I keep seeing this and as a disabled person I feel so stupid about it. I can't be happy because of it, and it would be selfish if I got into a relationship because govt dictates they are now my carer so... Not allowed happiness either way and I've no idea what to do. It's nothing to with 'PMA'.
@@Roadent1241 I'm disabled too so ik what you mean. I think it means there's a lot about our lives we're unhappy with. And if we got in relationships, having a partner would only change a small percentage of that. And yes, once someone finds out you're "sick" they don't treat you as a person, but a patient. And I want a partner, not another doctor taking constant care of me.
Remember do not use The Lords Name in vain and/or blasphemy it (God and Jesus Christ and only say “Thank God” you are LEGITIMATELY Thanking God Like You Should or EVERYTHING In Your Life) AMEN 🙏 and if you are talking about The Christian Lord Jesus Christ Then *The Lord, *Jesus, *Christ PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 So don’t laugh at it as well Remember do not take or use hell lightly because it is a real that you will go if you keep sinning BUT you can REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 and don’t laugh at it as well Remember don’t cross your fingers for “luck” because luck is not real so don’t talk about it or use it as if it is but JESUS Is Real There is only ONE God and THAT Is The CHRISTIAN God and only a Capital G in God When you are talking about The Only True God The Christian God PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember vibes aren’t real so don’t talk about or use them as if they are real but JESUS Is Real and he liveshu you no matter what but you still have to love him back and repent to get into Heaven AMEN 🙏 Remember don’t do drugs, have premarital sex, watch porn, get drunk, or masturbate because they are sins and just like any other sin you will go to hell for it BUT you can REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember don’t flex, brag, or have pride because they are all sins and you will go to hell for them BUT you can REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED be humble PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember do not call people horrible people, be hateful, judge people, or make fun of people love everyone Like JESUS DID Did PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember do not listen xxxtentacion because he is satanic BUT you can REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember being lgbt is a sin BUT I do NOT hate lgbt people Jesus said love the sinner hate the sin so REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Remember do not lie because it is a sin and you will got to hell for it just like ANY other sin BUT you can REPENT To JESUS CHRIST And Be SAVED PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 Spirit animals aren’t real but JESUS IS REPENT TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 And don’t sell your soul that is satanic REPENT TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU TURN TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 God Is NOT DEAD So don’t say that or laugh at that PRAISE JESUS Because There is only ONE God and THAT Is The CHRISTIAN God and only a Capital G in God When you are talking about The Only True God The Christian God PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 And don't swear falsely on or off The Lords Name (God And Jesus Christ) REPENT TO JESUS TURN TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏 And hell is NOT safe it is eternal torture But You Can Be SAVED By JESUS CHRIST And Live In ETERNAL BLISS PRAISE JESUS AMEN
I haven't been in too many relationships but 100% the biggest killer is both people being at different stages or having different ideas of where it's at. YET ANOTHER GREAT VID SWOOZIE this guy actually has such good advice
Yeah I didn’t understand why he didn’t try with her… like I guess she came on too strong? But they’d been friends for a long time… If I was her I’d consider that a rejection and try to move on.
That quote could've saved some past relationships of mine years ago ngl wish I could change it. Also saw a young couple that I didn't know personally but would see them around a lot and would sometimes overhear them and it sounds like they depend on their affections a bit too much which is another example-
I once had a toxic gf who was almost exactly like "Ann's" bf. She would hit me, racist parents(she was white I'm hispanic), and she cheated on me yet I was always the one she was suspicious of. I did so much for that girl and regrettably took her back several times. Luckily I got my shit together and got out of it but even though I saved myself I still have lasting trauma from her
A lot of women who act like her were probably raised in dysfunctional households and don't actually know what it's like to feel loved or respected, let alone safe. You feel comfortable in what you know, and if you're comfortable being abused, it's difficult to leave. That's why it's so difficult for people to get out of some toxic situations. I saw a "nice" guy in the comments who said women like being abused, so I figured I should say something.
People want to stay in a comfort zone so familiar suffering vs unknown healthy relationships where you dont have experience in dealing with them, tend to override our chances at real happiness.
When Swoozie gets in a relationship he doesn't post on Instagram like: "Hey i'm in a relationship" He waits until the relationship goes down till it hits rock bottom and makes a video about it One word: "GENIUS"
@@planta-ray well first you should’ve found something you enjoy doing or pursuing in life before a relationship so you can get right back up if something goes bad in the relationship and if you are in the situation like the one you are in try to find something that you will enjoy not just your relationship it will make you even happier weather or not you are in one or not😁
@@planta-ray What Sacred said is right, find something you enjoy so you have something to fall back to. And of course most importantly Love Yourself first before loving others. If you can't love yourself, others will have a harder time loving you, although it's not impossible, it's harder. Life is shit, but you can still love it!
@@sacredxeno I'm doing lots of things to distract me from being disabled but they're not really making me happy, should I just stop doing them even though I don't have any other choices, or know how to FIND any other choices?? Everything else exists out of reach or it's unfixable.
It's possible in an odd way, it happened to me once. If the hit is strong enough on the cheekbone, the bruise can spread to the eye. Though it wouldn't be as painful looking as the cheekbone.
Just got recommended to me. The toxicity isn’t apparent to most people until it’s in hindsight. For me, I was in a relationship with someone I was toxic with, and toxic towards, I never realized how bad things were until it was over. And then I met someone amazing. She broke me out of my shell and the habits I formed from the past relationship. It took time and understanding, and a lot of reinforcement. But once I was brought back from that place and understood how to healthily talk about issues, everything became okay. 2 years strong, and pretty happy with where I’ve ended up. I’ll end this with the “best” you can do, isn’t the best for you. Just find someone you can be happy with.
Hey, Thank u 4 ur comment. How r u now? I 2 was in a toxic relationship back 2 bk but one was friends with bene... I escaped all that n 2 met some1 who guided me bk 2 health, mentally physically n emotionally. How r u now? I have been married now 4 like 7 yrs. We r lucky to have that person who gives us our heart bk.
I’ve been so caught up on TH-cam drama that I forgot that swoozie gave some great advice even though I’m already married with kids it’s always good to know 😌😄
This girl seem like the type that’s so scared to be alone that she’ll cling on to anybody no matter how horrible they are or how bad they treat her. It’s just sad
Swoozie's literally the only TH-camr that's been on here for over 10 years thats not problematic, like i dont think he's even had a scandal. He just chills, tells stories and minds his business
See, you can't let them use that to keep you around. If ANYTHING you need to bounce IMMEDIATLY after someone uses that line. If you're really worried about them harming themselves, call the Cops for a wellness check on them.
I had a friend in a toxic relationship. Dude was incredibly controlling. He had a "Three-strikes" rule where if she did stuff he didn't like, he gave her a strike. When she tried using the same thing, he told her to stop joking. They broke up and she asked to hang out and talk. She talked to me and another friend over the phone. She told us about all the crap he did. But the more she said and the more we confirmed that her relationship was toxic, the more willing she seemed to go back and give him another shot. And she got back with him, briefly, before they broke up again. Break-ups can be difficult to deal with, and sometimes it can be tempting to go back to something familiar. But you don't owe anyone a relationship that makes you unhappy for any reason. And it can feel bad being alone, but you will be okay.
