HOW A WOMAN SHOULD RESPOND TO GAMES MEN PLAY by RC Blakes
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HOW A WOMAN SHOULD RESPONDS TO GAMES MEN PLAY by RC Blakes
Welcome to my latest video on HOW A WOMAN SHOULD RESPOND TO THE GAMES MEN PLAY. In this video, we will explore the importance of asking the right questions and listening carefully to everything a man says.
As women, you’ve probably experienced situations where men seem to be playing games with you. They may be ambiguous, vague, or downright confusing in their communication. It can be frustrating and leave you feeling confused and uncertain about where you stand.
However, in this video, we will share some valuable insights on how you can respond to such situations. We believe that asking questions and listening carefully to everything a man says is crucial to understanding his intentions and motivations.
We will discuss strategies that can help you ask the right questions to get the information you need. By listening carefully to a man's responses, you can gain valuable insights into his thoughts and feelings. This can help you make more informed decisions about your relationship with him.
We will also share some tips on how to avoid common communication pitfalls that can derail your efforts to understand a man's intentions. By mastering these skills, you will be better equipped to navigate the complex world of dating and relationships.
So, whether you are single and looking for love, or in a committed relationship, this video is for you. Join us as we explore how a woman should respond to the games men play, and learn valuable communication strategies that can help you build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
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A woman shouldn't respond at all. Her silence and disappearance will do the talking.
Right
Yes bow out respectful, and gracefully.🙌🏾🙌🏾
ABSOLUTELY WALK AWAY!!!
I was thinking the same! Seems they enjoy the game even more when you react to the foolishness! I just block and keep it moving!!
Exactly ! Amen. Still would like to hear what he has to say.
A woman should walk away as soon as she realizes games are being played, red flags! No time for childish games when you’re grown & should know what you want
True. But most of us do not and won’t
Facts! I walked away without warning and he tried to play the confused victim and act like he didn’t know why I cut him off. Boy bye!!
True but men have gotten better at being deceitful and dishonest. It's awful we have to guard ourselves so much yet they are crying over a $40 dinner and paying for dates.
@@incelslayerrrr8597 yes ma’am you are telling the truth!!!!!!
@@incelslayerrrr8597 I like your name on here.
So right- never believe a man when he says "I love you" especially when he's not showing it and not proving it
Ouch
Absolutely
If he loves you, he'll respect you and show you kindness in all he does for you.
Manipulation
@@latiqueaj3574@ it’s best
No response is a response, and it's a powerful one
That is so true !!!!!
I learned that one
True 😊👏.
Some men with no response right back at cha
That’s when u know they don’t want you..
When a man's words and actions don't line up then its time to walk away so PRETTY
He says he wants to see you , but you have to pay
@@jackieburns5257 Yes! I left my ex after 17 years when I caught him cheating. A year later, he told his daughter that he would talk to me if I would drive 3 hours to see him and buy him dinner. NOPE! So glad to be free from him for a year and a half. The other woman is seeing the truth about him now.
Yes, judge them by actions not words
“Sometimes you have to let your heart break for your soul to heal” 52:20
Boy so a true statement
All I needed to hear .
SOOO TRU!
Not all.
I disagree. Why go down the wrong road to get slaughtered first. First, avoid that road. Why go down that path to learn a lesson when you already been told it's dangerous. You may not come out of it alive. Wake up.
The reason I love Pastor Blake is because he’s honest about the intentions of most men - they just want to have sex and have no intention of adding anything to your life. It’s disheartening when people tell us that we can’t find a decent man because our language is wrong or we’re thinking negatively. The truth is that most men are not worthy of being entertained until one day he decides that he wants to be worth something.
Another Steve Harvey and ya'll fallin for it. 😂😂😂😂😂. Go listen to Crimson Cure. She tell the real truth. Because ya'll women have sadistic motives too.
That day is too late.
This is a word ❤
Yes, I agree with this 💯. We take them seriously when they start to take themselves seriously.
I ended up marrying two narcissistic cheaters who divorced me, and I'm now alone in my elderly years with 2 estranged daughters. I only see one daughter and 3 grandchildren but I miss seeing my other 6 grandchildren. Other than having children I love with my second husband of 41 years (and him discarding me for a woman 20 years younger than me who's after his money), I'd never marry if I had it to do all over again. I've had three men dump me after years together, and I have no intention of allowing another man to emotionally abuse me. I wish I'd known these things when I was 18.
The hardest part about dating is when I really hope that the person is the one and it's so disappointing to know that he is one of those. It's so many men with bad intentions.
intentions
@@hs-qk9qf I keep doing that lol. I'm going change it
@@vibinghigh2711 😊
I can spot bad intentions. It’s when there are no intentions … that is the hardest to gauge right away because casual dating is normalized. They may say that they are looking to settle down ... then you automatically assume that they see you as someone with whom they can settle down. They will string you along because they purposely install a hook for you to hang your hat on. Later , you learned he never had any intentions with you. This happens the most with really kind, god-fearing, malmanered guys. You don't see it coming.
