I dealt with this for 10 years. It was literally hell on earth. I divorced him and have spent the last 3 years healing my inner trauma and what attracted me to him in the first place. I wrote a book about my experience called Love Yourself First and now I help other women through my books and TH-cam channel.
Congratulations 🎉🎊 happy for you sister pray 🙏🏼 for my cousin Sister Hector who’s going through this right now it’s been 26 years she’s separated moved out his house and he’s still controlling her with their daughter
Thank goodness that you got out! I just got out of hell dealing with a narcissist family member -not a spouse! And it was nothing nice! Just as you said, ‘hell on earth!’
It is so sad that SO many of us have a connection to this story. I pray for healing in EVERY life that has been changed, and that God restores every heart, every mind, every body and every soul. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Thank you for this Pastor Blakes. I didn't want to leave my narcissistic husband but I got to a point of having panic attacks and losing my hair from the emotional abuse and neglect. I decided I wanted to live and not die for him. I moved out in Nov-2022! Through much prayer, spiritual guidance by my church home pastor, my therapist, and YOU RC Blakes, I am healing from my PTSD and pain. Jesus has broken the chains that had me bound! I feel alive again and getting stronger every day. Praise God! Keep letting the Lord use you. You are making a difference!
Yes. Absolutely. I am so frightened. I b had great faith, strength, admire a ton, and continue to abuse 33 years(more than 30÷years serving and supporting) and building three churches). Just now recovering from a near-deatg experience, still it continues, and getting help to make necessary moves.
I was married to one for 4 1/2 years and it was a living nightmare. I prayed and begged God to save me. I’m divorced now for two years and I been through several different stages of grief and healing. But my faith in God is getting me through my victory.
I am separated from mines and getting ready to divorce her. Narcissist are under the Jezebel spirit and the worst ones are the ones that think they are Christian
That's what mine is like. He has said that I'm the one who has no walk with the Lord and that God gave him the wrong wife to help him through life. Goes to church every week since I left with the kids to live with family friends 4 months ago. At church he plays the victim.
Mines has the nerves to be a Minister and hides in the church and behind close doors he is a monster and have everyone fooled and will get mad at me for going to church and getting payer.
Girl, get out and live your best life!!! I got out after 11 years, THANK G-D! Word of advice, try not to beat yourself up for staying as long as you did. The narcissist beat you up enough for two lifetimes already. ❤ Best wishes 🙏
I used to skip the song in the beginning but I actually sing along to myself for myself now... the healing that Bishop's teachings has done for me cannot be quantified. Thank you dear Sir, you are a father to many. God bless you and Mama Lisa!
My heart broke but my soul healed. I was always having physical ailments when I was with him. I didn’t know what was happening. I stayed in a stressful state. adrenal fatigue.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I believe that's what's going on with me I been married to my Narcissistic husband for 7.5 years together for 12 and I promise you I have had so much fatigue and illness from this man now that I know what I have been dealing with I don't like or love this man. He says to me he just want Peace I told him he would never ever have Peace even long after this toxic relationship is over. I sometimes beat myself up bc I stayed to long. But right now I am making myself an exit plan bc I have had enough of the devil 😈 his time is up and I am taking my power back.🙏🏾🙏🏾
We in the end take our power back. We've had a gut full of there Crap...Good luck too anyone taking my left over's. Srsrly. Good luck your going too need it...❤
WAS married nearly 10 years to a narcissist. The hardest 10 years of my life. I can testify, everything Bishop Blakes is saying is 1000% accurate. I thank God for deliverance.
Hey Tara, 10 years too! I left twice but came back. It’s the hardest thing I have ever done. It has taken all I have let in me to survive after filling for divorce. Glad you are free now ❤
You are totally describing my ex-fiance. The most disheartening part is that no one believed what I was telling them I was experiencing. I developed severe anxiety in that relationship to the point where I would get hives all over my body from interacting with that man. Thank God for giving me the courage to leave. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I married one. I'm happily divorced now.. You must never never never pick a spouse without God could cost your life or sanity... You will never ever forget it. You will grieve more than the love its so much deeper.. Has derp long term psychological effects n most people u know will never understand.. Lastly you will never ever go back to the old you And your entire view on life will change.. Lastly the devil will use this against u Years even after you're free.. Walking away doesn't end the impact.. You must guard your life in picking a partner... This is a deep demonic thing Only God can save or heal you. It is a long process. You cannot come out the same.. Be wise.
I have two by two different narcs! I Thank God for deliverance every day!! I couldn’t believe I had a purpose after the last one but God! We can make it through anything ladies and gentlemen with Christ who strengthens us!!
The father of lies and confusion yes. 💯 I’ve seen a narcissist unable to sleep due to a soul in torment. I’ve seen the eyes and face change the moment the spirit takes the wheel. It’s frightening. Thank you for this perspective Mr. Blakes. A valuable book you’ve written. ❤
Absolutely been there. My ex would "appear" to be calm and have it all together and I was the one who appeared to be unstable. It was a facade. I remember the day I left him because of all his lies, he made me think I was crazy, he was big time cheating on me and I had the evidence. But the day I packed my things and walked out, he said I couldn't survive without him because I needed him to be my communicator. I looked at him and Said, The Lord will provide. He was cussing me out calling me all kinds of names, his voice sounded like the devil. I knew me leaving was the best thing I ever did for myself. Soul ties was keeping me there. I had an awakening inside me and I knew everything was going to be just fine....Never looked back.
I’m Looking Forward To This I Was In A Relationship With A Malignant Narcissist The Abuse Wears You Down Being Trapped In A Toxic Relationship. Being Married Is Even Worse.The Verbal Emotional And Psychological Abuse A Person Endures Daily.Narcissistic Abuse Is The Absolute Cruelest Abuse To Ever Endure.
