For both husbands and wives i would say: Remember this is dunya which is full of trials and tribulations and you have maried a human being not an agel who would be free from all errors. We expect too much from our spouses and neglect our own duties towards them. We are more concerned about how we should be treated rather being concerned about how we should treat others. Be carefure of your own duties religious/family/social.... and Allah will place your love and respect in the hearts of others. Also, remember people do change. The worst of all human beings can become the best of the best, never lose hope in Allah and be the change yourself you want to see in your spouse. May Allah make our relationships strong and bless all of us with pious spouses.
Just before I watched this video I was literally crying what is so wrong between us. I was actually in need of it... Jazak Allah brother may Allah SWT bless you and your family with all good things hereafter.... Aameen
Assalamu alaikkum wa rahmathullahi wa barkatuhu. Very true. All the five points works for me. But first, if husband is not having hidaya about Islam. Then it is totally waste. He should fear Allah first.
Marriage is not an either-or situation. No one is perfect. Lets start by doing what we can improve in ourself first and then inspire and help others. You need to help your husband and not complain about it.
Absolutely correct ,how it works ,if he is away from Allah.what is yr suggestions for a wife,who is living with a husband,not caring abt his salah or anything important in islam and she is doing her best upbringing her kids in islamic way, always she is getting neglect from her spouse, Allahmmahdinee pheeman hadayth
No doubts all this points works best ..... Also things in life matters is the atmosphere of house , nature of in laws , financial condition , husband's education in general , and sense of giving and getting
Agree... but its not a one time thing. We need to continue this process. Being nice to ur husband will eventually change his way of thinking. I think if we start practicing all these 5 points on regular basis, we definitely will get positive response. JAZAKALLAH KHAIR sir for such a nice vdo.
Its not about expectation...... The joy of recieving the flowers is only ever accompanied by an element of surprise.... No ones dying to get roses from their husbands...... Its not one of the groceries that a person would say "Oh can u get a bag of rice on your way home or something." Whats the point of getting something like this when you have to ask " Can you buy me roses?" People might as well just keep the flowers to them selves if they need to be told ...... Since its awell known fact that women do look forward to these little things...... And after watching this video hopefully more people are aware of it.
i always leave him alone :) we are together to live a lonely relationship. its th mobile that he spends time with. never tired of looking at screen ...
I totally agree but its our experience we r 5 sisters tried everyway along with duas constantly to build it up n succeeded al hamdolillah. Communicate with calm nature insha Allah u too will succeed.
Our prophet SAW said like your brothers and sisters what you like yourself And that’ help me in my marriage so much I treat my husband exactly the way I like to be treated and our prophet SAW said don’t ask anyone what you can do yourself and alhamdulilah that help my marriage too So we know this life is just temporary and we are here to work for our hereafter so sister don’t be stress about anybody make him happy for the sake of ALLAH SWT and ALLAH will be happy with you and in’sha’Allah your husband will be the best husband Always think about your hereafter
helpful... but bro.. not all men are like that. some men are very tough to handle. my husband is very extreme in his emotions. never cares what others feel or suggest... not even me, he never listen to anybody. this creates so many problems. what shall i do. please suggest.
Your husband was not born that way... he became... find the cause of his extreme emotions and then help him get over it... if you keep treating your husband as the bad guy in your life... nothing will change. Call +91 77100 47864 for more help.
Aslamu alaikum! The advice you have given is ohhh sooo last century!!!! u need to deal with modern day problems -i will name 2. 1) Husbands glued to their smart phones not wanting to interact with family esp children. 2) Men from the subcontinent who married British women, zero time for wife and kids. Almost widowed n orphaned. Earn earn earn to send back home at the cost of this family. No TIME MONEY OR ENERGY and unfortunately some muslim women starting affairs to get love and attention from another man. These are the REAL issues u should be dealing with
One thing that I want to add is that wife never ever swear and abuse her in laws like husband’s sister or husband ‘s brother’s wife and so on ..... keep her limits , if she cant respect,at least she should keep quiet that is the minimum, I better to cook , clean and do everything myself but not hear any insults of my family.
