I had to apologize to my children. I thought we were building our future instead he was manipulating, using, verbally, emotional, physically abusing and deceiving me. I am leaving with nothing but my children and our personal belongings. However I welcome sleeping on an air mattress because peace is priceless.
You can say that again I just left my 4 bedroom condo that I pay for every month..and I'm in a lil run down motel .with all 4 of my children...but the peace I feel is Amazing and I will be here until he's out my home. Thank you for sharing..I'm thankful to break out of this cage. ..I see I'm not alone
@@latonyajohnson5181 what ever you do DON'T TELL HIM..OR WARN HIM! Just found out my sister was recently killed by her boyfriend after she told him she was leaving...I made it out my husband is in prison now..but it's dangerous..don't let him see you pack a bag be careful..I use to announce I was leaving and packed bags he was worst than I ever seen... finally the holy spirit gave me a plan of action..I didn't pack a single bag..just my wallet and documents I slowly added to my car to make no sudden suspicion...you better even delete this TH-cam video and comments from your recent history... you have to cover all basis..I pray u make it out safe..and stay out... many women go back and suffer the consequences..may peace and protection be with you sister 😂😇😇
What’s sad is when dealing with a narcissist, it’s like dealing with a full blown addiction. You know and understand they are bad for you, but you feel like a piece of you still needs them. It could be validation or this person is playing out past traumas and it’s comfort in that for you. You have to ask God to help break the chains so you can free and stay free.
Never give them supply. He told me Noone will never love you like I do. I said "Well Thank God for that " Because that kind of love I NEVER EVER WANT. LOL
I’m so angry with myself for bringing children into the world with a narcissist please pray for them, my only hope is that they don’t turn out like their dad narcissist. 🙏❤️
I've been with a narcissist for 3 years. He brainwashed me, manipulated me, gaslighted me, he was always angry, he basically just treated me like I was the enemy but needed me at the same time. He would always project his flaws and toxic behavior on to me. And will never admit to his wrongs. He was in an 8-year relationship with a narcissist before he and I gotten together. Narcissistic people are nothing more than wolves in sheep's clothing. Never again. He would always say things like I'm easier to be around, or I'll never find someone that loves me like he does, or nobody cares about me but him. He would love me one minute and hate me the next. And will also call me names. And will purposely say or do things to make me angry. People like that are very dangerous.
I have gone through a lot of what you described especially being called names, being gas lighted, made to feel like I was a huge problem. One minute they love you so much the next minute you're treated as if you stole something from them. The worst part is things can be going good, really good and out of nowhere, they will pick an argument over the dumbest stuff, like a light being on, one or 2 dishes left in the sink. You will find yourself defending yourself over the dumbest things. Also if they see that your content/ happy they hate it! They have to shake things up by starting an argument can't be walking around on cloud 9 around them. Oh hell no they will not allow it.
Ppl like that are very dead, for it is written their times are enumerated as such, they have No rights in the kingdom nor blessing. The crown 👑 is and ALWAYS shall have rulership. Their eminent loss is a given and promise for all times and beyond. Love healing and blessings Amen💙🙌🙏!
So True! I experience most of the same types of behaviors many more not mentioned here. I have been married to this man for 15 years and he didn’t start displaying his behaviors until somewhere within our 6th year of marriage! It started off with small out place and out of order remarks that were inappropriate due to me simply not agreeing with his point of view or something simple like that. Within 2 years time it escalated to all out public displays of angry outbursts of slander and blatant disrespect that seemed to come from no where for anything. Then from verbal abuse to physical fights which he never expected me to fight him! So he would limit his attacks to verbal rants of degrading remark after degrading remark. He was the perfect man until we were 6 years in and suddenly all at once he changed and he hasn’t been the same since. He actually progressively gets worse; his tantrums and other behaviors are absolutely unnecessary and can and will happen at any time. I mean everything you have described is definitely what I have, and am experiencing. All of our children are grown now and have moved on their own. I Thank GOD for HIS Protection and For HIS Strength and Guidance in raising them in the midst of such situations! I’m trying my best to situate myself to leave and I’ve definitely learned that it must be done quietly and quickly! It took me some time to figure this out because this is not the man,the person that I knew, I’ve known him since we were children and I thought for many years that something else was wrong and that it could be fixed but GOD has revealed the Truth of the matter over the past several years and for that I am Grateful!
God healed the abuse of the narc. Seems like another player came approx 1 yr after the break up. I am stronger and notice red flags. Shut him down I hear from him similar actions of what God released me from. Don't want being lonely, however I am stronger and healthy away from narc ...enjoy my family and friend. Life is short. Seek God he will lead the path. Lean not on your understanding. Pray enjoy life until your prayer is answered. Love all pray for enemy
Aamliah Muslimah As Salaamu Alaikum I came across Pastor Blake's in 2015 & his videos have gotten me thru so much😩💪👑 It's so good to see another Muslimah here cause I felt so alone.. Pastor Blake's reminds me of my Abu who past away🙏 Great message indeed💪
It's very much a growing epidemic, get educated, or fall in the snare. It's happening to a lot of people for to media pushing culture and family distortion.
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I have been in two Narcissist relationships. I have severe PTSD. I broke free from the Nar. Went no contact. I am having trouble breaking the stronghold in my mind! Thank you so much for making this video. People do not understand the damage a Nar does to your mind! It takes time to recover and heal with GOD'S help and therapy. My family thinks i should be over it by now!! They offer little to no support making it even more difficult handling my deep depression. Please pray for me.
Correct because they don’t like to be exposed!!! One thing about a narc they can’t keep up with their lies so they know answering questions will expose their lies. The lie so much they can’t keep up. Be aware they’re very skilled at crafting a new low each time they’re about to be exposed !
1. Become emotionally unpredictable. 2. Talk less listen more ask more questions 3. Break grip of fear off ur mind. 4. Break the social exile quietly begin to repair relationships. 5. Renew your mind. To former state of excellence.
When a person takes every insecurity, weakness, fear, and secret you've confided in them about and use it as a weapon against you at your weakest moments...that kind of cruelty comes from pure evil and insecurity..he tried it again, no anger or tears, I told him I'd pray for him, and left after 13 years...and the confidence I have now that, that weight has been lifted is like new life breathed into me. & people are noticing 💅
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@@kingmitch7016 live in your truth! Anyone who loves you wouldn't use your vulnerability to harm you...and further more. Leave them tf alone for good. Nothing but blessings came to me when I left. And I mean unreal blessings that one could only dream of. Sont let that energy block u
Thank you after 14yrs. Someone I allowed back in my life after 40yrs. As kids I trusted only to regret it the time wasted to see the truth of him becoming a narcissist, now I am finding the confidence to legally remove this person out my life.
1. Become emotionally unpredictable. •Have self control. •Talk less, listen more; ask more questions. •Stop talking so much! Slow to speak and to anger. 2. Break the grip of fear off of your mind. 3. Begin to break the social exile. •Repair the damage done in previous relationships, start reaching out, apologize and ask for relationships. •Become accountable to a community of people that will help you to eliminate the toxic person. Reconnect with them 4. Renew your mind. Bring back to a former state of excellence. Feed your mind with positivity, self development to build you. Go into a relationship with yourself and create relationships with people to continue to build you. Thank you for this amazing session!! This was RIGHT ON TIME 🙌🏾 Glory to God and God bless you for being a vessel for all of us! And God bless everyone reading this as well and May any negativity or toxic behaviors, people and environments be removed from your life and you be fully healed, in Jesus name!! 🙏🏽🙌🏾
You're not alone Married 18 years to an "angry man".. out of my life for good. I had to get him locked up and I'm pressing for assault. I'm going to be Free soon. Although I don't believe in divorce, Toxicity is not going to kill me Anymore. Love your"counsel" Pastor 🙏
Akeyah, don't be too harsh on yourself. It is all part of healing. Just keep going & work hard at staying away. Time will come when you will feel nothing towards them & be truly free. Read about codependency which will help you understand what kept you with them.
When you are tired of being tired, fall on your knees and call upon the name of God. Ask him to release you, protect you, strengthen you, and show you how to escape this horrible situation. Give it to God because it's way too big and demonic for you to handle.
Steps to break free of the narc 1. Become emotionally unpredictable, talk less, listen more, ask more questions. Toxic people do not want to answer questions, and feel uncomfortable when you are intentionally listening. 2. Break the grip of fear off your mind. The only way to break this fear is to get angry that you have such fear in your life. God never intended for you to be fearful of people. Don't fear losing that person. 3. Break the social exile- quietly reach out and restore broken relationships, get a community of support. 4. Renew your mind
Great advice. Fear is the issue 4 me, i dont fear the person anymore, but i fear God cursed me with the person like he used nebuchadnezzar against israel...i have repented and prayed and still feel cursed...everyone tells me the narc is mentally ill hes so bad, but, i still cant shake my fear of Gods judgment on me. I hate being separated from God.
“they create strongholds in your mind which locks the lies in”. that person wants you to think that they are the only person who holds your destiny. this is SO POWERFUL! thank you pastor!
You are speaking the truth! My husband is a dangerous narcissist. Mental, physical, financial and emotional. I'm processing my healing. You are so helpful on my journey.
This so reminds me of how I escaped my Narcissist!!! He actually thought our break up was his idea 😂 God gave me wisdom after fasting for seven days, it was awesome to watch how confused he was. 8 years on my mind is renewed and now helping other Sisters who find themselves in a similar situation. Pastor Blake's so grateful to you helping the lost and hurting among us! 🙏❤😇
I have a co-worker who had a family member wife and mother of three she told her narcissist husband that she was getting a divorce and leaving him he stabbed her in the kitchen!! ladies this is no joke!
