I have a question about one thing. I have OCD but in my case, any person makes sounds like a closing door making food you know sound vibration release right but I my case sound reacted like my thought
I did a lot of bad things when I was younger. I wouldn't even call them mistakes because that downplays it too much. I'm trying so hard to be a better person but I keep getting fixated on the thought of one specific thing coming back to haunt me, like what if the people I love now found out about it and hated me, or what if I got in trouble for it. Sometimes I think of that and I can't stop and I just think of it over and over. There was one really bad week I had where I almost threw up because I was so anxious about that.
Everyone makes mistakes you just have to accept it, learn from it, and move on that’s all you can do as a human. You can’t physically go back and change it so why torture yourself over it. No one is perfect you have to just move on and do your best to better your future self
Start practicing mindfulness meditation. I can relate to you 100% and I can say that after meditating daily for 4 years it really brings peace. Try it out! I believe in you, be well
If someone would judge you for it honestly its their fault. I don't know what you did, but honestly bad people don't feel bad about anything. I believe in you and no one speaks about the bad things they did and a lot of people don't even realize their mistakes. You have to accept yourself and don't be judgemental because thats one of the best qualities someone could have
I’m in a similar position, it’s horrible. Honestly I look forward to going to sleep at the end of the day just to shut my brain up. Though I often wake multiple times in the night and dwell on it until I fall back asleep. The worst part is the actual morning when I know it’s going to be another full day of ruminating on those mistakes :/ Desperately need to shift my mindset!
I'm gonna say it right now: Real-Event OCD is a B----! There's stuff I've done in the past I am not proud of. And even though it was a few years ago, OCD still likes to dangle in my face to this day.
This one is the worst. It feels like I’m supposed to be feeling guilty because the things I did were wrong. And if I “let them go” then I’m letting myself off the hook when really I should be suffering. I wish I was a kid again when I had nothing to feel guilty about lol😂
I feel the exact same way, you're not alone :( I was actually reminiscing about being a little kid again yesterday when I was spiraling in my head over everything haha.
@@Nishinga.i do this all the time. I always wish I could go back to when I was 3 or 4, when life was perfect and I didn’t have ocd, and before all my mistakes. I wish I could go back in time and make better choices.
Self compassion feels hopeless at first but it’s just a muscle you have to train. You just have to start with the fake it to make it method, and keep trying to be kind to yourself. Focus on who you are today. Focus on how you feeling guilt or shame probably means that you’ve learned and won’t be making the same mistake again. Also talk about the event with someone you trust like your therapist. Mine helped me see the event from perspectives I never considered. I dealt with it for 5 years and I finally beat it. I think you can too no matter how terrible or illegal it was. You are a person and we all make both good and bad decisions. Trust in yourself to know the path forward and stop avoiding what makes you happy because you believe you deserve some sort of punishment. Just go out and do it! I believe in you!
Wonderful comment. I’ve done some bad things I regret. And it’s haunting me. But I can’t stop living life. Like I once heard “don’t cry over spilt milk”. Keep your eyes forward and treat yourself well. Learn from mistakes and leave it in the past
It's so hard when other people remind you constantly of your bad decisions. Specifically, with cancel culture. I feel like with my gen z generation, they don't allow any mis-steps whatsoever...even if it happens over ten years ago. They claim people "never change." :\
As a fellow gen z I cannot agree more. It’s so hard to forgive yourself when everyone around you is saying you can never change and demonizing you. Eventually, I realized that the people who are so quick to point their finger at others are so ashamed of their own mistakes that they focus on making others feel bad about theirs so they don’t have to address their own wrongdoings.
@@adammarchese2690 Yes, the most self-righteous and loudest ones are no saints either and almost always aren't self-aware enough to see their own mistakes and flaws.
I think there are certain behaviors that must be accounted for, particularly behaviors that are illegal, a violation of others, and/or ongoing. Otherwise, things like old tweets or mistakes that are no longer occurring with people should be given some grace. Everyone makes mistakes. I'm a little wary of people who attempt to sabotage people for things like that because they more often than not have deeper issues that they hide by moral grandstanding.
i did so many awful, nasty, and horrible things when i was a teenager that i can hardly live with myself cause of it, it makes me wonder what if all the time.
Yup, I was young dumb and lost, but still, what I did was horrible. And ocd tells me "what If you want to do it again?" When I know i won't or "Was it really bad?" (yes, yes, it was) I'm not my past, and i know that, and it plays images over and over, but in the end It's all OCD
I have real event OCD and it is unlike anything I have ever felt before! I do have other themes but this is by far the hardest. I am hoping that I can recover and take something positive from it in the end.
Me too. And I did some major compulsion because of it. I can not tolerate exposure to the real event. Other themes that I had in past are relatively easy (I still have that) in comparisson to the real event OCD. Wish you all the best. I am sure you are a good person.
Thank you so much for this video. I made a horrible mistake when I was about 12 or 13 yrs old that I deeply regret. I completely forgot about it until it hit me randomly when I was 17. It was like my brain zapped my memory of what happened. I beat myself up so bad and it triggered my anxiety horribly. I even thought it was a horrible dream or something like that. I would try to problem solve and played different scenarios in my head over and over and over again to the point I became mentally exhausted. Throughout the years it would come and go, but I always felt like I deserved to suffer. It’s the worse thing ever and I’m teaching myself self compassion and how to forgive myself. I feel like my brain has been in overload with everything I’ve bottled up for decades. I suffer from various OCD’s, anxiety, existential crisis and DPDR. This has been such a rollercoaster ride of mental illness 🥲🫨😵💫
What’s important to remember is that you were a child, of course children know right from wrong but they can also struggle with how to deal with things properly without parental help or guidance, the fact you feel remorse shows you aren’t a bad person at all! Let go of those bad things so you can have a better future. Trust me, I know it seems easier said than done but help is available and I promise you don’t have or deserve to feel like this for the rest of your life! (Take from me as someone who is really really hurting from the things I did wrong in my youth, serious and bad decisions and it’s hard to remember that I was a child and children can be idiots, no matter what they know.) have self compassion
this came at the perfect time, this theme has been the absolute worst for me! its been nearly a year since my brain started fixating on a memory from nearly 10 years ago; the shame/guilt can be so all consuming sometimes thank you nate!