@@yakheen581 She hung out with friends he didn't like. And she smoked pot which he apparently didn't approve of. My problem with this dynamic is that it's just a manipulative tactic. If she had been doing something bad enough for him to want to leave, then he should have just left. Holding their relationship hostage if she doesn't do what he wants was wrong. And all it did was make her feel like she was worthless. It's not like it stopped her.
It's strange how you don't notice it until you are actually free from the Toxic relationship. It took me a few years for me to rebuild myself mentally, but my fiancée has been incredible in making me the vastly improved and healthy man I am today. Looking back, there were so many signs I missed from living through it. Much love to ya sWooZie!
To be honest, in your other video where you mentioned "Ann" driving an hour to pick up a game for you I thought, "Damn that's a bit much. Maybe she's just a really nice person?" Someone coming on too strong when they haven't even met you is a red flag. It's not often talked about because it doesn't seem like a negative. You want to give those people the benefit of the doubt because they are being nice to you after all. This is just a personal observation, but people who want to give you their everything within a short period of time after meeting you usually have problems with boundaries, self-worth, and healthy social interaction. You can feel bad for them because they're not bad people, but that "I need someone to love me or I'm worthless" mentality is not something that you want to get deeply involved with. Swoozie did the right thing by offering to pay rent for a separate apartment for her instead of letting her stay with him in exchange for her "keeping his belly full" and "making sure there's never a dirty dish in the sink". It sounded like she wanted to be his live-in girlfriend. It seems that she felt the need to be an relationship so badly to the point that she'd rather be married to an abusive man than be single. There's sadly not much you can do in these situations if the person being abused does not take concrete steps towards making healthier choices (ex: taking Swoozie up on his offer). You can't force a person's hand or live their life for them, no matter how badly you might want to.
I think the term "toxic relationship" underplays what's happening here - These are literally classic signs of domestic abuse. Restricting her contacts, controlling every aspect of her life, chasing her and abusing her..? She could be seriously hurt if it escalates
I just wanna ask- (based on my experiences) Is guy who's pursuing you "toxic" if he keeps stalking you and following you everywhere and gets upset when you hug your friends? And is like pushing and pulling you away? That you're always left confused in the end? That's what happened last year with me and my almost-bf but I cut him off cause I didn't feel happy. I just wonder if I did the right thing.
@@GoldenPurplle you dodged a bullet. Men who are secure don't need to be all up in your biz like that, if you give them a reason to doubt, they're out. Ppl who are extremely jealous have skeletons in their closets and / or are trying to isolate you. NEVER settle for that, for your one safety and sanity. The fact that you have to wonder should already be a clue in itself
Just like a super wise person once told me: "Appreciate, dont attach"... if you derive all your happiness and STABILITY from a relationship, you will be unhealthily paranoid and anxious and will smother the other person and yourself. Give eachother the freedom to be completely independent and have your own agency. Then, you can appreciate eachother as a part of a greater puzzle. And remember, you can still be super romantic while maintaining boundaries!
this is why im weary of people who brag about having such a “big heart”, who do overly nice things when you barely know each other, & who try to get super close to you the first time yall meet😭its nice & flattering in the beginning but from personal experience….it never ends well
"Relationship should add to your happiness"...Been hearing you say this for probably almost a decade since i was a teenager...i think i finally kinda sorta get get it as an adult...Thanks man
Wow, I gotta say I feel for Ann. Obviously her relationship with Swoozie wasn’t great, but this second guy? It reminds me so much of one of my former friends (I’ll call her Julie) and her boyfriend, now husband (who I’ll call Drew). When they were dating, “she” slowly started cutting people out of her friendship group. I say “she” because the types of people and the way it would happen was highly suggestive that it was his idea. For example, she was still close friends with her exes because they ended on very good terms, but they were “cut out” first, then came the other members of the friend group who were still close friends with said exes. They only other friends it seemed like she was “allowed to keep” were the ones she’d met in uni with Drew and any of Drew’s friends. However, Julie would still hang out with a lot of us when Drew (before they were married) would occasionally take an out of town business maybe twice a year; idk if she was lying to him, but it was like the only time she felt safe. Any other time I asked her to hang out she’d say something like, “Not today because Drew is in town and he said he likes spending as much time together as possible.” Oh, he’s in town? You mean in the same apartment where you both live together and see each other every day (this is directed towards the SO, not my friend). From the moment they started dating-especially after she got engaged-, she’s changed her appearance because “Drew liked it better that way”, changed parts of her dream wedding because “Drew didn’t like that idea” (although that I kinda understand, I do think the groom should have some input on the wedding, but maybe not SO much), and suddenly moved her halfway across the country, which even further isolated her from her friends, and now her family. She hasn’t talked to me since her wedding, so I have no idea how she’s doing but I think of her everyday. I know she loves him and I know she is happy in her own way, it’s just so hard to watch. If you’re out there Julie, I miss you and I hope you’re okay. 💞
After my sister broke up with her toxic as hell boyfriend, he started dating one of her ex friends (who also turned out to be toxic as hell). I swear that girl was pregnant and engaged to him before end of the year.
From a relatives experience, I think it has something to do with a thought process that goes, "I can get used to this behaviour." Which clearly is a mistake.
I think I saw some famous psychologist say that the reason why some get marriwd/engaged/get babies so quickly is they know they are toxic and they want "lock" that person before the other one realizes how toxic they are. And boom trapped. Form of manipulation...
I have friends who have broken noses, chipped teeth, and gotten stitches on their brow because of door related incidents. Never a black eye. That being said, a black eye can occur with a hard enough hit to the forehead.
I can imagine it happening. If the bathroom is large enough to put your upper body in front of the door with your feet out of the way and someone pushes upen the door hard, it could happen. This also said, anyone tells you that they were hit by a door in the same sentence as informing they've been fighting with their partner...I'd take that info with a massive grain of salt and let the person know you're there for them if in truth they're being abused.
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley Right, because despite the fact that it _could_ technically happen, the “Black Eye Because a Door Hit me in the Face” is one of the oldest and beaten dead routines in the history of DV.
Maybe dont simp for anyone? Give what you get. A relationship requires balance so if someone doesn’t show you the same love you show them, you know that’s not a good relationship
I was in a toxic relationship for almost 2 years it was insidious. Leaving is ironically the hardest thing to do but when I tell you your life will be a billion times better without them. LEAVE
@@daylight3325 not really. I used to date some dude who was toxic as fuck and would always threaten to break up with me if we didnt have sex not matter how much I didnt want to for example or because "I couldn't satisfy him" when we did it. He also threatened to kill himself on multiple occasions like if I mentioned the stuff he did that hurt me and that we needed to work on. He just generally said a lot of shit he knew hurt me and that still sticks with me to this day
The best reason I can think of for why she didn't take your offer is that she doesn't want to be alone. People with great personalities like you explained that she had tend to also struggle mentally and it may be the reason why she stayed and didn't want to move to a place without someone. Besides that, not knowing an area can also cause more stress if you don't have a roommate. I totally get why you didn't want her to come in, but I think that she might have needed more support than financially. Just me though because I struggle with abandonment PTSD, so there are some things I can't handle well on my own.
