POCD and Harm OCD is typically what gets me ruminating the most but I try to remember this tool about being told ti get off the treadmill (rumination) and then asking well what do I do now? ANYTHING you want BESISES getting back on that treadmill. This reminds me that hey...I'm on this treadmill of rumination not going anywhere. I'm going to get off and continue with whatever it was I was doing.
I thought I had OCD, EVERYONE says I do. Then I came to this channel to see others stories and how they handle things. And the First post I read from your channel was someone wrote "i thought i had OCD, but then i came here and now i am doubting it". I can't get this out of my head, That's me. I have every symptom that I have heard mentioned. Except I don't seem to only hate my OCD like alot of people do here..... I also like parts of OCD. (I have prevented a house fire twice by my "patrols"). This liking my OCD partially makes me wonder if I even have it because liking it seems abnormal. But this doubt tends to be a symptom of OCD. And around and around I go wondering if I even have it. And I know I will wonder for months. And the circle continues.
Hi Nathan. How are you? Hope all is well. Let me introduce myself. I'm 52 years old and been battling with generalized anxiety disorder for over 20 years now. For the most part, it's been under control. I've seen a psychiatrist a couple of times and I told him that I've been also experiencing intrusive thoughts of self harm (suicide) which I'm totally against. I have no desire to act on it, but for some reason these fleeting thoughts come about and it's like I'm questioning do I actually have the intention at the moment. It frightens me. My psychiatrist upon learning this , he diagnosed me not with OCD, BUT RATHER OCPD which I find it strange. I thought it would be OCD instead. Can you help. I'm on medication for my anxiety. 200mg of Zoloft, plus 2mg of aripiprazole for the most part, it's working except for these intrusive thoughts.
What if your thoughts are ABOUT ACTIONS! There’s a chance I molested someone in my past, I think I did it but did I do it? Or is this just my ocd tricking me. How do you live with that when it goes against your entire belief system
@@izabelazivkov8455 I think it’s what he is saying: in the present, nothing is wrong. Your thought now are different from the actions in the past. Accept that it has happened and realise it is not happening now and hopefully you have gotten better as a person. That is the present moment. That should be your focus.
Without restraint they can lead to action.........over rumination has let to explosive anger in me.....pressure relief valve broke. Behavior uncharacteristic as I've always been referred to as the nice guy.
@@Anyoneoutthere89Yes it doesnt feel like it. But remember its another OCD thing to trick you to feel that situation wont get any better. Still keep ignoring it and you will see how OCD slowly goes away.
I am ruminating about having anxiety. I’m anxious about being anxious. That sounds ridiculous. I hope I look on this comment in a year and be so happy that I’m out of this cycle.
Same same, thinking about what if I repeat my x's name endlessly like a madman in a perfectly healthy relationship, then logic myself why I won't and this cycle goes on lol it's just funny at this point I wanna die
Oh god uh can i ask if you're feeling ok? i hope things gets better for you keep on watching mr.nate's video trust me they gonna enhance your treatment but please always prioritize your health first over everything, have a good day!
I was an OCD sufferer. My OCD may get started when I was 12 years old. I might had many kinds of OCD. I cured my OCD by myself completly. Believe me its possible. I have recently started a TH-cam channel and I am going to shere my personal experience and tips on how you can cure it by yourself without taking anyone's help. I promise u that it will be helpful you u. So stay tune with my channel because many useful content is yet to come. ❤
“I bet you that the thing you’re ruminating over you have zero control over.” You are so right. This brings to my mind the Christian way of thinking that God is in control and we should learn to have faith.
Amen, he’s so real for saying that man, i literally have no control over my imagination of my brain and 3 tenses, it’s all creating these scenario in my head which i really hate, but we will make it brah
Thanks Nathan. I've been struggling really bad with OCD and rumination on an intrusive thought I had about 2 weeks ago. Really scares me and has me questioning so much but your videos have really helped me. I think this is one of your best videos yet. I've noticed that I've probably had OCD my entire life - in good ways and in bad ways. But this has totally thrown me. Like I said - your videos have helped me so much. So thank you!
And there's something in your mind that's like "if you keep engaging in this thought loop, maybe something will come of it" insanity lol, same thing over and over expecting different results
@@ocdandanxietyCan you tell me is OCD 100% manage .. My thoughts is normal but when I see video of someone that says ocd is not manage -- My thoughts 💭 is increasing 😢
@PainduPets Just don't take any stress and let go. Distract yourself from such thoughts, practice meditation, and mindfulness. Whenever you get such thoughts, just respond by saying, "It's alright, I can manage it," or "Yeah, that'd be wonderful, ain't it". Just render the thoughts powerless and continue enjoying your life!
I ruminate a lot about the fact that we're always thinking, and how the brain works. It freaks me out! haha. Also, when my anxiety is bothering me, I'll often times ruminate about Anxiety.. the causes, what the symptoms are, what I can do / not do to make it better, if I have other forms of it, etc. My therapist has told me that I "overthink things, and work myself up". I agree. haha.
Best video ever on rumination! Step one from the 12 steps is alluded to here. I’m powerless over (people places and things)…” I love that this speaker reminds us that we truly do not have control over the things we worry about. Realizing that is extremely calming. Another great idea I’m loving here is to talk back to the thought with a “so what?” Or I can’t control this. All I can do is - go walking, pray, etc. Lately, the famous author, dale Carnegie said to allow yourself to think of the worst thing could happen. Then create a solution.
This really helped me. I was watching a tv show and stuff was happening that made me anxious. Normally I’d fast forward through it or watch something else but because of your video I instead thought “yay I’m anxious. Hello anxiety old friend. You’ve been with me since I was a kid, you’re the only constant in my life”. And my anxiety went away. Thank you so much for doing these videos.
I feel like you and nocd have saved my life. I ruminate about the meaning of life and finding purpose, or if i should even search for purpose. Thank you, Nathan ❤
IMO the search for meaning/purpose is a worthless endeavor. We are primates on a floating rock circling a ball of hot gas. We should avoid hurting others. Be true to ourselves. Value those we love. These should be your purpose, anything else is preferences. Again IMO
@@ethanchadwick8584 believing God brings much hope. There is good reason to believe, but faith is also needed. When I was struggling once, I read Beth Moore’s book ‘Believing God’ and it really helped me. ❤ He also says ‘do not worry’.
I ruminate about not sleeping…and I don’t sleep! 😂 I’ve started watching your videos back to back now. You’re the first person I’ve found that actually made sense. Your video on sleep anxiety made me think about the Taoist philosophy to “let go”. Thank you very much for all of your videos, they’re awesome!
Thank you so much! Just ran across this. I have such a hard time ruminating about work. I once counted how many times in 30 minutes I was doing this. Surprised how many times in a short amount of time I was doing this and not aware. One trick I now use is naming my brain, "Amy" (after the amygdala that causes a flight or fight response) Giving thoughts (and my crazy brain) a name helps me bring the thoughts and feelings into the light. It also helps you control your brain and not have it control you. If it gets too bad I will stop and focus on the colors around me. It helps ground me and bring me back to the preset time.