Jo Stovell Would first like to say how sorry I am that you are in a difficult relationship and like you I had many sad days and yes depression would be after me, often! Everyone's situation is different and the personality types are different so I'm not sure how at risk you are but please understand when a women lets a man know it is over can be the most dangerous! A lot of men see their wife as property and so just to remind you.....women have been killed! My story is.... My ex had a few conditions, per a counselor, I just said he had demons that controlled him. He was simply put, emotionally unavailable and it wasn't going to get any better. I just started to pull away and shut down little by little and he eventually put our home into foreclosure and I was able to walk away at that time. In fact after I got counseling for myself he had a hard time pulling me into his toxic drama, so the end was his idea and wisdom told me, because he was unpredictable, it needed to be that way for me!! While with him I got counseling and did a lot of work on myself!! Questions like..Why and how was this man able to walk into my life and allowed to do the kind if damage that he did? I got my answers and you need to get yours hun! TH-cam has a wealth of Pastors/life couches so please keep learning from videos like this one that Pastor Blake's has shared. Prayer🙏changes things so let's not underestimate its power💕 sending you a big hug💝 God is in control😇
1.Become emotionally unpredictable Don’t react. Control my emotions. Don’t be manipulated. Don’t taper with me. Listen more listen intently. Be more observant ask questions. 2. Break the grip of fear God did not intend for me to live in fear! Become angry and dismantle the strongholds. Fight when it’s necessary stand up to bullies. 3. Break the social exile The separation of my friends of family. Begin to restore my relationships. Reconnect and form supportive community. Church,support groups, counseling. 4. Restore and Renew Clean up the trash 🗑 Add positive Transform Amen 🙏
Game changer!! When I dealt with this toxic narcissist according to knowledge, he couldn't take it. I flipped the script on him and it drove him crazy. Resist the devil and he will surely flee!!! Thank you Jesus!
I was dating a narcissist and he would get annoyed at the thought of conversation and questions. I would be afraid to inquire about anything personal with him. Now that I look back, he had a switch.. he would play with me emotionally by turning the switch on and off. He knew how to control me emotionally. I was in a relationship by myself, but available to him whenever it benefited him. The Lord has blessed me to tear away from that person and I have learned a whole deal from that experience. I thank God for sparing my mind and my time. Thank you, God!
I am a month out of this exact relationship for 4 yrs. my eyes have been so opened. Any question I would ask him, he would get defensive or say he’s too tired and that’s too deep. He hated conversation if it had anything to do with him. I walked on eggshells constantly. I’m so thankful for this!
I’m so glad God pulled us out of that mess...He didn’t create us to be abused , misused, unappreciated, disrespected and discarded at an unworthy person’s disposal. WE are precious jewels to be treasured and adored!
I had to tell myself every day until I believed it that the narcissist is not my god, what the narcissist offered was not love, God will meet all of my financial needs without the narcissist, the relationship was sin and I needed to repent, and that I trusted God to see me through. He did and in a big way. 🙌🏻
Hi Lynda! I read your comment You wrote 4 month ago of the narcisist video...I was wonderig how God got you thru that relationship because my sister is married with one big Narcisist person that wont let go of her and the kids except he destrois her...sorry for my english.peace
anca I know you addressed Lynda, however I can tell you from my circumstances, a cousin of mine passed away who alienated her family as we hadn't heard from her in years until she was already un-retrievably broken! As I was going through my very own experience of a marriage of 8 1/2 years. Despite he worked out of the country I realized that I was in trauma bonding despite of this distance. So, therefore I realized I was living in an experience that I was asleep too. I knew something was off however allowed my low self-esteem and the information I told him in confidence to keep me bondage to this relationship! However, I was given answers from our Creator Almighty from thousands of miles away to set me free from the bondage of this deceitful deceptful man! Yaweh revealed the very same things that was keeping me there step by step! I found out he was cheating all the way from thousands of miles! It was if the information fell in my lap, but it was truly Yaweh/God allowing me to see clearly of the things that I didn't use my common sense to make sense of. As, I mentioned it all happened step by step. My body was given off clear signs of distress that was materializing physically. I then believe these reactions almost led me to a nervous breakdown. I then went to church and got delivered. And I guess Yaweh started to peel of the layers of this soul tie bondage. I started to gain my confidence and my self value back. He constantly was using the personal information I told him to constantly verbal abuse me. I had to put a STOP to his actions! I started tape recording the way he talked to me for a year. Then I later revealed to him his actions a year later of these recordings this made him stop calling me out my name and being argumentative. I had decided to put in for divorce in mid 2016. However, I was battling with the spiritual rules and consequences of divorce under Yaweh laws. But, later realized that Yaweh don't condone this behaviors from a husband and this is definitely not of the Creators will! Yaweh didn't choose this man for me. I did this out of disobedience! However, the catalyst to me just leaving was because of my cousin I mentioned earlier in this conversation. I believed in my heart she was in a relationship with a Narcissist, but wasn't able to be delivered from the bondage. She later died, because of whatever she was coping with in the relationship with her husband that made her had a total mental collapse where she ended up in a nursing home in Florida he soon realize she had a support system while going thru this. Her husband later moved her out of state to another nursing home to destroy her recovery. I guess what utimately happen she no longer had a support system, because she was to far to go and visit. Because of his legal rights as a husband he could do what he wanted without the need of her family input. She eventually died! What I did was, I took her experience and used it to motivate me. This how I ultimately left my toxic marriage. Yaweh was in the mist of it all and still is. I gave my battles to Yaweh. This may appear physical but this is a spiritual experience! Your sister needs to ask herself some hard questions. Because most times circumstances like this happen because of past trauma we didn't give our voice to. So, naturally a person who experience trauma has boundaries issues and a Narcissist knows this just like children test there parents they do the same! She has to ask herself did she put this man before Yaweh, because sometimes people don't realize there doing this because of the sinful nature of the relationship! Because Yaweh didn't choose the man nor the marriage! So, Yaweh allows the consequences to happen. Until we are aware and seek deliverance from the mess we create for ourselves! The take away in this is your sister have to be vulnerable and transparent to her "OWN" truth! And what I also learned she has to work with her mouth close. As there is a figurative statement which says wise as a serpent and silent like a dove. In other terms like pastor said and many other counselors who experienced this has said not to react to there provocations, because this feeds there interest and she will always stay appealing to him! Therefore, she needs to practice the grey rock method and become emotionless when he is around. She also needs to listen to uplifting music. Praise and Worship and read her Psalms. She will need spiritual strength for herself to be strong. And to also pray for strength and Yaweh to take control of this circumstances. She has to be dedicated to all these things, because this is a fight for her sanity! And without this she will fall apart and everything around her will aswell. Your role is to offer support and do your part to ask Yaweh to deliver your sister and her kids from this in intessessor prayer and God for whatever is needed. You may need to fast. Needless to say, I know this is a lot that I said, however this is my testimony. I am still in the early stage of leaving and my divorce process. However, I know had to leave before I was totally destroyed!
Amen sister 🙏🏽 I’m so happy for you . It’s scary when you expose a narc as I did today as a child of god you see and hear their demonic spirits through their eyes. Pure evil red eyes and dry mouth . I fell to my knees today and ask god to protect me and not allow the evil spirits consume me.
Wow! I left my narcissist almost a week ago and I gradually took each of the steps mentioned without even realizing, before having watched this video. God was truly present. God truly IS present. 🙏🏽
Sir you are right on target. Unlike what many women have experienced and also some men as well, I have never been able to be manipulated by a significant other in a marriage/romantic relationship but my son is the most narcissistic and damaging person I have ever encountered. Although I love him because he is my son and flesh of my flesh, HE is the perfect example of everything that I have never wanted in any relationship. I do not hate him and do still love him, but I do not desire to have a relationship with him. If he were not my son, I would have taken the necessary steps to alleviate any contact or communication with him years ago. I have had to take out a protective order against him due to his abusive actions, stealing and violent and destructive acts against me my home and my personal property. He has even threatened to have his friends help him to do personal harm to me. I am 72 years old. He busts down my doors and windows and destroys and takes my personal items. I do not trust him and wished I knew what to do to protect myself from him. The protective order has not helped and he does not honor it as he honors nothing. BC
I’m in the process of selling everything I own to hopefully drive away in a U-Haul and buy a camper somewhere. It hurts, but this man’s 25 years of toxicity is killing me. Five months ago, God raised me out of my false self and opened my eyes to the truth of my existence. I have found the kingdom within that Jesus told us about, otherwise I would have died here in this mess.Thank you, beautiful brothers and sisters, for sharing your stories. And thank you RC Blakes.
He’s killing me too. Will not pay back money borrowed and often threatening for more - even while my father was dying at home hospice. When I raced home to be with him and my family I left my poor cat and she became threatened of being put on the street or hidden from me if I didn’t send money !! I collapsed that night. I’m afraid of having a heart attack too. He never paid rent and left town ruining my ability to rent - has zero care of the effects- I’m a single hard working mother- yet he was shopping for other women on Facebook who could become the next money pig while faking an engagement with me. He lied to everyone he knows about me and what’s really been done. He has got to pay be back- I am in such a bad position - he’s even attempted to attach tax liens incurred by his previous wife - to me! If people really knew how evil he is they’d stop helping him and help me get my cat and possessions instead
Michelle I am so sorry for how I treated you all of our 37 years together 30 married. Nothing I can do to ever make right. Thank you very much for still being in my life.
Wow, but it’s never to late to wake up, and I admire you for that after 25 years. I will pray for you, and keep up with your excellent work. God bless you.
Literally just hours ago I stood up to my abuser. I'm 31 and have encountered two relationships in which I was abused both times. This time it was the man that I called my husband, my own husband. He tore my self esteem down in so many ways including physical abuse. All week I have been praying. Watching and praying everyday just waiting for God to deliver me and today he did just that. I almost lost my life fighting for the safety of my kids and myself. But when my Father, GOD, told me that he would never leave nor forsake me.. his word proved itself today. My Father sent me a helper and I escaped with only my kids and a basket full of clothes, but I'm alive. LORD I'm grateful. Now I'm ready for HIM to complete what he started in me. 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
Narcissists will imprison you in their toxic world. You will feel exhausted, defeated and hopeless. You must break free for your own salvation. Thank you Pastor Blakes for confirming how detrimental they are to our well-being and for giving us steps to take to overcome their control over us. Also thank you for including scripture to take these confirmations one step further
evangeline rudolph keep the faith strength and positivity in your heart also the love for yourself I know how hard it is, do not go back. No contact is essential. Stay strong, you will be heathy and complete without him only! Best of life to you keep the faith!
1. Become emotionally unpredictable Off limits !!! 2.. Break the grip of fears Do not fear that this is the last person who loves you. .Be willing to fight .if necessary. Stand boldly.. Mostly people who thratens you with violence are mostly coward 3. Release yourself from the toxic people by repairing good friendships with good people. A person who truly loves you will always forgive you.❤ 4.for those who try to resists . Pls don't give the narcissist the energy to pursue. Otherwise you lenient act will make the powerful to take advantage of you.