The only explanations for the door giving her a black eye I could come up with were: 1. He rammed her head into the doorknob 2. She "Tripped into the doorknob" 3. She was eye level with the doorknob 4. She did it to herself 5. Fist to face But hey, maybe he had a broken door that had been curved inwards and the broken wood jabbed her in the eye... edit: I've never had this many likes and replies one one of my comments, I know it's a small thing but the fact that so many people actually enjoyed this makes me happy.
The edge of the door could have caught her cheekbone or something too. I got a black eye from putting a saddle up on a horse and the stirrup falling back onto my face. Only the edge of it caught me right under my eye but it immediately swelled up. Everyone thought I was in an abusive relationship for like 3 weeks. Even the person who literally watched the stirrup hit my face said that if she hadn’t seen it happen she’d think a guy punched me.
@@SaritaWolf yes but you weren't met at and chased by that saddle were you? The guy went at her and chased her with intent. Idk if he did really hit her cause I wasn't there but maybe it was lucky that the fight did stop when the door(maybe) hit her in the face.
@@lizzyrank5405 Oh no I’m not excusing what the guy did at all! I’m just saying it is probably possible to get a black eye from a door if maybe the nob or the corner hits you at the right angle. But whether the dude hit her with his fists or a door it’s still inexcusable.
ALSO very important: 99% of people aren't toxic right off the bat! They'll pretend to be good or show you their best side and then choose to be toxic once they feel they have you locked down, it's called manipulation and it's why so many people feel like they know the person and fall in love with the idea of the person's best self but that's not reality!!
I’ve always been that friend who’s seen the signs of toxic relationships and wanting/helping my friends in these problems has been so exhausting and frustrating because they always crawl back. The good thing is that since I’m in high school I don’t have to deal with friends who are in toxic relationships/wanting advice just to crawl back but something I do wish and want people to take more seriously is that you shouldn’t find happiness in relationships. I can understand that we all want comfort and affection but if you keep finding happiness in relationships to be the cause in being happy that’s not helping you that’s hurting you more and most of the time people don’t know what they’re doing. I don’t mind giving advice but it’s up to you if you’re going to take my advice and be useful with it or just bluntly throw it the window and crawl back if somebody’s there to help at the end of the day it’s up to you if you want to help yourself or hurt yourself.
As someone who's been in a relationship that was so incredibly toxic it's even a little absurd, it's never a bad idea to just, let a toxic relationship go. I know that it might be hard, but it will ultimately make you feel better in the long run. It is always okay to do something for yourself, especially if someone else is hurting you.
I can relate to the “trying to help a friend outta a bad situation” part of it. Got a friend who’s stuck at his abusive parents house. His friends n I have been trying to help him get out but he won’t accept our help. He’s also 2 hours away so it’s even harder. He’s stuck in a toxic mindset and I feel so bad for him 😞
imma explain why he might be like that as a person like him. It's because our parents warn us of the dangers of friends. especially religious ones cuz they use their religion as a way to say hat the world is bad and keep us sheltered from it. kind of like a cult. and since theyre our parents we naturally trust them. and we figure out it's toxic, we have no where to go or any idea what to do since our parents have made us completly dependent on them and often threaten us with abndonment or saying the parent version of 'youll never find another guy as good as me" which "nobody else will deal with your antics" or something along those lines. im not saying thats how it is for your friend but i would be careful this is very sensitive he ha to make a choice between toxic parents or good friends.
@@enuff943 wow, this is explained perfectly... I had this happen exactly when I was 15 and didnt realize it at the time. Looking back, I wish I had accept my friends help ,but when you've been brainwashed by a toxic parent you feel like you're the problem and would be a burden for others if you accept their help.
@@JacobLuy actually a door can give you a black eye depending on the angle you are standing. If she was leaning forward to slammed the door shut it could have caught her at a perfect angle. Even though it was the door doesn't mean the guy wasn't abusive though.
Swoozie proving that he doesn't discriminate made my day XD My mom was kinda seeing this guy years back. They met because he offered her a ride home from the casino. She said no the first time, but said okay the next. He was telling me (cause I'm snoopy and ask many questions) how he had bad thoughts about her since she rejected him and how he was just trying to be a nice guy, and I'm like....'would you/have you ever offered a ride to a guy? A real nice guy would offer rides to anyone' 😪 Him trying to explain himself for the next 10 minutes was hilarious cause he knows he only hit on her cause she's a pretty lady.
I remember being in this girl's shoes, it took me so long to realize my self worth isn't determined by a dude and I shouldn't stoop my standards so low because I just wanted somebody to love me... Because I didn't love myself. I hope this girl realizes the same and gets out of that toxic marriage.
@@papalonglegz3421 Much better to be honest my ex was a person that drained a lot of energy from me, it's so amazing all the things I got to do besides I see tried to get back, hahahahaha it feels amazing!
I just got out of a relationship 3 months ago. And I’m still trying to somewhat recover and get over it. The thing is, I see him a lot since we’re in the same band. He was very very emotionally dependent on me, in fact he was dependent on me for almost everything. Before getting into the relationship, he already didn’t love himself and relied on me for most of his self-worth and saw no problem with that. I was basically his mother and his therapist. He was way too physical with other people and most of his friends were girls. There was one in particular who I honestly hated. She was clearly into him the entire time, but he always denied it. 2 months after I leave him, he gets with her, and the next day, breaks up with her over Discord. Yeah, over Discord. Then they get back together 2 days later. He says I have jealousy issues when I’ve been told repeatedly by friends that I was just setting boundaries. He just makes me feel like a terrible person and doesn’t see any problem with not taking care of himself and blaming everything he does on other people. Never be afraid to leave someone.
I’m sorry for anyone who has been in a bad/toxic relationship. I’ve seen it with friends and my own sisters. I’m 33, been single for my whole life. When I’d see these bad relationships I’d think being single sounds better than being with someone who makes you upset. I waited for God’s best and who he had for me. Now I understand why.
I just got to say first of all, I love the way that you tell stories, and your style is so cool dude. I also wanna mention how that also happen to me as well I've been stuck in a similar situation before like that where the girl ended up eventually leaving and getting back with her toxic after I tried to make a move.
@@swoozie shoulda done e4 than bring ur knights out for support then move the pawn in front of ur queen up 1 then move your bishop out there then castle
Been there, She's trapped by her love. She's the warden of the prison love built for her. Sadly there will be days when this guy will be awesome and she'll feel the relationship is getting better, that it's finally turning around.(course that's the lie giving false hope). When blinded by love it's almost impossible to escape that situation. For me I wrote out unforgivable sins, that if she committed any of these sins the relationship is dead. Which of course she did, committing that unforgivable sin gave me the strength to end the relationship. Best way to realize your in a toxic relationship is with your friends. They got your back and when they say run, you RUN!. Anyway my advice to anyone trapped in a "Toxic Relationship" draw a line and stick to it. You deserve better! Trust me when you embrace the next love of your life the old toxic one will be a distant memory.