I agree, it hurts so bad and going no contact is giving me a chance to not only get my energy back but love me again … I had a heart attack and I think about it everyday the amount of evil I went through… the hard part is keeping all this stuff with him out of my head ,,, 🙏🏾 But GOD
They will also want you to admit to something you haven’t done that they accuse you of doing for example constantly saying you’re cheating on them when you’re not. They don’t let rest always trying to stress you out over nonsense. I told this person I will never admit something I didn’t do to appease him! Also they can’t handle being told NO!
Thank you for this information. I have been married to a narcissistic man for 35 years. The monster appeared when he lost his job. He play mind games. I open the blind he close it. I close the door he open it. I filed for a divorce last week. Afraid what he might do when he's served. Please pray for me and my family
Get a therapist! And open up to anyone who is aware of Narcissist and do not with people who are not aware - at least not until the divorce is final. And be prepare for him to get ugly and your trauma bond to make you crave what you shouldn’t. Armor up bec this will be a newfound war. I married and divorce with no kids and only asked for my name change and it was WAR
If your instincts are telling you that you may be in danger for serving him with a divorce, then please see if you can find a program to help you get away safely. I understand your fear. Wishing you the beat!
I was with my ex 17 years. We were engaged for years because something told me to wait. Found him texting and talking to another woman so I left. Found out recently he’s cheating on her now and she’s going through heartbreak. I pray for her and her kids everyday as I know exactly what she’s going through. 🙏
@@penelope9455 😂 I honestly did feel that way for awhile; however, I think,of her 6 year old daughter whose real father died and looks to him as a dad. He’s going to break her heart again. So sad. He’s already broken his two adult children’s hearts by giving her more attention and time than them. They are close to me and came to me broken hearted.
@Queen Bee we have a little boy who is attached to the man and misses him dearly, while he pursues " other" interests, apart from phone calls & visits here and there. So, if a kid doesn't move either one of them, then something bigger and painful should. Mind you, we're still married, but he lives with her and wants me to join!! Narcissists are definitely the spawn of the Devil .
@@penelope9455 My ex spread lies about me to his friends so he could play the victim and said I walked out on him. He tried to tell that to his son’s mom, but she knows the kind of person I am and didn’t buy it. I get along with both his kids’ moms and they told me he’s trying to sleep with them too. He spends time with them when he comes to town to see his parents but all behind her back. He actually hid the new woman from his family for a year. He disgusts me now that he’s shown me who he is.
Mine would not leave though I asked him to move out, so I had to leave, best decision I ever made, God confirmed it over and over and took care of me faithfully.
@NM C happiness begins when you get away from them, try it for an overnight and see if you can tell. I did and I stayed away and he never followed me to get me to come back, confirmation that he didn't really want me there anyway.
SAME, he would NOT leave! I had to leave and start from the bottom sleeping on my moms floor with my kids for a year but I did not care, I was determined! God blessed us with a apartment and after 2 years of living there, he blessed me with a house ❤
I had dated one for 8 years and it was hard to get away from him but I did...Very controlling and unreasonable..I thank the Lord for removing me out of the situation..
This was my life, 37 years of it! Seperated for 18 months and he still continues through settlement agreement. Some days are just too much. I am not going to give in to his unfair demands. there's reason why i am on my knees, TO PRAY AND ASKED THE LORD TO TAKE THIS BATTLE OF MY SHOULDERS AND FIGHT FOR ME🙏🙏
I chose self love, my peace and truth.... than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! 🙄 But, I'm praising GOD for New Beginnings as of April 17th! Truly GOD has protected me from this evil human. Hallelujah 🙌. Thank you JESUS 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
OHHHHHH MY u hit it on the NAIL """ than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! """""
What I always will remember after this traumatic experience is that the devil does not come as a monster.... he (the devil comes to steal, kill & destroy) he comes as a charismatic, nice-looking, smell good, good job, and his own house, but behind closed doors he is the most demonic monster ever imaginable! He will habitually lie and cheat, as well as betray you beyond your imagination!
I am in this mess with my narcissistic husband of 11 years married 7.5 years i really need prayers to get out of this and b4 i snap i have to get myself out soon real soon. I'm thinking of a plan. B4 the pandemic I really didn't know what a narcissist was I just thought that this man was different and mean 😢😢 it wasn't even like the first year we met it became later down the line 😭 I said lord what have I gotten myself into please help me out
The way I screamed watching this video is crazy. I have been telling others but they can’t believe me because I come off as emotionally unstable therefore I’m the one with issues. This was so well put together
RC Blake’s your channeling , witnessing , and discussing this kind of content within the context of spirituality is very pioneering and courageous. I applaud you for constantly displaying this kind of devotion to both god, people, and women in particular. Thank you god being a true wise man
While with the narc, I got a job promotion he only said congratulations but not really sounding excited for me. My birthday came and my mom reached out to him to help bring my friends together he didn't. He mentioned this to me that he didn't know how to🤔. I recognize now, him watching me prior to the chase, because they do study their victims prior to, he thought I was by myself because he never saw me with anyone only to find out I had a WHOLE family at the same church. He then told others he was glad to now be with a good family...rriigghhtt, my parents told him up front what was expected. Bishop Blakes is so right about this behavior being demonic, it really is. They are sent to ruin/destroy. The behavior can be overbearing and you lose a lot of energy. When they want to go, it's hard to understand but its best that you let them go for YOU! Them leaving is the best gift for YOU!
Thanks for the videos…im 20 years in and waiting for an apartment to become available so I can leave. Please keep me in prayer. God bless you and your family 🙏
@@nmc1859 Pray for a strategy and follow it. Jesus will help you! Be fearless and ready to struggle as you recover but you’ll have Jesus, he’s all you need! I hope you have accepted Jesus as your lord and Savior, if not, I encourage you too, he loves you so much!