This channel has helped me to accept that I have OCD. In the past, I could never believe it as Real Event OCD is rarely included in the self-help books, and I was bombarded by thoughts about things that had really happened in my life. So, even though my therapist assured me it was OCD/intrusive thoughts undepinned by shame and guilt, I couldn't accept it as the books didn't cover it. I just thought i was a monster and hated myself. It is only recently after watching TH-cam videos like yours about real event OCD that I have finally been able to accept that this is what I have, and I am able to more fully engage with the treatment, and it is beginning to work for me. OCD thrives on doubt and uncertainty, and it can latch on to ANY subject/focus. I just wish a lot of the self-help literature explained this better.
Crazy that u posted this video this morning. Last night when I was trying to go to sleep my past mistakes were bothering me and one that really gets to me that I think about a lot is the fact that my ex boyfriend died and I blame myself for leaving him just to be in a toxic relationship while he was there for me the whole time and actually treated me right. I made the mistake of not making the right decisions. I was young and think if I woulda stayed with him he would still be alive. He wouldnt have been at that bar that night. This was in 2019 and its 2024. It still makes me sad! I cant help but think I missed out on my soulmate. Till this day he was the only man that showed me what real love was and I'm grateful for that. It's just still hard to swallow that pill of knowing hes never gonna come back. Miss him a lot.
I get that. My ex husband died right after I divorced him and I will never not struggle over it. It wasn’t my fault but …. What if I hadn’t?…. You know how it goes. I wish I could give myself grace the way I give it to everyone else. And I hope you will allow yourself some too. ❤ it’s not easy, it’s not linear, and it’s a process.
@@youshouldvejustgonetothega5337 ya I feel you. I wish I could take my own advice but it's hard bc other people havent been through what I've been through so they dont know how hard it is. I'll never get over it that's one thing I know but I also know life goes on
Brilliant video, i have been struggling the past few years with real event OCD in conjunction with false memory OCD , which is pretty scary as it makes you question how things happened and can make you believe in things that didnt happen. Keep doing your thing nate ❤️😎 love from UK
Nate, I appreciate you and your content! viewers, I know that whatever your going through seems OVERWHELMING and you may be thinking "I can't anymore with ....". You are strong. You can get through this. I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts for 15 years. I've had depression since I was a kid. ocd/anxiety for 20 years. the "first" 10 years of my intrusive thoughts were a nightmare! The last 5, its still hard to deal with but with cognitive behavior therapy and watching Nate's numerous videos on countless topics, I've been able to overcome so much (even those things I didn't know how to bring up in therapy or weren't an issue until the past couple years). I know the feelings of doubts, and even suicidal thought reasoning (if i do ".....", I'll end myself). You are NOT your thought(s). If you WERE your thought(s), it WOULDN'T bother you. that's why we seek help. because we don't know what to do and we're scared. The "what if I do this/that? what if I did do this/that??". I love you, keep fighting.
This comment really helped me :) as a new 18 year old, with a lot of life changes and I’ve been going through this terrible mental health decline recently, and I’ve had so many terrible thoughts and feelings about past things that I can’t control (things that were my fault and everything that wasn’t my fault) and it’s completely taken over my life like you wouldn’t believe. So this comment helped more than you know ❤
Thank you so much for these videos. There are times where I can feel myself regressing in my healing journey, but you and other ocd resources really do help me better understand my mental health. I swear you guys have saved my life and I’m sure countless others.
Hi Nate, I am not sure what else I can say other than thank you. I have no idea how you always manage to upload a video on the exact subtype of OCD that i may be going through. Each time without fail, you help me understand that the very thing that has been torturing me day and night for the past month or weeks is just OCD and nothing more. I'm not sure if you have wires connected to my brain that let you know whenever I'm going through something but I am so grateful to have found you and your channel. I thank you endlessly for the work you do.
Thank you so much for making this video. I wasted my 20s being an internet troll in order to defend my favorite video game character’s honor who is constantly hated on. This character saved my life from childhood abuse and neglect. I wasted so much of my time arguing with people on the internet and I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself. I’m now on a spiritual journey to figure out who I am and what to do with the rest of my life.
I already knew for a long time that I had OCD but I didn't know that so many forms of OCD were affecting me every day. I am very thankful that I found this channel, because it's actually helping me make some steps in the right direction and the videos are not making me feel like it's a chore to work on myself, they are entertaining!
This video really helped me, I've never heard of real event OCD in the past and I think i might have it. I think constantly about my past mistakes, from the moment i wake up to the moment i fall asleep. thank you for all these advices!
I did something terrible about 10 years ago. and I have told plenty of people about it. After the thought of what happened came up back in 2021 They were shocked about it and at the same time, they acted like it was no big deal. I had gotten over it for a while but for the last 2 years, the scenario keeps on repeating over and over. And it's been running along with a couple of other obsessive thoughts about my mortality and time passing. I've been in torment for over 2 years now. It has been extremely tough to forgive myself and it feels like I should never be forgiven for what happened
I think the best way to react to it is to think “why am I so special? Hasn’t other people done the same thing?” Like ask your brain “what singles ME out? Huh? Is it because you’re the only brain you can read?” It’s kinda like self compassion I guess without the self coddling.
Thing is, I was 19 at the time. Unlike everyone doing these mistakes as teens. My brain was fully developed and fully capable of doing such a horrendous act.
I don't know what you did, but if it's any consultation at all, 19 is still very young. You were practically a kid still. Our brains don't even fully develop until mid to late 20s. What matters is that you learned from your past mistake and are striving to be better everyday.
Thinking of others and how your conduct and behavior may adversely effected them is part of a spiritual journey. Granted not everyone is engaged or interested in making a spiritual quest but if you are then making amends to people you harmed is part of necessity. You don't dismiss your conduct as the fellow in this video is giving direction to do you take responsibility for your past conduct. That means you're going to think about it not dismiss it. As you think about it and a good idea is put it on paper. Look for your motives and your defects of character that were responsible for you doing what you did. Pop psychology like the fellow in this video take you down a wrong path if your journey is a spiritual one. Guilt is real if their has been conduct that harmed someone. You are going to feel better about you when you do the right thing. The right thing isn't dismissing it all like the fellow in the video admonishes. If you have difficulty with low self esteem the solution is to begin doing esteeible things. Making amends to the people you harmed due to various character defects that we all have is one of the most esteeible things you can do. I do realize that their are those who have serious mental health issues that cause them to have obsessive thoughts and feelings that won't be resolved by what I'm suggesting as a course of action. Mine is to the person who has true guilt for things they have done that harmed someone. To those people you may find a good 12 Step program helpful to you or something that follows a similar course of action. Good Luck to you.