Uh still got that list? Would be useful to get an idea if I end up in a relationship myself as to what to look out for and make up my own list of yours, if all good to do so.
Honestly I think Swoozie's offer to help her was great, she would have had her own space and more time to figure things out. I think she just wanted him to fall for her by being a perfect live-in girlfriend. She seems very co-dependant. A lot of beautiful girls have deep insecurities that jerks exploit, it's so sad.
"You'll never find anyone better than me" is a huge problem in rap. A lot of rappers use that in breakup songs and it's extremely toxic. A lot of people will hear that and think it's ok.
Always makes me think of Beyonce's response to that in "Irreplaceable": "I can have another you in a minute. Matter of fact, he'll be here in a minute", lol.
Going through the BIGGEST break up of my life. Feel absolutely worthless and remotely suicidal, but Can always count on swoozie to make me feel just a little bit better.
“What happens is you start avoiding your friends and family so you don’t have to explain your boyfriends toxicity when you see ‘em.” That was exactly me.
Your “portion control” explanation >>>
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"if you're not happy single, you're not going to be happy in a relationship."
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@@captaincharlie_ Ok thank you
I keep seeing this and as a disabled person I feel so stupid about it. I can't be happy because of it, and it would be selfish if I got into a relationship because govt dictates they are now my carer so... Not allowed happiness either way and I've no idea what to do. It's nothing to with 'PMA'.
@@Roadent1241 I'm disabled too so ik what you mean. I think it means there's a lot about our lives we're unhappy with. And if we got in relationships, having a partner would only change a small percentage of that.
And yes, once someone finds out you're "sick" they don't treat you as a person, but a patient. And I want a partner, not another doctor taking constant care of me.
"Relationships should ADD to your happiness, not be the cause"
I'll remember that 👍
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Relationship should be a cause of happiness bruh
@@everythingpony Not the MAIN cause*
it's a red flag if your partner says you're the only reason they're happy. like bro, you don't have any hobbies? any friends? yikes.
Maybe I should say that to my obsessive ex, if I didn't had to block their number because it was that bad
My reaction to her choices: "Huh? Huh? Huh? HUH? HUH?!?!?!?!?!?"
“Girls this cute don’t talk to me”
*all his girl friends get pissed off* 😭😭😭
They might be cute, but thats not how he looks at them
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Spirit animals aren’t real but JESUS IS REPENT TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏
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God Is NOT DEAD So don’t say that or laugh at that PRAISE JESUS Because There is only ONE God and THAT Is The CHRISTIAN God and only a Capital G in God When you are talking about The Only True God The Christian God PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏
And don't swear falsely on or off The Lords Name (God And Jesus Christ) REPENT TO JESUS TURN TO JESUS HE LOVES YOU PRAISE JESUS AMEN 🙏
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@@notracc9096 no thanks
The fact that they got married?? Even blatant verbal and physical abuse, just blows my mind
Sad truth
ok we meet again HAHAHAHA
I see u everywhere 🤣
and her parents hate her? i have no idea how they got married
Wow you're really late.
I haven't been in too many relationships but 100% the biggest killer is both people being at different stages or having different ideas of where it's at. YET ANOTHER GREAT VID SWOOZIE this guy actually has such good advice
Hello
Facts
@vonto he is in highschool
Dude you and Brice always get me confused. I’m also talking about hamanimations and I think you already know his name is Bryson.
Agreed
“Relationships should only add happiness, not be the source of your happiness” That hit deep
“ if you break up with me you’ll never find anybody else like me” BRO THATS THE POINT-
if its a kid then... *FBI OPEN UP!*
@@purplehaze4942 *AAAAA-*
RIGHT? Like man I don't want yet another DUMPSTER fire, k, thx!
"Better" is the key word, that messes up with some people's minds
why you dating a kid?
“i have to wife this girl” *fast forward four years* “we’re still friends” 💀💀
And he wonders why some of his love interests get impatient 😂
🤣🤣 exactly. They probably get tired of being baited for content.
Yeah I didn’t understand why he didn’t try with her… like I guess she came on too strong? But they’d been friends for a long time… If I was her I’d consider that a rejection and try to move on.
@@bloodyrose1995 idk swoozie comes off as confused to me
@@infiltretor287 dudes got trust issues from past relationships. I think he said that in a video
“Relationships should add to your happiness not be your happiness” my man speaking a language I should’ve learned a long time ago
Make sure the person your with knows this too cuz that's where things can go off
That quote could've saved some past relationships of mine years ago ngl wish I could change it. Also saw a young couple that I didn't know personally but would see them around a lot and would sometimes overhear them and it sounds like they depend on their affections a bit too much which is another example-
Wise words as he said once... "I have spoken!"
🙏🙏🙏
I once had a toxic gf who was almost exactly like "Ann's" bf. She would hit me, racist parents(she was white I'm hispanic), and she cheated on me yet I was always the one she was suspicious of. I did so much for that girl and regrettably took her back several times. Luckily I got my shit together and got out of it but even though I saved myself I still have lasting trauma from her
Sorry to hear that hope you’re doing better.
Hope u are doing better!!!!
I’m glad you left.
Good for you man, let's hope others can learn the easy way from your example
A lot of women who act like her were probably raised in dysfunctional households and don't actually know what it's like to feel loved or respected, let alone safe. You feel comfortable in what you know, and if you're comfortable being abused, it's difficult to leave. That's why it's so difficult for people to get out of some toxic situations.
I saw a "nice" guy in the comments who said women like being abused, so I figured I should say something.
Yes, THIS!
Or they just suck
Thank you!
@@goonk6149 stop
People want to stay in a comfort zone so familiar suffering vs unknown healthy relationships where you dont have experience in dealing with them, tend to override our chances at real happiness.
“Know your value and add tax” -sWooZie that is the best quote I have heard in a while
Tbh, all friends with benefits relationships are toxic,
at least in the sense of ‚This is super pathetic, duh’.
FR.
I needed this ✨
I've gotta start writing a few of these down.
Swoozie is like a variety pack TH-camr he talks about everything, and that's what I like about him
He mostly talks about relationships though
Word word
When's the talk about "The Great Filter" or "The Fermi Paradox" in this channel? That would be dope
Her: “I’ll get out of your hair in 30 days
Swozie: *B A L D*
You did not 😭😭😭
...ouch
When Swoozie gets in a relationship he doesn't post on Instagram like: "Hey i'm in a relationship"
He waits until the relationship goes down till it hits rock bottom and makes a video about it
One word: "GENIUS"
😭🤌🏾 noo lies
No 🧢
Yeah so he could get content on it😂😂😂 still funnyy af tho😂😂
Big up u Swoozie i live in trinidad to🔥🔥🔥
😭😭😭😭💀💀seriously
*"Relationships should add to your happiness not be your source of happiness"*
~~~Swoozie 2021
🙂
PREACH!👏🏻🙌🏻✊🏻
Needed that
😁
“Know your value and add tax”. As person with low self esteem, this hits for me. Damn 😐
Nice profile pic😏
Go add some more tax
Add more tax after that
14:11 Get happy first before you get in a relationship
Learned this the hard way but it’s very true
“ I was just laying in bed thinking, humans don’t have flat faces” 😂😂😂
RIGHT
Nice name
That's shower thoughts.
