What to do if you don't yell, abuse and hit your child? Watch the second part of this video where I help you advance your bond and love with your child. English video Link - th-cam.com/video/rrZwZ-pG0ME/w-d-xo.html Hindi video Link - th-cam.com/video/hhOYF0CqXLI/w-d-xo.html With all due respect to parents, but I strongly believe that parents who hit, yell and abuse are stupid, dumb, arrogant, dominating and have no respect for themselves or the child. These parents lack love, empathy and need to update their parenting skills BIG TIME!!!
Lovely video content! Sorry for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one off product for becoming an excellent parent without the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my good mate called Gray after a lifetime of fighting got astronomical results with it.
Thank you very much for this video. I watched and took on the challenge for 4 days now. I am loving the results. My 2 year old was going out of control and I felt really helpless.
Sir this is Rekha from Chennai my Son is13years old he is not leasing anything and not Even doing his own things Sir I'd don't have thing to do please give me some good point's to teach him
Thank you so much for this! I’m a first time mom and trying to figure out how to parent my baby and I find myself yelling all the time. I plan on stopping and getting my daughters attention and talk, that seems to help the best.
nicely said.....keep promoting love and kindness . .the world is dying because people forgot to be humble and kind.....i wish everyone peace and happiness!
Masha Allah..…................….......…. Very truly said Inshallah I will follow all these rules.Allah(SWT)has given us a precious gift..........that is our kids
📌 3 Golden rules: 1. Stop yelling and start requesting softly with postive tone. 2. When yelling continues his/her minds shuts, and the cycle continues. 3. Stop verbal and physical abuse. Start loving them and spend time with them.
Very difficult to do in my situation HOWEVER I will try to implement these three rules In Shaa Allah .. May Allah SWT make it easier for me and all ... Jazak Allahu khairn kaseera brother Murtaza
Salam brother, I am a Nigerian a mother of three, 2 daughters & a son... My first daughter is 7, she is not listening to any of my words that I get frustrated so I yell & even hit her..... Honestly after watching this I regretted everything, In sha Allah I will use the 3 golden method.... Astagfirullah!!!
Aisha Abdullahi Never hit her specially your first child .Even if she doent listen to you .First child is very sensitive .I lost my daughter I used to hit her when she was young now she is grown up and she stopped talking to us she is not talking to anybody in the house .
#1 Take their phone away #2 Explain clearly and calmly how to get it back #3 Dont give it back until the behavior change agreement is achieved/demonstrated for the time period agreed upon. No "yelling" needed, no hate involved.
My son and his wife were to have a baby. He asked me once that what does it take to be a good parent? I responded: you only need three things; 1) love your child unconditionally, 2) be a good example, 3) keep in-laws and non-immediate family at bay - that’s right even they should know their limits. For sanity sake, don’t preach your kids to death. Action speaks louder than words.
yelling and calling a child names is killing the bond. hitting kills trust and most of all the child is having self esteem issues later on. I grew up like this. now I am a mother of a 15 year old son and I don't yell at him. and I never hit him. talk, communication and logical consequences do the job. give them rules and also responsibilities. and trust me...my son was quite one hand full. he went through one hell of puberty with all you can imagine. I kept telling him that I love the person he essentially is. we had horrible 14 last months but now it's getting back to being respectful and loving. he even verbally said" thank you mom for loving me the way I am" those were the best words I have ever heard cause it showed me love is most important and not ego. thank you for sharing and confirming I always knew I wasn't wrong.
You are an Awesome Mom! You are proof that with love, belief and being Alive & Fearless you can help a child find and accept who they are with confidence.
+Murtaza Badri thank you 😊. yes I believe in unconditional love towards children. We as adults should lead the way and show them how to do right. we're responsible to form their personalities and this can only be accomplished with love and not with violence -physically and or verbally. we need to show them and tell them were here and love them. also with rules but never by withdrawing love.
I have subscribed Tq so much... My boy is only two years old I will stop yelling at him Will stop verbal avuse Will stop hitting him Thank God I got to watch your video just when I started doing these three things.
I'm so frustrated at my four year old son right now. He broke my new flat irons. And I haven't had them for a week yet. I want to whip his butt. Somehow I ran across this across this video and now I see I need to find a different approach. I thank you for thework that your doing. Cause now I know I am not alone in the battle of frustrations and parenthood.
Melissa Jasper Girl mine broke my iphone7 pluse and his new ipad his dad brougt .he broke the ipad with a screw drive and i just looked at him i felt my heart ace and i just cried .i didnt tell his bad yet coz its make me looking irrisponsiable
@Murtaza Badri, I suggest that you should keep your dumb satanic logics with yourself⚠ ....So kindly stop fooling the people here for your personal gain, just for the sake of making money persons like you have now started to flood the youtube with videos full of bullshits in the name of spreading knowledge⚠ ....Have you came here simply to improve your English speaking skills⚠ ....Today the world is going through the time phase of anti-christ, therefore majority parents all over the world are giving birth to children without knowing or infact don't want to know how to upbring a child⚠ ....Let me educate u, that only two true Prophetic and time tested policies exist in this world to educate and discipline any child, which are: 1) RELIGIOUS EDUCATION ALONGSIDE SECULAR EDUCATION WITH A FOCUS ON TEACHING THE CHILD ABOUT THE PUNISHMENTS FROM THE LORD IN BOTH THE WORLDS FOR DISRESPECTING ONE'S OWN PARENTS, and 2) STRICT GUARDIANSHIP ALONGSIDE GIVING JUST THE RIGHT QUANTITY OF LOVE"⚠ ....Using stick on the child upto the age of 15 years is compulsory inorder to create fear and respect for parents in the heart and mind of the child, this way the child will remain obedient and disciplined⚠ ....Pleasing the child too much by agreeing to fullfil all his/her wishes under the excuse of Love is the root cause of all the evils⚠ ....If you cannot discipline and make your child obedient than it is better to kill the child rather than succumbing to his/her's pressure or blackmailing tactics⚠ ....Otherwise, it would be better not to become parents if you can't remain strict with your children bcoz loose guardianship is a total "NO"⚠
I really appreciate this video. I was raised by a single mother who worked constantly, and through no fault of her own, wasn't able to spend as much time on herself and her child (me) as is necessary for healthy development. As a father of three now, a real fear of mine is not providing them the best environment possible for healthy mental and emotional development. I have been researching child psychology and putting a lot of thought into this, and videos like yours are worth their weight in gold. It feels like a literal lifeline to someone who at times feels like they're drowning. Thank you so much for what you do.