Ive been having hard days because of past. . i cant get rid of negative thoughts.. its hard to convince my brain im still a good person. Every friend or anybody who has meet me say im kind and i care for people i like helping others i worry for others and always do my best for others but my brain still tells me im not enough im a bad person im horrible person who dosent deserve happiness this brings me to tears.. my ocd gets so bad i feel im in a bubble cant think or function sometimes i wonder how i survive this.. sometimes i think why me? Why do i have this in my brain ? Sometimes i crave happyness so much i crave a normal worryless day. There is so much i want to do but my ocd wont let me move on too much negative thoughts is exausting.. ocd is exausting.
I just want permanent relief. Its been SEVERELY distressing these past 4 months. My mind has created so many fears of what could happen in the future. And the amount of guilt and shame ive felt is literally unbearable. I feel like my life is over. I feel like im not even the same person anymore since ive started ruminating 4 months ago.
Doesnt real event ocd also overlap with false memory ocd? So you might have a real event but the memory could be distorted or false? I thought that ocd can also exaggerate the event?
For me, the best years of my life were 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021. In 2021, I started high school, and that's when my life started falling apart. I didn’t have any friends; it was boring, and I was super quiet. A lot of people just pretended to be nice but were actually just evil. Also, there wasn’t that beautiful energy I always felt in 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021. In elementary school, I was quiet but not ultra-mega quiet like I was in high school. Back then, I had a lot of friends from my class and outside of it. I used to hang out with my friends more, I was happier, and everything was great. The years 2022, 2023, and 2024 are when my life became boring. Everything is boring now. I don’t have any friends, that beautiful energy I always felt is gone, and nothing is as good as it was before. Everything has changed. Everything now is depressing. I’m not the only person who feels like this. I’ve seen a lot of videos on Instagram where people feel the same way as I do now, saying how 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021 were far better years than 2022, 2023, and 2024. I agree with all of them. I hate 2022. I hate 2023. I hate 2024. And I hate you, 2025. Now, I’ve finished high school, and life is even worse. I do have a job, but I still miss going to school and being surrounded by people my age. Maybe high school wouldn’t have been so bad if I had gone to a different one. Maybe I would have gotten more friends. If I had the chance to select one of those years-2018, 2019, 2020, or 2021-and relive just one day from any of them, I would give everything in my life for that one day.Right now im 18 years old i finished high school last year in 2024. It still haunts everday the fact that I wasted my teenage years the best years of my life all because I was quiet and at my job where i work as bartender and I see kids that go to high school hanging out with their friends and having fun and then I look at myself how just yasterday i was just like them going to school and how if i wasn't quiet if I was going to other high school i could maybe just saying maybe could have friends but thats it high school is over my life is runined forever and now I can just live in regret and anger for rest of my life and with mistskes in my life thst i regret every day that I can't fix and there are more things in my life that I regret doing if only i could go back in time and have way of thinking i have today i could fix everything.
This is probably my hardest theme. And then for me mixing in religion / scrupulosity makes it worse for me. Does anyone else's real event make them feel compelled to "out" themselves or make restitution? I feel like a horrible person
Just be careful of opening up too much about very private things to people who don’t know you like mental health professionals or even people you know. I made that mistake and it’s honestly not helped, I feel worse for it and feel uneasy and ruminate about what notes they’ve wrote and whether it’s accurate. Be careful not to make things worse and even telling friends or aquaintances very personal things can leave you feeling vulnerable and highly anxious. I admit it’s good to talk but be careful because it could throw you in to a breakdown and extreme anxiety and depression if you are vulnerable to depression
Hello, I made that mistake. I basically exposed myself to people in the most vulnerable way.. I over apologized in details and I’m scared it might be used against me.. I did not know it was OCD compulsive confession.
I once drank a lot, cried and confronted in public when I saw her with other man. She was not my girl friend but had on and off physical relationship with her. After that I became obsessed with her and did many more emotional mistakes. This was 16 yrs ago. To this day I feel ashamed and guilty for behaving that way.
I love this channel for making me not feel alone. Is thinking about a time in your life where your OCD was especially difficult and/or even traumatic real event OCD. In my head I’m constantly worried about oh my OCD was bad then so it will be bad again in the future or it will happen tomorrow etc.
Thank you for your great work!❤ Could you please make a video on ERP for real event OCD? There is little info about erp specifically for real event ocd. 😢
a lot of time, my OCD urges me to apologise over my past to the people i've wronged, even when it does not benefit who i've wronged. fighting the urge is so incredibly hard, but it's not fair for me to re-open their old wounds just to temporarily alleviate my anxiety, so i will just have to learn to deal with it.
i wrote this with no intention to drop my emotional baggage without reason, but to make others feel understood. seeing others' comments makes me feel seen and i hope anyone else who is experiencing the same as i will feel less alone after reading my comments ❤
What if your gut feeling alerted you to a possible mistake. You went to bed, and woke up with a solution, but your brain is self-destructively wired and didnt allow you to go through with it? In the end you went for the planned and wrong option, while the other option ended up in a triumph? I just cannot live with myself. I am very gifted, but also gifted for making terrible mistakes while knowing they are mistakes.
Ugh. This is exactly the problem and I can see that this advice is what I need to do, but how do I get from here to there? The only way I can stop my mind from doing this is alcohol - not ideal - also, you can't drink at work! Having this issue feels insurmountable. I'm waiting to get back into therapy and will ask (again) for an OCD assessment. I am Autistic.
I hate the idea of self compassion, especially if you did something wrong in the past. You shouldn't be kind to yourself for the horrible things you did in the past, hurt people, and behaved badly. It feels like you're living in denial and acting what you did was okay. It's hard to love yourself for all the bad things you've done and having to live with the consequences. It feels like you're only known for the bad things you've done.