Same goes to the husband too! He should keep his limits! Don't insult her family! And don't use vile language towards her either. Treat her how you would expect your sisters to be treated when married! Do not under any circumstances let your sisters, brothers, mother or father abuse her in any way. Islamically they have no haq over her. I guarantee if every man applied this one principle of treating his wife how he would want his sisters to be treated when they are married, then there would be no issues between husband and wife.
I apprecaite you commenting and speaking out openly. But your comment "I better to cook , clean and do everything myself but not hear any insults of my family." your wife is also family... so I would believe it works both ways. Having said that I also believe that a wife must use tact, self-control and respect in dealing with in-laws as long as there is no physical, verbal or any other sort of abuse.
Then its yr reponsibility to give yr wife her own Home and yr job if u see yr family makes problem to be like a man and protect yr wife and be on her side
muslimah fisabilillah 🌷 She has her own home, she never ever lived with my family since day one , I have told her to slap at my face if I am insulting her family , wallah I kiss her feet if she correct me when I’m wrong but the problem is that she yells and shout while she is wrong .... that’s what make me boil...
saffy B 🌷 Thank you for your advice, This is my rule that I never say something to her while I am doing the opposite of that, if I do that It means I’m an hypocrite ( Munnafiq )
Yes same point applicable for wife’s also husband should also note that points for happy life with own wife 😃👍🏻 nice vidoe brother keep making such contents
My husband works 6 days a week and 1 day he is off he goes to his friends sometime he drinks with them I now it but I don’t say anything because he is trying very hard to hide it from me but he can’t hide his breath his eyes I pretend that I don’t know anything about it and I act normal and even more carrying and loving so he will leave his friends one day for the sake of my love and care I don’t want any gifts from him I just want him to spent happy time with me and our kids but he says that we are boring he gets bored with us please pray for me or guide me Thank you
sheema allah se dua karo alla h aisha rz huzoor k apas me kitni mbht thi hame b waise apas me mhbt mhbt karne waale bana allah k siwa koi kisi insaan ko badal nahi sakta its fact and this dua wil work believe me
zoya siddique 5 waqt namaz parti hu tahajud bi Partei hu har waqt dua bas yahi karti hu k Allah mera shohar aur bache gunah se mehfuz rake pata nahin aur kya karu dil patha jara ha hain mera kash main peda hi na hoti
+Sheema Afghan jamaat ku allah k raaste 40 days bhejdalo ma zaroor wo drink ki aadat zindagi bhar k liye chudjaati lakhon k nai crocre o mens change huwe hin is allah raaste me jaakar agar uno nai jaate bole to tume fazail e amal hadees ki kitaab milti wo padho raat me sone pehle bachon ku hsbnd ku 10 minits sunao rozana wo allah waalon k waqiyaat sune to b zaroor tabdili aati inshallah yaqeen k saath dua karna hidayat dene ki taqat hai allah me.. allah k siwa kon b solve nai karsakte hamare problems ku. utta udaas mat ho apne aap ku khush raklo chote chote vegetable plants grow karlo bht acha lagta. if any thing wrong sorry. apne aap ku busy karlo kisi na kisi kaam me activities me u soon get rid off this. ok bye .
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Salam bro,I disagree with point no 4 brcos if a person wants to help anyone with wife, friends and relatives. the help should be done according to desire of wife, friends or anyone needs help not according the way the helper wants to do. Maybe in sometimes can be allowed but not always doing their ways of helping. E.g, if I want help with cooking and it’s a specific food it has to be done that right?
Murtaza Badri Yes that’s the good way of communicating but sometimes the partner would only do the way he feels it’s right though it’s not satisfying for the wife, this case applies to anyone who wants to help. For example if I want my parents to help with the children, but they will do the way they think it right not my way then if I try to explain to them it causes problems cos they would rather say “don’t bring the grandchildren if I don’t like what we do.” Same goes to the husband, he would say that he doesn’t mind to help but when I complain that he didn’t do the way I like, he’d give up and say that I don’t appreciate him
@@igemapa you can let him do even if it is not helpful initially. You can appreciate that at least he tried to help. May be after a few failed attempts, he will ask you how better he can help.
