CHAPTER 7 ME MY MINE The Mental Games Narcissists Play

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    CHAPTER 7 ME MY MINE The Mental Games Narcissists Play
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  • @jessicascreenwritingservices
    @jessicascreenwritingservices ปีที่แล้ว +591

    I think the worst part of being with a narcissist is coming to the realization that the whole time they were playing with you.

    • @kayfleming5180
      @kayfleming5180 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      That’s the hardest part to conceptualize. The ability to deceive a person on such a level is demonic. To keep up a facade for years or even decades is beyond inhumane.

    • @pattaylor8757
      @pattaylor8757 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly I agree. It actually hurts. But it teaches you that Mental Illness is real. The narcissist is really weak emotionally they just disguise it.

    • @jessicascreenwritingservices
      @jessicascreenwritingservices ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@kayfleming5180 I know right! In my case it was only 3 months but the amount of damage was a lot to heal from. I can only imagine how people who have been with a narc for decades or married and had children with one are hurting.

    • @jvonnebrown4748
      @jvonnebrown4748 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      You are exactly right! They are very deceptive & deceitful! It hurts when you look back like this person being lying and never cared for me the entire time!!!

    • @samanthasingh49
      @samanthasingh49 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It pains me cause i am going through the process of accepting i have been decieved we have 3 children and i now know about the narc i feel as though i can stop think bout the things he did pass a decade
      Sometimes i can not think clearly.
      That has damage me in every way and i am trying to find myself cause i lost it somewhere. Thank Yah i am still here finding knowledge.

  • @ministerwwoods
    @ministerwwoods ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Narcissists are definitely demons

    • @bettykhuboni8758
      @bettykhuboni8758 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Absolutely...they have dark hearts 🖤

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@bettykhuboni8758They're possessed.
      And they'll pass their hateful demons onto us if we're not VERY careful.

  • @Cupid_
    @Cupid_ ปีที่แล้ว +132

    Once you deal with one you will be able to tell any narcissist that enters your life. They behave exactly the same way.

    • @akeishaharris
      @akeishaharris ปีที่แล้ว +10

      The lesson is to heal and not attract another one.

    • @brandilocs4657
      @brandilocs4657 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right their brains are so small so their tactics are very limited. Yawn!

    • @delaw2xoxo269
      @delaw2xoxo269 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Completely the same way.

    • @1111spiritualone
      @1111spiritualone ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I been with two. The second was really good so no I was fooled, there not all the same. Some are so good you won’t know for a few years.

    • @KingdomWoman333
      @KingdomWoman333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I believe she means once you come to the realization that you were dealing with a narcissist you began to discover narcissists qualities and can discern other narcissist. I dealt with three before I discovered narcissism and now I can definitely discern one, not necessarily easily but when the Lords Spirit is within you you will know by their fruits. And if you love God you won’t be deceived because you’ll be so focused on His law and righteous path amen.

  • @BStressless
    @BStressless ปีที่แล้ว +247

    Worst situation is to have children with a narcissist

    • @ConfidentNotConceited
      @ConfidentNotConceited ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Now you tell me😭

    • @kimberly0717
      @kimberly0717 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Sadly counting down to 18…

    • @bonitasmith6064
      @bonitasmith6064 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I couldn't imagine having a child with a demon in the flesh.

    • @queenchica6623
      @queenchica6623 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      4 more years and our son will be 18🎉🎉🎉

    • @nvaldez2000
      @nvaldez2000 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank God that didn't happen 🙏

  • @77sunflowers
    @77sunflowers ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The devil is the original Narcissist! Narcissistic people have his spirit in them.

  • @anabautista8071
    @anabautista8071 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    Confusing others. *They would declare their love for you and will never follow up with action. *They treat you like they hate you. *They will humiliate you. *They apologize profusely but nothing ever changes. *When you begin to pull away, they make you feel guilty and accuse you of abandoning them. *

  • @pinnakal1
    @pinnakal1 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    And no one believes the victim. They think we’re bitter or delusional.

  • @doityourselfqueen
    @doityourselfqueen ปีที่แล้ว +262

    I've never seen anyone who can talk themselves out of accountability like a narcissist. By the time you finish talking to them, you'll be done forgot what you were upset about. They'll make themselves the victim. Sad to know there are so many manipulative people are in the world hurting people 😢.

    • @shahneezyswayyy8689
      @shahneezyswayyy8689 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agree fully

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That’s what blows me away is how many narcissistic people are in the world 🌍 today. It makes it really hard and scary for single men and women like myself. 🙁😑

    • @MikaJackson-ht8vv
      @MikaJackson-ht8vv ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He telling the truth because I have experience once and never again!