The bone below your eye if hit can cause a black eye, I have experienced it 😂 (Yes a door can hit that bone)
@@ThyBoat please comment this
Swoozie quote: Relationships should add to your happiness they shouldn’t be the reason for it.
So true!
Ok, but what if you have nothing else good in life, what then? Serious question
@@planta-ray well first you should’ve found something you enjoy doing or pursuing in life before a relationship so you can get right back up if something goes bad in the relationship and if you are in the situation like the one you are in try to find something that you will enjoy not just your relationship it will make you even happier weather or not you are in one or not😁
@@planta-ray What Sacred said is right, find something you enjoy so you have something to fall back to. And of course most importantly Love Yourself first before loving others. If you can't love yourself, others will have a harder time loving you, although it's not impossible, it's harder.
Life is shit, but you can still love it!
@@sacredxeno I'm doing lots of things to distract me from being disabled but they're not really making me happy, should I just stop doing them even though I don't have any other choices, or know how to FIND any other choices?? Everything else exists out of reach or it's unfixable.
Doors automatically shape into a fist when kicked at a certain speed…..her story makes sense
Word?
The doorknob slid up a couple feet
On god thoe
It's possible in an odd way, it happened to me once. If the hit is strong enough on the cheekbone, the bruise can spread to the eye. Though it wouldn't be as painful looking as the cheekbone.
This sounds almost identical to the Amber Heard and Johnny Depp bathroom black eye incident ... 🤔
Just got recommended to me. The toxicity isn’t apparent to most people until it’s in hindsight. For me, I was in a relationship with someone I was toxic with, and toxic towards, I never realized how bad things were until it was over. And then I met someone amazing. She broke me out of my shell and the habits I formed from the past relationship. It took time and understanding, and a lot of reinforcement. But once I was brought back from that place and understood how to healthily talk about issues, everything became okay. 2 years strong, and pretty happy with where I’ve ended up. I’ll end this with the “best” you can do, isn’t the best for you. Just find someone you can be happy with.
Hey,
Thank u 4 ur comment. How r u now? I 2 was in a toxic relationship back 2 bk but one was friends with bene... I escaped all that n 2 met some1 who guided me bk 2 health, mentally physically n emotionally. How r u now?
I have been married now 4 like 7 yrs. We r lucky to have that person who gives us our heart bk.
I’m convinced Swoozie has been in 100 relationships
@Jack Pruett and tax
Honestly bruh Swoozie is pulling Wilt Chamberlain numbers lol.
*Situationships*
He is still in some of them,
@Cartoonist Louis Even flings, its too many. This man has had more flings than I have Knocked one out
Your life will be a billion times better without them
good
“A few months ago we talked about toxic friends.” BRO THAT WAS ALMOST A YEAR AGO 😂😂
Holy shit how times fly
@@marlom7882 fr i didnt realize until i checked lol
on soullll .
I’ve been so caught up on TH-cam drama that I forgot that swoozie gave some great advice even though I’m already married with kids it’s always good to know 😌😄
Tbh, all friends with benefits relationships are toxic,
at least in the sense of ‚This is super pathetic, duh’.
If I had a dollar every time Swoozie said "I need wife this girl", I could afford TH-cam premium. 🤣🤣
TH-cam premium is literally $12 bro
@@chinchu7000 on gang 😂😂
Good one lmaooo
Best comment!
@@chinchu7000 her statement's still true if he's said it 12+ times. Might have some change left over lol
This girl seem like the type that’s so scared to be alone that she’ll cling on to anybody no matter how horrible they are or how bad they treat her. It’s just sad
"Get happy first then get into a relationship...relationships should add to your happiness NOT your reason to happiness"-Swoozie 2021
14:12
It’s so unbelievable how happy you can be if you just block the problem
That sometimes can work, but sometimes it can make things worse or more dangerous.
"Know your value, plus add tax" Welp, that's a quote I'm using now
FR! When he said that my jaw DROPPED
same thing I was thinking
problem is way too many people undervalue or overvalue themselves
both usually end up screwed
Love the longer uploads 🙌
I luv your video
You have terrible vids
You fell off
@Ivey Okay?
@@ivey1511 dam u wrong for that
"She's the center of attention, every dude here is like simping hard over her."
Samsung Sam and Lady Dimitrescu: *First time?*
😂
God damn😂😂
Lol
Yup lol
... Samsung Sam???
The bottleneck analogy actually makes a lot of sense to me. You’re a great storyteller!
“Relationships should add to your happiness, not be the reason for your happiness”
Truer words have never been uttered before
"It sucks that somebody who so nice and has such a big heart has all this crap happening to her and she's staying in that situation" - swoozie 2021
Now that Swoozie confessed his embarrassing l's, let's see him now confess his amazing W's!!!
He kinda does every other video
I love it when I get the notification “Someone subbed to you” and “Someone liked your comment 👍.”
@@zyclo good for you bud
Im more curious how he’s dated all these people the stories are endless.
Yes that would be a great video
“Relationships should add to your happiness, not be your happiness.” Actually some really good advice swooz, thanks :).
Nice
Fax
Swoozie's literally the only TH-camr that's been on here for over 10 years thats not problematic, like i dont think he's even had a scandal. He just chills, tells stories and minds his business
I hate hearing “you’ll never find someone like me.” That’s the point isn’t it???
Yea, cuz you won’t find someone as toxic as them again. xD
Is Swoozie actually giving me frrrrr 💯 advice right now? Bro you are a legend. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
The scariest toxic situations are “I’ll die without you.”
See, you can't let them use that to keep you around. If ANYTHING you need to bounce IMMEDIATLY after someone uses that line. If you're really worried about them harming themselves, call the Cops for a wellness check on them.
My ex cheated on me then dumped me bc she got caught, then told me if I told her friends the truth of what happened, she’d kill herself.
@@LowkeyHundo somethin similar happened to me. good. one less cheater in the world
@@brennen79 when they say they can't live without you and you leave anyway but they're STILL alive 🙄
Even lil Uzi said it 😢
I had a friend in a toxic relationship. Dude was incredibly controlling. He had a "Three-strikes" rule where if she did stuff he didn't like, he gave her a strike. When she tried using the same thing, he told her to stop joking.
They broke up and she asked to hang out and talk. She talked to me and another friend over the phone. She told us about all the crap he did. But the more she said and the more we confirmed that her relationship was toxic, the more willing she seemed to go back and give him another shot. And she got back with him, briefly, before they broke up again.
Break-ups can be difficult to deal with, and sometimes it can be tempting to go back to something familiar. But you don't owe anyone a relationship that makes you unhappy for any reason. And it can feel bad being alone, but you will be okay.
What happened if she got three strikes?
@@justamonkeywithinternetaccess Then he'd break up with her. He kept holding the relationship hostage like that.
