In the 1980 there was a big issue about this and the Philippines government and US Government worked together to address this issue. There was a big age gap of 50 years on so many relationships that what happened was both government took a stand. Before you got married they would interview both separately and see if they really knew each other...what was her middle name...what was his favorite color? And if they didn't match then the visa was not approved...in some way this really changed the big age gap difference. All that being said it was also a time when pilipina wanted to go to the US for work and this was not a issue of a expats moving to the Philippines right away
Really ??? What about when the pinay mother rent her 2 years old baby to westerners pedophiles....thats 2 consenting adults ....!?!?!?!? Before you make comments like that go and live there for few years ok....
He wants to be happy for the remaining years or days of his life so why not. Their both adults and can make their own decisions. She and her reasons and he has his. Win win.
Older men don't want children and they only have 15 years of relatively good health. The remaining ten years of their lives you'll be changing his diapers or visiting him in at the Home. Marry people close to your age so you can experience things for the first time and go through the same hardships
I know of some older guys that do cheat. Some older men are very healthy and sexually active. If they have some erictile dysfunction due to circulation issues, often modern drugs like Viagra and Cialis can help with that.
I corresponded with my Filipina at least 6 months before going to the Philippines to meet. She was from Almeria, but working in Manila. Very sweet beautiful girl. I think the women from the provinces are most traditional. The thing about not rushing into a relationship, is that you have months to gain knowledge of the person. This is a very seroius thing, so you make note of everything the she says. If she is not being up front with you, that will come through over time, because only truth is eternal, stories change. My Filipina never deviated in the things she said, so she appeared to be the real deal. Yes, I was twice her age, but I did not have any children, that was a priority for me. We have been married 15 years now, I helped her through nursing school here. Find a good Filipina, and she will give you everything a man needs. Even the most elusive thing from an American gal, serenity, peace. I can truthfully say it was the best decision of my life. My avitar is our youngest.
I am Laotian American. I have a girlfriend from Laos who is only 24 years old and I am 56. We cherish each other so much. I am moving there this year planning to live off my pension $2,000/month. I have a Caucasian American friend who married a Filipina gal and had lived in the Philippines for a few years before they moved to Pattaya Thailand. They too love each other so much despite age gap.
I'm 67 and am about to marry my 29 year old Fillipina girlfriend, I have my eyes wide open and am not naive, I know the core of our relationship is transactional but from my perspective that's never mentioned , I'm long ago divorced and no children and estranged from siblings so basically have lived alone for a long time with occasional dates .I'm fully aware of my mortality and I have made the decision to leave my modest savings to someone who has struggled her whole life and when I die she will be left with enough to live a comfortable life , this is a better legacy to leave instead of my family going to probate to fight over my Will 😊
Brought my Filipina to the US in 1997 with a 16 yr age gap. After three boys, still married. She has been 100% stay at home mom. I have provided 100%. Now I'm retired we are considering where to retire. She's not in a hurry to settle in the Philippines but I'd like split our time between Florida and Cebu. Just got to find the right person and have the means to support your family.
@mavoya1 sounds like philipines isn't high on her list. Why not just visit a few times a year. You get enough heat in Florida and the air is much cleaner.
I'm considering the same thing, I'm currently in JAX and thinking of splitting my time some place here and Surburban Manilla. We're considering buying a home there as well
@GUITARTIME2024 yeah I learned that while spending the holidays in 2022 over there. Learned about my anxiety too, but we're looking to buy outside of Manila city limits
I have a home in General Santos city. I am just a two minute walk from Manny Pacquiao’s home. I met my Filipino wife through a friend, and corresponded for almost a year before I travel to the Philippines to meet her. There is a 22 year difference our age. But once I met her and her family, and so I just out incredibly mature, responsible and reliable she was, I decided to start dating her seriously. She very much enjoys the traditional role of housekeeper, caretaker, and preparing meals. She had a son by previous relationship and the father abandoned them. We’ve been married almost 30 years, and I raised her son as my own. We purchased a home in general Santa city and invited her parents to live in it while we were in America. Thanks to her and her family. I have had a wonderful life. If an American dates a Filipina with dignity and respect, the family will accept them. It is quite traditional for a husband of a Filipino wife to send a little bit of money home each month just to help the family. $200 a month and the Philippines goes along, traveling to the Philippines on holidays is such a wonderful experience.
For many men this is their first time for them to find true love. America is often hostile towards men, especially old men. Life is better with love and a relationship where you can take care of each other. 65/24 here
@@patrickh6291 Ohhh... So I actually feel sorry for those over 6 feet in America. A feminist is someone who has the legal right to commit adultery, kill her babies and divorce her husband. 🙄
I'm glad you found love but sorry feel sorry for the 24 when you die she will be heart broken and alone? Are you planning to have children so that she will not be alone?
I totally agree with you,marrying older person is like marrying a life teacher who can teach you a lot of things you don't know about in life,wiser,knowledgeable and loyal person is the one
One of the best videos out there on the age gap. I would remind western men to not send large amounts of money for someone you only chat with on line. Online dating is a huge business with some of these young ladies so just be smart.
Thank you, I appreciate that! You're absolutely right 💯. I'd even advise not to send any money. There's always good and bad people everywhere. Social media has made it worse.
I have lived in the Philippines for more than half of my adult life, spanning more than 44 years since January 1980. I am married to a well-educated Filipina who gave up a promising career to marry me and later moved back to the United States. My wife and I have a five-year age gap. For more than 20 years, my wife and I have divided our time between homes in the Philippines and the United States. Snow birds have more fun. I enjoyed your video. It was well thought out and provided very accurate information. Thanks for sharing.
I have been with a sweet young Filipina for 2 years now. Yes she is beautiful,and they know how to manipulate guys on social media , it’s pretty common nowdays. I have learned a lot about how it works there. I have been to Philippines 3x and it’s beautiful there,and the people there are very friendly towards forigners. Our plan is to get margied next year,I will eventually retire there with her and her family . Yes .. the MAIN reason young Filipina date older Forigner is because of the support. There is so much poverty in Philippines,you can’t blame the girls to want ,and get a better life for them ,and their family’s
Here is what bothers me with age gap relationship... When the older man doesn't take care of the filipina after he dies .I have seen this two times with expats who died and left the wife with no money.. if a filipina is not a US CITIZEN she has to be 62 yrs old for her to get his pension..if she is a Citizen of US she gets his pension at 35 years old. My friend died last year and his wife got nothing and she had to move back with her family in the province..this is Sad. and the wife is in Worse position then before she got married. .the husband needs to have a life insurance policy for his wife after he dies
Yeah, that's interesting. I think some people just don't do planning, or at least have that discussion. That is sad! I am surprised the Filipina didn't stay here in the US. She could have worked here. I think that would be better than going back home to that same difficult situation. I guess she wanted to live with her family, not to mention it would be very difficult if she is all alone here. Well, I guess I answered my question lol.
As long as they happy Im happy for them, usually those who criticize are feminist-influenced woman who hates happy couple 😊 Life is about make good memory anyway....
8:13 - Nowadays it isn't hard to find a good filipina. All you have to do is give it some effort. Gone are the days that you could go to Subic and find someone in 5 days. You just need to put in some effort and go to places not normally visited. These guys looking for a good girl need to get off their ass and stop going to Angeles, Cebu or Makati and think they can mine gold.
Well i am the same my filipina girlfriend is 64 and i am 57 one advantage is when i visit i can get a 20 percent discount on meals and hotels with her senior citizen card
I met a Filipino my age. Her husband was a few years older than her. He passed away about a decade ago to my understanding. We have been conversing back and forth for about two years. In that time she has brought up money which i blew off. I didn't address it. I did send a computer to her for her birthday but apparently customs took it. I tried to send money for birthday and Christmas but western union gave me fraud alert and shut me down. She called me crying which i thought was odd. In that time of our socializing she tattooed her husband's name on her arm along with her daughters and later did a music video about her and her husband. Never once posted anything about me or us. I just said i don't need this. I was going to fly over there to meet but there really doesn't seem like it is authentic. Too many red flags. I was disappointed
I’m one of the foreigners that have an age gap relationship with my Filipina. She is 33 and I’m 51. Our relationship is an LDR and we are 1yr. in. Our relationship works very well because we communicate twice a day religiously. Our schedules connect perfectly with 12 hour difference. And no, I did not meet her online but through a mutual friend here in the states. Thanks again for your content on this subject.