    • @lisadrayton2491
      @lisadrayton2491 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shahneezyswayyy8689 EXACTLY!!!

    • @shahneezyswayyy8689
      @shahneezyswayyy8689 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Like huh? Wtf just happened? Soooo because you're hurt I'm supposed to be hurt with you? What?! You blaming me because of blazey mf skip! When can i mf skip too. I'm hurt as well from my past but also working on ME!

  • @brandilocs4657
    @brandilocs4657 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I'm proud to be a narcissist's nightmare! Ain't nobody breaking my brain.

  • @TIGRESSA73
    @TIGRESSA73 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    Narcissist don't love themselves, which is why they keep jumping from one person to another, leaching off of everyone to feel complete. They use us as host's!
    They know they are lacking many things, but they are proud of how well they can manipulate so many women. It's a thrill to them.
    Stay away, get out, focus on healing yourself, and leave them alone!!

    • @iamyolandamoore
      @iamyolandamoore ปีที่แล้ว +5

      True

    • @ms.j6989
      @ms.j6989 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said! They will destroy anyone in their path to destruction. They hate themselves and take it out on you.

    • @blaquebuttafly8149
      @blaquebuttafly8149 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      My God.
      The term “host” is fitting. Wow!

    • @GodsGirl85
      @GodsGirl85 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agreed. The leaching part. And there’s absolutely zero consistency or loyalty, whether there are children involved, marriage, etc. it doesn’t matter. When they’re ready to go, no one gets considered but them.

    • @TIGRESSA73
      @TIGRESSA73 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Jade S. yes!! My sister's husband is a narcissist! He's horrible! He fuses all the time like a woman! Nags about everything. He doesn't like waiting in line. He blows off the handle about the slightest inconvenience.
      He only thinks about himself and his needs! My sister is stressed, overworked, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed and it's all because of that man!!
      Something happens to women that don't put their foot down. She's now a shell of who she used to be. He governs everything! She used to have a good job as a surgical tech, but he removed her, claiming they were making too much money and made her quit!!! She got breast implants to HIS liking, rushed her to make a decision about them too.
      She got really sick with covid, and we were all super worried, would you believe he got upset at her because by being sick, they were behind on their product, they have a business. She slept in the living room and not once did he check up on her to see how she was doing. She would call me telling me how scared she was because her oxygen levels were going down and she felt that her lungs and heart were getting weak. He thought she was just being dramatic!!! Fucking bastard I can't stand him! No one in our family liked him!
      He manipulates her. Buys her things and when he gets mad, he destroys them! Calls her all kinds of names when he gets mad.
      It's my sister's fault for putting up with him.. I'm tired of telling her to leave him. She complains about him alllll the time, from day 1 and it's been 14 years!!!
      I no longer entertain her bs. She has to feel the lack of support in order to really come to.

  • @anabella4296
    @anabella4296 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    When they are done with you ; you just fell drained 🥺

    • @trinajohns6345
      @trinajohns6345 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      When does that happen? I’ve been divorced 6 years and cannot get rid of him for more than a few months at a time and he’s back ( trying to be back anyway)🙄

    • @anabella4296
      @anabella4296 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Cle mentina Good morning beloved‼️ 🙏🙌 I was married for 15years and is a widow. I was not married to a narcissist. I was only speaking for a professional point of view. # MENTAL HEALTH NURSE # SUBSTANCE ABUSE REHABILITATION NURSE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS .IJMN 🙌🙏

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@trinajohns6345 stop entertaining him

    • @nicholecornes1915
      @nicholecornes1915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Big time

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I learned the hard way ~ don't delay your stay
    Checkout time is today

  • @Ann-pn9or
    @Ann-pn9or ปีที่แล้ว +110

    I was married to one for 33 years. He had the preacher fooled, the 15 counselors we went to over the years..everyone in the community thought he was such a good man, and I was the crazy one! I finally left and now he's sick all the time, seeking a doctor to give him a pill to make him young again. He called me every name in the book. I knew he had a problem because he couldnt look in the mirror, but I didnt know what it was. Now I know. Thank you!

    • @kimberly0717
      @kimberly0717 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Sounds like at that time, the counselors weren’t aware of this personality disorder as many are now. Thank God for advancements in the mental health field. I’m sure a few may have thought back and had realizations..you know your truth. That’s what I had to realize eventually.