Thank you all for your prayers and such. I am just seeing them 9months later. I dont usually use my gmail acct. so I have to tell you all that my apt came available in Dec 2023. Praise Jesus! Much longer than they had said it would be, but God had it all worked out. I stepped out in faith and got involved in the church, serving and bible studies and he brought people around me to help me move. I never would have been able to do it alone! He knew that and He knew the right timing. He is so Faithful! While its not easy, I am out of my toxic marriage and free. Now I have to get thru the divorce…. God bless each of you. 🤗
Pray for my cousin Sister Trina Hector who’s married over 26 years. Her husband has been verbal and emotional and physically abused by him. In 2020 he put her and their daughter out the house made them move during covid19. They’re still married but they’re separated smh 🤦🏽♀️ my cousin needs deliverance from this evil man it’s ridiculous at this point 💯. We stop engaging with her about the situation because it’s draining and frustrating. These type of men know what type of woman they can mistreat and use.
They hide behind God as far as l'm concerned. Satan is a liar and so is the Narcissist. Point Blank. I forgive but l don't Forget. Revenge Is All Mine.....God ✝️
Thank you SO much Pastor Blakes for doing this video. I was married to a narcissist for 20.5 years. And was with him for 27.5 years. And everything you spoke on is ACCURATE! Every single word of it. I finally separated from my ex in 2018 and divorced him in 2021. I have since been in therapy and I am a LOT better and am continuing to heal daily. For many years, I didn't know what I was dealing with, the amount of constant chaos was unbearable. I didn't even know how to express what I was going thru with anyone because I felt like no one would believe me. It often times sounded crazy to me just to say certain things that I was living thru. Now I know what it was/is. But I praise God daily for bringing me out of that dark, toxic relationship/marriage. Thank you Pastor Blakes. May God continue to bless you and your wife's ministry. 🙏
I'm married to one I suspect. That is why I'm buying the book and will be attending tonight virtually.....If it's available. The event that is. Thanks RC Blakes!!
I add dr ramani and dr les Carter to help explain what the disorder contains and how it shows up. Most times it 1000% describes how my husband acts. And it's good to understand why imo
Bishop Blake your message are so important and you are helping woman all over the world. Thank you 🙏🏼 because so many leaders are refusing to help women or men in the body of Christ Amen 🙏🏼
This is so true. I had to learn the hard way to be unpredictable and never trust nothing about them. Let that chick think she won somebody special and thankful she took my ex in and off my hands. Big thanks to God and discernment and my obedience paid off❤
Thank you so much, R C Blakes. What I could not explain is that you have given me the language for. May God continue to reign down his Holy Spirit on you in all your endeavours.
I've been knowing mine since 2001. I was 15. He's 4 years older than me. Dealt with each other for 5 years, then went our own way. Officially got together in 2013, married in 2016. This month, the 19 will be 2 months I left him. Glory be to GOD. If you know, then you know. Heart ache, the enemy in him tried to take me out. To get to my kids. BUT GOD🙏🏼 Let's continue to give it to GOD and remember we are HIS daughters, and HE loves us dearly. Saty strong sisters. Pastor RC, you have gotten me through some rough times over the past year or so. May our FATHER continue to keep you, use you, and bless you. You are helping to guide and heal the hearts, minds, and souls of his daughters ❤
Don't ever lock yourself in a bathroom. Because if they get violent in there they can do damage too you like.. Draining you. Where's there is water that is enough too pull you down and you may never come back up.. Remember ppl. Never lock yourself in a bathroom or Go in there too get away ❤❤
I have been in a relationship for 20 years, with a narc and we also have a child. I'am thankfull God breaked my hart to heal my soul. I knew somthing wasn't right but I couldend put my hands on it. Afther the divorce i have been healing and prepaire myself to give and reseve healty love again. Whaiting on God's timing and asking Him for strenght and knowleage. Amen!
You have to be comfortable with never trusting a narcissist. You must feel as though this person has dysfunction( evil). They want your trust that is their biggest goal, don't give it to them. Manage the situation don't let it manage you
I went through this for years and was delivered November 2021🙌 GLORAY!!! I still have some anxiety and am learning how to regulate my nervous system normally now. I met the love of my life last year and am so grateful I had the courage to get away from narcissistic abuse to allow divine love in. ❤
After 7 years of dating and just one year of marriage, I left him while he was on a business trip. It was the only safe way to leave. My life and the abuse was something of a movie. I didn’t recognize myself any longer. God’s strength set me free.
I was married to one, but I put him out on the street. I didn’t know he was a narcissus. But because I was a praying woman, I listen to the holy spirit, and he told me to take the toot that was so for his head and put him out. We lived a separated life until the Lord took him. I was faithful until death to the marriage. But we did not live together. Amen 🙏
Thank You so much. God bless you. Emotional Vampire is definitely an accurate description. I used to use the term a lot before I discovered the true meaning of narcissism. It definitely feels like someone draining the life out of you.
