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@@rab-cnesbit4181 Hey, You are not alone with hating your life. How do we all have GOOD REASONS to hate our lives. You have to understand that SHE has HER issues too. Its not just your problems that make your life "messy". AND EVEN IF YOU WERE WELL you still may hate your life because of HER unprocessed undiagnosed mental health. She needs some help coping with things too. Relationship counseling together. you have apologized enough it does not help. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THINGS BETTER is what Id ask her
Always remind myself: "This is a thought, it's just a thought. I don't have to believe it. I don't have to act on it, I don't have to fight it. I can let it pass through."
@@kittyspartan143 You are the awareness that is left when you're not in your head dealing with thoughts. Have you noticed when you're concentrating on something deeply that everything else seems to melt away? Practice returning to your breathing, manually breathe and you'll notice over time that your true nature is when you're present in the moment. In the senses. As someone who's battled depression for years, I came to realise thoughts, are just thoughts. You don't have to give all of them energy, or act upon.
@@kittyspartan143 I'll make it simpler then. You play Sports? My example is that when you are concentrating on whatever is in front of you totally (not in your head thinking). THAT, is your true self. Its just awareness of what's around you. Your thoughts aren't YOU. You make thoughts and have intrusive thoughts. It's just noise really. You can use your thinking mind to strategise and to plan things out, it's not worth much else. Good for visualising things and for creativity too. Thinking is a tool, use it but don't let it enslave you.
I took a deep breath and started to tear up because the fact I had to look up videos to help me with my overthinking and industrial thoughts is crazy to me. I got emotional because I’ve always been a happy person and now I’ve just been stuck in my head and second guess everything I do , just because I keep replaying something someone said to me. I pray to god I get over this and can be myself again.
Dude you got this! I literally am doing the same thing! We have to do what we have to do to get better emotionally and physically so we can help and be there for everyone around us in the best way. And if on one else does I believe in you!
You're not alone! We're all here for one reason or another. I feel like looking for information to help ourselves is one of the most self-aware, independent fight for freedom from our nnegative thoughts that play a roll in staying stuck! By researching what we feel is causing us suffering, is a smal step forward!
The thoughts always take over and I think myself out of happiness multiple times throughout the day. The thoughts will be bad things and it makes me scared and it can lead to an anxiety attack. Especially at night. I’m glad others feel the same way and I don’t feel as alone as I did.
Im so glad to see I am not alone also, just started this year so all of it is new to me and has been terrifying me, but it feels nice when you realize its a common thing
When I was little I had trouble falling asleep because of anxious thoughts. My Mom taught me to picture my thoughts as little strings and would have me physically grab a handful of my string thoughts and place them on the nightstand by my bed. She told me they would be there for me tomorrow if I still wanted them, but since I set them aside I could just focus on sleep. I was only 8 or 9 then, but that was so helpful that I still do it now that I’m in my forties.
Thank you so much for this! My 6 year old boy can't sleep do to anxious thoughts 😕 I feel so bad and I have no idea what to say to make it better. I will tell him this today thank you ❤️
It kinda annoys me that we aren't taught anything like this in school. I have really bad anxiety and intrusive thoughts and haven't being taught anything about it which overall made it much more scary and more intense. Thank you for this video.
I agree it literally affects my school performance I can’t concentrate cuz I’m always feeling so sleepy and depressed and alwyas over thinking things ,my socially anxiety makes it hard to do simple everyday tasks and I’m tired of it
A tip: when I get anxious or have intrusive thoughts I think "Here comes the intrusive, irrational thoughts" That makes my brain snap back to reality, even if the thought is still there, I will be less anxious. So not 100% but it helps with calming myself down.
I've always considered myself inmune to anxiety. All my life has been filled with so many deaths, obstacles, stress and chaos since I was a child, however I never had anxiety. Ironically, these last months when my life has finally become peaceful and stable, i have found myself more anxious than ever. These videos really helped me put things into perspective and understand what's behind my anxiety. Thank you for this.
This is my biggest enemy, my mind and my thoughts. This thoughts make me worried and feel fear. Feels like I am not my old self anymore. I just cried about it. Thank you for this video. I hope I can get over to this problem of mine.
Thanks for sharing. I’m struggling with intrusive thoughts as well. At times my intrusive thought are so intense it ruins my day and mood. But when I talk about it with ppl I trust and love it helps me a lot. I hope you feel better . Be safe!
Intrusive thoughts are literally ruining my life right now. I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video and I will be watching the full playlist now. Thank you so much for all you're doing 🙏🏻❤
I find it helpful to say in my head "oh, I feel anxious, this is what it feels like to be anxious". It kind of stops the emotional experience from taking over the mind.
@@ritacroall6620 some anxious thoughts are bad intrusive things so not everyone can look at it that way sadly. You can't be excited for something bad to happen
The best advice I ever read is *"no amount of guilt can erase the past" and "no amount of anxiety will change the future" *. Most things that are intrusive are either anxiety or guilt. The fact you have those feelings means you know about those past issues ( and don't repeat them ) and upcoming problems ( if you fear loosing someone you know the person is important to you). No matter how often you repeat those thoughts it won't change anything all you can do is act (leave past behind) but in a thoughtfull way (focus your future projections on current situations rather than on speculative fears)
very true - i am fixated on a “regret” in the past that i believe will hugely affect my future (to the point that i might be seriously ill some day…) but i the most difficult thing is not being able to predict when or will i ever be sick. its very hard
@CookieD456 how did you succeed in this? I’ve been devastated by job and home loss, and overwhelmed trying to deal with the emotions and thoughts around this.
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“We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes - understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”some of us we see failing as failure. Have a delightful day sharing some positivity to your side
I really loved this video. But when you talk about living up to our values, what do I do if I feel that I have some values that I don't how I "bought" them. For example, some of us might feel that beauty is something very important, even when we know that other things are more important. But we get stucked in that value irrationally because even when we practice cognitive defusion there's something stronger than our thoughts.
@Bob Nevels But sometimes it can be frustrating, because we don't want to live to that values, it seems like it's something that don't belong to you but it's inside of you. I think schema therapy helps to identify these things that you don't want to be a part of you and come from your child experiences.
Something that helped keep intrusive thoughts away was having some blocking thoughts in mind like some phrase like "stop thinking of some garbage", "this is not my concern" etc. It prevents engaging the negative thoughts , bad memories, prevents replying to it , analyzing it. The goal of a blocking thought should be to not give any value to a negative thought and discard it. Although these blocking thoughts only work if your brain is healthy, if you're depressed and have low serotonin or an overactive amygdala, the negative thoughts are gonna be more frequent and stronger. so fix your brain chemicals first with some omega 3 fish oil, 5htp, sunlight , exercise , going outside everyday, meditation, green tea etc. After your brain is normal again, using some blocking thoughts to block out negative thoughts worked great
I wish schools starting from elementary would have a psychology subject so the kids can understand their emotions a little bit and that they’re not suffering alone
I love this. My anxiety and OCD has been killing me for years but now I just say "nah, I don't buy this thought" and it works. I'm genuinely feeling better and lighter. Thank you so much.
Thanks for sharing. I can definitely relate to what you're saying/feeling. I can also see myself saying "Pass" or even "That's a hard pass, thank you!"
@@lotus_flower2000 Persistence can be key, sometimes, especially if you've been giving in to thoughts a lot, it'll take some time for your brain to readjust and stop feeding you so many thoughts. Everyone's unique, so keep it up !
@@lotus_flower2000 then you do it again, and again, and again. A difference in behavior (like telling yourself the things this woman explains) takes months before you master it. Then slowly those 10 min will turn to 20, then 30 etc. Until its only a few times a day!
"You don't have to believe everything you think." Such a "simple" phrase and yet I'd never heard it and how powerful it is!! Thank you for this video. I'm glad TH-cam suggested it ;)
I noticed your title of your TH-cam profile. Have you ever considered that the beings that you are calling spirits are actually organisms that are not what they are presenting themselves to you or anyone else as? That the idea of spirit in all of the different varieties thereof are linked into the LIE of divinity? That it's time instead to approach such topics without the folly of Faith but with the truth of scientific method, and our tech is at the level that we can now accomplish such? The end result of such thing would be of course to kill an eradicate these organisms that exist without a physical biology. Just putting the hypothetical out there man. I would request that you would please not spread doctrines of spirits, there are endless libraries full of lies about such topics but to find a fortune cookies worth of text of Truth is very difficult. Thank you
really? I actually don't get it. like its purely common sense that its my own thoughts about myself that make me feel so negatively about my ability to socialize for example. I didn't need this video to tell me that. but acknowledging that fact, and that they are just thoughts still does nothing to change the fact that I genuinely believe they are true.
@@Trash0000 it's like this unwritten rule you have, I suppose. Our mind goes through a million thoughts everyday. You as the thinker have the power to choose your reaction to your thoughts. Once you accept the fact that thoughts are just thoughts, it will be a lot easier for you. You don't have to believe or them judge them. Just let it pass through.
Yes. This resonates with me. I can 'shop' and idea that comes across my mind, or that I've started obsessing over. I may even "put it in my cart" - but I don't have to commit and BUY it. I still hold the choice.
1- notice the thoughts: say i noticed that i am having this though... 2- name the thought: for example if u have the thought that you are awkward give it a name like bob thought. thank your mind and say that's a thought just because i am think it doesn't mean it's true or i have to act on it or believe it . 3- sing and silly voices : say the thoughts loudly by a weird voices . 4- put your thought onto an object : carry a rock or sticks or anything as a way to represent a thought and when you no longer need that thought let go of that object. ask yourself is this thought helpful for me ? dose it help me to live the life i value ? if not let that thought be there or pass and look around for a thought that is more helpful to you. lots of thought gonna pop up in your head through out the day average people have intrusive thought all the day .it's okay to have a thought it doesn't say anything about you but if you gonna buy this thought: believe it or act on it make that a conscious choice. thank you ❤❤
One thing that helps me, is laughing at every thought…that way no one thought can send me spiraling downward because all my thoughts i think are funny….easier to not buy any of them right away.
With me, I feel like If I do something while I'm having bad thoughts, it cements the ideas into reality like some ritual. Then I have to stop and repeat the action. It could be opening a door, walking, doing a task or selecting an item. I feel like I'm losing it. I hate life. I am scared to death of how things are going. I feel so alone. I'm worried I soon will actually be alone. Like I look around an have no friends anymore. No one wants to he around me. Certain family members dont even like to talk to me, like my own mom. If I didnt have a dog to take care of I think I would have stopped all of this on my own terms about 6 years ago. I'm sick of it all. I'm sick if talking to my self. In sick of being alone. I'm sick of seeing others with actually lives or a relationship, and I feel totally alone. I'm worried in going to go mental the next time I have real stress in my life like a significant family member dying. I'll go nuts and lose my self to the streets. All I do is sleep to get away from it all. And of course at 3am, I wake up so depressed and sad and cant sleep anymore till it's time for work. I go it beat, miserable, and hating my self. Then the day has it's way with me, and by the time its time to go home, I feel so much worse. Then I OCD out for 2 hours in the car and another 2 hours getting undressed. I hate life. I hate all of this. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm coming to an end. And really, who cares?
@@greenghostof609 i'm so sorry you're going through all of this. may God give you peace and so much love! i go through that mental cycle too, i thought i was the only one. when i'm doing something while i have a bad thought, it's as if i'm making the ideas become real and i have to repeat the task again. it's such a horrible cycle, and i'm actually kind of relieved that i'm not alone. until now, i actually thought i was a bad person until i read this. i'm so sorry that you feel so alone. i don't have many friends and very little family. if it weren't for Jesus, i know i'd be losing my mind. maybe He sent me to you because He knows we're a lot alike, and need each other to say the truth that we're not alone. He sees you and He is with you. He wants you to go to Him and He will help you. He won't leave you alone. Matthew 11:28 ❤ God bless you, Green Ghost. thank you for not letting me be the only one who feels like this.