Don't let that devil push u to that point I was raised by he will be waiting on you when you do so. Don't know about you but I don't wanna see him looked at him to long deal with these type of people. 🙏
I am in the renewal stage. I broke free from a physical, financial and emotional abusive relationship. Thank God for His word and His people. Nothing but the LOVE of Jesus broke the chains of bondage from my soul
I'm in a Narcissist relationship and he just wont leave me alone,I had to block him from social media and my cellphone. But listening to you have given me courage to do what I need to get my life back.Thank you Pastor!!!😊
AMEN! As I listened to you, tears literally came running down my face. After a 20 year marriage to a narcissist and yet another 7 year relationship with a narc, I realize I AM worthy of a healthy love. I am just starting to be enlightened and saved. You have given me some realistic steps through the word of god! THANK YOU for helping me see light, break the grip and heal myself.
After 2 1/2yrs, mind games, manipulation, taken for granted and disrespected....I finally became emotionally unpredictable AND LEFT. Due to my lack of consistency and always begging him back, he didn’t believe I was seriously gone.
It was God who led me to divorce the narcissist. I finally stopped listening to every other voice and started to listen to God and He was saying, "Get. Out. Now." My health my life my sanity was all under attack. And the narcissist had spent years turning my daughter against me but God turned it all around. During the divorce God even gave me a vision of a HUGE hand holding a rolled up scroll. I knew it was God's hand and I asked Him what He was holding and the words "Divorce Decree" came to my mind. Long story short I got EVERYTHING I prayed for in the divorce. I got full custody of my daughter, none of the narcissist's debt, and the divorce was over in 90 days in spite of all the lies the narc told the court. And today my relationship with my daughter is healthy and healed. Religious people do not like this testimony but so be it. I myself have been delivered from the spirit of religion and I am free. In this massive healing process in my life the Holy Spirt never led me to repent of the divorce. Isn't that interesting? He led me instead into this season of deep repentance for ever allowing the narcissist into my life to begin with and marrying it. And for ever accepting counterfeit love as the real thing. And let me tell you I was more than happy to repent of that! So Praise God! Amen!
I know you wrote this 8 months again and pray you and your daughter are doing well. I’m in a similar situation. God reveled to be to GET OUT, but don’t cause a scene. My narcissistic husband is the devil in the flesh. Two years of marriage. I kept listening to people to try to make it work but my spirit was screaming at me not to.
Amen. God is good! If you don't mind elaborating, how exactly did you tune out all the other voices to only hear God's voice? I have a bad habit of listening to every "expert" or so called expert.
Come on now Pastor!! Speaking truth. Breaking the grip of narcissistic people off of your life 1. Become emotional unpredictable 2. Break the grip of fear off of your minds 3. break the social exile ( reconnect with family,friends) 4. Renew your mind. .... Amen.. We love you soo much Pastor Blakes 💡.
I agree 100% I was with my husband almost 14 years and he made me feel so little, unattractive and weak. You always tried to make me feel guilty for things he did.
They need a love button. This was awesome and hit home. Toxic relationships with narcissistic people are VERY HARD to break away from because the normal person does not function without feelings or concern for others like the narc does; therefore despite the wrong done to them such persons STILL feel a sense of concern for this sick individual even after the abuse, based on the early love bombing stage of the relationship. Pastor Blakes, only God and the teachings of the Bible, as you have applied here, can help victims fully recover from this lifetime and wasteful trauma. Thank you for your works and keep the videos coming on this subject! It is more than helpful: it is therapy.
Bless you 🙌🏾I just walked away from a 14 year marriage that was full of toxic, selfishness, emotional and verbal abuse, control, and manipulation. It took me four years to build the mental strength to leave. Battlefield of the mind, Lord mental entrapment is much more deadly than anything else because it's hard to explain while you're in it and hard for others to understand because they're not in your head nor do others know the narcissistic person you live with everyday.
Omg that is actually how many years I have lost. I’m so afraid to walk out but I don’t even know why. Perhaps it’s all the time that I wasted. I just literally feel broken.
@@beautifuljade4u it's ok to feel that way, that's the result of giving so much of yourself, but don't fear the unknown of taking control of your life... You have to ok with what comes out on the other side like a 🐛 to a 🦋 the transformation is worth it. 🙏🏾 Praying for your healing and strength
1. Become emotionally unpredictable. 2. Break the grip of fear off of your mind. 3. Break the social exile. Become accountable to community that will help you eliminate this cancer. 4. You must renew your mind. 5. Be not conformed to this world. I love this video. It is a reminder that we need to be strong, create our own lives, and keep in mind that we live in a fallen world. It is important to know who you are in Christ, and pay close attention to who other people are by their words and behaviors. You can dismiss anyone from your life that you want out of your life.
I was raised by a narcissistic and then married one. Always seeking to please and my ability to let go and be a bit careless and repress my feelings has kept me in the snare. These messages have helped me. Helping me understand and grow in wisdom. Pray for my stregnth Pastor Blake and keep this content coming.
They only vow to change and do better and improve but NEVER will. You have to say enough is enough. Single life is better than laying and playing with the devil.
Thank you for making these videos. God bless you. Married to a narcissist for 5 years an have had 2 heart attacks due to stress putting him first an not taking care of myself. I’m taking my life back cause I know that God has something better for me in this life. 🙏🏽😔
God removes people in our lives for us!!! He does it by showing you their true colors!!! I was married for 31 years and I'm permanently disabled from his abuse!!! But thru his stripes I am healed!!! I'm praying for you and everyone effected by these demons!!! God is love they are not!!! God bless! I'm glad you woke up and are out!!!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
@@candywilkins386 I was in a 40 yr relationship with a narc. I set a few boundaries and he went out of control ! Then he died in July 13th,2019 it was tragic he took medicine with fentanyl in it and died ... so I know God took him away now i have a second chance at a new life I'm scared but my God has this i know in my heart 😇🙏
"...because they have some 'mysterious grip' that they have on us" - so true. This teaching is so POWERFUL with Biblical wisdom and content that can be used for a full-blown healing seminar to help and empower people just out of abusive relationships (25 years with a narc) like me. God bless you pastor Blakes!!!
Tamela Cole you're in a Karmic cycle. Do your Tarot readings that'll help a lot to. Believe me, it's been helping me for the past month. Dealt with a Narcissistic man for three years. Karmic contract I had to terminate on my own.
Also practice abstinence until your married a narcissistic person will not stick around they will look for a more gullible option instead or if you've been in a long term relationship without marriage and feel trapped take a vow of celibacy until you get married if they truly love you they will change or they will run and by cutting that sin out of your life God's favor will work out the rest ......pray....fast...rejoice.....repeat....
I have to learn this so bad, I have to get this in my head, because I dont even want to have sex with him, I gave him my viginity that's what made me feel like I needed to marry him and stay with him, but he's so mean when he doesn't get his way , I do also but it so different between our anger he gets angry and hits me I get angry and yell ...he said I'm abusing him by yelling at him and talking to him crazy , I have gotta so confused I start to think its me that's wrong..
Making my list here: 1. Level Up, become emotionally unpredictable. -Talk less, listen more, ask questions. 2. Break the Grip of Fear. 3. Break the Social Isolation. 4. Renew your mind, reboot your mind. Transform. Thank you so much!
This was amazing and God led me directly to you from TikTok. I walked away from the toxic narc person and I couldn’t figure out why I still felt trapped by this man and couldn’t seem to shake him. I got my tools in hand now help me Jesus. Thank you so much RC Blakes👋
After 26 years in this torment, I am finally reconnecting with me and I'm loving who I really am.....A Queen who knows it and will never allow anyone to steal me from me again. Thank you, Pastor and 1st Lady Lisa!
Thank you Pastor for addressing the "Narcissistic Personality" within the spiritual community. We need more spiritual leaders addressing this topic because these are the personalities causing division, discord and disunity within the Body of Christ and disrupting and distracting the church from the Great Commission. Blessings to you for awakening a generation. ❤
Become emotionally unpredictable 🙏🏾 I’m going to try this 💯 he intentionally makes me upset everyday so he can be gone all night or for days as an excuse
Oh does this sound familiar. Only mine does it for a whole day. Just leave never says where he is going or with who. I GPS him...So I can protect myself. ( He has no clue). 👍😊
Everywhere I turn, theres chaos and negative energy that I feel like I have to fight daily. Its exhausting and it makes me physically ill and just want to stay alone and away from society as a whole....
Best video I've seen on braking from a narcissistic stronghold that has been over my life since birth. THANKS SO MUCH FOR REMINDING ME IT'S ALL IN THE PROVERBS 🙏🏽❤ #wisdom
Me too. Oh my. Father of my children, my mother, boyfriends, friends. We also have to look at what is wrong with us too , to be seduced by this Spirit. It usually comes childhood and we are Empaths. Research and never forget as you can be attracted to another one.
Yes it's happened to me a ten-year relationship that broke me in all kinds of ways!! Its a generational curse that runs deep within her! I gave it to God and it's working out just great!! I got my dream job and I'm very excited and I give all the glory to God!
The teaching and preaching about the demonic spirit of the narcissist was so powerful. I thank the holy ghost for helping me early on in this relationship with this spirit. still got angry with myself, for not checking my emotions. But all is well.I was in and out quickly, PRAISE GOD.
I used the info from your videos to detach and became emotionally unpredictable to my ex covert narc. Yes, I did. And I discovered that his actions were very predictable too.
"God has not given this to you." This was so eye opening for me! This is from the devil and the devil is powerless against my Lord! Thank you, Pastor Blakes!
I'm in that situation right now. My parents took me and my kids in due to domestic violence. They are very narcissistic and very controlling. They are loving but poison me so much so to I just afraid to tell them what they are doing. It's been for many years.
@@wowsers7067 Cariann you are a victor. Your situation is VERY common since chances are something about your upbringing is how you got in a relationship with an abuser in the first place. Do EVERYTHING in your power TO MOVE. The hardest part will be accumulating enough to move. You can do it. PRAYYYYY even if you dont believe in prayer.
It's even more difficult to shake a child or loved one. You must have control over your emotions. I haven't been in a relationship for over several years (28) to exact. I finally have gotten some control over my emotions. And I am still being healed in this area and especially the area if fear, Praise God!