you hit the spot brother.I think we all get the same problems with our kids.all what you sate today in this video is true.the majority of parents are yelling.abusing their kids verbally and physically.I will follow your advices and I hope improve and empower my relations with my little kids.
Thank u so much...I'm facing these problems rite now... He s 6 years old...not going to school coz we changed his Skool for 2nd std...yesterday I hit him n scolded as u said..felt very bad n inshaallah I will change n accept your golden rules..thank u sir
Thank you for sharing and wish you love and patience with your child... the first step is to regret, the second step is to create an alternate behaviour and then start changing.
I so agree with this... Kids won't listen to us if we are frustrated, I learned for experience and change it and saw the different! thank you for sharing this and keep the good work of spreading the good parenting!
thank you very much for your advices. I am a mother of 3 children (25,18,13) . I have always communicated with them in the way you are talking about. I must say it´s worth it. They are very understanding, helpful and open minded. Now I´m working with kids of parents I don´t even know. I´m helping them with the homework for school and I am with them for breakfast and lunch, but I realized, that I am not getting heard, if I talk to them like I talked to my own kids. (Would you please get off the shoes..?...…and so on) They don´t even give me the chance to talk to them;; either they run away or they say nasty things to me or they even kick with the foot in my direction. There are children who have almost no rules at home or there mothers go on holiday an leave the children at home with grandma. I don´t say anything against grandmas. Most of them do a very good job, but I ask myself: " Is this the way how children should grow up. And what can I do as a nanny to teach them how to get a friendly and successful person ?" Sometimes I´m really frustrated and don´t know anymore what to do and how to react. If everybody would follow your 3 rules, there would be less squarrels and disputes all over the world.
it was a grt to c u sharing these basic rules. definitely if it would b applied by every single parent ,I m sure there would b magic or miracle I must say.. thnx for sharing this vedio..
I totally agree with you. People think I spoil my boy because I always talk to him nicely even he is wrong but thank God my child at the moment he is the sweet and respectful child. He is 13 years now🙏
hats off to your amazing explaining technique.... My sister always yelling his 2 year boy & talk to him with abusing language sometime tell him ..... why you born 😐.
Thank you brother I'm really undergoing this problem. Very much needed for me. I did all those you said. Now I got my mind going to apply your rules. Hope it works.
Hello, I would recommend : Echart Tolle: “A New Earth”/“Power of Now”.... Eckhart Tolle also did a 10 episode series live w/ Oprah Winfrey here on: TH-cam.
Im going to share this video with all my friends...jazzak allahu khairan brother....im a mother of 2 yrs daughter....Alhamdulillah im not hit my baby and my husband also....Allah hame sahi rah dikhaye...Ameen
I personally think though love and care any child and adult bring and receive their amazing results. Especially the kids are the blessing of our world and universe, they are absolutely fantastic, parents should learn with and from them. Kids are not tasks, challenges or responsibility, they are the real genuine happiness of our human future and we represent their spark in their lives. No matter what comes across kids should always be the best friends ever in a parent(s) life, speaking from my own perspective.
Thank you sooo muchhh for sharing these rules. I am a teacher and i really wanted to know what is getting wrong with my kids... Identifying these points are really what I wanted to hear right now... May Allah bless you with success and peace.
Thnk u so much for ur valuable advice. As a parent of 4 yr old i m done with her behaviour. I was not getting any way of making her do her won work also, today onwards i'l start using your advice. Thnk u.
Frankly, i don't have a child of my own. But, we have many kids in our family. Mother plays the biggest role in a child's behaviour. My nieces and cousins are an example. The latest child is my brother's daughter. Such an angel. I only see her once a month yet she does her routines everytime she visits my house. My brother loves watching football. He wanted to go out and watch in coffee shops with his friend at late night. My mum didn't allow. She fixed astro and get the football channel for him to watch at home. His friends are allowed to come home but they didn't come because it's very late. The rule is the same for girl and boy in my family. No such thing as boys can loiter late at night. We all do housework, we cook together. Every day my siblings has to mop the house if they want to go cycling in the evening.
Sir my son 16 years .he love me but iam forway from him iam leaving out of country me &my husband.before he is with us.becuse not enough money we send india my son &my daughter also they stay with my big sister house. My son is diabetic thatsway what he whats i try to bey for him.he never letoin to me. He sleep let night&he didnot go college. Because he cont weakupmorning.he not take breakfast.&,inj also.what he will ask i need to arrange.other ways he will not take injections.iam very tied what to do ples give me anwer.how can he become good ples.