I m not agree with first point becoz before I never used to talk my wishes I always expected like u said, but when I realised I have to share and asked what I want so he gat angree.😢now I decided to keep shut my mouth just leave everything to Allah. Am I right?
👍👏👏 good brother....but what to do with husbands who don't even listen or pay attention to whatever the wife says or do the same thing after repeatedly telling them 🤔😂😆 I think for doing what the wife says first of all the husband needs to have minimal empathy n concern and an attitude to respect that she too is a human being 😒
I agree some husbands can ignore and never listen to their wife.... but wife's must also learn to communicate without blaming, accusing or complaining.... if you need to say something say it without being negative or blaming.
Ph his mom and respectfully tell her she didnt rear her son with manners coz everyone always blames wife for husbands mistakes or moods. Ask who reared you and go to the source who failed to teach him manners.
We do so many things fr them evn without saying. Only they need to get highlighted? Wnt they evn knw or understand. Wat to b done fr his respective wife.. Wen will they groom? Or evn sense tat?
Brother the way u talking it's easy but in reality some man's not like that not better how much u tell them what u want they stick to what Eva they want
Your husband was not born that way... he became... find the cause of why he is so stubborn and then help him get over it... if you keep treating your husband as the bad guy in your life... nothing will change. Call +91 77100 47864 for more help. Men become a certain way because of their past life and what they have gone through.
Brother don't say I. Am trying to. Make him look. Bad i have been married 12y we had a chilled over 7y wen my daughter was 8 months he has changed he don't spend any time with us he eats with his mob he sleeps with his mob he goes tolitte with his mob can u see any time for us wen. He Comes home from work he is on mob till he goes bed over 3y he has been like that he can't stand me
True and when they take 2nd wife you get nothing. The 2nd wife is the Queen. You and kids are discarded for his pleasures. Hes living 5min away with 2nd wife and hve no contact with us. Sad souls they are. When the 2nd wife now with 4th husband gets all hus attention. I pity her.
what about when your husband is saying how useless you are compared to other mens wives, always being negative becuase he has a family backyard to feed. and hes been doin it for 10yrs+ how can you not talk to your sister or parents, if they chose this spouse for you and your treated like rubbish, and youve tried for yrs! to talk to him to make him umderstand but feels hes not doing anything wrong, you have to speak to someone.
I am not going to disagree with you, but really if the way to a man's heart is through his stomach... how can a man reach the heart of his wife? I think we are a bit more complex...looking forward to understanding myself with a few enlightening responses.
Yeah its true but wife should do her part best without expecting anything from husband then she could be satisfied... please expect everything from Allah not fellow being he is the one who will guide you and bless you... it doesn't mean take husband for lightly put your effort too nothing come easy
My husband he care just his game's even 24hours in bed. don't care even my baby cry wants playing with him,just he care himself.even he knows im busy in my works i carry my baby anywhere..
I think once you do your part of the deal and start living an Alive & Fearless Life... your husband will begin to sense the change and consider a change.
One more thing to be added is give him a shoulder massage for few minutes, it will change his mode and he'll treat you the same. Have a good tension less conversation while you are massaging. This will work vice versa.
Agree... love and take care of him and he might take time, but he will come back. Complain make him wrong and give him more stress on top of all that he has from work..... and you will lose him.