    • @diamondgold5277
      @diamondgold5277 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@kimberly0717 Right because at time us Females were conditioned to stay quiet and put up with mess some women was, but this Nation Wide Internet platform, we learned that all Females of All Races are Suffering from Men at the hands of Narrissist Abuse. At the same time it's Female Narcissist Also they act no different than Men it's some Ruthless Female's out there, so Good Men are being treated Bad by Narrissist Females and Us Good Women are being treated Bad by Narrissist Men. It's a weird rollercoaster of deception

    • @TinaRane
      @TinaRane ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I was married to one for 2 years tooooo long. Yes, he had the pastor fooled to and other members of the church.

    • @kimberly0717
      @kimberly0717 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@TinaRane many of them go into church and try to obtain “status”. Anything to “give the good guy” impression from people. Behind closed doors is where WE see the truth…

  • @tennillewhite9509
    @tennillewhite9509 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    On a hamster wheel.. Will literally bring out the worst in you! So glad i left... Been very peaceful since🙌

  • @zandrasaahir8916
    @zandrasaahir8916 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    The Narcissist is an extremely dangerous person with the control, manipulation, devaluing, discrediting tactics. I was with one and didn't realize it until I started hearing about this behavior and discovered his sickness was causing me poor health.

  • @QueenOfSheba_
    @QueenOfSheba_ ปีที่แล้ว +25

    They put you down, and then try to lift you up... You can't be happy without their approval.

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes. They want to be your everything, your God.

  • @trinajohns6345
    @trinajohns6345 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    I was married to a narcissist 8 years . Divorced. . Never knew him . Like being married they’re present but you’re very much alone . He was extremely generous tho .. other than that .. horrible/ empty / liar / cheater… his eyes would be black most times

    • @pat4502
      @pat4502 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Sounds like my ex-husband

    • @hs-qk9qf
      @hs-qk9qf ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yup, the black eyes...just null and void.

    • @kimberly0717
      @kimberly0717 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      He was probably generous during the love bomb phase and when he was trying to stay in your good graces..also to look good to others.

    • @ladybugbrack2834
      @ladybugbrack2834 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@kimberly0717 💯

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      The eyes told me what I needed to know

  • @bonitasmith6064
    @bonitasmith6064 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    I spent ten months with a narcissist in 2020, and I still get the chills. It was the most horrific and confusing situation I had ever encountered in a relationship. I would never ever go through this again, because I was schooled well and that being said I thank God for allowing me to go through this relationship, because I am wiser and definitely know the signs and the demon that comes with the narcissist. We are different, but I truly can't understand how someone can be with a narcissist for a long period of time. If you are in a close relationship with God I believe you won't be because the Holy Spirit is going to set you free if you are living a life in Christ. If you are practicing fornication and that person is a narcissist Satan is a happy camper, because he has you where he wants you. Please leave ASAP, it will only get worse.

    • @tmichele8922
      @tmichele8922 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Real talk

    • @Mantra-Ananda
      @Mantra-Ananda ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sooo glad you got out of this situation. ❤️ Sending love and hugs. XX

    • @blaquebuttafly8149
      @blaquebuttafly8149 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes, it will get worse.

    • @JudionSmith
      @JudionSmith ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Your post sounded like I wrote it. I spend 10 months with a narcissist also. I was out of there before the 1 year mark. I loved the guy but couldn't put myself through it anymore. The signs were clear. He had some deep rooted issues that had nothing to do with me. I love me too much to keep in my space such level of toxicity and disruptive state. It was a lesson well learnt. I am stronger and more resilient. My pain wasn't wasted. Cheers to our freedom. x

    • @bonitasmith6064
      @bonitasmith6064 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JudionSmith Hallelujah and Amen 🙏🏽 Thanks for sharing.

  • @marydaniels8991
    @marydaniels8991 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    PRAY FIRST!! THEN RUN RUN RUN!! ❤ LOVE YOURSELF!!

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    The Narcs definitely likes to keep you confused and puzzled🤮🤮

  • @oppsdoll3891
    @oppsdoll3891 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    It has been an extremely hard time. I have two children with a man who is a Narcissist. He took me through hell for 21 years until I woke up and realized what he is. Please Pray for me

    • @SunnnySkies
      @SunnnySkies ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😮

    • @msrochellaqueen
      @msrochellaqueen ปีที่แล้ว

      If the children are still underage do the best you can to avoid the NARC, they will manipulate and poison any relationship connected you. Just ghost them
      If that NARC Anit bothering you don’t ever bother them period….

    • @delaw2xoxo269
      @delaw2xoxo269 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You will get better. I know it's hard but you must keep moving forward in tears. I also have two children and I put up with him for 30 years. and looking back I'm glad he left me when my kids were young because I was able to raise our two beautiful children that are truly good young adults.