Bible Reader I know what you are talking about. It involves my mother who has been this way since my brothers and I were young. I am searching for ways scripturally to free myself of the abuse, guilt, etc but how can you separate from a parent? I want to obey The Most High's commandment to Honor thy Father and Mother but my mother uses it to manipulate her children but in return spew hateful, degrading words on a regular basis.
@@detroitgirl7 You must not love anyone including your parents more than you love God. In other words, let the word of God be what you depend on most before anyone's word. My case is similar to yours so I know. I know they will make you feel guilty that you are doing less than honour them, coz they know that's important to you You are not. To them, honouring them is being agreeable with every one of their point of view. If you are of a different view, you do not honour them. That is a slave like relationship. God does not want us to be slaves. He came down to free Israel from being slaves. With such controlling parents, they are the ones dihonouring God by demanding an almost worship relationship- and that is reserved for God alone. God has set you free, do not allow yourself again to be under a yoke of slavery. Who the son has set free is free indeed. Am assuming you have been set free?
Thank you for this video...I have been suffering with the emotions that my ex Narcissistic bf left me with. 7 months ago I thought it was just a domestic relationship but as I dig deeper as to why it’s been so long and I’m not over it I discovered he was a Narcissist. I have read and studied and prayed for understanding and it wasn’t until I saw this video today that I can fully understand why I feel like I am in bondage. Thank you for letting god use you and speak through u to help me today. U have helped me feel like I can fight through this and finally trust Jesus and the process🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼
1. Become emotionally unpredictable; 2. put bubbles around your emotions; 3. limit excess talking; 4. break grip of fear off your mind; Types of fear: a. Fear that this is last person who will love you - intentional programming (Stockholm syndrome), poisoning, and psychological strongholds; b. Fear of social ridicule; c. fear of violence. 3. Break social exile - repair appropriate relationships; 4. Renew your mind. Great video.❤️
It took me such a long time to find out what the abuse I went through was called.. I am trying so hard to overcome that shame within myself.. I am way more forgiving of myself, now, unlike before.
Eventually you will get there. Forgive them, forgive yourself, and repent ask God for forgiveness and once he sets u free you are free indeed. Nobody on this blue and green earth can give you Unconditional love like Jesus. Just know that everything happens for a reason, learn from that process and keep moving forward! God bless you sister.
No shame needed. Just love yourself! That's the first thing narcs know to break down with any new victim. And why is that? Because they don't know who they are and don't understand the words "self" and "love" when combined. You're amazing. Own it!
Shame and embarrassment they will bring you. He took my soul. I feel so stupid trying to see the best in him. Now he's working on new known supply. Much as I hate to say it, I don't feel sorry for her. Maybe she'll take his soul. Karma
I don't know you personally, however, your soul shines brilliantly! Your warmth, compassionate attitude, and clear practical example give hope. Thank you for blessing me today.
Bishop, God knows you are telling the truth in all aspects. That is the very reason why I stayed as long as I did, because I did not want people to talk about me and another FAILED marriage. But I remember something that you said, Bishop a while ago, it was not failure, it was a lesson. And trust me I have learned a lot and I have learned my worth.
Fantastic practical tools for dealinbg with these issues! Thank you for your wisdom...I live with narcissitic/codependent grandparents, and I've actually started playing these videos while they're in the room..They pretend not to hear or acknowledge what they are hearing but I can tell it is connecting with them and affecting their former patterns of manipulation and psychological warfare.
Congrats brother, i love this subject. I have lived with a narcissist who is also energy vampire for 24 years and we are still together because i know how to play the game. I'm now living a happy life because i had to learn how to digrade the narcissist and his behaviors. I just learned he needs me for him to have his life. I don't. Joke with him, i rarely talk to him, when it comes to social distance myself from him, i don't take his gifts, i don't even look at him when he talks or passes by, in general i ignore all his toxic behaviors. He's fond of pushing the buttons but i pretend i didn't hear him until he repeats himself of which it turns to be a big torture for him. Narcissist hates to be ignored because they know you are about to unveil there mask. He now respect me as a mother of his children since he's tired playing his games. God Almighty is my biggest secret.
Boy, if you didn’t hit the nail on the head. When you said the people in your life already knew what you were dealing with just had to wait till you saw it. Wow! Thank you soooo much for this!!!
For me, its a family member. As soon as you do one kind thing for her, she tries to trap you into her life with pity, drama, helplessness...her energy is very passive aggressive, but I am wise to it. The Holy Spirit alarm goes off big time concerning her. Prayer to break chains, and awareness of narc tactics will free you.
I had to apologize to my children. I thought we were building our future instead he was manipulating, using, verbally, emotional, physically abusing and deceiving me. I am leaving with nothing but my children and our personal belongings. However I welcome sleeping on an air mattress because peace is priceless.
Fayolah Clapp they will appreciate your courage and the peace.
Things will get better.God bless.💞
You can say that again I just left my 4 bedroom condo that I pay for every month..and I'm in a lil run down motel .with all 4 of my children...but the peace I feel is Amazing and I will be here until he's out my home. Thank you for sharing..I'm thankful to break out of this cage. ..I see I'm not alone
Wow I'm in the same situation. I'm in the process of leaving as well and won't be taking nothing but clothing and important documents
@@latonyajohnson5181 what ever you do DON'T TELL HIM..OR WARN HIM! Just found out my sister was recently killed by her boyfriend after she told him she was leaving...I made it out my husband is in prison now..but it's dangerous..don't let him see you pack a bag be careful..I use to announce I was leaving and packed bags he was worst than I ever seen... finally the holy spirit gave me a plan of action..I didn't pack a single bag..just my wallet and documents I slowly added to my car to make no sudden suspicion...you better even delete this TH-cam video and comments from your recent history... you have to cover all basis..I pray u make it out safe..and stay out... many women go back and suffer the consequences..may peace and protection be with you sister 😂😇😇
What’s sad is when dealing with a narcissist, it’s like dealing with a full blown addiction. You know and understand they are bad for you, but you feel like a piece of you still needs them. It could be validation or this person is playing out past traumas and it’s comfort in that for you. You have to ask God to help break the chains so you can free and stay free.
This is it right here!
He who the Son set free is free indeed
The biggest blessing I had was being discarded
The biggest blessing I had was the ending !
Yes. This part agree.
Never give them supply. He told me Noone will never love you like I do. I said "Well Thank God for that " Because that kind of love I NEVER EVER WANT. LOL
Mya Farris yes girl.
kirmora molone Lol! You told him!🙌🙌🙌
Cynthia Walker yup! I sho nuff did. Lol
kirmora molone AMEN lol!!😊
Trudy G lol.. yessszzzz Amennnn
I’m so angry with myself for bringing children into the world with a narcissist please pray for them, my only hope is that they don’t turn out like their dad narcissist. 🙏❤️
I hear you loud and clear....my concern exactly too...that's why I'm still staying
You just have to be emotionally Available for them so they will know how to feel n consider other ppls emotions
I made the same mistake, it really bothers me that I was so blind.
I can relate 💯
You must fast and pray with Specific scriptures targeting the desired outcome or behavior you'll like to see in that person.
I've been with a narcissist for 3 years. He brainwashed me, manipulated me, gaslighted me, he was always angry, he basically just treated me like I was the enemy but needed me at the same time. He would always project his flaws and toxic behavior on to me. And will never admit to his wrongs. He was in an 8-year relationship with a narcissist before he and I gotten together. Narcissistic people are nothing more than wolves in sheep's clothing. Never again. He would always say things like I'm easier to be around, or I'll never find someone that loves me like he does, or nobody cares about me but him. He would love me one minute and hate me the next. And will also call me names. And will purposely say or do things to make me angry. People like that are very dangerous.
Trea This is 100% my experience with my husband ! (soon to be ex husband)
You just described the person I'm with exactly-- down to the letter!! Ditto, ditto, ditto!
I have gone through a lot of what you described especially being called names, being gas lighted, made to feel like I was a huge problem. One minute they love you so much the next minute you're treated as if you stole something from them. The worst part is things can be going good, really good and out of nowhere, they will pick an argument over the dumbest stuff, like a light being on, one or 2 dishes left in the sink. You will find yourself defending yourself over the dumbest things. Also if they see that your content/ happy they hate it! They have to shake things up by starting an argument can't be walking around on cloud 9 around them. Oh hell no they will not allow it.
Ppl like that are very dead, for it is written their times are enumerated as such, they have No rights in the kingdom nor blessing. The crown 👑 is and ALWAYS shall have rulership. Their eminent loss is a given and promise for all times and beyond. Love healing and blessings Amen💙🙌🙏!
So True! I experience most of the same types of behaviors many more not mentioned here. I have been married to this man for 15 years and he didn’t start displaying his behaviors until somewhere within our 6th year of marriage! It started off with small out place and out of order remarks that were inappropriate due to me simply not agreeing with his point of view or something simple like that. Within 2 years time it escalated to all out public displays of angry outbursts of slander and blatant disrespect that seemed to come from no where for anything. Then from verbal abuse to physical fights which he never expected me to fight him! So he would limit his attacks to verbal rants of degrading remark after degrading remark. He was the perfect man until we were 6 years in and suddenly all at once he changed and he hasn’t been the same since. He actually progressively gets worse; his tantrums and other behaviors are absolutely unnecessary and can and will happen at any time. I mean everything you have described is definitely what I have, and am experiencing. All of our children are grown now and have moved on their own. I Thank GOD for HIS Protection and For HIS Strength and Guidance in raising them in the midst of such situations! I’m trying my best to situate myself to leave and I’ve definitely learned that it must be done quietly and quickly! It took me some time to figure this out because this is not the man,the person that I knew, I’ve known him since we were children and I thought for many years that something else was wrong and that it could be fixed but GOD has revealed the Truth of the matter over the past several years and for that I am Grateful!
The Bible warns us of getting entangled with narcissists. The Bible is truly a complete book. Amen.
Marcia Headley Amen
Diana Lorenzi. Bless your heart, Diana.
