1) You give up on your needs because they just don't care 0:37 2) Hostile Communication 1:19 3) You put in all the work 1:47 4) They're jealous 2:14 5) Resentment 2:37 6) They're controlling 2:56 7) Dishonesty 3:13 I've always seen these types of comments, so I might as well hop on the bandwagon.
Wow.. This called me out hard. I didn't even realize how bad my behavior has been recently until I realized I could resonate with half of these signs on being the toxic one. My girl deserves so much better. I need to change, no more blaming my shitty behavior on my own mental health issues
Well done acknowledging it man, many would continue to deny it and repeat the toxic behavior. It takes a very strong person to admit when they have done wrong and try to fix it. May you triumph in that task, and have a healthy relationship. And may you be able to deal with your mental health much better in the future as well. To health, growth, and happiness, friend
It's far too late for me, with the woman I love. We weren't in a relationship mind you, just some stuff happened in my life, and I lashed out at everyone, particularly her, as I was hurting and had no outlet, which obviously isn't me excusing my behavior. Few years went by, and currently it's "We're good", but even if I'm not lashing out anymore, I still have a lot of these negative feelings, and can't bring myself to even talk to her, as I feel like I'm going to end up pushing her away for good, as I'm also a massive self sabotager. 😟
Sometimes you need to have the courage to admit that the relationship won't last and leave for good. But it's important to spend some months alone to figure everything out and to not fall into the same kind of relationship you had before
Toxic relationship destroys you , you want to hate them but you just can't because you care way too much about them , you want to give up but you just bare until it's all over ...........
Yeah you have to hold on till they walk away 😔sad but true. Been there now I'm afraid to get involved again. I'm raising my kids alone no support. But it's better than having anything to do with with the void of a person I thought I knew.
Please make a video about some things that we can do to improve our mental health, exercises or maybe activities, I know that nothing can replace therapy but something to help people who can't afford therapy right now, just to help with anxiety and also depression.
I have found that drawing mandalas helps my anxiety. You don't need talent. Lots of videos show you how. Drawing takes concentration which is akin to meditation.
Have you watched yesterday's video? We released a song cover called Landslide sang by our narrator, Amanda! th-cam.com/video/-rzm9xWdRAE/w-d-xo.html Did you know we started this Psych2Go music cover series with the intention of using the power of music to heal.
This just happened to me, I really loved her but she was too emotionally immature to be with me. She started drinking and hurting others at 17, when I repeatedly encouraged her and believed she would be better. I hope she gets better, it's hard to sleep at night because of what shes doing to herself
Sometimes it's hard to be honest. Some people need to feel safe to be honest. If they've had bad things happen to them in their childhood when they were honest they tend to withdraw from relationships and find it hard being honest. And if you don't let your partner feel safe from judgement or criticism or being physically/verbally attacked when they want to be honest, they can't be honest.
I feel like him and I are both a little toxic. We always end up talking things out and resolving the arguments we have, but I'm very depressed and it's hard to keep a relationship alive. We're so young, and I'm so in love with him. When we are happy and together irl (we only see each other once or twice a week; middle distance), he makes me the happiest person alive. He makes me want to be a better person. But I keep hurting him by accident because of what I'm going through. None of it is his fault, and I feel awful. He deserves happiness. I've even told him many times that he can leave if I'm too much. I feel like a burden to him, to my family, my teachers, my small amount of friends. I have therapy this afternoon, I hope it helps. Thanks for helping me realize I'm the toxic one and I need to change, Psyc2Go! I'm trying.
I just realised I was a toxic friend to someone. And I remembered a friend who was even more toxic to me. I know I deserved a toxic friend but it was 10x worse. Karma is real guys.
Unfortunately, I very much relate to all of this.. I’m losing hope that my boyfriend and I will ever be able to work. He never used to be so toxic. I miss the man I first met. I’m cried just watching this video..
Yes, I relate to them all. Going to note these down and give them to my therapist. Resentment especially was definitely me. I don't like to have regrets or resent anyone so I solve problems as they come up or think of a more realistic timeline to deal with them in. My stb ex hated talking about anything he deemed too heavy and as I kept hearing to be his peace, not to stress him out I ended up bottling up a lot of the stuff he refused to discuss. He snapped at me a few times accusing me of being like his father 😑 I felt incredibly insulted but now I understand why his dad behaves that way. Otherwise I experienced all of these from him but in subtle versions.
been there, toxic person is really annoying. so in the end she dumped me. but now im enjoying my single life and improving myself more. almost all the 7 signs are true. thanks for bringing up this topic. more power to you channel
Omg 6 of 7 of these. I was patient and forgiving bc I thought he was dealing w depression etc (which may be true) didn't realize until I got out that it had been years of emotional abuse
I'm rooting for you. One thing I've heard (can't remember where exactly) is that the person/relationship does not define who you are. You are phenomenal. Phenomenal human :)
remember you are worthy of respect, care and consideration. these don't need to be earned they're everyone's birth right. whenever you feel like either one of these isn't happening pause and remind yourself that these are always the baseline.
It's just sad that each word she says is exactly what's happening in my relationship.. And I thought that I had a healthy and normal relationship with her. :')
F BTW either try to sort the matter out by chill fully talking to her/him, by calmly explaining every doubt and problem you have and asking them for theirs, then disscussing to resolve those problems in your relationship. and if he's/she's too toxic to listen, just leave them behind and move on, f**king break up with em if they don't care. That's all advice I could think of, I hope it helps (I never was in a relationship in my life yet how can I come up with good advices for this stuff???!)
My relationship with my ex girlfriend ticked all 7 signs. No wonder I felt constantly anxiety when being around her. Thankfully, I have managed to get free from the toxic relationship. Currently I am single, but I feel way way better than being in toxic relationships. Also, I am enjoying new stuff and discovering more about myself. To anyone no matter your gender, please don't stay in toxic relationship, being single for a while is not the end of the world and if the other person does not value you, just leave them, trust me you will feel like a new fresh person. Cheers to everyone.
