I've tried doing everything you said before! I communicate with my kids daily! I still find myself yelling at times because when I do it the way you are saying they never move or answer! We have family movie night Fridays, Saturdays and early Sunday afternoons each child picks a movie each night. Now, I do believe in communication and advise every parent to try it, you'll love it, the mind of my children amazes me at times. I will try your way again this time now that they are a bit older and post a report of how things went!
Thank you for your trust and being an awesome parent! I would request you apply to also watch th-cam.com/video/_sd_fPxx8i0/w-d-xo.html&lc=Ugzc_GAE-lvCpb4GSTt4AaABAg the 3 rules for at least 3 months and then see the difference. Appreciate your share and trust.
Everything you said are things I've been telling myself to have a better relationship with my children and now I know I have to listen to my guidance and be patience. Thank you!
I'm from California . thank you so much for the advice my son is 5 and out of control. it drives me crazy. I see me and I feel bad . thank you for truth
Appreciate your comment and share... do call me and let me know if you need further support with your 5-year-old. Also check www.murtazabadri.com/4p to learn the 4 pillars of life transformation.
Yep, listen to your child, and if they turn a def ear remind them of the times when you listen to them carefully. And be big enough to admit sometimes you haven’t done a good job of listening and you’ll work on it. It builds trust that you are willing to take their side if they are right, and to trust you when you tell them they’re wrong, and trust from a child will go for miles with them as long as it’s not broken
yes, very true....I buy each and every word that you say....Coz being an Early Years nursery teacher, I can definitely say that good children are a product of good parenting and teaching and vice versa.
I just bumped into your videos today, and am glad i did. Nice rules👌❤️ Am going to try these rules on my son, he is 3 and a half years old. And lets see how it goes.. Thank you for the tips❤️🙏
I have a 8 year old boy and a just born baby girl. I had an abusive father, my mother used to yell at us most often. I longed for my parents love and affection. Things were so bad, luckily by God's grace I did not end up my life as I had planned to. Anyway, coming back to my family, my son listens to me and he is so good, infact he is like a remote control and does whatever I say and I am very happy with him. But the problem is with my wife and son, they don't get along well, yelling, shouting etc happens between them. I tell her to follow my example but she is not able to, I am not able to explain to her as how to communicate with him. When I am at home things are so peaceful, all these negative things happen behind my back. I was looking for a video which I can show her to follow, luckily I found a good one. I seem to follow whatever you are saying, it comes to me instinctively but I am not able to explain to her like how you do. Thank you so much, this video should help her. I want my son and wife to be peaceful and happy in each others presence.
One more tip: Be your child's best friend! Don't belittle them Don't criticize them Don't insult them Don't ignore them Don't abandon them Don't underestimate them Don't scold them Choose your words when you're talking to them. They are small YES, but don't forget they're HUMANS with DIGNITY. Treat them as if they were your inseparable best friend, and you'll see the result!!
I’m having issues with my son that are like being on an entirely different world even his school in the same boat, just stumbled on your videos (grand design or what lol) by it’s seriously helping me by reaffirming some of my methods and even validating me in some things I do or and actively working on, and basically helping me feel less lost and more confident in most (not all of course I have much work to do and lots of room to improve and be better of course) of the strategies and habits I’m doing and working on doing and how I’m dealing with this unpredictable scary worrying situation as at least being in the right place going in the right direction. Cannot express how badly I needed to have the validation that I CAN do things and not faking entirely.
Thank you so much sir. This is exactly the video that I wanted to hear. I was always worried about this kind of issues with my children and you have given me the correct guidance. May Allah give you health and happiness as you are doing a great service for parents like me who are very much puzzled with child upbringing problems.
Thank you so much, you are great person in knowledge. I know you will help lots of parents out there, who had been struggling with their children. when they turn on your channel they'll learn more good information how to teach, and even to listen to their children.
Sometimes in family we have different types kids my elder daughter 12 year old disturbed me a lot I have 4. Kids other ones really cooperative speak nicely sometimes nothing works on some kids
@@sheen2923 we are here in this world and as humans we should help each other this takes the burden off ones shoulders and it relaxes the mind which is the key to sukoon. Keep us in your duas
Great advice bhaiyya. Bhai I get hyper very soon I can't handle any relation with easee I'll get angry very soon pleasee suggest something or upload a video on this
an exlent video . it is easy to those who know English language . There r lots of parents who can't understand . Can u make it in Gujrati which will most effective them.
children behave, children become what they see and the way the adults behave....and the 3 most influencial people in a child's life are the parents and teacher and they behave with children in a wrong way but expect the children to become excellent
Hello. i am Adnan from coimbatore. I really love all your videos and feel your videos are practical. I am a new father of 2 (1yrsold) and it is difficult to manage 2 kids at once. Plz give some tips to help me and my wife manage 2 kids at a time.