    • @lydiapraise3904
      @lydiapraise3904 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here

    • @lauriemorgan4373
      @lauriemorgan4373 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    This ! 👏 Confusing others is nothing but the entertainment of the narcissist. Demonic spirit of confusion. My last lesson! People if you feel confused about anything with anyone- you are being played. Red flag- run for exit!

    • @Kana-vv6iv
      @Kana-vv6iv ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I feel confused. So I just go, access is denied.

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true! God is NOT the author of confusion

    • @JustinaOnugbo
      @JustinaOnugbo ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@missmarymack3457absolutely

  • @sonyasew2
    @sonyasew2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Treat you like they hate you😮

    • @sweetpea2839
      @sweetpea2839 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      His words and actions showed me he hated me thought I was so weak and stupid sending me flowers would win me back.

  • @latashaperry783
    @latashaperry783 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I was in a mental/emotional relationship something I don't wish on anyone. The narcissist that I was involved with for almost 5 years blamed me for everything he never took accountability for anything. He never apologized for his actions he would only see my REACTIONS that was caused by his ACTIONS turnaround and block me, not speak to me for days sometimes week(ghosting). He never apologized for his behaviors. I felt he hated me. Then the humiliation and embarassament eventually started. It got so bad I no longer shared things with my family and friends. I realized it was a lustful and manipulative relationship. I am still trying to heal and move on. Everything Bishop said is correct the gaslighting, manipulation, etc. God bless all.

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know your pain.

    • @alialialis3059
      @alialialis3059 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Going through the EXACT SAME THING FOR 3 YEARS- I ACTED OUT BECAUSE HIS LACK OF CARE AND ACCOUNTABILITY. NO EFFORT OR RECIPROCATION yet he asked for small favors and I wasn't getting anything out of it- I'm trying to leave him and forget but it feels overwhelming and my heart breaks anytime I think about him I keep blocking him then unblocking 😢

    • @Honeyginger397
      @Honeyginger397 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too healing God bless❤

  • @yes_i_said_it_
    @yes_i_said_it_ ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Yeah if he hadn't confused me he would've been boring, I guess. The whole thing is such a stupid waste of time. This creep was in my life for 11 years. SMH

  • @beautyshines2124
    @beautyshines2124 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    You're right Ptr. Blake that their words never match their actions. They are hot and cold. They make you confused because they played mind games. They are energy suckers and stalkers... All you said are true.👍
    I'm so grateful that GOD is my PROTECTOR that these evil people cannot manipulate my life. I believed that they will reap all their wrong deeds soon because God will do the avenge.🙏

  • @BrendaBaBoom
    @BrendaBaBoom ปีที่แล้ว +18

    DON’T ALLOW YOURSELF to be fooled and flattered by love bombing. Date and collect data on this individual before becoming emotionally engaged.🧐

  • @Giftis2sing
    @Giftis2sing ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Wow this is so spot on!! When U said, they start to treat U like they hate U. So true! I remember telling my EX one time that he treated me like I was his enemy. It was so crazy! Back them I just couldn’t figure out what was going on with him and why he would treat me that way when I was nothing but good to him.

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I flat out asked my ex once "Damn, do you HATE me??"

    • @shirleyguinyard8183
      @shirleyguinyard8183 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I told my Narcissist Husband the same thing he treats me like I'm the Enemy and he hate women he never stayed in a relationship with anyone he loves being around men

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shirleyguinyard8183 Yep. They really hate women. And that MGTOW / Red Pill movement encourages men to consider being with each other, in a slick way.

    • @77sunflowers
      @77sunflowers ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Or they compete with you... I mean what the heck.. we are meant to be in a partnership, supporting and helping each other not competing with each other!!

    • @1111spiritualone
      @1111spiritualone ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea I went thru all that.

  • @angiebrown6524
    @angiebrown6524 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Turn up apologising with flowers and wine😂

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Some people are loosing everything this is an extreme issue feel so badly for people’s 😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @nicholecornes1915
      @nicholecornes1915 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes alot of us are hurt alot

  • @telesialoyd8084
    @telesialoyd8084 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Who teaches these men to do this….all the above was done to me….I’m still trying to HEAL!!!!

    • @Rev311
      @Rev311 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Heard of The 48 Laws of Power? That's what they're after: power and control. It's a spiritual battle. (Eph 6:12). 2 Tim 3:1-5 v5 tells us to turn away from these. Our Father has a protective love for His children.

    • @candicenoel5082
      @candicenoel5082 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Some women are narcs too, not just men. Happy healing ❤️‍🩹

  • @kelleyware6939
    @kelleyware6939 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I was with a narcissist for 7 years but I didn’t know that’s what he was until I was reading something about narcissists and realized he had ever characteristics listed. It was then I planned my exit. I am so free and grateful to God for giving me strength to get away from his tactics evilness.