The climate of the house was cold on a summer day, and dark in the daytime!! I felt like my soul was raped!!! I am healed and delivered now, but if I would have seen any of this content sooner, I’d never! I pray someone going through is able to get out sooner than later! Bishop Blakes you continue to Bless me with your Videos! Thank God for you!🙌🏾
I have been in mine for 7 years married 6 I was deceived from the beginning, he knew he was sick and I didn't find out until about 2 yrs later he had to go on dialysis but at the time I didn't recognize it. I am doing just that isolating my mind and dealing with the calm through the storm, I am putting together an exit plan when our lease is up in 5 months, he is on home dialysis and always threatening to go back to his kid up north, I told him i can't wait. Now he is starting to gaslight saying he was kidding but he have said this more than once this time its serious for me. I need time to heal my soul and mind. My children hate that Im going through this. 😢I waited until 60 to marry and it's nothing idea about its really never been a marriage. 🙏🙏🙏
This message is on point every thing Pastor Blakes said is absolutely true. I went through everything he said. I didn’t marry my narcissist ex but we were in a relationship for 8 years it was pure torture. I finally left him and I was so drained, exhausted and felt like I didn’t even know myself anymore. But thank God, I’m healed and moving forward in my life 🙏
Powerful, powerful. The biggest blessing ever. Thank you pastor RC BLAKES and LISA BLAKES. God protect you. We are going higher. ❤QUEENS are born, old or young. I'm in, I'm one of them.
Good Evening Bishop Blake. I shared this video to a coworker friend who recently got a Divorce. Hopefully this video and others you have on your site will help her heal.
This video is extremely helpful but also heartbreaking. Everything that was mentioned is what I've been going through for the last 14 years. I didn't even know I was dealing with this very topic until I started seeing a therapist. If anyone is going through any part of what was mentioned, please talk to someone. 🙏🏽
Good Lord, Pastor Blakes, I am married to one and it is as if you know him. I knew for many years something was wrong with him but never really knew what was terribly wrong with him until about 3 years ago when a friend introduced the term narcissist to me. I have to watch this video again and get your book, thanks for sharing.
Everything your speaking about is on point i wasn't married to my ex narcissist for 8 years but he did put me through so much to the point it broke my spirit down emotionally and mentally ,is very exhausting glad i finally had the courage to leave and free of him for 2 1/2 years now and still healing ❤
Please, please, please pay attention to this wisdom. I am a living witness and can attest to everything Pastor Blakes has said about being married to a narcissist. It is extremely difficult and takes a lot of work to overcome the abuse.
Married 32 years to a complete Dark Triad Narcissist each Narc is different and the mental side emotional anguish I dealt with it is only God that got me out. I am forever changed, and each moment of the minute I fight to live.
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I dealt with this for 10 years. It was literally hell on earth. I divorced him and have spent the last 3 years healing my inner trauma and what attracted me to him in the first place. I wrote a book about my experience called Love Yourself First and now I help other women through my books and TH-cam channel.
Glory to God! Let the Lord use you Sis!!❤
Congratulations 🎉🎊 happy for you sister pray 🙏🏼 for my cousin Sister Hector who’s going through this right now it’s been 26 years she’s separated moved out his house and he’s still controlling her with their daughter
Hell on earth is right! 6 years here and I want to write a book about Religious Control and the Narcissistic. Lord Jesus, thank you for delivering me!
Going to buy it Sis do u have a direct link so u can take my Money???
Thank goodness that you got out! I just got out of hell dealing with a narcissist family member -not a spouse! And it was nothing nice! Just as you said, ‘hell on earth!’
I just left mines after 18 years. March 1st 2023 I got my life back thank you Jesus!
Praise the lord I just left last week ❤
🎉🎉😅hallelujah won’t he do it🎊🎉🎉❤️💯🥰✅
I'm with you sis! You're not alone in this. I left my narcissistic husband in Nov- 2022.
@@emefalove8462 God bless you Sis
God bless you!
It is so sad that SO many of us have a connection to this story. I pray for healing in EVERY life that has been changed, and that God restores every heart, every mind, every body and every soul. 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Thank you for this Pastor Blakes. I didn't want to leave my narcissistic husband but I got to a point of having panic attacks and losing my hair from the emotional abuse and neglect. I decided I wanted to live and not die for him. I moved out in Nov-2022! Through much prayer, spiritual guidance by my church home pastor, my therapist, and YOU RC Blakes, I am healing from my PTSD and pain. Jesus has broken the chains that had me bound! I feel alive again and getting stronger every day. Praise God! Keep letting the Lord use you. You are making a difference!
Yes. Absolutely.
I am so frightened. I b had great faith, strength, admire a ton, and continue to abuse 33 years(more than 30÷years serving and supporting) and building three churches).
Just now recovering from a near-deatg experience, still it continues, and getting help to make necessary moves.
Salute to you.
I was married to one for 4 1/2 years and it was a living nightmare. I prayed and begged God to save me. I’m divorced now for two years and I been through several different stages of grief and healing. But my faith in God is getting me through my victory.
Amen! Glad to hear God is amazing!
I am separated from mines and getting ready to divorce her. Narcissist are under the Jezebel spirit and the worst ones are the ones that think they are Christian
Amen
I agree. It’s obvious that they have no fear of God otherwise they wouldn’t even be able to do the things that they do.
That's what mine is like. He has said that I'm the one who has no walk with the Lord and that God gave him the wrong wife to help him through life. Goes to church every week since I left with the kids to live with family friends 4 months ago. At church he plays the victim.
They always play the victim
Mines has the nerves to be a Minister and hides in the church and behind close doors he is a monster and have everyone fooled and will get mad at me for going to church and getting payer.
I’ve been with mines for 25yrs and it’s about to come to an end🙌🏽🙌🏽
Girl, get out and live your best life!!! I got out after 11 years, THANK G-D! Word of advice, try not to beat yourself up for staying as long as you did. The narcissist beat you up enough for two lifetimes already. ❤ Best wishes 🙏
God bless u Sis in your new journey ❤️
Me too 25 years with a covert narcissist. They had parental alienation on top of all the abuse, including emotional and mental
10 years of marriage and known for 12 . The lord said “Go” ✌🏽
It took me 26.5, but I was out in my mind at least two years prior. God bless you. Stay safe as you prepare your exit strategy. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I used to skip the song in the beginning but I actually sing along to myself for myself now... the healing that Bishop's teachings has done for me cannot be quantified. Thank you dear Sir, you are a father to many. God bless you and Mama Lisa!
me too
Same😊
Artist and song??