Congratulations for becoming a father and being gifted with 2 kids... I can only imagine what it must be like to manage to kids at the same time. In fact, I always wanted twins : ) 1) Help your wife and be available as it's double the effort 2) Treat both as two different individuals, do not compare one to the other 3) Allow both the kids freedom to be who they want to be. 4) Look at the brighter side that it's a one-time effort and both of them will have each other to play and support. 5) Consciously work to give both equal attention, love and freedom. Hope this is useful and helps you and your wife.
mashallah topic is nice and u r English is very very nice .but u should make videos in Hindi to get benefit lots of people those who not understand English very well also.
hey ,if anyone else wants to discover how to talk to your child try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy got excellent success with it.
Sometime with our busy life...and with our partner who does not walk with us in our discipline ways.....mum say no dad say yes...this create a kids who do not listen to you...i like discipline kids...as I have and is a discipline one...i like my house to be tidy...a time to look at t.v...a time to eat...a time to be with parents...but my husband is not like this...he is a bit different...he allow my kids what ever they want just for him to be at peace...i have talked to him...he listen for 2 days then same things again happened...how to handle this situation...thanks for your advise
Interesting question, appreciate your share... I would suggest you be a little flexible. Kids are not supposed to be very rigid on a rule. Training is good.. but you need to not be very obsessive about things and how they are kept. Your spouse might not appreciate you being so disciplined and hence the conflict. loosen up a little : )
Thanks for your advise and prompt reply...you are right...but I do all this for their well being...being discipline makes you a good person.....i will try to not impose on my kids a bit i will tell you the result...but I am very afraid if they go the wrong way
I'm a dad feel the same way with my wife. Hopefully you have different schedual than him. I feel like I'm alone with them at night, it gives me more room to discipline them the right away. Iv been there and plenty of fights with ice cream at 8 in the morning without me knowing.
Herat is best advice to deal with a teenage Muslim girl who wants to wear jeans t shirt and go out with her friends. I have tried compromising even though I disagree as a Muslim parent but she completely ignores me for over 2 wks now. I get impression she wants her full own way.
vedio👍. you have explained best way . please advise how to make them study . As children are more naughty not in mood to study.how tomake them. in mood to study .
Thank u for ur suggestion. My boy is 5years old and he is very shy .He had gone through delayed speech and developments, after 2.5 years he started talking, still he is not clear in his words.His main problem is he lacks concentration and attention. Sometimes he behaves nice, does his homework, everything, but after 2-4days he behaves deaf ear and reacts no to all things and prefer to sit idle.If we politely say him to do this or that he gets irritated. pls suggest me.
Give him some space to take his own decision. Sometimes children want to do what they want and learn from their own mistakes the best... let him make mistakes and learn from it.... you just need to be there to guide and show him the way.
Thanks for the brilliant lessons of child upbringing😌
I've tried doing everything you said before! I communicate with my kids daily! I still find myself yelling at times because when I do it the way you are saying they never move or answer!
We have family movie night Fridays, Saturdays and early Sunday afternoons each child picks a movie each night.
Now, I do believe in communication and advise every parent to try it, you'll love it, the mind of my children amazes me at times.
I will try your way again this time now that they are a bit older and post a report of how things went!
Thank you for your trust and being an awesome parent! I would request you apply to also watch th-cam.com/video/_sd_fPxx8i0/w-d-xo.html&lc=Ugzc_GAE-lvCpb4GSTt4AaABAg the 3 rules for at least 3 months and then see the difference. Appreciate your share and trust.
I am interested to hear your results
Everything you said are things I've been telling myself to have a better relationship with my children and now I know I have to listen to my guidance and be patience. Thank you!
I'm a single mum and its a struggle sometimes. Thank you very much sir for your videos. We communicate better now. Shalom
Happy to hear that... you are an awesome mother!
I'm from California . thank you so much for the advice my son is 5 and out of control. it drives me crazy. I see me and I feel bad . thank you for truth
Appreciate your comment and share... do call me and let me know if you need further support with your 5-year-old. Also check www.murtazabadri.com/4p to learn the 4 pillars of life transformation.