Holy Cow. Point # 2. 2 years ago, I had been stuck in the past for years, constantly replaying the same tape over and over and over. I would go over every mistake I had ever made, every regret, every embarrassing event, and think about them every waking moment. It was completely debilitating. Then one day after reading a certain book, I decided to stop thinking thoughts from the past but found it almost impossible. And then I had the idea to separate myself from the person who was thinking those thoughts. I named him "leppy" From that day on, every time one of those thoughts popped up, I would say something like "Shut up leppy" or even kick him. One day after a few months of doing this consistently, I suddenly noticed that I had gone a whole day without thinking a single negative thought about my past. I literally broke down and cried. I couldn't believe it. I was finally free. It's the first thing I had ever tried that worked and here I am 2 years later, completely free of those thoughts.
Great job, it's very good feeling of psychological freedom when you don't have any annoying thoughts..I have the same annoying thought again and again almost 5 days and it's just horrible but I will not surrender I will break this thought.. Edit : Finally heh I broke that annoying though and annoying thoughts stopped. I don't think about them anymore, and that's just wonderful feeling. Now whenever some annoying thoughts are beginning I break them at once and they stop.
Hmm, youve seemed to use the same strategy as me. I also give my intrusive thoughts a persona and beat the living sh*t out of them. But the thing is, when i recognise intrusive thoughts, its turned from just anxiety to anger. When my intrusive thoughts i label as a character get kicked, they just smirk or something and it makes me pretty mad. Any thing that you were doing that i might have missed?
@@winstonchurchill9217 If you consciously and continuously challenge that thought.... I promise, one day you'll stop and realize that it hasn't popped up in a few days and you didn't even notice. FREEDOM!!
It's so nice to see that I am not the only one out there dealing with this stuff, and there are people who have studied it and came up with tools for us to use. It's really nice
I know right, even though I wouldn’t wish that to anyone, it’s a relief knowing there are people who have just the same exact thoughts and struggles, as you
Just a reminder: you will have days where this works, and days where it may not work, but DONT GIVE UP!❤️ I’ve been struggling with intense anxiety for about a year and a half now and I’m just now starting to feel better. I still have days of overthinking, but I have more moments of peace and presence than I did before. Don’t give up on yourself!!!
Thank you for pointing that out. Consistency is key and progress isn't always noticable. It's more like learning how to play an instrument than it is solving a puzzle
this is so great to hear - I’ve been struggling with physical anxiety for a year now (before it was bad social anxiety, so my minds just switched to another anxiety) and sometimes when my anxiety gets worse when I think I’m getting better I always think I’m at square one and get really depressed. I should recognise that I’m not alone and that I am safe outside of the house!! ❤️
@@Gypsygirl9 I think for each person it can be different. I noticed when I was younger it was all over the place like disorganized Present day I have been able to work thru my anxiety wether it is with prayer, meditation, box breathing, doing things to keep me occupied. Hope this helps…
Thank you, I have been having serious anxiety that I had a panic attack that took me to the ER last year and the intensity of the anxiety has not really subsided but this reminder that sometimes the managing mechanisms may not work every time, thank you
I suffered severe depression 18 years ago as a teenage, got addicted to cigarettes. Spent my whole life fighting Cigarettes addiction. I was actually diagnosed with cptsd and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source🙏🏻
YES very sure of benmycologys I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
I left my first job a year ago because of terrible depression and anxiety. Then stayed detached from everything since then. I have not left my house and have not reached out to my friends for almost 6 months. Tomorrow is my first day at my new job. I hope I can get through this. Thank you for this video.
I’m grateful to know I’m not the only person who struggled like this, I’m struggling with the idea of leaving my house and being seen so having a job feels so scary but somehow it keeps my mind calm by giving me new (work related) things to worry about. I know this is scary and hard but this is the first big step towards your happiness, your anxieties and understood but they don’t define you. U got this! have a good day at work
My thoughts would trap me into thinking them over and over again. I felt so weak. I also know I'm strong and I CAN overcome this. I have a wife that loves me for me and she knows my struggle as of lately and she's the world to me. I no longer have to live in this fear. I have every reason to be happy and not let these intrusive thoughts determine my happiness. My heart and soul knows I love myself for being strong enough to overcome my addictions. Im stronger than ever now and I will not choose to be weak. I'll be ok. Amen.
When I stand back from my thoughts and get a glimpse at them without reacting (which is uncomfortable for me at the moment), I realize they have me by the strings, delegating my emotions, feelings and actions. The best part of this realization..... I am now able to observe this process and its influence, instead of being deep in it, clueless, and most importantly, being reactive instead of responding appropriately.
Baby steps make huge changes. Isn’t it a trip observing those thoughts, kinda like our higher self watching without reacting while we’re acting a fool. Best to you, blessings 🌼🐝
I’ve dealt with intrusive thoughts so much, yet never knew it until the very worst ones in my life happened very recently. Prayer and strengthening my faith in Christ has been so helpful for eliminating them.
I actually recovered from both of these things in a very real way. It doesn't happen overnight, but retraining your brain to think positively, reflecting on your entire life, realizing that YOU are not your illness, it doesn't control you. It took like 3, 4 months to notice a REAL difference but change can and does happen. Yeah, I still have my rough times, but talking through them with someone you trust, writing out your thoughts, whatever your coping skills are makes it easier. Positive thinking is the key focus! Let the intrusive thoughts KNOW they can't win!
@@waden404 just remember that progress isn't consistent and it feels weird and even scary when your brain starts to heal cause you won't believe or trust the thoughts at first. Ask people to tell you the positive traits you have and repeat them to yourself like a mantra. Write them down as you're being told them and read them every day out loud using "I am" statements. Ask them to give you as many as they can think of. I asked for 5 from 3 different people. That put a couple of them in a tough spot because they felt put on the spot, but they tried and eventually I came up with my own list. My boyfriend knows me best and helped me the most. He's the one who's seen and accepted the real me. It's helped tremendously.
@Wade N you are more than welcome darlin. If you need anything further, like you're stuck and want to give up, remember not to, that's part of the process. If you need further help ever, just tag me. Best of luck to you. ❤️❤️❤️
Buddhism: focus on the present (breathe), let intrusive thoughts enter the thought stream, pay minimal attention to them while returning to the breath..... I've been doing this. It's hard as hell but it gets easier and seems to work.
Every single technique and everything they are talking about have roots in some variation of Buddhism. I've been to numerous therapists, listened to loads of videos, read ton of books to connect the dots since I've been struggling with what is referred to as "anxiety" for almost two decades. Trying to say you're on spot with the comment. Recommendation from my heart: listen to Allan Watts. Start with shorter videos. Wish you all the best! Things are much simpler than they seem ♥️
The things I've seen in life has caused post traumatic stress (unknown if it's the disorder, seemingly just a regular case) to occur, doing exactly this helps significantly. Heads up, I'll be talking about something serious here, be extremely careful where on the internet you find yourself at, there are things you think only occur on the deep web but fact is people show these macabre things on the surface web and net as means to attack people they personally dislike. In short people with serious mental health issues dwell on these thoughts and take it out on people they believe deserve it (but actually don't), including inducing epileptic seizures in a person and worse. It's quiet sad.
“I’m noticing I’m having the thought that…” that practice just took away my anxiety around a thought I had. The thought lost its power. As someone who has always struggling with anxiety.. from the bottom of my heart Thank you!!!
this is one of the first videos i watched when i was at my lowest dealing with existential dread,hopelessness, i lost a dear friend which is where it all really started and watching this video helped me so much to make peace with my intrusive thoughts and dealing with my anxiety. thank you so much for this and i hope you all are getting better everyday
#1 8:19 cognitive defusion #2 10:17 name your thoughts 10:30 » bully bob 11:29 » thankyou mind #3 11:53 singing + silly voices 12:31 » jumbled words #4 13:10 put thoughts onto objects 13:26 » write and burn 14:00 » throw the rock
Funny: When I find myself starting to think a 'catastrophizing' thought - I catch myself and in my mind I sing 'Stop In The Name of Love'' (just that one line of the song). It's a good technique - I'm being gentle with myself & not taking the negative thought seriously, as well as applying a little bit of mind discipline.
I love that idea! It also gets your mind focused on LOVE, which is the answer to all things and the frequency that brings HEALTH to our bodies and minds! Thanks for the great suggestion!
I love that!! Watching this made me think of a song I heard on the show 'Steve Universe,' one of my niece's favorite cartoons. The song is called "Here Comes a Thought," and it's basically all about using cognitive defusion and being present. (And it's here on TH-cam!)
I literally cried after practicing it “the dont buy the thought” it gives me the real sense of the world for the first time. i cant believe i was slave on my own thought believing that it was real. Now i feel way better. Now I believe that im not a bad person at all. I was just living, dealing,surviving, and fighting with my own thought. Now there is a closure to it. Thank you maam. I wish i can give you a hug for helping me. I love you i love you!
02:32 What is Cognitive Fusion? 03:11 Story to Illustrate Cognitive 11:52 Using Singing and Silly Voices 14:33 Intrusive Thoughts 17:13 The Skill of Diffusion 19:07 How to Process your Emotions
I think the biggest lesson I've learnt through the years with my anxiety and intrusive thoughts, is exactly what you mentioned: "Just because I'm thinking it, doesn't mean it's true." Reminding myself of this, helps to take the intensity of the anxiety surrounding the thought down by a few notches, and it ends up losing its potency.
I don’t know who you are but you literally saved my life. I have been experiencing Anxiety attacks lately. I wasn’t scared of anything specific but it just started one night I was alone in the house everyone was sleeping and all of a sudden I had this feeling that I’m in danger. I later learned from you I was catastrophizing. And I had this pit in my stomach weakness in my hands and legs. Shortness of breathing and I literally was about to call 911. I woke up my wife and told her what I’m experiencing but nothing was calming me down. I went on a walk outside I tried pushing away the thoughts but nothing helped. I finally just fell asleep close to the morning but then when I woke up those feelings were back again. Now I hated those feelings and I was more scared of those dreadful feelings which in turn kept bringing back those feelings and it was a crazy vicious cycle which wasn’t ending. I decided I needed to get help on TH-cam and Thank G-D I found your channel. You have changed my life and saved my life. I have learned that for years I have been anxious and always thinking out worst case scenario which caused my mind to always be looking for fake threats. I learned to change my glasses of bad thinking and put on the glasses of positive thinking and always thinking bast case scenario and I can say I have never felt so good in my life. All my anxiety is gone and this is all in one day. My quality of life has never been so good. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s life has changed thanks to you. I can’t thank you enough. Keep up your great service to the world you are saving lives daily.
I’m going though the same since I was diagnosed with gallstones, cyst in my liver and going through menopause with horrible cycles. I giggle my symptoms and assume I have a terminal illness. Hopefully tomorrow after my Dr appt I will feel more at ease. I had anxiety last week in the morning and went for a walk and felt a bit better but these feelings come and go. Never felt this way since I’ve always been healthy and since I’m having these medical issues, I feel the worse to the point that I’ve lost my appetite.
"Self help for your nerves" a book by Dr Claire Weeks (an Australian Doctor)is the best for anxiety and depression and panic attacks, phobias, OCD. Dr weeks is the pioneer for modern day psychology. U will see yourself described in this book over and over again. It has been a lifesaver for millions around the world. As you got your explanation in this Video u understood what was happening to you and were cured.. Good luck and stay well...
I’ve been having these intrusive thoughts for a week now. I feel like I’ve been going crazy. But the constant reassurance either from others and yourself and realizing they are just thoughts help a long way. They are distracting for sure but your body and mind is yours to control. Dont let your thoughts say otherwise ✊🏻 EDIT: HEY EVERYONE, it's been a while. The thoughts are pretty much gone by this point and I've been doing better. It really helps just keep yourself distracted and reminding yourself of the people around you. Wish you guys the best ❤️
I've been having horrible thoughts because of "crime videos that I watched over on TH-cam and tiktok and been feeling horrible these past few weeks and it's about to be a month but I'm seeing a therapist February 6th and hopefully thier guidance can help my mental health.
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master" I believe being aware of your thoughts and that they're just thoughts is better than trying to separate yourself from them. You can practice awareness through meditation. I've found that 90+% of my thoughts are useless and/or negative with no/little basis in reality. Still some thoughts are more difficult to dismiss than others.