Assalam aleikoum, I don't agree with the first point that says ask what you want( for example roses). You don't ask for a surprise! I know that communication is key for a successful marriage, but not in this case. For example, communication is good when the man cracks an offensive joke or says something you don't appreciate. At that moment, speak out in a respectful manner. Additionally, "good food" is relative, pizza can be an excellent meal for you and an awful dinner for my husband, so here again communication is the key word. Ask him what he wants, what he loves, don't waste your time cooking something he wouldn't appreciate.
good god, if a man cant buy flowers without being reminded then you are with the wrong man. a grown man should know better. after listening to this, I am so grateful to be a American women. if a man need "time alone'" because he brings his work problems home then he needs to grow the hell up. and if a women can not correct he husband when he is helping, and the man is not secure enough to take direction from a women then that is bad! oh I am laughing at this! and women should cook? in my country men will work and cook the meals also. as they should, it is called equality. it is not 1950's anymore. good lord! next you will make a video saying the women have to tend to the children, and do all the cleaning etc...... this way of thinking suppresses women and makes women the weaker sex. after listening to this I will say on a positive note, it makes me so grateful I was brought up in a different culture. you seem like a nice man, but your way of thinking is way to old fashion and is not a good way to treat women. I am sorry for your wife.
I will not share this. I appreciate other cultures, but I do not appreciate how some of them treat women. your way of thinking towards women is not okay. but to each their own.
If men would have not married you would have not been born : ) so like your parents made you at least capable of watching this video and commenting... that's something to appreciate!
Listen ,child says their parents to bring them in world .No never because world is full of suffer .So parent have to pay to bring thier by talking responsibility. Nothing new
Well said. Dont marry if you have no morals and then cheat then take 2nd wife etc. Stay with your mom so she can nurture you and teach you manners. Then marry once you have respect and compassion for another human being.
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For both husbands and wives i would say:
Remember this is dunya which is full of trials and tribulations and you have maried a human being not an agel who would be free from all errors.
We expect too much from our spouses and neglect our own duties towards them. We are more concerned about how we should be treated rather being concerned about how we should treat others. Be carefure of your own duties religious/family/social.... and Allah will place your love and respect in the hearts of others.
Also, remember people do change. The worst of all human beings can become the best of the best, never lose hope in Allah and be the change yourself you want to see in your spouse.
May Allah make our relationships strong and bless all of us with pious spouses.
Just before I watched this video I was literally crying what is so wrong between us. I was actually in need of it... Jazak Allah brother may Allah SWT bless you and your family with all good things hereafter.... Aameen
happy to help... wish you love, peace and happiness.
Alhamdulillah....My husband is really caring and loving
Masha allah the same here
MASHA ALLAH!
Assalamu alaikkum wa rahmathullahi wa barkatuhu. Very true. All the five points works for me. But first, if husband is not having hidaya about Islam. Then it is totally waste. He should fear Allah first.
nassreen nawaz Exactly ur right it work with hidaya and iman
All you. Talk about is men 😳
Marriage is not an either-or situation. No one is perfect. Lets start by doing what we can improve in ourself first and then inspire and help others. You need to help your husband and not complain about it.
Murtaza Badri fact
Absolutely correct ,how it works ,if he is away from Allah.what is yr suggestions for a wife,who is living with a husband,not caring abt his salah or anything important in islam and she is doing her best upbringing her kids in islamic way, always she is getting neglect from her spouse, Allahmmahdinee pheeman hadayth
Really a nice video.l already follow above told 5rules and living happily from last 10 years , with great satisfaction.
No doubts all this points works best ..... Also things in life matters is the atmosphere of house , nature of in laws , financial condition , husband's education in general , and sense of giving and getting
My God, Murtuzah bhai you are so correct in pin pointing,so very accurate. Thank you. God bless
Appreciate your feedback and share, thanks : )
Thank you so much brother... Really it's very helpful to me. Inshallah I'm going to follow this 5 tips.
Wish you courage and patience.
Agree... but its not a one time thing. We need to continue this process. Being nice to ur husband will eventually change his way of thinking. I think if we start practicing all these 5 points on regular basis, we definitely will get positive response. JAZAKALLAH KHAIR sir for such a nice vdo.
So my question would be what if the wife works as well to help run the house and the kids ? When does she get to rest and be left alone????
Its not about expectation......
The joy of recieving the flowers is only ever accompanied by an element of surprise....
No ones dying to get roses from their husbands......