The effort thing though, he loved to throw in my face that I don't appreciate his efforts or tell him thank you. The efforts? - taking me to the supermarket when I asked and needed to replenish our food - cleaning up after himself - feeding the dog he brought home And other stuff you'd expect an adult to do.
I have to say thank you for your videos. I know I will always be the toxic one in a relationship, but you posting these videos helps me try to be a better person for the people I love. It also makes it easier to find my flaws and try to fix them so that I can't hurt people that love or hate me back.
I had the courage to get out of a toxic relationship a little over a month ago and it's funny to get to this video and know that I wasn't "exaggerating" by feeling awful in that relationship. 4 of 7 signs mentioned in this video, were fulfilled in that relationship. I am proud of myself and very happy to be free today. ❤🥰
Psych2Go? More like Psychic2Go cuz you always manage to release relevant videos at the right time! Seriously, it's very helpful but also so cool how it coincides with what happens in my life XD
Someone with such toxicity would check a few boxes off the list of what im looking for, but playing with fire like that is still no joke. It is important to know what can and can't be fixed, and when to quit. Don't be afraid to let go while you have nothing to lose because there ARE more people out there, and there is nothing wrong with learning to love who you are untill you find them.
Got the urge to send this to my ex who seemed to think I created all our issues yet he displayed almost every one of these traits. 11.5 years. To think I started believing him is madness. I am a good person who loved hard and he took that for granted.
One of my friends is in an relationship and they have alot of these signs in their relationship, but they still refuse to let go of them. I did show them this video and they finally saw that their relationship was bad and is finally thinking about breaking up with their partner. I'm so glad that this video was made.
but relationships helps to view the world apart from ur own perspective, widen & appreciate extent of variety from our mundane, daily activities And the comfort, security of another person on the same corner-spot with you
@@tanchingyueen7854 yes , but that can also be obtained from other kinds of relationships, not necessarily romantic ones. Plus if romantic relationship only brings hurt, maybe it's time to re-evaluate and reflect on our own qualities..maybe there's still some things that we should work on ourselves first before being able to channel that love to others.
The hardest thing I had to learn; was to look past their words (lies) and notice their actions and patterns. Same fights, same results for years....if not longer. Non-verbal communication is way more important by actions, effort and doings than by words which have no meaning behind them. The worst of it though...is when they don't tell you that the marriage/friendship is over. Making you have to figure it out for yourself that they have "given up on you." I have stopped looking for validation from others and learned that I am "good enough" for myself.
Funny how almost every sign happening to me , but I'm the one being accused of said behavior. everything she does to me she flips and says I'm doing it to her and will never have a rational conversation or go to therapy because therapy doesn't work she says.
My last relationship had most of these! All one way, all sacrifice & change from me yet still everything was my fault from the past! I'm no saint but I'm also no sinner! Just getting myself together after being labelled a narcissist by ex (which I'm not & never would be) through meditation & practicing self love rather than neglecting myself to make some else happy! 🙏❤ T x
Currently recovering from a toxic relation which involved jealous and controlling behavior Relationship lasted a year and 6 months and after a 2 months she is now with someone else which to me was a gut punch to say the least
I wish I could’ve seen something like this when I was in my first relationship. I was with him for 2years and he did all of these and I hung on because I never knew that what he was doing wasn’t normal. Without realizing it, that toxic relationship really damaged my confidence, self esteem, and trust. It took me a few years to undo the damage done but even now some of it still affects me. I really hope these help others out there, especially people in their first relationships, so that they know what to look out for.
I don't know why a few months ago I only had these videos in the recommended and I took them as signals that I ignored ... in the end the videos have foreseen everything
When you're scared to click on a video because you think it's going to be talking about you, only to click on it and realize it was talking about all the people you're still hung up on instead. Hurray for closure!
I guess I was lucky, I found a boy who I've known for 6 years and he's supportive, caring, helpful and always wants to improve. When I told him I was diagnosed with anxiety, he didn't asked "how are you so sure?" Or "what? That's not right, you must go to another therapist" like my mom would have done. Instead he asked me how I was feeling and every time he sees me having an attack he helps me holding me and saying "don't worry, everything is going to be ok", "you can go back to green" or "I'm here". He has been really supportive and helps me to improve even though I can be a bit difficult
I am in a relatively new relationship, and watching this video to avoid things that are toxic. However, I am reminded so much by my ex before this new boyfriend. He ticked every box there is in this list, and maybe more. It’s a bit disconcerting when I realized that I tolerated his behaviour for almost 2 years while missing out the opportunities to find someone who does not do all these...sometimes you need to step out of your relationship and see where things are as a third party..then only you can tell whether a relationship is working or not.
Ouch... 4-5-6 hit close to home. She's told me a week ago that "we need to talk live", and today's the day we can finally meet after postponing for 2 more days. I'm happy, but at the same time a bit worried... wish me luck
I can love others so much & b hating myself for allowing them to b themselves & being so jelly bouts the ways they are able to pressures me bouts as if I'm more less or equal to nothing i can git so effected you could knock me rounds wit a feather & in some strange weird wondrous ways I'd still love & appreciate it all the affection cause if you could care bouts me at all well that'll b negligent leaving me off out alone ignored I'm so afraid o being alone so thnx plz keep wit this sojourneys
Relationships suck. I feel like people get close to me so they can grow away from me. Like they need my love and support and encouragement to use me to be the person they were afraid to be and then they become someone who’s focused on themselves and ignore me. They drain my love tank. Every time.
To be honest I’m toxic type the reason is that I want people to get over there past relationship trauma they need to deal with it and grow up and I’ll use force if I have to.
