for kids sake, for sympathy sake etc! but woman ? nothing stops her from moving to that next level she is looking up to! i had a girl like that who left a super long time boy friend for me- she said a lot of nice things about the guy, then i suddenly asked her why she left the guy who has suffered, cared and spent so much on her, she said she suddely saw a chance to move to a newer hight! i pinched myself! i knew oneday it ll be my turn , and as she got to another better level, she left me too! i did nt cry much because i was warned !
Thankyou Jessica for this very informative video. It helped me so much . You gave me alot to think about. Thanks Jessica you are the best . Kevin from Radcliffe nr Manchester UK 🇬🇧 xxx
Let them go. Hit the gym. Become a 2.0 version of yourself. Become physically and mentally stronger and I promise you, she’ll take notice one day and beg to come back but we never take them. Never be plan b. Move on with your life soldiers. My 10 year relationship ended and she went with someone practically straight away, all these new friends. It’s skin deep nonsense. She’ll regret it, it’s a matter of time. My pain is in the past. It’s me time and I’ve let her go. The grass isn’t greener babe but it’s too late for you.
No need beating about the bush. She comes back after rejecting you simply means that she did not manage to get a better option and obviously that you are NOT her first choice. Never let in a woman for whom you're nothing more than a choice by default. She will drop you the day she will come accross someone of her true standards. PERIOD
Fact👌👌
That comment is a good warning.
True bro
my bro spitting fact
Facts
When someone treats you like an option, help them to narrow down their choices by removing yourself from the equation.
It's that simple.
Yea billy
That is exactly what I did recently ... Am at my happiest . Awesome life
@@mumenguvuze2093 you are the most important person in the world.
Hold on to that thought forever!
Word
I don't have a belly
She left you. You leave her. She doesn't respond, you don't either. She doesn't text back, follow no contact rule. You call her, she doesn't answer. Stop calling her. Respect her totally by exactly reciprocating the way she is treating you. Man, this is the way to go. You will never be happier than this.
No, you mean respect yourself by moving on without wasting energy or saying a word lol
Thanks for your expertise
Let me just try out, cause I'm in deep stress
yuh saidit man. yuh have finish!
She will always come back to look for you. Because she will get dump by others and she will think of you. What goes around comes around. Remember that. Karma may take time but karma never fail to do it's work. It is just a matter of time she will look for you again.
*Taking a step back not only shows confidence but also gives her time to appreciate what she might be missing!*
Finally someone in the comments that is not a cry baby “she’s gone forever” be atch. Sometimes you smother someone out of your life and they need a little space to appreciate you.
everyone needs to have some me time
If she leaves for distance... She is gone forever.
false😊
Remember this: you lived your life before, without her. You ate your food, you played your toy, you enjoyed your youthful without her by your side. So, you can live without her. You dont need her for you to live. You proved that already, a long time ago!
Facts bro
Reason 6 is the main reason and they find out the grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely they was rejected by the guy they wanted and not realizing she rejected the guy she needed
Exactly
People overvalue what they don’t have & undervalue what they have.
When a woman distant her self from you
Please use that moment wisely, focused on your self put your happiness first heal your self. Correct your self from all’s your mistake
You had with her your past Relationship.work your life back up, believe me you will see different they will know you the master Mind.
My friend told me to never take someone who never chose me the first time. Someone who comes to you after rejecting you the first time. You are special. NEVER GIVE SECOND CHANCES.
That happened to me before and I take one week..and that's the worst thing I ever did in my life
@@robertsmith4714 me too i will never do it again
Its true. I see it all the time.
That's just means you were never her first choice neither on the second chance
@@stefbaws she want me to be her choice now.be she find out that I live over seas and doingwell not likeI wasn't doing well then but now I'm doingbetter...that could never work no way
God only knows how much I have fallen for the "I missed you" trap 😂😂😂😂😂
Hahaha
😂😂 havnt we all
We have all😂😂💔. We need to cleanse ourselves
It's probably funny but we always find a way back
TO be honest it’s better for us men to be single and work on ourselves. Woman these days will leave as soon as she feels she has other options. Once those options run dry she come running back
In the West yes that’s how it is
Funny, that's how women feel about men. Men will leave a long term relationship, even after telling their girl that she's the love of their life and promising marriage, just because they found new tail.
