Hi, I have only hung on b/c of my grandchild, but I am being bullied in my own home, where this person pays NO bills, and has physically assaulted me!! But I am at a point where not only do I do not like her, but I dont even feel attached to her - she doesn't even feel like she is my child !
Hi! I’m very sorry to hear how far this has gone! Physical assault; this is an absolute no no! And you still have her in your home? I can’t imagine what this is like! I understand that there is a grandchild, but you simply cannot keep the relationship when it has reached to this level of disrespect! There is a line that should not be crossed, and it sounds like your daughter did with no problems. Please revisit your options and take that step. At this point, it seems as though you are being challenged! Visit us at midliferises.com. There is an article on this topic. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
Hi! Sorry for the delayed response! Thanks for reaching out and for your kind words! I was still writing but was hustling this morning. Your gestures were very sweet; thank you so much! I hope this episode helped you and that you stay connected with us. Have a great day and be well, my friend!
Hello Debbie! Welcome to the channel and thanks for your kind words! Losing my mom was a very hard hit for me - beyond words!! I’m happy that you are here! Just know that you are not alone with this experience. Keep the faith that it will all work itself out. Stay connected and be well!
I didnt even listen to your words, but I feel your energy straight to my heart. I feel like give you a hug as i also need a hug from you as i feel you have a healing energy. Much love to you, from out my heart ( the Netherlands)
Morning! Thanks so much for the compliment and feedback. I had visited my late mother’s site before taping and was very emotional! i’m happy to know you enjoyed the message! Have yourself a fabulous day!
My adult daughter has abused me emotionally to the point I am in pain every day. She causes trauma daily. I am broken. No longer the person I once was. Her dad passed from cancer 9 years ago so I have no one to talk to. I feel she is making me sick. No therapists are available and I carry this alone. Thank you for shining a light on it.
@@Run4yourlives Hello there! Thanks for sharing! My condolences for your loss; I can’t imagine what that experience was like! As far as your daughter is concerned, I am hoping you are not under the same roof! Please focus on your well-being and not pay mind to your daughter at this time. Remember, energy flows where attention goes. You have to do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy and happy. If your daughter lives in the home. It sounds like it’s time to turn on that tough love and cut all ties! She will always be your daughter. Make that decision. Stay connect with us and be well, my friend!!
@@Midliferises thank you for the reply. I love what you said. Energy flows where attention goes. I will remember that. I’m going to make some hard changes. Fortunately at this time she doesn’t live in the home. She’s homeless living on couches of friends. Which I cannot take responsibility and guilt for any longer. She makes her own choices.
@@Run4yourlives smiling…that is a fact, so focus on you as much as possible. I’m sorry about your daughter’s situation, but she has to learn somehow. Just keep the faith and do you so that you can get back on track with your life. Stay connected with us and have yourself a fabulous day!
Thank you Midlife Rises for your transparency to talk on this real painful situation .. it is much appreciated coming from a mother with an adult child that has pushed my buttons more than I can count .. Please pray for me as I will return this as well .. one luv ❤ your new subscriber
Hello there; welcome! Thanks for the comment and the subscribe. Please visit us at midliferises.com. There is an article on this topic that I believe you will find useful. Everything will work itself out; it always does. Have a great evening and be well, my friend! I will stay in touch.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this very painful but real and increasingly growing problem. My son is 39 and we have always been supportive in every way. He has come to live with us a number of times over the last 10 years bringing with him the baby mama drama of his children 's mothers. September 2019 he returned again as a result of yet another relationship break down and the Covid pandemic. By September 2021 it became clear that he was back on track earning a good salary and needed to move out and bHowever especially since his father passed sud!😮denly 2 years ago he has
Become more abusive and bullying. His last abusive outburst was 2 weeks ago I told him he could not move back home with his 11 year old son. He is disrespectful and lliving with him was a strain before his father passed. He's never paid anything towards bills and spends his money on clothes, his car and child support.
I am struggling alone with the grief of the sudden loss of my beloved husband. His siblings are in the UK so he is the only one here and he knows this. He is like a ticking time bomb and a bully wanting what he wants to make his life as easy as possible. I prefer to live alone rather than have his constant bullying and abuse. It has taken it's toll on my mental and physical health at a time when I am most vulnerable. I have recently listened to some very helpful talks on narcissism and sadly he clearly has many of the traits. I am tired of being made to feel guilty for his mistakes and responsible for his life and the grandchildren.
I am grateful for your perspective on this topic particularly as a fellow African Caribbean woman. I feel so sad but realize ultimately that unless he gets counseling advice the cycle will not only continue but get worse. I pray for him every day and hope he will. Meanwhile I also say The Serenity Prayer to help me focus and accept the reality of things.