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    19:12 when the smoke of love bomb clears the reality of bondage and entrapment appears !!! First emotional addiction and then withdrawal

  • @iamyolandamoore
    @iamyolandamoore ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I experienced this first hand and this is the truth!! It's THE ABSOLUTE WORST THING you can experience

    • @iamyolandamoore
      @iamyolandamoore ปีที่แล้ว

      @Cle mentina your criticism is indicative of a person who is either a narcissist OR you have been COMPLETELY brainwashed by one. I will NEVER take responsibility for another person's behavior or treatment of me. Once I saw what was happening I got out....BUT under no circumstances will I STOP calling a narcissist what it is A WHOLE ENTIRE DEMON SENT FROM THE PIT OF HELL! Enjoy your day

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว

      The mind games are horrendous

    • @sg2895
      @sg2895 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@clementina33You need to stop victim blaming.

  • @hs-qk9qf
    @hs-qk9qf ปีที่แล้ว +13

    They are real life vampires.

  • @cynthiatramil461
    @cynthiatramil461 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    They are takers

  • @takeshawalbrook8798
    @takeshawalbrook8798 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Bishop Blakes, thank you. God sent me to your channel at a turning point in my life. Your wisdom and guidance have reminded me of who I truly am and empowered me. I am God's daughter.

  • @Mandooze
    @Mandooze ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Yea my entire family is narcissists. Just hide ur gifts until its ur time then leave. Just leave.

  • @scrillscrill1099
    @scrillscrill1099 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    In 13 yrs this dude has NEVER apologized to me for anything. He has caused so much upset and pain but never admits wrong doing.

  • @dindaroelovesyou
    @dindaroelovesyou ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "It can be Puzzling"..true Indeed....."consumed in the confusion"...true Indeed.."their entertainment is your confusion" true Indeed. Take your time before you just want someone because they are giving you attention. You should give yourself the attention you feel you need so a narcissists attention won't impress you.💌

  • @susanwheatley3326
    @susanwheatley3326 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    That's why we need a CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD💯‼️🤲🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾👏🏾☝🏾🕊️🌹💪🏾👑💝✌🏾🤞🏾🙄😅😁☺️😌YESSSSSS,TY,BISHOP,GOD, JESUS HOLY NAME AMEN HALLELUJAH GLORY TO GOD BLESS YOU ALLLLL🌍🌎🌏

  • @Micha63857
    @Micha63857 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Met one years ago, evil charm, hurt and abuse you with a smile. All about him and what he can get from you. One word to describe him: hollow and truly empty inside. I ran after 1 year.

  • @gc2137
    @gc2137 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Passive Aggression

  • @carmimoultrie1448
    @carmimoultrie1448 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Profound statement: nobody can beat a narcissist when it comes to apologizing. 💯💯💯

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You're invested, mind, body & spirit and they're playing make believe
    Once you see its all a game its easier to finally leave

  • @ladyvirgo9514
    @ladyvirgo9514 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm living this hurtful mess right now,I've been married to this Evil one for 12 years. Devastating.
    He discarded me 3 weeks ago, even his eyes looked dark

  • @dragonmom495
    @dragonmom495 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    My ex is a textbook covert narcissist. It's been a long learning road.

    • @aurorarene9909
      @aurorarene9909 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They are the hardest to spot. I now realize after ten years I have a narcissistic relative. You just know something is off and you can't have any kind of give and take with these people.

  • @ccandice78
    @ccandice78 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    They are really something else who knows knows. Don’t get feelings involved with them

  • @weinighebreindriase7698
    @weinighebreindriase7698 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The devil is defeated by heavenly king.What ever the devil try he will fall.God doesn’t sent his warriors to test with out give them the answer ❤

  • @onitawatson2276
    @onitawatson2276 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Mr. Blake’s this man had me in spiritual counseling for three months we will go to church every Sunday. We would pray every Morning. This man was a Sunday school teacher in prison he often will preach the word of God he claim to be holy than thou. The whole time in spiritual counseling, he was cheating with several women. I nearly lost my mind, but I have God on my side. He still continues to think that he can manipulate me. He’s out to destroy me because I’m the one who pulled the mass off.