I video chatted with a Filipina for 2 months. She was great, we had fun chatting. I was clear from the start "just friends". She caught feelings a couple times, I reminded her "friends only" and she would calm down. BUTT, and it's big BUTT, 1-3 hours chatting everyday was 1-3 hours I should have been doing other things. And I'm aware online is a fantasy. Of course it's fun. You never have to make any decisions like where to eat. Always relaxed and focused. Real life is nothing like that. The other giant issue is it gets the carabao before the cart. When a guy finds a Filipina online and then moves to PH he is almost always locked into living close to her family. I want to explore and find where I want to try living before looking for a Filipina. So I shut down the chatting and I stayed off dating site.
I love Filipina, marry a Filipina and you don’t just get a wife, you also get a nurse, a cook a doctor and most of all, you get a life time of happiness
great vid well done I have met a young Filipina woman at the hospital here in Australia and things are going well I never ever knew that they were so attractive it never even entered my head but now I have seen close up and personal.
I think I've the biggest gap on here - 64/20 - but I'll be damned - it's the best relationship I've ever had in my life. Her family loves me - and they are upper middle class with government positions - no poverty here. Her dad bought her a Honda Click for her 18th birthday. She's so beautiful - that she can have any guy she wants. It's like we were made for each other. We both couldn't be more in love - and we plan on having two kids. *_She connected with me_* - on Facebook - and the rest is history. Don't question why - question how stupid you would have to be to say no.
I corresponded with my Filipina at least 6 months before going to the Philippines to meet. She was from Almeria, but working in Manila. Very sweet beautiful girl. I think the women from the provinces are most traditional. The thing about not rushing into a relationship, is that you have months to gain knowledge of the person. This is a very seroius thing, so you make note of everything the she says. If she is not being up front with you, that will come through over time, because only truth is eternal, stories change. My Filipina never deviated in the things she said, so she appeared to be the real deal. Yes, I was twice her age, but I did not have any children, that was a priority for me. We have been married 15 years now, I helped her through nursing school here. Find a good Filipina, and she will give you everything a man needs. Even the most elusive thing from an American gal, serenity, peace. I can truthfully say it was the best decision of my life. My avitar is our youngest.
I’ve been married for 8 years to my wife. There is a 22 (YES, 22) year age gap between us. I am very blessed that I have found someone who I love very much and plan to spend the rest of my life with. Your analysis is pretty much spot on. One thing you didn’t mention is that in some cases an older man and younger woman are on the same maturity level. That can be a good or bad thing. In our case, we have been fortunate because my wife and I enjoy the same things. We are both homebody’s, we have many of the same interests e.g. music, tv, movies, food (she loves to cook and I love to eat LOL), politics (most of the time😉) and family. I love her sense of humor. And she (bless her heart) finds me entertaining as well. Prior to our meeting, I was married for almost 25 years 😱 to a woman who immigrated to the states, from the Philippines, 4 years before I met her. And while she gave me 2 beautiful children, our marriage was difficult from the start. She was, in my opinion, a high maintenance person who had insecurity issues going back to her childhood. Ultimately, we (thankfully) ended our marriage while we were still young enough to move on with our lives. It was a difficult transition that left some scars but it was very much for the best. I guess what I really want to say is that there is someone for everyone. And in my case, my one and only was born 22 years apart from me. And for those who are curious. I just turned 60 and I met my soon to be wife when I was 48. And I have told her that she is the one I have waited for all my life. Thank you for allowing me to share. And always remember that haters are always going to hate. God bless and good luck.
Hey she's the right one for you! Happy for you both. Enjoy your retirement! I am assuming that is the case, 😅. Thanks and happy 4th! Regards to the wife!
Rarely discussed... what happens to the Filipina when the old goat drops dead ? At least for Americans...it could be decades until she gets social security survivor benefits. There is rarely discussion about the importance of the foreigner legally adopting the woman's kiddos. So they can get survivor benefits until they are 18, or out of college. I would not be able to engage in a relationship with a younger woman if I wasn't confident that there was sufficient resources available to support her after I die.
All eminently sensible. The changes from the past are toxic, as you say, with foreigners, in particular, playing around when they go there with little or no intention of a lasting relationship. The result is that Filipino women are often far more cautious about dating foreigners who are in the Philippines.
Enjoyed your video thank you. Im a 39 afam and my filipino fiance is 27. She is younger but it just turned out that way. I fell in love with her and filipino values. She will join me in Europe for a few years and then our plan is to move back and buy a farm in Leyte
I am the opposite I am married to a Filipina who is three years older than me she is 64 and me 61 I have been with here twenty years I never considered a younger woman as I prefer my own age group by the way I met her in Australia I have been to the Philippines many times I got her pregnant at 45 we now have a 18 year old son
If you think a 20 year old is going to love a 60 year old well try to not give her a allowance or support her family and see how long she stays with with
8:29 Can you explain how that makes sense, please? It seems if the guy is in country already he is way more likely to be real, commitment type tp PH and a women there, etc.
It's easy to get overwhelmed with options once you are already in the country. One advantage of talking to someone long distance is that, there is a physical barrier that allows both parties to focus on getting to know each other without distractions (i.e. being physically intimate). Of course, there's pros and cons to an LDR, too. Social media doesn't help, with others encouraging other men to explore first rather than taking the serious route (courtship that leads to marriage). This doesn't apply to everyone, I'm sure some foreigners already in PH are genuinely looking for a serious relationship. On the other hand, those who are just visiting don't have any intentions of getting into a relationship at all. But a friend said, she noticed that there's seems to be an influx of the dating type. Meaning not wanting to get married. I appreciate the feedback. Thanks!
I just found you in my suggested videos and sub'd. My filipina is an English teacher in PH and she sometimes asks me to speak a little slower. But wow.... I'm pretty sure it would take me an extra 10 minutes to say everything you said in this video 😲😅 I look forward to watching more of your videos! Thanks and good job 😃
I the have a Pinay friend , she's shot me down more times than Chinese Sly Balloon, she is extremely conservative and we have a 30yr age gap I'm moving to Cebu in 540 days so she's my boots on the ground, weve known each other for 6 yrs and I had to learn about her culture I almost blew it with her, she actually forgave me and might be warming up to the idea I am an Evangelical Christian I'm not going to offer a sampler platter I want 1, an actual chance to court her properly 🤞 Thanks again on another excellent Vlog
oh really,,,u are a Evangelical,,,do u follow the whole bible? Or u just pick and choose? You waiting for marriage to have sex? Or you dont follow the bible,,,,hahahahaha Most of the Evangelicals are hypocrites here in the USA
Great day I hope all is going well. I have a question about filipinas that has been bothering me for quite sometime and thought you might be able to bring some clarity for me. Why is it that Filipinas never talk about how their foreigner husband's or boyfriends helped them out of poverty and/or changed their lives, and family's lives. They helped to break the cycle of poverty, or at the very least raised their standard of living to one they could never imagine or attain on their own. You always see videos on foreigners praising the filipina, but never see Filipinas giving the foreigner any type of recognition. I have only ever seen one guy on TH-cam talk about this, and he was asking the same question. They are quick to post what they have gotten from the foreigner on Facebook, but never mention how they got it or give at least some credit to the foreigner. It like they think they are entitled to it. It's just not right, and someone needs to talk about it.