God healed the abuse of the narc. Seems like another player came approx 1 yr after the break up. I am stronger and notice red flags. Shut him down I hear from him similar actions of what God released me from. Don't want being lonely, however I am stronger and healthy away from narc ...enjoy my family and friend. Life is short. Seek God he will lead the path. Lean not on your understanding. Pray enjoy life until your prayer is answered. Love all pray for enemy
Can you please send me the Scriptures about this Sis ❤Thanks so much 🤗
Got it.. Angry man is he. SMH 😫
Lord please forgive me of allowing toxicity in my life for so long. 🙏
You are a pastor and I am a muslim but the truth is universal and you speak the truth in this video. God bless you brother.
Aamilah Muslimah Thank you. I’m honored.🙏🏽
Aamliah Muslimah As Salaamu Alaikum I came across Pastor Blake's in 2015 & his videos have gotten me thru so much😩💪👑 It's so good to see another Muslimah here cause I felt so alone.. Pastor Blake's reminds me of my Abu who past away🙏 Great message indeed💪
@@RCBlakesJr. Can you please tell me the actual characteristics of a narcissist? What defines a narcissist? Can they be healed or set free (by God)?
Aamilah Muslimah Praise God!
Aamilah Muslimah ♥️
I have never heard someone bring biblical principle to interacting with a narcassist. This is awesome!
Yes it is... Amen... This is helping me so much
It's very much a growing epidemic, get educated, or fall in the snare. It's happening to a lot of people for to media pushing culture and family distortion.
Well, Lucifer is a narcissist so noone has more experience than God. :D
Very first narcissist came from the bible.
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I have been in two Narcissist relationships. I have severe PTSD. I broke free from the Nar. Went no contact. I am having trouble breaking the stronghold in my mind! Thank you so much for making this video. People do not understand the damage a Nar does to your mind! It takes time to recover and heal with GOD'S help and therapy. My family thinks i should be over it by now!! They offer little to no support making it even more difficult handling my deep depression. Please pray for me.
I wouldn't be able to handle 2 Narcs when I get free from this one I married I will never make the same mistake again
Are you doing better?
I hope your doing better by now! People dont understand what we go through at ALL!
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Praying those chains ⛓️ break in Jesus name, Amen 🙌🏼
'They don't want to answer questions' soo truee
Correct because they don’t like to be exposed!!! One thing about a narc they can’t keep up with their lies so they know answering questions will expose their lies. The lie so much they can’t keep up. Be aware they’re very skilled at crafting a new low each time they’re about to be exposed !
Yes ma’am
Stay strong, don't give up!
This is absolutely correct
Absolutely. Deflecting and cant prove their accusations. Thank You!
1. Become emotionally unpredictable.
2. Talk less listen more ask more questions
3. Break grip of fear off ur mind.
4. Break the social exile quietly begin to repair relationships.
5. Renew your mind. To former state of excellence.
LOL! THANK YOU FOR THE NOTES....I AM GRATEFUL! ALONG WITH A GREAT VIDEO WITH GREAT EXPLANATION!!!
Perfect
Thank you for listing the steps👊🏽
Thank you!!
Thanks
1. Become emotionally unpredictable is one of the most important facts he covered
"They are uncomfortable with your silence." I love it! 💕
Regina Craig so true!
Regina Craig. Yap, doing right now the no contact rule. They hate it. It drives them crazy, and I absolutely love it.
@K Johnson. Yes, they are extremely uncomfortable with silence, it scares them to death, because they don’t have a game anymore. Thanks
Love it too❤💙
Become emotionally UNPREDICTABLE!!!!
When a person takes every insecurity, weakness, fear, and secret you've confided in them about and use it as a weapon against you at your weakest moments...that kind of cruelty comes from pure evil and insecurity..he tried it again, no anger or tears, I told him I'd pray for him, and left after 13 years...and the confidence I have now that, that weight has been lifted is like new life breathed into me. & people are noticing 💅
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S. G this what I going through now fear of secrets and insecurities being exposed. I know it’s going to happen he’s done it to others.
@@kingmitch7016 live in your truth! Anyone who loves you wouldn't use your vulnerability to harm you...and further more. Leave them tf alone for good. Nothing but blessings came to me when I left. And I mean unreal blessings that one could only dream of. Sont let that energy block u
Thank you after 14yrs. Someone I allowed back in my life after 40yrs. As kids I trusted only to regret it the time wasted to see the truth of him becoming a narcissist, now I am finding the confidence to legally remove this person out my life.
This!!!
1. Become emotionally unpredictable.
•Have self control.
•Talk less, listen more; ask more questions. •Stop talking so much! Slow to speak and to anger.
2. Break the grip of fear off of your mind.
3. Begin to break the social exile.
•Repair the damage done in previous relationships, start reaching out, apologize and ask for relationships.
•Become accountable to a community of people that will help you to eliminate the toxic person. Reconnect with them
4. Renew your mind. Bring back to a former state of excellence. Feed your mind with positivity, self development to build you. Go into a relationship with yourself and create relationships with people to continue to build you.
Thank you for this amazing session!! This was RIGHT ON TIME 🙌🏾 Glory to God and God bless you for being a vessel for all of us! And God bless everyone reading this as well and May any negativity or toxic behaviors, people and environments be removed from your life and you be fully healed, in Jesus name!! 🙏🏽🙌🏾
I am disappointed in myself for even allowing that demon narc into my life..knowing what mind games he was playing with me.
Thank you C March!!
You're not alone
Married 18 years to an "angry man".. out of my life for good. I had to get him locked up and I'm pressing for assault. I'm going to be Free soon. Although I don't believe in divorce, Toxicity is not going to kill me Anymore. Love your"counsel" Pastor 🙏
I feel the same way about myself..
Narcist are demons!
Akeyah, don't be too harsh on yourself. It is all part of healing. Just keep going & work hard at staying away. Time will come when you will feel nothing towards them & be truly free. Read about codependency which will help you understand what kept you with them.
When you are tired of being tired, fall on your knees and call upon the name of God. Ask him to release you, protect you, strengthen you, and show you how to escape this horrible situation. Give it to God because it's way too big and demonic for you to handle.
Thank you for what you wrote.
Catherine Gervin ASE!💫🙏🏾
Glory to God!
God bless you
That's me right now. Fix it Jesus🙇🏽♀️.
Steps to break free of the narc
1. Become emotionally unpredictable, talk less, listen more, ask more questions. Toxic people do not want to answer questions, and feel uncomfortable when you are intentionally listening.
2. Break the grip of fear off your mind. The only way to break this fear is to get angry that you have such fear in your life. God never intended for you to be fearful of people. Don't fear losing that person.
3. Break the social exile- quietly reach out and restore broken relationships, get a community of support.
4. Renew your mind
thanks for the tips
Thank you for this
Princess Victoria that’s deep
Thank you for taking the time to produce this video. I am passing on these precious lessons to my family.
Great advice. Fear is the issue 4 me, i dont fear the person anymore, but i fear God cursed me with the person
like he used nebuchadnezzar against israel...i have repented and prayed and still feel cursed...everyone tells me the narc is mentally ill hes so bad, but, i still cant shake my fear of Gods judgment on me. I hate being separated from God.
*Thank you! I'm releasing the narcissist in my life. I've left a few times and returned every time. This time I WILL break free!!
Same here!
Ditto
Going through this Now 😢so depressing But I can do all things through Christ that strengthen Me and everyone else 🙏❤️
“they create strongholds in your mind which locks the lies in”. that person wants you to think that they are the only person who holds your destiny. this is SO POWERFUL! thank you pastor!
God has used your words for confirmation.Confession of my sins, and humbly asking the Lord to help me has been my only relief.
1. Become emotionally unpredictable
2. Break the grip of fear off your mind.
3. Break the social exile
4. Renew your mind
I m so glad I broke away from him..He was trying to break me....strong black woman..THANK you lord..
Real Talk! Sister! Blessings🙋🙋🙋🙋😘😘🙏🙏👣👣🤗😊
Thank u lord. I'm going thr this now and I'm trying to get out. Pray for me
YOU GO GIRL!! 💖💖
You are speaking the truth! My husband is a dangerous narcissist. Mental, physical, financial and emotional. I'm processing my healing. You are so helpful on my journey.
This so reminds me of how I escaped my Narcissist!!! He actually thought our break up was his idea 😂 God gave me wisdom after fasting for seven days, it was awesome to watch how confused he was. 8 years on my mind is renewed and now helping other Sisters who find themselves in a similar situation. Pastor Blake's so grateful to you helping the lost and hurting among us! 🙏❤😇
I have a co-worker who had a family member wife and mother of three she told her narcissist husband that she was getting a divorce and leaving him he stabbed her in the kitchen!! ladies this is no joke!
As they say hell has no fury as a woman scorned!! LOL 🙏
Could you tell me how you left please I feel very depressed n hopeless
Jo Stovell Would first like to say how sorry I am that you are in a difficult relationship and like you I had many sad days and yes depression would be after me, often! Everyone's situation is different and the personality types are different so I'm not sure how at risk you are but please understand when a women lets a man know it is over can be the most dangerous! A lot of men see their wife as property and so just to remind you.....women have been killed! My story is.... My ex had a few conditions, per a counselor, I just said he had demons that controlled him. He was simply put, emotionally unavailable and it wasn't going to get any better. I just started to pull away and shut down little by little and he eventually put our home into foreclosure and I was able to walk away at that time. In fact after I got counseling for myself he had a hard time pulling me into his toxic drama, so the end was his idea and wisdom told me, because he was unpredictable, it needed to be that way for me!! While with him I got counseling and did a lot of work on myself!! Questions like..Why and how was this man able to walk into my life and allowed to do the kind if damage that he did? I got my answers and you need to get yours hun! TH-cam has a wealth of Pastors/life couches so please keep learning from videos like this one that Pastor Blake's has shared. Prayer🙏changes things so let's not underestimate its power💕 sending you a big hug💝 God is in control😇
Amen
1.Become emotionally unpredictable
Don’t react. Control my emotions. Don’t be manipulated. Don’t taper with me. Listen more listen intently. Be more observant ask questions.
2. Break the grip of fear
God did not intend for me to live in fear!
Become angry and dismantle the strongholds. Fight when it’s necessary stand up to bullies.
3. Break the social exile
The separation of my friends of family. Begin to restore my relationships.
Reconnect and form supportive community. Church,support groups, counseling.
4. Restore and Renew
Clean up the trash 🗑
Add positive
Transform
Amen 🙏
Game changer!! When I dealt with this toxic narcissist according to knowledge, he couldn't take it. I flipped the script on him and it drove him crazy. Resist the devil and he will surely flee!!! Thank you Jesus!