@Murtaza Badri, I suggest that you should keep your dumb satanic logics with yourself⚠ ....So kindly stop fooling the people here for your personal gain, just for the sake of making money persons like you have now started to flood the youtube with videos full of bullshits in the name of spreading knowledge⚠ ....Have you came here simply to improve your English speaking skills⚠ ....Today the world is going through the time phase of anti-christ, therefore majority parents all over the world are giving birth to children without knowing or infact don't want to know how to upbring a child⚠ ....Let me educate u, that only two true Prophetic and time tested policies exist in this world to educate and discipline any child, which are: 1) RELIGIOUS EDUCATION ALONGSIDE SECULAR EDUCATION WITH A FOCUS ON TEACHING THE CHILD ABOUT THE PUNISHMENTS FROM THE LORD IN BOTH THE WORLDS FOR DISRESPECTING ONE'S OWN PARENTS, and 2) STRICT GUARDIANSHIP ALONGSIDE GIVING JUST THE RIGHT QUANTITY OF LOVE"⚠ ....Using stick on the child upto the age of 15 years is compulsory inorder to create fear and respect for parents in the heart and mind of the child, this way the child will remain obedient and disciplined⚠ ....Pleasing the child too much by agreeing to fullfil all his/her wishes under the excuse of Love is the root cause of all the evils⚠ ....If you cannot discipline and make your child obedient than it is better to kill the child rather than succumbing to his/her's pressure or blackmailing tactics⚠ ....Otherwise, it would be better not to become parents if you can't remain strict with your children bcoz loose guardianship is a total "NO"⚠
you are absolutly ryt...theres much more points...its a vast topic...nt easy..bt you will see the result...kids are like mirrors...even if you try following these rules some child might behave diff...its bcoz parents shud not fight in front of their child...if you try respect their silly matters..they will resp u back...take time for parenting...its very diff to follow the rules if one of the parent is opposite..so before everything...its imp to make sure parents are in good terms wd each other. no lies no shouting calmness..communicate in low voice...basic thing that i found out is....our patience and time is stole by gadgets and TV...v shud try max t avoid spending time for gadgets...when our child need us at any cost keep aside ur works...if nt possibl do not feel lazy to explain why...they are born frm you...they have your character...try t see dem as ur frnd...they need us...for them this world is difficult to handle...make them prepare to face this world...never lie to them or tell them that other person is a bad person...just tell them..they say this bcoz they donno...also never always fullfill their askd demands...instead give them that wen dey are not expecting or like a gift for good behaviour or marks or activities...they are lyk black board...we fill it with contents...which cannot be erased... im a mother of 5yr old boy...he is the best kid that i hv ever seen...mashaAllah...n im 8mnth pregnt...n i hv a best husband...its not that im lucky to get them...they were norml bt i had to train them with patience...dat doesnt explain im perfect mother...i searchd sso much to knw wat is exact parenting and wen it starts..along with prayers...bcoz i was very much beaten by my mom when i was young bcz my dad always scold her fr evrything...its nt even dads fault bcz he ws a business man...who struggl t feed us seven kids...i wudnt mind to learn things if my parents wud have treated me well.. so keep on learning n practicing parenting..think positive of everything...that everything has a cause...jazakaAllah..brother i apreciate ur concern for parents and children...!
Mr badri I always watch your videos can't remember how many times .. When ever I get upset of my 2 & 4Yrs children ... and go blank in my life .... it's like ray of light and enthusiasm ..... from now on Ward's I ll not yell at my child
Thank you for your kind share and wish you courage, patience and love to follow these rules. Also check our online parenting course... It will help you with your parenting. Visit www.thinklikeyourchild.com
Today I got msg from my 10 years son’s school about his behavior,I have no idea wat to do where to go n then I search in TH-cam then I got your video you know wat every single words are true ,I just have twins baby girl n it’s soo hard having patience ,I do the same thing thing to my10 years boy I got bad response from him .thank you sooo Sooo much for such a helpful video really appreciate 🙏
I’m a kid watching this because I feel guilty, and my sister called me names I’m not gonna repeat. She also said my mom doesn’t know how to discipline, and if I were in a different family I could’ve turned out right, so I want to change my own behavior.
I am happy you want to change your behaviour. Visit facebook.com/groups/murtazabadri and join for free. The group is preloaded with a course you can watch and begin changing your life.
Vry Important mesg in a vry simple way ..I want to b a good mother but most of d times my kids test my patience I really feel bad when I use bad wrds for them or when I beat them may Allah forgive me for that ..I always say sorry to my kids for being so bad sm times
thats true. its a wonderful msg for us to follow. keep sharing. starts with yelling and ends with physical abuse. its all bcos of parents expectations are not met. we shall try and keep you informed
In 3 bullet points please confirm that i understand the rules correctly ? #dont shout and scream - communicate with love and care rather, #dont verbally abuse your child - communicate with love and care rather, #dont physically abuse your child - hug hold cuddle the child rather... Is that correct????
Thank you for this wonderful video. I will put the 3 golden rule on my brain and I Will discipline myself to do it. Sometimes we parents release anger, frustrations, most especially when things are not going well, and they don't listen.
The first step is realization which you have... now you need to learn the rules and apply it. facebook.com/groups/thinklikeyourchild join this group and watch the videos
I m so guilty... i promx i try to follow ur golden rule. I m from a broken family that effected my personality so much. I try to avoid these thing but sometime i loose my temper on my two year old. i m so ashamed of myself.😭😭😭 Help me.
I feel so bad nowadays my 12 year son is sometimes giving me tough time....not listening n answering back he is so loving n sensitive...i feel too bad now...i am but strict vth him and imposing....i never hit my child never abuse...but nowadays I am getting so b0à mom...thanks bhai for guidance😊😊
Oh so good sir I have 3.5 year daughter I used to get frustrated from office work . . I used to Yell, abuse and hit mildly . . Sorry I will rectify from now only . . Thanks a lot
Assalamualaikum Bhai i feel very guilty about my child I was hit him and yelling also at him and it's all just because of my personal matter and family circumstances I beg to Allah for forgiveness I m feeling very bad I want to and I will change my self for my child and for his good up bringing inshallah
You will be answerable about your child, you only yell on them because they are weak, and you can't yell at someone else, be fearful of Allah, you have no right to do that, ask Allah's help through Salah and sabr,
What good is you realize your mistake... that's 50% of the battle won. Now commit and show self-control by following these 3 rules and you shall undo the damage and recreate your love and bond with your child.