I have been dealing with anxiety for almost a year now. I left my stressful 9-5 job, just got married, moved into my new home with my wife… focusing on my new real estate career - slowly but surely I’m feeling like myself again, I manage to get through my anxiety hearing worship music or exercising/hobbies! These videos have gotten me through difficult times throughout this journey we are all dealing with, take it day by day… make your mental health a priority and remember, God is not done with you yet! 🙏🏻
This is so helpful! One thing I struggled with in CBT is that it seems to ask me to question the validity of my thoughts (e.g. my thought will be something negative and I'll try to challenge it - but I usually fail!), whereas this technique enables me to see that the thoughts themselves are not so important in the first place. In other words, there's no need to challenge it, because I can simply let it go. It doesn't even matter if the thought is true or not - what matters is that this thought is distracting me from living life and being present and kind to people.
Spot on! :) thoughts are just a string of words which you literally dont need to buy i to if you chose not to. Can be absolutely any thought and you can chose to engage or disengage
Kelly, I hope that you're feeling all right, not to take this in a weird direction but have you ever considered the hypothetical idea that there is nothing wrong with you biologically or physiologically, that instead these problems you've been having are caused by organisms that somehow exist without a physical body and that are invading yours in order to cause these symptoms? That mankind with our technology is at the level where we can manufacture means to destroy such organisms? That these organisms have been deceiving and harming humanity for thousands of years now and it is time that we put an end to it. If such organism existed it would be possible to make it get off of you but I would not do it in your home. Stay strong Kelly
So many people everywhere in search for true inner peace and joy that will last for eternity, but it can only be found in Jesus Christ. Jesus loves you more than you could ever know and He wants to give you this peace. I am sharing my best friend's story with you in hopes that you will come to know Jesus Christ and find real peace and comfort in your soul. God bless you. Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
this helped me so much. i haven't had a depressive episode in nearly a year but i recently made the decision i want to combat my mental health consciously on my own without medications. it's a lot more difficult but seeing how strong i've grown against my mental illness helps way more for me personally than tuning it out through meds. i had been finding ways to battle my thoughts in a softer way rather than detaching from them. but after detaching just now it's almost like magic how capable i feel to take on the day. thank you :)
I just want to thank you for your advice as I thought I was going INSANE but your video not only helped me stop spinning and obsessing to the point of shutting down and getting a headache to being my happy self again. Fuck intrusive thoughts and ruminating!
I want to be a good person, I really do, but I can’t relate with anyone’s issues, which just frustrates me when I don’t know how to help them. But this video exists. And so I will learn these skills for myself and those who need them!
I love this video! As someone who has been struggling with overthinking, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts for so many years, this is a nice reminder that I have control over my own mind, it doesn't have control over me.
Hey Riley, I hope you're doing all right. I want to present you with a hypothetical, that these things described in this video are not a product of your mind, biology, body chemistry, or physiology in any way, but rather a manufactured by organisms, who have no physical body and are comprised purely of energy. They're doing this to harm you as they all do to All humans that they can. Mankind's at the technological point where we can manufacture weapons to kill these beings. When you say "my mind is not in control of me but I am in control of it", it becomes clear that you believe that these are your thoughts. If you willfully cease active cognition through inner dialogue than you should experience what one would call "inner quiet", , as in you shouldn't experience thoughts. Your mind is completely under your control, and in fact is you. But these deceptions are actually at your ear, not in your mind. They can't be in your mind because your mind is a sealed thing inside of your skull cavity, there's no physical way to access your brain unless a surgeon was to Port a hole in your skull. The only place you can receive audio input is at the ear, which is where the deception of this variety takes place. If you want to see evidences of these organisms then you can see it right here on TH-cam if you look up spiritual activity such as in the Pentecostal Church. There is no such thing as a"spirit", that li e is one that is tied into a grander lie referred to as divinity. There is no divinity. These organisms have been deceiving and causing harm to humanity for thousands of years and it is time that they get eradicated. You can make this thing get off of you, but I would not do so in your home as it'll just malinger there and attempt to return, at least more than likely. Make intelligent choices when it comes to the topic of these organisms and make it get off of you somewhere far away from your home. And the statement you typed,"I have controll over my mind", is true. Keep in mind that your mind is you, and anything that seems like it's trying to have control over you, is not you. All humans have free will, that is a law as sure as gravity. No one can remove your free will. What these things try to do is lie and deceive you in your thoughts, to make you believe that they are you. A big one here you can see it is lgbtq, these people are totally confused in their thoughts about who they are and what their identity is both sexually and in gender. Such thoughts didn't come naturally to them, they came via these organism's deceptions. It's not uncommon or even completely unknown by humanity. You can find libraries full of lies about these organisms but to find a fortune cookie's worth of text of truth is at the very least difficult. We are at the tech level to kill them now. Stay strong Riley.
It makes me feel good to not run away from my overthinking and anxiety and finding these videos as tools. Even if they all don’t work, I feel good that I’m being productive in trying things to get rid of this way of life.
Also, I like to practice mindfulness, lay down, close my eyes, and imagine my thoughts as clouds floating by. No judgement; I just notice them until more appear.
I will definitely watch this. I've been an overthinker my whole life and I'm tired. I'm only 37 and I can't believe how deep the problem is. I still remember things from when I was a 10 year old girl who was reprimanded for having been loud at the school library. Or when I was a teenager and I had an argument with a classmate on a school trip about sth really stupid. Because I keep ruminating. Or quite recently I forgot to pay my rent in time (it had never happened before) and when I finally did pay I have been thinking about it for a week now. And I know how silly it is. Things happen all the time. I'm trying to notice the thoughts and let them go but they seem to be embedded in my psyche. It's mentally very tiring because it causes me to be quite absent-minded.
I remember things like that ..but the thing is that I'm not at fault..most of the time others are..thoughts come n go..i have to say fuk it..whenever such a thought comes..it doesn't serve me in anyway...if i keep thinking it..it just proves that others are right..so i just have to say to myself.. i don't care a shit
have you tried focusing this overthinking in a productive way instead of trying to put a lid on it? something that helped with my intrusive thoughts by redirecting them towards creativity. if I'm busy with a project that i love, I'm most likely going to be absent minded thinking about what i can do to make it better instead of what i said yesterday. the negative part goes away with time when it's something worth it to you... now that i only do my projects for fun i don't have to overthink what people might think about it, so it's more likely to make me happy and build a more confident image in myself. better than trying to milk money out of art and love for status for sure. it might be wishful thinking of mine but taming this "power" we have in a productive way at least comforts me and gives me hope that it isn't just a curse.
@@StarmenRock Hi, thanks. I don't think i have. I've been too absorbed with ruminating, but I have seen the video 3x now and I will keep coming back to it cause although it sounds so simple it's not and I need to remind myself about the techniques. Thanks
My favorite quote is "Don't believe a thought you think." I love how mindfulness/Buddhism-infused your advice is! Detachment from our thoughts is everything. I also appreciate your metaphors like our thoughts are like glasses - we can take them off! :)
I hope you know that you are deeply appreciated and help alot of people, including myself to get through hard times. I get so wind up in my thoughts and body reactions to it, sometimes it feels like a never ending loop with the clear direction to being crazy but you manage to make me feel safe and under control. I am so overwhelmingly grateful for you and what you are doing. I wish you all the best.
Hope you find peace in your life Kevin, I have disrupting thoughts that greatly build arms and legs thinking the absolute worst scenario ,had this for many years , horrible horrible thing mental illness. ..
@@skh5960 I am so sorry to hear that, mental illness really sucks. Since making my original comment, I have received anxiety medication which will hopefully help combined with the information in this video
@@kevinsundelin8639 I am glad things are working out for you Kevin, I am trying to stay strong for the sake of my two sons , God forbid I have not passed this terrible affliction on them as well , will take your advice and try medication , God Bless You
The number of times I’ve heard or read “just notice the thought and let it go” and couldn’t wrap my head around how to do it… thank you making it so clear!
Also important to remember that an anxious or panicked reaction to a thought quickly stimulates the amygdala which causes tense emotion (i.e. fight or flight). Thoughts are just thoughts -not feelings, or impulses. The more we fight them, the more entangled we become in the thought(s).
But some thoughts come from certain feelings we are having over a situation. Example: say you talk to your sister a few times a week and suddenly she doesn't call or answer your calls/text for over a week...if that were me, I would panic and start replaying the last interaction we had and wondering maybe I said somethibg to piss her off, why is she acting weird, etc. Wouldn't that beba legit concern though?
I want to say : Thank you. This one video has completely change my daily life. I’m not exaggerating. I suffer from ptsd snd have been in many types of therapy over many years. They help me with EMDR and CBT, but I’ve never been to a provider who taught me usable skills to help my ptsd symptoms - for me negative thinking is very strong. So thank you!!!
I am relieved to know that naming my anxiety Tim isn’t a bad thing lol It’s just so much easier to think of my anxiety as a silly little man desperately trying to help me, but always slamming the panic button instead of using any other controls at his disposal.
What I've come to find is that these things only need a little tweaking depending on the situation rather than always letting them run the default program. Most of the time, your brain aims to make your distress visible so that others can rush to assist you and you can solve the problem together. The assistence of others, however, counts on you not being in control of the distress. The problem here isn't that your brain makes you suffer when there's no need to, it's that people don't understand you are distressed for valid reasons unless there's physical manifestations of it. You can say "brain, stfu, there's no need for that" when it makes you gasp for air or even as little as making you feel discomfort, but then your brain will go all "what do you mean there's no need? I'm making you feel this way so you can cry out. This can't continue, there's a problem that needs attention and nobody is willing to acknowledge it, which means there's a need for more and more visibility if nobody is going to fix it". To your brain, you are the silly little person in the situation. There's a lot more that comes into play subconsciously, but the root of all behavioral issues is communication. If you're not getting back communication that's an appropriate response to what you're feeling and noticing, your brain will try to communicate it to and through you in other ways that are easier to read. The little man is not silly, he's an intelligent, emotional creature trying to navigate a world of silly humans that are bad at being intelligent, emotional creatures. Instead of letting him keep doing what he knows in hopes that someone is capable of reading it, you should work with him and accept that there's going to be couterproductive outwards opposition to what should be adequate, and therefore its adequacy either diminishes or becomes realized depending on the environment. It's not that the man inside your head is always inadequate when he gives you certain signals, because a lot of the time, it's through a reaction to mutually realized distress and emotional intensity that people bond and actually become driven to solving the real problem.
I'm not religious anymore, but I realized being able to blame "the devil" for thoughts you don't like is actually really useful in separating the thoughts from your personhood. I used to think it was a cop out but it cam be helpful for people who don't know any other way.
I’ve been struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts and this video made so much sense and made me calm my mind, I have to do a 6 hour ride back home and I didn’t think I would be able to make it but after watching this I feel so much better. 🙏🏼
18:27 I love this little quoted dialogue - this will be so helpful for me! "Does this thought help me live the life I value? ...Well, it doesn't help me take any action... okay, just going to notice that and put it aside!" For whatever reason my anxiousness has increased in this past year, so I'm looking for whatever help I can, thank you for this video!
You're doing God's work here woman.. You literally are helping saving my life I can't describe it better Edit : it's been 2 months since I found those videos and it's helped me tremendously , the video series have a lot of good advices and doing some of these things like naming the thoughts? Gives them less seriousness and you're honestly able to cope so much better. Thank you so much for your work it improved my life
I was in a deep-depression last year, Dec 2020 - Mar 2021 and the cause of this were those intrusive thoughts. I was in 6th grade that time and I really didn't know much about those stuff so I was pretty scared of it and usually crying was normal for me.. Life was like a torture that time, sometimes those thoughts came on my loved ones and I completely broke into tears. No idea bout it, no one to help me, I was ALONE. Finally when I searched this up on youtube, I felt relieved that I WASN'T ALONE with this. And atlast I recovered from my depression and started back with my normal life. To be honest, now I don't even care if those thoughts come back to my mind. I have aldready shredded litres of tears before and now I've become more strong and more mature to handle it! :)
hi! i had the same issue starting in like june 2020 and days were super hard, took until like 4pm every day before i calmed myself enough to be okay, it took until a year later when i figured out i could call it intrusive thoughts, that due to naming it i was able to realise it didnt have to be real just because i thought it. ❤❤❤ im glad we are in a better place now
you are in 6th!? dude you are too young to be bothered by this, this is the time to develop skills and passion, don't waste your time on ruminating intrusive thoughts
I don't have enough money to continue my counselling with the therapist, so this is very helpful for me who diagnosed with social anxiety and PDD, thank you!