@@kabysummit5801 this happened to me from a girl from Russia...it's everywhere!!!
@@MAGAISKLAN nah. You got it wrong. More than likely a man will stay in a relationship even if he is unhappy especially if he has kids with said woman. Plus if a man cheats it literally means nothing. He still loves his girl. But when a woman cheats. It means everything bc women form an emotional connection way b4 the sex happens
Quite horrible human beings it’s seems they are a lot of the time. Unfortunately a sign of the modern social media times 😩
A lady left me at my worst moment, when I was sick,she was no where to be found, when I got better she started giving me silent treatment, I ignored her. Now after 2 years my life is better and she is trying to do all she can for me to accept her. I made her do some stuff and kicked her to the streets. She was only interested in me for my progress not who I am.
That’s deep my Brother‼️❤️ Keep grinding and growing
I know this all to well continue to be be strong my guy
Ride on brother
Narcissists do this
As soon as they see you as "inferior" (not well in this case) they treat you like trash as their "perfect image" of you is shattered
Thanks, brothers. Just do not rely on a woman,s lovebombing phase because it will end in a relationship.
If she comes back it might simply be because she hasn't found any better options out there. Never forget she let you down once because she is more than likely to repeat that again for whatever reason. Stay focus brothers
#TeamAlpha🐺
On god hold them the same way they hold us
Facts #
@@dripgeng5554 'preciate your support bro
@@dj29550 Sure know what to say bruh👍
Can you just eat her and dump her?
For a woman to truthfully tell us about the ways of women speaks volumes. That means they are well aware of their tactics
The best big sister ever with so much wisdom and insight....not only do i become better for relationships whenever I listen to you, I so become a better person with your teachings. Thank you love you big sister ❤️
I felt the same when she whispered...you know what she whispered 😅
Lol
I watch a videos regularly now
JESSICA why did you quite CitiFm ?
Hold on bruh. Jessica is NOT "big."
I was rejected twice by the same woman. The first time was a warning. I didn’t see it. The second time is a lesson. There will not be a third…
Give us some details, tell us the story.
Don’t chase a woman!!!!
In my case it was 3 times. I vow to myself there will be no 4th time. I was a simp yes but not anymore.
Probably was a narcissist
This last girl I used to date was very attractive, and she told me a few stories of guys who would become obsessed over her , even to the extreme that some guy went to her house and started yelling at her from outside because she had dumped him. I told her then that I was not that kind of guy.
Shortly after she tried to friendzone me. I validated her decision of not seeing me anymore, and refused to be friends with her. She insisted and I said it's better to part ways. She then said she would still "say hello" if she ever saw me in the neighborhood.
Fellas, don't be that crazy stalker that chases her around. Take your L with dignity, move on QUICKLY, and carry on with your life as if nothing happened.
Yeah it sucks to be rejected, but it sucks more betraying yourself by agreeing to do something you don't want. Having that clarity of what you want is key. Do not ever settle for less.
Thank you Jessica , your content is PURE GOLD,.
I hate wen a lady tells me let’s be freinds,how do you tell a 38 year old man to keep female freinds up and down?later they’ll say men are scum and men don’t stay one place!
know your worth, fellas. focus on you. and like from that one video I recently saw says, "you don't deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves."
"Scarcity creates value".
I wouldn't call it value. Women just want to eat their cake and have it.
@@andrewokuni7487 true that you might have cubic zirconium
Wow thats cute word from Jessica,I ve a girl dat I really love so much and was planing to end up wit her,I just travel for two months and she mess up and I came bck and notice and was able to forgive her but her attitude was nothing to write about but this girl has become part of me and am still battling to let her off from my hrt.
Always 💯💯💯
"Kick her to the Curb" You made my day, thanks Jessica.
@@juliusv.cnwachukwu6076 forreal she speaks the truth
“Treat her like a celebrity, she’d treat you like a fan”.
Hahaha i am not doinf that again
Deep facts
Waste
Wind that back, treat her like a lady as Joe Thomas sang, before you do that though practice karma= treat her like a fan and she will keep on begging for an autograph every time she sees you around!📝
Facts!!!!
Thanks
Appreciate this so much. 🙏🏾
Most of the time she coming back cos the guy she has genuine interest for dropped her and you are just the second option.. don't take her back
You re right why don’t you just use her and non serious ? Lol 😂
Do you have facts to support that claim?