Its not one of the groceries that a person would say "Oh can u get a bag of rice on your way home or something."
Whats the point of getting something like this when you have to ask
" Can you buy me roses?"
People might as well just keep the flowers to them selves if they need to be told ......
Since its awell known fact that women do look forward to these little things......
And after watching this video hopefully more people are aware of it.
Wao ..... Bro May ALLAH Bless you for teaching such precious tips for improving Allah's Most Loving Relationship.
It is the most precious and if not handled well... can become the worst : ) thanks for sharing.
i always leave him alone :) we are together to live a lonely relationship. its th mobile that he spends time with. never tired of looking at screen ...
Sis chatting n joking builds friendship. Even romancing .
+Farzeen Hussain if the other person is least bothered about wat is said, then there is no room for any kind of conversation dear sis
I totally agree but its our experience we r 5 sisters tried everyway along with duas constantly to build it up n succeeded al hamdolillah. Communicate with calm nature insha Allah u too will succeed.
Allaha
Our prophet SAW said like your brothers and sisters what you like yourself
And that’ help me in my marriage so much I treat my husband exactly the way I like to be treated and our prophet SAW said don’t ask anyone what you can do yourself and alhamdulilah that help my marriage too
So we know this life is just temporary and we are here to work for our hereafter so sister don’t be stress about anybody make him happy for the sake of ALLAH SWT and ALLAH will be happy with you and in’sha’Allah your husband will be the best husband
Always think about your hereafter
Really bhai it videos really helps us in our marriage lifr
helpful... but bro.. not all men are like that. some men are very tough to handle. my husband is very extreme in his emotions. never cares what others feel or suggest... not even me, he never listen to anybody. this creates so many problems. what shall i do. please suggest.
Your husband was not born that way... he became... find the cause of his extreme emotions and then help him get over it... if you keep treating your husband as the bad guy in your life... nothing will change. Call +91 77100 47864 for more help.
Be strong in prayers it shall come to pass trust me I have the same problem,but alhamdulillah
Bhai ur fb page??
Aslamu alaikum!
The advice you have given is ohhh sooo last century!!!! u need to deal with modern day problems -i will name 2.
1) Husbands glued to their smart phones not wanting to interact with family esp children.
2) Men from the subcontinent who married British women, zero time for wife and kids. Almost widowed n orphaned. Earn earn earn to send back home at the cost of this family. No TIME MONEY OR ENERGY and unfortunately some muslim women starting affairs to get love and attention from another man. These are the REAL issues u should be dealing with
Totally agree... appreciate the input. thanks
Very well said
Please tell me the books kept behind u are the ones ur reading.and could u please tell me the author names and which books are those..
Those are my program workbooks. What topics do you want to learn about?
Parenting daughters
Subhan'Allah If only it was really this easy🤦🏻♀️
It's as easy as you make and as hard as you believe it to be.
@@MurtazaBadri out of politeness I won't reply, but honestly if you just new an ounce of what I'm going through.
Thanks a lot best video ever brother
Happy to help. thanks for the share
EXCELLENT.....ALHAMDULILLAH
Very nice way of teaching....
Thank you. Here after I'll follow sir 🌹
Loved all ur 5 points....will definitely work on it..
Be bold and fearless. Believe and your marriage shall thrive.
haha .....funny but it will work wow I kno
Thanx sir i agree 100%
Thank you so much for this interesting video
most welcome!
JazakaAllahu khairan
One thing that I want to add is that wife never ever swear and abuse her in laws like husband’s sister or husband ‘s brother’s wife and so on ..... keep her limits , if she cant respect,at least she should keep quiet that is the minimum, I better to cook , clean and do everything myself but not hear any insults of my family.
Same goes to the husband too! He should keep his limits! Don't insult her family! And don't use vile language towards her either. Treat her how you would expect your sisters to be treated when married! Do not under any circumstances let your sisters, brothers, mother or father abuse her in any way. Islamically they have no haq over her.
I guarantee if every man applied this one principle of treating his wife how he would want his sisters to be treated when they are married, then there would be no issues between husband and wife.