Emma, I've been told "You think too much" your vids have shown me how to deal with thoughts... I literally spent my life in a loop believing every thought, constantly arguing with thoughts... these thought pattens literally ran my life into a dead end. Not only is your info and delivery helpful but I trust you because you've made it simple to process and follow and i can tell you care because you're not "selling" me anything. Thank you God for this and thank you Emma.
Therapy has been a big part of my growth in my adult life, but being in a place where I financially cannot afford it right now, your videos are an absolute balm to me! Thank you!
Have you thought about seeing someone in for example Mexico which they charge cheaper like $25 in pesos Mexican rate instead of in the US here it’s about $60-90$ and up
Hey, I just want to thank God I came across this video. In this season, this is exactly what the Lord told me I have to get under control, but just didn’t know how to. I just prayed he lead me. This video popped up on my feed, I mean I haven’t even searched on my phone, period, yet on this topic so I’m like “wow....okay”. As I’m listening, it resonates with EVERYTHING I’m trying to manage. Then to find out in your description how you shared the gospel....man you can make this up. Thank you so much for your channel. Continue your good works, may God continue to bless you guys and pulling ppl out of their bondage! 🙏🏾
Wow!! Same! This was a suggested video out of nowhere, and it came after I was praying to God and crying because of my intrusive thoughts. Amazing to find out she’s Christian too ❤️
This video has been life changing. I’ve been using these techniques for the last couple days and it has dramatically decreased my daily anxiety. Thank you a million!
you have no idea how great it feels to have had my thoughts put into words like this, it’s so comforting to know i’m not alone or crazy and there’s ways i can help myself. my mind feels like i’m constantly fighting different voices in my head on loop to the point i don’t even know who i am. i’m so tired of it and this is such a breath of fresh air. thank you so much
Jordan, the things that you're describing are definitely not inside of your mind but at your ear hole, nothing can be inside of your mind the cavity of your cranium is unaccessible by anything, unless of course you have had a hole drilled in it. What you're describing is caused by organisms that exist without a physical body, they've been deceiving for thousands of years now. Don't try to look this stuff up online you'll find libraries full of lies but to find one fortune cookies worth of text that is truthful is damn near impossible. Our technology is at the level where we can eradicate these beings but all we need is scientific study into their biology. They're not divinity, Divinity is the lie that they use for so long to manipulate humanity by and large. You can make that organism get off of you, that piece of s*** has to obey you because it's your body not its. I would suggest not doing it in your home or by your home, go somewhere far away and then rapidly leave the area once you finally succeed in getting it off of you otherwise it'll be right there already to return. Sounds like you got a particularly nasty one too. Stay strong
me too, i feel like everyone hates me, every time i come home i feel like i embarrased myself, that everyone thinks im weird, that i look bad and the thoughts never go away. i just want to live a normal life but i feel like i cant get a job or have friends because leaving the house is so difficult for me. im glad to see someone else who has these intrusive thoughts
I think we are made to believe what we are not by judging our actions without sparing the scope for self realisations.... So it's mostly very important to know that what matters the most is you and you have to take charge of your own thoughts and actions to lead a life of choice and not chance
Thank you! I went to therapy for months and he kept telling me "be mindful, be mindful." but I could NOT shut down the thoughts without spiraling or having to be distracted from the thought. I needed these tools and I'm about to cry with relief that I finally have the resources that might be able to help.
This was so incredibly helpful. My husband and I are currently separated, mostly because of my negative brain and anxiety. We're working on reconciliation and this is doing wonders! Thank you!
Wow. Your comment hit me in the face. I just found this video at random and immediately saw you comment..I've been separated from my husband since May 11. Same reasons. I was depressed, anxious, angry and not a good wife. We haven't began reconciling bevause he basically ghosted me in August. Praying for a miracle and have made so many changes with Jesus right along side me!
Life is stressful at most times, especially when you get made redundant, go to a funeral, break up from a relationship and worrying over money I usually find doing hobbies, keeping positive and reading does help Writing and doing creative things ( playing an instrument can take your anxiety away for a while ) Get plenty of sleep Avoid alcohol & drugs Just talk to the people who care about you, not the ones who say it is your fault, or are jealous of you We all can't stop thinking, it is so natural to ask questions, or became curious and paranoid at times 🤔
Before you reconcile make sure he isn’t the reason for the negativity and anxiety... I’m going through a divorce right now and I’m realizing im not the problem!! He is! Be careful...YOU need to be happy!! 😉
@@bethmatthews8750 I hope all goes well and you are happier I am a Male, my parents were married twice. It took my Mother years to Get back a decent life after leaving my Dad I believe my Mum was unselfish person, who was bringing up a family, but my Brother was living with my Dad My step - father was more caring. I had to accept him, and be respectful - otherwise, ended up in Foster care.
I started doing Cognitive Defusion a few days ago without realizing and i feel so much lighter and calm!! I usually get really stress and anxious all the time, been battling with depression for a while, but being able to sit down, think about my thoughts notice them, and distance myself from them is SOOOO helpful! This video is really helping me to continue working on that! SO THANK YOU!!
I get so much intrusive thoughts and sometimes it can cause me to do bad on a test, not because I didnt study but I cant stop thinking about that thought. Im so glad im not the only one going through this. I will keep on telling myself there is still something I dont understand about this thought. But I found that my relationship with Jesus makes it all much much better🙏🏻❤
I, a 58yr old woman want to thank you for this video and am so relieved to have come across it. I am sharing it with my adult son and daughter. We all need it. I did the best I could and still strive to be better. This makes so much sense to me.
@@sailorgirl2017 Avoid watching negative social media and shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens by itself from within if done regularly. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I was in an intensive therapy course and one of the best tools was finding videos like these to help teach and relearn. Thank you for making these videos. Now that I am on my own and using the tools these videos have helped a ton!
I don’t suffer with intrusive thoughts very often anymore, but I do overthink a lot. Journaling really helps because it gets all of my thoughts out on paper and allows me to be open with myself about how I’m feeling. Once I’m in a better headspace, I can reread what I wrote when I was anxious and say “That really was just my brain being mean.”
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 182 subs and almost 82 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I have struggled with anxiety and attacks from it my whole life. I had two really awful panic attacks for the first time in my life after being under the influence. I have struggled daily for over 6 months working for and against my minds awful take backs. And must I say, these videos have brought me to tears of comfort more than anything or anyone has these past months, it is insane how much of an influence you have made on me, my mind, and my life. every single time I watch your videos I a have instant relief and finally feel understood and heard.
I have never even thought of separating my thoughts like that and viewing them from outside my brain, I feel like I used to be able to have this skill when I was a kid but then as I grew up I lost it. Thank you for this extremely helpful exercise I'm definitely going to try implementing it into my life on my path to happiness. 🙂 You rock Emma!
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You are so good Emma!
@@rab-cnesbit4181 Hey, You are not alone with hating your life. How do we all have GOOD REASONS to hate our lives. You have to understand that SHE has HER issues too. Its not just your problems that make your life "messy". AND EVEN IF YOU WERE WELL you still may hate your life because of HER unprocessed undiagnosed mental health. She needs some help coping with things too. Relationship counseling together. you have apologized enough it does not help. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THINGS BETTER is what Id ask her
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Great video really informative watching from London UK.
Always remind myself: "This is a thought, it's just a thought. I don't have to believe it. I don't have to act on it, I don't have to fight it. I can let it pass through."
me too! Great technique :)
@@kittyspartan143 You are the awareness that is left when you're not in your head dealing with thoughts. Have you noticed when you're concentrating on something deeply that everything else seems to melt away? Practice returning to your breathing, manually breathe and you'll notice over time that your true nature is when you're present in the moment. In the senses.
As someone who's battled depression for years, I came to realise thoughts, are just thoughts. You don't have to give all of them energy, or act upon.
@@kittyspartan143 yep, pretty much. If you want to listen to the crazy person that is telling you a lot of bs, then that's up to you.
@@Arkylie yep, and not just too, it can break up into a thousand voices sometimes.
@@kittyspartan143 I'll make it simpler then. You play Sports? My example is that when you are concentrating on whatever is in front of you totally (not in your head thinking). THAT, is your true self. Its just awareness of what's around you.
Your thoughts aren't YOU. You make thoughts and have intrusive thoughts. It's just noise really. You can use your thinking mind to strategise and to plan things out, it's not worth much else. Good for visualising things and for creativity too.
Thinking is a tool, use it but don't let it enslave you.
I took a deep breath and started to tear up because the fact I had to look up videos to help me with my overthinking and industrial thoughts is crazy to me. I got emotional because I’ve always been a happy person and now I’ve just been stuck in my head and second guess everything I do , just because I keep replaying something someone said to me. I pray to god I get over this and can be myself again.
Don’t feel bad about looking up ways to help yourself just shows that you’re taking the first step to get better. I hope things get better for you 😊
I used to be like that but now am walking myself out of it exercise is a way to help yours and positive affirmations
Dude you got this! I literally am doing the same thing! We have to do what we have to do to get better emotionally and physically so we can help and be there for everyone around us in the best way. And if on one else does I believe in you!
Same😔 i hope u get better soon💖
You're not alone! We're all here for one reason or another. I feel like looking for information to help ourselves is one of the most self-aware, independent fight for freedom from our nnegative thoughts that play a roll in staying stuck! By researching what we feel is causing us suffering, is a smal step forward!
The fact that 4 million ppl (as of 2/6/23) came to watch this shows that we’re not alone in wanting to better ourselves.
That was a profound revelation ❤ I like how you think ❤
Amen. And counting
5.5 million as of 09May2024
It’s called society programming you posioned foods and dopamine being over stimulated
@@offbeatbassgear real.
The thoughts always take over and I think myself out of happiness multiple times throughout the day. The thoughts will be bad things and it makes me scared and it can lead to an anxiety attack. Especially at night. I’m glad others feel the same way and I don’t feel as alone as I did.
Nope you’re definitely not alone. Focus on breathing or if you need to take a run.
We are NOT alone 😔✨❤️✨❤️✨❤️
Im so glad to see I am not alone also, just started this year so all of it is new to me and has been terrifying me, but it feels nice when you realize its a common thing
Can we stop the thoughts...
😢 ..you not alone.bad times😢
When I was little I had trouble falling asleep because of anxious thoughts. My Mom taught me to picture my thoughts as little strings and would have me physically grab a handful of my string thoughts and place them on the nightstand by my bed. She told me they would be there for me tomorrow if I still wanted them, but since I set them aside I could just focus on sleep. I was only 8 or 9 then, but that was so helpful that I still do it now that I’m in my forties.
Hum... Your Mother thought you that ! Excellent ! I'll bet she didn't have a Phycology degree either.
@@jameslester4474 Indeed she did not!
This made me cry a little. Not sure why.
Thank you so much for this! My 6 year old boy can't sleep do to anxious thoughts 😕 I feel so bad and I have no idea what to say to make it better. I will tell him this today thank you ❤️
@@KarlaLopez-xb2gw I hope it helps him like it helped me! ❤️
It kinda annoys me that we aren't taught anything like this in school. I have really bad anxiety and intrusive thoughts and haven't being taught anything about it which overall made it much more scary and more intense. Thank you for this video.
I agree the school system has not changed at all over the years and dictates what we need to learn when a lot does not even help.
I agree it literally affects my school performance I can’t concentrate cuz I’m always feeling so sleepy and depressed and alwyas over thinking things ,my socially anxiety makes it hard to do simple everyday tasks and I’m tired of it
I agree with your opinion but I donr think they would care but atleast they teacher something important
I totally disagree. It's not the schools responsibility to do this. It's the parents.