Just be grateful of God’s always exposing them to us sis ❤
Any response or reaction encourages the game. Silence is golden! So much is said by saying Absolutley nothing.
An here I thought I could be invisible. LOL
It’s foolish to help them improve their ability to deceive. Silence.
@@genxx2724 this ❤ 😊
🎯
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
The best thing we can do is walk and never look back when the game playing starts.
I stayed because no man helped me understand it looking back my father broke me down first about how i spoke and being thin etc.
@@Cat-sx6ep I’m so sorry you went through that 💔
I always say run! Don't walk!
💯💯💯
@@Cat-sx6ep never too
rich and never too thin
'I've never met a woman like you.' 😂😂. Heard it so many times and I wish I had known better than to believe it. Bishop Blakes is such a blessing.
Right 😅
Women who are whole and who know their worth aren’t moved by what a man says about her because she knows herself. She doesn’t need his validation so his pleasure or displeasure is of no consequence to her.
I swear, if more fathers would be more candid like this with their daughters about the games males play, women could navigate relationships a lot better!
Thank you bishop for being a father to so many of us, no matter the age. We truly appreciate your wisdom and care for us. Continued blessings 🙏🏽❤️
Some of us have fathers but lack the know how to teach
Keeping men and woman separated is satans plan...well man makes plans God laughs and sends Pastor Blake😂❤️
My dad didn’t tell me anything 🤦🏾♀️😩😭 sad I’m still learning 🤦🏾♀️
@@ellencaroline2065 That part‼️
I have found that walking away shines a bright light on your worth and value. And the man sees this clearly! If he tries to flex another woman in your face, you know you've gotten to him. He knows in his heart, no woman can hold a candle to you.
They will search for you in every other woman that they come across
...but will always come up short.
Amen to that
Thank you!
I get your main point , but too many women believe that no woman is better than them. Let’s try not to compare ourself to the next woman. If we want to talk about another woman just cover her in prayer and hope he doesn’t treat her poorly. If not just walk away and continue to walk in your purpose.
@@ghutchin33 You miss the point. It’s not about the other woman. It’s about his motivation for throwing it in your face. And if he had any regard for her, he wouldn’t do that.
I once went on a lunch date with a guy who was Bank Manager. We'd barely placed our orders when he started up with the money questions. I light-heartedly but very directly replied, "I was under the impression this was a social lunch. I am not in the market for any loans or financial products. If by any chance I have misunderstood or given you the wrong impression, let's just leave it here." He backed down, but spent the remainder of our lunch talking about his family's supposed wealth and connections. It was too much too soon!
Oversharing is insecurity
B4 I met my husband. I dated a guy who was quick w/the "I lov u's" & on our 4th date he introduced me as his "wife". I stopped anw his calls..it was wacky 2 say the least.😮
@@msanders5206Was he love bombing you?
@@savoir777faire absolutely, it freaked me out because we hd an amazing couple of dates, he was always doing nice things, 1st red flag, Then things went left. My dad told me 2 run don't walk..lol
Ugh how tacky and cringe ..
After ninety days of dating. He asked me to marry him. He put a ring on my finger and gave me a large beautiful wedding. He just so happened to be a man of God answering my prayers, living on God's principles. I prayed for a godly husband to cover me in marriage.
God bless you more❤
So, it is possible! Good for you.
❤❤❤❤god bless your marriage
May God continue to bless your marriage.
Yes , God is faithful 😊 happen to me over 54 years ago 🙏
My love has since passed, and it
would have been 50 years . May God cont to bless you❤
A masculine man provides and protects no matter what the women does or doesn't have or do..
Can vary by culture/ age.
Do they even exist? I believe they are all predatory, they just do what society, women want from them for the facade, but in reality, they are 2faced.
That’s not true.
“When a man esteems you, the less sexual energy he will demonstrates towards you.” Wow.
Good stuff!
Yet as a woman, when you don’t fall for their bs or give in to their games, they call you a b*tch. Or people call you a prude or say “your expectations are too high”
And? Why does that matter the names you are called?
they're baboons
& they're corrupt
There is a term for this it is called negging. It is when low quality men name call to try and break down your standards so that they have a lower barrier to entry and don't have to do much to earn you. As for the women, I don't pay attention to what they have to say unless they have a husband who is absolutely amazing and most women do not have that.
@@AkireMaru it's abusive.
name-calling little women
these abusive things isn't
ok. men deserve to know
That's rude to call women ugly names,men like that are abusive and they're trying to break your self esteem, that's why so many black women have self esteem.
The key is for men to teach other men to stop playing games. Period
They learn game playing from their mothers
@@dampergoldenrod4156 no, not the games I'm talking about. Men have even talked about the game that I'm speaking of. Most women didn't even know about it, but the book has been released to all.