Ngl, this really is relatable to me.. me and my partner weren’t always like this. But, being honest he would ask me so multiple questions what have i been doing, he would expect everything i say is a lie idrk but it gave me a headache for the pass 1-2 months i ended up stop crying even i feel so much pain in my chest, i cant seem to let a single tear out.. everytime we fight its like his doi ng this “blocking and unblocking” its like i got used to this daily thing everyday “loving eachother to fights and accusations if i ever go with a boy.” It breaks my heart that he thinks this way, i get it, he overthinks alot. I do as well, but this is really unhealthy. Mistakes happen alot in life and we learn from them but I didn’t repeat the same thing over and over again. I got tired of him bringing up the past mistakes, i also started to careless and show less emotions to him. It seems like i give everything to this relationship and so much effort. But i only ended up getting hurt, its fine with me i got used to his attitude but he does deserve to know how exactly how i feel. He can’t control what im doing neither what i feel. :) we just reach 2 months yesterday.. but, its his choice to trust me or not. I’ve always stayed loyal to him and i tell him how my day goes etc. the feeling of having trust issues, its ight it still takes time to trust someone.
Even though I moved on from my few relationships I had, I always had the feeling that I _could_ have done something better. But after watching this video, it made it clear that those relationships werent worth fighting for and it gives me some comfort knowing that I did the right thing. I know my needs, I know what kind of a person I want and I just have to find that very person. Thank you for being the mental help that I need Psych2Go
Four out of seven. Thank God that's over. Just sitting here with me myself and I. So much quieter. Nice to be just too darn old to date ☺️ lots of other wonderful things to love besides another human 🍔🍗🥙🌮🍕🍟🌞😎🩳😻😼🐴🦄🐺🌙🪐
My sister brought in this guy a few months ago to live in with us and our parents due to a time in need. Unfortunately, they’re relationship is everything listed here. Now to make matters worse, he disrespected me the other day by telling me in an uncalled for authoritive tone that if I knew his friend was going to be over in front of my friends because of his insecurity of having other guys over when my sister is home, despite my family already knowing who my friends are. Reason he was also pissed was due to his buddy staying over that same night and thinking my friends weren’t going to leave and intrude when I already talked to both my sister and friends that they would leave on time. On my part I should’ve communicated better and texted my parents that I had guests that day (even though I usually don’t), but her brute boyfriend also didn’t let the owners of the house (our parents) properly know his friend would be staying the night and be all confrontational like this, he’s only been here 4 months(after him and my sister said their stay would be 3-4 months temporary). No one is on my side at home, and I don’t know what to do or how truly wrong I might be in dealing with this. Anyone have any thoughts?
Yeah, I'm trying to see if my relationship is toxic or needs some improvement. I usually put in more effort by talking more, communicating more, and if I don't speak up we usually don't talk. Additionally there was one time where we were talking and I mentioned how I brung(spelling) them to my parents and they said quote, "How is that my problem?" And it kinda hurt how they didn't care about something important to me, even though they want me to meet their parents. So I'm going to see if talking with them will work, if not I might end it.
1 & 2. My wife has mocked and Ignored me so many times it's insane. She consistently makes disrespectful comments to me, and I have to just sit there and take it. When I've challenged her saying that I don't like her being so disrespectful, all she says is, "Either I get to talk to you however I want, or you'll find yourself divorced, and trust me, no one could ever love you." 3. My wife sleeps 17 hours a day and has no job. Yet, I clean 90% of the time and do practically everything around the house, except cooking dinner, as well as be the breadwinner. And my wife says I don't do enough, that I need to handle the cooking too (I suck at cooking, so even if I do end up trying to cook something, she takes over because I'm incompetent in that area). Then when I ask for a small favor, like getting a copy of our rental contract from the lease office, she goes back to mocking me and wondering why she has to do so much. 4. Jealousy follows her everywhere. I recently told her I was considering changing jobs because there seemed to be a better opportunity close by to where we live, and all of a sudden she goes on a long rant about how I need to be faithful to her and not pursue all the beautiful girls that are probably there... And I'm just like, "I don't know how we went from talking about improving our income to suspicions of future infidelity..." And she'll claim she's not jealous at all, and I've told her that just because you label a "wolf" as a "dog," doesn't mean the wolf is a dog. 5. She was more guilty of this before, but doesn't do that so much these days. To be honest, I probably hold the resentment more... And my excuse is that the problems never go away. It's not because I want to hold on to a singular incident, but the pattern of behavior keeps rearing it's ugly head, and I just get threatened with divorce if I bring it up. 6. Control is constant. I am told what I'm allowed to eat or drink on any given day, and it's funny how the things I tend to like end up on the "that's not good for you" list and the things I'm not a fan of are on the "approved" list. That's not to say I _never_ get something I enjoy, it's just that the list of things I like but can't enjoy seems to keep growing. 7. My wife told me that she'd come with me to the US prior to getting married, but now that we are married, every time I try to make progress for immigration, she tries undermining my efforts, and tells her friends how we're going to start a business in China... Which was not in my plan. When I confront the issue, she gets really defensive, saying she's totally on board with going to the US with me... But her behavior says otherwise. She even celebrated when she got rejected for even a travel visa to the US. But, my religion says divorce is bad, so I'm sorta stuck, hoping God will iron things out, because I can't seem to.
Yeah, i find jealousy can be a huge breaker! The lil small jealousy is fine! Like that cutesy "nyeh! Mine" but when your partner starts making you guilty for talking to your other friends, getting mad and assuming you did this and that! Please i beg you get out of that relationship best you can
my boyfriend always imagine things and put it up to me and think im cheating on him. whatever i do, he will think i am with someone else . i rarely have free time because i need to keep msging him (we dont live together) i have depression. and not having the medical care anymore. he rarely care about my depression and thinks im a normal person. sometimes he dreams about other guy is with me, when he wakes up, i am the one to be blamed even i didnt do anything. this issue struggle me for 1 year now and i could not leave him because i had a broken childhood, which made me feel unsafe all the time and i dont like to be lonely. my father cheated, my mother divorced with him. my mother promised to take care of me. but i am living with my father, for 4 years now. with his new girlfriend. my childhood had been abusive. my mother always controls me. one day i just realize what i have now is just replicate of my childhood nightmare. but i still cant do it. i cant leave my boyfriend. i just need his love. i dont know how to help myself. if anyone is reading this comment, sorry for bad grammar. and thank you. my boyfriend is only being jealous and always controlling. in other perspective, he care about my health, my needs.(not mental health) and he really loves me. he just dont trust me. if someone would give me a suggestion.. i appreciate it.