How can i rember exactly how old i was when my real event happened over 40 years ago,im sure i was a little child when it happned but my ocd is telling me i was alot older than i was and i do t want to have been older when it happned, i cant stand this i try over and over to think exactly how old i was and get certain for an hour then my ocd says hey are you sure you were not older when it happned then boom my brain goes cloudy and i cannot think at all
😮hello sir I am 17 . I am going through hocd and tocd . My ocd start going meta and I start to like my thoughts and my all value system has ruined .please tell me what do I do. I want all my value system back .I don't want to become a gay please help me
FIVE years ago I decided to squash (instead of move) a spider that kept making webs on my sliding door. It was so unnecessary and I still think about it today:(. Looping with other themes, of course.
Last night when my mom went to the washroom, I had to pass by & despite knowing that d door was not locked & light was on & my mom was peeing, still I passed by seeing at her. I saw her side buttock & upper thigh portion. From the very next morning, I am feeling very guilty dt why did I do so deliberately. I mean I should not have passed by watching at her because I was already aware about that what was she actually doing there?
When I was 11-17 I was a victim of online grooming by people who were adults and I was impressionable/Niave and due to me being young, I was once invited to a discord server {when I was 16/17} where the person who made the server {think of it like a glorified group chat for those who aren't aware of what discord is} was an adult who was around 24/25 years old and majority of the everyone in the server was 15/16/17 like my age group/same age and the person who made this server unfortunately normalized/groomed us into looking at s3xual content and engaging in s3xual content within eachother I was already being actively abused by other adults not just by the owner of the server and due to the activities seemed normal, I was a participant as a minor and to this day I am angry at the fact that I was hurt and my friends were hurt but I'm angry at myself for being a participant and I've gotten so many OCD thoughts about it and sometimes my OCD thoughts say "Your playing the victim"
It's sometimes really stressful to live in a world where adults so consciously exploit the ignorance, vulnerability and naivety of young people. You are a survivor of things like this and you can be proud of yourself. You have every right to be angry. I wish you healing! You are not alone with such experiences.
It's also important to forgive others. It makes it easier to forgive yourself. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your father in heaven may forgive you your sins. - Mark 11:25
this video put into words exactly how my mind works I jsut don't know how to have self compassion, I cant be kind to myself because I feel dumb AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
i did a lot bad thing's too and still ruminating and bad decisions,. i always blame other's especially friends i don't like her and don't want any help from her but my family contacted her because im sooo depressed and she is the only one they know,but totally i dont want to contact her ever in my life thanks to her but i don't wanna talk to her ever
Try me. I don't even think this is OCD. I was once taken to my boss's office--with her and her chef colleague--for touching my coworkers too much. *_Casually,_* like arms and shoulders. I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. The chef told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything _horrible._ I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She liked that I was outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. But I didn't mean any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would not have touched them. And anyway, people casually do it to each other. But despite my side, whenever I expressed my story on YT videos, commenters would still make me feel bad, as if I didn't feel bad enough. "Well, you shouldn't be touching coworkers" or "You sound like a creep" or "The workplace is not where you act that way." I often think "Why can't someone just respond to my story and shame without talking about my wrongdoing or correcting me?" I own if I made anyone uncomfortable, and I would make it up to them if I knew whom.
Can anyone help me understand why I get so infuriated at corny humor such as the “jokes” in this video? “I’ve never made a mistake in my life lulz”. It strikes me as incredibly dumb, and perhaps like a contrived display of pseudo-personality or something. I feel this way whenever I see corny “relatable” humor. I know it’s probably a defense of some sort, but I don’t know why I always feel this way.
I can relate, although I was able to give it a "pass". For me, I think some tendencies for internally judging childish or corny antics have been because I myself have been badly judged for similar things. Being a sensitive person, as a protective response I've masked aspects of my personality that could risk getting me ridiculed for being corny. Seeing someone unapologetically express "naive sense of humour" can trigger resentment because someone is now expressing themselves openly in a way that I've worked hard to deny from myself. There, overexplained it but hopefully gave you some potential insights.
Do you think about your past too much?
to much That makes me depressed and suicidal but i get better at handling now then before. its not like i wil think the whole day about it anymore.
Oh yeah...
I have a question about one thing.
I have OCD but in my case, any person makes sounds like a closing door making food you know sound vibration release right but I my case sound reacted like my thought
Yes I do. Maybe you can help me. I don't know.
Best videos. So helpful!
I did a lot of bad things when I was younger. I wouldn't even call them mistakes because that downplays it too much. I'm trying so hard to be a better person but I keep getting fixated on the thought of one specific thing coming back to haunt me, like what if the people I love now found out about it and hated me, or what if I got in trouble for it. Sometimes I think of that and I can't stop and I just think of it over and over. There was one really bad week I had where I almost threw up because I was so anxious about that.
Everyone makes mistakes you just have to accept it, learn from it, and move on that’s all you can do as a human. You can’t physically go back and change it so why torture yourself over it. No one is perfect you have to just move on and do your best to better your future self
Start practicing mindfulness meditation. I can relate to you 100% and I can say that after meditating daily for 4 years it really brings peace. Try it out! I believe in you, be well
This is happening to me right now
If someone would judge you for it honestly its their fault. I don't know what you did, but honestly bad people don't feel bad about anything. I believe in you and no one speaks about the bad things they did and a lot of people don't even realize their mistakes. You have to accept yourself and don't be judgemental because thats one of the best qualities someone could have
I’m in a similar position, it’s horrible. Honestly I look forward to going to sleep at the end of the day just to shut my brain up. Though I often wake multiple times in the night and dwell on it until I fall back asleep. The worst part is the actual morning when I know it’s going to be another full day of ruminating on those mistakes :/
Desperately need to shift my mindset!
I'm gonna say it right now: Real-Event OCD is a B----! There's stuff I've done in the past I am not proud of. And even though it was a few years ago, OCD still likes to dangle in my face to this day.
It makes it hard to acknowledge that im capable of mistakes cuz then my brains like “HOW BAD WE TALKING U DONT GET TO MOVE ON”
I really connect to this @@nocturnal_daydreaming1880
Can we be friends
@@nocturnal_daydreaming1880can we be friends
This one is the worst. It feels like I’m supposed to be feeling guilty because the things I did were wrong. And if I “let them go” then I’m letting myself off the hook when really I should be suffering. I wish I was a kid again when I had nothing to feel guilty about lol😂
I feel the exact same way, you're not alone :(
I was actually reminiscing about being a little kid again yesterday when I was spiraling in my head over everything haha.