@@dampergoldenrod4156here trolling a woman's lessons from god. Gross.
💯 🙏🏾
"You should have played detective in the beginning" Pastor Blakes, thanks for that!! 😮
51:00 If a man thinks you're wifey, he's gonna behave like a HUSBAND. And will take STEPS to making it happen. With TIMES and DATES.
YES! Not by messaging back and forth all day on apps. Grown men want to SEE you and HEAR you
And truly take care of you. Some men marry women for their security, too.
A lot of fathers can’t teach their daughters these things, primarily because they, themselves, still operate the same way Pastor Blakes speak of.
"sometimes you have to let your heart break for your soul to heal"
Do not feed your pearls to swine.
Currently, I'm single but unavailable since I have some personal goals on which I'm working. Still I'm here listening and learning for future reference. The first thing I've learned is that there's no age limit on the games. Somewhere in my mind I was thinking that as men grow older, they stop playing games. Sounds like I've got more thinking to do.
Oh this was me years ago. I thought the same thing as you, until I discovered he was just an older boy in a man's body. There were so many childhood issues that he wouldn't even acknowledge or notice. He was manipulative and stifling. I 🏃🏽♀️ from that "shituation"🤣.
I thought the same thing.
My best friend who’s 34 was dealing with a 56 year old. He was paying her bills and helping with her two kids he got them whatever they asked for or needed. He took them places and everything. But had her on a emotional roller coaster ride smh 🤦🏽♀️. He was doing these things with two other women also lol. So I say older men knows what women need. They just believe they are better players lol vs some of the younger players. Younger ones want to play and don’t have nothing to offer it’s easier to cut them off. The older ones lol are a piece of work too. Smh 🤦🏽♀️
No lies here
.
It's true, a player will always be one...😯
“Most of the men are attempting to deceive you “
He said it .. lol .. it’s so hard for us women knowing this . We are easily connected emotionally
Once my blind date asked me how much child support I collected and commented on my Mercedes. I disappeared into the wind. 😂
Gone with the wind fabulous 😅😂
BRO,what kind of question was that?? WOW. Yass GONE WITH THE WIND girl,you don't need that disrespect!
these men, i tell you they’re something else
😂😂😂😂
😂
A woman is kind, understanding and nurturing. I will not be cruel or harsh. I will try to communicate and gain understanding. When I decide to walk away I will truly be missed 👑
Facts 🎉
Yassss
Amen. I am the same way
Same 😊I will set my boundaries also
That’s called class
Hello Sir, it’s me Judy…the FA who was beaming with joy of seeing you in flesh and was able to hug you on my flight that day in Birmingham. Words cannot express how happy and elated I was to be able to see one of my most favorite bloggers. First, I wanna THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for your warmth of special mentioning me here,and most all the content of your blogs that I admired so much that became my moral compass and help me to become a better WOMAN and a child of GOD . The first time I watched your blog back in height of pandemic 2020 , I felt like I was hearing my Dad ‘s advices to me when he was still alive and growing up. Nowadays I see alot young women out there are hungry for these kind of advices …because it’s either, they don’t hear these things from their own father or don’t have a father at all…whenever a girl or woman had asked for my advice about dilemmas of relationship and womanhood…I gave them a piece of what I’ve experienced and some of I learned from your advices …I mentioned your name and highly recommended you Sir…again, we THANK GOD for you , we need more Pastor/father/husband like you…GOD BLESS YOU and your Ministry🙏🏼🙏🏼❤❤🌈🌈
This is so true. A man told me he loved me. I said "why" he said, bcus you're pretty😂
I had a guy do a weird cycle of breaking things off with me because i wouldn’t get sexually intimate with him. I didn’t fight him and just agreed we weren’t compatible. He would change his mind a day later. I didn’t know what he was doing till I realized he would always break things off after he didn’t get what he wanted. I take responsibility for allowing him to do this push and pull with me. However, I wasn’t listening to my women’s intuition. The first time we broke things off was and should have been enough. On paper he seemed like a catch. But something I said to him was he didn’t make me feel safe and him using the word of God against me was enough confirmation that he wasn’t it
He was an evil clown.
I never got this advice from my dad. I am saddened to know if I would have heard this advice as a young girl I would have avoided much waisted time and heartbreak. So I'm healing myself. Thank you for your videos, you give more healing advice than you know.
Thank you and God Bless!
I never got this type of advice either. My father is one who plays games. I watched him play games in his marriage to my mom. Then he always says pick the wrong men. Those men are actually quite like him. Therapy showed me this 😄😁
@@phoenix_sol_riseup2556 same!! 😞
Your story is my story. I feel the same way as you do. But guess what? We have this information now, and use it. I'm content being solo.
Who if not strangers will teach us life lessons?