Or just talking from experience??
@@JuanGonzalez-lk6uu She comes back because she was dumped by her rebound guy and wants you to be the back up guy. That's the main reason.
Distance always gives time to reflect for both parties…
This woman is smart, whatever she says is true and beneficial, women love attention and validation... If they don't get it they feel empty...
In my experience, women often come back because they miss the power they had over you. My advice to any guy in this situation would be to move on without them. There’s no better feeling than finding happiness elsewhere, with someone who genuinely appreciates you, and leaving those who rejected you behind. It’s not uncommon for them to reach out via text or social media as well, trying to pry themselves back into your life, but you gotta let them know that ship has sailed. Don’t waste your time with these women.
It's been 8 months and my boyfriend's ex keeps looking for him and calling him, I've already gotten married from that situation and well yesterday we broke up because I'm tired of that girl being everywhere, he says he told her not to look for her and that he doesn't want anything with her anymore but I don't understand how an older woman like that can't understand the word no, in the end my relationship is over because he isn't able to put a stop to it, surely he still wants her in his life, I preferred get out of that shit, cause you ain't giving me my spot.
Well said. My ex was dating a guy for a month before she even told me. Just kept blowing me off, even after saying she wanted to get together. Flat out lied bold face to me. In our last conversation, she told me she loves me, but is not in love with me. I said it's lady's choice, and told her I'm out. Haven't heard from her since and I am pretty sure she moved in with her new BF's house. If she was my friend, why would she lie? My hope is we never see each other again. It's difficult because I had no idea, but people don't do that to people they care about. We were together for 8 years. She just vanished. Oh well. If she would have been honest, there was a chance we could have been friends. We have known each other since 5th grade. Such disrespect. It's appalling.
True
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I AGREE A 1000%
I love how you articulate your words and composure. Straight from kenya one love
Tuko wengi huku
Like she said if the only thing someone is interested in doing is keeping the flame from dying but doesn't want a relationship then more than likely they are surrounding themselves with other flames too.
Just remember they may love collecting all that warmth and bright light from those flames now, but eventually the only thing that's going to do is cause their house to burn down.
The way your thoughts transform into fluent words of exact description is so phenomenal. Well done.
There's a lot one can achieve in life than chasing who doesn't want you. I tried that twice at 18 and 19 and learnt that early to never chase.
Things get VVVVEEEERY INTERESTING in the work place when a women you were light-weight flirting with (because she opened the door to see if she still has that type of pull) catches another good looking woman trying to flirt with you in her face 😂😂😂
The aftermath is freakin hiiiiilarious
@@1stone379bad man 😂😂
I will cherish this channel…the men in my family always taught us to chase money…because you’ll lose money chasing women but you’ll NEVER lose women chasing money💪🏾💯
I’m good but thank you…I don’t want her back I just move on and constantly progress with no distraction…I’m actually glad we split now I have a peace of mind
This is also a good advice to us women. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he said that we can't be together in reality. And aside from that I gave him too much of my time and attentions which is didn't reciprocate at all. When I stopped talking to him after 2 months, he came back and asking me too much questions. He asked me to meet him but I rejected it because I'm still not getting over him. Thank you Jessica, love your channel❤
I've watched every break up video on TH-cam now that I am going through my most painful breakup and yours are the only one that have made me feel better! You've indirectly reminded me that I don't need to chase her and that if we dont make things work then life will be okay without her. Thankyou
Heyy I love your advice and body language....I need this right now yes😢
I will never give them a chance. Once an abusive person. Most likely always an abusive person. They left you every for less. Your job is not to redeem them but, for them never to do it again. Learning is a self taught lesson hardest to do but, best for you future.
Jessica, you just saved a life, almost all you said, was my experience with my ex..
I am grateful, thank you so much... Indeed knowledge is power
I was pondering some of these questions about a year ago based upon an experience I had at the time so hearing your perspective is so refreshing and enlightening. Thanks Jessica much love!
Lol wicth probably 🤣 😅 😂
Drop her like a hot potato.... and tell her that Jessica said she's no good.
Absolutely perfect. Thank you
Being a better version of yourself is the key
"They get curious why you aren't giving them attention anymore....and they will come back...DON'T GIVE IT TO THEM"....Jessy I really like your take, side comments, thought process, concepts and constructs. Those punches of advice that you so softly punctuate your video are invaluable.