Im 60 years old, and have been suffering from anxiety and rumination for years, it's brought me down a very dark path. It's a battle like no other. From the time I open my eyes in the morning, I get on that scary rollercoaster, and hold on for terrifying ride, until I fall asleep from exhaustion. All while smiling, and pretending that everything is going to be fine, so others wont think I'm going crazy. This is a good video
I constantly ruminate about bad stuff that happened when I was a teenager coming back to haunt me. It makes it really hard to move forward with my biggest passion, writing my novel and making a TH-cam channel. I constantly imagine the first time I post anything or publish anything some tell all hit piece coming out and ruining my life and reputation. It's been debilitating.
I want to share this hack I use when i find myself ruminating at night, while trying to fall asleep in bed. I'll watch a short video clip (something light hearted, funny, wholesome) or listen to a favorite song, and then replay or repeat that in my head, like a video loop. What i find with this intentional act is that it interrupts the nagging/negative ones and replaces it with the much more tolerable thoughts. I think this helps put my mind into a calmer receptive mode, which eventually drifts into other thoughts which gradually makes it easier to fall asleep. What I like about this is that you can do it without disrupting your spouse if they're sleeping in the same bed, it's a low-key, but very effective tactic to relax your mind and get restful, without exerting a lot of physical activity. Lastly remember that just by resting with your eyes closed is as good for you as actual sleep, you are recharging your body, and getting the same benefits of sleep regardless if you're actually asleep or not.
Whenever I have a automatic "oh no" type of thought, it's usually fear of the loop of ruminating. It's distracting. I almost sabotage myself at times when I notice I'm not ruminating. How rude is that?😅 Anyway, it reminded me of how the brain is with any fear, that it avoids it and says something is wrong and needs to be fixed or solved. So I loved all of the validation from this video to let me know that I'm on the right path. What I like to do is when an uninvited thought comes with its attempt to derail my thoughts off the tracks I wanted them on, I through a new set of tracks for that thought to go on. I mean, come on, how awesome is it that somehow I forget all sorts of things and yet without even trying, I get these automatic "reminders." I figure I would take the things I DO want to remember, or positive habits of thinking I do want and enter them in as the next step and destination of the intrusive thought. For example, I think of things I'm super grateful for and give thanks to God in that moment t. Often my heart will then soar with joy and what was negative e or annoying becomes a benefit rather than negative. I love it! And I am working on excepting and loving this process and as I do,sure enough those automatic things just do t happen near as often. Such a catch 22 huh? So use it to your advantage! Be creative. I love placing light and truth where there were fears and lies. With God all things are possible. As He said, " the truth will make you free." And the truth is that because of Christ, we have nothing to fear and everything will be made right one day. ❤
Limit what you see online and especially on social media. It will solve 99% of this issue. The remaining 1% is self motivation like early sleep, proper exercises and keeping yourself alone for sometime reflecting on worthful things.
Thank you very much! I didn't even know what was happening to me and I came across your video on rummination and I dicovered that that was what had been torturing me for a long time. I'm much better now that began to follow your advice. All my love from Argentina ❤️
Thank you so much sir, you've been of great help to me. I keep stressing about my upcoming exams, my responsibilities, my goals that I must fulfill and often worry that OCD might intervene my pursuit. It is often accompanied by anxiety, stress, demotivation. It keeps draining every bit of hope I have and tries to stop me from doing things I must be doing. To all my friends out there suffering from OCD, anxiety or anything. Do not worry you're not alone and we will beat this!
You guys gotta stop thinking your crazy for obsessing over things like we do. I have dealt with people who hear demons/people talking to them and who actually think they are a God. OCD may be hard to deal with, even debilitating. But your not crazy because of it.
I can't stop ruminating about the mistakes I make at work. It's so hard for me to concentrate and I keep making dumb mistakes that make me so embarrassed. I just started this job and I already feel like a failure at it
One of my big rumination topic is which job would be the right one. Having had lots of bad experiences in jobs and being raised where work was the most important thing in the world on one hand side and experienced being weaker in many different ways on the hand side makes it difficult. Having adhs and mcas and trd makes it even much more complicated. I feel trapped and doomed.
Watching videos of this kind helps me. To hear it from someone that cares, and gives positive advice. Also hearing others speak about they're experiences, is a relief. I have had pure o ocd/anxiety for 6 years. I can manage it now. Takes time and effort. Work on all areas, mind and body. Diet and fitness does help. Also exposure to everyday life. I have now crippling obsessive thoughts. Always did but they have taken a more disturbing role. I hope everyone out there suffering gets relief.
I don't know where it came from but I now struggle to make conversation with people because I have this voice in my head saying "you don't know how to talk to people" Now I believe it and I'm in need to shut it off!
I ruminate about conversation and repeating over and over again what I want to say even tho I already know what I want to say and it’s useless to repeat it. It feels like I just can’t stop it
I don’t know how to be kind to myself 😔 My therapist says that if I learn to be kind to myself my anxiety will improve 80%..I ruminate a lot about insomnia because I had a long period of time where I suffered severe insomnia, now because of a one nighter I keep thinking about what if insomnia comes back, and it came back…
Usually I’m scared of anxiety attacks, intrusive thoughts and my results in august. My thoughts become loud when anxious and I don’t want any racing thoughts as it leads to anxiety attacks so I ruminate on how much I think and how fast my mind is going. I just need to chill
Im exactly the same, I just solved my problems that gave me panic and anxiety attacks but the thought of “am I going to live like this forever “ scares me and im trying to learn how to not react to it but it’s really hard
This.., You've helped me with this ruminating problem. Haven't applied yet,.. but I like your application. I retired, but I didn't want to, .... and found out...I DIDN'T HAVE TO!😢 IM constantly ruminating on the coulda shouda wouldas.!!. I'm experiencing depression and anxiety.!! Horrible. 4 months of agony so far. Can't get over my loss, and knowing it was myself at fault.
I tend to worry that if my anxiety gets out of control, it will lead to depression and then I will ultimately end my own life. I don’t know why my mind has to take it that far but I don’t like that thought train.
Thank you for the video. I have certain kinds of intrusive thoughts and patterns of rumination afterwards and I can’t find anything that regarding this specific issue. I have to remember anything or rather recall specific things (like “what did person x say ten minutes ago” “what are the last three thoughts I had” and so on). It’s frustrating because these intrusive thoughts can be triggered anywhere at anytime by myself or other people, situations and objects. I’m aware of the fact that these aren’t normal and are considered as intrusive thoughts, I also know that this whole issue wastes tons of time and energy. But I can’t find a good way to deal with them also due to good feeling and the gut feeling / connotation that I benefit from the things that I remember.
