🇵🇭 PHILIPPINES COST OF LIVING: HOW MUCH Does It REALLY COST To Live In The PHILIPPINES?

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  • @Brian_The_Lion
    @Brian_The_Lion  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Is anybody paying less rent than me? 35000 Pesos or $620 American dollars?

    • @edmadrinan2022
      @edmadrinan2022 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Cheap is a relative term. The Philippines is "cheap" for foreigners because of the buying power of their currency. The minimum wage in the Philippines is P650/day. That's barely $13 for a whole day's work. A teenager in the US working at McDonald's make $15/hour. A nurse in the Philippines makes an average of P30,000/month (around $600). You pay P35,000 for your condo. Do the math. BGC does not represent Philippines, not even close. Go to the provinces, you'll see the real Philippines. I'm from the province of Laguna, just south of Manila. It's the 21st century, but in my small town there are still many homes that don't have indoor plumbing, and a few that don't have electricity. I know, hard to believe, right? I could go on, but I'll leave it here for now. Have a good day.
      😎🙏

    • @bangwi
      @bangwi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm not renting but my condo monthly payment is around $360, 20K pesos it's a 36 sqm one bedroom condo in Ortigas

    • @mikewood4242
      @mikewood4242 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sure you are😅​@andrewross3188

    • @mikewood4242
      @mikewood4242 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great if you are paying in USA dollars.Try Australian or Canadian and prices with conversion are on par.A few dollars less on some items like rent,but everything else is the same price as in Canada😅

    • @mikewood4242
      @mikewood4242 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @andrewross3188 Sure bud.I beleive you 😄 🤣

  • @ianpatrick23
    @ianpatrick23 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Love that you show video from your time in the Philippines. Not stock videos like others.

  • @deeN31841
    @deeN31841 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Thank you Mr Brian all your positive description re the PH country & the Filipinos.
    Every country around the world has positive & negatives anyway.
    The best in the PH is fully relaxation, cheap facials & body massage, cheap clothings & cheap foods.
    The Filipinos culture ie: Bayanihan, warm friendly smile, love sense of humor, very hospitable & generous, easy going type of living.

    • @jerrymylove1754
      @jerrymylove1754 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Anything he says that’s positive is a lie. That is the worst country in the world. So god awful bad. Terrible people. So glad I left.

  • @RedWhiteBlue.
    @RedWhiteBlue. 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You should write a book about all of these, Brian. Love hearing your narratives in prose but they’re probably better off being read in one book

    • @Gregory-Masovutch
      @Gregory-Masovutch 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe in10 to 15 years the Manila subway might be operational. BGC will be repucated in so many communities that by Makati it will be obsolete.

  • @LenLafreniere
    @LenLafreniere หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Going in March, can’t wait 👍

  • @hillroberts1311
    @hillroberts1311 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I believe, within 10 / 15 years, BGC will be a separate city from Taguig, and double the size. Those new towns and cities being built up and down the archipelago will be sought after like diamonds. I had plans of living in BGC, but my EURos will not be enough to sustain the kind of good lifestyle I have here. A shame because I'd love to live right on the premises, being a TOwnie all my life. Sure I can dine and wine, enjoy the ambience, once in a while. Thanks Brian for your thoughtful narrative. See you next year.

  • @daviddarden1915
    @daviddarden1915 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Having lived in the 🇵🇭 Philippines 🇵🇭 back in 1991 at Clark Air Base, Philippines 🇵🇭. I was age 28 then. Now age 62, a widower and my children are grown now with children. I plan on returning and retire in the Philippines. I believe most will need about 1,600 dollars 💸 or more to live the prince 🤴 life and above in the 🇵🇭 Philippines 🇵🇭. Thank you for this video.

  • @ninjakris3004
    @ninjakris3004 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How is this the first time I’ve seen your videos when I’ve been pondering a move to the Philippines for the past 8 months? Thanks Brian!

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Better late than never

  • @cdiaz1313
    @cdiaz1313 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I like your vibe.....I am now a subscriber. My soon to be paradise is Thailand.