I apprecaite you commenting and speaking out openly. But your comment "I better to cook , clean and do everything myself but not hear any insults of my family." your wife is also family... so I would believe it works both ways. Having said that I also believe that a wife must use tact, self-control and respect in dealing with in-laws as long as there is no physical, verbal or any other sort of abuse.
Then its yr reponsibility to give yr wife her own Home and yr job if u see yr family makes problem to be like a man and protect yr wife and be on her side
muslimah fisabilillah 🌷
She has her own home, she never ever lived with my family since day one , I have told her to slap at my face if I am insulting her family , wallah I kiss her feet if she correct me when I’m wrong but the problem is that she yells and shout while she is wrong .... that’s what make me boil...
saffy B 🌷
Thank you for your advice,
This is my rule that I never say something to her while I am doing the opposite of that, if I do that It means I’m an hypocrite ( Munnafiq )
very useful information
Superb excellent .will follow all 5points thanx a lot sir👍
Parveen Khan Awesome, do let me know if it works😊
100%Sure it definitely works
Yes same point applicable for wife’s also husband should also note that points for happy life with own wife 😃👍🏻 nice vidoe brother keep making such contents
Absolutely! WE also have a video for husbands.
Thank you sir good job
Thanks.
What if both are working in this case what should one do
Then both need to communicate expectations and come to a mutual agreement
Thank you so much...
Most Welcome : )
My husband works 6 days a week and 1 day he is off he goes to his friends sometime he drinks with them I now it but I don’t say anything because he is trying very hard to hide it from me but he can’t hide his breath his eyes I pretend that I don’t know anything about it and I act normal and even more carrying and loving so he will leave his friends one day for the sake of my love and care I don’t want any gifts from him I just want him to spent happy time with me and our kids but he says that we are boring he gets bored with us please pray for me or guide me
Thank you
sheema allah se dua karo alla h aisha rz huzoor k apas me kitni mbht thi hame b waise apas me mhbt mhbt karne waale bana allah k siwa koi kisi insaan ko badal nahi sakta its fact and this dua wil work believe me
zoya siddique 5 waqt namaz parti hu tahajud bi Partei hu har waqt dua bas yahi karti hu k Allah mera shohar aur bache gunah se mehfuz rake pata nahin aur kya karu dil patha jara ha hain mera kash main peda hi na hoti
+Sheema Afghan jamaat ku allah k raaste 40 days bhejdalo ma zaroor wo drink ki aadat zindagi bhar k liye chudjaati lakhon k nai crocre o mens change huwe hin is allah raaste me jaakar agar uno nai jaate bole to tume fazail e amal hadees ki kitaab milti wo padho raat me sone pehle bachon ku hsbnd ku 10 minits sunao rozana wo allah waalon k waqiyaat sune to b zaroor tabdili aati inshallah yaqeen k saath dua karna hidayat dene ki taqat hai allah me.. allah k siwa kon b solve nai karsakte hamare problems ku. utta udaas mat ho apne aap ku khush raklo chote chote vegetable plants grow karlo bht acha lagta. if any thing wrong sorry. apne aap ku busy karlo kisi na kisi kaam me activities me u soon get rid off this. ok bye .
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+zoya siddique Appreciate your support : )
Salam bro,I disagree with point no 4 brcos if a person wants to help anyone with wife, friends and relatives. the help should be done according to desire of wife, friends or anyone needs help not according the way the helper wants to do. Maybe in sometimes can be allowed but not always doing their ways of helping. E.g, if I want help with cooking and it’s a specific food it has to be done that right?
Then let them know beforehand exactly what you want... rather than correcting or re-doing it again the way you want.
Murtaza Badri
Yes that’s the good way of communicating but sometimes the partner would only do the way he feels it’s right though it’s not satisfying for the wife, this case applies to anyone who wants to help. For example if I want my parents to help with the children, but they will do the way they think it right not my way then if I try to explain to them it causes problems cos they would rather say “don’t bring the grandchildren if I don’t like what we do.”