I found when I have the rumination thing going on... I respond to it with self-talk that's authoritative, assertive and protective... Like a bodyguard or big brother talking to a bully. In other words, I put the low level thinking, false alarm, obsessive thoughts in their place by talking back to it (mentally or out loud sometimes **do when alone) in an objective way that takes all the power away from it. Pattern Interruption. In other words treat your thoughts like a random telemarketer or stranger calling you to bug you about the same questions 30-50 times a day. It works for me because, I noticed when I was timid or avoiding the ruminating thoughts (which act like a feedback loop or thought patterns) (mine are specific to financial matters) it tends to interrupt what I'm doing more frequently... vs when I am more assertive in tone, and actually take time to address the thoughts in my head like I'm talking back to a real person on the other end if that makes sense. I think this method is effective because it disrupts the feedback loop, and if you do it enough, it gets weaker and weaker in response, until it sees its pointless to keep bringing it up... funny just like a real person would! If the same sales guy keeps calling you asking to sell you a car warranty, if you answer the phone timid every time or keep ignoring his calls... he's just going to keep calling. But if you use authoritative (but non-abusive) language and address the thoughts by speaking to them like a real person... you will get instant relief and a sense of satisfaction. I find I can usually get on with what I was doing, uninterrupted hopefully for a while or all day. Never back down from irrational and obsessive fears, show them who's boss, and that you know your stuff. One last note; I will say journaling helps with identifying the root causes of our fears/anxieties. In my case, I was able to identify why I was stressing about such a small issue, because It was linked to past unresolved issue that had faded away from memory (but never resolved). If I hadn't taken a methodical approach, and journaled all the thoughts and emotions... it would have taken weeks of therapy to finally get to the root causes. Hope this helps some folks, and thank you for sharing your awesome videos Nathan... worth the sub, and more!
Dear Nathan, you have great videos. Pleasr can you make video about intrusive thoughts during intimacy, what we should do when they apear in that moment? Try to make them gone or alow them to be (but it is like we have arousal on that). I am confused what we should do? Thank you 🙏❤
For me limiting rumination was a result of thinking much more positively and use more empathy with humans. when the world was becoming less intimidating and my idealism for how to cope with it, was dwindling, I have could seen the "light" in a lot of new things
Even though it's been seven years I think about my ex almost every single day. I just miss her constantly. I understand that's never going to happen but the thoughts just keep coming especially when life's not going the way I want.
The reason why I ruminate is because throughout my childhood, I felt as though I never could just be myself. I've always been into metal rock, Halloween, horror movies and all things dark but I grew up in a close minded Christian area where those things were deemed as weird. As a kid, there were moments when I would be asked about my interests and if I gave the honest truth, my mom would spend the rest of the night scolding me about how much I embarrassed her and how I'm an embarrassment to be around which made me feel as though I needed to hide my true self behind a mask of conformity built on things such as mainstream music, being an extrovert, and all things that came with that but the more I wore that fake smile and pretended that I wasn't the black sheep of the family, the more I died inside every day. When I got to highschool, I went through a lot of bullying from both kids and teachers for being different and when I got home and told my mom, she would blame it on my interests and if she did try to defend me, they would always bring up my failing grades and whatever else they would throw at her. When I wasn't dealing with that, I was being subjected to extended religious talks, meant to convert my mindset to more "normal" and acceptable behavior. I could have stood up for myself but I was too scared to because my mom always had a problem with her hanger and lack of patience and would smack me or hit me with a belt at time, which instilled fear in me at an early age. Due to this, I began to hate myself and would indulge in physical and emotional self-harm just to alleviate the consuming numb feeling inside. Suicidal thoughts and urges became prevalent around this time as well and I grew reclusive and apathetic towards everyone and everything. In the midst of this, my mom was extremely clingy with me and would invade my personal space without warning. There were times where we'd be in the car and she would randomly squeeze my thighs or tickle me and when I would move her hand, there was a chance that she would smack me for it or get upset. In the store, she would wrap her arms around my arm while I'm pushing the basket and would take offense to me pulling away, even at home, if I gave a fake smile when she came around or refused to lay in bed and cuddle with her, she got mad at me. The reason I ruminate these things is cause I still live in the house where the horrible memories occurred and the highschool where it happened is just down the street from me. I wake up everyday and walk around this house and in every room, there's an awful memory. Since my grandpa got sick and died, these thoughts have been getting worse and it doesn't help that my relationship with my grandma has fallen apart. I wanna leave this whole area behind but I can barely afford food right now and I'm not in the place where I'd wanna end my life anymore, me and my mom's relationship has gotten better but I feel like I'm practically inhaling poison in this house and it's making me sick. I don't wanna keep bringing this up to my mom cause I don't want her to constantly beat herself up about the past when she's been making an effort to be better and she's doing great, even though she slips up at times. Whoever got this far, thank you for listening.
hi raven. how are you? i hope you are in good health condition. i have been dealing ocd for 35 years. sometimes good sometimes gettin worse.what about you?
Hey Nathan Peterson. Thanks for your videos. 🙂 You're awesome.... May Almighty bless you guide you and keep you happy.... You are really awesome.. Your tips videos are really really effective.. Love form my heart friend.❤
Nathan, while practicing letting the thought be there (or actively seeking out to it - find it before it finds me), I find myself constantly checking in on the thought. As a result I cannot focus on the task at hand or the present moment, I am constantly thinking "am I letting it be there", "am I allowing the thoughts", "I must keep reminding myself of it", "I must keep checking in on it" etc. How do I let the thoughts be there naturally without constantly being conscious about it? Thanks. Also the opposite is true, when I finally forget about it and start focusing on life, I suddenly think "am I pushing it away?".
I ruminate about resentments toward people who have hurt me (mainly my family) -trying to explain to them how they come across and how it makes me feel, trying to get them to understand past mistakes I've made so they don't judge me, even though even I judge myself for those mistakes. I ruminate about guilt involving past mistakes.
BF and I missed out on 28 yrs together because I didn't know he liked me. Now he is OBSESSED with missing my past 28 yrs and where I've been. EXTREME jelousy about my past, when it really pales in comparison to "the norm". We have an amazing relationship, until ANYTHING from my past gets brought up. It's heartbreaking. We're on a break rn, and I am expecting nothing but for him to get help. How do I get him past this?! It's making me more and more insecure about everything I am or have been, instead of allowing us to grow. I'm at such a loss!!!💔
PLEASE SAY SOMETHING about repeating staff in head with no meaning at all! At first it all a started with harm ocd and then I started repeating a screaming voice in my head over and over again! And it’s my own mental inner voice screaming! It’s like fantasizing me screaming and I’m in that loop for years with breaks of course and now I’m on relapse AGAIN! I carry with me that screaming voice and the I start ruminating about everything like why do I have that urge! Why I keep doing this!? How am I going to stay calm with that voice in mind? Why I am different from all the others? How am I going to do activities with all that staff in mind? I mean help me! Is anyone else in the same position? How I stop ruminating about this and how I do the erp on that kind of ocd?