  • @Patrick70007
    @Patrick70007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I've been living in the USA for 25 yrs. You hit it right on the spot about the "Street food". I miss those good old days when I was able broke ass high-school student on a budget 😂❤😂

  • @jackthoma3600
    @jackthoma3600 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    620 a month is very high in Philippines

  • @elninoiable
    @elninoiable 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love ur style of narrations..keep it up brotha..new sub here..🎉🎉😊

    • @chilliconcarne5639
      @chilliconcarne5639 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Like the wonder years meets American psycho

  • @ShadowPrince-r4f
    @ShadowPrince-r4f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A similar studio here in Dubai will cost 3,500 USD a month, if not more.

  • @ChowFunFoods
    @ChowFunFoods 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    feels like im back in 3rd grade having story time. Thanks. well spoken

  • @bangwi
    @bangwi 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    If you're getting your own AC unit get an inverter or a double inverter. It will cut your electric bill by half or more. By the way I pay around $360 monthly for my high-end condo in Ortigas, compare to my rundown apartment outside Los Angeles for $1,500

  • @jetsetdotone
    @jetsetdotone 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I agree that certain areas in Manila Capital Area is a good choice for a foreigner at least from a amenities, utilities including Internet point of view, but to hear someone selecting the concrete jungle of BGC as the best place and bragging about it is incredible. BGC, which, except for people who love shopping malls and neon signs, makes me wonder if they, even after years living in BGC, will know anything real about the Philippines? For me, a place like Parañaque close to Pasay and the entertainment area give you everything. Affordable local attractions, real estate, and venues, top-class restaurants and resorts, stable Internet, and the international airport. Why on earth would someone choose BGC and it's overpriced hype, unless it is because they don't know anything else about the Philippines, is beyond me.

  • @rodcruz3032
    @rodcruz3032 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey, Brian. Try traveling to Greenbelt Makati, which is around a 10-minute commute from BGC by Grab or taxi. It's like BGC, but older.

  • @Simpleliving88
    @Simpleliving88 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Brian visit Greenfield District very nice there.street food, food trucks at night, walkable to Shangri-la mall , hotel, megamall podium , robinsons and many more .try it my friend

  • @vilmajones7877
    @vilmajones7877 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You have to be open-minded and appreciate the culture and the people living in the Philippines. If you can't adjust and appreciate the people, the Philippines is not for you.

  • @Gitiffan
    @Gitiffan หลายเดือนก่อน

    All those watching this video, listen to Brian's advice about not everything is dirt cheap in the Philippines. Living in these bubble cities are just like living in the west but at a much more affordable prices with mostly all of the amenities we are used to in the west.
    Do not, however, think that if you move to the provinces so that you can save more money and have the same amenities like the bubble cities offer, you will be extremely disappointed. If you can live minimally and not splurge and not be an impulsive buyer, you will do well in these bubble cities, even in cities not as high end but offer plenty as well. For example, myself am from a city on the outskirts of Batangas. It has most of the amenities the west has to offer and cheaper than the bubble cities such as BGC.
    Just remember, in the Philippines everything is much slower in pace. That includes practically everything we have become used to and at times been spoiled with in the west. For instance, I was just there in October of 2024. I went to a bank to close an account I had with them. I got there at 9am and got out of there at 11:40am. Medical appointments, forget it. Get in line as it is first come first served at the doctor's office. Will the doctor be punctual? You guessed it, nope the doctor makes his/her own schedule. If you get there toward the end of the day, you will be asked to come back tomorrow. The somewhat good thing about it, you will keep your place in line the next day, lol.
    Your A/C unit broke down? Don't expect the technician to be there at the drop of a call. Instead expect him to be there two or three days after he tells you he will be there...for example that afternoon? Expect another 2-3 days on top of that! Oh and don't expect him to have all the tools to fix it either. He will either ask you to purchase it or he will return later in the day...that later in the day can be another two or three days.
    Bottom line, you need to really practice your inner patience and I mean PRACTICE IT WELL! Do not think you can bring your western attitude and expectations to the Philippines and flex it there, especially if you decide to live in the province. It will backfire on you in the biggest of ways and the locals can make life a living hell, if you decide to be confrontational with them. It can even turn violent.
    If you have a girlfriend/fiancé/wife or whatever there, stay away from her family if you can. Do not build a house on her property AT ALL COST! Being around her family (first, second, third, fourth, etc.), invites them to ask you for financial support. If you decide to give them financial support, you pretty much messed up. Now they will expect it from you each time they ask. If you cut them off, they will talk about you and spread rumors about you. Over there, rumors spread fast and are almost always believed.
    There are many great things about the Philippines, but do not think it is all paradise and tropical fun. As there are many great things about the Philippines, there are equal negative things about it as well. Do your research and do not set your expectations too high.