Yep, listen to your child, and if they turn a def ear remind them of the times when you listen to them carefully. And be big enough to admit sometimes you haven’t done a good job of listening and you’ll work on it. It builds trust that you are willing to take their side if they are right, and to trust you when you tell them they’re wrong, and trust from a child will go for miles with them as long as it’s not broken
yes, very true....I buy each and every word that you say....Coz being an Early Years nursery teacher, I can definitely say that good children are a product of good parenting and teaching and vice versa.
Totally agree... it a two-way street. thank you for validating what I said.
U are such a wonderfully dad. Your children are gifted to get u as their dad. Thank you for ur advise. From today I will follow as u told.. Tq sir😊
Appreciate your kind words... everyone is gifted and blessed... we just don't realize it. I wish you courage and love in your life.
I just bumped into your videos today, and am glad i did. Nice rules👌❤️
Am going to try these rules on my son, he is 3 and a half years old. And lets see how it goes.. Thank you for the tips❤️🙏
I have a 8 year old boy and a just born baby girl. I had an abusive father, my mother used to yell at us most often. I longed for my parents love and affection. Things were so bad, luckily by God's grace I did not end up my life as I had planned to. Anyway, coming back to my family, my son listens to me and he is so good, infact he is like a remote control and does whatever I say and I am very happy with him. But the problem is with my wife and son, they don't get along well, yelling, shouting etc happens between them. I tell her to follow my example but she is not able to, I am not able to explain to her as how to communicate with him. When I am at home things are so peaceful, all these negative things happen behind my back.
I was looking for a video which I can show her to follow, luckily I found a good one. I seem to follow whatever you are saying, it comes to me instinctively but I am not able to explain to her like how you do. Thank you so much, this video should help her. I want my son and wife to be peaceful and happy in each others presence.
U ARE VERY GOOD TRACHER MAY ALLAH GIVE U JANNAH FIRDOUS AND ALL MUSLIM ...AMEEN
Thanks... appreciate your good wishes.
One more tip:
Be your child's best friend!
Don't belittle them
Don't criticize them
Don't insult them
Don't ignore them
Don't abandon them
Don't underestimate them
Don't scold them
Choose your words when you're talking to them.
They are small YES, but don't forget they're HUMANS with DIGNITY.
Treat them as if they were your inseparable best friend, and you'll see the result!!
Totally agree, thanks for the additional tips.
Thanks so much brother, may Allah bless you and your family,I will try, may Allah make it easy
You know what that is so inspirational you're so right I will try that and I'll get my daughters to try that as well thank you God bless
Most welcome dear.... Thanks for listening and sharing
Really your helps me to improve or change my behaviour with my child . Thanks a lot . Vazhgha vazhamudan
I’m having issues with my son that are like being on an entirely different world even his school in the same boat, just stumbled on your videos (grand design or what lol) by it’s seriously helping me by reaffirming some of my methods and even validating me in some things I do or and actively working on, and basically helping me feel less lost and more confident in most (not all of course I have much work to do and lots of room to improve and be better of course) of the strategies and habits I’m doing and working on doing and how I’m dealing with this unpredictable scary worrying situation as at least being in the right place going in the right direction. Cannot express how badly I needed to have the validation that I CAN do things and not faking entirely.
happy to help... do also watch other parenting videos on this channel for more tips.
Brilliant advice. Wish more people would listen to people like you
That is very nice of you to say! Thank you.
Feeling very useful idea 💡 for my situation. I have a 9years old son and 6years daughter. Thanks 🙏
Great 👍
Thank you so much sir. This is exactly the video that I wanted to hear. I was always worried about this kind of issues with my children and you have given me the correct guidance. May Allah give you health and happiness as you are doing a great service for parents like me who are very much puzzled with child upbringing problems.
I dont know why people dislike this kind of video😕
Because this video got to them : )
Thanks ... Will definitely implement in my life
Jazaakalaahu Khairan for this great parenting tips.Thanks
Most welcome!
I really appreciate your advice... and IAM same doing with my children. Thanks from today I will change my behavior.thanks sir
Awesome! wish you courage and love! : )
Very good practical advise without all the long introduction, disclaimers and waffle. Just solid advice, great stuff.