I had been in a “situationship” for a good 5+ months. Started as “dating” and a month in she told me she wasn’t romantically interested but genuinely wanted to be friends. This led to long daily communication and messages. We had everything in common and shared all the same values. End of September she began rehearsing for a play and communication slowed immensely. Came and saw the play twice including closing night. She suggested we get together for a meet up day to catch up but ghosted me after the play. So that whole “situation” is what I ruminate over. Comes down to a lot of insecurities on my part. She also had issues of her own, but come on man! Oh good ole rumination.
@@TaquitoDeAsada according to my therapist, it’s a combination of rocd and real event ocd. And my ruminations aren’t strictly based on the romantic side either.
Also, obsessed yes, hence obsessive compulsive disorder. The situation and how it makes me feel is the obsession and my ruminations are the compulsions. Sometimes referred to as pure o.
She's suggested a meet up and then ghosted. Given you a crumb of hope to follow then nothing. Happens all the time. Most people really into someone would feel just the same. The minute someone you really want says no to you you need to cut them out for your own well being. If they want friendship - tough. Neither of you gets what you want, but you don't suffer as much.
And to be clear, we’d hung out as friends a few times already, so it wasn’t something new or unheard of. But regardless, gotta cut them out from the beginning for your own good. Lesson for next time I guess.
I keep ruminating whenever I'm studying about different fictional events that will unlikely happen or people or certain events or videos I've seen, and they get repeated in my head for hours sometimes, once I had a fight with my mom and the fight scene kept getting repeated in my head for almost 3 hours. I hate it because it effects my studying and focus horribly and makes me anxious.
I ruminate about whether there is any objective reality or absolute truth in the world since we all perceive life through our own perceptive lenses. I’ve gotten stuck in that rabbit hole for days before 🙃 but right now I’m ruminating about a breakup
Hey Nathan Peterson if you are reading this comment I wanted to tell you that my ocd is somewhat LinkedIn with my phone 📱 cause whenever I do anything on my phone and anything that triggers my mind comes in recommendation on my phone or if I get a thought that I have done something wrong and some wrong thing is in my phone even if there is nothing but still ocd tricks me and this has made me so frustrated that I can't even use my phone and if I think that I have not done any thought or compulsion right in my phone. Then OCD will make me reset my phone again and again. Please please bring a video on this type of OCD and I also have every type of OCD. And after righting this para my OCD is tricking me not to post it but I will post this 😢.
Hi! I’m wondering from where this come from. Why some people live without rumination and why some people stuck in this thought process? My husband showed me this video and we both agreed - this is me. But thing is - I’m ruminating almost all day long, also at nights when I woke up. Firts thing I do when open my eyes - I start to think. It’s like a switch to my brain - it’s show time! But thing is - I don’t ruminate only about past, I do it also about events (even simple ones) in current day and specially about future. And mostly question that I ask myself is - how, how, how? I don’t even know how can I stop to catch atleast one thought and respond to it, because they going like fast speed train abot everything!
Is it possible that these suggestions of not reacting, allowing the thoughts or being ok with the thoughts are actually a solution and the brain starts seeing it as the solution therefore reducing anxiety? 😮
My problem is, I feel that I DO have some control over something as long as I check it enough - for example, I have control over whether I make a mistake in my work by checking it - and checking, and checking and checking! I guess the answer is to complete the work to the best of my ability, and then, when I start ruminating on possible mistakes, use the 'maybe, maybe not' statements.
Thanks your videos work I have severe ocd with intrusive thoughts rumination I always stop one thought to replace another one then the second thought become my ocd now I will try to not care about my rumination
on a cruise and i’m stuck in an anxious loop seeking validation and friends. feels like i’m going crazy even though i’ve met so many great people and i should be having a happy vacation.
I ruminate out loud about conversations or interactions with others moments after they occur. Whether good or bad, my brain loops that conversation or interaction the second I walk away.
I was an OCD sufferer. My OCD may get started when I was 12 years old. I might had many kinds of OCD. I cured my OCD by myself completly. Believe me its possible. I have recently started a TH-cam channel and I am going to shere my personal experience and tips on how you can cure it by yourself without taking anyone's help. I promise u that it will be helpful you u. So stay tune with my channel because many useful content is yet to come. ❤
What thoughts do you have that just won't stop?
POCD and Harm OCD is typically what gets me ruminating the most but I try to remember this tool about being told ti get off the treadmill (rumination) and then asking well what do I do now? ANYTHING you want BESISES getting back on that treadmill. This reminds me that hey...I'm on this treadmill of rumination not going anywhere. I'm going to get off and continue with whatever it was I was doing.
I thought I had OCD, EVERYONE says I do.
Then I came to this channel to see others stories and how they handle things.
And the First post I read from your channel was someone wrote "i thought i had OCD, but then i came here and now i am doubting it".
I can't get this out of my head, That's me.
I have every symptom that I have heard mentioned.
Except I don't seem to only hate my OCD like alot of people do here.....
I also like parts of OCD.
(I have prevented a house fire twice by my "patrols").
This liking my OCD partially makes me wonder if I even have it because liking it seems abnormal.
But this doubt tends to be a symptom of OCD.
And around and around I go wondering if I even have it. And I know I will wonder for months.
And the circle continues.
Hi Nathan. How are you? Hope all is well. Let me introduce myself. I'm 52 years old and been battling with generalized anxiety disorder for over 20 years now. For the most part, it's been under control. I've seen a psychiatrist a couple of times and I told him that I've been also experiencing intrusive thoughts of self harm (suicide) which I'm totally against. I have no desire to act on it, but for some reason these fleeting thoughts come about and it's like I'm questioning do I actually have the intention at the moment.
It frightens me. My psychiatrist upon learning this , he diagnosed me not with OCD, BUT RATHER OCPD which I find it strange. I thought it would be OCD instead. Can you help. I'm on medication for my anxiety. 200mg of Zoloft, plus 2mg of aripiprazole for the most part, it's working except for these intrusive thoughts.
Can i ask or OCD its curable ?
Existential 😢/Death/ The unknown
The main thing is realizing that you’re fine and thoughts are not actions.
What if your thoughts are ABOUT ACTIONS! There’s a chance I molested someone in my past, I think I did it but did I do it? Or is this just my ocd tricking me. How do you live with that when it goes against your entire belief system
We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality
@@izabelazivkov8455 I think it’s what he is saying: in the present, nothing is wrong. Your thought now are different from the actions in the past. Accept that it has happened and realise it is not happening now and hopefully you have gotten better as a person. That is the present moment. That should be your focus.
Without restraint they can lead to action.........over rumination has let to explosive anger in me.....pressure relief valve broke. Behavior uncharacteristic as I've always been referred to as the nice guy.
This resonates with me deeply.
We're all gonna make it brahs
🙂
We made it so far 😊
Zyzz ❤
I hope so
😢it doesn’t feel like it I swear.