Right cause at 33 hearing now knowing already the bs that be said its just a way a father puts it u believe him and it's locked in and easy to.dodge
Thank you Pastor, I appreciate the message. The vast majority of men in our community are playing these games, making us jump through hoops and constantly moving the goal post. Even if we do make it to the alter it’s often not a loving reciprocal marriage relationship. The reality is that many of us are better off being alone or expanding our options to other groups of men with better mindsets.
Believe me, the games are out here, too.
If it wasn't for my dad playing matchmaker I'd probably still b single. I know it's ruff out there but u hv 2 b in it if u want to win it..js I hd 2 kiss a few frogs.
Yep!!!!! You got that right sister, because just like war games the best way to PLAY THE GAME is not to play it at ALL, and the lord Jesus knows I had someone played me hard and I had learned hard from it and what resulted from that is when I dish the same BS to that person they couldn't believe I did that, and then had the BALLS and the nerve to say how can i turn myself on and off like that and my response was "I LEARNED IT FROM YOU. However, after this incident I never had a problem out of him again till this day we are really good Friends that ❤ love and respect 🙏 one another. Godbless and may PEACE always be with you. 😂 ps: please don't forget to Always pray 🙏 in your counters with different guys the lord really do give you signs that this person is not the husband I had in mine 😉 for you so please STOP and here his whisper. 😊
@@claradavis5911 I’m so glad you were able to discern the truth through prayer and remove yourself safely from the situation 🙏🏽❤️ I was blessed with the same discernment before venturing down a dangerous path. God saved me from destruction a couple times and I am so thankful. Stay blessed 🙏🏽
👸amen! 99% of bm are mentally ill, colorist, fr broken homes, abandon they kids, 👰♀️anti-marriage, cheap, selfish, puts down bw but stay uplifting other race women who only love their wallets & that they'll happily provide & pay for them, yet blaming bw for everything🤷 wrong. bw save urself a lifetime of heartbreak 💩& 💔pain, run 🏃♀️fr bm😌.
Just saying “define what you mean and what is it….?” would shut 99% of the foolishness completely down.
I married a man who I found out a year later is married to another woman in a different state. No accountable, no remorse. Men can be so evil so as women, we must protect ourselves first. Praying for healing 🙏
Because African American society fails to protect Black girls in dealing with Narcissism, they wind up having horrible life mating experiences. Keep your head up though.
Self hate, true...
More like selfish but okay
Did you tell his wife you his other wife or press charges because it is illegal to do that
And will sleep like a baby
I literally cannot with the voice RC makes when he responds/impersonates the male that is not being fully transparent 😂😂
RC tickles me when he does the voice😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Men need serious mental help to be healthy for a quality Christian woman! It s a epidemic of broken men with unresolved issues. This is why they have to lie . They have and do not seek guidance or accountability!
💯💯💯
I haven’t been in a date in almost 2 years, and listening to RC is helping me tremendously for when I do find someone who I want to give a chance. I look young and naive so men get surprised about my discernment and intelligence.
I LOVE THAT! “QUEENS ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS THAT ONLY KINGS CAN ANSWER.” THANK YOU PASTOR BLAKES 🙏🏾💛 GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY.
Food for the soul! Beginning to become a stronger, more queen conscious woman everyday. Thank you First Lady Lisa and Pastor Blakes.
Games are for children to play so mature women can and probably need to ignore these types. Maturity won't hurt anybody. We aren't here for long. I'm just saying
True word wisdom speaks 🎉
Amen!!! That part. We aren’t here for long!! 🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Very well said. I don’t think 💭 people realize that! Especially when U in your 50’s and 60’s still playing games! 🤨 Just sad.
Yeah. So true. People think games are for kids, teens and your 20s. Tricks are kids. Games are for children. I don't know why the 50 and 60+ act like.
1. [first date] What do you do for a living? What does that pay? (REBUTTAL: Why do you want to know how much money I make? Are you comfortable sharing how much money you make?) 2. I think I love you. (REBUTTAL: What do you mean by 'love'? What do you think that you love about me? Have you ever loved anyone else before?) 3. I've never met a woman like you before. (REBUTTAL: What kind of women do you normally meet? What's so different about me? Why are these things so important to you?) 4. I think you could be wifey. (REBUTTAL: What are your standards for a wife? What do you think is a husband? When are you planning to ask me to be your wife? When are you marrying me, since you think I'm your wife?) 5. Let's take our time. (rebuttal: How much more time do you need to make a decision?) 6. I don't think I'm good enough for you. (REBUTTAL: Okay.)
We as women also need to stop over sharing so early on. Over sharing traumas etc
Thank you Pastor Blakes. All women need to hear this. If we all know and recognize this type of game and deception coming from men, the men will have no other choice but to become decent and respectful toward women. When the pool of naïve women get smaller and smaller, these type of men can't run the game. I wish every woman could hear and understand the great service you are providing here in these video teachings. God bless you Pastor Blakes. Thank you so much.