I questioned him because he continuously lied to me about where he was, what he was doing, and who he was with (which was always my now ex female friend) and they would scheme and talk shit about me behind my back. I admit that I wasn't perfect as it was my first relationship but I treated it like a relationship and respected him until the end. He gave up cause he wanted to have fun... with my friend. Neither of which are in my life anymore
Yeah Exhausting to convince & encourage another to commit to mutual level-not on same page,diff values, diff life stages Move on, move on, find happiness both with others Life is so very short on this Earth planet
Yup my ex was a negative nacy in every way with her parents and then trying to blame me but I just said nope I don't have to deal with this and I broke off with her
i am 100% the toxic one, but i want to leave so bad. this isnt me and never has been, i think i just don’t like him anymore and i’m trying to ruin it to get away. but that’s horrible and i shouldnt put him through this, i dont know what to do. it’s not even that he does anything wrong, i just do not enjoy him as a person anymore, we don’t work, so i turn mean. this can’t keep going like this, its hurting both of us, and this is not me.
my previous girlfriend showed all these signs. luckily I've noticed earlier and immediately left her (without even telling her I'm full of her) coz I wanted her to realize that she was still too immature. Speaking of which, she even kept on pinning her immaturity on me on which she tells me I'm hurrying too much and that everytime I wanted simple attention from her she'd just laugh at me. Never again
I used to trust my girlfriend until I found her staring at other guys for too long, even rubbing her lips while doing that, I expected her sincere self to take the responsibility and apologize, but she chose to lie and argue, with this repeatedly happening, I became more aggressive as she was always ignoring the topic, never saying sorry, even cut calls on my face and just left me in my darkest times. Finally broke free from her, after 1 and a half years of torture, crying and self harm, she never loved me all the love yous were just...lies.
My past relationship was really toxic. I’m an alter in a system and My lover was very jealous over my host and others being around me. They never hurt me. But it was really hard to even spend time with anyone. Although they were really loving they would always bring up my past mistakes and it would end up with me crying because I know I’ve changed. Worst thing is I’m still attached to them. And even if they texted me right now I would go back to them. I’m not used to relationships... and my attachment issues just get in the way. I want to move on. I know they were bad for me
If you see some of these traits get out ..i spent 22 years with a narcissist.. As soon as he was diagnosed it all fell into place . They don't all have short relationships. .they're super smart so you think its your fault 100 % of the time despite giving all you've got
This needs context. If reasonable expectations aren't met, this is good to keep in mind. If you're projecting your wishes into a relationship that's not what you wish it was, you're heading into codependent territory.
This was me, with my onlive ex dc (discord) bf btw im so disappointed for not dumping him earlyer (ps i dumped him on feb 12 2021 i think) ps he does most of the sighs in the video btw good video btw!
Would you rather have pizza or a gf/bf? Comment below.
Pizza!
@@secretsandwich9693 Wow, you're first to comment on this.
Ice cream please 😂😝
Pizza, of course!
Pizza would be lovely
Me, not having a relationship, but still watching it: *INTERESTING*
Same lol
same
btw I first thouth that I wrote this comment without niticing it because of the profile pic :D
Same but I have a crush
lol
My Level of relationships: watching a video of Psych2go, comment a lot and then update my youtube page to see if someone respondet to me :/
@@maxim_ssc same
1) You give up on your needs because they just don't care 0:37
2) Hostile Communication 1:19
3) You put in all the work 1:47
4) They're jealous 2:14
5) Resentment 2:37
6) They're controlling 2:56
7) Dishonesty 3:13
I've always seen these types of comments, so I might as well hop on the bandwagon.
Thank you! 💖
Its summoned up with one behavioural disorder...Narcissism.
Sounds like a few friends I had in the past. It seemed like I was the only one who cared while the other person didn’t.
It's the base of the beginning and continuing. The "ugly convos" are necessary; but don't have to be as ugly as they seem... Team effort
But I still agree with ya
Wow.. This called me out hard. I didn't even realize how bad my behavior has been recently until I realized I could resonate with half of these signs on being the toxic one. My girl deserves so much better. I need to change, no more blaming my shitty behavior on my own mental health issues
Well done acknowledging it man, many would continue to deny it and repeat the toxic behavior. It takes a very strong person to admit when they have done wrong and try to fix it. May you triumph in that task, and have a healthy relationship. And may you be able to deal with your mental health much better in the future as well. To health, growth, and happiness, friend
If only my boyfriend could understand that. Major respect to you for recognizing your actions and willingness to evolve yourself.
It's far too late for me, with the woman I love. We weren't in a relationship mind you, just some stuff happened in my life, and I lashed out at everyone, particularly her, as I was hurting and had no outlet, which obviously isn't me excusing my behavior. Few years went by, and currently it's "We're good", but even if I'm not lashing out anymore, I still have a lot of these negative feelings, and can't bring myself to even talk to her, as I feel like I'm going to end up pushing her away for good, as I'm also a massive self sabotager. 😟
Sometimes you need to have the courage to admit that the relationship won't last and leave for good. But it's important to spend some months alone to figure everything out and to not fall into the same kind of relationship you had before
That won’t be a problem for me because there will not be another.
Truee
Good advice
Wise words!
Me, recovered from a 15 year marriage to a toxic person..
Thankyou for getting the word out.
💛🙏
Hope you are in a better place now❤️
Well a toxic person don’t deserve you 🌝
@@Irxsdiissxction god I’m dying 😛 glad your out of it
Thank goodness you left him he was just not the right one for you,you deserve better 🤗🥰
Happy to hear that you left something so toxic!
This is not just for romantic love. This can work for other types of love.