Hi there! Thank you for your question, I always appreciate the feedback! You've made a very good point! Filipinas should talk about this (including myself). Majority of Filipinas are very appreciative of their husband's help, they just don't talk about it on the internet. I guess I could take the lead in doing that. Thank you for bringing that up! It is a very good idea. When it comes to the issue of entitlement: Unfortunately, that is rooted deep into the Filipino culture. I can probably explain this better on a separate video, but this is very similar to those who think we should adhere to wealth distribution. It means if you're the one who's well off, then you are expected to pay for everybody. And if you're a foreigner, they automatically think you are rich so there you go haha. Most Filipinos who work abroad deal with this issue with their families and extended relatives. This is one of the main reasons why the country remains to be poor. And if you happen to speak up about this, you're the bad guy. I hope you get the gist of where I'm going with this. I hope this explains it. Thanks for watching and for talking the time to comment!
First let me say thank you for responding. And being honest in your reply. Yes please make a video about it. I think it would be great. I know alot of men in general would be glad to hear it. I for one am one of them. We don't ask for much, and a little appreciation can go a long way. So I look forward to hearing your perspective on this matter. Thanks
@@conservativefilipina Yes! I would say you hit the target on that one. OFWs do get asked for money often. Even if they are still working OFW. That would be hard on them especially since they are away!
Shalom! I’m Kath! I’m also Filipina and wanted to say how much I appreciate the way you explained this topic. Your clarity and presentation are spot on. I’m excited to see more of this content on your channel, especially as I’m considering my options when it comes to possibly settling down with an American man here in the Philippines. Thanks again! God bless!
I've traveled to the Philippines 3x thus far now planning my 4th trip because of the woman I've met and fell in love with. 52 @the time we met and her 38, as I told her I'm too old to be dating around and looking to be married. We'll be married sometime next year and couldn't be happier. Salamat for your opinions po
Thanks for this short, no nonsense video. I am in an LDR with a Filipina 25 years younger and I am moving to the Philippines this year from southwest Florida. New subscriber
I am 37 years old, and I recently met or should I say got in contact with a 32-year-old Filipina. We are already very lovey-dovey towards each other, but I still think it’s moving too fast. She is already talking about marriage. We are already talking about me going over there in a few months. I heard from somebody that some of these women do move very fast. She is a very nice Christian woman.
Correct it’s in my brothers wife’s name with a spa but I’m not worried about if something goes wrong . In any business you don’t invest what you can’t afford to loose. i’m secure with my brother and his wife’s relationship married over 20 years with children. They’re not going anywhere at this point in their life. They own many properties in the Philippines properties United States they’ve no intentions of going back to the Philippines. I only have one child who dose not want the house so not a big deal!
Also, there’s a fact that the new Philip is a younger ones have a very high body count. Going from one foreigner to another, and that also plays into it.
You touched upon some important points. I have some experience with Philippines; first trying to find romance, then changed my attitudes and now perhaps not really that much interested in anything serious there. What was the problem, for me? Well, I find the people there to be so casual and living with the moments; not saying that is bad or not, but it did not work for me. I met a girl for serious relationship and met her big family and friends. They did not even ask single question about my family, my thoughts, my expectations and my thinking. This laid back, casual attitude and approach makes finding girls there for fun easy but for serious matter really hard. Now things are getting worse, because as you said they learnt the trade and dating sites are flooded with girls looking for fun in return for money!
Hi. No need to feel rushed in making your videos. I don't believe anyone of your subscribers would mind if you slowed down and elaborate more information. You are putting out great content. That's why I subscribed.
What I do not understand is why any man would want to get married after 50? Marriage is for building a life together (in their 20s, not 50s) and having children. If he wants companionship, he can get that without the legal restraints that limits him in a marriage relationship. I have always believed relationships have a shelf life. They eventually run their course and both sides are stuck unfulfilled once it does. If the man is over the age of 65, he is looking for a full time nurse and he knows he can get a younger woman in the Philippines who will accept him. Why not just be up front, pay her a flat fee each month, and if things go bad, they part ways?
You don't need to pay if she's your gf. If you want a maid it's a different deal. Of course you're going to pay the bills if your gf lives with you, which will amount to the same thing in the end, but you've got your freedom if that's what you want.
First of all 50thy is not old for a man. You can't even get retirement because you're too young and still sexual active. So you most be young to even think like that
She gets his Estate much sooner, than if he were younger. That means she can go on to score another Mark while she is still young enough to look appealing
I stumbled upon your video by chance and I’m absolutely glad that I did.. I can listen to you talk all day! Feels like chatting with someone sitting before me in a fine afternoon over coffee, except that you’re doing all the talking. I look forward to just about any video you’ll post. Sub’d!!! It’s hard to come by someone who delivers their content the way you do. Your husband is one of the lucky few to have such an eloquent, intelligent and good looking lady beside him. SALUTE!
THank you so much for the honest insight i am 66 and still run a business in usa and have been on christian filipina have not found a match have applied for my SRRVvisa and will be visiting in January to finalize my visa and explore PH Singapore Malaysia may find someone but need to be friends first like you said must have common goals and desires great job
I love my fiancé she’s younger but I love her so so much n I treat her like a goddess ; yes I built her a house ; she makes me happy and I love her n accept her the way she is
You know I heard you make a comment 30 seconds into your video that seems to be a cliche with many bloggers. Older men want younger women because of her youth and beauty and we know that looks fade over time. First rather then answering the question as to why with your opinion have you ever asked older foreigners that question? Not one or two but a good sample. Yes no doubt any man of any age (and woman for that matter) appreciates what is pleasing to the eyes. But to say that is the driving force for them (most) is foolish and belittling to men. Looks may draw him but personality and character its what will hold him. She is (hopefully) less jaded and scarred with a lifetime of failed relationships and life disappointments then a older woman and he could maybe save her from ever going through that because he has lifetime knowledge. Also he is able to do things that he could never do when he was younger because he is financially stable and he has time and wisdom on his side. As far as her "beauty fading with time" goes. First if he is in his 60's, 70's and she is anywhere from mid 20's to I would say early 40's, chances are he will fade from this life before his Filipina's beauty fades. More importantly physical beauty and attraction is more important in the beginning then later. When you are with a good person as time goes on you see the inner beauty or ugliness more than the outer. Sorry for making this so long, but I have been seeing this statement made over and over again and felt I had to sayh something.
I am 59 and my Filipina fiance is 29. My Filipina will never have to work again in her life. We filed for K1 visa for her to come to USA. We plan to visit Phills once per year. She hates the heat in Cebuano area. I live in the Mid-west so I am concerned about the cold weather on her. I also have a Pre-nup agreement and I will provide her a small stipend if we do get divorce. I was married for 39 years and lost my wife to cancer. Why would I date an American Woman my age with all the drama BS when I can get a young, hot Filipina to be good to me?
Believe me there is plenty of drama with young filipina's as well. You sound like a good guy, don't put the pressure of perfection on your relationship. There will be ups and downs, hopefully more ups.
@@ggrace1133 Not really but do you know what is really disgusting? Single American Women. Their body counts are over 10, they have 2 baby Daddies, they are 20 pounds over weight, they want to be a "stay at home Mom" but refuse to cook and clean. They want to be "good wives" but go out with their girlfriends to the club and cheat. Now that is disgusting. Filipinas are raised to be conservative. They cherish the role of traditional house wife. They cook and clean for their husbands and families. Therefore, the husbands provide for their wives. My fiance will never have to work a day in her life. I just worry that she will get "Americanized". I have told her repeatedly, if she gets radicalized by American women, I will send her back. If she already has her US Citizenship and pulls this crap, she is kicked to the curb. My fiance is a good Catholic girl so I am. not worried about her getting radicalized. It is still possible but not likely. So why are you disgusted? That a rich American man does not chose you or your kind but chooses a better woman?