And some sense of humor.
Completely level headed & honest. Jessica you've cut all the BS & driven straight to the point. You're leadership material. Way to go ✌️👍👏👌
That's for sure 💯
Jessica, I can't appreciate you enough. I was almost crying to this. But you're really helping lots out there. I bless the day I found you. Thank you so much for your invaluable pieces. You need to be awarded in the hall of fame for all the males out here.
Thanks Jessica for the advice I was in the same situation a couple years ago,and I just cut her off because all she was doing is used up my energy and time.
her voice is extremely addictive, calming and soothing
ASMR
Madam u r brilliant Bravo all men should listen to u luv from 🇮🇳
The way she talks...!
I cant stop watching her videos
You read my mind at point #8 when you said jealousy a woman hates to see a man at his very best and not be apart of it that's something I see a lot with most women 💯💯💯
She nailed that one
Most of them are like that! From my prospective that's a toxic behaviour! They want us to like them even when they are at they're lowest but when we are at our lowest they dump us! Double standards i see.
@@toddbr5959 i agree its definitely a toxic behavior trait fr
Women will project and put you down for having a nice car, clothes and job. Especially if it means they need to compete with other women or they can not do it for thenslves
Thank you so much Jessica. You are ever worth listening to! Pls keep it up. God bless you.🙏
The “kick her to the curve” whisper and witch/witchcraft. Sprinkle Holy Water on you are pure comedy 😂😂😂
You dropping real game and I subscribed. I don’t subscribe to nobody 🔥🔥🔥
Appreciate the sub. ☺️
This lady is so on point. 👍🏾. Me being a man I have had this happen to me at least 3 times in my life. Couldn't figure out why they would wanna come back after I moved on.
Crazy right, happened to me twice.
They end up coming back, you've worked on yourself, in the many months you've been apart. You find after a few months of being back together that in fact they're the ones that haven't changed. They never worked on themselves instead jumping into a rebound relationship. When that fails them after weeks or months, they reach out. You slowly reconcile but realise that you're carrying and compensating for their behaviour because working on yourself made you aware to be calm, tolerant and forgiving.
It takes both parties to change things.
You are amazing. Thank you for mentioning that a woman who doesn't want you and doesn't want you to move on with someone is a witch. You are the best Jessica. 👌 I learn a lot from you and continue this ministry to us.
This woman is speaking straight FACTS!!!!!
Thank you Jesse. You definitely don't realise how positively you are impacting our lifes. You are indeed a blessing to our generation.
Wow, thank you!
She deserves an award, on a serious note!!
You’re helping right now not to false relationship am so happy of hearing you now Thanks big Jessica
You are so welcome
I think you speak the most truth out of any relationship guru on youtube.
Your videos have been of immense help to me... I have started the road to recovering myself and focusing on the things that matter: myself, my goals, my future... Thank you so much. I deleted so many contacts that were of NO benefit at all to me. Still more contacts to go
You have nuff good points your videos are Great , my EX wife left me how much years & now she's Begging to come back she even divorce me for how much years & went overseas , she had invited me for Dinner & Breakfast sending numbers for me to come back , I told her the Relationship is over & done , thanks be to God I could wash clean cook bake everything in the house ,Now she's found regrets , your video is the Best
What’s with them if they think they can come back after so many years and hurt they put u in? I try to understand there minds?
@@savead6628 one advice I can tell you ,if you buck up on persons like those run for your life because there head isn't good ,& I choose not to go back in Relationship like those .
@@savead6628 it's not every one you see out there that wear clean clothes has a good mental,most of them need to see a Doctor so careful who you pick up , most persons looking some one for a Stepping Stone to come out of there Poor life ,I got the shitty end of the stick my story is long & what had happened to me in the past can't catch me again.
You're so strong I'm trying to find myself at the moment and as I am I pray I find this same level of levelheadedness. It's been a roller coaster but being alone totally makes you better and analyze all your own faults and love yourself
@@erinmerlot8826 I won't be going back to her not now not ever ,thank GOD I can wash, Cook, Clean,Iron, Bake, there's nothing in the Home I can't do I can do everything .Plus I work for the Government long hours . I don't let a thing Bothers me
Thank you sis...10 years I have been dealing with this. I wish I could do a one on one but this is helpful.