😂😂😂. Me to.
My heart broke but my soul healed. I was always having physical ailments when I was with him. I didn’t know what was happening. I stayed in a stressful state. adrenal fatigue.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I believe that's what's going on with me I been married to my Narcissistic husband for 7.5 years together for 12 and I promise you I have had so much fatigue and illness from this man now that I know what I have been dealing with I don't like or love this man. He says to me he just want Peace I told him he would never ever have Peace even long after this toxic relationship is over. I sometimes beat myself up bc I stayed to long. But right now I am making myself an exit plan bc I have had enough of the devil 😈 his time is up and I am taking my power back.🙏🏾🙏🏾
My physical problems turned into vitiligo
We in the end take our power back. We've had a gut full of there Crap...Good luck too anyone taking my left over's. Srsrly. Good luck your going too need it...❤
@@MsKhamika don't curse him. Let God deal with him
@@tmichele8922 😢
WAS married nearly 10 years to a narcissist. The hardest 10 years of my life. I can testify, everything Bishop Blakes is saying is 1000% accurate. I thank God for deliverance.
Hey Tara, 10 years too! I left twice but came back. It’s the hardest thing I have ever done. It has taken all I have let in me to survive after filling for divorce. Glad you are free now ❤
@@myrnagordon3409 hang in there & know you are doing the right thing. You can get through it ♥️
You are totally describing my ex-fiance. The most disheartening part is that no one believed what I was telling them I was experiencing. I developed severe anxiety in that relationship to the point where I would get hives all over my body from interacting with that man. Thank God for giving me the courage to leave. Wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I went through this for over 20 years. Finally found the strength to walk away 3 years ago. I'm now trying to get through PTSD!
I married one.
I'm happily divorced now..
You must never never never pick a spouse without God could cost your life or sanity...
You will never ever forget it.
You will grieve more than the love its so much deeper..
Has derp long term psychological effects n most people u know will never understand..
Lastly you will never ever go back to the old you
And your entire view on life will change..
Lastly the devil will use this against u
Years even after you're free..
Walking away doesn't end the impact..
You must guard your life in picking a partner...
This is a deep demonic thing
Only God can save or heal you. It is a long process.
You cannot come out the same..
Be wise.
Amen!! You're Right!!
Truth
I owe God my life ❤ 🙏🏾 He’s healing me from Narcissistic Abuse. I’m finally feeling like myself again. I have 3 boys by him. 😢
Prayers for your sons and you added strength. Prayers that generations cruses will not be your son’s portion in Jesus Christ Name Amen 🙏🏼
Do your sons know or believe their father is a narcissist?
@@ericsennachie my sons are 9, 6 & 4
Having kids with the is the worse, I have 5 girls with mine smh! A nightmare that NEVER ends!
I have two by two different narcs! I Thank God for deliverance every day!! I couldn’t believe I had a purpose after the last one but God! We can make it through anything ladies and gentlemen with Christ who strengthens us!!
The father of lies and confusion yes. 💯
I’ve seen a narcissist unable to sleep due to a soul in torment. I’ve seen the eyes and face change the moment the spirit takes the wheel. It’s frightening. Thank you for this perspective Mr. Blakes. A valuable book you’ve written. ❤
Omg yes!! I thought I was going crazy when I saw his eyes and face change. Thank YOU for this
@@msmitchell2u my pleasure to share my experience and I’m glad it helped you. It’s a scary experiment. May god continue to bless and keep you.
That was my husband never sleeps tormented by demons I left him for good
@@shirlspark_stardust God bless. You are safe now and working on loving yourself because God ordained it. Stay strong. ♥️
Living between calm & storm……OMG. Yes Sir
I was married to one for 40 years.
But God brought me out of the wilderness amen 🙏
Absolutely been there. My ex would "appear" to be calm and have it all together and I was the one who appeared to be unstable. It was a facade. I remember the day I left him because of all his lies, he made me think I was crazy, he was big time cheating on me and I had the evidence.
But the day I packed my things and walked out, he said I couldn't survive without him because I needed him to be my communicator. I looked at him and Said, The Lord will provide. He was cussing me out calling me all kinds of names, his voice sounded like the devil. I knew me leaving was the best thing I ever did for myself. Soul ties was keeping me there. I had an awakening inside me and I knew everything was going to be just fine....Never looked back.
❤ never looked back
I’m Looking Forward To This
I Was In A Relationship With A Malignant Narcissist
The Abuse Wears You Down Being Trapped In A Toxic Relationship.
Being Married Is Even Worse.The Verbal Emotional And Psychological Abuse
A Person Endures Daily.Narcissistic Abuse Is The Absolute Cruelest Abuse To
Ever Endure.
I agree, it hurts so bad and going no contact is giving me a chance to not only get my energy back but love me again … I had a heart attack and I think about it everyday the amount of evil I went through… the hard part is keeping all this stuff with him out of my head ,,, 🙏🏾 But GOD
It was 5 years for me WHEW
@@MYLIFENOW9706 🙏
3 for me just left last week
Good luck. We’re all going through this it’s soo hard ❤️
They will also want you to admit to something you haven’t done that they accuse you of doing for example constantly saying you’re cheating on them when you’re not. They don’t let rest always trying to stress you out over nonsense. I told this person I will never admit something I didn’t do to appease him! Also they can’t handle being told NO!