Being a woman truck driver has been the most difficult thing. Dating for myself is almost impossible, finding a good man now is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Good men are out there but you just need to be patient and allow Allah to send you a husband. That way it will be God ordained.
I have never been with a good man.
@Jay Yeah I just learned about Lot Lizards concerning Truck Driving 🤯 I'm not competing with that world myself
Try getting another job that doesn’t automatically put you in the friend zone with men once they hear your profession. I mean…how feminine can a female truck driver really be? Nothing else you can do for a living? What’s more important, your truck career or finding a good mate who can make it to where you don’t have to worry about tricks and money
@@AkireMaru you can always lie to the man that you are a fill in the blank, female profession. It’s none of their business when they’re just dating you.
Also be very aware of the sociopath's. They are quiet, sit back & listen to what you want, don't ask questions cause your doing all the sharing, & then he shows up in sheep clothing when he really is a wolf. He shows up as everything you want. These type of men are the silent killers...
ABSOLUTELY!!!! Sis, I just had to release & go no contact with this guy recently!! He was very quiet, all he did was text mostly...the only time when he did call, he acted as if he had a mouth full of gravel! I thought about it like 'Damn, u got full sentences and a whole damn paragraph when you text me, but can't say 2 words when talking on the phone...always stuttering & stammering like he didn't know what to say!!' And then when he faced time me, he always wanted to relate it to sex... Matter fact, ALL HIS CONVOS he related it back to sex!!
On the last straw with him, (I should've had the last straw with him way before then, but I just found Pastor's videos recently & started learning) so I started asking him questions, as Pastor Blakes said. He started deflecting saying it was so hot in the house bcuz his AC wasn't working...I stated to him "I'm sorry to hear that" and I went back to where I left off with my questions. He then asked me why am I asking a lot of questions...I replied basically to get to know one another...I then stated to him, as Pastor Blakes said, "Well what do you want to know about me"....he then went BACK to talking about he's sweating & it's too hot to be answering questions....I immediately gave him the 👍🏼 followed by✌🏼.....after about 5 minutes, he texted me & gave me an "Lol" and then asked me what was I doing (as if the conversation never occurred)... Then when I still didn't respond (I never clicked on the text, but I still was able to see what he wrote when I pulled down the screen from the top of my phone)...so then after about 5 minutes, he asked me what are my children's name....I still didn't respond... Then after about a minute or so, he text me to apologize and said they just fixed his AC... Yeah right🙄😏 That fast?? But I just kept ignoring him even tho he kept calling & texting, even trying to love bomb me by saying I'm supposed to be his wife and I'm not communicating with him and that's not good. I rolled my eyes 🙄 & said "Boy bye!!!"
Pastor , I wanted to add that other thing I have experienced, I am not sure if others queens have , when the man after he sees how committed you are because you know what you want and need , pulls away because he knows he isn’t ready and thinks that by telling you this will make you feel better .” I just want you to know that you didn’t do anything wrong , you did everything right , don’t think what ever is happening it’s because you did something wrong , don’t think this is your fault …..that line right there does upset me…. Nothing is more cruel than a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intentions of loving her
That's often a manipulation tactic to get you to agree to accepting his incompetence.. if he tells you "I'm not good enough for you" that's more of a warning than a confession, and if you move forward its like you gave them license...enter at your own risk 💯
@@hellawitzgerald7530 thank you dear for sharing your thoughts, you are 💯 right
Thank you so much Bishop for this counsel and prayers. These days I sniff these games from afar, and I find that not playing them is the best thing. Silence, ignoring, deleting and blocking are so much easier than other emotionally draining options.
PLEASE DO A PART 2!!! Please give us MORE things that men tell us and how to escape their traps. This video was deeply informative! Thank you!
Listen carefully on 1st dates
1/ how they speak about their exes: if they are all crazy, you will be the next;
2/ do they really love women or hate them? Those who hate women will use and abuse them.
3/ are they insecure? Insecure men break women to their level
4/ do they Always talk about their past ? Searching for a therapist, ATM and a placeholder ?
5/ Also, they Always Ask "what are you looking for in a man"? Reply generally "I don't know, when I'll see, I'll know". Some coachs Say you have to tell him you want a relationship from the start but many of them mirror what you want and then disappear
6/ Ask about his values: if he talks about 'freedom' for each other, 'autonomy' that's a Big red flag !
7/ last but not the least : make him wait and DON'T give physical intimacy. You wanna take your Time to see his true character. You'll see his true colors.
N.B. listen to your gut feeling. We often see signs but don't listen our intuition. We should !
Yesss part 2 please!!
@@kantik2118 AMEN‼️
This is enough
No need for part 2v
Recently a male friend asked me can he store his car in my garage he travels in and out of Town he also is engaged to be married i told him no he can't use my garage nor can he visit me every time he is in town i know its all about sex and nothing else I soo appreciate this topic to help strengthen me 🙏🏾
This is why, I don't care what...I leave the first time a lie is told! I'm not giving any chances because a grown behind person know what they're doing! It's just sick and I can't stand it!