@@missjennemeg1 but they could atleast give some actual important lessons
A tip: when I get anxious or have intrusive thoughts I think
"Here comes the intrusive, irrational thoughts"
That makes my brain snap back to reality, even if the thought is still there, I will be less anxious.
So not 100% but it helps with calming myself down.
Great tip, Thanks ⭐
Nope, it's there goes Satan.
@@telecomgear lol I tried to be proper but yeah the reality...
That's a good one thanks mate I'm gonna try this
@@teamae r u suffering from maladaptive day dreaming
I've always considered myself inmune to anxiety. All my life has been filled with so many deaths, obstacles, stress and chaos since I was a child, however I never had anxiety. Ironically, these last months when my life has finally become peaceful and stable, i have found myself more anxious than ever. These videos really helped me put things into perspective and understand what's behind my anxiety. Thank you for this.
This is my biggest enemy, my mind and my thoughts. This thoughts make me worried and feel fear. Feels like I am not my old self anymore. I just cried about it. Thank you for this video. I hope I can get over to this problem of mine.
How did the thoughts start? Have you always had them growing up?
Thanks for sharing. I’m struggling with intrusive thoughts as well. At times my intrusive thought are so intense it ruins my day and mood. But when I talk about it with ppl I trust and love it helps me a lot. I hope you feel better . Be safe!
Me too
You can do if
I’m exactly like this. I’ve started stabilisers cuz I couldn’t deal
Intrusive thoughts are literally ruining my life right now. I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video and I will be watching the full playlist now. Thank you so much for all you're doing 🙏🏻❤
Sending you so much love and healing! ❤️🙏🏼🔥✨🦋
Good luck! You’ve got this 👍🏼
Big Love! I've been there in a very big way and still get stuck from time to time. I love these videos. Xx
Me too with the state of the world . Can’t stop thinking about it all and watching videos that make it worse but I can’t seem to stop
You got this! Sending support and encouragement!
"You don't have to believe everything you think." I LOVE that!
Same
Riight this is golden
It’s hard bc like… it’s YOUR thoughts! YOUR brain!
Yeah it always makes me think that I'm a bad person just because I'm having those thoughts
So tired of it @@kzzlala
We can feel what we feel and move on 💪🏽 Im 38 and im barely being exposed too this
I always tell myself in my mind "Thank you for your opinon, but no thanks."
Haha I like this and it made me chuckle
This is so cool, thanks so much for this comment
yeah that's nice.
this is good one
Good one
I find it helpful to say in my head "oh, I feel anxious, this is what it feels like to be anxious". It kind of stops the emotional experience from taking over the mind.
I read recently...this Anxious thought is actually Excitement..I'm excited...its me gearing up for something positive...😊
@@ritacroall6620 yes putting a good spin on it. I can use this. Thank you rita 👋
@@ritacroall6620 some anxious thoughts are bad intrusive things so not everyone can look at it that way sadly. You can't be excited for something bad to happen
@@silversurfermusicco5263 You're very welcome.
I love what you say.
The best advice I ever read is *"no amount of guilt can erase the past" and "no amount of anxiety will change the future"
*. Most things that are intrusive are either anxiety or guilt. The fact you have those feelings means you know about those past issues ( and don't repeat them ) and upcoming problems ( if you fear loosing someone you know the person is important to you). No matter how often you repeat those thoughts it won't change anything all you can do is act (leave past behind) but in a thoughtfull way (focus your future projections on current situations rather than on speculative fears)
@CookieD456 any advice?
very true - i am fixated on a “regret” in the past that i believe will hugely affect my future (to the point that i might be seriously ill some day…) but i the most difficult thing is not being able to predict when or will i ever be sick. its very hard
@CookieD456 how did you succeed in this? I’ve been devastated by job and home loss, and overwhelmed trying to deal with the emotions and thoughts around this.
I love you
So many people everywhere in search for true inner peace and joy that will last for eternity, but it can only be found in Jesus Christ. Jesus loves you more than you could ever know and He wants to give you this peace. I am sharing my best friend's story with you in hopes that you will come to know Jesus Christ and find real peace and comfort in your soul. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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“We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes - understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”some of us we see failing as failure. Have a delightful day sharing some positivity to your side
Well said!!!!!
Indeed, that's my problem with myself.
How 'bout we just believe that we won't always make the right decisions?
I really loved this video. But when you talk about living up to our values, what do I do if I feel that I have some values that I don't how I "bought" them. For example, some of us might feel that beauty is something very important, even when we know that other things are more important. But we get stucked in that value irrationally because even when we practice cognitive defusion there's something stronger than our thoughts.
@Bob Nevels But sometimes it can be frustrating, because we don't want to live to that values, it seems like it's something that don't belong to you but it's inside of you. I think schema therapy helps to identify these things that you don't want to be a part of you and come from your child experiences.
Something that helped keep intrusive thoughts away was having some blocking thoughts in mind like some phrase like "stop thinking of some garbage", "this is not my concern" etc. It prevents engaging the negative thoughts , bad memories, prevents replying to it , analyzing it. The goal of a blocking thought should be to not give any value to a negative thought and discard it. Although these blocking thoughts only work if your brain is healthy, if you're depressed and have low serotonin or an overactive amygdala, the negative thoughts are gonna be more frequent and stronger. so fix your brain chemicals first with some omega 3 fish oil, 5htp, sunlight , exercise , going outside everyday, meditation, green tea etc. After your brain is normal again, using some blocking thoughts to block out negative thoughts worked great
I wish schools starting from elementary would have a psychology subject so the kids can understand their emotions a little bit and that they’re not suffering alone
Agreed
It would make zero difference whatsoever.
@@goodyeoman4534 whatever you say mr. negative. how do you know that for sure?
@@yufi305 You're the one name-calling. A classic sign of a negative, insecure mind.
It's not the Schools responsibility to raise a well adjusted child... That's the job of the Parents !
I love this. My anxiety and OCD has been killing me for years but now I just say "nah, I don't buy this thought" and it works. I'm genuinely feeling better and lighter. Thank you so much.
Thanks for sharing. I can definitely relate to what you're saying/feeling. I can also see myself saying "Pass" or even "That's a hard pass, thank you!"
I try that but it just comes back 10min later..
@@lotus_flower2000 Persistence can be key, sometimes, especially if you've been giving in to thoughts a lot, it'll take some time for your brain to readjust and stop feeding you so many thoughts. Everyone's unique, so keep it up !
@@Camustang yeah..I have a series of blocks set up to keep it away (mine is research based) which helps. Bit I can always find my way around them :(
@@lotus_flower2000 then you do it again, and again, and again. A difference in behavior (like telling yourself the things this woman explains) takes months before you master it. Then slowly those 10 min will turn to 20, then 30 etc. Until its only a few times a day!
"You don't have to believe everything you think." Such a "simple" phrase and yet I'd never heard it and how powerful it is!! Thank you for this video. I'm glad TH-cam suggested it ;)
I noticed your title of your TH-cam profile. Have you ever considered that the beings that you are calling spirits are actually organisms that are not what they are presenting themselves to you or anyone else as? That the idea of spirit in all of the different varieties thereof are linked into the LIE of divinity? That it's time instead to approach such topics without the folly of Faith but with the truth of scientific method, and our tech is at the level that we can now accomplish such? The end result of such thing would be of course to kill an eradicate these organisms that exist without a physical biology. Just putting the hypothetical out there man. I would request that you would please not spread doctrines of spirits, there are endless libraries full of lies about such topics but to find a fortune cookies worth of text of Truth is very difficult. Thank you
ur comment has helped me so much. it is indeed a “simple” yet powerful phrase, thank you 🥹
"You can have thoughts without buying them." Is such a powerful line.
really? I actually don't get it. like its purely common sense that its my own thoughts about myself that make me feel so negatively about my ability to socialize for example. I didn't need this video to tell me that. but acknowledging that fact, and that they are just thoughts still does nothing to change the fact that I genuinely believe they are true.
@@Trash0000 it's like this unwritten rule you have, I suppose. Our mind goes through a million thoughts everyday. You as the thinker have the power to choose your reaction to your thoughts. Once you accept the fact that thoughts are just thoughts, it will be a lot easier for you. You don't have to believe or them judge them. Just let it pass through.
Yes. This resonates with me. I can 'shop' and idea that comes across my mind, or that I've started obsessing over. I may even "put it in my cart" - but I don't have to commit and BUY it.
I still hold the choice.
1- notice the thoughts: say i noticed that i am having this though...
2- name the thought: for example if u have the thought that you are awkward give it a name like bob thought. thank your mind and say that's a thought just because i am think it doesn't mean it's true or i have to act on it or believe it .
3- sing and silly voices : say the thoughts loudly by a weird voices .
4- put your thought onto an object : carry a rock or sticks or anything as a way to represent a thought and when you no longer need that thought let go of that object.
ask yourself is this thought helpful for me ? dose it help me to live the life i value ? if not let that thought be there or pass and look around for a thought that is more helpful to you.
lots of thought gonna pop up in your head through out the day average people have intrusive thought all the day .it's okay to have a thought it doesn't say anything about you but if you gonna buy this thought: believe it or act on it make that a conscious choice.
thank you ❤❤
Thank you
I love this, thank you 😊
Wow thanks
Thank you 😊
One thing that helps me, is laughing at every thought…that way no one thought can send me spiraling downward because all my thoughts i think are funny….easier to not buy any of them right away.
Have the thought.
Acknowledge its presence.
"I am not my thoughts"
And let it go on by.
Thank it for the self-awareness.
With me, I feel like If I do something while I'm having bad thoughts, it cements the ideas into reality like some ritual. Then I have to stop and repeat the action. It could be opening a door, walking, doing a task or selecting an item. I feel like I'm losing it. I hate life. I am scared to death of how things are going. I feel so alone. I'm worried I soon will actually be alone. Like I look around an have no friends anymore. No one wants to he around me. Certain family members dont even like to talk to me, like my own mom. If I didnt have a dog to take care of I think I would have stopped all of this on my own terms about 6 years ago. I'm sick of it all. I'm sick if talking to my self. In sick of being alone. I'm sick of seeing others with actually lives or a relationship, and I feel totally alone. I'm worried in going to go mental the next time I have real stress in my life like a significant family member dying. I'll go nuts and lose my self to the streets. All I do is sleep to get away from it all. And of course at 3am, I wake up so depressed and sad and cant sleep anymore till it's time for work. I go it beat, miserable, and hating my self. Then the day has it's way with me, and by the time its time to go home, I feel so much worse. Then I OCD out for 2 hours in the car and another 2 hours getting undressed. I hate life. I hate all of this. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm coming to an end. And really, who cares?
@@greenghostof609 i'm so sorry you're going through all of this. may God give you peace and so much love! i go through that mental cycle too, i thought i was the only one. when i'm doing something while i have a bad thought, it's as if i'm making the ideas become real and i have to repeat the task again. it's such a horrible cycle, and i'm actually kind of relieved that i'm not alone. until now, i actually thought i was a bad person until i read this. i'm so sorry that you feel so alone. i don't have many friends and very little family. if it weren't for Jesus, i know i'd be losing my mind. maybe He sent me to you because He knows we're a lot alike, and need each other to say the truth that we're not alone. He sees you and He is with you. He wants you to go to Him and He will help you. He won't leave you alone. Matthew 11:28 ❤ God bless you, Green Ghost. thank you for not letting me be the only one who feels like this.
EXAMINE its goddamn SOURCE in your BELIEFS.
Hope your doing better. Sending 💕
Oh my f***ing goodness thank you for this suggestion it actually calmed me down
Holy Cow. Point # 2. 2 years ago, I had been stuck in the past for years, constantly replaying the same tape over and over and over. I would go over every mistake I had ever made, every regret, every embarrassing event, and think about them every waking moment. It was completely debilitating.
Then one day after reading a certain book, I decided to stop thinking thoughts from the past but found it almost impossible. And then I had the idea to separate myself from the person who was thinking those thoughts. I named him "leppy" From that day on, every time one of those thoughts popped up, I would say something like "Shut up leppy" or even kick him.