Thank you for this information. I have been married to a narcissistic man for 35 years. The monster appeared when he lost his job. He play mind games. I open the blind he close it. I close the door he open it. I filed for a divorce last week. Afraid what he might do when he's served. Please pray for me and my family
May our Great Protector protect you in every way🙏🏾Amen🙏🏾
No weapon fashioned against you shall prosper 🙏
Get a therapist! And open up to anyone who is aware of Narcissist and do not with people who are not aware - at least not until the divorce is final. And be prepare for him to get ugly and your trauma bond to make you crave what you shouldn’t. Armor up bec this will be a newfound war. I married and divorce with no kids and only asked for my name change and it was WAR
If your instincts are telling you that you may be in danger for serving him with a divorce, then please see if you can find a program to help you get away safely. I understand your fear. Wishing you the beat!
Please be careful! Never be alone with him! Hide yourself and be safe!!!
I was with my ex 17 years. We were engaged for years because something told me to wait. Found him texting and talking to another woman so I left. Found out recently he’s cheating on her now and she’s going through heartbreak. I pray for her and her kids everyday as I know exactly what she’s going through. 🙏
😮 you’re a saint for praying 🙏🏼 for her and her children. God bless you all
You are kind. I pray the woman he's now cheating on me with enjoys exactly what I suffered.
@@penelope9455 😂 I honestly did feel that way for awhile; however, I think,of her 6 year old daughter whose real father died and looks to him as a dad. He’s going to break her heart again. So sad. He’s already broken his two adult children’s hearts by giving her more attention and time than them. They are close to me and came to me broken hearted.
@Queen Bee we have a little boy who is attached to the man and misses him dearly, while he pursues " other" interests, apart from phone calls & visits here and there. So, if a kid doesn't move either one of them, then something bigger and painful should. Mind you, we're still married, but he lives with her and wants me to join!! Narcissists are definitely the spawn of the Devil .
@@penelope9455 My ex spread lies about me to his friends so he could play the victim and said I walked out on him. He tried to tell that to his son’s mom, but she knows the kind of person I am and didn’t buy it. I get along with both his kids’ moms and they told me he’s trying to sleep with them too. He spends time with them when he comes to town to see his parents but all behind her back. He actually hid the new woman from his family for a year. He disgusts me now that he’s shown me who he is.
Mine would not leave though I asked him to move out, so I had to leave, best decision I ever made, God confirmed it over and over and took care of me faithfully.
Same. Mine won't leave.
@NM C happiness begins when you get away from them, try it for an overnight and see if you can tell. I did and I stayed away and he never followed me to get me to come back, confirmation that he didn't really want me there anyway.
SAME, he would NOT leave! I had to leave and start from the bottom sleeping on my moms floor with my kids for a year but I did not care, I was determined! God blessed us with a apartment and after 2 years of living there, he blessed me with a house ❤
That's what I had to do too
I left with my 3 kids. God has been helping me every step of the way even though it's terribly traumatic
I had dated one for 8 years and it was hard to get away from him but I did...Very controlling and unreasonable..I thank the Lord for removing me out of the situation..
This was my life, 37 years of it! Seperated for 18 months and he still continues through settlement agreement. Some days are just too much. I am not going to give in to his unfair demands. there's reason why i am on my knees, TO PRAY AND ASKED THE LORD TO TAKE THIS BATTLE OF MY SHOULDERS AND FIGHT FOR ME🙏🙏
I chose self love, my peace and truth.... than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! 🙄
But, I'm praising GOD for New Beginnings as of April 17th! Truly GOD has protected me from this evil human.
Hallelujah 🙌. Thank you JESUS 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
OHHHHHH MY u hit it on the NAIL """ than his habitual lies, betrayal, chronic cheating, demonic and dark energy, mental abuse & delusions, always daydreaming, never can get clarity or a straight answer! """""
What I always will remember after this traumatic experience is that the devil does not come as a monster.... he (the devil comes to steal, kill & destroy) he comes as a charismatic, nice-looking, smell good, good job, and his own house, but behind closed doors he is the most demonic monster ever imaginable! He will habitually lie and cheat, as well as betray you beyond your imagination!
Finalizing my Divorce after 16 years of marriage to a Narcissist
I am in this mess with my narcissistic husband of 11 years married 7.5 years i really need prayers to get out of this and b4 i snap i have to get myself out soon real soon. I'm thinking of a plan. B4 the pandemic I really didn't know what a narcissist was I just thought that this man was different and mean 😢😢 it wasn't even like the first year we met it became later down the line 😭 I said lord what have I gotten myself into please help me out
What are you going to do? Where does it stand now? My heart breaks for you? Is it just you or do you have kids in the house too?
🙏 for you.
Keep informing yourself, grey rock,and pray
Prayers
The way I screamed watching this video is crazy. I have been telling others but they can’t believe me because I come off as emotionally unstable therefore I’m the one with issues. This was so well put together
Teach Bishop! They will TRY everyday, every minute of the day to wear you down, even to the point of questioning yourself!
RC Blake’s your channeling , witnessing , and discussing this kind of content within the context of spirituality is very pioneering and courageous. I applaud you for constantly displaying this kind of devotion to both god, people, and women in particular. Thank you god being a true wise man
While with the narc, I got a job promotion he only said congratulations but not really sounding excited for me. My birthday came and my mom reached out to him to help bring my friends together he didn't. He mentioned this to me that he didn't know how to🤔. I recognize now, him watching me prior to the chase, because they do study their victims prior to, he thought I was by myself because he never saw me with anyone only to find out I had a WHOLE family at the same church. He then told others he was glad to now be with a good family...rriigghhtt, my parents told him up front what was expected. Bishop Blakes is so right about this behavior being demonic, it really is. They are sent to ruin/destroy. The behavior can be overbearing and you lose a lot of energy. When they want to go, it's hard to understand but its best that you let them go for YOU! Them leaving is the best gift for YOU!