Feeling exactly the same, wish I could just stop existing at times
@@Nishinga.i do this all the time. I always wish I could go back to when I was 3 or 4, when life was perfect and I didn’t have ocd, and before all my mistakes. I wish I could go back in time and make better choices.
I feel the same way but my childhood wasn’t safe either. A life of constant stress.
Same I feel exactly the same way ❤
I wrote down all the events my real event ocd screws me about and ngl reading them again and again and aswering "I dont care" helps
Self compassion feels hopeless at first but it’s just a muscle you have to train. You just have to start with the fake it to make it method, and keep trying to be kind to yourself. Focus on who you are today. Focus on how you feeling guilt or shame probably means that you’ve learned and won’t be making the same mistake again. Also talk about the event with someone you trust like your therapist. Mine helped me see the event from perspectives I never considered. I dealt with it for 5 years and I finally beat it. I think you can too no matter how terrible or illegal it was. You are a person and we all make both good and bad decisions. Trust in yourself to know the path forward and stop avoiding what makes you happy because you believe you deserve some sort of punishment. Just go out and do it! I believe in you!
Thanks bro, comments like this really help me
Thank you 💗
Amen
Wonderful comment. I’ve done some bad things I regret. And it’s haunting me. But I can’t stop living life. Like I once heard “don’t cry over spilt milk”. Keep your eyes forward and treat yourself well. Learn from mistakes and leave it in the past
It's so hard when other people remind you constantly of your bad decisions. Specifically, with cancel culture. I feel like with my gen z generation, they don't allow any mis-steps whatsoever...even if it happens over ten years ago. They claim people "never change." :\
I’m a Millennial and you’d think that younger generations would be even more accepting than mine, but I’ve seen this unfortunately isn’t the case.
As a fellow gen z I cannot agree more. It’s so hard to forgive yourself when everyone around you is saying you can never change and demonizing you. Eventually, I realized that the people who are so quick to point their finger at others are so ashamed of their own mistakes that they focus on making others feel bad about theirs so they don’t have to address their own wrongdoings.
@@adammarchese2690 Yes, the most self-righteous and loudest ones are no saints either and almost always aren't self-aware enough to see their own mistakes and flaws.
I think there are certain behaviors that must be accounted for, particularly behaviors that are illegal, a violation of others, and/or ongoing.
Otherwise, things like old tweets or mistakes that are no longer occurring with people should be given some grace. Everyone makes mistakes. I'm a little wary of people who attempt to sabotage people for things like that because they more often than not have deeper issues that they hide by moral grandstanding.
@@trashteamracing8262what if you were a kid??..um?
i did so many awful, nasty, and horrible things when i was a teenager that i can hardly live with myself cause of it, it makes me wonder what if all the time.
Yup, I was young dumb and lost, but still, what I did was horrible. And ocd tells me "what If you want to do it again?" When I know i won't or "Was it really bad?" (yes, yes, it was) I'm not my past, and i know that, and it plays images over and over, but in the end It's all OCD
I have real event OCD and it is unlike anything I have ever felt before! I do have other themes but this is by far the hardest. I am hoping that I can recover and take something positive from it in the end.
Me too. And I did some major compulsion because of it. I can not tolerate exposure to the real event. Other themes that I had in past are relatively easy (I still have that) in comparisson to the real event OCD. Wish you all the best. I am sure you are a good person.
Amazing how treating OCD involves confronting those fears head on. That takes a lot of bravery and strength.
Thank you so much for this video. I made a horrible mistake when I was about 12 or 13 yrs old that I deeply regret. I completely forgot about it until it hit me randomly when I was 17. It was like my brain zapped my memory of what happened. I beat myself up so bad and it triggered my anxiety horribly. I even thought it was a horrible dream or something like that. I would try to problem solve and played different scenarios in my head over and over and over again to the point I became mentally exhausted. Throughout the years it would come and go, but I always felt like I deserved to suffer.
It’s the worse thing ever and I’m teaching myself self compassion and how to forgive myself. I feel like my brain has been in overload with everything I’ve bottled up for decades. I suffer from various OCD’s, anxiety, existential crisis and DPDR. This has been such a rollercoaster ride of mental illness 🥲🫨😵💫
I completely understand you. Only in my case, it is not just one mistake, there are sporadic major mistakes.
Oh brother, I am dealing with the exact same things you just enumerated
How did you know it was a real memory?
What’s important to remember is that you were a child, of course children know right from wrong but they can also struggle with how to deal with things properly without parental help or guidance, the fact you feel remorse shows you aren’t a bad person at all! Let go of those bad things so you can have a better future. Trust me, I know it seems easier said than done but help is available and I promise you don’t have or deserve to feel like this for the rest of your life! (Take from me as someone who is really really hurting from the things I did wrong in my youth, serious and bad decisions and it’s hard to remember that I was a child and children can be idiots, no matter what they know.) have self compassion
@@Shadowsreverie Thank you so much for this 🥰
this came at the perfect time, this theme has been the absolute worst for me! its been nearly a year since my brain started fixating on a memory from nearly 10 years ago; the shame/guilt can be so all consuming sometimes
thank you nate!
i am going through the exact same thing!! it is so comforting to know i’m not alone in this struggle ❤
@@k1llurego good days are coming ❤️ this theme can be horrific but you can get through it, i’ve improved so much recently its absolutely possible
This channel has helped me to accept that I have OCD. In the past, I could never believe it as Real Event OCD is rarely included in the self-help books, and I was bombarded by thoughts about things that had really happened in my life. So, even though my therapist assured me it was OCD/intrusive thoughts undepinned by shame and guilt, I couldn't accept it as the books didn't cover it. I just thought i was a monster and hated myself.
It is only recently after watching TH-cam videos like yours about real event OCD that I have finally been able to accept that this is what I have, and I am able to more fully engage with the treatment, and it is beginning to work for me.
OCD thrives on doubt and uncertainty, and it can latch on to ANY subject/focus.
I just wish a lot of the self-help literature explained this better.
Does anyone else look at random people and wonder ”what would they think of me if they knew all my mistakes"
Yes
Yes 😢
All of the time. It's the loneliest feeling
@luckygirl0303Chances are that you are the sweetest girl. Only your OCD tricks you into thinking you are not.
yes and my idols and people I look up to, its the worst.