One day after a few months of doing this consistently, I suddenly noticed that I had gone a whole day without thinking a single negative thought about my past. I literally broke down and cried. I couldn't believe it. I was finally free. It's the first thing I had ever tried that worked and here I am 2 years later, completely free of those thoughts.
Nice!
How about before bed do you say still say that
Great job, it's very good feeling of psychological freedom when you don't have any annoying thoughts..I have the same annoying thought again and again almost 5 days and it's just horrible but I will not surrender I will break this thought..
Edit : Finally heh I broke that annoying though and annoying thoughts stopped. I don't think about them anymore, and that's just wonderful feeling. Now whenever some annoying thoughts are beginning I break them at once and they stop.
Hmm, youve seemed to use the same strategy as me. I also give my intrusive thoughts a persona and beat the living sh*t out of them. But the thing is, when i recognise intrusive thoughts, its turned from just anxiety to anger. When my intrusive thoughts i label as a character get kicked, they just smirk or something and it makes me pretty mad. Any thing that you were doing that i might have missed?
@@winstonchurchill9217 If you consciously and continuously challenge that thought.... I promise, one day you'll stop and realize that it hasn't popped up in a few days and you didn't even notice. FREEDOM!!
It's so nice to see that I am not the only one out there dealing with this stuff, and there are people who have studied it and came up with tools for us to use. It's really nice
I know right, even though I wouldn’t wish that to anyone, it’s a relief knowing there are people who have just the same exact thoughts and struggles, as you
" I can't control how others feel, but I value being Kind and Assertive"
On repeat ❤️
"I can't control how others feel. I value being kind and assertive" 👏
Just a reminder: you will have days where this works, and days where it may not work, but DONT GIVE UP!❤️
I’ve been struggling with intense anxiety for about a year and a half now and I’m just now starting to feel better. I still have days of overthinking, but I have more moments of peace and presence than I did before. Don’t give up on yourself!!!
Thank you for pointing that out. Consistency is key and progress isn't always noticable. It's more like learning how to play an instrument than it is solving a puzzle
Natali, do the intrusive thoughts come all the time at random or is it situational?
this is so great to hear - I’ve been struggling with physical anxiety for a year now (before it was bad social anxiety, so my minds just switched to another anxiety) and sometimes when my anxiety gets worse when I think I’m getting better I always think I’m at square one and get really depressed. I should recognise that I’m not alone and that I am safe outside of the house!! ❤️
@@Gypsygirl9 I think for each person it can be different.
I noticed when I was younger it was all over the place like disorganized
Present day I have been able to work thru my anxiety wether it is with prayer, meditation, box breathing, doing things to keep me occupied.
Hope this helps…
Thank you, I have been having serious anxiety that I had a panic attack that took me to the ER last year and the intensity of the anxiety has not really subsided but this reminder that sometimes the managing mechanisms may not work every time, thank you
I suffered severe depression 18 years ago as a teenage, got addicted to cigarettes. Spent my whole life fighting Cigarettes addiction. I was actually diagnosed with cptsd and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source🙏🏻
YES very sure of benmycologys I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I left my first job a year ago because of terrible depression and anxiety. Then stayed detached from everything since then. I have not left my house and have not reached out to my friends for almost 6 months. Tomorrow is my first day at my new job. I hope I can get through this. Thank you for this video.
Good luck, man. You got this
You can do this! You are brave!
I’m grateful to know I’m not the only person who struggled like this, I’m struggling with the idea of leaving my house and being seen so having a job feels so scary but somehow it keeps my mind calm by giving me new (work related) things to worry about. I know this is scary and hard but this is the first big step towards your happiness, your anxieties and understood but they don’t define you. U got this! have a good day at work
How did it go?
Hey, a month has gone by… hope you’re doing okie stranger!
My thoughts would trap me into thinking them over and over again. I felt so weak. I also know I'm strong and I CAN overcome this. I have a wife that loves me for me and she knows my struggle as of lately and she's the world to me. I no longer have to live in this fear. I have every reason to be happy and not let these intrusive thoughts determine my happiness. My heart and soul knows I love myself for being strong enough to overcome my addictions. Im stronger than ever now and I will not choose to be weak. I'll be ok. Amen.
Amen thank GOD🙏🏾❤️
How are Uu doing now ? With your overthinking and being in your head and second guessing is it better or worse v
Trust in god in it will be better🙏🏾😇
@@patdavis1027 Time heals all. I feel healed. Thank you for asking.
@@patdavis1027wondering the same
When I stand back from my thoughts and get a glimpse at them without reacting (which is uncomfortable for me at the moment), I realize they have me by the strings, delegating my emotions, feelings and actions. The best part of this realization..... I am now able to observe this process and its influence, instead of being deep in it, clueless, and most importantly, being reactive instead of responding appropriately.
Baby steps make huge changes. Isn’t it a trip observing those thoughts, kinda like our higher self watching without reacting while we’re acting a fool. Best to you, blessings 🌼🐝
I’ve dealt with intrusive thoughts so much, yet never knew it until the very worst ones in my life happened very recently. Prayer and strengthening my faith in Christ has been so helpful for eliminating them.
I actually recovered from both of these things in a very real way. It doesn't happen overnight, but retraining your brain to think positively, reflecting on your entire life, realizing that YOU are not your illness, it doesn't control you. It took like 3, 4 months to notice a REAL difference but change can and does happen. Yeah, I still have my rough times, but talking through them with someone you trust, writing out your thoughts, whatever your coping skills are makes it easier. Positive thinking is the key focus! Let the intrusive thoughts KNOW they can't win!
Thank u. Im struggling with my brain controlling me and not the other way around
@@waden404 just remember that progress isn't consistent and it feels weird and even scary when your brain starts to heal cause you won't believe or trust the thoughts at first. Ask people to tell you the positive traits you have and repeat them to yourself like a mantra. Write them down as you're being told them and read them every day out loud using "I am" statements. Ask them to give you as many as they can think of. I asked for 5 from 3 different people. That put a couple of them in a tough spot because they felt put on the spot, but they tried and eventually I came up with my own list. My boyfriend knows me best and helped me the most. He's the one who's seen and accepted the real me. It's helped tremendously.
THANK U Amanda. Much appreciated
@Wade N you are more than welcome darlin. If you need anything further, like you're stuck and want to give up, remember not to, that's part of the process. If you need further help ever, just tag me. Best of luck to you. ❤️❤️❤️
Buddhism: focus on the present (breathe), let intrusive thoughts enter the thought stream, pay minimal attention to them while returning to the breath..... I've been doing this. It's hard as hell but it gets easier and seems to work.
Every single technique and everything they are talking about have roots in some variation of Buddhism. I've been to numerous therapists, listened to loads of videos, read ton of books to connect the dots since I've been struggling with what is referred to as "anxiety" for almost two decades. Trying to say you're on spot with the comment. Recommendation from my heart: listen to Allan Watts. Start with shorter videos. Wish you all the best! Things are much simpler than they seem ♥️
Thanks for the tip 👍
@That one Guy you better preach 👏 🙌 🙏 prayer works wonders for me
The things I've seen in life has caused post traumatic stress (unknown if it's the disorder, seemingly just a regular case) to occur, doing exactly this helps significantly.
Heads up, I'll be talking about something serious here, be extremely careful where on the internet you find yourself at, there are things you think only occur on the deep web but fact is people show these macabre things on the surface web and net as means to attack people they personally dislike.
In short people with serious mental health issues dwell on these thoughts and take it out on people they believe deserve it (but actually don't), including inducing epileptic seizures in a person and worse. It's quiet sad.
Christianity you mean.
“I’m noticing I’m having the thought that…” that practice just took away my anxiety around a thought I had. The thought lost its power. As someone who has always struggling with anxiety.. from the bottom of my heart Thank you!!!
this is one of the first videos i watched when i was at my lowest dealing with existential dread,hopelessness, i lost a dear friend which is where it all really started and watching this video helped me so much to make peace with my intrusive thoughts and dealing with my anxiety. thank you so much for this and i hope you all are getting better everyday
#1 8:19 cognitive defusion
#2 10:17 name your thoughts
10:30 » bully bob
11:29 » thankyou mind
#3 11:53 singing + silly voices
12:31 » jumbled words
#4 13:10 put thoughts onto objects
13:26 » write and burn
14:00 » throw the rock
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Funny: When I find myself starting to think a 'catastrophizing' thought - I catch myself and in my mind I sing 'Stop In The Name of Love'' (just that one line of the song). It's a good technique - I'm being gentle with myself & not taking the negative thought seriously, as well as applying a little bit of mind discipline.
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I love that idea! It also gets your mind focused on LOVE, which is the answer to all things and the frequency that brings HEALTH to our bodies and minds! Thanks for the great suggestion!
Great idea!
I love that!! Watching this made me think of a song I heard on the show 'Steve Universe,' one of my niece's favorite cartoons. The song is called "Here Comes a Thought," and it's basically all about using cognitive defusion and being present. (And it's here on TH-cam!)
Love this
I literally cried after practicing it “the dont buy the thought” it gives me the real sense of the world for the first time. i cant believe i was slave on my own thought believing that it was real. Now i feel way better. Now I believe that im not a bad person at all. I was just living, dealing,surviving, and fighting with my own thought. Now there is a closure to it. Thank you maam. I wish i can give you a hug for helping me. I love you i love you!
I’m so glad this helped you this much 💗
Glad to see 5.7 million of us are here🥲
02:32 What is Cognitive Fusion?
03:11 Story to Illustrate Cognitive
11:52 Using Singing and Silly Voices
14:33 Intrusive Thoughts
17:13 The Skill of Diffusion
19:07 How to Process your Emotions
Yessss @Leni. I wanted to signpost someone to the techniques, you’ve helped me enormously!
Proof purgatory exists: th-cam.com/video/B8x_6RTp3DU/w-d-xo.html
Proof God exists: th-cam.com/video/QaY5Vv-bvl4/w-d-xo.html
Prayer only comes true it it’s God’s will: th-cam.com/video/JbUGGlnrNnw/w-d-xo.html
@@sw8190 prayer only comes true if it’s God’s will: th-cam.com/video/JbUGGlnrNnw/w-d-xo.html
I think the biggest lesson I've learnt through the years with my anxiety and intrusive thoughts, is exactly what you mentioned: "Just because I'm thinking it, doesn't mean it's true." Reminding myself of this, helps to take the intensity of the anxiety surrounding the thought down by a few notches, and it ends up losing its potency.
I don’t know who you are but you literally saved my life. I have been experiencing Anxiety attacks lately. I wasn’t scared of anything specific but it just started one night I was alone in the house everyone was sleeping and all of a sudden I had this feeling that I’m in danger. I later learned from you I was catastrophizing. And I had this pit in my stomach weakness in my hands and legs. Shortness of breathing and I literally was about to call 911. I woke up my wife and told her what I’m experiencing but nothing was calming me down. I went on a walk outside I tried pushing away the thoughts but nothing helped. I finally just fell asleep close to the morning but then when I woke up those feelings were back again. Now I hated those feelings and I was more scared of those dreadful feelings which in turn kept bringing back those feelings and it was a crazy vicious cycle which wasn’t ending. I decided I needed to get help on TH-cam and Thank G-D I found your channel. You have changed my life and saved my life. I have learned that for years I have been anxious and always thinking out worst case scenario which caused my mind to always be looking for fake threats. I learned to change my glasses of bad thinking and put on the glasses of positive thinking and always thinking bast case scenario and I can say I have never felt so good in my life. All my anxiety is gone and this is all in one day. My quality of life has never been so good. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s life has changed thanks to you. I can’t thank you enough. Keep up your great service to the world you are saving lives daily.
Amen Baruch Hashem
I’m going though the same since I was diagnosed with gallstones, cyst in my liver and going through menopause with horrible cycles. I giggle my symptoms and assume I have a terminal illness. Hopefully tomorrow after my Dr appt I will feel more at ease. I had anxiety last week in the morning and went for a walk and felt a bit better but these feelings come and go. Never felt this way since I’ve always been healthy and since I’m having these medical issues, I feel the worse to the point that I’ve lost my appetite.