Hmmm.... that was a very keen observation, appreciate your comment and interest. Have a great day ahead!
very needful information . my son is same character . he is not hearing me. now i also going to follow your same technics.thank u so much.
Appreciate your interest and hope you get the result you are looking for in your son.
three excellent techniques which can also help us build a healthy relationship. great work!
Thank you.. also don't forget to share with other parents : )
Yes good for building relationships
This is the best video on TH-cam!
Thank you! Appreciate your kind feedback and interest.
Thank you so much, you are great person in knowledge. I know you will help lots of parents out there, who had been struggling with their children. when they turn on your channel they'll learn more good information how to teach, and even to listen to their children.
Very nice rules jazak allah khair
Amazing tips! JazakAllaah khair!
Jazakum allahu khairan katheera brother
Very good points on communication...Boss behavior turns unfavorable tied!
Asklm ur technic is good.
My child lags concentration
Great advice Murtaza bhai...Allah bless u...keep up the good work...it's most needed subject
Pleasure to serve and help parents and kids get more love, peace and happiness.
Thank u for this advices ,may Allah bless you.
Thank you for listening : )
Thank so much. sweet one!
Sometimes in family we have different types kids my elder daughter 12 year old disturbed me a lot I have 4. Kids other ones really cooperative speak nicely sometimes nothing works on some kids
Thank you Murtazaji for doing this video...it was so helpful!
It's always a pleasure to help.
I saw one of your videos day before yesterday. You are doing a great job. Now I am a big fan of you . Kindly make a video for single parents.
Afsheen Zahra May Allah swt make it easy for you. Life is a struggle but once in jannah InshaAllah there will be no problems at all..
@@nady2265 jazakalllah khair
@@sheen2923 we are here in this world and as humans we should help each other this takes the burden off ones shoulders and it relaxes the mind which is the key to sukoon. Keep us in your duas
@@nady2265 absolutely right.. yes, sure.. Stay blessed
@@sheen2923 there's a hidden blessing in your surname. I can't put my finger on it at the moment but when I do I'll let you know.
Shukran brother
Great advice bhaiyya. Bhai I get hyper very soon I can't handle any relation with easee I'll get angry very soon pleasee suggest something or upload a video on this
Sure bro i will try these techniques
Jazakallahu khair kaseeran kaseera,thankh u so much
I really needed this.l didn't know what to do with my kids when the r not listening to me. From today l will surely do this. Thank you Murtuza Bhai.
Great! happy to help and wish you love, peace and happiness.
Murtaza Badri thank you.
great advise, thank you
Excellent one,also Plz make a video on adult children
sure
Thank you very much for the information.
Most welcome!
Very very educative video , I am sharing this with all my parent friends ... simple yet very useful
Thanks
Thank you, appreciate your interest.
Murtaza Badr
Please guide us about how to control shouting child
Thanks
Superb advice....thanku so much...
Most welcome... appreciate your comment : )
So true! Very nice
Thank u sir for opening my eyes.l m the one who was yelling And Abuse my 6yers old boy.thank plz
Thanks brother
Super, your English is very nice
Good videos Murtaza. You provide some good parenting advice.
I give it my best shot... thanks for the share and comment.
Thanx alots may Allah blessing u
Thank you! appreciate your blessings.
Great advice.
You are so understanding
Thank you!
thanks you so much
Thank you.
1.listen to your child
2.communicate
3.avoid negative talking
4.spent quality time with the children
Very good strategies
Wonderful very helpful
Most welcome!
Thankyou this has taught me a lot
gud info thanks
an exlent video . it is easy to those who know English language . There r lots of parents who can't understand . Can u make it in Gujrati which will most effective them.
Sure!
Definitely helping video in easy steps.i want more of this kind.means it's a kind of counseling from u that I regularly need.jazakAllahkhair
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Hi thank you
children behave, children become what they see and the way the adults behave....and the 3 most influencial people in a child's life are the parents and teacher and they behave with children in a wrong way but expect the children to become excellent
agree... and that's what needs to change : )
Hello. i am Adnan from coimbatore. I really love all your videos and feel your videos are practical. I am a new father of 2 (1yrsold) and it is difficult to manage 2 kids at once. Plz give some tips to help me and my wife manage 2 kids at a time.
Congratulations for becoming a father and being gifted with 2 kids... I can only imagine what it must be like to manage to kids at the same time. In fact, I always wanted twins : )
1) Help your wife and be available as it's double the effort
2) Treat both as two different individuals, do not compare one to the other
3) Allow both the kids freedom to be who they want to be.