Yup and thats why i hate having a girlfriend
@@Founderschannel123 at least u have a gf
@@anom6520 i didnt said i had one
@@Founderschannel123 oh ok
Exactly why I don't talk to my parents any more; they're absolutely toxic to me.
Toxic relationship destroys you , you want to hate them but you just can't because you care way too much about them , you want to give up but you just bare until it's all over ...........
Yeah you have to hold on till they walk away 😔sad but true. Been there now I'm afraid to get involved again. I'm raising my kids alone no support. But it's better than having anything to do with with the void of a person I thought I knew.
Damn I rather be happy by myself than to be unhappy with someone… life is crazy. Put yourself first and that’s okay cause the next person will.
same
Please make a video about some things that we can do to improve our mental health, exercises or maybe activities, I know that nothing can replace therapy but something to help people who can't afford therapy right now, just to help with anxiety and also depression.
I vibe with that
Exactly
I second this! That would be great
gardening ^^
I have found that drawing mandalas helps my anxiety. You don't need talent. Lots of videos show you how. Drawing takes concentration which is akin to meditation.
Have you watched yesterday's video? We released a song cover called Landslide sang by our narrator, Amanda! th-cam.com/video/-rzm9xWdRAE/w-d-xo.html Did you know we started this Psych2Go music cover series with the intention of using the power of music to heal.
Yandere LOVE, YANDERE PSYCHO-PSYCHOLOGY, CAN YOU?
Wow second
Also I did watch it and I love your videos, you guys r the best 💖
@@Archmatrix Yandere-psychology, nice one😁
❤️ ty for this video! This art style is really beautiful!
This just happened to me, I really loved her but she was too emotionally immature to be with me. She started drinking and hurting others at 17, when I repeatedly encouraged her and believed she would be better. I hope she gets better, it's hard to sleep at night because of what shes doing to herself
Second is all you will ever achieve with a person who drinks. Alcohol does what it does best. It wins.
Sometimes it's hard to be honest. Some people need to feel safe to be honest. If they've had bad things happen to them in their childhood when they were honest they tend to withdraw from relationships and find it hard being honest. And if you don't let your partner feel safe from judgement or criticism or being physically/verbally attacked when they want to be honest, they can't be honest.
I feel like him and I are both a little toxic. We always end up talking things out and resolving the arguments we have, but I'm very depressed and it's hard to keep a relationship alive. We're so young, and I'm so in love with him. When we are happy and together irl (we only see each other once or twice a week; middle distance), he makes me the happiest person alive. He makes me want to be a better person. But I keep hurting him by accident because of what I'm going through. None of it is his fault, and I feel awful. He deserves happiness. I've even told him many times that he can leave if I'm too much. I feel like a burden to him, to my family, my teachers, my small amount of friends. I have therapy this afternoon, I hope it helps. Thanks for helping me realize I'm the toxic one and I need to change, Psyc2Go! I'm trying.
I just realised I was a toxic friend to someone. And I remembered a friend who was even more toxic to me. I know I deserved a toxic friend but it was 10x worse. Karma is real guys.
Unfortunately, I very much relate to all of this.. I’m losing hope that my boyfriend and I will ever be able to work. He never used to be so toxic. I miss the man I first met. I’m cried just watching this video..
Yes, I relate to them all. Going to note these down and give them to my therapist. Resentment especially was definitely me. I don't like to have regrets or resent anyone so I solve problems as they come up or think of a more realistic timeline to deal with them in. My stb ex hated talking about anything he deemed too heavy and as I kept hearing to be his peace, not to stress him out I ended up bottling up a lot of the stuff he refused to discuss. He snapped at me a few times accusing me of being like his father 😑 I felt incredibly insulted but now I understand why his dad behaves that way.
Otherwise I experienced all of these from him but in subtle versions.
been there, toxic person is really annoying. so in the end she dumped me. but now im enjoying my single life and improving myself more. almost all the 7 signs are true. thanks for bringing up this topic. more power to you channel
These behaviors are just a toxic no matter what kind of love it is, rather it’s romantic, platonic/friendship, or familial! 💕💕💕💕
Omg 6 of 7 of these. I was patient and forgiving bc I thought he was dealing w depression etc (which may be true) didn't realize until I got out that it had been years of emotional abuse
Just got out of a toxic relationship. Trying to learn to value myself . This shit is hard.
Self love comes first, but I think once you find the right person they will help you realize why it didn't work with someone else.
I'm rooting for you. One thing I've heard (can't remember where exactly) is that the person/relationship does not define who you are. You are phenomenal. Phenomenal human :)
remember you are worthy of respect, care and consideration. these don't need to be earned they're everyone's birth right. whenever you feel like either one of these isn't happening pause and remind yourself that these are always the baseline.
You've got this 🤗
It's just sad that each word she says is exactly what's happening in my relationship.. And I thought that I had a healthy and normal relationship with her. :')
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Oh I feel you so much xD
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BTW either try to sort the matter out by chill fully talking to her/him, by calmly explaining every doubt and problem you have and asking them for theirs, then disscussing to resolve those problems in your relationship. and if he's/she's too toxic to listen, just leave them behind and move on, f**king break up with em if they don't care. That's all advice I could think of, I hope it helps (I never was in a relationship in my life yet how can I come up with good advices for this stuff???!)
Same here
feel sorry for u mate
Just note that a relationship doesn’t always mean a romance one it could be your relationship with your friends family anyone
My relationship with my ex girlfriend ticked all 7 signs. No wonder I felt constantly anxiety when being around her.
Thankfully, I have managed to get free from the toxic relationship. Currently I am single, but I feel way way better than being in toxic relationships. Also, I am enjoying new stuff and discovering more about myself.
To anyone no matter your gender, please don't stay in toxic relationship, being single for a while is not the end of the world and if the other person does not value you, just leave them, trust me you will feel like a new fresh person. Cheers to everyone.
The effort thing though, he loved to throw in my face that I don't appreciate his efforts or tell him thank you.
The efforts?