Everything was going ok for about 5 years, but she slowly became Americanized over the next 5 years. Then things fell apart. There is no way to stop this that I know of. If you live in the Philippines, there is less chance of this happening. America living can be destructive to relationships sometimes.
sometimes it's not "playing around" but rather that we date to really get to know each other. However, the Filipina may be ready to be in a serious relationship NOW, planning the future, etc., after just a few dates and even speaking about love. Most western men are more cautious and looking for real compatibility, so we move into serious relationships more slowly. So our very seriousness about being with the right woman gives her the impression of not being serious. Hmmmmmm I think men and women are basically incompatible, but we are compelled to seek each other out because God is obviously a prankster!!
I have never cheated. I don't believe my partners have cheated. I have 100s of friends. I maybe know 4 people who have cheated ? Cheating isn't that common in some social groups.
Honest, transparent, informative video, which translates well the expectations and drifts of each side and like you, I find it sad to think only of fun without commitment or responsibilities. For my part, if I come to the Philippines, it is to find a woman younger than me (between 29 and 45 years old) and to get married. Like many Westerners, the Filipino woman still has these intrinsic values that make her a sought-after woman as you described in your clip and it is precious (for us, Western men) I think that the best thing is also to go where there are fewer Westerners in order to create a feeling of novelty, of attractiveness for the Filipino woman, I had good information on the city of Davao. Do you have other cities to recommend that are less frequented by tourists ?
Well, I can tell you this. There's one definite way you can find out if She just wants to get out of the Philippines. And it's not for true love. Tell her during the dating process. You'd eventually like to move to a nice area of the philippines
Hi Conservative Filipina. I don’t think you rambled in the video or made it too long. In fact you deliver very clear and concise information. First time viewing. Subscribed Thank you.
My family picked me. I was skeptical. Because 40 years old and 65 years old. I don't know what I would do without them. But it's not easy. I want them to come here so that I can pass my home on to them. I don't meet the income requirements to do K1 visa. I spent 1 month with her in Philippines but may never see her again but will support my wife and a daughter in high school until I die.❤
I told my wife before we married that I wanted to retire in the Philippines. She stayed there 10 years and was able to send money to the family but she realized the life in the US was hard. Get up, work, get home, ear sleep, repeat. Weekends, shop grocery, wash dry clothing, clean house, repeat. Not a lot of time to enjoy. She made more money but realized had to spend money.
I just found your channel. Please don’t feel rushed. I have visited the Philippines multiple times and plan a semi retirement there. I appreciate longer educational videos on the topic from those that have the knowledge. Thanks for the vid.
Awesome video. I absolutely agree with you. I tell men my age at 57-year-old dont send money to women you never met. I lived in Phillipines and yes its poverty and money is hard to come by. Alot of women would prefer 🤔 fillipino men. But they will take a older foreigner to help them financially. Great video.
Most Filipino prefer Filipino men? Thats not always. Young Filipinos will date a young foreigners black or white over Filipino men but the problem is theres very few young foreign men because they have no income and is very unstable. They end up going back to the states just to survive. And they may not be patient enough to wait on immigration. Its a catch 22
You don't want someone that loves you because they need you. You want to find someone who needs you because they love you. Whoa... Such true words. T_T
Oh humans are humans no matter where you go. I'm an extremely conservative person and because of this few will be able to impress me as a loyal loving and intelligent partner.
Interesting topic. I believe that a lot of educated women in Asia over thirty have a tough time marrying guys in their age group because the Asian guys in their country want younger ladies. Probably some real gems in the over 30 category that might appreciate/consider an educated older Western guy. Oh, and Chop On Braves!
It's not just the Philippines, but other not western countries that the age gap is normal. Thru all of history, women always searched for an established man 10-20 years her senior.... it made sense, he got fertility, yourh and beauty, she got provisions, protection and stability... My only issue with a Filipina is that when you bring up culture or beliefs, they can't or mostly won't accept polygyny, even if you bring up the history of small tribes and multiple wives pre-spaniah invasion or that the T'Boli peoples still live that way. Three wives to a husband
LET ME EMPHASIZE: When I stated 'Younger Filipina', I was referring to a young LEGAL ADULT Filipina. I hope that is all clear. Thank you!
In the 1980 there was a big issue about this and the Philippines government and US Government worked together to address this issue. There was a big age gap of 50 years on so many relationships that what happened was both government took a stand. Before you got married they would interview both separately and see if they really knew each other...what was her middle name...what was his favorite color? And if they didn't match then the visa was not approved...in some way this really changed the big age gap difference. All that being said it was also a time when pilipina wanted to go to the US for work and this was not a issue of a expats moving to the Philippines right away
It is a sad world when it was needed to say adult. Everyone should of known that without saying.
The bottom line is that it is no one's business but the two consenting adults.
That is a beta male, defensive comment. hahah
Best statement of all 💪💪💪
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Really ???
What about when the pinay mother rent her 2 years old baby to westerners pedophiles....thats 2 consenting adults ....!?!?!?!?
Before you make comments like that go and live there for few years ok....
And the green card.
Old men do not require that the marriage lasts forever. Just lasts till they die.
@whyh Ha ha so true. Give them at least a taste of happiness and to feel that they are loved at least a little.
@@karriemartinez2746Thank you, for so many men this is so true.
He wants to be happy for the remaining years or days of his life so why not. Their both adults and can make their own decisions. She and her reasons and he has his. Win win.
So why are they going to a 3rd world country to take advantage of a woman who sees them as rich because of the exchange rate. It's morally wrong.
@@Joe-n4e8e old men are easy ATM money
Filipinas want stability and the fact older men are a lot less likely to cheat.
Older men don't want children and they only have 15 years of relatively good health. The remaining ten years of their lives you'll be changing his diapers or visiting him in at the Home.
Marry people close to your age so you can experience things for the first time and go through the same hardships
They probably can’t cheat.
@@photopro100money 💰 🤑 💸 👌
@@photopro100they can 😉but have character and self respect
I know of some older guys that do cheat. Some older men are very healthy and sexually active. If they have some erictile dysfunction due to circulation issues, often modern drugs like Viagra and Cialis can help with that.
I corresponded with my Filipina at least 6 months before going to the Philippines to meet. She was from Almeria, but working in Manila. Very sweet beautiful girl. I think the women from the provinces are most traditional. The thing about not rushing into a relationship, is that you have months to gain knowledge of the person. This is a very seroius thing, so you make note of everything the she says. If she is not being up front with you, that will come through over time, because only truth is eternal, stories change. My Filipina never deviated in the things she said, so she appeared to be the real deal. Yes, I was twice her age, but I did not have any children, that was a priority for me. We have been married 15 years now, I helped her through nursing school here. Find a good Filipina, and she will give you everything a man needs. Even the most elusive thing from an American gal, serenity, peace. I can truthfully say it was the best decision of my life. My avitar is our youngest.
wow
I love that . I'm in the same situation. Helping her they nursing school.
@@strannick2212 Me also
We were pen pals for a year before we got married in Cebu 1995.
It was worth the wait.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU
Good analysis. But one thing I might point out is that a 20 year age gaps seem smaller when people are older when they are younger.
I am Laotian American. I have a girlfriend from Laos who is only 24 years old and I am 56. We cherish each other so much. I am moving there this year planning to live off my pension $2,000/month. I have a Caucasian American friend who married a Filipina gal and had lived in the Philippines for a few years before they moved to Pattaya Thailand. They too love each other so much despite age gap.
delusional lol
@@rohanofelvenpower5566 we will see him crying on the roadside in about two years lol. Just take some spare change for his cup when you hit thailand
you still young man bro not even old enough to get your ssd yet
@@tyronmoore2534 Thank you! I will collect social security at 62 then I will be living off over $3,400/month
@@Bruce3949 😂 good luck
I'm 67 and am about to marry my 29 year old Fillipina girlfriend, I have my eyes wide open and am not naive, I know the core of our relationship is transactional but from my perspective that's never mentioned , I'm long ago divorced and no children and estranged from siblings so basically have lived alone for a long time with occasional dates .I'm fully aware of my mortality and I have made the decision to leave my modest savings to someone who has struggled her whole life and when I die she will be left with enough to live a comfortable life , this is a better legacy to leave instead of my family going to probate to fight over my Will 😊
We are same!