"Self help for your nerves" a book by Dr Claire Weeks (an Australian Doctor)is the best for anxiety and depression and panic attacks, phobias, OCD. Dr weeks is the pioneer for modern day psychology. U will see yourself described in this book over and over again. It has been a lifesaver for millions around the world.
As you got your explanation in this
Video u understood what was happening to you and were cured..
Good luck and stay well...
This video changed the entirety of my day and stopped a problem that I might have started if I had not watched it. Thank you so much.
I’ve been having these intrusive thoughts for a week now. I feel like I’ve been going crazy. But the constant reassurance either from others and yourself and realizing they are just thoughts help a long way. They are distracting for sure but your body and mind is yours to control. Dont let your thoughts say otherwise ✊🏻
EDIT: HEY EVERYONE, it's been a while. The thoughts are pretty much gone by this point and I've been doing better. It really helps just keep yourself distracted and reminding yourself of the people around you. Wish you guys the best ❤️
Mine just started about a week and a half ago. It made me break down everyday. Trying to fight it tho💝
You will get better and better with practice! You got this!
Mine started a week ago too. I get so anxious thinking about them
I've been having horrible thoughts because of "crime videos that I watched over on TH-cam and tiktok and been feeling horrible these past few weeks and it's about to be a month but I'm seeing a therapist February 6th and hopefully thier guidance can help my mental health.
I had them since last year but I’m learning how to fight these thoughts
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master"
I believe being aware of your thoughts and that they're just thoughts is better than trying to separate yourself from them. You can practice awareness through meditation. I've found that 90+% of my thoughts are useless and/or negative with no/little basis in reality. Still some thoughts are more difficult to dismiss than others.
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One of my favorite affirmations from Louise Hay is "its only a thought, and a thought can be changed." Thank you for these videos!
Yees🙌🏻
I have been dealing with anxiety for almost a year now. I left my stressful 9-5 job, just got married, moved into my new home with my wife… focusing on my new real estate career - slowly but surely I’m feeling like myself again, I manage to get through my anxiety hearing worship music or exercising/hobbies! These videos have gotten me through difficult times throughout this journey we are all dealing with, take it day by day… make your mental health a priority and remember, God is not done with you yet! 🙏🏻
Amen!!! Thank you for this share. ❤❤❤🙏🏾
This is so helpful! One thing I struggled with in CBT is that it seems to ask me to question the validity of my thoughts (e.g. my thought will be something negative and I'll try to challenge it - but I usually fail!), whereas this technique enables me to see that the thoughts themselves are not so important in the first place. In other words, there's no need to challenge it, because I can simply let it go. It doesn't even matter if the thought is true or not - what matters is that this thought is distracting me from living life and being present and kind to people.
Yes! I also struggle with logic because I know the thought isn't true, but it feels true. Feelings don't follow logic.
Spot on! :) thoughts are just a string of words which you literally dont need to buy i to if you chose not to. Can be absolutely any thought and you can chose to engage or disengage
@@hannahheartsedward absolutely, feelings are not facts or indicators of the truth x
Good to know thanks
What of your persistent thought is "I'm not living life and being present"?
"you are a person that experiences thoughts and emotions, your thoughts and emotions are experiences"
really liked this one
This is a really helpful tool. After over a decade of therapy I've never heard of cognitive defusion! Excited to have stumbled across this video.
Kelly, I hope that you're feeling all right, not to take this in a weird direction but have you ever considered the hypothetical idea that there is nothing wrong with you biologically or physiologically, that instead these problems you've been having are caused by organisms that somehow exist without a physical body and that are invading yours in order to cause these symptoms? That mankind with our technology is at the level where we can manufacture means to destroy such organisms? That these organisms have been deceiving and harming humanity for thousands of years now and it is time that we put an end to it. If such organism existed it would be possible to make it get off of you but I would not do it in your home. Stay strong Kelly
So many people everywhere in search for true inner peace and joy that will last for eternity, but it can only be found in Jesus Christ. Jesus loves you more than you could ever know and He wants to give you this peace. I am sharing my best friend's story with you in hopes that you will come to know Jesus Christ and find real peace and comfort in your soul. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Me neither
this helped me so much. i haven't had a depressive episode in nearly a year but i recently made the decision i want to combat my mental health consciously on my own without medications. it's a lot more difficult but seeing how strong i've grown against my mental illness helps way more for me personally than tuning it out through meds. i had been finding ways to battle my thoughts in a softer way rather than detaching from them. but after detaching just now it's almost like magic how capable i feel to take on the day. thank you :)
This lady has a calming voice and was easy to watch. Not boring at all. 🙂 Also this was helpful. Thanks for this. ♡
Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts has been a life changing book for me, combined with Emma's videos!
This was great, its crazy how much I let my mind over think and take over every thing I do. This really helps, thank you.
I just want to thank you for your advice as I thought I was going INSANE but your video not only helped me stop spinning and obsessing to the point of shutting down and getting a headache to being my happy self again. Fuck intrusive thoughts and ruminating!
I want to be a good person, I really do, but I can’t relate with anyone’s issues, which just frustrates me when I don’t know how to help them. But this video exists. And so I will learn these skills for myself and those who need them!
I love this video! As someone who has been struggling with overthinking, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts for so many years, this is a nice reminder that I have control over my own mind, it doesn't have control over me.
Hey Riley, I hope you're doing all right. I want to present you with a hypothetical, that these things described in this video are not a product of your mind, biology, body chemistry, or physiology in any way, but rather a manufactured by organisms, who have no physical body and are comprised purely of energy. They're doing this to harm you as they all do to All humans that they can. Mankind's at the technological point where we can manufacture weapons to kill these beings. When you say "my mind is not in control of me but I am in control of it", it becomes clear that you believe that these are your thoughts. If you willfully cease active cognition through inner dialogue than you should experience what one would call "inner quiet", , as in you shouldn't experience thoughts. Your mind is completely under your control, and in fact is you. But these deceptions are actually at your ear, not in your mind. They can't be in your mind because your mind is a sealed thing inside of your skull cavity, there's no physical way to access your brain unless a surgeon was to Port a hole in your skull. The only place you can receive audio input is at the ear, which is where the deception of this variety takes place. If you want to see evidences of these organisms then you can see it right here on TH-cam if you look up spiritual activity such as in the Pentecostal Church. There is no such thing as a"spirit", that li e is one that is tied into a grander lie referred to as divinity. There is no divinity. These organisms have been deceiving and causing harm to humanity for thousands of years and it is time that they get eradicated. You can make this thing get off of you, but I would not do so in your home as it'll just malinger there and attempt to return, at least more than likely. Make intelligent choices when it comes to the topic of these organisms and make it get off of you somewhere far away from your home. And the statement you typed,"I have controll over my mind", is true. Keep in mind that your mind is you, and anything that seems like it's trying to have control over you, is not you. All humans have free will, that is a law as sure as gravity. No one can remove your free will. What these things try to do is lie and deceive you in your thoughts, to make you believe that they are you. A big one here you can see it is lgbtq, these people are totally confused in their thoughts about who they are and what their identity is both sexually and in gender. Such thoughts didn't come naturally to them, they came via these organism's deceptions. It's not uncommon or even completely unknown by humanity. You can find libraries full of lies about these organisms but to find a fortune cookie's worth of text of truth is at the very least difficult. We are at the tech level to kill them now. Stay strong Riley.
It makes me feel good to not run away from my overthinking and anxiety and finding these videos as tools. Even if they all don’t work, I feel good that I’m being productive in trying things to get rid of this way of life.
Also, I like to practice mindfulness, lay down, close my eyes, and imagine my thoughts as clouds floating by. No judgement; I just notice them until more appear.
I will definitely watch this. I've been an overthinker my whole life and I'm tired. I'm only 37 and I can't believe how deep the problem is. I still remember things from when I was a 10 year old girl who was reprimanded for having been loud at the school library. Or when I was a teenager and I had an argument with a classmate on a school trip about sth really stupid. Because I keep ruminating. Or quite recently I forgot to pay my rent in time (it had never happened before) and when I finally did pay I have been thinking about it for a week now. And I know how silly it is. Things happen all the time. I'm trying to notice the thoughts and let them go but they seem to be embedded in my psyche. It's mentally very tiring because it causes me to be quite absent-minded.
I remember things like that ..but the thing is that I'm not at fault..most of the time others are..thoughts come n go..i have to say fuk it..whenever such a thought comes..it doesn't serve me in anyway...if i keep thinking it..it just proves that others are right..so i just have to say to myself.. i don't care a shit
I have been talking about just the thoughts..not intrusive
have you tried focusing this overthinking in a productive way instead of trying to put a lid on it? something that helped with my intrusive thoughts by redirecting them towards creativity. if I'm busy with a project that i love, I'm most likely going to be absent minded thinking about what i can do to make it better instead of what i said yesterday. the negative part goes away with time when it's something worth it to you... now that i only do my projects for fun i don't have to overthink what people might think about it, so it's more likely to make me happy and build a more confident image in myself. better than trying to milk money out of art and love for status for sure. it might be wishful thinking of mine but taming this "power" we have in a productive way at least comforts me and gives me hope that it isn't just a curse.
@@StarmenRock Hi, thanks. I don't think i have. I've been too absorbed with ruminating, but I have seen the video 3x now and I will keep coming back to it cause although it sounds so simple it's not and I need to remind myself about the techniques. Thanks
Omg this is me right now and i can’t turn it off and its making me hopeless
My favorite quote is "Don't believe a thought you think." I love how mindfulness/Buddhism-infused your advice is! Detachment from our thoughts is everything. I also appreciate your metaphors like our thoughts are like glasses - we can take them off! :)
Ditto:)
What a friendly therapist. This course sounds amazing and very doable.
I hope you know that you are deeply appreciated and help alot of people, including myself to get through hard times. I get so wind up in my thoughts and body reactions to it, sometimes it feels like a never ending loop with the clear direction to being crazy but you manage to make me feel safe and under control. I am so overwhelmingly grateful for you and what you are doing. I wish you all the best.
My intrusive thoughts have been really awful lately and disrupting my life so finding this video was really helpful ❤
How God wants us to dress and look outwardly: th-cam.com/video/Zfy5vGMygtc/w-d-xo.html
Hope you find peace in your life Kevin, I have disrupting thoughts that greatly build arms and legs thinking the absolute worst scenario ,had this for many years , horrible horrible thing mental illness. ..
@@skh5960 I am so sorry to hear that, mental illness really sucks. Since making my original comment, I have received anxiety medication which will hopefully help combined with the information in this video
@@annafranc8081 God bless, friend, I hope you are well.
@@kevinsundelin8639 I am glad things are working out for you Kevin, I am trying to stay strong for the sake of my two sons , God forbid I have not passed this terrible affliction on them as well , will take your advice and try medication , God Bless You
The number of times I’ve heard or read “just notice the thought and let it go” and couldn’t wrap my head around how to do it… thank you making it so clear!
Also important to remember that an anxious or panicked reaction to a thought quickly stimulates the amygdala which causes tense emotion (i.e. fight or flight). Thoughts are just thoughts -not feelings, or impulses. The more we fight them, the more entangled we become in the thought(s).
But some thoughts come from certain feelings we are having over a situation. Example: say you talk to your sister a few times a week and suddenly she doesn't call or answer your calls/text for over a week...if that were me, I would panic and start replaying the last interaction we had and wondering maybe I said somethibg to piss her off, why is she acting weird, etc. Wouldn't that beba legit concern though?
Thanks!
I want to say : Thank you.
This one video has completely change my daily life. I’m not exaggerating. I suffer from ptsd snd have been in many types of therapy over many years. They help me with EMDR and CBT, but I’ve never been to a provider who taught me usable skills to help my ptsd symptoms - for me negative thinking is very strong.
So thank you!!!
I am relieved to know that naming my anxiety Tim isn’t a bad thing lol
It’s just so much easier to think of my anxiety as a silly little man desperately trying to help me, but always slamming the panic button instead of using any other controls at his disposal.