- taking me to the supermarket when I asked and needed to replenish our food
- cleaning up after himself
- feeding the dog he brought home
And other stuff you'd expect an adult to do.
I have to say thank you for your videos. I know I will always be the toxic one in a relationship, but you posting these videos helps me try to be a better person for the people I love. It also makes it easier to find my flaws and try to fix them so that I can't hurt people that love or hate me back.
He didn’t take me seriously until I left him, and now he wants me back😐
same thing happend to me but onlive
I had the courage to get out of a toxic relationship a little over a month ago and it's funny to get to this video and know that I wasn't "exaggerating" by feeling awful in that relationship. 4 of 7 signs mentioned in this video, were fulfilled in that relationship. I am proud of myself and very happy to be free today. ❤🥰
me in a relationship with the most amazing boy: I need to see if our love is toxic
Psych2Go? More like Psychic2Go cuz you always manage to release relevant videos at the right time! Seriously, it's very helpful but also so cool how it coincides with what happens in my life XD
Someone with such toxicity would check a few boxes off the list of what im looking for, but playing with fire like that is still no joke. It is important to know what can and can't be fixed, and when to quit. Don't be afraid to let go while you have nothing to lose because there ARE more people out there, and there is nothing wrong with learning to love who you are untill you find them.
I always say "hey pysch2goers" when the video starts
Yeaa same lmao
Well hello there
Cute!
I'm scared that people actually romanticize these toxic relationships
This is why I'm nervous about relationships
And then there is roleplay drama which is the reason why some people in my country scare of relationship
Samee
Got the urge to send this to my ex who seemed to think I created all our issues yet he displayed almost every one of these traits. 11.5 years. To think I started believing him is madness. I am a good person who loved hard and he took that for granted.
One of my friends is in an relationship and they have alot of these signs in their relationship, but they still refuse to let go of them. I did show them this video and they finally saw that their relationship was bad and is finally thinking about breaking up with their partner. I'm so glad that this video was made.
why am i always feel like listening to a podcast
Me watching this after my break up. And relating to almost all of this.
The fact that my last relationship had all these things really got me thinking
Thats why I think being single is better , relationship is hard work
but relationships helps to view the world apart from ur own perspective, widen & appreciate extent of variety from our mundane, daily activities And the comfort, security of another person on the same corner-spot with you
@@tanchingyueen7854 yes , but that can also be obtained from other kinds of relationships, not necessarily romantic ones. Plus if romantic relationship only brings hurt, maybe it's time to re-evaluate and reflect on our own qualities..maybe there's still some things that we should work on ourselves first before being able to channel that love to others.
The hardest thing I had to learn; was to look past their words (lies) and notice their actions and patterns. Same fights, same results for years....if not longer. Non-verbal communication is way more important by actions, effort and doings than by words which have no meaning behind them. The worst of it though...is when they don't tell you that the marriage/friendship is over. Making you have to figure it out for yourself that they have "given up on you." I have stopped looking for validation from others and learned that I am "good enough" for myself.
Funny how almost every sign happening to me , but I'm the one being accused of said behavior. everything she does to me she flips and says I'm doing it to her and will never have a rational conversation or go to therapy because therapy doesn't work she says.
My last relationship had most of these! All one way, all sacrifice & change from me yet still everything was my fault from the past! I'm no saint but I'm also no sinner! Just getting myself together after being labelled a narcissist by ex (which I'm not & never would be) through meditation & practicing self love rather than neglecting myself to make some else happy! 🙏❤ T x
Currently recovering from a toxic relation which involved jealous and controlling behavior
Relationship lasted a year and 6 months and after a 2 months she is now with someone else which to me was a gut punch to say the least
I wish I could’ve seen something like this when I was in my first relationship. I was with him for 2years and he did all of these and I hung on because I never knew that what he was doing wasn’t normal. Without realizing it, that toxic relationship really damaged my confidence, self esteem, and trust. It took me a few years to undo the damage done but even now some of it still affects me. I really hope these help others out there, especially people in their first relationships, so that they know what to look out for.
After the month when we broke up I realized that the relationship I was in was toxic , I wish someone would have informed me about this earlier .
Now its all of this- but put into a 8 yr "bestfriendship" that I eventually walked away from.
Even though the focus in this video is on romantic relationships, a lot of it rang true for my relationship with my mom. So glad I moved out.
I don't know why a few months ago I only had these videos in the recommended and I took them as signals that I ignored ... in the end the videos have foreseen everything
When you're scared to click on a video because you think it's going to be talking about you, only to click on it and realize it was talking about all the people you're still hung up on instead. Hurray for closure!
I guess I was lucky, I found a boy who I've known for 6 years and he's supportive, caring, helpful and always wants to improve. When I told him I was diagnosed with anxiety, he didn't asked "how are you so sure?" Or "what? That's not right, you must go to another therapist" like my mom would have done. Instead he asked me how I was feeling and every time he sees me having an attack he helps me holding me and saying "don't worry, everything is going to be ok", "you can go back to green" or "I'm here". He has been really supportive and helps me to improve even though I can be a bit difficult
So many people in mind pop up with these behaviors, im guilty of some, listing faults is a big one with me
Watching to see if the relationship i had with my ex was toxic or not. It was toxic.... No respect and very bad communication from his side
Im not in relationship, but this sign. Is how my family act to me.
Me to myself, a 17 year old who's never been in a relationship: *NoTe ThAt DoWn!!!!*
I knew our relationship is so toxic but I can't get out of this... I love her too much..
I am in a relatively new relationship, and watching this video to avoid things that are toxic. However, I am reminded so much by my ex before this new boyfriend. He ticked every box there is in this list, and maybe more. It’s a bit disconcerting when I realized that I tolerated his behaviour for almost 2 years while missing out the opportunities to find someone who does not do all these...sometimes you need to step out of your relationship and see where things are as a third party..then only you can tell whether a relationship is working or not.
Ouch... 4-5-6 hit close to home.