    • @brett9860
      @brett9860 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Great advise.

  • @renzaldwinbarnedo4779
    @renzaldwinbarnedo4779 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    bro 15k pesos for an electricity cost is a lot. try to turn off your AC everytime you go outside.

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You're not wrong brother 🔥

    • @GH-uo9fy
      @GH-uo9fy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Brian_The_Lion is it an inverter type AC?

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Says so but I think I'm being scammed

  • @tinab2742
    @tinab2742 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi Brian love watching your vlog!!!!!

  • @stevekerrigan6546
    @stevekerrigan6546 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I was thinkin of visiting Cebu City next year from these videos it sounds possible

  • @pemcortes9467
    @pemcortes9467 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Definitely talk about the brass tacks... i highly recommend the smb cerveza negra, the smb super dry and for the common touch- red horse.

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      A man of culture I see 🍻

  • @cruz_myway
    @cruz_myway หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love your humor !

  • @zetrader
    @zetrader 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have free train since 2022 to go around where i live, around Valencia in Spain. Subway is 4 euros for 10 trips in Valencia and suburbs, and there is much more subways stations than in Manila. How much the train to go inside Manila and suburbs? Oh there is not, and the metro / subway has very few stations in Manila and nothing in the suburbs, true ?

  • @zetrader
    @zetrader 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How much is 100% virgen olive oil there ? I bought some a few days ago where i live, i paid 22,50 euros for 3 liters, which is 7,50 euros one liter, let me know how much in the Philippines please.

  • @drifteratheart5996
    @drifteratheart5996 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Brian great channel. Would it be easy enough getting a nice apartment in BGC for 1100usd including utilities if I only wanted a 3 month contract? ..and what would you say are the best 3-5 months of the year for the least pollution? Thanks!

  • @davidburt6659
    @davidburt6659 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I HAVE BEEN OFFERED A POSITION AS A VOLUNTEER IN A SMALL TOWN SOUTH OF
    MANILA WITH FREE ACCOMDATION , I HAVE BEEN HERE NEARLY A YEAR NOW WITH A
    VERY EDUCATED FILLIPINO FAMILY. ITS NOT MY FIRST TIME IN THE PHILIPPINES I HAVE BEEN COMING HERE SINCE 2001

  • @rolandoalvarez2463
    @rolandoalvarez2463 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What is the process to move to the Philippines?

  • @taiga2417
    @taiga2417 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do you have hot water?

  • @synaruscz5352
    @synaruscz5352 หลายเดือนก่อน

    More then pint its 120 philipene pesos in my country. Also its pretty good one.

  • @gatorkid1968
    @gatorkid1968 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Brian my name is Gary I just moved to the Philippines and was wondering where in BGC you are located i am currently staying in Azure North but would like to move to BGC

  • @kynth3117
    @kynth3117 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Have u visit different city in Philippines, if u dont u should bro

  • @ChuckFasst
    @ChuckFasst 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That is a rather flowery description of Balut, my man... I dunno ... 🤔
    It's around three to four bucks for a cold PBR up here where I'm at on the side of Mount Hood. A little ways out of Sandy. That is if you want to hang out in a joint with the personality of a deflated balloon tire on your Schwinn stuck out on a cold, slimy mountain trail in the driving rain with a missing codpiece. 😢

  • @tesssheets42
    @tesssheets42 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your so good at narrating beautiful voice too

  • @TheGermanRef
    @TheGermanRef หลายเดือนก่อน

    @3:17 love the Buy 1 Get 1 🤣(buy 2 get 2)

  • @blo0dyc0rpse
    @blo0dyc0rpse หลายเดือนก่อน

    you are so funny i like your video :P

  • @conniepascual1236
    @conniepascual1236 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello Brian watching here

  • @deeN31841
    @deeN31841 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    BGC's has high end condos & also in Eastwood areas.👍

  • @norab2125
    @norab2125 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A single Filipino like Bryan, 2000 usd would be a huge blessing. Filipinos have slightly different take on “luxury”, lesser than Bryan would require. 😂😂😂

  • @monito24ful
    @monito24ful 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    im paying $750 in America for a dump I would trade it for that view and enviroment