What I've come to find is that these things only need a little tweaking depending on the situation rather than always letting them run the default program. Most of the time, your brain aims to make your distress visible so that others can rush to assist you and you can solve the problem together. The assistence of others, however, counts on you not being in control of the distress. The problem here isn't that your brain makes you suffer when there's no need to, it's that people don't understand you are distressed for valid reasons unless there's physical manifestations of it. You can say "brain, stfu, there's no need for that" when it makes you gasp for air or even as little as making you feel discomfort, but then your brain will go all "what do you mean there's no need? I'm making you feel this way so you can cry out. This can't continue, there's a problem that needs attention and nobody is willing to acknowledge it, which means there's a need for more and more visibility if nobody is going to fix it". To your brain, you are the silly little person in the situation.
There's a lot more that comes into play subconsciously, but the root of all behavioral issues is communication. If you're not getting back communication that's an appropriate response to what you're feeling and noticing, your brain will try to communicate it to and through you in other ways that are easier to read. The little man is not silly, he's an intelligent, emotional creature trying to navigate a world of silly humans that are bad at being intelligent, emotional creatures. Instead of letting him keep doing what he knows in hopes that someone is capable of reading it, you should work with him and accept that there's going to be couterproductive outwards opposition to what should be adequate, and therefore its adequacy either diminishes or becomes realized depending on the environment. It's not that the man inside your head is always inadequate when he gives you certain signals, because a lot of the time, it's through a reaction to mutually realized distress and emotional intensity that people bond and actually become driven to solving the real problem.
I'm not religious anymore, but I realized being able to blame "the devil" for thoughts you don't like is actually really useful in separating the thoughts from your personhood. I used to think it was a cop out but it cam be helpful for people who don't know any other way.
I’ve been struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts and this video made so much sense and made me calm my mind, I have to do a 6 hour ride back home and I didn’t think I would be able to make it but after watching this I feel so much better. 🙏🏼
18:27 I love this little quoted dialogue - this will be so helpful for me! "Does this thought help me live the life I value? ...Well, it doesn't help me take any action... okay, just going to notice that and put it aside!"
For whatever reason my anxiousness has increased in this past year, so I'm looking for whatever help I can, thank you for this video!
So thankful for therapists like you, very refreshing in this climate full of "8 signs your partner is narcissist"
Ikr, “Sign #1, if you watch “8 signs your partner is a narcissist” videos constantly, YOU MAY BE A NARCISSIST”.
You're doing God's work here woman.. You literally are helping saving my life I can't describe it better
Edit : it's been 2 months since I found those videos and it's helped me tremendously , the video series have a lot of good advices and doing some of these things like naming the thoughts? Gives them less seriousness and you're honestly able to cope so much better.
Thank you so much for your work it improved my life
I was in a deep-depression last year, Dec 2020 - Mar 2021 and the cause of this were those intrusive thoughts. I was in 6th grade that time and I really didn't know much about those stuff so I was pretty scared of it and usually crying was normal for me.. Life was like a torture that time, sometimes those thoughts came on my loved ones and I completely broke into tears. No idea bout it, no one to help me, I was ALONE. Finally when I searched this up on youtube, I felt relieved that I WASN'T ALONE with this. And atlast I recovered from my depression and started back with my normal life. To be honest, now I don't even care if those thoughts come back to my mind. I have aldready shredded litres of tears before and now I've become more strong and more mature to handle it! :)
Happy for u ❤️
Great! ❤️❤️
This is literally same for me🙁
hi! i had the same issue starting in like june 2020 and days were super hard, took until like 4pm every day before i calmed myself enough to be okay, it took until a year later when i figured out i could call it intrusive thoughts, that due to naming it i was able to realise it didnt have to be real just because i thought it. ❤❤❤ im glad we are in a better place now
you are in 6th!? dude you are too young to be bothered by this, this is the time to develop skills and passion, don't waste your time on ruminating intrusive thoughts
I don't have enough money to continue my counselling with the therapist, so this is very helpful for me who diagnosed with social anxiety and PDD, thank you!
Emma, I've been told "You think too much" your vids have shown me how to deal with thoughts... I literally spent my life in a loop believing every thought, constantly arguing with thoughts... these thought pattens literally ran my life into a dead end. Not only is your info and delivery helpful but I trust you because you've made it simple to process and follow and i can tell you care because you're not "selling" me anything. Thank you God for this and thank you Emma.
i have bad existential thoughts because of my ocd but now i can manage them more because of this. yes
Therapy has been a big part of my growth in my adult life, but being in a place where I financially cannot afford it right now, your videos are an absolute balm to me! Thank you!
Have you thought about seeing someone in for example Mexico which they charge cheaper like $25 in pesos Mexican rate instead of in the US here it’s about $60-90$ and up
There are also some good apps available nowadays, maybe give that a try too:)
Hey, I just want to thank God I came across this video. In this season, this is exactly what the Lord told me I have to get under control, but just didn’t know how to. I just prayed he lead me. This video popped up on my feed, I mean I haven’t even searched on my phone, period, yet on this topic so I’m like “wow....okay”. As I’m listening, it resonates with EVERYTHING I’m trying to manage. Then to find out in your description how you shared the gospel....man you can make this up. Thank you so much for your channel. Continue your good works, may God continue to bless you guys and pulling ppl out of their bondage! 🙏🏾
Same. I was sitting here thinking, “I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I want to be closer to you (God).”
Wow!! Same! This was a suggested video out of nowhere, and it came after I was praying to God and crying because of my intrusive thoughts. Amazing to find out she’s Christian too ❤️
Amen!! Me too
Same💕
This video has been life changing. I’ve been using these techniques for the last couple days and it has dramatically decreased my daily anxiety. Thank you a million!
It's almost unbelievable how much more clear my mind feels after watching this video alone. Thank you so much for this.
you have no idea how great it feels to have had my thoughts put into words like this, it’s so comforting to know i’m not alone or crazy and there’s ways i can help myself. my mind feels like i’m constantly fighting different voices in my head on loop to the point i don’t even know who i am. i’m so tired of it and this is such a breath of fresh air. thank you so much
Jordan, the things that you're describing are definitely not inside of your mind but at your ear hole, nothing can be inside of your mind the cavity of your cranium is unaccessible by anything, unless of course you have had a hole drilled in it. What you're describing is caused by organisms that exist without a physical body, they've been deceiving for thousands of years now. Don't try to look this stuff up online you'll find libraries full of lies but to find one fortune cookies worth of text that is truthful is damn near impossible. Our technology is at the level where we can eradicate these beings but all we need is scientific study into their biology. They're not divinity, Divinity is the lie that they use for so long to manipulate humanity by and large. You can make that organism get off of you, that piece of s*** has to obey you because it's your body not its. I would suggest not doing it in your home or by your home, go somewhere far away and then rapidly leave the area once you finally succeed in getting it off of you otherwise it'll be right there already to return. Sounds like you got a particularly nasty one too. Stay strong
I'm in the same situation exactly OMGGGGG.
me too, i feel like everyone hates me, every time i come home i feel like i embarrased myself, that everyone thinks im weird, that i look bad and the thoughts never go away. i just want to live a normal life but i feel like i cant get a job or have friends because leaving the house is so difficult for me. im glad to see someone else who has these intrusive thoughts
I'm feeling every negative thought of fear danger instead of seeing a thought. I can't run from my thoughts
Really needed this today. Trying to erase the judgmental and damaging comments from certain people in my family.
Me too!
I think we are made to believe what we are not by judging our actions without sparing the scope for self realisations.... So it's mostly very important to know that what matters the most is you and you have to take charge of your own thoughts and actions to lead a life of choice and not chance
@@vivekkapoor5671 Thank you. You have a really good point.
It’s okay sending love light too you
@@yolobro983 Thank you so much 😊
Thank you! I went to therapy for months and he kept telling me "be mindful, be mindful." but I could NOT shut down the thoughts without spiraling or having to be distracted from the thought. I needed these tools and I'm about to cry with relief that I finally have the resources that might be able to help.
You feel so positive as a human being that I feel like giving a hug to you🥰
This was so incredibly helpful. My husband and I are currently separated, mostly because of my negative brain and anxiety. We're working on reconciliation and this is doing wonders! Thank you!
Good luck!
Wow. Your comment hit me in the face. I just found this video at random and immediately saw you comment..I've been separated from my husband since May 11. Same reasons. I was depressed, anxious, angry and not a good wife. We haven't began reconciling bevause he basically ghosted me in August. Praying for a miracle and have made so many changes with Jesus right along side me!
Life is stressful at most times, especially when you get made redundant, go to a funeral, break up from a relationship and worrying over money
I usually find doing hobbies, keeping positive and reading does help
Writing and doing creative things ( playing an instrument can take your anxiety away for a while )
Get plenty of sleep
Avoid alcohol & drugs
Just talk to the people who care about you, not the ones who say it is your fault, or are jealous of you
We all can't stop thinking, it is so natural to ask questions, or became curious and paranoid at times 🤔
Before you reconcile make sure he isn’t the reason for the negativity and anxiety... I’m going through a divorce right now and I’m realizing im not the problem!! He is! Be careful...YOU need to be happy!! 😉
@@bethmatthews8750 I hope all goes well and you are happier
I am a Male, my parents were married twice.
It took my Mother years to
Get back a decent life after leaving my Dad
I believe my Mum was unselfish person, who was bringing up a family, but my Brother was living with my Dad
My step - father was more caring.
I had to accept him, and be respectful - otherwise, ended up in Foster care.
I started doing Cognitive Defusion a few days ago without realizing and i feel so much lighter and calm!!
I usually get really stress and anxious all the time, been battling with depression for a while, but being able to sit down, think about my thoughts notice them, and distance myself from them is SOOOO helpful! This video is really helping me to continue working on that! SO THANK YOU!!
This lead me to a HUGE breakthrough that I’ve never been able to get through CBT. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Same! My therapist and I noticed that defusion techniques fit me more than the things we tried in CBT.
I get so much intrusive thoughts and sometimes it can cause me to do bad on a test, not because I didnt study but I cant stop thinking about that thought. Im so glad im not the only one going through this. I will keep on telling myself there is still something I dont understand about this thought. But I found that my relationship with Jesus makes it all much much better🙏🏻❤
I, a 58yr old woman want to thank you for this video and am so relieved to have come across it. I am sharing it with my adult son and daughter. We all need it. I did the best I could and still strive to be better. This makes so much sense to me.
I’m 58 too…..better late than never huh?
@@jeaninecookson167 Always learning :)
@@sailorgirl2017 Avoid watching negative social media and shows. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens by itself from within if done regularly. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
These videos are sensational. This is the most valuable 20 minutes I've spent in 2023 thus far. Thank you for this content!
I was in an intensive therapy course and one of the best tools was finding videos like these to help teach and relearn.
Thank you for making these videos. Now that I am on my own and using the tools these videos have helped a ton!
Am I the only one who couldn’t help smiling back every time she broke into a smile? Beautiful smile and infectious !
Totally agree Vicklemiss
Broooo this is trippy. Thoughts aren’t a thing unless we believe them! What the heck
I don’t suffer with intrusive thoughts very often anymore, but I do overthink a lot. Journaling really helps because it gets all of my thoughts out on paper and allows me to be open with myself about how I’m feeling. Once I’m in a better headspace, I can reread what I wrote when I was anxious and say “That really was just my brain being mean.”
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my TH-cam channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 182 subs and almost 82 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I have struggled with anxiety and attacks from it my whole life. I had two really awful panic attacks for the first time in my life after being under the influence. I have struggled daily for over 6 months working for and against my minds awful take backs. And must I say, these videos have brought me to tears of comfort more than anything or anyone has these past months, it is insane how much of an influence you have made on me, my mind, and my life. every single time I watch your videos I a have instant relief and finally feel understood and heard.
I have never even thought of separating my thoughts like that and viewing them from outside my brain, I feel like I used to be able to have this skill when I was a kid but then as I grew up I lost it. Thank you for this extremely helpful exercise I'm definitely going to try implementing it into my life on my path to happiness. 🙂 You rock Emma!