I thank you for your insight and compassion. I had to ask my adult son (then 19) to leave the home because of his disrespect. I gave him several warnings. It’s been almost two years and I haven’t seen him. I knew I would be breaking my own heart when I put him out, but it was the right thing to do. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it’s still very painful. Any advice for me? I’ve tried to reach out to him two or three times, but have given him space. He also has a 2 year old son that he has nothing to do with.
Hello there, Jessica! Thanks so much for reaching out! I’m sorry to hear your story; I know first-hand how very painful this is! Two years is a very long time to not hear anything! Please try to make sure your son is okay. Go the extra mile to track him down and let him know that you were just checking to make sure he was okay. Also, let it be known that you are around, if he needs anything. Put that out there and then step back. I’m sure he is seeing where he went wrong with you. Nineteen is still a very young age, yet; he has a lot to discover! I’m guessing this is your only child. Try to make peace here. I hope you are getting access to your grandchild! Stay in control of the situation and keep us posted. Have a great day, my friend!
Greetings Jessica, I just want to send you love after reading your passage above .. I am a mother with one child (daughter) and she has been very challenging to say the least throughout her life .. I say that because I have struggled with her immensely regarding several behaviors .. and this is still going on at her age of 30 .. I could elaborate more on the details but I doubt if I will have enough writing space .. but please know you’re not alone and I’m praying for us all that are going through this craziness 💕🙏🏾
I feel for you. So sorry you’re going through this. My story is different, but similar. My adult daughter and I’ve struggled with our relationship for years, since she was 16. Just when I think it gets better, it takes two steps back. Now she’s 30 with a baby boy, my first grandchild. When she’s good with me, I’m able to see my little grandson, but when she’s mad at me, I’m punished. The name calling, etc…. is too much to handle sometimes. And as hard as I try to set boundaries, I do let them down in order to see my grandson. My daughter is in total control of the situation. She knows it. Your son knows what he’s doing, too. My best advice: Talk with others, but most of all, pray. Ask God to help you, your son, the whole situation. Take care.
Hello there! Thank you so much! We are happy to know that these messages are helping others! Please stay connected with us. Happy holidays to you and be well, my friend!!
Hi,
I have only hung on b/c of my grandchild, but I am being bullied in my own home, where this person pays NO bills, and has physically assaulted me!!
But I am at a point where not only do I do not like her, but I dont even feel attached to her - she doesn't even feel like she is my child !
Hi! I’m very sorry to hear how far this has gone! Physical assault; this is an absolute no no! And you still have her in your home? I can’t imagine what this is like! I understand that there is a grandchild, but you simply cannot keep the relationship when it has reached to this level of disrespect! There is a line that should not be crossed, and it sounds like your daughter did with no problems. Please revisit your options and take that step. At this point, it seems as though you are being challenged! Visit us at midliferises.com. There is an article on this topic. Stay connected and be well, my friend!
My daughter does not live with me, but I can definitely relate to your other feelings; especially since a grandchild is involved.
Me too 😢😢
Hi! Sorry for the delayed response! Thanks for reaching out and for your kind words!
I was still writing but was hustling this morning. Your gestures were very sweet; thank you so much! I hope this episode helped you and that you stay connected with us. Have a great day and be well, my friend!
I needed to hear this. Thank you! And my deepest condolences for the loss of your mom❤️
Hello Debbie! Welcome to the channel and thanks for your kind words! Losing my mom was a very hard hit for me - beyond words!! I’m happy that you are here! Just know that you are not alone with this experience. Keep the faith that it will all work itself out. Stay connected and be well!
I didnt even listen to your words, but I feel your energy straight to my heart. I feel like give you a hug as i also need a hug from you as i feel you have a healing energy. Much love to you, from out my heart ( the Netherlands)
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Morning! Thanks so much for the compliment and feedback. I had visited my late mother’s site before taping and was very emotional! i’m happy to know you enjoyed the message! Have yourself a fabulous day!
My adult daughter has abused me emotionally to the point I am in pain every day. She causes trauma daily. I am broken. No longer the person I once was. Her dad passed from cancer 9 years ago so I have no one to talk to. I feel she is making me sick. No therapists are available and I carry this alone. Thank you for shining a light on it.
@@Run4yourlives Hello there! Thanks for sharing! My condolences for your loss; I can’t imagine what that experience was like! As far as your daughter is concerned, I am hoping you are not under the same roof! Please focus on your well-being and not pay mind to your daughter at this time. Remember, energy flows where attention goes. You have to do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy and happy. If your daughter lives in the home. It sounds like it’s time to turn on that tough love and cut all ties! She will always be your daughter. Make that decision. Stay connect with us and be well, my friend!!
@@Midliferises thank you for the reply. I love what you said. Energy flows where attention goes. I will remember that. I’m going to make some hard changes. Fortunately at this time she doesn’t live in the home. She’s homeless living on couches of friends. Which I cannot take responsibility and guilt for any longer. She makes her own choices.
@@Run4yourlives smiling…that is a fact, so focus on you as much as possible. I’m sorry about your daughter’s situation, but she has to learn somehow. Just keep the faith and do you so that you can get back on track with your life. Stay connected with us and have yourself a fabulous day!