And you will *definitely* find someone better who loves you so much more! You don't need them. :/
Wdym the stuff he didn't like... What is she doing that makes him so mad
@@yakheen581 She hung out with friends he didn't like. And she smoked pot which he apparently didn't approve of.
My problem with this dynamic is that it's just a manipulative tactic. If she had been doing something bad enough for him to want to leave, then he should have just left. Holding their relationship hostage if she doesn't do what he wants was wrong. And all it did was make her feel like she was worthless. It's not like it stopped her.
It's strange how you don't notice it until you are actually free from the Toxic relationship.
It took me a few years for me to rebuild myself mentally, but my fiancée has been incredible in making me the vastly improved and healthy man I am today.
Looking back, there were so many signs I missed from living through it.
Much love to ya sWooZie!
To be honest, in your other video where you mentioned "Ann" driving an hour to pick up a game for you I thought, "Damn that's a bit much. Maybe she's just a really nice person?" Someone coming on too strong when they haven't even met you is a red flag. It's not often talked about because it doesn't seem like a negative. You want to give those people the benefit of the doubt because they are being nice to you after all. This is just a personal observation, but people who want to give you their everything within a short period of time after meeting you usually have problems with boundaries, self-worth, and healthy social interaction. You can feel bad for them because they're not bad people, but that "I need someone to love me or I'm worthless" mentality is not something that you want to get deeply involved with. Swoozie did the right thing by offering to pay rent for a separate apartment for her instead of letting her stay with him in exchange for her "keeping his belly full" and "making sure there's never a dirty dish in the sink". It sounded like she wanted to be his live-in girlfriend. It seems that she felt the need to be an relationship so badly to the point that she'd rather be married to an abusive man than be single. There's sadly not much you can do in these situations if the person being abused does not take concrete steps towards making healthier choices (ex: taking Swoozie up on his offer). You can't force a person's hand or live their life for them, no matter how badly you might want to.
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I love it when I get the notification “Someone subbed to you” and “Someone liked your comment 👍.”
@@zyclo ur welcome
Yes
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"Know your value and add tax"
I don't respect anyone that puts their hands on their significant other..... toxic people are horrible
“Don’t price yourself out of the game.”
I ruined the 69
I think the term "toxic relationship" underplays what's happening here - These are literally classic signs of domestic abuse. Restricting her contacts, controlling every aspect of her life, chasing her and abusing her..? She could be seriously hurt if it escalates
It prob already has he talks about what’s happens years after the event actually took place so she should’ve left while she could but look at bozo now
titling a vid about domestic abuse would not get through the algorithm
She's the idiot that not only stayed but married him. People can only treat you the way you allow them to
I just wanna ask- (based on my experiences) Is guy who's pursuing you "toxic" if he keeps stalking you and following you everywhere and gets upset when you hug your friends? And is like pushing and pulling you away? That you're always left confused in the end? That's what happened last year with me and my almost-bf but I cut him off cause I didn't feel happy. I just wonder if I did the right thing.
@@GoldenPurplle you dodged a bullet. Men who are secure don't need to be all up in your biz like that, if you give them a reason to doubt, they're out. Ppl who are extremely jealous have skeletons in their closets and / or are trying to isolate you. NEVER settle for that, for your one safety and sanity. The fact that you have to wonder should already be a clue in itself
Just like a super wise person once told me: "Appreciate, dont attach"... if you derive all your happiness and STABILITY from a relationship, you will be unhealthily paranoid and anxious and will smother the other person and yourself. Give eachother the freedom to be completely independent and have your own agency. Then, you can appreciate eachother as a part of a greater puzzle. And remember, you can still be super romantic while maintaining boundaries!
If I’m ever in a Toxic Relationship.
And she say “you’ll never find another girl like me”
Shiiiiiii that’s the Plan💀🤦🏾♂️😂
I’m gonna use that😂
@@jp290 You should
@Greys Tf u talking about
I LEGIT SAID THAT TO MY TOXIC EX WHEN I BROKE UP AND IT WAS HILARIOUS
😂
this is why im weary of people who brag about having such a “big heart”, who do overly nice things when you barely know each other, & who try to get super close to you the first time yall meet😭its nice & flattering in the beginning but from personal experience….it never ends well
I don't know why that girl thought she didn't deserve better, but that feeling that you can't leave once you get started is very common.
"Relationship should add to your happiness"...Been hearing you say this for probably almost a decade since i was a teenager...i think i finally kinda sorta get get it as an adult...Thanks man
haven't watched sWooZie in years, I missed how positive and motivating he his.
same
Moral of the story: all girls should just date Swoozie.
y e s
true
what about me nigga
@@mdott17 the needs of the many outway the needs of the few, im sorry my mans
We trying!!! 😓🤣
"know your value... AND ADD TAX"
Best advice I've heard in a while 💯
Don’t forget the transport fee
Wow, I gotta say I feel for Ann. Obviously her relationship with Swoozie wasn’t great, but this second guy? It reminds me so much of one of my former friends (I’ll call her Julie) and her boyfriend, now husband (who I’ll call Drew). When they were dating, “she” slowly started cutting people out of her friendship group. I say “she” because the types of people and the way it would happen was highly suggestive that it was his idea. For example, she was still close friends with her exes because they ended on very good terms, but they were “cut out” first, then came the other members of the friend group who were still close friends with said exes. They only other friends it seemed like she was “allowed to keep” were the ones she’d met in uni with Drew and any of Drew’s friends. However, Julie would still hang out with a lot of us when Drew (before they were married) would occasionally take an out of town business maybe twice a year; idk if she was lying to him, but it was like the only time she felt safe. Any other time I asked her to hang out she’d say something like, “Not today because Drew is in town and he said he likes spending as much time together as possible.” Oh, he’s in town? You mean in the same apartment where you both live together and see each other every day (this is directed towards the SO, not my friend). From the moment they started dating-especially after she got engaged-, she’s changed her appearance because “Drew liked it better that way”, changed parts of her dream wedding because “Drew didn’t like that idea” (although that I kinda understand, I do think the groom should have some input on the wedding, but maybe not SO much), and suddenly moved her halfway across the country, which even further isolated her from her friends, and now her family. She hasn’t talked to me since her wedding, so I have no idea how she’s doing but I think of her everyday. I know she loves him and I know she is happy in her own way, it’s just so hard to watch. If you’re out there Julie, I miss you and I hope you’re okay. 💞
This is quite sad especially when you know theres nearly nothing you can do. My best condolences to you and Julie’s friends and family.
Hopefully you're able to meet your friend again and she's safe while out of a relationship with that other person.
JESUSS CHRIST.!
I swear the most toxic relationships get married/engaged so fast 😭✋🏻
After my sister broke up with her toxic as hell boyfriend, he started dating one of her ex friends (who also turned out to be toxic as hell). I swear that girl was pregnant and engaged to him before end of the year.
So all military relationships? My girl had her dude cheat on her and they’ve barely been married.
From a relatives experience, I think it has something to do with a thought process that goes, "I can get used to this behaviour." Which clearly is a mistake.