If you are sorry then brother please please its So important to also apologise to your child over and over again to make that child realise that the abuse was not something normal all parents do.because your child will one day be a parent and might abuse his own children when having other issues and think to himself this is ok.
Salaam Brother, I had to watch your video twice and have noted your comments so that I remember. I am having major problems of yelling etc, my two sons (age 5 and 9) listen to their father and other relatives more than me and this is because I start yelling straight away when they don't listen. So I will strictly follow your advise Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you so much for this timely message! My husband has passed and I'm left with a 25 year old argumentative and irresponsible 25 y.o. child. I have no problem putting her out and all of my other children are on their own but this one has a baby that I fear would be neglected severely! What would you suggest
Don't argue. That's an adult you are dealing with now. Present with 2 or 3 options with time frames that are realistic. Stick to them. It's your house and nobody rules your house but you. At least you gave an option. As far as the grandchild. You can't allow the the 25 year old to control you with that factor because they will. Sometimes tough love is the way and you have to let fate deal the consequences as designed.
@@user-gz1kw1qk5j Sometimes ain't no common ground with a grown adult who wants to do whatever they want. Are you suggesting this person puts up with this for the next 18 to 20 years until the grandkid has a kid and then they have to deal with the same issue another generation??
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What to do if you don't yell, abuse and hit your child? Watch the second part of this video where I help you advance your bond and love with your child.
English video Link - th-cam.com/video/rrZwZ-pG0ME/w-d-xo.html
Hindi video Link - th-cam.com/video/hhOYF0CqXLI/w-d-xo.html
With all due respect to parents, but I strongly believe that parents who hit, yell and abuse are stupid, dumb, arrogant, dominating and have no respect for themselves or the child. These parents lack love, empathy and need to update their parenting skills BIG TIME!!!
MY PARENTS ARE NARCISSISTIC. I WANT TO GET OVER THEM, MOVE ON AND LIVE A HAPPY LIFE. I AM STUCK.
How old are you? if above 18 and can manage yourself and your life... then move on and live a happy life... who's stopping you?
Thank you for sharing this information. I will surely be trying them out.
Lovely video content! Sorry for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one off product for becoming an excellent parent without the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my good mate called Gray after a lifetime of fighting got astronomical results with it.
Thank you so much sir i will try this in shaa Allah
now a days as all knows raising a good child becomes a very big task. ...
Allah help us and make khair
Thank you
It sure is we need to get effective strategies
Thank you very much for this video. I watched and took on the challenge for 4 days now. I am loving the results. My 2 year old was going out of control and I felt really helpless.
OMG. I had tears because this Is exactly what we going through.
Me too
Yaaa same here....
Me too
Same situation with me as well
OMG me too I ended up crying for my child I also feel so helpless when I cant control her. Thats really true.
will try this 3 things InshaAllah
1) no yelling
2) no abusing
3) no hitting
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Definitely worth trying. This is good information.
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Get out of here
Lol... Difficult to not yell when ur child pulls your hair, scratch your face and bites you everywhere
I'm guilty of yelling, thankfully not hitting or verbally abusing. But I hate yelling. I need to work on that.
Ditto
Sir this is Rekha from Chennai my Son is13years old he is not leasing anything and not Even doing his own things Sir I'd don't have thing to do please give me some good point's to teach him
You can do it! Children listen more when you don’t yell. Because they feel loved and respected
1. Stop yelling and start respecting for who he/ she was.
2. Stop verbal abuse
3. Stop Physical abuse.
srrr
Im not doing any of this...but my son is naughty😭.
Uma Annita is their a man in the house?
My mom be like: im just going to pretend i didnt see that
You'd think this would be basic common sense but apparently not
Thanks brother, I have four kids and by watching this video I will try to change my approach to discipline my children
Thank you so much for this! I’m a first time mom and trying to figure out how to parent my baby and I find myself yelling all the time. I plan on stopping and getting my daughters attention and talk, that seems to help the best.
nicely said.....keep promoting love and kindness . .the world is dying because people forgot to be humble and kind.....i wish everyone peace and happiness!
Masha Allah..…................….......….
Very truly said
Inshallah I will follow all these rules.Allah(SWT)has given us a precious gift..........that is our kids
A gift.. no one can buy or create without the creator.
📌 3 Golden rules:
1. Stop yelling and start requesting softly with postive tone.
2. When yelling continues his/her minds shuts, and the cycle continues.
3. Stop verbal and physical abuse. Start loving them and spend time with them.
I promise I will stop abusing and hitting my child. Thanks for reminding me that I gave birth to my kids. So they are special to me. Thanks bro.
Most welcome 👍❤️
You are special and your child is special please know that hitting is not
Necessary there are more effective strategies that work
Very difficult to do in my situation HOWEVER I will try to implement these three rules In Shaa Allah .. May Allah SWT make it easier for me and all ... Jazak Allahu khairn kaseera brother Murtaza
I’m so guilty of these things! Your right I need to change my behaviour and spend more time with my kids playing with them. Thank you
Most welcome
Thank you im a single parent of two and i need help with this . i am also young too . and trying my best to be calm
I live by positive reinforcement with my kids and it works. I do yell im not going to lie and i hate myself for it afterwards and feel so guilty x
Salam brother, I am a Nigerian a mother of three, 2 daughters & a son... My first daughter is 7, she is not listening to any of my words that I get frustrated so I yell & even hit her..... Honestly after watching this I regretted everything, In sha Allah I will use the 3 golden method.... Astagfirullah!!!
My boy likes fighting back ..is it age coz is three
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May God guide you..
Aisha Abdullahi Never hit her specially your first child .Even if she doent listen to you .First child is very sensitive .I lost my daughter I used to hit her when she was young now she is grown up and she stopped talking to us she is not talking to anybody in the house .