I hope so, thank you I hope you do too.
@@Anyoneoutthere89Yes it doesnt feel like it. But remember its another OCD thing to trick you to feel that situation wont get any better. Still keep ignoring it and you will see how OCD slowly goes away.
"Thank you, brain, for bringing that up at midnight when im exhausted and extra sensitive to stress!" Haha! This is helpful. Thank you so much
I am ruminating about having anxiety. I’m anxious about being anxious. That sounds ridiculous. I hope I look on this comment in a year and be so happy that I’m out of this cycle.
You’ve just described me! I’m ruminating about ruminating! Anxious about being anxious! Have you found any relief?
Soo me!!! Anxious about being anxious. Depressed about being depressed! Ugh! Makes no sense!
Same, sadly. It’s horrific
Same same, thinking about what if I repeat my x's name endlessly like a madman in a perfectly healthy relationship, then logic myself why I won't and this cycle goes on lol it's just funny at this point I wanna die
Same here, it’s a thought process that is annoying for sure.
I’m literally going through a scary moment at the moment. I haven’t slept today yet but thank you. This is helping a lot. I need to sleep now lol
I hope everything is fine🙏
Oh god uh can i ask if you're feeling ok? i hope things gets better for you keep on watching mr.nate's video trust me they gonna enhance your treatment but please always prioritize your health first over everything, have a good day!
@usergodcandy777 situation awareness please, thanks.
I was an OCD sufferer. My OCD may get started when I was 12 years old. I might had many kinds of OCD. I cured my OCD by myself completly. Believe me its possible. I have recently started a TH-cam channel and I am going to shere my personal experience and tips on how you can cure it by yourself without taking anyone's help. I promise u that it will be helpful you u. So stay tune with my channel because many useful content is yet to come. ❤
"Literally" going through a scary moment is so much more intense than simply going through a scary moment.
Idk who needs to hear this but the best thing you can do about ocd is “nothing”
Thanks for the reminder
“I bet you that the thing you’re ruminating over you have zero control over.” You are so right. This brings to my mind the Christian way of thinking that God is in control and we should learn to have faith.
@@Shito88-de2gx true lol
Amen 🙏
Amen
Amen
Amen, he’s so real for saying that man, i literally have no control over my imagination of my brain and 3 tenses, it’s all creating these scenario in my head which i really hate, but we will make it brah
I’m glad you mentioned simply ignoring the obsessions passively and not doing the compulsions to “fix” the obsessions. I find this helps a lot more.
Whooof , my brain was in pressure cooker.I can't explain how I feel now. Thank you for being an amazing therapist ❤
Thanks Nathan. I've been struggling really bad with OCD and rumination on an intrusive thought I had about 2 weeks ago. Really scares me and has me questioning so much but your videos have really helped me. I think this is one of your best videos yet. I've noticed that I've probably had OCD my entire life - in good ways and in bad ways. But this has totally thrown me. Like I said - your videos have helped me so much. So thank you!
And there's something in your mind that's like "if you keep engaging in this thought loop, maybe something will come of it" insanity lol, same thing over and over expecting different results
No matter how bad the day is, your videos make me feel better
Man . . . You changed my life
You're amazing! Thanks for your continued support!
@@ocdandanxietyHello Sir plz iam from Pakistan 🇵🇰 .. 😢😢😢😢😢
@@ocdandanxietyI want to talk you personally 😢😢😢
@@ocdandanxietyCan you tell me is OCD 100% manage .. My thoughts is normal but when I see video of someone that says ocd is not manage -- My thoughts 💭 is increasing 😢
@PainduPets Just don't take any stress and let go. Distract yourself from such thoughts, practice meditation, and mindfulness. Whenever you get such thoughts, just respond by saying, "It's alright, I can manage it," or "Yeah, that'd be wonderful, ain't it". Just render the thoughts powerless and continue enjoying your life!
I ruminate about what others might be saying about me behind my back and play out the dialogue they are saying about me
Same
Yup🙃
Do you feel better now??
@@Yocef80 I’m using cognitive therapy which helps to spot when I do it and try to change how I’m thinking
@@opencurtin did you notice any progress since you wrote your first comment 10 months ago? Do you workout regularly
I ruminate a lot about the fact that we're always thinking, and how the brain works. It freaks me out! haha. Also, when my anxiety is bothering me, I'll often times ruminate about Anxiety.. the causes, what the symptoms are, what I can do / not do to make it better, if I have other forms of it, etc. My therapist has told me that I "overthink things, and work myself up". I agree. haha.
Best video ever on rumination!
Step one from the 12 steps is alluded to here. I’m powerless over (people places and things)…” I love that this speaker reminds us that we truly do not have control over the things we worry about. Realizing that is extremely calming.
Another great idea I’m loving here is to talk back to the thought with a “so what?” Or I can’t control this. All I can do is - go walking, pray, etc.
Lately, the famous author, dale Carnegie said to allow yourself to think of the worst thing could happen. Then create a solution.
This really helped me. I was watching a tv show and stuff was happening that made me anxious. Normally I’d fast forward through it or watch something else but because of your video I instead thought “yay I’m anxious. Hello anxiety old friend. You’ve been with me since I was a kid, you’re the only constant in my life”. And my anxiety went away. Thank you so much for doing these videos.
I feel like you and nocd have saved my life. I ruminate about the meaning of life and finding purpose, or if i should even search for purpose. Thank you, Nathan ❤
IMO the search for meaning/purpose is a worthless endeavor.
We are primates on a floating rock circling a ball of hot gas.
We should avoid hurting others.
Be true to ourselves.
Value those we love.
These should be your purpose, anything else is preferences.
Again IMO
@@eequalswtf6281 thank you. Unfortunately, it brings me immense anxiety thinking that way. That's why I obsess with it
@@ethanchadwick8584 believing God brings much hope. There is good reason to believe, but faith is also needed. When I was struggling once, I read Beth Moore’s book ‘Believing God’ and it really helped me. ❤ He also says ‘do not worry’.
@ethanchadwick8584 The pursuit of meaning can be a purpose in itself.
I ruminate about not sleeping…and I don’t sleep! 😂
I’ve started watching your videos back to back now.
You’re the first person I’ve found that actually made sense.
Your video on sleep anxiety made me think about the Taoist philosophy to “let go”.
Thank you very much for all of your videos, they’re awesome!
Can’t believe I’m 68 and am finally finding out there are terms for what I’ve struggled with since I was about 10🤯
Same here
Thank you so much!
Just ran across this. I have such a hard time ruminating about work. I once counted how many times in 30 minutes I was doing this. Surprised how many times in a short amount of time I was doing this and not aware. One trick I now use is naming my brain, "Amy" (after the amygdala that causes a flight or fight response)
Giving thoughts (and my crazy brain) a name helps me bring the thoughts and feelings into the light. It also helps you control your brain and not have it control you.
If it gets too bad I will stop and focus on the colors around me. It helps ground me and bring me back to the preset time.