Very true..They think marriage is the solution.. if it's still toxic... They continue to have kids and remain toxic.
I think I saw some famous psychologist say that the reason why some get marriwd/engaged/get babies so quickly is they know they are toxic and they want "lock" that person before the other one realizes how toxic they are. And boom trapped. Form of manipulation...
I have friends who have broken noses, chipped teeth, and gotten stitches on their brow because of door related incidents.
Never a black eye.
That being said, a black eye can occur with a hard enough hit to the forehead.
Do u think the door hit her temple maybe? Would that cause it? The whole scene is strange
I can imagine it happening. If the bathroom is large enough to put your upper body in front of the door with your feet out of the way and someone pushes upen the door hard, it could happen. This also said, anyone tells you that they were hit by a door in the same sentence as informing they've been fighting with their partner...I'd take that info with a massive grain of salt and let the person know you're there for them if in truth they're being abused.
@@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley Right, because despite the fact that it _could_ technically happen, the “Black Eye Because a Door Hit me in the Face” is one of the oldest and beaten dead routines in the history of DV.
Toxic relationships suck.
And I am in one.
“Getting out” is easier said than done.
You can do it. It took me a year and a half because I had to make a plan that didn't end with me killed. It's scary and hard, but you can do it.
Hope you get out of it
Go stay with friends or family, get support and get a happier mood...
believe!!!!
I hope all goes well for you!
"Know your value, and add tax". One of the best pieces of advice ever.
Everyone: I can’t find a gamer girl that simps for me as much as I simp for them
Swoozie: yeah she simped to much…
Maybe dont simp for anyone? Give what you get. A relationship requires balance so if someone doesn’t show you the same love you show them, you know that’s not a good relationship
I was in a toxic relationship for almost 2 years it was insidious. Leaving is ironically the hardest thing to do but when I tell you your life will be a billion times better without them. LEAVE
This isn’t her first toxic relationship. She’s so submissive and ok with everything that happened and she is totally getting abused in the marriage
Most likely… that’s legit an extraordinarily stupid progression to marriage
i feel really bad for her i hope shes safe its obv she isnt in control in the relationship and i just wanna know if shes safe :(((
Who is she?
@@woobeewooo True
He is someone to look up to. His experience feel real and understandable and even relatable.
It feels nice to find your channel.
Thanks for the new video, Rachel.
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Yeah, thanks, Rachel
Who?
@@zn_greasy5507 were you not listening
We love Rachel
"Oh you didn't hear?"
"They just got married"
*Aggressively throws my phone*
I thought that he was going to say that she died 😬
@@alishaoharrow769 Same.
"Oh you didnt hear? they're married now!"
I've never seen someones soul leave out so hard for a moment from a single B R U H
“The more the baddy the more the bratty.”
-BlackBear
Ever been with a girl so toxic you couldn't take her swimming for fear of being issued a court order for dumping toxic waste in the lake? Yea
Lmao nice one 😂
@@skylersanimations7887 lol thanks. Its an unfortunate event
Am I the only one that realizes the girl is the toxic one?
@@daylight3325 not really. I used to date some dude who was toxic as fuck and would always threaten to break up with me if we didnt have sex not matter how much I didnt want to for example or because "I couldn't satisfy him" when we did it. He also threatened to kill himself on multiple occasions like if I mentioned the stuff he did that hurt me and that we needed to work on. He just generally said a lot of shit he knew hurt me and that still sticks with me to this day
reminds me of slime girls.
"this girls body is crazy, he face is gorgeous" perfectly draw by swoozie to show just how good she looks
God what a dumb profile picture amirite
@@finnjohnson498 blocked and reported
@@aidanobrien2133 huh? Why you blocking him and reporting for such a little thing
I wonder what she looks like
When people say "if you leave you won't find anyone like me" well thats the reason I'm leaving cause cause I Don't want to be with someone with you.
wise words
The best reason I can think of for why she didn't take your offer is that she doesn't want to be alone. People with great personalities like you explained that she had tend to also struggle mentally and it may be the reason why she stayed and didn't want to move to a place without someone. Besides that, not knowing an area can also cause more stress if you don't have a roommate. I totally get why you didn't want her to come in, but I think that she might have needed more support than financially. Just me though because I struggle with abandonment PTSD, so there are some things I can't handle well on my own.
"Know your value... and add tax."
Yes, exactly. Love that.
😂the perfect saying
The only explanations for the door giving her a black eye I could come up with were:
1. He rammed her head into the doorknob
2. She "Tripped into the doorknob"
3. She was eye level with the doorknob
4. She did it to herself
5. Fist to face
But hey, maybe he had a broken door that had been curved inwards and the broken wood jabbed her in the eye...
edit: I've never had this many likes and replies one one of my comments, I know it's a small thing but the fact that so many people actually enjoyed this makes me happy.
The edge of the door could have caught her cheekbone or something too. I got a black eye from putting a saddle up on a horse and the stirrup falling back onto my face. Only the edge of it caught me right under my eye but it immediately swelled up. Everyone thought I was in an abusive relationship for like 3 weeks. Even the person who literally watched the stirrup hit my face said that if she hadn’t seen it happen she’d think a guy punched me.
@@SaritaWolf that makes sense, never thought of that happening. But are you okay now? Hope the damage was only minor!
@@micki3056 depending on the angle the door can deffo catch you in the face
@@SaritaWolf yes but you weren't met at and chased by that saddle were you? The guy went at her and chased her with intent. Idk if he did really hit her cause I wasn't there but maybe it was lucky that the fight did stop when the door(maybe) hit her in the face.
@@lizzyrank5405 Oh no I’m not excusing what the guy did at all! I’m just saying it is probably possible to get a black eye from a door if maybe the nob or the corner hits you at the right angle. But whether the dude hit her with his fists or a door it’s still inexcusable.
ALSO very important: 99% of people aren't toxic right off the bat! They'll pretend to be good or show you their best side and then choose to be toxic once they feel they have you locked down, it's called manipulation and it's why so many people feel like they know the person and fall in love with the idea of the person's best self but that's not reality!!
True... Sad but true
I’ve always been that friend who’s seen the signs of toxic relationships and wanting/helping my friends in these problems has been so exhausting and frustrating because they always crawl back. The good thing is that since I’m in high school I don’t have to deal with friends who are in toxic relationships/wanting advice just to crawl back but something I do wish and want people to take more seriously is that you shouldn’t find happiness in relationships. I can understand that we all want comfort and affection but if you keep finding happiness in relationships to be the cause in being happy that’s not helping you that’s hurting you more and most of the time people don’t know what they’re doing. I don’t mind giving advice but it’s up to you if you’re going to take my advice and be useful with it or just bluntly throw it the window and crawl back if somebody’s there to help at the end of the day it’s up to you if you want to help yourself or hurt yourself.
Jesus’s Christ.
As someone who's been in a relationship that was so incredibly toxic it's even a little absurd, it's never a bad idea to just, let a toxic relationship go. I know that it might be hard, but it will ultimately make you feel better in the long run. It is always okay to do something for yourself, especially if someone else is hurting you.