  • @jacquelinelee7522
    @jacquelinelee7522 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Being with narcissist has been, THEE WORST REALTIONSHIP I" VE EVER BEEN IN,,, NOW LEARNING HOW & WHAT TO DO TO GET OUT OF THE MARRIAGE

  • @weinighebreindriase7698
    @weinighebreindriase7698 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Genesis 3:1-5 after they ate the fruit they disconnected with God and they lose their abundance.Every thing who connected with them come to nothing.🙏🙏🙏

  • @Chenaiandchenea01
    @Chenaiandchenea01 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    All my childhood then went straight into a 9 year relationship/marriage as well same dynamic going thru divorce now feeling better than ever😭😭😬

  • @LindaVanGalder-jt6yf
    @LindaVanGalder-jt6yf ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Yes you will never know where you stand with a narcissist. Regardless. I have cut off my sister and I noticed I started soaring and flourishing afterwards. Whenever she would be in my life I felt my power leaving me and felt confused. Now I am free. I still love her. But to be me I had to leave this relationship. If I cannot be me without offending someone that person has to go. She sent a bday card to my son today and I said thanks I love you and I'm praying for you. Nothing back from her. You see unless she can control me she doesn't want me. There is no authenticity. She has some narcissistic traits and I am in therapy. She refuses therapy. I cannot help her but I will not let her pull me down and drown me to save her life. No no no. I have a right to a happy drama free life with those who love me and I can love them back. Love shouldn't hurt like that.

  • @bruna8663
    @bruna8663 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I went through all of that and more, came into my life like a knight in a shining Armour and little did I know….

  • @Jacuzzijuiceered
    @Jacuzzijuiceered ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I so appreciate your kind gentle and straight forward words. If it weren’t for you I would still be wrapped up in the games played by the narcissist I was involved in. You speak directly to me and I appreciate you! Love and blessings to you and Lisa!

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    When they make you feel bad you've been had.

  • @cynthiatramil461
    @cynthiatramil461 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You are telling the truth-

  • @Cellia836
    @Cellia836 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When I first met mine he claimed to love me so much and then he slowly started behaving like he completely hated me. He had my all there for a while, until I started seeing the truth of what he really is. It took me a long time to break away and get away from him. Anymore if we do talk anymore he runs me into the ground anymore and I just can't take it anymore. I know damn well I'm not a bad person at all. I have been trying to stay away from him and stay in no contact. I have no interest at all to talk to him at all. He makes me feel depressed and like shit these days. I can't stand him at all. I'm at the point where I completely hate him anymore.

  • @terrijoyce8362
    @terrijoyce8362 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This was meant for me at this time. Got one in my life now and I have been thinking all day I need to just walk away. Confirmation!

  • @rockingmygray
    @rockingmygray ปีที่แล้ว +15

    He’s the truth and he’s speaking truth…💯% real truth ⛪️😇👍🏾😀👍🏾

  • @mariasewell3825
    @mariasewell3825 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I was married to one for 11 years and I never knew what I was in until I divorced him is when I realized I was in a toxic relationship so the word is empty words when they speak to you. It means nothing he would say all I have is my word, but that was all he had.

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 ปีที่แล้ว

      He lied to me every day all day for 38 years all lies he's a real demon 👹😈👺

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 ปีที่แล้ว

      0+0=0 for 38 long years smh

  • @queenkeesh8660
    @queenkeesh8660 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    That’s exactly what I felt like I had a migraine headache dealing with narcissistic and I felt confused

  • @blazeme5389
    @blazeme5389 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I thank God for helping me get out of a relationship with a narcissist! I am just learning this type of person exists. What an awful way to be!

  • @thechristinemarieshow
    @thechristinemarieshow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is heavy pastor and also very scary. My mother tried to warn me of these types of people and I thought she was crazy. I’m so thankful for this video and I had to call my mother and thank her for her prayers and concern. This a serious mental illness and I’m not qualified to deal with this, so I’m going to continue to stay away from this person.

  • @sljcsu
    @sljcsu ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What if the person who is a narcissist is a parent? Where do you place them in your life, and still honor thy mother and father?

    • @Adoseof_Ri
      @Adoseof_Ri ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I would say Honor them by not speaking bad on them,Pray for them and love them from a distance. Forgive them as well. Set boundaries ❤

  • @vinnieedwards9699
    @vinnieedwards9699 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    What I learned from being with that person is, everything he said to me was a reflection of himself, “ If you want something to play with, buy yourself a toy” was his favorite saying. In hindsight, That was him actually telling me how he actually felt about me. Lord have mercy on them and their new supply🙏🙏Thank you Jesus for being my strength to walk away 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @BellMarell
      @BellMarell ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💯 accusations from a narcissist are really confessions.

  • @user-ud2qx5ci1j
    @user-ud2qx5ci1j ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You have outlined my life in the past 5 years. This was confirmation. Thank you for the continued life lessons.