Im 60 years old, and have been suffering from anxiety and rumination for years, it's brought me down a very dark path. It's a battle like no other. From the time I open my eyes in the morning, I get on that scary rollercoaster, and hold on for terrifying ride, until I fall asleep from exhaustion. All while smiling, and pretending that everything is going to be fine, so others wont think I'm going crazy. This is a good video
Thank you
I'm 29 but been dealing with it for a few years now and isolated myself from everyone except my mom. I feel this same exact way
@@Dorito_Djinn same , i can relate to u
I constantly ruminate about bad stuff that happened when I was a teenager coming back to haunt me. It makes it really hard to move forward with my biggest passion, writing my novel and making a TH-cam channel. I constantly imagine the first time I post anything or publish anything some tell all hit piece coming out and ruining my life and reputation. It's been debilitating.
Hey, how’s life going? I just wanted to get an update. Hope things are better now
thanks for the idea that ruminating can be or is a thought that we don't have control over. It relaxes my anxiety a little.
I want to share this hack I use when i find myself ruminating at night, while trying to fall asleep in bed. I'll watch a short video clip (something light hearted, funny, wholesome) or listen to a favorite song, and then replay or repeat that in my head, like a video loop. What i find with this intentional act is that it interrupts the nagging/negative ones and replaces it with the much more tolerable thoughts. I think this helps put my mind into a calmer receptive mode, which eventually drifts into other thoughts which gradually makes it easier to fall asleep. What I like about this is that you can do it without disrupting your spouse if they're sleeping in the same bed, it's a low-key, but very effective tactic to relax your mind and get restful, without exerting a lot of physical activity. Lastly remember that just by resting with your eyes closed is as good for you as actual sleep, you are recharging your body, and getting the same benefits of sleep regardless if you're actually asleep or not.
I've learned to let the thoughts be. The challenge I have now is how to deal with what happens in my body as a result of these thoughts.
Same here, I get headaches, sweaty palms, fast heartbeat, and my tinnitus goes up a bit
Whenever I have a automatic "oh no" type of thought, it's usually fear of the loop of ruminating. It's distracting. I almost sabotage myself at times when I notice I'm not ruminating. How rude is that?😅 Anyway, it reminded me of how the brain is with any fear, that it avoids it and says something is wrong and needs to be fixed or solved. So I loved all of the validation from this video to let me know that I'm on the right path. What I like to do is when an uninvited thought comes with its attempt to derail my thoughts off the tracks I wanted them on, I through a new set of tracks for that thought to go on. I mean, come on, how awesome is it that somehow I forget all sorts of things and yet without even trying, I get these automatic "reminders." I figure I would take the things I DO want to remember, or positive habits of thinking I do want and enter them in as the next step and destination of the intrusive thought. For example, I think of things I'm super grateful for and give thanks to God in that moment t. Often my heart will then soar with joy and what was negative e or annoying becomes a benefit rather than negative. I love it! And I am working on excepting and loving this process and as I do,sure enough those automatic things just do t happen near as often. Such a catch 22 huh? So use it to your advantage! Be creative. I love placing light and truth where there were fears and lies. With God all things are possible. As He said, " the truth will make you free." And the truth is that because of Christ, we have nothing to fear and everything will be made right one day. ❤
Beautifully stated and very inspiring, thanks for sharing!
@matthewrocca4197 thank you! You're very welcome!
Limit what you see online and especially on social media. It will solve 99% of this issue. The remaining 1% is self motivation like early sleep, proper exercises and keeping yourself alone for sometime reflecting on worthful things.
I cant explain how awesome you are, Nathan. Please never stop making videos on OCD - thank you so much!
Thank you very much! I didn't even know what was happening to me and I came across your video on rummination and I dicovered that that was what had been torturing me for a long time. I'm much better now that began to follow your advice. All my love from Argentina ❤️
Thank you so much sir, you've been of great help to me. I keep stressing about my upcoming exams, my responsibilities, my goals that I must fulfill and often worry that OCD might intervene my pursuit. It is often accompanied by anxiety, stress, demotivation. It keeps draining every bit of hope I have and tries to stop me from doing things I must be doing. To all my friends out there suffering from OCD, anxiety or anything. Do not worry you're not alone and we will beat this!
You have helped me more than you think with this video. Thank you
You guys gotta stop thinking your crazy for obsessing over things like we do.
I have dealt with people who hear demons/people talking to them and who actually think they are a God.
OCD may be hard to deal with, even debilitating.
But your not crazy because of it.
I can't stop ruminating about the mistakes I make at work. It's so hard for me to concentrate and I keep making dumb mistakes that make me so embarrassed. I just started this job and I already feel like a failure at it
The past present and future helped so much. I wrote it down and read over it and even laughed because it put into perspective how silly it is!
The problem is the anxiety that comes with the thoughts is so overwhelming it’s hard not to push it away!!
One of my big rumination topic is which job would be the right one. Having had lots of bad experiences in jobs and being raised where work was the most important thing in the world on one hand side and experienced being weaker in many different ways on the hand side makes it difficult. Having adhs and mcas and trd makes it even much more complicated. I feel trapped and doomed.
Watching videos of this kind helps me. To hear it from someone that cares, and gives positive advice. Also hearing others speak about they're experiences, is a relief.
I have had pure o ocd/anxiety for 6 years. I can manage it now. Takes time and effort. Work on all areas, mind and body. Diet and fitness does help. Also exposure to everyday life.
I have now crippling obsessive thoughts. Always did but they have taken a more disturbing role.
I hope everyone out there suffering gets relief.
Thank you Nathan, everything you says just calm my soul, as a person who suffered from ocd her whole entire life hearing this is so helping..
I don't know where it came from but I now struggle to make conversation with people because I have this voice in my head saying "you don't know how to talk to people"
Now I believe it and I'm in need to shut it off!
Anyone else stuck ruminating about how they can't stop ruminating? Or ruminating about your ocd? Brains are dumb 😂
I ruminate about conversation and repeating over and over again what I want to say even tho I already know what I want to say and it’s useless to repeat it. It feels like I just can’t stop it
Thanks Nathan again you’ve helped me so much in my life. Thank god there are good people like you around.
Bro the editing improved so much keep it up 💪🏼
Thank you! Watched you since 2020! Your amazing
I don’t know how to be kind to myself 😔 My therapist says that if I learn to be kind to myself my anxiety will improve 80%..I ruminate a lot about insomnia because I had a long period of time where I suffered severe insomnia, now because of a one nighter I keep thinking about what if insomnia comes back, and it came back…
Buddy when I tell you you hit the spot you made me feel like I’m not alone I thought I had something wrong with me mentally
Usually I’m scared of anxiety attacks, intrusive thoughts and my results in august. My thoughts become loud when anxious and I don’t want any racing thoughts as it leads to anxiety attacks so I ruminate on how much I think and how fast my mind is going. I just need to chill
Im exactly the same, I just solved my problems that gave me panic and anxiety attacks but the thought of “am I going to live like this forever “ scares me and im trying to learn how to not react to it but it’s really hard
This.., You've helped me with this ruminating problem. Haven't applied yet,.. but I like your application. I retired, but I didn't want to, .... and found out...I DIDN'T HAVE TO!😢
IM constantly ruminating on the coulda shouda wouldas.!!.