Preach
I can relate to the “trying to help a friend outta a bad situation” part of it. Got a friend who’s stuck at his abusive parents house. His friends n I have been trying to help him get out but he won’t accept our help. He’s also 2 hours away so it’s even harder. He’s stuck in a toxic mindset and I feel so bad for him 😞
imma explain why he might be like that as a person like him. It's because our parents warn us of the dangers of friends. especially religious ones cuz they use their religion as a way to say hat the world is bad and keep us sheltered from it. kind of like a cult. and since theyre our parents we naturally trust them. and we figure out it's toxic, we have no where to go or any idea what to do since our parents have made us completly dependent on them and often threaten us with abndonment or saying the parent version of 'youll never find another guy as good as me" which "nobody else will deal with your antics" or something along those lines. im not saying thats how it is for your friend but i would be careful this is very sensitive he ha to make a choice between toxic parents or good friends.
@@enuff943 wow, this is explained perfectly... I had this happen exactly when I was 15 and didnt realize it at the time. Looking back, I wish I had accept my friends help ,but when you've been brainwashed by a toxic parent you feel like you're the problem and would be a burden for others if you accept their help.
"A door can't give you a black eye"
Oh my gawd you are terribly wrong.
I mean it can give you a black face but not just the eye
It can give you a black eye depending on your angle
@@JacobLuy Gumball would dissagree with you
@@JacobLuy actually a door can give you a black eye depending on the angle you are standing. If she was leaning forward to slammed the door shut it could have caught her at a perfect angle. Even though it was the door doesn't mean the guy wasn't abusive though.
This is getting way too technical 😭.. like she could only get a black eye if she was leaning at a 87° angle with the door velocity at ***"
Literally had this same situation bro swoozie gives such great advice bro
"A relationship should add to your happiness not be the reason for your happiness"
Best line ever thanks man ❤️
Swoozie proving that he doesn't discriminate made my day XD My mom was kinda seeing this guy years back. They met because he offered her a ride home from the casino. She said no the first time, but said okay the next. He was telling me (cause I'm snoopy and ask many questions) how he had bad thoughts about her since she rejected him and how he was just trying to be a nice guy, and I'm like....'would you/have you ever offered a ride to a guy? A real nice guy would offer rides to anyone' 😪 Him trying to explain himself for the next 10 minutes was hilarious cause he knows he only hit on her cause she's a pretty lady.
I remember being in this girl's shoes, it took me so long to realize my self worth isn't determined by a dude and I shouldn't stoop my standards so low because I just wanted somebody to love me... Because I didn't love myself. I hope this girl realizes the same and gets out of that toxic marriage.
How's that going, I feel the same right now.
@@-Chrome- do you still feel the same today or did it get better?
@@papalonglegz3421 Much better to be honest my ex was a person that drained a lot of energy from me, it's so amazing all the things I got to do besides I see tried to get back, hahahahaha it feels amazing!
I just got out of a relationship 3 months ago. And I’m still trying to somewhat recover and get over it. The thing is, I see him a lot since we’re in the same band.
He was very very emotionally dependent on me, in fact he was dependent on me for almost everything. Before getting into the relationship, he already didn’t love himself and relied on me for most of his self-worth and saw no problem with that. I was basically his mother and his therapist. He was way too physical with other people and most of his friends were girls. There was one in particular who I honestly hated. She was clearly into him the entire time, but he always denied it. 2 months after I leave him, he gets with her, and the next day, breaks up with her over Discord. Yeah, over Discord. Then they get back together 2 days later. He says I have jealousy issues when I’ve been told repeatedly by friends that I was just setting boundaries. He just makes me feel like a terrible person and doesn’t see any problem with not taking care of himself and blaming everything he does on other people.
Never be afraid to leave someone.
Girl tell me how it went!!!!
@@faadumoahmed we didn’t confront him. We thought it was best to leave it alone and I need to move on.
This is why I sometimes have second thoughts on relationships
"I'll get out of your hair in 30 days"
Hair? Swoozie's bald
Lol
Armpit hair
😂🤣🤣
He's not. He shaves his head.
That is why he red flagged it
I’m sorry for anyone who has been in a bad/toxic relationship. I’ve seen it with friends and my own sisters. I’m 33, been single for my whole life. When I’d see these bad relationships I’d think being single sounds better than being with someone who makes you upset. I waited for God’s best and who he had for me. Now I understand why.
I just got to say first of all, I love the way that you tell stories, and your style is so cool dude. I also wanna mention how that also happen to me as well I've been stuck in a similar situation before like that where the girl ended up eventually leaving and getting back with her toxic after I tried to make a move.
“Know your value, and add tax” I love that line
Swoozie: "The better I got at chess the better I got at making life decisions"
10:52 *plays a4*
I had rook support on A1 my guy :) I also won both those games 💁🏼♀️💁🏼♀️😎😎
@@swoozie fair enough I'm just disappointed you didn't play the big brain grandmaster move h4
@@swoozie legend 🤝
Eat your cereal
@@swoozie shoulda done e4 than bring ur knights out for support then move the pawn in front of ur queen up 1 then move your bishop out there then castle
Been there, She's trapped by her love. She's the warden of the prison love built for her. Sadly there will be days when this guy will be awesome and she'll feel the relationship is getting better, that it's finally turning around.(course that's the lie giving false hope). When blinded by love it's almost impossible to escape that situation. For me I wrote out unforgivable sins, that if she committed any of these sins the relationship is dead. Which of course she did, committing that unforgivable sin gave me the strength to end the relationship. Best way to realize your in a toxic relationship is with your friends. They got your back and when they say run, you RUN!. Anyway my advice to anyone trapped in a "Toxic Relationship" draw a line and stick to it. You deserve better! Trust me when you embrace the next love of your life the old toxic one will be a distant memory.
Uh still got that list? Would be useful to get an idea if I end up in a relationship myself as to what to look out for and make up my own list of yours, if all good to do so.
I 2nd would like to see this list as well. If you ever come back to this comment that is.
wow
Must reveal the list 😩
Honestly I think Swoozie's offer to help her was great, she would have had her own space and more time to figure things out. I think she just wanted him to fall for her by being a perfect live-in girlfriend. She seems very co-dependant. A lot of beautiful girls have deep insecurities that jerks exploit, it's so sad.
"You'll never find anyone better than me" is a huge problem in rap. A lot of rappers use that in breakup songs and it's extremely toxic. A lot of people will hear that and think it's ok.
Always makes me think of Beyonce's response to that in "Irreplaceable": "I can have another you in a minute. Matter of fact, he'll be here in a minute", lol.
IN THE NIGHT I HEAR EM TALK THE COLDEST STORY EVER TOLD
“I just saw you... your handsome af”
That’s my new go to
Im def trying that
Highkey one of his best storytimes and I’m saying that as somebody who was watching back in 2012
Going through the BIGGEST break up of my life. Feel absolutely worthless and remotely suicidal, but Can always count on swoozie to make me feel just a little bit better.
wish u the best!
“What happens is you start avoiding your friends and family so you don’t have to explain your boyfriends toxicity when you see ‘em.” That was exactly me.