I was dating a narcissist and he would get annoyed at the thought of conversation and questions. I would be afraid to inquire about anything personal with him. Now that I look back, he had a switch.. he would play with me emotionally by turning the switch on and off. He knew how to control me emotionally. I was in a relationship by myself, but available to him whenever it benefited him. The Lord has blessed me to tear away from that person and I have learned a whole deal from that experience. I thank God for sparing my mind and my time. Thank you, God!
Kellogg Kelly I was in the same type of relationship. It was so hard to believe this about my ex!
I am a month out of this exact relationship for 4 yrs. my eyes have been so opened. Any question I would ask him, he would get defensive or say he’s too tired and that’s too deep. He hated conversation if it had anything to do with him. I walked on eggshells constantly. I’m so thankful for this!
Oh. My. Goodness....I didn’t know. I really just didn’t know until AFTER I left.
Thank the lord..... he blessed me and released me from this person because I couldn't... im so grateful
I’m so glad God pulled us out of that mess...He didn’t create us to be abused , misused, unappreciated, disrespected and discarded at an unworthy person’s disposal. WE are precious jewels to be treasured and adored!
I am sooooo glad that more people are addressing narcissism.
yes,yes,yes
I had to tell myself every day until I believed it that the narcissist is not my god, what the narcissist offered was not love, God will meet all of my financial needs without the narcissist, the relationship was sin and I needed to repent, and that I trusted God to see me through. He did and in a big way. 🙌🏻
Amen..God is in control & he will take care of us..fasting and praying is the key ..Seek God .
Hi Lynda! I read your comment You wrote 4 month ago of the narcisist video...I was wonderig how God got you thru that relationship because my sister is married with one big Narcisist person that wont let go of her and the kids except he destrois her...sorry for my english.peace
Amen, thats what I need myself right now. I need to break free.
anca I know you addressed Lynda, however I can tell you from my circumstances, a cousin of mine passed away who alienated her family as we hadn't heard from her in years until she was already un-retrievably broken! As I was going through my very own experience of a marriage of 8 1/2 years. Despite he worked out of the country I realized that I was in trauma bonding despite of this distance. So, therefore I realized I was living in an experience that I was asleep too. I knew something was off however allowed my low self-esteem and the information I told him in confidence to keep me bondage to this relationship! However, I was given answers from our Creator Almighty from thousands of miles away to set me free from the bondage of this deceitful deceptful man! Yaweh revealed the very same things that was keeping me there step by step! I found out he was cheating all the way from thousands of miles! It was if the information fell in my lap, but it was truly Yaweh/God allowing me to see clearly of the things that I didn't use my common sense to make sense of. As, I mentioned it all happened step by step. My body was given off clear signs of distress that was materializing physically. I then believe these reactions almost led me to a nervous breakdown. I then went to church and got delivered. And I guess Yaweh started to peel of the layers of this soul tie bondage. I started to gain my confidence and my self value back. He constantly was using the personal information I told him to constantly verbal abuse me. I had to put a STOP to his actions! I started tape recording the way he talked to me for a year. Then I later revealed to him his actions a year later of these recordings this made him stop calling me out my name and being argumentative. I had decided to put in for divorce in mid 2016. However, I was battling with the spiritual rules and consequences of divorce under Yaweh laws. But, later realized that Yaweh don't condone this behaviors from a husband and this is definitely not of the Creators will! Yaweh didn't choose this man for me. I did this out of disobedience! However, the catalyst to me just leaving was because of my cousin I mentioned earlier in this conversation. I believed in my heart she was in a relationship with a Narcissist, but wasn't able to be delivered from the bondage. She later died, because of whatever she was coping with in the relationship with her husband that made her had a total mental collapse where she ended up in a nursing home in Florida he soon realize she had a support system while going thru this. Her husband later moved her out of state to another nursing home to destroy her recovery. I guess what utimately happen she no longer had a support system, because she was to far to go and visit. Because of his legal rights as a husband he could do what he wanted without the need of her family input. She eventually died! What I did was, I took her experience and used it to motivate me. This how I ultimately left my toxic marriage. Yaweh was in the mist of it all and still is. I gave my battles to Yaweh. This may appear physical but this is a spiritual experience! Your sister needs to ask herself some hard questions. Because most times circumstances like this happen because of past trauma we didn't give our voice to. So, naturally a person who experience trauma has boundaries issues and a Narcissist knows this just like children test there parents they do the same! She has to ask herself did she put this man before Yaweh, because sometimes people don't realize there doing this because of the sinful nature of the relationship! Because Yaweh didn't choose the man nor the marriage! So, Yaweh allows the consequences to happen. Until we are aware and seek deliverance from the mess we create for ourselves! The take away in this is your sister have to be vulnerable and transparent to her "OWN" truth! And what I also learned she has to work with her mouth close. As there is a figurative statement which says wise as a serpent and silent like a dove. In other terms like pastor said and many other counselors who experienced this has said not to react to there provocations, because this feeds there interest and she will always stay appealing to him! Therefore, she needs to practice the grey rock method and become emotionless when he is around. She also needs to listen to uplifting music. Praise and Worship and read her Psalms. She will need spiritual strength for herself to be strong. And to also pray for strength and Yaweh to take control of this circumstances. She has to be dedicated to all these things, because this is a fight for her sanity! And without this she will fall apart and everything around her will aswell. Your role is to offer support and do your part to ask Yaweh to deliver your sister and her kids from this in intessessor prayer and God for whatever is needed. You may need to fast. Needless to say, I know this is a lot that I said, however this is my testimony. I am still in the early stage of leaving and my divorce process. However, I know had to leave before I was totally destroyed!
Amen sister 🙏🏽 I’m so happy for you . It’s scary when you expose a narc as I did today as a child of god you see and hear their demonic spirits through their eyes. Pure evil red eyes and dry mouth . I fell to my knees today and ask god to protect me and not allow the evil spirits consume me.
Very good! I brought Jesus into my life and God opened my eye and set me free from a narcissist. All I needed is to obey 😊 Hallelujah 🙏🏼
“Stand up BOLDLY to bullies!”
#NoFearMentality
Wow! I left my narcissist almost a week ago and I gradually took each of the steps mentioned without even realizing, before having watched this video. God was truly present. God truly IS present. 🙏🏽
You said you are not a psychologist but this is THE best therapy. Thank you 🙌🏾
Sir you are right on target. Unlike what many women have experienced and also some men as well, I have never been able to be manipulated by a significant other in a marriage/romantic relationship but my son is the most narcissistic and damaging person I have ever encountered. Although I love him because he is my son and flesh of my flesh, HE is the perfect example of everything that I have never wanted in any relationship. I do not hate him and do still love him, but I do not desire to have a relationship with him. If he were not my son, I would have taken the necessary steps to alleviate any contact or communication with him years ago. I have had to take out a protective order against him due to his abusive actions, stealing and violent and destructive acts against me my home and my personal property. He has even threatened to have his friends help him to do personal harm to me. I am 72 years old. He busts down my doors and windows and destroys and takes my personal items. I do not trust him and wished I knew what to do to protect myself from him. The protective order has not helped and he does not honor it as he honors nothing. BC
He is a Spiritual psychologist. I too thank him and God given knowledge.
This is because most mental issues/mental illnesses, etc are spiritual. It’s demonic.
Better than psychologist.
I’m in the process of selling everything I own to hopefully drive away in a U-Haul and buy a camper somewhere. It hurts, but this man’s 25 years of toxicity is killing me. Five months ago, God raised me out of my false self and opened my eyes to the truth of my existence. I have found the kingdom within that Jesus told us about, otherwise I would have died here in this mess.Thank you, beautiful brothers and sisters, for sharing your stories. And thank you RC Blakes.
Good luck i inow that must have been hard.
He’s killing me too. Will not pay back money borrowed and often threatening for more - even while my father was dying at home hospice. When I raced home to be with him and my family I left my poor cat and she became threatened of being put on the street or hidden from me if I didn’t send money !! I collapsed that night. I’m afraid of having a heart attack too. He never paid rent and left town ruining my ability to rent - has zero care of the effects- I’m a single hard working mother- yet he was shopping for other women on Facebook who could become the next money pig while faking an engagement with me. He lied to everyone he knows about me and what’s really been done. He has got to pay be back- I am in such a bad position - he’s even attempted to attach tax liens incurred by his previous wife - to me! If people really knew how evil he is they’d stop helping him and help me get my cat and possessions instead
Michelle I am so sorry for how I treated you all of our 37 years together 30 married. Nothing I can do to ever make right. Thank you very much for still being in my life.
Wow, but it’s never to late to wake up, and I admire you for that after 25 years. I will pray for you, and keep up with your excellent work. God bless you.
Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah HE DELIVERED ME TO THANK YOU JESUS 🙏🏼
Literally just hours ago I stood up to my abuser. I'm 31 and have encountered two relationships in which I was abused both times. This time it was the man that I called my husband, my own husband. He tore my self esteem down in so many ways including physical abuse. All week I have been praying. Watching and praying everyday just waiting for God to deliver me and today he did just that. I almost lost my life fighting for the safety of my kids and myself. But when my Father, GOD, told me that he would never leave nor forsake me.. his word proved itself today. My Father sent me a helper and I escaped with only my kids and a basket full of clothes, but I'm alive. LORD I'm grateful. Now I'm ready for HIM to complete what he started in me. 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
❤️😥🙏Amen😥
❤❤❤
Amen. God will never forsake me.
Narcissists will imprison you in their toxic world. You will feel exhausted, defeated and hopeless. You must break free for your own salvation. Thank you Pastor Blakes for confirming how detrimental they are to our well-being and for giving us steps to take to overcome their control over us. Also thank you for including scripture to take these confirmations one step further
Thats good. #1 Become emotionally unpredictable! This was so hard. Energy vampires.
This is God sent. I needed this at this exact moment. I just ended a toxic relationship yesterday
I'm sending up prayers for you. Pls check out Bishop Blakes, Angie Atkinson and Derrick Jaxn on You Tube. They will get you through the extreme pain.
evangeline rudolph keep the faith strength and positivity in your heart also the love for yourself I know how hard it is, do not go back. No contact is essential. Stay strong, you will be heathy and complete without him only! Best of life to you keep the faith!
evangeline rudolph stay strong
Same here
Release me from my toxicity in your holy name Jesus Amen thank you RCBlake
1. Become emotionally unpredictable
Off limits !!!