I'm experiencing depression and anxiety.!! Horrible.
4 months of agony so far.
Can't get over my loss, and knowing it was myself at fault.
thankyou so much nathan im so with it ruminating future 😢 and im so devastated but now im feeling ok,. and im feeling better now. thank you
I tend to worry that if my anxiety gets out of control, it will lead to depression and then I will ultimately end my own life. I don’t know why my mind has to take it that far but I don’t like that thought train.
How are you doing, brother?
@ better than ever. Keep watching Nate, he’s a life saver!
Thank you so much for this! This is my number one compulsion!!!
Thank you for the video. I have certain kinds of intrusive thoughts and patterns of rumination afterwards and I can’t find anything that regarding this specific issue. I have to remember anything or rather recall specific things (like “what did person x say ten minutes ago” “what are the last three thoughts I had” and so on). It’s frustrating because these intrusive thoughts can be triggered anywhere at anytime by myself or other people, situations and objects. I’m aware of the fact that these aren’t normal and are considered as intrusive thoughts, I also know that this whole issue wastes tons of time and energy. But I can’t find a good way to deal with them also due to good feeling and the gut feeling / connotation that I benefit from the things that I remember.
Your videos are helpful and I appreciate you for making them. Thank you.
Nathan your videos are so good thank you for posting
Thank you for making this content, you have helped me a lot.
I found when I have the rumination thing going on... I respond to it with self-talk that's authoritative, assertive and protective... Like a bodyguard or big brother talking to a bully. In other words, I put the low level thinking, false alarm, obsessive thoughts in their place by talking back to it (mentally or out loud sometimes **do when alone) in an objective way that takes all the power away from it. Pattern Interruption. In other words treat your thoughts like a random telemarketer or stranger calling you to bug you about the same questions 30-50 times a day. It works for me because, I noticed when I was timid or avoiding the ruminating thoughts (which act like a feedback loop or thought patterns) (mine are specific to financial matters) it tends to interrupt what I'm doing more frequently... vs when I am more assertive in tone, and actually take time to address the thoughts in my head like I'm talking back to a real person on the other end if that makes sense. I think this method is effective because it disrupts the feedback loop, and if you do it enough, it gets weaker and weaker in response, until it sees its pointless to keep bringing it up... funny just like a real person would! If the same sales guy keeps calling you asking to sell you a car warranty, if you answer the phone timid every time or keep ignoring his calls... he's just going to keep calling. But if you use authoritative (but non-abusive) language and address the thoughts by speaking to them like a real person... you will get instant relief and a sense of satisfaction. I find I can usually get on with what I was doing, uninterrupted hopefully for a while or all day. Never back down from irrational and obsessive fears, show them who's boss, and that you know your stuff. One last note; I will say journaling helps with identifying the root causes of our fears/anxieties. In my case, I was able to identify why I was stressing about such a small issue, because It was linked to past unresolved issue that had faded away from memory (but never resolved). If I hadn't taken a methodical approach, and journaled all the thoughts and emotions... it would have taken weeks of therapy to finally get to the root causes. Hope this helps some folks, and thank you for sharing your awesome videos Nathan... worth the sub, and more!
I always fall for the heart feelings even after 12 years! Anyone else?
I can’t let go of the past hurts in my relationship.
Thank you bro I really needed this
Thank you so much for helping. I want to change for all the people who care and love me! Thank you.
This is incredibly helpful! Thank you 🙏
Dear Nathan, you have great videos. Pleasr can you make video about intrusive thoughts during intimacy, what we should do when they apear in that moment? Try to make them gone or alow them to be (but it is like we have arousal on that). I am confused what we should do? Thank you 🙏❤
This was really helpful. I'm really grateful for your help🙏😇
You literally are amazing! I love your content and I want more of it!
thank you sir god bless you, mamanji🙏🏻😢
For me limiting rumination was a result of thinking much more positively and use more empathy with humans. when the world was becoming less intimidating and my idealism for how to cope with it, was dwindling, I have could seen the "light" in a lot of new things
Thank you for your videos!
Even though it's been seven years I think about my ex almost every single day. I just miss her constantly. I understand that's never going to happen but the thoughts just keep coming especially when life's not going the way I want.
The reason why I ruminate is because throughout my childhood, I felt as though I never could just be myself. I've always been into metal rock, Halloween, horror movies and all things dark but I grew up in a close minded Christian area where those things were deemed as weird. As a kid, there were moments when I would be asked about my interests and if I gave the honest truth, my mom would spend the rest of the night scolding me about how much I embarrassed her and how I'm an embarrassment to be around which made me feel as though I needed to hide my true self behind a mask of conformity built on things such as mainstream music, being an extrovert, and all things that came with that but the more I wore that fake smile and pretended that I wasn't the black sheep of the family, the more I died inside every day.
When I got to highschool, I went through a lot of bullying from both kids and teachers for being different and when I got home and told my mom, she would blame it on my interests and if she did try to defend me, they would always bring up my failing grades and whatever else they would throw at her. When I wasn't dealing with that, I was being subjected to extended religious talks, meant to convert my mindset to more "normal" and acceptable behavior. I could have stood up for myself but I was too scared to because my mom always had a problem with her hanger and lack of patience and would smack me or hit me with a belt at time, which instilled fear in me at an early age. Due to this, I began to hate myself and would indulge in physical and emotional self-harm just to alleviate the consuming numb feeling inside. Suicidal thoughts and urges became prevalent around this time as well and I grew reclusive and apathetic towards everyone and everything. In the midst of this, my mom was extremely clingy with me and would invade my personal space without warning. There were times where we'd be in the car and she would randomly squeeze my thighs or tickle me and when I would move her hand, there was a chance that she would smack me for it or get upset. In the store, she would wrap her arms around my arm while I'm pushing the basket and would take offense to me pulling away, even at home, if I gave a fake smile when she came around or refused to lay in bed and cuddle with her, she got mad at me.
The reason I ruminate these things is cause I still live in the house where the horrible memories occurred and the highschool where it happened is just down the street from me. I wake up everyday and walk around this house and in every room, there's an awful memory. Since my grandpa got sick and died, these thoughts have been getting worse and it doesn't help that my relationship with my grandma has fallen apart. I wanna leave this whole area behind but I can barely afford food right now and I'm not in the place where I'd wanna end my life anymore, me and my mom's relationship has gotten better but I feel like I'm practically inhaling poison in this house and it's making me sick. I don't wanna keep bringing this up to my mom cause I don't want her to constantly beat herself up about the past when she's been making an effort to be better and she's doing great, even though she slips up at times. Whoever got this far, thank you for listening.
hi raven. how are you? i hope you are in good health condition. i have been dealing ocd for 35 years. sometimes good sometimes gettin worse.what about you?