  • @raffystryffe1865
    @raffystryffe1865 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    bro can you please do the enterviw to the other forigher and ask about shocking colture they experience in the phillippines? thanks

  • @marilousumo226
    @marilousumo226 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maybe you can tour us in your apartment .. that is, if you don’t mind

  • @sypainthy
    @sypainthy หลายเดือนก่อน

    rent in the Philippines are more expensive than must off EU if u compare

  • @zenenorellano5616
    @zenenorellano5616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bro r you in cebu

  • @marilousumo226
    @marilousumo226 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Balut is delicious especially it is with hot soup inside .. haha

  • @scorpio6562
    @scorpio6562 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Brian the chairman of BGC

    • @dvdhr1
      @dvdhr1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      he replaced mergim...😂

  • @ErwinOlido
    @ErwinOlido หลายเดือนก่อน

    5k-month+elect+watermaybe-total-5500pesos-apartment

  • @zetrader
    @zetrader 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been to the Philippines, to me the Philippines is expensive for a living compared to where i live.

  • @LilyBeth-wm6lg
    @LilyBeth-wm6lg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi brian ❤

  • @DavidBilliter-p6y
    @DavidBilliter-p6y 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How come you not add the expense that her family need ,expect , and demanding

  • @TreasureKita
    @TreasureKita 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

  • @angelgadon-fu2fv
    @angelgadon-fu2fv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Depend upon the person,the way spend the money

  • @jackcomber1087
    @jackcomber1087 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Can I live in BGC for $5000 a month?

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Gonna be a stretch. Maybe a studio. Bread and water. Save until you have 10k

  • @machoguapito76TV
    @machoguapito76TV 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lots of beautiful bgc working class girls.

  • @frankellis9627
    @frankellis9627 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sorry, bro. But I can't do Balut or Dry Fish. For each his own more power too you 🤮

  • @Loigis
    @Loigis 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good

  • @Slydwg2007
    @Slydwg2007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yes, it’s cheaper here but the quality is poor. And to get the kilo of ground beef for 500 pesos how many hassles? How far did you travel? How much was the grab ride? How many beggars annoyed you? How many ppl at the store cut the queue? How long did you wait in line? I guess 25 minutes. Yes it’s cheaper there but it does not mean better. This place sucks, IMO. This is one example from the first min of your video. I could post a novel and rebuttal most of your narratives. After 3 weeks you start to see the Philippines for what it is. It’s not for everyone. Very few are happy here.

    • @eatsmylifeYT
      @eatsmylifeYT 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If he lives in BGC, there are several supermarkets and grocery stores within a ten-minute walk. There's Marketplace and Savemore and a couple of others where one can get good quality beef, pork, and chicken. No vagrants, and there's always a line at the checkout counter.
      You probably need to get laid.

  • @nevysadventuresllc9074
    @nevysadventuresllc9074 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Definitely forgot to tell them where you live is the most expensive city to live in the country

  • @ian6316
    @ian6316 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sounds expensive to me has i live in veitnam

  • @DavidBilliter-p6y
    @DavidBilliter-p6y 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One has buy drinking water over and over . Air condition doesn’t work when electricity is off ( a lot ) washing your cloth by hand or unfit water, houses so close together and made from hollow block , No hot water unless you fork lot money . If you rich you can afford , but the men over there drawing 760.00 to 1200.00 . This guy not hood with math . The house you own or built would cost you double . Land so hig

  • @HoofHearted_Eh
    @HoofHearted_Eh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I enjoy your narration! Morgan Freeman has got nothin on you!

  • @BB-dp4kh
    @BB-dp4kh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    35k pesos is a lot of money in the philippines..not every country uses USD..

    • @JABM-AU
      @JABM-AU 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah, true, but he is looking at it in a Foreigner perspective. Which I totally agree with him. I am paying $960/week for my 2 bedroom apartment in Sydney (CBD), Australia. That 35k/Month Pesos sure sounds better than $960/week.

    • @anton_c8gur
      @anton_c8gur 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      35k a month is already a dream salary to many here lol.