She's told me a week ago that "we need to talk live", and today's the day we can finally meet after postponing for 2 more days. I'm happy, but at the same time a bit worried... wish me luck
I can love others so much & b hating myself for allowing them to b themselves & being so jelly bouts the ways they are able to pressures me bouts as if I'm more less or equal to nothing i can git so effected you could knock me rounds wit a feather & in some strange weird wondrous ways I'd still love & appreciate it all the affection cause if you could care bouts me at all well that'll b negligent leaving me off out alone ignored I'm so afraid o being alone so thnx plz keep wit this sojourneys
Alot of this hit home for me with regards to my last relationship. I'm so glad I left when I did
Relationships suck. I feel like people get close to me so they can grow away from me. Like they need my love and support and encouragement to use me to be the person they were afraid to be and then they become someone who’s focused on themselves and ignore me. They drain my love tank. Every time.
These videos always be coming on time
To be honest I’m toxic type the reason is that I want people to get over there past relationship trauma they need to deal with it and grow up and I’ll use force if I have to.
*me being in a healthy relationship and watching this video* just had to make sure 😂
I needed this two years ago 🛐
Ngl, this really is relatable to me.. me and my partner weren’t always like this. But, being honest he would ask me so multiple questions what have i been doing, he would expect everything i say is a lie idrk but it gave me a headache for the pass 1-2 months i ended up stop crying even i feel so much pain in my chest, i cant seem to let a single tear out.. everytime we fight its like his doi ng this “blocking and unblocking” its like i got used to this daily thing everyday “loving eachother to fights and accusations if i ever go with a boy.” It breaks my heart that he thinks this way, i get it, he overthinks alot. I do as well, but this is really unhealthy. Mistakes happen alot in life and we learn from them but I didn’t repeat the same thing over and over again. I got tired of him bringing up the past mistakes, i also started to careless and show less emotions to him. It seems like i give everything to this relationship and so much effort. But i only ended up getting hurt, its fine with me i got used to his attitude but he does deserve to know how exactly how i feel. He can’t control what im doing neither what i feel. :) we just reach 2 months yesterday.. but, its his choice to trust me or not. I’ve always stayed loyal to him and i tell him how my day goes etc. the feeling of having trust issues, its ight it still takes time to trust someone.
Even though I moved on from my few relationships I had, I always had the feeling that I _could_ have done something better.
But after watching this video, it made it clear that those relationships werent worth fighting for and it gives me some comfort knowing that I did the right thing.
I know my needs, I know what kind of a person I want and I just have to find that very person.
Thank you for being the mental help that I need Psych2Go
I would love to see a video about overprotective people, do you have an overprotective friend?
Or are you the overprotective one?
Exactly the reasons I broke up with my girlfriend of three years. Sad thing is I knew this after year one.
Four out of seven. Thank God that's over. Just sitting here with me myself and I. So much quieter. Nice to be just too darn old to date ☺️ lots of other wonderful things to love besides another human 🍔🍗🥙🌮🍕🍟🌞😎🩳😻😼🐴🦄🐺🌙🪐
My sister brought in this guy a few months ago to live in with us and our parents due to a time in need. Unfortunately, they’re relationship is everything listed here. Now to make matters worse, he disrespected me the other day by telling me in an uncalled for authoritive tone that if I knew his friend was going to be over in front of my friends because of his insecurity of having other guys over when my sister is home, despite my family already knowing who my friends are. Reason he was also pissed was due to his buddy staying over that same night and thinking my friends weren’t going to leave and intrude when I already talked to both my sister and friends that they would leave on time. On my part I should’ve communicated better and texted my parents that I had guests that day (even though I usually don’t), but her brute boyfriend also didn’t let the owners of the house (our parents) properly know his friend would be staying the night and be all confrontational like this, he’s only been here 4 months(after him and my sister said their stay would be 3-4 months temporary). No one is on my side at home, and I don’t know what to do or how truly wrong I might be in dealing with this. Anyone have any thoughts?
Yeah, I'm trying to see if my relationship is toxic or needs some improvement. I usually put in more effort by talking more, communicating more, and if I don't speak up we usually don't talk. Additionally there was one time where we were talking and I mentioned how I brung(spelling) them to my parents and they said quote, "How is that my problem?" And it kinda hurt how they didn't care about something important to me, even though they want me to meet their parents. So I'm going to see if talking with them will work, if not I might end it.
1 & 2. My wife has mocked and Ignored me so many times it's insane. She consistently makes disrespectful comments to me, and I have to just sit there and take it. When I've challenged her saying that I don't like her being so disrespectful, all she says is, "Either I get to talk to you however I want, or you'll find yourself divorced, and trust me, no one could ever love you."
3. My wife sleeps 17 hours a day and has no job. Yet, I clean 90% of the time and do practically everything around the house, except cooking dinner, as well as be the breadwinner. And my wife says I don't do enough, that I need to handle the cooking too (I suck at cooking, so even if I do end up trying to cook something, she takes over because I'm incompetent in that area). Then when I ask for a small favor, like getting a copy of our rental contract from the lease office, she goes back to mocking me and wondering why she has to do so much.
4. Jealousy follows her everywhere. I recently told her I was considering changing jobs because there seemed to be a better opportunity close by to where we live, and all of a sudden she goes on a long rant about how I need to be faithful to her and not pursue all the beautiful girls that are probably there... And I'm just like, "I don't know how we went from talking about improving our income to suspicions of future infidelity..." And she'll claim she's not jealous at all, and I've told her that just because you label a "wolf" as a "dog," doesn't mean the wolf is a dog.
5. She was more guilty of this before, but doesn't do that so much these days. To be honest, I probably hold the resentment more... And my excuse is that the problems never go away. It's not because I want to hold on to a singular incident, but the pattern of behavior keeps rearing it's ugly head, and I just get threatened with divorce if I bring it up.
6. Control is constant. I am told what I'm allowed to eat or drink on any given day, and it's funny how the things I tend to like end up on the "that's not good for you" list and the things I'm not a fan of are on the "approved" list. That's not to say I _never_ get something I enjoy, it's just that the list of things I like but can't enjoy seems to keep growing.