Crazy that u posted this video this morning. Last night when I was trying to go to sleep my past mistakes were bothering me and one that really gets to me that I think about a lot is the fact that my ex boyfriend died and I blame myself for leaving him just to be in a toxic relationship while he was there for me the whole time and actually treated me right. I made the mistake of not making the right decisions. I was young and think if I woulda stayed with him he would still be alive. He wouldnt have been at that bar that night. This was in 2019 and its 2024. It still makes me sad! I cant help but think I missed out on my soulmate. Till this day he was the only man that showed me what real love was and I'm grateful for that. It's just still hard to swallow that pill of knowing hes never gonna come back. Miss him a lot.
Crazy bruhh it's night here😂
Yeah regret hits you hard
I get that. My ex husband died right after I divorced him and I will never not struggle over it. It wasn’t my fault but …. What if I hadn’t?…. You know how it goes. I wish I could give myself grace the way I give it to everyone else. And I hope you will allow yourself some too. ❤ it’s not easy, it’s not linear, and it’s a process.
@@kingmusik8901 especially losing someone bc of ur decisions. I would do anything to go back in time to change my decisions.
@@youshouldvejustgonetothega5337 ya I feel you. I wish I could take my own advice but it's hard bc other people havent been through what I've been through so they dont know how hard it is. I'll never get over it that's one thing I know but I also know life goes on
Brilliant video, i have been struggling the past few years with real event OCD in conjunction with false memory OCD , which is pretty scary as it makes you question how things happened and can make you believe in things that didnt happen. Keep doing your thing nate ❤️😎 love from UK
I don’t think words can express how grateful I am to you💗
Nate, I appreciate you and your content!
viewers, I know that whatever your going through seems OVERWHELMING and you may be thinking "I can't anymore with ....". You are strong. You can get through this. I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts for 15 years. I've had depression since I was a kid. ocd/anxiety for 20 years. the "first" 10 years of my intrusive thoughts were a nightmare! The last 5, its still hard to deal with but with cognitive behavior therapy and watching Nate's numerous videos on countless topics, I've been able to overcome so much (even those things I didn't know how to bring up in therapy or weren't an issue until the past couple years). I know the feelings of doubts, and even suicidal thought reasoning (if i do ".....", I'll end myself). You are NOT your thought(s). If you WERE your thought(s), it WOULDN'T bother you. that's why we seek help. because we don't know what to do and we're scared. The "what if I do this/that? what if I did do this/that??". I love you, keep fighting.
This comment really helped me :) as a new 18 year old, with a lot of life changes and I’ve been going through this terrible mental health decline recently, and I’ve had so many terrible thoughts and feelings about past things that I can’t control (things that were my fault and everything that wasn’t my fault) and it’s completely taken over my life like you wouldn’t believe. So this comment helped more than you know ❤
Thank you so much for these videos. There are times where I can feel myself regressing in my healing journey, but you and other ocd resources really do help me better understand my mental health. I swear you guys have saved my life and I’m sure countless others.
Hi Nate, I am not sure what else I can say other than thank you. I have no idea how you always manage to upload a video on the exact subtype of OCD that i may be going through. Each time without fail, you help me understand that the very thing that has been torturing me day and night for the past month or weeks is just OCD and nothing more. I'm not sure if you have wires connected to my brain that let you know whenever I'm going through something but I am so grateful to have found you and your channel. I thank you endlessly for the work you do.
Thank you, Nathan. You're one of the best ocd experts online.
Thank you so much for making this video. I wasted my 20s being an internet troll in order to defend my favorite video game character’s honor who is constantly hated on. This character saved my life from childhood abuse and neglect. I wasted so much of my time arguing with people on the internet and I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself. I’m now on a spiritual journey to figure out who I am and what to do with the rest of my life.
Your content is a blessing and an inspiration for me as a therapist. Thanks for making this videos!
I am currently going through this crisis and I swear to god, god appeared as in you. I am so thankful for this video!!!
Bro you’ve lich been saving my life since I was like 11 no joke or exaggeration . Thank you so much
Thank you for helping me feel better instantly, starting to heal starts today
This form of ocd eats away at my energy and spirit
I already knew for a long time that I had OCD but I didn't know that so many forms of OCD were affecting me every day. I am very thankful that I found this channel, because it's actually helping me make some steps in the right direction and the videos are not making me feel like it's a chore to work on myself, they are entertaining!
This video really helped me, I've never heard of real event OCD in the past and I think i might have it. I think constantly about my past mistakes, from the moment i wake up to the moment i fall asleep. thank you for all these advices!
I did something terrible about 10 years ago. and I have told plenty of people about it. After the thought of what happened came up back in 2021 They were shocked about it and at the same time, they acted like it was no big deal. I had gotten over it for a while but for the last 2 years, the scenario keeps on repeating over and over. And it's been running along with a couple of other obsessive thoughts about my mortality and time passing. I've been in torment for over 2 years now. It has been extremely tough to forgive myself and it feels like I should never be forgiven for what happened
Our Lord has freedom and healing for you, bring it to Him ❤
Watch the whole video 100% Ty sir! lets all show the OCD games.... that we are the console we can control it! We can all get through this!
I discovered your channel just tonight. Thank you so much ❤
OCD is tricky but this is valuable stuff for when it comes back to bite you one last time
I love your work you showed up in my in my life when I needed to see your videos ❤❤❤
I honestly can't describe how much you have helped me. Thank you so much for doing what you do.
Healing from long-term trauma is a challenging task.
that's all i have to say about that...
Its to the point when i follow my boundaries and do what i believe is right i still feel guilty though theres nothin wrong
I think the best way to react to it is to think “why am I so special? Hasn’t other people done the same thing?” Like ask your brain “what singles ME out? Huh? Is it because you’re the only brain you can read?” It’s kinda like self compassion I guess without the self coddling.
Awesome Nate.
Thanks so much for this video Nathan! I have a relative who could really benefit from this.
Thing is, I was 19 at the time. Unlike everyone doing these mistakes as teens. My brain was fully developed and fully capable of doing such a horrendous act.
I don't know what you did, but if it's any consultation at all, 19 is still very young. You were practically a kid still. Our brains don't even fully develop until mid to late 20s. What matters is that you learned from your past mistake and are striving to be better everyday.