  • @tenzinchoegyal4067
    @tenzinchoegyal4067 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video but when comes Asian food Filipino food is the of worst in Asia

  • @robertaschalkhammer3446
    @robertaschalkhammer3446 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Lovingly fried in oil probably older than you..." 😂😂😂

  • @machoguapito76TV
    @machoguapito76TV 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Brian the simba the lion king.😂😂😂😂😂

  • @MrHatem0000
    @MrHatem0000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Health system very bad and hot weather all time and street food the worst in the world unhealthy not clean and poor people asking for money They are to much every where and government philippines corporations and this affected all government services

    • @rosedoinog6931
      @rosedoinog6931 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Not clean? Oh really hahahah i can say filipino are the most cleanest people living in earth lol

  • @noryfecalopez4862
    @noryfecalopez4862 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hiii

  • @virginiacropper5679
    @virginiacropper5679 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi I live in England Buckinghamshire I watch your vlog it’s interesting in very well sayed . In the west is soo boring you are so lucky. Here is cold in more expensive. Life in here is more money and no life. Stock in the cold.🤙👌

  • @jamessotelo788
    @jamessotelo788 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow

  • @ErwinOlido
    @ErwinOlido หลายเดือนก่อน

    Move*to*my*place*no*payment*

  • @hard536
    @hard536 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can I be your chef bro lol

  • @repapips8774
    @repapips8774 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im not sure if you watched "wanted" a.jolie movie. But you sound like the main guy at the begining. Im waiting for the hot chick that would drive up and pick you up in a sports car. 😂

  • @animated000
    @animated000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Unless he's drinking like a fish, his math isn't adding up.

    • @JABM-AU
      @JABM-AU 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Care to elaborate on that?

    • @animated000
      @animated000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JABM-AU well he ran through his list. Food, electric, rent. If he's not bar fining or drinking, you're looking at $1000. Those are his biggest cost. What else would add another 1k to 2k to his budget? And why didn't he mention such a costly item(s)
      Ubers, some other entertainment, etc are all small costs compared to the big 3. Either le left something big ticket things out or, the math isn't mathing

    • @animated000
      @animated000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @andrewross3188 ahh...yeah from all the other videos I've seen $1500 is more than enough. And that includes healthcare

    • @animated000
      @animated000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @andrewross3188 yup I agree. I track 4 TH-camrs living there. Andto some degree, they all say what you posted

    • @anton_c8gur
      @anton_c8gur 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@andrewross3188how much is your apartment in peso? how come it reaches that high 1100$ a month. are the 2 kids in college or an expensive school?

  • @jerrymylove1754
    @jerrymylove1754 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Doesn’t matter what you pay there. It’s all too expensive. The value you get for your money is extremely bad. Also, if you do stay at an expensive hotel or condo. The second you leave that place you are smack dab in the middle of a slum and surrounded by poverty. Doesn’t feel too good be like that. Glad I left. I hated it there so much.

  • @roddielopp
    @roddielopp หลายเดือนก่อน

    Luzon isn’t place to be lol

  • @muhjm1946
    @muhjm1946 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You guys are nothing but trouble 👿 you all tell guys about the good things of life in the Philippines, but you failed to tell guys there are laws. And the laws are serious. There is a catch, don’t violate laws. These guys are trouble!!! Go on Google and review the laws, a guy gets involved with a married woman he is in trouble can never imagine. Jail and prison is waiting. There’s no divorce in the Philippines, get involved with a married woman you are serious trouble. This guy is trouble, he telling you about the good and wonderful things about the Philippines, it’s true, but he’s not saying anything about what can happen if laws are violated. Stay far away from married women, some are very beautiful, you caught with one you are going to jail or prison, and you going to pay her husband a lot of money. And also the police and still go to jail. Don’t trust these guys who leave out important information. Yes the Philippines is a wonderful place, but are laws you don’t want to violate, because there no way around them. Husbands has a lot of rights, and the judge is Filipino and he is not going to play with you, violate the law you are going to jail. Their jail is nothing like home. Remember the American embassy can’t help you. All they will do is try to contact your family back home where you came from and try to get you money from your family, that’s all, the courts move extremely slow. A person can be in jail for a long time before they even see a court or a judge. Don’t trust this guy who is leaving out a lot of information. Review Google carefully concerning the laws. And check out others and get all the information you need to know. They will try to keep you safe if you listen and learn.

    • @Brian_The_Lion
      @Brian_The_Lion  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ever heard of white space?

    • @TheMubby
      @TheMubby 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Brian_The_Lionwhat is white space? Also, how would you an avoid this married woman situation? What if they don’t tell you they are married, but secretly are?