@@JannatJannat56
Mujh sy b yeah glti Hu Mera baby 2.5 years Ka h
Mai ab boht pachtati Hu
Plzzzz btay kya abhi m usko change kr skti hu?
#1 Take their phone away
#2 Explain clearly and calmly how to get it back
#3 Dont give it back until the behavior change agreement is achieved/demonstrated for the time period agreed upon.
No "yelling" needed, no hate involved.
Thanks.
No cell phone, until 16 years of age, thats the rule in our family. Kids got used to that rule, and no more questions.
i'm so thankful to you for this video, i'll find a way to make my mother watch this (my father is lost already and can't change anymore).
Super.. My eyes had tears lisning this
This is what every parents should behave. Awesome talk 👌🏻👌🏻👍🏻👍🏻😊
Thanks a ton... sending you more love and peace
Needed to watch this again. I was doing good then I lost track
My son and his wife were to have a baby. He asked me once that what does it take to be a good parent?
I responded: you only need three things; 1) love your child unconditionally, 2) be a good example, 3) keep in-laws and non-immediate family at bay - that’s right even they should know their limits.
For sanity sake, don’t preach your kids to death. Action speaks louder than words.
just my strategy and ofcourse constantly teaching them God's way.
You're such a sweet mom and mom-in law
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@@tousiyapendari556 lool exactly
Inlaws at bay? What about your own family
yelling and calling a child names is killing the bond. hitting kills trust and most of all the child is having self esteem issues later on. I grew up like this.
now I am a mother of a 15 year old son and I don't yell at him. and I never hit him. talk, communication and logical consequences do the job. give them rules and also responsibilities. and trust me...my son was quite one hand full. he went through one hell of puberty with all you can imagine. I kept telling him that I love the person he essentially is. we had horrible 14 last months but now it's getting back to being respectful and loving. he even verbally said" thank you mom for loving me the way I am"
those were the best words I have ever heard cause it showed me love is most important and not ego.
thank you for sharing and confirming
I always knew I wasn't wrong.
You are an Awesome Mom! You are proof that with love, belief and being Alive & Fearless you can help a child find and accept who they are with confidence.
+Murtaza Badri thank you 😊. yes I believe in unconditional love towards children. We as adults should lead the way and show them how to do right. we're responsible to form their personalities and this can only be accomplished with love and not with violence -physically and or verbally. we need to show them and tell them were here and love them. also with rules but never by withdrawing love.
U r lucky thy u hv child like that sb ayse ni hoty
Tinú Nes
How you managed...i had a tough time with my son...
I've heard a lot of vedios about parenting, and this is the most loud and clear.
Thank you !
I have subscribed
Tq so much...
My boy is only two years old
I will stop yelling at him
Will stop verbal avuse
Will stop hitting him
Thank God I got to watch your video just when I started doing these three things.
I wish i see this before my son is born,i really appreciate it,thnks alot.
same regrets here😣😢
I'm so frustrated at my four year old son right now. He broke my new flat irons. And I haven't had them for a week yet. I want to whip his butt. Somehow I ran across this across this video and now I see I need to find a different approach. I thank you for thework that your doing. Cause now I know I am not alone in the battle of frustrations and parenthood.
Melissa Jasper
Girl mine broke my iphone7 pluse and his new ipad his dad brougt .he broke the ipad with a screw drive and i just looked at him i felt my heart ace and i just cried .i didnt tell his bad yet coz its make me looking irrisponsiable
@Murtaza Badri,
I suggest that you should keep your dumb satanic logics with yourself⚠
....So kindly stop fooling the people here for your personal gain, just for the sake of making money persons like you have now started to flood the youtube with videos full of bullshits in the name of spreading knowledge⚠
....Have you came here simply to improve your English speaking skills⚠
....Today the world is going through the time phase of anti-christ, therefore majority parents all over the world are giving birth to children without knowing or infact don't want to know how to upbring a child⚠
....Let me educate u, that only two true Prophetic and time tested policies exist in this world to educate and discipline any child, which are: 1) RELIGIOUS EDUCATION ALONGSIDE SECULAR EDUCATION WITH A FOCUS ON TEACHING THE CHILD ABOUT THE PUNISHMENTS FROM THE LORD IN BOTH THE WORLDS FOR DISRESPECTING ONE'S OWN PARENTS, and 2) STRICT GUARDIANSHIP ALONGSIDE GIVING JUST THE RIGHT QUANTITY OF LOVE"⚠
....Using stick on the child upto the age of 15 years is compulsory inorder to create fear and respect for parents in the heart and mind of the child, this way the child will remain obedient and disciplined⚠
....Pleasing the child too much by agreeing to fullfil all his/her wishes under the excuse of Love is the root cause of all the evils⚠
....If you cannot discipline and make your child obedient than it is better to kill the child rather than succumbing to his/her's pressure or blackmailing tactics⚠
....Otherwise, it would be better not to become parents if you can't remain strict with your children bcoz loose guardianship is a total "NO"⚠
Melissa Jasper please don't whip him. Poor boy didn't do it purposely. He loves u. Why will he hurt u. All my love to ur sweetie pie
Nice
Melissa Jasper jjq
I really appreciate this video. I was raised by a single mother who worked constantly, and through no fault of her own, wasn't able to spend as much time on herself and her child (me) as is necessary for healthy development.
As a father of three now, a real fear of mine is not providing them the best environment possible for healthy mental and emotional development. I have been researching child psychology and putting a lot of thought into this, and videos like yours are worth their weight in gold. It feels like a literal lifeline to someone who at times feels like they're drowning.
Thank you so much for what you do.
Most welcome... thank you for your kind words
Pls schedule a call at www.murtazbadri.com/call for us to help you with your current parenting challenge.
you hit the spot brother.I think we all get the same problems with our kids.all what you sate today in this video is true.the majority of parents are yelling.abusing their kids verbally and physically.I will follow your advices and I hope improve and empower my relations with my little kids.