Exactly I am leaving and never coming back 💯
“wifey” always disturbed my spirit
More so than any we must trust God's process when preparing and receiving our purpose partner. Key word, purpose. If a person doesn't serve a purpose in our life on a higher level, then we should rethink the choice of choosing this person as a suitable mate. Never allow time, age, and words to push you into a corner where you're making a split second decision that could turn detrimental. Choose wisely Queens and Kings❤🙏👑
To a grown boy, an immature, unevolved man when a woman asks questions or tries to get clarity about something he's said or done, he'll say you're doing too much or being difficult. "You're thinking too much...need to relax."
I so needed this message tonight. Thank you so much Bishop Blake’s. I’m going through a break up at the moment and I definitely know,”I needed my heart broken so my soul can heal.” Please keep me in your prayers.
God is a very present help in our time of need. Stay in God's word and love yourself and learn your worth. Better days are ahead, keep your head up. Be blessed and not stressed. 😊
God is close to the broken hearted. He's allowing this for a reason. For one , the Lord wants you to know that He is your spouse and He is. Immerse yourself in His word and make sure your in fellowship.Thats key. God will use your pain to catapult you to where you need to be. As you serve and help others, you will heal and it will be glorious.
@@fantasyangel8377You are so sweet. God bless you ❤
Let’s talk about the seriousness of child abuse, child neglect in the black community. Can we get more conversations about parenting and why it’s important to change our parenting style?
Yezzz, I would love 2 hear a discussion abt that!
@@msanders5206 me too this relationship talk after we are coming out of a pandemic, and if we know the abuse black women endured, then we know the psychological, physical, and sexual abuse for children went up too. If anything is going to change in the black community, it starts with how we are raising the children, and how parents and adults feel like it’s okay to abuse a child. We need to talk about child development also.
@@inesplain8870 my sister was abused by the narcissistic men n her life & I didn't recognize the signs until it was happening w/ her kids..dhs was unless!
True childhood trauma can lead to attraction to toxic people. They feel familiar where a good person you're not use to might be interrupted as hiding something or making you pull away due to not feeling good enough. Abusers also know how to spot past victims that are easier to control someone with a more positive childhood is comfortable in themselves were most the abusers' tactics wouldn't work they had too much respect for themselves to allow anyone disrespect them.
@@inesplain8870 Yes child development is important sets the stage for someone's life to end a cycle you need to start by raising healthy kids
Was in a relationship for 8 years, and i just ended it because he wasn't ready to be married. I have played wife all this while without even a promise ring and this is where it ends. Time to Move on. I wish i had met you in Birmingham and given you a hug too. Your messages have steered my life in the right direction and my courage to turn the page after 8 years came from listening to you. Working on myself now and look forward to building a solid relationship with my lord and saviour Jesus christ 🙏
8 years? I have been close to that. That's the old "Let's see where it goes...."
@@ButterCookie1984 8 years indeed hun.
I just did the same thing 6 yrs. I've had enough. No marriage I got a ring but it's arguments all the time. I'm done.❤
I just did the same thing 6 yrs. I've had enough. No marriage I got a ring but it's arguments all the time. I'm done.❤
I just did the same thing 6 yrs. I've had enough. No marriage I got a ring but it's arguments all the time. I'm done.❤
Here's another line, "You love me too much." You hear this RUNNNNN!!!
I'm looking watching and waiting, hoping for that special someone soon, and I'm over 40...
It has taken a while since I was seriously proposed by a man ..
@traceymcbeth6245, not just merely "run" but SPRINT!!🏃🏻♀️💨 Like a summer Olympic runner......
This should be seen by every female on earth. It will save us so much heartbreak and so much trauma.
Thank you so much! I was so naive for years. I wish I learned this years ago. It took a terrible marriage for me to understand “the game”. Lesson learned.
To your point, it saddens me the number of men that have no problem with women meeting their financial needs. I fell for the “I’ve never met anyone like you!” He added, “If I had a good woman like you, I could’ve met all my goals.” 🙄
Translation: You could have met all his goals.