Same goes to the husband, he would say that he doesn’t mind to help but when I complain that he didn’t do the way I like, he’d give up and say that I don’t appreciate him
@@igemapa you can let him do even if it is not helpful initially. You can appreciate that at least he tried to help. May be after a few failed attempts, he will ask you how better he can help.
I m not agree with first point becoz before I never used to talk my wishes I always expected like u said, but when I realised I have to share and asked what I want so he gat angree.😢now I decided to keep shut my mouth just leave everything to Allah.
Am I right?
Good...Helpful video
Muniraquadir Tadbeer thank you.
So sweet of u
Pleasure : )
zabardast
Assalamualaikum bhai Good points I'll try at home moreover he also tries to keep our relationship balanced we are married for the past 17 yrs
Thank u 😊
👍👏👏 good brother....but what to do with husbands who don't even listen or pay attention to whatever the wife says or do the same thing after repeatedly telling them 🤔😂😆 I think for doing what the wife says first of all the husband needs to have minimal empathy n concern and an attitude to respect that she too is a human being 😒
I agree some husbands can ignore and never listen to their wife.... but wife's must also learn to communicate without blaming, accusing or complaining.... if you need to say something say it without being negative or blaming.
Do one on wife's side, nice on, thnx
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Evn any food he NVR appreciate
Masaha Allah
Yes i gree
Even after thousand time telling, if he doesn't listen, what should we do?
Ph his mom and respectfully tell her she didnt rear her son with manners coz everyone always blames wife for husbands mistakes or moods. Ask who reared you and go to the source who failed to teach him manners.
We do so many things fr them evn without saying. Only they need to get highlighted? Wnt they evn knw or understand. Wat to b done fr his respective wife.. Wen will they groom? Or evn sense tat?
Does your wife work these for you
Brother the way u talking it's easy but in reality some man's not like that not better how much u tell them what u want they stick to what Eva they want
Your husband was not born that way... he became... find the cause of why he is so stubborn and then help him get over it... if you keep treating your husband as the bad guy in your life... nothing will change. Call +91 77100 47864 for more help. Men become a certain way because of their past life and what they have gone through.
Murtaza Badri bother I have done everything
Murtaza Badri bother I have done everything
Brother don't say I. Am trying to. Make him look. Bad i have been married 12y we had a chilled over 7y wen my daughter was 8 months he has changed he don't spend any time with us he eats with his mob he sleeps with his mob he goes tolitte with his mob can u see any time for us wen. He Comes home from work he is on mob till he goes bed over 3y he has been like that he can't stand me
True and when they take 2nd wife you get nothing. The 2nd wife is the Queen. You and kids are discarded for his pleasures. Hes living 5min away with 2nd wife and hve no contact with us. Sad souls they are. When the 2nd wife now with 4th husband gets all hus attention. I pity her.
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He is interested more in his smart phn and job
Then find a way to bring the interest to you...and complaining or blaming will surely not help
But still live him
what about when your husband is saying how useless you are compared to other mens wives, always being negative becuase he has a family backyard to feed. and hes been doin it for 10yrs+ how can you not talk to your sister or parents, if they chose this spouse for you and your treated like rubbish, and youve tried for yrs! to talk to him to make him umderstand but feels hes not doing anything wrong, you have to speak to someone.
Run sister.
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If not listen then and how to handle mother oriented wife???
I am not going to disagree with you, but really if the way to a man's heart is through his stomach... how can a man reach the heart of his wife? I think we are a bit more complex...looking forward to understanding myself with a few enlightening responses.
Assalamulikum Bhai my husband just won't talk to me for any promble.or
Hes mom didnt do a good job now hes being disrespectful to you. Spoilt brats. I blame the moms. Dont blame the wife.
What you want like roses takes romantic part out we want our men to be romantic but we don't want to have to tell them how that sound so fake
A sab karte hain phir b husband to husband hai . . Sidha kabi nahin hoge. . Jitna b karlo unke lia waste hai. . Bole to "sirhane ka snake hai"*
His time
His privacy
His happiness
His me time
His food
His home his kids
His family
Everything about his..