By God's grace, I'm still here! 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks for the videos…im 20 years in and waiting for an apartment to become available so I can leave. Please keep me in prayer. God bless you and your family 🙏
If you want to leave just DO IT! I went homeless to leave mine. Be strong, courageous and trust the Lord!
I want to leave too and am grey rocking till i get things in order. Dont wanna jump out of the frying pan and into the fryer
@@nmc1859 Pray for a strategy and follow it. Jesus will help you! Be fearless and ready to struggle as you recover but you’ll have Jesus, he’s all you need! I hope you have accepted Jesus as your lord and Savior, if not, I encourage you too, he loves you so much!
Praying for you. Stay strong sis
Thank you all for your prayers and such. I am just seeing them 9months later. I dont usually use my gmail acct. so I have to tell you all that my apt came available in Dec 2023. Praise Jesus! Much longer than they had said it would be, but God had it all worked out. I stepped out in faith and got involved in the church, serving and bible studies and he brought people around me to help me move. I never would have been able to do it alone! He knew that and He knew the right timing. He is so Faithful! While its not easy, I am out of my toxic marriage and free. Now I have to get thru the divorce…. God bless each of you. 🤗
Lord help me, pls get le to safety me n my children 💜🙏🏿💜🙏🏿 I trust you God
I'm praying for you and your children for God to give you a way out and a peaceful life on your journey. PRAYING IN THE NAME OF JESUS!! AMEN!!
Pray for my cousin Sister Trina Hector who’s married over 26 years. Her husband has been verbal and emotional and physically abused by him. In 2020 he put her and their daughter out the house made them move during covid19. They’re still married but they’re separated smh 🤦🏽♀️ my cousin needs deliverance from this evil man it’s ridiculous at this point 💯. We stop engaging with her about the situation because it’s draining and frustrating. These type of men know what type of woman they can mistreat and use.
They hide behind God as far as l'm concerned.
Satan is a liar and so is the Narcissist. Point Blank. I forgive but l don't Forget.
Revenge Is All Mine.....God ✝️
Thank you SO much Pastor Blakes for doing this video. I was married to a narcissist for 20.5 years. And was with him for 27.5 years. And everything you spoke on is ACCURATE! Every single word of it. I finally separated from my ex in 2018 and divorced him in 2021. I have since been in therapy and I am a LOT better and am continuing to heal daily. For many years, I didn't know what I was dealing with, the amount of constant chaos was unbearable. I didn't even know how to express what I was going thru with anyone because I felt like no one would believe me. It often times sounded crazy to me just to say certain things that I was living thru. Now I know what it was/is. But I praise God daily for bringing me out of that dark, toxic relationship/marriage. Thank you Pastor Blakes. May God continue to bless you and your wife's ministry. 🙏
I'm married to one I suspect. That is why I'm buying the book and will be attending tonight virtually.....If it's available. The event that is. Thanks RC Blakes!!
I add dr ramani and dr les Carter to help explain what the disorder contains and how it shows up. Most times it 1000% describes how my husband acts. And it's good to understand why imo
Bishop Blake your message are so important and you are helping woman all over the world. Thank you 🙏🏼 because so many leaders are refusing to help women or men in the body of Christ Amen 🙏🏼
Blessings evening everyone else has a great night
This is so true. I had to learn the hard way to be unpredictable and never trust nothing about them. Let that chick think she won somebody special and thankful she took my ex in and off my hands. Big thanks to God and discernment and my obedience paid off❤
Good evening everyone from Alabama❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much, R C Blakes. What I could not explain is that you have given me the language for. May God continue to reign down his Holy Spirit on you in all your endeavours.
They want others to view you differently . . Misrepresenting who you are.. . . . To your family and friends. . . Your on target bishop.
I've been knowing mine since 2001. I was 15. He's 4 years older than me. Dealt with each other for 5 years, then went our own way. Officially got together in 2013, married in 2016. This month, the 19 will be 2 months I left him. Glory be to GOD. If you know, then you know. Heart ache, the enemy in him tried to take me out.
To get to my kids. BUT GOD🙏🏼
Let's continue to give it to GOD and remember we are HIS daughters, and HE loves us dearly. Saty strong sisters. Pastor RC, you have gotten me through some rough times over the past year or so. May our FATHER continue to keep you, use you, and bless you. You are helping to guide and heal the hearts, minds, and souls of his daughters ❤
I pray that God will deliver my love ones who are in such a marriage.
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I would lock myself in the bathroom because I didn’t know who was coming home😢
Don't ever lock yourself in a bathroom. Because if they get violent in there they can do damage too you like.. Draining you. Where's there is water that is enough too pull you down and you may never come back up..
Remember ppl. Never lock yourself in a bathroom or Go in there too get away ❤❤
I have been in a relationship for 20 years, with a narc and we also have a child. I'am thankfull God breaked my hart to heal my soul. I knew somthing wasn't right but I couldend put my hands on it. Afther the divorce i have been healing and prepaire myself to give and reseve healty love again. Whaiting on God's timing and asking Him for strenght and knowleage. Amen!
The withholding of celebration is Intentional, deliberate….they just want to be celebrated!
They intentionally sabotage your goals , you can't tell them your plans
You have to be comfortable with never trusting a narcissist. You must feel as though this person has dysfunction( evil). They want your trust that is their biggest goal, don't give it to them. Manage the situation don't let it manage you
Thanks Bishop Blakes for this information.🙏🏾❤️ God bless you!
Going through a divorce with one now and it's been a nightmare!
This channel is a real blessing to my life.