7. My wife told me that she'd come with me to the US prior to getting married, but now that we are married, every time I try to make progress for immigration, she tries undermining my efforts, and tells her friends how we're going to start a business in China... Which was not in my plan. When I confront the issue, she gets really defensive, saying she's totally on board with going to the US with me... But her behavior says otherwise. She even celebrated when she got rejected for even a travel visa to the US.
But, my religion says divorce is bad, so I'm sorta stuck, hoping God will iron things out, because I can't seem to.
Yeah, i find jealousy can be a huge breaker! The lil small jealousy is fine! Like that cutesy "nyeh! Mine" but when your partner starts making you guilty for talking to your other friends, getting mad and assuming you did this and that! Please i beg you get out of that relationship best you can
my boyfriend always imagine things and put it up to me and think im cheating on him.
whatever i do, he will think i am with someone else . i rarely have free time because i need to keep msging him (we dont live together)
i have depression. and not having the medical care anymore. he rarely care about my depression and thinks im a normal person.
sometimes he dreams about other guy is with me, when he wakes up, i am the one to be blamed even i didnt do anything.
this issue struggle me for 1 year now and i could not leave him because i had a broken childhood,
which made me feel unsafe all the time and i dont like to be lonely.
my father cheated, my mother divorced with him. my mother promised to take care of me.
but i am living with my father, for 4 years now. with his new girlfriend.
my childhood had been abusive. my mother always controls me.
one day i just realize what i have now is just replicate of my childhood nightmare.
but i still cant do it. i cant leave my boyfriend. i just need his love.
i dont know how to help myself.
if anyone is reading this comment, sorry for bad grammar. and thank you.
my boyfriend is only being jealous and always controlling.
in other perspective, he care about my health, my needs.(not mental health) and he really loves me. he just dont trust me.
if someone would give me a suggestion.. i appreciate it.
I questioned him because he continuously lied to me about where he was, what he was doing, and who he was with (which was always my now ex female friend) and they would scheme and talk shit about me behind my back. I admit that I wasn't perfect as it was my first relationship but I treated it like a relationship and respected him until the end. He gave up cause he wanted to have fun... with my friend. Neither of which are in my life anymore
Yeah Exhausting to convince & encourage another to commit to mutual level-not on same page,diff values, diff life stages
Move on, move on, find happiness both with others Life is so very short on this Earth planet
I related to pretty much all of these signs! I'm so glad I followed this channel, since I'm intrigued in Psych!!
I’m a toxic person. I’ve always been controlling and narcissistic in every relationship I’ve been in. I’m done dating people for the good of others.
It's usually women in these parts who have at least one of these Toxic Love signs
This speaks volumes and something to reflect on, thank you..
Thanks! I'm now more than ready and strong to fully move on! Bless you guys!
one issue, I can't be in a toxic relationship, if I have never and will never be in a relationship
It was this way with my ex best friend. It seemed like she was really toxic!
Yup my ex was a negative nacy in every way with her parents and then trying to blame me but I just said nope I don't have to deal with this and I broke off with her
How about a video about, "why you might fall in love too fast?" :>
I'M SO SO SO HAPPY That I don't relate to any of these with my Girlfriend!!
i am 100% the toxic one, but i want to leave so bad. this isnt me and never has been, i think i just don’t like him anymore and i’m trying to ruin it to get away. but that’s horrible and i shouldnt put him through this, i dont know what to do. it’s not even that he does anything wrong, i just do not enjoy him as a person anymore, we don’t work, so i turn mean. this can’t keep going like this, its hurting both of us, and this is not me.
my previous girlfriend showed all these signs. luckily I've noticed earlier and immediately left her (without even telling her I'm full of her) coz I wanted her to realize that she was still too immature. Speaking of which, she even kept on pinning her immaturity on me on which she tells me I'm hurrying too much and that everytime I wanted simple attention from her she'd just laugh at me.
Never again
I used to trust my girlfriend until I found her staring at other guys for too long, even rubbing her lips while doing that, I expected her sincere self to take the responsibility and apologize, but she chose to lie and argue, with this repeatedly happening, I became more aggressive as she was always ignoring the topic, never saying sorry, even cut calls on my face and just left me in my darkest times. Finally broke free from her, after 1 and a half years of torture, crying and self harm, she never loved me all the love yous were just...lies.
I had what I feel is the opposite of this, as well as this exactly.
The first one was practically a sycophant, the second didn't care about anything.
This...actually explains a lot of why I fell out of love with my partner.
Me, just wishing i had the courage to put myself out there to find a relationship lol.
big rip
*Me being in a super heathy wonderful relationship*
Also me - ARE WE TOXIC LET ME WATCH
My past relationship was really toxic. I’m an alter in a system and My lover was very jealous over my host and others being around me. They never hurt me. But it was really hard to even spend time with anyone. Although they were really loving they would always bring up my past mistakes and it would end up with me crying because I know I’ve changed. Worst thing is I’m still attached to them. And even if they texted me right now I would go back to them. I’m not used to relationships... and my attachment issues just get in the way. I want to move on. I know they were bad for me
If you see some of these traits get out ..i spent 22 years with a narcissist..
As soon as he was diagnosed it all fell into place . They don't all have short relationships.
.they're super smart so you think its your fault 100 % of the time despite giving all you've got
I feel sorry for whoever finds this relatable.
Damn...Once again, my marriage fits ALL of these descriptions. I find pleasure in being alone sometimes.
The last point hit like a bus for my last relationship, oof.
This needs context.
If reasonable expectations aren't met, this is good to keep in mind.
If you're projecting your wishes into a relationship that's not what you wish it was, you're heading into codependent territory.
This was me, with my onlive ex dc (discord) bf
btw im so disappointed for not dumping him earlyer (ps i dumped him on feb 12 2021 i think)
ps he does most of the sighs in the video btw good video btw!