I’ve been married 5 years I’m 68 and she is 30 - all is going great
You have the right frame of mind, I wish you the best.
@@claudenewton8932 thank you for the kind words
Sad to read this, but it makes sense
Brought my Filipina to the US in 1997 with a 16 yr age gap. After three boys, still married. She has been 100% stay at home mom. I have provided 100%. Now I'm retired we are considering where to retire. She's not in a hurry to settle in the Philippines but I'd like split our time between Florida and Cebu. Just got to find the right person and have the means to support your family.
@mavoya1 sounds like philipines isn't high on her list. Why not just visit a few times a year. You get enough heat in Florida and the air is much cleaner.
I'm considering the same thing, I'm currently in JAX and thinking of splitting my time some place here and Surburban Manilla. We're considering buying a home there as well
@rodneysessoms8804 enjoy the terrible air quality in Manila and all that beep beeping.
@GUITARTIME2024 yeah I learned that while spending the holidays in 2022 over there. Learned about my anxiety too, but we're looking to buy outside of Manila city limits
wow, nice. you planned well.
I have a home in General Santos city. I am just a two minute walk from Manny Pacquiao’s home. I met my Filipino wife through a friend, and corresponded for almost a year before I travel to the Philippines to meet her. There is a 22 year difference our age. But once I met her and her family, and so I just out incredibly mature, responsible and reliable she was, I decided to start dating her seriously. She very much enjoys the traditional role of housekeeper, caretaker, and preparing meals. She had a son by previous relationship and the father abandoned them. We’ve been married almost 30 years, and I raised her son as my own. We purchased a home in general Santa city and invited her parents to live in it while we were in America. Thanks to her and her family. I have had a wonderful life. If an American dates a Filipina with dignity and respect, the family will accept them. It is quite traditional for a husband of a Filipino wife to send a little bit of money home each month just to help the family. $200 a month and the Philippines goes along, traveling to the Philippines on holidays is such a wonderful experience.
For many men this is their first time for them to find true love. America is often hostile towards men, especially old men. Life is better with love and a relationship where you can take care of each other. 65/24 here
Yes especially a older man and somebody under 6 feet in height is extremely hard to date in America. Women look for men well over 6 feet.
@@patrickh6291 Ohhh... So I actually feel sorry for those over 6 feet in America. A feminist is someone who has the legal right to commit adultery, kill her babies and divorce her husband. 🙄
@@patrickh6291 Yes. American Amazon abortion, adultery, and divorce is rampant. Heading to the Philippines is wise.
really? are u sure true love? or just lust?
I'm glad you found love but sorry feel sorry for the 24 when you die she will be heart broken and alone? Are you planning to have children so that she will not be alone?
I was 56 when I started dating a 21 year old Chinese. We married two years later and now I’m 72 she 37 and still married.
I totally agree with you,marrying older person is like marrying a life teacher who can teach you a lot of things you don't know about in life,wiser,knowledgeable and loyal person is the one
One of the best videos out there on the age gap. I would remind western men to not send large amounts of money for someone you only chat with on line. Online dating is a huge business with some of these young ladies so just be smart.
Thank you, I appreciate that!
You're absolutely right 💯. I'd even advise not to send any money. There's always good and bad people everywhere. Social media has made it worse.
I have lived in the Philippines for more than half of my adult life, spanning more than 44 years since January 1980. I am married to a well-educated Filipina who gave up a promising career to marry me and later moved back to the United States. My wife and I have a five-year age gap. For more than 20 years, my wife and I have divided our time between homes in the Philippines and the United States. Snow birds have more fun. I enjoyed your video. It was well thought out and provided very accurate information. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you! I appreciate that.
I have been with a sweet young Filipina for 2 years now. Yes she is beautiful,and they know how to manipulate guys on social media , it’s pretty common nowdays.
I have learned a lot about how it works there. I have been to Philippines 3x and it’s beautiful there,and the people there are very friendly towards forigners. Our plan is to get margied next year,I will eventually retire there with her and her family . Yes .. the MAIN reason young Filipina date older Forigner is because of the support. There is so much poverty in Philippines,you can’t blame the girls to want ,and get a better life for them ,and their family’s
Here is what bothers me with age gap relationship... When the older man doesn't take care of the filipina after he dies .I have seen this two times with expats who died and left the wife with no money.. if a filipina is not a US CITIZEN she has to be 62 yrs old for her to get his pension..if she is a Citizen of US she gets his pension at 35 years old. My friend died last year and his wife got nothing and she had to move back with her family in the province..this is Sad. and the wife is in Worse position then before she got married. .the husband needs to have a life insurance policy for his wife after he dies
Yeah, that's interesting. I think some people just don't do planning, or at least have that discussion. That is sad!
I am surprised the Filipina didn't stay here in the US. She could have worked here. I think that would be better than going back home to that same difficult situation. I guess she wanted to live with her family, not to mention it would be very difficult if she is all alone here. Well, I guess I answered my question lol.
yea, planning for these things is necessary.
It’s a husband’s duty
Hello my dear how are you doing?
As long as they happy Im happy for them, usually those who criticize are feminist-influenced woman who hates happy couple 😊 Life is about make good memory anyway....
8:13 - Nowadays it isn't hard to find a good filipina. All you have to do is give it some effort. Gone are the days that you could go to Subic and find someone in 5 days. You just need to put in some effort and go to places not normally visited. These guys looking for a good girl need to get off their ass and stop going to Angeles, Cebu or Makati and think they can mine gold.
My Filipina wife is 12 years older than me, so we went against the flow. 😁 Oh well, we've been happily married for 22 years now.
Wow! Congratulations 🎊
Thanks for watching and for commenting!
Very rare have a heard of older filipina and younger foreigner.
Well i am the same my filipina girlfriend is 64 and i am 57 one advantage is when i visit i can get a 20 percent discount on meals and hotels with her senior citizen card
All relationships are transactional. An exchange of value
True at first but diminishes with time otherwise relationship is doomed
Men want a pretty wife and lots of sex women want stability marriage kids and the white picket fence. As a guy I think women get the better deal !
I met a Filipino my age. Her husband was a few years older than her. He passed away about a decade ago to my understanding. We have been conversing back and forth for about two years. In that time she has brought up money which i blew off. I didn't address it. I did send a computer to her for her birthday but apparently customs took it. I tried to send money for birthday and Christmas but western union gave me fraud alert and shut me down. She called me crying which i thought was odd. In that time of our socializing she tattooed her husband's name on her arm along with her daughters and later did a music video about her and her husband. Never once posted anything about me or us. I just said i don't need this. I was going to fly over there to meet but there really doesn't seem like it is authentic. Too many red flags. I was disappointed
I’m one of the foreigners that have an age gap relationship with my Filipina. She is 33 and I’m 51. Our relationship is an LDR and we are 1yr. in. Our relationship works very well because we communicate twice a day religiously. Our schedules connect perfectly with 12 hour difference. And no, I did not meet her online but through a mutual friend here in the states. Thanks again for your content on this subject.
Thanks for sharing your story!
I wish you both the best in your relationship. Thanks for watching!
1yr LDR? Buddy, you are the only one in the relationship.
I video chatted with a Filipina for 2 months. She was great, we had fun chatting. I was clear from the start "just friends". She caught feelings a couple times, I reminded her "friends only" and she would calm down.
BUTT, and it's big BUTT, 1-3 hours chatting everyday was 1-3 hours I should have been doing other things.
And I'm aware online is a fantasy. Of course it's fun. You never have to make any decisions like where to eat. Always relaxed and focused. Real life is nothing like that.
The other giant issue is it gets the carabao before the cart. When a guy finds a Filipina online and then moves to PH he is almost always locked into living close to her family. I want to explore and find where I want to try living before looking for a Filipina.