Appreciate the honesty and share.. hope you find the courage to apply these 3 rules.
Shurkan my brother.. as a muslim woman mother and wife it gets extremely hard.. mahshallah!!! I needed to hear this.. Shukran🧕🏾
Thank u so much...I'm facing these problems rite now... He s 6 years old...not going to school coz we changed his Skool for 2nd std...yesterday I hit him n scolded as u said..felt very bad n inshaallah I will change n accept your golden rules..thank u sir
Thank you for sharing and wish you love and patience with your child... the first step is to regret, the second step is to create an alternate behaviour and then start changing.
Never hit a child.
Never hit a child its a killer thats always an alternative
I so agree with this... Kids won't listen to us if we are frustrated, I learned for experience and change it and saw the different! thank you for sharing this and keep the good work of spreading the good parenting!
Thank you!
This video made my day.I will put it in practice
thank you very much for your advices. I am a mother of 3 children (25,18,13) . I have always communicated with them in the way you are talking about. I must say it´s worth it.
They are very understanding, helpful and open minded.
Now I´m working with kids of parents I don´t even know. I´m helping them with the homework for school and I am with them for breakfast and lunch, but I realized, that I am not getting heard, if I talk to them like I talked to my own kids. (Would you please get off the shoes..?...…and so on) They don´t even give me the chance to talk to them;; either they run away or they say nasty things to me or they even kick with the foot in my direction. There are children who have almost no rules at home or there mothers go on holiday an leave the children at home with grandma. I don´t say anything against grandmas. Most of them do a very good job, but I ask myself: " Is this the way how children should grow up. And what can I do as a nanny to teach them how to get a friendly and successful person ?"
Sometimes I´m really frustrated and don´t know anymore what to do and how to react.
If everybody would follow your 3 rules, there would be less squarrels and disputes all over the world.
I completely agree with everything you are saying. Most parents become very frustrated dealing with their children.
it was a grt to c u sharing these basic rules. definitely if it would b applied by every single parent ,I m sure there would b magic or miracle I must say.. thnx for sharing this vedio..
The challenge is will parents use them.
Beautiful advice. So true. I wish I watched this video 14 years ago.
Does not matter start now and make a good ending.
Bhai u are right, I some time do it. I feel shame of myself. I will follow it.
awesome!
Every parent shud follow this. Thanks lot. God bless you bro
I totally agree with you. People think I spoil my boy because I always talk to him nicely even he is wrong but thank God my child at the moment he is the sweet and respectful child. He is 13 years now🙏
hats off to your amazing explaining technique.... My sister always yelling his 2 year boy & talk to him with abusing language sometime tell him ..... why you born 😐.
Thank you... Happy you liked it!
Thank you brother I'm really undergoing this problem. Very much needed for me. I did all those you said. Now I got my mind going to apply your rules. Hope it works.
wish you courage, patience and love.
Hello, I would recommend : Echart Tolle: “A New Earth”/“Power of Now”.... Eckhart Tolle also did a 10 episode series live w/ Oprah Winfrey here on: TH-cam.
Good video. It`s SO hard not yelling at them lil`munchkins!
Sure, but it's equally hard to not love them : )
@@MurtazaBadri its even harder when your 12 yr old equates what you can buy for them with how much you love them 😢
Im going to share this video with all my friends...jazzak allahu khairan brother....im a mother of 2 yrs daughter....Alhamdulillah im not hit my baby and my husband also....Allah hame sahi rah dikhaye...Ameen
I personally think though love and care any child and adult bring and receive their amazing results. Especially the kids are the blessing of our world and universe, they are absolutely fantastic, parents should learn with and from them. Kids are not tasks, challenges or responsibility, they are the real genuine happiness of our human future and we represent their spark in their lives. No matter what comes across kids should always be the best friends ever in a parent(s) life, speaking from my own perspective.
Thank you so much for this information. I will follow this rules my entire life. Once again Thank you sir 🌹
Thank you sooo muchhh for sharing these rules. I am a teacher and i really wanted to know what is getting wrong with my kids... Identifying these points are really what I wanted to hear right now... May Allah bless you with success and peace.
Appreciate you being honest and sharing... Thank you for your kind words.
I will try it starting this secound,Thank you.
You are awesome! Wish you courage, patience and persistence. Thanks for sharing.
In a Gist
1. Stop yelling; instead communicate
2. Stop hitting; sit with your child give love
3. Stop abusing; support the child's thoughts
Thnk u so much for ur valuable advice. As a parent of 4 yr old i m done with her behaviour. I was not getting any way of making her do her won work also, today onwards i'l start using your advice. Thnk u.
Asalam alikum May Allah reward u. This is exactly what parents need a teacher to teach them.
Just playing my little part to bring some joy in parents and children's life.
MashAllah keep the good work up.
Frankly, i don't have a child of my own. But, we have many kids in our family. Mother plays the biggest role in a child's behaviour. My nieces and cousins are an example. The latest child is my brother's daughter. Such an angel. I only see her once a month yet she does her routines everytime she visits my house. My brother loves watching football. He wanted to go out and watch in coffee shops with his friend at late night. My mum didn't allow. She fixed astro and get the football channel for him to watch at home. His friends are allowed to come home but they didn't come because it's very late. The rule is the same for girl and boy in my family. No such thing as boys can loiter late at night. We all do housework, we cook together. Every day my siblings has to mop the house if they want to go cycling in the evening.
Awesome! looks like a lot of fun : ) thanks for sharing
Sir my son 16 years .he love me but iam forway from him iam leaving out of country me &my husband.before he is with us.becuse not enough money we send india my son &my daughter also they stay with my big sister house. My son is diabetic thatsway what he whats i try to bey for him.he never letoin to me. He sleep let night&he didnot go college. Because he cont weakupmorning.he not take breakfast.&,inj also.what he will ask i need to arrange.other ways he will not take injections.iam very tied what to do ples give me anwer.how can he become good ples.