Hey Nathan Peterson.
Thanks for your videos. 🙂
You're awesome....
May Almighty bless you guide you and keep you happy....
You are really awesome..
Your tips videos are really really effective..
Love form my heart friend.❤
I ruminate a lot. I'm gonna try this. Thank you!
I absolutely LOVE ruminating. So much so, that I just spend several hours a day doing it. Literally can't get enough.
Brain is doing a poor job handling worst way possible on the “passing thought” good video mate
This saved me tonight.
Nathan, while practicing letting the thought be there (or actively seeking out to it - find it before it finds me), I find myself constantly checking in on the thought. As a result I cannot focus on the task at hand or the present moment, I am constantly thinking "am I letting it be there", "am I allowing the thoughts", "I must keep reminding myself of it", "I must keep checking in on it" etc. How do I let the thoughts be there naturally without constantly being conscious about it? Thanks. Also the opposite is true, when I finally forget about it and start focusing on life, I suddenly think "am I pushing it away?".
I ruminate about resentments toward people who have hurt me (mainly my family) -trying to explain to them how they come across and how it makes me feel, trying to get them to understand past mistakes I've made so they don't judge me, even though even I judge myself for those mistakes. I ruminate about guilt involving past mistakes.
BF and I missed out on 28 yrs together because I didn't know he liked me.
Now he is OBSESSED with missing my past 28 yrs and where I've been. EXTREME jelousy about my past, when it really pales in comparison to "the norm".
We have an amazing relationship, until ANYTHING from my past gets brought up.
It's heartbreaking.
We're on a break rn, and I am expecting nothing but for him to get help.
How do I get him past this?!
It's making me more and more insecure about everything I am or have been, instead of allowing us to grow.
I'm at such a loss!!!💔
I tend to create scenarios that are unlikely to happen. The thoughts are more prevalent when I just wake up
PLEASE SAY SOMETHING about repeating staff in head with no meaning at all! At first it all a started with harm ocd and then I started repeating a screaming voice in my head over and over again! And it’s my own mental inner voice screaming! It’s like fantasizing me screaming and I’m in that loop for years with breaks of course and now I’m on relapse AGAIN! I carry with me that screaming voice and the I start ruminating about everything like why do I have that urge! Why I keep doing this!? How am I going to stay calm with that voice in mind? Why I am different from all the others? How am I going to do activities with all that staff in mind? I mean help me! Is anyone else in the same position? How I stop ruminating about this and how I do the erp on that kind of ocd?
I had been in a “situationship” for a good 5+ months. Started as “dating” and a month in she told me she wasn’t romantically interested but genuinely wanted to be friends. This led to long daily communication and messages. We had everything in common and shared all the same values. End of September she began rehearsing for a play and communication slowed immensely. Came and saw the play twice including closing night. She suggested we get together for a meet up day to catch up but ghosted me after the play. So that whole “situation” is what I ruminate over. Comes down to a lot of insecurities on my part. She also had issues of her own, but come on man! Oh good ole rumination.
That's not ruminating brother! She obviously isn't into you and you might be obsessed.
@@TaquitoDeAsada according to my therapist, it’s a combination of rocd and real event ocd. And my ruminations aren’t strictly based on the romantic side either.
Also, obsessed yes, hence obsessive compulsive disorder. The situation and how it makes me feel is the obsession and my ruminations are the compulsions. Sometimes referred to as pure o.
She's suggested a meet up and then ghosted. Given you a crumb of hope to follow then nothing. Happens all the time. Most people really into someone would feel just the same.
The minute someone you really want says no to you you need to cut them out for your own well being. If they want friendship - tough. Neither of you gets what you want, but you don't suffer as much.
And to be clear, we’d hung out as friends a few times already, so it wasn’t something new or unheard of. But regardless, gotta cut them out from the beginning for your own good. Lesson for next time I guess.
I keep ruminating whenever I'm studying about different fictional events that will unlikely happen or people or certain events or videos I've seen, and they get repeated in my head for hours sometimes, once I had a fight with my mom and the fight scene kept getting repeated in my head for almost 3 hours. I hate it because it effects my studying and focus horribly and makes me anxious.
2:45 i'd say you actually have to be okay with the thing you fear will happen in some way
I ruminate about whether there is any objective reality or absolute truth in the world since we all perceive life through our own perceptive lenses. I’ve gotten stuck in that rabbit hole for days before 🙃 but right now I’m ruminating about a breakup
Hey Nathan Peterson if you are reading this comment I wanted to tell you that my ocd is somewhat LinkedIn with my phone 📱 cause whenever I do anything on my phone and anything that triggers my mind comes in recommendation on my phone or if I get a thought that I have done something wrong and some wrong thing is in my phone even if there is nothing but still ocd tricks me and this has made me so frustrated that I can't even use my phone and if I think that I have not done any thought or compulsion right in my phone. Then OCD will make me reset my phone again and again. Please please bring a video on this type of OCD and I also have every type of OCD.
And after righting this para my OCD is tricking me not to post it but I will post this 😢.
Hi! I’m wondering from where this come from. Why some people live without rumination and why some people stuck in this thought process?
My husband showed me this video and we both agreed - this is me. But thing is - I’m ruminating almost all day long, also at nights when I woke up. Firts thing I do when open my eyes - I start to think. It’s like a switch to my brain - it’s show time! But thing is - I don’t ruminate only about past, I do it also about events (even simple ones) in current day and specially about future. And mostly question that I ask myself is - how, how, how? I don’t even know how can I stop to catch atleast one thought and respond to it, because they going like fast speed train abot everything!
Is it possible that these suggestions of not reacting, allowing the thoughts or being ok with the thoughts are actually a solution and the brain starts seeing it as the solution therefore reducing anxiety? 😮
My problem is, I feel that I DO have some control over something as long as I check it enough - for example, I have control over whether I make a mistake in my work by checking it - and checking, and checking and checking! I guess the answer is to complete the work to the best of my ability, and then, when I start ruminating on possible mistakes, use the 'maybe, maybe not' statements.
I feel you. And even after checking sometimes I make the mistake anyway.
Great work sir 🛐
Thanks for these videos 😊
Thanks your videos work I have severe ocd with intrusive thoughts rumination I always stop one thought to replace another one then the second thought become my ocd now I will try to not care about my rumination
May God bless you🥰
on a cruise and i’m stuck in an anxious loop seeking validation and friends. feels like i’m going crazy even though i’ve met so many great people and i should be having a happy vacation.
Love this👏🏼
I ruminate out loud about conversations or interactions with others moments after they occur. Whether good or bad, my brain loops that conversation or interaction the second I walk away.
Another great video 👍🏼
Super helpful! I ruminate about everything or so it seems lol
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Thank you
You're welcome my friend!