Same I need help. I did a lot of bad things when I was 14 and they still haunt me to this day
You're helping people get to know them selves ❤
Thinking of others and how your conduct and behavior may adversely effected them is part of a spiritual journey. Granted not everyone is engaged or interested in making a spiritual quest but if you are then making amends to people you harmed is part of necessity. You don't dismiss your conduct as the fellow in this video is giving direction to do you take responsibility for your past conduct. That means you're going to think about it not dismiss it. As you think about it and a good idea is put it on paper. Look for your motives and your defects of character that were responsible for you doing what you did. Pop psychology like the fellow in this video take you down a wrong path if your journey is a spiritual one. Guilt is real if their has been conduct that harmed someone. You are going to feel better about you when you do the right thing. The right thing isn't dismissing it all like the fellow in the video admonishes. If you have difficulty with low self esteem the solution is to begin doing esteeible things. Making amends to the people you harmed due to various character defects that we all have is one of the most esteeible things you can do. I do realize that their are those who have serious mental health issues that cause them to have obsessive thoughts and feelings that won't be resolved by what I'm suggesting as a course of action. Mine is to the person who has true guilt for things they have done that harmed someone. To those people you may find a good 12 Step program helpful to you or something that follows a similar course of action. Good Luck to you.
I love you, Nathan ❤
Ive been having hard days because of past. . i cant get rid of negative thoughts.. its hard to convince my brain im still a good person. Every friend or anybody who has meet me say im kind and i care for people i like helping others i worry for others and always do my best for others but my brain still tells me im not enough im a bad person im horrible person who dosent deserve happiness this brings me to tears.. my ocd gets so bad i feel im in a bubble cant think or function sometimes i wonder how i survive this.. sometimes i think why me? Why do i have this in my brain ? Sometimes i crave happyness so much i crave a normal worryless day. There is so much i want to do but my ocd wont let me move on too much negative thoughts is exausting.. ocd is exausting.
Thank you for everything you do
I just want permanent relief. Its been SEVERELY distressing these past 4 months. My mind has created so many fears of what could happen in the future. And the amount of guilt and shame ive felt is literally unbearable. I feel like my life is over. I feel like im not even the same person anymore since ive started ruminating 4 months ago.
Doesnt real event ocd also overlap with false memory ocd? So you might have a real event but the memory could be distorted or false? I thought that ocd can also exaggerate the event?
For me, the best years of my life were 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021. In 2021, I started high school, and that's when my life started falling apart. I didn’t have any friends; it was boring, and I was super quiet. A lot of people just pretended to be nice but were actually just evil. Also, there wasn’t that beautiful energy I always felt in 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021.
In elementary school, I was quiet but not ultra-mega quiet like I was in high school. Back then, I had a lot of friends from my class and outside of it. I used to hang out with my friends more, I was happier, and everything was great.
The years 2022, 2023, and 2024 are when my life became boring. Everything is boring now. I don’t have any friends, that beautiful energy I always felt is gone, and nothing is as good as it was before. Everything has changed. Everything now is depressing.
I’m not the only person who feels like this. I’ve seen a lot of videos on Instagram where people feel the same way as I do now, saying how 2018, 2019, 2020, and 2021 were far better years than 2022, 2023, and 2024. I agree with all of them.
I hate 2022. I hate 2023. I hate 2024. And I hate you, 2025. Now, I’ve finished high school, and life is even worse. I do have a job, but I still miss going to school and being surrounded by people my age. Maybe high school wouldn’t have been so bad if I had gone to a different one. Maybe I would have gotten more friends.
If I had the chance to select one of those years-2018, 2019, 2020, or 2021-and relive just one day from any of them, I would give everything in my life for that one day.Right now im 18 years old i finished high school last year in 2024. It still haunts everday the fact that I wasted my teenage years the best years of my life all because I was quiet and at my job where i work as bartender and I see kids that go to high school hanging out with their friends and having fun and then I look at myself how just yasterday i was just like them going to school and how if i wasn't quiet if I was going to other high school i could maybe just saying maybe could have friends but thats it high school is over my life is runined forever and now I can just live in regret and anger for rest of my life and with mistskes in my life thst i regret every day that I can't fix and there are more things in my life that I regret doing if only i could go back in time and have way of thinking i have today i could fix everything.
This is probably my hardest theme. And then for me mixing in religion / scrupulosity makes it worse for me. Does anyone else's real event make them feel compelled to "out" themselves or make restitution? I feel like a horrible person
I experienced this feeling a lot. The sin/guilt complex runs strong and deep.
Just be careful of opening up too much about very private things to people who don’t know you like mental health professionals or even people you know.
I made that mistake and it’s honestly not helped, I feel worse for it and feel uneasy and ruminate about what notes they’ve wrote and whether it’s accurate. Be careful not to make things worse and even telling friends or aquaintances very personal things can leave you feeling vulnerable and highly anxious. I admit it’s good to talk but be careful because it could throw you in to a breakdown and extreme anxiety and depression if you are vulnerable to depression
Hello, I made that mistake. I basically exposed myself to people in the most vulnerable way.. I over apologized in details and I’m scared it might be used against me.. I did not know it was OCD compulsive confession.
I once drank a lot, cried and confronted in public when I saw her with other man. She was not my girl friend but had on and off physical relationship with her. After that I became obsessed with her and did many more emotional mistakes. This was 16 yrs ago. To this day I feel ashamed and guilty for behaving that way.
I love this channel for making me not feel alone. Is thinking about a time in your life where your OCD was especially difficult and/or even traumatic real event OCD. In my head I’m constantly worried about oh my OCD was bad then so it will be bad again in the future or it will happen tomorrow etc.
Very helpful content. Thank you for this video!
Thank you for your great work!❤ Could you please make a video on ERP for real event OCD?
There is little info about erp specifically for real event ocd. 😢
a lot of time, my OCD urges me to apologise over my past to the people i've wronged, even when it does not benefit who i've wronged.
fighting the urge is so incredibly hard, but it's not fair for me to re-open their old wounds just to temporarily alleviate my anxiety, so i will just have to learn to deal with it.
i wrote this with no intention to drop my emotional baggage without reason, but to make others feel understood. seeing others' comments makes me feel seen and i hope anyone else who is experiencing the same as i will feel less alone after reading my comments ❤
This was so help full
What if your gut feeling alerted you to a possible mistake. You went to bed, and woke up with a solution, but your brain is self-destructively wired and didnt allow you to go through with it? In the end you went for the planned and wrong option, while the other option ended up in a triumph? I just cannot live with myself. I am very gifted, but also gifted for making terrible mistakes while knowing they are mistakes.