Thank you for your encouraging words .
Much needed .
You said this so well !! I call it "staying the adult in the room" .
Smiling…that is on point; it is so easy to get pulled out of your character with this, if you are not careful! Stay connected and have a great day!
Thank you Midlife Rises for your transparency to talk on this real painful situation .. it is much appreciated coming from a mother with an adult child that has pushed my buttons more than I can count .. Please pray for me as I will return this as well .. one luv ❤ your new subscriber
Hello there; welcome! Thanks for the comment and the subscribe. Please visit us at midliferises.com. There is an article on this topic that I believe you will find useful. Everything will work itself out; it always does. Have a great evening and be well, my friend! I will stay in touch.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this very painful but real and increasingly growing problem. My son is 39 and we have always been supportive in every way. He has come to live with us a number of times over the last 10 years bringing with him the baby mama drama of his children 's mothers. September 2019 he returned again as a result of yet another relationship break down and the Covid pandemic. By September 2021 it became clear that he was back on track earning a good salary and needed to move out and bHowever especially since his father passed sud!😮denly 2 years ago he has
Become more abusive and bullying. His last abusive outburst was 2 weeks ago I told him he could not move back home with his 11 year old son. He is disrespectful and lliving with him was a strain before his father passed. He's never paid anything towards bills and spends his money on clothes, his car and child support.
I am struggling alone with the grief of the sudden loss of my beloved husband. His siblings are in the UK so he is the only one here and he knows this. He is like a ticking time bomb and a bully wanting what he wants to make his life as easy as possible.
I prefer to live alone rather than have his constant bullying and abuse. It has taken it's toll on my mental and physical health at a time when I am most vulnerable. I have recently listened to some very helpful talks on narcissism and sadly he clearly has many of the traits. I am tired of being made to feel guilty for his mistakes and responsible for his life and the grandchildren.
I am grateful for your perspective on this topic particularly as a fellow African Caribbean woman. I feel so sad but realize ultimately that unless he gets counseling advice the cycle will not only continue but get worse. I pray for him every day and hope he will.
Meanwhile I also say The Serenity Prayer to help me focus and accept the reality of things.
I thank you for your insight and compassion. I had to ask my adult son (then 19) to leave the home because of his disrespect. I gave him several warnings. It’s been almost two years and I haven’t seen him. I knew I would be breaking my own heart when I put him out, but it was the right thing to do. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it’s still very painful. Any advice for me? I’ve tried to reach out to him two or three times, but have given him space. He also has a 2 year old son that he has nothing to do with.
Hello there, Jessica! Thanks so much for reaching out! I’m sorry to hear your story; I know first-hand how very painful this is! Two years is a very long time to not hear anything! Please try to make sure your son is okay. Go the extra mile to track him down and let him know that you were just checking to make sure he was okay. Also, let it be known that you are around, if he needs anything. Put that out there and then step back. I’m sure he is seeing where he went wrong with you. Nineteen is still a very young age, yet; he has a lot to discover! I’m guessing this is your only child. Try to make peace here. I hope you are getting access to your grandchild! Stay in control of the situation and keep us posted. Have a great day, my friend!
@@Midliferises Thank you.
@@Jessica76555 of course! Stay connected with us.
Greetings Jessica, I just want to send you love after reading your passage above .. I am a mother with one child (daughter) and she has been very challenging to say the least throughout her life .. I say that because I have struggled with her immensely regarding several behaviors .. and this is still going on at her age of 30 .. I could elaborate more on the details but I doubt if I will have enough writing space .. but please know you’re not alone and I’m praying for us all that are going through this craziness 💕🙏🏾
I feel for you. So sorry you’re going through this. My story is different, but similar.
My adult daughter and I’ve struggled with our relationship for years, since she was 16. Just when I think it gets better, it takes two steps back.
Now she’s 30 with a baby boy, my first grandchild. When she’s good with me, I’m able to see my little grandson, but when she’s mad at me, I’m punished.
The name calling, etc…. is too much to handle sometimes. And as hard as I try to set boundaries, I do let them down in order to see my grandson. My daughter is in total control of the situation. She knows it. Your son knows what he’s doing, too.
My best advice: Talk with others, but most of all, pray. Ask God to help you, your son, the whole situation.
Take care.
Do you give counseling? Thanks
Thank you for sharing 💕
Of course! Stay connected and have a fabulous weekend!
God bless you and your message 🙏❤🩹
Hello there! Thank you so much! We are happy to know that these messages are helping others! Please stay connected with us. Happy holidays to you and be well, my friend!!
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you, my friend! Happy holidays to you and all the best for the New Year!!
@@Midliferises Thanks and Happy Holidays. Blessings and Success to you 😊
Thanks
Smiling…of course! Welcome to the channel! Stay connected and have a great evening!