Wt about us.. 😥
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Well this video is about what we can do for our husband. Im sur he makes a video for us also.
Yeah its true but wife should do her part best without expecting anything from husband then she could be satisfied... please expect everything from Allah not fellow being he is the one who will guide you and bless you... it doesn't mean take husband for lightly put your effort too nothing come easy
What if the husband don't even care and do his own thing ?
Someone has to start the process of change...
My husband he care just his game's even 24hours in bed. don't care even my baby cry wants playing with him,just he care himself.even he knows im busy in my works i carry my baby anywhere..
I think once you do your part of the deal and start living an Alive & Fearless Life... your husband will begin to sense the change and consider a change.
Happy wife , happy life but happy husband is always on a selfish mode. I think your wife is very quite dear and abide probably feeling unsecured
Pls give salam fst in ur video
What to do if a husband is more self conscious not care about wife
Telk his mom she failed teaching her son manners now you saddled with damage goods.
I do all those things but My husband always finds fault in me
You do whats right ... let him do what he wants.... it time either he will change or you will have to confront.
my husband thinks your a genius
Just trying to help couples live an Alive & Fearless Life.
One more thing to be added is give him a shoulder massage for few minutes, it will change his mode and he'll treat you the same. Have a good tension less conversation while you are massaging. This will work vice versa.
Agree... love and take care of him and he might take time, but he will come back. Complain make him wrong and give him more stress on top of all that he has from work..... and you will lose him.
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Assalam aleikoum, I don't agree with the first point that says ask what you want( for example roses). You don't ask for a surprise! I know that communication is key for a successful marriage, but not in this case. For example, communication is good when the man cracks an offensive joke or says something you don't appreciate. At that moment, speak out in a respectful manner. Additionally, "good food" is relative, pizza can be an excellent meal for you and an awful dinner for my husband, so here again communication is the key word. Ask him what he wants, what he loves, don't waste your time cooking something he wouldn't appreciate.
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Thank you so much
I do so many things fr his fmly. Not one day, he thinks of it and nor thanked me.fr tat. Not evn realised my evn Identity exist. Male aftrall. Rgt
His mom didnt teach him compassaion. Run sister.
Really bro u r right
good god, if a man cant buy flowers without being reminded then you are with the wrong man. a grown man should know better. after listening to this, I am so grateful to be a American women. if a man need "time alone'" because he brings his work problems home then he needs to grow the hell up. and if a women can not correct he husband when he is helping, and the man is not secure enough to take direction from a women then that is bad! oh I am laughing at this! and women should cook? in my country men will work and cook the meals also. as they should, it is called equality. it is not 1950's anymore. good lord! next you will make a video saying the women have to tend to the children, and do all the cleaning etc...... this way of thinking suppresses women and makes women the weaker sex. after listening to this I will say on a positive note, it makes me so grateful I was brought up in a different culture. you seem like a nice man, but your way of thinking is way to old fashion and is not a good way to treat women. I am sorry for your wife.
Appreciate your feedback and share. I am happy for you. Have a great day ahead!
I will not share this. I appreciate other cultures, but I do not appreciate how some of them treat women. your way of thinking towards women is not okay. but to each their own.
All what you are explaining are the problems not the solutions 😩
Pls share what you did not understand?
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Better men should not marry .
If men would have not married you would have not been born : ) so like your parents made you at least capable of watching this video and commenting... that's something to appreciate!
Listen ,child says their parents to bring them in world .No never because world is full of suffer .So parent have to pay to bring thier by talking responsibility. Nothing new
Well said. Dont marry if you have no morals and then cheat then take 2nd wife etc. Stay with your mom so she can nurture you and teach you manners. Then marry once you have respect and compassion for another human being.
@@roomana955 agree. Im thinking what weve been taught is not true coz too much suffering on earth.
Don't even man want to know what his woman want 😏
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