In the ROOM WITH THE RIGHT ONE! Absolutely!👍
It’s like you sat down with me and I told you my story!! 😢
I went through this for years and was delivered November 2021🙌 GLORAY!!! I still have some anxiety and am learning how to regulate my nervous system normally now. I met the love of my life last year and am so grateful I had the courage to get away from narcissistic abuse to allow divine love in. ❤
Thank you for the valuable information
Thanks for sharing this
Glad I came across this video! I’m trying leave mines 😢😢
After 7 years of dating and just one year of marriage, I left him while he was on a business trip. It was the only safe way to leave. My life and the abuse was something of a movie. I didn’t recognize myself any longer. God’s strength set me free.
Jesus! Can’t wait!!
Let them GO!!!😂😅😊. Thank U, Thank U Bishop RC and Lady Blakes….❤️🏆💥🙏🏽. Luv u guys
I married bad. With him almost 11 years. When he left, it felt like the house had been exorcised
Ohhh I'd like it if he'd go ahead and leave
I was
married to one, but I put him out on the street. I didn’t know he was a narcissus. But because I was a praying woman, I listen to the holy spirit, and he told me to take the toot that was so for his head and put him out. We lived a separated life until the Lord took him. I was faithful until death to the marriage. But we did not live together. Amen 🙏
Sadly, you just described my marriage. I was constantly walking on eggshells. I couldn’t do anything right. It put a tole on my self steam.
Thank You so much. God bless you. Emotional Vampire is definitely an accurate description. I used to use the term a lot before I discovered the true meaning of narcissism. It definitely feels like someone draining the life out of you.
Thank you for praying for me
This is spot on Bishop. 💯
Both of my parents were narcissistic. I cut them off; mother 23 years, father 11 years. Of course I'm the disrespectful one. Good riddance.
The climate of the house was cold on a summer day, and dark in the daytime!! I felt like my soul was raped!!! I am healed and delivered now, but if I would have seen any of this content sooner, I’d never! I pray someone going through is able to get out sooner than later! Bishop Blakes you continue to Bless me with your Videos! Thank God for you!🙌🏾
I have been in mine for 7 years married 6 I was deceived from the beginning, he knew he was sick and I didn't find out until about 2 yrs later he had to go on dialysis but at the time I didn't recognize it. I am doing just that isolating my mind and dealing with the calm through the storm, I am putting together an exit plan when our lease is up in 5 months, he is on home dialysis and always threatening to go back to his kid up north, I told him i can't wait. Now he is starting to gaslight saying he was kidding but he have said this more than once this time its serious for me. I need time to heal my soul and mind. My children hate that Im going through this. 😢I waited until 60 to marry and it's nothing idea about its really never been a marriage. 🙏🙏🙏
This message is on point every thing Pastor Blakes said is absolutely true. I went through everything he said. I didn’t marry my narcissist ex but we were in a relationship for 8 years it was pure torture. I finally left him and I was so drained, exhausted and felt like I didn’t even know myself anymore. But thank God, I’m healed and moving forward in my life 🙏
I love the book review. I plan to purchase it. Thank you for loving us this way. ❤️🙏🏽🥰
Spot on!!!
Powerful, powerful. The biggest blessing ever. Thank you pastor RC BLAKES and LISA BLAKES. God protect you. We are going higher. ❤QUEENS are born, old or young. I'm in, I'm one of them.
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes ❤❤❤❤❤ You are such a blessing to many of us💕💕💕💕👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you
Good Evening Bishop Blake. I shared this video to a coworker friend who recently got a Divorce. Hopefully this video and others you have on your site will help her heal.
Love your intro BISHOP..is that Dave Hollister? Amen 🙏 sounds Heavenly!
Hands down, Demonic
Greetings to all. Thank you RC Blake's Jr, for your awesome messages: I'm mindful of married to a Narcissist, prayers and scriptures.
This video is extremely helpful but also heartbreaking. Everything that was mentioned is what I've been going through for the last 14 years. I didn't even know I was dealing with this very topic until I started seeing a therapist. If anyone is going through any part of what was mentioned, please talk to someone. 🙏🏽
Good Lord, Pastor Blakes, I am married to one and it is as if you know him. I knew for many years something was wrong with him but never really knew what was terribly wrong with him until about 3 years ago when a friend introduced the term narcissist to me. I have to watch this video again and get your book, thanks for sharing.
ALWAYS ON GUARD…ALWAYS
YES ALWAYSSSSSSS
Thank you for this 🎉❤
David said yea wait till you see me tomorrow I’m gone dance even harder!😂❤🎉 yes yes
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder! My God…….
Completely true words, Bro Blakes
Good Evening Bishop RC & Lady Blakes! Everyone! Happy Thursday🖐🏼
Wow!
I'm not married to one, but I dated one for 7 years and we share a daughter together so I am interested in this one
I can quote this story without the book! IT BLESSED ME GREATLY!
Never had bags under my eyes until I got into this. My mom is a narcissist and I cut her off many many times. Now I am married to one. SMH.
Very good teaching
Yup yup yup😢 spot-on👏👏👏👏
Your on key point
Absolutely right Bishop
Everything your speaking about is on point i wasn't married to my ex narcissist for 8 years but he did put me through so much to the point it broke my spirit down emotionally and mentally ,is very exhausting glad i finally had the courage to leave and free of him for 2 1/2 years now and still healing ❤
Please, please, please pay attention to this wisdom. I am a living witness and can attest to everything Pastor Blakes has said about being married to a narcissist. It is extremely difficult and takes a lot of work to overcome the abuse.
Let them go as far as they can 🙏
Married 32 years to a complete Dark Triad Narcissist each Narc is different and the mental side emotional anguish I dealt with it is only God that got me out. I am forever changed, and each moment of the minute I fight to live.