I always feel like I should have learned from pastor RC's teachings when I was in my tender age, nevertheless, I am sharing all what I am learning 😊
After listening to a man's conversation with me who had so very many flamming red flags !! One of those red flags was, I'd want to marry you. Funny because the feeling wasn't mutual. This is exactly what Bishop Blake's is talking about. Men think your gonna melt when they say this to you. I've been an independent woman now for 19 1/2 years and am not looking for some man child to take care of . The man then asked me for my 🤳🏽 number holding his phone high waiting for me to tell him. I very politely said 👄 NO, then I walked towards the elevator to leave. We were at a repasts dinner . He didn't know what to say as I was leaving so then he said , don't be so shy. I replied, I'm not it's called having WISDOM. I've known him since I was about 6 years old, actually both of us because we're only a couple months apart in age. Not knowing his true character until we'd talked on the phone a couple times. I'd given him my number about 6 years prior to this and decided to stop answering his calls because of his flaming red flags conversation. We never even gotten as far as One date . Guess he thought I'd forgotten all about that but I didn't. A middle aged man with the mentality of a teenage boy. I didn't even have to say a lot to him, just NO, it's called using some wisdom then I got on the elevator and left. Wasn't worth wasting my energy. 👂🏼 👂🏼 Listen more than talk ladies then act accordingly.
Wow! You should s said ‘I wouldn’t wanna marry you!’ Lol
@@Actavella actions speak louder than words
@@donnajeffreys8252 Well done!! 🙏❤️
Constantly giving gifts and being overly attentive are two more. I met one who did everything from gift-giving to making a concoction for me when I was sick. Then, he got mad because I wouldn't perform a sex act on him after two months of knowing him. An older man at that: he's 61 (I'm 50). Now, he won't even talk to me.
On the second date, my toxic partner, asked me "Are you on birth control?" That should have been something I should have picked up on... but I didn't. Now going through nasty divorce. I should have said, "Why do you want to know?" I instead thought it was sexy. How stupid of me!
Yes, Rev, preach 🙌🏾
I had a guy get upset with me because I didn't want to be intimate and was shocked because he said " he loves me "
Run, sis! Run!!
If he loved you he wouldn't try and shame or pressure you into doing things for his benefit
Just went through this. And he’s runs Bible study on Thursdays. SMH
If he loves you, he'll wait and propose to you. These men are wildin' these days. It's just the devil upping the ante and wreaking havoc between the sexes.
My ex came around telling me he loves me and when am I going to let him love on me (sex) again. Haven’t been with this fool intimately in over 13 years . He really thought he could say I love you and the panties fall. These dudes are weird and unstable.
Saying I Love You isn't something that I say randomly. Love is an action verb that requires work and sacrifice. When anyone other than someone who has a history with me tells me that I perform a mental review of what would make them say it
I’ve never allowed a man to introduce me as; “ wifey”. And the one time a “ male” said that to someone .. I waited til the call was done and explained to him please don’t call me “ wifey “ it’s totally disrespectful
Exactly, it’s distasteful
@@kaleema1987 exactly! It's a man child term!
There are definitely wolves out here in sheep's clothing! Be on guard.
These things we should have heard at 15 years old, Happy to hear these things from Someone who have experienced , never too late to be educated 🙏
God bless you bishop for these teachings. I am so blessed. "The more a man esteems you, the less sexual energy he will demonstrate towards you"
What does esteems you mean? Does it mean, the more a man appreciates you the less sexual attraction he feels towards you?
I remained silent for 4 years while rebuilding my strength and mental agility. When I decided to acknowledge the individual with a simple responsive greeting I saw the shock and realization in his eyes that said " she is something to be reckoned with" and I still have no desire to return to that situation !
I laughed at the “I think you could be wifey” who falls for that? 😂😂 it sounds deceptive. I remember dealing with a guy and he said something similar to that and I laughed so hard and I may have hurt his feelings but 🤷♀️ seriously dude? He never spoke to me again… oh well 🤣🤣🤣
"wifey" is a cringy man child term 🤢 Glad you didn't fall for it! Men who use that are unfaithful and gross. Every man I have ever dealt with who said that,were all immature pervy man babies who cheated
Am 33 have two lovely kids from two different men not married and taking care of the kids on my own, if I had come across these teachings earlier in my life things be so different never had a male figure to teach me the ways of men. Anyway for myself I feel like it's too late especially in this part of the world I live in. But my sincerest prayer is that 20 years from now I will be able to your videos to teach my daughter so that she doesn't make the same mistakes have made. Thank you Pastor RC Blakes for your teachings on personal level your teachings have helped to heal my soul and learn about loving myself more than being in a relationship.
You've got your entire life ahead of you, nothing is every too late. What is for you will always be for you.💛
I had a situation recently where I explained to the person my boundaries how I perceived he was treating me and that I don’t accept it…then walked away. I don’t believe in ghosting or going silent. Calling out the behavior in a feminine way makes me feel like I did the right thing for myself while clearly letting that person know where they stand. I feel empowered by being myself, loving and soft, but firm in my position. I forgive him and asked God to help me choose better next time.
One thing that completely falls out the window when I’m with a man I’m interested in is my ability to ask QUESTIONS. I get so emotionally tied up that I forget to understand I am not only responsible for the decisions I make with men but I am capable of truly understanding the truth behind men and their intentions with me. All I have to is ask the right questions. Thank you for sharing your insight !!
This message is just what I needed to hear right now!! I am in the healing process. God bless you. I grew up without a Father in the home and I have definitely lacked wisdom and discernment in relationships.