2.. Break the grip of fears
Do not fear that this is the last person who loves you.
.Be willing to fight .if necessary.
Stand boldly..
Mostly people who thratens you with violence are mostly coward
3. Release yourself from the toxic people
by repairing good friendships with good people.
A person who truly loves you will always forgive you.❤
4.for those who try to resists .
Pls don't give the narcissist the energy to pursue. Otherwise you lenient act will make the powerful to take advantage of you.
Talk less, listen more, and ask more questions... Amen to that, Pastor❕I'm now learning to do more of that when meeting new people, preferably men.
“Become emotionally unpredictable” this is the best advice I’ve ever been given and 100 percent correct.
You saved my life,when I was ready to give up on life.. god put you in my life.. Thank you, your a big blessing in life..
Wow. How can I respond? ❤️🙏🏽😊
Amazing!
Miss Klassy isn't so classy is she. Shame on you for leaving that comment on this woman's thread!
GLORY TO God, AMEN
Don't let that devil push u to that point I was raised by he will be waiting on you when you do so. Don't know about you but I don't wanna see him looked at him to long deal with these type of people. 🙏
I am in the renewal stage. I broke free from a physical, financial and emotional abusive relationship. Thank God for His word and His people. Nothing but the LOVE of Jesus broke the chains of bondage from my soul
I'm in a Narcissist relationship and he just wont leave me alone,I had to block him from social media and my cellphone. But listening to you have given me courage to do what I need to get my life back.Thank you Pastor!!!😊
AMEN! As I listened to you, tears literally came running down my face. After a 20 year marriage to a narcissist and yet another 7 year relationship with a narc, I realize I AM worthy of a healthy love. I am just starting to be enlightened and saved. You have given me some realistic steps through the word of god! THANK YOU for helping me see light, break the grip and heal myself.
1.Become emotionally unpredictable
Carline Juniel I swear, I did it so smoothly.. It was like another Felicia I never met took over my body..
After 2 1/2yrs, mind games, manipulation, taken for granted and disrespected....I finally became emotionally unpredictable AND LEFT. Due to my lack of consistency and always begging him back, he didn’t believe I was seriously gone.
It was God who led me to divorce the narcissist. I finally stopped listening to every other voice and started to listen to God and He was saying, "Get. Out. Now." My health my life my sanity was all under attack. And the narcissist had spent years turning my daughter against me but God turned it all around. During the divorce God even gave me a vision of a HUGE hand holding a rolled up scroll. I knew it was God's hand and I asked Him what He was holding and the words "Divorce Decree" came to my mind. Long story short I got EVERYTHING I prayed for in the divorce. I got full custody of my daughter, none of the narcissist's debt, and the divorce was over in 90 days in spite of all the lies the narc told the court. And today my relationship with my daughter is healthy and healed. Religious people do not like this testimony but so be it. I myself have been delivered from the spirit of religion and I am free. In this massive healing process in my life the Holy Spirt never led me to repent of the divorce. Isn't that interesting? He led me instead into this season of deep repentance for ever allowing the narcissist into my life to begin with and marrying it. And for ever accepting counterfeit love as the real thing. And let me tell you I was more than happy to repent of that! So Praise God! Amen!
Your testimony has given me hope. Thank you...
I know you wrote this 8 months again and pray you and your daughter are doing well. I’m in a similar situation. God reveled to be to GET OUT, but don’t cause a scene. My narcissistic husband is the devil in the flesh. Two years of marriage. I kept listening to people to try to make it work but my spirit was screaming at me not to.
Amen. God is good! If you don't mind elaborating, how exactly did you tune out all the other voices to only hear God's voice? I have a bad habit of listening to every "expert" or so called expert.
Amen
I am happy for you and thank you for sharing your story! 👏🏽👏🏽
Come on now Pastor!! Speaking truth. Breaking the grip of narcissistic people off of your life 1. Become emotional unpredictable 2. Break the grip of fear off of your minds 3. break the social exile ( reconnect with family,friends) 4. Renew your mind. .... Amen.. We love you soo much Pastor Blakes 💡.
MarceGodMadeBillionaire Zacca in Agreement Amen
MarceGodMadeBillionaire Zacca thank you for doing this legwork!!! I’m printing this out now...
Thank you for doing this.
Yes, they do prey on your emotions, this is so true, I have been there.
I agree 100% I was with my husband almost 14 years and he made me feel so little, unattractive and weak. You always tried to make me feel guilty for things he did.
Same with me 14 plus 6 children together. I have just separate from him
Narcissists creates a stronghold in your mind by locking lies inside and locking out the truth. ...I never saw it like that before. ...
They need a love button. This was awesome and hit home. Toxic relationships with narcissistic people are VERY HARD to break away from because the normal person does not function without feelings or concern for others like the narc does; therefore despite the wrong done to them such persons STILL feel a sense of concern for this sick individual even after the abuse, based on the early love bombing stage of the relationship. Pastor Blakes, only God and the teachings of the Bible, as you have applied here, can help victims fully recover from this lifetime and wasteful trauma. Thank you for your works and keep the videos coming on this subject! It is more than helpful: it is therapy.
Amen to that. Very well spoken. I agree with everything you said wholeheartedly!
Your videos have helped me ...I am finally free of a 14 year bondage.
Thank You!
Bless you 🙌🏾I just walked away from a 14 year marriage that was full of toxic, selfishness, emotional and verbal abuse, control, and manipulation. It took me four years to build the mental strength to leave. Battlefield of the mind, Lord mental entrapment is much more deadly than anything else because it's hard to explain while you're in it and hard for others to understand because they're not in your head nor do others know the narcissistic person you live with everyday.
Omg that is actually how many years I have lost. I’m so afraid to walk out but I don’t even know why. Perhaps it’s all the time that I wasted. I just literally feel broken.
@@beautifuljade4u it's ok to feel that way, that's the result of giving so much of yourself, but don't fear the unknown of taking control of your life... You have to ok with what comes out on the other side like a 🐛 to a 🦋 the transformation is worth it. 🙏🏾 Praying for your healing and strength
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THIS MAN IS TALKING ABOUT. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE.
1. Become emotionally unpredictable. 2. Break the grip of fear off of your mind. 3. Break the social exile. Become accountable to community that will help you eliminate this cancer. 4. You must renew your mind. 5. Be not conformed to this world.
I love this video. It is a reminder that we need to be strong, create our own lives, and keep in mind that we live in a fallen world. It is important to know who you are in Christ, and pay close attention to who other people are by their words and behaviors. You can dismiss anyone from your life that you want out of your life.
I was raised by a narcissistic and then married one. Always seeking to please and my ability to let go and be a bit careless and repress my feelings has kept me in the snare. These messages have helped me. Helping me understand and grow in wisdom. Pray for my stregnth Pastor Blake and keep this content coming.
Crystal Alexander Ur not alone Sis...May Jesus be with us and we make it to higher ground ☝🏽😇😍😘
Loving latonya Amen Latoya. Let's keep each other lifted in prayer 👼👼❤❤🙏👫
Been living with one for 20 years. I always thought he would change, now I know better.
They only vow to change and do better and improve but NEVER will. You have to say enough is enough. Single life is better than laying and playing with the devil.
You best run for the HELLS it's going to get worse.
GOD has opened your eyes!!
Thank you for making these videos. God bless you. Married to a narcissist for 5 years an have had 2 heart attacks due to stress putting him first an not taking care of myself. I’m taking my life back cause I know that God has something better for me in this life. 🙏🏽😔
Hi Tammy hows it going. Hope all's well. I'm with a narc of 7 yrs hurt lost and scared . any tips? Did I leave ur narc?
Thank you for sharing. I needed this
Jan N self love and seek god to get you through this
God removes people in our lives for us!!! He does it by showing you their true colors!!! I was married for 31 years and I'm permanently disabled from his abuse!!! But thru his stripes I am healed!!! I'm praying for you and everyone effected by these demons!!! God is love they are not!!! God bless! I'm glad you woke up and are out!!!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
@@candywilkins386 I was in a 40 yr relationship with a narc. I set a few boundaries and he went out of control ! Then he died in July 13th,2019 it was tragic he took medicine with fentanyl in it and died ... so I know God took him away now i have a second chance at a new life I'm scared but my God has this i know in my heart 😇🙏
1.Become emotionally unpredictable
2 Break fear off your mind
3 Break your social exiled
4 Renew your mind to a former state of excellence
"...because they have some 'mysterious grip' that they have on us" - so true. This teaching is so POWERFUL with Biblical wisdom and content that can be used for a full-blown healing seminar to help and empower people just out of abusive relationships (25 years with a narc) like me. God bless you pastor Blakes!!!
I just can't go around in circles with the same men I been with in the past.....IT'S DRAINFUL®®®!!
Tamela Cole I went in circles with my now ex husband for years. Stuck in a bad cycle! I finally woke up
Tamela Cole is drainful a word?
Tamela Cole you're in a Karmic cycle. Do your Tarot readings that'll help a lot to. Believe me, it's been helping me for the past month. Dealt with a Narcissistic man for three years. Karmic contract I had to terminate on my own.
God/Jesus will help you..
Amen
Also practice abstinence until your married a narcissistic person will not stick around they will look for a more gullible option instead or if you've been in a long term relationship without marriage and feel trapped take a vow of celibacy until you get married if they truly love you they will change or they will run and by cutting that sin out of your life God's favor will work out the rest ......pray....fast...rejoice.....repeat....
@ Dan Holmes...Wow, I agree....I did exactly what your comment says and thankfully I'm now getting married to a wonderful man in 2 weeks in Las Vegas
Soooooooo true! People dont like to hear that, but its true!
Love that.
@@GameOver-cg3jx Congratulations and hope for you and your future husband the best.
I have to learn this so bad, I have to get this in my head, because I dont even want to have sex with him, I gave him my viginity that's what made me feel like I needed to marry him and stay with him, but he's so mean when he doesn't get his way , I do also but it so different between our anger he gets angry and hits me I get angry and yell ...he said I'm abusing him by yelling at him and talking to him crazy , I have gotta so confused I start to think its me that's wrong..