The sprinkle holy water part got me😂😂😂…Jessica you’re the best. Much love Jess❤️
I've been in some horrible situations recently and one of my friends send this to me, thanks for being so genuine and knowledgeful you words really got a way to my heart ❤❤
I'm actually going to add that to my repertoire. "Jessica said you're no good." I love it.
This is so spot on 🙏 My ex has recently unblocked me on social media after I stopped contact with her. All these points feel valid in my situation. I wish there was a more meaningful reason but my gut is telling me exactly what you’re saying in this video. I feel empowered to keep going with no contact. Thanks
You’ve become a very loved big sister to especially us brothers of color.
We love you Jessica❤️
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@@JessicaOSso it matters the colour of our skin? You’d be more willing to help out someone of colour but whitey can just get on with it? You wouldn’t have replied to this message if he hadn’t mentioned colour!!
Jessica Os, you are the BEST. Keep up the good work.
So to be short. Whenever a girl comes back to you, don’t take her back.
Pretty much
Sometimes it's not even about the content, though it's always great, but about the soothing, comforting voice.
Jessica, it appears to me that you are highly inspired in all these sensitive topics. You always strike the nail on the head. I can always relate to your topics. Thanks
Your video is perfect ❤
It just solved my problem with this girl ❤
5:15 jessica leans in, whispers, 'kick her to the curb" . . . this subscriber busts out laughing!!! 😂😂
I knew it was something different about you. You’re anointed.
I needed this right now. Thanks for helping me healing my fealings 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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😂😂😂😂😂
Why does she comeback when you give HER DISTANCE. Omg.. The MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION ❤️..love it👍
Sharp, women give themselves out in small doses. You nailed it,Jess.❤️💕
Thats breadcruming. I just went no contact and now im being stalked.
@@GTP-sz3sc Yup! Cut it off COMPLETELY and they start to fiend. Focused on myself while still being carefree and found a knockout who can't get enough of me and caters to my every need. Funny how that works....
This line told me everything I need to know
@@mphiledlamini7256 life too short to play games..
You are now my Oracle. Thank you for your words. My heart is regaining strength again. May God flush witchcraft away from me Amen. Jessica thank a lot
Hi Jessica, I have a feeling that women happen to be the most selfish people I have ever seen. Imagine as a man, I'm chasing goals for us, so that we two get better especially financially. Then, she starts complicating life, wants to be chased and pampered like babies. Come on, love should be considerate of our life dreams together, not passing all the time pampering someone. Time waits for no one. Let's focus on our goals and as well as love each other genuinely.💞
Fact… Bless you bro
When you eventually ended up achieving nothing, she will still dump you 4 achievers.😂😂😂 Women are so devilish in creature.
You have great information. Thank you and God bless you.
You always answer my questions ..... when ever I don't have answers to life questions you always seem to post videos at the right time .... thank you very much u are a real Blessing
Lovely and powerful message. God bless you for advising us
Thanks Jessica; this is a true life story. You see, I love you more when you said " kick her to the curb". God bless you more
My spouse stop call like 3wks i call twice promise to call but never did i no he will out of the blues when i don't answer he will put his sister or some stranger to call an say they miss me that is witch craft for sure
Spot on! I've seen these very same characteristics displayed in a particular individual with whom I once dated. That is why I stepped off -and kept it moving!! I knew,know and realized my sf -worth very early on. My father(R.I.P.) always instilled in me to never chase any woman. And I don't....💯🖐🏿
I agree with you this time. I dropped them fast! I couldn't find myself chasing a woman these days. I think it's about 5-10 women out of a million deserve to be chase.
A lot are good at putting on an image of "desirability" and doing major things. The reality is really an illusion. A lot really ain't shit 😂😂😂. Just "decent looking" substanceless gashes.. 😬 REAL Ladies please stand!
Damn l am in ❤️ with Jessica, your gifts are second to none. Gaddem
"If someone can walk away from you, let them walk." T.D.Jakes
I don't know if i said this before but..... you've help me so much mentally, i wish we knew each other
Fellas please don’t take her back when she comes back.. Why? She literally playing games with you and giving you mixed signals when things should be straightforward..
DAMN , My Lady , I've been listening to you intensely ......... AND YOU ON POINT !