Thank you save my life ❤️
Thanks for the video ! ❤
LOVE U
Thank you so much!!!😁🧠
Amazing video tq so much sir
Ugh. This is exactly the problem and I can see that this advice is what I need to do, but how do I get from here to there? The only way I can stop my mind from doing this is alcohol - not ideal - also, you can't drink at work! Having this issue feels insurmountable. I'm waiting to get back into therapy and will ask (again) for an OCD assessment. I am Autistic.
love u bro
Thanks Sensei!
I cannot write what i did down.
Thanks!! :)
I hate the idea of self compassion, especially if you did something wrong in the past. You shouldn't be kind to yourself for the horrible things you did in the past, hurt people, and behaved badly. It feels like you're living in denial and acting what you did was okay.
It's hard to love yourself for all the bad things you've done and having to live with the consequences. It feels like you're only known for the bad things you've done.
How can i rember exactly how old i was when my real event happened over 40 years ago,im sure i was a little child when it happned but my ocd is telling me i was alot older than i was and i do t want to have been older when it happned, i cant stand this i try over and over to think exactly how old i was and get certain for an hour then my ocd says hey are you sure you were not older when it happned then boom my brain goes cloudy and i cannot think at all
😮hello sir I am 17 . I am going through hocd and tocd . My ocd start going meta and I start to like my thoughts and my all value system has ruined .please tell me what do I do. I want all my value system back .I don't want to become a gay please help me
It's going to be okay mate
FIVE years ago I decided to squash (instead of move) a spider that kept making webs on my sliding door. It was so unnecessary and I still think about it today:(. Looping with other themes, of course.
Can you truly have more than one type of ocd? (Relationship, pocd, sa-ocd, real event ocd, etc,).
Yes you can have many themes, but in the end it's all OCD, it's tries to trick you. The way to counter it is ERP
If helps you I'm glad
Last night when my mom went to the washroom, I had to pass by & despite knowing that d door was not locked & light was on & my mom was peeing, still I passed by seeing at her. I saw her side buttock & upper thigh portion. From the very next morning, I am feeling very guilty dt why did I do so deliberately. I mean I should not have passed by watching at her because I was already aware about that what was she actually doing there?
When I was 11-17 I was a victim of online grooming by people who were adults and I was impressionable/Niave and due to me being young, I was once invited to a discord server {when I was 16/17}
where the person who made the server {think of it like a glorified group chat for those who aren't aware of what discord is} was an adult who was around 24/25 years old
and majority of the everyone in the server was 15/16/17 like my age group/same age and the person who made this server unfortunately normalized/groomed us into looking at s3xual content and engaging in s3xual content within eachother
I was already being actively abused by other adults not just by the owner of the server and due to the activities seemed normal, I was a participant as a minor and to this day
I am angry at the fact that I was hurt and my friends were hurt
but I'm angry at myself for being a participant and I've gotten so many OCD thoughts about it and sometimes my OCD thoughts say "Your playing the victim"
It's sometimes really stressful to live in a world where adults so consciously exploit the ignorance, vulnerability and naivety of young people. You are a survivor of things like this and you can be proud of yourself. You have every right to be angry. I wish you healing! You are not alone with such experiences.
It's also important to forgive others. It makes it easier to forgive yourself.
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your father in heaven may forgive you your sins.
- Mark 11:25
My biggest past mistake is pulli out the... unalive thingy in my arguement
this video put into words exactly how my mind works
I jsut don't know how to have self compassion, I cant be kind to myself because I feel dumb AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
i am such a hypocrite because i am super kind to friends but cant be that with myself -
i did a lot bad thing's too and still ruminating and bad decisions,. i always blame other's especially friends i don't like her and don't want any help from her but my family contacted her because im sooo depressed and she is the only one they know,but totally i dont want to contact her ever in my life thanks to her but i don't wanna talk to her ever
On a realistic level for people that have been experiencing feelings of OCD for 6-10 months. How effective is ERP
Can you do a video on racing thoughts?
thank you
there are memories 20 years ago that as embarrassing as they were.
Can ocd be seen or detected in Contrast-Enhanced Magnetic Resonance Imaging (CE-MRI)? Please tell.
Ty for ur help sincerly i wish i could do ur program but well im not in any financial position ty tho
Sir I have multiple types of OCD and sometimes it get out of control what should I do 😢
I have constant anxiety and anxiety attacks
I need help with my ocd I have covid and having covid made myself worse with ocd
How much does the course cost?
It's $297 - I have a discount right now of $20 if you use SAVE20 at checkout. www.ocd-anxiety.com/master-your-ocd
I hate myself
my smartphone damaged
Try me. I don't even think this is OCD. I was once taken to my boss's office--with her and her chef colleague--for touching my coworkers too much. *_Casually,_* like arms and shoulders. I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. The chef told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything _horrible._ I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She liked that I was outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. But I didn't mean any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would not have touched them. And anyway, people casually do it to each other. But despite my side, whenever I expressed my story on YT videos, commenters would still make me feel bad, as if I didn't feel bad enough. "Well, you shouldn't be touching coworkers" or "You sound like a creep" or "The workplace is not where you act that way." I often think "Why can't someone just respond to my story and shame without talking about my wrongdoing or correcting me?" I own if I made anyone uncomfortable, and I would make it up to them if I knew whom.
Can anyone help me understand why I get so infuriated at corny humor such as the “jokes” in this video? “I’ve never made a mistake in my life lulz”. It strikes me as incredibly dumb, and perhaps like a contrived display of pseudo-personality or something. I feel this way whenever I see corny “relatable” humor.
I know it’s probably a defense of some sort, but I don’t know why I always feel this way.
I can relate, although I was able to give it a "pass". For me, I think some tendencies for internally judging childish or corny antics have been because I myself have been badly judged for similar things. Being a sensitive person, as a protective response I've masked aspects of my personality that could risk getting me ridiculed for being corny. Seeing someone unapologetically express "naive sense of humour" can trigger resentment because someone is now expressing themselves openly in a way that I've worked hard to deny from myself.
There, overexplained it but hopefully gave you some potential insights.
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Dumb Brains LoL
*Compassion
I swear this is literally a sign of a spiritual / demonic attack.
Feeling guilt and shame about your actions in the past
😢😢😢😢 please cure me