  • @letsbefruitful5457
    @letsbefruitful5457 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Everything Pastor spoke of I’ve been through with my ex husband, and I try to tell my children to study this kinda spiritual warfare, so they can spot red flags 🚩 immediately!

  • @tthatch08
    @tthatch08 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What do you do when the narcissist is your parent😢

  • @theresanatiemumba9962
    @theresanatiemumba9962 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Bishop you are unveiling us, everyday making us better. Always know that your messages are not in vein.

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Been with one 2 years, started the abuse right when he married me, expected everything, I was going to be the best wife ever, he had it made. Haven’t seen or heard from him, 2 months, last year gave me trauma, which has been escalating, he strolled a lot from my childhood home, filled it with junk. They will kill steal and destroy everything they can. They change from one min to the next.
    The most intense spiritual warefare, they aren’t too bright, completely controlled by demons.😭🙏🥵the hook in the head and emotions is a constant battle. Will never ever apologize.

  • @TheBookofChloe
    @TheBookofChloe ปีที่แล้ว +12

    26:45 the first time I tried to break up with my narc ex, he threatened to go to my apartment and unalive himself on my bed. The pattern of suicidal threats continued as well as faking injuries and panic attacks in any moment that was uncomfortable for him. Once I started calling 911 since he obviously “needed medical intervention” all the panic attacks, injuries, and suicide ideation would magically stop. He eventually even stopped doing that all together after a few times of me trying to take him to the hospital

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ain't that crazy 😂😂😂

  • @blaquebuttafly8149
    @blaquebuttafly8149 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you God for using Bishop Blake as a vessel to spread this much needed message.
    What’s mind blowing is the scriptures that coincide with the behavior of narcissism and gaslighting.
    I can not thank you enough. 👏🏾🙏🏾

  • @joycepledger7779
    @joycepledger7779 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    3:00am WOW! I Thank GOD I NEVER Married One! Thanks For This Vital Life Changing Information! Talking To One Narcissist it is like talking to your Dining Room table! It doesn't make sense! 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥

  • @be-you-tea-is-full9207
    @be-you-tea-is-full9207 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh im waiting for that EXIT STRATEGY ❤

  • @sabrinawilliams9409
    @sabrinawilliams9409 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had alot of narcissist around me. I suffer from migraines from dealing with them. I know my worth and will try not to deal with no more narcissist. Just glad l made it out alive. Thank you Jesus!

  • @sharoneh8929
    @sharoneh8929 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I thought had Married my dream person, instead he was my worst Nightmare 💔😭. He was a hero in the streets with everyone else and a demon at home. He did not have the capacity to love me or himself, he was unable to participate in a healthy relationship. He only comes to destroy you. Take you down until you are emotionally wrecked, financially, and spiritually. He has an definite agenda along with the deceptions and lies. He believes his own lies and untruths. There's so much I could say. Please get professional help. God gave me beauty for the Ashes, and total restoration for my heart, mind, and soul. Lord delivered me. Thank God for keeping me. Prayer changes, keep your faith in God. God bless you✝️🙏🏾.

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    ending - You are on top and going higher- I love this man! Healings and love to all

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love when he says that at the end of the video! I always say it with him. Makes me feel empowered to go higher!! 🙌🏾🥰

    • @annaa6259
      @annaa6259 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Giftis2sing yes! His energy is magical ❣️

  • @chereeB-hummingbird
    @chereeB-hummingbird 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    14months out
    Thank the Lord ✨️🙏🏾🕊
    We have to get this message out into the world 🌎
    Thank you Brother Rc Blakes✨️💙

  • @Indiscrazyworld
    @Indiscrazyworld ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You are describing this man I married to the T every single bit of what your saying I have been saying the whole marriage wow

  • @Neanksecond2none6905
    @Neanksecond2none6905 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you God for Pastor,Father RC Blake's I'm so woke I could never be the old version again ❤

  • @janecampbell5021
    @janecampbell5021 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They are like the 🃏 Joker ! Whew u will not want to be with one. I dealt with two and one is my child’s father. He Hoovers a lot but I don’t think twice because I know that he has a disorder .

  • @RepentTimeIsAtHand
    @RepentTimeIsAtHand ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes! Right on point!! Grateful to you for this teaching. My daughter is malicious narcisssist and has taken my grandson from my husband and myself
    My grandson is 7 yrs old, I have had him daily since his birth.
    He only has spent the night with my daughter or gone to a function for her to take a photo op.
    She will not even let him speak to us.
    I pray Heavenly Father bring my daughter to humility swiftly!
    My grandson loves the Lord and my daughter tells him..."There is no God"
    Dangerous ground for my daughter to be on with God Almighty
    I have heard through children that have around my grandson that he is mourning me as I am mourning.
    My daughter slanders me , I am not afraid of her. No weapon formed against me shall prosper.
    I am praying for her soul.
    Pray for my grandson.
    I am asking for my grandson to come back to us. Give me strength Lord.
    May the will of our Heavenly Father be
    done in Jesus name by the shed blood of Lord Jesus, through the power of the Holy Spirit.