I grew up without a father also.and I was running behind men's to feel love
"you're the truth" "you could be my wife" he taught me BIG TIME! Never lower the guard until EARNED!!
Queens ask questions That only Kings can answer Amen 😊😊
I finally woke up to realize recently that hopping from relationship to relationship isn't proper at all. I must learn to heal once a relationship ends and be comfortable with my own company.
This was a good and right on time message Pastor RC. Thank you for taking the time to minister to us women to better ourselves and our relationships
Discernment is very important to know the real motives of a man if they are just playing mind games or has good intentions in you.
"No response" is a response
When he said “You need to heal” 😮 you’re absolutely right
When you know your worth as a woman. You have standards you’re not going to tolerate mind games.. When a man wants to play games, it’s time to detach ourselves and walk away. No responses needed .. Pray and wait on God he will send you the right one at the right time. Enjoy life.❤
Thank you bishop for sharing these truths. These types of manipulations continue to exist within the 50+ community of men. God please continue enlightening us and lead us to Your perfect design as Your queens in Jesus Name 🙏🏽🕊️✝️❤️.
You've literally just explained my current situation,I've been praying the holy spirit would lead me to what I already know deep down but needed to hear from a biblical and spiritual standpoint. I literally wrote down everything word for word because now I know what to do and have bullet points to ask. Gosh Mr.Blakes I can't tell you how much of a blessing you to me, I've been watching your videos for years now, honestly sometimes I avoid watching certain videos right away because you are so spirit filled and led that it's a lot of times conviction. But you have a great calling from God and you probably don't even realize how you help us woman undertsand and get through some of the hardest times in our lives .
Love from Wisconsin!!
WI ❤
The guy I was hurt by literally proposed marriage. He took me somewhere very romantic and he literally proposed and asked me to marry him. But behind my back he was dabbling with the baby mama who cheated on him repeatedly so I just left him to her. No access to me. I didn’t think he was that kinda guy, but clearly he was coming from a very selfish place and he was just playing games.
Single until somebody really 😮really real shows up. Not dating. Turned down 10 guys asking me out over the past couple months. (Some of these guys are really tricky). Not interested until a worthy and legitimate godly man shows up. A real man with a real plan. 👌🏻👍🏻
This applies to family too 💯
it's easy to know if a man is just playing mind games thru their actions rather than their words or discernment. If they cannot answer what's their intentions to you, it means they just playing you. A good person who has a good intentions never hardly give a good answer.
Imagine a man being exceptionally considerate/ consistent/ generous/ loving / patient/ introducing you to closest family / his children / paying for several vacations and still ghosting you . His last words were I love you and I’ll talk to you in the morning…. Never heard from him again … that was 3 months ago . Sheesh
That is a fool. Wasting a lot of money and energy. Hurting and confusing his own family.
Wow😱
He was pretending to be someone he wishes he could be
I'm tired of the game-playing.
me to.
Pastor Blake's, I have been a Widow for many year's. Brothers are attracted to me. I have not dated since my being a widow. I learn SOoooo much from you and MUFTI MENK. This message that you have given in this video. . I must say is FRESH.
This was so ON POINT , you would think RC knows all my exes 😭
FOR REAL,MINE TOO LOL 😂
Thank you Pastor Blakes for being the father figure some of us never had. God bless you and the family.
Thank you so much. To this day I still seek your advice and thank the universe that it brought me a surrogate father to lead me even at my age. You are truly healing and you give the confidence to move on and patiently wait for a truly worthy man.Much love to you and your family.💚
Love the messages wish I would have had someone explain this to me 20 years ago. I will be passing this along to my daughters.
Thank you Pastor RC. Now I understand it perfectly. Unfortunately my ex was playing with me and he used most of these strategies, I trusted him and it causes a lot of pain. Never is too late to learn 🙏🏻
This is such a blessing; you gave me information on something that I responded correctly too but was doubting myself. Now this is 100% confirmation, I did the right thing and saved my heart. Thank you for this blessing and godly direction.🙏🙏🙏🙏🔥🥊
Yes yes can’t wait for this. Thank have been doing some self work and now I see my worth it’s all coming together
This is so crazy he touches on all this becauss the games men play are atrocious.
Ive dealt with men that come on so strong and when i set boundaries they immediately go away. Why do men have to be so awful and then say we are so bad? For example men want to take you on dates and try and sleep with us and then say we use them for free meals because we see how they are and dont want to date them anymore. I wont go out with men who dont spend money on dates for a few months because i know a bad man wont spend his hard earned money dating because he is entertaining and dating multiple women. If hes investing in earning my trust i know hes not just there for sex and something for the long term. They get so mad we wont sleep with them after a $40 dinner and nice words.
I looooooveeeee your username!
@Actavella Thanks babes! And I live up to it everyday. Lol