So I shut down the chatting and I stayed off dating site.
That is not too much.
@@happywanderer5632😂😂😂
I love Filipina, marry a Filipina and you don’t just get a wife, you also get a nurse, a cook a doctor and most of all, you get a life time of happiness
but they are not a challenge..seems like they will take any white man.
@@jameshall915you don’t know them well then
They are a lot of work but it is worth it
I doubt it
Are you currently in the PI? How long have you been married? Is everything as good as the first year?
@@MarcoSaldana yes. In Luzon… beautiful people, beautiful country…here in the Philippines, you can’t walk past someone without them speaking to you
Thank you very much for your balanced and frank discussion.
great vid well done I have met a young Filipina woman at the hospital here in Australia and things are going well I never ever knew that
they were so attractive it never even entered my head but now I have seen close up and personal.
I think I've the biggest gap on here - 64/20 - but I'll be damned - it's the best relationship I've ever had in my life. Her family loves me - and they are upper middle class with government positions - no poverty here. Her dad bought her a Honda Click for her 18th birthday. She's so beautiful - that she can have any guy she wants. It's like we were made for each other. We both couldn't be more in love - and we plan on having two kids. *_She connected with me_* - on Facebook - and the rest is history. Don't question why - question how stupid you would have to be to say no.
@@murrayspiffy2815 unbelievably selfish to consider fathering kids at your age, buddy. Please don't do that.
I would do it too brother 💪💪💪
You’re a lucky man! Enjoy!
😂😂😂😂😂
Robert de Niro is 80 and just had a kid. Congratz boss!
I’m a Filipina but I learned so much from your vlog. Didn’t realize some reasons that you mentioned but they make sense. ❤
Glad you think so. Thank you!
A few of us want kids so a younger Filipina makes sense for that.
Thanks for the comment! I appreciate it!
I corresponded with my Filipina at least 6 months before going to the Philippines to meet. She was from Almeria, but working in Manila. Very sweet beautiful girl. I think the women from the provinces are most traditional. The thing about not rushing into a relationship, is that you have months to gain knowledge of the person. This is a very seroius thing, so you make note of everything the she says. If she is not being up front with you, that will come through over time, because only truth is eternal, stories change. My Filipina never deviated in the things she said, so she appeared to be the real deal. Yes, I was twice her age, but I did not have any children, that was a priority for me. We have been married 15 years now, I helped her through nursing school here. Find a good Filipina, and she will give you everything a man needs. Even the most elusive thing from an American gal, serenity, peace. I can truthfully say it was the best decision of my life. My avitar is our youngest.
I have noticed what good fathers American men in the 60s are. They often tell me that now they have time to be a proper father.
@@johnl9977
why posting the same ole same ole 2x ?
TWO REASONS!! 1. Financial 2. Having a beautiful kid that can become an actor or a beauty queen.
I’ve been married for 8 years to my wife. There is a 22 (YES, 22) year age gap between us. I am very blessed that I have found someone who I love very much and plan to spend the rest of my life with.
Your analysis is pretty much spot on. One thing you didn’t mention is that in some cases an older man and younger woman are on the same maturity level. That can be a good or bad thing. In our case, we have been fortunate because my wife and I enjoy the same things. We are both homebody’s, we have many of the same interests e.g. music, tv, movies, food (she loves to cook and I love to eat LOL), politics (most of the time😉) and family. I love her sense of humor. And she (bless her heart) finds me entertaining as well.
Prior to our meeting, I was married for almost 25 years 😱 to a woman who immigrated to the states, from the Philippines, 4 years before I met her. And while she gave me 2 beautiful children, our marriage was difficult from the start. She was, in my opinion, a high maintenance person who had insecurity issues going back to her childhood. Ultimately, we (thankfully) ended our marriage while we were still young enough to move on with our lives. It was a difficult transition that left some scars but it was very much for the best.
I guess what I really want to say is that there is someone for everyone. And in my case, my one and only was born 22 years apart from me. And for those who are curious. I just turned 60 and I met my soon to be wife when I was 48. And I have told her that she is the one I have waited for all my life. Thank you for allowing me to share. And always remember that haters are always going to hate. God bless and good luck.
I messed up... Married a Filipina 3 yrs older than me. 😂She moved to America and now we migrating back to the Philippines after 20 years. Great stuff!
Hey she's the right one for you! Happy for you both. Enjoy your retirement! I am assuming that is the case, 😅. Thanks and happy 4th! Regards to the wife!
Rarely discussed... what happens to the Filipina when the old goat drops dead ? At least for Americans...it could be decades until she gets social security survivor benefits. There is rarely discussion about the importance of the foreigner legally adopting the woman's kiddos. So they can get survivor benefits until they are 18, or out of college. I would not be able to engage in a relationship with a younger woman if I wasn't confident that there was sufficient resources available to support her after I die.
All eminently sensible. The changes from the past are toxic, as you say, with foreigners, in particular, playing around when they go there with little or no intention of a lasting relationship. The result is that Filipino women are often far more cautious about dating foreigners who are in the Philippines.
Yes, that's what I've observed.
Thank you for watching and for commenting!
@@MelPatton-yi8seNo the want a foreign virgin kinda like a man would like a Virgin 😊
Thank you very much for your interesting and genuinely helpful information, All the best to you.
Enjoyed your video thank you. Im a 39 afam and my filipino fiance is 27. She is younger but it just turned out that way. I fell in love with her and filipino values. She will join me in Europe for a few years and then our plan is to move back and buy a farm in Leyte
16 happy years with my Thai wife who is 32 years younger than me. We just had our first child after all these years. Life is good!!
People pair up when it is in both of their best interests.
I love the way you talk. You are so well-spoken. Great points you presented here. Got yourself a sub.
Thank you! I appreciate the support!
I am the opposite I am married to a Filipina who is three years older than me she is 64 and me 61 I have been with here twenty years I never considered a younger woman as I prefer my own age group by the way I met her in Australia I have been to the Philippines many times I got her pregnant at 45 we now have a 18 year old son
If you think a 20 year old is going to love a 60 year old well try to not give her a allowance or support her family and see how long she stays with with
You're saying real things, very good informations, it's clear.thank you
8:29 Can you explain how that makes sense, please? It seems if the guy is in country already he is way more likely to be real, commitment type tp PH and a women there, etc.
It's easy to get overwhelmed with options once you are already in the country. One advantage of talking to someone long distance is that, there is a physical barrier that allows both parties to focus on getting to know each other without distractions (i.e. being physically intimate). Of course, there's pros and cons to an LDR, too.
Social media doesn't help, with others encouraging other men to explore first rather than taking the serious route (courtship that leads to marriage).
This doesn't apply to everyone, I'm sure some foreigners already in PH are genuinely looking for a serious relationship. On the other hand, those who are just visiting don't have any intentions of getting into a relationship at all. But a friend said, she noticed that there's seems to be an influx of the dating type. Meaning not wanting to get married.
I appreciate the feedback. Thanks!
@@conservativefilipina Thank you for taking time out to reply.
This was the most well educated informational complete summary of this topic. Commit this to memory.
I just found you in my suggested videos and sub'd.
My filipina is an English teacher in PH and she sometimes asks me to speak a little slower. But wow.... I'm pretty sure it would take me an extra 10 minutes to say everything you said in this video 😲😅 I look forward to watching more of your videos! Thanks and good job 😃
I the have a Pinay friend , she's shot me down more times than Chinese Sly Balloon, she is extremely conservative and we have a 30yr age gap I'm moving to Cebu in 540 days so she's my boots on the ground, weve known each other for 6 yrs and I had to learn about her culture I almost blew it with her, she actually forgave me and might be warming up to the idea I am an Evangelical Christian I'm not going to offer a sampler platter I want 1, an actual chance to court her properly 🤞
Thanks again on another excellent Vlog
I wish you the best! I appreciate your comments. Thank you!