Sharmella Krishnasamy I love that comment and the routine ! Thanks a lot for sharing ❤️
@Murtaza Badri,
I suggest that you should keep your dumb satanic logics with yourself⚠
....So kindly stop fooling the people here for your personal gain, just for the sake of making money persons like you have now started to flood the youtube with videos full of bullshits in the name of spreading knowledge⚠
....Have you came here simply to improve your English speaking skills⚠
....Today the world is going through the time phase of anti-christ, therefore majority parents all over the world are giving birth to children without knowing or infact don't want to know how to upbring a child⚠
....Let me educate u, that only two true Prophetic and time tested policies exist in this world to educate and discipline any child, which are: 1) RELIGIOUS EDUCATION ALONGSIDE SECULAR EDUCATION WITH A FOCUS ON TEACHING THE CHILD ABOUT THE PUNISHMENTS FROM THE LORD IN BOTH THE WORLDS FOR DISRESPECTING ONE'S OWN PARENTS, and 2) STRICT GUARDIANSHIP ALONGSIDE GIVING JUST THE RIGHT QUANTITY OF LOVE"⚠
....Using stick on the child upto the age of 15 years is compulsory inorder to create fear and respect for parents in the heart and mind of the child, this way the child will remain obedient and disciplined⚠
....Pleasing the child too much by agreeing to fullfil all his/her wishes under the excuse of Love is the root cause of all the evils⚠
....If you cannot discipline and make your child obedient than it is better to kill the child rather than succumbing to his/her's pressure or blackmailing tactics⚠
....Otherwise, it would be better not to become parents if you can't remain strict with your children bcoz loose guardianship is a total "NO"⚠
My son have a adhd he is hypertension we are treated him but we want he gets well soon 10 yrs
you are absolutly ryt...theres much more points...its a vast topic...nt easy..bt you will see the result...kids are like mirrors...even if you try following these rules some child might behave diff...its bcoz parents shud not fight in front of their child...if you try respect their silly matters..they will resp u back...take time for parenting...its very diff to follow the rules if one of the parent is opposite..so before everything...its imp to make sure parents are in good terms wd each other. no lies no shouting calmness..communicate in low voice...basic thing that i found out is....our patience and time is stole by gadgets and TV...v shud try max t avoid spending time for gadgets...when our child need us at any cost keep aside ur works...if nt possibl do not feel lazy to explain why...they are born frm you...they have your character...try t see dem as ur frnd...they need us...for them this world is difficult to handle...make them prepare to face this world...never lie to them or tell them that other person is a bad person...just tell them..they say this bcoz they donno...also never always fullfill their askd demands...instead give them that wen dey are not expecting or like a gift for good behaviour or marks or activities...they are lyk black board...we fill it with contents...which cannot be erased...
im a mother of 5yr old boy...he is the best kid that i hv ever seen...mashaAllah...n im 8mnth pregnt...n i hv a best husband...its not that im lucky to get them...they were norml bt i had to train them with patience...dat doesnt explain im perfect mother...i searchd sso much to knw wat is exact parenting and wen it starts..along with prayers...bcoz i was very much beaten by my mom when i was young bcz my dad always scold her fr evrything...its nt even dads fault bcz he ws a business man...who struggl t feed us seven kids...i wudnt mind to learn things if my parents wud have treated me well..
so keep on learning n practicing parenting..think positive of everything...that everything has a cause...jazakaAllah..brother i apreciate ur concern for parents and children...!
Your 3 golden rules are so beneficial. I will try to share with as many parents as possible. Thank You so much.
Most welcome!
Mr badri I always watch your videos can't remember how many times ..
When ever I get upset of my 2 & 4Yrs children ... and go blank in my life .... it's like ray of light and enthusiasm ..... from now on Ward's I ll not yell at my child
Thank you for your kind share and wish you courage, patience and love to follow these rules. Also check our online parenting course... It will help you with your parenting. Visit www.thinklikeyourchild.com
Same thing happens with me...I feel guilty. I tried not to do this again. Thank you sir. For guide us..
Pleasure to help
Really true sir golden words
I love ur possitive energy that you charge us with😍😍😍
Very well said brother... god bless u
Thank you for the reminders.. I do the rules but get back to yelling. I will try my best. I am praying.
Today I got msg from my 10 years son’s school about his behavior,I have no idea wat to do where to go n then I search in TH-cam then I got your video you know wat every single words are true ,I just have twins baby girl n it’s soo hard having patience ,I do the same thing thing to my10 years boy I got bad response from him .thank you sooo Sooo much for such a helpful video really appreciate 🙏
Most welcome... happy to help!
I’m a kid watching this because I feel guilty, and my sister called me names I’m not gonna repeat. She also said my mom doesn’t know how to discipline, and if I were in a different family I could’ve turned out right, so I want to change my own behavior.
I am happy you want to change your behaviour. Visit facebook.com/groups/murtazabadri and join for free. The group is preloaded with a course you can watch and begin changing your life.
The same thing with me ☹️😢
Please take a video on ADHD behavior management
Thank you so much sir.you explained things very well
Vry Important mesg in a vry simple way ..I want to b a good mother but most of d times my kids test my patience I really feel bad when I use bad wrds for them or when I beat them may Allah forgive me for that ..I always say sorry to my kids for being so bad sm times
Thanks a lot for this precious information. And i would like to apply and c the difference in my kids. What u said is exactly what i m facing now. 😭
Thank you for the share and wish you courage, patience and self control.
Thank you soo much i am really very thank full to u it looks like that your reading my heart 😭😭😭😭
Same condition going with me
Hi sir I am going to try it from tomorrow onward only really appreciate you
Wish you courage and patience... do it at least for a month to see results.