I like the "kick her to the curb" part lol if she didn't want you before she's not going to want you now to be honest
Jessica you are, HANDS DOWN, the BEST
9:07 this part sweet me 😌😌😌, that’s what I’m going thru right now with a lady , she stares at me everyday with curiosity , wondering why I moved on 😌😌😌
Tnx so much Jessica. You're great.
Before men mislead each other, there is no manual to these things especially matters of the heart. Advising each other to not give them a second chance because they didn't make you their first choice when they left.
Speaking from experience, I dated a girl for 6 months. The relationship ended, but the girl pursued me for 3 years straight, from the moment we broke up. I knew she was a great girl but as a potential wife I realized we had differences in principles. The love was there but because she told me straight up she wouldn't compromise I started to withdraw until she called the relationship off as an experiment but that was it for me.
We became kinda close friends, but she kept asking when we would get back together and if I was ready to give us another shot. All the stuff I thought were deal breakers when dated, she fixed during the time we were friends, which was amazing butI thought I had time, I was complacent until she made a decision to actually call it off and put stringent boundaries on the so called friendship.
When I pursued she said she was done, say she decides to come back, I don't think it would be fair to say I wasn't her first choice when she left.
Sometimes we just need to admit we are the problem and not to just stereotype
thank you so much...❤❤
I was confused..but now I get the answer...😊🥰
I keep seeing all of these
1) She couldn’t find someone better 2) don’t give her a second chance
These are all so negative. Sometimes a woman just needs space to contemplate the relationship, feel big feelings, feel your absence and realize how much she values about the relationship to continue it.
Peoples minds jump straight to negative
This is what the world needs more of.
Thank you for not being negative.
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Sometimes they leave because the guy became comfortable in his own space and lost his path 😞 we need to self reflect and become a better version and when the time is right if she or he was for you God will bring you two together. Sometimes all we need in life is to self reflect and change for better. Thanks for the postive comment.
As the society of men let's honour Jessica because she's making a huge impact in our relationship life
I needed this. Helped me understand my baby mother a little more....you explained it perfectly. Thanks for giving the sauce out lol you real for helping us men out like this. 🙌🏼
why make a CHILD with a Woman, that you dont know?
@@buravan1512 many reasons, here are some 1. Blame it on the alcohol, 2. Drugs 3. Condom troubles 4. Pull-out game is weak 5. She got that ushy gushy pu55y"😂 6. She thought /believes that by having your baby now you must be with her.......
It happens please understand it happens I made a child with one girl we would have got it for a year my mistake on that right cuz it didn't work out and did end terribly. My second baby mother was actually a woman I was with for 11 years total 8 years boyfriend and girlfriend 3 years married. At the 8-year Mark all her family was asking us to have a child and all that nonsense but I'm going to say this you never really know someone until you have live with them for at least 5 years. And to be honest when a child is brought into the picture women go through hormonal changes and then they think about everything they went wrong in a relationship once they lose their weight after the baby a lot of them feel renewed sense of sexuality and want to experiment and explore so when there is rigors and turbulence of that nature the man and woman can grow apart exponentially fast. It's sad but I've seen it from personal experience and I fought for my marriage but hey can't do anything about their (your spouse) personal decision they're free right
@@erinmerlot8826 you explained it better! a man may stay for old time sake, for kids sake, for sympathy sake etc! but woman ? nothing stops her from moving to that next level she is looking up to! i had a girl like that who left a super long time boy friend for me- she said a lot of nice things about the guy, then i suddenly asked her why she left the guy who has suffered, cared and spent so much on her, she said she suddely saw a chance to move to a newer hight! i pinched myself! i knew oneday it ll be my turn , and as she got to another better level, she left me too! i did nt cry much because i was warned !
Thankyou Jessica for this very informative video.
It helped me so much .
You gave me alot to think about.
Thanks Jessica you are the best .
Kevin from Radcliffe nr Manchester UK 🇬🇧
xxx
Let them go. Hit the gym. Become a 2.0 version of yourself. Become physically and mentally stronger and I promise you, she’ll take notice one day and beg to come back but we never take them. Never be plan b. Move on with your life soldiers. My 10 year relationship ended and she went with someone practically straight away, all these new friends. It’s skin deep nonsense. She’ll regret it, it’s a matter of time. My pain is in the past. It’s me time and I’ve let her go. The grass isn’t greener babe but it’s too late for you.