Bud, she's not interested. You've been friend zoned. Don't creep her out.
oh really,,,u are a Evangelical,,,do u follow the whole bible? Or u just pick and choose? You waiting for marriage to have sex? Or you dont follow the bible,,,,hahahahaha Most of the Evangelicals are hypocrites here in the USA
Great day
I hope all is going well. I have a question about filipinas that has been bothering me for quite sometime and thought you might be able to bring some clarity for me.
Why is it that Filipinas never talk about how their foreigner husband's or boyfriends helped them out of poverty and/or changed their lives, and family's lives. They helped to break the cycle of poverty, or at the very least raised their standard of living to one they could never imagine or attain on their own. You always see videos on foreigners praising the filipina, but never see Filipinas giving the foreigner any type of recognition. I have only ever seen one guy on TH-cam talk about this, and he was asking the same question.
They are quick to post what they have gotten from the foreigner on Facebook, but never mention how they got it or give at least some credit to the foreigner. It like they think they are entitled to it. It's just not right, and someone needs to talk about it.
They think it’s easy for you to earn money in America 😮
Hi there! Thank you for your question, I always appreciate the feedback!
You've made a very good point! Filipinas should talk about this (including myself). Majority of Filipinas are very appreciative of their husband's help, they just don't talk about it on the internet. I guess I could take the lead in doing that. Thank you for bringing that up! It is a very good idea.
When it comes to the issue of entitlement: Unfortunately, that is rooted deep into the Filipino culture. I can probably explain this better on a separate video, but this is very similar to those who think we should adhere to wealth distribution. It means if you're the one who's well off, then you are expected to pay for everybody. And if you're a foreigner, they automatically think you are rich so there you go haha. Most Filipinos who work abroad deal with this issue with their families and extended relatives. This is one of the main reasons why the country remains to be poor. And if you happen to speak up about this, you're the bad guy. I hope you get the gist of where I'm going with this. I hope this explains it. Thanks for watching and for talking the time to comment!
First let me say thank you for responding. And being honest in your reply. Yes please make a video about it. I think it would be great. I know alot of men in general would be glad to hear it. I for one am one of them. We don't ask for much, and a little appreciation can go a long way. So I look forward to hearing your perspective on this matter. Thanks
@@conservativefilipina Yes! I would say you hit the target on that one. OFWs do get asked for money often. Even if they are still working OFW. That would be hard on them especially since they are away!
The only opinion that matters, is the couple's opinion.
Shalom! I’m Kath! I’m also Filipina and wanted to say how much I appreciate the way you explained this topic. Your clarity and presentation are spot on. I’m excited to see more of this content on your channel, especially as I’m considering my options when it comes to possibly settling down with an American man here in the Philippines. Thanks again! God bless!
Glad it was helpful! I hope you find someone you love and someone who will cherish you. Best wishes to you!
I've traveled to the Philippines 3x thus far now planning my 4th trip because of the woman I've met and fell in love with. 52 @the time we met and her 38, as I told her I'm too old to be dating around and looking to be married. We'll be married sometime next year and couldn't be happier. Salamat for your opinions po
Great and honest information…thanks ❤
Security, a future, and family support. It is hard for many Western people to understand life in a third world country
Thanks for this short, no nonsense video. I am in an LDR with a Filipina 25 years younger and I am moving to the Philippines this year from southwest Florida. New subscriber
I am 37 years old, and I recently met or should I say got in contact with a 32-year-old Filipina. We are already very lovey-dovey towards each other, but I still think it’s moving too fast. She is already talking about marriage. We are already talking about me going over there in a few months. I heard from somebody that some of these women do move very fast. She is a very nice Christian woman.
@@servantofthelivinggod6192 Always be cautious, good luck and God bless
Many videos have been made on this topic but your approach is probably the most interesting I've seen so far!
Glad you think so! Thanks for watching!
Correct it’s in my brothers wife’s name with a spa but I’m not worried about if something goes wrong . In any business you don’t invest what you can’t afford to loose. i’m secure with my brother and his wife’s relationship married over 20 years with children. They’re not going anywhere at this point in their life. They own many properties in the Philippines properties United States they’ve no intentions of going back to the Philippines. I only have one child who dose not want the house so not a big deal!
Also, there’s a fact that the new Philip is a younger ones have a very high body count. Going from one foreigner to another, and that also plays into it.
Every relationship is unique. If it works it works if it don't there is plenty of opportunities for both parties out there.
Very articulate vlogger!! Nice message!!
Glad you think so!
Great video.
Thank you very much .
I just subscribed to your channel because I like the content and the quality of the audio
You touched upon some important points. I have some experience with Philippines; first trying to find romance, then changed my attitudes and now perhaps not really that much interested in anything serious there. What was the problem, for me? Well, I find the people there to be so casual and living with the moments; not saying that is bad or not, but it did not work for me. I met a girl for serious relationship and met her big family and friends. They did not even ask single question about my family, my thoughts, my expectations and my thinking. This laid back, casual attitude and approach makes finding girls there for fun easy but for serious matter really hard. Now things are getting worse, because as you said they learnt the trade and dating sites are flooded with girls looking for fun in return for money!
Thank you for getting to the point and not dragging it out for watch time.
Clear & Concise is always appreciated. Subbed!
I appreciate that!
Hi. No need to feel rushed in making your videos. I don't believe anyone of your subscribers would mind if you slowed down and elaborate more information. You are putting out great content. That's why I subscribed.
Thank you for the feedback!
I appreciate that. Thanks for watching!
I agree. I don't feel you need to rush. The content is good and a few more minutes won't hurt.
What I do not understand is why any man would want to get married after 50? Marriage is for building a life together (in their 20s, not 50s) and having children. If he wants companionship, he can get that without the legal restraints that limits him in a marriage relationship. I have always believed relationships have a shelf life. They eventually run their course and both sides are stuck unfulfilled once it does. If the man is over the age of 65, he is looking for a full time nurse and he knows he can get a younger woman in the Philippines who will accept him. Why not just be up front, pay her a flat fee each month, and if things go bad, they part ways?
You don't need to pay if she's your gf. If you want a maid it's a different deal. Of course you're going to pay the bills if your gf lives with you, which will amount to the same thing in the end, but you've got your freedom if that's what you want.
First of all 50thy is not old for a man. You can't even get retirement because you're too young and still sexual active. So you most be young to even think like that
She gets his Estate much sooner, than if he were younger. That means she can go on to score another Mark while she is still young enough to look appealing
I stumbled upon your video by chance and I’m absolutely glad that I did.. I can listen to you talk all day! Feels like chatting with someone sitting before me in a fine afternoon over coffee, except that you’re doing all the talking. I look forward to just about any video you’ll post. Sub’d!!! It’s hard to come by someone who delivers their content the way you do. Your husband is one of the lucky few to have such an eloquent, intelligent and good looking lady beside him. SALUTE!
Thank you so much!!
THank you so much for the honest insight i am 66 and still run a business in usa and have been on christian filipina have not found a match have applied for my SRRVvisa and will be visiting in January to finalize my visa and explore PH Singapore Malaysia may find someone but need to be friends first like you said must have common goals and desires great job
I love my fiancé she’s younger but I love her so so much n I treat her like a goddess ; yes I built her a house ; she makes me happy and I love her n accept her the way she is
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You know I heard you make a comment 30 seconds into your video that seems to be a cliche with many bloggers. Older men
want younger women because of her youth and beauty and we know that looks fade over time. First rather then answering the
question as to why with your opinion have you ever asked older foreigners that question? Not one or two but a good sample.