I love you sir with respect u give sach a great advice and very. Useful for me I really satrgel with my 2year old daughter I am thankful to u
Most welcome, happy to help.
Thank you for the information. We all struggling with the same difficulties as you said. May the Almighty help us all. Again Thank you for the video.
Most welcome!
thats true. its a wonderful msg for us to follow. keep sharing. starts with yelling and ends with physical abuse. its all bcos of parents expectations are not met. we shall try and keep you informed
Thanks for the video and made me guilty, I sure follow these rules and take care of my sons...
In 3 bullet points please confirm that i understand the rules correctly ?
#dont shout and scream - communicate with love and care rather,
#dont verbally abuse your child - communicate with love and care rather,
#dont physically abuse your child - hug hold cuddle the child rather...
Is that correct????
Absolutely correct!
Genevieve Grantham tfaalz
Murtaza Badri r bjj
Gee thanks!
Yessss
Thank you very much for this video !!!
Most welcome : )
Thank u so much.....we all know these things r wrong...but guidence is needed ,that u give....
Most welcome
I'm very thankful to you for making us learnt becoz I am the same who yells and even hit my kids I'll definitely try to change myself.thanx again
Wish you strength and courage and patience to learn and change your behavior with your kids.
Thanks sir....
I will try to follow this 3 thinks...
I think it will help... Thanks once again
Thanks a lot sir I will apply this obviously
Thank you for sharing this wisdom, very informative, much appreciated :)
Every normal human been knows that,whe dont need him to tell us that.
Thank you for this wonderful video. I will put the 3 golden rule on my brain and I Will discipline myself to do it. Sometimes we parents release anger, frustrations, most especially when things are not going well, and they don't listen.
These all rules are very useful.Thank you very much for advicing these Golden rules.God bless you and your family.
My pleasure 😊
Crying right now...... I am a bad mom.... I really don't want to yell n all... I want to be a good mom...
The first step is realization which you have... now you need to learn the rules and apply it. facebook.com/groups/thinklikeyourchild join this group and watch the videos
I m so guilty... i promx i try to follow ur golden rule. I m from a broken family that effected my personality so much. I try to avoid these thing but sometime i loose my temper on my two year old. i m so ashamed of myself.😭😭😭
Help me.
me to😩😞😣
I feel so bad nowadays my 12 year son is sometimes giving me tough time....not listening n answering back he is so loving n sensitive...i feel too bad now...i am but strict vth him and imposing....i never hit my child never abuse...but nowadays I am getting so b0à mom...thanks bhai for guidance😊😊
Oh so good sir
I have 3.5 year daughter I used to get frustrated from office work . . I used to Yell, abuse and hit mildly . . Sorry I will rectify from now only . . Thanks a lot
Awesome! wish you courage and patience, thanks for sharing
Thank you for this! Much needed and I will strive to follow the 3 golden rules. Confirmed what the problem has been in my family.
Anyone who calls their kid an idiot is a good for nothing who does not deserve to be a parent.
Totally bro!
Good job well done brother.......God bless........
Thank you!
Assalamualaikum Bhai i feel very guilty about my child I was hit him and yelling also at him and it's all just because of my personal matter and family circumstances I beg to Allah for forgiveness I m feeling very bad I want to and I will change my self for my child and for his good up bringing inshallah
You will be answerable about your child, you only yell on them because they are weak, and you can't yell at someone else, be fearful of Allah, you have no right to do that, ask Allah's help through Salah and sabr,
What good is you realize your mistake... that's 50% of the battle won. Now commit and show self-control by following these 3 rules and you shall undo the damage and recreate your love and bond with your child.
@@MurtazaBadri thanks bhai
@@asaeed6153 insha.allah I don't do it any more I love my child
If you are sorry then brother please please its So important to also apologise to your child over and over again to make that child realise that the abuse was not something normal all parents do.because your child will one day be a parent and might abuse his own children when having other issues and think to himself this is ok.
Salaam Brother, I had to watch your video twice and have noted your comments so that I remember. I am having major problems of yelling etc, my two sons (age 5 and 9) listen to their father and other relatives more than me and this is because I start yelling straight away when they don't listen. So I will strictly follow your advise
Thank you so much for sharing.
Awesome! appreciate your open-mindedness to learn and implement... wish you courage, love and peace for yourself and your kids.
Challenge accepted sir , let’s see even I am having very stressful time with my kids
Do let me know how it goes
Good video. Valuable information. I love your enthusiasm as you present this....
Thank you so much for this timely message! My husband has passed and I'm left with a 25 year old argumentative and irresponsible 25 y.o. child. I have no problem putting her out and all of my other children are on their own but this one has a baby that I fear would be neglected severely! What would you suggest
Please don't leave your child alone. Your grandchild needs you. Just try to find common ground with your child for the sake of your grandchild.
Don't argue. That's an adult you are dealing with now. Present with 2 or 3 options with time frames that are realistic. Stick to them. It's your house and nobody rules your house but you. At least you gave an option. As far as the grandchild. You can't allow the the 25 year old to control you with that factor because they will. Sometimes tough love is the way and you have to let fate deal the consequences as designed.
@@user-gz1kw1qk5j Sometimes ain't no common ground with a grown adult who wants to do whatever they want. Are you suggesting this person puts up with this for the next 18 to 20 years until the grandkid has a kid and then they have to deal with the same issue another generation??
25 isn't a child that's a young adult start treating her more of an adult then a child like how you refer her as.
You are wonderful buddy
Humbled!
We are following these steps as much as possible with my grand daughter.
I dont belittle or yell but explain rules timeouts and praise and rewards for good behavior
Agreed brother! 👌👍👏
Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
A reminder to not shout!
Thanku soo much
So glad I found this.