  • @juliaedi111
    @juliaedi111 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My mom,sister and brother are narcissist. I feel so alone. They are always into religion but are just mean.

    • @jessicawinder3602
      @jessicawinder3602 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hear you. Im going through something similar. I am a believer of prayer and protecting my peace. Sometimes distancing ourselves from them helps.

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    All this information is Very Accurate....I escaped him!!!

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    28:30- love bomb is an intentional process of creating emotional addiction. This is so spot on - love bomb its a trap

  • @BethanyNes77
    @BethanyNes77 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Spot on biblical truth I’ve had experienced with a Christian man with narcissistic personality disorders particularly high educated. I pray 🙏 GOD to show me that man wow this teaching explains it all. Women you got to pray 🙏 for GOD to show you that man and brother you too got to pray the same.

  • @Anyeamir1
    @Anyeamir1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I took care my ex Narc when he was broke he came into some money and didn’t give me a Dime He was give me the cold shoulder didn’t want talk to me I was so hurt just a Horrible person a Demon told my ex Narc I’m taking him to Civil Court he owes me money he Blocked me

  • @sarala1jan
    @sarala1jan ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sir, good lighting, camera has nice focus on your face/blured background, perfect camera setup. All these setup are important for successful vlog.

  • @Sunshine25508
    @Sunshine25508 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm dealing with Right now I don't want he anymore and he doesn't accept 🤦🏻‍♀️ but i will get out of it🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @leagueG5
    @leagueG5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great message Pastor Blakes! So grateful for your channel. ❤

  • @missstarrynight7736
    @missstarrynight7736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was raised by narcissistic grandparents and narcissistic parents. I suffer from C-PTSD in a result. As an adult I immediately fell a victim to a narcissistic employer and narc. boyfriend. I lost my health and my hope for better life. I know God can do everything, but I really wonder if I could be genuinely loved by someone. I'm a deeply hurt, broken person. I can't work due to my health issues. I'm in my early 40s and... yeah.... It's hard to believe that the best is yet to come. Please, pray for me. I desperately need physical and emotional healing. And I need to learn what does it mean to be loved, also loved by God.

    • @Propacarmel
      @Propacarmel 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢 I understand what you mean. May God continue to bless you.

  • @tashabseay2124
    @tashabseay2124 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh my god this is my husband apologize so much to where I hate hearing people say I'm sorry. If you're really sorry you'll stop.

  • @rosalynjolly2565
    @rosalynjolly2565 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes

  • @Rose-ld9cm
    @Rose-ld9cm ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Amen🙏🏽 Lets Talk About It! In The Name Of Jesus.

    • @vanessamendoza6908
      @vanessamendoza6908 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have been in a 2 year relationship. I love him. We were seeing each other and communicateing regularly but now it's only when he wants, he use to make an effort now it's only texts messages usually emojis only. I pull back, but he leans in. Occasionally, he will do these things for me: help me financially, give me money, help me around the house like mow the grass put together a bunkbed. Then he will disappear and not communicate but only when he wants. He has never been abusive not in speech or action but refuses to make plans, or keep plans, or voice call or make any effort in the relationship, but says he cares about me and misses me. He says he's going through hardships, is damaged and he can't communicate regularly, he says he just doesn't operate that way. I am exhausted. What am I dealing with?

  • @Blessed591
    @Blessed591 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was in a 23 year marriage to a narc . And I recall him apologizing 3 times only . Very insincere apologies.. . .

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You got more than I got in 38 years

    • @Blessed591
      @Blessed591 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh no !! I pray that you are free now . . . Out of that bondage .

  • @tonihunter3853
    @tonihunter3853 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everything he says is truth.. lord

  • @fredericathompson808
    @fredericathompson808 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My God talk to me 5 years of that thank God for jesus🙏🙌

  • @jackiecolbert3915
    @jackiecolbert3915 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wish I had known this information years ago. I never knew that I was married to a narcissist. My ex husband cheated on me and left me for his sidechick. I never saw this coming. He actually asked me for the divorce. 21yrs married and 25yrs together. I was in triangulation and didn't even know that. I had the flying monkeys. Then the smear campaign.

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Now the side chick is about to experience him and his ways