Yes no doubt any man of any age (and woman for that matter) appreciates what is pleasing to the eyes. But to say that is the
driving force for them (most) is foolish and belittling to men. Looks may draw him but personality and character its what
will hold him. She is (hopefully) less jaded and scarred with a lifetime of failed relationships and life disappointments then a older
woman and he could maybe save her from ever going through that because he has lifetime knowledge. Also he is able to do things
that he could never do when he was younger because he is financially stable and he has time and wisdom on his side. As far
as her "beauty fading with time" goes. First if he is in his 60's, 70's and she is anywhere from mid 20's to I would say early 40's,
chances are he will fade from this life before his Filipina's beauty fades. More importantly physical beauty and attraction is
more important in the beginning then later. When you are with a good person as time goes on you see the inner beauty or ugliness
more than the outer. Sorry for making this so long, but I have been seeing this statement made over and over again and felt I had to
sayh something.
I get your point. Thanks for sharing your perspective! I appreciate the time you took to leave a comment! Thanks for watching!
I’m chatting with older Filipina 44 and I’m 39 she is amazing woman I hope to get chance to meet her one day
I am 59 and my Filipina fiance is 29. My Filipina will never have to work again in her life. We filed for K1 visa for her to come to USA. We plan to visit Phills once per year. She hates the heat in Cebuano area. I live in the Mid-west so I am concerned about the cold weather on her. I also have a Pre-nup agreement and I will provide her a small stipend if we do get divorce. I was married for 39 years and lost my wife to cancer. Why would I date an American Woman my age with all the drama BS when I can get a young, hot Filipina to be good to me?
Believe me there is plenty of drama with young filipina's as well. You sound like a good guy, don't put the pressure of perfection on your relationship. There will be ups and downs, hopefully more ups.
That’s disgusting.
@@ggrace1133 Not really but do you know what is really disgusting? Single American Women. Their body counts are over 10, they have 2 baby Daddies, they are 20 pounds over weight, they want to be a "stay at home Mom" but refuse to cook and clean. They want to be "good wives" but go out with their girlfriends to the club and cheat. Now that is disgusting.
Filipinas are raised to be conservative. They cherish the role of traditional house wife. They cook and clean for their husbands and families. Therefore, the husbands provide for their wives.
My fiance will never have to work a day in her life. I just worry that she will get "Americanized". I have told her repeatedly, if she gets radicalized by American women, I will send her back. If she already has her US Citizenship and pulls this crap, she is kicked to the curb.
My fiance is a good Catholic girl so I am. not worried about her getting radicalized. It is still possible but not likely.
So why are you disgusted? That a rich American man does not chose you or your kind but chooses a better woman?
Everything was going ok for about 5 years, but she slowly became Americanized over the next 5 years. Then things fell apart. There is no way to stop this that I know of. If you live in the Philippines, there is less chance of this happening. America living can be destructive to relationships sometimes.
@@RetirePhilippines You got that right.
Phenomenal conclusion at 10:12+ 👍
Thank you! I appreciate that.
sometimes it's not "playing around" but rather that we date to really get to know each other. However, the Filipina may be ready to be in a serious relationship NOW, planning the future, etc., after just a few dates and even speaking about love. Most western men are more cautious and looking for real compatibility, so we move into serious relationships more slowly. So our very seriousness about being with the right woman gives her the impression of not being serious. Hmmmmmm I think men and women are basically incompatible, but we are compelled to seek each other out because God is obviously a prankster!!
I appreciate your perspective! Thank you for sharing!
I have never cheated. I don't believe my partners have cheated. I have 100s of friends. I maybe know 4 people who have cheated ? Cheating isn't that common in some social groups.
Great video!
Realistic and useful comments. Thanks.
Honest, transparent, informative video, which translates well the expectations and drifts of each side and like you, I find it sad to think only of fun without commitment or responsibilities.
For my part, if I come to the Philippines, it is to find a woman younger than me (between 29 and 45 years old) and to get married.
Like many Westerners, the Filipino woman still has these intrinsic values that make her a sought-after woman as you described in your clip and it is precious (for us, Western men)
I think that the best thing is also to go where there are fewer Westerners in order to create a feeling of novelty, of attractiveness for the Filipino woman, I had good information on the city of Davao. Do you have other cities to recommend that are less frequented by tourists ?
Well, I can tell you this. There's one definite way you can find out if She just wants to get out of the Philippines. And it's not for true love. Tell her during the dating process. You'd eventually like to move to a nice area of the philippines
That is a very good idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Social media is ruining Filipinas. Foreign guys recognize that having fun is the only play.
Yes, very sad!
Maybe the younger guys are just wanting fun but the older guys…50ish + are legitimately wanting to settle down.
@@WilliamFluery To each his own.
@@GUITARTIME2024 very true
@@WilliamFluery Still tons of Filipinas are now damaged goods because of the internet
Hello, this is my first time watching one of your videos. I love the gems 💎 you drop. So I subscribed. Very good content.
Your video summary was honest and factual, Thank You. I plan to bring that knowledge with me when I come to the Philippines.
Glad it was helpful!
Good video. Concise and informative. Subbed.
Thanks for the sub!
Hi Conservative Filipina. I don’t think you rambled in the video or made it too long. In fact you deliver very clear and concise information. First time viewing. Subscribed Thank you.
Thank you! I appreciate that.
I will move to Philippines. Retirement is so much more affordable in Philippines. Inflation in USA is to crazy now .
Thanks for doing this content. Can you tell me where to find information on how to go about finding a good woman from the Philippines
This is a refreshingly realistic commentary on Filipina motivations to marry a foreign guy.
My family picked me. I was skeptical. Because 40 years old and 65 years old. I don't know what I would do without them. But it's not easy. I want them to come here so that I can pass my home on to them. I don't meet the income requirements to do K1 visa. I spent 1 month with her in Philippines but may never see her again but will support my wife and a daughter in high school until I die.❤
Reconsidered , Humm you are wise ..... 👍👍👍
I like that… “We don’t want someone to love us because they need us. We want someone to need us because they love us.”
Thank you. Very intelligent rundown. (79-year-old American.)
Hello my dear, how are you doing?
I told my wife before we married that I wanted to retire in the Philippines. She stayed there 10 years and was able to send money to the family but she realized the life in the US was hard. Get up, work, get home, ear sleep, repeat. Weekends, shop grocery, wash dry clothing, clean house, repeat. Not a lot of time to enjoy. She made more money but realized had to spend money.
That was a great video. Thanks!
I just found your channel. Please don’t feel rushed. I have visited the Philippines multiple times and plan a semi retirement there. I appreciate longer educational videos on the topic from those that have the knowledge. Thanks for the vid.
Thank you for the feedback! I appreciate it!
Awesome video. I absolutely agree with you. I tell men my age at 57-year-old dont send money to women you never met. I lived in Phillipines and yes its poverty and money is hard to come by. Alot of women would prefer 🤔 fillipino men. But they will take a older foreigner to help them financially. Great video.
Most Filipino prefer Filipino men? Thats not always. Young Filipinos will date a young foreigners black or white over Filipino men but the problem is theres very few young foreign men because they have no income and is very unstable. They end up going back to the states just to survive. And they may not be patient enough to wait on immigration. Its a catch 22
@@theshadow532 facts
You don't want someone that loves you because they need you. You want to find someone who needs you because they love you.
Whoa... Such true words. T_T
Oh humans are humans no matter where you go. I'm an extremely conservative person and because of this few will be able to impress me as a loyal loving and intelligent partner.
Interesting topic. I believe that a lot of educated women in Asia over thirty have a tough time marrying guys in their age group because the Asian guys in their country want younger ladies. Probably some real gems in the over 30 category that might appreciate/consider an educated older Western guy.
Oh, and Chop On Braves!
WOW! That was an awesome video! Thank you for your insight. :)
It's not just the Philippines, but other not western countries that the age gap is normal. Thru all of history, women always searched for an established man 10-20 years her senior.... it made sense, he got fertility, yourh and beauty, she got provisions, protection and stability...
My only issue with a Filipina is that when you bring up culture or beliefs, they can't or mostly won't accept polygyny, even if you bring up the history of small tribes and multiple wives pre-spaniah invasion or that the T'Boli peoples still live that way. Three wives to a husband
Awesome! Very well spoken and very well put.