4) Look at the brighter side that it's a one-time effort and both of them will have each other to play and support.
5) Consciously work to give both equal attention, love and freedom.
Hope this is useful and helps you and your wife.
Thank you so much for advice
Happy to help : )
Thank you very much i really learned a lot
Awesome! thanks for sharing : )
Murtaza Badri thanks its really work a lot may God bless us
mashallah topic is nice and u r English is very very nice .but u should make videos in Hindi to get benefit lots of people those who not understand English very well also.
Every week we publish a Hindi video.
Yes make video in hindi too
Murtaza Badri Jizzakallahu Khayr brother stay in English too please because we’re all not Hindi 😍❤️
hey ,if anyone else wants to discover how to talk to your child try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (just google it ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy got excellent success with it.
very good idea
Thank you so much
I m waiting for next vedio. very good sir 👏🖒
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Helpful video . Thank u
Welcome 😊
OMG I always tell my son if he doesn't eat his food he is not going to get stronger I feel soo bad☹️ and thx for the video
Happy you got a light Bulb Moment... happy realization.... it's never late... thanks for sharing.
Thank you Murtaza Bhai.
Thank you gbu
Jhaza Allah khair
Best vidio inspired vidio
Thanks
very nice advices thank you!
Thanks
awesome vid, have a lot of good info too
Thank you... appreciate your kind comment and share.
Very helpfull
Thanks
Nice video
Thank you brother
Most welcome brother! : )
Sometime with our busy life...and with our partner who does not walk with us in our discipline ways.....mum say no dad say yes...this create a kids who do not listen to you...i like discipline kids...as I have and is a discipline one...i like my house to be tidy...a time to look at t.v...a time to eat...a time to be with parents...but my husband is not like this...he is a bit different...he allow my kids what ever they want just for him to be at peace...i have talked to him...he listen for 2 days then same things again happened...how to handle this situation...thanks for your advise
Interesting question, appreciate your share... I would suggest you be a little flexible. Kids are not supposed to be very rigid on a rule. Training is good.. but you need to not be very obsessive about things and how they are kept. Your spouse might not appreciate you being so disciplined and hence the conflict. loosen up a little : )
Thanks for your advise and prompt reply...you are right...but I do all this for their well being...being discipline makes you a good person.....i will try to not impose on my kids a bit i will tell you the result...but I am very afraid if they go the wrong way
Murtaza Badri sir I need to talk with you ....do you have your number ......I m tens for my elder son ...
I'm a dad feel the same way with my wife. Hopefully you have different schedual than him. I feel like I'm alone with them at night, it gives me more room to discipline them the right away. Iv been there and plenty of fights with ice cream at 8 in the morning without me knowing.
Nil Jee yes exactly, even I face this situation very often, but not only child's father, but even grand parents do this same, we say no they say yes
Good message 4 me
Masha Allah
This is awesome thanks man
Most welcome!
Herat is best advice to deal with a teenage Muslim girl who wants to wear jeans t shirt and go out with her friends. I have tried compromising even though I disagree as a Muslim parent but she completely ignores me for over 2 wks now. I get impression she wants her full own way.
Tnx
vedio👍. you have explained best way . please advise how to make them study . As children are more naughty not in mood to study.how tomake them. in mood to study .
Make them responsible... for their study and school.
Murtaza Badri .
Assalamaualikum
thank you sir.
will make him responsible Inshallah.
Very inspiring. 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Happy to help!
very good sir
Appreciate your interest and comment
Let me try I'm.going through a difficult time with my daughter
Thank You So Much*
Most welcome!
awesom video.......thnx....
Pleasure.
Thank u for ur suggestion. My boy is 5years old and he is very shy .He had gone through delayed speech and developments, after 2.5 years he started talking, still he is not clear in his words.His main problem is he lacks concentration and attention. Sometimes he behaves nice, does his homework, everything, but after 2-4days he behaves deaf ear and reacts no to all things and prefer to sit idle.If we politely say him to do this or that he gets irritated. pls suggest me.
Give him some space to take his own decision. Sometimes children want to do what they want and learn from their own mistakes the best... let him make mistakes and learn from it.... you just need to be there to guide and show him the way.
wow thank u sir it was useful.👍
Super!
Rosbin Ambritha good
Islaaaaaam. My own family.
FarhiasRespect.Respect.
Appreciate what your child is doing?