Needed to hear this....thank you God for sending me here.....just broke off my toxic 2 year relationship 2 weeks ago. I am at peace now.....
I'm beginning to think that he heard the prayer I send to god
Thank you for educating my viewers on how to break free from an abusive and toxic relationship!!!!! God bless you!!!!!
“A lot of sunlight “ because this is TRUTH & the truth sets us FREE!!!! 💜
Making my list here:
1. Level Up, become emotionally unpredictable.
-Talk less, listen more, ask questions.
2. Break the Grip of Fear.
3. Break the Social Isolation.
4. Renew your mind, reboot your mind. Transform.
Thank you so much!
Protect your Heart ... No More Tampering w/ Me 🤐🤐🤐... Silent/Silence ... I’m listening 👂🏽👂🏽👂🏽
Swift to hear...Slow to Speak...Slow to Wrath
You must renew your mind!
U are awesome u no that 11 years of narsistic abuse I'm finally breaking free by God's grace and mercy thank u Jesus
This was amazing and God led me directly to you from TikTok. I walked away from the toxic narc person and I couldn’t figure out why I still felt trapped by this man and couldn’t seem to shake him. I got my tools in hand now help me Jesus. Thank you so much RC Blakes👋
Maaan let me listen to this again and again
This is so powerful I could cry
Lord I thank you for this word
Bless you Pastor
Be unpredictable or cut all contact. No communication!
Hard to do with kids involved
After 26 years in this torment, I am finally reconnecting with me and I'm loving who I really am.....A Queen who knows it and will never allow anyone to steal me from me again. Thank you, Pastor and 1st Lady Lisa!
Yes, they steal your time and energy and confuse you......they effect your spirit...
Thank you Pastor for addressing the "Narcissistic Personality" within the spiritual community. We need more spiritual leaders addressing this topic because these are the personalities causing division, discord and disunity within the Body of Christ and disrupting and distracting the church from the Great Commission. Blessings to you for awakening a generation. ❤
Become emotionally unpredictable 🙏🏾 I’m going to try this 💯 he intentionally makes me upset everyday so he can be gone all night or for days as an excuse
Please get out of this relationship it is deadly find your peace with our king he amazing
He is doing this to me right now and making out he isn’t with anyone else.
Oh does this sound familiar. Only mine does it for a whole day. Just leave never says where he is going or with who. I GPS him...So I can protect myself. ( He has no clue). 👍😊
This is painful to hear that u girls are still willing to tolerate such nonsense buh it's 2years now I hope u left with dignity
I can’t help but to watch this over and over for strength..... ! Awesome vid👌🏽
I'm an attorney and I fell in a bad situation with one of my clients who is now in jail for 2036 and I am saved and Born Again Praise Jesus
He's a Narcissist 🙄
Everywhere I turn, theres chaos and negative energy that I feel like I have to fight daily. Its exhausting and it makes me physically ill and just want to stay alone and away from society as a whole....
Missy Gray that’s how I’ve been feeling lately ....
@@naedidcvcccdcvcctatum6484 ,
I feel the same way sometimes. I don't like it at all, it's not a good feeling.
Me too
I just feel that few people like us don't belong in this wicked and cruel world
Best video I've seen on braking from a narcissistic stronghold that has been over my life since birth. THANKS SO MUCH FOR REMINDING ME IT'S ALL IN THE PROVERBS 🙏🏽❤ #wisdom
Me too. Oh my. Father of my children, my mother, boyfriends, friends. We also have to look at what is wrong with us too , to be seduced by this Spirit. It usually comes childhood and we are Empaths. Research and never forget as you can be attracted to another one.
Yy
Yes it's happened to me a ten-year relationship that broke me in all kinds of ways!! Its a generational curse that runs deep within her! I gave it to God and it's working out just great!! I got my dream job and I'm very excited and I give all the glory to God!
Break the grip of fear off your MIND
The teaching and preaching about the demonic spirit of the narcissist was so powerful. I thank the holy ghost for helping me early on in this relationship with this spirit. still got angry with myself, for not checking my emotions. But all is well.I was in and out quickly, PRAISE GOD.
Regina Harris k
I used the info from your videos to detach and became emotionally unpredictable to my ex covert narc. Yes, I did. And I discovered that his actions were very predictable too.
"God has not given this to you." This was so eye opening for me! This is from the devil and the devil is powerless against my Lord! Thank you, Pastor Blakes!
1. Become emotionally unpredictable.
2. Break the grip of fear off of your mind.
3. Break the social exile.
4. You must renew your mind.
It's harder to shake the Narcissist who is your parent, who happens to own the property you live in...but, with Yahweh all things are possible!
I'm in that situation right now. My parents took me and my kids in due to domestic violence. They are very narcissistic and very controlling. They are loving but poison me so much so to I just afraid to tell them what they are doing. It's been for many years.
@@wowsers7067 Cariann you are a victor. Your situation is VERY common since chances are something about your upbringing is how you got in a relationship with an abuser in the first place. Do EVERYTHING in your power TO MOVE. The hardest part will be accumulating enough to move. You can do it. PRAYYYYY even if you dont believe in prayer.
It's even more difficult to shake a child or loved one. You must have control over your emotions. I haven't been in a relationship for over several years (28) to exact. I finally have gotten some control over my emotions. And I am still being healed in this area and especially the area if fear, Praise God!
Bible Reader
I know what you are talking about. It involves my mother who has been this way since my brothers and I were young. I am searching for ways scripturally to free myself of the abuse, guilt, etc but how can you separate from a parent? I want to obey The Most High's commandment to Honor thy Father and Mother but my mother uses it to manipulate her children but in return spew hateful, degrading words on a regular basis.
@@detroitgirl7 You must not love anyone including your parents more than you love God. In other words, let the word of God be what you depend on most before anyone's word.
My case is similar to yours so I know. I know they will make you feel guilty that you are doing less than honour them, coz they know that's important to you You are not. To them, honouring them is being agreeable with every one of their point of view. If you are of a different view, you do not honour them. That is a slave like relationship. God does not want us to be slaves. He came down to free Israel from being slaves. With such controlling parents, they are the ones dihonouring God by demanding an almost worship relationship- and that is reserved for God alone.
God has set you free, do not allow yourself again to be under a yoke of slavery. Who the son has set free is free indeed. Am assuming you have been set free?
There like a vampire
They suck u dry they
Try to take your soul
Dust is the soul tie !
Lorrie they are vampires
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Thank you for this video...I have been suffering with the emotions that my ex Narcissistic bf left me with. 7 months ago I thought it was just a domestic relationship but as I dig deeper as to why it’s been so long and I’m not over it I discovered he was a Narcissist. I have read and studied and prayed for understanding and it wasn’t until I saw this video today that I can fully understand why I feel like I am in bondage. Thank you for letting god use you and speak through u to help me today. U have helped me feel like I can fight through this and finally trust Jesus and the process🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼
1. Become emotionally unpredictable; 2. put bubbles around your emotions; 3. limit excess talking; 4. break grip of fear off your mind; Types of fear: a. Fear that this is last person who will love you - intentional programming (Stockholm syndrome), poisoning, and psychological strongholds; b. Fear of social ridicule; c. fear of violence. 3. Break social exile - repair appropriate relationships; 4. Renew your mind. Great video.❤️
Deborah Bell thanks for capturing this!!
Wow! IF YOUR NOT CONTROLLING YOUR OWN EMOTIONS SOME ONE ELSE IS!! That’s DEEP
It took me such a long time to find out what the abuse I went through was called..
I am trying so hard to overcome that shame within myself..
I am way more forgiving of myself, now, unlike before.
Eventually you will get there. Forgive them, forgive yourself, and repent ask God for forgiveness and once he sets u free you are free indeed. Nobody on this blue and green earth can give you Unconditional love like Jesus. Just know that everything happens for a reason, learn from that process and keep moving forward! God bless you sister.
No shame needed. Just love yourself! That's the first thing narcs know to break down with any new victim. And why is that? Because they don't know who they are and don't understand the words "self" and "love" when combined. You're amazing. Own it!
Shame and embarrassment they will bring you. He took my soul. I feel so stupid trying to see the best in him. Now he's working on new known supply. Much as I hate to say it, I don't feel sorry for her. Maybe she'll take his soul. Karma
I don't know you personally, however, your soul shines brilliantly!
Your warmth, compassionate attitude, and clear practical example give hope.
Thank you for blessing me today.
Bishop, God knows you are telling the truth in all aspects. That is the very reason why I stayed as long as I did, because I did not want people to talk about me and another FAILED marriage. But I remember something that you said, Bishop a while ago, it was not failure, it was a lesson. And trust me I have learned a lot and I have learned my worth.
Fantastic practical tools for dealinbg with these issues! Thank you for your wisdom...I live with narcissitic/codependent grandparents, and I've actually started playing these videos while they're in the room..They pretend not to hear or acknowledge what they are hearing but I can tell it is connecting with them and affecting their former patterns of manipulation and psychological warfare.
Congrats brother, i love this subject. I have lived with a narcissist who is also energy vampire for 24 years and we are still together because i know how to play the game. I'm now living a happy life because i had to learn how to digrade the narcissist and his behaviors. I just learned he needs me for him to have his life. I don't. Joke with him, i rarely talk to him, when it comes to social distance myself from him, i don't take his gifts, i don't even look at him when he talks or passes by, in general i ignore all his toxic behaviors. He's fond of pushing the buttons but i pretend i didn't hear him until he repeats himself of which it turns to be a big torture for him. Narcissist hates to be ignored because they know you are about to unveil there mask. He now respect me as a mother of his children since he's tired playing his games. God Almighty is my biggest secret.
1. Become intentionally emotionally unpredictable.
2. Break the grip of fear in you.
Boy, if you didn’t hit the nail on the head. When you said the people in your life already knew what you were dealing with just had to wait till you saw it. Wow! Thank you soooo much for this!!!
For me, its a family member. As soon as you do one kind thing for her, she tries to trap you into her life with pity, drama, helplessness...her energy is very passive aggressive, but I am wise to it.
The Holy Spirit alarm goes off big time concerning her.
Prayer to break chains, and awareness of narc tactics will free you.
I have a toxic relationship with my older sister. I so needed to hear this now. Pastor, you are preaching my current life! Thank you.
Become emotional unpredictable,talk less listen more and ask question....Amen
God bless you more sir,this video is priceless.